One Broken Mom

For some people, loving relationships seem impossible. Our culture has given us many lies about love and intimacy, like the idea that we should be able to find our soulmate or that true love is easy. Unfortunately, many of us also suffer from complex PTSD due to relational trauma and have not seen or been a part of a healthy, secure relationship. So, has your past trauma made you incapable of having a healthy relationship? What if you've been abused so severely in childhood or adolescence or adulthood that you wonder if you can trust other people again?In this podcast episode (final one for Season 4), Ameé speaks with Dr. Frank Anderson, a psychiatrist and brain-based psychotherapist about an innovative way to work with complex PTSD from abuse called Internal Family Systems. This therapy helps heal relational trauma by addressing the parts of yourself who have been hurt and haven't healed yet. By identifying these parts and listening to their stories, they can begin to let go of old wounds and learn new ways of being in relationships without re-experiencing past traumas.Resources:https://www.frankandersonmd.com/https://catalog.pesi.com/item/transcending-trauma-preorder-80361Amazon Link: Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family SystemsLinks to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Are you a boundary violator?If we are not aware of our own boundaries and how we violate them, then it's very easy to be unaware that we're violating other people's boundaries. We may think that what we're doing is helpful or even beneficial for the person whose boundary has been violated but in reality, it can cause more harm than good. In this episode, Ameé talks with professional coach Audrey Holst about raising our self-awareness around whether we unintentionally and regularly violate other people's personal boundaries. Do we do things because we think we know better? Do we invalidate other people's decisions because we don't understand them? Are we really trying to help others or are still just trying to take away our own discomfort? And if so, why do these things matter anyway - especially when someone else doesn't seem bothered by whatever it is that you've done! In this episode also learn what to do if discover that violating other people's personal boundaries.Resources:https://fortitudeandflow.com/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

In this episode, Ameé speaks with Michelle Morkert, a global gender scholar with a Ph.D. in women's and gender studies and specializations in gender-based violence, militarism, girls' studies, and peace studies.  And if you have ever felt like your gender identity is not what society expects it to be, you're not alone. Michelle has studied the ways that rigid gender norms can cause past and present trauma in our lives. She wants to help people understand how this patriarchal system hurts everyone who is non-conforming to these rules, regardless of how they identify. Resources:https://michellemorkert.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellemorkert/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Trigger Warning - If are a sexual abuse survivor, this episode may be very triggering. Are you struggling with how to help your child cope with the abuse they've experienced? Have you ever wondered what it would be like if your child was the abuser and not the victim? Dawn Long, an advocate for parents of children who have suffered sexual abuse shares her story on this episode. She talks about her own history of childhood sexual abuse and how her son also went through similar experiences as a small boy when it was discovered he was being abused by a neighborhood child. Unfortunately, as an adult, he was arrested and imprisoned on child pornography charges. This episode discusses the cycle that can occur when one generation is victimized by another, and what changes need to be made in order to prevent this cycle from continuing.Resources: www.dawnlongcoach.comhttps://www.dawnlongcoach.com/service-page/finding-strength-free-4-week-coachingYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6AE_PfvuUcHThDseXIMJXASpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mbHjqbPwHEYQrbbkDZNPCInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourtransformationjourney/Website: https://www.dawnlongcoach.comLInkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/dawnlong

This week, Ameé speaks with Dr. Tana M. Session, an award-winning international speaker, best-selling author, and Certified Executive-level Performance Strategist. Her core area of practice is in inclusion & diversity in the workplace and within the roots of that are these things are unconscious or implicit biases.  And so, she's here to teach what these are, how to recognize them, and what we can do to change them or at least keep them from affecting our decisions. Resources: https://www.tanamsession.com/ https://tanamsession.mykajabi.com/Buy the Book,  Working While Black: A Woman's Guide to Stop Being the Best Kept Secret

Are you struggling with money? Do you feel like your life is out of control when it comes to money?In this episode, Ameé speaks with Barbara Huson, the leading authority on women, wealth, and power as well as the author of the book, Secrets of Six-Figure Women: Surprising Strategies to up Your Earnings and Change Your Life.   She's a financial therapist and wealth coach who talks about the emotional aspects that prevent people from attaining wealth. They discuss how dysfunction and trauma in our history interfere with our abilities today to break free from underearning. Barbara also shares her own story of growing up with one of the most famous financial experts as her father, and her personal struggles with financial abuse, and how she broke through her own barriers to become financially successful.Resourceshttps://www.barbara-huson.com/Rewire for Wealth: Three Steps Any Woman Can Take to Program Her Brain for Financial SuccessSecrets of Six-Figure Women: Surprising Strategies to up Your Earnings and Change Your Life

In this episode, Ameé speaks with mental health advocate turned entrepreneur, Johnny Crowder.As a suicide/abuse survivor, Johnny spent his formative years searching for resources to help him cope with his mental health conditions, ranging from OCD and bipolar disorder to schizophrenia.His firsthand experience with mental illness, university-level education in psychology, and contagious positivity combine to fashion a spirit of advocacy and compassion unlike any other.Through both music and motivational speaking, Crowder's testimony has impacted millions of lives across the globe by de-mystifying taboo psychological principles and sensitive topics with levity and wit.Today, he is the founder of Cope Notes, a subscription-based texting service that helps people re-train their brains to interrupt their negative thinking patterns. In this episode, Ameé and Johnny talk about his journey as well as the science behind why Cope Notes works to change people's lives. Listeners to One Broken Mom get 10% off their subscription to Cope Notes. Use this link to check it out. Or go to https://copenotes.com/ and use the code ONEBROKENMOMListen to Johnny's band, Prison on Spotify Learn more about One Broken Mom as well as Ameé's coaching and consulting services for businesses, entrepreneurs & organizations by heading to https://www.ameequiriconi.com/consulting-and-coaching

In this interview, Ameé speaks with author and podcaster Kerri Hummingbird. Kerri is a Soul Guide and the #1 internationally best-selling author of The Second Wave: Transcending the Human Drama. She inspires people to lead their lives wide awake with authenticity, passion, and purpose that positively impacts others. Her latest published this year is called Love Is Fierce: Healing the Mother Wound.In this episode, she shares her journey and how you can heal your mother wound so that you can have a happy relationship with yourself and others in your life too! Resources:https://kerrihummingbird.com/https://kerrihummingbird.com/playLinks to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Have you ever felt like your life is out of control?Do you feel like you're never good enough? Like everything in your life is just one big mess that needs to be fixed? If so, Audrey Holst can help. She's the founder of Fortitude & Flow® Process and she works with groups and individuals to overcome perfectionism. And now she has a new book coming out called You're Not Perfect — And Here's How to Deal With That. It will teach you how to stop trying so hard, let go of the pressure, and start living a happier life today.This isn't about being perfect or getting it right all the time - it's about learning how not to beat yourself up when things don't work out as planned! In this interview, Audrey will share her story on overcoming perfectionism and what inspired her to write this book for people who are struggling with their own self-imposed expectations. Plus we'll talk about why letting go of these expectations can lead us towards greater happiness in our lives! So tune into this podcast interview where Audrey shares her story on overcoming perfectionism and learn more about what inspired her upcoming book!Resources:https://fortitudeandflow.com/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Do you hate online dating?You're not alone. In fact, most people do. But what if there was a way to make it fun and even get better results than traditional dating? That's where today's guest, Duana Welch comes in with her book “Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from 'I Wish' to 'I Do'” which helps people approach love scientifically so they can find the best possible partner for them. She also has some great advice on how to use online dating effectively without hating it!Ameé had a chance to interview Duana about this topic and she shares all of her tips and tricks in this episode! If you want to learn more about how science can help you find your perfect match then listen now!In this episode, you will hear:Research about intimate relationshipsWhy people get frustrated with online datingIs online dating really for everyone How does attachment styles impact our dating styleWhat types of people do the best and succeed with online datingHow important it is to stick to your “must haves”Key characteristics of people with secure attachment stylesHow trauma impacts our view of acceptance and loveThe importance of positive language in a profile to attract secure peopleResources:http://lovefactually.co Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Do you know what it feels like to be highly sensitive?Highly sensitive people are often misunderstood. They feel things deeply and have a hard time tolerating loud noises, bright lights, or big crowds. But they also have an incredible ability to empathize with others and offer unique perspectives on the world around them. Lindsay Hindle is here today to talk about how she helps her clients understand their sensitivities and find ways of living that work for them.In this interview you will hear: What makes someone high sensitivity?  How do we cope with our sensitivities?  How can we live life as highly sensitive people?  What does empathy look like in this context?What does it mean to be a deep feeler and how is this different from being an empath?The importance of self-care for HSPs (highly sensitives) Resources:https://fivesights.com/ Are You a HSP? Link to quiz >> https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Ameé speaks with Erik Allen, an entrepreneur, and podcaster about his trauma healing journey through his Christian faithIn this episode you will hear:Erik's background with witnessing domestic violence and parental neglect growing upHow being introduced to a Christian college event changed his lifeHow shame kept him from sharing his story until he was 39The role of God, church, and spirituality in his healing journeyErik's definition of walking with Christ and what that means as a guide for living a healthy, positive lifeErik's personal experience with the openness of men sharing their mental health storiesHow Erik got into the world of MMA (mixed martial arts) and combat sports and podcastingHim winning Ed Mylett's Max Out Challenge in 2018 and spurring his entrepreneurial passionsErik's advice for anyone thinking of considering going to church and joining a community there Resources:https://www.erikallenmedia.com/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Women are disproportionately impacted by divorce when it comes to financial settlements. Many women end up in poverty following a divorce, especially mothers.  Ameé speaks with a certified financial advisor and consultant, Rhonda Noordyk, to discusses the impact divorce has on women's finances and how to make better financial decisions when it comes to divorce.Rhonda's organization, The Women's Financial Wellness Center, helps women gain confidence and protect them from financial vulnerability during the divorce process. Rhonda also had a podcast called Divorce Conversations for Women. Resources:https://www.wfwcdivorce.com/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Have you ever had a week where everything went wrong? It might have been an awful day or even just one challenging situation. But then the next day, something else happened to knock you down, and before you know it, your whole week has gone by in a spiral of sadness and hopelessness. You feel like nothing is going right for you--like life is out to get you. This may sound familiar to many people who are trying to balance work with their personal lives while also coping with stressors of all kinds on top of that. What if it doesn't need to be this way? That there are ways we can learn from our experiences and find resilience within ourselves so that we become unstoppable no matter what.In this episode, Dr. Ronda Beaman talks with Ameé about resilience and building it up in ourselves. You'll learn if you are born resilient or not, why we need more of it in the world today, what things can actually reduce your own personal level of resilience even if you already have some built up, and finally best strategies for building strength both inside yourself as well as within others around you. Resources:Little Miss Merit BadgeMy Feats in These Shoes: A Solely Original MemoirLinks to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Do you have difficulty standing up for yourself? If so, this episode of One Broken Mom will be a breath of fresh air. Ameé speaks with Lara Currie, corporate trainer and high-conflict communication expert, about some of the reasons why it can be difficult to feel confident in your own voice. She then offers ways to overcome these obstacles and communicate more confidently in both work and personal situations. You'll learn how to identify the traits that are holding you back from speaking up - like perfectionism, fear of confrontation, or lack of self-awareness - as well as what steps you can take right now to start feeling more confident.Resources: https://difficulthappens.com/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Ever felt like you are too scared to do something? Or have you ever found yourself unable to enjoy success or good luck because you are expecting the other shoe to drop? You are experiencing a normal reaction to pushing yourself past your normal limits. And if you have experience or grown up with trauma, or emotionally neglectful and immature parents, it's likely you have even fears of dying or a foreshortened future. This episode is another conversation with best-selling author and psychologist, Dr. Lindsay Gibson as she and Ameé talk about the Big Fear - the internal protection system to keep us from re-experiencing pain if we try to do something different or in alignment with our true selves. In this episode, you will hear:How people who have CPTSD experience beliefs of a foreshortened future or dying earlyThe family systems and dynamics that are at the root of The Big FearWhy death is central to our Big FearsHow the Big Fear is connected to self-sabotageTechniques to help overcome the Big FearResourcesAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved ParentsRecovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional AutonomySelf-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with ConfidenceWho You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Life's PurposeLinks to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Did you know that suicide rates are higher in some industries than other?  In this episode, Ameé speaks with therapist and author, Dr. Margaret Rutherford about careers with a high suicide risk rate and how trauma-informed leadership can help reduce these numbers.In the episode, you will hear:Which industries have the highest rates of suicide amongst their employeesThe role stigmas around mental health and mental health services playHow workplace cultures can be harmful to people who come forward with mental health concerns or issuesThe culture in blue collar careers that may be hurting employee mental healthIdeas for bringing mental health resources and awareness to hard-to-reach communities and industriesResourcesCDC study of careers with highest rates of suicide:  https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/69/wr/mm6903a1.htmhttp://DrMargaretRutherford.comOrder Dr. Margaret's Book Today: Perfectly Hidden DepressionSelfWork Podcast - https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

Melissa Orlov, a marriage consultant, a top expert in how ADHD affects relationships, and an award-winning author, returns to speak with Ameé about how trust can be lost and regained in relationships where a partner has ADHD .  In this episode, you will hear: How trust can affect friendshipsThe "trust metric" and how it is applied to repairing trust between partnersWhy punishments won't work in correcting behaviors in people with ADHDHow emotional dysregulation is more common for people with ADHD and how it gets them in trouble at workWhy criticism is a common tender point for people with ADHDResourceshttps://www.adhdmarriage.com/The ADHD Effect on Marriage (Available in print and audio)Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

How many of you out there have ever had to deal with a co-worker or boss who has said things to you that have made you doubt yourself and wonder if you're not going a little crazy because they are pretty convinced that the “real world” is very different from the one you are seeing or experiencing. For example, are they charming with everyone else, but controlling and demeaning towards you? Or do you have a co-worker constantly taking credit for your hard work? Do you have a boss who never admits their mistakes and puts blame on everyone else around them? Gaslighting is not only a form of emotional abuse but is also recognized as a form of workplace harassment. It is manipulative, controlling, and can make our work and life experiences intolerable. Also, if you have ever experienced abuse in your life, being around these people can be retraumatizing. In this episode, Ameé speaks with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, the author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People – and Break Free. You will hear: How to recognize the signs of gaslightingHow to protect yourself at work from gaslighters, emotionally and legallyWhat a company and human resources need to have in place for reporting harassment claims like thisWho is more vulnerable to the inappropriate tactics gaslighters and manipulators useHow gaslighting can trigger past abuse trauma and PTSDHow important work culture is in establishing a true anti-harassment environmentHow important hiring is in keeping manipulative and aggressive people out of the company to begin withLinks from this episode:Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People -- and Break Free Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, leadership, business, and more!

In this episode, Ameé speaks with fellow podcaster and mental health advocate, Gillian Tietz. Gill is a recovering alcoholic who uses her scientific background to connect neuroscience, psychology, and her personal experience getting sober. In this episode, you will hear: Alcohol-focused work culturesHow her alcohol use contributed her developing suicidal thoughtsHow she went from an eating disorder to alcoholismThe genetic component behind addiction and the biological rewards some people get from drinking alcoholWhy some people experience hangovers and others don'tThe surprising evolutionary advantage behind being able to process alcoholHow understanding the biology behind addiction can help alleviate shame felt by many who struggled with alcohol addictionDispelling the myth that alcohol reduces stress and anxiety from a biological standpointHow drinking does not help you cope with stress especially if you low distress toleranceHow increasing emotional intelligence is key to prevent relapseThe role of the trauma survivors in advancing mental health awareness Links from This Episode:https://www.soberpowered.com/Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopVisit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, and more!

Back on One Broken Mom is a listener favorite, Wendy Behary. Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She is also the author of “Disarming the Narcissist…Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” (New Harbinger Publications). Now translated in 15 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them.  Based on a listener question, Ameé and Wendy talk about how to co-parent with an abusive, manipulative, or narcissistic parent. In this episode you will hear:The four steps for handling a narcissistic ex How dysfunction can impact our learned communicationUnderstanding the nature of the narcissistic parentKnowing how to handle when a parent doesn't want to be in the child's life anymoreKnowing how to deal with being gaslit by the narcissistic parent through the childrenWhat to do when worried that the children will adopt the narcissistic parent's worldviewLinks from This Episode:Disarming the NarcissistCo-Parenting with a Narcissist: https://susanstiffelman.com/narcissist-free-webinar/ Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshop Visit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, and more! 

In this episode, Ameé speaks with Richa Badami, a personal transformation coach, author, and trainer about Richa's personal experience with becoming re-traumatized at work during at sales meeting.  The incident surprised her because it happened many years after she had undergone the healing work required due to her experience of being sexually abused as girl by her father.  However, at that time, her past was private and certainly out of awareness of her colleagues at her job.  And so during a sales meeting, in what was supposed to be a "motivating" comment, a male co-worker used misogynistic language that triggered Richa's deep feelings of shame around her abuse and things were never the same after.The episode highlights the importance for organizations and leaders to see the need for trauma-informed practices in the workplace. What you will hear on this episode: Richa’s experience in the corporate world and the culture of the company she worked atEven years after events, trauma survivors still feel the impact of the events and can be re-triggered in surprising waysHow insensitive, misogynistic, word choices and microaggressions can be triggers for trauma survivorsHow being triggered or re-traumatized can show up in our body through illnessWhat could have been done at work that could have created better outcomes for Richa and the company’s cultureHow Richa and other non-White employees dealt with the constant gender and ethnic-based microaggressions allowed at her workplaceResources:https://www.richabadami.com/ Buy the New Book:Barnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopAmazon- http://bit.ly/FearlessWomanAmazonBuy it on Audiobook.comNeed Help with Becoming a Trauma Informed Leader or Organization? Contact Ameé today through her consulting practice website at https://www.activitygirl-llc.com/ or on LinkedIn

In this episode,  Ameé speaks again with Veronique Mead, a family physician and assistant professor who changed careers looking for a better understanding and more effective tools for working with chronic illness.On her website www.chronicillnessstudies.com, she has collected and shared the abundance of new research showing how adverse life events increase risk for sensitivity to infections, toxins, and other environmental stressors that increase risk and trigger onset of chronic disease.Because of the overwhelming effects from the events of 2020, Ameé wanted to revisit the links of health, illnesses, and trauma, with a focus on what can be done to improve outcomes and possibly even heal the psychological wounds that are triggering the physical ailments many people have. Using her own personal experience with rheumatoid arthritis, Ameé shares an update on the progression of her disease and the steps toward controlling and remission. In this episode you will also hear:How 2020 may have impacted many peopleThe effects of trauma on the nervous systemHow mental health stigmas in culture and medicine prevented people from considering trauma as a source for their diseasesThe arguments against the connection of life experiences to diseasesEffects of historical and systemic racism on healthHow diseases like Type-1 Diabetes, asthma, and others may be triggered by trauma in some peopleThe influence of psychological or emotional neglect in people with chronic illnessesThe relationship of CPTSD with poor health and chronic illnessHow certain therapies can help heal some chronic illnesses Resources & Linkshttps://chronicillnesstraumastudies.com/https://chronicillnesstraumastudies.com/11-tools-healing-chronic-illness/https://www.facebook.com/chronicillnesstraumastudies/Buy the New Book:Barnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopAmazon- http://bit.ly/FearlessWomanAmazonBuy it on Audiobook.com

Elizabeth Cohen, therapist, repeat guest and author of a new book “Light on the Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You” talks with Ameé about deciding that divorce is the best option for a person or couple. In this episode, you will hear:How to know if divorce is the right optionHow to overcome the shame and guilt that comes from choosing to divorceWhat to do when other people try to shame us for our choiceHow codependency can impact how long we try to “save the relationship” Links to Elizabeth & Her Book:Give Away – Until May 20 – Click here for more infoAfterglow – Online Healing program with group support, private coaching, and online videos for people considering or going through divorceBuy Light on the Other Side of Divorce on Amazon Ameé’s Linkswww.ameequiriconi.com Trauma Informed Leadership – www.activitygirl-llc.com The Fearless Woman’s Guide to Starting a Business: What Every Woman Needs to Know to Be a Courageous, Authentic, and Unstoppable EntrepreneurBarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopAmazon- http://bit.ly/FearlessWomanAmazon

Welcome back to another season of One Broken Mom! In this episode, Ameé brings everyone up to speed on the last several months and what is in store for the program and for the community in the upcoming year. Links:www.ameequiriconi.comwww.activitygirl-llc.comwww.thefearlesswomansguidetobusiness.comBuy the New Book:Barnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshopAmazon- http://bit.ly/FearlessWomanAmazonBuy it on Audiobook.com

In this episode, Ameé speaks with Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant, a top expert in how ADHD affects relationships, and an award-winning author. She is the author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage, which was awarded "Best Psychological Book of 2010" by ForeWord Reviews. Her latest book, The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD, with Nancie Kohlenberger won three book awards, including best psychology book of 2014.Melissa has been writing and speaking about the topic since 2007, researching it since 2005. She teaches couples, therapists, counselors, and coaches about how ADHD impacts relationships and offers private counseling to couples who wish to improve their ADHD-impacted relationships. Her very popular couples seminar (by phone) has helped many struggling couples turn their relationships around. Melissa blogs for Psychology Today, at this site, and guest writes for many others. In this episode, you will hear:What is ADHD & how is it diagnosed in adultsThe surprising ways ADHD affects marriages and relationshipsRebuilding a relationship after ADHD has eroded itThe couple's seminar that is available for helpResources:https://www.adhdmarriage.com/The ADHD Effect on MarriageThe Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD

On this episode, Ameé has an amazing guest on the show. Dr. Carol Tavris's work as a writer, teacher, and lecturer has been devoted to educating the public about psychological science. Her book with Elliot Aronson, "Mistakes Were Made (But Not by ME): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts" (revised edition, 2015, and most recently updated in 2020 with a new chapter--"Dissonance, Democracy, and the Demagogue"), applies cognitive dissonance theory to a wide variety of topics, including politics, conflicts of interest, memory, the criminal justice system, police interrogation, the daycare sex-abuse epidemic, family quarrels, international conflicts, and business. She speaks to many people on the topics of self-justification; science and pseudoscience in psychology; gender and sexuality; critical thinking; and anger. And on this episode, Ameé and Carol talk about cognitive dissonance, what it is and why we ALL tend to justify our actions, behaviors and beliefs, no matter what anybody tells us. In this episode, you will hear: A definition of Dissonance Theory and what it is The Pyramid of Choice that pushes people further apart over timeIdentify our pre-packaged blind spots and biases, in particular naive realism, and privilege Applying cognitive dissonance theory to all of the events of 2020, including Black Lives Matter, anti-racism, and the US Presidential electionsHow we can use social media differently if we know we really aren't going to change other people's minds & in fact, could be making matters worse How we can become more skeptical and more aware of our biases so that we can be sure we are on the right side of the coin that is truth and dishonesty Resources:Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me) Third Edition: Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful ActsAnger: The Misunderstood Emotion

Ameé has been an advocate for raising awareness about domestic violence, in part due to her personal experience with financial and emotional abuse. While it seems help is just a phone call away for people in a domestic violence situation but there is also uncertainty of what happens when you do ask for help from strangers. And as we know from human behavior, we tend to chose the devil we know over the one we don’t. And so when we don’t understand how the resources work, we might be afraid to use them. That’s why this episode's guest is Ginny Ware, the Home Safe Program Director from New Beginnings – a Seattle area organization with a mission to empower survivors of domestic violence and to raise community aware and actions to end it. Ginny shares how these agencies and talks about what to expect when you contact them for help so that hopefully fewer people will be afraid to use them to help leave an abusive situation. In this episode, you will hear:Is there a threshold for when a person may reach out to get help with there situationWhat has changed in the service delivery for agencies like this during COVIDOverview of the services available for people in a domestic violence situationWhat happens when someone calls the 24-hour helplineHow can people support organizations like thisHow can domestic and gender-based violence be eliminated in our communitiesResourcesNew Beginnings Website 24-hour Help Line: 206.522.9472National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.7233Northwest Justice Project

In this episode, Ameé speaks with returning guest, Philadelphia based therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw.Liz has her own practice called A Better Life Therapy and specializes in working with couples around a variety of topics such as relationship issues, infidelity, divorce, intimacy and sexual issues, premarital counseling, and breakups. Ameé reached out to her to talk about people-pleasing. Having had some personal and professional experiences with people who went out of their way to over-commit themselves, never speak up and say how they really felt, and then watched them spiral into balls of anxiety, stress and depression as a result, Ameé wanted to find out more about why people-please in the first place. In this episode, you will hear:The definition of people-pleasingThe opposite of people-pleasingCommon traits and behaviors of people-pleasersHow attachment styles impact our tendencies to say No or Yes to peopleThe particular dangers for people-pleasers and abusive relationshipsResources:Liz's Website: https://abetterlifetherapy.com/

Recently, the U.S. Department of Justice decided to drop the appeal on a 2018 Detroit ruling that overturned the federal ban on Female Genital Mutilation (FGM). For girls at risk of FGM, this federal ruling has put them in great jeopardy because it sent a signal to supporters of FGM that the practice is allowed, and the violence against girls, mostly around 7-8 years old in age continues. Therefore, it’s up to the states to outlaw the practice. What is female genital mutilation? Why is it practiced? How prevalent is it really? FGM is a human rights issue and is a form of gender-based violence and sexual violence against children. And it does not just happen in “other countries” or specific religions. In fact, according to the Centers for Disease Control, an estimated 513,000 women and girls have undergone or are at risk of FGM in the United States, including girls in families of both Christian and Muslim faiths. Survivors of this horrifying practice rarely come forward due to the taboo nature of the practice and the backlash survivors endure at the hands of their own family and community. The practice is not about religion but about upholding patriarchy and is misogynistic control over women and girls. On this episode, Ameé speaks with Maryum Saifee, a former U.S. Diplomat, FGM survivor and advocate who is speaking out against the practice of female genital mutilation. And in her words, FGM is simply child sexual assault with a sharp object and conversations need to be had to normalize talking about it so that the practice can be stopped. Sign the Petition to make Female Genital Mutilation illegal in Washington State:https://www.change.org/p/washington-state-legislators-female-genital-mutilation-is-an-american-issue-states-need-to-protect-girls-and-ban-fgm Resources:Sahiyo: https://sahiyo.com/2020/02/05/voices-series-survivors-are-more-than-their-stories/US Network to End FGM/C - https://endfgmnetwork.org/Dahlia Project: http://www.dahliaproject.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/1924_Female_Genital_Trauma_Report_Web.pdf

On this episode, Ameé speaks with Emily Stroia. Emily is a personal mentor for women, meditation teacher, author and speaker. When Ameé first had a chance to speak with Emily, she said something that actually made her skin tingle. And that was when Emily’s abusive father passed away a few months ago, Emily’s first thoughts were peace, not sadness. This is not uncommon but yet people don’t feel safe sharing that or even understanding it. Some in our culture demand empathy and compassion for all, and that an abuse victim is not allowed to feel or express anything other than that. But, that line of thought invalidates the real and honest feelings that come with finally being set free from a person who challenged your sense of safety and self worth. And so bringing that subject up and out of the dark, so that we can hopefully remove the shame and stigma of this topic. Resources: Into the Light by Emily Stroia, Into the Light is a story of healing from loss, trauma and darkness told through poetry. It explores spirituality, meditation, intuition and personal exploration.http://emilystroia.com/

Suicide is a national problem in the United States. Well over 40,000 people die by suicide every year, including adults and children. In those numbers are over 6,000 military veterans, most of them male. When the rates are adjusting for population differences in age and sex, in 2017, veterans died by suicide 1.5 times more than non-veterans. This week Ameé speaks with Army vet Jonah Maddox, who has been outspoken about his own struggles with PTSD, alcohol addiction, anxiety, and suicide ideation. He shares his story and what he believes the civilian community needs to know and do to help reduce suicides in the veteran community beyond doing things like the Push-Up Challenge. If you are a veteran looking for support, type in “Veteran Service Officer near me” into your web search browser (Google or Bing, for example) to find the one closest to you. Or click the links below. From the American Legion website: “Accredited American Legion service officers are specially trained to provide expert assistance, free of charge, to veterans and their families. While the majority of a service officer’s work involves application for VA disability benefits, these compassionate professionals also provide information, referrals and resources on education, employment and business, death benefits and other important topics.”Lifeline for Vets WebsiteList of Veteran Service Officers by StateU.S. Department of Veteran Affairs – Directory of Veterans Service OrganizationsThe American Legion – VSO SearchMake the Connection - provides information about life experiences you can relate to. You also can explore information about signs, symptoms, and conditions that are related to mental health and well-being.Veterans of Foreign WarsDisabled American Veterans (DAV) Other Resources:Jonah’s Instagram AccountThe Push-Up Challenge Video - https://www.instagram.com/tv/CDgZ0t6DXXp/Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger

This week, Ameé speaks with motivational speaker, suicide prevention advocate and pediatrician Dr. Uchenna Umeh. Known as “Dr. Lulu” to her pediatric patients, she is also the author of How to Teach Your Children About Racism: A Letter From A Black Mother to White Parent and added “TEDx Speaker” to her impressive list of accomplishments. In this episode, she tells Ameé why she quit her regular practice to become a full-time teen suicide prevention advocate. She also describes what her life is like as a black mother with three sons and the role racism, LGBTQ, and bullying play into reasons why children kill themselves. In this episode you will hear:What are the reasons why teens kill themselves?ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and SuicideGenerational trauma and epigeneticsLGBTQ Teens and Suicide ratesPeer Pressure or suicide contagionThe problem with treating a child’s depression without treating the environment they are inBeing a black mother and racism todayThe things we CAN do to prevent a suicidal child from killing themselves #staywithmyson #silencekills #talksaveslives #bethe1to #endteendepression #endteensuicide #askdoctorlulu Resources:https://www.teenalive.com/https://www.facebook.com/uchenna.umeh.9https://www.bethe1to.com/https://afsp.org/

On this episode, Ameé speaks with Michelle Anhang, a coach and suicide survivor, and hears her story of grief and healing after the death of her husband by suicide. Unlike some of the other survivor stories told on One Broken Mom, Michelle shares with everyone the decision to keep the truth behind her husband’s death a secret from everyone, including her children, for over ten years and the toll it ultimately took on her. In this show, you will hear: An overview of Bipolar Disorder and Schizophrenia?The overwhelming statistics regarding suicide in the United StatesThe reasons behind keeping her husband’s suicide a secretThe impacts and consequences of keeping the secret for so longTalking with her children about mental illness and their father’s suicideHer journey to coaching and working with othersResources:Website: https://www.michelleanhangcoaching.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michelleanhangcoaching/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleanhangcoaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-anhang/https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/

Ameé welcomes to the show Richa Badami. Richa is a healer, author and survivor of father-daughter sexual abuse. Born and raised in India, Richa shares her reasons for why it would take her years to get treatment and overcome the damage from her abuse due in large part to cultural taboos within her community. She has detailed this journey in her memoir, “Coming Home to the Heart” and for the first time since she’s published her book, she tells her full story out loud. She talks about many things including her thoughts of suicide, shame, and even rejection from the psychologists at her University to help her heal from her abuse because the subject was too taboo for even them to want to involve themselves. But like many guests on the show, Richa is fighter and found a path to healing that is connected with her spiritual beliefs as well as the use of Eastern-based practices. Resources: https://richabadami.com/Click Here to Sign Up for the FREE Freedom from Trauma Summit: https://summit.richabadami.com/speaker/ameequiriconi/

Today’s guest was introduced to Ameé originally through an old high school friend who ran across her products while shopping in New Orleans. At that time, Ameé was wrapping up Season 2 and put the idea in her back pocket for Season 3. Well then a funny thing happened – Ameé and her guest, who happen to live and do business in the same small Washington town, both end up on a Zoom call discussing an open letter and call to action in the wake of George Floyd’s murder this year and the #BlackLivesMatter movement. And that’s when Ameé said to herself, “Okay – the Universe has linked us together twice now. We gotta do this!” So, today you will meet Lacie Marsh Carroll – the owner and founder of the Malicious Women Company who makes such amazing candles like “Shit Show.” “I’m sorry my Kid is the Reason You Drink” and “Anxiety Girl.” In this episode you hear how she became an accidental entrepreneur and why she started her business after life dealt her some tremendous blows. Lacie blends business with mental health awareness activism, specifically suicide and suicide prevention awareness.Resources:https://maliciouswomenco.com/https://www.facebook.com/MaliciousWomenCandleCohttps://www.instagram.com/maliciouswomenco/https://www.pinterest.com/MaliciousWomen/

To celebrate One Broken Mom's 100th episode, Ameé brings a special guest and the number one favorite for listeners back to celebrate the occasion.Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is author of "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" and the follow up, "Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents" She also writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Women magazine. In the past she has served as an adjunct assistant professor of graduate psychology for the College of William and Mary, as well as for Old Dominion University. Gibson lives and practices in Virginia Beach, Virginia.In this episode, Ameé and Lindsay to talk about her first book, published 20 years ago that she has just re-issued aptly titled “Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Finding or Recovering Your Life’s Purpose."Resources:Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Life's PurposeRecovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional AutonomyAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

In this episode, Ameé speaks with persuasion scientist and author, Dr. Christophe Morin. Christophe is the co-author of the book The Persuasion Code and CEO at Sales Brain, the first of its kind "neuromarketing" agency that uses the science to help businesses achieve better results with their marketing and advertising. Ameé had an opportunity to meet Christophe in 2019 when she attended one of his 2-day workshops and invited him to speak with her about how the brain makes decisions - because it's not well known that our rational, conscious thoughts are rarely driving our decision-making process. And in the context of current times, having a better understanding of how messaging in mainstream and social media is impacting us at a primal level, revealing this information may be very important to many people. In this episode, you will hear:What parts of the brain are stimulated during our decision-makingHow fear drives our decisions, even if we don't think that's what's happeningHow biases short-cut our thinking processesHow to make us persuasion-proof against being overwhelmed by fear-based messagingResources:https://www.salesbrain.com/The Persuasion Code

On this episode, Ameé speaks with Michael Anthony. Michael is an author, mentor, and advocate for adult survivors of child abuse, trauma, and CPTSD. Growing up as a biracial child with racist family members, abused by drug-addicted parents, and battling his own addictions, Michael found a way to turn his life around and now his not just a trauma survivor but a Trauma Warrior, on a mission to help others do the same. In 2019, he published his book Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma, and has developed workshops and coaching based on his approach to healing. In this episode, you will hear: The trauma of racism and growing up bi-racialCutting off toxic family membersMichael’s “Mirror Moment” The importance of being accountable for changing your lifeIs forgiveness actually necessary to heal or should it be earnedWhat it means to “Think Unbroken” and Michael’s approach of “Mindset over Everything” for helping others Resources:https://www.thinkunbroken.com/Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma by Michael AnthonyMichael on InstagramMichael on YouTubeMichael on Facebook

On this week’s episode, Ameé speaks with resilience expert, TEDx speaker, and lecturer Dr. Ronda Beaman. Over her career, Ronda has been Professor of the Year at three universities, and her family was named America’s Most Creative Family by USA Today!But here’s another fun fact: She has appeared on "Don't Forget the Lyrics" with Wayne Brady. And her crowning achieve was that she did not know the third verse of "Sweet Home Alabama!" Who knew there was a third verse? But she did remember Tommy James and the Shondell's "I Think We're Alone Now."When not appearing on game shows, Dr. Ronda Beaman is Chief Creative Officer at PEAK Learning and a Clinical Professor at The Graduate School of Business, California Polytechnic University.Her award-winning book, You're Only Young Twice: 10 Do-Overs to Reawaken Your Spirit, has been printed in five languages. And she also her memoir, Little Miss Merit Badge, which is a humorous account of her achievement addiction and the childhood hijinks employed to thrive in an unusual family. In this episode, you will hear: The four dimensions of our behaviors & thoughts that determine how well we will deal with an adversity?Why someone people respond differently to difficult situation than othersHow can someone become more “adversity resistant” What role our sense of fulfillment plays into how well we handle adversity Why who we surround yourself and how they impact your abilities to harness adversity Resourceshttps://www.peaklearning.com/Adversity Quotient: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities by Paul Stoltz Little Miss Merit Badge: A MemoirYou're Only Young Twice: 10 Do-Overs to Reawaken Your Spirit

Today’s episode comes from a listener to the show who wrote to Ameé ask if she had any resources for men who have been abused by their mothers. He then shared that he has been researching on his own and can’t find anything on the topic. During her research, Ameé found today’s guest, Dr. Joe Kort. Joe is a Detroit area-based Psychotherapist, life coach, author, and podcaster who specializes in tackling the taboo as well as the norms about our sexual health. Visit www.ameequiriconi to subscribe or ask a question.In this episode, you will hear: The taboos and societal messages responsible for the lack of information and resources for survivors of mother-son incest Understanding how women can tip the scales and assault men or their sons Understanding the differences between covert and overt abuseHow to make room in society for men to share their abuse experiencesThe resources available for men who have been abused by women and/or their mothersResources: Mother-Son Incest: The Unthinkable Broken Taboo, An Overview of Findings by Hani MiletskiThe Center for Relationship and Sexual Healthhttp://joekort.com/https://smartsexsmartlove.com/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-erotic-code/201704/mommy-nearest?#_=_https://malesurvivor.org/index.php

Marriage vows are being tested worldwide as we are in the midst of a global pandemic that has forced billions of people to stay home. In addition, in the US, we are at 30 million people, unemployed and millions of children trying to school from home by parents emotionally unequipped to take on a burden while they themselves are trying to make sense of their own worlds, fears and concerns. Right now – many people are seeing perhaps where their greatest strengths are in their partners as well as their weaknesses. People are probably questioning their choices and wondering what to do next once the world re-opens. The traditional marriage vows we are all familiar with date back to the Book of Common Prayer, originally printed in 1549 which say "to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death us depart." But how would we know if this person your are dating or married to is really the one, for example, you can be locked up in a house with for two to three months during a pandemic? That’s why Ameé has back on today Dr. Stan Tatkin – couples expert and author of many books including Wired For Love and Wired for Dating to talk about his book We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love. In this episode, you will hear: How our unseen fears may be impacting our relationshipHow attachment affects our style of relating to one anotherHow to “Sherlock” any potential candidatesWhy a “mission statement” is important for a couple or a person Resources:Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a SecureWired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal MateWe Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love Dr. Stan Tatkin’s Website

Returning to the show is Anna Runkle, the creator of Crappy Childhood Fairy, an online resource for understanding and healing from CPTSD related to chronic childhood experiences. In Season Two, we learned about Anna and her work after a listener wrote in and recommended her processes. As a childhood trauma survivor, Anna brings a perspective from the trenches and methodology that has helped her for over twenty years slow the spinning of the hamster wheel in her head as well as for others. In this episode, Ameé and Anna talk about how the current worldwide climate of the pandemic can be impacting those who have CPTSD and introduces some strategies for managing it. Recorded on the morning of May 25, 2020, we both had no idea of what was yet to come later that day and the days following with the death of George Floyd, and thought the COVID-19 situation would be the most significant event for people to deal with. In this episode, you will hear:The distinction between PTSD and CPTSDThe relationship of CPTSD and health disordersWhat are emotional flashbacksWhy we must be accountable for understanding our symptoms and guiding our own healingHow healing is about becoming lucid of our experiences and what is happening with us in the momentAnna’s process for healing and living with CPTSD Resources: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com/https://courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/courses/daily-practiceThe Crappy Childhood Fairy on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCZlDCbFTqHkzV_rUP4V5bg

First, yes, it was confirmed that "unpeaceful" is a real word. In this episode, Ameé brings back to the show Dr. Laura Markham, creator of Aha! Parenting, therapist, coach, and author of "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids." Originally the plan was to have a conversation about the challenges of parenting children during a worldwide pandemic, but then with the brutal death of George Floyd on May 25 in Minneapolis, Minnesota, the whole country was thrust into the largest civil rights movement in human history. Recorded on June 3, 2020, Ameé then asked Laura to talk with her about parenting our kids and ourselves through social justice, anti-racism, and how to prepare for the upcoming Presidential elections, regardless of political affiliations. In this episode, you will hear:What do when a parent’s stresses are being activated or re-traumatizedWhat are the age-appropriate discussions to have with kids about race & racism?What are good strategies for hiding our stresses from our kids in ways that don’t activate them but in a way that allows for their emotional development?What is okay for our kids to see and what can be harmful or activating for children? Teaching our kids Media LiteracyHow to teach kids about fairness, equality, racism and activismResources:Dr. Laura Markham's WebsiteArticle mentioned in the episode: https://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/talking-with-children-about-racism-police-brutality-and-protests

In this episode, Ameé speaks with me Fritzi Horstman. She is the Founder and Executive Director of Compassion Prison Project. Fritzi is a Grammy-award winning producer for her work on “The Defiant Ones”, has been a producer and post-producer on dozens of television projects and documentaries and has directed several films. Recorded 10 days before the death of George Floyd, a Minnesota man killed by police officers, that sparked the largest civil rights movement in human history, Fritzi and Ameé discussed the inequities and belief systems in the judicial systems that affect men and women with severe childhood traumas. The Compassion Prison Project’s objectives are to raise the awareness of how many incarcerated people are traumatized humans and to create programs that allow all communities to heal. In this episode, you will hear:Fritzi’s journey from Hollywood film production to starting this programStories of the men in prisons participating in the Compassion Prison ProjectThe impacts of trauma on the men and women who commit crimesHow victims of crimes are ignored, and their restoration is necessaryResources:Compassion Prison Project WebsiteDonate to the Compassion Prison Project HERETake the ACE Test HERE

This is the full episode of the interview with Wendy Behary in March. The first 20 minutes is a repeat for anyone who listed to the Special COVID Episode with her. Back on the show is Wendy Behary, the author of Disarming the Narcissist and frequent guest who shares her expertise on narcissistic personality disorder and the impacts on relationships. Today Ameé talks with Wendy about how our own ego and dysfunction plays out in our business relationships as well. While we can see this usually in leadership, globally as well as locally, people unaware of their own unrelenting drives or wounds can be in any position in organizations that are not necessarily in leadership or management. And these people can actually be ourselves. In this episode, you will hear:Why does the business/work environment trigger us differently than at home?How can we uncover some of our survival modes we play out at work? How is coaching effective at helping us grow? How can organizations and leaders handle the re-introduction of people back to work? References:Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great AgainDisarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

Is it always so wrong to have a sense of pride for you own achievements? Or to feel confident in your skills and abilities? How about selfies? Does posting a selfie instantly make you a Narcissist? And are Narcissists all people who got participation awards and were told they were amazing too many times when they didn’t deserve it? The history of narcissism in the field of psychology may surprise you when you learn how the definition has shifted over the past 100 years. What is also surprising is that narcissism can, in fact, be healthy. In this episode, Ameé speaks with best-selling author Dr. Craig Malkin about his work in the field of narcissism and his efforts to shift how narcissism is viewed and defined. His 2015 book, Rethinking Narcissism, was the first book on the topic that Ameé bought as she was coming to terms with her understanding of her own self-awareness and belief she was a “magnet” for narcissists. Dr. Craig Malkin is Lecturer in Psychology for Harvard Medical School and licensed psychologist with over two decades of experience in helping couples, individuals, and families. His research on the role of relationships in psychological growth has been published in peer-reviewed journals, and PsychologyToday.com has called his blog Romance Redux “an essential read.” He is also a frequent contributor to Huffington Post.Dr. Malkin’s advice and insights on a wide range of topics within his areas of expertise have been featured in major national and international on-line and print media magazines and newspapers, including Match.com’s Happen Magazine, Marie Claire, and Women’s Health, as well as popular TV and radio news shows.This episode will cover:The history of narcissism and the tools to identify itWhat Healthy Narcissism is and is notThe 3 Stop Signs for when a relationship needs to be ended How to tell if assertiveness, pride and confidence is healthy or not ResourcesClick Here to Buy the Book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad - and Surprising Good - About Feeling Special http://www.drcraigmalkin.com/Click Here to Take the Narcissism TestDr. Craig Malkin’s YouTube ChannelDr. Craig on TwitterDr. Craig on Facebook https://www.ameequiriconi.com/

Just because there are Stay at Home Orders, you do not need to stay in an abusive situation. Shelters are open state-wide and the National Domestic Violence Hotline is still open, 24/7 to take your call and to direct you to a local shelter and organization to help you take the next steps. You are not alone.Call 1-800-799-7233Text: LOVEIS to 22522https://www.thehotline.org/Welcome back and to the soft-start to Season 3! In this episode, Ameé speaks with Liz Cohen about the feelings of trapped some people are experiencing during the Stay-At-Home orders worldwide, in particular those who are considering or going through divorce. Liz offers classes for women going through divorce and has a program coming up.I wanted to share with you the link to my upcoming free program called 14 day set-by-step guide to making any tough decisions while going through your divorce. Here is the link for it. It will be open May 20th through June 6th. From Liz: "When we are going through a divorce we don’t feel safe and secure to take chances. This can make us more afraid to make decisions. What if you had the perfect tool to make the best decisions during your divorce? Guess what. I have it for you. I created a step by step guide to making the best decisions during your divorce. I made this just for you. We will be taking a 14 day journey to making decisions. Sign up here. https://bit.ly/gooddivorcedecision By the end you will have confidence, security and optimism whenever you need to make a decision related to your divorce."Liz's Website: https://drelizabethcohen.com/For more information from Ameé, including coaching and books, click the link below: www.ameequiriconi.com

In this bonus episode, Amee takes a moment out of her upcoming Season 3 episode (launching May 10, 2020) to speak with Wendy Behary about how the 2020 Coronavirus pandemic may be affected people, especially those with trauma histories. In this episode, you will hear:How some people may have new schemas triggered by the stress of the pandemicWhat to do if we have a narcissistic person in our life who is more demanding then everWhat companies could do to nurture their workforce during a time like thisWhat we should do to help us regulate ourselves Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC as well as the author of Disarming the Narcissist.

In the season finale, Ameé welcomes to the show Dr. Margaret Rutherford. She has been a psychologist in private practice for over twenty-five years. She hosts a podcast called SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford and in November of 2019, published her book Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism that Masks Your Depression.Due to messages from many listeners as well as having a front row seat to the dynamic of enmeshment, Ameé is tackling the topic with Margaret to help raise the awareness of it for families who may not understand the differences between healthy parent-child relationships and what happens when they are too involved. We see a lot today not enough connection between parents and children for fear of “ruining” them, sadly especially with boys and mothers. But enmeshment is swinging the pendulum all the way to the other side. In this episode, you will hear: Is there really a fine line between a healthy connection and enmeshment? Margaret's personal experiences with enmeshmentThe relationship of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder with enmeshmentWhat are the major consequences to adult children from an enmeshed relationship with a parentResources https://drmargaretrutherford.com/when-a-parent-needs-too-much-what-is-enmeshment-and-how-does-it-hurt-a-child/https://drmargaretrutherford.com/

Today Ameé speaks with Darlene Lancer. Darlene is is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship and codependency expert. She wrote Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You. Over the course of 30 years, has helped men and women recover from codependency and trauma.And just in time for Valentines Day, Ameé and Darlene talk about how some of us our prone to sabotage love and relationships and why we do it. In this episode, you will hear:How do we know if we truly have low self-esteem?The difference between overall low self-esteem and inauthenticityHow distrust and rushing are both ways we sabotageDo we have to sacrifice our true selves in order to have a happy relationship Resources:Blog Articles from Darlene’s Website:https://www.whatiscodependency.com/sabotage-love-shame-fear-abandonment/https://www.whatiscodependency.com/self-esteem-self-acceptance-raise-self-esteem/https://www.whatiscodependency.com/lost-self-codependent-relationships/https://www.whatiscodependency.com/10-tips-to-spot-emotionally-unavailable-emotional-unavailability/