Podcasts about desire resorts

We go to Desire Resorts for some fun. Richard creates his own circus freak show in the afternoon jacuzzi. Lauren practices how to hide a hard one during normal conversation with fancy leg tricks.We've all rated other couples on a scale of 1-10. Maybe you have rated yourself on the same scale. What makes people attractive and how can you get them to be 20% hotter?Check our sponsors:Tabutoys.com (promo code: meltme77) CHECK OUT THE MELT-LAUREN'S NEW FAV TOY - now 25% off! Save 15% on all other things (promo code: ROOM77)Shivers.store (promo code: R77FLIRT) FEB ONLY - 20% OFF ALL SHIVERSBikiniAddictionCustoms.com (WEBISTE code to enter: BEACH)Patreon Help us #keepitup BECOME A MEMBER (Save 10% on BA Customs for members only!)Book your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren, SAVE $$ and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!

Listen in as our event guests discuss working through their individual fears, anxieties and challenges at a clothing optional resort during our week together at Desire Pearl Resort just south of Cancun, Mexico.

This week we decided to take the week off and return to a past in which we were allowed to travel... and we did!Let us return to The Desire Resorts in Mexico and, once again, compare and contrast Desire Riviera Maya and Desire Pearl. We will let you know our honest reviews and tell you which one we are dying to go back to for our next sexy swinger vacation!Want to help us out? Sure you do!!!Help us out on Patreon and join our Discord chat hereFind us on social media!!!On Twitter @BytheBiPodcastOn Facebook BytheBiPodcastOn Instagram @BytheBiPodcastOr email us herePlease donate to Bi+ Visibility by clicking the link here!Leave some feedback for us on whatever medium you listen to your podcasts on! Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Where's the best place to do sexy homework?  An adults-only, clothing optional resort! The 2HotWives record LIVE from the Desire Riveria Maya Resort to recount their adventures in seduction and foreplay.   First, mix up some summer sweetness with a Frozen Peach Bellini.  Next, Kat gives Mr. Kat the ultimate fantasy experience, a unicorn threesome. Then, the Wives share their sexy homework experiences.  They start with new seduction techniques, dirty talk, and eroticizng daily activities. Next, they tackle new foreplay strategies, including the full body orgasm exercise and Hot Damn! penis play. And, since sex is better with friends, they recruit couples from all over the Desire Resorts to join in on Erogenous Zone mapping. Spoiler alert!  Touching feet was a total turn on for many of the ladies who participated!  Finally, the Wives share Just the Tips on better techniques to seduce and play with your lover (or lovers)!  About the Book: Wouldn't you like to tune into your own desires, become a better communicator, and be a more confident, passionate, and attentive lover? Let this book take you on a journey of sexual exploration. As you explore your own learning and seduction styles (and your lover's), you'll discover and experiment with new and exciting ways to stimulate arousal and deepen intimacy: verbal, emotional, and digital seduction, foreplay, eroticizing daily actions, games, fantasy play, mindfulness, and more. Packed with practical exercises, techniques, and creative ideas, this inclusive guide is a surefire way for folks of all genders to master the art of seduction.  Approach your lovers with the confidence and comfort you deserve! Whether you are adding to your repertoire for later or striving to please your current lover, you'll discover thrilling new pathways to pleasure and intimacy. We love our listeners and we want to hear from you!  Call the 2HotWives voicemail at 571-310-3829 and share your favorite hot tales and sexy stories.  We may feature you on the show!  Featured on this episode: Desire RM Bliss Cruise Sex with Dr. Jess Sex Down South How to find the 2HotWives: Website Instagram Twitter

We're back and our swinger game is lacking swagger despite all of the recent visitors. Richard blames it on his beard while Lauren's getting sage for a genital cleansing ceremony. Richard squirms some more as we interview our very own naughty nurse expert on broken penises. Unfortunately, the post-op patient care is not as intimate as we imagined in our heads! Bee, at 26, still has wet dreams and tells us about her sexual dream / fantasy with two guys. Spoiler alert: It involves a swing and being tied up. Lickerish Love is getting in bed with us to help turn Lauren's "toy box" into something worth vibrating about.

We go for a long weekend stay at Desire to tan our quarantine-paled bodies and hang with some of our Patrons before we are seen by the masses. We have our hottest hook-up ever and head home with some new things. We interview our sexers and confess the importance of being honest and upfront; addressing the elephant in the room, even if it's hammered! Get in on the ground floor of Richard's new business!

Our first day back at Desire, we discuss the rules and the vibe, and we totally forget how to do our job. Richard performs anal in his first play, in three acts: Anal, Anal, Anal. We give shoutouts to our new sponsor and almost a hundred people who sponsor us for no reason! We discuss butt plugs with tails with Jeff & Karen and what could happen to cause Richard to walk into the ocean and never return. We reveal this month's addictions and a few more names.

Richard's grocery shopping excursions become challenging. Our bedroom is seeing more elaborate fantasies giving the Red Light District a run for the money. We receive medical advice to prep for Dr. Jeff and The Apocalypse with Dr. Jeff & Karen for our extremely hot and shredded post world clan. We will use sex to barter once we run out of Cheetos. Former Playmaker Bee chimes in on our new business ventures. Lauren's director skills come to light while shooting a dirty vid and it proves to be worse than working with Michael Bay. Rapid fire interviews about slapping prostitute fantasies, the correct flavor or Gatorade, and possible names for Lauren's panty company. With special guests Spiritual Swingers.

Good Pussy Energy- G.P.E - Vulva owners learning how to own their power while affirming both their sensuality and sexuality and being totally unapologetic about it. This is the embodiment and exploration of divine feminine essence and energy.Find out:* The power of creating community with other women *Speaking up about wants, needs, and desires. *Creating a bond with your pussy - Love your pussy*Breast connection*What is an Orgasmic lifestyle?*Awakening your inner fire*Creating your creative vision with sex magicDavia Frost is a Jamaican Born, Chicago native, and certified sex coach and sex educator with an emphasis on women's sexual health and pleasure. During her independent study at DePaul University in Chicago, she developed a robust skill set to assist women with connecting with their Divine sexual energy. She is the founder and owner of Frosted Pleasure, a platform that provides sensual classes, lectures and coaching sessions worldwide. She is also a seminar facilitator for the Exxxotica Expo, the largest event dedicated to love and sex in the US, tours with the erotic conversation and play series Cocktails & Condoms. Davia has joined the Temptation and Desire Resorts and Cruises team to provide "sex education", pleasure and relationship education for an adult-only vacation experience. Davia teaches pleasure-based sex education at Universities around the Chicagoland area and provides education to the masses at the Pleasure Chest Chicago, one of the nation's premier adult boutiques. Connect with Davia at frostedpleasure.com

Superhero or messiah, Richard is saving people again from scorpions to scat while celebrating his birthday at Desire! We ask our dying questions to an ER doctor we met at Desire after she warns Richard about his junk jewelry. Richard explores his midwife approach to the lifestyle, time management skills, and decides on a new wardrobe staple. We play at the hot tub using social distancing. Guest interviews and rapid fire interviews with Desire guests about obligatory sex, kilts, and things that have been stuck inside them.

We push the age and capacity envelope and run into a few spills along the way. Richard gives his penis a stern "talking to" during a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Lauren almost gets into a "cock ring fight" in the jacuzzi. Lauren gathers a crowd to try on junk jewelry. We reach out to Dr. Jeff and Karen for the smarts behind why "that alcohol" makes us get crazy, wild, and angry. Thankfully, Dr. Jeff knows everything and we believe him because, ya know...science. Interviews from Desire guests ( *with horrific sound (sorry) ) about sexy professions, penis pressure, liquors to stay away from, and taking us for a ride.

As always, get detailed show notes on monogamishpod.wordpress.com Today we're talking alllll about multiple experiences with your partner and then some. As usual: Rate, Review & Subscribe. Follow us on Twitter @monogamishpod and send us your voice messages on Anchor if you wanna be an even bigger part of the conversation using this link. We defined a whole bunch of terms on the detailed show notes Sham initiates a multiple experience using care and precision and then carefully thrusting the other woman's vagina on his wife's face (He says that's not exactly what he said on the programme but Jhen is a paraphrasing genius and she wrote this bit) Jhen initiates a multiple experience by telling them she wants to be the gunman in their hole (She didn't ACTUALLY say this but it was implied) Hedonism II is like THE most popular resort for sexy stuff in the world Caligula and Chemistry are the two sex/swingers clubs we mentioned in NYC In South Florida we mentioned Miami Velvet & The Trapeze Young Swingers Week was in Jamaica at Hedo in October 2019. Here is the twitter of the couple we found that seems to run/be heavily involved in it Mocha Fest is a black alternative lifestyle festival that's going to be in Jamaica Memorial Day Weekend 2020 Life on the Swingset hosts a sexy times getaway at the Desire Resorts - specifically the one in Mexico. Here is information about that event here --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/monogamishpod/message

We check into Desire Riviera Maya as guests and spend two days making sure to get everything in. Richard sustains an injury and goes back for more. We kidnap Bee, the Playmaker, and bring her to the house!!! (pause) For an interview. We talk to Bee about her career, Instagram, views on Desire, and her assets. We venture out of the house for trouble. Who knew vanilla resorts could be so, not vanilla? We didn't, and we liked it! We're getting a lot of booty calls lately. Interviews from Desire guests about junk jewelry, strap ons, sexy hotels, and cover stories for the vanilla friends we have in common.

Free bikinis for everyone!! More Temptation talk and Richard seeks Lauren's advice for better flirting tactics. Richard also works on a new laugh for himself.We talk to Dr. Jeff and Karen about more sexy things. Ejaculate. And not so sexy things. Menopause. Richard makes a pledge to Karen to keep her alive if ever on a deserted island.Public sex. Watching and being watched is a topic as Richard and Lauren begin preliminary plans and hire an architect for their new lifestyle resort.Interviews from Desire Resorts guests about drying up, the bad flirting styles, sexy socks, and the right amount of ejaculate.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

Free bikinis for everyone!! More Temptation talk and Richard seeks Lauren's advice for better flirting tactics. Richard also works on a new laugh for himself.We talk to Dr. Jeff and Karen about more sexy things. Ejaculate. And not so sexy things. Menopause. Richard makes a pledge to Karen to keep her alive if ever on a deserted island.Public sex. Watching and being watched is a topic as Richard and Lauren begin preliminary plans and hire an architect for their new lifestyle resort. Interviews from Desire Resorts guests about drying up, the bad flirting styles, sexy socks, and the right amount of ejaculate.

We go back to Desire with a new objective and fail miserably!! We come to terms with the end of our podcast, our lives, and our marriage.Richard is filled with a lot more than pride on a “good ejaculate day” and we may have accidentally opened a brothel.We survive a giant scorpion, a dangerous oil spill, and then Richard almost dies (again).We interview a “yellow band” (first time), non-lifestyle couple who has such a great time and are such fast learners, we worry they might end up taking over our workshops!Rapid fire interviews from Desire guests about our future tent city party, imaginary sex with Richard, cardio, taking a helicopter to our house, and more!Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

We go back to Desire with a new objective and fail miserably!! We come to terms with the end of our podcast, our lives, and our marriage. Richard is filled with a lot more than pride on a “good ejaculate day” and we may have accidentally opened a brothel. We survive a giant scorpion, a dangerous oil spill, and then Richard almost dies (again). We interview a “yellow band” (first time), non-lifestyle couple who has such a great time and are such fast learners, we worry they might end up taking over our workshops! Rapid fire interviews from Desire guests about our future tent city party, imaginary sex with Richard, cardio, taking a helicopter to our house, and more!

It’s pretty common for those in the non monogamous community to lead a double life. Unfortunately this type of alternative love is not yet accepted by mainstream society and many times people run the risk of loosing their career, status or even worse – family. This can be mentally draining and in some cases, difficult to navigate. That’s why we brought two extraordinary guests onto our show today to discuss the ins and outs of leading a double life! Paige and Penn from Swinger Diaries Podcast open up about their double life and how they make it special, sexy and mysterious. We discuss some of the issues they have encountered, what life is like for them and offer their advice for those in the same boat! Tune in now! About our Guests: Paige & Penn (Swinger Diaries) We are Penn & Paige, a mid-forties, professional, church-going, successful, all-American couple living in the midwest who have secretly been involved in the swinging lifestyle since 2010. As a committed, faithful, loving couple with a large family, a fulfilling 20-year marriage, & a happy, contented, sex life, after many cautious visits to the Desire Resorts in Mexico, we slowly were drawn into the wonders & challenges of swinging. We were coaxed into the lifestyle by the sincerity, charm & sex appeal. Their zest for living crept into our everyday lives & now, inspired by our many travels to see new friends, clubs, resorts & parties, we live a very closeted but active lifestyle. After experiencing dozens of mind-blowing encounters, we began recording Swinger Diaries more than 5 years ago & never wavered from our original podcasting ambitions; to memorialize our stories & to pay it forward to the timid, skeptical newbies out there because we vividly remember being the same way. - Website: https://swingerdiaries.podbean.com - Twitter: https://twitter.com/swingerdiaries © SU Lifestyle Media Inc. VISIT SHOWNOTES https://www.sexuninterrupted.com/radioshow SUPPORT www.patreon.com/sexuninterrupted Website: www.sexuninterrupted.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/sxuninterrupted Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex.uninterrupted/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexuninterrupted/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgcQBhb89EGqjcEMR_pmo0w

It’s pretty common for those in the non monogamous community to lead a double life. Unfortunately this type of alternative love is not yet accepted by mainstream society and many times people run the risk of loosing their career, status or even worse – family. This can be mentally draining and in some cases, difficult to navigate. That’s why we brought two extraordinary guests onto our show today to discuss the ins and outs of leading a double life! Paige and Penn from Swinger Diaries Podcast open up about their double life and how they make it special, sexy and mysterious. We discuss some of the issues they have encountered, what life is like for them and offer their advice for those in the same boat! Tune in now! About our Guests: Paige & Penn (Swinger Diaries) We are Penn & Paige, a mid-forties, professional, church-going, successful, all-American couple living in the midwest who have secretly been involved in the swinging lifestyle since 2010. As a committed, faithful, loving couple with a large family, a fulfilling 20-year marriage, & a happy, contented, sex life, after many cautious visits to the Desire Resorts in Mexico, we slowly were drawn into the wonders & challenges of swinging. We were coaxed into the lifestyle by the sincerity, charm & sex appeal. Their zest for living crept into our everyday lives & now, inspired by our many travels to see new friends, clubs, resorts & parties, we live a very closeted but active lifestyle. After experiencing dozens of mind-blowing encounters, we began recording Swinger Diaries more than 5 years ago & never wavered from our original podcasting ambitions; to memorialize our stories & to pay it forward to the timid, skeptical newbies out there because we vividly remember being the same way. - Website: https://swingerdiaries.podbean.com - Twitter: https://twitter.com/swingerdiaries © SU Lifestyle Media Inc. VISIT SHOWNOTES https://www.sexuninterrupted.com/radioshow SUPPORT www.patreon.com/sexuninterrupted Website: www.sexuninterrupted.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/sxuninterrupted Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex.uninterrupted/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexuninterrupted/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgcQBhb89EGqjcEMR_pmo0w

Lauren and Richard venture out to Temptation Resort in Cancun and forget how to check into a hotel and be social. We get invited to drink champagne with a strange couple who states the complete opposite of what we want to hear.First week back at Desire after furlough, we chat with old and some ‘shocking' new friends. Richard finds himself in a virtual threesome while at lunch in Aphrodite. We discuss a semi secret fetish Richard has that will more than likely creep everyone out.Interviews from Desire guests about hotel likes and dislikes, waking partners up for sex, mutual masturbation, party energy, virtual penis' and more.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

Lauren and Richard venture out to Temptation Resort in Cancun and forget how to check into a hotel and be social. We get invited to drink champagne with a strange couple who states the complete opposite of what we want to hear. First week back at Desire after furlough, we chat with old and some ‘shocking' new friends. Richard finds himself in a virtual threesome while at lunch in Aphrodite. We discuss a semi secret fetish Richard has that will more than likely creep everyone out. Interviews from Desire guests about hotel likes and dislikes, waking partners up for sex, mutual masturbation, party energy, virtual penis' and more.

It's possible that Lauren is being stalked by the owner of the local print shop.Richard almost received a handshake instead of a grope that he was hoping for, but was ultimately touched.Back on furlough, we interview each other while receiving actual, real-time reports from inside Desire!Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

Episode 27 - Swingin' Around the Lifestyle interview with Phil and LindaKal and JB take time to sit and chat with lifestyle enthusiasts Phil and Linda. Phil and Linda share stories about their experiences with other couples and how this "virgins until marriage" couple broke into the lifestyle. Much of the interview focuses on Phil and Linda's trips to Desire Resorts - they liked Desire so much they went 3 times in less than a year! Phil and Linda also compare their trips to Desire Resort to Hedonism. This episode is full of fun, sexy times and interesting travel discussions for anyone considering the lifestyle or in the lifestyle. Thanks Phil and Linda! Stay sexy and stay swingin'

It's the first anniversary of our Tulum kidnapping, this time we're trafficked to Isla Mujeres where Lauren goes illegally topless. There are talks of a major global deficit in the Desire pool and some ASMR (or is it AMSR?)Inundated with friends, we've been having fun catching up and seeing them…naked! Richard is finally faced with what he's been waiting for. Bad news, he's still waiting. While Lauren two steps outside with her ‘cowboy' friends.Spiritual Swingers nama-stay at our house. We get interviewed, take them to our local rooftop hangout, and Eve walks (rubs) a mile in our shoes on Lingam day!Interviews from Desire guests about getting teased, being a fan of opera or “Old Town Road,” and masturbating while holding a conversation.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

It's the first anniversary of our Tulum kidnapping, this time we're trafficked to Isla Mujeres where Lauren goes illegally topless. There are talks of a major global deficit in the Desire pool and some ASMR (or is it AMSR?) Inundated with friends, we've been having fun catching up and seeing them…naked! Richard is finally faced with what he's been waiting for. Bad news, he's still waiting. While Lauren two steps outside with her ‘cowboy' friends. Spiritual Swingers nama-stay at our house. We get interviewed, take them to our local rooftop hangout, and Eve walks (rubs) a mile in our shoes on Lingam day! Interviews from Desire guests about getting teased, being a fan of opera or “Old Town Road,” and masturbating while holding a conversation.

Valentines In Niagara aka VIN, is the largest lifestyle event of it's kind in Canada. TABOTA Events has been offering this to couples for over 10 years. Hundreds of couples, all with the same mindset of wanting to explore the naughty side of their sexuality. Picture this: a complete hotel takeover in the romance capital of Canada.  A weekend of socializing, seminars, workshops, themed dances and pool parties.  Oh my!  In this episode we record a live podcast and this is a unique opportunity to hear what happens when podcasters, Penn & Paige, of Swinger Diaries; bloggers, Her & Him (Kate & Mike) from Monogamish Marriage, and a few lucky listeners come up to our hotel room - Room 369 to answer the question, "What surprised you when you entered the lifestyle?" We talk about podcasting, the talents of squirting, surprise compersion, the most common fantasy of hetero men.   Find out why she said, "Yeah. Go baby. Give it to her hard!" and why you'll never think about Niagara Falls the same way ever again. Never! But first, we give you an update on the latest of what happened when we were denied entrance (as a couple) to Desire Resorts, Riviera Maya.   Click play and come discover your own torrid soul with us.  We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments.  Hello@TorridSouls.com 1-647-547-5512 Twitter, Instagram & Reddit @TorridSouls     We have tons of Lifestyle travel planned, and YOU can join us!  Come party with Torrid Souls!  Use this link to see our travel schedule and to join us: TorridSouls.com/travel   Leave us a review, and we will read it in an upcoming episode.

Jess and Brandon discuss what emotional unavailability might look like and they challenge the “fix-it” mentality. They share specific strategies for overcoming emotional unavailability including language and approaches to support your partner. They discuss the five languages of love, simple questions to make daily interactions more emotionally open, and emotional compatibility. **Please find a rough transcript of this podcast below** Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast brought to you by Desire Resorts and Cruises. I'm Brandon Ware. And I'm Jess O'Reilly, your friendly neighborhood sexologist. Today we're going to talk about emotional unavailability, because a number of folks have been referencing this topic on Instagram and I posted about it last week. Emotional Unavailability isn't a formal diagnosis, so it's one of those terms that tends to be tossed around rather flippantly without a universal definition. Some of us are emotionally unavailable by choice and others don't even realize that we're putting up a wall. Emotional availability often refers to the ability to talk openly about your feelings and this is a skill as opposed to a state of being. This means that emotional availability can be cultivated with effort and need not be a universal relationship deal breaker. Some signs of being currently emotional unavailable include: They avoid intimate conversations or withdraw when you bring up difficult topics. This is a good example of the fact that emotional unavailability is not a matter of character, but of skill, experience and comfort level. We've all avoided intimate and difficult conversations at some point in time, so you can understand why your partner might utilize avoidance behaviours. They may be trying to avoid conflict or tension. They might be distracted or stressed out by other issues in their life and simply don't have the emotional bandwidth to open up at this time. Or they might simply not have the communication tools/skills to speak openly about intense topics. The good news, of course, is that circumstances change (you can help to put them at ease) and with practice, they can develop the skills to communicate more effectively. It's important to note that just because you believe you're more emotionally available, does not in fact make it so. Your perception of your own skills in biased and you can't expect them to communicate in the same way you do; they may have a different communication style and you'll be better off finding middle ground as opposed to expecting them to get on board with your expectations. They refuse to express vulnerability. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable requires trust, so emotional availability can increase over time as you get to know and trust one another. If you feel your partner is not opening up, I'd avoid labels like emotionally unavailable and the associated accusations altogether. You'll find that you're more likely to get a positive response and a willingness to consider behavioural change if you talk about how you feel as opposed to what your partner is doing wrong. For example, you might be frustrated by the fact that your partner won't talk about sensitive and personal topics. Related to this frustration, however, may be a sense of insecurity, as you might expect someone who loves you to trust you with their most vulnerable feelings. Talk about this insecurity and what behaviours (e.g. opening up more about the past) might hep to assuage your fears as opposed to accusing your partner of being emotionally unavailable. Opening up about your own emotions including your vulnerabilities (e.g. insecurity) may foster a safe environment that encourages your partner to do the same. They cut people off without working on relationships. Not all relationships (including friendships) are intended to last forever, but if they cut people off often (e.g. parents, siblings, friends, exes, co-workers), it's easy to identify the common denominator.

Jess and Brandon discuss what emotional unavailability might look like and they challenge the “fix-it” mentality. They share specific strategies for overcoming emotional unavailability including language and approaches to support your partner. They discuss the five languages of love, simple questions to make daily interactions more emotionally open, and emotional compatibility. **Please find a rough transcript of this podcast below** Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast brought to you by Desire Resorts and Cruises. I’m Brandon Ware. And I’m Jess O’Reilly, your friendly neighborhood sexologist. Today we’re going to talk about emotional unavailability, because a number of folks have been referencing this topic on Instagram and I posted about it last week. Emotional Unavailability isn’t a formal diagnosis, so it’s one of those terms that tends to be tossed around rather flippantly without a universal definition. Some of us are emotionally unavailable by choice and others don’t even realize that we're putting up a wall. Emotional availability often refers to the ability to talk openly about your feelings and this is a skill as opposed to a state of being. This means that emotional availability can be cultivated with effort and need not be a universal relationship deal breaker. Some signs of being currently emotional unavailable include: They avoid intimate conversations or withdraw when you bring up difficult topics. This is a good example of the fact that emotional unavailability is not a matter of character, but of skill, experience and comfort level. We’ve all avoided intimate and difficult conversations at some point in time, so you can understand why your partner might utilize avoidance behaviours. They may be trying to avoid conflict or tension. They might be distracted or stressed out by other issues in their life and simply don’t have the emotional bandwidth to open up at this time. Or they might simply not have the communication tools/skills to speak openly about intense topics. The good news, of course, is that circumstances change (you can help to put them at ease) and with practice, they can develop the skills to communicate more effectively. It’s important to note that just because you believe you’re more emotionally available, does not in fact make it so. Your perception of your own skills in biased and you can’t expect them to communicate in the same way you do; they may have a different communication style and you’ll be better off finding middle ground as opposed to expecting them to get on board with your expectations. They refuse to express vulnerability. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable requires trust, so emotional availability can increase over time as you get to know and trust one another. If you feel your partner is not opening up, I’d avoid labels like emotionally unavailable and the associated accusations altogether. You’ll find that you’re more likely to get a positive response and a willingness to consider behavioural change if you talk about how you feel as opposed to what your partner is doing wrong. For example, you might be frustrated by the fact that your partner won’t talk about sensitive and personal topics. Related to this frustration, however, may be a sense of insecurity, as you might expect someone who loves you to trust you with their most vulnerable feelings. Talk about this insecurity and what behaviours (e.g. opening up more about the past) might hep to assuage your fears as opposed to accusing your partner of being emotionally unavailable. Opening up about your own emotions including your vulnerabilities (e.g. insecurity) may foster a safe environment that encourages your partner to do the same. They cut people off without working on relationships. Not all relationships (including friendships) are intended to last forever, but if they cut people off often (e.g. parents, siblings, friends, exes, co-workers), it’s easy to identify the common denominator.

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Jess and Brandon answer your questions: Is it normal to want your wife to be a hot-wife? Should I use an enema before anal? What should I do if I can't get it in? Can a sexless marriage work? Can a couple really recover after cheating? How do I know if I should call it quits on a relationship? And many, many more. Please see a rough transcript below. Thank you to Desire Resorts & Desire Cruises for their support. Be sure to check them out because they offer a clothing-optional couples experience that is unlike any other. To celebrate our 100th episode, we started answering 100 of your questions last week and we continue this week: 39. Is there really a way to move past a cheating partner? Yes. If the one who cheated is not making excuses and is willing to do the work. And if the one who didn't cheat agrees that they'll be vulnerable and honest about what they feel AND not use the cheating as a weapon moving forward (e.g. in arguments unrelated to cheating). 40. How can you introduce compromise to a partner who always believes their way is the right way? You compromise first. It's disarming. If you take an issue that you're fighting about and say mea culpa - I need to change. The angriest, most stubborn person will likely follow suit. 41. How do you know enough is enough, and you're just running your own race? If your partner isn't willing to put in effort to make the relationship work - this might be a sign that you're not able to become compatible. Having said that, just because they won't put in the same type of effort you put in doesn't mean it's on them to conform to your expectations. But if you've tried to work on the relationship from multiple angles - by talking, by arguing, by going to therapy, by completing self-help programs together, by carving time out and you've tried a variety of approaches and asked them how they'd like to work on it AND they're open to none of them, you're in a relationship with yourself. Try asking them: do you want to work on this relationship and make it better? If they say yes, ask them how they'd like to work on it. 42. Can a man's semen stink if they drink beer? Is there something that causes women to have a funny smell? Yes. We don't have scientific evidence that what you eat and drink changes your taste or smell, but we have so many anecdotal reports that I simply can't ignore. Diets high in fruits and veggies and supposed to increase sweetness and preservatives, smoking and alcohol have been said to change the taste so that it's more bitter. And when someone ejaculates inside of you, it can absolutely change the way you smell, but the self-cleaning oven will clean it out. And again, always get tested — regardless of whether or not you're using condoms. 43. How tall are you? 5'4" 44. How do you get brave enough to try new things in the bedroom? Start slow and small. Try it next to the bed instead of in the bed. Then move to the shower and add silicone based lube because you'll need it in there. Try whispering a few words right before orgasm when your inhibitions are lower. When you get more turned on, the chemical shifts in your body help you to be less self conscious and more confident. And don't feel pressure to do everything. The tiniest change can have the biggest impact. 45. Can sex still be healthy if it is quick, under 15 minutes all the time? That's way longer than average. Porn sex lasts so long that our expectations become unrealistic. But if it's not long enough for you, think about other things you can do - with your hands, your mouth, your toys. Don't get hung up on intercourse. There is a reason lesbian women have more orgasms that straight women - they're not hung up on the D. 46. How can you tell if your husband's sex drive is going down? Ask them! And be supportive. It's okay if your interest in sex declines. It's normal. You often have to get in the mood for sex rather than wait for the mood to strike you.

Jess and Brandon answer your questions: Is it normal to want your wife to be a hot-wife? Should I use an enema before anal? What should I do if I can’t get it in? Can a sexless marriage work? Can a couple really recover after cheating? How do I know if I should call it quits on a relationship? And many, many more. Please see a rough transcript below. Thank you to Desire Resorts & Desire Cruises for their support. Be sure to check them out because they offer a clothing-optional couples experience that is unlike any other. To celebrate our 100th episode, we started answering 100 of your questions last week and we continue this week: 39. Is there really a way to move past a cheating partner? Yes. If the one who cheated is not making excuses and is willing to do the work. And if the one who didn’t cheat agrees that they’ll be vulnerable and honest about what they feel AND not use the cheating as a weapon moving forward (e.g. in arguments unrelated to cheating). 40. How can you introduce compromise to a partner who always believes their way is the right way? You compromise first. It’s disarming. If you take an issue that you’re fighting about and say mea culpa - I need to change. The angriest, most stubborn person will likely follow suit. 41. How do you know enough is enough, and you’re just running your own race? If your partner isn’t willing to put in effort to make the relationship work - this might be a sign that you’re not able to become compatible. Having said that, just because they won’t put in the same type of effort you put in doesn’t mean it’s on them to conform to your expectations. But if you’ve tried to work on the relationship from multiple angles - by talking, by arguing, by going to therapy, by completing self-help programs together, by carving time out and you’ve tried a variety of approaches and asked them how they’d like to work on it AND they’re open to none of them, you’re in a relationship with yourself. Try asking them: do you want to work on this relationship and make it better? If they say yes, ask them how they’d like to work on it. 42. Can a man’s semen stink if they drink beer? Is there something that causes women to have a funny smell? Yes. We don’t have scientific evidence that what you eat and drink changes your taste or smell, but we have so many anecdotal reports that I simply can’t ignore. Diets high in fruits and veggies and supposed to increase sweetness and preservatives, smoking and alcohol have been said to change the taste so that it’s more bitter. And when someone ejaculates inside of you, it can absolutely change the way you smell, but the self-cleaning oven will clean it out. And again, always get tested — regardless of whether or not you’re using condoms. 43. How tall are you? 5’4" 44. How do you get brave enough to try new things in the bedroom? Start slow and small. Try it next to the bed instead of in the bed. Then move to the shower and add silicone based lube because you’ll need it in there. Try whispering a few words right before orgasm when your inhibitions are lower. When you get more turned on, the chemical shifts in your body help you to be less self conscious and more confident. And don’t feel pressure to do everything. The tiniest change can have the biggest impact. 45. Can sex still be healthy if it is quick, under 15 minutes all the time? That’s way longer than average. Porn sex lasts so long that our expectations become unrealistic. But if it’s not long enough for you, think about other things you can do - with your hands, your mouth, your toys. Don’t get hung up on intercourse. There is a reason lesbian women have more orgasms that straight women - they’re not hung up on the D. 46. How can you tell if your husband’s sex drive is going down? Ask them! And be supportive. It’s okay if your interest in sex declines. It’s normal. You often have to get in the mood for sex rather than wait for the mood to strike you.

It's our 100th episode! We're answering rapid-fire questions on everything from jealousy, uneven breasts, and birth control to penis flavours, positions and sex toys. Tune in and keep the questions coming. Sex Questions Answered: Rapid Fire Round Rough Transcript: It's our 100th episode! Yay us! Thanks so much for listening and for sharing with your friends. If you like the podcast, please do share it and write us a review online. And thank you to Desire Resorts for being our headline sponsor - you know we love their clothing optional beaches and cruises and we welcome any questions you might have about their vacations since the concept is so unique. And speaking of questions, we're going to be answering 100 sex and relationship questions to celebrate our 100th episode. We've been collecting so many questions from you and we want to answer as many as possible so we'll be doing a rapid fire round today and I'll do my best to answer as many as possible. We'll probably have to continue in next week's episode. Some of these questions come from teens and some come from grandparents, so it's quite a wide range. Brandon: are you ready? 1. Can pre cum get you pregnant? Yes - it can. If there is sperm present in the urethral tract, pre-cum can carry this sperm into the vagina and it can eventually meet with an egg. 2. Does the birth control pill make you gain weight? People report that it does, but research from 44 studies suggests that it's temporary — perhaps a side effect of fluid retention. But ultimately, you know your body so if hormonal birth control is affecting your energy, sleep, mood, these factors affect your weight. You also have non-hormonal options like the copper IUD, condoms for the penis, internal condoms that can be worn inside the vagina. 3. If your vagina is only 6 inches (in depth?) how can a 7" or 8" penis fit inside? The average vagina is not that long in an unaroused state. It's shorter than 4 inches on average. First, the entire penis cannot possibly slide inside and secondly, we believe that the cervix tents as you become aroused, muscle relax and the fornices also provide a little extra space to accommodate the object or penis of your choosing. The average penis length is far below 7 or 8 inches. 4. Should I still use a condom if I'm on the pill and we've been together for 2+ years? Whether or not you use condoms isn't a matter of how long you've been together. It's a matter of health practices like testing, lifestyle factors (like do you take your pill reliably and do you need a backup method?) and risk factors (e.g. are you monogamous?). It's a personal choice, but if you don't use condoms, remember that the pill provides zero protection to reduce STI transmission. 5. Why is one breast bigger than the other? The body isn't symmetrical. Just like your feet are slightly different sizes and your eyebrows will never be twins - only sisters - one breast is usually bigger than the other and that's cool. No one is going to notice but you and even if they do, they're not going to care. If you do notice any changes in size or shape, let your healthcare practitioner know so they can decide if any tests are necessary. 6. How do I deal with a jealous child? He's 12 years old. Remind them that it's normal to feel jealous and the jealousy sometimes isn't rational. Focus on governing behaviour — not the feeling itself. It's okay to feel this way, but you don't want to be mean to your brother. Tell a story about a time you were jealous and how you responded to normalize the feeling; if you regret your response, admit it and suggest how you might respond today. Drop the comparisons and generally focus on your child's strengths to build up their self-esteem. 7. Does being on the birth control pill for a long time prevent you from having kids/getting pregnant? The pill is a reversible form of birth control which means that you can get pregnant when you st...

It’s our 100th episode! We’re answering rapid-fire questions on everything from jealousy, uneven breasts, and birth control to penis flavours, positions and sex toys. Tune in and keep the questions coming. Sex Questions Answered: Rapid Fire Round Rough Transcript: It’s our 100th episode! Yay us! Thanks so much for listening and for sharing with your friends. If you like the podcast, please do share it and write us a review online. And thank you to Desire Resorts for being our headline sponsor - you know we love their clothing optional beaches and cruises and we welcome any questions you might have about their vacations since the concept is so unique. And speaking of questions, we’re going to be answering 100 sex and relationship questions to celebrate our 100th episode. We’ve been collecting so many questions from you and we want to answer as many as possible so we’ll be doing a rapid fire round today and I’ll do my best to answer as many as possible. We’ll probably have to continue in next week’s episode. Some of these questions come from teens and some come from grandparents, so it’s quite a wide range. Brandon: are you ready? 1. Can pre cum get you pregnant? Yes - it can. If there is sperm present in the urethral tract, pre-cum can carry this sperm into the vagina and it can eventually meet with an egg. 2. Does the birth control pill make you gain weight? People report that it does, but research from 44 studies suggests that it’s temporary — perhaps a side effect of fluid retention. But ultimately, you know your body so if hormonal birth control is affecting your energy, sleep, mood, these factors affect your weight. You also have non-hormonal options like the copper IUD, condoms for the penis, internal condoms that can be worn inside the vagina. 3. If your vagina is only 6 inches (in depth?) how can a 7" or 8" penis fit inside? The average vagina is not that long in an unaroused state. It’s shorter than 4 inches on average. First, the entire penis cannot possibly slide inside and secondly, we believe that the cervix tents as you become aroused, muscle relax and the fornices also provide a little extra space to accommodate the object or penis of your choosing. The average penis length is far below 7 or 8 inches. 4. Should I still use a condom if I’m on the pill and we’ve been together for 2+ years? Whether or not you use condoms isn’t a matter of how long you’ve been together. It’s a matter of health practices like testing, lifestyle factors (like do you take your pill reliably and do you need a backup method?) and risk factors (e.g. are you monogamous?). It’s a personal choice, but if you don’t use condoms, remember that the pill provides zero protection to reduce STI transmission. 5. Why is one breast bigger than the other? The body isn’t symmetrical. Just like your feet are slightly different sizes and your eyebrows will never be twins - only sisters - one breast is usually bigger than the other and that’s cool. No one is going to notice but you and even if they do, they’re not going to care. If you do notice any changes in size or shape, let your healthcare practitioner know so they can decide if any tests are necessary. 6. How do I deal with a jealous child? He’s 12 years old. Remind them that it’s normal to feel jealous and the jealousy sometimes isn’t rational. Focus on governing behaviour — not the feeling itself. It’s okay to feel this way, but you don’t want to be mean to your brother. Tell a story about a time you were jealous and how you responded to normalize the feeling; if you regret your response, admit it and suggest how you might respond today. Drop the comparisons and generally focus on your child’s strengths to build up their self-esteem. 7. Does being on the birth control pill for a long time prevent you from having kids/getting pregnant? The pill is a reversible form of birth control which means that you can get pregnant when you st...

Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about swallowing, squirting, nervousness, physical affection and sex dolls. Please find a rough summary of the podcast. We're working on a transcript which should be coming soon! Today we're talking physical affection, sex headaches, semen swallowing, FMF fantasies and squirting. Thank you to Desire Resorts for their support of this podcast. But first…Sex doll smuggling. A Trinidadian man had his sex doll seized at the border after being in­formed that it con­tra­vened sec­tion 45 (l) of the Cus­toms Act as it has hu­man gen­i­talia. He is now suing Trinidad's Cus­toms and Ex­cise Di­vi­sion and while I can't comment on Trinidad's import policies, I'm always concerned when the government steps in and ultimately dictates what you can and can't do as consenting adults in the privacy of your bedroom. I ran into this in the UAE when I was working in Dubai. My clients got in trouble for trying to import sex toys and they taught me an important lesson about how to take vibrators in to countries where they're prohibited: put them next to your hair curler or straightening iron because then they look like they're part of the same electronic components. And so far it has worked for me. But I just thought this story offered a good reminder that we should talk about sex dolls because there are now sex doll brothels in Canada, Europe, Asia and they must be coming soon to the US - like a boy band, they're always big in Europe, Asia and Canada first and then they hit the US. And I've seen so many lifelike sex dolls on display at trade shows and in sex clubs. Our listener questions are piling up and it's stressing me out a bit because I don't like to leave you hanging, so we're going to address a series of questions today. 1. A 'buddy of mine' is worried that something is wrong because he doesn't always want to be touched - especially right after work or when he's watching the game. His girlfriend gets mad because she wants to kiss or cuddle and he just feels smothered and guilty for not wanting to touch her. Is this a psychological issue? How should he deal with it? Just as some people crave touch constantly, others abhor it. Wherever you fall along the spectrum of desire of physical touch, you're perfectly normal. As long as you can function (i.e. go to work, maintain relationships), I wouldn't worry about how little or how much touch you desire. In your friend's case, it sounds as though he simply wants some space and needs to clearly communicate his boundaries to his partner. He should let her know when and how he wants to be touched and clarify that there are simply times when he wants physical space. He shouldn't feel guilty. Many mothers complain about feeling “touched out” at the end of the day; their kids have been all over them all day and they just don't want anyone else (i.e. their partners) to hug, kiss or initiate sex. Your friend may be experiencing something similar. Compatibility in relationships isn't rooted finding someone who wants the same things as you (e.g. you don't have to share a mutual love of cuddling); compatibility involves working together to meet one another's needs and accepting that one person cannot fulfill all of your needs everyday for the rest of your lives. If his girlfriend wants more affection, he can offer it at times and she can also seek it elsewhere — she could cuddle with the dog, get more hugs from friends and family or spend some time touching herself. Once you acknowledge that you're not required to meet your partner's every need (and they can't possibly meet all of yours), you'll likely cultivate happier, more satisfying relationships. 2. Is it safe to swallow your own semen? It sure is! You can taste and swallow your own semen as long as you don't have STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea because some STIs can be spread to other areas of the body. Semen volume is 2 – 6 mL (1/2 a teaspoon to one teaspoon) ...

Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about swallowing, squirting, nervousness, physical affection and sex dolls. Please find a rough summary of the podcast. We’re working on a transcript which should be coming soon! Today we’re talking physical affection, sex headaches, semen swallowing, FMF fantasies and squirting. Thank you to Desire Resorts for their support of this podcast. But first…Sex doll smuggling. A Trinidadian man had his sex doll seized at the border after being in­formed that it con­tra­vened sec­tion 45 (l) of the Cus­toms Act as it has hu­man gen­i­talia. He is now suing Trinidad’s Cus­toms and Ex­cise Di­vi­sion and while I can’t comment on Trinidad’s import policies, I’m always concerned when the government steps in and ultimately dictates what you can and can’t do as consenting adults in the privacy of your bedroom. I ran into this in the UAE when I was working in Dubai. My clients got in trouble for trying to import sex toys and they taught me an important lesson about how to take vibrators in to countries where they’re prohibited: put them next to your hair curler or straightening iron because then they look like they’re part of the same electronic components. And so far it has worked for me. But I just thought this story offered a good reminder that we should talk about sex dolls because there are now sex doll brothels in Canada, Europe, Asia and they must be coming soon to the US - like a boy band, they’re always big in Europe, Asia and Canada first and then they hit the US. And I’ve seen so many lifelike sex dolls on display at trade shows and in sex clubs. Our listener questions are piling up and it’s stressing me out a bit because I don’t like to leave you hanging, so we’re going to address a series of questions today. 1. A 'buddy of mine' is worried that something is wrong because he doesn’t always want to be touched - especially right after work or when he’s watching the game. His girlfriend gets mad because she wants to kiss or cuddle and he just feels smothered and guilty for not wanting to touch her. Is this a psychological issue? How should he deal with it? Just as some people crave touch constantly, others abhor it. Wherever you fall along the spectrum of desire of physical touch, you’re perfectly normal. As long as you can function (i.e. go to work, maintain relationships), I wouldn’t worry about how little or how much touch you desire. In your friend’s case, it sounds as though he simply wants some space and needs to clearly communicate his boundaries to his partner. He should let her know when and how he wants to be touched and clarify that there are simply times when he wants physical space. He shouldn’t feel guilty. Many mothers complain about feeling “touched out” at the end of the day; their kids have been all over them all day and they just don’t want anyone else (i.e. their partners) to hug, kiss or initiate sex. Your friend may be experiencing something similar. Compatibility in relationships isn’t rooted finding someone who wants the same things as you (e.g. you don’t have to share a mutual love of cuddling); compatibility involves working together to meet one another’s needs and accepting that one person cannot fulfill all of your needs everyday for the rest of your lives. If his girlfriend wants more affection, he can offer it at times and she can also seek it elsewhere — she could cuddle with the dog, get more hugs from friends and family or spend some time touching herself. Once you acknowledge that you’re not required to meet your partner’s every need (and they can’t possibly meet all of yours), you’ll likely cultivate happier, more satisfying relationships. 2. Is it safe to swallow your own semen? It sure is! You can taste and swallow your own semen as long as you don’t have STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea because some STIs can be spread to other areas of the body. Semen volume is 2 – 6 mL (1/2 a teaspoon to one teaspoon) ...

Daniel Sloss wants to take the toxic out of masculinity—but he still wants to say horrible, horrible things to his mates. “Trying your hardest to upset your friends with jokes is absolutely what I was put on this planet to do,” the Netflix sensation told me before he ran his latest show, Daniel Sloss: X, in New York City. Sloss wants the woke crowd to focus more on converting ignorant men into allies instead of seeing how loud they can shout. Sometimes, we’ve got to meet people where they’re at. ALSO: Rosa Escandon continues to question why I ask her onto the podcast. We got silly. PLUS: male privilege, roast battles, comedy, liberalism, and opinions in progress! SAVE THE DATE: ManwhoreCon goes down August 2-4, 2019 in New York City! Bring Tour De Manwhore to a city near you! Get your discounted pre-sale ticket at www.manwhorepod.com/tour. Follow Daniel Sloss! Twitter: @daniel_sloss Tour Dates: www.danielsloss.com Follow Rosa Escandon! Twitter: @humancomedian Website: www.rosaescandon.com Manwhore Merch: www.gumroad.com/manwhorepodcast Get a Fanwhore Membership on Patreon for access to bonus episodes and sex-positive discussion groups. Join for $1 at www.patreon.com/manwhorepodcast! Use promo code MANWHORE to get a 40-minute FREE TRIAL of ethical paid-for porn at HotMovies.com! Book your stay at Desire Resorts or Temptation Cruises by visiting www.ManwhorePod.com/desire! Email your comments, questions, and boobies to manwhorepod@gmail.com. www.ManwhorePod.com

Hey friends, In today’s episode we answer a bunch of listener questions received on email, through our website, Twitter and Instagram. We cover some great questions on today’s episode talking about jealousy, how to have day sex at Desire Resorts and what turns us off having a Swinger date with people. We also review a… Read more

Liza Treyger is newly kinda gay. No loss! The raunchy stand-up comedian thinks men are bad at sex anyway. The porn superfan joins me at AVN talking about the year of watersports, party planning, and Louis C.K.! PLUS: soft dicks, roller derby, Reddit, misogyny, and laser hair removal! Bring Tour De Manwhore to a city near you! Get discounted pre-sale tickets at www.manwhorepod.com/tour. Follow Liza Treyger! Twitter: @glittercheese Instagram: @glittercheese Glitter Cheese Snag yourself some manwhore merch! Get a Fanwhore Membership on Patreon for access to bonus episodes and sex-positive discussion groups. Click here to join for $1! Use promo code MANWHORE to get a 40-minute FREE TRIAL of ethical paid-for porn at HotMovies.com! Book your stay at Desire Resorts or Temptation Cruises by visiting www.ManwhorePod.com/desire! Email your comments, questions, and boobies to manwhorepod@gmail.com. www.ManwhorePod.com

We discuss secrets, and keeping them, inside of the lifestyle.We explore “cruising.” It's not just for gay men anymore!Discover our origin story and how we use our superpowers at Desire Resorts for good (sometimes bad, oops!)Featured interview with a couple about how they live out in the open and prefer to be sapiosexual.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

We discuss secrets, and keeping them, inside of the lifestyle. We explore “cruising.” It’s not just for gay men anymore! Discover our origin story and how we use our superpowers at Desire Resorts for good (sometimes bad, oops!) Featured interview with a couple about how they live out in the open and prefer to be sapiosexual.

Rachel Green has always been a ho—the ho everyone respected. After her club kid days and poly parties, the busty comedian is ready to settle down with one partner. From polyamory to monogamy, Rachel has had quite the journey! PLUS: virginity loss, therapy, play parties, New Year’s, and sex work slang! Follow Rachel Green! Twitter: @the1rachelgreen Instagram: @the1rachelgreen Website Follow Billy! Twitter: @TheBillyProcida Facebook fan page Snag yourself some manwhore merch! Get a Fanwhore Membership on Patreon for access to bonus episodes and sex-positive communities. Click here to join for $1! Book your stay at Desire Resorts or Temptation Cruises by visiting www.ManwhorePod.com/desire! Email your comments, questions, and boobies to manwhorepod@gmail.com. www.ManwhorePod.com

We have had so many questions about our recent trip to The Desire Resorts in Cancun Mexico and we were trying to decide the best way to answer them all, so we asked The Gentleman to come over and interview us about the experiences. We've split the interview into two episodes. In this one, the second of two, we talk about the days we had at Desire with the We Gotta Thing and Swinging Downunder partial takeover of Pearl. Did The Gentleman miss any questions that you were dying to ask?!? Send us a message on your favorite medium!So go grab a drink! Then, sit back, enjoy, and as always, thank you for listening!Find us on social media!!!On Twitter @BytheBiPodcastOn Facebook @BytheBiPodcastOn Instagram @BytheBiPodcastOr email us hereWant to help us out? Sure you do!!!Help us out on Patreon hereCheck out our OnlyFans page hereWanna get your own prize from Geeky Sex Toys? Head over here!Leave some feedback for us on whatever medium you listen to your podcasts on. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about how to have a happier relationship this holiday season. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Holiday Harmony Tips Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and Relationship advice you can use tonight. Participant #1: Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. I'm Jessica O'Reilly. Before we get started, I want to say a big thank you to Desire Resorts for their ongoing support of this podcast. If you aren't familiar with Desire, they offer two adult playgrounds that are clothing optional couples only highly erotic resorts on the Mayan Riviera, just south of Cancun, as well as adult Playgrounds at Sea on their European and soon to be expanded clothing optional couples only cruise experiences. So do check them out. Desire Resorts or Desire experiences on Instagram. Well, the holidays are upon us, and I think we're all feeling a lot of feelings. I have Brandon here with me today, and I was thinking, Brandon with the holidays only a week away for some of us were already in our holiday rituals. How are you feeling about this season? I feel great. I feel a little stressed, but overall, I feel pretty good. Do you really just feel a little stressed? No. I feel a lot stressed. Let's start on a positive note. No. On a scale of one to ten, how stressed are you? Depends on the day. It depends on what we have, what event is coming up, but it could range from like a three all the way to, like a seven. Okay. And today, right this moment, this moment. I'm like a two. No, I'm like a one right now. Well, we're recording here in Mexico City. We're in our comfy hotel room. Let's be honest. We're recording in bed. Yeah, maybe a little too much information. I'm down here for work, but also for pleasure. We have my mother and my stepdad with us, not in the room, but on the trip, and they're pretty awesome. I love traveling with them. It's cool if you have a cool couple to travel with, and I'm lucky that it's a family member. Yes. I really enjoy hanging out with your mum and Luigi. Yeah, mum just turned 68, but she seems more like she's 45 50. It's not too far from my age. Yeah. And Luigi is just super young, so that's my stepdad. Anyhow. I wanted to answer some listener questions, and our listener questions are piling up. So thank you for sending them in, and I'm really doing my best to get to all of them over the next few eight weeks. But today we're going to address some of the questions that are specifically related to holiday dilemmas, because I grew up really excited for Christmas. That's what we celebrate. And my mum made the season really special. And now I get really excited for it. But I also find that we get really stressed out, and it has to do sometimes with the people that we have to see. Yeah. No, I agree completely. Sometimes that's the truth. Sometimes it's just a matter of timing. Right now, I'm working on a big project that requires a lot of work I'm creating. I should tell you, I'm creating a 50 video course with 50 different exercises and activities to improve and revolutionize your relationship. So simple activities you can do in 15 minutes. We've done these activities in the past and doing them again in advance of your course was great. Yeah. So these activities include physical activities like different erotic touch techniques, but primarily their discussion activities. So, for example, we have an interview, a vulnerability interview where you have to ask one another question that require you to get a little bit vulnerable. And so I'm creating this course.

We have had so many questions about our recent trip to The Desire Resorts in Cancun Mexico and we were trying to decide the best way to answer them all, so we asked The Gentleman to come over and interview us about the experiences. We've split the interview into two episodes. In this one, the first of two, we talk mostly about the few days before Desire and then the Life on the Swingset takeover of Riviera Maya. Did The Gentleman miss any questions that you were dying to ask?!? Send us a message on your favorite medium! So go grab a drink! Then, sit back, enjoy, and as always, thank you for listening!Find us on social media!!!On Twitter @BytheBiPodcastOn Facebook @BytheBiPodcastOn Instagram @BytheBiPodcastOr email us hereWant to help us out? Sure you do!!!Help us out on Patreon hereCheck out our OnlyFans page hereWanna get your own prize from Geeky Sex Toys? Head over here!Leave some feedback for us on whatever medium you listen to your podcasts on. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Jess and Brandon continue the “partner interview” and share details about their greatest fears, fondest memories, where they hope to be in ten years and what they're working on in terms of self-development. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. A Glimpse Into Jess & Brandon's Relationship - Part II Participant #1: Hello. Hello. This is Jess O'Reilly, your friendly neighborhood sexologist here with Brandon again today. Back for a little more. Back for more? Yes. Gotten for punishment. I wouldn't describe these podcasts is that there are worst things I could do to you? Definitely. So before we get started, I want to say a big thank you to Desire Resorts for your support of this episode. Desire Resorts. They have multiple locations on the Mayan Riviera clothing optional couples only paradises where lots of fun happens. And Brandon can attest to that. Yeah, sometimes too much fun. Okay, we won't go there. Make sure you check out Desire Resorts and Desire Cruises. Now, last week, Brandon and I started this partnered interview that is designed to increase intimacy, promote understanding, deepen your commitment to the relationship by opening up new conversations that you don't normally have. And if you missed last week's podcast, go back and listen to it. And I'll just remind you that I often talk about how communication and relationships gets reduced to conversations related to work and money, kids and family and your agendas, your schedules. And although you have to talk about all of those important aspects of your life, they are not the foundation for an intimate relationship. And every couple I meet tells me they're really good at communicating. And the reality is we all struggle with communicating. So Brandon and I, for example, might have all the tools at our disposal, but we don't always use them. So, for example, even this interview is not something we've done before and forcing yourself to have these conversations once you're in the groove. Actually quite interesting. When I listened to your answers last week, I almost feel like I didn't know them. I knew them, but I didn't know them. And then it was really interesting. It's interesting. You say that because I think it's a bit of a braggadocious thing that, oh, I know everything about my partner. And the reality is I don't even want you to know everything about me. I also think that people whose attitudes are that they know everything. I hear it all the time. I assume that when somebody says that to me, it's an unwillingness to learn or hear somebody else's perspective. And more importantly, to learn something new, I actually feel like I always have something to learn. I feel the same way. Right. We were at the Everything to Do With Sex show this weekend, and I was talking about different sexual techniques, communication strategies, and people would come up and say, I think I have that covered. I'm an expert in that already, and I think it's so interesting because what I think is I wouldn't want to have sex with those people. I'm your partner, and I've heard you deliver these speeches hundreds of times, and I still feel like I could learn something new every time I listen to you speak. It's funny, because I've written multiple books, mostly on sex on sexual technique and positions, and I do not remember all of them, and I wrote them, so I have to go back. And certainly I am not the ultimate expert in any of these things. If I read any of my colleagues books, I always learn something new. So you've probably heard of the growth mindset versus the fixed mindset. And I do think that you, the listener,

Here's another episode called “Naughty Confessions from the Swingers Next Door!” Which means that we have a naughty couple LIVE in the studio. They’re about to spill the beans about their sexual adventures when visiting the popular Desire Resorts in Mexico. We discuss Erectile Dysfunction & what helps the situation. They’ll also share their path to success when attending parties. You’re about to learn how to get the best quality sexual action (P & D) on your next swinger vacation. We’re Eros and Isis, a happily married mid 30's couple that leads a secret life as swingers. We perform wife swaps & other sexual adventures with sexy couples. We started this podcast to help curious newbies navigate the lifestyle of having an open marriage and ethical non-monogamy. We invite you to discover your pleasure with the Priory Society Podcast. Web: https://PriorySociety.comTwitter: https://Twitter.com/PriorySociety  

Rosa Escandon is a queer woman. Or bisexual. Whatever. She likes to fuck and date a variety of people and doesn’t really care which genitals are attached to which gender presentations. We discuss how being raised by two lesbian mothers helped her feel more comfortable when coming out as a teenager—even if one of her gay moms was not happy about it! ALSO: BBW porn star Alexxxis Allure joins me in the intro to read some emails and talk about porn! PLUS: wedding hashtags, shower sex, quick proposals, they/them pronouns, and offensive comedy! LOS ANGELES: Join me and three of my exes THIS SUNDAY in Hollywood…where there is free parking. Tap here to get your tickets! Follow Rosa Escandon: Twitter: @HumanComedian Instagram: @HumanComedian rosaescandon.com Follow Alexxis Allure: Twitter: @AlexxxisAllure Instagram: @Alexis_Allure Hot Movies page thealexxxisallure.com Snag yourself some manwhore merch! Get a Fanwhore Membership on Patreon for access to bonus episodes and private sex-positive communities. Click here to join for $1! Use promo code MANWHORE to get a 40-minute FREE TRIAL of ethical paid-for porn viewing at HotMovies.com/bonus>HotMovies.com/bonus! Book your stay at Desire Resorts or Temptation Cruises by visiting www.ManwhorePod.com/desire! Email your comments, questions, and boobies to manwhorepod@gmail.com. www.ManwhorePod.com

Erika interviewed comedian Billy Procida about his podcast the Manwhore Podcast.  Billy shared information about his most recent episode that featured his trip to Desire Resorts.  See why Erika said listening to his episode was like ESPN after dark.    If you are interested in Desire resorts check out Billy’s link:  manwhorepod.com/desire   You can also find him on all the socials, my favorite is instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thebillyprocida/   You can also find his podcast the Manwhore Podcast anywhere you get your podcasts and his website is: www.manwhorepod.com       To connect with me further, you can visit ErikaMiley.com, or follow me on Instagram @erikamileytherapy!

What is the bisexual double-standard? How does erasure affect bisexuals? And how does bisexuality work in the Swing Lifestyle? Angelique and John join Jess to discuss their experiences as a bisexual couple. Follow Angelique on... Facebook Twitter Instagram Follow John on... Facebook Twitter This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. A Bisexual Couple's Story Participant #1: Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. I'm Jess O'Reilly, your friendly neighborhood sexologist. And today we are going to be talking about bisexuality, the double standards, the erasure and the myths. Before we get started, let me shout out to our sponsor, Desire Resorts, an all inclusive, clothing optional couple's paradise with two locations on the Mayan Riviera. Be sure to check them out at Desire Resorts on social media. Joining me today is Angelique Luna, a certified King aware professional relationship and sex coach, educator, entertainer and sexual abuse advocate, as well as her partner, John, who was an entrepreneur, author, professional educator and software developer. Welcome to the program. How's it going? Hello. Yeah. Happy to be here. Glad you're here now. September 23 is Bisexual Awareness Day. So our timing is perfect. I thought we could jump in just starting with some definitions. So what does it mean to be bisexual? From your perspective, that's a good question, because lately the word coming up pan sexual is what I hear a lot, and they're very close, but different. But to us, bisexual means we're attracted to both men and women. Personally, I go by bisexual because it's more well understood than trying to understand pansexual, but it doesn't mean I'm not included. I'm not attracted to transgender. And again, other sexes. Okay. And do you both identify as bisexual? Yes, we do. We do have child, too, which surprised us when she's like, okay, I'm bi. I'm like, what the heck? Well, it's interesting because the data around bisexuality is on the rise. So more people are identifying as bisexual, and there are differences by gender, with more women reporting same sex contact than men. There are differences by race as well. So, for example, in the United States, fewer Hispanic women report being bisexual than white women and fewer black women than white women as well. Although the number is closer. But the latest research that looked at over 9000 people aged 18 to 44 and asked them about their sexual experiences, their attraction and how they identify found that this trend stood out. And this is why the headlines ring out. People love a headline that says bisexuality, even if they don't dig a bit deeper. But more women reported having had sexual contact with other women than in previous years, 17.4% in the current survey, compared with 14.2% in the 2006 to 2010 survey, and more women and men identified as bisexual, five 5% of women and 2% of men, compared with three 9% of women and one 2% of men in the last survey. So what do you think about this trend? I think the younger generation is they're fighting everything possible that they're getting to the point that they just don't care. They'd rather be their authentic self than fitting into a mold. And we're seeing that a lot with kids in high school and even the I don't know if the millennials would be that, but the younger, like 20 to 25 crew. They are much more confident in themselves, and we're raising them to have a lot more self awareness. I also see a lot of men and women in their 40s now who have either married or divorced and starting to rethink their sexuality.

One of the most difficult parts about being ‘in the lifestyle’ is apparently getting away from your kids. At least that’s what many swinger couples told me at Desire Resorts recently. I spent a weekend in paradise at the hot couples-only clothing-optional resort in Cancun, Mexico and all I want to do is go back! On this special Manwhore Podcast, we sat outside my beautiful oceanside suite and watched a sexy British couple get aggressively intimate in my bed…while we did commentary! PLUS: squirting, soft penises, marriage, love, communication, and laughing orgasms! Book your stay at Desire Resorts or Temptation by visiting www.ManwhorePod.com/desire! Follow me on social media! Twitter: @TheBillyProcida Instagram: @TheBillyProcida Facebook fan page Snag yourself some Manwhore Podcast merch! Get a Fanwhore Membership on Patreon for access to bonus episodes and private sex-positive communities. Click here to join for $1! Make money with free money! Get a 100% deposit bonus up to $500 using code Man18 at BetDSI.com! Email your comments, questions, and boobies to manwhorepod@gmail.com. www.ManwhorePod.com Sound effects by Robinhood76. Transitional music “Chill Wave” by Kevin MacLeod.

Pansexual. Cisgender. Sapiosexual. Gender Queer. Gender Fluid. Agender. Aromantic. Demisexual. Gender Non-confirming. Transgender. Award-winning activist, Aida Manduley, joins Jess on the podcast to discuss terminology related to sex and gender. Which terms are appropriate and which are not? And how we can celebrate inclusion and learn from our own mistakes. Listen below to learn more! Follow Aida on... Twitter Instagram Check out these links that will help you become more familiar with various sexual pronouns... Practice With Pronouns Minus 18 This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Sexuality & Gender Terms Defined Participant #1: Welcome to the Sex With Dr jazz podcast. I'm Jessica O'Reilly, your friendly neighborhood sexologist. Before we get started, I want to say a big thank you to at Desire Resorts for their support. I'm heading to Desire in October and January. It's a clothing optional environment with two locations on the Mayan Riviera. Check them out at Desire Resorts. As you know, if you've tuned in before my partner, the love of my life, Brandon often joins me for these podcasts. And moving forward, Brandon is going to be on the air for almost every episode if I can pin him down because you folks seem to like him, and I really like him, too. And I find that I'm more myself. I'm more calm. I'm ultimately better at my job when he's next to me for a number of reasons, including the fact that it's actually really tough to be a woman in the public eye and having a man by your side means that you receive less harassment, less vitriol, and fewer Dick pics. But also he's just a really funny, empathetic, insightful person, and he brings a perspective as a non sexuality, non relationship professional that I just don't offer. So I was hoping that Brendan would be here today, but I'm in Atlanta for Sexton South, and he's in Toronto doing his business thing so he couldn't be here. But Brandon is the inspiration for this episode. He's excited to be a part of the podcast, so he says, but he's mentioned that he's nervous because talking about sex and relationships and gender can feel really stressful for him because of all the new terminology. So he's kind of afraid to use the wrong words. So here's what Brandon has to say on the topic with apologies that he's not live with us right now. I know that it's my job to educate myself on the proper use of pronouns when I'm identifying somebody, whether it's transgender, lesbian, gay, straight, queer by it's my job. I understand that, but I didn't grow up around a lot of people who identified other than their visible gender. Even right now, I'm already thinking about things I'm like, how should I say this? And I don't want to be rude or insensitive in conversation with other people, and until we all adopt the use of they, my question is, how do I go about demonstrating my willingness to use the appropriate terms? But if I make a mistake not making a big deal out of it being apologetic for the mistake because I do find that in certain environments, I'm afraid to contribute for fear of saying the wrong thing. And that may sound really silly, but it's the truth. I'm just afraid of using the wrong thing and then looking like an idiot or looking like I'm not sympathetic. And then if I do apologize, am I making too big of a deal out of it? And I just want to make sure that I'm being as inclusive as I can while being very sensitive to the identifiers of those people around me. So even though Brandon can't be here today, we're going to be talking about this topic and defining a number of sexuality and gender relat...

Sarah Constantine is taking something sexy and turning it into homework. The sex researcher has spent the last several years looking deeper into (mostly) straight women’s fantasies. One woman had a specific erotic fantasy about a can of tomato soup. What’s that about? Find out on this week’s Manwhore Podcast! ALSO: Kenzie returns to co-host my intro recorded at the beautiful Mexican resort Desire! PLUS: guilt, bestiality, public nudity, sexual orientation, dating, and sexy Southern Democrats! Follow Kenzie! Twitter: @kenzieb1992 Instagram: @manicpizzadreamgirl Follow Billy! Twitter: @TheBillyProcida Instagram: @TheBillyProcida Facebook Fan Page Snag yourself some Manwhore Podcast march! Get a Fanwhore Membership on Patreon for access to bonus episodes and private sex-positive discussion groups. Click here to join for $1! Use promo code MANWHORE to get a 40-minute FREE TRIAL of ethical paid-for-porn viewing at HotMovies.com/bonus! Email your comments, questions, and boobies to manwhorepod@gmail.com. www.ManwhorePod.com

We share what we've learned from non-lifestyle couples, but disagree that they may still fall somewhere within the lifestyle spectrum.We discuss Part II – Tulum and reveal the ending to our Kidnapped In Mexico story.We launch “Project Airtight.” L shares her prep strategy, what role R will play, and her plans to audition the perfect participants.Featuring interviews with non-lifestyle couples who share why they feel Desire Resorts is the perfect place for their vacation.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

Jess & Brandon model a “how-to-talk-about-sex” conversation in response to a listener's question — they share their unprepared responses on the spot. They also weigh in on spicing up date night, watching web-cam models, sex clubs, sleeping after sex & how long to wait before having sex with a new partner. Please find a rough summary of the podcast below. We are working on providing full transcripts for all podcasts. Welcome to the SexWithDrJess Podcast. I'm Jessica O'Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist and I'm here with my better half, Brandon Ware. Today, we'll be answering listener questions about sex and relationships. Before we get started, I'd like to thank Desire Resorts for their support and remind you that we'll be facilitating workshops at both properties in Mexico on October 24-25, 2018. More details can be found here. Question: I listened to your podcast on sex clubs and we've talked about going, but I'm just not there yet. I'm fine with watching porn, but the idea of real live people freaks me out. My girlfriend really wants to go and you always say to take baby steps, so is there something we can try in the meantime until I'm ready? Just talk about going and play around with the idea. Go to dinner and drive by a club without going in — make out in the car instead. Or talk about all the naughty things you'll do at a club while having sex at home — with no pressure to follow through in real life. Not everyone likes sex clubs and you certainly don't have to visit one if you're not into it. Another option… Sign into an adult webcam room featuring another couple. This may be a little risque, but more couples are joining in on the fun from the safety of their own bedrooms. Webcam models perform live and you can even make requests if you'd like. The couples I've met who visit webcams (often for special occasions) say that they like the spontaneity and the fact that they're not overproduced like porn. If you're considering this option, talk to your partner ahead of time to discuss your concerns and desires. Some questions you might want to address: 1. If we do this together, does it mean we can do it alone? Set boundaries and agree on what is acceptable within the confines of your relationship. Don't worry about what others (including experts) have to say. You decide what is dis/allowed in your own relationship as a team. 2. Are we willing to interact (chat) with the models or just watch? 3. Are you nervous about the experience? What makes you nervous? What can your partner do to assuage your concerns? 4. If you feel uncomfortable at any point, how will you address this? Will you close the computer? Take a break? Use a sign to communicate your discomfort? 5. If you're using a pay site (many offer free access), what spending limit do you want to set? Be honest about your desires and boundaries. You are not a prude if you're not into adult webcams. You don't have to do everything to have a happy relationship and satisfying sex life. Question: I saw your story about UberEats as date night and I voted yes on both accounts and I'm wondering what you and Brandon do for date night cuz you look so happy together. (function(v,i,d,e,o){v[o]=v[o]||{}; v[o].add = v[o].add || function V(a){ (v[o].d=v[o].d||[]).push(a);}; if(!v[o].l) { v[o].l=1*new Date(); a=i.createElement(d), m=i.getElementsByTagName(d)[0]; a.async=1; a.src=e; m.parentNode.insertBefore(a,m);} })(window,document,"script","https://cdn-gce.vdocipher.com/playerAssets/1.5.0/vdo.js","vdo"); vdo.add({ otp: "20160313versUSE3236InlD1gWgLzfonvoh5I4gX7g9PS8Z3Q2fwTNMigbE94u3s", playbackInfo: "eyJ2aWRlb0lkIjoiMjYxODQxNTNmYjIyNGRkMmE1NTEzZDE5MzczMzZjMWQifQ==", theme: "9ae8bbe8dd964ddc9bdb932cca1cb59a", container: document.querySelector( "#vdovoh5I4gX7g" ), }); Question: I saw your post on Instagram about having intense conversations. Can you give me some examples of questions I can ask my...

Jess & Brandon model a “how-to-talk-about-sex” conversation in response to a listener’s question — they share their unprepared responses on the spot. They also weigh in on spicing up date night, watching web-cam models, sex clubs, sleeping after sex & how long to wait before having sex with a new partner. Please find a rough summary of the podcast below. We are working on providing full transcripts for all podcasts. Welcome to the SexWithDrJess Podcast. I’m Jessica O’Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist and I’m here with my better half, Brandon Ware. Today, we’ll be answering listener questions about sex and relationships. Before we get started, I’d like to thank Desire Resorts for their support and remind you that we’ll be facilitating workshops at both properties in Mexico on October 24-25, 2018. More details can be found here. Question: I listened to your podcast on sex clubs and we’ve talked about going, but I’m just not there yet. I’m fine with watching porn, but the idea of real live people freaks me out. My girlfriend really wants to go and you always say to take baby steps, so is there something we can try in the meantime until I’m ready? Just talk about going and play around with the idea. Go to dinner and drive by a club without going in — make out in the car instead. Or talk about all the naughty things you’ll do at a club while having sex at home — with no pressure to follow through in real life. Not everyone likes sex clubs and you certainly don’t have to visit one if you’re not into it. Another option… Sign into an adult webcam room featuring another couple. This may be a little risque, but more couples are joining in on the fun from the safety of their own bedrooms. Webcam models perform live and you can even make requests if you’d like. The couples I’ve met who visit webcams (often for special occasions) say that they like the spontaneity and the fact that they’re not overproduced like porn. If you’re considering this option, talk to your partner ahead of time to discuss your concerns and desires. Some questions you might want to address: 1. If we do this together, does it mean we can do it alone? Set boundaries and agree on what is acceptable within the confines of your relationship. Don’t worry about what others (including experts) have to say. You decide what is dis/allowed in your own relationship as a team. 2. Are we willing to interact (chat) with the models or just watch? 3. Are you nervous about the experience? What makes you nervous? What can your partner do to assuage your concerns? 4. If you feel uncomfortable at any point, how will you address this? Will you close the computer? Take a break? Use a sign to communicate your discomfort? 5. If you’re using a pay site (many offer free access), what spending limit do you want to set? Be honest about your desires and boundaries. You are not a prude if you’re not into adult webcams. You don’t have to do everything to have a happy relationship and satisfying sex life. Question: I saw your story about UberEats as date night and I voted yes on both accounts and I’m wondering what you and Brandon do for date night cuz you look so happy together. (function(v,i,d,e,o){v[o]=v[o]||{}; v[o].add = v[o].add || function V(a){ (v[o].d=v[o].d||[]).push(a);}; if(!v[o].l) { v[o].l=1*new Date(); a=i.createElement(d), m=i.getElementsByTagName(d)[0]; a.async=1; a.src=e; m.parentNode.insertBefore(a,m);} })(window,document,"script","https://cdn-gce.vdocipher.com/playerAssets/1.5.0/vdo.js","vdo"); vdo.add({ otp: "20160313versUSE3236InlD1gWgLzfonvoh5I4gX7g9PS8Z3Q2fwTNMigbE94u3s", playbackInfo: "eyJ2aWRlb0lkIjoiMjYxODQxNTNmYjIyNGRkMmE1NTEzZDE5MzczMzZjMWQifQ==", theme: "9ae8bbe8dd964ddc9bdb932cca1cb59a", container: document.querySelector( "#vdovoh5I4gX7g" ), }); Question: I saw your post on Instagram about having intense conversations. Can you give me some examples of questions I can ask my...

We spend time with some podcasters and their followers at Desire Pearl and play another round of the Let's Not Get Divorced game with Brian and Lisa Jones.We answer an email from #ourlistener and offer our expert advice, giving birth to our new segment “You're Welcome.”We discuss threesomes and foursomes, meet a cute couple that is looking for a unicorn at a couples-only resort, and hear about their plans to kidnap Lauren.Featuring interviews with @SpiritualSwing and hear from couples about confidence and the social aspect of a Desire Resorts vacation.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

We spend time with some podcasters and their followers at Desire Pearl and play another round of the Let’s Not Get Divorced game with Brian and Lisa Jones. We answer an email from #ourlistener and offer our expert advice, giving birth to our new segment “You’re Welcome.” We discuss threesomes and foursomes, meet a cute couple that is looking for a unicorn at a couples-only resort, and hear about their plans to kidnap Lauren. Featuring interviews with @SpiritualSwing and hear from couples about confidence and the social aspect of a Desire Resorts vacation.

We attend a Desire wedding. We crush on the same girl until L cock blocks R. R almost dies from a cold, but the show must go on.We hook up with full-swap, non-swinger swingers! Wait, what? And then play “Let's not get divorced!”We confirm and/or dispel rumors about Desire Resorts with True or False questions.Featuring interviews and couples that playing games with us and a young couple talks about how our podcast helped ease anxieties about their first trip to Desire.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

What can we learn from Tristan Thompson & Khloe Kardashian's cheating challenges? Why do we stay with partners who cheat? And what conversations are ESSENTIAL to a happy, lasting relationship? Jess shares her answers, theories, and strategies on cheating, monogamy and relationship communication. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts.  Podcast Transcript: Welcome to the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. I'm Jessica O'Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist and I'm back in Toronto today still recovering from my travels and having lost my voice aboard the Desire Resorts cruise. I had a blast on board and my highlight was definitely Florence. There's something about that city that always leaves me wanting more and more. And on board, my highlight was just sitting on the top deck watching the shoreline and listening to DJ Willis down below. Let me tell you, life is good. I probably have one of the best jobs in the world, so thank you to Desire Resorts and Cruises for hosting me on board. Now that I'm home in Toronto…Today on The Global Morning Show, we talked about Tristan Thompson and Khloe Kardashian. Admittedly, I don't know much at all about these two. And I've already had people yell at me online “WHO CARES?” But here's the thing. You may not care about K and T. You may not keep up with them - see what I did there? But we do care about these types of stories because when we hear about happy relationships or tumultuous relationships it affects how we see our own relationships. When we hear about Tristan cheating, it can be upsetting because ultimately we never want it to happen to us. And it's interesting because celebrity gossip is often seen as trashy or vapid. And I was looking at a post by Dr. Amie Harwick yesterday about the hazard of following celebrity gossip. Amy says “Gossiping, in general, is a rather normative behaviour,” says Dr. Amie Harwick, a licensed marriage and family therapist. “Communication about social behaviours goes back to nomadic tribes, regarding finding out who socially was to be avoided or cautious about.” But gossiping, in general, brings negativity into your life and into your relationship. And Amie adds “Such a public depiction of relationship failure can absolutely instill fear in people, whether single or in a relationship, about the likelihood of relationship failure,” Harwick says. “We take information about the world by what we see.” She goes on to explain that typically our own families and friends would model what we believe to be normal. “But with the addition of social media and tabloids, our behavior modeling now includes an immense quantity of poor, and often untrue, behaviour models,” So if celebrity gossip is bad for us, why am I talking about it today? Well, I believe that it's essential to dissect some of this information if we're going to be consuming it. I think it's important that we talk about cheating — not gossip about whether Tristan did it or not, but talk about why it happens and what we can do about it. Today we're going to do just that. I want to cover a rather controversial topic: I want to talk about why Khloe might put up with this type of behaviour. AND what it says about the way we approach monogamy and what we can do about it. To the first point — if Tristan has done this before and you believe he's going to do it again, why would his partner put up with it? I don't know. I don't have the answer. I'm not in Khloe's head, heck I'm not even following her Instagram feed. BUT I want to suggest a theory. A theory that may or may not apply to them, but certainly applies to other couples. This isn't a popular theory. Any time I bring this up, people get pissed, but I know it's the reality for many couples: I believe that many people know that their partner's cheating and privately accept it; They may not like it, but they accept it and they accept that if they want to sustain this relationship for love,

What can we learn from Tristan Thompson & Khloe Kardashian’s cheating challenges? Why do we stay with partners who cheat? And what conversations are ESSENTIAL to a happy, lasting relationship? Jess shares her answers, theories, and strategies on cheating, monogamy and relationship communication. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts.  Podcast Transcript: Welcome to the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. I’m Jessica O’Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist and I’m back in Toronto today still recovering from my travels and having lost my voice aboard the Desire Resorts cruise. I had a blast on board and my highlight was definitely Florence. There’s something about that city that always leaves me wanting more and more. And on board, my highlight was just sitting on the top deck watching the shoreline and listening to DJ Willis down below. Let me tell you, life is good. I probably have one of the best jobs in the world, so thank you to Desire Resorts and Cruises for hosting me on board. Now that I’m home in Toronto…Today on The Global Morning Show, we talked about Tristan Thompson and Khloe Kardashian. Admittedly, I don’t know much at all about these two. And I’ve already had people yell at me online “WHO CARES?” But here’s the thing. You may not care about K and T. You may not keep up with them - see what I did there? But we do care about these types of stories because when we hear about happy relationships or tumultuous relationships it affects how we see our own relationships. When we hear about Tristan cheating, it can be upsetting because ultimately we never want it to happen to us. And it’s interesting because celebrity gossip is often seen as trashy or vapid. And I was looking at a post by Dr. Amie Harwick yesterday about the hazard of following celebrity gossip. Amy says “Gossiping, in general, is a rather normative behaviour,” says Dr. Amie Harwick, a licensed marriage and family therapist. “Communication about social behaviours goes back to nomadic tribes, regarding finding out who socially was to be avoided or cautious about.” But gossiping, in general, brings negativity into your life and into your relationship. And Amie adds “Such a public depiction of relationship failure can absolutely instill fear in people, whether single or in a relationship, about the likelihood of relationship failure,” Harwick says. “We take information about the world by what we see.” She goes on to explain that typically our own families and friends would model what we believe to be normal. “But with the addition of social media and tabloids, our behavior modeling now includes an immense quantity of poor, and often untrue, behaviour models,” So if celebrity gossip is bad for us, why am I talking about it today? Well, I believe that it’s essential to dissect some of this information if we’re going to be consuming it. I think it’s important that we talk about cheating — not gossip about whether Tristan did it or not, but talk about why it happens and what we can do about it. Today we’re going to do just that. I want to cover a rather controversial topic: I want to talk about why Khloe might put up with this type of behaviour. AND what it says about the way we approach monogamy and what we can do about it. To the first point — if Tristan has done this before and you believe he’s going to do it again, why would his partner put up with it? I don’t know. I don’t have the answer. I’m not in Khloe’s head, heck I’m not even following her Instagram feed. BUT I want to suggest a theory. A theory that may or may not apply to them, but certainly applies to other couples. This isn’t a popular theory. Any time I bring this up, people get pissed, but I know it’s the reality for many couples: I believe that many people know that their partner’s cheating and privately accept it; They may not like it, but they accept it and they accept that if they want to sustain this relationship for love,

Learn a little about us, R and L; our sensual, sexual workshops at Desire Resorts in Cancun; and what we hope to accomplish through this podcast, knowing almost nothing about podcasting.Getting turned on in the workshops, hard-ons during class, cock rings, and what we enjoy about doing the workshops.Discussing chronic penis pulling; her views, in general, on penises (“peen”); and possibly injecting his penis with a “magic potion.”Sharing our run in with a gaggle of youngin' swingers, keeping up, and the challenge to stay awake.Celebrate R's birthday with “Slur-Cast”, hearing his reaction when thirty naked strangers sang Happy Birthday; L doesn't know who is Eric McCormack; he crushes on a new girlfriend; and she thinks one of the Playmakers is a secret mole.Featuring interviews from the amazing DeeDee, Playmaker at Desire RM; along with couples' comments on continuing the workshop in their room, R and his chronic penis pulling, opinions regarding age and attraction, and a belief in the most important reason for couples to come to Desire. Enjoy.Support us with:Patreon Help us #keepitupBook your Desire / Temptation /Hedo trip* with Lauren and get a free Bikini Addiction bikini!++Perky bottoms are now in stock in Neon Pineapple! Grab yours and save 10% with code: ROOM77 at Bikiniaddiction.com #DontLetTheKarensWin

Learn a little about us, R and L; our sensual, sexual workshops at Desire Resorts in Cancun; and what we hope to accomplish through this podcast, knowing almost nothing about podcasting. Getting turned on in the workshops, hard-ons during class, cock rings, and what we enjoy about doing the workshops. Discussing chronic penis pulling; her views, in general, on penises (“peen”); and possibly injecting his penis with a “magic potion.” Sharing our run in with a gaggle of youngin’ swingers, keeping up, and the challenge to stay awake. Celebrate R’s birthday with “Slur-Cast”, hearing his reaction when thirty naked strangers sang Happy Birthday; L doesn’t know who is Eric McCormack; he crushes on a new girlfriend; and she thinks one of the Playmakers is a secret mole. Featuring interviews from the amazing DeeDee, Playmaker at Desire RM; along with couples’ comments on continuing the workshop in their room, R and his chronic penis pulling, opinions regarding age and attraction, and a belief in the most important reason for couples to come to Desire. Enjoy.

The Princess of Porn, Tasha Reign, joins Jess this week to discuss sexual confidence and reflect on her experience as an adult actress. She shares her unique insights and both Jess and Tasha share their top tips for boosting your sexual self-esteem. Follow Tasha on... Twitter Instagram The podcast episode is brought to you by Desire Resorts. 

The Princess of Porn, Tasha Reign, joins Jess this week to discuss sexual confidence and reflect on her experience as an adult actress. She shares her unique insights and both Jess and Tasha share their top tips for boosting your sexual self-esteem. Follow Tasha on... Twitter Instagram The podcast episode is brought to you by Desire Resorts. 

How do you get over your partner's sexual past? What is 'Ski-Poling'? How can you ensure that your family likes your new partner? And what should I do with my hands during ‘the sex'? Jess tackles these questions and more in this week's podcast. Tune in! This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. 

How do you get over your partner’s sexual past? What is 'Ski-Poling’? How can you ensure that your family likes your new partner? And what should I do with my hands during ‘the sex’? Jess tackles these questions and more in this week’s podcast. Tune in! This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. 

Jess is joined by the brilliant and funny amateur porn star, Harper The Fox. Harper is a digital entrepreneur whose unedited sex tapes feature her having real, loving sex with her partner of 7 years. In this week's episode, she shares her unique insights into the worlds of camming, porn and poetry — and she explains how to use toilet paper rolls as sex dolls. You don't want to miss it! Check out Harper's book here. Follow Harper on Twitter here. This podcast episode is brought to you by Desire Resorts. 

Jess is joined by the brilliant and funny amateur porn star, Harper The Fox. Harper is a digital entrepreneur whose unedited sex tapes feature her having real, loving sex with her partner of 7 years. In this week’s episode, she shares her unique insights into the worlds of camming, porn and poetry — and she explains how to use toilet paper rolls as sex dolls. You don’t want to miss it! Check out Harper's book here. Follow Harper on Twitter here. This podcast episode is brought to you by Desire Resorts. 

What does it mean if I think about someone else during sex? Is fantasizing about a celebrity during sex a form of cheating? Who's more likely to fantasize about someone other than their partner - women or men? Jess tackles these questions and more in this week's podcast. **This transcript is our best automated version of the live podcast.** Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. This is Jess O'Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist, and today I am in Phoenix for a cool event Body, Sex & Business and my next stops are in New York and Dallas, so perhaps I'll see you in your city over the next few days. This episode is brought to you by Desire Resorts and Cruises. Set sail on a clothing optional experience from Barcelona to Rome with me at the end of April. There are only a handful of cabins left, so get ‘em while the getting's good. Today I'll be answering more listener questions about sex and relationships and we're receiving a boatload every day. I'm having trouble keeping up, so I'm trying to categorize the questions thematically so that I can answer related questions all at once. In the past few weeks, I've received a bunch of similar questions with regard to fantasizing during sex and they all have so much in common which tells me that this is a serious concern for many of you. These questions tie in with the topic of my TED talk, Monogamish. If you're not familiar with my TED Talk from TEDx Vancouver, Monogamish, I'll tell you a bit about it now: It's the single piece of media that elicits the most hate mail and I hope it remains so — meaning that I don't want to produce something else that gets people just as angry at me. The haters call me everything from a dumb porn star to a pedophile. I read the comments on it once totally by accident and I started crying, so I've never been back. But you're probably more concerned with the content than with my personal experience, so to sum it up, in this TED talk, I argue that the state of the modern relationship seems to be in crisis when we examine divorce rates, marital satisfaction rates, and infidelity rates. I argue that so-called pure monogamy, the notion of only having eyes for one soulmate forever and ever is unrealistic for most people if you want excitement and a hot sex life. Open relationships work with similar outcomes to monogamous ones, but they're not for everyone and so I present an alternative option (not a solution), but an option, I call monogamish. This is the middle ground between monogamy and consensual non-monogamy and it involves looking at other people, thinking about other people, maybe even interacting in a flirtatious way with other people and sharing all of this with your partner to heighten the connection, growth, and passion in the relationship. If you want more, go watch the talk…so I can get on to the questions. We'll start with two questions from the same listener. She says I can use her name…Tonya is 29 and she asks… 1. If you are having sex with your boyfriend and your mind wanders and you picture someone else what does that mean? It means you're perfectly normal and you're excited by novelty, challenge and/or the unknown. Just like we dream about a range of partners, scenarios and lifestyles, so too do our fantasies reflect this desire for variety. 2. Tonya also asks “So is it worse to visualize someone else's face or to just think of them? If I literally think about another person's body or face, I feel like it's somehow worse. I don't believe that one is worse than the other. I think it's healthy to fantasize about people other than your partner. I know it can seem scary (especially if you reverse the roles), but couples whose relationships have stood the test of time (especially those who still have hot sex lives!) will attest to the fact that a willingness to push comfort zones is essential to a lasting sexual relationship. Having said that,

What does it mean if I think about someone else during sex? Is fantasizing about a celebrity during sex a form of cheating? Who's more likely to fantasize about someone other than their partner - women or men? Jess tackles these questions and more in this week’s podcast. **This transcript is our best automated version of the live podcast.** Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. This is Jess O’Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist, and today I am in Phoenix for a cool event Body, Sex & Business and my next stops are in New York and Dallas, so perhaps I’ll see you in your city over the next few days. This episode is brought to you by Desire Resorts and Cruises. Set sail on a clothing optional experience from Barcelona to Rome with me at the end of April. There are only a handful of cabins left, so get ‘em while the getting’s good. Today I’ll be answering more listener questions about sex and relationships and we’re receiving a boatload every day. I’m having trouble keeping up, so I’m trying to categorize the questions thematically so that I can answer related questions all at once. In the past few weeks, I’ve received a bunch of similar questions with regard to fantasizing during sex and they all have so much in common which tells me that this is a serious concern for many of you. These questions tie in with the topic of my TED talk, Monogamish. If you’re not familiar with my TED Talk from TEDx Vancouver, Monogamish, I’ll tell you a bit about it now: It’s the single piece of media that elicits the most hate mail and I hope it remains so — meaning that I don’t want to produce something else that gets people just as angry at me. The haters call me everything from a dumb porn star to a pedophile. I read the comments on it once totally by accident and I started crying, so I’ve never been back. But you’re probably more concerned with the content than with my personal experience, so to sum it up, in this TED talk, I argue that the state of the modern relationship seems to be in crisis when we examine divorce rates, marital satisfaction rates, and infidelity rates. I argue that so-called pure monogamy, the notion of only having eyes for one soulmate forever and ever is unrealistic for most people if you want excitement and a hot sex life. Open relationships work with similar outcomes to monogamous ones, but they’re not for everyone and so I present an alternative option (not a solution), but an option, I call monogamish. This is the middle ground between monogamy and consensual non-monogamy and it involves looking at other people, thinking about other people, maybe even interacting in a flirtatious way with other people and sharing all of this with your partner to heighten the connection, growth, and passion in the relationship. If you want more, go watch the talk…so I can get on to the questions. We’ll start with two questions from the same listener. She says I can use her name…Tonya is 29 and she asks… 1. If you are having sex with your boyfriend and your mind wanders and you picture someone else what does that mean? It means you’re perfectly normal and you’re excited by novelty, challenge and/or the unknown. Just like we dream about a range of partners, scenarios and lifestyles, so too do our fantasies reflect this desire for variety. 2. Tonya also asks “So is it worse to visualize someone else’s face or to just think of them? If I literally think about another person’s body or face, I feel like it’s somehow worse. I don’t believe that one is worse than the other. I think it’s healthy to fantasize about people other than your partner. I know it can seem scary (especially if you reverse the roles), but couples whose relationships have stood the test of time (especially those who still have hot sex lives!) will attest to the fact that a willingness to push comfort zones is essential to a lasting sexual relationship. Having said that,

Jess answers your questions about gender roles and rules in the Swinging Lifestyle. She also shares a bit about her own personal experience and unpacks data about consensual non-monogamy. Whether you're an experienced Swinger, curious about the lifestyle or just wondering what you can learn from consensually non-monogamous relationships, have a listen as Jess differentiates between cheating and CNM relationships. This podcast episode is brought to you by Desire Resorts.

Jess and her partner, Brandon, chat about sexual frequency and discuss where they’re at in their relationship today. Jess also shares data on how often the “average” couple has sex and strategies for discussing frequency with your partner. **Please see a rough version of this podcast transcript below** Welcome and happy new year! Now I took last week off while I was visiting family down in Florida. I was travelling with Brandon and my pup Lido and hanging with two of my favourite cousins — Mike and Denise. Today, I’m down at Desire Resorts with my partner Brandon and while I’m here I’m teaching 2 workshops, hosting a few book signings and meeting couples from all around the world and, of course, having some very interesting conversations. Now yesterday, we were chatting with a couple in their 50s and they mentioned that it was their 36th anniversary and they were talking about how coming down here has been great for their relationship and that even after 36 years of marriage, they still have sex. Regularly. That to me, is pretty great. Still having sex after 36 years. But not just having sex, but having it regularly. And here’s the kicker — they’re not just having sex. They’re not just having it regularly. They have it on average 6 times per week! 6 times per week after 36 years. I’m a sexologist and this came as a surprise to me. Now they told me this while chatting with Brandon too and his reaction and my reaction was a little tense. Cuz we’re sitting here fewer than 17 years into our relationship — and I’m supposed to be the sexologist and they’re having way more sex than I am — with Brandon or myself for that matter. So I decided it’s time I talk about sexual frequency here on the podcast and maybe get a little personal since we all know Brandon has a much better radio voice than I do. So babe, what did you think when you heard from this couple and was the tension between us that I felt real or did I imagine it? Let’s be honest, how often do we have sex? And now we’re both about to stumble over our words or you folks are going to be faced with some awkward silence. And do you want it more? Do you feel like I want it more than you? It has shifted over the years…and it’s affected by my travel schedule. Here’s what the data says. And I’ll preface the data with a few thoughts. First, I’m always reluctant to talk about frequency and averages because you’re not average. And you’re not an average. I’m always worried that averages will be used as barometers or yardsticks against which to measure your relationship’s success. But here’s the thing: frequency only matters as much as YOU feel it matters. You don’t need to have more sex unless you and/or your partner want to have more sex. So if I share the data and you weigh in at a higher number, it doesn’t necessarily mean your sex life is satisfying. Because you may have sex more often than other couples, but it still may not be as much as you or your partner want it. Similarly, you may have far less frequent sex than average and have a richly fulfilling sex life, because the only true measure of your sex life’s degree of satisfaction is your own. You can have sex once a day and be satisfied and you can have sex once a year (or not at all) and be satisfied. It's a matter of you determining how often you want it and finding a balance between your frequency and your partner’s. SO that's the first thing I want to say before I share the data. The second is: people lie about sex even when surveys are anonymous because ultimately we lie to ourselves. I've spoken to couples and one partner will report that they have sex weekly and the other will say they have it consistently every other day. Unless they're having it with separate partners, which is a different story altogether, something has got to give. Someone is not telling the truth. And perhaps neither are - and perhaps it's not intentional, but it’s inaccurate nonetheless,

Hey Sexy Friends, As many of you know D and I have finally returned from our much needed and much anticipated Desire Resorts vacation with WeGottaThing and The Curious Couple. We also stopped into Dallas to visit our good friends The Average Swingers and also a fantastic lifestyle club in Dallas called Colette. From there… Read more

Ginger Bentham, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas return to Desire Resort & Spa for Swingset’s second full resort takeover and for their sixth annual pilgrimage to the sexiest place on earth. While the tequila flows, they take time to examine why pleasure, gratitude, compassion, and love are supremely important, and they take time to defiantly and emphatically restate the values of the Swingset. Join us at the sexiest place on earth at Desire Resorts in the Riviera Maya, Cancun, Mexico, from November 3rd through November 10th, 2018! Head to ssdesire.com for more information!   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.   The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!   Android Users: Download and review our Android App!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   You can now pre-order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.   Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist! Intro and Outro Music: Puppet – Dynamo   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!     Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham

Sarah Clayton, Model, Playmate, Ambassador for Desire Resorts and so much more... Join us to hear the latest scoop on what Sarah is up to! It's going to be a great time!

Sarah Clayton, Model, Playmate, Ambassador for Desire Resorts and so much more... Join us to hear the latest scoop on what Sarah is up to! It's going to be a great time!

Cooper S. Beckett sat down with us to talk all things swinging. What’s the difference between swinging and polyamory? Why don’t the sexual subcommunities always play nicely together? What’s the deal with bisexuality in the swing lifestyle? When is the right (and wrong) time for couples to explore non-monogamy? What the heck does the 2008 financial collapse have to do with non-monogamy today? We also discuss Cooper’s coming out and how the current political climate has affected him as a leader in the sex-positive community.   Guest bio Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. Episode 8 topics the ethics of unicorn hunting, sex-positive snobbery, queer swinging, the best sex clubs in the US, strictly dickly, toxic monogamy in the swinging lifestyle, kik & snapchat, Life on the Swingset, boring times at sex clubs, everyone wants to fuck Jack Harkness, the personal is political, David Bowie holding the fabric of the universe together, swinging etiquette, millennial swingers, Becker S. Coopet, how to navigate the poly scene, the age gap in the swing community, Approaching the Swingualrity, SLS, bro-jobs, Desire Resorts, bi visibility, Donald Trump golden shower sex tape, Lord of the Cock RIngs, bar-sexuals, sex scandals, swinging for the wrong reasons, the one couples problem swinging can solve, swinging for single men Episode 8 links & info  Get Cooper’s book including his new Approaching the Swingualrity audiobook: https://coopersbeckett.com  Cooper’s blog and podcast: https://lifeontheswingset.com Episode 8 links Sponsor/Promotional information American Sex Podcast iTunes Giveaway Win a Fun Factory Darling Devil Silicone Vibrator and a Hybrid Battery Kit valued at $110! How? Review and/or subscribe to American Sex Podcast on iTunes during the month of September.  Screenshot both and email it to americansexpodcast@gmail.com to be entered in the contest.   Winners selected by random computerized drawing 10/2. Must be 18+ and live in the contiguous 48 states to win. More details on the giveaway page. Castle Megastore's 30th Anniversary Celebration & Contest Week 4 Castle Megastore has been helping customers with romance and fun for 30 years! To celebrate they’re running a contest for the whole month on September. Every Purchase you make in store or online will automatically enter you in the the contest. There will be 6 winners at each location for a total of 102 winners. The winners will receive a mystery gift from either We-Vibe, Fun Factory, Clandestine Devices, System JO, Jopen or Lelo. All prizes are valued over $100! The 30th Anniversary Celebration contest runs September 1, 2017 through September 30, 2017. Prize drawings will be held October 2, 2017. You’ll automatically be entered into the contest with every purchase you make, NO MINIMUM! So if you make a $5 purchase or a $100 purchase you’ll be entered. No form to fill out to enter online. In Stores: you’ll need to give your email at checkout so that they can contact you if you win. If you have already provided your email from previous purchases, then you’re already in their system and you’ll be entered in the contest. One entry per purchase per visit, but if you make 5 purchases within the month of September, you be entered into the contest 5 times. Castle Megastore's 30th Anniversary Month Long Specials All Month Long: $30 for 30 days Toy Rack Online & in stores sale 10 for $30 Panties (in stores only) 8 for $30 Plus Size Panties (in stores only) 5 for $30 DVDs *3 for $20 Dvds and $9.99 titles only (in stores only) Weekly sale 9/22-9/30 30% off all Velskin Silicone dildos and penis extenders 20% off Castle Megastore.com purchases every day of the year for our fans with code SUNNY (limited restrictions apply)

Sex clubs are becoming more mainstream. Jess shares her observations about sex clubs and chats with Fatima Mechtab who shares her stories (including one about a blowup doll!), tips and insights. Click here to find a sex club near you. Follow Fatima on... Facebook  Instagram  Twitter Follow Oasis Aqualounge on... Facebook  Instagram  Twitter A few additional notes on sex clubs: Many of the couples I work with visit sex clubs to get their juices flowing. They dance, flirt, watch and leave without ever having sex or reaching orgasm. They use their experience as both fodder for intimate conversations (emotional) and as material for sexual foreplay. In many cases, the anticipation is hotter than the reward, which makes sense, as dopamine levels can be twice as high during the anticipation pleasure as when you experience the pleasure itself. You don’t have to participate in any specific way and regardless of your specific desires, you’ll want to consider several questions and have ongoing conversations in advance: How long will you spend at the club when you visit? Will you have a drink? How many drinks will you have? Will you dance? What will you wear? Do you plan to undress? How will you respond if you’re feeling uncomfortable? How will you ask your partner for support? How do you want them to respond? What will you do if someone asks you or your partner to dance? What areas of the club will you visit? (e.g. Will you go into the play rooms or just the bar?) What excites you about visiting a sex club? What concerns or fears do you have? What’s your best-case scenario for your first visit? What’s your perceived worst-case scenario? Discussing boundaries and concerns in advance can help you to feel more at ease and ensure that you don’t have to make high-pressure decisions in the heat of the moment. Take your time with these questions and allow yourself to be vulnerable as the conversations unfold. There is no rush to visit a sex club — they’ll still be there next week, next month or next year. Note: Many reputable sex clubs also offer tours for newbies, so check online or call ahead to find out what they offer in terms of tours and workshops. I may even be able to recommend a sex club tour guide like Luna Matatas or Spirt Sex Lab's Evguenia. I believe that seeing real sex between consenting adults who aren’t being directed by professionals can be helpful in creating a happy, healthy sex life. Porn is not intended to be a form of education, but we often use it as a learning model, as we have no other options. If you want to gain insight on other topics (e.g. football, cooking, crafting), you being by observing others. You don’t simply learn about the mechanics in a book or study the potential risks in school — you actually watch others performing the task on video or in-person. Why do we treat sex differently? I studied human sexuality and sexual health education in school, but I didn’t learn much about the physical act of sex in the classroom. Luckily, I have derived great educational benefits from observing real live sex at sex clubs and resorts over the past 10+ years. Seeing real people with a range of body types engaged in a wide range of sexual activities not only makes me more comfortable with sex, but also with my own body. The first time I visited Desire Resorts and saw couples of all ages having different types of sex, my whole outlook toward my body, aging and sexuality changed for the better. This, of course, does not mean that your experience will be the same as mine. If you’re not interested in visiting a sex club, that’s okay too. There are many paths to sexual exploration and fulfilment and you’re the ultimate expert in your own needs. You don’t want to pressure your partner to feel the way you feel, but hopefully you feel comfortable expressing how you feel. Check out fellow Sexologist, Ashley Cobb's advice on sex clubs here.

Discussion Topic- Many couples approaching the lifestyle consider clothing optional resorts as a first step on their journey.  This episode we tackle some commonly held beliefs and fears regarding clothing optional resort vacations.  Just back from another trip to Desire Pearl, we use our experiences from the week to "bust some myths." Book your trip to one of the Desire Resorts right here! Subscribe to our Finding Your Thing weekly newsletter here.

This week Jess hosts her husband, Brandon Ware, for a tell-all on being married to a sexologist. He shares his thoughts on nude beaches, sex toys, public sex and more. Sit back and listen as Jess and Brandon walk you through their sexual journey. Brandon Ware is a founding partner with The WareInToronto Group and is the top sales representative with Private Service Realty. He is passionate about his business and his warm personality, in-depth market knowledge and solid negotiation skills set him apart from others in the field. Follow Brandon Ware on... Twitter Instagram Facebook See below for this episode's transcription... Dr. Jess: Hi there! This is Jess O'Reilly I am Sex with Dr. Jess, your friendly neighborhood sexologist and shouldn't every neighborhood have a sexologist? I don't know, maybe my neighbors would beg to differ. I am here as always to help you cultivate sexual compatibility so that you can a happier, more meaningful, more loving relationship and of course compatibility is something that requires work. It is not about destiny and it's not about finding the right partner. It is about training your partner and treating yourself, to meet your partner's needs. It's that simple! Now today, I'm a little bit nervous and a little bit excited, because I have with me Mister hahah no Mister Sex with Dr. Jess. Brandon: The man behind the woman. Dr. Jess: The man behind the woman but really the man who stands beside me, and props me up. Brandon: You want to be careful with where I’m standing. Dr. Jess: Yeah. My husband, Brandon Ware, my life partner, the love of my life is with us. Brandon say hi. Brandon: Hey everybody, how you doing? Dr. Jess: He’s doing… Brandon: I’m expecting a response. Dr. Jess: He’s doing the Barry White voice… Brandon: It’s White Barry. Are you doing there? Dr. Jess: Hahah. Definitely Barry White. Hahaha. We are going to talk about our life, because one of the top questions I receive after, ‘hey is it normal that I like to put this up my butt?’ and the answer is yes. Brandon: Hahah. Dr. Jess: One of the top questions I received is, ‘what did your husband think about what you do?’ So babe let's start there, we're going to be talking about how working in the field of human sexuality impacts our relationship and our sex life. I don’t think we’re going to get too graphic. Brandon: Nope. Dr. Jess: But ultimately your life changes when something that is so pleasurable and also so tied your identity becomes your life's work. So we'll start with: Brandon and what do you think of my job? Brandon: I think it's amazing. The positives definitely outweigh the negatives. Where do I even begin? There are so many things that we've been introduced to, exposed to, as a result of your job. Dr. Jess: That’s good and bad? Brandon: Um yeah it’s a bit of both. Dr. Jess: Exposed sounds umm… Brandon: Exposed isn’t the right word, maybe introduced to is the better terminology. I mean, let’s talk about Desire Resorts. That clothing-optional resort down on the Mayan Riviera. Dr. Jess: Yeah so I talk about Desire a lot. It’s not just because I work with them, honestly it's because it was life changing for me. And I’ve talked about how it made the way I’ve felt about my body, but I also know Brandon's told me that, and I don’t think he’s told me in so many words because the first time we went there we were in our mid-twenties so it’s 11-12 years ago. Hahah Brandon is getting close to 40. Brandon: Ya the countdown is on! Dr. Jess: It’s okay you look younger and act younger. Too young. But I know it changed the way you look at women, so maybe you can talk about that, because the chance, the opportunity to go there is something that I think, really I only was confronted or encountered because I'm working in this field. So how does being around naked people and being in a playroom where people are actually having sex change our relationship?

Hoy toca quitar los misterios alrededor de @desirelatam , efectivamente: nos fuimos a Desire Resorts y nos dieron chance de grabar el programa, nos pusieron un escenario justo frente a la alberca después de la fiesta de espuma. No podemos describirles lo difícil que es grabar un programa mientras una pelirroja hermosa nos distraía bailando riquísimo en un bikini muy muy pequeño, pero solamente por ustedes queridos podescuchas seguimos adelante sin importar las distracciones que se atravesaban, cada 30 segundos... encueradas. Nos encontramos a los bravos muchachos de swingee.com quienes amablemente nos platicaron un poco de lo que viene con esta red social, Ale anda prometiendo poner un videito porno en swingee nada más a ver que se siente, Manuel no podría estar más feliz con la idea. También platicamos con Srita. Puerto Rico quien además de tener un acento delicioso es súper buena onda y nos platicó desde el mismísimo corazón, fue un honor y un placer cotorrear con ella y ser invitados a sus festejos de cumpleaños, además de ser una pareja guapísima! Por ahí nos aventamos una entrevista en inglés con una pareja que es comiquísima y que son un desmadre, van para 20 visitas a Desire y eso debe ser alguna clase de récord, perdonaran la washawasheada en inglés pero de pronto hay que traspasar fronteras. Y así las cosas agradecemos infinitamente a Desire Resorts por darnos chance de armar nuestro desmadrito e interrumpir un poco el flujo del desmadre, General Manager, Enrique G y toda la banda fueron más que amables y más que pacientes con nosotros, por eso decimos e insistimos que Desire es nuestra segunda casa, estamos ansiosos por regresar en Agosto. Nos encanta leer sus correos en swingermexicopodcast@gmail.com prometemos contestar todos los correos (hasta los de los haters) y vamos a comentar todos los correos en el programa, manden sus dudas, preguntas, comentarios y cualquier cosa que se les ocurra.  No olviden seguirnos en Twitter @swingermexico_ donde Ale contesta personalmente a todos los podescuchas, y para los más atrevidos también está la cuenta personal de  Twitter de Ale @aleytiago donde hace de las suyas y pone fotitos de su día a día.   ¡MUCHAS GRACIAS POR ESCUCHAR!   Escúchanos en: iTunes  https://itunes.apple.com/mx/podcast/swinger-mexico-podcast/id1086751509?l=en SoundCloud  https://soundcloud.com/swinger-mexico-podcast Stitcher  http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=84744&refid=stpr Web (Libsyn) http://swingermexicopodcast.libsyn.com/  

We check back in to tell you what we’ve been up to and what we have coming down the road. It’s short and sweet. Hold on tight, it’s going to be a wild ride. Desire Resorts   Naughty in Nawlins SDC Promo Code: 25648 Kasidie Free Promo