Podcast appearances and mentions of Kathleen Smith

We're sharing a episode from another N2K show we thought you might like. It's the third episode of the new season of the show CISO Perspectives with Kim Jones. Enjoy! Show Notes: While the cybersecurity industry has expanded and grown in recent years, newcomers still struggle to gain relevant "experience" before officially beginning their cyber careers. In this episode of CISO Perspectives, host Kim Jones sits down with Kathleen Smith, the Chief Outreach Officer at clearedjobs.net and the co-host of Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How, to discuss this dilemma and what new entrants can do to account for these difficulties. Throughout the conversation, Kathleen and Kim will discuss the challenges associated with entry-level cyber positions, how to gain meaningful experience, and how the industry as a whole contributes to this problem. Want more CISO Perspectives?: Check out a companion ⁠blog post⁠ by our very own Ethan Cook, where he breaks down key insights, shares behind-the-scenes context, and highlights research that complements this episode. It's the perfect follow-up if you're curious about the cyber talent crunch and how we can reshape the ecosystem for future professionals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast guests.4:55 Candidate experience will be key in 2025. 81% of candidates will share a positive experience, 67% will share a negative experience.11:56 Return to office challenges.17:28 Employee engagement, internal mobility, and career growth.Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/cleared-recruiting-challenges-final-thoughts-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

In this episode of Game Changers for Government Contractors, host Michael LeJeune welcomes Kathleen Smith from ClearedJobs.Net to discuss the biggest recruiting challenges in the government contracting space. Kathleen shares insights from her new Cleared Recruiting Challenges newsletter and podcast, highlighting top hiring challenges such as SCIF stress, salary competitiveness, and candidate engagement. They also explore solutions, including improving employer branding, offering workplace flexibility, and building stronger candidate relationships. If you're struggling to find and retain top talent in the cleared community, this episode provides practical strategies to help you stand out in a competitive hiring market. ----- Frustrated with your government contracting journey? Join our group coaching community here: federal-access.com/gamechangers Grab my #1 bestselling book, "I'm New to Government Contract. Where Should I Start?" Here: https://amzn.to/4hHLPeE Book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/michaellejeune/govconstrategysession

What does it mean to live a fully integrated life in Christ? Lisa and Steve Cuss return to do a deeper dive into some of the profound themes that have emerged in recent episodes of Being Human. They reflect on what it means to be bewildered by God, as Zach Meerkreebs experienced during the Asbury Outpouring. They unpack Kathleen Smith's definition of differentiation and Eugene Cho's challenge to focus on one global need while championing others in their callings. The conversation also delves into Steve Carter's reflections on grief and the ways loss has shaped their own journeys of faith. Tune in for a thoughtful, hope-filled conversation on living whole lives in Christ. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Glenn Packiam “Authentic Love and The Asbury Outpouring with Zach Meerkreebs” “How to Be ‘True to You' with Kathleen Smith” “Eugene Cho's Guide to Mercy Over Burnout” “Revisiting ‘Grieve, Breathe, Receive' with Steve Carter” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does it mean to live a fully integrated life in Christ? Lisa and Steve Cuss return to do a deeper dive into some of the profound themes that have emerged in recent episodes of Being Human. They reflect on what it means to be bewildered by God, as Zach Meerkreebs experienced during the Asbury Outpouring. They unpack Kathleen Smith's definition of differentiation and Eugene Cho's challenge to focus on one global need while championing others in their callings. The conversation also delves into Steve Carter's reflections on grief and the ways loss has shaped their own journeys of faith. Tune in for a thoughtful, hope-filled conversation on living whole lives in Christ. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Glenn Packiam “Authentic Love and The Asbury Outpouring with Zach Meerkreebs” “How to Be ‘True to You' with Kathleen Smith” “Eugene Cho's Guide to Mercy Over Burnout” “Revisiting ‘Grieve, Breathe, Receive' with Steve Carter” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast guests.1:23 Survey by ClearedJobs.Net: 49% of cleared professionals said they are open to all opportunities, cleared or not. Another 30% said they would take a non-cleared position if it were remote.2:36 Increase in DOD clearance holders who are not using them.4:30 Veteran talent pool needs to be captured. Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/cleared-recruiting-challenges-building-a-better-pipeline-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

In this episode we welcome Kathleen Smith, CMO of ClearedJobs.net, to discuss the current state of the cybersecurity job market. Kathleen shares her extensive experience in the field, recounting her tenure in various cybersecurity events and her contributions to job market research and recruiting. She discusses challenges such as distinguishing between genuine workforce shortages and […] The post Careers in Cybersecurity: Myths and Realities with Kathleen Smith appeared first on Shared Security Podcast.

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast guests.3:38 Jada Fowler at DTSI – tips on organization and discipline.13:13 Martha Schneegans at ManTech – strategy for filling a difficult skill set. 16:25 Adam Fife at CenCore – develop and clear talent at the university level.Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/cleared-recruiting-challenges-skills-and-clearance-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

Where does your energy go?  That's the question therapist and author Kathleen Smith ponders with Steve Cuss as they discuss anxiety, people-pleasing, and playfulness. Their conversation covers the way people turn to relationships for comfort and the importance of recognizing our finite nature as humans. They talk about systems theory and how it shapes Smith's therapy practice.  Smith and Cuss discuss the ups and downs of gossip, the power of intergenerational connections, and the intention it takes to shift from overfunctioning to resting in God. Resources mentioned in this episode: Kathleen Smith True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself by Kathleen Smith Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down by Kathleen Smith The Anxious Overachiever Bowen Family Systems Theory Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Where does your energy go?  That's the question therapist and author Kathleen Smith ponders with Steve Cuss as they discuss anxiety, people-pleasing, and playfulness. Their conversation covers the way people turn to relationships for comfort and the importance of recognizing our finite nature as humans. They talk about systems theory and how it shapes Smith's therapy practice.  Smith and Cuss discuss the ups and downs of gossip, the power of intergenerational connections, and the intention it takes to shift from overfunctioning to resting in God. Resources mentioned in this episode: Kathleen Smith True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself by Kathleen Smith Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down by Kathleen Smith The Anxious Overachiever Bowen Family Systems Theory Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Kathleen Smith has a fascination with people-pleasing: why we do it, why it’s hard to shake, and how to actually break free from it. She is a licensed therapist, expert on relationship systems, and author of “Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down” as well as “True to You: A Therapist’s Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Starting Being Yourself.” She breaks down some practical tips for understanding the disease to please and why birth order has a lot to do with it! She also writes a newsletter called “The Anxious Overachiever” which you can subscribe to here: https://theanxiousoverachiever.substack.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast guests.9:28 Make sure there is good communication between the program desk and the contractor desk. 11:11 Amy Rau with Shield Consulting shared the importance of setting expectations up front appropriately.14:03 Communication with Business Development teams is critical and you have insight that they need to understand. 20:51 Understand why you're hiring managers are rejecting resumes. Ask why.Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/cleared-recruiting-challenges-effective-communication-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

Part 1 - Neville James is joined by Kathleen Smith and Delrice Steve. On Friday, January 17, 2025, Parent University invites all community stakeholders on the island of St. John to an introductory meeting at 5:30 p.m. at the St. John School of the Arts.

Every human has three core relationships: to themselves, to others, and to God. Within those relationships, there are four dynamics that can infect them: assumptions, reactivity, predictable recurring patterns, and attempted solutions.  Listen in as Steve and Lisa Cuss start a conversation that explores these relationships and dynamics throughout 2025. The couple provides a high-level overview of each relationship and dynamic, setting the stage for upcoming episodes that will take deeper dives. They consider what the Lord's Prayer and the Book of Job have to say about who we understand God and ourselves to be. Steve also gives a preview of guests soon to appear on Being Human, including Zach Meerkreebs, Kathleen Smith, and Ian Morgan Cron. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Epiphany “It's Friday But Sunday's Comin! - Tony Campolo” Zach Meerkreebs Ian Morgan Cron Kathleen Smith Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs by Steve Cuss  The Expectation Gap:, The Tiny Vast Space between Our Beliefs & Our Experience of God by Steve Cuss Capable Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every human has three core relationships: to themselves, to others, and to God. Within those relationships, there are four dynamics that can infect them: assumptions, reactivity, predictable recurring patterns, and attempted solutions.  Listen in as Steve and Lisa Cuss start a conversation that explores these relationships and dynamics throughout 2025. The couple provides a high-level overview of each relationship and dynamic, setting the stage for upcoming episodes that will take deeper dives. They consider what the Lord's Prayer and the Book of Job have to say about who we understand God and ourselves to be. Steve also gives a preview of guests soon to appear on Being Human, including Zach Meerkreebs, Kathleen Smith, and Ian Morgan Cron. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Epiphany “It's Friday But Sunday's Comin! - Tony Campolo” Zach Meerkreebs Ian Morgan Cron Kathleen Smith Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs by Steve Cuss  The Expectation Gap:, The Tiny Vast Space between Our Beliefs & Our Experience of God by Steve Cuss Capable Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join The Leader's Journey team as they explore what it means to ride the waevs of reactivity and and how those waves have shaped their experiences and goals to improve.  a reflective conversation about reactivity—how it shows up in our lives, how we manage it, and what we're learning in the process. Tricia and the team explore personal stories of how they've navigated emotional waves in their own lives—from time management struggles to family dynamics and professional challenges. With reflections from team members Jim Herrington, Rick Rarick, Dawn Bird, Chad Jaeger, and Edie Lenz, this episode offers practical wisdom for anyone looking to stay grounded amidst life's inevitable anxieties and lead with greater awareness and intention. Conversation Overview Jim Herrington on Asking for Help Rick Rarick on learning to adapt Dawn Bird on Feeling, Acknowledging, and Managing Reactivity Chad Jaeger on Letting Other People Grow Edie Lenz on Learning to Stand Still and Wait   References Kathleen Smith:  Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxieties and Finally Calm Down    True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself    Kathleen Smith's substack The Anxious Overachiever   Oliver Burkeman: Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast guests.1:50 Being known can be a challenge for smaller and even mid-sized companies in a crowded security-cleared community.7:49 75% of job seekers research an organization's reputation before applying for a job. 8:12 A strong brand reduces hiring and retention costs by 50%.21:11 User your employee base to help promote your brand in the community. Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/cleared-recruiting-challenges-build-brand-reputation-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast guests.6:56 Candidates are 5x more likely to click on a job posting that features a clear pay range.13:25 Stephanie Lovett with Leidos said looking at the overall compensation package and the importance of the mission can often overcome higher salaries offered in the commercial sector.14:55 Better articulate your unique value proposition to your current as well as prospective employees.Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/cleared-recruiting-challenges-show-me-the-money-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast.3:51 Sell candidates on benefits of location.4:33 Do you have support for the spouse getting a position in the new location?8:18 CBRE Global Survey found more than half of urban millennials would consider relocating to a small- or medium-sized city.Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/finding-talent-for-roles-in-diverse-locations-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast.2:55 Employees are four times more likely to feel more engaged and make a difference if there is a good culture fit. They're five times more likely to give a referral to the company.  4:39 SHRM study said organizations that don't have a good culture fit with an employee means you're losing about 50-60% of that person's annual salary. 7:58 Scott with Chameleon Consulting Group says, “It's a race to the right person.” Put the emphasis on the human.Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/finding-the-right-culture-fit-in-cleared-recruiting-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast.11:03 A ClearedJobs.Net survey shows that when deciding between two or more job offers, the top influencer was salary and benefits at 47%. 29% said remote.16:05 Ask why your candidates want to work remotely.22:40 The agency or customer drives the flexible work availability so it's up to the employee to build a relationship with the agency which may lead to more flexibility.Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/getting-candidates-onsite-and-managing-scif-stress-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

Linda Weiner and Kathleen Smith, founders of Breathe Better STL, join Megan and Tom to share their concerns about air pollution that they allege is coming from the Metro East. They say their complaints to the EPA have not been addressed.

In this special recruiter-focused series, our hosts Kathleen Smith and Rachel Bozeman discuss lessons learned from our Security Cleared Jobs: Who's Hiring & How podcast guests.5:13 Dorion Baker shared the importance of long-term relationships and nurturing cleared talent.9:54 Jess Mathias of Core4ce calls candidates at every stage of the process. 13:58 Katie Sargent with Two Six Technologies includes the entire candidate process on their website to provide clarity to candidates. 14:29 Toni Johnson with GD Mission Systems talked about really taking a critical eye to your application process and focusing on how many hurdles are you putting in the way. Find complete show notes at: https://clearedjobs.net/candidate-engagement-experience-and-excellence-podcast/_ This show is brought to you by ClearedJobs.Net. Have feedback or questions for us? Email us at rriggins@clearedjobs.net. Sign up for our cleared job seeker newsletter. Create a cleared job seeker profile on ClearedJobs.Net. Engage with us on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, X, or YouTube. _

Kelly welcomes Dr. Kathleen Smith back to the podcast. Dr. Smith is a licensed therapist and associate faculty member of the Bowen Center for Study of the Family. She is the author of “Everything Isn't Terrible.” Her new book is called “True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself.”  “We look […]

In this episode, Amy Smith, owner of the Saratoga Arms Hotel, and Rachel Paley, the hotel's general manager, share how they've implemented a variable pay program based on the concept of yield management to address staffing challenges.Listeners will learn:How the variable pay program at Saratoga Arms Hotel was developed and implemented (03:54)The impact of the variable pay program on employee morale, recruitment, and retention (08:14)Advice for others considering implementing a similar program (09:47)Additional benefits and programs offered to employees at Saratoga Arms Hotel (10:54)Also see:The "Concierge Hotel": How We Personalize Experiences - Amy Smith and Kathleen Smith, Saratoga Arms HotelCould revenue management solve hospitality's labor shortage? (Dr Cindy Heo at EHL)A few more resources: If you're new to Hospitality Daily, start here. You can send me a message here with questions, comments, or guest suggestions If you want to get my summary and actionable insights from each episode delivered to your inbox each day, subscribe here for free. Follow Hospitality Daily and join the conversation on YouTube, LinkedIn, and Instagram. If you want to advertise on Hospitality Daily, here are the ways we can work together. If you found this episode interesting or helpful, send it to someone on your team so you can turn the ideas into action and benefit your business and the people you serve! Music for this show is produced by Clay Bassford of Bespoke Sound: Music Identity Design for Hospitality Brands

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a therapist, author and faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. In this final segment of our discussion, we discuss how a leader manages healthy connection, what progress looks like and Kathleen's take on societal anxiety. Show Notes: ⁠Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down⁠ ⁠True To You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself⁠ ⁠The Anxious Overachiever | Kathleen Smith | Substack⁠ Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠ email newsletter

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a therapist, author and faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. In this episode, we discuss the importance of mini-steps, the nature of doing your own work, why connection matters in leadership and the anxiety of progress. Show Notes: ⁠Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down⁠ ⁠True To You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself⁠ ⁠The Anxious Overachiever | Kathleen Smith | Substack⁠ Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠ email newsletter

In this episode Irvine and Bridgette continue their interview Kathleen Smith author of True to You!

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a therapist, author and faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. In this episode, we discuss managing anxiety, embracing discomfort and how overfunctioning and underfunctioning are related. Show Notes: Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down True To You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself The Anxious Overachiever | Kathleen Smith | Substack Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a therapist, author and faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. In this episode, she shares how she got into Bowen Theory, as well as suggestions for how people can do their own family of origin work. Show Notes: Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down True To You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself The Anxious Overachiever | Kathleen Smith | Substack Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Would you like your life to be less focused on others' reactions and more informed by your own principles? Would you like to stop feeling responsible for the experiences of others? This week I talk to therapist and author Dr Kathleen Smith about how to stop pleasing other people, find your authentic self, and, in the process, become less anxious and develop richer relationships. We cover: Identifying relationship patterns that keep you stuck.  Relying less on praise and approval from others.  Building a solid sense of self in anxious times.  Building more authentic and rewarding relationships.  Subscriber Content This Week If you're a subscriber to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Patreon), this week you'll be hearing: What is your anxiety language? AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Get Andrew's free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things  Take a look at Andrew's new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools  Read Kathleen Smith's new book True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself  Read Kathleen Smith's other books, Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down and The Fangirl Life: A Guide to All the Feels and Learning How to Deal. Read and/or subscribe to Kathleen Smith's Substack, The Anxious Overachiever Take a look at Kathleen Smith's website  Follow Kathleen Smith on Twitter @fangirltherapy and on Facebook @kathleensmithwrites Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall 

In this episode Irvine and Bridgette interview Kathleen Smith author of True to You!

Our last episode before our summer break is one of the first guests our listeners asked us to have on the show! We had the absolute pleasure of talking to DR. KATHLEEN SMITH, a licensed therapist and writer who lives in Washington, DC. Her books include Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down, as well as her latest book, True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself.  Today we're talking about anxiety through the lens of how it functions in relation to others and how you can manage different forms of anxious behavior within relationships. We cover the three As that manifest because of anxiety -- Avoiding, accommodating, and acting out -- and imagine what it would be like to let that go and be yourself and let other people be the same. We discuss how we can get stuck in patterns and what it takes to break out of them while dealing with the accompanying uncomfortableness. We also talk about the impact of over-functioning and under-functioning roles in relationships and how we are responsible TO someone and not FOR them. Such an important distinction! DOWNLOAD TRANSCRIPT HERE: https://braaainspodcast.com/s/Braaains-Podcast-Transcript-Ep060-Exploring-Family-Dramas-and-How-Anxiety-Manifests-in-Relationships.pdf ORDER True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/195790863-true-to-you Contact us: BraaainsPodcast.com Follow: @BraaainsPodcast Music: @_Deppisch_ Support this show: Patreon.com/BraaainsPodcast

In many marriages, there are people that feel like they do far more than their share of the relationship work, but why do they tend to take on the responsibility of their spouse's share of the relationship, especially in stressful situations?   Intimate marriages are like a system like an air conditioning and heating system in your home. It works hard to keep things at an even temperature or homeostasis. When the temperature gets too high, the air conditioning kicks on to cool things down, and when the temperature gets too low, the heater kicks on to heat things up. So it's a system, a way of keeping things normal and functioning in  a environment where people can live.   When there's stress and anxiety in the relationship, one person may tend to be com overly responsible for the relationship to calm the other person down, to bring the relationship back into homeostasis. This is called the over-functioning / under-functioning dynamic. And it shows up in sex too. If you've ever said to yourself, "If I wasn't the person to always initiate sex here, nothing would ever happen," this could be a sign that you're an over-functioner in your sexual relationship.   My guest on this episode, Dr. Kathleen Smith, is a world renowned expert on systems theory and relationships. And this is her second time on my podcast (her first appearance was episode #45). She's the author of a new book, True to You, in which she discusses the overfunctioning under-functioning dynamic in relationships and how to fix it, and that is also the topic of our discussion today.  If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

It's SO SO EASY for creatives to get caught up in chasing after praise and approval to boost their own mood and productivity. How can we spend less energy "borrowing self" from other people's reactions, and more energy pursuing what's important to us? KJ asks Kathleen Smith, author of True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself, to help us find our true writer-selves at all the moments when all the other opinions and demands and pseudo-beliefs beckon. The goal? Hanging up a mental sign that says “currently closed to imaginary commentary.” Kathleen Smith PhD, LPC is an author, licensed therapist, and expert on relationship systems with degrees from Harvard University and The George Washington University. She is the author of Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down, a funny, practical guide that breaks down psychotherapy concepts into accessible stories of change and True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Starting Being Yourself.She also writes a weekly therapy newsletter, The Anxious Overachiever, —and clearly we all need THAT. #AmReadingKathleen: Wild Rituals, Caitlin O'ConnellKJ: The Creative Pragmatist, Amy Smilovic (largely unobtainable, so check out her Substack here.)Find Kathleen via her website, Facebook, or InstagramAre you a “sticker”?Regular listeners know that whenever we meet our writing goals around here, we text each other one word: STICKER. (and then we add a cute sticker to our calendar, because we're fun like that).We call supporters of the #AmWriting podcast “stickers” too—and while our regular podcasts and shownotes go out to all of our listeners, we have created a few things just for stickers. First, there's the Summer Blueprint for a Book Sprint—10 weeks dedicated to working with coaches and a community to figure out how to turn your next idea—or your struggling draft—into the book you want to write. You can join it anytime (the how-to is below).Stickers can also submit the first page of their WIP to the Booklab First Pages podcast, where we might choose it to discuss, review and offer ideas for persuading agents, editors and readers that they want to turn that page and see what happens next. (Find the link to submit a first page HERE.)I'm a sticker! Give it all to me now.To join the Blueprint for a Book Summer Sprint, you must be a paid subscriber. Then, opt-in and set up your podcast feed. Don't worry, it's simple! Click here to go to your #AmWriting account, and when you see this screen, do two things:* Toggle “Blueprint for a Book” from “off” (grey) to “on” (green).* Click “set up podcast” next to Blueprint for a Book and follow the easy instructions.Once you set those things up, you'll get all the future Blueprint emails and podcasts (and if you're joining the party a bit late, just head to our website and click on Blueprint for a Book in the top menu). This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amwriting.substack.com/subscribe

If you fall into certain people-pleasing behaviors at work, we have news: it's not just an individual problem. Kathleen Smith, therapist and author of the new book True to You, explains how relationships, family ghosts, and systems inform our behavior in all kinds of ways, both inside and outside of the workplace. She explains how family systems theory is a helpful frame in this context, and how people can break out of their people-pleasing ways.  Check out Kathleen's book: https://www.amazon.com/True-You-Therapists-Pleasing-Yourself-ebook/dp/B0CGRYFPNL

The episode discusses the importance of a strong sense of self in maintaining sexual desire in relationships. It emphasizes the need to focus on oneself rather than relying on others for validation and approval. The hosts share a story of a couple who experienced sexual desire problems due to their underdeveloped sense of self. They provide steps for strengthening one's sense of self, including observing, evaluating, and interrupting automatic behaviors. The hosts recommend the book 'Everything Isn't Terrible' by Dr. Kathleen Smith as a resource for further exploration.Values Course “Sync Up: Aligning Values & Vision For Lasting Love” is now available! Get registered here: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/in-sync-together-aligning-values--visionTakeawaysA strong sense of self is crucial for maintaining sexual desire in relationships.Focusing on oneself rather than relying on others for validation and approval is important.Observing, evaluating, and interrupting automatic behaviors can help strengthen one's sense of self.The book 'Everything Isn't Terrible' by Dr. Kathleen Smith is a recommended resource for further exploration.Chapters00:00 Introduction: The Role of Sense of Self in Sexual Desire18:32 The Impact of an Underdeveloped Sense of Self on Sexual Desire29:19 Steps for Strengthening Sense of Self37:22 Conclusion: Observing, Evaluating, and InterruptingFollow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en#sexualempowerment #relationship #marriage #validation #mature #emotionalintelligence #desire

Self-differentiation has a certain "Zen-ness" to it that I think is worth exploring. Here is my take. Show Notes: Seeing People as They Are - by Kathleen Smith (substack.com) What do Zen Buddhists Believe? (zen-buddhism.net) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

You know that feeling of growing apart from your spouse over the years, where intimacy and passion seem to fade into the background as life gets busy?In this episode, Robert and Sharla join Hailey Babcock of The Body Pod to provide a glimpse of hope in their discussion of rebuilding sex, intimacy, and friendship in marriage. They share from their own experience turning things around after a rough patch, and offer practical steps like establishing daily rituals, prioritizing quality time together, and learning each other's love languages to rekindle that closeness. Reconnecting at the deepest level will require developing self-awareness and emotional maturity to be truly vulnerable with your partner - this will allow intimacy to blossom once again.Resources Mentioned In This Episode:Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch - https://a.co/d/4CPF8UkIntimacy & Desire by Dr. David Schnarch - https://a.co/d/4f6r0hI The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman - https://a.co/d/4Z4rsZI Everything Isn't Terrible by Kathleen Smith - https://a.co/d/9if0o30 MYM Resources:8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - ​​https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsBecome FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Connect with Hailey Babcock:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/haileyhappensfitness?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriageTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

Over a coffee in community arts space The Place in Newport, south Wales, The Food Programme presenters Sheila Dillon, Leyla Kazim and Dan Saladino choose two books each from the year: one that has made them cook, and one that has made them think. Sheila also meets George Harris, creative director of Tin Shed Theatre Company, to hear why food has become part of their work, and leaf through a very special cookbook that has been passed down through George's family.Wondering what the next generation makes of food books, Sheila visits a group of young food activists from the organisation Bite Back 2030, to debate one of the top food books of this year - Henry Dimbleby's Ravenous. Meeting at Bite Back HQ, in north London, they also discuss whether TikTok spells the end of an era for recipe books and share their own recommended reads.Dropping in on cookbook buyer at Topping books in Bath, Kathleen Smith, we find out what's been selling this year and how trends vary according to region. Plus, scattered throughout, we hear the personal book recommendations from best-selling food writers and chefs including Rukmini Iyer, Poppy O'Toole and other familiar faces, picking their own favourite new releases from 2023.Presented by Sheila Dillon and produced by Nina Pullman for BBC Audio in Bristol.

 Many in the U.S. this week are celebrating the holiday of Thanksgiving - which, unfortunately for many, can mean difficult conversations with family about money, politics, and even the past. At a time when old habits can re-emerge for people, host Morra Aarons-Mele revisits a conversation with Kathleen Smith about family systems theory. The role we played in our family of origin shapes how we show up as a leader and colleague. Smith is a writer, therapist, and associate faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.

“Needing may feel like wanting, but it comes from the worst in us. It comes from a poorly developed sense of self, where we need our partner to soothe our anxiety, boost our ego, and constantly agree with us.” - SharlaOuch, that hurts, doesn't it? We all know that being called “needy” comes with a negative connotation. But you're not needy, right? You're just expressing your preferences and your desires…Well, let's see how many times we've probably been guilty of turning our wants into a NEED…Have you ever:Stayed angry and miserable so you can keep your partner miserable?People-pleased yourself into resentment when you're not getting praised for your deeds?Required tons of praise and compliments to feel loved?Withheld doing something until your partner did their part?Don't worry, it's in all of us. We all want to be wanted. But when we don't get what we want, it can become a slippery slope for Need to come bursting in making demands.The good news is, there's a way to overcome the neediness and mature into loving relationships that honor both individuals involved. Tune in to learn how.“This is also why the level of intimacy you will have in your relationship WILL be directly correlated to how much discomfort you can handle.” - Robert SnowIn this Episode:- Needing vs. Wanting- Examples of neediness- How Wanting differs from Needing- How to know if you're wanting or needing- Disillusionment — really knowing your partner- Love is about choosing- How to shift your needs to wants and choosingResources Mentioned In This Episode:Everything isn't Terrible by Dr. Kathleen Smith https://a.co/d/ilXvpfg MYM Resources:8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - ​​https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsBecome FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriageTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

Dr Kathleen Smith wrote one of my all time favorite Systems books called Everything Isn't Terrible. The book is brilliant, clear and witty and a great reflection of Kathleen herself.    Kathleen is a therapist in the DC area and her book gets us right into her therapy room as we follow along with her clients' journeys of healing and wellbeing. Kathleen also happens to write my favorite newsletter which you can access here.    In this episode, we dig into Bowen theory, the world of dating and why taking responsibility for yourself can be so helpful and also an occasional drag/   Thanks to Seminary Now for sponsoring this episode. To receive 30% off access, visit the MLA Seminary Now page and use coupon code CUSS30

Dr Kathleen Smith wrote one of my all time favorite Systems books called Everything Isn't Terrible. The book is brilliant, clear and witty and a great reflection of Kathleen herself.    Kathleen is a therapist in the DC area and her book gets us right into her therapy room as we follow along with her clients' journeys of healing and wellbeing. Kathleen also happens to write my favorite newsletter which you can access here.    In this episode, we dig into Bowen theory, the world of dating and why taking responsibility for yourself can be so helpful and also an occasional drag/   Thanks to Seminary Now for sponsoring this episode. To receive 30% off access, visit the MLA Seminary Now page and use coupon code CUSS30 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Laura and Sarah open with a discussion of things that evoke feelings of anxiety, and then Sarah interviews author and therapist Dr. Kathleen Smith who she connected with after reading her recent book, the aptly-named Everything Isn't Terrible. Dr. Smith discusses Bowen theory and offers many concrete suggestions for how we can manage anxiety about our families, in parenting, at work, and in a stressful news environment.In the Q&A, they address a listener trying to decide between school options for her child - one that might work better now vs a potential better long-term solution.Episode Sponsors:Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 -- the best diaper for active babies! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Laura and Sarah open with a discussion of things that evoke feelings of anxiety, and then Sarah interviews author and therapist Dr. Kathleen Smith who she connected with after reading her recent book, the aptly-named Everything Isn't Terrible. Dr. Smith discusses Bowen theory and offers many concrete suggestions for how we can manage anxiety about our families, in parenting, at work, and in a stressful news environment. In the Q&A, they address a listener trying to decide between school options for her child - one that might work better now vs a potential better long-term solution. Episode Sponsors: Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 -- the best diaper for active babies! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, the panel is first joined by Slate senior editor Sam Adams to review Past Lives, Celine Song's gentle yet affecting directorial debut. Then, Dana and Stephen dive into The Ultimatum: Queer Love with Slate's June Thomas. Finally, the trio debate the virtues of closed captioning, based on a recent piece by The Atlantic, “Why Is Everyone Watching TV With the Subtitles On?”  In the exclusive Slate Plus segment, Dana and Stephen are joined by Slate senior editor Rebecca Onion to discuss the ways therapy language has found its way into everyday conversations, inspired by The Rise of Therapy Speak (Katy Waldman, The New Yorker) and “‘Doing the Work' and the Obsession With Superficial Self-Improvement (Jessica Grose, The New York Times). Email us at culturefest@slate.com.  Endorsements: Stephen: A Hero of Our Time by Mikhail Lermontov — “An expression of Byronism as it reaches Russian shores.” Written in 1939 by one of the great Russian poets, A Hero of Our Time follows a nihilistic anti-hero on his many misadventures.  Dana: Everything Isn't Terrible by Dr. Kathleen Smith (Audio book) — To go with this week's Plus segment, Dana recommends this very good self help book. The audio book is partly narrated by the author Dr. Kathleen Smith, who works as a family systems therapist. June: Dykes to Watch Out For by Alison Bechdel (Audio series) — Based on the beautifully written comic strip, Dykes to Watch Out For is an Audible series adapted by Pulitzer Prize finalist Madeleine George that features voices from Roxane Gay, Jane Lynch, Carrie Brownstein, and more.    Outro music: “What We Didn't Do” by Particle House Podcast production by Cameron Drews. Production assistance by Kat Hong.  __ This Pride Month, make an impact by helping Macy's and The Trevor Project on their mission to fund life-saving suicide prevention services for LGBTQ youth. Go to macys.com/purpose to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, the panel is first joined by Slate senior editor Sam Adams to review Past Lives, Celine Song's gentle yet affecting directorial debut. Then, Dana and Stephen dive into The Ultimatum: Queer Love with Slate's June Thomas. Finally, the trio debate the virtues of closed captioning, based on a recent piece by The Atlantic, “Why Is Everyone Watching TV With the Subtitles On?”  In the exclusive Slate Plus segment, Dana and Stephen are joined by Slate senior editor Rebecca Onion to discuss the ways therapy language has found its way into everyday conversations, inspired by The Rise of Therapy Speak (Katy Waldman, The New Yorker) and “‘Doing the Work' and the Obsession With Superficial Self-Improvement (Jessica Grose, The New York Times). Email us at culturefest@slate.com.  Endorsements: Stephen: A Hero of Our Time by Mikhail Lermontov — “An expression of Byronism as it reaches Russian shores.” Written in 1939 by one of the great Russian poets, A Hero of Our Time follows a nihilistic anti-hero on his many misadventures.  Dana: Everything Isn't Terrible by Dr. Kathleen Smith (Audio book) — To go with this week's Plus segment, Dana recommends this very good self help book. The audio book is partly narrated by the author Dr. Kathleen Smith, who works as a family systems therapist. June: Dykes to Watch Out For by Alison Bechdel (Audio series) — Based on the beautifully written comic strip, Dykes to Watch Out For is an Audible series adapted by Pulitzer Prize finalist Madeleine George that features voices from Roxane Gay, Jane Lynch, Carrie Brownstein, and more.    Outro music: “What We Didn't Do” by Particle House Podcast production by Cameron Drews. Production assistance by Kat Hong.  __ This Pride Month, make an impact by helping Macy's and The Trevor Project on their mission to fund life-saving suicide prevention services for LGBTQ youth. Go to macys.com/purpose to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kathleen Smith, CMO from ClearedJobs.Net, sits down to share her story as she remembers having big shoes to fill in her childhood. She strived for greatness at an early age, as her parents told her she would be going to college and would follow strong guidelines to become successful. Kathleen can remember being into the hard sciences when she was in school, which sparked an interest in becoming a biochemist and law student. Eventually she found her passion as a translator, saying that "doing the translator role, I wanted to get into international marketing and I was going on to get my degree on that." She found her way to ClearedJobs.Net and fell in love with it. She had sought to find a workplace that wouldn't burn her out, where she can also be a part of the team. Kathleen found what she was passionate about and made it a reality for herself, and now she just wants young women starting in the field to know the importance of finding something they are passionate about. We thank Kathleen for sharing her story.

Cranes as a security threat. EPA memo addresses cybersecurity risks to water systems. Oakland's ransomware incident becomes a data breach. Carding rises in the Russian underworld. Sandworm's record in Russia's war. Rick Howard sits down with Andy Greenberg from Wired to discuss how Ukraine suffered more data-wiping malware last year than anywhere, ever. Dave Bittner speaks with Kathleen Smith of ClearedJobs.Net to talk about hiring veterans and setting them (and yourself) up for success. And AI's latest misuse: bogus investment schemes. For links to all of today's stories check out our CyberWire daily news briefing: https://thecyberwire.com/newsletters/daily-briefing/12/43 Selected reading. WSJ News Exclusive | Pentagon Sees Giant Cargo Cranes as Possible Chinese Spying Tools (Wall Street Journal) EPA Takes Action to Improve Cybersecurity Resilience for Public Water Systems (US EPA) EPA presses states to include cybersecurity in water safety reviews (SC Media)  EPA Calls on States to Improve Public Water Systems' Cybersecurity (Meritalk) EPA issues water cybersecurity mandates, concerning industry and experts (CyberScoop) City of Oakland Targeted by Ransomware Attack, Work Continues to… (City of Oakland). Ransomware gang leaks data stolen from City of Oakland (BleepingComputer) Ransomware hackers release some stolen Oakland data (CBS News) Oakland officials say ransomware group may release personal data on Saturday (The Record from Recorded Future News)  Cybercrime site shows off with a free leak of 2 million stolen card numbers (The Record from Recorded Future News) A year of wipers: How the Kremlin-backed Sandworm has attacked Ukraine during the war (The Record from Recorded Future News) Bitdefender Labs warns of fresh phishing campaign that uses copycat ChatGPT platform to swindle eager investors (Hot for Security)