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“In Modern English, a cult is a term, considered pejorative by some, for a social group that is defined by its unusual religious, spiritual, or philosophical beliefs and rituals,[1] or its common interest in a particular personality, object, or goal. This sense of the term is controversial and weakly defined, – having divergent definitions both in popular culture and academia – and has also been an ongoing source of contention among scholars across several fields of study.[2][3]: 348–356  An older sense of the word involves a set of conventional religious devotional practices within its culture, is related to a particular figure, and is frequently associated with a particular place.[4] References to the imperial cult of ancient Rome, for example, use the word in this sense. While the word is still being used in its literal and original sense, a derived sense of "excessive devotion" arose in the 19th century. [I] Then, in the 1930s, cults became an object of sociological study within the context of religious behavior.[5] Since the 1940s, the Christian counter-cult movement has opposed some sects and new religious movements, labeling them "cults" because of their unorthodox beliefs. Since the 1970s, the secular anti-cult movement has opposed certain groups and, as a reaction to acts of violence, frequently charged those cults with practicing mind control. Scholars and the media have disputed some of the claims and actions of anti-cult movements, leading to further public controversy. Sociological classifications of religious movements may identify a cult as a social group with socially deviant or novel beliefs and practices,[6] although this is often unclear.[7][8][9] Other researchers present a less-organized picture of cults, saying that they arise spontaneously around novel beliefs and practices.[10] Groups labeled as "cults" range in size from local groups with a few followers to international organizations with millions of adherents.[11].” --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support

Something wicked this way came! The Dr T Team attended Harm&Ease's Halloween party, and got up close in personal with an upcoming band NOTHING SPECIAL!! Not only that...we get religious, discuss addictions and discover how their self titled Ep came to be. W.O.W= Would you rather be in the Harry Potter/Marvel universe? What would be your house OR super power/name? COMMENTS! Listen to their EP HERE: open.spo tify.com/album/1M8asOIbRM...XfSJOFElZbFBFT3w www.facebook.com/officalnothing special www.youtube.com/nothingspecialband www.instagram.com/nothingspecialband nothingspecialband.bandcamp.com/ I THEN caught up with the band from out of this world STUCK ON PLANET EARTH!! Catching up from our chat back in 2018: Drtshow2 – Friday13 Caught up, got some sweet "storytime" and teased with a 2023 album! W.O.W= Which Michael Meyers do you want back? Another Halloween movie or Austin Powers 4? Let me know in comments! WATCH the ir music video for "Strange" HERE: youtu.be/sdJr9gJoaSQ LISTEN to their new single "Makeshift Paradise" HERE : open.spotify.com/track/1S8oQurfhm...R5TumraE5Dp9xk6w and find the rest of them HERE: www.youtube.com/stuckonplanetearth www.facebook.com/stuckonplanetearth www.instagram.com/stuckonplanetearth Dr T Show LIVE Halloween 2022 ..me?... well: www.facebook.com/drtshow www.youtube.com/DrTaylornorthshow www.instagram.com/drtshow www.twitter.com/DrTnorth www.tiktok.com/drtshowtoks www.patreon.com/drtshow Become a Patreon "Patient" for exclusive content (full unedited interviews, performances that were never uploaded/exclusive performances just for The Dr T Show), request a review or have a shout out in the next! Upcoming merch, prize giveaways and so much more for only $3 a month! 00:00 - Copyright free Halloween music 00:30 - "Brandi" - Nothing Special 01:45 - "Tweaker" - Nothing Special 04:40 - "Warden" - Nothing Special 05:10 - "Makeshift Paradise" - Stuck On Planet Earth 07:20 - "Ghost On The Radio" - Stuck On Planet Earth

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“Come all you Thoughtless Young men, a Warning Take by Me, And Think on My unhappy Fate to Be Hanged on a Tree; my Name is William Corder, to You I Do declare, I Courted Maria Marten, most Beautiful and Fair. I Promised I would Marry Her upon a Certain Day, instead of That, I Was resolved to Take her Life away. I Went into her Father's House the 18th Day of May, Saying, my Dear Maria, we will Fix the Wedding Day. If You will Meet me At the Red barn, as Sure as I have Life, I Will take You to Ipswich Town, and There make You, my Wife; I Then went Home and Fetched my Gun, my Pickaxe And my Spade, I Went into the Red-barn, and There I Dug her Grave.” So began a ballad printed in a broadsheet in 1827 detailing the infamous Red Barn Murder. It's the tale of the killing Maria Marten by William Corden. And this story is a doozy! We are talking Bastard Kids, Cross Dressing, and of course; Murder! But, let's not forget the ties to Spring-heeled Jack, Mole Spuds. Public Execution, Mole Spuds again because heck yeah, AND, get this, a book bound in the skin of the executed outlining the tale of said execution. Oh, and don't forget, the ghost of the murdered solved her own case (and that part was even admitted as evidence in court). So hold onto your butts, or at least the skin from said butts, it's The Red Barn Murder this week on Hysteria 51 Special thanks to this week's research sources: Books Celebrated Trials of All Countries, and Remarkable Cases of Criminal Jurisprudence | John Jay Smith An Authentic and Faithful History of The Mysterious Murder of Maria Marten, With A Full Development of All The Extraordinary Circumstances Which Led to The Discovery of Her Body in The Red Barn; to Which is Added, The Trial of William Corder | J. Curtis Videos Weird Suffolk: The Red Barn Murder, Polstead - https://youtu.be/5UMd6PmMK9E WALKING IN SUFFOLK | POLSTEAD | THE RED BARN MURDER - https://youtu.be/Aw2a3DyR8BI MARIA MARTEN: The Murder In The Red Barn - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzAnm2_Csjw Websites Red Barn Murder Wiki - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_Barn_Murder Crime Reads - https://crimereads.com/the-infamous-deeds-and-postmortem-travels-of-william-corder/ Skeptoid - https://skeptoid.com/episodes/4606 Internet Archive - https://archive.org/details/b20443237/page/n1/mode/2up St. Edmundsbury - http://www.stedmundsburychronicle.co.uk/rbpeople.htm The Word on the Street - https://digital.nls.uk/broadsides/view/?id=15013 CBS News - https://www.cbsnews.com/news/48-hours-a-vision-of-murder/ Owlcation - https://owlcation.com/humanities/Murder-in-the-Red-Barn Music Piece for Disaffected Piano One by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4214-piece-for-disaffected-piano-one License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/Hysteria51 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

00:02.36 Max Shank Welcome back. Everyone to the max and Mike Podcast Hope you're having a lovely day. We're talking about long-term Strategy V versus short-term Burnout. There's a quote I like from the daw. Which is the flame that burns brightest burns half as long and I think that's a natural that's a natural method for super masculine guys. Anyone who's like trying to prove themselves or trying to achieve. A lot in a short amount of time. It's It's really common to experience some burnout I know I've experienced some burnout I would imagine that most of the people listening also have Mike I'm sure you have experienced some. Ah. 00:58.34 mikebledsoe Few times. Yeah. 00:59.80 Max Shank Burnout in your life a few times. So yeah, well I'm reminded of another quote from the dow I'll just quote the dow this whole episode because it's it's it's my favorite book. It really did. 01:08.50 mikebledsoe Perfect. Well it makes sense to quote the doubt for this topic. 01:18.28 Max Shank Put patience in a ah strong light and the the quote that I'm thinking of now is nature does not hurry and yet all is accomplished and kind of makes you start focusing on. Process rather than the result and it's a bit of a paradox because if you don't have a clear target in your mind you are maybe less likely to achieve it. But if you are so chaotically just maniacally focused on the result you won't. Appreciate the process of how to get there and you might have a little less craftsmanship. So it's kind of that balancing of the pain and the desire to achieve a certain goal versus the peace and presence of being where you are. And focusing on what you're doing like a ah Master craftsman. 02:21.45 mikebledsoe It's so much more enjoyable to be in that craftsman space and being in that I guess we could call it like the craftsman versus the visionary and or like being to me a visionary is someone who who sets a ah. 02:30.87 Max Shank Ah, what. 02:38.26 mikebledsoe Ah, plan for the future but in a way that is clear where you also have the daydreamer So the visionaries like the the healthy way of seeing the future but the daydreamer is somebody who spent waste time. 02:49.59 Max Shank What? but. 02:55.47 mikebledsoe Thinking about what could be in the future but doesn't actually execute. But yeah I like the idea of having like the visionary is is 1 thing and the craftsman's on the other side and ah I've spent a lot of time in the visionary role and 1 of the things that i've. 02:58.30 Max Shank Ah, but. 03:13.53 mikebledsoe That I've needed to do because I grew up a daydreamer and then I started shifting that consciously into creating a very specific thing I would narrow my focus down onto. We're going to accomplish this and I noticed it what I've adjusted over time is the amount of attention I. 03:15.58 Max Shank A. 03:33.13 mikebledsoe Put into vision and the amount ah amount of attention I put into being the craftsman have shifted so I spend so when I I put a lot of attention into being a visionary I'll ah so I'll wipe an entire day on my schedule and once a year 03:39.24 Max Shank Something like. 03:50.94 mikebledsoe And I'll envision the next year for my business for instance and then yeah and then you know I create in every ninety days I meet with my team for a few hours to create the ninety day plan and every month we meet for like an hour to make sure that that month is squared away and so that's. 03:55.18 Max Shank It's like chunking. 04:09.41 mikebledsoe But rhythm that I found. That's really helped me balance out that visionary with execution and it's allowed me to really just focus in on the execution be a craftsman because I trust that the plan that I'm working towards that. What I what I've planned to execute. Is actually taking me to where I want to be and now when I'm executing I'm not thinking about the result I'm just thinking about doing the best job I can with a thing that's right in front of me right now and it's created a lot more patience and things have become yeah like life has been. More enjoyable I don't try to squeeze too much in too little time. Um, but you know hey I turned forty last week so this is definitely something that comes with age. 04:50.95 Max Shank Ah. 04:59.90 Max Shank Well, some people never get there right? They live and die without really honing that skill of I just call it time travel skills. You know you look back to your books on the wall which is like your memories. You look forward into the crystal ball. Which is the future and then you have the ability to be super present here and now like ram dos style and if you're able to do that consciously like I am going to project myself into a potential future and. Iron out those details and clarify that vision. That's a superpower and if you're stuck there Forever. You are just swimming in anxiety and if you're going back into the past and you're able to do it expertly. That's how you learn and I mean. You know nostalgia is kind of like a dangerous thing too. I think but if you if you stay in the past too long. You can get depressed. You can get hung up on all of the stuff you did like oh I should have done it differently I mean I always think that way. 06:10.13 mikebledsoe Or there's also like people who who they they they have the nostalgia of the past and then they are comparing it to the present moment and then and in a way the where the present's not as good as the past that doesn't happen as much with our friends probably. But. 06:24.72 Max Shank Yeah, totally I mean. 06:29.89 mikebledsoe If you look at the average person. The average 35 year olds probably like me in high school man that was when I was having all the fun. 06:35.78 Max Shank Well, the only absolute is relativity. You can't describe something without describing something else first and when I think about the the stressors that I experience now here's a story that will make everyone hate me. And it will paint like a really good picture like so ah first it'll it'll make you like me and then it'll make you go fuck that guy so first I remember that my my mom left and my dad and my brother got really depressed. And I was doing all the work basically and my outward frustration was like nothing like I was upset about it but it was like whatever the other day 1 of the speakers in my steam shower stopped working. And I was like what the fuck and like 1 of those is like obviously worse like for a child to shoulder the burden of supporting a family is like way more than I mean I still had 1 steam shower speaker that was working right. Like it wasn't like a whole thing but it but it just goes to show that that like relativity you have this idea based on ah the past, but you also have um, kind of like feature creep. You know people don't like to go down. In Lifestyle chris rockt is like a hilarious bit. It's like women don't go down in lifestyle and he says he does like this whole thing where like once you get to a certain level. You never want to go the opposite way. So it's all it's all what you compare it to and if you get stuck. Like what you're talking about you either are looking back at the past as better than right now or you're looking back as like oh I I was bad then or I did something wrong and then you pull it you pull it with you into the present. So. 08:43.40 mikebledsoe Um, a lot of people end up punishing themselves for a past behavior in the present moment which then just creates creates more negative future moments. 08:49.81 Max Shank Being able. 08:54.74 Max Shank Dude. It steals the potential joy and peace out of the present and I I did a ton of that like I would um, you know who knows exactly why but when I I would like rehearse and prepare for a conversation. Even. 09:14.44 mikebledsoe Yeah. 09:17.41 Max Shank And be like okay this person might say this and then I can say that and then I would also look back to times when I was like a child and be like oh so stupid for saying that that was so mean or that was so dumb and so I think it's it's normal. 09:29.60 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah. 09:36.97 Max Shank To have those feelings. It's just whether or not you can let them go so that you can be present and you can also project forward with a with a powerful positioning like I can influence my life in a constructive way. 09:39.91 mikebledsoe What. 09:54.68 Max Shank Here's my future plan that is better and also I can come back to the present and do that deep work because if you're thinking if you're just thinking about the pot of gold If you're just thinking about the result you're probably not going to do as good craftsmanship. 10:09.54 mikebledsoe Yeah, absolutely the way I look at ah emotions and memories. Ah, there are everyone has emotions they dwell on and emotions they avoid and you know. 10:23.71 Max Shank Um. 10:27.32 mikebledsoe People Probably a lot of people probably hear that and think yeah people dwell on happy you know, positive emotions or what's perceived as positive emotions and avoid negative and that's not necessarily true I know that for myself I used to dwell on guilt The the emotion of guilt and. 10:38.77 Max Shank The hurt. 10:46.46 mikebledsoe Like it. It was deep down in my gut and like I just felt guilt from like when I was a little kid. It just felt guilty a lot and then I got older and I felt guilty a lot and and the benefit of it of guilt is that you'll change your behavior because you're you're guilty about how you did something. 10:54.74 Max Shank Are. 11:03.74 Max Shank In here. 11:05.78 mikebledsoe But the problem is is if any emotion. But even if it's joy if you're dwelling on that instead of just allowing that emotion to move because they they tend to move unless you suppress or or just um, start creating start. 11:14.60 Max Shank Hit a. 11:24.76 mikebledsoe Remembering stories that you associate with that feeling and you end up in a perpetual loop like oh everyone likely can understand this or go oh I do do that is thing about ah something you were you felt guilty about or bad about in the past and then you'll have that feeling. And then you'll have a thought of something else. You're guilty about and something else. You're guilty about and and so then you just end up having a bad day right? Yeah, this 1 thing triggers a memory which triggers the feeling and that feeling triggers more memories and so we end up practicing being in this. 11:44.85 Max Shank Here. Right. 12:02.37 mikebledsoe This pattern um like ah ah, a guiltridden pattern and yeah, they're just wasting so much energy and time being in a pattern versus just going like you were saying letting it go and to me the key to letting it go is to feel it fully go. You know what. I Don't really look at guilt as a negative thing. It's like it's a gift and I get to learn from it and I go look I am totally present with this emotion I Love it. I accept it I Love it and I got my lesson from it and then if you can do that. That's that's a superpower. 12:39.64 Max Shank Ah, oh yeah, once you shine a light on it. It's no longer. Ah scary. It's no longer lurking in the shadows. There's a french phrase ah to know all is to forgive all never heard that 1 I like that 1 a lot. 12:39.71 mikebledsoe Very few people can do that. 12:44.75 mikebledsoe Right. 12:54.33 mikebledsoe No. 12:59.22 Max Shank I Mean it's That's my translation. It's in French but I don't speak French Currently So um I mean I might I might later? Yeah, um, but when you think about your self. 13:05.10 mikebledsoe But used to maybe or in the future. Yeah later. Okay. 13:18.54 Max Shank Recognizing I mean I still am like this with myself you got to realize that you're a combination of different instincts and stories and all kinds of things where how could you not be more forgiving of yourself. You know like I I know so little still and you know I do this thing on my birthday where I just think man I've accomplished so little I don't really look at it as like a positive thing because it's more like feel like I'm a little bit behind ah my schedule which probably just From. Setting really high goals. But if you don't like forgive the fact that you are a monkey just trying to figure stuff out in some sort of Cyber Punk Weird Ah Lifestyle It's going to be really. Painful for you I mean the the whole reason that people do great or terrible things is because they're like deeply dissatisfied with the way things are right. So if you're not deeply dissatisfied with how the way things are ah you'll you probably do very little. You'll just Enjoy. So I think you said it best is you don't run from that emotion. You don't ignore that emotion. You experience it fully and I think Curiosity is the best way is like the most constructive ah mentality to have about it where you don't take anything personally I think that's 1 of those four agreements is do your best. Don't take anything personally. Um. 14:51.65 mikebledsoe E. 15:08.68 Max Shank So yeah, getting getting curious about the emotion and accepting it and accepting the the fact that we are very emotional creatures if not the most emotional creatures and that'll make it so you're able to forgive yourself which is kind of a precursor for letting that stuff. 15:17.89 mikebledsoe Yeah. 15:27.84 Max Shank Go that doesn't serve you. 15:28.20 mikebledsoe I Think that the taking ah I think we get further define taking things. Personally, this is a this is something that I see people get hung up on a lot and I had a ah a big breakthrough around. My thinking around taking things personally are you familiar with the concept of collapse distinction collapsed collapsed distinction. Okay so collapsed distinction is where ah the human mind. 15:53.29 Max Shank Um, class distinction. No. 16:05.47 mikebledsoe We'll take 2 words and they've collapsed them into the same meaning and so and people start behaving that way. 1 example is ah, there's a collapse distinction for ah, most mothers they have collapsed love and worry. 16:21.97 Max Shank Um, yeah. 16:23.38 mikebledsoe So it right? It makes sense right? Your mom the way she expresses love she doesn't if she's not worried about you. She doesn't feel like she's loving you and yeah, exactly and so. 16:34.16 Max Shank She might feel guilty that she's not worried. 16:42.58 mikebledsoe Um, in in Mothers learn this from their mothers. So this is something that's happened for a long time and so it's like there's a collapse distinction because if we look at but but for us so I'm a son you're a son. If our mom we get on the phone with arm change. Oh okay, the daughter. yeah yeah I think you should just go with the queue. That's what I do yeah I'm I'm ah questioning all the time. 17:04.70 Max Shank I'm thinking of changing actually to daughter or or undecided. Perhaps I think I might be a tree actually. 17:19.52 mikebledsoe Ah, so ah, was it somebody somebody so somebody somebody did somebody did I was like you was like well um I fall into the que category I'm I'm definitelyquet like once I realize the Q stand for questioning I go if you're not questioning what are you doing like. 17:22.61 Max Shank Sorry for the derail. 17:38.30 mikebledsoe And then somebody was like almost founded offensive that I would identify as questioning I go like you're straight I'm like like ah now you're questioning my identity So like like all of a sudden I'm not allowed to yeah, it's it's funny. Ah, anyways, let's get back to it Collapse distinction. Love and worry. 17:51.30 Max Shank That's hilarious. 17:57.50 mikebledsoe Ah, and as a son if my mom over the years has expressed worry for me. It's I don't experience. Love I'm experiencing. It's annoying. Yeah, yeah, it's fear which is a lot of people say those are opposites. 18:06.80 Max Shank Fear fear which is a fear and love are are good opposites. Yeah that that once again that the distinction is important right? How you use those words. 18:15.75 mikebledsoe Ah, but um. Yeah, and so we've collapsed something that is fear based with something that's love based and so ah, you know all we got to do is pull up these 2 definitions and what's the definition of love. What's the definition of Worry. These are very different things and don't even belong in the same category together. 18:26.65 Max Shank Brutal. 18:40.17 mikebledsoe So ah, that's ah, just as an example of a collapse distinction and so now now that we all have the awareness of there's something called collapse distinction that exists and the consciousness of Humans. We can then look for collapse distinction and the more distinction you can create successful distinction. That's the expansion of consciousness because we can look at at 1 aspect of consciousness is is built off of our vocabulary which is the structure of our thoughts and or ah the building blocks of our thoughts. Yeah well,, That's a whole. 19:12.29 Max Shank Probably most. 19:17.99 mikebledsoe We can go down that rabbit hole sometime. Ah, but we should define consciousness. 19:18.70 Max Shank I Mean everything that's not instinct everything. That's not instinctual is a artificial creation Thanks to language. 19:27.68 mikebledsoe Yes, yes, so 1 of the things that I 1 of the the collapse distinctions I stumbled upon a couple years ago was ah being sensitive and taking things personally so what I noticed is people would say. 19:42.31 Max Shank A. 19:47.51 mikebledsoe Oh You're just being sensitive when they really meant you're taking it personally I go. They're not being sensitive. They're taking it Personally, they're actually being insensitive by making it about them and so to me taking it personally means that. I am taking whatever is happening in the world and I'm making it mean something about me. Usually it's a very selfish thing to do and or it or it can be in a positive way still be.. You're still taking it personally. 20:09.39 Max Shank And usually in a negative way talk totally totally well it well what it is is. It's putting yourself into a victim role and taking it. It. It's funny because it is literally taking you are taking it. 20:24.20 mikebledsoe But it's usually negative. 20:34.29 Max Shank And you are making it personal to yourself so that you can adopt that victim mentality and take on that victim role which is super effective in getting you attention and I think the word is conflate. You don't want to conflate. 20:43.83 mikebledsoe Ahead. 20:50.64 Max Shank Being sensitive with taking things personally because being sensitive is actually a huge advantage if you want to be successful in life. It's very useful to be sensitive to all sorts of things and there are all kind of different sensitivity like for. Ah, developing really good feel in your fingertips. You can lay a hair in between 2 pieces of paper and you can try to feel that single hair between the 2 pieces of paper. So If you're trying to become like a body worker having that sensitivity is a huge Advantage. Advantage being sensitive to someone's body language I mean using the 5 senses that's sensitivity you're hearing so sensitivity is crazy superpower if you can pick up on a person's energy. 21:36.50 mikebledsoe E. 21:45.58 Max Shank And dogs are of course good at this because they're not so encumbered by a lot of the language things right? So There's all kinds of senses and sensations and sensitivity that we have that is crazy powerful. Ah so it's important to not conflate that like you said with taking things personally. Which is just like um the crying ego trying to get attention for no reason. 22:09.13 mikebledsoe Well that there's this is what is 1 things that made me notice it is people I would hear people go Oh I'm I'm an empath I'm very sensitive and then I hear them talk about their experience of the world and I go. You're just taking everything personally, you may be sensitive if you're both sensitive. And you take things Personally, you're in a bad spot. That's that's a rough life to live like you're picking up on everything and you're making it all mean something about you. That's Hard. So I I Tell people all the time is like people go people go Well, you don't know you're not really that sensitive I go. 22:38.10 Max Shank Um, I Totally yeah oh yeah. 22:48.15 mikebledsoe Oh I'm very sensitive and and ah and that's why I don't take things personally is because like you're not going to see me get triggered because I know that it's not about me like I It's not that I believe it. It's just I know it's not and so ah. 22:54.47 Max Shank Um, right. 23:07.22 mikebledsoe The way that people are treating me all this I was like it has nothing to do with me. It has it's it's them and it's if you can be both sensitive and you don't take things personally now that's a superpower. But if you're somebody who's sensitive and then you tend to make everything that you're perceiving about you. 23:19.56 Max Shank Agreed. 23:26.88 mikebledsoe You're you're on the opposite end you're fucked. So I think a lot of people. They don't know how to not take things personally so they end up trying to desensitize themselves because it's just too much. 23:39.70 Max Shank Yeah, Wow. It's so true and I think subconsciously um some people want that they want to take on that role. It's like ah some people like to whip and some people like to be whipped and. 23:53.85 mikebledsoe Here. 23:57.53 Max Shank You know if you don't have a physical whip handy. Maybe you can just engage in a little psychological self-torture anytime. So it's it's fascinating and I've never heard that collapsed distinction before. 24:03.47 mikebledsoe Ah, yeah. 24:12.23 mikebledsoe Okay, okay. 24:14.74 Max Shank I Think conflate means something almost similar like you either. It's like you confuse and combine words I'm pretty sure that's what it is yeah come. 24:21.10 mikebledsoe Yeah, well yeah, um, yeah, maybe I need to I need to look it up. 24:28.44 Max Shank combine it's combine 2 or more ideas or words into 1 Yeah. 24:30.82 mikebledsoe Perfect I think that's that's good. Um, the reason I used the words collapse distinction I've not heard I've heard it from a couple people it's not widely used. Um I like it because ah, there's an opposite to collapse distinction which is just. 24:40.26 Max Shank Um, yeah. 24:49.52 mikebledsoe Distinction whereas like conflate. It's like well what's what's the opposite of that. There's what what happens after we stop conflating whereas with ah with a collapse distinction I go Well, there's distinction and then there's collapse distinction. So ah. 24:49.52 Max Shank Um. 24:54.91 Max Shank Specific right? Distinction. We really should do a whole topic on language 1 of these days because that's 1 of the roots of pretty much every problem a person has right. 25:07.98 mikebledsoe Anyways. 25:20.26 mikebledsoe Yeah. 25:23.42 Max Shank You know, even Ecker tolly would say you know there there are no problems. There are only situations and all of this is just based on how we frame our experience with language and the whole concept of semantic precision which is using language. Where both parties agree on the definition. That's where most miscommunication happens like my my feeling in the world is like I Just want to like yell stop to everybody I Just want to like put my hands up and be like hey whoa. I Think there's been a misunderstanding whoa This got out of hand like I think we're just not understanding each other properly. You know. 26:04.26 mikebledsoe Um, well. 26:12.25 mikebledsoe That's ninety Nine point nine percent of the time. Yeah I mean I if you I and and the phrase that drives me nuts to someone someone goes. Oh that's just semantics and I go what. 26:25.68 Max Shank That's the only tools we have to argue you want a fist fight. That's all we got. 26:28.19 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah people you're like oh that's just semantics I'm like I'm like whoa whoa Whoa If you're somebody who goes that's just semantics and you are likely missing you. You actually don't know what's happening in the world like in you, you not can be able to communicate it. 26:42.45 Max Shank Well, you don't even know what's happening you don't even know what's happening within your own structure of your own ideas because the whole purpose is to get both parties to agree on what the definitions are so that you can have a distinct. Discourse or a precise discourse where everybody's like yes, this is what conflate means this is what collapse distinction means this is what love means you know like even even in something like marriage right? You know people are so nebulous with ah. What they're looking for in a relationship and then they're like I'm not getting what I want. It's like well did you specifically ask and did the other person agree to that and they're like well no, it's like embarrassing and I'm like oh well, um you you brought this on yourself like yeah, right is. 27:33.53 mikebledsoe Good luck, Good luck with life. Ah. 27:39.25 Max Shank It's so brutal I mean that's why like a lot of the first language was um, keeping tally of agreements like the most of the the um ancient texts are like. 27:45.70 mikebledsoe E. 27:54.60 Max Shank I don't know I'm going to show my ignorance here I don't exactly know. But I think it's like sumerian or something like that where it's like you know Bob smith that's not the name like but Bob smith owes you know Joe blow 3 cattles and a bushel of. You know acorns or something like that I don't know I'm not super hip with it. But that's basically what the first what the oldest written language we have is. 28:14.42 mikebledsoe Yeah, right I got I give you my daughter and exchange you get me 2 walks and fifty had a goats and yeah. 28:22.20 Max Shank Ah, right right? Fifty Silver so shekels or something like that. 28:32.66 mikebledsoe Ah, all right? Let's let's bring it back to the rhythm when we got off on a language tangent which is great because I actually think we'll we'll likely do that a lot in the future and I already wrote down the put language and all that for the for the next next episode let's get back to rhythm. Um I'll bring it back in. 28:43.35 Max Shank Yeah, should just make that our next 1 come come nice and prepared. Yeah, so. 28:52.47 mikebledsoe Little bit of a hard left. But I think it's necessary ah is ah 1 of my buddies he once we once got started talking about cycles. So we if we talk about um I think about seasons and cycles when I think about rhythm and. 28:56.00 Max Shank It's good time. 29:06.88 Max Shank Um, threat. 29:12.21 mikebledsoe Ah, because I think sometimes when I just think about rhythm by itself I think about a song.. There's a there's a beginning and an end and there's ah a cadence but with seasons of course it's circular and ah so it's it's predictable over and over and over again. But. I think we can all see the four seasons and ah so my buddy brought this to my attention. At 1 point he goes. Okay so you have your daily cycle and then you have your like if we look at real cycles in nature outside of ourselves We have the sun. The. 29:43.79 Max Shank Sun Moon. Yeah. 29:48.71 mikebledsoe Lunar cycles which is about 13 of them in a year um which basically the gregorian our calendar is totally fucked but um, it's not lined up with nature necessarily. Ah so it's close. 30:03.30 Max Shank It's pretty close with the solar cycle. What propose a better 1 mike ah I'll meet with you 3 moons from now. 30:07.40 mikebledsoe They have to make it Well we talk about that later, but ah, um, you could just go off the moon but the the yeah but ah, well, there's the Mayan calendar which is which follows the lunar cycles. So I know someone who runs their business Ho The lunar. 30:21.99 Max Shank The. 30:26.94 mikebledsoe Have the Mayan calendar but ah, she's far out there? Yeah yeah, yeah. 30:29.72 Max Shank It's pretty far out I like it I think you got to respect those cycles I think temp I think tempo um and cycles are are very similar I don't think tempo or Rhythm necessarily means a song i. 30:43.44 mikebledsoe Right. 30:45.82 Max Shank Have this time time is illusion but Tempo is real is this sort of thing I have going on in the back of my head because the whole concept of linear time is just based on our singular perception of it and our memory are. 30:48.96 mikebledsoe A b. 31:02.24 mikebledsoe Me. 31:04.46 Max Shank That's that's all it is memory and prediction. That's our only evidence that there is a such thing as time but the tempo of these different things like the sun and the moon and the seasons those are very concrete and they're circular. They're not. 31:21.89 mikebledsoe Right? Yeah, so we got we got the sun. We got the moon and then you you start expanding out into the universe and there's there's a cycle happening in our our well just in the cosmos in general and then you get down to you know I think it's easier to see in women. They have their. 31:22.55 Max Shank Ah, linear. What. 31:41.34 Max Shank And. 31:41.68 mikebledsoe Monthly cycle. That's happening internally and you know their training and their nutrition is going to shift based on you know if you're an athlete will will shift based on those things and and. 31:52.95 Max Shank They usually leave them out of studies. A lot of scientific studies. They cut women out of because they have the huge change during a monthly cycle which is fascinating. 31:56.41 mikebledsoe Yeah. 32:02.43 mikebledsoe I think men have I think it's a seventy 2 day cycle that is more subtle so it's over a longer period of time and it's not so drasstic. So just not as noticeable. 32:09.67 Max Shank Are. 32:16.85 Max Shank That explains why I've been so grumpy this I think I'm on I think I'm on my man period. 32:21.21 mikebledsoe I've had that happen I go ah, that's right? Ah so I look at these cycles and look at the seasons and and 1 of the things that really ah I really started appreciating my thirty s and I actually think living on the water. And san diego in a house that had a lot of ah, a lot of natural light helped me understand the seasons much better. 1 is being on the water allowed me to see the sun move across the sky I watched the sunset almost every day. 32:45.00 Max Shank And. 32:57.60 mikebledsoe And so it moved from from North to south and south to North ah across the west coast ah line and then it also was you know in the in the middle of the Summer. It's nine zero pm or little later setting and in the winter I mean it's four fifty and it's dark outside. 33:10.59 Max Shank Okay. That was a great house. 33:15.89 mikebledsoe And great house and I miss it. Ah and it was during that time that I really started honoring the seasons because prior to that I was. When I was living in memphis tennessee and I was running the gym like I was up at the gym at 6 a m no matter what time of year it was and I was under fluorescent lights. There was no I was killing all the natural cycles and and I wasn't done till nine zero p m and I'd get home and and everything was the same. 33:45.22 Max Shank Are. 33:52.36 mikebledsoe All the time and I was worn out and I didn't know why and then a few years into living in the San diego in this environment and I noticed that I worked less in the winter a lot less like probably half half the amount of time during the day in the winter I would I noticed that I would. Consume weed at night in the winter and and I would do movement at night and then when it started getting warm in the summer I would do my movement sober in the morning and so like I I now adopt that so in in the winter I start I train in the evenings and. 34:15.80 Max Shank Um. 34:20.48 Max Shank Um, her. 34:29.54 mikebledsoe Summer I trained the mornings so I just witnessed my personal preferences based on I really got sensitive I was practicing sensitivity to the season and I also noticed that and in the summertime there's more parties it. 34:29.63 Max Shank Interesting. 34:38.57 Max Shank And. 34:46.69 mikebledsoe Ah, people are celebrating um I work a lot more I stay up later I get less sleep I get like 7 hours of sleep on average in the summer and the winter I'm getting 8 and a half to nine and I go to less parties and I I read more in the winter. It's the winners all about reflection. 34:53.36 Max Shank A. 35:05.56 mikebledsoe About consuming. It's about resting and and more of just being and the spring hits and it's like oh you know I'm starting I'm almost tired of doing little and reflecting I've learned a lot I've reflected on what happened last year I'm ready to kick this year's ass and you spring in the action. And in the summer you're rolling and then the fall you know is the harvest and and by you know it's october now. So now. My experience is ah is I'm going oh man I'm so glad the parties are ending. So glad the sun's going down early because. 35:39.14 Max Shank Simply. 35:42.79 mikebledsoe I'm really feeling the desire to read and reflect and and get more sleep right now and so having that sensitivity to the seasons has really allowed me to ah just in all areas of my life. You know we can look at business and then the winner is just as wait. 35:48.58 Max Shank Ah. 36:02.40 mikebledsoe I've got a lot more strategy going on. There's less less doing and in the summer it's you know you know? Um, um, there's a lot more execution happening and less strategy. So it's um, it's welcome and it's enjoyable and it keeps me interested in life. 36:12.35 Max Shank And. 36:19.55 mikebledsoe Having those seasons. 36:21.69 Max Shank There's some wisdom there too and I see wisdom as knowing yourself and acting accordingly and it sounds like you are really honoring your natural tendencies rather than fighting your natural tendencies because. Whether it's a macro cycle like ah the periods in your life where we're going to be at different places right? I mean I'm um, I'm in a pretty different place now at 34 than I was at 21 right? I'm in a different kind of position and different situation. 36:52.10 mikebledsoe A. 36:58.52 Max Shank And even throughout the day. Everybody's going to have a different rhythm to when they're feeling more energized when they're um, more likely to do a certain type of work I mean I've fought it for a long time because I. Want to be on a Circadian rhythm but actually I do my most interesting creative work at night when it's quiet and you know I would I love ah the idea of going to bed at 8 o'clock and waking up at four o'clock and when I do that. 37:21.69 mikebledsoe E. 37:32.90 mikebledsoe They have. 37:36.64 Max Shank Get even less done. It's it's just way worse. So ah, you know I'm good I always turn the screens off at 8 o'clock but I don't necessarily go to bed around that time and that makes a huge difference. So anyway back to what I said about. 37:45.42 mikebledsoe Yeah I think I mean for me the way I The the way hit me for that is I I just I turn my screens off when the sun goes down so it's like instead of it instead of it being at a specific time I go Oh it's getting. 37:59.56 Max Shank That's even better. Yeah. 38:05.21 mikebledsoe Dark I try to live in homes where it's natural light during the day and I'm not using any artificial light. So when the sun goes down it becomes obvious. 38:07.92 Max Shank Um, yeah. 38:13.30 Max Shank Well and it's that built in rest from those things right? I mean what is it even god rested once a week even god rested on Sundays or something like that and to use ah a fitness analogy. Um, you can't you can't sprint. 38:21.37 mikebledsoe A. 38:32.91 Max Shank All out all the time. All you're going to do is make the result worse and start running a lot slower. So if you ride the waves you're going to get a lot more out of it and you're going to expend way less energy doing it. You know if like. I'll use jumping as an example, if I had you jump a Hundred times by the hundredth jump if you did it all in a row. It would be horrible looking jumping a Hundred times really high. But if I had jump 3 times every minute. Like you could probably do thirty minutes of jumping and be a little better and even 1 step ahead of that if I had to do 3 jumps every minute for ten minutes three times a day then it's going to be even better than that. So this whole idea of trying to grind through. Rather than draw some boundaries and set yourself up so you can ride that momentum I mean look the reality is like you don't even have to do that many things to be wildly. Successful. But you can do it the the hard way or you can do it the easy way. And if you respect those rhythms and respect your nature It's so much easier, but that does require that ability to see the big picture which is the visionary mode and then also get into the the craftsmanship mode. 40:03.87 mikebledsoe Yeah, there's a word you use that I find to be very important that is boundaries and most people have very poor boundaries. You're good. You're good. You're good at the boundaries I'm a lot better. 40:09.52 Max Shank I Am That's my best skill I got the fastest know in the west I'm good. Yeah some people call that unfriendly. 40:22.52 mikebledsoe Ah, max du an asshole. Ah yeah I've had people in my life. You know they'll they'll be like if he doesn't want to do it. He's not going to do it or if I do want to do something I'm going to do it. 40:26.50 Max Shank I Just I just love myself. That's all. 40:36.70 Max Shank Right. 40:40.77 mikebledsoe It's It's more about like negotiate like if I'm know whoever I'm dating so turns into a negotiation about how it's going to happen versus if it's going to happen or whatever it is or not going to happen. Yeah, so. 40:49.80 Max Shank If you can't say no, it's not negotiation. Can't walk away. It's no negotiation at all. 40:58.85 mikebledsoe Yeah, but I think the boundaries conversation. You know I see there's internal boundaries and external boundaries and people are constantly crossing their internal boundaries. There. You know they go Oh I'm going to turn off my screens when the sun goes down or or whatever it is and then they don't do it or I'm going to stop. You know, binge watching television and cracking a beer when I get off work and they just cross that boundary and over and over again. They end up hating themselves for it usually projecting that anger on to you know their job or a relationship or yeah to kick the dog or whatever it is and. 41:20.73 Max Shank The. 41:30.99 Max Shank Take the dog right. 41:37.84 mikebledsoe So There's like the the setting and the maintaining of boundaries is really really Important. Ah for for growth and the way I look at it is if we study archetypes if we look at like masculine archetypes the King sets the boundaries. The King has a kingdom. And says these are the edges of my kingdom. This is what I will and will not do and this is these are the rules that we live by in my kingdom but the warrior their job is to maintain those boundaries and so what I see a lot of a lot of men who end up in this like really flowy place is they have no boundaries. 41:59.26 Max Shank The. 42:06.10 Max Shank Is. 42:15.17 Max Shank Oh. 42:16.66 mikebledsoe Because they're there even if they want to have boundaries their warrior is so weak that they they just fold to their internal boundaries all the time and so there's a lot of guys running around acting tough who have zero warrior energy being directed at. 42:23.67 Max Shank And. 42:36.24 mikebledsoe Ah, maintaining boundaries and so ah and if you can't maintain your internal boundaries. You're not going to maintain healthy external boundaries and a lot of people on the external boundary side people. They don't um. 42:36.94 Max Shank Ah. 42:55.35 mikebledsoe First off, most people don't communicate their boundaries as boundaries. They may communicate it but they don't use the word boundaries I find that if I use the word boundary with somebody it catches their attention they go. Oh he's being serious because it's just not a common word and ah so external boundaries usually aren't communicated. 42:57.31 Max Shank Um, right right? Yeah, ah. 43:15.70 mikebledsoe And again someone else crosses our external boundary. What happens if you cross my external boundary and I didn't communicate it to you I usually get angry. You know people get angry. They're like but the fuck and you're going what happened I don't know um and so ah. 43:24.91 Max Shank Lash out and right off. 43:33.37 mikebledsoe Learning to communicate boundaries effectively All the time will create a lot of respect from other people and it keeps things really really clean and if something if something does need to shift in a relationship and you've been communicating the boundary as being broken over and over and over again. 43:41.73 Max Shank Oh. 43:52.36 mikebledsoe And it's an easier thing to to satisfy to to move away from it's like oh we have Ah, we've documented that this boundary's been crossed a dozen times like you're not honoring my boundariary. So yeah, we're gonna We're gonna shift this relationship. 43:58.12 Max Shank Right. 44:06.80 Max Shank Well and you draw your own line of what you're going to tolerate or not and it's It's fine to compromise as long as you know what? you're getting for what you're giving. Um I think I think fasting is really good for drawing those boundaries. 44:16.22 mikebledsoe Now. Yeah. 44:24.55 Max Shank I mean I don't want to label myself. Um, but I usually don't have 1 of something I have like zero of something or I have lots of that something and I think fasting is really good for drawing. 44:37.27 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah. 44:44.12 Max Shank That critical boundary of your intake and I made a little video about it and I talked about how the main benefit of fasting to me is going from um, compulsive to conscious behavior and that's. 44:59.49 mikebledsoe E. 45:03.69 Max Shank Really at the core of what we're talking about and when I was on this other show I got asked like what's the way to get rich and I said deferred gratification and they said anything else I'm like not really like if you're able to defer gratification until later and you provide something. Valuable. It'll it'll eventually work out if you can see the big picture and stay focused then the other stuff will sort of happen organically I think and look you can go. We can go into way more detail as far as how to get rich and stay rich which would maybe be another. Good topic for a show because we have similar but different similar similar and different strategies on that. Um. 45:41.79 mikebledsoe Oh yeah, like that 1 45:48.37 mikebledsoe Well I've ah ah we we come from. We have different personalities when it comes to our approaches to business and wealth building but we also have agreement on a lot of Concepts so it'd be. It'd be interesting. 45:56.90 Max Shank Totally right. Right? Yeah, it flows so easy. 46:07.20 mikebledsoe I Mean that's why we have these conversations because we we've come to. We've come to similar conclusions from different points of view all right. We'll do the get rich stay rich. 46:18.58 Max Shank That's that's what we like about other people too. We like that they're different but similar right? Um I think for tying this rhythm thing back into business I think the value of. 46:21.24 mikebledsoe Yeah. 46:35.58 Max Shank Putting together a campaign is quite valuable and having it be. You know I'm not just like doing x y and z all day every day there's the visionary comes up with this plan and then we have this. Execution that lies on a bit of ah, a tempo or a cycle. So like let's say you and I were going to start a new business and we didn't set any boundaries for when we're going to, um, you know do the brain. Swarming I call it I don't I don't call it brainstorming I call it brain swarming like it's everything all these different things kind of coming together and moving as a unified unit. But if we don't have like a stop for that phase. And think it's easy to imagine that you and I would just stay in Dreamland brainswarming forever and be like oh and what if we did this and what if we did that and if you have this sort of tempo. For that campaign where it's like first we're going to do this and then we're going to build and then we're going to delegate and then we're going to build and then this is going to be our follow up tempo and touch points and that's the same thing with coaching is how often am I going to touch base. How often am I going to reach out to you. What's our. 47:57.70 mikebledsoe Oh. 48:01.79 Max Shank But's our tempo for it and for me weekly is really good. For example in my experience. That's the best of course if you have someone who can check in with you every single day. That's probably going to give you an even better result. Something like coaching hey you know how to go Yesterday. What's the plan today boom boom boom and you kind of work through it and clearly that there's a benefit to that. Otherwise no 1 would need a coach but the reality is ah. 48:27.78 mikebledsoe E. 48:39.25 Max Shank Ah, Coach often gets you to do something. You know you should. 48:40.62 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah, I also see the the necessity for creating our own you know and I think about this I think about creating your own structure because that creating that rhythm that tempo is a structure. Um and is. 48:50.59 Max Shank So. 48:57.64 mikebledsoe I Think there's also why coaching is is becoming really important right now is because more and more as as the world decentralizes people are becoming more and more responsible for their own schedule and you know we saw this with Covid people started working from home and there was. 49:09.16 Max Shank Um, now that's tough. 49:17.50 mikebledsoe Ah, go oh wow people. Ah first I was like people probably won't work that much and then I start hearing reports that people are working way more because there's no boundary set up for them like oh you show up to work at this time and then you leave work and so they were just like working all the time at home like whoa and so um. 49:22.17 Max Shank M. 49:31.56 Max Shank Well. 49:37.50 mikebledsoe Yeah, there's a lot of factors there. But as the Covid just sped things up. They were already there which is the world is decentralizing more people are going to work from home. There's gonna be more freelancers less employees and like more contractors and if you're a freelancer. 49:38.78 Max Shank What and the. 49:49.90 Max Shank The and. 49:55.76 mikebledsoe 1 of the beauties of being a freelancer is you have control of your own schedule and that is a new thing for people. 50:07.14 Max Shank I've always wanted that that was like the really since I was a young kid that was the only thing I wanted is the freedom to live on my own schedule. You know I felt like something was taken away from me as soon as I had to start going to school I'm like this is awful I don't want to do this I Want to go out and play with the stick. 50:13.64 mikebledsoe A. 50:24.80 Max Shank But and I think kind of to borrow your term again. Um, collapsed distinction with the work and home life I think that's 1 of the um. 50:41.47 Max Shank Challenges or opportunities for entrepreneurs I've certainly noticed that myself I mean the reality is I I did work tons and tons of hours getting to where I'm at now and that number has significantly decreased as I've gained more skill and drawn better boundaries. But if you. Are suddenly thrown into this scenario where the place you work is the same place that you eat and the same place that you also have a computer where you can see anything anytime you will get that collapsed distinction. Where now everything is just always happening right here at the console I'm working and then I'm in the kitchen eating cookies and then there are boobies on the screen and you're just kind of like this everything everything all at once where you don't have that clear. 51:37.83 mikebledsoe Yeah work. 51:38.78 Max Shank Distinction of when it's work time and when it's relaxed time and I think that is a very just as valuable. Maybe as being able to consciously rather than compulsively project your thinking into the future project your thinking into the past. 51:45.73 mikebledsoe Yeah. 51:58.38 Max Shank And also bring yourself directly into the here and now and just go for a walk and let your ah conscious mind be alleviated of all of these you know, urgencies and emergencies and problems and all of these labels. We attach to. 52:16.10 mikebledsoe Yeah now. Yeah. 52:18.18 Max Shank Things trying to ask you for your time but you still have the power to draw that boundary and say no. But if you don't if you don't It's game over like people will infringe on your boundaries and they will respond to. However, you train them to respond. 52:35.50 mikebledsoe E. 52:37.58 Max Shank Basically um, which is kind of weird I don't mean that in a derogatory way at all. But you know if someone complains to you and then you respond to them favorably favorably. You're in inviting them to do that more if someone says hey can you can you stay. You know 3 hours late or come in and work on Sunday and you just always say yes, well, they're just going to always ask you to come work on sunday. 53:01.77 mikebledsoe Yeah I like the thing about it as you're a character in a movie and or if you've ever studied you know fiction. You know you basically create a character and then the character. Based on their characters how they respond throughout the story or the movies like oh that was it would be weird that'd be at a character of this character if james bond you know, walked away from you know a hot woman. It would be it would be at a character like no james bond like. 53:21.61 Max Shank Ah. 53:31.11 Max Shank That would be out of character right. 53:36.70 mikebledsoe He orders a martini. He chats her up at the bar. Ah, and so we are all characters in a movie and we have this script playing all the time and. 53:45.72 Max Shank God am I the villain or the hero I'm not even sure if I become a villain I would be a hell of a good Ark though. 53:54.64 mikebledsoe And and ah, what ends up happening is people are casting us as characters in their movie and ah if you start making 1 of these changes. For instance, you go you know what? I'm going to shift my character I'm going to develop my character. By creating boundaries that I communicate now it can be jarring for other people because now they have this expectation of the character in which they perceive you to be and now you you aren't that and people tend to dislike change. So Now you're throwing a wrench. 54:20.61 Max Shank Um, then again. 54:34.33 mikebledsoe And their their consciousness and they go but but but and a lot of times it comes out as Anger or disappointment or whatever it is and so for me I I really make sure that my first impression with people is you know it's an anchor experience. They're now this. Moment in time. How they how they're interacting with me now is how they're gonna end up treating me in the future because changing that over time can be difficult so I'm very good at holding the boundaries from from the very beginning. They know my boundaries. They're not gonna think anything of it. They're not gonna be mad about it. The people are gonna get mad at. 55:06.60 Max Shank Like. 55:13.78 mikebledsoe My new boundaries are the people who I've already got very established relationships with and now I'm creating something new. 55:16.49 Max Shank Well, it's like momentum. Well it's physics right? If you have momentum in a certain way and people expect that certain thing if you change there's going to be a new acceleration or a Jolt and a jerk and that's going to be really uncomfortable. 55:30.96 mikebledsoe Yeah, yeah, so yeah, and summary for that is it I think a lot of people are going to get out of this is to be more conscious of their internal boundaries external boundaries notice. 55:34.84 Max Shank No. 55:49.60 mikebledsoe The rhythms that that exist in the world and with themselves and being able to honor that and making those changes to honor your own rhythms and the rhythms of the universe are going to make your life a lot better but in the short term making those changes and and experiencing that. Change in acceleration can be a little jarring and just realizing that hey this short term difficulty and making these ah changes for me and and others will be worth it. Long term because once you get them set and you're rolling life. Gets a lot better. 56:28.43 Max Shank I Think it's also yeah I would agree with what you said completely I would also suggest people start timestamping their start and stop times when they're working on stuff and notice for themselves when they're doing their best work. 56:38.56 mikebledsoe Yeah. 56:44.20 mikebledsoe E. 56:46.55 Max Shank And when things start to deteriorate and you know the whole point of what we're doing really is to liberate people from the false realities that have been programmed into them from a huge variety of sources and it's natural to want to get. Ah, greater effect for less effort. There's nothing more natural than that we want. We want to be as efficient as we possibly can. So if you do respect those boundaries if you do draw those boundaries if you do um draw a clearer. 57:13.90 mikebledsoe Me here. 57:22.77 Max Shank Distinction rather than a collapse distinction between work rest and play. You're going to get a way way better result with way less effort I mean who would not want to spend less time working but get better results like what? what seems more obvious than that. 57:41.56 mikebledsoe Yep. 57:42.70 Max Shank But if you don't draw those boundaries. It's basically impossible and you know you can't worry I mean this is easier said than done right? because we're the most social emotional creatures ever. You can't worry what it's going to do for someone else like breaking your own boundaries to make someone else feel better. Is not doing them a favor. It's just willingly participating in your own energy vampireism essentially and I really like the the lore around vampires because it perfectly describes energy vampires too. So with. 58:16.42 mikebledsoe Oh. 58:20.20 Max Shank Real vampire I was going to say real vam I mean maybe there are who knows with real vampires or the story. They can't come in your house and let see you invite them in with energy vampires. It's exactly the same thing you don't have to let anyone suck any of your energy. Unless you deliberately and directly invite them in so it's very important to just realize how much power is in the word. No. 58:47.28 mikebledsoe Someone say it's the most powerful word there is. 58:52.71 Max Shank Um I would agree maybe maybe yes Also but yes and yes implies that no is an option. 58:59.29 mikebledsoe Yeah, can't have a yes without a no as a possibility I Want to mention in summary I Do want to mention 2 tools that I use that that you made me think of ah is I use a tool called Marduck which is ah. Have my entire business put in there. It's it's ah it's ah the most advanced task management system ever seen I'm go. Ah I'm a Beta user for it. My buddy designed it. We're gonna be rolling that out to my clients. But also if anyone wants to use this. Ah. This software that basically you put your entire business in it and then it tracks how long you're doing certain tasks and helps you focus I would say I've been using it for five months my productivity if I to guess 3 X I work less and get way more done. Um, and I enjoy my work so he he's figured out a way to gamify ah work. So you program it around your business and then it gamifies it and there's rewards and all sorts of stuff. Um, but what I do is with the marduck system when I start a task I hit play and it starts tracking my time. When I hit stop and when when I hit play it closes down all the other things that I need to do that Day. So I'm not getting distracted when I hit stop I Then it prompts me to put in what I did like like a little summary of what I completed and then the difficulty of. On on a number scale of how difficult that task was for me to complete and ah that helps me, um, check you know I'm consciously choosing to do a task and then I I complete it and then I do a check In. Um. 01:00:28.66 Max Shank Um, um, how can. 01:00:44.59 mikebledsoe And then so I use that tool in combination with another tool called Brain Dot fm. 01:00:46.44 Max Shank We should. We should get Marduk to sponsor this episode that was amazing. 01:00:50.94 mikebledsoe Oh yeah, thanks. Ah yeah, I'm gonna be slinging some marduck well like I said up. Um I'm giving it to all my clients starting at 2022 ah but anyone even if you're not a client if you want to get access to it. You just dm me on the instagrams. 01:01:00.98 Max Shank Cool. 01:01:10.66 mikebledsoe And ah, brain fm is the other 1 which is a binaural audio program that basically helps your brain it basically tunes your your brain to the frequency of focus while you're getting stuff done and what I like about brain fm is. There's 30 sixty and ninety minute. Ah. Ah, amount of time you can put on there and so the music just plays helping you focus? Um, and then after thirty sixty or ninety minutes however you program it it stops and that's what I know to take a break and so I noticed that I can do two ninety minute sprints if if I'm working before noon. 01:01:40.48 Max Shank Smart. 01:01:47.22 Max Shank Who. 01:01:49.70 mikebledsoe So I'll do ah a ninety minute sprint and then I'll go make myself some breakfast take a thirty minute break go for a walk come back. Do another ninety minute sprint in the afternoons I like to do sixty minute I can do 1 or 2 sixty minute sprints and then I'm done I'm done for the day and so ah, that's that's been a really great. Those are great tools that have. Help me raise my awareness around what I'm doing how I'm doing it creating boundaries. ah so I'm ah I'm a big fan of I like to say I have very little willpower but I'm hyper ah hyperactive as 1 yeah, but I'm um. 01:02:20.15 Max Shank Active. 01:02:25.90 mikebledsoe Hyper vigilant around setting up structures and systems to kind of basically I bump into things I go Oh yeah, I'm so it's a stop right now. Otherwise I just keep going. Oh yeah, thank you, Thank you. 01:02:37.74 Max Shank That's wisdom. That's knowing yourself and acting accordingly. That's really smart. That's very wise. Yeah, you bet. 01:02:45.68 mikebledsoe Um, yeah, anything else you want to mention in summary for the show. 01:02:49.00 Max Shank No love you. Love you guys. Thanks for listening draw good boundaries and don't fight the flow ride the wave. 01:02:59.60 mikebledsoe Dope you can find max at ma shk dot com and everything ma shk and then find me at ah mike underscore Bloodso on Instagram and the strongcoach dot com on the interwebs. Thanks y ' all. 01:03:04.90 Max Shank That's it.

WX: jessica66001,获得卡卡老师的英语学习干货分享关注公号：卡卡课堂获取更多福利Back At One如果要问我婚礼上一定要播放的英文歌，那我一定会推荐这首《Back At One》。这是我听过为数不多的可以融化你的一首歌。当歌中的One Two Three响起时，总会让我们想到那个让我们感受爱情甜蜜的人。一个让你想让用余生的陪伴守候的人。和这样的人在一起，对于追寻爱情的我们，便是美梦成真。今天我们学习这首歌，也希望它能将你温暖，将你治愈。Back at one是美国有名的歌手兼词作家、制作家Brian McKnight在1999发行的第二张专辑《Back at one》的同名主打歌曲。《Back At One》获得了极大的成功，标题曲在美国热门歌曲100首中连续几周排在第2位。It's undeniable that we should be together不可否认，我们将会厮守在一起。It's undeniable 连读that t 省音should d省音It's unbelievable无法相信，It's unbelievable连读how I use to say that I'd fall never我一直以为我不会再坠入爱河。how I 连读that I'd 连读The basis is need to know你要知道， 那么就让我来告诉你，basis is 连读 need d省音If you don't know just how I feel如果你不了解此刻我的感受，don't t省音 just how I 连读Then let me show you now that I'm for real那么就让我来告诉你，你知道我对你是认真的。Let t省音 that I'm连读If all things in time, time will reveal如果一切迟早要到来， 时间就是最好的证明。If all 连读things in 连读yeah耶One, you're like a dream come true你就像美梦成真，like a 连读Two, just wanna be with you二，就是想和你厮守just t省音Three, girl it's plain to see三，很明显，that you're the only one for me你就是我的唯一that t省音the only连读and four, repeat steps one through three四，这三种感受越来越深刻。And d省音 repeat t省音Five, make you fall in love with me五, 要你与我共坠爱河。If ever I believe my work is done如果我能做到，If ever I 连读work is 连读Then I'll start back at one我的美梦就能成真。Then I'll start back at oneyeah耶

WX: jessica66001,获得卡卡老师的英语学习干货分享关注公号：卡卡课堂获取更多福利Back At One如果要问我婚礼上一定要播放的英文歌，那我一定会推荐这首《Back At One》。这是我听过为数不多的可以融化你的一首歌。当歌中的One Two Three响起时，总会让我们想到那个让我们感受爱情甜蜜的人。一个让你想让用余生的陪伴守候的人。和这样的人在一起，对于追寻爱情的我们，便是美梦成真。今天我们学习这首歌，也希望它能将你温暖，将你治愈。Back at one是美国有名的歌手兼词作家、制作家Brian McKnight在1999发行的第二张专辑《Back at one》的同名主打歌曲。《Back At One》获得了极大的成功，标题曲在美国热门歌曲100首中连续几周排在第2位。It's undeniable that we should be together不可否认，我们将会厮守在一起。It's undeniable 连读that t 省音should d省音It's unbelievable无法相信，It's unbelievable连读how I use to say that I'd fall never我一直以为我不会再坠入爱河。how I 连读that I'd 连读The basis is need to know你要知道， 那么就让我来告诉你，basis is 连读 need d省音If you don't know just how I feel如果你不了解此刻我的感受，don't t省音 just how I 连读Then let me show you now that I'm for real那么就让我来告诉你，你知道我对你是认真的。Let t省音 that I'm连读If all things in time, time will reveal如果一切迟早要到来， 时间就是最好的证明。If all 连读things in 连读yeah耶One, you're like a dream come true你就像美梦成真，like a 连读Two, just wanna be with you二，就是想和你厮守just t省音Three, girl it's plain to see三，很明显，that you're the only one for me你就是我的唯一that t省音the only连读and four, repeat steps one through three四，这三种感受越来越深刻。And d省音 repeat t省音Five, make you fall in love with me五, 要你与我共坠爱河。If ever I believe my work is done如果我能做到，If ever I 连读work is 连读Then I'll start back at one我的美梦就能成真。Then I'll start back at oneyeah耶

Joseph James is a former U.S. Marine and Law Enforcement veteran, business owner, father, motivational speaker and life coach. Joseph has spoken in many venues across the nation and has helped 1,000's of people understand their purpose in life. After his wife's battle of cancer, and the journey of pain his family went through, Joseph is now coaching people that have gone through life's struggles, pain and trauma to help them not just find their purpose through pain but teach them to take their pain and launch them into their destiny! Social Media Sharable Quotes: “He started out with spankings… there was no “time out” for my siblings and I… Then spankings quickly escalated and became beatings!” Joseph referencing his father and childhood “My 3-year-old showing me Google Maps asking me; where is heaven dad?... because that's where is mom is…” Joseph talking about losing his wife right after the birth of their child. “We have to understand the capacity of the humans rejecting us…” - Jeremy on dealing with rejection at any age “I smell the smell of death and I have no hope” – Joseph's wife “I realized right then this was not a day-by-day battle, or month by month, or year by year, BUT it was a SECOND-by-SECOND battle. Every moment matters and the mood can change in a second! – Joseph “Vulnerability brings healing… you can say, here, this is the ball and chain I have been carrying for so long, man will you please take it from me and do something with it?!”- Joseph regarding his healing process Show Notes: 0:22- Jeremy introduces Joseph James and give brief story about how they met 2:01- Joseph tells his “story” 10:54- Jeremy and Joseph dive into “seeking approval” from parents, teacher, coaches, brother, co-worker etc. Hint: remove the word “approval” with “opinion. Listen as Jeremy explains 21:50- Rejection: “A lot of it is just self-forgiveness…” Don't miss this Action Item from Joseph 36:42- Joseph begins the story of losing his wife after being diagnosed with cancer 8 weeks before the due date of their child. 54:43- Vulnerability Brings Healing 1:02:01- Listen to Joseph describe “Hell in the Hallway”- Transition of Life 1:15:56- 4 Must Have Takeaways from Joseph: 1- Self -Forgiveness 2- Take Time to Grieve 3- Listen to the Episode for #3 and #4 Connect with Joseph James: Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn  Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721  Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/ Connect with Jeremy and Optimal Self: Links: (We LOVE to be tagged in your posts, please share our content and tag us!) - Main Page: www.OptimalSelf.Today - Links to our Podcast, all social media, PLUS join our Private Facebook Group, Free "Identity Creator" Course, and more! - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAkydziqrlYZIFmOgD1kTPA - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OptimalSelf1 - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/optimal_self/ - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@optimalself

HEYYY! Thank you for tuning into episode 5 of season 4 of Spiritually Lit! This episode has our weekly Q+A. I Then talk a bit about the downloads I've received behind the numerology and power of the 12/12/2020 portal coming up and pull cards for the collective surrounding the energy moving forward into 2021. I hope you enjoy! These readings are of the general energy *if it don't apply, let it fly!* ♡︎love donations♡︎ ❥cashapp: $enlightenedAries ❥Venmo: @theenlightenedaries To book a personal reading w/ me: https://theenlightenedaries.simplybook.me/v2/ Follow https://www.instagram.com/theenlightenedaries/ on Instagram for spirituality content! Follow https://www.instagram.com/lynnslocs/ on Instagram for my loc journey and cannabis content! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenlightenedaries/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenlightenedaries/support

Kenji Asakura and Letizia Alto are experienced and passionate real estate investors. They share their knowledge with other physicians and high income earners through their business, Semi-Retired MD, which offers courses, coaching and more.  “Whenever you’re in a challenge, say, ‘how can I?’ Then figure out every possible solution and try them, and never give up and say ‘this is impossible.’ There’s always a possible solution — you’ve just got to figure it out and try to hit it from as many ways as you can and be very, very persistent," Leti says. Since their last appearance on Money Checkup about a year ago, Kenji and Leti have nearly doubled the size of their real estate portfolio and have begun transitioning out of clinical medicine to focus on their businesses. https://fitadvisors.com/real-estate-investing-semi-retired-md

What an honor to contribute to Strong Magazine's Jan/Feb 2020 Goal Setting Issue (which just hit the newsstands!) While Katelyn Swallow starts off with the fact that 80% of goals aren't achieved, she also jam packs it with solutions from around the world! 50-80% of New Year's Resolution goals are abandon by the 2nd week of January! If you find your goals crushing your "can do" spirit, or you've abandon your new start intentions all together, let's reclaim success right now. Here are 5 steps I'm adding to reframe your goals for 2020 success: Step 1: Rate the intention 1-10. Most New Year's goals begin with a wonderful intention to do something for health, wellness, benefit of others . . .. Many times we can't even name the "why," other than it lifts our spirit. We feel like a cloud of something is being lifted when we state the intention. For example, if your goal was to "eat better," and maybe you tried to add a side salad every day, chances are you actually felt better (maybe it was a sense of clarity, ease, or just a feeling). However, you found that you stopped doing this after a week. Maybe you were tired of chopping salad. Maybe you tried to only eat salad and found yourself starving. Take a moment with your own goals and simply ask "how important is that to me on a scale of 1-10?" "In my gut, do I feel compelled to to XYZ, and how strong is that feeling?" If it is more than a 5, stick to it and remember you don't have to be a 100% new you; maybe start with 50% of the time. Don't feel like you have to name the "why" or justify yourself. Step 2: Examine the social cost. Most goals have a social cost. For example, if your goal was to eat better, you may have discovered that your kids were complaining that they couldn't have mac & cheese for dinner every night. Maybe your family was guilting you in that they had spent all weekend making the family's best recipes, and your not fully partaking wasn't acceptable. Maybe you developed FOMO from turning down happy hour. Maybe your regular weekend hangout crew stopped calling you to go out for drinks, and you are worried that your friends won't be your friends anymore. Ask yourself three questions: 1. Do you want your outcome enough that you are willing to set boundaries and consistently stick to them? 2. In one sentence, what is your boundary phrase and what trigger does it go with? For example, maybe an invitation to happy hour is my trigger to consume alcohol, but my goal is one glass of wine per week with my significant other. My boundary phrase might be, "I'm working on a goal that is really important to well being, and alcohol isn't consistent with where I'm going. Would you be open to us making a time next month to catch up over coffee or a walk?" 3. Are you willing to take the scary leap and see what new social spheres develop? Coming from a fitness competition background, I will admit, you will lose a lot of friends when you change into a health or wellness lifestyle. Your current social circle is going to keep doing there thing. Your new habits will fit with some in that circle, but other relationships will start falling off. Step 3: What daily changes have you made? Most goals require action steps. The action steps are usually daily habits you perform consistently. For example, I was working with someone that wanted less back pain. She sees me once in a while and mostly wants massage. However, we've discussed that chronic sitting posture is the main contributing factor. As much as I want to help, a once-in-a-while massage isn't enough to make a lasting change away from back pain. As a step to undo the daily muscle tension, we agreed that she would try yoga. She did have a background in movement, so even starting with a 10 minute YouTube video would be wonderful. 10 minutes of YouTube yoga each day, working within her body and not pushing into pain, would be the kind of daily consistency appropriate to start moving toward feeling better. Many of us set the intention, but forget about what the daily supporting action will be to support alignment toward the new you. Look at your intention/goal and see if you can name one daily change you commit to, then get it done. Make it non-negotiable, like brushing your teeth. If you're saying "wait, one change is too small!" stop there. While most goals have many action steps, the success hides in how they are layered over time. Most of us have tried to tackle the world all in a day, but found we just couldn't get in everything we wanted to. When we have a single goal, the success rate is close to 80%. If we start distributing attention among many, most people lose steam quickly and both the outcome and the supporting tasks are abandon within the month. Once you master one habit, then stack in another. Step 4: Examine the environment. Maybe you wanted to start working out; you tried a new gym or fitness class, and you walked away hating it. So many times, it either comes down to mindset or environment. For example, if you tried a new fitness class and walked out feeling defeated and like others were judging you, that's OK; most of us have this feeling at some point. I remember my first few years in a gym, clinging to the treadmill like my life depended on it. I didn't want others judging my form when I was new to weightlifting. First, most people in the gym or fitness classes are so busy thinking about keeping their body moving in the right direction, as well as everything else they need to get done that day, that they don't have time to even think about what you might be thinking. Second, did you introduce yourself to people? Instead of hiding in the locker room until one minute after the class started, and then leaving five minutes early, did you make time to get there early and introduce yourself to the instructor? Did you introduce yourself to the person next to you? Phones make it so easy to hide our social anxiety too; put it down! Many times, the actions to start connecting to the community lie in your court. Showing up is the first step; taking ownership based actions is what makes the difference. A simple "hi my name is, and I'm new here. What's your name?" can go a long way. Second, if you didn't feel right in the environment, segment the experience. Ask yourself what was good about it. You can take the good pieces and then try different ways to engage with the good parts. Maybe the gym was too far away during rush hour; is there a different time of day that would work, or a different gym? Maybe the class felt way too easy or way too hard overall; is there a different class you could try? Maybe the idea of boxing sounded wonderful, and you had such fog head after class you couldn't make it through the rest of the day. Maybe you could change nutrient timing, or try a different lower intensity style class? I remember my experience becoming a Spinning instructor. Everyone around me was raving about spinning. They loved the motivation and intensity; they'd come away bragging about the 600-800-1000 calories they'd burned. Honestly, I'd never tried spinning, but it seemed so wonderful, I went and got a Spinning certification and started teaching class. I quickly discovered that no matter how I set the seat, my knees hurt. A lot. On the bike, I'd also get so shaky because I wasn't used to burning through blood sugar so fast. I'd drink a liter of juice just to get through it, and all that sugar was definitely not aligned with my goals. It didn't take long before I changed to teaching other formats like yoga and Pilates, as I felt amazing instead of completely fogged after those classes. What can we learn from that? Different kinds of fitness environments suit different people. This goes beyond fitness into work, volunteering, and your other goals too. If the environment isn't making you happy, parse out the good, and then take those elements to new environments to see what sticks. Step 5: Assess your needs. Many times you get going on a new goal or project and discover there is quite a bit more depth than you had seen on the surface. Think back to your education. Maybe you are a nurse. On the surface you loved the idea of helping people and probably had personal or family experiences where a nurse really made a difference in caring and maximizing quality of getting back to wellness. When you went to nursing school, however, you discovered all new terminology, science, and research studies. Maybe you discovered that you didn't like reading medical research and the idea of doing that 15-30 hours +/week was making you miserable, conversely maybe you loved the depth of information and discovered an unquenchable thirst for learning leading to your degree and career. Setting goals is similar; there is usually more hiding under the superficial goal that leads you into a new journey of discovery. On this journey, you may often find points at which you need more motivation, accountability, or knowledge. Here is where personal goals come up against a wall and fall off. Instead, be resourceful. Ask yourself, what do I need right now, and start seeking coaches or other resources to help move forward. Remember, goals, like many things in life have ups and downs in a non-linear journey. When you hit the valley, instead of abandoning the goal, ask "how can I _____?" Then start doing! I hope that these 5 tips to reclaim your goal success help you now, or throughout the year too. Looking for more wonderful goal setting tips to reignite your 2020 success? Grab the January 2020 issue of Strong Magazine. Katelyn Swallow, Editor-in-Chief at Strong Australia, has literally scoured the globe to bring together a collaboration of novel perspectives to re-launch your 2020! Happy 2020!

FamilyLife Today® Radio Transcript  References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete. The Family as a Training Center Guests:                      Dennis and Barbara Rainey                       From the series:       The Art of Parenting: Relationships (Day 2 of 3)   Bob: Is it okay for moms and dads to fight in front of the kids? Barbara Rainey says, sometimes, it is. Barbara: We decided that we wanted our kids to see us having some disagreements—not big conflict—but if we were disagreeing about something that was not a huge thing, but we really both had a strong opinion on it, we decided that we would go again and occasionally express our disagreement in front of our kids and let them watch us work it out. We just disagree, and parents disagree. It's okay for parents to disagree. Bob: This is FamilyLife Today for Thursday, December 6th. Our host is Dennis Rainey; I'm Bob Lepine. Your kids are going to have to know how to resolve conflict, because conflict is a part of life. They need your coaching, and they need to see how you do it. We're going to talk more about that today. Stay with us. 1:00 And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Thanks for joining us on the Thursday edition. We're going to talk today about what moms and dads can do to help their children develop some relational intelligence—to help them know how to do relationships right. Dennis: —how to love imperfect people. It's that kind of programming that we try to provide, here, at FamilyLife Today that keeps listeners coming back for more. You ought to hear one of my favorite stories—my all-time stories—in 27 years of broadcasting. It was a letter from a woman, who lived in Alaska. Where she lived, she couldn't get a radio signal; so she, every day—it was like at 10 o'clock/10:30—she would get on her snowmobile and drive out to a ridge [Laughter] so she could listen to FamilyLife Today. A woman—a wife/a mother—who needed practical biblical help and hope for her home. When you give to FamilyLife Today, you're making this broadcast possible— 2:00 —not merely to folks who live on the outskirts of humanity in Alaska—but you're making it possible, all across our country. If you believe in what we're doing, here, on FamilyLife Today, I need you to pick up the phone, or go online, or take out a check and say: “Guys, keep going! Twenty-seven years has been great, but we need this broadcast to stand strong now. Here's my investment in godly homes and legacies for generations to come.” Bob: During the Christmas season, and as we approach the end of the year, this is a particularly critical time to hear from listeners; isn't it? Dennis: It is; over 40 percent of our donations come in this month. As I said on a recent broadcast, these 30 days determine how FamilyLife® is going to continue broadcasting over the next 11 months.  Bob: Yes. Dennis: Please, stand with us. We need your help now.  Bob: Here's good news: right now, if you help with a donation, your donation is going to be doubled—it's going to be matched, dollar for dollar.  3:00 We've got some friends of the ministry who have offered to match every donation we receive, during the month of December, dollar for dollar, up to a total of $2.5 million. That's a huge opportunity for us; and we're hoping FamilyLife Today listeners will respond and make an online donation, or call to donate.  When you do, we'd like to say, “Thank you,” this year by sending you a DVD copy of the movie that FamilyLife produced this year that was in theaters a few months ago. It's a movie called Like Arrows. It's going to be available for purchase in early 2019; but right now, we have a limited supply available if you can help with a yearend donation. Donate, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate. Just ask for the DVD, Like Arrows, and we'll send that out to you, along with our thanks for your support of the ministry. Now, I want to tell you guys about my next-door neighbor when I was growing up. His name was Dee; he was a year younger than me. We grew up across the driveway from one another—we had a shared driveway. 4:00  Dennis: You're not talking about recently; you're talking about when you were a kid. Bob: This was when I was a kid; yes. This was back in Glendale, Missouri. Dennis: Back before the earth's crust had hardened. [Laughter] Bob: We shared a driveway that “Y”-d off. As you came up the driveway, the right side went to their house; the left side went to our house. We moved in when I was two; Dee was one. We went all the way through high school together. He was the best man in my wedding. Barbara: Really? Bob: Yes; so we had a great relationship. In fact, Dee just came and spent a weekend at our house a couple of months ago. We had a great time getting caught up on everything. Barbara: Wow! Bob: So Dee and I played together a lot as we were growing up. One time—my mom loved telling this story—one time, she was watching us out the back door. Dee was like a year-and-a-half, and I was two-and-a-half years old. I pushed him down—I pushed him onto the ground, and he fell down. He was crying; and she came out and she said, “Bobby, why did you push him?” I said: “I shot him. He's dead, and he won't fall down! [Laughter] So I pushed him to the ground!” 5:00 I remember Dee's dad—Dee's dad would always—when he would step into the room, where we were playing, or where his sister and my sister were, and we were all together and there was squabbling or something—Dee's dad would come in, and he would just laugh. He'd say: “Little children! Love one another.” [Laughter] He would repeat that over and over again. I didn't realize he was quoting Scripture when he was saying that. He was just stepping in to what is, often, the case with kids; that is, that kids often don't do a great job of loving one another. He was giving us a little coaching on what really matters. Barbara: That's cute! Bob: It's one of the themes that you address. And, by the way, Barbara, welcome back to FamilyLife Today.  Barbara: Thank you, Bob. Bob: It's nice to have you here again with us today as we're talking about parenting. We're talking about the new book you've written called The Art of Parenting. One of the core themes in this book is that we've got to help our kids be good at relationships, because they're not naturally good at relationships— 6:00  —we learn that pretty soon. As soon as you have more than one in a family, conflict comes in pretty quickly; doesn't it? Dennis: And if you don't teach the resolution of conflict—if you don't teach your children how to love another imperfect person—you're not doing a good job preparing them for the rest of their life; because they're going to spend the rest of their lives relating to selfish, sinful, broken people, many of whom think and believe differently than they do. They have to know how to do this!  I just know that, the older I've gotten, the more resolute I am that the family is an incubator—it's a training vehicle—for young pioneers, who are going to spend the rest of their lives on their journey—the first time they've ever been there—but they've got to know how to relate to people. Bob: Barbara, we've talked already about how important it is for parents to doggedly pursue their children— 7:00 —to pursue a relationship with them; to build a strong, healthy, unconditional love; a forgiveness and grace-based relationship with our kids. Even when we do that, our children are not going to naturally embrace that same kind of a relationship with their siblings. I'm thinking of how I've watched my grandkids, now, who are one- and two-years old. They're not thinking about these things, consciously; but there's an innate sense of: “I want what I want. I want to be the center of attention. If you're interfering with what I want, I'm going to make life hard for you.” Barbara: Yes. Bob: This is that fundamental self-oriented nature that's in each one of us, and that's what keeps us from having healthy relationships; isn't it? Barbara: Exactly, and that's what makes mom and dad's job hard—is that our kids are born sinful, and we know that; but they're so sweet and they're so loveable—and we just think they're the greatest. We forget, sometimes, that they're little sinners, at the core. 8:00 But Dennis and I worked at it. Even though we felt like failures, we didn't quit teaching; and we didn't quit training in getting along. Primarily, what we taught and trained, over and over again, was the whole concept of recognizing what you did wrong, naming what you did wrong, and then saying: “I'm sorry. Will you forgive me?”—you know, teaching that whole dialogue of forgiveness, and restitution, and reconciliation. Dennis: One of the things we tried to do with our children was to help them to realize that they are relating to what C.S. Lewis called “not mere mortals, but eternal beings.” They need to recognize that every person was made in the image of God. Genesis 1:26-28 talks about how God created them male and female, but He made them in His image. As image-bearers, they have value— Bob: Yes. Dennis: —they have worth. Our children need to recognize that. 9:00 Bob: I think, oftentimes, it's our own insecurity—or our kids' own insecurity about what they're good at—that causes them to look at others and find fault. Dennis: Yes; I think you're right. Barbara: Yes; yes. Bob: We're masking our own insecurities by trying to make ourselves feel better or look better than other kids.  This goes to the core. I remember reading something by an author—a guy named Bill Gilliam—that always stuck with me. I've used this line over and over again. He said, “When a child is born, he draws a circle around his life and declares himself “the lord of the ring.” [Laughter] I think we have to acknowledge that that's true. Barbara: Yes. Bob: I saw something called “The Toddler's Creed” years ago. Do you remember? Barbara: Oh, yes. Bob: “If I want it, it's mine; if I had it five minutes ago, it's mine; if you have it and I want it, it's mine.” This is how kids think. We have to train our kids, not to be self-centered, but to be others-centered, which goes against their nature and goes against what the culture is telling them. 10:00 Barbara: Well, it works in families too—it's not just kids competing and comparing themselves in school. Our kids in our family are doing that. So, even if you just have two children, they're sizing one another up. They're thinking through: “Who's the favorite?” “Where is my place?” “What is my role?” “How do I fit in this group called ‘the family'?” The more kids you have, the more of that that's going to take place. You're going to have more conflict—more sizing up / more trying to figure out of the pecking order, so to speak. It's just endemic in who we are, and it happens in every family. Dennis: There's another way we tried to teach our kids how to love one another, and that came through the issue of resolving conflict. I actually have a documentation here of some of the conflict that occurred between family members. [Laughter] Bob: Police reports you've brought in here? Dennis: It really—has fingerprints on it—eyewitnesses. [Laughter] Bob: Mug shots! Dennis: Photos; that's right. DNA! 11:00 Bob: A.K.A. Dennis: And here's what it's about—and parents breathe a sigh of relief when they hear my list—this is about sibling rivalry. Now, we've already talked about this a little bit; but I just want to give you some evidence, from our family, of what our kids fought about as they grew up.  One of the number one reasons they fought was—who sits in the front seat with Mom or Dad on the way to school. [Laughter] Barbara: Yes. Bob: And how did you solve that? Dennis: We assigned a day. Bob: Okay. Dennis: Now, that's good as long as you've got less than five kids. Bob: Yes. Barbara: Five or less; yes. [Laughter] Dennis: We had six!—so there was a dilemma there—but they fought over the seats in the car. They fought over the amount of ice cream they got; the number of cookies; how you broke the Hershey's with Almonds, because it's not in little squares. Bob: Did you do the thing where one breaks and the other picks? Dennis: Oh, yes! Barbara: Yes; we did that. Dennis: And we told them “fair” is what comes around to town once a year. [Laughter] Bob: That's a good one. Dennis: That's okay? 12:00 The third thing they fought about was who had worked the hardest; who had done the most;— Bob: Yes. Dennis: —who got to play the most; who last spent the night at a friend's house, and whose turn it was now; who made the mess; who did it last; who did it first; who had it first? The older ones argued that we were just spoiling— Bob: —the younger ones. Barbara: —the younger ones. Dennis: The Art of Parenting™ has got some great evidence on this, because you asked our kids— Bob: The video series; yes. We interviewed your children and asked them to talk about: “Was one of them the favorite?”  Barbara: You asked, “Who is the favorite?” Bob: And the favorite knew she was the favorite; didn't she? [Laughter] Dennis: Yes; the kids named her, and she named herself! [Laughter] But here's the point—as a parent, do you know the very basic fundamentals of how two broken people resolve a conflict? Listen carefully, because this comes from the Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway. If you haven't been, this is a good reason to go— 13:00 —to just become equipped in these basics of “What are the components of forgiveness?” The first thing is—it demands communication and an admission: “I was wrong when I…” Then it is, number two, “Will you forgive me for doing ‘X'?”—and you name the offense. Then, the one who has been offended has the opportunity, at that point, to say, “Yes; I decide to forgive you.”  And this is key, because your children need to know what forgiveness is and what it isn't. Forgiveness means you give up the right to punish another person. Sometimes, our kids would not forgive one another; so we would give them chores. I'll never forget the boys—we tied two of their legs together and made them sweep the garage—[Laughter]—because they wouldn't forgive each other. Of course, the older one drug the younger one around the garage; and that created more conflict. That wasn't such a good idea over the long haul.  14:00 But the key thing is—you make them look each other in the eye and say, “Will you forgive me when I did         ?” And then we say: “Okay; what's your response? It means you give up the right to punish your sister,” / “…to punish your brother.” And then we talked about reconciliation and rebuilding trust. All of those points are the basics of how you help two people know how to love another person, who will disappoint them at times. Bob: And these basics of conflict resolution are fundamental building blocks that will serve kids throughout their lives in every relationship. If they don't know how to seek and grant forgiveness, life is not going to go well for them.  Of course, I remember, with our kids, it was, “Tell your sister you're sorry.” Barbara: Yes. Bob: And you know what they would say; right? [Speaking with no emotion] “Sorry.” Dennis: [Not meaning it] “I'm sorry.”  Barbara: Yes; yes. Bob: And then, “Say it like you mean it,”—you know, they'd get silly. You really have to teach them how to do this. It feels rote for a while. Barbara: And it is rote for a while,— Bob: That's okay! Barbara: —but that's okay. Bob: Get it to be habitual in them. Barbara: Yes. 15:00 Dennis: —over, and over, and over, and over again. Bob: That's right. Dennis: I'll tell you—there is a method of teaching in the Bible called the Rabbinical Method of Teaching. Do you know what it is?—repetition. Bob: Yes. Dennis: Do you know what sibling rivalry is?—an opportunity to teach over, and over, and over again how you resolve conflict. Let me tell you another way that parents dare not miss as they train their kids to love other people, especially around resolving conflict—resolve it between you and your spouse. Your kids are like little radar units. I know, when Barbara and I would have an argument in the kitchen, sometimes, I would feel like there was this herd—or covey of little quail—just circling us; locked on; watching us go back and forth, sometimes, at each other—not healthy; okay!? Bob: Right. Dennis: Sometimes I would say: “Time out, Sweetheart.” “Kids, your mom and dad love each other. We're in a covenant-keeping marriage; we're going to go the distance—we're not in trouble. We just have a disagreement; okay?” 16:00 There's an African proverb that says, “When the elephants bite, it's the grass that suffers.” It suffers in more ways than one; because if they don't see you resolving conflict in your marriage, how are they going to know how to do it when they get married? Bob: So I'm going to ask you about that; because some parents, you know, will say: “We're not going to do conflict in front of our kids. Barbara: Yes. Bob: “If we've got a disagreement, we'll postpone it. We'll do it back in the bedroom; we don't want our kids to see us. We don't want them to feel insecure, thinking that mom and dad aren't getting along.” Do you think it's good for mom and dad to have a little conflict in front of the kids? Barbara: I think that's a great question, because we talked about that. My parents never had conflict in front of us. I grew up thinking they never had conflict, because I never saw it. And I don't know that you—did you see your parents? Dennis: Once. Barbara: One time your parents had conflict? Dennis: My parents had one very— Barbara: —heated argument? Dennis: —heated argument. I was five years old, and I was afraid they would divorce.  17:00 That was back when divorce was— Barbara: Yes; nobody got divorced. Dennis: —nobody got divorced. Barbara: Well, we talked about it—I remember. We decided that we wanted our kids to see us having some disagreements—not big conflict—but if we were disagreeing about something that was not a huge thing, but we really both had a strong opinion on it, we decided that we would go again and occasionally express our disagreement in front of our kids and let them watch us work it out.  We did do what Dennis just said—we said: “Time out.” “Okay; kids. Here are the facts: we're not going anywhere. This is not life-altering. We just disagree, and parents disagree. It's okay for parents to disagree.” Bob: In some homes, it's not just disagreement; but as you know, there are moms and dads, who are saying hurtful, harmful things to one another. Barbara: Oh, yes!—in front of the kids. Dennis: That kind of stuff is not good. Barbara: No. Bob: If it does happen, though—again, get the kids together. Barbara: That's right. 18:00 Bob: You get the kids together and you confess: “This was not right for Mom and me to be talking this way to one another. Barbara: Yes. Bob: “I've asked her to forgive me, and I want to ask you to forgive me. I want you to know we love one another, and we're staying together.” Barbara: Yes. Dennis: —especially if you've used the “D” word. If you have thrown the “divorce” word around in an argument in front of your kids—that they've heard, either in person or through the walls—you need to get down on your knees in front of your kids— Barbara: Absolutely! Dennis: —and say: “We repent. We will never, ever do that again.” Why?—because they're going to school with kids from broken homes. Sixty percent of all kids will spend part of their first eighteen years of life with one parent. It's in their vocabulary; it's in their experience—you've got to build security.  I've got one more very important way we train our kids to love others, and that's training your children to respect the boundaries and purity of the opposite sex. Train your kids to respect the boundaries and purity of the opposite sex.  19:00 That means teaching your boys to protect the sexual purity of girls—to own it! Not just protect them physically, but protect their sexual purity.  I had the privilege of speaking to a football team a couple of months ago. Bob: This was a high school team; right? Dennis: A high school football team. They were all shirt-less—they were getting ready to have practice. It was hot in the summer. I wanted to make the point to those guys: “Be men. Step up! Become men who protect your school and protect the young ladies.”  It was right as the #MeToo was really in the news with a lot of people. I just said: “Listen, guys. You can either protect a woman's dignity, and her purity, and who she is sexually or you can be a barbarian and you can take advantage of her.  20:00 “I want to challenge you, as a team, to set a new standard in this high school. Instead of being rude to girls—instead, hold the door open for them. You guys need to start a rash of common courtesies—pulling the chair out for the ladies / for your teacher! Just, as a team, represent how real young men treat the opposite sex.” Of course, if you're talking to a young lady, I would talk to your daughters about protecting the young men by being—and dressing—modestly. I remember one of our daughters, who will remain unnamed, had this dress that she had on—as she was trying it on for prom. Bob, you know what I'm talking about. [Laughter] Barbara was there—she loved that dress!—Barbara wanted to buy the dress. Right, Sweetheart? Barbara: Yes. Dennis: Yes; but I said, “No; you can't buy that, Sweetie.” Help your daughters protect young men. 21:00 These are all ways where you're thinking of others before you think of yourself.  Bob: Yes; these are fundamental skills that we need to, as parents, be teaching our children before they know Christ; so that, when they do come to know Christ—when they surrender to Him and then they read Philippians 2: “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility, regard others as more important than yourselves. Don't look out merely for your own interest, but also for the interest of others,”—now, all of a sudden, they see this in the context of the gospel. They're doing this to honor Christ, not just to have happier and healthier relationships. I mean, it's good to have happy, healthy relationships; but at the end of the day, what we care most about is that God is honored in how we relate to one another. This is why this is one of the essential skills you guys talk about in the book, The Art of Parenting. It's a book I hope every mom and dad will read together. In fact, there's a companion DVD series that small groups can go through together.  22:00 We're hoping that this can be the beginning, in a lot of churches and a lot of homes, of a parenting revolution—a new commitment to being the most purposeful, intentional, well-equipped parents you can possibly be as you raise the next generation. We've got copies of Dennis and Barbara's book, The Art of Parenting, in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center. You can order the book from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order. The DVD series is also available. Information is available, online; or you can order at FamilyLifeToday.com. You can also order, again, by calling 1-800-358-6329—that's 1-800-“F” as in family, “L” as in life, and then the word, “TODAY.” You know, I'm remembering a scene in the movie, Like Arrows—the movie that we produced that was in theaters a few months ago. There's a scene where there's some sibling rivalry.  23:00 A brother and a sister are fighting over Legos®, and they say ugly things to one another. They have to learn how to make peace with one another. One of the things we wanted to do, when we made that movie, was find a creative way to engage moms and dads with the key issues that we all face as we raise the next generation. I know many of our listeners saw the film when it was in theaters. It's going to be available for purchase in early 2019. We have a limited number of DVDs of Like Arrows that we're making available this month to those of you who are able to help support the ministry with a yearend contribution. FamilyLife Today, as you mentioned earlier, Dennis, is dependent on these donations. Right now, if you're able to help with a donation, your donation is going to be matched, dollar for dollar, up to a total of $2.5 million. You make a $25 donation; it becomes a $50 donation to FamilyLife. If you make a $100 donation; it's $200.  24:00 Whatever you're able to do, help us take advantage of this matching-gift opportunity; and we'll say, “Thank you,” by sending you a DVD of Like Arrows. You can donate, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to donate: 1-800-FL-TODAY. We appreciate your partnership with us in this ministry.  And we hope you can join us back tomorrow when we're going to talk about the most important relationship we can help our children with—that's their relationship with Jesus. We'll explore that tomorrow. I hope you can be with us.  I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. 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Whats up Folk, where The Wylers At??On this epsiode, I start off discussing a situation that happened with me and my girl and she then accused me of being a woman hater! Idk If I am or Not, am I??? Then later on I'm joined by the homie Smiff and we do a deep dive about the current state of the buyer/sellers market of Onlyfans and Premium Snapchat. Should women be able to do this without societal consequences, should men be able to support women and their business without ridicule? Who Knows, but we tried to find the answers? Take a listen Host: Jack Canes IG: @TheHeavyKid // @w4r_Thepodcast Twitter: @Jack_Canes Guest Info: https://smiff540.com IG: Wordsmiff Twitter: @Smiff540

Episode 22: When It Finally Sinks InWhen what finally sinks in? This! Well what is this? Right. Before 2012 I was all out radio. Not against podcasting. I was just radio. I mean a totally sick puppy that spent 12 to 15 hours a day writing and producing commercials while performing physical shows in several different markets. Part of the workday plan was to blog. The goal? Write about everything. Not text. Not IM. Blog! It was my real voice. I could say anything. Which put me in several large circles outside the realms of radio. Cool! A following that wasn’t being controlled by program directors and consultants. I was in charge of my own content and how it was being delivered. The goal was to drive the numbers up on the stations website. Big task for a non-morning show air talent. Not a battle. No war wounds. Just an open mind to walk and not jump into this new age of sharing information. I loved my readers so much that letting them hear my physical verbal inflection had to be the next step. I know! I’ll Vlog! They can see and hear me! No no noooo. A total disaster. It was at this point of the digital journey that I realized most blog readers want the intimacy of reading alone. Pictures of long haired radio people with radio voices interrupted the interpretation of what they were pulling from the blogs. My numbers dropped in the worst way. How the hell was I going to get them back? Angry at my decision to one up the performance I chose to walk away from the entire digital process to write a book called Scrambled Eggs. I wouldn’t return until it was published. When it finally sinks in. When what finally sinks in? This! Well what is this? Right. That 2.5 year break from blogging and pretending to be a radio performer is what set the stage up for podcasting to take up space inside this open field of who the hell am I? Then there it was. A television commercial for Chevrolet bragging about how their new models featured wireless internet. My Beatles moment. Blue Tooth was going to connect smart phones to the sound system in the car. I wanted to be on that platform! But with what? I talked over song intros. Podcasts are an hour or longer. I didn’t have a clue as to what I was doing. I sat down many times with national decision makers. The man that brought me to the Carolina’s in 1985 seemed ok with the idea but I can still hear him, “It doesn’t make money. So no you don’t have my attention.” Every publication and broadcast blog spoke of the proper podcast length but nobody could decide. There wasn’t enough research to prove anything right. I was in charge of production for six radio stations I couldn’t stop the wheel to pull off an hour long show. Which is a cheap way of saying I had no fricken idea what I was going to talk about. When it finally sinks in. When what finally sinks in? This! Well what is this? Right. Wait! It’s 2012! Those closest to the money in broadcasting aren’t interested in what I’m doing means I can make up my own rules! It was sinking in! You can’t break something if what you’re trying to create doesn’t exist. Sixty second Classic Rock Reports. Yes! The more I did the more listeners I was picking up. Before long I had the attention of music promoters which led to actors, authors and famous chefs. But something was still missing. My real voice. The one created by blogging. Where I could talk about anything! Vlogging didn’t work, why would I take a chance on podcasting? I finally broke the ice in 2013 with a Podcast called The Choice. My addiction to creativity would serve as the platform. Normal people don’t put in 12 to 15 hours at work. I had a habit and it was all connected to creativity. Utilizing my passion to write blogs I redesigned the layout by getting the attention off me and onto the listener. I’m not the only creative person on the planet. Outside of Julia Cameron where are the coaches and mentors that lead the builders and shapers through the desert? They’re not there! When it finally sinks in. When what finally sinks in? This! Well what is this? Right. Bringing life to a niche requires unique and a willingness to learn how to fail. Each time I found my face in the mud I went deeper with the exposure of what it’s like to be a creative. Transparency became the steps that started to climb. While the conversations with the people of fame continued to grow stronger and stronger so was the podcast The Choice. Texture was beginning to take shape. Learning how to find listeners meant playing by the same blogging rules. Write and talk about everything. One podcast will lead listeners to other podcasts. Cross pollinating the podcasts served as an invitation for listeners to explore. Oh he does this too! And this? A friend asked me in 2015, “What are you doing? One minute you’re landing a conversation with Yoko Ono then you’re talking about writing books. Your Facebook page doesn’t represent the person I thought I knew.” Remember I am no expert. I’m a daily student. I show up in this recording studio every morning at 5:30 to try and figure out why I’m here and not where my dreams should’ve landed me. Only one GM supported my footsteps during my final moments in terrestrial radio. He was enthusiastic because I was energized. He listened to my gut reaction to how listeners could get what they on demand. Any subject about every possible thing. This is where you put in the sponsor. His exact words, “I don’t know what you’re doing but I understand why you’re doing it.” Today iHeart Radio boasts with a very loud voice how they’re the world’s largest podcast outlet. I’m blessed to host 9 completely different podcasts on the platform. So what’s the moral of the story? When it finally sinks in. When what finally sinks in? This! Well what is this? Right. That moment when you decide how important your art is to the world. When you sit down and record your first podcast. Struggle to get the second finished while endlessly envisioning new ideas that could lead my listeners to your performance. When it finally sinks in that podcasting isn’t going away. It’s just getting started. There’s a lot of weeds in this wheat field. Quoting Steven Furtick, you can’t pull what doesn’t belong in the field out. You’ll injure the roots of the wheat. In all things podcasting, great shows to shake your head can’t believe I just sat through that. Let it grow. Let the weeds live with the wheat.

23 June 2019 | Pastor Barry Noll 2 Samuel 9:1-13 And David said, “Is there still anyone left of the house of Saul, that I may show him kindness for Jonathan's sake?” Now there was a servant of the house of Saul whose name was Ziba, and they called him to David. And the king said to him, “Are you Ziba?” And he said, “I am your servant.” And the king said, “Is there not still someone of the house of Saul, that I may show the kindness of God to him?” Ziba said to the king, “There is still a son of Jonathan; he is crippled in his feet.” The king said to him, “Where is he?” And Ziba said to the king, “He is in the house of Machir the son of Ammiel, at Lo-debar.” Then King David sent and brought him from the house of Machir the son of Ammiel, at Lo-debar. And Mephibosheth the son of Jonathan, son of Saul, came to David and fell on his face and paid homage. And David said, “Mephibosheth!” And he answered, “Behold, I am your servant.” And David said to him, “Do not fear, for I will show you kindness for the sake of your father Jonathan, and I will restore to you all the land of Saul your father, and you shall eat at my table always.” And he paid homage and said, “What is your servant, that you should show regard for a dead dog such as I?” Then the king called Ziba, Saul's servant, and said to him, “All that belonged to Saul and to all his house I have given to your master's grandson. And you and your sons and your servants shall till the land for him and shall bring in the produce, that your master's grandson may have bread to eat. But Mephibosheth your master's grandson shall always eat at my table.” Now Ziba had fifteen sons and twenty servants. Then Ziba said to the king, “According to all that my lord the king commands his servant, so will your servant do.” So Mephibosheth ate at David's table, like one of the king's sons. And Mephibosheth had a young son, whose name was Mica. And all who lived in Ziba's house became Mephibosheth's servants. So Mephibosheth lived in Jerusalem, for he ate always at the king's table. Now he was lame in both his feet.

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The question seems absurd at first: who am I? Then upon trying to answer, one realizes that it is actually much more difficult than upon first glance. Or is it? This podcast goes over the subject of identity: more specifically, what is your true identity?

I went to be last night so frustrated. I woke up thinking “I just can’t be as frustrating as my son, can I?” Then it hit me, yep. Yes, I can be!!!

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节目组: The World Says 世界说 节目名称: Sherlock returnsI: Hello everyone, welcome to the world says from the VOE foreign language station. This is Iris.I: Hey, Sherlock, you look very tired today.S: Of course, like you, I probably enjoy my holiday.I: What do you mean,you just said me?S: Yes. (Hold)Obviously, your eyes have bloodshot, indicating that you are likely to stay up all night. And I observed that cocoon on your right middle finger.Are you staying up late to study?I: Half right, but you are still far from a detective. After having watched Sherlock for four seasons, I think there is a huge difference compared with the first quarter.Sherlock, do you remember the scene that Holmes' first met with Dr.Watson?S: Yes, of course, Sherlock is capable of judging a person's past, present and their future only by observing.:He has a word: As ever you see but not observe. To you the world remains an impenetrable [ɪmˈpenɪtrəbl] mystery whereas to me it is an open book. Hard logic versus romantic whimsy. I: Well,it's hard to understand.Maybe some audience know nothing about this.S:let's play a scene which in this drama.Could you do a role play with me, Iris? You are Dr. Watson, and I am Sherlock.J: let me be Stanford.I: Okay! 3, 2, 1, action!J: This is an old mate of mine, John Watson.S: Afghanistan or Iraq?I: Afghanistan. Sorry, how did you know?S: How do you feel about the violin?I: Sorry, what?S: I play the violin when I'm thinking. Sometimes I don't talk for days on end. Would that bother you? Potential flat mates should know the worst about each other.I: Oh, you told him me about me?J: Not a word.I: Then who said anything about flat mates?S: I did.I told Mike this morning that I must be a difficult man to find a flat matefor. Now here he is after lunch with an old friend clearly home from military service in Afghanistan [æf'ɡænɪstæn]. It wasn't a difficult leap.I: This is their first meeting.It is amazing, isn't it?S:Let me explain the reason for his inference.Tanned face, but no tan above the wrists. That meansDr.Watson have been abroad, but not sunbathing.I: And his haircut and the way he hold himself said military.The conversation when he entered the room bit different from day which says trained at Bart's. So he is an army doctor, obviously.I: His limp is really bad when walking, but don't ask for a chair when hestands, like he already forgotten about it. That means the limp is at least partly psychosomatic[ˌsaɪkəʊsəˈmætɪk].S: That says the original circumstances of the injury were traumatising. Wounded in action then. So, where does an army doctor get himself a suntan and wounded in action these days? It must be Afghanistan or Iraq.Let's go on say something about Dr.Waston.In Sherlock ways to say,he is my best friend.I: agreed.We can observe this in season4,when his sister ask him using pistol to kill his brother or Dr.Waston,this choice is difficult for him, and finally, had to choose suicide.S:Have to say that the fourth quarter tells a lot of their friendship.I waited for two years.Thanks to God, they returned.S:I was really happy when I heard the news. en-I think there is quite a lot of differences between this fashion sherlock and the classical one.He is fashion,he use blackberry,sent masagers.He takes taxi instead of gharry.He writes blog,he even became a hit on twitter.I: But the same thing is that he is thin and tall,sagacious and shouws quick first response all the time.He is also good at biology and his incredible outsight shocks the audience all the time.S: The change of the new sherlock dosen't make us fell uncomfortable, but the quick plot and the mixture of many stories of the novel in every episode makes an impression to Holmes fans.All of the changes show that this Holmes belongs to our times.I: That's right, but many Chinese fans were in a fever after they saw the first episode premiere on the BBC's official website. S: I've heard that. According to the BBC's official website, the titles of the three episodes in season 4 are “The Six Thatchers,” “The Lying Detective” and “The Final Problem.” After the debut of “The Six Thatchers,” disappointing voices emerged on Chinese review platforms such as Douban slid to 8.7 from a 9.3, and then to 8.5 in the next day. I: But why? I think it's still very amazing and surprising.S: Disappointment mainly stemmed from the lack of an appearance from the series big villain Moriarty, whose death was broght into question after the end of season 3, and the death of a major character. After Dr Watson's wife Mary dies after taking a bullet for Sherlock (Benedict Cumberbatch), Chinese netizens took to social media to express their disappointment : “Sure enough, there is no place for an actress in this UK TV series.”I: Although most Sherlock fans in China love the relationship between Sherlock and Watson and joked that the character of Mary was an "interloper" at first, they later found themselves falling for her smart and humorous personality S：In the eyes of many Chinese fans, the character's abrupt death was assurance that the UK TV series "really hates heterosexuality."I: it's funny!S: The Sherlock series has long had a large fan base in China. When David Cameron visited China in late 2013, some netizens left comments on his Weibo account asking him to urge the BBC to produce more episodes of Sherlock.And iris what's the reply?I:"I know that Benedict is hugely important in China. He's a big star. Sorry I can't tell them what to do. It's an independent company," then the UK Prime Minister replied.S: Chinese President Xi Jinping listed Sherlock as an example of an outstanding British production along with the Harry Potter series and TV drama Downton Abbey during his visit to London in 2015.I: Let's review some classic linesThe wheel turns, nothing is ever new. 时过境迁，烂事依然。S: You, don't talk out loud.You lower the IQ of the whole street.You, face the other way. You are putting me off. 你，不要说话，你拉低了整条街的智商。你，转过去，你影响我思考了。I: All lives end,all hearts are broken.Caring is not an advantage! 生命终有尽头，人心终要破碎，太在意可不是什么优点！S: Love is a dangerous disadvantage.(爱是种危险的劣势）I: Every fairy tale needs a good old-fashioned villain. 每个童话都需要一个经典大反派。S: That's all for today's listening . Goodbye. 感谢制作苏鑫感谢制作王紫丞节目监制：周宸聿 编辑： 张燚铭 余若天 播音： 张燚铭 余若天 制作：苏鑫