Podcast appearances and mentions of Ron L Deal

Martin Luther once said, “There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.”A strong marriage is a blessing but requires intentional effort, especially in a blended family. Today, Ron Deal and Greg Pettys join the show to discuss a valuable resource for second marriages.Ron Deal is a bestselling author, licensed marriage & family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker who specializes in marriage enrichment and stepfamily education and is the co-author of The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family. Greg Pettys, CLU, ChFC, CFP, has thirty-four years of specialized experience in securities and life insurance sales and services. He is the co-author of The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family.Understanding the Financial Challenges of Blended FamiliesWhen two people enter a marriage with previous financial histories, children, and life experiences, their financial situation becomes more complex than that of a first-time marriage. They may bring:Separate bank accounts and investmentsExisting debts and financial obligationsDifferent parenting and financial philosophiesThe need to provide for children from previous relationshipsConcerns over inheritance and estate planningMerging finances in a blended family isn't just about money—it's about trust, provision, and love. Without clear communication and planning, financial disagreements can create tension, causing stress in the relationship.What Is a Togetherness Agreement?A Togetherness Agreement is a structured approach for blended couples to clarify their financial decisions, ensuring transparency and unity. More than just a financial plan, it is a tool for fostering trust and eliminating fear. It's not just about bank accounts and investments—it's about love, respect, and providing well for one another. It brings clarity to emotionally charged financial topics, ensuring that both partners are aligned in their vision for the future.Why Is a Togetherness Agreement Important?1. It Provides Financial TransparencyMany couples enter marriage with financial baggage—whether it's debt, differing views on money management, or past experiences that have led to distrust. A Togetherness Agreement creates a safe space for full financial disclosure.2. It Helps Prevent Conflict Over MoneyMoney is one of the top stressors in any marriage, but in blended families, the stakes are even higher. The agreement ensures both spouses are on the same page regarding financial expectations and responsibilities.3. It Protects Children and Future GenerationsWithout a clear plan, assets and inheritance can unintentionally drift away from children from previous marriages. The agreement helps ensure that financial resources are distributed according to the couple's wishes, not just default legal systems.4. It Strengthens Marital Trust and UnityA Togetherness Agreement fosters open communication, allowing couples to plan their future confidently rather than fearfully. It shifts financial discussions from potential sources of conflict to proactive, loving conversations.What Should a Togetherness Agreement Include?A Togetherness Agreement can be as formal or informal as a couple chooses. While some opt for a legally binding contract, even a simple written plan can be valuable. Key components may include:Bank Account Structure—Should finances be merged, kept separate, or a combination of both?Debt and Credit Considerations—How will existing debts be managed, and how will future credit decisions be made?Business Ownership—If one spouse owns a business, what will happen to it in the event of death or divorce?Financial Responsibilities—Who is responsible for household expenses, savings, and long-term care for aging parents?Inheritance and Estate Planning—How will assets be distributed to biological and stepchildren?Contingency Plans—What provisions are in place for special needs children, elderly parents, or unexpected life changes?When Should Couples Create a Togetherness Agreement?Ideally, discussions about financial planning should begin before marriage. However, it's never too late to start if you're already married and haven't had these conversations.If you're dating, start the conversation now. If you're already married, don't wait—begin today. The Smart Step Family Guide to Financial Planning provides a step-by-step guide to help you navigate these important discussions.A Togetherness Agreement is an essential tool for blended families to navigate finances with wisdom, clarity, and love. By fostering open communication and financial unity, couples can build a secure foundation for their marriage and their future.If you're in a blended family, consider creating your own Togetherness Agreement today—it might be the most valuable financial decision you ever make.For more insights, pick up a copy of The Smart Step Family Guide to Financial Planning and start building a financial roadmap that aligns with your family's unique needs.On Today's Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions:My question has two parts. First, what is the best way to protect myself from identity theft? And second, our home is paid off - what's the best way to protect ourselves so someone can't come in and put a mortgage or lien on our house without us knowing about it?I'm calling regarding my estate planning. I remember somewhere in the Bible saying we are required or should leave something for our children and grandchildren. How much should we leave for our grandchildren?Resources Mentioned:Faithful Steward: FaithFi's New Quarterly MagazineThe Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family by Ron L. Deal, Greg S. Pettys, and David O. EdwardsSplitting Heirs: Giving Your Money and Things to Your Children Without Ruining Their Lives by Ron BlueWisdom Over Wealth: 12 Lessons from Ecclesiastes on Money (Pre-Order)Look At The Sparrows: A 21-Day Devotional on Financial Fear and AnxietyRich Toward God: A Study on the Parable of the Rich FoolFind a Certified Kingdom Advisor (CKA) or Certified Christian Financial Counselor (CertCFC)FaithFi App Remember, you can call in to ask your questions most days at (800) 525-7000. Faith & Finance is also available on the Moody Radio Network and American Family Radio. Visit our website at FaithFi.com where you can join the FaithFi Community and give as we expand our outreach.

This week, SVCC member Kenya Davis joined Midweek for a Meet A Member episode!  JM's Album Of The Week: David Byrne - American Utopia On Broadway (Original Cast Recording) Bradford's Book Club: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself by Ron L Deal & Nan Deal

Got any Star Trek fans out there? There was a device they used called the universal translator, which allowed varying species from different planets to communicate.  Ever think something like that would be great for your marriage? Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the […]

Camille is kind enough to share her story with us today about a turbulent marriage, step-parenting struggles (and great tips), as well as learning about gas-lighting and other new terms! Camille, Jen, and Hilary explore great books, classes, similarities and more! Come and listen! Episode Notes and Resources: Books: "Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts" by Les Parrot "Building Love Together in Blended Families" by Gary Chapman and Ron L. Deal "The Smart Stepmom" by Ron L. Deal and Laura Pertherbridge "The Smart Stepfamily" by Ron L. Deal --------- Step Family Class: in-person with dinner class for whole family- https://thefamilyplaceutah.org/event/smart-steps-for-stepfamilies-3/ Step Family Class: virtual- https://extension.usu.edu/hru/courses/smart-steps-for-stepfamilies Contact: Record questions here: https://anchor.fm/theparentsplace Email us: parents@thefamilyplaceutah.org Text "TFP" to 33222 for weekly parenting tips Find us on social media: https://www.facebook.com/jendalyTFP The Parent's Place: https://www.facebook.com/groups/196037267839869 Music by Joystock - https://www.joystock.org --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theparentsplace/message

On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sitdown with author and expert on blended families, Ron L. Deal, to bring you the leading research, tips and tools about how to create successful step family relationships. If you are navigating remarriage and/or blending a family unit, join the conversation and learn what may help you on your journey! About Ron Deal:Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is the director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and consulting editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popularconference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended. Insights:Ron: Humble people who can make changes over time will deepen trust and intimacy in their relationship.Dave: The process of family blending takes patience and time and understanding and love and kindness. Like an extra double dose of all of that.Liz: All couples have struggles, but remarriages and stepfamilies have some unique struggles and challenges. Invites:   ●    If you are a dating parent, engage your kids in "what if" conversations. You could ask, “what if dad started dating again?” or “this guy has kids of his own, how would you feel if mom were to date him?”. This will help you make better decisions about when and where to introduce your kids to the person you’re dating.   ●    Practice chasing the pain, as Ron Deal mentioned. Next time you are triggered by something your partner does, ask yourself “what is this telling me?” or “what is going on inside me and is there a better way for me to handle this feeling than I have in the past?”. Don't let the past invade your present.   ●    Visit smartstepfamilies.com to discover more resources about step families and remarriage. Then share the website and what you learned with people you know who are in stepfamily relationships and would benefit from Ron Deal’s work. Ron Deal Links:- https://familylifeblended.com/blended - https://smartstepfamilies.com- https://rondeal.org- https://www.facebook.com/familylifeblended- https://www.instagram.com/familylifeblended/- https://www.youtube.com/@FamilyLifeBlended- https://www.familylife.com/podcast/familylife-blended-podcast/ Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org podcast.strongermarriage.org Facebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelife Dr. Dave Schramm: https://drdaveschramm.com https://drdavespeaks.com Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ron L. Deal, MMFT - Every person in a family wants to feel loved and wants to be able to show love to others who they care about and appreciate. And while that concept may be simple- the execution can be surprisingly complicated as not everyone gives and receives love in the same way. Some may desire reassuring physical touch while another person enjoys compliments, encouragement and other words of affirmation. Still others may feel most loved when they receive gifts or their family members do acts of service for them—cooking, cleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, or fixing something that might help the other person. Some prefer quality time. Perhaps you recognize your love language in all of these—and the love languages of others in your family. Things get convoluted-- and well-intentioned people miss the mark when they, for instance, value acts of service but their partner or children show love through quality time or words of affirmation. Not to mention, this can be hard enough in a family that hasn't gone through the life altering changes like divorce, remarriage or death of a parent—but what about the blended family who has to navigate step parents, step siblings, step grandparents with all of their nuances, needs, rules, emotions, concerns and ways that all of these different people want to feel valued and important? Blended families must deal with the pain of the past, the complexities of new relationships and the unique challenges that come with creating one family. As parents and stepparents, how can we have these important conversations about fear, loss, inclusion, empathy and connection—tying the binds between the biological family members and the new family members? How do we find love, strengthen it and keep it in a step family? For these answers, I have the honor of having a wonderful conversation with our guest today, Ron L. Deal. The post How to Talk to Kids about StepFamilies and Blended Families with Ron L. Deal, MMFT ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Ron L. Deal, MMFT - Every person in a family wants to feel loved and wants to be able to show love to others who they care about and appreciate. And while that concept may be simple- the execution can be surprisingly complicated as not everyone gives and receives love in the same way. Some may desire reassuring physical touch while another person enjoys compliments, encouragement and other words of affirmation. Still others may feel most loved when they receive gifts or their family members do acts of service for them—cooking, cleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, or fixing something that might help the other person. Some prefer quality time. Perhaps you recognize your love language in all of these—and the love languages of others in your family. Things get convoluted-- and well-intentioned people miss the mark when they, for instance, value acts of service but their partner or children show love through quality time or words of affirmation. Not to mention, this can be hard enough in a family that hasn't gone through the life altering changes like divorce, remarriage or death of a parent—but what about the blended family who has to navigate step parents, step siblings, step grandparents with all of their nuances, needs, rules, emotions, concerns and ways that all of these different people want to feel valued and important? Blended families must deal with the pain of the past, the complexities of new relationships and the unique challenges that come with creating one family. As parents and stepparents, how can we have these important conversations about fear, loss, inclusion, empathy and connection—tying the binds between the biological family members and the new family members? How do we find love, strengthen it and keep it in a step family? For these answers, I have the honor of having a wonderful conversation with our guest today, Ron L. Deal. The post How to Talk to Kids about StepFamilies and Blended Families with Ron L. Deal, MMFT ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Ron L. Deal This is ironic, in today’s digital world we’re more connected and disconnected than ever before. Jealousy and envy are at an all-time high in our culture. Why? Because the daily highlight reel of social media makes everyone else’s life look perfect. So, while we’re seemingly more connected to other people’s lives, we distance ourselves in envy because our lives don’t compete. The way to truly connect between families and within your family is through transparency. Find the courage to give your family and friends a chance to love the real you; and see if they don’t return the favor. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1186/29 https://www.listennotes.com/e/4e06d6f2450e4cd68afb32d5a6c0a3bd/

Ron L. Deal Actions speak much louder than words. Someone who stands up and stands beside you in tough times, really loves you. After our middle son died, many who we thought were friends drifted away. They couldn’t handle it or us, I’m not sure what happened. But people we didn’t know well stood by and stayed with us. Their friendship was undeniable. In blended families, when a stressful situation arises, standing by one another makes your love undeniable. You may not have felt like family before the stressor but the proof is in the pudding. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1186/29 https://www.listennotes.com/e/0881b96615c640e19a36b97d71b9900f/

In this episode of Following to Lead with Kevin East, he speaks with Ron L. Deal, the Director of blended family ministries at FamilyLife. He is the author/coauthor of The Smart Stepfamily, The Smart Stepdad, The Smart Stepmom, Dating and the Single Parent, and The Smart Stepfamily Marriage. In this episode, they navigate the intricacies of blended families and how to deal with the challenges. For example, do you know how to run check-ups on your marriage? Listen to find out more!   Follow Jesus Lead Differently. The Mentoring Alliance https://www.thementoringalliance.com/   For donations https://www.thementoringalliance.com/donate   https://rondeal.org/ https://smartstepfamilies.com/ http://familylifeblended.com/about/ https://www.familylife.com/ Twitter: @RonLDeal |  Facebook: @SmartStepfamilies | Instagram: @FamilyLifeBlended   Similar Episodes: Ep. 65 • Setting Family Goals Ep. 85 How to Release God's Grace into Your Family Ep. 02 • Four Phases of Parenting

Our friends, David and Kelly McHargue join us once again in this episode to share valuable information for the blended family.  All couples will benefit from their advice, especially those who have blended two families together, facing unique situations.  Listen as we discuss the counsel they wish someone had given them, so that you can thrive in your family!  Also check out "Blended Conversations" to hear the first podcast we shared with David and Kelly.   Check out these resources for blended families.   Books: The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family by Ron L. Deal, Greg S. Pettys, David O. Edwards   Blending Families by Jimmy Evans, Frank Martin   In Their Shoes by Lauren Reitsema   The Smart Stepfamily by Ron L. Deal   Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott   Websites: familylifeblended.com marriagetoday.com   Please feel free to contact us for more information.  We want your marriage and your family to be healthy as you seek God for wisdom and direction.  Leave us a message at marriagebytheword.com     Thank you for listening!  Don't forget to subscribe and rate.  We love your comments.  

Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, the author of over a dozen books and video resources on stepfamily living including the bestselling books Building Love Together in Blended Families with Dr. Gary Chapman His podcast FamilyLife Blended with Ron Deal and his one-minute radio feature are heard around the world and his work has been quoted/referenced by multiple news outlets such as the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CNBC.com, and USA Today. www.familylife.com www.familylifeblended.com www.smartstepfamilies.com Use this LINK to access A Guide To Building Love With The Five P's of Stepparenting. Get Your Copy Now! of Tell Them, What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters www.meninthearena.org Men in the Arena Books and Swag Support the Podcast

You and your spouse are pretty much on the same page, except when it comes to the kids you each brought into the family. Blended family expert Ron Deal joins Randy and they're gonna help you have peace, cooperation, and love in that blended family of yours. Ron L. Deal is one of the most […]

Are you one of the three Americans who have a step relationship today? Demographers expect that one out of every two Americans will be in a step relationship at some point in their lives. It's not easy being a part of a blended family. There are way too many factors to take into account. In fact, external step-family-related variables generate a high divorce rate in the US. It might be a lengthy and difficult process, but it is not impossible to succeed with the right mindset, guidance, and resources. And that's exactly what Ron Deal discusses in this episode. We'll go over what to expect, what activities you can do, resources, and advice for raising a healthy blended family. Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:38 Ron's motivation for a career in marriage and family therapy. 13:00 What you need to know about blended families. 19:55 A visual map to help you navigate the blended family territory. 36:06 Some growth activities that you can try. 45:04 How to get smart and guide your family forward in the right direction. Mentioned Preparing to Blend: The Couple's Guide to Becoming a Smart Stepfamily (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) FamilyLife Blended® Podcast Connect with Ron Deal Website: familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families Facebook: facebook.com/familylifeministry Twitter: twitter.com/familylifetoday YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC7WmdqnETL3gCmWruBF0tpQ Instagram: instagram.com/familylifeinsta Pinterest: pinterest.com/familylifeministry   Website: smartstepfamilies.com Facebook: facebook.com/SmartStepfamilies Twitter: twitter.com/RonLDeal YouTube: youtube.com/user/FamilyLifeBlended Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Today's guest is Dr. Sonia Cann-Milland! In her own words: "I have my own private practice that offers education and counselling to all those who are a part of a stepfamily. Before the establishment of Renewed Beliefs, I completed my Ph.D. titled; Establishing Stable Stepfamilies: The Perspectives of Recoupled Parents, Educators and Family Services Professionals. I have three articles published in academic journals related to three different issues impacting stepfamilies. I love research and writing on this topic. More importantly I am passionate about utilizing research in a practical way. My ongoing goal is to continue counselling stepfamilies and offering education to churches, schools, and professional service providers to give them a greater insight into effectively working and supporting stepfamilies. I have been counselling for over thirty years now and during that time realised I needed a greater understanding of the complexities of stepfamily life. Of course, my research has been of great benefit in giving me greater insight into the lives of stepfamilies. Being a mother of 28 yrs. And a stepmother of 15 years in my own stepfamily has taught me so much also. I have learnt much about myself and the complexities that come with our beautiful family. My husband and I are also, proud grandparents of two beautiful grandchildren. I do not see my stepfamily as two failed nuclear families remarrying, but simply a family formed differently to a nuclear family in which I am very proud." Dr. Cann-Milland is based in Australia, where she lives and has her practice. Quotes: "Role confusion made life difficult...I was defining myself through everyone else's eyes." "Treasuring your couple relationship is important--remember that your couple relationship is younger than your parenting relationship, and so it needs to be nurtured purposefully and regularly." LOVE (acronym for better understanding): Listen to learn-What does your partner want you to understand? Oneness-Focus on the shared value that is under threat Validate-Let your partner know that you've heard them Embrace-acknowledge where your partner is currently Resources: Books by Ron Deal https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ron-L.-Deal/author/B001IR1MA6?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamilies by Patricia Papernow https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Thriving-Stepfamily-Relationships-Doesnt-ebook/dp/B00G6MQLXQ https://www.renewedbeliefs.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sonia.cannmilland

Join Dr. Stephanie Holmes, who speaks with blended family expert, Ron Deal. Dr. Holmes is an internationally known specialist in NeuroDiverse Relationships. Today is part 2 of a Blended Family with Autism series where Dr. Holmes joins her expertise in NeuroDiverse relationships with Ron Deal's expertise in blended families.Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.You can find out more about Dr. Holmes' podcast also on Mental Health News Radio at NeuroDiverse Christian Couples: https://www.mentalhealthnewsradionetwork.com/our-shows/neurodiverse-christian-couples/

Join Certified Autism Specialist, Dr. Stephanie Holmes, as she interviews blended family expert, Ron Deal as they talk about nuances of blending families when an adult is on the spectrum. Dr. Holmes is an internationally known specialist in NeuroDiverse Relationships. Today is part 2 of a Blended Family with Autism series where Dr. Holmes joins her expertise in NeuroDiverse relationships with Ron Deal's expertise in blended families.Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.You can find out more about Dr. Holmes' podcast also on Mental Health News Radio at NeuroDiverse Christian Couples: https://www.mentalhealthnewsradionetwork.com/our-shows/neurodiverse-christian-couples/

It's the most wonderful time of the year!Or is it?The holiday season is upon us and we all hope for something wonderful in our blended family this year.  But for many of us, the holidays might bring up dread instead.  Why?  Simply because — well, it just isn't simple for stepfamilies!The holiday season for many of us seems to create challenges.  Negotiating with the Ex, with the kids, and with each other can be stressful.  Relational tensions can escalate, dashing our hopeful expectations.  Then disappointment sets in.  It can be frustrating, to say the least.Kids in blended families often struggle too.  All kinds of frustrations and emotions get triggered for them.  Maybe you've noticed one or more of your kids distancing themselves or acting out in unexpected ways.There are no easy solutions — this stuff is tough!  But you can approach the holidays proactively.In this episode, we're sharing 10 practical tips that will help you navigate the blended family holiday season with intentionality.  You'll set your family up to experience something new (and maybe even wonderful) this year! You'll Discover:Tip 1:  Examine and readjust your expectationsTip 2:  Plan ahead with Your former spouse around schedulesTip 3:  Inform the kids of the plans they can expectTip 4:  Create stability & connection for all the kidsTip 5:  Utilize the 5 Love Languages to fill emotional tanksTip 6:  Discover what traditions are really important to the kidsTip 7:  Involve the kids in the preparation processTip 8:  Keep your focus on gratitudePLUS 2 Bonus Tips that'll help you to keep your expectations realistic,  minimize disappointments, calm the chaos, and experience more joy!Resources from this Episode:Article by Ron Deal: How to Cook a StepfamilyArticle by Ron Deal:  Family Meetings: A Tool for Problem SolvingEpisode 95 - Do You Dread Negotiating Schedule Changes with your Ex?Episode  14:  3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your "Perfectionistic" Ideals and Disappointments Episode 69:   How to "Blend" Your Holiday Traditions in a Practical Way Episode 36:  How to Change Your "Stories" and Grow ConnectionEpisode 71:  How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday DisappointmentBlog article: How to Minimize Disappointment In Your Blended FamilyResources for 5 Love Languages:  Episode 85 - How to Uniquely Build More Love and Connection in Your Blended Family Book:  Building Love Together in Blended Families by Gary Chapman & Ron L. Deal

You're getting remarried, and maybe one or both of you have kids, and you'll become a blended family. Joining Dr. Randy is Ron Deal, and together they'll help you to prepare to blend. What do you need to reset for your soon-to-be blended family? Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and […]

Nontraditional families are the new traditional family. In the United States, most of Europe, and many other countries, blended families outnumber “traditional” ones. The challenges of a blended family are magnitudes higher than what most couples anticipate. My guest Ron L. Deal is one of the Christian world's foremost experts on blended families. He shares many of the unexpected challenges a blended family will face, as well as practical tools to help your family thrive and honor God.   Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is president of Smart Stepfamilies, directs the blended family ministry at FamilyLife, and is the author of more than a dozen books and resources, including the bestselling The Smart Stepfamily and Building Love Together in Blended Families (with Dr. Gary Chapman). Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the podcast FamilyLife Blended with Ron Deal. He and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys. Learn more at rondeal.org and familylife.com/blended.   Resources Mentioned: Website: https://www.rondeal.org and https://www.familylife.com/ blended Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/familylifeblended/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/RonLDeal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/familylifeblended/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/FamilyLifeBlended  Ron's New Book: Preparing to Blend: The Couple's Guide to Becoming a Smart Stepfamily - https://amzn.to/3yrA7NO 

On this episode, Linda and Dana answer a listener's question about how to get on the same page with your significant other when you work together. They share tactics they have both employed in their relationships over the years to make working together possible. They break down the benefits of: - Knowing your individual strengths - Setting proper expectations - Being intentional with date time - Knowing your green, yellow and red zones Books mentioned: Relationship Grit by Jon Gordon https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Grit-Lessons-Together-Thrive-ebook/dp/B08DRR7WD8/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=relationship+grit&qid=1632251854&sr=8-1 3 Steps to a Strong Family by Linda and Richard Eyre https://www.amazon.com/3-Steps-to-Strong-Family-audiobook/dp/B0000547JN/ref=sr_1_2?crid=RMP6FI9XR2S5&dchild=1&keywords=3+steps+to+a+strong+family&qid=1632251547&sprefix=3+steps+to+a+strong+family%2Caps%2C178&sr=8-2 The Smart Stepfamily by Ron L. Deal https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Stepfamily-Seven-Healthy-Family-ebook/dp/B00GHXRSOK/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+smart+stepfamily&qid=1632251871&sr=8-1

On this Wayfarer Weekend podcast: A great conversation with my friend Ron L. Deal (seriously, we've known each other since elementary school) who has dedicated his career to helping couples and families navigate the relational mine-fields and challenges of second marriages and blended families. Ron is a popular author (his ninth book is on the way) and speaker. Having my own journey in a second marriage and blended family, it was awesome to learn from my friend's wealth of knowledge and wisdom! You can find all of Ron's books and resources at rondeal.org. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/wayfarer-tom-vander-well/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/wayfarer-tom-vander-well/support

Did you know that more and more families have a step situation in them today. In this Podcast Ron Deal helps dads win in step parenting through the day to day conflicts that arise.  Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is founder of Smart Stepfamilies, Director of FamilyLife Blended, the author of over a dozen books and video resources on stepfamily living including the Smart Stepdad which we will be talking about today. His podcast FamilyLife Blended with Ron Deal and his one-minute radio feature are heard around the world and his work has been quoted/referenced by multiple news outlets such as the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CNBC.com, and USA Today. smartstepfamilies.com www.meninthearena.org Men in the Arena Books and Swag Support the Podcast The online Men in the Arena forum

The 5 Love Languages has helped millions of relationships, marriages, and families grow in their love and understanding for one another. In a blended family, The 5 Love Languages can help build your love for each other too, but with some unique parameters. In Episode 133, we interview Ron Deal—the leading national expert and the most widely read and viewed author on blended families in the country—about how to use the 5 Love Languages to create a loving and safe environment for your stepfamily. The 5 Love Languages For Blended Families? .Maybe you have read other titles in the 5 Love Languages Series and your marriage and parenting have benefited from lessons learned. However, you are beginning to realize that what was successful with your own children or previous spouse is not succeeding as well with your current family. Perhaps you are confused as to why your stepchild’s love language is physical touch, but when you try to hug your step-child, they respond in anger or walk away. There are unique challenges to using the 5 love languages with the blending of two families. Ron provides the context surrounding the challenges that stepfamilies face when expressing and receiving love based on the 5 Love Languages. While empathetically reminding us that loss is a fundamental storyline in the backstory of every blended family, he also presents hope and encouragement for each stepfamily. He shares how we can avoid common mistakes and gives practical recommendations to help family members take steps forward with patience, persistence, love, and intentionality. By using the 5 Love Languages, and learning the unique dialects your family speaks, you can grow in your coupleness and your family togetherness. 

In today's episode Sarah chats with veteran couple, Jason and Alisha Horn. Be sure to watch the whole episode because they get TWO surprises that are simply delightful! Sarah and her husband John met Jason and Alisha through Reboot Recovery, an organization that helped both couples heal after combat. Jason and Alisha have faced many trials throughout their lives, both together and on their own, and yet they are some of the warmest, most good-natured people Sarah and John know. They've faced war, injuries and chronic illness, plus have created a blended family that works better than any we've ever seen. And even though they continue to face health issues and family concerns, they spend most of their time pouring into others, and always manage to keep their spirits high and choose to focus on love and goodness no matter what comes their way. In this episode we chat about: - Finding life-long love later in life and/or the second time around - An approach to blended families that works - Tactics for feeling the feels then moving on - Courses and books for building a better marriage - The most important thing you need to get you through the rest of this pandemic We hope you enjoy the show and please continue the conversation in the comments on our website, where you can also find links to all the resources mentioned in the show: https://bravelove.tv/authors-drs-les-and-leslie-parrott-and-ron-l-deal-surprise-veteran-couple-jason-and-alisha-horn-episode-9 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bravelovetv/message

As the pandemic rages on we need our families more than ever. A replay of a very impactful conversation with Ron L. Deal on developing healthy relationships when you're part of a blended family.To connect with Ron Deal visit his website at RonDeal.com Follow Upside of 40 on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Upsideof40Like Upside of 40 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/upsideof40/Subscribe to Upside of 40 on Youtube: https://rb.gy/e9d9eaMusic for "Upside of 40 with Sean Mooney" is provided by Immune System. To hear more from Immune System, head to http://immunesystem.bandcamp.com

Our friends, David and Kelly McHargue, join us in this episode to talk about Blended Conversations.  They share valuable information for all couples, but especially for those who are in a blended family.  Their wisdom and experience will no doubt be a blessing to everyone in their marriage!  You do not want to miss this episode with Kelly and David as we discuss various conversations that are instrumental in building a healthy family.     Check out these resources for blended families. Books:The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family by Ron L. Deal, Greg S. Pettys, David O. Edwards Blending Families by Jimmy Evans, Frank Martin In Their Shoes by Lauren Reitsema The Smart Stepfamily by Ron L. Deal Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Drs. Les & Leslie ParrottWebsites:familylifeblended.commarriagetoday.com Please feel free to contact us for more information.  We want your marriage and your family to be healthy as you seek God for wisdom and direction.  Leave us a message at marriagebytheword.com   Thank you for listening!  Don't forget to subscribe and rate.  We love your comments.  

Questions for Reflection:Melody discussed being an “elder brother” as part of her own sin. What are areas of sin that the Lord has revealed to you as you have walked through your own trauma?How did you explain the divorce to your children? Has it been difficult for you to refrain from slandering your ex?How can you use your painful experience to further the kingdom of God?Resources:Undoneredone.com – Melody and Traylor Lovvorn’s website and organization. The Lovvorns have an excellent podcast that you will find here, as well as on iTunes. Their podcast guests have included Elyse Fitzpatrick, Jackie Hill Perry, Dan Allender, and David Zahl, among many others.The Smart Step-Family: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family by Ron L. Deal.Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown. An excellent resource for parents of young children, this picture book works to answer the many questions children will have when they find out their parents are divorcing.Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars by Marsha Means. For women whose husbands are caught in a web of sexual sin.This podcast is made available to you by the Rooted Ministry for educational purposes only, not to provide specific therapeutic advice. The views expressed are the personal perspectives of the author and do not represent the views of all counselors or the profession. This podcast does not create a counselor-client relationship and should not be used as a substitute for competent therapeutic counsel from a licensed professional in your state.

  Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, the author of over a dozen books and video resources on stepfamily living including the bestselling books Building Love Together in Blended Families with Dr. Gary Chapman His podcast FamilyLife Blended with Ron Deal and his one-minute radio feature are heard around the world and his work has been quoted/referenced by multiple news outlets such as the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CNBC.com, and USA Today. www.familylife.com www.familylifeblended.com www.smartstepfamilies.com Boots on the Ground Go to www.meninthearena.org and click on the top link to enter to win Ron Deal’s book Building Love Together in Blended Families with Dr. Gary Chapman. You can also enter through these show notes and on our Men in the Arena Facebook page. Book Raffle Use this LINK to access A Guide To Building Love With The Five P's of Stepparenting. Men in the Arena Books and Swag Support the Podcast The online Men in the Arena forum

Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, the author of over a dozen books and video resources on stepfamily living including the bestselling books Building Love Together in Blended Families with Dr. Gary Chapman His podcast FamilyLife Blended with Ron Deal and his one-minute radio feature are heard around the world and his work has been quoted/referenced by multiple news outlets such as the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CNBC.com, and USA Today. The 5 P’s 1. Partnering- With your spouse 2. Pursue- The kids hearts, pursue a relationship with the kids. 3. Pace- Your Pursuit 4. Patience- Tell yourself that it’s ok to take time building a relationship. 5. Persistence- Keep on Bonus P – Prayer Use this LINK to access A Guide To Building Love With The Five P's of Stepparenting. www.meninthearena.org Men in the Arena Books and Swag Support the Podcast The online Men in the Arena forum

Blended family relationships naturally create loyalty conflicts—or maybe we could call them love conflicts. “Am I still loved? Who do you love more—your spouse/kids or me? Your old life or our new one?” What results is a household of competing relationships where everyone is fighting to matter…to someone, but not necessarily everyone. Adapted from Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart by Gary Chapman and Ron L. Deal, Northfield Publishers (2020). Used with permission. All rights to this material are reserved.

Q: if you're finding yourself on the other side of divorce, you might be wondering, how in the world do you build love together (once again) in blended families? Is it possible? Is it worth it? Or is that all just a pipe dream? My special guest today is licensed marriage and family therapist, Ron L. Deal and he's simplifying how to build love together in blended families. That's where two adults fall in love and bring children into the mix from previous relationships… blended all together. Sounds complicated, right? Well, what a perfect topic to simplify, then! My special guest today is Ron L. Deal and he's simplifying how to build love in blended families. We tackle all aspects of it, including: What the dynamics are inside a stepfamily that makes love so tricky How to apply the 5 Love Languages to each person in your blended family The “5 P's of Step-Parenting” are: Partner Pursue Pace Patience Persistence (and Prayer!) How to tackle any underlying grief that might be happening underneath it all …and some top tips for those couples who've decided to separate and become co-parents Ron wrote this book in tandem with Dr. Gary Chapman, a friend and fan-favorite of the show… so I knew I wanted to have him on to continue the conversation. Because as you know, what happens at home also affects how you show up at work. So, let's simplify this! Q: Are you struggling with how to build love in your blended family situation? If yes, this one is for you. It's time to #DoTheThing! Episode sponsored by... Goodboy Creative Delegate your brand's social media marketing to Goodboy Creative and simplify your life! Book a free discovery call today: https://www.goodboycreative.co/simple (And make sure to tell them The Simplifiers sent ya!) Show notes available with all LINKS mentioned here: https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/ron-deal-how-to-build-love-blended-families

We are all trying to figure this out, without a doubt. This is uncharted territory. You can think of this as an unfamiliar wilderness. We don’t know which way to go. It’s helpful if you have a compass when you’re out in the middle of the wilderness. I want to share with you some navigation points on this compass to help us navigate these uncharted waters. RON L. DEAL is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, Director of FamilyLife Blended® for Family Life®, the author of numerous videos and books on stepfamily living including the bestselling The Smart Stepfamily, and is consulting editor for the Smart Stepfamily Series of books. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular speaker, and host of the podcast FamilyLife Blended. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Find events and resources at RonDeal.org.

To bond with stepchildren, stepparents are prudent to lead with love and to apply the principles of the 5 love languages with wisdom. Further, as we discuss in our book Building Love Together in Blended Families, to dissuade feelings of rejection it is important that stepparents learn to listen for love. Taken from Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart by Gary Chapman and Ron L. Deal, Northfield Publishers (2020). Used with permission. All rights to this material are reserved.

Ron L. Deal, MMFT - Every person in a family wants to feel loved and wants to be able to show love to others who they care about and appreciate. And while that concept may be simple- the execution can be surprisingly complicated as not everyone gives and receives love in the same way. Some may desire reassuring physical touch while another person enjoys compliments, encouragement and other words of affirmation. Still others may feel most loved when they receive gifts or their family members do acts of service for them—cooking, cleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, or fixing something that might help the other person. Some prefer quality time. Perhaps you recognize your love language in all of these—and the love languages of others in your family. Things get convoluted-- and well-intentioned people miss the mark when they, for instance, value acts of service but their partner or children show love through quality time or words of affirmation. Not to mention, this can be hard enough in a family that hasn't gone through the life altering changes like divorce, remarriage or death of a parent—but what about the blended family who has to navigate step parents, step siblings, step grandparents with all of their nuances, needs, rules, emotions, concerns and ways that all of these different people want to feel valued and important? Blended families must deal with the pain of the past, the complexities of new relationships and the unique challenges that come with creating one family. As parents and stepparents, how can we have these important conversations about fear, loss, inclusion, empathy and connection—tying the binds between the biological family members and the new family members? How do we find love, strengthen it and keep it in a step family? For these answers, I have the honor of having a wonderful conversation with our guest today, Ron L. Deal. The post How to Talk to Kids about StepFamilies and Blended Families with Ron L. Deal, MMFT appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Ron L. Deal, MMFT - Every person in a family wants to feel loved and wants to be able to show love to others who they care about and appreciate. And while that concept may be simple- the execution can be surprisingly complicated as not everyone gives and receives love in the same way. Some may desire reassuring physical touch while another person enjoys compliments, encouragement and other words of affirmation. Still others may feel most loved when they receive gifts or their family members do acts of service for them—cooking, cleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, or fixing something that might help the other person. Some prefer quality time. Perhaps you recognize your love language in all of these—and the love languages of others in your family. Things get convoluted-- and well-intentioned people miss the mark when they, for instance, value acts of service but their partner or children show love through quality time or words of affirmation. Not to mention, this can be hard enough in a family that hasn't gone through the life altering changes like divorce, remarriage or death of a parent—but what about the blended family who has to navigate step parents, step siblings, step grandparents with all of their nuances, needs, rules, emotions, concerns and ways that all of these different people want to feel valued and important? Blended families must deal with the pain of the past, the complexities of new relationships and the unique challenges that come with creating one family. As parents and stepparents, how can we have these important conversations about fear, loss, inclusion, empathy and connection—tying the binds between the biological family members and the new family members? How do we find love, strengthen it and keep it in a step family? For these answers, I have the honor of having a wonderful conversation with our guest today, Ron L. Deal. The post How to Talk to Kids about StepFamilies and Blended Families with Ron L. Deal, MMFT appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Ron L. Deal, MMFT - Every person in a family wants to feel loved and wants to be able to show love to others who they care about and appreciate. And while that concept may be simple- the execution can be surprisingly complicated as not everyone gives and receives love in the same way. Some may desire reassuring physical touch while another person enjoys compliments, encouragement and other words of affirmation. Still others may feel most loved when they receive gifts or their family members do acts of service for them—cooking, cleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, or fixing something that might help the other person. Some prefer quality time. Perhaps you recognize your love language in all of these—and the love languages of others in your family. Things get convoluted-- and well-intentioned people miss the mark when they, for instance, value acts of service but their partner or children show love through quality time or words of affirmation. Not to mention, this can be hard enough in a family that hasn’t gone through the life altering changes like divorce, remarriage or death of a parent—but what about the blended family who has to navigate step parents, step siblings, step grandparents with all of their nuances, needs, rules, emotions, concerns and ways that all of these different people want to feel valued and important? Blended families must deal with the pain of the past, the complexities of new relationships and the unique challenges that come with creating one family. As parents and stepparents, how can we have these important conversations about fear, loss, inclusion, empathy and connection—tying the binds between the biological family members and the new family members? How do we find love, strengthen it and keep it in a step family? For these answers, I have the honor of having a wonderful conversation with our guest today, Ron L. Deal. The post How to Talk to Kids about StepFamilies and Blended Families with Ron L. Deal, MMFT appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Ron L. Deal, MMFT - Every person in a family wants to feel loved and wants to be able to show love to others who they care about and appreciate. And while that concept may be simple- the execution can be surprisingly complicated as not everyone gives and receives love in the same way. Some may desire reassuring physical touch while another person enjoys compliments, encouragement and other words of affirmation. Still others may feel most loved when they receive gifts or their family members do acts of service for them—cooking, cleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, or fixing something that might help the other person. Some prefer quality time. Perhaps you recognize your love language in all of these—and the love languages of others in your family. Things get convoluted-- and well-intentioned people miss the mark when they, for instance, value acts of service but their partner or children show love through quality time or words of affirmation. Not to mention, this can be hard enough in a family that hasn’t gone through the life altering changes like divorce, remarriage or death of a parent—but what about the blended family who has to navigate step parents, step siblings, step grandparents with all of their nuances, needs, rules, emotions, concerns and ways that all of these different people want to feel valued and important? Blended families must deal with the pain of the past, the complexities of new relationships and the unique challenges that come with creating one family. As parents and stepparents, how can we have these important conversations about fear, loss, inclusion, empathy and connection—tying the binds between the biological family members and the new family members? How do we find love, strengthen it and keep it in a step family? For these answers, I have the honor of having a wonderful conversation with our guest today, Ron L. Deal. The post How to Talk to Kids about StepFamilies and Blended Families with Ron L. Deal, MMFT appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Bestselling author, podcaster, and licensed marriage & family therapist, Ron L. Deal, joins the team for a conversation about navigating the many relationships involved in a blended family. Through stories and practical tips, he encourages families to build love together. Learn more about Ron L. Deal: https://bit.ly/AboutRonDeal Learn about his new book, Building Love Together in Blended Families: https://bit.ly/buildlovetogether

Are there certain things stepparents should know about their stepchildren? Are there particular do's and don'ts a blended family should know about? In part 2 of our interview, Ron Deal (the leading national expert and the most widely read and viewed author on blended families in the country) shares common pitfalls blended families may experience and how to overcome them. If you have not listened to part 1 yet, make sure you go back and listen to Blended Families: Strategies to Help Your Step Family Blend  For all the show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode75

Blending two families is not for the faint of heart. There are many conflicts and bumps along the way as you navigate how to blend two separate families into one. On Episode 74, Daniel and Christina interview Ron Deal, the leading national expert and the most widely read and viewed author on blended families in the country. Get ready to walk away from this podcast with new strategies to help your step family blend in a healthier way. And make sure to tune into part 2 of this interview here.  For all the show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode74

This week on Upside of 40, we talk about a tricky subject: blended families. It's hard enough navigating through your own family, but what happens when you get divorced and meet a new partner with a family of their own? Ron L. Deal, the Director of FamilyLife Blended, takes us through the tricky process of making a blended family work. Ron talks about why the divorce rate is so high in first marriages, why your knowledge from one marriage could hurt you in a second relationship, how to deal with a child who may try hold a parent hostage when they enter into a new relationship, and so much more!For more information on Ron and FamilyLife Blended, visit their website at https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblendedMusic for "Upside of 40 with Sean Mooney" is provided by Immune System. To hear more from Immune System, head to http://immunesystem.bandcamp.com

More and more blended families are needing and seeking counsel for issues that pertain specifically to them. And there are a lot of issues to address that aren't always at the forefront of the minds of those in ministry. Let's change that and delve into what it takes to shape the smart stepfamily. Our guest, Ron L. Deal is the Director of FamilyLife Blended, a ministry of FamilyLife, and is the author/coauthor of the books The Smart Stepfamily, The Smart Stepdad, The Smart Stepmom, Dating and the Single Parent, and The Smart Stepfamily Marriage. Ron voices the FamilyLife Blended short radio feature and is one of the most widely read authors on blended families living in the country. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist who frequently appears in the national media, including FamilyLife Today and Focus on the Family, and he conducts marriage and family seminars around the country. Ron and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys. Why Blended Families Come With Unique Challenges Not only did I experience a broken home during my childhood, but I also see more and more blended families at Shepherds Hill Academy these days. I bounced back and forth between my mom's house and my dad's house from the time I was almost six years old until I got out of high school. My mom and dad both remarried to my stepparents within about a year of being divorced from one another. I'd eventually have five half-brothers and sisters, but I never had to deal with step siblings living under either roof. Therefore, I can't really speak authoritatively on those dynamics. I can tell you this, the whole blended family thing can bring complications to family dynamics that most people would never dream of. Because of this, it's a blessing to be able to talk to someone today who can offer some counsel in this area. I have a feeling that there might just be a couple of folks out there who are smack-dab in the midst of some thorny blended family issues and are looking for some answers to some very tough questions. Ron Deal and I talk through some of these issues as we cover the following topics: What is a blended family? Why simplistic answers are not typically helpful. What do I do if my stepchild says “You are not my parent, I don't have to clean my room.” The key to success in raising a blended family. How to navigate attachment, loss, and loyalty. What do I do if my child is trying to divide my new marriage? What do I do if my child tries to use my past against me? What is co-parenting? What if my ex-spouse is pitting my child against me? Why a cohabiting stepfamily is the most dangerous situation to raise kids. Picture provided by: ElisaRiva

More and more blended families are needing and seeking counsel for issues that pertain specifically to them. And there are a lot of issues to address that aren't always at the forefront of the minds of those in ministry. Let's change that and delve into what it takes to shape the smart stepfamily. Our guest, Ron L. Deal is the Director of FamilyLife Blended, a ministry of FamilyLife, and is the author/coauthor of the books The Smart Stepfamily, The Smart Stepdad, The Smart Stepmom, Dating and the Single Parent, and The Smart Stepfamily Marriage. Ron voices the FamilyLife Blended short radio feature and is one of the most widely read authors on blended families living in the country. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist who frequently appears in the national media, including FamilyLife Today and Focus on the Family, and he conducts marriage and family seminars around the country. Ron and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys. Why Blended Families Come With Unique Challenges Not only did I experience a broken home during my childhood, but I also see more and more blended families at Shepherds Hill Academy these days. I bounced back and forth between my mom's house and my dad's house from the time I was almost six years old until I got out of high school. My mom and dad both remarried to my stepparents within about a year of being divorced from one another. I'd eventually have five half-brothers and sisters, but I never had to deal with step siblings living under either roof. Therefore, I can't really speak authoritatively on those dynamics. I can tell you this, the whole blended family thing can bring complications to family dynamics that most people would never dream of. Because of this, it's a blessing to be able to talk to someone today who can offer some counsel in this area. I have a feeling that there might just be a couple of folks out there who are smack-dab in the midst of some thorny blended family issues and are looking for some answers to some very tough questions. Ron Deal and I talk through some of these issues as we cover the following topics: What is a blended family? Why simplistic answers are not typically helpful. What do I do if my stepchild says “You are not my parent, I don't have to clean my room.” The key to success in raising a blended family. How to navigate attachment, loss, and loyalty. What do I do if my child is trying to divide my new marriage? What do I do if my child tries to use my past against me? What is co-parenting? What if my ex-spouse is pitting my child against me? Why a cohabiting stepfamily is the most dangerous situation to raise kids. Picture provided by: ElisaRiva

Ron L. Deal is Founder and President of As For Me And My House Ministries, LLC and Successful Stepfamilies, an organization that empowers stepfamilies for healthy living and equips churches to minister to the unique needs of stepfamilies.