Podcasts about raising humans

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with beloved Australian parenting author, educator, and champion for boys Maggie Dent to talk about dads, sons, emotional safety, repair, and why children do not need perfect fathers. Maggie shares practical wisdom for fathers who want to parent differently but may not know what that looks like in real life. Together, we explore how dads can be strong without being harsh, how boys often open up through side-by-side connection, and why repair matters more than perfection. If you are a dad, love a dad, are raising boys, or want to better understand the powerful role fathers play, this conversation will leave you encouraged and reminded that being a “good enough dad” really can be enough. In this episode:• Why dads matter so deeply• How dads can connect with sons• Why boys often open up through walks, car rides, movement, and presence• What may be underneath anger in tween and teen boys• How dads can repair after yelling or losing their temper• Why children need emotional safety more than perfection Connect with Maggie DentWebsite: maggiedent.comInstagram: @maggiedentauthorYouTube: Maggie DentPodcast: The Good Enough Dad Podcast Books:Mothering Our BoysFrom Boys to MenHelp Me Help My TeenGirlhoodParental As Anything View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/the-good-enough-had-with-maggie-dent Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

If you're like most parents, you've probably had a moment this summer where you said, "Okay, time to turn it off," and suddenly found yourself in a negotiation, an argument, or a full-blown meltdown. Screens have become one of the biggest parenting challenges of modern life. They're entertaining, social, educational, and often genuinely helpful. But they can also create power struggles, emotional outbursts, and frustration for both kids and parents. In this episode, Kyle and Sara explore a different way to think about screens. Instead of focusing on control, punishment, or finding the perfect amount of screen time, they discuss how parents can help children develop healthy screen habits while still enjoying the benefits technology can offer. You'll hear practical ideas for reducing conflict, understanding what's happening beneath screen battles, and leading your family with connection instead of control. Kyle and Sara also share five practical shifts parents can begin using immediately to create healthier rhythms around screens and reduce daily battles. In This Episode:Why turning off screens can feel so difficult for kidsWhat screens may be providing for children emotionally and sociallyWhy screen battles are often about more than the screen itselfCommon parenting responses that unintentionally increase conflictThe difference between creating limits and creating healthy rhythmsHow to support smoother transitions away from devicesWhy awareness works better than shameWhat screens may be crowding out in a child's lifeHow to collaborate with kids when creating screen expectationsWhat to do when children still become upset about screen limitsFive practical shifts you can start using this weekA Different Way to Think About Screens:Screens aren't going away.Our job isn't to eliminate them. Our job is to help our children learn how to use them with awareness, balance, and self-control while they're still under our guidance. When we move beyond fear, shame, and constant power struggles, we create opportunities to teach the skills our kids will need for a lifetime of healthy screen use. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/screen-time-without-the-power-struggles Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Many parents are worried about what they're seeing in their sons. Maybe your son seems more angry, aggressive, withdrawn, or difficult to reach than he used to be. Maybe you're wondering why conversations feel harder, emotions stay bottled up, or small frustrations quickly escalate into conflict. In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with psychologist and author Dr. Katie Hurley to explore what is really happening beneath the surface for boys today. Together, they discuss the hidden pressures boys face, the influence of social media and online culture, why anger often becomes the only acceptable emotion for boys to express, and how parents can create stronger connections with their sons in a rapidly changing world.This conversation offers practical guidance, hope, and insight for parents who want to better understand their boys and help them thrive emotionally, socially, and mentally.If You've Ever Wondered:Why does my son seem so angry lately?Why won't my son talk about his feelings?How is social media affecting boys?What is the "manosphere" and why should parents pay attention?How do I respond when my son becomes verbally aggressive?How can dads build stronger emotional connections with their sons?What role do coaches, mentors, and male role models play?How can I help my son navigate today's culture without losing himself?In This EpisodeThe hidden emotional pressures boys face todayWhy boys often express sadness, fear, shame, and anxiety through angerHow social media algorithms influence boys' beliefs and identityThe growing impact of online misogyny and toxic masculinityWhy boys often struggle to ask for helpThe importance of emotional connection and open conversationsHow shared activities can help boys open upWhy positive male mentorship mattersPractical ways parents can respond to aggression and disrespectThe difference between punishment and connectionHow calm, consistency, and connection help boys feel safe enough to growWhy repair and accountability are essential family skillsConnect with Dr. Katie HurleyInstagram: @drkatiehurleyWebsite: https://practicalkatie.com/Books:Breaking the Boy CodeNo More Mean Girls View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-so-many-boys-are-angry-today-with-dr-katie-hurley Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Many parents today feel stuck between two extremes:Punishment and power struggles,OR permissiveness and inconsistency. But what if there's another way? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester from Art of Raising Humans walk parents through their GUIDE framework, a practical, relationship-based approach that helps parents hold boundaries, teach responsibility, and build emotional regulation without relying on fear, shame, or punishment. This conversation is filled with:real-life parenting examples,nervous system insights,and practical tools parents can begin using immediately with kids, tweens, and teens. If you've ever wondered:“How do I hold limits without yelling?”“How do I teach accountability without punishment?”“What do I actually do during emotional meltdowns?”“How do I stay calm when my child loses control?”…this episode will give you a practical roadmap forward. In This EpisodeWhy punishment often fails to build long-term skillsThe difference between accountability and punishmentHow parent regulation changes difficult momentsWhat children actually need during emotional overwhelmThe GUIDE framework for calm, connected disciplinePractical ways to hold firm boundaries without fear or shameWhy repair matters after conflictHow to help kids build emotional regulation and responsibility View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-stop-punishing-without-becoming-permissive Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Check out Jon Fogel's "Parent Lab" membership. It has courses, challenges, and coaching included. Learn more at Members.wholeparentacademy.com.In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with parenting educator and author Jon Fogel to unpack the science behind punishment, discipline, emotional regulation, and raising resilient kids without fear, shame, or power struggles. Jon explains why punishment often teaches the wrong lessons, what actually happens in a child's brain during moments of stress, and why long-term influence comes through connection, boundaries, and skill-building; not fear or control. Whether you're parenting a strong-willed child, a neurodiverse child, or simply trying to break generational parenting patterns, this conversation offers practical, brain-based strategies that help parents lead with calm authority while still holding healthy boundaries. If you've ever wondered:“If I don't punish, won't my child just keep doing it?”“What's the difference between gentle parenting and permissiveness?”“How do I hold boundaries without yelling, shame, or punishment?”…this episode is for you. In This Episode:Why punishment often teaches the wrong lessonWhat brain science reveals about discipline and emotional regulationThe difference between punishment, consequences, and permissivenessWhy kids need boundaries without fear-based parentingHow shame impacts a child's brain and behaviorParenting neurodiverse children with greater understandingWhy most effective discipline happens after the moment, not during itHow to help children build resilience through natural consequencesPractical tools parents can use during meltdowns and conflict Key Takeaways:Punishment may stop behavior temporarily, but it rarely builds long-term skillsChildren learn best when they feel safe, connected, and emotionally regulatedBoundaries and authority still matter in connected parentingNatural consequences are often more effective than punishmentParenting with empathy does not mean permissivenessLong-term influence is built through relationship and trust Resources Mentioned:Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice by Jon FogelSet My Feelings Free by Jon FogelJon Fogel / Whole Parent: https://www.jonfogel.comThe Parent Lab: https://www.jonfogel.com/parentlabInstagram: @WholeParent View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-punishment-doesnt-work-and-what-actually-helps-kids-learn-with-jon-fogel Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Why does your teen suddenly argue about everything? Why do simple conversations turn into tension, frustration, or shutdown? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack what's actually happening in the teenage brain during adolescence and why disagreement is often a healthy sign of development—not disrespect. You'll learn why teens naturally start questioning parents, what fear this can trigger in moms and dads, and how to respond in ways that strengthen connection instead of damaging it.  This episode will help you stay calm during conflict, keep communication open, and build long-term influence with your teen without relying on control or power struggles. If you've ever wondered:“Why is my teen pushing back so much?”“Am I losing influence?”“How do I stay connected without giving in?”…this episode is for you.In This Episode:What's happening in the teenage brain during adolescenceWhy disagreement is part of healthy identity developmentThe difference between defiance and differentiationWhy control often weakens connection and influenceHow to stay calm and connected during conflictPractical ways to respond without shutting conversations downHow curiosity builds trust and communicationThe shift from controlling behavior to coaching decision-makingKey Takeaways:Teen disagreement is normal and developmentally healthyYour response matters more than winning the argumentConnection creates more long-term influence than controlCalm, curious parenting keeps communication openTeens still need guidance, even when they push back View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-your-teen-needs-to-disagree-with-you-and-how-to-stay-connected-when-they-do Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

If you have ever felt touched out, on edge, or reactive with your kids even when nothing big is wrong, this episode will help you understand why. Most parenting advice focuses on managing your time, your tasks, or your mindset. But what if the real issue is not what you are doing, but what your nervous system is constantly taking in? In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we talk about the overstimulation many moms experience every day and how constant input like noise, touch, questions, and emotional demands keeps your body in a state of stress. We explain what is happening in your brain and body, why this often leads to snapping or shutting down, and what helps you feel calmer, more present, and more like yourself again.You will walk away with three simple shifts that reduce overstimulation, support your nervous system, and change the way you show up at home. We also talk about how dads and partners can play a key role, not just by helping more, but by actively reducing the inputs that are overwhelming moms. In this episode, we coverWhy moms feel overstimulated even when nothing major is wrongThe difference between mental load and nervous system overloadHow constant input keeps your body in a stress responseWhy snapping or shutting down is often a physiological responseThree shifts that reduce overstimulation and increase calmHow partners can help by reducing input, not just adding support Three shifts to reduce overstimulationLower the input, not just the expectationsYour nervous system needs fewer demands, not just better coping strategies.Externalize what is looping in your mindGetting thoughts out of your head creates space and reduces internal noise.Shift from help to ownership at homeTrue relief comes when responsibilities are fully shared, not managed by one person. Key takeawayYou are not too sensitive. You are not handling it wrong.Your nervous system is overloaded.When you reduce the input, everything from your patience to your presence starts to change. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/touched-out-on-edge-and-overwhelmed-why-moms-feel-this-way-and-what-actually-helps Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if one of the most powerful tools in parenting is something most of us overlook?In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Kim Van Dusen to talk about the role of play in building connection, improving behavior, and helping children navigate big emotions. Many parents think of play as something extra — something fun if there is time. But as Dr. Kim explains, play is not just entertainment. It is one of the most effective ways to build trust, teach emotional skills, and create the kind of relationship that actually influences behavior.We talk about how to balance connection and boundaries, what to do when kids have big reactions, and how simple, playful moments throughout the day can completely shift the tone of your home. If you've ever felt stuck in power struggles, overwhelmed by big emotions, or unsure how to connect with your child in the middle of hard moments, this conversation will give you practical and realistic ways to start.In this episode, we cover:Why play is more than just fun — it is a powerful parenting toolHow connection through play can improve behavior over timeThe balance between boundaries and connectionHow to respond to big feelings without losing your footingPractical ways to use play during transitions, meltdowns, and everyday momentsWhy some parents struggle to engage in play and how to overcome itHow play builds trust, safety, and emotional resilience in childrenPractical takeaways for parents:Look for small “playful pockets” throughout the dayUse simple tools like visual timers to ease transitionsCreate small rituals that build connectionFocus on your own regulation as the foundationBe willing to step into your child's world — even briefly About our guest:Dr. Kim Van Dusen is a therapist and parenting expert who helps families build stronger relationships through connection and play. Her work focuses on helping parents navigate behavior, emotions, and everyday challenges in a way that builds trust and long-term resilience. Resources:Parenting Through Play (Book): AmazonAmazon.comWebsite: Kimvandusenkimvandusen.comInstagram: Instagraminstagram.com/theparentologist View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-play-is-the-missing-piece-in-your-parenting-with-dr-kim-van-dusen Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester talk about 10 essential life skills and character traits they hope every teen is learning before graduation. As teens move closer to adulthood, many parents feel the pressure to prepare them for what's next. But readiness is not just about college, careers, or independence. It's also about emotional maturity, relationships, responsibility, and knowing how to navigate real life. From learning how to ask for help to handling emotions, building healthy relationships, and developing habits that shape long-term success, this conversation offers practical and meaningful ways parents can support their teens during this important season. In this episode, we cover:Why teens don't need to have their entire future figured outThe importance of learning how to ask for helpHow responsibility and support work togetherWhy emotional maturity matters more than perfectionWhat healthy relationships and conflict actually look likePractical life skills teens need before adulthoodHow habits shape long-term freedom and successWhy self-worth can't be tied to performanceThe importance of character over imageHow to maintain connection with your teen after graduation View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/10-things-i-want-my-teen-to-learn-before-they-graduate Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

The end of the school year can feel exciting, but it can also leave families feeling off, overwhelmed, or unexpectedly emotional. Kids are not just finishing assignments and turning in backpacks. They are leaving routines, relationships, structure, and predictability. And that transition can show up in ways parents do not always expect. In this episode, we talk about how to help your family end the school year with intention and step into summer in a way that feels more calm, connected, and manageable. We walk through how to create meaningful closure for your child, make space for mixed emotions, and build a summer rhythm that supports both your kids and your family.If you want to avoid sliding into chaos and instead create a summer that feels more grounded, connected, and enjoyable, this episode will give you a practical place to start. In this episode, we cover:Why the end of the school year is a bigger transition than most parents realizeHow to help your child get closure and mark the year in a meaningful wayWhy kids often show mixed emotions at the start of summerHow to plan with your kids instead of only for themHow to create a summer rhythm without becoming rigidHow to prepare for common summer challenges like screens, boredom, and sibling conflictWhy different siblings may need different things during the summer View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-end-the-school-year-well-and-transition-into-summer-without-the-chaos Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Why is it so hard to parent differently than how you were raised—even when you want to?In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore how generational parenting patterns form, why they're so difficult to break, and what it actually takes to create lasting change. These patterns aren't character flaws, they're wired into the nervous system through repeated experiences. When stress rises, many parents find themselves reacting in ways they swore they wouldn't. Drawing on insights from Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel, this episode explains what's happening in your brain during those moments and how to interrupt old patterns in real time.You'll learn practical, everyday strategies to regulate your nervous system, repair when things go wrong, and build new patterns that shape a healthier family legacy. Because lasting change doesn't come from trying harder, it comes from understanding what's driving your reactions and practicing something new. In this episode:Why generational patterns are stored in the nervous systemHow stress and emotional flooding trigger old reactionsWhat “repair” actually does to rewire the brainPractical steps to build new parenting habits over time View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-break-generational-parenting-patterns-without-repeating-what-you-grew-up-with Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if your child's reaction to failure isn't about behavior, but about their nervous system?In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore the concept of failure tolerance—and why it's one of the most important skills your child can develop for long-term resilience, confidence, and emotional health. Many kids today struggle when things don't go their way. They melt down, shut down, or avoid challenges altogether. But these reactions aren't signs of weakness, they're signs of a nervous system that doesn't yet feel safe enough to handle failure. This conversation breaks down what's really happening in your child's brain during moments of struggle and how you can respond in ways that actually build resilience over time.You'll learn how to recognize your child's unique response to failure, how to reduce shame and self-protection, and how to support growth without rescuing or overcorrecting. Because failure isn't something to avoid, it's something to learn how to handle. In this episode:What failure tolerance really is (and why it's about regulation)The 3 responses: melter, quitter, avoiderHow shame impacts your child's identityPractical ways to build resilience over time View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-your-child-falls-apart-when-things-go-wrong-and-how-to-build-failure-tolerance Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: Instagraminstagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if the way we discipline our kids is actually creating the behaviors we're trying to fix?In this episode, we sit down with psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Vanessa Lapointe to challenge common discipline strategies like timeouts and consequences—and explore what actually helps children regulate, grow, and thrive. If you've ever felt stuck between being too harsh or too permissive, this conversation will give you a clear, connection-based path forward. In this episode, you'll learn:• Why behavior is communication• What's really happening during meltdowns• Why empathy can sometimes feel like it's “not working”• How to set firm, respectful boundaries• Why consequences and timeouts often backfire• What kids actually need to develop self-regulation Resources & Links:• Learn more: drvanessalapointe.com• Book: Discipline Without Damage If this episode resonates, follow the podcast, share it with another parent, and leave a review to help more families find this message. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/discipline-without-damage-rethinking-consequences-timeouts-and-big-emotions-with-dr-vanessa-lapointe Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In Part 2 of this conversation, Kyle and Sara Wester continue unpacking one of parenting's most misunderstood topics: consequences. After exploring the difference between natural and logical consequences in Part 1, this episode focuses on the most common mistakes parents make when using consequences and how those mistakes can unintentionally lead to power struggles instead of learning. Kyle and Sara explain why many consequences are actually punishment in disguise, and why connection and emotional safety must come before correction. When children feel safe and regulated, their brains are far more able to learn from their mistakes. They also discuss the difference between shame and accountability, why adult composure matters, and why consequences alone cannot teach the skills children need. To help parents think through their responses, they introduce the A.R.T. Filter, a simple way to evaluate whether a consequence is Appropriate, Respectful, and Teaching. Throughout the episode, Kyle and Sara emphasize a core principle of healthy discipline: the goal is not punishment but learning, growth, and preserving the relationship. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/consequences-that-work-without-power-struggles-common-mistakes-parents-make-with-consequences-part-2 Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack one of the most misunderstood topics in parenting: consequences. Many parents are told to “just give consequences,” but few are taught which consequences actually help children learn and which ones quietly create more power struggles. Kyle and Sara explain the difference between natural consequences and logical consequences, and why understanding that distinction matters. Natural consequences allow children to experience real-life cause and effect, helping the brain connect actions with outcomes through lived experience. They also explore why many “logical consequences” parents use are actually punishment in disguise, and why consequences must remain calm, predictable, and directly related to behavior in order to support learning. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize an essential truth: discipline works best when it protects connection and preserves a child's dignity. This episode lays the groundwork for understanding consequences more clearly and prepares listeners for Part 2, where Kyle and Sara explore the most common mistakes parents make when using consequences and how to avoid them. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/consequences-that-work-without-power-struggles-natural-vs-logical-consequences-in-parenting-part-1 Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Why do kids and teens become sneaky? If you've caught your child lying, hiding things, sneaking screens, deleting messages, or leaving out important details, you know how painful and triggering it can feel. Sneaky behavior often hits deep — it can feel like betrayal, disrespect, or a breakdown in trust. But what if sneakiness isn't a character flaw?In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore the real reasons kids and teens become secretive, and what parents can do to respond in ways that actually rebuild trust instead of pushing honesty further underground. You'll learn:• Why sneakiness is often a learned survival strategy• The brain science behind hiding and dishonesty• How fear of punishment or disappointment fuels secrecy• Why control without collaboration increases sneaky behavior• What makes honesty feel safe again• Practical ways to respond without escalating the power struggle Drawing from attachment research, nervous system science, and leading parenting experts, this conversation helps you shift from interrogation to curiosity, from shame to skill-building, and from control to connection. Your job isn't to raise a child who never lies.Your job is to raise a child who feels safe enough to return to the truth. If you're parenting a child or teen who has started hiding things, this episode will help you understand what's really happening, and how to create lasting change without breaking the relationship. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-kids-teens-get-sneaky-and-how-to-respond-without-breaking-trust Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

If you've ever tried to repair a conflict with your teen only to be met with silence, shrugs, or a closed door, you are not alone. In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack what's actually happening when teens shut down after arguments and why pushing for conversation too quickly often backfires. Here's the reframe many parents need to hear:When teens go quiet, it usually isn't rejection — it's nervous system protection. You'll learn how stress and activation impact your teen's ability to talk, why past patterns still shape how safe your child feels, and what actually helps rebuild connection after hard moments. If you want a relationship where your child chooses to talk, not one where you have to pull it out of them, this episode will give you a clear, brain-based path forward.In this episode, we cover:Why teens often shut down after conflictWhat the nervous system is doing underneath the silenceWhy “let's talk about it” can backfireHow parents accidentally increase shutdownThe difference between rejection and protectionPractical ways to help your teen feel safe enough to open upHow to repair without forcing a full conversationWhat builds long-term emotional safety with teenagers Your job is not to force openness; it's to become someone openness feels safe with. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-teens-shut-down-after-arguments-and-how-to-build-a-relationship-where-they-want-to-talk Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Scheana and her “Payroll Husband” Brock are joined by Kristin Gallant and Deena Margolin, the parenting coach and child therapist duo behind the viral parenting hub Big Little Feelings, for an honest, real-time parenting workshop packed with practical tools and relatable moments. From toddler meltdowns to emotional shutdowns, they break down what's actually happening developmentally — and why big feelings aren't bad behavior (or a sign you're raising a “spoiled” kid). Scheana and Brock open up about postpartum OCD, co-sleeping conversations, differing parenting styles, and the very real weight of mom and dad guilt — including balancing career opportunities with being present for milestones. The conversation also dives into raising a child in the public eye, handling social media commentary, and the one parenting shift everyone should start today. Plus, the BLF duo debunks the biggest toddler myths, shares their go-to meltdown scripts, and reminds every parent of one powerful truth: you're doing better than you think. Follow us: @scheana @scheananigans @brockGuest: @biglittlefeelings Purchase your very own copy of the NYT Best-selling book & audiobook MY GOOD SIDE at www.mygoodsidebook.com!Episode sponsors:Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to TheRealReal.com/goodasgoldPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If AI can do the homework, what happens to the student? In this episode, Sam Shapiro sits down with Eric Hudson, a strategic advisor who has helped hundreds of schools navigate the intersection of technology and humanity. Together, they explore how to raise kids who are "AI-literate" but—more importantly—human-centered.We discuss:The "Do Hard Things" Thesis: Why the struggle of learning is the ultimate hedge against an unhealthy, shortcut-obsessed world.Literacy vs. Policy: Why building a child's internal "BS detector" is more protective than any school ban.Augmentation over Automation: How to use technology to extend human capability rather than replace it.

Celebrating 200 episodes with one of our most important parenting conversations. You've seen the pattern: a child leaves for college… and the connection fades. Fewer calls. Fewer visits. Nothing went wrong but the closeness isn't the same.Here's what most parents miss:Connection usually isn't lost in college. It's lost when the parenting role never evolves.In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we break down the two essential shifts that protect long-term connection with your teen and young adult. Discover the two shifts every parent must make: moving from manager to coach and learning how to handle hard conversations without losing connection. Bottom line: Your goal isn't control, it's building a relationship your child doesn't need distance from.In This Episode:Why parents often lose connection before collegeWhen to shift from manager to coachThe beliefs that keep teens coming backHow to communicate through disagreementWhat brain science says about emerging adulthoodView the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-build-a-relationship-your-child-wont-need-distance-from Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only. 

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara tackle one of the most emotionally loaded parenting questions: When should you push your child to persevere and when is it healthier to back off? Parents often worry that letting kids quit will undermine grit, confidence, or future success. But pushing too hard can erode trust, increase anxiety, and disconnect kids from their own sense of agency. So how do you know the difference? This episode breaks down the brain science behind perseverance, the role of emotional safety in growth, and how to support kids through challenge without breaking their spirit. You'll learn how to recognize when struggle is productive, when stress has tipped into overwhelm, and how thoughtful backing off can actually increase long-term resilience. If you've ever wondered whether you're building perseverance—or protecting your own anxiety—this conversation will help you find the middle ground. In this episode, we discuss:The difference between perseverance and endurance at all costsHow brain development impacts persistenceSigns pushing is helpful vs harmfulWhy trust and regulation come before growth View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-to-push-and-when-to-back-off-how-to-build-perseverance-without-breaking-your-childs-spirit Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

This episode of Art of Raising Humans features a powerful conversation with Kirk Martin and his son Casey Martin on modern fatherhood, emotional safety, and trust. Kirk shares his journey from reactive parenting to connection-based leadership, while Casey reflects on what it was like to experience that change as a child. Together, they explore how kids test consistency before they trust it, why emotional vulnerability in dads matters, and how real connection is built over time—not in perfect moments. This episode is especially meaningful for dads who want deeper relationships with their kids and for parents learning that growth, repair, and trust happen slowly—and relationally. In this episode, we discuss:Emotional vulnerability and strength in fatherhoodHow children respond when parents begin to changeWhy trust is built through consistency, not wordsThe impact of ADHD on parenting and connectionWhat kids can teach parents when we're willing to listen View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/kirk-casey-martin-how-dads-build-trust-emotional-safety-and-real-connection-with-their-kids Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

As parents, we often believe we know why our kids behave the way they do.We assume intentions, assign meaning to their actions, and respond from that story, often when we are stressed, tired, or triggered. But what if those assumptions are wrong? In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we explore one of the most common and overlooked parenting mistakes, mind reading our children. This happens when we assume we know their motives without actually checking. We unpack why the parent brain does this under stress, what brain science and child development tell us about behavior, and how these assumptions quietly erode connection, trust, and cooperation, especially with tweens and teens. In this episode, you will learn:• Why the human brain jumps to negative interpretations under stress• How nervous system dysregulation leads parents to misread behavior• Why kids often cannot articulate their own motives and what that means for discipline• How curiosity builds safety, honesty, and long term behavior change• What it looks like to assume the best without losing boundaries• Practical ways to pause assumptions and respond with clarity and connection This episode is for parents who want to move beyond control, power struggles, and miscommunication and toward deeper understanding, cooperation, and trust.You do not need to read your child's mind. You need to make space for their voice. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-parents-misread-their-kids-behavior-and-how-brain-science-changes-the-way-you-respond Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Parents are often told to “forgive yourself” or “you're doing great.” While well intentioned, that message often falls flat for parents who are thoughtful, reflective, and deeply invested in their growth. In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we explore why self-forgiveness is most effective when it comes after responsibility, reflection, and repair. We explain the brain science behind shame, learning, and nervous system regulation, and why skipping reflection can keep parents stuck in cycles of guilt rather than growth. You'll learn how shame activates the brain's threat system, why responsibility is different from self-criticism, and what actually allows parents to change patterns without burning out. We also share a practical framework for reflection, repair, and growth that makes self-compassion feel earned rather than hollow. This episode is for parents who care deeply, are unlearning inherited patterns, and want to keep growing without shame driving their parenting. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/forgive-yourself-and-keep-growing-why-self-compassion-only-works-after-responsibility Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Most parents want their children to be responsible, capable, and independent.But when it comes to building habits, morning routines, homework, chores, hygiene, emotional regulation, many well-intentioned parents accidentally sabotage the process without realizing it. In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara break down the most common ways parents unintentionally derail habit building in kids, tweens, and teens, and what actually helps habits stick without nagging, shaming, or taking over. You'll learn why becoming the reminder, lecturing, rescuing, using shame, or expecting adult-level consistency backfires and how habits grow instead through ownership, scaffolding, realistic expectations, and nervous-system safety. This episode covers:Why habits fail when parents carry the responsibilityHow shame, anger, and pressure shut down learningWhat to do instead of lecturing or remindingHow to use visual supports and external reminders effectivelyWhy consistency matters more than perfectionHow to scaffold habits without creating dependenceWhat repair looks like when things fall apart This conversation reframes habit building as a developmental skill, not a motivation problem and offers practical tools parents can use immediately to reduce power struggles and build lasting responsibility. If you're tired of repeating yourself and wondering why habits won't stick, this episode will help you stop unintentionally getting in the way and start supporting real growth. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-parents-sabotage-habits-in-kids-and-what-actually-helps-them-stick Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Parenting doesn't need more pressure, it needs more intention. In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we share 10 intentional parenting habits to start using with your kids in 2026 - the ones that actually build connection, emotional safety, and cooperation. We talk about how to listen instead of lecture, set realistic expectations, repair after mistakes, and create daily moments of connection that reduce power struggles and build trust over time. If you're a parent who wants to raise emotionally healthy kids without punishment, fear, or constant conflict, this episode will ground and guide you. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/10-things-to-start-doing-with-your-kids-in-2026-that-actually-matter Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Parenting doesn't need another list of things to do. Sometimes the most powerful change comes from knowing what to stop. In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore 10 common parenting habits that quietly block connection and cooperation, even when they're widely accepted or well-intended. From grounding and “don't talk back” to screen-time double standards and over-advising, these habits often create power struggles instead of teaching skills. This conversation isn't about blame or perfection. It's about shifting from control-based parenting to connection-based leadership, so kids can build emotional, relational, and self-regulation skills that actually last.If you're feeling stuck in discipline cycles or longing for more cooperation without fear or force, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate way forward. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/10-parenting-habits-to-leave-behind-this-year-so-you-can-build-more-connection-and-cooperation Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with Vivek Patel, founder of Non-Coercive Collaborative Parenting (NCCP) and creator of Meaningful Ideas. Vivek has spent more than 15 years teaching thousands of families how to create more harmony, communication, and connection in their homes. With over 500 parenting articles, 300 educational videos, and a deeply rooted philosophy centered on collaboration, he brings a powerful perspective to what parents can do when kids “don't listen.” Drawing on his martial arts background and decades of working with kids and parents, Vivek explains how to turn moments of resistance into opportunities for guidance and true cooperation. Together, they explore why kids push back, how traditional control-based approaches confuse fear for respect, and what it really looks like to guide children like the banks of a river rather than trying to stop their flow. Vivek shares his “test, treat, and tornado” framework for families transitioning away from control, offers tools for emotional regulation and pattern interruption, and challenges common beliefs about strength, consequences, and preparing kids for the real world. This conversation will help parents rethink respect, redefine strength, and lead with greater calm, connection, and confidence. To learn more from Vivek, follow him at @meaningfulideas on all platforms or explore his work at www.meaningfulideas.com. For more personalized support, visit his parenting membership community at meaningfulideas.com/courses/meaningful-ideas-membership. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/vivek-patel-on-kids-who-dont-listen-how-to-turn-power-struggles-into-connection-and-collaboration Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In Part 2 of Sturdy Parenting, Marta explores anxiety, nervous system regulation, and what children truly need in order to feel safe, connected, and worthy.Building on the foundations of Part 1, this episode focuses on the difference between false anxiety (a body out of balance) and true anxiety (a heart that needs connection). Marta offers compassionate insight into how social media, perfectionism, frustration, and emotional overwhelm impact today's kids, and how sturdy parents can respond with presence rather than control.Through practical tools, real-life examples, and deep relational wisdom, this episode reminds us that presence, not perfection, is what shapes our children and ourselves.This is a grounding, hopeful conversation about regulation, repair, and raising humans who know they belong.

In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester explore one of the most common and misunderstood dynamics in modern parenting: the roles of the default parent and the non-default parent. They unpack why these roles form, what each partner often experiences, and how these patterns can create pressure, resentment, or feelings of invisibility. With compassion for both parents, Kyle and Sara explain how routines are built through trial and error, why they deserve respect, and how well-meaning attempts to help can sometimes cause tension. They offer practical steps to improve communication, clarify responsibilities, honor each parent's strengths, and build a more balanced partnership. This conversation gives parents the tools to navigate differences, value each other's contributions, and create a healthy, flexible family system where both parents feel capable, respected, and connected. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/the-default-parent-dynamic-how-to-share-the-load-feel-valued-and-parent-as-a-team Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Interview with Sonia Bestulic / Founder of Flourish with SoniaHOSTED BY PAUL SULLIVANWhat if the biggest challenges facing kids today aren't about behavior or performance - but about how disconnected we've become from ourselves? Drawing on decades of work with thousands of families, globally recognized thought leader, speech pathologist, and author Sonia Bestulic has built a framework for raising empowered children through self-leadership, intuition, and trust. She shares why so many parents feel stuck in guilt and self-doubt, how traditional systems often miss a child's true brilliance, and what it really means to build strong foundations for lifelong flourishing.---Get our free newsletter covering all things fatherhood delivered straight to your inbox: https://thecompanyofdads.com/thedad/

Jennifer Kolari on Strong-Willed Kids, Brain Science & Connected ParentingSummary: In this powerful episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with parenting expert Jennifer Kolari to talk about one of the most misunderstood and emotionally exhausting parenting challenges: raising a strong-willed child. Why does your child melt down over “small” things? Why does discipline feel like constant power struggles? And why does nothing seem to work the way the books promised? Jennifer explains what's really happening in your child's brain during emotional overwhelm and why strong-willed kids don't need more control; they need more connection, understanding, and emotional safety. She walks parents through how temperament, neurobiology, and unmet emotional needs drive behavior, and introduces her powerful CALM Technique to help families move from chaos to connection. This conversation also explores why compassion and firmness must coexist, how parents can regulate themselves first, and why repair after conflict builds deeper trust than getting it “right” ever could. About Jennifer Kolari:Jennifer Kolari is one of North America's leading parenting experts, a child and family therapist, author, and the founder of Connected Parenting. Her brain-based, empathy-driven approach helps parents raise resilient, emotionally healthy children using connection as the foundation of discipline. She is also the host of the Connected Parenting Podcast and a sought-after international speaker. If you're parenting a strong-willed, intense, or emotionally reactive child, this episode will feel like a lifeline. 

What does it take to build resilience when the world isn't built for you?In this episode of The Caring Economy, host Toby Usnik sits down with veteran journalist and NewsNation anchor Leland “Lucky” Vittert to talk about his deeply personal new memoir, Born Lucky: A Dedicated Father, A Grateful Son, and My Journey with Autism.This is not a conversation about labels or diagnoses. It's a conversation about parenting, perseverance, character, and what happens when a parent refuses to give up on a child. Lucky shares stories from his childhood growing up with autism, including bullying, isolation, and the intensive “training sessions” his father designed to help him navigate a world that wouldn't bend for him.Together, they explore what resilience really looks like, why adversity can't be edited out of life, and how discipline, love, and accountability shaped Lucky's path from a misunderstood kid to a national news anchor reporting from conflict zones around the world.At a moment when conversations about neurodiversity, mental health, parenting, and polarization are front and center, this episode offers something rare: honesty without victimhood, and hope without platitudes.

What if everything you've been taught about sleep, parenting, and discipline isn't biologically normal, just culturally common? In this powerful episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with Tracy Gillett, founder of Raised Good, to explore what it really means to raise children through connection instead of control — from infancy through the teen years. Together, they unpack the truth about:• sleep as a developmental milestone (not something to train)• attachment and emotional safety across every stage of childhood• navigating parenting through difference seasons — babies, kids, and teens• authenticity as the foundation for connection• why closeness matters more than compliance• how to repair after rupture and rebuild trust• letting go of fear-based discipline in favor of relationship-based parenting Tracy shares her journey from veterinarian to global parenting advocate and explains why modern parenting advice often contradicts a child's biology and how tuning into your instincts can transform your experience as a parent. This episode is a gentle but powerful invitation to step off the parenting treadmill, release unrealistic expectations, and reconnect to what matters most: your relationship with your child. If you're questioning mainstream parenting practices…If sleep struggles are wearing you down…If the teen years feel confusing or overwhelming…If you're craving a more peaceful, grounded approach… This conversation will meet you there. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/tracy-gillett-rethinking-sleep-attachment-parenting-through-every-stage Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

This week on Sippin on Excellence, Coach KJ and Doc Hunt sit down with actor, writer, director, and certified body-roll queen Lennon Parham to talk about the real life behind the laughs. From cutting her teeth in the improv world to co-creating and starring in shows like Playing House and Best Friends Forever, Lennon breaks down what it means to build a career in comedy on her own terms—on stage, on screen, and in the writers' room.   We dive into how she navigates the beautiful chaos of producing, acting, and creating while also being present at home as a partner and mom. Lennon gets honest about ambition, boundaries, and why joy has to stay at the center of the work, even when schedules are insane and the industry gets weird. If you've ever wondered how to chase a creative dream without burning out—or burning down your family life—this one's a masterclass in doing both with heart and humor.   Questions, reviews and topics you would like to hear on the show:   Website: podcastsoe.com.   Instagram: @soe_podcast     YouTube: @sippinonexcellence3736   Connect with Doc! Website: huntspine.com       Instagram: @leonelhunt   Connect with Coach KJ! Website: coachkj.com       Instagram: @coachkjknows

We all want to be the calm, grounded parent — the one who never yells, never snaps, and always responds with empathy. But striving for perfect calm can actually distance us from our kids and ourselves. In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack the myth of the “perfectly calm” parent and explain why real growth comes from repair and honest emotional awareness, not perfection. They explore how your nervous system, triggers, and childhood conditioning shape your reactions — and how to move from shame to self-understanding when moments get hard.You'll learn why repair is one of the most powerful tools in parenting and why your authenticity matters far more than appearing composed. We explore:Why “calm” isn't the same as staying emotionally presentHow unrealistic standards keep parents stuck in guiltWhat happens in your body when you suppress emotionsHow to model emotional honesty and repairSimple practices to regulate in real time — and recover when you can't Key takeaway:

Hey legend,If you've ever looked at the world your kids are growing up in and thought… “How are they meant to thrive in this?” ...  this episode is your lifeline.Screens. Social media. Meltdowns. Pressure. It's a lot, and most of us are just trying to raise kind, confident humans without losing our minds (or our patience) in the process.I'm six months pregnant, deeply curious, and joined by Dr Justin Coulson: co-host of Parental Guidance, author, researcher, and dad of six girls, to unpack what's really going on behind modern parenting.Here's a taste of what you'll get in this conversation:The heartbreaking moment that changed Justin's life forever...get tissues.The truth about screens, social media, and gaming... and how it's quietly stealing our kids' focus, confidence, and connection.A simple 5-step process for handling big emotions (in little humans and grown ones) so you stop firefighting and start actually connecting.The three psychological needs every child must have met to thrive: connection, competence, autonomy. This framework changes everything.The line every child needs to hear most: How to say it... and still hold firm boundaries.The one after-dinner ritual that fast-tracks connection (and peace) at home. Steal it tonight.Why public speaking is a parenting superpower for the next generation:  and how to build it around your dinner table.You'll walk away with practical scripts for emotional moments, clarity on how to protect your kids from screen overwhelm, and a grounded confidence that you're doing better than you think.If this hits home, forward it to a parent who's doing their best in a world that's doing the most. They need this one, too.With love (and a very wiggly bump),BAs always, please don't forget to hit Subscribe! xxx

Parenting isn't just about what we do—it's about who we are as we show up for our children. In this meaningful and practical conversation, Dr. Dan Siegel joins Kyle and Sara to explore what it truly means to parent from the inside out. Dr. Dan Siegel is the Founder and Director of Education at the Mindsight Institute and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. An award-winning educator and Harvard-trained psychiatrist, he is the author of five New York Times bestsellers and more than fifteen other books that have been translated into over forty languages. As a pioneer in the field of interpersonal neurobiology, Dr. Siegel's work focuses on how relationships and the mind shape our development across the lifespan. Drawing from decades of research, Dr. Siegel explains how our internal world—our emotions, our triggers, our regulation—shapes the way we understand our children. He offers a refreshing and compassionate look at why kids behave the way they do and how connection becomes the foundation for healthy brain development. Together, we explore:• Why emotions like sadness and anger are essential—not problems to fix• How to stay connected when your child feels big feelings• Why the teenage brain remodels so dramatically—and how to respond with confidence, not fear• The surprising truth about nature vs. nurture, and how parents can nurture resilience• Practical ways to support emotional intelligence at every stage• Why open communication with adolescents builds lasting trust Dr. Siegel's insights help parents see anger as advocacy, adolescence as a spark—not a storm—and connection as the driving force behind resilience and growth. This episode will leave you feeling grounded, hopeful, and equipped with tools to understand both yourself and your child more deeply. Whether you're navigating toddler tantrums, school-age struggles, or teenage turbulence, this conversation offers a powerful reminder: When parents look inward with curiosity and compassion, everything on the outside begins to change. Learn more about Dr. Siegel at www.drdansiegel.com or www.mindsightinstitute.com. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/what-your-child-needs-most-from-you-dr-dan-siegel-on-emotions-connection-and-resilience Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Even the most connected couples get caught in reactive cycles — especially when parenting. One partner's tone or decision sparks the other's trigger, and suddenly you're not just reacting to the kids… you're reacting to each other. In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack what really happens when partners become reactive in parenting. They share personal experiences, explore Dan Siegel's concept of the “window of tolerance,” and discuss how co-regulation helps partners calm and reconnect when emotions run high. You'll learn practical tools to slow escalation, recognize your body's warning signs, and shift from blame to curiosity — turning conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection.Because staying united as parents doesn't mean never getting triggered. It means learning how to come back together, again and again, with empathy, honesty, and repair. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/triggered-by-your-partner-how-to-stay-united-when-emotions-run-high Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

In this insightful episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester talk with psychologist Dr. Tamar Chansky, founder of the Children's and Adult Center for OCD and Anxiety and author of Freeing Your Child from Anxiety. Together they explore what anxiety really is, how it shows up in children, and how parents can respond with empathy and connection instead of fear. Dr. Chansky offers simple, science-based tools to help kids analyze their worries, practice gradual exposure to fears, and build confidence step by step. You'll learn how to create a safe space for conversations about anxiety, regulate your child's nervous system with calming techniques, and see anxiety not as an enemy—but as a messenger that guides growth. If your child worries often or struggles with big feelings, this conversation will equip you with practical ways to bring more calm, courage, and connection to your parenting. Where to find Dr. Tamar Chansky:www.tamarchansky.com@freeingyourmindwww.worrywisekids.orgView the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/helping-your-child-overcome-anxiety-with-dr-tamar-chansky Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if the lessons we learn in the toddler years are the foundation for every stage of parenting? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester talk with Devon Kuntzman — parenting expert, ICF-Certified Coach, and founder of Transforming Toddlerhood — about how to move from chaos to curiosity in family life. Devon shares how viewing behavior as communication can change everything about how we respond as parents, from toddlers to teens. Together they explore how curiosity fosters connection, how discipline becomes skill-building instead of punishment, and why emotional repair is the most powerful parenting tool we have. You'll learn:Why behavior is communication at every ageHow curiosity transforms conflictWhat true discipline really meansHow to repair after power strugglesWhy early emotional skills shape lifelong resilience Devon Kuntzman has guided over 1 million parents and caregivers worldwide through her science-based approach to parenting with confidence and connection. Her upcoming book, Transforming Toddlerhood (Harper Horizon, Oct 2025), blends developmental research with real-life strategies to empower families to thrive. 

Parenting isn't a competition, it's a collaboration. In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester explore what it means to co-create with your kids instead of slipping into a win-lose mindset. They unpack the cultural messages that keep parents stuck in control or compliance mode and show how shifting toward connection, play, and collaboration can transform your family dynamics. Through real examples and practical insights, you'll learn how play builds trust, how collaboration teaches self-discipline, and why it's never too late to rewire your parenting approach. Whether you're navigating daily power struggles or simply want a more peaceful home, this episode will help you see parenting as a shared journey of growth and relationship, not a battle for control. Listen now to discover:Why “winning” in parenting often undermines long-term growthHow co-creating builds confidence, resilience, and mutual respectThe role of play in strengthening family connectionSimple mindset shifts that move your family from compliance to collaboration View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-parenting-feels-like-a-battle-how-to-shift-from-power-to-partnership Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

How do we raise boys to be strong and sensitive, to lead with both courage and compassion? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with Dr. Daniel Ellenberg to explore how parents can nurture emotional intelligence, empathy, and vulnerability in boys growing up in a world that often pressures them to toughen up. Together, they unpack how to help our sons embrace sensitivity as a strength, build self-awareness, and stay grounded in who they truly are, even when culture tells them otherwise. This conversation will inspire you to rethink what strength really means and how raising emotionally connected boys can change the world. About Our GuestDr. Daniel Ellenberg is a psychologist, leadership coach, and founder of Strength with Heart, a men's program that helps redefine masculinity through empathy, awareness, and courage. He's the past president of the APA Division on Men and Masculinities and chair of education for the Global Compassion Coalition. Dr. Ellenberg has designed leadership and resilience training for organizations like NASA, teaches at top universities, and is co-authoring a forthcoming book, Strength with Heart. His lifelong mission is to help men — and those raising them — live with authenticity, compassion, and confidence. You'll LearnWhy emotional intelligence is a cornerstone of real strengthHow cultural messages about “toughness” shape boys' beliefsHow to help boys express emotion without shameWhy humor and play strengthen connectionHow to model balance between competition and cooperationWays to create safety for boys to be both brave and kind Websites are:www.rewireleadership.comwww.strengthwithheart.comhttps://www.globalcompassioncoalition.org/topics/men-and-boys/  View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/raising-boys-with-strength-and-heart Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only. 

Join Kyle and Sara Wester from Art of Raising Humans as they explore what it truly means to co-create with your children. Instead of doing things to or for them, discover how to do life with them. Learn how collaboration builds trust, decision-making, and emotional intelligence from the preschool years through the teen stage. You will hear practical examples for different ages and discover how to replace power struggles with connection and confidence. This episode will help you create a family culture of teamwork, respect, and shared leadership. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/from-control-to-connection-the-art-of-co-creating-with-your-kids Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only. 

It can feel scary when your once-chatty child starts pulling away during adolescence. But withdrawal isn't always rejection...t's often a normal part of growing up. In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack why adolescents withdraw, what signs of relational disconnection to look for, and how stress responses may show up. They share practical ways parents can respond: staying calm, respecting space, and building connection through small, steady touch points. Most importantly, they remind parents that unconditional love and open communication create a secure foundation, even when kids seem distant.If you've ever wondered how to handle your child's withdrawal without panicking or pushing them away, this conversation will give you hope and practical guidance to stay connected through the teen years. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-teens-withdraw-and-how-to-stay-connected Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Taking away your child's phone might seem like the quickest way to discipline, but does it actually work? In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester dive into the common strategy of removing phones as punishment and explore why it often backfires. They discuss how this approach can damage trust, block communication, and fail to teach the self-regulation kids really need. Instead, you'll hear practical ways to set healthy boundaries around technology, foster intrinsic motivation, and model balanced phone use as a parent. If you've ever felt stuck using your child's phone as leverage, this episode will give you tools to build connection instead of conflict, so your kids can learn to manage their freedom with wisdom. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/rethinking-phone-discipline-in-parenting Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

What if your love could rewire their brain?  In this powerful episode, Kyle Wester and Sara Wester talk with renowned parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson about the science of interpersonal neurobiology—and how love, connection, and secure relationships literally shape the developing brain.Together, they explore how parents act as meaning makers for their children, how the brain predicts future interactions based on past experiences, and why co-regulation and emotional attunement are essential for helping kids learn to manage their big feelings. Tina also unpacks the four S's of secure attachment—safe, seen, soothed, and secure—and shows how these simple principles build emotional resilience and well-being in children. Whether you're navigating toddler meltdowns or teen stress, this conversation will help you understand how your presence and regulation can rewire your child's brain for connection, confidence, and growth. What You'll Learn:How relationships literally shape the architecture of the brainWhy emotional regulation and co-regulation are essentialHow secure attachment fuels resilience and emotional healthWhat the four S's are and how to use them dailyHow your calm presence helps your child thrive Where to find Tina: https://www.instagram.com/tinapaynebryson/https://www.tinabryson.com/ https://www.thecenterforconnection.org/ https://playstronginstitute.com/ https://www.amazon.com/shop/tinapaynebryson View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-love-and-relationships-shape-the-brain Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Few words cut deeper for a parent than hearing your child say, “I hate you.” In the heat of the moment, it's easy to feel hurt, angry, or even tempted to pull away. But what if those words don't actually mean what they sound like? In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore the deeper meaning behind those painful outbursts. Drawing on developmental science and research on emotional intelligence, they share how kids often use strong words when they're overwhelmed, disconnected, or lacking the language to express their true feelings. You'll hear:Why kids say “I hate you” — and what's really happening in their brains and heartsCommon parent reactions that can unintentionally add shame or distancePractical ways to stay calm, set boundaries, and respond with connectionHow to reassure your kids that your love is never conditionalEvery “I hate you” moment can become a doorway to deeper trust and connection. Listen in to discover how. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-your-child-says-i-hate-you-what-theyre-really-telling-you Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Summary:  Listen in as we respond to Catholic parents seeking guidance on navigating sensitive family issues through faith. One parent is concerned about supporting her 11-year-old daughter who expressed same-sex attraction after speaking with her bisexual sister. Another couple is figuring out how to explain same-sex relationships to their young children with both compassion and clarity about Church teaching. A mother balancing part-time parish work and parenting feels overwhelmed by her toddler's distress and behavior changes. Others seek advice on newborn sleep training and resisting parenting product marketing. They all value faithful, practical support in raising children with love, discipline, and Catholic values amid modern challenges and we did our best to respond to them from our own experience - always giving principles but encouraging them to make their own choices.     References:  Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First 3 Years Matters   https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143109294?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzmessypar-20&creativeASIN=0143109294&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.26NWEBLKG2VH&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ons_d_asin Age Appropriate:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-048-age-appropriateness/ The Art of Raising Humans:  https://messyfamilyproject.org/mpf-326-the-art-of-raising-humans/ Key Takeaways When a child is coming to sexual maturity around 11-13 it is a very sensitive time of development and parents need to be very careful about the messages those kids are receiving at that time.  How we respond emotionally to alternative lifestyles is a powerful example to our children of how to love people who don't share our values Kids, especially toddlers, have no idea how to express their emotions so we have to recognize what they are going through, even if it's not the ideal situation, and respond to it.  The key to babies sleeping is routines!  And getting them to a point when they are almost asleep, but not quite asleep.  Give them support to fall asleep independently and little by little they will be able to do it!  Every parent needs to take in the different philosophies of parenting and do what works for them!  As children grow, you will respond to them differently - sometimes with more directives, and sometimes with more conversations.  It all depends on their stage of development!  

As parents, how do we raise our kids to be resilient against life's inevitable hardships? Good Inside author Dr. Becky Kennedy shares her insights here!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1163What We Discuss with Dr. Becky Kennedy:Boundaries are what parents tell kids they will do — not what kids must do. "If you're not off the couch by the time I get there, I'll pick you up" works better than threats or punishments that require kid compliance.Optimizing for happiness in childhood creates fragility in adulthood. Kids who avoid hard feelings never learn they can handle disappointment, jealousy, or failure — leaving them with a narrow range of emotions they feel capable managing.Parents have two jobs: setting boundaries and validating emotions. These aren't opposites — they work together. Set the limit, then acknowledge their feelings: "You really wish you could keep jumping on the couch.""Do nothing" is often the best parenting strategy. It's mindful restraint — choosing not to react in the moment when kids are upset. This prevents escalation and models emotional regulation better than immediate correction.Build confidence by letting kids struggle through puzzles, conflicts, and challenges. Tell them: "The best feeling is when you think you can't do something, then watch yourself make progress." Struggle builds capability.And much more...And if you're game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:Caldera Lab: 20% off: calderalab.com/jordan, code JORDANAudible: Visit audible.com/jhs or text JHS to 500-500Progressive: Free online quote: progressive.comBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanOura Ring: 10% off: ouraring.com/jordanSkims: skims.com, survey: podcasts: JHSSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.