We Heal Together

GUEST INFORMATION: ANUSHAY HOSSAIN'S BIOAnushay Hossain is a journalist and political analyst whose work is featured on CNN, MSNBC, PBS, and more. Her writings on politics, gender, race, immigration, and being Muslim in America are published on Forbes, CNN, The Daily Beast, and Medium.She is the author of The Pain Gap: How Sexism and Racism in Healthcare Kill Women. She is also the host of the Spilling Chai podcast.Anushay is the Washington Correspondent for the Daily Ittefaq where she pens a political column for the iconic Bangladeshi newspaper, providing in-depth analysis on the latest from Capitol Hill.She guest-hosted Al-Jazeera English's (AJE), “The Stream” from 2012-2013 and is a panelist on PBS' feminist news-analysis program, “To The Contrary.”Anushay completed her undergraduate studies at the University of Virginia (UVA) and has a Master's degree from the University of Sussex. A passionate linguist, she studied Italian while living in Rome and is fluent in five languages.Anushay is married and lives in Washington, DC with her husband and two children. ---------GUEST INFORMATION: ANUSHAY'S BOOK + OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT WITH HEROrder her book: The Pain Gap: How Sexism and Racism in Healthcare Kill WomenAmazonBookshopFollow Anushay on Instagram: @anushayhossainListen to her podcast: the Spilling ChaiFollow her podcast on Instagram: @spillingchaipodcastCheck out her website: https://anushayhossain.com/---------PODCAST INFOMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery-------RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORSAccess free Google Drive materials hereHelpful organizationsFinding affordable therapyCheck out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org, and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

GUEST INFORMATION: AMANDA E. WHITE, LPC'S BIOAmanda E. White, LPC, is an author and a therapist. She is the founder and director of Therapy for Women Center, a therapy practice based in Philadelphia with therapists across the country. As someone who has recovered from the trauma, substance abuse, and an eating disorder, Amanda knows about struggle. Her widely popular Instagram @therapyforwomen offers fantastic insights as well.---------GUEST INFORMATION: AMANDA'S BOOK + OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT WITH HERPreorder Amanda's Book (Release Date: January 4, 2022)Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You LoveFollow Amanda on Instagram: @therapyforwomenVisit Therapy for Women Center WebsiteVisit Amanda's Website--------RESOURCES MENTIONED BY AMANDA IN THE EPISODEReframe AppThe Luckiest ClubTempestHer book (release date of January 4, 2022)Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love---------PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryW-------RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORSAccess free Google Drive materials hereHelpful organizationsFinding affordable therapyCheck out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as wellPost Cordelia made about being an active bystander---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org, and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------CITATIONSWhat is gossip?DefinitionThe origins of gossip Evolutionary Psychology explanationIs gossip all bad?Trusted vs. not trustedHarmless gossiping can be goodSocietal benefits, such as holding others accountableCelebrity gossip can be good, tooOther studiesGossip can help morale in work placeMost of us engage in gossip, and it isn't necessarily a bad thingNegative gossip about celebritiesDartmouth study from June 2021How to navigate gossipingSuccessful gossiping tipsEvolutionary psychology perspectiveQuote about a good gossiperNot-so-good gossipingSharing to get aheadNot trusted by othersMean-spirited gossipSharing information to get back at someoneTactics to shut down unwanted gossip territoryAsk why you're telling me this-------RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORSAccess free Google Drive materials hereHelpful organizationsFinding affordable therapyCheck out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as wellPost Cordelia made about being an active bystander---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------CITATIONStweet about daddy issuesInstagram post about daddy issuesWhat is it?Joe Hemmings definitionUrban Dictionary DefinitionsFirst definitionSecond definitionThird definitionFourth definitionWhen is it used?People use it to shame women & 4 examplesUsed to describe women who are needy & woundedWhat's the issue?It deflects blame away from the toxic/abusive men onto the women they harm.Normalizing daddy issues makes women think their feelings are not validTells people we all need dads to be normalTells women they're going to seek out shitty relationships-------RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORSAccess free Google Drive materials hereHelpful organizationsFinding affordable therapyCheck out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as wellPost Cordelia made about being an active bystander---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification KitGuest Information: Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD's Bio

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------CITATIONSWhat is victim blaming?Why do people blame victims?StatisticsSexual AssaultDomestic violenceTips to support victimsThings to say to victims of sexual assaultSupport someone who is in an abusive relationshipActive Bystander**Check out post Cordelia did on Instagram re: active bystander-------RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORSAccess free Google Drive materials hereHelpful organizationsFinding affordable therapyCheck out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as wellPost Cordelia made about being an active bystander---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification KitGuest Information: Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD's Bio

BIO: LINDSAY C. GIBSON, PSYDLindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature (EI) parents. She is the author of Who You Were Meant to Be, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the just-released Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. She also writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Family magazine. In the past, she has served as adjunct assistant professor of graduate psychology for the College of William and Mary, as well as for Old Dominion University. Gibson lives and practices in Virginia Beach, VA.--------GUEST INFORMATION: DR. GIBSON'S BOOK + OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT WITH HER Buy Dr. Gibson's new release (release date: September 1, 2021)Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with ConfidenceBuy Dr. Gibson's other booksAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved ParentsRecovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional AutonomyWho You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Finding or Rediscovering Your Life PurposeDr. Gibson's WebsiteCheck out her articles in Tidewater Family magazine---------PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification KitGuest Information: Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD's Bio   

Episode NotesPODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit 

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit---CITATIONSDefinition of Closure The origins of closureGestalt Guy Winch Ted TalkPeer-Reviewed Papers About ClosureClosure + CovidWe can give ourselves closure

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every OTHER MondayMusic credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit---WORKSHEETSBody Neutrality Worksheets---CITATIONSSocietal ConsiderationsMedical BiasHarvard ArticleAmerican Psychological Association ArticleSociety https://www.teenvogue.com/story/standard-issues-white-supremacy-capitalism-influence-beautyWhite Wash Beauty StandardsWhat is body neutrality?Lauren Sharkey QuoteBryan Karazsia, Ph.D. QuoteWhat is body positivity?Where did body neutrality start?Quote by Miranda ParkQuestions to ask yourselfBody neutral mantrasBody Neutrality WorksheetsTed Talk by Bethany MyersHelpful phrases at doctor's office

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit---POSTS CORDELIA DID ON BILL COSBY & BRUCE CASTORPart OnePart Two---CITATIONSEvery single Court opinion from this case (on Google Drive)Google Map of Montgomery County, PA

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit---FREE LGBTQIA+ WORKSHEETSFree worksheets NOTE: This takes you to a folder I've created on Google Drive, where I've added 17 total free worksheets I compiled. As always, you can find all sources for these worksheets in the folder on the drive called "The Citations/Sources for Compiling" -- the free worksheets contain:A Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary YouthAction Tips for Allies of Non Monosexual / Bi / Pan / Fluid PeopleAction Tips for Allies of Trans PeopleBlack + LGBTQ- Approaching Intersectional ConversationsContinuum of Sex, Gender, and SexualityEmpathy and Awareness Activities for YouthGenderbread PersonIdeas for AlliesLGBTQ+ YouthMaking a Coming Out PlanMy Coming Out “Master Plan”Pronouns ChartTerminologyThe Safe Space Kit: Guide to Being an Ally to LGBT StudentsTrans Ally WorkbookTrevor-Project One SheetWhen a Friend "Comes Out"---POSTS CORDELIA DID ON GENDER AND SEXSex vs. GenderExamples of different gendersGender is a social constructUnpacking hateful commentsPronouns---CITATIONSPronouns: A How-To GuideYouth Homelessness StatsA Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary YouthAction Tips for Allies of Non Monosexual / Bi / Pan / Fluid PeopleAction Tips for Allies of Trans PeopleBlack + LGBTQ- Approaching Intersectional ConversationsIdeas for AlliesThe Safe Space Kit: Guide to Being an Ally to LGBT StudentsWhen a Friend "Comes Out"

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit---FREE LGBTQIA+ WORKSHEETSFree worksheets NOTE: This takes you to a folder I've created on Google Drive, where I've added 17 total free worksheets I compiled. As always, you can find all sources for these worksheets in the folder on the drive called "The Citations/Sources for Compiling" -- the free worksheets contain:A Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary YouthAction Tips for Allies of Non Monosexual / Bi / Pan / Fluid PeopleAction Tips for Allies of Trans PeopleBlack + LGBTQ- Approaching Intersectional ConversationsContinuum of Sex, Gender, and SexualityEmpathy and Awareness Activities for YouthGenderbread PersonIdeas for AlliesLGBTQ+ YouthMaking a Coming Out PlanMy Coming Out “Master Plan”Pronouns ChartTerminologyThe Safe Space Kit: Guide to Being an Ally to LGBT StudentsTrans Ally WorkbookTrevor-Project One SheetWhen a Friend "Comes Out"---POSTS CORDELIA DID ON GENDER AND SEXSex vs. GenderExamples of different gendersGender is a social constructUnpacking hateful commentsPronouns---CITATIONSA Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary Youth. The Trevor Project. (2021, March 26). Retrieved June 20, 2021 from https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/trevor-support-center/a-guide-to-being-an-ally-to-transgender-and-nonbinary-youth/Intersex informationStatistics on number of intersex folks born in the USPronouns: A How-To. (n.d.) Retrieved June 20, 2021 from https://www.diversitycenterneo.org/about-us/pronouns/ Article I referenced about trial where attorney called women the weaker sexWashington Post Op Ed by Dr. Weeden

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGYDisclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram. Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!These are the leashes I use for my dogs:Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)Extra Leash (w/o Belt)CarabinerOr, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website---SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.Key things to know:Results generally back in 2-4 weeksTests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in AmericaMost accurate dog DNA test on the marketThe Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risksAnalyzes over 200K genetic markersWorld's only canine DNA relative finderUse links below:Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 offEmbark Breed Identification Kit

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: BETTERHELPALL LISTENERS OF WE HEAL TOGETHER PODCAST GET 10% OFF THEIR FIRST MONTH. SIMPLY CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP: www.betterhelp.com/cordeliaDisclosure: This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Cordelia will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---GUEST INFORMATION: JUDY DELAWARE, OTR/LS BIOJudy Delaware, OTR/L is an Occupational Therapist and Feeding Specialist who has been providing home-based feeding intervention within the infant-toddler population for the last 20 years via her private practice, Positive Therapeutic Beginnings LLC. She has over 39 years of experience working with infants and children in private practice, hospital settings and clinics. Judy is a mother of two and combines many years of practical parenting experience with sensory, motor, oral, and child development training using a fun, family-centered approach. She lives in Louisville, Colorado with her husband and dogs.---GUEST INFORMATION: WAYS TO CONNECT WITH FEEDING LITTLESCheck out the Feeding Littles websiteFollow @feedinglittles on InstagramFollow Feeding Littles on Facebook----FEEDING LITTLES COURSESCheck out Feeding Little's online courses - BE SURE TO USE COUPON CODE "wehealtogether"  for a discount on their e-courses Note: I do not receive compensation for the coupon code, but I do think it is awesome Feeding Littles is offering it to  the listeners 

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereInterested in any other affiliate links? Click hereNote: affiliate links mean Cordelia  earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---SPONSOR INFO: BETTERHELPALL LISTENERS OF WE HEAL TOGETHER PODCAST GET 10% OFF THEIR FIRST MONTH. SIMPLY CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP: www.betterhelp.com/cordeliaDisclosure: This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Cordelia will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.---GUEST INFORMATION: ERIN O CONNOR'S BIOThe Director of New York University's Early Childhood Education Program, Erin is a tenured professor and holds a Doctorate in Human Development and Psychology from the Harvard Graduate School of Education, a Masters in Teaching from Fordham University, and a Masters in School Psychology from Columbia University. Erin teaches human development and education classes to pre- and in-service teachers in New York City schools. She also co-directs a community partnership working with families and caregivers. In addition, Erin leads a research program examining relationships with mothers and teachers and the impacts of these relationships on children's development in early and middle childhood. She also conducts randomized control trials of relationship-building interventions on the language and social development of pre-kindergarten children from low-income families and neighborhoods. Erin has published in educational and psychology journals including the American Educational Research Journal, Journal of Educational Psychology, and Journal of Applied Psychology. Her work is supported by grants from several institutions including the Institute for Education Sciences. She is a member of the American Educational Research Association, American Psychological Association, and the Society for Research in Child Development.---GUEST INFORMATION: WAYS TO CONNECT + FOLLOW ALONG WITH ERINCheck out Erin’s websiteBook a one-on-one consultationCheck out the offerings on Erin’s websiteFollow @scientificmommy on InstagramFollow Scientific Mommy on FacebookRead more about Erin-----RECOMMENDATIONS TO KEEP LEARNING ABOUT INDEPENDENT PLAY (mentioned by Erin in the episode)Dr. Stuart Brown's websiteTools of the Mind websiteBooks by Vivian  Gussin PaleyBonus resource: Article on Erin's website published on May 28, 2021 - 5 Research-Backed Strategies to Encourage Independent Play

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here---SPONSOR INFO: BETTER HELPALL LISTENERS OF WE HEAL TOGETHER PODCAST GET 10% OFF THEIR FIRST MONTH. SIMPLY CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP: www.betterhelp.com/cordeliaDisclosure: This podcast is sponsored by Better Help. Cordelia will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here---------CITATIONSWhat are trigger warnings?The origins of trigger warningsAvoidance isn't a good thingStudiesBridgland, V. M. E., & Takarangi, M. K. T. (2021). Danger! Negative memories ahead: The effect of warnings on reactions to and recall of negative memories. Memory, 29(3), 319–329. https://doi.org/10.1080/09658211.2021.1892147Jones, P. J., Bellet, B. W., & McNally, R. J. (2020). Helping or Harming? The Effect of Trigger Warnings on Individuals With Trauma Histories. Clinical Psychological Science, 8(5), 905–917. https://doi.org/10.1177/2167702620921341Sanson, M., Strange, D., & Garry, M. (2019). Trigger Warnings Are Trivially Helpful at Reducing Negative Affect, Intrusive Thoughts, and Avoidance. Clinical Psychological Science, 7(4), 778–793. https://doi.org/10.1177/2167702619827018 Bellet, B. W., Jones, P. J., & McNally, R. J. (2018). Trigger warning: Empirical evidence ahead. Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry, 61, 134–141. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jbtep.2018.07.002Gainsburg, I., & Earl, A. (2018). Trigger warnings as an interpersonal emotion-regulation tool: Avoidance, attention, and affect depend on beliefs. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 79, 252–263. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jesp.2018.08.006---Instagram Post Cordelia did on Trigger Warningshttps://www.instagram.com/p/CO2-U2FDHSa/

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

GUEST INFORMATION: WHITNEY GOODMANFollow her on Instagram: @sitwithwhitWhitney’s Course ($7.99): Press Pause: How To Put The Brakes On BurnoutSign up for her Emotions 101 CourseInterested in other courses, worksheets, and workbooks by Whitney? Click here to access her store---------PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here---------CITATIONSDefinition of conspiracy theoryIncrease in attention, not increase in belief Studies referenced:One study found that half of all Americans believe in at least one conspiracy theory.2013 study: over a third of Americans believe that global warming is a hoax.2013 study: over half of Americans believe that Lee Harvey Oswald did not act alone in the assassination of John F. KennedyCOVIDA May 2020 online survey of 2,501 adults in England found that 25 percent of respondents believe unproven COVID-19 conspiracy theories.In October 2020…More than 1 in 3 Americans believe that the Chinese government engineered the coronavirus as a weapon, and another third are convinced that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has exaggerated the threat of Covid-19 to undermine President Trump.A handful of people set 5G telecommunications towers ablaze after reading social media posts that alleged the new technology can cause COVID-19. Voter/ElectionA January 2021 poll of 1,239 U.S. voters found that 77 percent of Republican respondents believe there was widespread election fraud, despite courts ruling otherwise.See also:"Attorney General William Barr said last month that the U.S. Justice Department has found no evidence of widespread voter fraud. Even Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell—a Republican ally of Trump through much of his presidency—recently called some of Trump’s voter fraud claims “sweeping conspiracy theories.”Why do people believe them?The need for certainty & knowledgeConspiracy theories offer explanations that provide this connection during uncertainty.  They want to know what happened.COVID ExampleA person's education level also can influence this..Confirmation BiasThe need for controlwhen feeling anxiouswhen they feel powerlessThe need to feel good about themselvesFeel uniqueThey see a benefit in it"For example, someone may strongly prefer that a certain political candidate win an election because they think that person will keep them physically and financially safe. Other people may not want to believe climate change is real because they work or invest in the coal industry."Collective Narcissism StudyCertain personality factors make people more prone to believe conspiracy theories.Another studyIdeas of populismConservative media consumptionSocial ConnectionPrideConsequencesIncreased anxiety and negative schemasSocietyCapitol Hill"Then came January 6 and a vivid illustration of the consequences of the conspiracies the president and the right-wing conspiracy theorist had been promoting. The pro-Trump mob that ransacked the Capitol building chanted slogans like, “fight for Trump,” and were spurred on by the conspiracy theory that the 2020 election was stolen from Trump."Measles/refusal to vaccinateDiminishes trust in scienceDiscourages people from participating in the social worldHow to dealQuote by Joseph A. Vitrol

Bio: Dr. Nicole LePeraDr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy.  Wanting more for her patients— and for self— she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. She is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement where people from around the world are joining together in community to take healing into their own hands. Her first book, How to Do the Work, was released in March 2021. --------The Essentials: Dr. Nicole LePeraOrder How to Do the WorkHer Free Future Self Journal promptsSelfHealers Circle Waitlist@the.holistic.psychologist (Instagram)The.holistic.psychologist (Facebook)Subscribe to her YouTube channel hereCheck out her link tree here--------ORDER THE BOOKHow to Do the Work---------PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

Guest Information: Dr. Mariel BuquèCheck out Dr. Mariel Buquè’s website hereJoin her Soul Healing Collective MembershipFollow Dr. Mariel Buquè on Instagram (@dr.marielbuque)Check out her Youtube channel hereJoin her for emotional freedom sessions on Ritual--------BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn When Ancestors Weep: Healing the Soul from Intergenerational Trauma by James A Houck Jr., Ph.D.My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem ---------PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Check out Cordelia's book recommendations hereDisclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

GUEST INFO: CARRIE GOLDBERGBuy her book: Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls by Carrie GoldbergRead Carrie’s bio: hereFollow Carrie on Instagram (@cagoldberglaw) or Twitter (@cagoldberglaw)Interested in hiring Carrie as your attorney?Visit her website: www.cagoldberglaw.comFill out the contact formCall (646) 666-8908Email: info@cagoldberglaw.com--------BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSNobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls by Carrie Goldberg--RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORSFAQs for US Nonconsensual Porn Victims FAQs for US Victims re: Online PrivacyCCRI Crisis Helpline (844-878-2274)International Victim Resources (outside US)Without My ConsentCarrie’s map of the US States with Revenge Porn LawsHelpful guidesCarrie’s guide of how to report on social mediaCarrie’s Incident Tracking ChartEvidence preservationCopyright RegistrationHow to do a DMCA TakedownOnline Removal GuideTipsCarrie’s 5 Steps for Sextortion VictimsCarrie’s 5 Steps if You Are Being BlackmailedCarrie’s 5 Steps if You Are Being StalkedHelpful tips for victims of revenge pornOnline support websites for survivorsSurvivors of online harassment: HeartmobSurvivors of nonconsensual photo sharing: Badass ArmyNeed an attorney?Interested in hiring Carrie as your attorney?Visit her website: www.cagoldberglaw.comFill out the contact formCall (646) 666-8908Email: info@cagoldberglaw.comOther optionsCyber Civil Rights Initiative ListPro bono: The law firm of K&L Gates now offers pro bono legal services to victims of revenge porn through their Cyber Civil Rights Legal Project. Go to http://www.cyberrightsproject.com/ for more information and to fill out a contact form.---------PODCAST INFOA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery---------WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + FREE RESOURCESAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

GUEST INFO: TODD BARATZ, LMHCInstagram: @yourdiagnonsenseLink Tree: https://linktr.ee/yourdiagnonsenseCourses: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/coursesWant to get on the waitlist to work with Todd? Click here.---------Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

GUEST INFO: LAUREN FOGEL MERSY, PSYD, LPWays to connect with herInstagram: @drlaurenfogelmersyLinktree: https://linktr.ee/drlaurenfogelmersyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drlaurenfogelmersy/Are you a Minnesota resident that would like to work with her? Click here.Want to check out some articles she has written or listen to other podcasts she has done?  Click hereCredentialsBachelor of Arts in psychology from York University in Toronto, CanadaMaster of Arts in clinical psychology from the Arizona School of Professional Psychology at Argosy University of PhoenixDoctor of psychology in clinical psychology from the Arizona School of Professional Psychology at Argosy University in Phoenix2-year post-doctoral training in human sexuality at the Program in Human Sexuality at the University of MinnesotaCompleted Level 3 training in Gottman Method Couples TherapyLicensed Psychologist in the state of MinnesotaCertified Sex Therapist by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)--------BOOKS REFERENCED IN THE EPISODEPeriod Power: Harness Your Hormones and Get Your Cycle Working For You by Maisie HillWhen Sex Hurts: A Woman's Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain  by Andrew Goldstein MD, Caroline Pukall PhD, & Irwin Goldstein MD --------SEX TOY SHOPS REFERENCED IN THE EPISODESmitten Kitten Early to Bed--------OTHER USEFUL TOOLSTo search for a certified sex therapist in your area visit: https://www.aasect.org/---------Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here

GUEST INFO: DR. ALEXANDRA SOLOMONWays to connect with herInstagram: @dr.alexandra.solomonDr. Solomon’s Website: http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/Take her Intimate Relationships 101 CourseDr. Solomon’s Intimate Relationships 101 Course Please note: the link to the above course contains an  affiliate link, which means if you use  this link to buy the course, I may earn a commission.Want to check out more of Dr. Solomon’s Work?Books by Dr. SolomonDr. Solomon’s Ted TalkDr. Solomon’s Psychology Today BlogAbout Dr. SolomonProfessionLicensed Clinical Psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University (Licensed in the State of Illinois)Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern UniversityDegrees/EducationBachelor of Arts in Psychology and Women’s Studies — University of MichiganGraduate certificate in Gender Studies from Northwestern UniversityM.A. in Counseling Psychology — Northwestern UniversityPhD in Counseling Psychology —Northwestern University, graduated 2001WritingAuthor of two books (Books by Dr. Solomon)Blogger for Psychology TodayPublished in peer-reviewed academic journalsServes as an ad hoc reviewer for leading journals like Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy (JMFT) and Family ProcessMedia She is frequently asked to consult with the media on topics related to love, sex, and marriage including O Magazine, Oprah Winfrey Network (#OWNshow), The Today Show, CBS Early Show, The Atlantic, NPR, Huffington Post, Scientific American, New York Times, and Vogue---------Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here------------Want to learn more about Boundaries?Access to free worksheets on boundaries? Click hereCheck out prior podcasts that Cordelia did on boundaries:Let's Talk About Boundaries: Part 1.Let's Talk about Boundaries: Part 2.Let's Talk About Setting Boundaries vs Controlling Other People. 

GUEST INFO:  SORAYA CHEMALYWays to connect with herTwitter: @schemalyInstagram: @sorayachemalyFacebook: Soraya ChemalyInstagram for Rage Becomes Her: @ragebecomesherSoraya Chemaly’s Website: http://www.sorayachemaly.com/Rage Becomes HerBUY RAGE BECOMES HERWant to check out more of Soraya's Work?Check out all her books hereSoraya's Ted TalkOther events Soraya has spoken atOther online writing that Soraya has doneThe Representation ProjectSign up for their newsletterThe Representation Project's website----SORAYA CHEMALY'S BIOSoraya Chemaly is currently the Executive Director of The Representation Project. An award-winning author and activist, she writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. The former director and co-founder of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women’s civic and political participation.Soraya is also the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger, which was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Autostraddle and NPR and has been translated into several languages. She is a contributor to multiple anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World. Her work as a writer, activist, and organizer is featured widely in media, books, and academic research.Soraya currently serves on the national boards of the Women's Media Center, Women in Journalism, and the DC Volunteer Lawyers Project. She has also served on the boards of Women, Action and the advisory councils of the Center for Democracy and Technology, VIDA, Secular Woman, FORCE: Upsetting Rape Culture, No Bully, and Common Sense Media DC. As an activist, Ms. Chemaly has spearheaded successful campaigns challenging corporations to address online abuse, restrictive content moderation and censorship, and institutional biases that affect free speech.In 2013, Soraya won the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication’s (AEJMC)'s Award for Feminist Advocacy and the Secular Woman Activism Award. In 2014, she was named one of Elle Magazine's 25 Inspiring Women to Follow in social media, and, in 2016, the recipient of the Women’s Institute for Freedom of the Press’s Women and Media Award. In 2017, she was the co-recipient of the Newhouse Mirror Award for Best Single Feature of 2016 for an in-depth investigative report on free speech and social media, and a Wikipedia Distinguished Service Award for exemplary contributions to the advancement of public knowledge and educational content. In 2019, she was awarded the Feminist Press’ Feminist Power Award. Prior to 2010, Ms. Chemaly spent more than fifteen years as a market development executive and consultant in the media and data technology industries. After several years in market development at the Gannett Corporation, she moved into the data tech sector at Claritas, ending her tenure there as SVP of Marketing Strategy.---------Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here 

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver----BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver--WORKSHEETSGottman Worksheets---UPCOMING GUESTS' INFORMATIONSORAYA CHEMALY - EPISODE: FEBRUARY 15, 2021Twitter: @schemalyInstagram: @sorayachemalyWebsite: http://www.sorayachemaly.com/Buy her book: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya ChemalyDR. LAUREN FOGEL MERSY - EPISODE: MARCH 1, 2021Instagram: @drlaurenfogelmersyHer Link Tree with access to other places to find her work: https://linktr.ee/drlaurenfogelmersy

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR QUOTES FROM TODAY'S EPISODEThe Alchemist by Paulo Coelho Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner, PhDThe Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhDThe Language of Letting go by Melody Beattie--WORKSHEETSWorksheets on controlling behaviorsWorksheets on codependency 

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEThe Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD----BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSThe Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD--WORKSHEETSWorksheets on listening

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEGeneral OverviewThe Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhDWhat makes a good listenerArticle: the first 1-7Remainder that Cordelia went through from: The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhDWhat makes a bad listenerThe Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhDImpeding listening - Article: the first 1-7Common roadblocks to listeningThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, PhD, Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, and Jeffrey Brantley, MD----BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSThe Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD--WORKSHEETSWorksheets on listening

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEAtomic Habits by James ClearStages of ChangeStages of Change Second ArticleDefinition of a habitStudy On How Long It Takes to Form a HabitTips to change Tips on change (more)----BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSAtomic Habits by James Clear--WORKSHEETSHabit WorksheetsChange Worksheets

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODETools to help you figure it out------MOVIE/BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSGaslight 1944 Film (Rent or Buy on Apple)Gaslight 1944 Film (Wikipedia page)The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robert Stern---INSTAGRAM POSTS I'VE DONE ON TIPS + SIGNSTools to Help You if You are Being GaslightedQuestions to Ask to Figure Out if You are Being Gaslighted10 Things to Do if You’re Being GaslightedBest Ways to Handle being Gaslighted--RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORSGoogle Drive full of resources for survivorsNeed help? Tons of organizations hereNeed a counselor? Check this PDF out

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEGaslight 1944 Film (Rent or Buy on Apple)Gaslight 1944 Film (Wikipedia page)Remake Chronicles ArticleDefinition of gaslighting: Abramson, K. (2014). Turning up the lights on gaslighting. Philosophical Perspectives, 281, 1–30Dorpat, Theodore L. (1996). Gaslighting, the Double Whammy, Interrogation, and Other Methods of Covert Control in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis.  Northvale, NJ: Jason Aronson. pp. 31–46. ISBN 978-1-56821-828-1. OCLC 34548677. “In order to be effective, gaslighting depends on first convincing the victim that his thinking is distorted and secondly persuading him that the victimizer's ideas are the correct and true ones.” – Page 45More likely to stay in abusive relationship (the hotline)Gaslighting TechniquesSarkis, Stephanie (2018). Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People – and Break Free. Da Capo Press. ISBN 978-0738284668. OCLC 1023486127 (Triangulation)--MOVIE/BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSGaslight 1944 Film (Rent or Buy on Apple)Gaslight 1944 Film (Wikipedia page)The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robert Stern---INSTAGRAM POSTS I'VE DONE ON TIPS + SIGNSTools to Help You if You are Being GaslightedQuestions to Ask to Figure Out if You are Being Gaslighted10 Things to Do if You’re Being GaslightedBest Ways to Handle being Gaslighted--RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORSGoogle Drive full of resources for survivorsNeed help? Tons of organizations hereNeed a counselor? Check this PDF out

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEThe apology is not the only time to talk about [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]Only apologize if you mean itSay it once [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]Keep it short [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]Don’t use it as a device to shut someone up [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD] or to get what you wantDon't overdo or make it over the top [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]Watch your body languageStart it with I’m sorry or I apologize (Mindtools)Spell out the mistake (Mindtools)Be sincere and authentic (Mindtools)Don’t make excuses (Mindtools)Own your impactSay what you should have doneListen to the other personDon’t demand forgivenessKeep the focus on your actions—and not on the other person’s responseDon't get caught up on who started on it or who is to blameState your future plans to make amendsDo your best to not repeat the behaviorDon’t expect things to go back to normal immediatelyBONUS TIP: Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD--BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSWhy Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEOverview of an ApologyDefinition of Apologize (Merriam-Webster)Two key elements of an apology (Mind Tools)You cannot force an apology (Psychcentral)Harriet Lerner quote from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhDMotives for apologyFour parts to an apology according to O’HaraTypes of shitty apologiesTactical apologiesIf apologiesNYT ExamplesI’m sorry ifJets ExampleI’m sorry butI’m sorry youDéjà vuYou know I am..I guess I..Not my apologyActions but no wordsLet’s make a dealBringing up the other person’s crime sheet (Harriet Lerner) from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhDMartyr/Victim Playing - from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhDDemanding forgivenessLove you though (or miss you)Time passingGeneric “for everything”Sarcasm: sorry!Passive VoiceFamous examples--BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSWhy Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEHuman NatureDesert Alchemy - ReactivityBrain addicted to being rightFlexible ThinkingDefinitions of emotional reactivity and emotional regulationEmotional ReactivityLists by Lynne NamkaThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)TipsPrioritizing compassion & kindnessOxytocinTipsMore tipsWhat zone am I in?Don't Rush over DisagreementsGretchen Rubin on Oppositional Conversational StyleAnything I can do to change your mind?--------FREE WORKSHEETSDistress Tolerance WorksheetsEmotional Regulation WorksheetsEmotional Vocabulary WorksheetsInterpersonal Skills Worksheets---------WORKBOOK RECOMMENDATIONSThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)Self-Esteem Workbook

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click hereNeed help finding a counselor? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEWorking with the Parts worksheetExploring your own systemConnecting to the Self & the 8 C'sIFS GlossarySaffiotti, L. M., Ph.D., & Dlugos, R., Ph.D. (2012). Engaging Resistance in the Service of Communal Discernment. Lecture. Retrieved November 15, 2020, from https://www.relforcon.org/sites/default/files/Transform_Wkshp-Saffiotti-TRLNA-Resistance-Handout.pptIFS PowerpointIFS OutlineSelf-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition by Jay EarleyInternal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition by Richard C. SchwartzIFS Therapy Video Compass of Self-Led ActivismIFS and EDs by Derek Scott--------FREE WORKSHEETSInternal Family Systems Worksheets---------BOOK RECOMMENDATIONSSelf-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition by Jay EarleyYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For (Internal Family Systems) by Richard C. Schwartz Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition by Richard C. Schwartz 

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODECambridge Dictionary Definition of ControlLexico Definition of ControlHistory of Black Lives MatterGeorge FloydBreonna TaylorCovid19Trump lawsuitsBiden wins the presidency (LOL..used Fox News just for y'all)--------FREE WORKSHEETSCordelia's Instagram post on Boundaries vs. ControlBoundaries worksheetsPersonal Values worksheetsCodependency worksheets

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEQuote by LecraeDefinition of validationDefinitions of internal validation & external validationHow it shows upWhy you may be seeking validationOverprotective parentingTips on self-validationMore tips on self-validationDBT skills on self-validationBanking analogyThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills WorkbookValidate yourself--------FREE WORKSHEETSSelf-Validation worksheetsDBT worksheetsCBT worksheetsEmotions worksheets 

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEConformity. (n.d.). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/conformityEdwards, V. V. (2020, June 20). 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You. Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.scienceofpeople.com/people-pleaser/Ever-So-Slight Delay Improves Decision-Making Accuracy. (2014, March 07). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/ever-so-slight-delay-improves-decision-making-accuracy?utm_source=rssHow to Stop Being a People Pleaser. (2018, April 12). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8hYTPl7MkiAMcleod, S. (2016). What is Conformity? Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.simplypsychology.org/conformity.htmlTartakovsky, M., M.S. (2018, October 08). 21 Tips to Stop Being a People-Pleaser. Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/lib/21-tips-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/Seltzer, L. (2008, July 27). From Parent-Pleasing to People-Pleasing (Part 3 of 3). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/200807/parent-pleasing-people-pleasing-part-3-3Wilding, M., LMSW. (2018, July 08). 4 Steps to Stop Seeking Approval from Others. Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/4-steps-to-stop-seeking-approval-from-others/

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?   Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEDefinitions: cognitive and distortionCognitive processes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLCxjvrdy3MThe Self-Esteem Workbook - Schiraldi, G. R. (2017). Recognize and Replace Self-Defeating Thoughts. The self-esteem workbook (2nd ed., pp. 46-47). Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.Grohol, J. M., Psy.D. (2019, June 24). 15 Common Cognitive Distortions. Retrieved October 31, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-cognitive-distortions/---WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH COGNITIVE DISTORTIONSCheck out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive (including folders on challenging thoughts, thought records, an overview of cognitive distortions, etc.) 

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEhttp://www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdfhttps://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/healthy-boundaries-tips.pdfGilbertson, T., LPC. (2016, April 08). 3 Essential Ways to Protect Your Personal Boundaries. Retrieved October 24, 2020, from http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/constructive-wallowing/201604/3-essential-ways-protect-your-personal-boundaries ---WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH BOUNDARIESCheck out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google DriveTake the assessment Cordelia mentioned in the episode here

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEhttp://www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdfhttps://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/healthy-boundaries-tips.pdfBoundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John TownsendThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, & Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, PhD, Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, & Jeffrey Brantley, MD ---WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH BOUNDARIESCheck out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here---------We Heal Together Zoom Book Club or We Heal Together Community HangsAll info can be found here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEDodes, L., M.D. (2013, August 28). Don't Stay Sober "One Day at a Time". Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-heart-addiction/201308/dont-stay-sober-one-day-timeFerguson, P. L., Ph.D. (1999). What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like? Retrieved October 3, 2020, from http://www.peggyferguson.com/userfiles/10846/file/NewPDFSw_CartButtons/recovery%20solutions%20for%20addicted%20families/What%20Does%20Recovery%20From%20Codependency%20Look%20Like.pdfSmith, A. (2010, December 01). How to Break the Pattern of Love Addiction. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healthy-connections/201012/how-break-the-pattern-love-addictionPowerpoint: http://activerecoveryla.org/files/2016/07/Codependency.pdfhttps://static1.squarespace.com/static/57ec3df6f5e231ada41bb9cc/t/57ed53a537c58182f816d1cc/1475171237566/Dysfunctional+Families.pdf---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNCordelia's Google Drive Folders with Worksheets:Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on Codependency: https://drive.google.com/drive/u/3/folders/1saTSJTr80Q14akn5Kq-49d8FOGg7efvLAccess to Google Drive folder on changing your thoughts: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1c5y8L2ds_UQvojeAuwhdlPCCdkqAqlxW?usp=sharing Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on boundaries: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-O0w6msiqSpsomkkcUu3VmZsFcKFTz36/view?usp=sharingRecommended Books & WorkbooksCodependent No More: How To Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie: order hereBoundaries by Drs. John Townsend and Henry Cloud: order hereFacing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody: order hereBreaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller: order hereLove is a Choice Workbook: Recovery for Codependent Relationships by Dr. Robert Hemfelt and Dr. Frank Minirth: order here

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODECo-Dependency. (n.d.). Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.mhanational.org/issues/co-dependencyCodependency. (2016, July 13). Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://havenhelps.com/Post/CodependencyLancer, D. (n.d.). Codependency For Dummies Cheat Sheet. Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://www.dummies.com/health/mental-health/codependency-for-dummies-cheat-sheet/Selva, J., Bc.S. (2020, September 01). Codependency: What Are The Signs & How To Overcome It. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://positivepsychology.com/codependency-definition-signs-worksheets/Smith, A. (2010, December 01). How to Break the Pattern of Love Addiction. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healthy-connections/201012/how-break-the-pattern-love-addictionPowerpoint: http://activerecoveryla.org/files/2016/07/Codependency.pdfFamily History Exercise: Henley, J. M., MSW, LCSW, CEAP, SAP. (2013, December 18). Codependency Workbook Exercise One: Family History. Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/recovery-workbook-exercise-1-012412/Video on Karpman Triangle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_keU0-F43hI https://static1.squarespace.com/static/57ec3df6f5e231ada41bb9cc/t/57ed53a537c58182f816d1cc/1475171237566/Dysfunctional+Families.pdf---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNVideo on Karpman Triangle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_keU0-F43hI Cordelia's Google Drive Folders with Worksheets:Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on Codependency: https://drive.google.com/drive/u/3/folders/1saTSJTr80Q14akn5Kq-49d8FOGg7efvLAccess to worksheets on Google drive folder on boundaries: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-O0w6msiqSpsomkkcUu3VmZsFcKFTz36/view?usp=sharingAccess to worksheets on Google drive folder on dysfunctional families: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/19AJtKS4rT2ghWMmUnjNZ6nq3c9KRwFh_?usp=sharingRecommended Books & WorkbooksCodependent No More: How To Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie: order hereBoundaries by Drs. John Townsend and Henry Cloud: order hereFacing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody: order hereBreaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller: order hereLove is a Choice Workbook: Recovery for Codependent Relationships by Dr. Robert Hemfelt and Dr. Frank Minirth: order here

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEHow To Overcome Sexual Shame (And Finally Love Sex) -. (2018, November 11). Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/how-to-overcome-sexual-shame-and-finally-love-sex/Nagoski, E. (2015). Come as you are: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.Easton, D., & Hardy, J. (2017). The ethical slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other adventures. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379Spector, D. (2013, October 15). 11 Groundbreaking Findings That Changed How We Think About Sex. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.businessinsider.com/11-findings-that-revolutionized-our-understanding-of-sex-2013-10Locke, S. (2014, July 01). Sex researchers manage to study the most intimate of human experiences. Here's how. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.vox.com/2014/7/1/5858034/sex-researchers-manage-to-study-the-most-intimate-of-human---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNhttps://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/   - Again, Cordelia's website has  "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.Recommended BooksThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti:  https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98FCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4WorksheetsSex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdfIt helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) - https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdfThis could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like.  It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdfYou can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together.  Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEGeneralCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.Sex Educationhttps://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/issues/sex-education/how-sex-education-fundedhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/gender-and-schooling/201812/funding-abstinence-the-war-sex-edhttps://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/138/2/e20161348.full.pdfhttps://www.publichealth.columbia.edu/public-health-now/news/high-school-sex-ed-may-prevent-sexual-assault-collegehttps://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1002/j.2379-3988.2010.tb00065.xhttps://www.guttmacher.org/news-release/2006/premarital-sex-nearly-universal-among-americans-and-has-been-decades Sex Talkhttps://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.https://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/41/81/4181fd5b-b359-480d-8f91-6f9fffda6cb3/nationalpoll_09-14_v2_1_1.pdfhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/05/21/what-happens-to-our-girls-when-we-dont-talk-about-sex/Policing Clothinghttps://www.coasthighschool.com/apps/pages/index.jsp?uREC_ID=687686&type=d&pREC_ID=1127290Letter by mom to Notre Dame re Leggings: https://ndsmcobserver.com/2019/03/the-legging-problem/https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/news/a21667/united-airlines-girl-leggings-shaming/https://time.com/36997/when-enforcing-school-dress-codes-turns-into-slut-shaming/https://jezebel.com/lets-reinvent-the-dont-be-a-slut-school-dress-code-509077807https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/virtue_signalinghttps://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/Orgasm Gaphttps://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/orgasm-gap-why-it-exists-what-women-can-do-about-ncna983311---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNhttps://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/   - Again, Cordelia's website has  "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.Recommended BooksThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti:  https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98FCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4Tips for Talking to Kids about Sexhttps://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/cd/e3/cde39a0f-0bbb-4d30-a6e1-613d3bf8d020/27_lets-talk-tv-parents-checklist_d12.pdfhttps://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.WorksheetsSex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdfIt helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) - https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdfThis could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like.  It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdfYou can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together.  Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODESexual Shamehttps://familysolutionsok.com/breaking-bad-parenting-legacy-sexual-shame/https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2014/02/linking-sexual-shame-and-addiction/VirginityThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica ValentiThe Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardyhttps://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/Slut shamehttps://feminisminindia.com/2017/04/07/slut-shaming-friend-zone-objectification/https://www.verywellfamily.com/the-effects-of-slut-shaming-on-teen-girls-460586https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNhttps://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/   - Again, Cordelia's website has  "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.Recommended BooksThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti:  https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98FCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4Instagram Post with Questions: https://www.instagram.com/p/CD_1zZ_J5iw/WorksheetsSex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdfIt helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) - https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdfThis could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like.  It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdfYou can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together.  Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here---------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEI Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW - https://www.amazon.com/Thought-Was-Just-but-isnt-ebook/dp/B000SEHDGM (book on Amazon)Shame + Codependency -https://wakeuprecovery.com/the-relationship-between-shame-and-codependency/Brené Brown - Definition of Shame: https://brenebrown.com/definitions/Definition of Guilt - https://www.collinsdictionary.com/us/dictionary/english/guiltBrené Brown – Shame vs. Guilt - https://fs.blog/2014/10/brene-brown-guilt-shame/#:~:text=Bren%C3%A9%20Brown%20studies%20vulnerability%2C%20courage%2C%20authenticity%2C%20and%20shame.&text=Shame%20is%20a%20focus%20on,%2C%20%E2%80%9CI'm%20sorry.Article on shame/guilt - https://psychcentral.com/lib/shame-the-core-of-addiction-and-codependency/Codependency - https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/codependencyShame-Based Identity - https://onlinecounsellingcollege.tumblr.com/post/182966686457/understanding-a-shame-based-identityShame Resilience Theory- https://positivepsychology.com/shame-resilience-theory/Ways to Heal: https://positivepsychology.com/resilience-activities-worksheets/#shame-resilience---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNBrené Brown's Shame Exercise - (NOTE: Click on “Reading Guides” and select “ITIWJM Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough.”)  - https://brenebrown.com/downloads/ -Example of Lists I Made Exercise -  https://www.instagram.com/p/CEwe78Kp9dG/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_linkSelf-Compassion Exercises by Dr. Kristin Neff (8 total) - https://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/Exercise #1: How would you treat a friend? - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-1-treat-friend/Exercise #2: Self-Compassion Break - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-2-self-compassion-break/Exercise #3: Exploring Self-Compassion Through Writing - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-3-exploring-self-compassion-writing/Exercise #4: Supportive Touch - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-4-supportive-touch/Exercise #5: Changing Your Critical Self-Talk - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-5-changing-critical-self-talk/Exercise #6: Self-Compassion Journal - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-6-self-compassion-journal/Exercise #7: Identifying What We Really Want - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-7-identifying-really-want/Exercise #8: Taking Care of the Caregiving - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-8-taking-care-caregiver/Cordelia's website's  "self-healing" resources (over 20 free worksheets/tools) - https://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/