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233 - Tests to Understand What Makes Us Tick Understanding personal motivation and behavior is one of the most powerful tools for self-improvement. This episode explores how personality tests can offer practical insight into how people work, what energizes them, and why certain strategies succeed where others fail. It's not about putting people into boxes—it's about using patterns and traits as clues to navigate life more effectively. Top Topics: Recognizing Behavioral PatternsEveryone has habits and responses that repeat, often without noticing. Personality assessments help bring those patterns into focus. By observing what consistently works—and what doesn't—it's possible to better understand tendencies, motivations, and blind spots. That kind of clarity opens the door to intentional, sustainable change. How Myers-Briggs Transforms RelationshipsOne of the most widely known assessments, Myers-Briggs can offer insights into how people process information, make decisions, and interact with others. Learning to appreciate the strengths and weaknesses in different personality types leads to deeper understanding and stronger connections, especially in friendships and partnerships with contrasting traits. The Four Tendencies: Motivation in FocusDeveloped by Gretchen Rubin, the Four Tendencies framework identifies how people respond to expectations—both external and internal. Recognizing whether someone is an Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, or Rebel makes it easier to build effective habits and avoid frustration. For many, it's the missing piece in understanding why traditional advice doesn't always work. StrengthsFinder and the Value of Self-Knowledge at WorkStrengthsFinder identifies what people naturally do best. Knowing whether someone thrives in problem-solving, communication, learning, or leadership roles allows for smarter career decisions and more effective teamwork. It shifts the focus from fixing weaknesses to building on existing strengths. Exploring the Landscape of Personality ToolsBeyond the big names, several other tools—such as the Big Five, Enneagram, DISC, and Hogan assessments—offer additional layers of insight. Each test highlights different aspects of personality, from emotional stability to core values and work preferences. Understanding how these assessments differ helps in selecting the right tool for personal or professional growth. Takeaways: Personality tests are more than entertaining quizzes—they can be transformative frameworks for self-awareness. Knowing how someone responds to pressure, what drives their behavior, and where they naturally excel provides a roadmap for making better decisions, reducing friction in relationships, and achieving goals more effectively. Rather than guessing or mimicking someone else's approach, these insights allow for tailored strategies that align with how a person actually operates. When people understand what makes them tick, they can stop fighting their nature and start building lives that truly fit. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/what-makes-us-tick-using-personality-tests-to-understand/ Jill's Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallsteps https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

Gretchen Rubin is one of today's most influential observers of happiness and human nature. In addition to hosting the award-winning podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin, where she shares practical strategies for building a happier, healthier, more creative life, Gretchen is also the bestselling author of The Happiness Project, The Four Tendencies, Better Than Before, Life in Five Senses, and now Secrets of Adulthood, a delightful collection of her signature aphorisms—concise, thought-provoking truths gathered from her own experiences and reflections on human nature. Today, Gretchen shares a wealth of bite-sized, digestible truths with Jen and Amy that acknowledge problems everyone faces.  “What we do every day matters more than what we do once in a while.” “Outer order contributes to inner calm.” “A strong voice repels as well as attracts.” “Don't let perfect be the enemy of good.” And our personal favorite, “Choose the bigger life.” Gretchen also delves into the Four Tendencies and helps Jen and Amy unpack their profiles to better understand whether they are an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.  Anyone want to take bets? Thought-provoking Quotes: “Happier people are  more interested in the problems of the world. And they're more interested in the problems of the people around them. They're more likely to volunteer. They're more likely to vote. They're more likely to donate their time or their money. They're more likely to help out if someone needs a hand. When we're happier, we're able to turn outward and to think about the problems of the world.” – Gretchen Rubin “Action is the antidote to anxiety.” – Gretchen Rubin “There's really no more eloquent way to put this: one of the best ways to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends.” – Gretchen Rubin “When we're doing something hard, it feels like the times are hard." – Gretchen Rubin Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Camino de Santiago Pilgrimage - https://santiago-compostela.net/ Secrets of Adulthood: Simple Truths for Our Complex Lives by Gretchen Rubin - https://amzn.to/4kq8TzF The Happier App - https://thehappierapp.com/ David Sedaris The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin - https://amzn.to/3S9OXox The Four Tendencies Quiz - https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/  The English Understand Wool by Helen DeWitt - https://amzn.to/43iUOgg The Last Samurai by Helen DeWitt - https://amzn.to/43tjDaF 5 Things Making Me Happy Newsletter - https://gretchenrubin.com/newsletter/5-things-making-me-happy-september-16-2022/ Sandwich: A Novel by Catherine Newman - https://amzn.to/4m9KGiy Guest's Links: Website - https://gretchenrubin.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/GretchenRubin TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@gretchenrubin Connect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you're primarily an Upholder (loves a to-do list), Obliger (rises to the occasion for others), Rebel (desires freedom) or Questioner (loves to know how things work), we've got tips for maintaining systems - for you and the people living in your home with you! Home are ecosystems with many different tendencies in play. Understanding how everyone responds to expectations can help us set up and maintain systems that help us love each other, and love each other well! Resources:The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin Video Interviews with Each Tendency Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

➡️ Like The Podcast? Leave A Rating: https://ratethispodcast.com/successstory  In this "Lessons" episode, Gretchen Rubin, Happiness Expert, breaks down the four tendencies framework that illuminates how responses to expectations shape behavior. Learn why identifying whether you're an upholder, questioner, obliger, or rebel is vital for self-awareness, and understand how this insight empowers better decision-making and personal growth.➡️ Show Linkshttps://successstorypodcast.com  YouTube: https://youtu.be/sBxJD-Hn9JIApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/gretchen-rubin-nyt-bestselling-author-podcaster-speaker/id1484783544Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2VINQSxl2eynFL1K8FZLks➡️ Watch the Podcast on YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/c/scottdclary

If you find yourself stuck in overthinking and procrastination, juggling multiple roles as an entrepreneur or coach, then you won't want to miss today's episode with Jo Lott! She shares six practical steps to help you break free from analysis paralysis and take confident action.Key Timestamps:[00:01:00] The Challenge of Overthinking[00:02:00] Step 1: Lowering the Bar[00:04:00] Step 2: Commitment Over Feelings[00:10:00] Step 4: Messaging for Clarity[00:11:00] Step 5: Co-Working for Focus[00:12:00] Step 6: Weekly ReflectionKey Takeaways:Just start - motivation follows actionWork with your natural tendency type (Obliger, Questioner, Upholder, or Rebel)Message someone when you're stuckUse co-working sessions for structured accountabilityImplement a weekly reflection practiceUseful LinksOne-Stop Coaching Shop: Join the Waitlist Learn about The Business of Coaching programmeSignature Solution CourseDownload the Free Digital version of Coaches' Planner (edition 2025)How to secure more coaching clients' free trainingDownload the 12 ways to get clients nowLearn about The Business of Coaching programmeConnect with Jo on LinkedInRate and Review the PodcastIf you found this episode of Women in the Coaching Arena helpful, please do rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Jo know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: joanna@joannalottcoaching.comEnjoyed This Episode? Don't Miss the Next One! Hit subscribe on your favourite podcast app to be notified each time a new episode of Women in the Coaching Arena.

Today we're discussing Gretchen Rubin's The Four Tendencies - an idea she puts forth about how people tend to react to both inner and outer expectations, whether they readily meet them or tend to resist. As with any method of categorizing how people approach the world, we find this helpful for understanding how we (and the people we love) end up in the same situations over and over again. The Four Tendencies are The Upholder, who readily meets inner and outer expectations, but has a hard time letting themselves off the hook for anything (even when it makes sense to do so)The Obliger, who readily meets outer expectations, but may struggle to stick to goals they've set for themselvesThe Rebel, who questions both inner and outer expectations and may have a hard time being accountable to anyoneThe Questioner, who wants to thoroughly investigate any outer expectation before making it an inner one, which they will often stick toWe need all of these approaches to the world to make it go round. We each rely on the other strengths to smooth over our weaknesses and vice versa. To find out your tendency, take the quiz here.To read a quick overview of the book, check out this summary by Alex Chen. 

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If you've ever wondered how you can better motivate yourself, this episode about The Four Tendencies is for you! Sammie and Michelle are big fans of The Four Tendencies.  Sammie is an Upholder and is the go to person to get things done, for herself and for anyone in her life. Michelle is a Rebel. She does not like to be told what to do, whether that's from the outside or even listening to herself. They also cover Questioners (needing to know the why) and Obligers (better at meeting outer expectations) in this episode. Sammie and Michelle found that understanding their tendency was a huge key in unlocking their own success.  Take Gretchen Rubin's The Four Tendencies Quiz: https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/Find more show notes and interact with the Build A Wealthy Spirit community at buildawealthyspirit.com!

Welcome to the second of a multi-part series where I cover brief and not-so-brief highlights from many of my favorite podcast guests! Learn about Gretchen Rubin’s 4 Tendencies (Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel), hear a major life lesson from my 107-year-old barber, and another one from Seth Godin, who reminds us to “turn that s*it off!” when faced with distraction. You’ll hear from Ray Sidney, Google’s fifth-ever employee, on the importance of pure motivation, why Mark Manson says “self-worth is an illusion”, and that our purpose in life is to “create a string of hope narratives.” I share key advice from John Assaraf on how to rewire your brain for success, as well as important words from Dr. Ron Sinha, who warns us of the dangers of rumination and consumerism—the “hedonic treadmill.” You will also hear from Dr. Robert Lustig, who describes the “hacking of the American Mind” with corporate-driven instant gratification dopamine hits, Dr. Judson Brandeis on sexual health, and learn how to improve your eyesight with Jake Steiner. Finally, William Shewfelt offers a powerful perspective on having a resilient success mindset and Jeff Kahn explains the sleep bank account. TIMESTAMPS: In her book, Gretchen Rubin categorizes four main categories that people fall into with their behavior patterns. They are the upholder, the questioner, the obliger, and the rebel. [00:49] Here's what the research shows. The population, 41% of the population are obligers. 24% are questioners, 19% are upholders, and 17% are rebels. [12:55] The world’s oldest barber, at 107, gave Brad a haircut and inspired Brad’s longevity aspirations. [13:40] Seth Godin talked about persevering especially in athletics. [17:24] You must motivate yourself for the right reasons. [19:50] Mark Manson says that self-worth is an illusion, and it's actually a form of persistent low-level narcissism. You can learn to merge your thinking brain with your feeling brain. [23:11] The brain-training expert, John Assaraf, talked about the obstacles to rewiring our brain. You need to take baby steps. [30:31] If you are on the treadmill of the rat race of trying to achieve more and more, you are sacrificing your health and mental well-being. [33:57] When you ruminate about the past, that generally promotes depression and ruminating about the future, generally promotes anxiety. [37:08] Dr. Brandeis contends that 95% of erectile dysfunction problems are psychological. There is nothing wrong with the plumbing. [40:51] Jake Steiner is an expert on vision is challenging some of the foundational premises of using corrective eyewear. [42:47] William Shewfelt talks about having a plan, locking in that mindset and just never giving up. [44:26] Jeff Kahn, sleep expert suggests that you treat your sleep like a bank account. When you experience a deficit for whatever reason, strive to make that up. [48:48] In the last 40 years, government legislation and subsidies have promoted an ever- available temptation combined with constant stress, with the end result of an unprecedented epidemic of addiction, anxiety, depression, and chronic disease. 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Choosing a one-word theme is one of the most fun and thought-provoking exercises within the “Design Your Year” set. Here, we review our themes for 2024 and reveal the themes we've chosen for 2025. We also share a hack for choosing a powerful theme, and include many of the themes chosen by listeners. Resources and links related to this episode: Happiness Project Shop  Tips for making a "25 for '25" list Print your own "25 for '25" list One-Sentence Journal  Happier in Hollywood newsletter sign-up Habits for Happiness quiz: What's the next new habit that will make you happier? Four Tendencies quiz: Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel?  Gift-Giving quiz: What kind of gift makes you happy? "5 Things Making Me Happy" newsletters   Ethan Mollick's newsletter “One Useful Thing" Hard Fork podcast Muse Machine Gretchen is reading: Ink Blood Sister Scribe by Emma Torzs (Amazon, Bookshop)  Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.  Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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We explore ways to make each day of the week special by recognizing small pleasures. We discuss a practical hotel checkout tip to avoid forgetting items. Also, we examine the value of allowing yourself to go into “shock” when facing big assignments or feedback, and how this pause can lead to clearer thinking and better responses. Plus we ask, “What lesson have you learned the hard way?” Resources and links related to this episode: Four Tendencies Personality Quiz: Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? Happiness Hacks Card Deck Elizabeth is reading: Swan Song by Elin Hilderbrand (Amazon, Bookshop)  Gretchen is reading: Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar (Amazon, Bookshop)  Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.  Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's podcast episode, we explore the powerful "U" names of God, reminding us of His unchanging, unfailing, and limitless nature in a constantly shifting world. As we talk about names like Unchanging, Unfailing, and Upholder of all things, we are invited to reflect on how God's character brings hope, peace, and strength to our lives. Join us as we redirect our focus from our circumstances to the truth of who He is—everything He says He is.WHAT IS NEUE THING?Neue Thing is a non-profit ministry, founded by Cherie Wagner, that exists to equip women with the Word of God. Cherie's life-long passion is two-fold: knowing Jesus Christ and making Him known. Author of Found On My Knees, Awake O Sleeper, Rest, Hope, Psalms for Life, and Knowing Your Name, Cherie writes Bible studies for women that will encourage them to know and believe God's Word, equip them to live it, and empower them to take it and transform this generation for Jesus Christ.CONNECT WITH NEUE THINGWebsite: https://neuething.org/Email Subscription link:https://neuething.us2.list-manage.com/subscribe?Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neuethinginc/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/neuethingGive to Neue Thing: https://neuething.org/give/RESOURCESProverbs: The Wise, The Fool, The WickedKnowing Your NameFound On My Knees: The Journey from Brokenness to BlessingAwake O Sleeper: EphesiansRest: 30 Days of Exploring God's Invitation to RestHope: Tethered to an Unwavering GodPsalms for Life

In this Flashback Friday episode, I'm excited to revisit my conversation with the insightful Gretchen Rubin, marking the 550th episode of A Productive Conversation! This conversation explores her book, The Four Tendencies. We dive into how these four personality types—Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel—can influence our behavior, decision-making, and even how we interact with others.Having been involved in her Four Tendencies course, I've always been fascinated by the insights she offers on understanding ourselves better. Whether you're new to this concept or revisiting it like me, this episode is packed with practical takeaways to help you better understand your own tendencies and those of the people around you.Key Discussion Points What led Gretchen to identify and define the Four Tendencies: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. How the Four Tendencies can impact habit formation and how to leverage your tendency to make effective changes. Examples of how each tendency interacts with expectations, both internally and externally. The importance of creating structures that align with your tendency, such as setting boundaries for obligers or emphasizing freedom for rebels. Real-life applications of the Four Tendencies in work and personal life, including relationships and productivity. Insights into how Gretchen's work has evolved, including her other books like The Happiness Project, and the role these ideas play in her daily life. I hope this throwback episode with Gretchen Rubin gave you some new perspectives on how personality frameworks can impact your productivity, relationships, and general well-being. If you're curious to learn more, make sure to check out Gretchen's work and take the Four Tendencies quiz to see where you fit in. Understanding your tendencies might just be the key to unlocking a more productive, and satisfying, life. (Originally released January 2018)Links Worth Exploring Connect with Gretchen: Website | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn Get Gretchen's Book: The Four Tendencies Take The Four Tendencies Quiz: Check it out Take The Four Tendencies Course: Start here Read Grechen's piece on National Novel Writing month: Read it now Related Conversation: Episode 454: Michelle Segar Talks About Habits and The Joy Choice Related Blog Post: Finding Your Best First Day of the Year Thanks to all of the sponsors of this episode. You can find all of the sponsors you heard me mention on this episode on our Podcast Sponsors page.Want to support the podcast? Beyond checking out our sponsors, you can subscribe to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. You can subscribe on Spotify and also on Apple Podcasts. Not using either of those to get your podcasts? Just click on this link and then paste the podcast feed into your podcast app of choice.Thanks again for listening to A Productive Conversation. See you later.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Flashback Friday episode, I'm excited to revisit my conversation with the insightful Gretchen Rubin, marking the 550th episode of A Productive Conversation! This conversation explores her book, The Four Tendencies. We dive into how these four personality types—Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel—can influence our behavior, decision-making, and even how we interact with others. Having been involved in her Four Tendencies course, I've always been fascinated by the insights she offers on understanding ourselves better. Whether you're new to this concept or revisiting it like me, this episode is packed with practical takeaways to help you better understand your own tendencies and those of the people around you. Key Discussion Points What led Gretchen to identify and define the Four Tendencies: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. How the Four Tendencies can impact habit formation and how to leverage your tendency to make effective changes. Examples of how each tendency interacts with expectations, both internally and externally. The importance of creating structures that align with your tendency, such as setting boundaries for obligers or emphasizing freedom for rebels. Real-life applications of the Four Tendencies in work and personal life, including relationships and productivity. Insights into how Gretchen's work has evolved, including her other books like The Happiness Project, and the role these ideas play in her daily life. I hope this throwback episode with Gretchen Rubin gave you some new perspectives on how personality frameworks can impact your productivity, relationships, and general well-being. If you're curious to learn more, make sure to check out Gretchen's work and take the Four Tendencies quiz to see where you fit in. Understanding your tendencies might just be the key to unlocking a more productive, and satisfying, life. (Originally released January 2018) Links Worth Exploring Connect with Gretchen: Website | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn Get Gretchen's Book: The Four Tendencies Take The Four Tendencies Quiz: Check it out Take The Four Tendencies Course: Start here Read Grechen's piece on National Novel Writing month: Read it now Related Conversation: Episode 454: Michelle Segar Talks About Habits and The Joy Choice Related Blog Post: Finding Your Best First Day of the Year Thanks to all of the sponsors of this episode. You can find all of the sponsors you heard me mention on this episode on our Podcast Sponsors page. Want to support the podcast? Beyond checking out our sponsors, you can subscribe to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. You can subscribe on Spotify and also on Apple Podcasts. Not using either of those to get your podcasts? Just click on this link and then paste the podcast feed into your podcast app of choice. Thanks again for listening to A Productive Conversation. See you later. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In her book The Four Tendencies, author and podcaster Gretchen Rubin outlines her personality framework based upon how you respond to internal and external expectations. Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels approach decluttering and organizing differently, which Rubin outlines briefly in her book Outer Order, Inner Calm. Today I dive a bit more into Rubin's four tendencies and provide some additional recommendations on how to create a personalzed decluttering plan based upon your type! Resources Mentioned (affiliate links may be included): Four Tendencies Quiz Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness by Gretchen Rubin The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How To Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too) by Gretchen Rubin The Minimalists' Mins Game *2 Year Pod-iversary Review Giveaway! Ends September 30!*

Show NotesThe Four Tendencies QuizThe Four Tendencies Book Here is a virtual accountability site, FocusMate, that our friend Jackie loves! ChatGPTCommunity Time:Thank you Laura for your comment on our episode “We are never going back to work”Thank you Kevin for inquiring about the term “Fi-Curious”Thank you LaLa ✿Indie Maker✿ for restacking our post 189. What If I Get Bored During My Sabbatical?Want to Join Michelle's Sabbatical Course?Michelle and Toby recently reunited with the first cohort of their sabbatical course. It is more than just a course, it is a community of people looking to think outside the corporate box. Anyone interested in sabbaticals is welcome to join. . Click here if you are interested in joining the course!Find more show notes and interact with the Build A Wealthy Spirit community at buildawealthyspirit.com!

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Episode #96: I have been a Gretchen Rubin fan since 2009 when I read The Happiness Project the week it came out. Who could resist that cover and concept? And I cannot believe this, but I got to discuss my favorite topic, friendship, with Gretchen Rubin on Dear Nina. In celebration of Gretchen's paperback release of Life in Five Senses: How Exploring the Senses Got Me Out of My Head and Into the World. I am replaying our episode from about a year ago. I found my favorite parts of the episode and put it together.  We covered:The art of listening for what is being said and what is not being said in conversations with friends.The sound, sight, and touch of mixtapes plus our attempt to hatch a new business idea. The sound and touch of mahjongThe joy of tasting partiesThe nostalgia inherent in taste or even discussing foods we used to eat with friendsThe distracting sight of friends checking their phones and watchesThe sight of friends' faces and the emotions we read on their facesMaking plans to see sights with friends and the memories createdHugging friends! (I've gotten better at this since we first spoke.)And we took a quick dip into The Four Tendencies for me to share my husband being the Upholder of all Upholders.Take the "most neglected sense" quiz here.  Meet Gretchen RubinGretchen Rubin is one of today's most influential observers of happiness and human nature. She's the author of many books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers Life in Five Senses, Outer Order, Inner Calm; The Four Tendencies; Better Than Before; and The Happiness Project. Her books have sold more than 3.5 million copies worldwide, in more than thirty languages. She hosts the top-ranking, award-winning podcast “Happier with Gretchen Rubin,” where she explores practical solutions for living a happier life. Raised in Kansas City, she lives in New York City with her husband and two daughters. You can find everything you need at gretchenrubin.com. * All transcripts are available on the main Buzzsprout "Dear Nina" site. Click on any episode and find the transcript tab. Let's connect over all things friendship! My Substack newsletter about friendship & more Dear Nina website with show notes and a guide to pitching yourself as a guest Instagram , TikTok, Twitter, Youtube, Threads JOIN the Dear Nina Facebook group Ask an anonymous question

John 11:28-38 “The Tears of God in the Face of Death”Series: John Preacher: Will SpinkSunday MorningDate: 28th April 2024Passage: John 11:28-38------------------- Tears of Empathy“The Creator of all worlds, the Author of all beings, the Upholder of the universe – raining tears of human woe and sympathy upon a grave! Oh, there lives not a being in the universe who can enter into our bereavement with the sympathy, the support, and the soothing of Christ!” - Octavius Winslow Tears of Anger“He burns with rage against the oppressor of men. It is death that is the object of his wrath, and behind death him who has the power of death, and whom he had come into the world to destroy. Tears of sympathy may fill his eyes, but ... his soul is held by rage, and he advances to the tomb as a champion who prepares for conflict.” – B.B. Warfield Tears of Love “There was no flint in his heart. He was love, and only love; and through his love he descended into the depths of grief with the beloved ones whose lot was sorrowful; and he carried out to the full that sacred precept, ‘Weep with them that weep.'” – C.H. Spurgeon

Today we dig a little deeper into our habits and the importance of leaning into our tendencies to ensure we commit to the habits we want to achieve, start them effectively, and maintain them efficiently.If you didn't read the previous post, Building Better Habits, I highly recommend you do so in order to get a good understanding of habit formation and how to maximize your results. Gretchen Rubin explains in her book, The Four Tendencies, that most people align with one of four tendencies in our character or way of being – The Upholder, the Questioner, the Obliger, or the Rebel.Full transcript can be found here: https://jimmyglenos.com/2024/03/08/habits-are-subject-to-tendencies/ Learn more about Executive and Leadership Coaching at https://jimmyglenos.com/ #jimmyglenos #jglenos #unlocktheshortcut #leadnsucceed #leadershipcoaching #mentalfitnesscoaching #executivecoaching #podcast https://www.linkedin.com/in/jglenos/https://www.facebook.com/jglenos/https://www.instagram.com/jimmyglenos/https://youtube.com/@coachjimmyglenoshttps://linktr.ee/jglenos

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Whether it's eating healthier, getting exercise, starting a meditation practice or staying socially connected, figuring out what to do to be happy might be simple – but actually doing these things and living in a way that lets us experience happiness is much harder. When we know there are things we can do that will make us healthier and happier, why do we struggle to actually do them? Why do we get caught in a cycle of chasing happiness instead of choosing joy, even when we know better? This is what Gretchen Rubin wanted to understand when she began studying happiness and why people form the habits they do.  It turns out that it has everything to do with how we relate to expectations.  Gretchen discovered that there are four different “tendencies” that tell us how different people approach habits and expectations – whether we question expectations, comply with expectations, rebel against expectations or uphold them from within.  We are born with our tendency and there's no right or wrong way to be, but our ability to pursue happiness and form habits is directly connected to which tendency we're wired with. In this episode, Gretchen describes each of the four tendencies in detail and ways to work with your type to go after the life you want. She also talks about habit formation and the different approaches to starting a new habit, so you can figure out which one works best for you!  This is so fascinating and has major implications for how we structure our lives, how we work with each other in business and relationships and so much more! Listen to discover: Concrete steps we can take to start boosting our happiness The "four tendencies" personality framework The Upholder, The Obliger, The Questioner and The Rebel – four different ways we all respond to inner and outer expectations How your tendency impacts how you form habits How to overcome resistance and work with your tendency to be as successful and happy as possible Misconceptions about happiness and techniques to form better habits Though it's true that everyone is different in terms of what makes us happy, we're also all different in how we get to the things that make us happy.  When we understand our wiring, we can overcome resistance and set ourselves up to achieve the life we want, in a way that is uniquely ours. "Our physical experience is always going to color our emotional experience." - Gretchen Rubin   "The key to happiness is relationships." - Gretchen Rubin   "Don't suit other people. Suit yourself." - Gretchen Rubin   "I'm a big believer in the genetic roots of personality." - Gretchen Rubin   "We can work with each other to help us all achieve our aims, but sometimes we have to provide a different way from what would work for us." - Gretchen Rubin   "Your communication style would change once you know this."  - Michelle Chalfant    "Happier people are more interested in the problems of the world." - Gretchen Rubin   "You have to take care of yourself. You have to put yourself first." - Michelle Chalfant    "When you're not indulging in a temptation, it goes away." - Gretchen Rubin   LINKS & RESOURCES    Gretchen Rubin Website https://gretchenrubin.com/    Happier Podcast (Gretchen Rubin podcast) https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/    Gretchen Rubin Books https://gretchenrubin.com/books/   The Four Tendencies Quiz https://gretchenrubin.com/fourtendencies    The Happier App https://the-happiness-project.com/pages/happier-app    Gretchen Rubin Facebook https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin    Gretchen Rubin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/   Gretchen Rubin LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchenrubin    2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5! https://theadultchair.com/certification   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

We discuss how and why we might look for pockets of wasted time (and talk about some wasted time we uncovered ourselves.) We also suggest an easy step to lower anticipatory anxiety, a simple hack for avoiding waste, and discuss a listener's question about how her Upholder son should spend his time. Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Follow on social media: @GretchenRubin & @LizCraft on Instagram @GretchenRubin on TikTok and YouTube Get the podcast show notes by email every week: happiercast.com/shownotes Get the resources and all links related to this episode here: http://happiercast.com/457 Get Gretchen Rubin's newest New York Times bestselling book Life in Five Senses to see how she discovered a surprising path to a life of more energy, creativity, luck, and love: by tuning in to the five senses. Now availablewherever books are sold. Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you meet, or resist expectations?How you answer this question, depends on which of the 4 Tendencies you gravitate towards.Upholder: meets inner and outer expectationsQuestioner: meets inner but resists outer expectationsObliger: meets outer but resists inner expectationsRebel: resists inner and outer expectationsUnderstanding your own Tendency, as well as your colleagues', can be instrumental for workplace collaboration and cohesion.You can find the link to Gretchen Rubin's quiz here: https://gretchenrubin.com/four-tendencies/Since it's Halloween, here is DISC according to Candy!High D is Warheads. Extreme and intenseHigh I is Sweetarts. Sweet parts and messages of loveHigh S is Butterscotch Candies. Comforting, long lastingHigh C is Smarties. Smart and structuredTo learn more about Victoria and her business offerings visit or email her at mailto:discoverwhatworks@gmail.comConnect with Victoria!https://discoverwhatworks.org/https://www.facebook.com/VictoriaDISChttps://www.instagram.com/discoverwhatworks/https://www.linkedin.com/in/discoverwhatworks

I. The Son is the heir of all things. II. The Son is the agent of creation. III. The Son is the radiance of God's glory. IV. The Son is the exact imprint of God's nature. V. The Son upholds the universe by the word of his power. 

During the covid period, my daughter Eliza returned to live on campus for her final semester of college. She was told to pack lightly, and as an Upholder, I took that to mean that she should pack very, very lightly. But an Obliger friend had a wiser approach. Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Follow on social media: @GretchenRubin on YouTube @GretchenRubin on TikTok @GretchenRubin on Instagram @GretchenRubin on Threads Get the podcast show notes by email every week: happiercast.com/shownotes Get Gretchen Rubin's newest book Life in Five Senses to see how she discovered a surprising path to a life of more energy, creativity, luck, and love: by tuning in to the five senses. Now available - order here. Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.  Happier with Gretchen Rubin is part of ‘The Onward Project,' a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better. Check out the other Onward Project podcasts— Side Hustle School, Happier in Hollywood and Everything Happens with Kate Bowler. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I will introduce you to one of my favorite tools in my business, The Four Tendencies framework for dealing with expectations. How we deal with expectations, our own and those of others, has a significant impact on our business and personal lives. Some of us always go the extra mile for others but let ourselves down on a regular basis and others are the exact opposite. Knowing our own tendency and that of our clients, our team members, and even our friends and family members can make the difference between referral business, testimonials and long-term relationships and negative reviews, disappointment and frequent turnover. This framework is taken from the book, “The Four Tendencies” by Gretchen Rubin. And in this episode, I will explore each one: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel, and how they impact our ability to meet expectations. The information I share will center around the common challenges each tendency faces, as well as their unique strengths. By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of your own tendency and how it influences your interactions with others and your approach to meeting expectations. There are 5 important questions at the end and an invitation to DM me on Linked In or Instagram to let me know what you think MY tendency is and to share yours! Don't forget to grab the worksheet that summarizes each of the Four Tendencies to use in your business and with your team, here: https://bit.ly/3BS1yW4To go deeper after listening: 1. How do you typically approach meeting expectations in your business or work life? Do you tend to prioritize meeting the expectations of others or your own?2. Have you ever felt misunderstood or frustrated by the expectations placed on you by others? How did this impact your interactions and relationships?3. In what ways do you think understanding your tendency in meeting expectations can benefit your mental health and overall well-being?4. How do you navigate the tension between meeting the expectations of others and prioritizing your own needs and self-care? What practices or strategies have you implemented to find a balance?5. When working with others, what steps can you take to ensure that expectations are clear and achievable for everyone involved?Want to schedule a Strategy day for planning how to work more effectively with your team based on your (and their) tendencies? This would be an excellent use of a VIP Day, but don't wait because Boss Up Bootcamps are going away soon. Whether it's a Strategy Date, an Accountability Date or a Brainstorm to Breakthrough intensive, you will be amazed at how fast we can move the needle in your business with focus & action! Click here for more info and here to schedule a free consultation to see which bootcamp has YOUR name all over it! Are we connected on Linked In? What are we waiting for? https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/00:22:46 Questioners struggle to answer others' questions due to their own intense curiosity and tendency to generate endless inquiries. 00:29:07 Obligers at risk for burnout, cultural...

In this episode, I will introduce you to one of my favorite tools in my business, The Four Tendencies framework for dealing with expectations. How we deal with expectations, our own and those of others, has a significant impact on our business and personal lives. Some of us always go the extra mile for others but let ourselves down on a regular basis and others are the exact opposite. Knowing our own tendency and that of our clients, our team members, and even our friends and family members can make the difference between referral business, testimonials and long-term relationships and negative reviews, disappointment and frequent turnover. This framework is taken from the book, “The Four Tendencies” by Gretchen Rubin. And in this episode, I will explore each one: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel, and how they impact our ability to meet expectations. The information I share will center around the common challenges each tendency faces, as well as their unique strengths. By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of your own tendency and how it influences your interactions with others and your approach to meeting expectations. There are 5 important questions at the end and an invitation to DM me on Linked In or Instagram to let me know what you think MY tendency is and to share yours! Don't forget to grab the worksheet that summarizes each of the Four Tendencies to use in your business and with your team, here: https://bit.ly/3BS1yW4To go deeper after listening: 1. How do you typically approach meeting expectations in your business or work life? Do you tend to prioritize meeting the expectations of others or your own?2. Have you ever felt misunderstood or frustrated by the expectations placed on you by others? How did this impact your interactions and relationships?3. In what ways do you think understanding your tendency in meeting expectations can benefit your mental health and overall well-being?4. How do you navigate the tension between meeting the expectations of others and prioritizing your own needs and self-care? What practices or strategies have you implemented to find a balance?5. When working with others, what steps can you take to ensure that expectations are clear and achievable for everyone involved?Want to schedule a Strategy day for planning how to work more effectively with your team based on your (and their) tendencies? This would be an excellent use of a VIP Day, but don't wait because Boss Up Bootcamps are going away soon. Whether it's a Strategy Date, an Accountability Date or a Brainstorm to Breakthrough intensive, you will be amazed at how fast we can move the needle in your business with focus & action! Click here for more info and here to schedule a free consultation to see which bootcamp has YOUR name all over it! Are we connected on Linked In? What are we waiting for? https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/00:22:46 Questioners struggle to answer others' questions due to their own intense curiosity and tendency to generate endless inquiries. 00:29:07 Obligers at risk for burnout, cultural...

Today on The Mindvalley Show, embark on a journey of self-discovery with acclaimed writer Gretchen Rubin as she unravels the enigmatic world of The Four Tendencies. Renowned for her ability to distill complex ideas into relatable wisdom, Rubin introduces the intriguing personalities that shape our responses to expectations. Her bestselling book "The Four Tendencies" delves into Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels—distinct types that impact how we navigate life's demands. In this episode, Rubin exposes the strengths and challenges of each tendency. Whether you're an Upholder who readily meets inner and outer expectations, a Questioner who seeks rationality, an Obliger who thrives under external accountability, or a Rebel who defies convention, understanding your tendency can revolutionize your growth journey. Tune in to gain insights into effective communication and leadership strategies tailored to these tendencies, empowering you to navigate relationships and professional endeavors with newfound clarity. Discover your tendency, leverage it for growth, and gain valuable insights into effective interaction and leadership. Tune in now and embark on a transformative exploration that will reshape your perception of yourself and others. Key takeaways: [01:19] The Four Tendencies: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel [02:59] How your tendency affects your behavior [03:44] Upholder tendency: meets both outer and inner expectations [05:14] Questioner tendency: questions all expectations and needs reasons [7:28] Obliger tendency: meets outer expectations but struggles with inner expectations [9:30] Rebel tendency: resists both outer and inner expectations [11:52] How to communicate and lead different personality types [15:30] The concept of Obliger Rebellion [17:54] The unique strength of The Rebel Where to find our guest: GretchenRubin.com Memorable Quotes: "There's no right, there's no wrong. It's just whatever works for you." [2:45] -Gretchen Rubin "There's enormous power in the rebel tendency. They tend to be great entrepreneurs because then they're making the rules and doing things their own way." [18:31] -Gretchen Ruben To stay connected and to learn more about Vishen and Mindvalley, click on the links below:  Website: Mindvalley.com YouTube: @vishenlakhiani Instagram: @mindvalley Instagram: @vishen Facebook: @mindvalley   Subscribe to 'Mindvalley Membership' to discover 65+ transformational Mindvalley programs – at a surprisingly low annual fee here

What's the best way to motivate yourself? Through her research, Gretchen Rubin came up with The Four Tendencies, four different ways people respond to internally and / or externally motivation. Sammie for example, is an upholder, and will often complete a task if she decides to do it or if someone like her boss needs her to do it. Michelle, a rebel, listens to know one, including herself. Obligers respond to external motivation and suffer if they have to hold themselves accountable. Questioners need to know they why behind the task, and that will determine whether or not they do something.  Sammie and Michelle loved revisiting this fan favorite episode. Take Gretchen Rubin's quiz and visit our website to let us know your tendency! You can leave a comment at buildawealthyspirit.com Show NotesThe Four Tendencies QuizThe Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)  by Gretchen Rubin Find more show notes and interact with the Build A Wealthy Spirit community at buildawealthyspirit.com!Find more show notes and interact with the Build A Wealthy Spirit community at buildawealthyspirit.com!

Today on The Mindvalley Show, embark on a journey of self-discovery with acclaimed writer Gretchen Rubin as she unravels the enigmatic world of The Four Tendencies. Renowned for her ability to distill complex ideas into relatable wisdom, Rubin introduces the intriguing personalities that shape our responses to expectations. Her bestselling book "The Four Tendencies" delves into Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels—distinct types that impact how we navigate life's demands. In this episode, Rubin exposes the strengths and challenges of each tendency. Whether you're an Upholder who readily meets inner and outer expectations, a Questioner who seeks rationality, an Obliger who thrives under external accountability, or a Rebel who defies convention, understanding your tendency can revolutionize your growth journey. Tune in to gain insights into effective communication and leadership strategies tailored to these tendencies, empowering you to navigate relationships and professional endeavors with newfound clarity. Discover your tendency, leverage it for growth, and gain valuable insights into effective interaction and leadership. Tune in now and embark on a transformative exploration that will reshape your perception of yourself and others.   Key takeaways: [01:19] The Four Tendencies: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel [02:59] How your tendency  affects your behavior [03:44] Upholder tendency: meets both outer and inner expectations [05:14] Questioner tendency: questions all expectations and needs reasons [7:28] Obliger tendency: meets outer expectations but struggles with inner expectations [9:30] Rebel tendency: resists both outer and inner expectations [11:52] How to communicate and lead different personality types [15:30] The concept of Obliger Rebellion [17:54] The unique strength of The Rebel   Where to find our guest: GretchenRubin.com   Memorable Quotes: "There's no right, there's no wrong. It's just whatever works for you." [2:45] -Gretchen Rubin "There's enormous power in the rebel tendency. They tend to be great entrepreneurs because then they're making the rules and doing things their own way." [18:31] -Gretchen Ruben   To stay connected and to learn more about Vishen and Mindvalley, click on the links below:  Website: Mindvalley.com YouTube: @vishenlakhiani Instagram: @mindvalley Instagram: @vishen Facebook: @mindvalley   Subscribe to 'Mindvalley Membership' to discover 65+ transformational Mindvalley programs – at a surprisingly low annual fee here

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Today we're talking about Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies. Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel? Join us as we share what this personality framework has taught us about ourselves and others!  The Four Tendencies Book We'd love to hear from you! Find us here: Instagram: Midlife Matters Podcast Website: midlifematterspodcast.com Email: midlifematterspodcast@gmail.com

It's much easier to run a business when you understand yourself and your motivations. In this episode, Anna C Campbell joins me to talk all things personality, focussing on the Four Tendencies theory from Gretchen Rubin. Anna explains the different tendencies - Upholder, Questioner, Rebel and Obliger and covers practical tips you can use to motivate yourself and play to your strengths in your jewellery business based on your personality type. You won't want to miss this one!    Episode Description: Today we're talking about how your personality impacts your business (1:19) Why is personality so interesting to you? (3:27) What is the four tendencies theory? (9:12) The Upholder (11:34) The Questioner (14:06) The Rebel (15:22) The Obliger (16:55) How can upholders play to their strengths and find balance? (21:40) What should questioners pay attention to when running a business? (27:19) How can rebels best motivate themselves in their businesses? (38:52) What are some strategies obligers can use to stay motivated? (46:30) We're all unique, so the key is finding what works for you (55:12)   About Gretchen Rubin:The four tendency theory was created by Gretchen Rubin. Take her four tendencies quiz for free to find out your tendency https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/ To learn more about this theory do check out her excellent books, particularly Better than Before and the Four Tendencies https://gretchenrubin.com/books/ About Anna C Campbell: Anna is a Mindset and Business Coach working with women solopreneurs who are brilliant employees but stall out when working for themselves. www.annaccampbell.com @annaccampbell on Instagram   Resources: Learn more about Jewellers Academy Watch this episode on YouTube Join the Jewellers Academy Facebook Group  Order your copy of “Start and Grow a Profitable Jewellery Business” Take the personality quiz   Find Jewellers Academy on Instagram and Facebook

The one who humbly stoops to save his people is the infinitely supreme Creator and Upholder of all things.

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I'm sharing a very special SNEAK PREVIEW (part 2) of this month's mindset class: MOTIVATION MAGIC.  You'll learn your motivation personality type:⁠ Are you a Rebel, Obliger, Questioner, or Upholder? ⁠  Knowing the answer can MAGICALLY TRANSFORM your weight loss journey!

First published on my blog on September 24, 2017. Read the post here → Listening to Jonathan Fields in conversation with his longtime friend Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project if you've read that book? I have. Enjoyed it. This conversation centers around The four tendencies, something which Gretchen apparently touched on in one of her earlier books, and then dove deeper into, making it the topic for her current book The four tendencies, a book I most definitely want to read after listening to this podcast. The four tendencies centers on how we, as human beings, relate to inner and outer expectations – being prone to or resisting one or the other. The four tendencies are given names; Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. More than 800 000 people have taken Gretchens simple online test to get a feel for ones own core tendency, and I turned out to be an Upholder. Not surprising, just from the podcast itself I felt the most connected to this tendency, and the online test confirmed it. As I listen to the podcast (over and over again), clarity arises. Clarity in why I am good at keeping promises to myself (such as meditating every morning and doing my daily Seven, such as promising myself to practice the guitar for twenty minutes a day for sixty days, and following through) but also towards others (meeting deadlines, keeping promises, getting the job done). Clarity in why some people struggle with things that come naturally to me, because I can see other tendencies in them, giving me a greater understanding in what makes them tick, one way or another, which might make me become a better coach, mother, business partner and friend in the future. Clarity as to how the assignment “to make people better at motivating others” isn't about what works for me, but rather about the four ways there are to have people gain the most traction from their own inner driving forces. A Upholder meets both inner and outer expectations. For a Questioner understanding why is central making them meet their own inner expecations. The Obliger struggles and fails to meet inner expectations but readily meets outer ones. And at last the Rebel, resisting both outer and inner expectations, which to me sounds really tricky. I mean, what remains then? Spur of the moment, I guess? If we all knew our own tendencies, and had sufficient knowledge about the other three, for sure that would make a huge difference in any setting we find ourselves in. At school, at work, with the closest family, with friends. Knowing my own tendency, which is actually quite rare, which means what works for me, won't necessarily work for you. And if you and I both have some knowledge about our respective core tendencies, perhaps there is a greater opportunity for us to find common ground, to be able to stand by one another, being there for each other in ways that are truly helpful? I am an Upholder, with leanings towards Questioner, I think. The test online doesn't dig deep enough for me to truly distinguish the nuances in great detail; am hoping the book will. What are you?

Episode #125 If you have been listening to the podcast for a while, you will know how much Daisy loves to talk about Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies. So when she spotted some new memes on Rubin's Facebook page, she thought it would be an ideal opportunity to revisit her pet topic. Whether you are an Upholder or a Rebel, a Questioner or an Obliger, or a mix, tune in to find out about some strategies that might help cement those new habits you are trying to lock in place. Gretchen Rubin: The 4 Ways to Successfully Adopt New Habits https://youtu.be/gBNEVXg2CNU Website: https://gretchenrubin.com 4 Tendencies Quiz: https://quiz.gretchenrubin.com/?utm_source=website&utm_medium=homepage Please consider helping us make more episodes by supporting Daisy on Patreon. https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetPatreon If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave us a review on iTunes or whichever platform you listen on. It really helps new people hear about the podcast. Connect with and follow us on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube: https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetFB https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetIG https://bit.ly/MondayMindsetYT

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It's the fifth anniversary of my book “The Four Tendencies,” so we discuss the “Four Tendencies,” along with hacks, insights, stories, reflections, and free tools about the personality framework. Whether you're an Obliger, Questioner, Rebel, or Upholder, we talk about strategies that will help you make your life happier. Get in touch: @gretchenrubin; @elizabethcraft; podcast@gretchenrubin.com Get in touch on Instagram: @GretchenRubin & @LizCraft Get the podcast show notes by email every week here: http://gretchenrubin.com/#newsletter Get the resources and all links related to this episode here: http://happiercast.com/394 Leave a voicemail message on: 774-277-9336 For information about advertisers and promo codes, go to happiercast.com/sponsors Want to be happier in 2022? Order Gretchen Rubin's book The Happiness Project to see how she approached the question, “How can I be happier?” and start a Happiness Project of your own. Happier with Gretchen Rubin is part of ‘The Onward Project,' a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better. Check out the other Onward Project podcasts—Do The Thing, Side Hustle School, Happier in Hollywood and Everything Happens with Kate Bowler. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and tell your friends! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on the podcast, I'm sharing a very special SNEAK PREVIEW (part 2) of this month's mindset class: MOTIVATION MAGIC. In this class, you'll learn:⁠ ❓ Are you an Obliger, Questioner, Upholder, or Rebel? ⁠ Knowing the answer can MAGICALLY TRANSFORM your weight loss journey!

It's been a while. And I have plenty of excuses for why I haven't been publishing regularly. I think the fluffiest way to put it is, I've been in a funk, the kind that is less than depression but more than a bad day. But ultimately, the reason I haven't been publishing isn't as important as the fact that I'm back here today. And I'd actually like to extend that thought to you, if you have felt like you're stuck in a funk, or a walking depression of sorts, or just haven't been showing up as the self that you'd like to, I give you permission to recognize that the time spent outside of your true or ideal self is less important as the moments that you spend working on being you again. Anyway, that said… I've been doing plenty of thinking, and also trying not to think too plentifully. (because let's be honest, over thinking never did anyone any good) But I've learned a lot about myself Even though I've felt like I've been in this big deep, funk, I've still learned a lot about myself. That's one of the really cool things that I've found about life, whether we're moving toward a positive upward motion and productivity, or maybe spiraling in a negative direction, learning more about ourself is always available and sometimes, its during those negative spirals that we learn the most about ourselves and about what we want, who we are, where we want to go and what we want to do. Have you heard of Gretchen Rubin and her 4 tendencies? Gretchen Rubin is a researcher, and she has packaged people up into 4 different tendency personalities. These come into play when expectations are on the table. TO give a brief summary, There's the Upholder, someone who does what they say they'll do because they said it, they just need to know what should be done and they do it. The Questioner, someone who wants to know the why of everything before they'll commit, they need justification. The Obliger, this person needs to be kept accountable to someone else, but will do what other people expect of them. And the Rebel, the one who needs freedom to do whatever they want in their own way. Keep in mind, these are tendencies all of us probably have a little bit of each inside of us. But I learn mostly toward Obliger, and Rebel, depending on the day or the expectation. When it comes to my podcast, I find myself leaning toward rebel tendencies. I don't want to do anything because I have to, because it's the right way, because it's how to build a following, etc. But I do want to keep my podcast and I want to express the message I want to share. My mission with this podcast is to give you tools to live a life with greater perspective, truth and grace. This is all my long way of saying that I want to keep producing podcast episodes, but I'm going to stop making it such a big deal to keep all the rules (whatever they are). As an Obliger, one who likes to be kept accountable - this is just my way of keeping myself accountable to you, my listeners, all of this over explanation of where I'm at and letting you know that you can expect something slightly unconventional going forward. This is me, and I would like to be unapologetically me - a little bit a mess with a passion to share a message. Next episode, I'm going to share a little more about how I'm working my way out of this whatever funk or stuckness I've been in, (I don't know a better word for it, less than depression but more than just a bad day (ahem, months)), my mom calls it walking depression where you look fine, you're still mostly functional, but not quite living like you want to. Spoiler, next episode will be about finding or living into your purpose in life. But I anticipate future episodes to be unorthodoxically short, unless they're not. (No more rules here) But as always, be watchful and stay curious.

Playing to your strenghts I'm a sucker for a quiz or assessment; Enneagram, Meyers-Brigg, DISC, all of them. I particularly love the framework of The Four Tendencies, created by author Gretchen Rubin. If you have ever wondered about the why some people find it so easy to create a new habit and others find it nearly impossible - this is the quiz for you. Find out if you are an Obliger, Upholder, Questioner or Rebel and discover how to ‘play to your strengths'. When it comes to taking control and following through, whether it's alcohol, sugar or exercise, understanding yourself better is key! Full Show Notes Here

In honor of our upcoming IO2022 innovation Accelerated Summit, which is happening September 19th and 20th in Lincoln Nebraska. Thought it'd be nice to pull some of the best interviews and sessions from our IO2020 virtual event. So, over the next few weeks, check out some of our amazing speakers and grab a ticket for the upcoming event. We'd love to see you there. Tickets and more information can be found at io2022.com. And now back to the show. Inside Outside Innovation is a podcast to help new innovators navigate what's next. Each week, we'll give you a front row seat into what it takes to learn, grow, and thrive in today's world of accelerating change and uncertainty. Join us as we explore, engage, and experiment with the best and the brightest innovators, entrepreneurs, and pioneering businesses. It's time to get started.Interview Transcript with Steph Smith, Trends.co / The Hustle / HubspotBrian Ardinger: We are excited to have Steph Smith here with the Hustle and Trends to talk about one of these amazing new trends that we're seeing. It's the whole move to remote work. Steph is the Head of Trends and Product Manager at the Hustle, which is a great newsletter, if you don't subscribe to that. Trends is their exclusive group. And I I've got to say it's, it's one of the best groups out there to talk about new things that are happening out there, new business leaders, things along those lines. She's got a new book out called Standing Out in 2020. Doing Content Right. And I know she's been doing a series of sessions on that. It's an eBook. You can check it out at stephsmith.io. She's been blogging for a ton of time. And she's also been in this world of remote work. Been a digital nomad for a while. So, with that, I'm going to just turn over to Steph. And we'll talk the trend of remote working. Steph Smith: Sweet. Thanks so much. That was a great intro, Brian. Today, I'm going to be talking about something that I care a lot about. I saw some other people in the chat mention that they've been working remotely for a long time. Two, I'm going to be talking about thinking past the office and designing what I call resilient, remote teams. And I do this in a little bit of a different way than I think most presentations on this topic are, which give you a lot of super, super concrete, like you must do this. I like to think of this more so as how do we think about what has changed? What does that mean? And what can we learn from this? So, I use three books and I'll get into that in a second to actually convey some of these points. But just quickly, I don't want to talk about myself very much. Brian gave me a great intro. All you need to know is that I have been working remotely for the last four or five years now. And I did that originally at a company called Top Tell, which was one of those kind of remote first companies built from the ground up to be remote. Now I work at a company called The Hustle and I've done some remote training for different companies. And in general, have been nomadding around for the last couple years as I work remotely. So that's enough about me. Let's talk about where we are in this world. As I mentioned before COVID there was a series of companies I'd say only a couple dozen of scale that were built up to be remote. From the ground up, they said, you know what, we're never going to have any offices. Or if we do, we're going to be remote first. Companies like Zapier Basecamp, Web Flow. All these companies were built from the ground up to facilitate positive remote working environment. Now, as we all know, you saw this kind of trend, the slow trickle of people that were searching for remote work overtime. This is Google trends from 2004 to present. Then as we all know, 2020. crazy year. We see this big spike and we're all remote, whether we want to be or not. And this includes huge companies like Google, Cora, Coinbase. Shopify that at least are either going to be remote for several, several years or in some cases like Shopify have just claimed that they are now remote first from here forward. The question then becomes with all of these companies with now millions, if not billions of people that are kind of thrown into this new environment, what happens. What happens to these organizations that weren't built from the ground up? Like Zapier, Base Camp, or Buffer. Some of the questions that I have here, allude to what I'll be talking about in this presentation. So how does remote work or the shift influence how people interact with one another? How does it influence the social fabric or culture of the company? How does this change how potentially leaders should or can operate at these organizations?And in general, this all brings me back to the title of this presentation. How do we build resilient teams? And resiliency in this case means teams that thrive in the environment that they're put in, right. It doesn't feel like they're kind of pushing against walls. It doesn't feel like there's friction to achieve certain things.It feels like they're put in an environment where they're put in a place to succeed by nature, by the nature of the environment that they're in. So, as I said, this presentation is really based on three books that I've read and, and I think are excellent. It's Give and Take, Algorithms to Live By and The Four Tendencies.And I like using books like this to really frame these conversations because these books are actually not based on remote work at all. They're based on human psychology. They're based on how people interact in given situations or environments. And then I just layer on a question. Is this still true with remote work or how does this change as people go from an in-person environment to remote. And so, we'll talk specifically about how giving and taking behavior may change with remote work. We'll talk about how we can design systems. So, using something From Algorithms to Live By, Game Theory. How do we incentivize people to actually act in their best interest? Because they don't always do that on their own. And how do we in general make remote work sustainable. And then I'll talk about the potential archetype of remote worker using this four tendencies framework. To preface the three books and the three things that we'll talk about, I want to jump back to summarize where we are.So, we as a society had a majority of people working in offices. And now we have a majority of people working remotely. And I like to kind of facetiously say that when you work in an office, you work in a box. And that box is predefined for you. And even though it's a little facetious in terms of the analogy, a lot of that is true in the sense that you have a lot of things, whether it's, you know, where you're physically working, how you're working exactly, when you're working. A lot of that is super predefined for you. And for some people that's actually better. Some people that's worse. I'm not trying to ascertain whether one is better or worse, but the idea is that before you had a lot of things mapped out for you, right? And now when you're working remotely, the way, the analogy that I like to give is that box is kind of like stripped clean.So, you get rid of the walls, you get rid of exactly when, how you work. And now a lot of people are left to figure out how to build their own box. And what I see a lot of people doing, whether it's individuals or companies is they basically do this Control C Control V where they basically say, you know, we had all these things, these processes, these systems, these frameworks that worked in our office. So, let's just take all those and let's paste them into our new environment. And that can work. But what I think we have a unique opportunity to do is in fact, rethink the box. So, build our new box from the ground up. So instead of just copying everything and saying, oh, this worked there. It should work here. Let's just rethink what are the things that we should operate by in this new environment? How do we rebuild our box? And something more important than that is instead of giving our employees a new box saying, hey, this is your box. Please take it. And again, abide by these rules or operations or logistics. Let's actually just give them the tools to build their own box. And this kind of summarizes part of what I'm, I'm getting to at least to preface three examples is, is a quote from Amir. Who's a CEO of Doist one of those kind of remote first and companies. And he says, basically, remote. Isn't just a different way to work. It's a different way to live. We have to acknowledge that we're kind of blurring these lines and people, you know, experience isolation, anxiety, depression. And in general, we need to figure out ways in systems to resolve this new, almost more complex issue where you have people, people's work and their lives just meshing into this continuous system.All right. So, what are the cornerstones of remote work? I mentioned this because this bleeds into some of the examples. So remote work overall, at least prior to COVID, when people weren't forced into it, really prioritized three things over three other things. Meaning output trumped input, which meant that didn't matter exactly how many hours you were working or exactly what you did to get to the impact that you're driving for a company.What mattered was the impact, the output. Similarly, remote work tended to favor autonomy over administration. Again, this idea that didn't matter exactly how you got from Point A to Point B. You had the autonomy to figure that out. And similarly, flexibility over rigidity. So, let's keep these cornerstones in mind throughout the presentation. And consider that even those cornerstones sound kind of resoundingly positive, all of us at face value are like, yes, I love being graded on my output. I love being graded or given the autonomy to figure out how I deliver that output. And I love being given flexibility. But let's just keep those in mind and consider that they're not always strictly positive. All right, so let's dive into the first example in the book, Give and Take. Obviously, these books are very in depth and I only covered one small sliver of them in this presentation. But the key takeaway from Give and Take is that Adam Grant, he's a professor at Wharton, amazing writer as well. He talks about three different types of individuals. So, Givers, Takers, and Matchers. All you need to know about them for the purpose of this presentation is that givers basically believe in this world as a positive sum game. Meaning they believe in mutually beneficial situations. They're willing to give without expecting anything in return. Takers are kind of the opposite of that. They think zero sum game. I'm sure you can imagine or conceptualize people in your life that you've encountered that really are trying to get ahead at the expense of other people.Now matchers fall somewhere in the middle. They basically believe, or kind of function off of this idea of reciprocity and fairness. All right. So with that in mind, the question or sorry, before I even get to the question, something I want to mention is that the whole premise of Adam Grant's book is a little surprising in that most people would expect that given Takers and Matchers and Takers in particular, their approach to life in terms of kind of utilizing other people to get ahead or prioritizing their own growth over other people, you would expect those people to be the most successful.Now, interestingly enough, he found that Givers were both at the very top of the spectrum of success, and the very bottom. You can notice two different types of Givers here. One is selfless. One is, is otherish. All you need to know here is that Otherish Givers are Givers but have found a way to prioritize their own needs.So really interesting that Givers not only elevate other people, but they are actually the most successful on their own. So, this is kind of a summary or a quote from Adams, which basically says they succeed in a way that creates a ripple effect, enhancing the success of others around them. You'll see that the difference lies in how Giver success creates value instead of just claiming it.So, in general, I think the obvious takeaway here is that we want more Givers at our organizations. Now the question becomes, and this will be a repetitive question throughout, is this the same with remote work. Or how does this change with remote work? Some of the sections here are based on actual data sources.This one, not so much. This is me more hypothesizing. And what I've come to in terms of my many years leading teams, interacting with teams, being individual contributors on teams is that because if we remember the cornerstones of remote work, we prioritize output. We prioritize impact. That which in remote, all that matters is that impact, right?Are you delivering value? Are you worth your salary? Are you hitting your KPIs. In person when you're in an office? All that stuff matters. But it's also weighed against certain unspoken things, unspoken rules, like the amount of time you're spending in the office. Whether you're on time for things, whether you stay late to help another employee in general, everyone knows who the team players are in an office.That's not always true when you work remotely. I think if you've worked remotely over the last couple months, especially if you were in an office before, you can probably resonate with this idea. In remote, there's a couple thing, other things that I want to know. This idea of staying on longer to, you know, as a Giver, let's say you're helping other people.That's super difficult to quantify because when you're working remotely again, our work life and our lifeline blend together. So, it's actually hard, if I were to ask anyone on this call, how many hours did you spend this week working remotely? I think a lot of people would struggle to actually quantify that.So then layering on, am I working extra? Am I not working enough? It's really hard to kind of parse that out. Additionally, if you support someone. Let's say I have a friend and her name is Sally at work. And she says, Hey Steph, can you help me with this project? And it actually takes like, you know, five hours out of my day.I end up helping her. All of that work for better or for worse is hidden online. Sally knows about it. But everyone else at work, didn't see me stay late to help Sally. They didn't see the output of that work. They didn't see the Giving behavior. And so, in addition to this, KPIs in general, when you work remotely by nature of trying to ascertain that output of people, tends to be more individual. You even hear people use terms like manager of one when they're working remotely.And in general, the idea that I'm trying to get across here is that by nature, when you're working remotely, because there are so much emphasis on output and impact, which has many positives, basically takes away the recognition that you typically get in an in-person environment of these Givers, and what happens is these Givers end up burning out, they become more of those selfless givers that you saw at the tail end. Instead of the Otherish givers that were the most successful individual. And something I want to call out here is that regardless of intentions, morals, or values, and what I'm saying here is it doesn't matter if someone's a good person or bad person. That's not what I'm trying to ascertain. Bad incentive structures result in bad behavior, no matter how good of a person you think you are. So, what's the takeaway here? Again, I'm trying to go through this quickly, so I won't go through everything. But the idea here is that you still won't have a water cooler. In the office, which almost acted like, you know, animals in the wild. There's like a certain hierarchy and there's a kingdom and, and it kind of regulates things, right. You just subtly, but it does. You don't have that anymore with remote, or at least it's not created without intentionality. And so, there are a couple quick things that you can do. The first thing is just ask your team very simply who helped you this week? Who did you work with? Where did you put in extra hours? Where did someone else put in extra hours for you? You must ask this because it will not be surfaced as naturally as in the office. The second thing is build KPIs to incentivize teamwork. This is a little harder to do because again, when you work remotely, you're trying to ascertain output. But think about how you can do this to incentivize teamwork. So, you're not kind of encouraging people to act more as Takers versus Givers. And then finally create an environment where you're not just recognizing good behavior or giving behavior, but you're actually rewarding it.So, some companies like GitLab have actually started things like micro bonuses, where in addition to the bonus structures or the compensation structures that you get from your boss, other people around you can actually reward you based on your giving behavior. Because that's really important. You're not just recognizing it in like kind of shout outs or things like that, but you're actually rewarding this behavior. So, you're incentivizing people to continue doing it. The final thing I want to call out is that you can do as much as you can once you have people at an organization to incentivize giving behavior. But you can also kind of integrate this into your hiring process. Which means bringing in people who are more naturally Givers.So, Adam Grant mentions in his book. This is directly from Give and Take where he, during the hiring process asks this question, can you give me the names of four people whose careers you have fundamentally improved? And the idea here is that people who are Givers tend to mention either people at the same level as them or below them in terms of the people that they've helped.And it's a natural response. Of course, this is again, not quite scientific versus Takers, tend to mention people that are above them. That they've helped, because again, there's this nature of people who are Takers, trying to get ahead and using things like status to get ahead. So, something to keep in mind as well as you're hiring.So, the second example that I want to go through is from Algorithms to Live By. Again, excellent book. This is a book where basically they take principles from software development or software engineering and use it to help us think through problems that are outside of that scope. So, things like Cashing Theory or Kneeling or making intractable problems tractable.The one that I want to talk about today is Game Theory. So, in Game Theory, I'm not going to go into depth, but it's this idea that within a game, there are certain rules. And within those rules, they incentivize people to act a certain way. And once a game is predefined, you tend to get to this equilibrium where all the players individually are acting their own best interest.But sometimes the kind of aggregate of those actions actually may result in outcomes that are worse for everyone. Again, depending on the rules that were set for that game. And this equilibrium that I'm specifically talking about is called the Nash Equilibrium. And it's this idea again, there's this kind of long definition and talks about a stable state.The idea here is the Nash Equilibrium is within an environment within a game. It's the outcome or the optimal state, where there's no incentive for any individual to deviate. Now, this may not sound super actionable. So let me give you a precise example of what I'm talking about. So, with remote work, a lot of remote first companies tend to go with unlimited vacation.And I think this is something that probably more companies will end up moving towards as well. But something you keep in mind here is the Nash Equilibrium of unlimited vacation approaches, zero days. And the reason for this it's a little counterintuitive because you think unlimited vacation sounds amazing. Sounds like a great perk. Well, what happens with unlimited vacation is that people look to be perceived as more loyal, more committed, more dedicated than their peers. And therefore, they look to take just slightly less vacation than their peers. And what happens is a cascading effect, which approaches zero.This is actual data from Buffer's Data Remote Report from 2019, where you can see in blue, the amount of vacation offered, and then in orange, the amount of vacation that was actually taken. So, you can see around 30, 35% of people had unlimited vacation. And if you look at how that's actually distributed, most of the people who had unlimited vacation took anywhere from no vacation to two weeks' vacation. Versus the people who had, you know, six weeks, five weeks, four weeks were likely to actually take that amount of vacation.So, what is my point here? Well, in Game Theory is this idea where basically you have a game and then those rules are set for the game. And then you just see what behaviors actually emerge from those given set of rules. Well, I think with remote work, we have to be a lot more intentional about not just kind of throwing rules out there, again, kind of redefining our box and, and not just taking a box that already exists. And you can do that through Mechanism Design, which is kind of flipping that script and saying, what are the behaviors that we actually want and what rules do we need to establish to actually generate those behaviors? So kind of again, reversing the question and figuring out what behaviors you want to incentivize. And then figuring out what rules need to be in place to actually achieve that.As I mentioned, the box has changed, the game has changed. So, here's a couple examples of things that people struggle with from the same report, when they're working remotely. It's things like unplugging, loneliness, distractions, culture, and communication. If you were to ask the same question to people who are working in an, in an office, these would not be the case, which shows us the game has changed. The problems have changed. The things that we're solving for have changed and therefore you must come up with rules or incentives so that people act in their own best interest. So again, you're thinking backwards. You're asking the question, what are the KPIs that you need to actively design to encourage people to, for example, have a work life balance outside of just the freedom to define their own. And this is really important because it sounds counterintuitive to say a I'm actually going to define more rules. Because flexibility sounds like a great perk or sounds like a great thing to have. But actually, you can help your employees in certain situations to actually help them again, this idea of building their own box.Something I want to call out here is again, is Wall Street, which is again, the most like capitalist type environment there is, has mandatory off hours. So that brokers don't push themselves to their Nash Equilibrium, which would be the sleepless equilibrium, where they're constantly trading. So, you have to think backwards and figure out how to design an environment that people succeed in.Quick couple examples before we move on to the third example. The third book are things like a minimum vacation policy, mandatory days that they must take off, allowing people to take back their calendars and actually block off significant parts so that they're not encountering what people call Calendar Tetris. I like this example from Keith, I don't know Keith personally, and this was pre COVID.But basically, he decided to close his office on Friday. Simple things like this, where he basically said it's a mandatory weekend. You are not allowed to work, even though it seems strange in a digital environment. And I'm giving you 50 bucks to go eat at your favorite restaurant. So, think about how you are intentionally designing systems for your employees.Finally, third example that I'll breeze through is the Four Tendencies. And I'll caveat this example with this quote directly from Gretchen Rubin, the author that says the happiest, healthiest, most productive people aren't those from a particular tendency, but rather the people who have figured out how to harness the strengths of their tendency, counteract the weaknesses, and build lives that work for them.So, what is the Four Tendencies? It's this idea that there as it sounds like four tendencies. Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, and Rebel. Now these two highlighted in green are not highlighted, because they're the best. As Gretchen said in that quote, it's just that they're they are the most common. Now the Four Tendencies is basically a two-by-two framework, which identifies how people respond to expectations or accountability.So, do they readily meet outer expectations? Do they readily meet inner expectations? Do they resist both of them or do they kind of fluctuate towards or air towards one or the other? So, I personally am a Questioner. I resist outer expectations and I meet inner expectations. To give a quick example, if I wanted to get fit, having a gym buddy as an outer expectation expecting me to show up that actually wouldn't help me. And that actually is something that I've tried to do throughout my life. Hasn't worked. Meanwhile, something like actually understanding the science behind why I should be fit or kind of convincing myself that my identity, or I want to be the type of person who, you know, respects their health. That works for me. So as a Questioner, I meet inner expectations. I resist outer expectations.Now I did a poll on Twitter a while ago, got around 400 votes from people who had been working remotely again, pre COVID. And it was interesting to see that the most popular tendencies among this again, non-scientific poll were Questioners and Rebels, and I thought, huh, that's interesting.If you remember questioners and obligers for the most common in the overall population with remote workers, or at least those who sought out remote work. Where questioners and rebels with the, the familiarity or the common thread here is that they both resist outer expectations. I thought that was really interesting.And I think that relates to this idea that there's a level of self-selection or misalignment with outer expectations of society, of people trying to at least identify their own work norms, identify their own vision or how they can actually build something, build their own box. And this isn't again, mean that they're more successful or less successful.It's just perhaps that they actively sought out this type of environment. Now, what's the takeaway here. This is a brief section compared to the other two, but it's the idea that people actually respond differently to inner and outer accountability. We used to have everyone in an office and that didn't necessarily work with everyone.Now we have everyone remote that doesn't necessarily work for everyone. So, I think the idea here is that leaders need to actually learn past, just the high level this person is good at these skills. This person is good at these skills. This is my top player. This is my, you know, less valuable player. And more so think about how to tailor their leadership stylers to figure out how to motivate their employees. Whether they're in a remote environment or not. But especially if you're in a remote environment, how do you incentivize, if we just quickly go back, how do you incentivize Upholders and Obligers when Questioners and Rebels tend to naturally seek out this environment?And on the flip side, if you're in an office, how do you naturally incentivize Questioners and Rebels so that they're motivated when Upholders and Obligers may more naturally fit into those traditional environments. So just something to consider. Right. This is the final slide I have, and I know we're running out of times, but the idea here is just, again, there are certain things or certain ways that humans tend to interact in, in an person environment.And they don't necessarily act the same ways in a remote environment. And in particular, they may not even act in ways that benefit themselves all the time. So, we must as leaders, if you're leading a team, if you're leading a company, It's good to consider some of these things and figure out A: How do I encourage Giving through discovering, hiring, promoting, and acknowledging and rewarding as I said before Givers. How do I select incentives or develop the right systems so that we're using Mechanism Design and not just throwing people into a game and hoping that they choose the best outcomes that are best for them or best for everyone?And then finally, how do we actually learn about our people past the face value in terms of their skills and figure out how to harness their unique strengths, whether they're in an in-person environment or a remote environment. If you want to find me, or if you have questions, happy to answer them now, but you're also welcome to email me or DM me on Twitter and that is it.Brian Ardinger: That's it for another episode of Inside Outside Innovation. 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Whether it's eating healthier, getting exercise, starting a meditation practice or staying socially connected, figuring out what to do to be happy might be simple – but actually doing these things and living in a way that lets us experience happiness is much harder. When we know there are things we can do that will make us healthier and happier, why do we struggle to actually do them? Why do we get caught in a cycle of chasing happiness instead of choosing joy, even when we know better? This is what Gretchen Rubin wanted to understand when she began studying happiness and why people form the habits they do. It turns out that it has everything to do with how we relate to expectations. Gretchen discovered that there are four different “tendencies” that tell us how different people approach habits and expectations – whether we question expectations, comply with expectations, rebel against expectations or uphold them from within. We are born with our tendency and there's no right or wrong way to be, but our ability to pursue happiness and form habits is directly connected to which tendency we're wired with. In this episode, Gretchen describes each of the four tendencies in detail and ways to work with your type to go after the life you want. She also talks about habit formation and the different approaches to starting a new habit, so you can figure out which one works best for you! This is so fascinating and has major implications for how we structure our lives, how we work with each other in business and relationships and so much more! Listen to discover: Concrete steps we can take to start boosting our happiness The "four tendencies" personality framework The Upholder, The Obliger, The Questioner and The Rebel – four different ways we all respond to inner and outer expectations How your tendency impacts how you form habits How to overcome resistance and work with your tendency to be as successful and happy as possible Misconceptions about happiness and techniques to form better habits Though it's true that everyone is different in terms of what makes us happy, we're also all different in how we get to the things that make us happy. When we understand our wiring, we can overcome resistance and set ourselves up to achieve the life we want, in a way that is uniquely ours. "Our physical experience is always going to color our emotional experience." - Gretchen Rubin   "The key to happiness is relationships." - Gretchen Rubin   "Don't suit other people. Suit yourself." - Gretchen Rubin   "I'm a big believer in the genetic roots of personality." - Gretchen Rubin   "We can work with each other to help us all achieve our aims, but sometimes we have to provide a different way from what would work for us." - Gretchen Rubin   "Your communication style would change once you know this."  - Michelle Chalfant   "Happier people are more interested in the problems of the world." - Gretchen Rubin   "You have to take care of yourself. You have to put yourself first." - Michelle Chalfant   "When you're not indulging in a temptation, it goes away." - Gretchen Rubin   LINKS & RESOURCES Gretchen Rubin Website https://gretchenrubin.com/   Happier Podcast (Gretchen Rubin podcast) https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/   Gretchen Rubin Books https://gretchenrubin.com/books/   The Four Tendencies Quiz https://gretchenrubin.com/fourtendencies   The Happier App https://the-happiness-project.com/pages/happier-app   Gretchen Rubin Facebook https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin   Gretchen Rubin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/   Gretchen Rubin LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchenrubin   Adult Chair® Coaches https://theadultchair.com/coaches/   MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification     STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

No matter what role you play in your relationship, you are sure to fall under one of four tendencies.  In this episode the DCU Crew dives into Gretchen Rubin's The Four Tendencies.  Know someone's tendency in a relationship and even work relationship will help you understand that person and their point of view.  So are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel?  Take this quiz to find out:  https://quiz.gretchenrubin.com/