Relating to Self

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 26 November 2023, the wonderful Suvarchala (S02E15) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.Topics mentioned in the episode:The story of who I was 10 years ago and my first identity dissolutionWhen I achieve my goals and I am not happy, what's next?The questions that drive me todayThe experiences that have defined meHow these stories changed my relationship to myself and my romantic relationshipsTalking to my inner parts, what does that look like?The influence of parts work on the rest of my lifeThe layer cake of "me" and the importance of compassionAttuning to aliveness and surrenderingHealing the wounds of my lineageThe healing modalities I have used or discoveredMy thoughts on love and romantic relationships (don't miss this!)The kind of lover I want to call in right nowBeing seen, poetry, love, compassionMy process of relating and coming to truthfulnessHealthy boundaries and consent (don't miss this either!)And a lot more...If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 25 September 2023, the amazing Bryan Kam (S03:E03) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.Topics mentioned in the episode:How I relate to myself now, as opposed to a year agoThe power of collective practicesThe shift from the mind to the body when it comes to the question "what am I?"Doing relating to self work in held spaces for other practicesBeing a fully empowered being with agencySex-positive events - consent culture - not judging my own desiresWhat "spirituality" means to meLetting go of what doesn't serve meRelating to Self with othersMy intention of offering retreats - accepting that I am a guide and teacher"Becoming who I am"The mind as a hall of mirrors - letting the body do its thingThe role of other living things in my neighborhood - meta-consciousnessResistance coming from the mind, not the bodyThe need for new stories - mythmaking - how to speak about what I want to doRelating to Self - singing polyphony - entrepreneurshipHow can I help you? Write me an email: joachim@relatingtoself.comIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 27 April 2023, I have a conversation with Nathan Vanderpool, a father, a seeker, an artist. Someone who's striving to grow. who suffers. who gets petty. who feels overwhelmed. who relaxes. who opens. who connects.Topics mentioned in the episode:Embracing Despair: Finding Meaning in Difficult EmotionsInternal Family Systems: Releasing Tensions in the BodyThe Impact of Meditation on WellbeingRefraining from Labeling Experiences as Good or BadBuilding Different Aspects of OneselfSurrender and AcceptanceThe Importance of Flexibility in ResponseUnderstanding Life through ExperienceThe Practice of Self-ImprovementThe Self as a Collection of PartsLoneliness and Its Relation to SelfCultivating Range in Response to SituationsIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 24 April 2023, I have a conversation with Richard, a consultant, Sandboxer, and improvisation-enthusiast. Topics mentioned in the episode:The Impact of Language on PerceptionConsistency of Social Interactions during COVID LockdownIntrospective Relationship with Oneself Influenced by Interactions with OthersAltering Internal Dialogue to Promote PositivityAdvocating for Precise Language to Enhance Emotional ExperiencesTransmitting Personal Meanings When Words Are Interpreted DifferentlyAccepting Impermanence and Cherishing the PresentEmbracing Different Versions of Oneself DailyUsing Improv as a Mirror for Self-DiscoveryStepping Out of Default BehaviorsShifting Towards Appreciating One's Current SituationLiving a Resilient and Sustainable Life Through Self-Acceptance and Behavioral ChangeIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 23 April 2023, I have a conversation with Anne-Lorraine, who really likes to thoroughly enjoy food to the last corner of possible experience. And who is increasingly less shy to call herself a poet. She is also the creator of Touchcards, a wonderful game to explore touch.You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:The evolving nature of the selfThe impact of depression on self-perceptionChoosing the right posture for each momentCoping mechanisms for overwhelming emotionsIntergenerational traumaEmbracing intuitionSurrendering into a different realityExperiencing the body through the sensesTherapeutic modalitiesBalancing being and doingSkepticism about energy workAllowing creativity to arise naturallyIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Jessica, whose mission is to empower women as a purpose coach.You can find Jessica on Instagram.Topics mentioned in the episode:Embracing the Self as a Community of PartsThe Healing Power of Writing One's Life StoryTransformative Journeys Through WritingInspiring Others Through Our Personal StoryCommitment Despite ChallengesRewards of the Writing ProcessSelf-Compassion and Personal DevelopmentThe Cathartic Experience of WritingThe Significance of Embracing Various Aspects of SelfThe Impact of Self-Compassion on Personal GrowthExploring the Concept of Internal Supportive PartsIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Dave, a minimalist nomad who has built a journaling business.You can find Dave on Instagram.Topics mentioned in the episode:vulnerability and following initial impulseslearned behaviors, shame, and jealousycravings and desires in lifethe connection between repressed aspects of oneself and shamegut bacteria and cravingsinternal family systemsjournaling as a reflective practicerevisiting thoughts over timesetting personal goalsdaily affirmationscelebrating personal successesimpact of AI advancements on understanding consciousness and impulsesIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on April 12, 2023, I have a conversation with Steven Emery. Steven is an intuitive artist and product manager. You can find Steven's website here, and you can follow him on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:The self as a group of individualsJournaling for self-discoveryArt as a reflection of identityMusic's tension and release mirroring self-acceptanceAnxiety's impact on creativityEmbracing anxiety as a motivatorSilence and nonverbal communication in artEstablishing personal boundaries in relationshipsResponsibility for one's experiencesMeditative journaling for managing anxietyThe journey to inner peace and its ongoing natureIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Will Curran. Will wears many hats and seems to have grown up with a healthy sense of self. How will that translate to how he relates to himself? You can find Will's website here.Topics mentioned in the episode:Embracing self-love and awarenessThe role of music as a personal sanctuaryChildhood influences on appreciation for silenceChurch as a structure for meditation habitsSpiritual practices shaped by inspirational figuresLearning from the experience of school expulsionThe impact of positive self-talk on mindsetThe power of vocalizing thoughts for changeThe art of being present in conversationsTransitioning from introversion to extroversionNavigating the blend of personal and professional selvesAdapting to remote work and self-reinventionIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 8 April 2023, I have a conversation with Imma, a sommelier who is inviting people to live in conversations.You can connect with Imma through her linktree.Topics mentioned in the episode:Self as a Construct: Imma views the self as a construct defined through relationships with others and the environment.Sensory Experiences: the role of touch and other senses as essential for understanding and interacting with the world.Influence of Microorganisms: how gut bacteria and other organisms may influence our decisions and sense of self.Consciousness in Winemaking: yeast and its potential inherent intelligence in the winemaking process.Non-Human Intelligence: challenges in recognizing the consciousness and intelligence of plants and fungi.Childhood Curiosity: Imma's early fascination with nature shaped her view of humans as part of an ecosystem.The Role of Attention: how attention shapes the relationship with the self and the perception of the environment.Children's Perspectives: the value of the unfiltered perspectives children have on their sensory experiences.Importance of Place: Imma's experience of living in one place for 13 years and how it formed her understanding of self.Subjective Labeling of Experiences: how the mind categorizes experiences as good or bad, including personal likes and dislikes.If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 January 2023, the wonderful Mary Bajorek (S03E05) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.Topics mentioned in the episode:How my understanding of Relating to Self keeps changingRelating to Self as being truly present to what is real in the momentBrutal honesty with the self as an act of kindnessThe gradual path of leaning into that honesty with oneselfMy light switch moment during his very first meditation retreatPractical thoughts on being more honest with oneself, how?Physical manifestations of not being entirely truthfulConversations in my mind with the parts of myself that represent othersHow do we improve our relationship with ourselves?Stories, tension, suffering, and compassionSelf-compassion as a practice that improves compassion with othersGiving protector parts new jobs, asking your demons what they need, the hero narrative of our parts, shadow workThe biggest lies I've told myself over the years (juicy!)Tough love vs Brutal honestyTime as a relentless force for changeThe first time I set a boundary (spicy!)Boundaries with the self"We are processes", the boundaries exist to support usMy desires for the next phase of my relationship with myself (juicy again!)If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

Joachim's MusingsIn these short-form solo podcast episodes, I share some of my thoughts, experiences, and insights.This week, I speak about Story-based Desire vs. Erotic Aliveness and my experience at a temple night in Berlin.I will also answer your questions. If you have any, just email me at joachim@relatingtoself.comIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 3 Feb 2023, I have a conversation with Max Stossel.Max Stossel is an award-winning poet, filmmaker, and speaker, named by Forbes as one of the best storytellers of the year.You can find him on his website: https://www.wordsthatmove.com/ and you can follow him on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:The dangers of allowing rage to transform into control and manipulationThe importance of accepting life's outcomesA contemplation of life after birth and the belief in reincarnationThe impact of intense love and the perception of self-loveMax's insights on self-discovery and self-acceptanceThe significance of trusting intuitionLearning from past experiencesReflections on the impact of love in our livesUnderstanding the transformative power of loveThe importance of embracing life's uncertaintiesExploring the role of self-love in personal growth and well-beingIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 6 December 2022, I have a conversation with Renee.Renee was a graphic designer and was burned out from that very high-status industry work. She then went into bodywork, spirituality, and coaching, and she became a polarity therapist. You can follow her on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:Renee's journey of healing and self-discovery after burnoutthe significance of understanding yourselfhow our relationship with ourselves shapes our worldview and lifehow we treat ourselves affects how we allow others to treat us, and how we treat othersredefining successRenee's pivotal spiritual experience and its impactthe transformative power of a deeper connection with self and divine guidancethe importance of introspection, meditation, and self-awarenessaccepting and understanding your emotionsembracing struggle as part of personal growthIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 6 March 2023, I have a conversation with Theo.Theo comes from a career in finance and has pivoted to exploring a path of self-healing and spirituality.You can follow him on twitter/X and read more on his website untanglingself.comTopics mentioned in the episode:Quitting a finance job to embark on a journey of self-discoveryEmphasizing curiosity and wonder in exploring inner experiencesEmbracing discomfort as a catalyst for growthCultural differences in mental health and their impactThe role of the internet in self-explorationSignificance of community and relationships in the healing processImportance of connecting with oneself and the world in a concrete wayMindfulness and communication in an embodied mannerJourney of embodiment and letting go of thoughtsEmbracing emptiness as a concept from BuddhismPersonal experience with IFS therapy and gratitude for support receivedSelf-exploration as an ongoing process involving personal responsibilityBenefits of exploring different parts of oneself during altered statesIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 7 March 2023, I have a conversation with Victor. Victor is in a transitional phase, learning more and more to follow his internal pull. He is also really into building a community of conscious creators, and hosts vibecafe.xyz. You can follow him on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:Self-discovery as an evolving processUnderstanding mental processes and emotional triggersThe importance of addressing conflicts and making changesEmbracing uncertainty and following an internal compassVictor's journey of intentional and organic explorationMoving to Berlin and experiencing personal growthResonance with certain people or conceptsExploring mindfulness and spaciousnessPersonal development arcs and choosing one's own pathQuestioning identities and narrativesEmbracing present-moment livingBreaking societal expectations and redefining oneselfCreating a supportive community and connecting with like-minded individualsIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 20 December 2022, I have a conversation with Andrew Rose.Andrew builds social structures, co-living places, a university, and cities. You can follow him on Twitter/X, and you can read his thoughts on Substack.Topics mentioned in the episode:Emotional resilience and the choice of feeling goodMeta-questioning and self-reflectionIdentification with ego and its fluctuationsInternal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work for self-navigationWriting practices for self-awareness and emotional processingAlexander Technique for bodily awareness and mindfulnessThe challenge of adult self-crafting and personal developmentThe importance of examples and role models in personal growthShadow work and the acceptance of unacknowledged self-partIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 9 Dec 2022, I have a conversation with Priya Rose.Priya is a community organizer and co-founder of Fractal. She's also an active contributor to tpot, so you can follow her on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:Self-talk and personal growth.Influence of parental criticism on internal dialogue.Therapy and its role in developing a supportive internal voice.Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a concept.Importance of positive influences.Impact of co-living environments on authenticity and personal growth.Significance of honesty in building healthy relationships.Practices like gratitude, meditation, and introspection for self-improvement.Value of supportive communities during periods of depression.Forming deep friendships online.Caring and profound connections without knowledge of appearances or personal lives.Spiritual self-connection through practices like meditation, journaling, ecstatic dance, and weightlifting.If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Tasshin.Tasshin is a bodhisattva (one whose goal is awakening, in Buddhism) and an online pilgrim who strives to spread love, follow his curiosity, and empower others. You can follow him on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:Spreading love and empowering othersSignificance of bodhisattva vows in BuddhismTelling a positive story about oneself and the worldAbout death and the value of lifeMaking a home out of moment-to-moment experiencesFinding purpose versus creating identityMathematics and its relevanceRelationships with othersLearning from people and storiesImportance of being present and kind to oneself and othersIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Jessica Svenningson.Jessica is an art + tech innovator, digital transformation designer, creative business + market strategist, digital heritage researcher, public speaker + educator, entrepreneur, and killer storyteller. And many other things. You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:The importance of improving one's relationship with oneself.Self-connection, finding joy, and following intuition.Immersive artistic experiences and regenerative architecture and their influence on relating to self.The psychology and neurology of relating to self.Constant curiosity and love for trying new things.Eliminating what doesn't bring joy and self-discovery after leaving an unhealthy relationship.Embracing the "summer of yes" and engaging in diverse experiences to rediscover the self.Safety and the importance of having someone to rely on.Benefits of living in smaller cities with a sense of community.Challenges faced as a woman with autism and societal expectations.Art and being an artist as an expression of relating to self.If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Mary Bajorek.Mary guides professionals through transition points in their careers towards feeling agentic, confident, and capable so that their work can become aligned with who they are and the impact they want to make in the world. You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:Relating to self and the importance of relationships with othersSelf-love and spending time with oneselfIdentity, autonomy, and connectionExploring and understanding different parts within oneselfEmotions and the importance of acknowledging and understanding themAutonomy and making decisions for one's present selfBuilding intimacy with oneself and accepting all partsThe concept of 'nothing days' and indulging in leisure activitiesPrioritizing self-love and self-care, setting boundariesAuthentic expression and exploring emotionsManaging difficult emotions through writing and self-reflectionHolding space for intense emotions in oneself and othersThe value of experiencing a range of emotions in lifeNuanced understanding of emotions and connecting with the bodyPractices for improving the relationship with oneselfIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Elena LakeElena transitioned from a career in mathematics and physics to bodywork, massage therapy, and being a forest spirit.You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:The importance of self-trust and enjoying one's own companyGrowth in accurately witnessing oneselfThe process of unlearningThe realization of unmet emotional needsPursuing a more holistic lifeThe power of a good question in self-discoveryElena's journey into the body and embodimentBodywork and its benefitsLearning and teaching through feelingThe inner dialogue and its relation to bodyworkFulfilling the primal need for attachment through natureRelationship with nature and the forestIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Bryan Kam.Bryan is a philosopher and writer, exploring the history of ideas, amongst other things. He has a podcast called Clerestory, works for the British Library, and is an InterIntellect Fellow. You can also follow him on Twitter/X. Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Relating to Self, the mundane, and identityThe role of the observer and the inner voicesMeditation and the concentration states called "Jhanas"The influence of meditation on Bryan's relating to selfNoting practicesThe breaking down of the Ego"Faking it" and authenticityImprov, performance and responsivenessCommunication as collaborationAliveness and playful statesThe importance of compassion (for the self)What happens when you stub your toeThe meaning of "spirituality"Compassionate practicesWhat about free will?Changing perspectivesInternal Family Systems and Bryan's MuseOn inspiration and creationOn coherence, multitudes, and cognitive dissonanceThe ability to tolerate high uncertaintyHume and the stable selfThe enjoyment of not knowing and the beginner's mindsetIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Richard D. Bartlett.Richard helps people grow high-trust communities & decentralized organizations.He's a co-founder of tech co-op Loomio, community building network Microsolidarity, non-hierarchical management consultancy The Hum, and director of the social impact collective Enspiral.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Why Richard is suspicious of the SelfRelating to Self as inner conversations with mischievous kidsComing to a more agentic state of mindRelating within a groupGood company as a privilege, how to create it?Extending co-regulation into our identityHow to be a good mammalCultivating trust as a practiceMaking relationships themselves as the object of curiosityThe meaning of "grace"The balance between our animal and human sidesThe illusion of free willMeeting people where they areNon-attachment to outcome and wonderNot pushing your reality onto other peopleBeing famous for values that serve peopleWhat's difficult for RichardOptimism as a lensIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Helena Roth.Helena Roth wrote the book Doing Gentle with an Edge and leads the project tankespjärn.You can read her thoughts on Twitter.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:what does Relating to Self mean to Helena?the sense of returning to Selfhealing by getting out of your own waywhat does that mean for trauma?the voices in our headwho's in the driver's seat?dependent, independent, interdependent?how to find your tribeasking for what you needHelena's edge - tankespjärna challenge a day makes for a good daythe idea of cross-pollinationthe difficulty of relating to self around and with othersIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

This is a bonus episode that is not really about Relating to Self.My friend Bryan Kam and I have been experimenting with a new podcast format.An epistolary of sorts, in which we send each other voice notes.In this episode, we explore beauty, quality, and esthetic enjoyment.Sit back and relax while listening to Bryan and me exploring our thoughts on the subject.This bonus episode is the second epistolary we have published.You can find the first one on Bryan's podcast Clerestory:Joachim & Bryan on choice, desire, and purposeFollow Bryan's podcast Celerestory here.Or read more about his work on his website:https://bryankam.com

In this episode of Relating to Self, Mary Lemmer (S02E01) comes back to ask Joachim all the things she wants to know about how he relates to himself.Mary Lemmer brings joy to empowering people to improve themselves and the world around them. She believes that improvisation is a practice that can lead to a better relationship with yourself. Mary is the founder of Improve, a company that improves people's lives by using techniques inspired by improv comedy and behavioral research. Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:What does Relating to Self mean to Joachim?"Yes, and...". What is the "and" of Relating to Self?Relating to Self while out in the world, what is helpful?What we can and can't controlHow to act when triggeredIs it possible to know too much about oneself?Compassion, compassion, compassionContradictory desires and how to navigate themRelating to Self while in a family or partnershipsRelationship role models and outward thinkingThe shifting of community and friendshipsLoneliness And some fun rapid-fire questions

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Meg Pagani who when relating to self sits with her Council of 12.Meg is an entrepreneur, speaker, and impact strategist. She writes and teaches about power, leadership, and the Way of NatureYou can find Meg and her work here:https://www.megpagani.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/margheritamegpagani/https://www.instagram.com/meg_pagani/Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Relating to self firstThe practice of pausing and choosingThe practice of silenceChecking where the energy isPrevious and future versions of the selfThe Council of 12The Way of the ForestThe adult self vs the mature selfEverything is a story and relates to the selfAll stories are wrong, some stories are usefulDifferent interpretations of the same storyRelating to the mundaneThe parts we hold in shameIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Ana Zarzosa for whom success in relating to self means getting comfortable with the crap too.Ana is a yoga teacher and a project manager for the biotech industry.You can find Ana and her work here:https://www.instagram.com/az.yogahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ana-zarzosa/Ana's YouTube Yoga channelTopics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Relating to Self as permanent change, and not always upHow to get out of negative or violent self-talk, out of necessityDiscipline and commitments vs. flowUsing fiction to examine difficult questionsDreaming as a practice for alivenessAnd much more!If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Asmaa who relates to herself by slowing down and creating a supportive community.Asmaa Guedira is a Moroccon-born, French-adopted, queer digital nomad who works as a catalyst, facilitator, consultant, artist, writer, and designer.You can find Asmaa and her work here:http://www.asmaaguedira.com/https://www.instagram.com/asguedhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/asmaaguedirahttps://twitter.com/asguedTopics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Community and Relating to SelfMeditation and other ways into compassionthe importance of aweSlowing down as a practiceAsking for helpDoing the workBuilding trust and confidenceArt as a practiceIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Patrick Pitman whose jiu-jitsu practice has helped him unlearn mental patterns by getting comfortable operating in a vulnerable position.Patrick is a business leader and owner of ebusiness brands, Inc. You can find Patrick and his work here:https://ebusinesspros.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrickpitman/https://twitter.com/patrickspitmanTopics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:the desire to connect to something greaterthe visceral experience of self in the bodynoticing what you need as a basic practiceJiu-Jitsu as a path to self-explorationconnecting to the breath while being strangledlooking for an easier way, not forcing anythingvulnerability in personal relationshipsequine therapy and its brutal honestyseeing what's realuncomfortable but safe spacesthe 15 commitments of conscious leadershipIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joshua Keay (S01E07) comes back to ask me intriguing questions.Joshua does some things in a different and peculiar way. When he craves change, he focuses on changing his environment instead of his mindset. He acts chaotically when the world is stable. Then he settles down when everything is chaotic.Complement this talk with Joshua's essays at http://bit.ly/jkessaysTopics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:do I get angry? - how does anger manifest?emotions and their expressionthe inevitability of death and how to get comfortable with iteuthanasiathe meaning of life - creating meaningthe illusion of free will - "Behave" by Robert Sapolskyattention as the most valuable resource - where to put it with intention?creation vs consumptionmy shift away from Art toward entrepreneurshipthe verbs in my daycouraging - going towards resistance or fear5 seconds of courage to change your dayecstatic dance - my relationship with my bodyself-definition and how it holds us back - having the courage to be dislikedwhen I'd want to live in historymy favorite age to beIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Aida Murad for whom life is a copy machine of one's thoughts.Aida is an impact artist and entrepreneur who transmuted a severe illness into her biggest gift. Her mission is to help people feel seen, heard, and loved through her art.You can find Aida and her work here:aidamurad.comhttps://www.instagram.com/muradaidahttps://twitter.com/aidamuradhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/aida-murad/Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:life as a mirror of our inner realitytrauma as an opportunitywhat humans craveart as a tool for healingthoughts, words, and actions and finding joy in small actsjoy as a measure of lifeeverything is a musclestepping away from the stories of the mindthe importance of habits that serve the life you desireboundaries and how they impact social relationshipshaving conversations with younger selvesspaces and their impact on the selfIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Chris Wray for whom authenticity is shared.Chris is a lawyer and philosopher and exclusively works on projects that are meaningful to him.Chris has almost no internet presence, and you can find him in and around Lisbon, usually.You can reach him via email: contact@christopherwray.euTopics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:representation of the selfan exploration of the primary trauma of coming of agebeing on timekeeping agreements and the influence of culture on themmeditation and awarenessthe wisdom of knowing what we can commit tothe lie of authenticitythe work of J. David VellemanIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Willo Sana for whom relating to self is mostly about listening. Willo is a transformational business coach and gives emotional and strategic support to visionary entrepreneurs around the world.She also wrote a book called "Double Down on your Genius".You can find Willo and her work here:https://willolovesyou.com/https://twitter.com/WilloLovesYouhttps://www.instagram.com/willolovesyou/You can find Willo's book "Double Down on your Genius" here:https://willolovesyou.com/book/Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:recommended bookslistening as a practice of relating to selfshadowwork and the ways in which we can acknowledge what we resistexaggerating the expression of your feelingsego narratives and deconditioninga simple somatic practiceidentity death and reinventing oneselfIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Suvarchala Narayanan for whom wealth is a state of mind and who cultivates her eroticism. Suvarchala is a tech and business journalist and has a business as a consultant designing and guiding identity change, next-level relating, and eroticism. You can find Suvarchala and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/life_of_audacity/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/suvarchalanarayanan/ Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: The foreign concept of Self-Love and the problem with it Centering the Self The Nature of Self as Love Love as Acceptance Learning to Remember Letting Go (what is good) The Paradox and Multitude of Life Pain without Suffering Tension And much, much more! If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to DanRam who has continuously reinvented himself. DanRam is an MC for huge conferences, a 5 times TEDx speaker, a transformational coach, and a powerful influencer. You can find DanRam and his work here: https://www.iamdanram.com/ https://www.instagram.com/iamdanram/ Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: The tools we are given vs the tools we find in our journey of Relating to Self Using different personas to explore who we are Self-development in community Getting better at re-seeing ourselves The dark side of self-development Habits and DanRam's 5G routine Start Now, Start Simple If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Khuyen Bui who sees the self as inherently relational. Khuyen Bui wrote the book "Not Being: The Art of Self-Transformation" with co-author Steven D'Souza. He is an executive coach and has talked at TEDx, the Drucker Forum, Creative Mornings, and companies like Danone. You can find Khuyen and his work here: https://twitter.com/gkhuyen https://www.linkedin.com/in/buikhuyen/ Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Contact Improv "Follow your bliss" by J. Campbell Boundaries and true intimacy The importance of awe for our wellbeing Aliveness If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Rhea who takes better care of herself than anyone in the world.  Rhea Mehta is the founder of Living Rhea, a scientific wellness consultancy with services including 1-on-1 health coaching (Institute for Integrative Nutrition), scientific communications (writing, research, talks, interviews), and strategic advisory.  She is the co-founder of Bowhead Health, a cutting-edge Canadian company leveraging blockchain and smart contract technology to help individuals safely track, own and manage their health and wellness data. You can learn more about Rhea and her work here: https://linktr.ee/rheamehta Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: How to practice kindness towards yourself  Mindvalley events and workshops  Neuroplasticity and how to retrain your mind Joachim & Rhea's combined experience as musicians  Fibromyalgia Burning man  Ayahuasca  How suffering can catalyze self-transformation Mantras to practice openness & acceptance  The relationship between openness and holding strong boundaries  The power of saying no Heuristics to assess the transgression of boundaries  How to build a strong support system  Creating space by detaching from relationships that no longer serve you  Discerning fear vs. intuition  Breathwork to develop willpower  Rhea's music & mantras And much, much more! If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Eleonora, who relates to the woman in the mirror. Eleonora is a Ph.D. candidate who helps researchers and businesses access "neuroscience-as-a-service." Learn more about Eleonora and her work here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eleonora-borda/ https://www.instagram.com/bordina93/ https://linktr.ee/whattodonext.podcast Topics, resources, and valuable links mentioned in the episode: Improvisation to break the chain of fear  How improv can improve your most important relationship {with Mary Lemmer} The joy of experiencing solitude  The toxicity of "not being enough"  Joachim's appearance on the "What to do Next Podcast" Visualization meditations from Joachim on Insight Timer The correlation between internal and external tensions The importance of acceptance and quieting your inner critic  Practices to cultivate self-kindness And much, much more!  A parting quote from Eleonora: "You can't prepare the path for the person, You can only prepare the person for the path." If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Amy, who cultivated a growth mindset through Ted Talks.  Amy is the Founder of Next Gen Facilitation and helps prepare the Next Generation for Modern Life. Learn more about Amy and her work here: https://linktr.ee/EducationAmy Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: The shortcomings of traditional education Internal vs. external motivation  How Amy cultivated a growth mindset through Ted Talks  The importance of rest in personal development  The many benefits of exercise  Psychotherapy as a tool for self-exploration  Finding and updating your core values  Amy's advice for reaching out to people, seeking help, and finding your people A parting quote from Amy: "You can't prepare the path for the person, You can only prepare the person for the path." If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Stephen, for whom daily happiness is entirely relationship-driven.  Stephen Ladek is an explorer & entrepreneur who helps others find focus, fulfillment, and freedom through radical accountability.  Learn more about Stephen here: https://www.ladek.com/ Learn more about his work in online education here:  https://linktr.ee/lmspulse Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: How Stephen views relating to self as an act of introspection  What are the most important questions you have to ask to improve any relationship? The limitations of online identities Letting go of one identity to embrace your more authentic self Why Stephen identifies first and foremost as an explorer Joachim & Stephen discuss the different impacts of their childhood  How growing up in middle-class America prompted a path of exploration  Stephen's transformation from living an unremarkable life to becoming a person of extraordinary capacity Why mediocrity is the word that gives Stephen the most fear? The importance of intentionally investing in deep relationships  And much, much more!  A parting quote from Stephen:  "Why not commit to saying yes? Let's make this a moment. Let's make this extraordinary." If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletter Follow Joachim on Twitter 

In this special turn-the-tables edition of the Relating to Self podcast, former guest Eagan interviews Joachim about trauma, healing, intimate relationships, and much more.  Eagan is an entrepreneur & digital marketer with a deep passion for philosophy. You can learn more about his Eagan and listen to Eagan's first appearance here: Relating to Self - S01E05 - Eagan Follow Eagan on Twitter Caravan Digital In today's episode, Eagan & Joachim speak about:  The success of the Relating to Self podcast Joachim's journey of healing Habitual patterns & hedonistic pleasures  The practice of stepping into pleasure How trauma patterns can manifest differently How to remove negative people from your life Joachim's thoughts on intimate relationships  The value of deep human connections  The importance of sitting with hardships  How to work through trauma in intimate relationships Holding space and taking ownership of responsibility Joachim's 'controversial' take on traditional marriage The perceived value of eternal life An alternative approach to celebrating intimate human connection   And much, much more!  A parting quote from Eagan:  "There is so much we are not ready to hear."  If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Sign up for the newsletter to receive: Free collections of guided meditations, specifically created for improving your relationship with yourself Simple practices to improve your relationship with yourself Podcast updates and other valuable resources Follow Joachim on Twitter: https://twitter.com/joachimbrackx

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Maxwell who begins each day with journaling with poetry. Maxwell is a storyteller, filmmaker and creative. He currently works as a partner and Creative Director at Telescope Studios. You can learn more about Maxwell and his work: Telescope Studios  https://twitter.com/Maxwell_Kang Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: The difficulties of relating to others  Morning routines (and how to create them)  Habit creation and sustained motivation  How to create and maintain a journaling practice Reducing friction  Starting small and celebrating small victories  Atomic Habits by James Clear Habitual cues and trigger action points  Habit stacking  Creating a wind-down routine  Learning from trauma  When is the best time to meditate?  Learning how to be a good partner Listening and questioning stories that we tell ourselves A parting quote - "Collect moments, not things."  Sign up for the newsletter to receive: Free collections of guided meditations, specifically created for improving your relationship with yourself Simple practices to improve your relationship with yourself Podcast updates and other valuable resources If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Anna, or is it a conversation with one of her parts? Anna V is a clinical scientist, brainstormer, believer, and storyteller on a mission to bridge the gender health gap. Learn more about Anna and her work: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annavyb/ https://www.instagram.com/the.sassytribe/ Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Menstrual leave policies  How startup culture catalyzed Anna's search for self-compassion The importance of saying no The societal notion that suffering is necessary to reach your goals Anna's experience with burnout  How yoga taught Anna not to always go 100% Lessons learned from hiking  Cold shower therapy Internal family systems  And much, much more! Parting quote: “We suffer more often in imagination than in reality” — Seneca Sign up for the newsletter to receive: Free collections of guided meditations, specifically created for improving your relationship with yourself Simple practices to improve your relationship with yourself Podcast updates and other valuable resources If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review.  ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Benjamin Tirone Nunes for whom whatever he gives his attention has something to tell him about himself.  Creative at heart, Benjamin is passionate about giving expression to human possibility, always seeking to explore drivers of transformation. He is the Managing Director at Rebundance.  You can learn more about Benjamin's work and listen to his curated playlist here: https://rebundance.com/about-us/ https://twitter.com/BenTN https://tinyurl.com/bensspotifyplaylist Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Using conversations as a tool to understand yourself better The benefits of having “annoying” friends How to develop tools to understand your needs The power of making delicious and healing food Misconceptions about personal development and the importance of vulnerability A Beginner's Guide to the 7 Chakras How Benjamin finds peace at 1AM in the morning Joachim and Benjamin's shared the love of music Ben's experience attending more than 450 live acts in two years Using music as a tuning fork for the current cultural zeitgeist The relationship between the music and the lyrics “What am I giving attention to and what is that trying to tell me” How to broaden your concept of relationships to be more open and seen in the world Sign up for the newsletter to receive: Free collections of guided meditations, specifically created for improving your relationship with yourself Simple practices to improve your relationship with yourself Podcast updates and other valuable resources If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Aurore Fagnen who is consciously entering in a relationship with her own fingers.  Aurore accompanies women to heal and reveal themselves through the power of their sensual bodies and their sexual energy. You can learn more about Aurore and her work here:  https://aurorefagnen.com/ https://www.instagram.com/aurore_fagnen/ To continue improving your relationship with yourself and receive a curated collection of resources, visit: https://relatingtoself.com Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:  Creating space for quality time for and with yourself  How your environment impacts your relationship to self How to take responsibility and own your pleasure The societal shame and guilt associated with self pleasure  Sex as an essential tool for self-knowledge and exploration  The difference between urban & rural life The difference between apartments and houses Self-partnership The Inner Work of Partnership How to craft an environment for thriving partnerships Making conscious choices according to your hierarchy of values  If you do not address your needs, they will express themselves  Joachim's Simple Mindfulness Meditation Subtle embodiment practices to improve self-awareness and sexual intimacy  Ecstatic dance  Relating to body parts & Internal Family Systems  Proprioception  Rituals with essential oils  Using taste to deepen self-connection And much, much, more!   If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review.

In this episode of the Relating to Self podcast, Joachim speaks to Amanda Efthimiou, who believes that slowing down can speed things up. Amanda is a strategist & storyteller working at the intersection of mental health advocacy, technology, and psychedelic wellness. You can learn more about Amanda and her work here: https://www.amandaefthimiou.com/ https://www.instagram.com/amaiou/ https://medium.com/@amanda.amaiou To continue improving your relationship with yourself and receive a curated collection of resources, visit: https://relatingtoself.com Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Amanda's personal history with mental health and how plant medicine became part of her story The many benefits of plant medicine Her journey moving from Berlin to Lisbon and the power of pausing during moments of transition The importance of integration Internal and external motivations The influence of the ocean for Joachim and Amanda in relating to self The idea of how we ride the wave of life is what really matters The inner knowledge within the body Rituals of meditation, yoga, dace and surfing How psychedelics can shift your relationship with different parts What are mentors and how to find mentorship? To continue improving your relationship with yourself, visit and receive a curated collection of resources, visit: https://relatingtoself.com Sign up for the newsletter to receive: Free collections of guided meditations, specifically created for improving your relationship with yourself Simple practices to improve your relationship with yourself Podcast updates and other valuable resources

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks to Natasha Figueroa, whose magic zone is the narrow gap between out of the comfort zone, but within the boundaries. In this conversation, they explore a wide array of topics including: The many benefits of being open to feedback The differences between introversion and extroversion The immense power of the voice for self-exploration The f*ck yes mentality Natasha's “magic zone” Stepping into fear Intrinsic wisdom & self trust Natasha's identification as the queen and king of boundaries The societal shame associated with saying no Why the word “no” is among Natasha's favorite words The concept of damnation and its relationship to codependency And much, much more! Natasha Figueroa is the founder of Jellyfish Heart, whose mission is to: Support people to embrace vulnerability Lead to intimacy & connectivity Foster a loving relationship with self Realize & release  judgements Refocus on heart & body over mind Share tools to be our most authentic selves She also works with Art International as a facilitator for their program, “The Art of Being Human.” You can follow Natasha on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jellyfishheart/ To continue improving your relationship with yourself, visit https://relatingtoself.com Sign up for the newsletter to receive: Free collections of guided meditations, specifically created for improving your relationship with yourself Simple practices to improve your relationship with yourself Podcast updates and other valuable resources

Mary Lemmer brings joy to empowering people to improve themselves and the world around them. She believes that improvisation is a practice that can lead to a better relationship with yourself.  Mary is the founder of Improve, a company that improves people's lives by using techniques inspired by improv comedy and behavioral research.  In this fascinating conversation, Joachim and Mary explore:  The improv warm-up technique “Crazy Eights”  How to use rituals to prepare for podcasts or important events in our daily lives  The importance of letting go of thoughts and getting into our bodies  How Mary incorporates different breathing techniques like pranayama into her daily routine  Mary morning routine of meditation routine and “Morning Pages” the journaling technique popularized by Julia Cameron  Joachim's experiment with lucid dreaming and maintaining a dream journal  The inspiration and insight of dream interpretation  How the fundamental improv principle of “Yes, and…” directly impact your relationship with yourself  Mary's belief that improv provides a psychologically safe space to practice new beliefs, behaviors and habits.  How improv not only helped Mary with honing her skills as a comedian, but also allowed her to deepen her perspective, self-inquiry and exploration.  Talking to yourself (or your pet) as a technology for thinking  Joachim's experience as a professional musician and the idea “that there is nothing that engages the brain more than performing music.”  The difference between rote memorization and improvisation  How improvisation allows you be more fully in the present  “We don't see the world as it is, we see it as we are” ― Anaïs Nin  The benefits of shadow work and Internal Family Systems  The improv technique first word last word  To learn more about Mary Lemmer and her work, visit:  https://marylemmer.com/  Watch her debut comedy special “Living with my Parents”  Watch her Ted Talk "How Improv can Improve your leadership and life" Learn more about her company “Improve”  To continue improving your relationship with yourself, visit https://relatingtoself.com Sign up for Joachim's newsletter to receive: a free collection of guided meditations, specifically created for improving your relationship with yourself  simple practices to improve your relationship with yourself  podcast updates and exclusive resources

Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives. " My story of self is exactly that - a story." - Joachim  He opens with a story about meditation. And how his first dip into it gave him a breath of clarity. This, he concludes, was the beginning of the healing process of his core trauma. Meditation on unconditional love opened him up to release the tension he holds for certain people. In working to help people feel love in his own mind, Joachim has embarked on a journey he is now cruising on. The current scene is that of turning to himself for tension resolution. Troy mentions the strange violence that is considered normal when somebody exerts the tension they feel onto others. To not having a space to express himself outwardly growing up, Joachim has responded with expressing himself through music in his mind. And then making it all about expressing himself through the music he composes. Troy's observation on that is how creatives who come from intense trauma tend to be overly focused on creating the perfect piece that would make people understand them. Now Joachim has turned to understanding and accepting himself.  "Meditation is sitting with what is" - Joachim, as quoted by Troy. Let's sit for a moment with this final episode of the first season of Relating to Self.  The host who is visiting today, invites you all to ask your questions. Send them to stela@relatingtoself.com and they shall reach him. You can find Joachim on Twitter: https://twitter.com/joachimbrackx  If you enjoy this episode, please subscribe to the podcast and to our email list: http://relatingtoself.com/