Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

The next round of the Grown Ass Woman Era group is here! We start May 14th, 2025 - book a call with me here or send me an email at info@emilygoughcoaching.com for details. This is an intimate and curated group, and I personally chat with each person before joining to make sure it's a good fit. ************************** I'm bringing you this powerful conversation with my best friend Kat, who is also the co-coach I bring in to work with me for my Grown Ass Woman Era coaching group. We're talking about: The power of being witnessed in your pain and celebrated in your joy Wounding many women carry around not trusting other women - and how it's standing in the way of some of the most powerful and healing relationships available to you Being safe within yourself to put the sword down and truly come home within yourself, rather than feeling a constant hypervigilance and need to be the strong independent woman 24/7 Killing off your good girl and FINALLY taking full responsibility for your life and relationships by having your grown woman take the wheel Stepping into your full power, unapologetically. Welcome to your Grown Ass Woman Era.    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection   CONNECT WITH KAT I Am Love Healing Centre   EPISODES REFERENCED Episode #337 - Touch Starvation, Cuddle Therapy & the Power of Healing the Masculine with Kat

Are you familiar with the ways (both conscious and more often subconscious) you source your value in relationships? In the past, I often fell into the trap of thinking it's about what I could do for another person, or what they could do for me in terms of meeting my needs and filling some sort of void. Instead, start asking yourself different questions about the person or people you have relationships with. How do they inspire you? Light you up? Shift your perspective? Challenge you? Help you to grow and evolve? Open more to love? Make you feel more alive? How do they add to your life in indescribable ways? Perhaps most importantly, if you fully believed you were enough as you are, how would that change your energy, behaviour and demeanour in relationship? In this episode, we're getting into: How to spot the stories you're telling yourself  - and the ways those stories will dictate the quality of your life and relationships Sharing some very personal struggles that have come with finding new ways of valuing myself as I settle into being married and having kids How to handle insecurities when they arise The unexpected ways getting married changed the way I felt with my partner And so much more that will shift how you're showing up in your relationships If you liked this episode, I recommend checking out ep. 393: Why Being is So Much More Attractive Than Doing.   CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

There has been a lot going on behind the scenes over here the past 6 months, and I've remained quiet about most of it. So many beautiful manifestations coming to fruition along with some major challenges. I'm excited that I'm finally giving a MAJOR life update today, along with how to embody being bold in 2025. In this episode, we're talking about: -Choosing a word (or words) to use as an anchor point to come back to throughout the year -The ways grief and joy get to co-exist -Embodying and stepping into your highest self, because you already have everything you need right now -How to cultivate a nervous system that can hold the very full life you've been begging the Universe to deliver I can't wait to hear your thoughts.  My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It's a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

I certainly never expected to be coming to you with an episode about living through a devastating natural disaster and yet, here we are. Joining me is my beloved partner Kelly Gardner, a relationship coach and men's work facilitator, as we come to you recording from Kelly's childhood bedroom after evacuating from Asheville, North Carolina in the wake of Hurricane Helene. As we've witnessed events unfold that have shaken our foundation, we're having a raw, real and honest conversation about how these kinds of experiences can strengthen our relationships - particularly as a couple. This one is quite emotional as we are quite literally procesing our grief in real-time with you as the adrenaline has worn off, while also feeling so incredibly fortunate for everything that we have, including each other. In this episode, we cover: -The impact of crises on personal relationships -Navigating emotions and the importance of checking in with each other -How to maintain communication when disaster strikes -Trusting your partner during turbulent times -Strategies for asking for and offering support -Discovering the silver linings amidst chaos -The value of shared experiences in building resilience -How to transform challenges into opportunities for growth Join us as we explore how conflict and adversity can ultimately lead to greater intimacy and understanding within our relationships.   CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER Website: https://www.kellygardner.com  Instagram @iamkellygardner FB: https://www.facebook.com/connectwithkellygardner    CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

It's often said that fear is simply “the unknown.” But the unknown is a void - it hasn't happened yet, therefore, we can't fear what doesn't exist. Instead, fear is us projecting past experiences or other people's stories of what we think might go wrong into the future. Today, I'm going to share a different way to approach the “the unknown” in a way that creates excitement and intrigue instead of fear and anxiety. This episode includes a series of questions that will help prevent you from carrying those stories and experiences into the unknown, and instead carry much more awareness and self trust. With this simple reframe, you can stop acting out of fear, and begin acting from the place of ‘what if it actually all works out?' In this episode, wer'e talking about: -Learning to trust yourself -Overcoming fear -Eliminating self judgement -Fearing judgement of others -Questions to ask yourself to help overcome fear My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It's a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection REFERENCES Four Liberating Questions by Byron Katie  

If we don't properly heal wounds of our past, they can easily get carried into our future relationships and show up, unprovoked. These can be traumas from childhood, school, past relationships etc., that activate our inner defences and, inadvertently, shield us from opening up to the love, joy and happiness of our new relationships - both with our partners and ourselves. Today, we're talking with Master Empowerment Coach, Ali Olivier, about releasing past wounds and reclaiming our inner radiance. Here, she shares how she helps women and men unpack the layers of their past that get in the way of their present and future by getting back to the core of who we are, beyond the barriers. She also provides examples of daily practices for nervous system regulation and exercises for inner child work. In this episode, we're talking about: -Inner child work and healing -Creating safety in our bodies -Expanding our window of tolerance -The role of anger in emotional health -The power of group healing -Balancing and honouring past and future versions of yourself -Healing from trauma -Carrying old pain into new relationships -Learning to trust yourself -Connecting to your body -How to distinguish intuition from anxiety -Re-parenting: becoming the parent you didn't have -Creating boundaries with your parents -How trauma gets stored in our bodies -Exercises for releasing negative energy -Practices for nervous system regulation -Recognizing and releasing suppressed anger My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It's a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH ALI Ali's Website & Retreats  Ali Olivier on Instagram  CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection”

After a very unintentional break, this is the first new podcast episode I've released in four months. And I want to give some insight into why. Firstly, I want to let you know that we are back with weekly episodes moving forward, and I'm very excited about it! I love the podcast so much. There is a very healing quality to it for me personally, just being able to speak things out loud. And here, I'll update you on some massive life-changing transitions and beautiful manifestations coming to fruition in my life.  In this episode, we're talking about: -Why I've been away from the podcast for four months -Navigating major life changes -Liminal space -Being overwhelmed by choice -Manifestation -Navigating uncertainty -The difference between anxiety and excitement -Being open to receiving -Building self trust -Getting over playing small And thanks to some of the beautiful humans who have reached out and asked about the podcast and shared with me how much it touches your heart, and that you've been missing it. I always appreciate your kind words via email info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach  CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” REFERENCES: Episode 304. The Sacred Liminal Space: Between the Familiar & Completely Unknown  

REGISTER NOW: “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” 12-week group program (starts May 15, 2024) I've never released an episode like this before. Today, you're going to hear the first-hand story of one of my private coaching clients, Melissa. Melissa has generously agreed to talk intimately about our six months working together as she worked to overcome the shame, heartbreak and pain of being the “other woman” in a man's affair for almost 30 years. Here, she details her remarkable healing and transformation during our time working together. I don't use the word “transformation” often…but Melissa has undergone a complete energetic and physical shift...you'll hear it in her voice. I'm so excited for you to hear Melissa's story, and to inspire you that this inner work is for anyone ready to rediscover your true, powerful self. If you'd like to work with me one-on-one, apply here and let's get started! In this episode, Melissa and I talk about: -Why Melissa contacted me about coaching -Being the “other” in a cheating relationship -Melissa's breaking point -How to heal from infidelity -Jealousy in a cheating relationship -Wanting to be chosen in a relationship -Choosing yourself before choosing them -Overcoming shame and guilt -Embodying personal development and integrating what you've learned -Nervous system regulation My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It's a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram.   CONNECT WITH EMILY WOMEN'S GROUP (begins May 15, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here  COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Email: info@emilygoughcoach.com Emily Gough on Instagram  

The balance of personal growth and contributing to a thriving romantic relationship is all about being comfortable in your own skin, without seeking external validation, yet embracing our innate need for connection. It's independence and interdependence…but not co-dependence.  I'm such a believer in this that I co-wrote an entire book about it called “You Grow Me” (link to buy below).  This episode is a cross-podcast with Lisa Carpenter's “Full Frontal Living” podcast (find it here). Lisa is a remarkable coach who helped me through one of the most challenging periods of my life (I tell that story in this episode). Here, we focus on creating safety within oneself -  reconnecting with the body, nervous system regulation and the massive importance of personal responsibility within a relationship. In this episode, Lisa and I talk about: Creating safety within: the foundation of self-connection Self-discovery and healing from trauma The impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships Navigating jealousy and building trust The gender gap in personal development Detachment  Why a healthy relationship can be as confronting as a traumatic one Learning to listen to your intuition The presence of exes in a new relationship The grief of finally getting what you want Jealousy in a relationship Taking personal responsibility for everything in your relationship   My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It's a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).   CONNECT WITH EMILY WOMEN'S GROUP (begins May 1, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here  COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here   CONNECT WITH LISA Website: https://lisacarpenter.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/ Podcast: Full Frontal Living   REFERENCES Episode 389 | LIFE IS FULL OF UNCERTAINTY, BUT YOU'RE GONNA BE OK WITH LISA CARPENTER Kelly Gardner on Instagram  

When it comes to our personal growth and development, many people get caught in a trap of “doing” instead of “being.” Doing is when we learn the things, do the homework, and then force our actions based on doing exactly what we think we're expected to…even if it feels inauthentic.   But in order for the work to actually work, we have to embody it. We have to literally BE it. And to do that, we have to lean as hard as possible into our most authentic self. Today we're breaking down how to tell the difference between “doing” and “being” and the incredible rewards we attract - relationships, opportunities etc. - that come as a result of the innate magnetic nature of being the truest version of ourselves. In this episode, we're talking about: The difference between doing and being Why so many people struggle with doing instead of being How to attract the right relationships and opportunities How our energy affects our communication Living life to the fullest Accepting exactly where you are right now Why authenticity is so attractive An exercise to pinpoint where you feel most alive If you want to work with me to get to your point of “being” opposed to “doing” I have private 1-1 coaching spaces available to focus on this very subject. I've worked with a number of women lately on unleashing their own authenticity and the breakthroughs have been life-changing. Email me info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram here and I'd love to get started! CONNECT WITH EMILY WOMEN'S GROUP (begins May 1, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here  COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here   REFERENCES Episode 339 | How To Become Wildly Magnetic

When we talk about how safe and secure we feel with someone we're in a relationship with - romantic or other - we're talking about emotional intimacy. It's that deep connection we create and maintain with the truest version of both they and ourselves. Today, I'm going to list 16 surprising signs of true emotional intimacy. Surprising because they involve levels of both strength and vulnerability that aren't often covered in the usual curriculum of personal development. In this episode, we're talking about: How to stay connected to yourself The importance of honesty, no matter how painful it is Asking for your needs to be met Asking for help Accepting yourself at your worst How to practice presence Setting boundaries in every relationship Caring for your partner's wounds Pushing your emotional range   My new book is officially out! It's called “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast). It's a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).   CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) WOMEN'S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here   REFERENCES Episode 371 | Lessons On Learning How To Receive Love In A Healthy Relationship Episode 385 | How Much Do You Value Yourself? Episode 390 | My New Book “You Grow Me” Is Out Today! (Free Preview Of Chapter 1) Episode 391 | Repairing Conflict In Your Relationship With Kelly Gardner 

Conflict is going to happen in a healthy relationship. And more often than not, conflict starts with something laughably small - from doing dishes, to making food, and even how to decoratively light a podcast. But underneath the menial cause of conflict always lies a much deeper need that isn't being met.  I'm joined on this episode by my partner, Kelly Gardner, a Relationship Coach and Men's Group Facilitator, and as you'll hear, we couldn't even record this podcast without a small conflict of our own. Yes, it was something super small (how to decoratively light this episode for video) which we playfully recount, but then take you through our thorough resolution and beautiful potential of the conflict repair process.  Kelly and I also have spots open now for 2-on-2 Couples Coaching (apply here). These sessions are focused on breaking down walls, solidifying your relationship foundation, improving your sex life and designing the most supportive, fulfilling and loving relationship.  In this episode, Kelly and I talk about: Why conflict is so often over small things One partner taking leadership on certain things in a relationship Compassionate communication Assuming positive intent in others Trusting your partner through conflict Expressing your needs and asking for your needs to be met How to fully resolve a conflict in a relationship The repair process of conflict Discovering breakthroughs through conflict The essential elements of repairing conflict in a relationship How conflict is an opportunity to deepen your relationship Also, my new book is officially out! It's called “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast). It's a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).   CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) WOMEN'S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER Website: https://www.kellygardner.com  Instagram @iamkellygardner FB: https://www.facebook.com/connectwithkellygardner    REFERENCES Episode 377 | Hope After Heartbreak: Our Love Story With Kelly Gardner Episode 384 | Captain Save-A-Hoe & Queen Change-A-Dick: Lifelong Patterns That Harm Our Relationships Episode 359 | Building A Community Of Better & More Present Fathers With Kelly Gardner  

Today, I am so thrilled to announce the release of my first book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-authored with my dear friend, Dr. Jade Teta. It's all about creating growth-oriented relationships, rather than getting caught in the trap of “you complete me” and relying on other people, particularly our romantic partners, to fulfill our needs and happiness. This book leaves the bulls**t Hollywood love stories, Rom Coms, and Disney nonsense where they belong - in fantasy land - and instead lays out how to create a relationship where you can show up more confidently as your authentic self, which allows you BOTH to feel more deeply connected to each other. As a gift to you, I'm releasing Chapter 1 FREE in this podcast episode (links below to purchase). I sincerely hope “You Grow Me” helps you completely reframe the way you look at relationships - with both others and with yourself.  Please let me know what you think! I'd love your feedback on the book, please email or DM me with your thoughts and takeaways. And thank you so much for all your support throughout this podcast - “Your Grow Me” would never have happened without it! (PS: check out Episode 373 for a behind-the-scenes recollection of the frenetic, hilarious, and exhausting story of how we wrote this entire book in just 9 days).   BUY THE BOOK On Amazon:  “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection”   CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) WOMEN'S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here   CONNECT WITH DR. JADE TETA Website: https://www.jadeteta.com/  “Next Level Human” Podcast Jade Teta on Instagram Jade's FREE Book Course

Fear is basically uncertainty. It's having no idea or proof of our own capability to handle the unknown. So how do we learn to overcome fear and simply trust ourselves that we have everything we need to handle any uncertainty? That's where coaches like Lisa Carpenter come in. Lisa Carpenter is a remarkable coach who has changed my life in so many ways. She's the host of the Full Frontal Living podcast and has worked with thousands of people - seeing their depths, bringing out their best and helping them truly live to their full potential. Today we're going deep on how to channel our innate gifts and abilities to handle whatever fear comes our way, while embracing uncertainty as a beautiful chance to grow. In this episode, Lisa and I are talking about: Learning to accept compliments and praise Why anxiety shows up in our lives Noticing your own red flag behaviours How to avoid procrastinating and avoiding tasks Learning to listen to and interpret emotions How to learn to trust ourselves Integrating what we've learned Expanding our capacity for discomfort The difference between openness and vulnerability Integrity: showing up as the same person online and offline The value of sharing openly in inspiring and serving others Navigating uncertainty and embracing discomfort The importance of authenticity and real connections Embracing change and making conscious choices I'd love to know where you are on your journey to building self-trust. Where are you getting stuck? Please reach out (contacts below) and I'd love to talk more about this subject with you. And thanks to Lisa for inviting me on her Full Frontal Living Podcast episode 253 - you can listen to that episode right here.    CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) WOMEN'S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” info here Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here CONNECT WITH LISA Website: https://lisacarpenter.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/ Podcast: Full Frontal Living   Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

When we overthink our emotions, we under-feel them. This can have major consequences on both our relationships and our personal growth. Too often when faced with a negative or traumatic emotion, we intellectualize how we are feeling instead of allowing ourselves to accept, allow and feel it.  And by suppressing the bad stuff, we fail to fully learn how to feel the good stuff - the spectrum of emotions are what make up the beautiful, complete human experience.  This episode will teach you three simple, but necessary steps to begin practicing feeling instead of thinking when it comes to emotions. These are required if we want to have healthier and more meaningful connections with others and ourselves. In this episode, we're talking about: Understanding the intellectualization of feelings Why we tend to think more about emotions than simply feel them How we interpret the same words differently based on our emotional state The importance of communicating how you're feeling to your partner  Telling ourselves negative stories that skew our actual feelings Why we avoid accepting and facing our emotions Consequences of analyzing our feelings vs feeling them Communicating your emotions instead of venting your frustrations 3 practical steps to connect with your emotions Embracing the full range of human experience Is learning to feel emotions more deeply a challenge you're working on? If this is something you'd love to talk more about, please reach out to me directly (contacts below) and I'd love to dive in with you personally.     CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) WOMEN'S GROUP (starts Jan 25, 2024): “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here DM on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com  REFERENCES Episode 371 | Lessons On Learning How To Receive Love In A Healthy Relationship

Something new on the Room To Grow™ podcast for 2024: allowing you into some of my real life, unedited coaching calls with clients. We all share the same challenges and questions in our relationships, and my hope is that by inviting you into these incredible sessions, you'll find answers and inspiration to integrate into your own situation. It's also a taste of the incredible successes we can have together, so please reach out if this is the kind of work you're finally ready to say F**K YES to (contacts below). This coaching call features Kelly, who, after breaking up with her partner, realized he was in fact the one, she just had too many self-protections activated from past relationship trauma. This is often what happens when our walls keep real love stranded on the outside, never allowed to penetrate. If you're having trouble breaking down your own walls to allow love in, this session is definitely for you. (A huge thank you to Kelly for openly sharing and inspiring others with this breakthrough).   In this coaching call, Kelly and I discuss: Challenging the label of a “relationship” Codependency in a marriage vs healthy relationship Establishing and managing expectations in a relationship Why commitment doesn't have to feel like shackles Knocking down emotional walls allowing love to enter Feeling safe letting someone into a relationship with you Learning to trust yourself How to overcome fear of communicating openly with your partner The difference between selfish vs. self-preserving How healthy relationships force us to come out of hiding Exercise: listing the fears you have in this relationship and coaching yourself through each If you'd like to address a current challenge on the podcast, you can apply to be featured here. You can also apply for couples coaching on the podcast here. Or check the details below on the different ways we can work together. And as always, please reach out anytime with your takeaways or topic ideas for the podcast - I'd love to chat!   CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) WOMEN'S GROUP (starts Jan 25, 2024): “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here DM on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com    

It's time to start fighting unreasonably hard for the life you want. I want this first episode of the New Year to remind you that waiting for things to feel easier, clearer and less scary are preventing you from taking the first messy, but critical steps in the right direction.  Even if you don't have the end figured out, sitting around hoping everything will eventually manifest itself isn't doing anything. I'm also sharing a couple new announcements for the Room To Grow™ podcast, news about my forthcoming book, and my 2024 Words of the Year - an annual practice that helps me stay undeniably committed to a particular goal, while helping make those big, hard decisions much easier. Try it for yourself! In this episode, we're talking about: Why trying to manifest everything won't work Redefining the stories we tell ourselves Taking action, even without the full plan in place Fearing the unknown and searching for safety How to manage fear and uncertainty How to avoid self-judgment Why we fear our own success How to build trust in ourselves An exercise for centering yourself and shifting your energy in the moment I say this every year, but this podcast is one of my favourite things I do as a Human Connection Coach. I absolutely love hearing from you on how these topics show up in your life and am always open to talking more about these and other topics you want to hear more about. Please email me or DM me on Instagram anytime!   CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) WOMEN'S GROUP (starts Jan 25, 2024): “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here DM on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com         REFERENCES Episode 351 | Answering The Call Of What Life Is Asking Of You: Lessons & Reflections For A New Year Episode 195 | The Crushing Fears Of Both Failure & Success  

Failing to meet your most badass, full potential is one of the biggest fears many people have. But what if you were actually a lot closer to being the world-changer you were meant to be than you realize? This episode is all about how to ditch the self-sabotage many people fall into and instead keep our sights set on being absolutely everything we are supposed to be. In short, no more bullshitting yourself (I mean that in the most encouraging way)! We're also going to debunk the meaning of “purpose” and talk about what we're really trying to achieve as we work toward giving the world what we are truly supposed to. Let this be your motivation to get back up when life knocks you down. It's all part of your unique journey that requires zero comparison to anyone else. Period. In this episode, we're talking about: Finding your purpose vs. creating a sense of purpose Why potential (or purpose) isn't necessarily tied to your job The weight of unfulfilled expectations Why you're closer to your potential than you think Why the end of the year tends to be very difficult for people How to bounce back when life knocks you down Finally, I'd love to hear your BIG vision! Email or DM me with the honest, unabated thing you want to create, do, or live out (contacts below). What do you dream about? What's the vision you have for yourself that you're almost afraid to speak out loud because it can feel so far at the moment? Totally private. Let's inspire each other to crush our potential!    CONNECT WITH EMILY **APPLY FOR COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner** Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com        REFERENCES Episode 297 | Slowly, Slowly, Slowly, Suddenly: Setting Intentions For A New Year Episode 138 | The Weight Of Expectations & Attaching To Outcomes Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around To Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations) Episode 377 - Room To Grow™ After Dark: Gender Equality: Re-Examining The Meaning Of Male Privilege With Chelsea Wallace & Greg Ryder 

The most dangerous thing you can possess is self worth. Because from self worth comes freedom and empowerment to choose exactly what and who you want in your life. But because we live in a world that teaches us to look outside of ourselves for validation, accolades, approval, self-worth can be a major struggle. But when we stop auditioning for the approval of others and instead go inward and trust our own worth, it gives us the confidence to state our value to others.  This episode is all about stepping into your power and learning to ignore the junk that robs us of seeing our own self worth. It includes questions to ask yourself to establish how highly you truly value yourself. In this episode, we're talking about: Stepping fully into your power: trusting instincts and intuition, learning to like you body, owning your sexuality Not letting others determine our value Why we often lower our self-worth as a defense mechanism The role of self-worth in relationships Fear of disappointment and its impact on self-worth Difference between compromise and self-betrayal The power of choosing yourself first in your relationship Not allowing past mistakes to define who you are becoming The freedom that comes from putting yourself first Choosing someone because you want them, not because you need them If worked your ass of and want to join other women in truly stepping into your full and absolute unworldly power, I have a brand new women's group forthcoming called “Grown Ass Women Era” ...because it's damn time! Email me or DM me if you're interested or want to know more (IG: @emilygoughcoach)   CONNECT WITH EMILY **APPLY FOR COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner** Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com        REFERENCES Episode 270 | Cultivating A Deep Sense Of Self Worth Episode 377 | Hope After Heartbreak: Our Love Story With Kelly Gardner Episode 384 | Captain Save-A-Hoe & Queen Change-A-Dick: Lifelong Patterns That Harm Our Relationships Episode 352 | The Subtle Ways Self-Abandonment Sneaks Up On Us  

It's tempting to want to play the role of “superhero” in a relationship - the guardian, the savior, the teacher, or the protector. But over-prioritizing their needs over your own often has a villainous effect on a healthy relationship. Because if all of your focus is on their safety, wellbeing and nurturing, you then neglect what's more important - your own.  My partner, Kelly Gardner, a Relationship Coach and Men's Group Facilitator, and I have identified two (comically labeled) archetypes of the kinds of superheroes we often see in relationships: -Captain Save-A-Hoe: the man here to “save” and “heal” a broken partner. -Queen Change-A-Dick: the woman on a mission to help the lost boy grow into a great man. Today we'll explain why you need to stop prioritizing your partner's needs over your own, and how the foundation of a healthy relationship is really built on focusing on yourself, first. In this episode, Kelly and I are talking about: Why men often want to feel like a “savior” in a relationship Power dynamics in relationships Why women often put aside their own needs in a relationship How to balance giving and receiving in a relationship Expanding your sense of self in a relationship Waiting to be chosen by someone How prioritizing yourself first contributes to a better relationship Managing sexual energy inside and outside your relationship Including your partner in your life How to make your partner feel chosen   Apply for Couples Coaching with Kelly & Emily CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER Website: https://www.kellygardner.com  Instagram @iamkellygardner FB: https://www.facebook.com/connectwithkellygardner    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com             REFERENCES Episode 377 | Hope After Heartbreak: Our Love Story With Kelly Gardner Episode 359 | Building A Community Of Better & More Present Fathers With Kelly Gardner Episode 364 | Not All Men, But Almost Always With Traver Boehm Of Man UNcivilized

I'm practicing something that's very uncomfortable for me: asking for what I need. Maybe you can relate. It's scary, because when we ask for something, it can bring up all kinds of issues for us. Old stories from childhood. Risk of judgement, rejection or abandonment. It's something I've spent most of my life avoiding, and instead convincing myself that I can hold it down myself without needing anything from anyone. Right now I'm in the middle of a two-weekend leadership intensive that pushes us to our edges, creating uncomfortable scenarios and situations that require us to make a decision about who we are versus who we want to become. It's an opportunity to be the version of yourself you think you are, and it's also deeply confronting. Some of the feedback I've gotten is that I don't allow people into my heart, and for someone who teaches about love, that was harsh to hear. But I see the truth in it, because it's safer for me to be open without actually being vulnerable. Not showing you the messy parts as I work through it. So here's my ask: as part of the assignment of the weekend, the 50 of us participating in the program have chosen a charity to raise $25k by tomorrow, Sunday October 29th @ 6pm Central.  We are raising money for Choose Love, an organization rooted in providing assitance in humanitarian crises and currently raising funds for urgent aid to the more than 2+ million people trapped inside Gaza and the displaced communities in southern Israel. Every donation, big or small, not only supports funding, volunteers and material aid to the most effective local organisations on the ground but also sends the message: that every person in need is seen, heard, and valued. No matter what your opinion on the conflict, it shouldn't be hard to have compassion for ALL humans. If you feel pulled to donate, please do so here and send it along to someone you know. If you'd like more information, you can check out Choose Love here.   REFERENCES Choose Love Inc Donate to the GoFundMe for Choose Love Inc   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com  

The only thing more painful than brutal honesty is dishonesty. If we're holding in our true emotions to avoid tough conversations, judgment or rocking the boat, we're actually hurting our relationship more than helping it. Expressing how you are feeling is where trust is built and where relationships thrive. If you're not being truly honest in your relationship, it will disintegrate over time, guaranteed. Honesty can be a tough pill to swallow. But the foundation of trust that comes with expressing your emotions is one of the most important parts of building a deep, loving and lasting relationship. In this episode, we're talking about: When we say we're fine, but we're not Why we're often afraid to be honest How to build trust in a relationship How to handle when they overstep your boundaries The link between dishonesty and infidelity Projecting onto someone vs expressing how you're genuinely feeling Why relationship skills need to be practiced How to better connect with people Why honesty is often a breakthrough moment for relationships Honesty in a relationship can be a difficult road to navigate. I hear this from clients all the time. If you want help with how to have that truly honest conversation you've been fearing, please reach out - I have private coaching opportunities available now. Email me info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach.    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com          REFERENCES Episode 306 | Changing How We Define Emotional Strength & Recognizing Emotions As Data  

Nicole Walters has built an empire from virtually nothing. From growing up in poverty, to adopting 3 children off the street, creating a multi-million dollar business, a TV show, podcast and now the release of her new book “Nothing Is Missing: A Memoir Of Living Boldly” she's helped to inspire others by teaching everyday people how to own their power and trust they already have everything they need to succeed. This incredible (and wildly energetic) conversation centers around love, divorce, motherhood, vulnerability and learning to be present. She also talks about how she built a thriving online community and the importance of prioritizing your relationship with yourself. In this episode, Nicole and I are talking about: Lessons learned from growing up in poverty Following through on promises Building a strong relationship with yourself Relationships and human connection The story of adopting her 3 kids off the street Building self trust and confidence Being present and appreciating your success Moving on from divorce How to build an online community Nicole Walters' book, “Nothing Is Missing: A Memoir of Living Boldly” (Available October 2023) details the harrowing journey of discovering her self-worth, breaking past any barrier set in her way, and learning the vital lesson that everything she was searching for was already there. Check it out and let me know your thoughts! Email info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH NICOLE WALTERS Book: “Nothing Is Missing: A Memoir of Living Boldly” Instagram: @nicolewalters Podcast: “The Nicole Walters Podcast”    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com        

The next time you find yourself feeling down, lost, full of anxiety or just energetically off, it's time to get back to the basics and reconnect with yourself. This episode covers 6 key questions to ask the next time you just don't feel like yourself: Are you laughing? Are you sleeping? Are you moving? Are you nourished? Are you creating? What are you consuming?  …and I'm not just talking about eating better. Our constant ingestion of information, misinformation, opinions, comments and doom scrolling social media can often pin us under the weight of other people's energy. Let this be a quick reminder of the foundational tools needed for reconnecting with yourself - for both ourselves and our relationships.  In this episode, we're talking about: Things that can cause unexpected anxiety Why the anxiety we feel might not even be our own Staying connected with yourself and the power of being comfortable with ourselves Gaining understanding of how things, people & seasons impact you How to create more joy in you life How we mistreat ourselves without knowing it How we're impacted by other people's energy This is an exercise I often do with my clients whenever these feelings come up. It seems so basic, but when it comes to relationships, it's almost impossible for other people to get to know us if we don't even know ourselves. Please listen, let me know if these questions are helpful, and if you'd like to dig in deeper with me, I have private coaching opportunities available: email me info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach. I'd love to connect!   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com        REFERENCES Episode 263 | The Value In Being Alone On Purpose (Whether Single Or In A Relationship) Episode 302 | Self Love & Loneliness: Learning To Like Yourself  

From forgetting simple household chores to getting distracted during sex, adult ADHD can have a tremendous impact on a relationship. Today, we're talking with ADHD Life Coach, Aaron Bailey about the frustrations, workarounds and ways of building a strong relationship with someone with ADHD.  In some ways, a partner can feel more like a parent. But that's where patience, knowledge and communication become necessary in order to build strategies for living with ADHD in a relationship. As a person who has ADHD (combination type), a learning disability, generalized anxiety disorder and depression, Aaron understands the difficulty of the ADHD journey in marriage, fatherhood, work and everyday life. He now works to help others, including his own family, take proactive steps to learn about and accept ADHD as part of a happy, fulfilled life. In this episode, Aaron and I are talking about: How ADHD affects relationships The science of ADHD and getting an ADHD diagnosis (vs self-diagnosed ADHD) ADHD medication, particularly for youth and adolescence Important Focus Brain vs Interest Focus Brain Why those with ADHD are often highly emotional and/or sensitive Why ADHD causes forgetfulness and time blindness How ADHD affects sex life and intimacy Tips and workarounds for ADHD in relationships 3 keys for ADHD in relationships: patience, knowledge and communication The topic of ADHD in relationships came by request from a Room To Grow™ listener and I'd been searching for a long time for an expert to interview on the subject. I hope you learn as much as I did from Aaron and would love to hear what your main takeaways from this episode are. Please email me info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach.   CONNECT WITH AARON BAILEY Website: https://www.aaronbailey.ca/     FB: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDCoachAaron  CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com       

When it comes to confidence, we can too often sit in a state of waiting - waiting for something to  magically happen or shift to finally get over our fears and anxieties. But confidence is something that has to be built, honed and practiced. And the only way to practice is to simply do the thing for the first time, no matter how scary.  Today we're talking about how to build the confidence to pursue your next big thing, be it a career, personal goal or relationship. Are you missing out because you're putting off doing the uncomfortable inner work needed to feel confident enough to go out and attract it? I can tell you this with complete certainty… The common thread among successful people, whether in business or relationship, is that they first did it scared. In this episode, we're talking about: How to build self confidence Why we get sucked into waiting for things to happen at the perfect time Fear of failure How worry takes more energy than trying and failing How to attract better relationships Dating with confidence Common traits of successful people How to overcome heartbreak, pain and relationship trauma While confidence requires a lot of inner work, it isn't built alone.  I'd love to help support you on your self confidence journey – I've got 1:1 coaching openings available now. Please reach out by email info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com         REFERENCES Episode 348 | Stop Bullsh*Tting With Your Potential Episode 371 | Lessons On Learning How To Receive Love In A Healthy Relationship Episode 292 | Be So F*Cking Loyal To Your Personal Transformation You Become Unshakeable Episode 285 | When Healthy Love Feels Scary: Some People Aren't Ready To Be Truly Seen

My guest on this episode is my partner, Kelly Gardner. He and I met when he was a guest on this podcast  (Episode #359 “Building A Community Of Better & More Present Fathers” With Kelly Gardner) talking about his work as a Personal Growth Coach and Men's Group Facilitator. At the time, it was just an interview. But, things quickly changed, and I can honestly say this is the best romantic relationship I've ever experienced. I want to share our relationship story - one that involves long distance, children from a previous marriage, mutual past relationship heartbreak and a healthy share of conflict. But moreso, I want to share Kelly's remarkable approach to communication, personal integrity, conflict resolution, co-parenting and formulating - and reformulating - agreements within a romantic relationship.  I hope this episode inspires you the way Kelly has inspired me to allow unwavering curiosity and self-love to guide you to a relationship that fills every inch of your soul. In this episode, Kelly and I are talking about: How we began dating while living in different countries Premonitions, intuition and manifesting Setting clear agreements in relationships  “Touristing” - hooking up with people on dating apps while on vacation Masculine vs Feminine integrity Conflict resolution in relationships Co-parenting and maintaining a relationship with your ex Bringing children into a new relationship How past relationship pain can lead to greater future relationships   A little more about Kelly: With over 25 years of experience in education, Kelly has taught some form of personal growth to every stage from preschool through graduate school. His early training in drama therapy, non-violent communication, and childhood development combine with his more recent experiences in parenting, personal development and leadership to create a unique approach to helping individuals grow their most loving relationships.  Kelly's greatest joy is sharing his life with Emily and his two boys. Kelly and I plan on creating some incredible relationship and personal growth content together - which topics would you like to hear more about? Email me info@emilygoughcoaching.com or send me a DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach with your requests. Thank you so much for following the Room To Grow™ podcast!   CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER Website: https://www.kellygardner.com  Instagram @iamkellygardner FB: https://www.facebook.com/connectwithkellygardner    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com         REFERENCES Episode 359 | Building A Community Of Better & More Present Fathers With Kelly Gardner Episode 371 | Lessons On Learning How To Receive Love In A Healthy Relationship Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity Episode 349 | Debating The Role Of Romantic Relationships In Fulfillment, Purpose & Growth With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 373 | The Healing Power Of Writing With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 362 | Choose Your Hard & Living In The Light Of Possibilities Episode 194 | Living An Energetically Balanced Life With Alea Lovely Of The Spiritual Sh*T Podcast Episode 315 | Manifestation Is A Sign Of Healing With Alea Lovely Of “Spiritual Sh*T”  

When we try to force a relationship with someone who isn't a good fit, it's time to do some serious work on our own self-worth. People often end up “chasing” the same type over and over, hoping they'll uncover something about ourselves we just aren't seeing. But to have a healthy relationship with someone else, we first need to recognize our own innate self worth - with and without them.  It may involve a painful decision to let go, but it's a whole lot harder and more painful trying to convince someone to choose you. Today is all about how to break the cycle of getting stuck in bad relationships (there's even a science behind why we often do). What if you valued yourself so much that you were willing to let go of everything, including the inconsistent and one-sided relationships, to make space for powerful, loving, beautiful and consistent relationships that will absolutely light up your life? In this episode, we're talking about: Why you keep choosing people who aren't a good fit for you How to improve self-worth  Why your partner might be moving at a different speed than you Communication in a healthy relationship Being consistently available emotionally in a relationship  Why bad relationships make us feel safe Why we're sometimes attracted to the wrong people Anticipatory dopamine and our attraction to chaos How to foster a healthy relationship   The thought of letting go and breaking patterns can be very confronting. I'd love to help support you on your relationship journey - I've got 1:1 coaching openings available now. Please reach out by email info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram (@emilygoughcoach)      CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com      REFERENCES Anticipatory Dopamine (Via @Zoecrooktherapy) Episode 289 | Consistency Is Sexy As F*Ck In Relationships Episode 270 | Cultivating A Deep Sense Of Self Worth Episode 259 | Following The Path Of Least Resistance Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty In Relationships With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 316 | Regret Is Shame Disguised As Maturity

Trust is like the oxygen that fans the flames of a relationship. When you can fully grant trust to your partner, it allows each of you to fill each other's needs within the relationship. Not trusting your partner is often not a sign of their untrustworthiness, rather lack of trust in yourself - which is where the work then needs to happen.  Today we're talking all about the beautiful benefits of trusting your partner - particularly when it comes to filling their own personal needs and yours (alone time, going out with friends etc.). It not only results in a happier, healthier version of them, but helps you establish strength and trust in yourself to stand solidly - on your own and inside the relationship. In this episode, we're talking about: Learning to trust your partner more Taking time for yourself in a relationship Allowing your partner to go out with friends Why lack of trust is a sign of not trusting yourself Creating healthier, happier relationships How to deepen your connection in a relationship How events of our past leads to distrust Letting go of past relationship pain What happens when you learn to trust others   If you work on the relationship with yourself, so many things will fall into your life beautifully. If this is something you're ready to explore - I'd love to work together with you. Coaching opportunities are open now - email me or send me a DM on Instagram (@emilygoughcoach) to get started!   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com       REFERENCES Episode 263 | The Value In Being Alone On Purpose (Whether Single Or In A Relationship) Episode 310 | Lose The Labels That Keep You Small & Expand Into Real Freedom Episode 220 | Recognizing What Self-Betrayal Looks Like Episode 352 | The Subtle Ways Self-Abandonment Sneaks Up On Us Episode 268 | Trust Is A Choice: Creating A Confident Relationship With The Unknown  

Usually when we think about hormones, we think about mood swings, bloating and weight gain. But our hormones play a massive factor in everything from emotional control, to alleviating pain, bloating and inflammation, better sleep, steadier eating patterns, stress management and sex drive.  And knowing how to control our hormones means having much greater control over how we show up physically, mentally and emotionally in our relationships. Here, we're talking with Andrew Costa, Registered Dietitian, Holistic Nutritionist and host of The Hormone Helper podcast, who works with hundreds of people to balance their hormones naturally through diet and better habits. The resulting shifts are life-changing and contribute to a better version of you…for yourself and your partner.  In this episode, Andrew and I are talking about:  How hormones affect your physical, mental and emotional health Hormone functions, including thyroid, cortisol, estrogen and testosterone Which hormones are responsible for different bodily functions  Why hormones play a major role in emotions How to balance hormones through diet Mood swings during menstruation Why couples should talk openly about periods Why most men today have low testosterone How foods like salt, zinc, and magnesium help regulate hormones   I learned a ton in this interview! Let me know your takeaways from this discussion on hormones - I'd love to know your thoughts. Email me or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach.    CONNECT WITH ANDREW Website: https://fit4allfitness.com/  Hormone Reboot Program Hormone Helper Podcast   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com      REFERENCES Episode 332 | Your Cycle Is Your Superpower & Building Strong Ass Women With Claire Falconer Episode 246 | Miscarriage, Van Life & Making Unconventional Choices With Claire Falconer & Luke Morris Episode 17 | Rest For Success And How To Manage Metabolism With Jade Teta Episode 15 | Holistic Skincare, Oil Cleansing & Mindfulness With Rachel Devine Of R Devine Skin Care  

Writing is one of the most powerful things you can do to heal and grow. Having just penned a book on relationships (coming spring 2024) with my incredible friend and host of the Next Level Human podcast, Dr. Jade Teta, we're taking you behind the scenes to explain the whirlwind physical and emotional process of writing an entire book in just 9 days. But we're not just talking about outlines, story arcs and editing (although we do get into all that). Here, Jade and I are preparing you for the highly emotional, vulnerable and cathartic experience of writing - whether it's a book or in the privacy of your journal. This book writing process forced us to confront old wounds and traumas, and brought out aspects of ourselves we weren't even aware of. BTW…you can read more details about the book in this Instagram post. In this episode, Jade and I are talking about: How to write a book Why writing is a powerful tool for self-development and healing How to heal from past relationship pain Achieving personal growth through relationships Overcoming self-doubt and imposter syndrome The courage it takes to let readers into your insecurities How to structure a complete story Jade's dedicated time structure for writing a book   Have you ever written or thought about writing a book? I'd love to know your takeaways from this incredible episode with Dr. Jade Teta. Email me or send me a DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH DR. JADE TETA Website: https://www.jadeteta.com/  “Next Level Human” Podcast Jade Teta on Instagram Jade's FREE Book Course   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com     REFERENCES The Book: “You Grow Me” Episode 349 | Debating The Role Of Romantic Relationships In Fulfillment, Purpose & Growth With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 350 | The Penis Episode: How Men & Women Can Become Better Lovers And Addressing Male Insecurities With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty In Relationships With Dr. Jade Teta  

This short episode covers two very fundamental questions I ask my self routinely that have completely changed my relationships and the way I communicate: Am I acting out of fear or out of love right now? How can I show up in a way right now that I'll be proud of 5, 10, 20 years from now?  Both questions likely require a lot of unpacking, vulnerability and digging inside to face some hard truths. But If we can get clear on the type of person we want to be, we can equip ourselves to communicate in a way we can be proud of now and in the future. In this episode, we're talking about: How to control your temper and reacting poorly Acting out of fear vs acting out of love How to communicate better in a relationship How to have a healthier relationships How to practice self love and compassion How to get clear on who you want to be Why ego isn't a bad thing   Please listen and let me know your thoughts on these 2 questions - have you ever asked them of yourself? How have they changed your life for the better? Email me or send me a DM in Instagram (@emilygoughcoach)  ALSO…50% off single private coaching sessions until the end of July (In celebration of the 5th anniversary of Room To Grow™)  Book your session here. Last week a client who booked one of these breakthrough sessions gained massive clarity around her relationship and made some enormous positive shifts all within a couple days of our call!    CONNECT WITH EMILY Flash Sale: 50% off one-hour private coaching sessions with me (ends Mon, July 31). Grab a spot on my calendar here. Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com    REFERENCES Episode 290 | Opening When You Want To Close: Why Withholding Will Damage Your Connections        Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

Like the saying “once burned, twice shy,” a healthy relationship can be hard to trust if you've been burned in the past. The best relationships might even bring up more resistance because they can feel like unfamiliar territory.  But one of the best things we can do to heal from past scars is to lay our defenses down and be open to allowing love and all its potential beauty the chance to come in.  This episode is about not allowing yourself to push away something great, just because you've painted everyone with the brush of your past pain. Having the bravery to trust the growth and healing you've emerged from so you can fully receive the love of a healthy relationship.  In this episode, we're talking about: Healthy relationships Vulnerability and leaving our comfort zone  How to heal from bad relationships How to be ready for love Why we're attracted to chaos Building self trust An exercise for confronting fears The risks of love BTW…Room to Grow™ just celebrated its 5th anniversary! I'm so grateful for you listening and interacting with the podcast these past 5 years, and am so excited to continue to talk about all things human connection and relationships with you for many more to come!  Please email me anytime or DM me on Instagram (@emilygoughcoach) to talk about this or any episode or topic we've covered, or a subject you'd like to hear more about in a future episode!   CONNECT WITH EMILY Flash Sale: 50% off one-hour private coaching sessions with me (ends Friday, July 14). Grab a spot on my calendar here. Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com          RESOURCES Episode 285 | When Healthy Love Feels Scary: Some People Aren't Ready To Be Truly Seen Episode 121 | Cutting Off The Breadcrumbs Of Hope With Megan Bruneau   Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

This time, I'm answering the questions.  This special episode of Room to Grow™ was taken from my guest appearance on the Between Heaven and Earth podcast hosted by Intuitive Coach, Lisa K. Lisa invited me on her show to talk about how to successfully approach dating, including how self love, intuition, trust, loneliness and playfulness all play a major factor in both new and long-term relationships. I also opened up about my own relationship history and what I learned about infidelity, forgiveness, moving on and turning heartbreak into empowerment. I now coach others on human connection and how working on yourself first will make you a better partner and greatly enhance the quality and depth of your relationships. On that note… I wrote a book! It's called “You Grow Me” co-authored by Dr. Jade Teta, host of the Next Level Human podcast. It's all about how to create deeper, better relationships by doing your own inner work and bringing your best self to the table. You're going to love this one – stay tuned for release details!  I hope this amazing interview with Lisa K opens you up to new thoughts about dating, and covers everything from cheating, to dreams, intuition, what men and women are each looking for in relationships, friendship and even dating apps.  In this podcast episode, we're talking about: Dating and relationships Intuition Healing from trauma and heartbreak How to listen to your body's signals Learning to trust yourself Why certainty is an illusion Imagery in intuition Advice for new relationships    I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode and if you're noticing things about yourself within your own relationship (or the one that didn't work). Email me or send me a DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach. I'd love to chat!   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com           RESOURCES Episode 358 | Tapping Into Your Intuition With Lisa K Episode 368 | How Do You Know If They're The One? Episode 366 | Self-Love & Loneliness: Learning To Like Yourself Episode 328 | Certainty Is An Illusion: Learning To Focus Your Energy & Intentions Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl  

Fear of change can often leave us dangling on the cusp of our own massive success. Consequently, instead of unleashing our full power to the universe, we lock ourselves in the subconscious “safe zone” of the things, relationships, situations and habits that minimize our power.  Change is indeed scary as hell. But stepping into your full power requires letting go of the doubts, uncertainties and people holding us back. This way, we open ourselves up to inviting in that next glorious chapter. Today, we're talking about how to confidently let go of those fears so you can safely - and finally - step into your full power.  In this episode, we're talking about: Vulnerability Letting go How to reach your full potential Experiencing joy Overcoming fear Navigating change Personal development Relationships   Do you struggle with stepping into your full power? What's holding you back from the success you know you're capable of? Please reach out, I'd love to discuss this topic with you. Email me or send me a DM @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com                REFERENCES: Episode 362 | Choose Your Hard & Living In The Light Of Possibilities Episode 354 | How To Know You're Healing: Emotional Regulation, Self-Trust & Inner Peace Episode 352 | The Subtle Ways Self-Abandonment Sneaks Up On Us Episode 351 | Answering The Call Of What Life Is Asking Of You: Lessons & Reflections For A New Year

“How do I know if they're the one?” I get this question more often than I can tell you. But truthfully, I don't believe there's only one person in the world for us. And trying to fit that perfect someone into your preconceived love story presents a number of challenges and very, very often keeps people in bad relationships longer than they should be. Instead, we should all focus on how we can become the one, ourselves. And as we grow, there may even be more than one “one” that becomes our perfect fit at different times throughout our journey. This episode is all about rethinking the recipe of a great relationship - not as two people making a whole, but two whole people coming together to allow a beautiful relationship to unfold.  On that same topic, some exciting news: I've written a book (co-authored by Dr. Jade Teta, host of the Next Level Human podcast) all about how relationships are not here to complete us, but rather to grow us. You're going to love this one - stay tuned for release details!  In this podcast episode, we're talking about: How to know if they're the one Scarcity vs Abundance mindset Focusing on personal development vs finding true love Establishing strong values, standards and boundaries Why relationships require time apart How to have a better relationship Dating advice   Do you agree that there is no “one” person out there for us? Disagree? I'd love to discuss more! Email me or send me a DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach.    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily's email list here Co-ed Group Coaching Program – details coming soon! Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com                 REFERENCES Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around To Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations) Episode 354 | How To Know You're Healing: Emotional Regulation, Self-Trust & Inner Peace Episode 340 | The Hidden Costs Of Losing Yourself In Relationships Episode 336 | Less About Red Flags In Relationships, More About Compassion & Self-Forgiveness For Wanting To Be Loved Episode 328 | Certainty Is An Illusion: Learning To Focus Your Energy & Intentions

Not everyone deserves a place in your heart. But closing ourselves off isn't the answer either. Boundaries can become fortresses. And then we wonder why no one can ever break through.  Yet it's not always about setting every boundary under the sun with each individual person in your life. It's about showing up as the person you want to be, and watching the magic that unfolds as a direct and specific result of your shift.  Can we allow life to happen, while also trusting ourselves to be able to handle issues as they come up? Can we show up in a way that simply repels what we are not ok with accepting?  In this episode, we're talking: Personal boundaries How to “be” the thing that you want to call in, and then watching what unfolds in your life as a direct result. Deciding what you are and are not willing to tolerate Shifting perspectives. Retraining your brain to recognize something different Leaning into the flow of life while balancing necessary boundaries   Boundaries is a conversation - and challenge - I hear from many listeners and clients. Do you struggle with boundaries? I'd love to chat more about this topic with you. Email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach. Thank you for listening and please let me know your takeaways from this or other episodes!   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com              REFERENCES Episode 263 | The Value in Being Alone on Purpose (Whether Single or in a Relationship) Episode 285 | When Healthy Love Feels Scary: Some People Aren't Ready to be Truly Seen Episode 290 | Opening When You Want to Close: Why Withholding Will Damage Your Connections Episode 259 | Following the Path of Least Resistance Episode 297 | Slowly, Slowly, Slowly, Suddenly: Setting Intentions for a New Year Episode 93 | Choosing Your Family & Setting Healthy Boundaries Episode 108 | How to Set Boundaries: The Key to Healthy Relationships Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around to Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations)

The journey to self-love begins with liking yourself first. But doing this work can present one of the biggest battles we all face as humans: loneliness. It's one of the things that keeps us in mediocre relationships far past their expiry dates, because being in the company of another seems, in theory, better than being alone. But relationships with others are not the cure to loneliness. And believe it or not, the better you become acquainted with loneliness, the less you will fear it and the more it can help you grow. In this episode, I'll share how, and give you a step-by-step practice to self-love. In this episode, we're talking about:  Accepting loneliness The 8 Steps to Self-Love Learning to like yourself How to build a healthy relationship Loneliness vs alone Benefits of developing a relationship with loneliness   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com                  REFERENCES Episode 285 | When Healthy Love Feels Scary: Some People Aren't Ready To Be Truly Seen   Questions? Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? Email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach. Thank you for listening and please let me know your takeaways from this or other episodes!

There are more “labels” than ever floating around out there, especially in the areas of self-help and personal development. Occasionally, labels can be helpful by helping us to feel less isolated and alone in our “weirdness.” But identifying too strongly with any particular label has the potential to do more harm than good. They prevent us from viewing individuals (including ourselves) as a whole, complex and unique being. Labels, therefore, can keep us small, rigid, and wrapped up in parts of ourselves without allowing the fullness of our personalities to shine through. Labels can also keep us so deeply focused on “self” that we forget how much connection with others heals us, because we heal IN relationships. In this episode, we're talking about:  How labels weigh us down and keep us small How to nourish yourself without the labels Personal development and self-help Judgment Relationships and human connection   This podcast topic actually came from a suggestion on Instagram. I'd love to know your thoughts about labels. Email me or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach. I'd love to chat more!   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com                 REFERENCES Episode 302 | Self Love, Loneliness & Learning to Like Yourself 

This conversation is hands-down one of my favourites to date on this podcast. We're speaking with Traver Boehm, an author of two books, 2 time TEDx Speaker, men's coach and founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement, which is radically redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness. In 2016 after losing a pregnancy, his marriage, and his business partnership all within weeks of each other, he created a radical social experiment and spent the next 12 months as if it were his last year to live, aptly naming it “The Year to Live Project.”  Now men all over the world have deemed themselves UNcivilized as they wake up to meditate, feel into their hearts, and train their bodies. Men who can fight, fuck, feed, and feel. And do all four well.  In this episode, we're talking about: How men show up in relationships and the biggest reason why women end relationships (outside of abuse) and how men can cultivate a superpower to make the feminine feel safe in unexpected ways The powerful message Traver has for men everywhere and how he's looking to change the entire culture and spread his message, along with addressing where men need to take responsibility for their own emotional health Men's mental health, and the mountain of male trauma that often goes unaddressed as males have so much less social support than women and a suicide rate that is 3X higher Traver's take on one of the biggest reasons why he believes mass shootings end up happening and what to do about it. What we can learn from our pain   Let me know your thoughts on this episode - you can email me or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach. I would love to connect with you and thank you for listening!    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: Info@emilygoughcoaching.com                                          Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast CONNECT WITH TRAVER BOEHM Website Instagram: @traverboehm UNcivilized Nation Book: Man UNcivilized Podcast: The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm TEDx Talk: How to Make Pain Your Guru TEDx Talk: Why We Need More UNcivilized Men Traver's IGTV about #NotAllMen   REFERENCES Episode 280 | Choosing Relentless Courage, Facing Death & Challenging Societal Norms with Traver Boehm of Man UNcivilized, Part 2 Episode #117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity Episode #136 | Communication, Betrayal, Infidelity & Self-Esteem with Renelle Nelson Episode #239 | Communication: the Lubrication for Relationships with Renelle Nelson

Can people change? The short answer is yes. The real question is: can we have the compassion to see one's (including our own) potential, versus forever holding them to past behaviors and actions? Honouring one's potential to change doesn't mean erasing the wounds of the past. But there's incredible healing power in forgiveness and in recognizing one's humanity - especially your own.  In this episode, we're talking about: Judgment and righteousness The potential for someone to change Forgiveness and compassion Healing from trauma Approaching disagreement with respect Why always refer to someone by name Do you believe people can change? Are certain elements unchangeable? Is there something you're going to work on after hearing this episode? DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or email me and I'd love to discuss your thoughts.   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com                                         Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity Episode 310 | Lose The Labels That Keep You Small & Expand Into Real Freedom Episode 348 | Stop Bullsh*Tting With Your Potential Episode 338 | Believing Is Seeing: The Energy Required For Hope   Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl  

When we make decisions that we know are hard now, but will be worth it in the end, that's choosing your hard. On the outside, what looks like hard work, messiness and sacrifice, means taking the time to properly grow the roots needed to live your most abundant, unshakable life.  It can feel like hunkering down for a long, dark winter. But your winter won't last forever, because spring always comes.  Those who achieve incredible things all chose, or are choosing, their hard.  “Don't live in the darkness of your doubts but in the light of your possibilities.” -Romy In this episode, we're talking about: The difference between openness and vulnerability Managing your energetic capacity Seasons of life: winter and spring Comparison and judgment How to be comfortable being alone How loneliness can exist even in healthy relationships The challenges and rewards of entrepreneurship Personal development and growth What season of life are you in? How do you find ways to hold onto your vision, even when it feels hard? I always appreciate hearing from you - please reach out by email or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free 15-Page Foundational Guide “Where Do We Begin” Here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @Emilygoughcoach Email: Info@Emilygoughcoaching.com                                        Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Episode 178 | The Stories & Trauma We Hold Around Money With Selina Gray Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity Episode 304 | The Sacred Liminal Space: Between The Familiar & Completely Unknown Episode 302 | Self Love & Loneliness: Learning To Like Yourself Episode 297 | Slowly, Slowly, Slowly, Suddenly: Setting Intentions For A New Year Episode 299 | Embracing Your Winter Season   Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl  

If the dating pool is feeling smaller and smaller for you, ask yourself: why is that a bad thing? What if it actually means a better chance at the relationship you're looking for?  This requires a reframe of what “abundance” truly means when it comes to dating and relationships.  The fact is, not everyone is a match for you. But you don't actually want MORE options, you want the RIGHT options. That's ultimately what picking a partner is about. And instead of people pleasing and desperately trying to fit someone else's mold, a much more authentic approach will stop you from looking in all the wrong places for all the wrong things.  In this episode, we're talking about:  Scarcity mindset Taking advantage of our unique qualities How to stand out in the dating world Authenticity and self-abandonment How to make dating more enjoyable Why you shouldn't approach every date as a potential long-term relationship   I hope this episode helps you reframe some of the challenges around dating, because where there's lack, there's abundance on the other side. Email or DM me with your take IG: @emilygoughcoach      CONNECT WITH EMILY THE COMMUNICATION CLINIC – Monday, March 20, 2023 (FREE! sign up here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free 15-Page Foundational Guide “Where Do We Begin” Here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @Emilygoughcoach Email: Info@Emilygoughcoaching.com                                       Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Episode 339 | How To Become Wildly Magnetic Episode 352 | The Subtle Ways Self-Abandonment Sneaks Up On Us Episode 346 | Emotional Translation: Learning Each Other's Unique Languages Episode 331 | How To Gain Respect   Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl  

It might be easy to think that time is the most important thing in building a strong relationship. But time means nothing if it's not spent wisely. Today, we're we're talking about three important things - call them myths - you need to understand about time:  -Time doesn't heal all wounds -Length does not equal depth -Energy is far more valuable than time While time is still an important factor in all relationships, by reframing these three important aspects, we'll be able to better utilize time in our relationships and our personal growth. I've also included a 4-step Energetic Audit to help you identify things that are bringing you down that you may not even notice, and how to begin creating more space for joy. In this episode, we're talking about: The healing process Why pain can be a door for opportunity Why long relationships are not automatically healthy ones Why energy is more valuable than time What to look for when interacting with others How to perform an Energetic Audit   What have you learned about time and relationships in your life? Please reach out, I'd love to discuss! Email me or DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH EMILY THE COMMUNICATION CLINIC  - Monday, March 20, 2023 (sign up here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free 15-Page Foundational Guide “Where Do We Begin” Here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @Emilygoughcoach Email: Info@Emilygoughcoaching.com                                      Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Episode 330 | Managing Your Energetic Capacity & Clearing Space For The Life & Relationships You Want Episode 287 | A Relationship Ending Is Never A Failure – It's An Introduction To A New Version Of Yourself Episode 305 | Re-Thinking Boundaries & Becoming An Energetic Match For Your Desires Episode 320 | Integration Of Wisdom Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity

Kelly Gardner is on a mission to lead dads towards the next great evolution in fatherhood. He is the Founder of “New Dad Network” - group programs and events specifically for men to work through the challenges of being a “dad” and toward embodying holistic, masculine leadership - his definition of “fatherhood.” The goal is to give a safe space for men to share, relieve burdens of shame and become more present internally and outwardly in the lives of their children. Kelly is a longtime theatre, film and performing arts professional who has dedicated most of his life to discovering where the intersection of communication and personal development creates positive impacts in communities and the lives of individuals. In this episode, we're talking about: How Kelly used performing arts and storytelling as a personal development tool The difference between purpose and mission Men's groups and safe spaces Kelly's “500 Year Plan” Why we're all “adolescents” pretending to be adults The “Absent Father Epidemic” and staggering number of fatherless homes Why our education system is broken The role of parents, specifically fathers Masculine energy & energetic balance When asked how many people one has in their lives to reach out to when they need help, the vast majority of men answer with a single heartbreaking response: “no one." Please listen and let me know how this episode and the subject of “fatherhood” lands with you. Email me or DM me @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free 15-Page Foundational Guide “Where Do We Begin” Here Men's Group Coaching – 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @Emilygoughcoach Email: Info@Emilygoughcoaching.com                                     Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast REFERENCES Kelly Gardner On Instagram: @Community.Gardner  New Dad Network: www.newdad.me Episode 344 | The Life-Changing Power Of Human Connection & Doing The Inner Work Episode 325 | The Differences Between A Nice Guy And A Good Man With Mike Campbell Episode 266 | Not All Men, But Almost Always With Traver Boehm Of Man Uncivilized  

Intuition is our instinctive ability to know something is right or wrong, without knowing how or why we know it. Everyone from highly successful executives, to mathematicians and fighter pilots practice their intuitive abilities to perform at an extremely high level. And while some may cast it aside as mysticism or “woo,” there is a science behind it. Lisa K is a renowned intuitive coach whose background in science and engineering helped her develop revolutionary intuition training programs, courses, workshops and a membership. Lisa teaches practical, tangible ways of using your intuition to make better decisions, eliminate doubt and trust the outcome of a situation before it happens.  In this episode, we're talking about:   The science behind intuition and how Lisa developed her intuition training The scientific characteristics of intuition Why executives, mathematicians and fighter pilots practice and use intuition The difference between intuition and thinking The difference between intuition and anxiety Techniques for recognizing and triggering intuition How to practice intuitive abilities   Have you tried tapping into your intuition? How has intuition played a factor in your life? I'd love to discuss - email me or send me a DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free 15-Page Foundational Guide “Where Do We Begin” Here Men's Group Coaching - 8-Week Program (Join the waitlist here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” (Join the waitlist here) Instagram: @Emilygoughcoach Email: Info@Emilygoughcoaching.com                                    Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Lisa K's Website Lisa K's Intuition Master Workshop Episode 315 | Manifestation Is A Sign Of Healing With Alea Lovely Of “Spiritual Sh*T” Episode 120 | Listening To Your Intuition & Gut Instinct: Stop Ignoring Your Body Episode 45 | Ayurveda, Connecting With Nature, And Trusting Your Intuition With Andrea Claassen Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity  

This episode outlines my “Four C's of Connection” which are Curiosity, Compassion, Communication & Courage. This framework is crucial to healthier relationships with yourself, with your romantic partner and platonically with literally anyone. And each of the Four C's builds on each other in particular order.  If you can hone in on and embody these four traits - all which can be learned and some which may take a ton of practice - you will see changes in your life and relationships instantly. And most importantly, it will allow you to expand your potential to feel and connect with others, and most importantly, yourself. In this episode, we're talking about: The Four C's of Connection: Curiosity, Compassion, Communication & Courage How curiosity keeps the fire alive in a relationship How to learn to be more compassionate to others and yourself What to do in a disagreement How to handle difficult conversations and why not to ignore them Three areas of communication: verbal, non-verbal (physical) & energetic The importance of courage    Please listen and let me know if there's a particular “C” that resonates with you. Which one are you working on? Which one is a challenge for you? Email me or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free 15-Page Foundational Guide “Where Do We Begin” Here Men's Group Coaching – Next 8-Week Program Starts Feb 15th, 2023 (Join here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” – Next Program Starts Feb 14th, 2023 (Join here) Instagram: @Emilygoughcoach Email: Info@Emilygoughcoaching.com                                   Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast REFERENCES Byron Katie's 4 Questions Episode 352 | The Subtle Ways Self-Abandonment Sneaks Up On Us Episode 344 | The Life-Changing Power Of Human Connection & Doing The Inner Work Episode 313 | 35 Lessons About Life, Love & Human Connection

Somewhere at the intersection of science and spirituality is comfort. Science gives us comfort in its ability to explain exactly how things happen. Spirituality gives us comfort to trust things that science can never explain. When we're open minded to both, we start to fully appreciate how humans are connected physically, emotionally and energetically. Soul contracts are the agreements and collaborations our souls make with other souls before we become human. And while soul contracts have no scientific merit (that I'm aware of), they can certainly be validated by the way some people and events enter our lives.  By opening your mind to soul contracts, you might gain a degree of comfort in finding meaning and lessons in every relationship and experience you encounter on your journey. In this episode we're talking about: What are soul contracts? How science and spirituality coexist Gaining perspective What unhealthy relationships and tough experiences can teach us Collective consciousness: how everyone is connected Detachment Trusting the universe Do soul contracts feel true to you? Email me or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach, I'm curious!   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together. Get Your Free 15-Page Foundational Guide “Where Do We Begin” Here Men's Group Coaching – Next 8-Week Program Starts Feb 15th, 2023 (Join here) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” – Next Program Starts Feb 14th, 2023 (Join here) Instagram: @Emilygoughcoach Email: Info@Emilygoughcoaching.com                                  Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room To Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Book: Big Magic By Elizabeth Gilbert Episode 319 | How to Let Go & Practice Presence When You're Impatient Episode 260 | How To Let Go And Recover From Loss Episode 138 | The Weight Of Expectations & Attaching To Outcomes Episode 259 | Following The Path Of Least Resistance Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty In Relationships With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity

It's a question that's been around forever: can men and women just be friends? Who better than to discuss this with than with one of my nearest and dearest friends, Dr. Jade Teta, host of The Next Level Human podcast and  co-host of an ongoing Relationships Series here on Room To Grow™ (more episodes below).  While Jade and I (like many others) have maintained a very long and close platonic relationship as heterosexual individuals, there remains some cultural and evolutionary disbeliefs that a man and woman can indeed be just friends.  Today, we're talking about what it takes for men and women to carry on a platonic relationship and the beautiful benefits of having close friends of the opposite sex. In this episode, we're talking about:  How men and women can be platonic friends without attraction Drawing the line between a romantic relationship and friendship Creating boundaries with friends Gossiping about your partner to friends The benefits of platonic, cross-sex relationships Maintaining friendships outside your relationship Can you be friends with an ex?   I'd love to hear your experiences being just friends with someone of the opposite sex. Email me or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together. Get your FREE 15-page foundational guide “Where Do We Begin” here Men's Group Coaching – next 8-week program starts Feb 1st, 2023 (join the list) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” – Next program starts Feb 7th, 2023 (join the list) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com                                Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room to Grow Podcast   CONNECT WITH JADE Instagram: @jadeteta Website: https://www.jadeteta.com/ Podcast: Next Level Human Books/Courses: Jade Teta    REFERENCES Episode 349 | Debating The Role Of Romantic Relationships In Fulfillment, Purpose & Growth With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 296 | Age Gap Relationships & Compatibility with Dr. Jade Teta Episode 293 | The Betrayed & Betrayer: Growing From Infidelity with Dr. Jade Teta

Personal growth helps us to develop new and better emotional responses to whatever life throws our way. As we heal and develop emotional regulation, stress, pain and fear are replaced with newfound peace, calmness and self trust.  The challenge becomes rewiring our minds to accept this new amazing power, without questioning it. Today, I'll share 6 key components of emotional regulation that will help you develop the ability to ground yourself at any moment. “Learn to become your own anchor in the storm.” In this episode, we're talking about: How to know you're healing and that the inner work is working? What is emotional regulation How controlling our emotions creates more peace, self trust and calmness How to practice trusting our intuition Confident detachment Six components of emotional regulation Emotional regulation takes time and a lot of inner work. But the rewards of peace and trust are life-changing. Let me know where you are on your inner-growth journey: what changes have YOU noticed? Email me or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together. Get your FREE 15-page foundational guide “Where Do We Begin” here Men's Group Coaching – next 8-week program starts Feb 1st, 2023 (join the list) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” – Next program starts Feb 7th, 2023 (join the list) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com                                Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room to Grow Podcast REFERENCES Byron Katie: Four Liberating Questions  Episode 320 | Integration Of Wisdom Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty In Relationships With Dr. Jade Teta Episode 269 | The Right People Feel Different To Your Nervous System Episode 297 | Slowly, Slowly, Slowly, Suddenly: Setting Intentions For A New Year Episode 292 | Be So F*Cking Loyal To Your Personal Transformation You Become Unshakeable Episode 138 | The Weight Of Expectations & Attaching To Outcomes Episode 185 | What Does “Doing The Work” Even Mean? Episode 353 | Communication & The Energetic Weight, Intention & Impact Of Our Language Episode 323 | What It Means To Hold Boundaries, Even When We're Disappointing Others Episode 305 | Re-Thinking Boundaries & Becoming An Energetic Match For Your Desires

Our best intentions don't always land the way we hoped. Everyone has their own language and each word and action carries a different energetic weight for everyone. So how do we ensure our best intentions don't get crushed under the weight of a painful impact? Today, I'll explain subtle ways we can become more aware of how we communicate verbally, through body language and energetically - all of which have the power to make others feel. And all, even with the best intentions, can have a far greater impact than we realize - positively or negatively. In this episode, we're talking about: The difference between intent and impact The three types of communication: verbal, body & energetic Why authenticity and integrity are attractive The myth that you can't “make” someone feel something Emotional contagion and mirror neurons (the science of how we're affected by others) The three degrees of influence   Please listen and let me know how this impacts you. Email me info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach    CONNECT WITH EMILY Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together. Get your FREE 15-page foundational guide “Where Do We Begin” here Men's Group Coaching – next 8-week program starts Feb 1st, 2023 (join the list) Women's Group Program “Becoming You” – Next program starts Feb 7th, 2023 (join the list) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: info@emilygoughcoaching.com                               Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room to Grow Podcast   REFERENCES: Episode 346 | Emotional Translation: Learning Each Other's Unique Languages Episode 310 | Lose The Labels That Keep You Small & Expand Into Real Freedom Episode 339 | How To Become Wildly Magnetic