Podcasts about raising humans

In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester explore one of the most common and misunderstood dynamics in modern parenting: the roles of the default parent and the non-default parent. They unpack why these roles form, what each partner often experiences, and how these patterns can create pressure, resentment, or feelings of invisibility. With compassion for both parents, Kyle and Sara explain how routines are built through trial and error, why they deserve respect, and how well-meaning attempts to help can sometimes cause tension. They offer practical steps to improve communication, clarify responsibilities, honor each parent's strengths, and build a more balanced partnership. This conversation gives parents the tools to navigate differences, value each other's contributions, and create a healthy, flexible family system where both parents feel capable, respected, and connected. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/the-default-parent-dynamic-how-to-share-the-load-feel-valued-and-parent-as-a-team Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Interview with Sonia Bestulic / Founder of Flourish with SoniaHOSTED BY PAUL SULLIVANWhat if the biggest challenges facing kids today aren't about behavior or performance - but about how disconnected we've become from ourselves? Drawing on decades of work with thousands of families, globally recognized thought leader, speech pathologist, and author Sonia Bestulic has built a framework for raising empowered children through self-leadership, intuition, and trust. She shares why so many parents feel stuck in guilt and self-doubt, how traditional systems often miss a child's true brilliance, and what it really means to build strong foundations for lifelong flourishing.---Get our free newsletter covering all things fatherhood delivered straight to your inbox: https://thecompanyofdads.com/thedad/

Jennifer Kolari on Strong-Willed Kids, Brain Science & Connected ParentingSummary: In this powerful episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with parenting expert Jennifer Kolari to talk about one of the most misunderstood and emotionally exhausting parenting challenges: raising a strong-willed child. Why does your child melt down over “small” things? Why does discipline feel like constant power struggles? And why does nothing seem to work the way the books promised? Jennifer explains what's really happening in your child's brain during emotional overwhelm and why strong-willed kids don't need more control; they need more connection, understanding, and emotional safety. She walks parents through how temperament, neurobiology, and unmet emotional needs drive behavior, and introduces her powerful CALM Technique to help families move from chaos to connection. This conversation also explores why compassion and firmness must coexist, how parents can regulate themselves first, and why repair after conflict builds deeper trust than getting it “right” ever could. About Jennifer Kolari:Jennifer Kolari is one of North America's leading parenting experts, a child and family therapist, author, and the founder of Connected Parenting. Her brain-based, empathy-driven approach helps parents raise resilient, emotionally healthy children using connection as the foundation of discipline. She is also the host of the Connected Parenting Podcast and a sought-after international speaker. If you're parenting a strong-willed, intense, or emotionally reactive child, this episode will feel like a lifeline. 

What does it take to build resilience when the world isn't built for you?In this episode of The Caring Economy, host Toby Usnik sits down with veteran journalist and NewsNation anchor Leland “Lucky” Vittert to talk about his deeply personal new memoir, Born Lucky: A Dedicated Father, A Grateful Son, and My Journey with Autism.This is not a conversation about labels or diagnoses. It's a conversation about parenting, perseverance, character, and what happens when a parent refuses to give up on a child. Lucky shares stories from his childhood growing up with autism, including bullying, isolation, and the intensive “training sessions” his father designed to help him navigate a world that wouldn't bend for him.Together, they explore what resilience really looks like, why adversity can't be edited out of life, and how discipline, love, and accountability shaped Lucky's path from a misunderstood kid to a national news anchor reporting from conflict zones around the world.At a moment when conversations about neurodiversity, mental health, parenting, and polarization are front and center, this episode offers something rare: honesty without victimhood, and hope without platitudes.

What if everything you've been taught about sleep, parenting, and discipline isn't biologically normal, just culturally common? In this powerful episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with Tracy Gillett, founder of Raised Good, to explore what it really means to raise children through connection instead of control — from infancy through the teen years. Together, they unpack the truth about:• sleep as a developmental milestone (not something to train)• attachment and emotional safety across every stage of childhood• navigating parenting through difference seasons — babies, kids, and teens• authenticity as the foundation for connection• why closeness matters more than compliance• how to repair after rupture and rebuild trust• letting go of fear-based discipline in favor of relationship-based parenting Tracy shares her journey from veterinarian to global parenting advocate and explains why modern parenting advice often contradicts a child's biology and how tuning into your instincts can transform your experience as a parent. This episode is a gentle but powerful invitation to step off the parenting treadmill, release unrealistic expectations, and reconnect to what matters most: your relationship with your child. If you're questioning mainstream parenting practices…If sleep struggles are wearing you down…If the teen years feel confusing or overwhelming…If you're craving a more peaceful, grounded approach… This conversation will meet you there. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/tracy-gillett-rethinking-sleep-attachment-parenting-through-every-stage Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

This week on Sippin on Excellence, Coach KJ and Doc Hunt sit down with actor, writer, director, and certified body-roll queen Lennon Parham to talk about the real life behind the laughs. From cutting her teeth in the improv world to co-creating and starring in shows like Playing House and Best Friends Forever, Lennon breaks down what it means to build a career in comedy on her own terms—on stage, on screen, and in the writers' room.   We dive into how she navigates the beautiful chaos of producing, acting, and creating while also being present at home as a partner and mom. Lennon gets honest about ambition, boundaries, and why joy has to stay at the center of the work, even when schedules are insane and the industry gets weird. If you've ever wondered how to chase a creative dream without burning out—or burning down your family life—this one's a masterclass in doing both with heart and humor.   Questions, reviews and topics you would like to hear on the show:   Website: podcastsoe.com.   Instagram: @soe_podcast     YouTube: @sippinonexcellence3736   Connect with Doc! Website: huntspine.com       Instagram: @leonelhunt   Connect with Coach KJ! Website: coachkj.com       Instagram: @coachkjknows

We all want to be the calm, grounded parent — the one who never yells, never snaps, and always responds with empathy. But striving for perfect calm can actually distance us from our kids and ourselves. In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack the myth of the “perfectly calm” parent and explain why real growth comes from repair and honest emotional awareness, not perfection. They explore how your nervous system, triggers, and childhood conditioning shape your reactions — and how to move from shame to self-understanding when moments get hard.You'll learn why repair is one of the most powerful tools in parenting and why your authenticity matters far more than appearing composed. We explore:Why “calm” isn't the same as staying emotionally presentHow unrealistic standards keep parents stuck in guiltWhat happens in your body when you suppress emotionsHow to model emotional honesty and repairSimple practices to regulate in real time — and recover when you can't Key takeaway:

Hey legend,If you've ever looked at the world your kids are growing up in and thought… “How are they meant to thrive in this?” ...  this episode is your lifeline.Screens. Social media. Meltdowns. Pressure. It's a lot, and most of us are just trying to raise kind, confident humans without losing our minds (or our patience) in the process.I'm six months pregnant, deeply curious, and joined by Dr Justin Coulson: co-host of Parental Guidance, author, researcher, and dad of six girls, to unpack what's really going on behind modern parenting.Here's a taste of what you'll get in this conversation:The heartbreaking moment that changed Justin's life forever...get tissues.The truth about screens, social media, and gaming... and how it's quietly stealing our kids' focus, confidence, and connection.A simple 5-step process for handling big emotions (in little humans and grown ones) so you stop firefighting and start actually connecting.The three psychological needs every child must have met to thrive: connection, competence, autonomy. This framework changes everything.The line every child needs to hear most: How to say it... and still hold firm boundaries.The one after-dinner ritual that fast-tracks connection (and peace) at home. Steal it tonight.Why public speaking is a parenting superpower for the next generation:  and how to build it around your dinner table.You'll walk away with practical scripts for emotional moments, clarity on how to protect your kids from screen overwhelm, and a grounded confidence that you're doing better than you think.If this hits home, forward it to a parent who's doing their best in a world that's doing the most. They need this one, too.With love (and a very wiggly bump),BAs always, please don't forget to hit Subscribe! xxx

Parenting isn't just about what we do—it's about who we are as we show up for our children. In this meaningful and practical conversation, Dr. Dan Siegel joins Kyle and Sara to explore what it truly means to parent from the inside out. Dr. Dan Siegel is the Founder and Director of Education at the Mindsight Institute and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. An award-winning educator and Harvard-trained psychiatrist, he is the author of five New York Times bestsellers and more than fifteen other books that have been translated into over forty languages. As a pioneer in the field of interpersonal neurobiology, Dr. Siegel's work focuses on how relationships and the mind shape our development across the lifespan. Drawing from decades of research, Dr. Siegel explains how our internal world—our emotions, our triggers, our regulation—shapes the way we understand our children. He offers a refreshing and compassionate look at why kids behave the way they do and how connection becomes the foundation for healthy brain development. Together, we explore:• Why emotions like sadness and anger are essential—not problems to fix• How to stay connected when your child feels big feelings• Why the teenage brain remodels so dramatically—and how to respond with confidence, not fear• The surprising truth about nature vs. nurture, and how parents can nurture resilience• Practical ways to support emotional intelligence at every stage• Why open communication with adolescents builds lasting trust Dr. Siegel's insights help parents see anger as advocacy, adolescence as a spark—not a storm—and connection as the driving force behind resilience and growth. This episode will leave you feeling grounded, hopeful, and equipped with tools to understand both yourself and your child more deeply. Whether you're navigating toddler tantrums, school-age struggles, or teenage turbulence, this conversation offers a powerful reminder: When parents look inward with curiosity and compassion, everything on the outside begins to change. Learn more about Dr. Siegel at www.drdansiegel.com or www.mindsightinstitute.com. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/what-your-child-needs-most-from-you-dr-dan-siegel-on-emotions-connection-and-resilience Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Even the most connected couples get caught in reactive cycles — especially when parenting. One partner's tone or decision sparks the other's trigger, and suddenly you're not just reacting to the kids… you're reacting to each other. In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack what really happens when partners become reactive in parenting. They share personal experiences, explore Dan Siegel's concept of the “window of tolerance,” and discuss how co-regulation helps partners calm and reconnect when emotions run high. You'll learn practical tools to slow escalation, recognize your body's warning signs, and shift from blame to curiosity — turning conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection.Because staying united as parents doesn't mean never getting triggered. It means learning how to come back together, again and again, with empathy, honesty, and repair. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/triggered-by-your-partner-how-to-stay-united-when-emotions-run-high Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this insightful episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester talk with psychologist Dr. Tamar Chansky, founder of the Children's and Adult Center for OCD and Anxiety and author of Freeing Your Child from Anxiety. Together they explore what anxiety really is, how it shows up in children, and how parents can respond with empathy and connection instead of fear. Dr. Chansky offers simple, science-based tools to help kids analyze their worries, practice gradual exposure to fears, and build confidence step by step. You'll learn how to create a safe space for conversations about anxiety, regulate your child's nervous system with calming techniques, and see anxiety not as an enemy—but as a messenger that guides growth. If your child worries often or struggles with big feelings, this conversation will equip you with practical ways to bring more calm, courage, and connection to your parenting. Where to find Dr. Tamar Chansky:www.tamarchansky.com@freeingyourmindwww.worrywisekids.orgView the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/helping-your-child-overcome-anxiety-with-dr-tamar-chansky Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if the lessons we learn in the toddler years are the foundation for every stage of parenting? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester talk with Devon Kuntzman — parenting expert, ICF-Certified Coach, and founder of Transforming Toddlerhood — about how to move from chaos to curiosity in family life. Devon shares how viewing behavior as communication can change everything about how we respond as parents, from toddlers to teens. Together they explore how curiosity fosters connection, how discipline becomes skill-building instead of punishment, and why emotional repair is the most powerful parenting tool we have. You'll learn:Why behavior is communication at every ageHow curiosity transforms conflictWhat true discipline really meansHow to repair after power strugglesWhy early emotional skills shape lifelong resilience Devon Kuntzman has guided over 1 million parents and caregivers worldwide through her science-based approach to parenting with confidence and connection. Her upcoming book, Transforming Toddlerhood (Harper Horizon, Oct 2025), blends developmental research with real-life strategies to empower families to thrive. 

Parenting isn't a competition, it's a collaboration. In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester explore what it means to co-create with your kids instead of slipping into a win-lose mindset. They unpack the cultural messages that keep parents stuck in control or compliance mode and show how shifting toward connection, play, and collaboration can transform your family dynamics. Through real examples and practical insights, you'll learn how play builds trust, how collaboration teaches self-discipline, and why it's never too late to rewire your parenting approach. Whether you're navigating daily power struggles or simply want a more peaceful home, this episode will help you see parenting as a shared journey of growth and relationship, not a battle for control. Listen now to discover:Why “winning” in parenting often undermines long-term growthHow co-creating builds confidence, resilience, and mutual respectThe role of play in strengthening family connectionSimple mindset shifts that move your family from compliance to collaboration View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-parenting-feels-like-a-battle-how-to-shift-from-power-to-partnership Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

How do we raise boys to be strong and sensitive, to lead with both courage and compassion? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with Dr. Daniel Ellenberg to explore how parents can nurture emotional intelligence, empathy, and vulnerability in boys growing up in a world that often pressures them to toughen up. Together, they unpack how to help our sons embrace sensitivity as a strength, build self-awareness, and stay grounded in who they truly are, even when culture tells them otherwise. This conversation will inspire you to rethink what strength really means and how raising emotionally connected boys can change the world. About Our GuestDr. Daniel Ellenberg is a psychologist, leadership coach, and founder of Strength with Heart, a men's program that helps redefine masculinity through empathy, awareness, and courage. He's the past president of the APA Division on Men and Masculinities and chair of education for the Global Compassion Coalition. Dr. Ellenberg has designed leadership and resilience training for organizations like NASA, teaches at top universities, and is co-authoring a forthcoming book, Strength with Heart. His lifelong mission is to help men — and those raising them — live with authenticity, compassion, and confidence. You'll LearnWhy emotional intelligence is a cornerstone of real strengthHow cultural messages about “toughness” shape boys' beliefsHow to help boys express emotion without shameWhy humor and play strengthen connectionHow to model balance between competition and cooperationWays to create safety for boys to be both brave and kind Websites are:www.rewireleadership.comwww.strengthwithheart.comhttps://www.globalcompassioncoalition.org/topics/men-and-boys/  View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/raising-boys-with-strength-and-heart Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only. 

Join Kyle and Sara Wester from Art of Raising Humans as they explore what it truly means to co-create with your children. Instead of doing things to or for them, discover how to do life with them. Learn how collaboration builds trust, decision-making, and emotional intelligence from the preschool years through the teen stage. You will hear practical examples for different ages and discover how to replace power struggles with connection and confidence. This episode will help you create a family culture of teamwork, respect, and shared leadership. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/from-control-to-connection-the-art-of-co-creating-with-your-kids Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only. 

It can feel scary when your once-chatty child starts pulling away during adolescence. But withdrawal isn't always rejection...t's often a normal part of growing up. In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack why adolescents withdraw, what signs of relational disconnection to look for, and how stress responses may show up. They share practical ways parents can respond: staying calm, respecting space, and building connection through small, steady touch points. Most importantly, they remind parents that unconditional love and open communication create a secure foundation, even when kids seem distant.If you've ever wondered how to handle your child's withdrawal without panicking or pushing them away, this conversation will give you hope and practical guidance to stay connected through the teen years. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-teens-withdraw-and-how-to-stay-connected Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Taking away your child's phone might seem like the quickest way to discipline, but does it actually work? In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester dive into the common strategy of removing phones as punishment and explore why it often backfires. They discuss how this approach can damage trust, block communication, and fail to teach the self-regulation kids really need. Instead, you'll hear practical ways to set healthy boundaries around technology, foster intrinsic motivation, and model balanced phone use as a parent. If you've ever felt stuck using your child's phone as leverage, this episode will give you tools to build connection instead of conflict, so your kids can learn to manage their freedom with wisdom. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/rethinking-phone-discipline-in-parenting Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if your love could rewire their brain?  In this powerful episode, Kyle Wester and Sara Wester talk with renowned parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson about the science of interpersonal neurobiology—and how love, connection, and secure relationships literally shape the developing brain.Together, they explore how parents act as meaning makers for their children, how the brain predicts future interactions based on past experiences, and why co-regulation and emotional attunement are essential for helping kids learn to manage their big feelings. Tina also unpacks the four S's of secure attachment—safe, seen, soothed, and secure—and shows how these simple principles build emotional resilience and well-being in children. Whether you're navigating toddler meltdowns or teen stress, this conversation will help you understand how your presence and regulation can rewire your child's brain for connection, confidence, and growth. What You'll Learn:How relationships literally shape the architecture of the brainWhy emotional regulation and co-regulation are essentialHow secure attachment fuels resilience and emotional healthWhat the four S's are and how to use them dailyHow your calm presence helps your child thrive Where to find Tina: https://www.instagram.com/tinapaynebryson/https://www.tinabryson.com/ https://www.thecenterforconnection.org/ https://playstronginstitute.com/ https://www.amazon.com/shop/tinapaynebryson View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-love-and-relationships-shape-the-brain Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Few words cut deeper for a parent than hearing your child say, “I hate you.” In the heat of the moment, it's easy to feel hurt, angry, or even tempted to pull away. But what if those words don't actually mean what they sound like? In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore the deeper meaning behind those painful outbursts. Drawing on developmental science and research on emotional intelligence, they share how kids often use strong words when they're overwhelmed, disconnected, or lacking the language to express their true feelings. You'll hear:Why kids say “I hate you” — and what's really happening in their brains and heartsCommon parent reactions that can unintentionally add shame or distancePractical ways to stay calm, set boundaries, and respond with connectionHow to reassure your kids that your love is never conditionalEvery “I hate you” moment can become a doorway to deeper trust and connection. Listen in to discover how. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-your-child-says-i-hate-you-what-theyre-really-telling-you Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Most parents would say, “Of course I love my child unconditionally.” But what if — without even realizing it — we sometimes make our kids feel like our love depends on their behavior, their grades, or how easy they are to parent? In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, we (Kyle & Sara Wester) unpack 13 powerful insights from Alfie Kohn's book Unconditional Parenting. As we read and reflect on each one, you may find yourself thinking: “Oh wow, I didn't realize I was doing that.” You'll hear:The hidden ways we accidentally attach conditions to our love.Why these patterns shape how children see themselves and us.13 shifts that help kids grow up knowing our love is steady, even when they struggle. This episode isn't about blame or guilt. It's about uncovering the blind spots we all have and learning how to build a relationship where our children feel truly secure in our love, no matter what. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/are-you-loving-unconditionally-13-surprising-ways-we-put-strings-on-our-love. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What happens when our hopes for a better world start turning into expectations for our kids? We want the best for them, but when does care turn into control?In this episode, we dive into the tender line between modeling our values and molding our children, from activist parenting to fears about the future. How do we raise conscious kids without projecting our own dreams - or our despair? What does it mean to truly trust a young person's path, and can we honor their light without trying to shape it? Together, we explore how unconditional love, trust, and presence can help us support our kids' agency - without recreating the very systems of control we're trying to dismantle.// As mentioned in the episode:- Get our Free Guide: What to Do When School Stops Workinghttps://radical-learning.thinkific.com/products/digital_downloads/school-not-working- Please consider making a donation to support the production of this podcast here: https://paypal.me/RadicalLearningLLC

Are you clearing every obstacle out of your child's way? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack snow plow parenting—why it happens, how it holds kids back, and what to do instead. Snow plow parenting is when parents try to remove every challenge or discomfort from their child's path. While it often comes from love and fear, this approach can unintentionally rob kids of the resilience, confidence, and problem-solving skills they need to thrive. Kyle and Sara share why parents fall into this trap, the long-term costs to children, and how to shift toward a healthier approach. You'll learn practical strategies for recognizing when you're “snow plowing,” scaffolding instead of rescuing, and coaching kids through life's challenges while still offering the support they need. Key Takeaways: Snow plow parenting means clearing obstacles to prevent failure or discomfort.While motivated by love, it can lead to anxiety and low confidence in kids.Children miss opportunities to build resilience and emotional intelligence when parents over-intervene.Recognizing when you're snow plowing is the first step to change.Coaching and scaffolding help children learn to solve problems at their own pace.Allowing small struggles is essential for long-term growth.Validating feelings—without rushing to fix—is a powerful parenting tool.Trusting children to handle challenges builds their confidence and independence. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/stop-snow-plow-parenting-build-resilient-confident-kids. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if one trip could change the way your child sees themselves—and you? In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester reveal how one-on-one trips with your kids can become powerful rites of passage. These aren't just vacations; they're intentional experiences designed to build skills, deepen connection, and show your kids you believe in them. You'll hear how Kyle and Sara structure these trips by balancing fun, tradition, and meaningful conversations so kids practice independence, decision-making, and resilience, while also creating unforgettable memories. If you're ready to move beyond “just a trip” and create transformational experiences with your kids, this episode will inspire you and give you a practical roadmap to get started. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/the-power-of-parent-child-trips-connection-confidence-memories-that-last. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this powerful episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack one of the hardest moments in parenting: when your teen triggers a deep emotional reaction in you. They explore why these intense reactions often stem not from the child's behavior, but from unhealed wounds, old beliefs, and unmet needs carried from our own childhood. Drawing from their experience as counselors and parents, they offer 5 practical steps to help you recognize your triggers, regulate in the moment, reparent yourself, and lead with calm, compassionate authority. Through personal stories and research-backed tools, you'll learn how to transform emotional reactivity into connection, and raise emotionally confident teens without slipping into permissiveness. In this episode:Why your child's behavior hits such a deep nerveHow childhood beliefs influence your parenting todayWhat reparenting looks like in the heat of the momentWhy emotional validation builds strength, not weakness5 clear steps to parent from healing, not hurt Whether you've snapped at your teen and regretted it or want to break cycles and model emotional intelligence, this episode will leave you feeling empowered, not ashamed. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-your-teen-triggers-you-how-to-parent-from-healing-not-hurt. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this enlightening episode of The Art of Raising Humans, hosts Kyle and Sara Wester explore the transformative journey of reparenting with special guest Shelly Robinson — conscious parenting coach and founder of Raising Yourself. Shelly shares powerful stories and personal reflections from her own healing journey, offering insight into what it means to reparent your inner child while showing up fully for your kids. Together, they discuss how self-awareness, humility, and compassion form the foundation of intentional parenting. Whether you're working to break generational cycles or simply seeking to grow as a parent and person, this heartfelt conversation will inspire and equip you. 

Send us a textIn this powerful episode, Angie challenges the modern push to accelerate education at the expense of connection, character, and faith. While AI is rapidly reshaping the educational landscape, we must ask—what are we losing in the process?You'll discover:Why the #1 use of ChatGPT last year was for relationship—not academicsThe real cost of rushing kids through contentThe 3 sacred things we lose when we outsource formation to machinesHow to anchor your child in faith, truth, and beauty in a tech-driven worldWhy human connection and moral development are the foundation for true successThis episode is a call to arms for parents, educators, and anyone passionate about raising a generation not just ready for the workforce, but prepared to live purpose-filled, Christ-anchored lives.Tune in and be inspired to:Reclaim the heart of educationResist the culture of speed and soul-neglectRaise children who are emotionally intelligent, spiritually rooted, and relationally strong Resources & Links Mentioned:World Economic Forum: Future of Jobs Report 2023Angie Taylor's book: The Way of ValorLearn more about Valor Global: valorglobalfoundation.orgLet's Connect! Instagram: @mrsangietaylor Website: thewayofvalor.com#ParentingForTheSoul #TheWayOfValor #WholeChildEducation #FaithAndTechnology #ChristianParenting #RaiseHumansNotRobots #RootedInChrist #SpiritualFormation #HumanConnectionMattersConnect with Angie Taylor on:IG: https://www.instagram.com/mrsangietaylor/?hl=enFB: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090424997350

Do you ever say, “You're making me so mad”? Or feel like your child's behavior controls your mood? In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara explore a hidden but common parenting pattern, placing your emotional well-being in your child's hands. Though it often comes from love, this dynamic can create anxiety, confusion, and emotional pressure for kids. Kyle and Sara share real-life examples and 5 practical steps to help you break this cycle and build a healthier emotional environment for your family. 

In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester talk with college consultant Kerry Roberts about how to prepare kids for college in a way that actually sets them up for long-term success without sacrificing their mental health or your family's connection. We explore how self-awareness, curiosity, and emotional intelligence can help your child thrive—not just get into college, but become confident in who they are and where they're headed. You'll learn how to shift the focus from pressure to purpose, and how to guide your child toward success that aligns with their strengths and not someone else's expectations.Whether your child is in middle school or nearing graduation, this conversation will help you navigate the college journey with more clarity, confidence, and calm.Link to Kerry's Website: https://kerryrobertscollegeconsulting.com/View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/rethinking-college-prep-to-help-your-child-succeed-without-the-stress. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Summary:  Listen in as we respond to Catholic parents seeking guidance on navigating sensitive family issues through faith. One parent is concerned about supporting her 11-year-old daughter who expressed same-sex attraction after speaking with her bisexual sister. Another couple is figuring out how to explain same-sex relationships to their young children with both compassion and clarity about Church teaching. A mother balancing part-time parish work and parenting feels overwhelmed by her toddler's distress and behavior changes. Others seek advice on newborn sleep training and resisting parenting product marketing. They all value faithful, practical support in raising children with love, discipline, and Catholic values amid modern challenges and we did our best to respond to them from our own experience - always giving principles but encouraging them to make their own choices.     References:  Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First 3 Years Matters   https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143109294?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzmessypar-20&creativeASIN=0143109294&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.26NWEBLKG2VH&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ons_d_asin Age Appropriate:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-048-age-appropriateness/ The Art of Raising Humans:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/mpf-326-the-art-of-raising-humans/ Key Takeaways When a child is coming to sexual maturity around 11-13 it is a very sensitive time of development and parents need to be very careful about the messages those kids are receiving at that time.  How we respond emotionally to alternative lifestyles is a powerful example to our children of how to love people who don't share our values Kids, especially toddlers, have no idea how to express their emotions so we have to recognize what they are going through, even if it's not the ideal situation, and respond to it.  The key to babies sleeping is routines!  And getting them to a point when they are almost asleep, but not quite asleep.  Give them support to fall asleep independently and little by little they will be able to do it!  Every parent needs to take in the different philosophies of parenting and do what works for them!  As children grow, you will respond to them differently - sometimes with more directives, and sometimes with more conversations.  It all depends on their stage of development!  

In this episode, we dive into what's really going on inside your teenager's brain and why trying to control them often backfires. From brain development to boundary-pushing, we unpack the science and the heart behind teen behavior. You'll learn 5 practical, connection-focused strategies that help you guide your teen without gripping tighter. Because the goal isn't control, it's trust. Topics we cover:What brain changes are driving your teen's behaviorWhy teens push back (and why that's healthy)Common fears parents face during the teen yearsWhy control erodes trust5 connection-based strategies that work better than control It's not about control. It's about building trust while staying connected. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-trying-to-control-your-teen-doesnt-work-and-what-to-do-instead. Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Big emotions aren't misbehavior—they're communication. In this episode, Kyle and Sara explore how to support kids through emotional outbursts without losing connection or control. Learn how brain development, secure attachment, and your own regulation shape how kids handle their biggest feelings. You'll get practical tools to guide—not shut down—your child during emotional storms. What you'll learn:– Why no child is “too emotional”– How co-regulation builds emotional safety– What's really happening in your child's brain– How to repair after conflict and build trust– Why self-regulation is the foundation for parenting well This episode is packed with hope, insight, and tools to help you raise emotionally resilient kids—without power struggles or shame. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-big-emotions-hit-how-to-stay-connected-through-the-storm Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode, Kyle and Sara dive into one of the most powerful gifts we can give our kids: emotional intelligence.They unpack what emotional intelligence (EQ) really looks like in everyday family life, why it's essential for your child's mental health and resilience, and how to begin building it—even if you're still growing in it yourself. From common parenting pitfalls to simple, meaningful daily practices, this episode offers honest conversation and practical tools to help your kids thrive. Ready to raise kids who can manage big feelings, build strong relationships, and bounce back from challenges?Download the 15 Traits of Emotionally Intelligent Parents worksheet here:

Traveling with kids can be a beautiful opportunity to connect—or a chaotic experience no one wants to repeat. In this episode, Kyle and Sara share realistic, relationship-first strategies to help make road trips and vacations more peaceful and enjoyable. Whether you're flying, driving, or just heading out for the day, these tips will help you approach travel with less stress, more flexibility, and a whole lot more connection. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/traveling-with-kids Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode, Kyle and Sara tackle a struggle many intentional parents face:“I want to be gentle and connected… but am I being too soft?”The fear of being too authoritarian often pushes parents toward permissiveness—leading to unclear boundaries, power struggles, and anxiety in kids. But there's a better way.This conversation is all about loving guidance—a balanced approach that gives your kids structure, emotional support, and room to grow, while helping you stay grounded in your values. Kyle and Sara walk you through 8 practical ways to avoid permissive parenting, so you can stay connected without losing clarity, leadership, or confidence. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-set-boundaries-without-becoming-a-permissive-parent-while-staying-deeply-connected Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

n this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester dive into what it really takes to build a lifelong emotional connection with your child. They explore the subtle ways disconnection shows up—like busyness or emotional unavailability—and share practical strategies to create meaningful rituals, stay present, and repair relationships. If you want your discipline to come from connection, not control, this one's for you. Key Takeaways:Connection is the foundation of influence and discipline.Kids who feel emotionally seen are more resilient.Rituals, presence, and repair build lasting trust. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/building-lifelong-connection-with-your-child Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with Tara Bremer, founder and CEO of House Peace, to explore how the state of our homes can deeply affect our parenting, stress levels, and connection with our kids. Tara has been bringing peace into homes since 2013, using her background in psychology and counseling to help families shift from chaos to calm. As a wife and mother of three, she understands firsthand the daily challenges of family life—and brings a compassionate, judgment-free lens to every conversation. Together, they discuss how clutter and disorganization can undermine family dynamics and how intentional habits, body doubling, and visual cues can help restore peace. This episode offers grounded encouragement and actionable steps for parents looking to foster independence in their kids while maintaining a harmonious home environment. Therapy for your house. (@house.peace) • Instagram photos and videos View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/creating-a-peaceful-home-parenting-habits-and-the-power-of-organization-with-tara-bremer Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

As parents, how do we raise our kids to be resilient against life's inevitable hardships? Good Inside author Dr. Becky Kennedy shares her insights here!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1163What We Discuss with Dr. Becky Kennedy:Boundaries are what parents tell kids they will do — not what kids must do. "If you're not off the couch by the time I get there, I'll pick you up" works better than threats or punishments that require kid compliance.Optimizing for happiness in childhood creates fragility in adulthood. Kids who avoid hard feelings never learn they can handle disappointment, jealousy, or failure — leaving them with a narrow range of emotions they feel capable managing.Parents have two jobs: setting boundaries and validating emotions. These aren't opposites — they work together. Set the limit, then acknowledge their feelings: "You really wish you could keep jumping on the couch.""Do nothing" is often the best parenting strategy. It's mindful restraint — choosing not to react in the moment when kids are upset. This prevents escalation and models emotional regulation better than immediate correction.Build confidence by letting kids struggle through puzzles, conflicts, and challenges. Tell them: "The best feeling is when you think you can't do something, then watch yourself make progress." Struggle builds capability.And much more...And if you're game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:Caldera Lab: 20% off: calderalab.com/jordan, code JORDANAudible: Visit audible.com/jhs or text JHS to 500-500Progressive: Free online quote: progressive.comBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanOura Ring: 10% off: ouraring.com/jordanSkims: skims.com, survey: podcasts: JHSSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this thought-provoking episode, Kyle and Sara Wester challenge a common parenting goal: obedience. They explore why obedience might deliver quick results, but often at the cost of long-term connection, emotional development, and a child's capacity for critical thinking. Instead, they advocate for cooperation as a healthier, more empowering goal. Drawing from real-life examples and their work with families, Kyle and Sara share practical strategies to nurture trust, respect, and internal motivation in kids. They explain how cooperation builds emotional intelligence, strengthens relationships, and prepares children to become thoughtful, capable adults. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-obedience-shouldnt-be-your-parenting-goal Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode, Kyle and Sara sit down with Lori Sugarman-Li—author of Our Home—to explore how reframing family responsibilities can transform your household. They talk about the emotional labor of parenting, why chores aren't just tasks, and how involving kids in meaningful work builds connection, confidence, and life skills. 

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore one of the most common stressors for families—sibling conflict. Instead of falling into the trap of being a referee, dismissing the drama, or shutting it down, what if you could coach your kids through it?Kyle and Sara break down the three roles parents often play (resister, dismisser, ref) and why they don't work. Then they share a compassionate, research-backed alternative: coaching kids to build empathy, communication, and emotional regulation through conflict.You'll learn:How to shift from solving fights to building lifelong skillsThe power of connection in reducing rivalryCoaching prompts to use with your kids todayWhy modeling adult conflict well matters so muchHow sibling conflict can become a growth opportunity"Sibling conflict isn't a failure — it's a chance to teach lifelong relationship skills." View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/from-chaos-to-connection-coaching-sibling-conflict-with-confidenceVisit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this honest and inspiring conversation, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with bestselling author Jessica N. Turner to talk about what happens when parenting and marriage don't turn out the way you hoped. Jessica opens up about her own journey through disappointment and divorce, and how she rebuilt her life with intention, emotional healing, and hope. She shares lessons from her new book, I Thought It Would Be Better Than This, including how therapy, forgiveness, and open communication can help parents heal and lead with purpose—even in hard seasons. You'll hear about:Why naming disappointment mattersHow therapy can support emotional resilienceWhat forgiveness looks like after relational painTips for co-parenting with openness and graceHelping kids feel secure during big transitions Whether you're in a hard season or supporting someone who is, this episode offers practical wisdom and encouragement for parents who want to grow through what they're going through. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-life-doesnt-go-as-planned-disappointment-healing-hope Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode, Kyle and Sara explore the power of the Relationship Bank Account (RBA) — a simple but transformative tool for strengthening your connection with your child. You'll learn:What a Relationship Bank Account is (and why it matters)How to make daily “deposits” that build long-term trust and emotional security10 practical ways to fill up your child's RBA starting todayWhat to do if your RBA is running low (or in overdraft)How RBA principles protect your relationship through conflict and correction 

In this thought-provoking episode, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with renowned author and speaker Alfie Kohn—a powerful voice challenging traditional ideas about parenting, discipline, education, and motivation. Alfie doesn't hold back as he dives into the unintended consequences of using rewards, punishments, and even praise with children. His insights, grounded in decades of research, have radically reshaped how countless parents and educators approach behavior and discipline. This conversation is equal parts challenging and inspiring—and yes, it even moved Sara to tears. Why? Because Alfie doesn't just critique outdated approaches—he paints a compelling picture of what's possible when we parent with unconditional love, curiosity, and trust. In this episode, Kyle and Sara explore:Why rewards and punishment may undermine intrinsic motivationHow praise can backfire—and what to do insteadWhat it looks like to support children's autonomy and growthHow schools and families can foster genuine cooperation, not compliance Listeners will walk away with not only a deeper understanding of why traditional discipline falls short, but how to do things differently—and more effectively.About Our Guest:Alfie Kohn is the author of 14 influential books, including Punished by Rewards, Unconditional Parenting, The Myth of the Spoiled Child, and The Schools Our Children Deserve. He's been featured on Oprah, The Today Show, and numerous other national platforms. His work has helped parents and educators across the globe rethink what it truly means to raise and teach children with respect and connection.Learn more at

In this episode, we're digging into the quiet beliefs many of us bring into parenting—assumptions we didn't even realize were shaping how we saw our kids.Kyle and Sara reflect on the messages they heard early on in their parenting journey: from well-meaning friends, family, and culture at large. Many of these ideas—like needing to “control” kids, stop “bad” behavior, or “show them who's boss”—can subtly influence how we respond to our children's needs, mistakes, and development.But what if many of these assumptions are wrong?They explore big questions like:Are kids really being bad, or are they lacking skills?Is punishment necessary, or is there a better way?What does research say about how children are actually wired?You'll hear how shifting your mindset can completely transform the way you parent. They talk about:Why children actually want to succeed and cooperateHow their brains are wired for connection and learningWhy behaviors often signal a lack of skill, not a lack of motivationAnd why labeling kids as “manipulative” or “lazy” misses what's really going onWhether you're early in your parenting journey or years in, this conversation invites you to challenge unhelpful assumptions and begin to see your child in a fresh way. Get ready! View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/the-parenting-assumptions-we-need-to-rethink Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In Episode #155 of Art of Raising Humans, Sara and Kyle sit down with pediatric neuropsychologists, Dr. Yale Rothman and Dr. Katie Fredriksen, to explore a crucial and timely topic — how to talk with kids about autism. In this episode, we discuss a thoughtful, kid-friendly book co-authored by Dr. Rothman and Dr. Fredriksen that helps children with autism understand how their brains work — and supports neurotypical children in understanding and connecting with autistic peers. This conversation sheds light on:What may be contributing to the rise in autism diagnosesWhy it's essential for all kids to understand neurodiversityHow parents can foster empathy, connection, and inclusionWhether you're parenting a child with autism or simply want to raise compassionate, informed kids, this episode offers meaningful insight and practical tools. The book we discuss is one every family will benefit from having on their shelf. 

In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara explore one of the most common questions they get from parents:“Is it really possible to discipline without punishment or consequences like time-outs, threats, or spanking?”When they became parents, Kyle and Sara struggled to imagine parenting without those tools—they believed punishment was an essential part of discipline. But as they dug deeper into the research and began working with families, they discovered that true discipline doesn't rely on fear or control.They unpack the meaning of the word “discipline” (which comes from disciple) and how that changes the way we show up with our kids. When discipline becomes something we do with our children—rather than to them—it opens the door to connection, emotional growth, and lasting change.They also discuss:What research says about the long-term effects of punishmentHow parents can guide their kids toward growth and responsibility without fear or shameHow to begin reimagining your parenting toolboxThis conversation is the beginning of a much bigger journey—one we'll continue exploring in future episodes. If this topic resonates or challenges you, stay with us. There's so much more to learn and grow in together.View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/can-you-discipline-without-punishmentVisit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comThe Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, we sit down with award-winning author and children's mental health advocate Jamie Edelbrock. When Jamie's daughter was struggling, she realized that the best way to support her was to start working on her own anxiety and past trauma. She shares her journey of self-discovery and healing, and how it transformed both her life and her parenting.Jamie is the author of Tangled Up, Be the Sparkle, and The Adventures of Little Selfie. As a Behavior Analyst specializing in ABA therapy and a parent of neurodivergent children, she brings both professional expertise and personal experience to this powerful conversation.In this episode, we discuss:How addressing your own mental health can positively impact your childrenBreaking cycles of childhood trauma and creating a new family legacyWhat parents can do when they're worried about their child's mental healthHow Jamie's experiences led her to write books that help children process emotionsIf you've ever felt overwhelmed as a parent or wondered how to best support your child's emotional well-being, this episode is for you!Jamie's website: http://www.jamieedelbrock.com/Jamie's Instagram: Jamie Edelbrock, Author (@tangledupbook) • Instagram photos and videosView the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-my-daughter-needed-help-i-discovered-that-getting-help-for-myself-was-the-best-solutionVisit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comThe Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

This episode Tony sits the Founder of Real Life Skills Academy, Matthew Finlin. He's spent over 12 years coaching in sales, fitness, and personal growth, but his true mission is redefining education by equipping the next generation with real-life skills schools don't teach.Through his free platform for parents and year-long curriculum for teens, he bridges the gap between traditional education and practical wisdom, helping families master finance, health, emotional resilience, and self-leadership. Blending ancient practices with modern science, Matthew is here to challenge outdated systems and redefine success for the next generation.Check him out on Instagram at: http://www.instagram.com/matthewfinlin

"God gives us our children to heal and transform us." - Kyle Wester   Summary In many ways, being a parent is less about our kids and more about our own formation!  When we lean into the vocation of parenthood, God can use every experience with our children to show us His love and to form us into the person He has created us to be.  In this podcast, we talk to Kyle and Sara Wester, counselors and hosts of the podcast The Art of Raising Humans. During our conversation, they explained four different parenting styles that we move in and out of depending on our life circumstances, how our marriage is actually the most important parenting tool we have, and how our understanding of who we are in the eyes of God affects how we relate to our kids.  This podcast is full of great insights for parents and we know you will gain from the Wester's wisdom.     Key Takeaways Children need to be taught relationship skills and correct behavior.  The most powerful way they learn is by watching how you relate to your spouse.  God gives us our children to heal and transform us.  To love our children effectively, we need to first receive God's love for us personally.  Every conflict with our spouse or children is about expectations.   When our child exhibits behavior that is inappropriate for a situation, we need to ask ourselves, “What is this behavior telling me about this child?” Discipline comes from discipleship and the foundation of discipleship is relationship.  We all must work on having a deep and rich relationship with our children to form them.   There are 4 different parenting styles that we move through depending on our life circumstances.  We don't always choose what is best, but we can keep in mind the goal of Loving Guidance and move towards that.  Recommended books from the Westers: Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by by Rebecca Bailey Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen No Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson   Couple Discussion Questions Are we happy with how we are modeling conflict resolution for our children? How can we do this better?  What in our children do we see in ourselves?  Write these things down.  Do we love these things in ourselves? Why or why not?   Resources:   The Art of Raising Humans Podcast Link    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans   Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans?igsh=MXkyOGRwbzJ2ZDF1MQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@artofraisinghumans?_t=8itlE1tnZSF&_r=1

In Episode #152 of the Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara tackle one of the biggest sources of division and tension in families—triangulation. They break down what it is, why it fuels constant conflict, and how it can quietly damage family relationships. But more importantly, they share practical, intentional steps parents can take to coach their kids in healthy conflict resolution. Learning to navigate disagreements effectively is a life skill that sets kids up for stronger relationships now and well into adulthood. Don't miss this crucial conversation!Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com.View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/breaking-the-cycle-how-to-stop-triangulation-and-teach-healthy-conflict-resolution Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comThe Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.