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Episode Title: Breaking Free from People Pleasing: A Personal Rant Episode Summary: In this special episode, Becky goes on a passionate rant about people-pleasing advice . Listen for insights that will change how you approach your relationships. Highlights: John Delony's Take: Becky breaks down advice from a renowned expert and shares what she agrees and disagrees with. Personal Stories and Insights: Hear Becky's candid thoughts on how people pleasing affects relationships and what you can do about it. Practical Tips: Discover actionable advice to help stop people-pleasing and become more authentic in your relationships. If you've ever found yourself putting others' needs before your own or struggling to voice your opinions, this episode is for you. Connect with Becky: Let's chat ⁠https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 Instagram: @BeckySmithCoaching Email: Becky@BeckySmithCoaching.com Subscribe and Share: Don't miss out on future episodes! Subscribe now and share this podcast with friends who could use a dose of real talk about relationships. Tune in and discover how to break free from people-pleasing and create the fulfilling relationships you deserve!

Are you struggling to connect? Kelly & Shalece Fiack are back to share how Two-Way Prayer saved their marriage & can strengthen yours! Get practical tips on: Overcoming resentment & communication roadblocks Deepening emotional connection Creating a daily practice (floors & ceilings!) Plus, a free Two-Way Prayer guide! Resources: ⁠https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf⁠ ⁠https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/04/revelation-for-the-church-revelation-for-our-lives?lang=eng⁠ www.twowayprayer.org kellyfiack@yahoo.com or Shalecefiack@yahoo.com Let's have a chat to build a happier, resentment-free relationship! ⁠https://calendly.com/believefitness/45⁠

This episode explores two-way prayer, a practice for deepening your connection with the divine. Kelly and Shalece Fiack discuss its history, how it can guide you, and how to incorporate it into your routine. Learn to listen for messages from your higher power and hear how others have benefited. Resources: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf www.twowayprayer.org kellyfiack@yahoo.com or Shalecefiack@yahoo.com Sign up for a free session with Becky to improve your prayer connection. https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Feeling Burnt Out from People-Pleasing? You're Not Alone. Do you ever feel like you're constantly seeking approval? Exhausted from always trying to fix things? In this episode, Lauren's story will resonate deeply if you've ever struggled with needing everyone to be Okay. Discover how to: Ditch the need for approval and embrace your authentic self. Navigate uncomfortable emotions with self-compassion. Build healthier, resentment-free relationships. Ready to break free and build the connections you deserve? Sign up for a free coaching session... https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships Follow Lauren on Instagram @your.mom.coach --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Building a House of Repair: Embracing Mistakes and Growth In this episode, we explore the concept of 'building a house of repair, not perfection,' and how this mindset can transform family dynamics and personal growth.  00:00 Introduction and Summer Greetings 00:13 Introducing the Concept: House of Repair, Not Perfection 01:25 Perfectionism vs. Progress 03:31 Embracing Mistakes and Learning 06:27 Practical Tips for Building a House of Repair 07:34 Final Thoughts and Weekly Challenge --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Acknowledging and accepting your partner's feelings without agreeing with them is crucial for building a strong connection. Understanding the difference between validation and agreement, using active listening techniques, managing frustrations without defensiveness, and resolving conflicts constructively is essential. This guide aims to improve relationship dynamics, reduce conflict, and foster a deeper connection with your partner. Let's talk. Sign up now. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships 00:00 Welcome Back & Today's Focus on Validation 00:22 Understanding Validation in Relationships 03:44 Key Points on Validation and Emotional Connection 04:58 Practical Tips for Validating Your Partner 06:46 Real-Life Scenario: Handling Household Chores 09:38 The Impact of Validation in Personal Relationships 10:46 Conclusion: The Journey of Improving Validation --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Becky discusses the challenges of dealing with a partner's defensiveness during conflicts, particularly for those who often prioritize others' needs over their own. Click here for a safe space to talk. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships .00:00 Introduction to Navigating Partner Defensiveness 00:45 Lessons from Bear Lake 02:02 Understanding Partner Defensiveness and Conflict 03:01 Strategies for Managing Defensiveness and Conflict 05:33 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care During Conflict1 4:48 Conclusion and Invitation for Further Support --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

This episode delves into the concept of personal authority Becky discusses the significance of reflecting on our responses, actions, and feelings to own our personal authority. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:04 Exploring Dog Training and Personal Growth 01:29 The Concept of Inner Authority 02:05 Applying Inner Authority in Personal Relationships 04:39 Empowering Yourself Through Inner Authority 06:23 Conclusion and Reflections --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode, host Becky delves into the unique experience of re-listening to a book she had read years ago, 'What Alice Forgot' by Liane Moriarty.  Re-experiencing the book offered her new insights, emphasizing how different stages of life can alter one's interpretation of a story. The narrative of Alice, who forgets a decade of her life, serves as a foundation for Becky to explore the significance of perspective in shaping our understanding of ourselves and our relationships. She highlights the positive changes in Alice's interactions when she views her life through the lens of her younger self, noting the decrease in defensiveness and increase in empathy. Becky extends these fictional themes into real-life applications, suggesting introspective questions that encourage curiosity and empathy to improve personal relationships. The episode aims to inspire listeners to consider their past and future selves in navigating current challenges, promoting a mindset of growth and openness. 00:00 Welcome to the Podcast: A Rare Dive into Rereading 01:05 Rediscovering 'What Alice Forgot': A Journey of Perspective 02:11 Exploring the Impact of Perspective Through Alice's Story 03:18 The Power of Perspective: Lessons from Alice's Experience 05:43 Applying Fictional Insights to Real-Life Relationships 08:23 Practical Steps to Embrace Curiosity and Reduce Defensiveness 09:38 Final Thoughts and Encouragement to Explore New Perspectives --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential of uncovering and empathizing with these hidden dreams for resolving conflicts. The episode emphasizes the significance of thoughtful questioning in revealing underlying aspirations and acknowledges that, although not all conflicts are solvable, their manageability improves with mutual understanding and empathy. Becky encourages listeners to embrace the role of a 'dream catcher' in their own relationships and shares avenues for feedback and further discussion on this vital topic. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Series: Unveiling Hidden Dreams 00:21 Understanding Perpetual Arguments in Relationships 01:32 The Gottmans' Discovery: The Technique of Hidden Dreams 01:56 The Iceberg of Conflict: Uncovering Hidden Dreams and Values 02:58 Judging Desires: The Pitfall of Value Judgments in Relationships 03:57 A Real-Life Example: The Gottmans' Cabin Conflict 05:29 The Power of Understanding and Dialogue 08:33 Practical Steps: Questions to Uncover Hidden Dreams 10:30 The Unsolvable Nature of Some Conflicts and the Value of Empathy 11:24 Applying the Dream Catcher Technique in Your Life1 2:28 Conclusion and Invitation to Share Your Experiences https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn't a bad thing but should be done in a fair way that respects everyone's views. She shares a personal story about resolving a conflict. The fifth step is about dealing with the deeper reasons behind conflicts. Becky wraps up by summarizing the steps and saying that dealing with conflict can bring people closer. She also mentions a webinar coming up where she'll talk more about handling conflicts healthily. 00:00 Celebrating 200 Episodes: A Milestone Moment 00:31 Diving Into Healthy Conflict: Steps to Navigate Disagreements 01:01 Soothing Strategies: Managing Emotional Flooding in Conflicts 04:28 The Art of Compromise: Finding Middle Ground 08:17 Addressing Emotional Injuries: Beyond the Surface of Conflict 10:37 Wrapping Up: Recap and Looking Forward --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques such as using 'I feel' statements, staying polite, and employing the Gottman repair checklist are discussed. The podcast also addresses the challenge of practicing these methods, especially for individuals prone to being people pleasers or suffering from codependency. Becky concludes with an invitation to an upcoming webinar that aims to help listeners foster healthy connections through better conflict management. 00:00 Welcome & Series Introduction 00:15 Recap: The First Step to Resolving Conflict 01:09 Deep Dive: Techniques for a Soft Startup 02:43 Understanding the Purpose of Conflict Resolution Techniques 04:27 Introducing Step Two: Making and Receiving Repair Attempts 05:47 Exploring Positive Repair Attempts 08:27 Practical Tips: Implementing Repair Attempts in Daily Life 08:53 The Importance of Practice and Persistence 09:39 Invitation to an Upcoming Webinar on Healthy Conflict 10:50 Closing Thoughts and Goodbye --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

This episode features insights from John and Julie Gottman's research on conflict in marriage, advocating for healthy disagreement as a key component of intimacy and trust in relationships. Host Becky debunks myths about conflict-free marriages, introduces the concept of 'soft startup' for resolving disagreements, and discusses how to avoid the 'four horsemen of the apocalypse' (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) for better communication. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Series 00:11 The Importance of Healthy Conflict in Marriage 00:45 Learning from the Gottmans: Embracing Conflict for Intimacy 03:30 Understanding Your Conflict Culture 04:08 The Gottmans' Five Steps to Resolving Conflict 05:19 Identifying and Overcoming the Four Horsemen 10:01 Self-Reflection and Improvement Exercise 14:09 Practicing Healthy Conflict Responses 15:30 Homework and Preview for Next Week --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict In this podcast episode, Becky discusses the importance of recognizing and improving the culture of conflict within marriages. She draws an analogy between renovating a home and refreshing a relationship's approach to conflict, emphasizing the need to identify and change unproductive behaviors and thoughts. Despite the challenges, the effort made to enhance conflict resolution is valuable, aiming to strengthen relationships. Becky encourages listeners to engage with the series to learn about fostering healthy conflict and better disagreement practices in marriage.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:45 Understanding Conflict in Relationships01:57 The Importance of Awareness in Conflict Resolution02:40 Home Refresh: A Metaphor for Conflict Resolution04:41 The Process of Refreshing Your Conflict Culture05:39 The Cost and Reward of Conflict Resolution07:08 The Value of Relationships and Conflict Resolution07:38 Conclusion: The Journey to Healthy Conflict --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this podcast, the host, Becky, discusses a common question asked by her coaching clients about managing emotional responsibility towards the feelings of others. She explains the challenge faced by empathetic individuals who are closely connected with their family, friends, or colleagues and feel obliged to take on their emotions. She discusses the importance of awareness of this emotional over-responsibility and offers advice on tolerating discomfort associated with others' feelings. Some recommended thoughts to help maintain emotional separation include acknowledging that other people's emotions are not about oneself, and understanding that one cannot fix someone else's feelings. Becky emphasizes the importance of acceptance and letting go of the need to change or take responsibility for others' emotions. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:16 Understanding Emotional Over-Responsibility00:52 The Double-Edged Sword of Empathy01:44 Example of Emotional Over-Responsibility03:09 Steps to Let Go of Over-Responsibility04:12 Thoughts to Help Tolerate Uncomfortable Situations07:33 Visualizing Emotional Boundaries08:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Rebuilding Trust and Dating after Divorce In this episode, host Becky answers a question about recovery and dating after divorce. She emphasizes the importance of thorough grieving and the role of forgiveness in healing. She asserts the necessity of building self-trust and confidence, and the ability to manage negative emotions to be ready to date again. She encourages viewing adversities as growth opportunities. Becky ends by offering a free consultation session to listeners for further assistance. https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Purpose 01:01 Addressing Listener's Question: Post-Divorce Recovery 02:01 Understanding the Grieving Process 02:32 Recognizing and Processing Pain 04:46 The Importance of Self-Reflection and Forgiveness 06:08 Building Trust and Dating Post-Divorce 08:27 The Power of Self-Confidence in Dating 12:08 Embracing Adversity as an Opportunity for Growth 13:02 Recap and Closing Remarks --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Overcoming Codependency and People Pleasing: Five Pillars of Resentment-Free Relationships In this Valentine's Day-themed podcast episode, Becky addresses resentments that often affect relationships due to codependency and people-pleasing behaviors. Becky offers a 12-week coaching package introducing five pillars for healthier relationships, free from resentment. The first pillar is 'Selfhood' where individuals work on building confidence and identity. The second pillar involves learning to have 'Healthy Conflict' while managing anger and learning assertiveness. In the third pillar, 'Emotional Support', individuals learn to understand and manage their feelings. The fourth pillar 'Boundaries' revolves around the understanding of being assertive without feeling guilt. The fifth and final pillar helps in understanding 'Codependency and People Pleasing Tendencies' and how to support people without being overly responsible for their emotions. You are invited to contact Becky via Instagram or to book a call through a link in the show notes if interested in her coaching package. 00:01 Introduction and Valentine's Day Reflections 00:46 Invitation to Work with the Coach 01:16 Understanding Resentment in Relationships 01:42 Five Pillars to Overcome People Pleasing and Codependency 02:22 Pillar One: Selfhood 04:59 Pillar Two: Healthy Conflict 07:04 Pillar Three: Emotional Support 08:18 Pillar Four: Boundaries 09:19 Pillar Five: Understanding Codependency and People Pleasing 10:42 Recap of the Five Pillars 11:47 Invitation to Connect and Conclusion --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Tapping Away Stress: Becky and Rachel Hall discuss the concept of 'tapping', a technique she has been practicing for over ten years to manage pain, depression, and anxiety. Trained through Brooke Snow's Creation Coach certification, Rachel shares her journey dealing with depression and celiac disease, and how tapping has helped her cope with these conditions. She explains tapping as an alternative to acupuncture, using pressure points to signal the brain's reaction towards relaxing the body and mind. Rachel and Becky discuss how it can be applied practically in managing emotions and stress. This podcast concludes with Rachel guiding Becky through an extensive tapping demonstration, offering listeners a firsthand account of its therapeutic potential. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation 00:28 Rachel's Personal Journey and Life Coaching 01:48 Introduction to Tapping 03:23 Benefits and Mechanism of Tapping 04:27 Practical Application of Tapping 08:02 Tapping and Emotional Processing 11:20 Demonstration of Tapping Session 22:17 Reflections and Conclusions 27:56 Contact Information and Closing Remarks --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Learn five strategies for dealing with a grumpy family member: not taking the bad mood personally, resisting the urge to 'fix' the other person's emotion, reflecting on their feelings by verbalizing empathy, asking open-ended questions to understand their situation, and setting healthy boundaries. The message throughout is helping listeners to understand better, respond to, and navigate grumpiness in their relationships without attributing it to their self-worth, granting valid space for emotions to come and go in a respectful and caring manner .00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:08 Understanding the Grumpy Mood 00:19 Don't Take It Personally 01:11 Avoid Trying to Fix the Mood 01:51 Reflecting on Their Feelings 03:36 Asking the Right Questions 04:14 Setting Healthy Boundaries 05:23 Recap and Conclusion --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Welcome to "Resentment Free Relationships" with your host, Becky. In this episode, she celebrates the podcast's nearly five-year journey, expressing gratitude to listeners. She dives into the Self-Coaching model by Brooke Castillo, a key tool in her life coaching practice. Becky guides you through its five elements: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. She also introduces the Law of Creation model by Brooke Snow, offering a different perspective. Both models aim to raise awareness in thoughts, feelings, and actions, as foundational tools for self-improvement. 00:00 Intro and Podcast Journey 00:51 Consistency Matters 01:28 Back to Basics: Life Coaching Tools 02:31 Understanding the Self-Coaching Model 04:45 Applying the Model: An Example 07:39 Power of Perception: Thoughts Shape Feelings 09:10 Introducing the Law of Creation Model 11:27 Comparing Both Models 11:55 The Power of Awareness in Self-Improvement 13:46 Recap and What's Next 15:14 Closing Remarks   --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Becky talks about self-abandonment and its impact on relationships, particularly close family relationships. You will learn to identify five self-abandonment signs: fear of rejection, misunderstanding self-worth, avoiding negative emotions, reliance on external validation, and lack of boundaries. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdote 00:39 The Importance of Close Relationships 01:45 Understanding People Pleasing and Codependency 03:03 The Concept of Self-Abandonment 03:30 A Real-Life Example: The Tire Pressure Incident 05:33 Recognizing Self-Abandonment in Relationships 08:42 Five Warning Signs of Self-Abandonment 13:51 Conclusion and Final Thoughts --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Resentment Free Relationships: How to Improve Your Close Family Connections in 2024 In the January 2024 episode of the Resentment Free Relationships podcast, the host outlines the purpose, which is to assist listeners in improving their relationships, particularly close family ones. She aims to teach listeners how to stop seeking approval and feeling overly responsible for others' feelings while building their self-confidence and authenticity. Encouraging self-discovery, knowledge acquisition, and personal growth. Emphasizing understanding personal identity, setting boundaries without fear, and effectively dealing with conflict and emotions. The upcoming year promises to be a period of learning and self-awareness, contributing to a peaceful and harmonious personal life. 00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast 00:39 The Ultimate Goal: Fixing Your Relationships 01:12 Learning to Stop Bending Over Backwards 02:08 Overcoming Guilt and Shame 02:23 Building Trust and Authenticity in Relationships 03:08 Learning to Set Boundaries and Say No 03:42 Overcoming Fear of Anger and Conflict 04:01 What to Expect in the Coming Year 04:12 Invitation to Tune in Weekly 04:37 Gratitude and Closing Remarks --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Year-End Review and Reflections: Wisdom and Wins of 2023 Becky reflects on the triumphs and lessons of 2023. She recounts personal experiences ranging from getting her bachelor's degree and becoming a certified life coach, to family projects and real estate ventures. She discusses embracing the challenges and changes that come with shifting stages of life, specifically in menopause and body acceptance. Becky also explores professional achievements in her coaching business, discussing topics she's tackled with clients. The aim is to encourage you to reflect on your victories and lessons of the year. 00:00 Introduction and Christmas Experience 01:28 Year in Review: Personal Achievements 06:50 Year in Review: Business and Career Milestones 10:03 Year in Review: Health and Fitness Journey 13:17 Conclusion and Encouragement for Listeners --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Click on the link https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 and sign up for a free session where we will chat. about where you feel stuck, and where that negative emotion, which can turn into resentment, is bubbling up for you. So if you're feeling a lot of that resentment or feeling stuck click on the link, find me on Instagram, send me a DM, and let's chat. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode, we discuss the importance of being honest with ourselves and how self-deception can manifest in various aspects of our lives. Through thought-provoking questions, we aim to bring awareness to these hidden patterns without the weight of self-judgment. Key Questions Explored: What am I pretending not to know, or what am I pretending to not know is true? What is the thing I keep avoiding or not wanting to deal with in my relationships? What am I afraid to admit to myself, and how does it affect my choices and actions? What am I avoiding in my life, consciously or unconsciously? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Welcome to "Resentment-Free Relationships" with Becky Smith! In this episode, we explore the concept of "Secret Contracts" inspired by Kim and Penn Holderness. These silent agreements in relationships, formed through routine, can be both efficient and potential sources of dysfunction. We discuss common triggers like unequal household chores, drawing from personal experiences and reflections. Becky shares her own journey of renegotiating responsibilities, emphasizing open communication. As relationships evolve, she encourages non-judgmental discussions for adapting roles. This week's challenge: identify and discuss your secret contracts. For a helpful guide, visit BeckySmithCoaching.com and grab the freebie on "How to Get Along with Your Mother-in-Law." Thanks for tuning in – see you next time! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Becky joins Jordana Theissen as a featured guest on the "LDS and Loving It" podcast. Getting into some real talk about kicking those people-pleasing habits to the curb and building relationships without the baggage of resentment. Becky shares her story, shining a light on how high-functioning codependency can mess with your vibe and why self-awareness is Key. She's all about swapping out those "shoulds" for what you truly want, putting you back in the driver's seat of your decisions. Chatting about the nasty side of resentment, with some practical tips, allowing everyone to spot their patterns without piling on the shame. Ultimately, she's cheering on self-compassion, being true to yourself, and building real connections. It's like a heart-to-heart chat with your besties but with some seriously good advice! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Special guest Denita Bremer, LCS certified trauma coach , shares her story and insights into trauma healing. Learn how to identify and understand trauma, explore the role of the nervous system, and discover practical tools to navigate fear and build safety in relationships. Instagram @Denitabremer https://denitabremer.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

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In this podcast episode, we continued our conversation with Kristen Rutter about the Faith Matters Conference. Here are the main points: Jared Halverson talked about understanding opposites and encouraging open questioning without judgment. Patrick Mason discussed the importance of creating a safe space for open discussions and the commitment to stay in the faith for positive change. Jodi Moore addressed common fears related to faith and the need for empathy and understanding in addressing them. The compass analogy stressed staying grounded in faith while seeking truth from various sources. You can connect with Kristen Rutter on her Instagram (@Kristen.rutter.coaching) and find resources on her website (KristenRutterCoaching.com) for spiritual and self-connection. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode of the "Resentment-Free Relationships" podcast, hosted by Becky Smith, Kristen Rutter is the featured guest. The episode primarily revolves around their shared experience attending the Faith Matters Conference and its unique approach to faith and spirituality. Kristen discusses key takeaways from notable speakers at the conference, emphasizing the importance of understanding faith transitions and creating safe spaces for open conversations. Get Kristen's freebie at www.kristenruttercoaching.com. Instagram @kristen.rutter.coaching --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Spiritually Minded Podcast - Show Notes 1. Shifting Perspectives: Explore the importance of seeing life from God's perspective. Discuss the difference between worry and genuine love. Embrace the concept of family as a learning laboratory. 2. Striving for Good, Not Perfection: Focus on aiming for goodness rather than perfection in relationships. Understand the power of love and hope in transforming hearts. Let go of the pressure to "fix" others and place trust in Christ. 3. Trusting in God's Plan: Reflect on the Savior's role in guiding loved ones back. Highlight the significance of hope and trust in God's divine plan. Emphasize the value of self-love and non-judgmental attitudes in nurturing relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Anger phobia is an extreme fear of anger in oneself and others. It can lead to avoidance of conflict, which can damage relationships and prevent personal growth. Key Points Anger is a normal human emotion, but it can be harmful if it is not expressed in a healthy way. There are two main components of anger phobia: judgment and fear. Judgment can lead us to believe that anger is always bad, while fear can lead us to avoid it altogether. Both judgment and fear can be based on past experiences, such as being raised in a household where anger was not expressed in a healthy way. It is important to challenge our judgments about anger and understand the underlying fears. Once we understand our fears, we can start to develop healthier ways of dealing with anger. Questions to Consider What is your relationship with anger? What do you think about anger in yourself and others? What fears do you have about anger? How do your fears about anger affect your relationships? What can you do to develop healthier ways of dealing with anger? Action Steps Start by paying attention to your thoughts and feelings about anger. Notice when you are judging anger or feeling afraid of it. Challenge your judgments about anger. Ask yourself if they are true. Explore your fears about anger. What do you fear will happen if you express or experience anger from others? Develop healthy ways of expressing and dealing with anger. This may involve learning new communication skills or seeking professional help. Conclusion By understanding our judgments and fears about anger, we can develop healthier ways of dealing with this emotion. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

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Title: "Resentment-Free Relationships: Key Insights from Licensed Therapist Tara Schmidt" Introduction: Tara Schmidt, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, joins the podcast to share her wisdom and advice on relationships. The episode explores essential aspects of relationships, focusing on presence, trauma, attachment, and effective communication. The Importance of Presence: Presence is crucial in relationships, as trauma often stems from past wounds. Trauma is defined as emotional wounds that affect our perceptions and responses. Relationship issues often result from individual learnings and past wounds. Staying present helps prevent misunderstandings and reactions triggered by unresolved traumas. Recognizing and Managing Triggers: Emotional reactions can signal underlying trauma or wounding. Slowing down and identifying the root of emotional reactions is essential. Communicating with your partner about your triggers fosters understanding and compassion. Cultivating awareness and self-regulation skills is crucial for managing emotional triggers. Attachment Styles and Their Impact: Secure attachment involves creating a safe environment where individuals can be themselves. Insecure attachment styles, such as anxious and avoidant attachment, result from inconsistent caregiving. Anxious attachment can lead to clinginess and seeking constant reassurance. Avoidant attachment may result in self-sufficiency and emotional distance. Nurturing Safe Attachments: Parents should create emotional safety and support in the home. Safety includes allowing everyone to be themselves without fear of ridicule. Healthy conflict resolution models positive relationship dynamics for children. Balancing authenticity with emotional support promotes secure attachments. Effective Communication: The speaker-listener technique emphasizes active listening and empathy. The listener's role is to understand the speaker's perspective without defensiveness. Suspending one's own narrative temporarily facilitates empathetic listening. Encouraging empathy and understanding in relationships leads to improved communication. Conclusion: Building resentment-free relationships involves presence, trauma recognition, attachment awareness, and empathetic communication. Effective communication requires active listening and suspending one's perspective temporarily. Nurturing safe attachments and emotional support within families is essential for healthy relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

This insightful episode delves into the transformative power of naming your emotions. Join us as we explore why identifying and labeling your negative and positive feelings can be a game-changer for your emotional well-being. Discover the Harvard-developed emotions list and learn how it can guide you toward greater emotional awareness. By the end of this episode, you'll understand why naming your emotions is not just a simple practice but a profound tool for self-discovery and personal growth. Tune in to boost your emotional intelligence and move closer to a happier, more empowered you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Podcast Title: Resentment-Free Relationship PodcastEpisode Title: Relationship Repair Guide Show Notes: In this episode of the Resentment-Free Relationship Podcast, the host shares valuable insights on repairing relationships without falling into the people-pleasing trap. Here's what you'll learn: Acknowledging Hurt and Pain: Discover the importance of openly expressing your feelings and how a simple technique from puppy training can help you address misunderstandings with honesty and respect. Finding and Owning Your Part: Understand the challenge of not overextending responsibility for others' emotions, especially if you tend to be a people-pleaser. Learn how to separate facts from narratives and respond thoughtfully to criticism. Compassion and Empathy: Explore the power of dropping defensiveness and practicing compassion and empathy when addressing misunderstandings. Understanding how seeing things from the other person's perspective can aid in repairing relationships. Tune in to gain valuable insights into repairing relationships with emotional maturity and honesty, without succumbing to people-pleasing pitfalls. Don't miss out on nurturing healthier, resentment-free relationships in your life. Sign up for the Find Your Calm Yog/Lifecoaching workshop Saturday September 30th 2023 4:00pm at www.yogaascension.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

How to create a new habit. The "USED" Acronym: U: Understand Doctrine, Principle, and Application. S: Start Small and Simple. E: Experiment to Find What Works. D: Drop Self-Judgment. Applying the "USED" Framework: Practical examples of applying the framework to daily life. Conclusion: Encouraging listeners to use the "USED" framework to follow principles consistently. Sign up for the Find Your Calm Yoga-Life Coaching Workshop at www.yogaascension.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Episode Title: The Perfectionism Trap: Discovering the Path to Self-Acceptance Episode Description: In this episode, join Becky, your host, as she dives into the intricate realm of perfectionism. Sharing her personal experiences, Becky opens up about her battles with perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing—challenges many can relate to. Drawing inspiration from Brené Brown's insights, she guides you through the true nature of perfectionism and its impact on self-worth. Explore the transformational power of redefining "perfect," liberating yourself from its grip, and embracing self-acceptance. Becky offers practical strategies for overcoming perfectionism and finding peace in imperfection. Key Takeaways: Discovering the interconnected struggle with perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing. Brené Brown's perspective on perfectionism as a shield against pain, judgment, and shame. Rethinking the definition of "perfect" and its evolution across cultures. Unveiling the weight of perfectionism and its effects on self-worth. Recognizing the self-destructive nature of chasing perfection. Strategies to challenge perfectionism, including self-compassion and shifting expectations. Episode Highlights: The unexpected shift in topic reveals Becky's passion for addressing perfectionism. Insights from Brené Brown's research and her insights into perfectionism. Redefining the word "perfect" to encompass deeper qualities beyond flawlessness. Strategies for embracing authenticity and breaking free from the perfectionism cycle. Real-life instances of applying strategies, from video content creation to fitness instruction. Encouragement to identify perfectionism's presence and take steps towards change. Connect and Learn More: Ready to conquer anxiety? Join Becky's upcoming Yoga Life coaching workshop "Find Your Calm" on September 30, 2023, from 4 to 6 PM. Gain valuable tools to manage anxiety and find serenity in everyday life. Secure your spot now and take the first step toward a centered existence. www.yogaacension.com Thank you for joining. Connect with us on social media @beckysmithcoaching.com on Instagram and continue the conversation. Remember, self-acceptance is the key. Until next time, practice kindness toward yourself and embrace the beauty of imperfection. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode, you will learn a powerful 4-step process that can help you change your reality. Becky shares tools that can help you to implement these steps, such as breath work, journaling, and meditation. If you are ready to change your reality, listen to this episode and learn how to use these powerful tools to create the life you want. Sign up for September 30th workshop at www.yogaascension.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Setting boundaries is an important part of taking care of ourselves. But it can be difficult, especially if we're used to putting the needs of others before our own. When we set a boundary, we may feel guilty, angry, or scared. These negative feelings are normal, but they don't mean that we're doing the wrong thing. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

This episode offers 5 healthy ways to deal with family members you don't like. The good news is you don't have to like them to start creating a healthier dynamic right now. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode, we explore the paradox of decision-making. On the one hand, we know that making decisions is essential to living a fulfilling life. On the other hand, we often find ourselves paralyzed by fear, indecision, or the feeling that there is no right answer. We discuss the different factors influencing our decision-making, including our thoughts, emotions, and values. We also explore some simple tools and techniques that can help us make better decisions, even when there is no clear-cut answer. Making good decisions is a powerful skill to help us achieve our goals and live our best lives.** Here are some of the topics we discuss in the episode: The different types of decisions we make in our lives The factors that influence our decision-making The difference between good, better, and best decisions How to overcome the fear of making decisions How to own our decisions, no matter the outcome Simple tools and techniques for making better decisions Enjoy this episode! www.beckysmithcoaching.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Becky discusses the Enneagram personality type 2, also known as the Helper. She talks about the key traits of type 2, both positive and negative, and how type 2s can grow and transform. Becky also shares her personal experience as a type 2 and offers tips for other type 2s looking to improve their lives. The podcast is packed with valuable information for type 2s, and it is also a great introduction to the Enneagram for anyone who is interested in learning more about this fascinating personality typing system. Here are some of the key points: Type 2s are motivated by the desire to be loved and accepted. They are often very caring and nurturing towards others but can also be people-pleasers and codependent. Type 2s can grow and transform by learning to set boundaries, say no, and focus on their own needs. The Enneagram is a powerful tool for self-understanding and personal growth. If you are a type 2 or if you are interested in learning more about the Enneagram, I highly recommend listening to this podcast. It is packed with valuable information that can help you better understand yourself and live a more fulfilling life. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

How to make Progress? Celebrate each step as you move forward. Acknowledge small wins. Reflect on your progress. Celebrate your small wins. Check out my new Website www.beckysmithcoaching.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Tune in to explore the delicate balance between belonging to others and being true to yourself. Learn how knowing your own wants, setting boundaries, and building emotional tolerance will set you free from Resentment. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Learn how the lies we tell ourselves can imprison us. It is beautiful to realize that you are in charge of your own personal freedom, no one else. The president, Congress, Supreme Court, or even the Constitution cannot entirely grant you freedom. Freedom is an inside job. Set yourself free by clicking the link https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 to chat with me on a freedom discovery call. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Discover "Resentment Free Relationships": Uncover the secrets to stronger connections without resentment. If you're tired of feeling anxious, frustrated, judged, hurt, or resentful in your relationships then this is the episode for you. Schedule a free 20-minute call and start your "Resentment-Free Relationship" today. https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Learn three practical strategies to handle difficult situations with grace: finding the truth, embracing discomfort, and focusing on the positive. Improve your personal and family relationships by tuning in and start owning it with grace today! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

This episode explores the fine line between conflict and contention and why understanding this difference is crucial in relationships. Awareness is the first step in handling conflict with grace and fostering healthier relationships. Are you ready to resolve your conflicts before they become contentious sign up for my free Fix Your Relationship call now. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Join us as we explore the importance of accepting and learning from bad days in this episode. Becky shares her personal experience and highlights the value of allowing ourselves to feel emotions without judgment. Discover how curiosity and acceptance can lead to valuable insights on embracing life's ups and downs with grace. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message