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Why is consistency so difficult in pornography recovery?You know what you should do.You've probably tried motivation, accountability, filters, Bible reading, avoiding triggers, and promising yourself that this time will be different.But then something happens.You get tired. Stressed. Lonely. Discouraged. Angry. Overwhelmed.And suddenly the strategy you were so confident about doesn't seem to work anymore.In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explains why consistency in porn recovery isn't created by getting more motivated or hyped up.It starts with clarity.After years of coaching Christian men, Shawn has become convinced that many men aren't failing because they aren't working hard enough.They're trying to solve the wrong problem. The deeper question isn't simply: ‘How do I stop watching porn?' It's What's happening in my heart that may be contributing to this behavior?'Shawn uses Proverbs 4:23 to explore the connection between the heart and everything that flows from it, and explains how understanding your thoughts, emotions, formative experiences, and Heart Hunger can change the way you approach recovery.In this episode, you'll learn:Why motivation alone doesn't create lasting consistencyWhy men often try to solve the wrong problemHow clarity creates confidence and consistencyWhat Proverbs 4:23 teaches us about the heartHow your heart can reveal what's driving your behaviorWhy pornography can sometimes point to deeper patterns worth understandingHow your emotions and thoughts provide important recovery dataWhy understanding your Heart Hunger changes your strategyHow to stop "throwing mud against the wall" and hoping something worksWhy a clear strategy is more powerful than another burst of motivationThe goal isn't to become more disciplined at fighting pornography.It's to become clear enough to know what you're actually fighting, and strategic enough to know what to do about it.Because when you understand the real problem, you can finally build the right solution.Want to understand what's really driving your struggle?Take the free Secret Habit Clarity Quiz at:

What if one of the missing pieces in your pornography recovery isn't another tool, another filter, or another strategy?What if you need a deeper reason to live?In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores purpose, pornography recovery, the Hungry Heart, and the God-given gifts that make each of us uniquely equipped to live a meaningful life.After years of coaching Christian men, Shawn has seen how easily men can drift when they don't have a clear sense of purpose. When life feels monotonous, empty, or directionless, pornography can become an easy way to escape reality rather than engage with it. That's where the idea of The Burn & The Gift comes in.Your burn is what you care deeply about: the injustice, problem, or brokenness that you can't seem to stop thinking about.Your gift is what God has uniquely equipped you to bring to that problem.And when you begin connecting the two, something changes.You begin to see a reason to get up in the morning. A reason to endure hard things. A reason to live with conviction and purpose instead of constantly escaping. In this episode, you'll learn:Why purpose matters so much in pornography recoveryHow a lack of purpose can leave men vulnerable to drifting and escapeWhat Shawn means by your "burn"How to identify the injustices and problems that deeply move youHow to recognize your God-given giftsWhy your purpose is bigger than simply choosing a career or jobHow your gifts can be used to fight the things you burn forWhy discovering purpose can help you live a more colorful, meaningful lifeHow purpose connects to the Hungry HeartWhy lasting freedom is about becoming a mature man, not simply quitting pornographyThe goal isn't simply to find something impressive to do.It's to discover how God made you, what He has put on your heart, and how you can faithfully use what He's given you.Because when a man has something worth living for, reality becomes more compelling than escape.And that's a very different vision of porn recovery.Take the free Heart Hunger Clarity Quiz to begin discovering what your heart may actually be hungry for — including deeper needs around purpose, reassurance, connection, comfort, belonging, and more.

What if the real reason your recovery feels harder than it should is not just habit or willpower, but spiritual warfare aimed at your deepest vulnerabilities? Shawn Bonneteau shares a raw wake-up call from his own season in the Czech Republic and breaks down how the enemy looks for the exact places where your heart feels hungry, unseen, bitter, anxious, or vulnerable.Shawn unpacks why he believes spiritual warfare is often missed in Christian recovery, especially for men fighting pornography, shame, loneliness, conflict, and self-reliance. He also shares two powerful coaching stories, including a man who shifted from passivity to real fatherhood and another who moved from mental wrestling to surprising peace after a warfare prayer that named lies, vows, soul ties, fears, and open doors.You'll discover:How to recognize the difference between normal struggle and spiritual attackWhy the enemy often targets “voids” like comfort, hope, reassurance, and peaceThe surprising reason inactivity can be part of the attackHow the armor of God becomes a prevention, protection, and victory planWhy truth, righteousness, peace, faith, salvation, and Scripture are not abstractions but daily weaponsHow to spot legal ground, footholds, and open doors that keep you stuckShawn also reframes Ephesians 6 in a way that makes the armor of God feel practical and urgent, using vivid examples like brushing your teeth before there is pain and standing firm when the battle is already in motion. If you've ever wondered why the same patterns keep resurfacing, or why certain emotions seem to trigger old cycles, this episode will help you see the bigger battle with fresh clarity.Essential listening if you want more than short-term sobriety. This is for Christian men, husbands, fathers, and anyone in recovery who is ready to move from confusion to clarity, fear to confidence, and fragile self-reliance to lasting freedom in Christ.Ready to get clear, confident and free?Book your personal recovery plan session where Shawn will spend 60 minutes with you defining your true heart issue and the true heart solutionsecrethabit.ca/personalrecoveryplan--Host: Shawn Bonneteau, coach and founder of Secret Habit, helping Christian men quit pornography and become men of integrity, maturity, and freedom.

What if the reason you haven't found lasting freedom from pornography isn't because you haven't tried hard enough, but because you've been trying to recover without the right plan?In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, to talk honestly about pornography recovery, sexual integrity, shame, community, healing, and what it actually takes to build a life of lasting freedom. Ultimately the conversation focuses on this idea of how to prevent a relapse from porn.Nick knows this journey personally.After struggling with pornography himself, Nick experienced the transforming power of counseling, community, and a structured recovery process. His story eventually led him into ministry with Pure Desire, where he now helps equip churches, leaders, men, and women to walk through sexual brokenness toward hope, healing, and freedom.And this conversation goes far beyond simply telling men to "try harder."Nick explains why having good recovery tools matters, but why tools alone aren't the plan. Tools become powerful when they're placed inside a larger framework of community, honesty, self-awareness, and intentional action. You'll hear Nick talk about:Why trying harder often isn't enough for porn recoveryWhy so many men remain trapped in shame and isolationThe role of community in lasting sexual integrityWhy recovery needs to become a way of life, not simply a longer streak of sobrietyHow to recognize the patterns that lead toward relapseThe importance of having a clear recovery planNick's three-part approach to recovery: healthy living, an escape plan, and a plan for what happens after relapseWhy counseling and groups can work together so powerfullyHow churches can become places of healing rather than shameWhat Nick has learned through his own journey of recovery and sixteen years with Pure DesireWhy there is still hope if you've tried everything and nothing seems to workOne of the most powerful moments comes when Nick reframes the idea of "I've tried everything."Maybe you haven't tried everything.Maybe you've tried everything alone. If you've been struggling with pornography, sexual temptation, unwanted sexual behaviors, or repeated relapse, this conversation will give you a bigger picture of what recovery can actually look like.You don't have to white-knuckle your way through this.You can learn a new way of life.And you don't have to do it alone. Ready to create your own Personal Recovery Plan?If you're tired of guessing about what to do next and want to build a recovery strategy around your story, your patterns, and your unique struggles, visit secrethabit.ca/personalrecoveryplanWe'll sit down together, make sense of what's really going on, and create a clear plan for moving forward.Connect with Nick & Pure DesireLearn more about Nick's work, Pure Desire's resources, groups, books, and training at Pure Desire Ministries.Puredesire.orgAbout Nick StumboNick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and a third-generation pastor. After confronting his own pornography addiction in 2010, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through Pure Desire's counseling and group ministries.Since then, Nick has dedicated his life to helping the Church become a place of healing and freedom. He is the author or co-author of Setting Us Free, Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame, and Hope, Healing and Freedom: A Pathway Beyond Pornography and Betrayal. He is also a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP).Nick and Michelle live in Nashville, Tennessee, with their four children.

Many guys struggle with the idea that they have trauma... I get it, its hard to admit that our parents made mistakes and hurt usThis is why I want to give you a new framework. A new approach. A new perspectiveOne that does not dismiss the pain or challenges you went through. But keeps the focus on what really matters most for your porn recovery today - the heartIn this episode, Shawn will unpackWhy trauma can be a difficult concept for guys in recoveryHow the focus on wounds helps guys start to heal the deeper roots of their addictionWhy suppression is at the heart of your woundsKeeping the focus on what you still carry today, rather than just events from your childhoodInner child work and the steps towards real healing from your wounds

Many men desire to get free from porn. Theres no shortage of programs out there, however, we have to ask, are they offering the help men need?Most men I meet feel like they're putting in the work, but they feel frustrated. They tell me that they dont really understand their struggle. This is what keeps them stuck in a cycle of sobriety for a month then back to relapsingSadly, this leaves men feeling burned out, hopeless and beat down. They want freedom, but they keep coming up shortThis is why I developed the Personal Recovery Plan for guys to quit porn. Not by hard work alone, but by working smart. In this series, I am going through each step to help you get clear on the true heart issue and the true heart solution. Because when men get clear, they become confident, and when men feel confident, they naturally experience lasting freedomIn this wrap up episode of the personal recovery plan series, Shawn will coverWhy the personal recovery plan offers a unique type of helpHow you can save yourself time, money and emotional capacityWhat your feelings are trying to tell you about your porn addictionWhat your thoughts are trying to tell you about your woundsWhat your hungry heart is trying to tell you about why you numbWhat your habits tell you about where you feel void and emptyHow to create a porn recovery strategy that doesnt just work because of effort, it works because of clarity Ready to build your own Personal Recovery Plan?If you're tired of guessing and want a personalized recovery strategy built around your story, your Hungry Heart, and your current season of life, I'd love to help.Book your Personal Recovery Plan Session⁠ https://secrethabit.ca/personalrecoveryplanWant more from Coach Shawn?Check out the Freedom Foundation Series (Episodes 129–142), where I unpack the biblical and practical framework that lays the foundation for lasting freedom and everything we've been building throughout this Personal Recovery Plan series.

Once you've identified who supports your recovery, it's time to ask another important question:What actually helps your Hungry Heart?Many men have a few healthy habits, but very few have a Green Zone that's intentionally designed around the hungers of their heart.In this episode, you'll learn how to move beyond generic coping strategies and begin building a Green Zone that genuinely nourishes your Hungry Heart.Whether it's spending time with Jesus, exercising, creating, serving, resting, journaling, connecting with friends, or pursuing meaningful work, not every activity feeds every heart in the same way.The goal isn't simply to stay busy.The goal is to intentionally choose activities that meet your God-given longings so your heart becomes increasingly satisfied by what truly gives life.This episode brings together everything we've covered so far in the Personal Recovery Plan series and begins showing you what intentional recovery actually looks like.In this episode you'll learn:Why not every healthy habit nourishes your heart.How to build a Green Zone around your unique Hungry Heart.Why intentionality matters more than simply staying busy.How to upgrade ordinary activities into meaningful ways of connecting with God, yourself, others, and your purpose.Practical ideas for feeding your Hungry Heart throughout the day.Ready to build your own Personal Recovery Plan?If you're tired of guessing and want a personalized recovery strategy built around your story, your Hungry Heart, and your current season of life, I'd love to help.Book your Personal Recovery Plan Session https://secrethabit.ca/callNot quite ready?Take the Secret Habit Clarity Quiz to discover what's really driving your struggle.https://secrethabit.ca/quizWant to check out more about my coaching?Check out the Freedom Foundation Series (Episodes 129–142), where I unpack the biblical and practical framework that lays the foundation for lasting freedom and everything we've been building throughout this Personal Recovery Plan series.

Lasting recovery isn't something you build alone.One of the biggest mistakes Christian men make is believing they simply need more discipline or willpower. But God designed us to heal and grow in relationship.In this episode, we're beginning the Green Zone portion of the Personal Recovery Plan by exploring one simple question:Who helps your Hungry Heart?Not every relationship nourishes your heart equally. Some people encourage you toward Jesus. Others help you process emotions, speak truth into your life, challenge unhealthy thinking, or simply remind you that you're not alone.When you intentionally build the right support system, you're no longer waiting until you're overwhelmed to reach out. You're proactively feeding your Hungry Heart with the relationships God intended you to have.In this episode you'll learn:Why you need to be intentional with connection to make it stickThe different kinds of people you need in your circle to feel fulfilled How healthy relationships help regulate your emotions.Why accountability alone isn't enough.How to intentionally build a stronger Green Zone.Together we'll identify the people, patterns, and strategies that best support your recovery so you can stop guessing and move forward with clarity and confidence.Ready to build your own Personal Recovery Plan?Book your Personal Recovery Plan Session https://secrethabit.ca/callNot quite ready?Take the Secret Habit Clarity Quiz to discover what's really driving your struggle.https://secrethabit.ca/quiz

Overcoming pornography isn't just about what you do when temptation shows up. It's about learning to recognize what's happening in your heart before temptation ever becomes overwhelming.In this episode, we're exploring one of the most overlooked parts of recovery: the subtle tendencies that reveal your Hungry Heart long before you find yourself reaching for pornography.Maybe you withdraw from people.Maybe you become overly busy.Maybe you start scrolling mindlessly, procrastinating, feeling irritable, or chasing distraction.These moments may seem insignificant, but they're often the earliest signs that your heart is hungry and looking for relief.The sooner you recognize these patterns, the sooner you can respond with intention instead of reacting out of habit.This is the final episode in the Red Zone portion of the Personal Recovery Plan series. Once you learn to notice these early warning signs, you'll be ready to begin building your Green Zone - a personalized strategy for responding to your Hungry Heart in ways that actually bring life.In this episode, you'll learn:Why temptation rarely comes out of nowhere.How your daily tendencies reveal what's happening beneath the surface.The difference between reacting to temptation and recognizing it early.Why earlier awareness makes emotional regulation easier and more effective.How paying attention to small moments can lead to lasting freedom from pornDuring a Personal Recovery Plan Session, we'll uncover the patterns, tendencies, and Hungry Heart driving your struggle, then build a personalized roadmap to help you respond with clarity and confidence instead of simply reacting to temptation.Ready to stop guessing and build a recovery strategy that fits your story?Book your Personal Recovery Plan today:https://secrethabit.ca/call

You've learned to listen to your feelings. You've started understanding the story beneath your thoughts.Now it's time to uncover the deeper issue both of them have been pointing toward all along: your Hungry Heart.Most Christian men think pornography is the problem. Others realize it's a symptom. But very few know what sits underneath that symptom.That's where your Hungry Heart comes in.Every heart longs for the things God created us to find in Him - love, comfort, purpose, strength, belonging, reassurance, peace, and so much more. Those longings aren't the problem. The problem is that we often try to satisfy them with things that can never truly feed us.In this episode, you'll learn why understanding your Hungry Heart is one of the biggest turning points in lasting recovery. When you recognize what your heart is actually longing for, you stop guessing, stop fighting symptoms, and begin building a recovery strategy that addresses the real issue.This is Part 3 of the Personal Recovery Plan series, where we're walking step by step through the same framework I use during my one-on-one coaching sessions to help men move from confusion to clarity, coping to regulation, fear to confidence, and sobriety to lasting freedom.In this episode you'll learn:Why every compulsive behavior points to a deeper hunger.How your feelings and thoughts reveal what your heart is actually longing for.Why pornography can never satisfy your deepest needs.How identifying your Hungry Heart creates clarity and direction for recovery.Why lasting freedom begins by feeding your heart what truly satisfies.If you're ready to stop guessing and uncover what's really driving your struggle, I'd love to help.

Taking your thoughts captive is a crucial part of the christian life. It's an especially vital part of any solid porn recovery plan. However, most guys are missing the deeper piece of their thoughts that helps them break free from bondageEvery thought has a story. And in this episode, I want to help you understand how the story beneath your thoughts is the missing data to your next breakthroughThis episode is part 2 of my series on the Personal Recovery Plan - a strategic and clear game plan created for you and your recovery journey so you can get clear, confidence and freeTune in and learn all aboutDefining thoughts and beliefsGetting into the story beneath your thoughtsThe 4 categories of negative thoughtsHow our feelings can help us define our thoughtsHow thoughts reveal the hungry heart

Everybody feels... however, not everybody understands what their feelings are trying to tell them. When you miss the clues built into your hearts cry, you miss the chance to move toward a solution that really works.Most guys are stuck trying to eradicate their feelings. They're more focused on avoid challenges than finding solutionsAs a porn recovery coach, iv watched guys do this for years. Iv watched guys run on the recovery treadmill. Iv watched guys burn out after tons of effort. Iv watched guys blow through all their extra money to invest into recovery... only to be left without the results they want. Beyond sobriety, they dont even feel clear or confidentThis trend must end! Thats why I am putting this series together. To walk you through my personal recovery plan session I offer to guys 1:1. If you want to work with me, awesome, book a call, if not, I hope this series can be a huge help to you designing a strategy that actually worksToday, you will learn about:Why we need to go deeper with our feelings How to find the clues within your feelingsFinding data and using it for your clear porn recovery strategyThe bigger picture to lasting freedom from pornFinding clarity and confidence

You've learned about Heart Hunger. You've discovered the Red Zone and the Green Zone. You've started understanding why pornography isn't simply about willpower.So... now what?One of the biggest challenges I see after coaching thousands of Christian men is that information doesn't automatically lead to transformation. It's one thing to understand the framework. It's another thing to know how it applies to your story.In this episode, I explain why I created the Personal Recovery Plan and how it helps men move from confusion to clarity by understanding the true issue beneath their struggle with pornography. I'll walk you through exactly what happens during a session, who it's designed for, and why personalized clarity often becomes the turning point in lasting porn recovery.If you've been asking yourself, "Why do I keep relapsing?" or "I understand the concepts, but how do I actually apply them?" this episode is for you.If you've already taken the Clarity Quiz and you're ready to stop guessing, I'd love to help you build a personalized recovery strategy based on your story, your patterns, your Heart Hunger, and your season of life.

After everything you've learned throughout the Freedom Foundations Series, one question remains:Now what?This final episode isn't about learning another recovery strategy. It's about becoming the man you've been building toward all along.Throughout this series, we've explored your inner world, your Hungry Heart, formative wounds, regulation, the Red Zone and Green Zone, leading the boy within, renewing your mind, repentance, forgiveness, and intimacy with Jesus. But none of those lessons were meant to stay as information.They were meant to become your new way of living.In this episode, Shawn helps you step out of survival and into maturity by showing you how to live from what is true rather than what merely feels true. You'll reflect on how far you've come, identify what has changed in your heart, and create a simple daily rhythm that helps you continue growing with clarity, confidence, and freedom.You'll also work through a practical exercise to develop your own New Man Mantra: a simple, personalized reminder that keeps your heart anchored in truth and helps you intentionally respond to life's challenges.In this episode, you'll discover:Why repetition, not more information, is what creates lasting transformationHow to recognize the growth God has already begun in your heartWhat it looks like to lead yourself with confidence instead of reacting from survivalHow to build simple daily habits that reinforce truth and emotional maturityA practical exercise to help you continue walking in freedom long after this series endsWhether you've listened to every episode or you're just beginning your journey, my hope is that this series helps you understand your heart, renew your mind, and become the man God created you to be.Thank you for joining me throughout the Freedom Foundations Series. It's been a privilege to walk this journey with you.If this series has helped you see your struggle more clearly, don't stop here.Ready for your next step?

Forgiveness is one of the hardest parts of the healing journe. Not because it's complicated, but because it touches the deepest places of our hearts.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn explores why forgiveness isn't about pretending the past didn't happen or minimizing the pain you've experienced. It's about restoring intimacy with God and finding freedom from the weight you've been carrying.Through two powerful stories from his coaching journey, Shawn unpacks why many Christian men struggle to forgive others completely, why receiving God's forgiveness can be even harder than giving it, and how both are essential for lasting healing.Together, you'll work through two guided exercises:Receiving Christ's forgiveness for the shame, regret, and failures you've been carrying.Offering specific, intentional forgiveness to someone who has deeply hurt you.Rather than rushing past your pain, this episode will help you identify what actually needs forgiveness and bring it honestly before Jesus. The accompanying workbook encourages you to be specific, to speak forgiveness aloud, and to return to the process whenever new hurts surface, making forgiveness an ongoing practice instead of a one-time event.In this episode you'll discover:Why forgiveness restores intimacy with GodWhy forgiving generally often leaves you stuckThe difference between forgiving yourself and receiving Christ's forgivenessHow to release bitterness without denying your painA practical, guided process to receive and offer forgivenessIf you've ever felt trapped by resentment, shame, or regret, this episode is an invitation to stop carrying what Jesus has already carried for you.

Most men think repentance is about trying harder, feeling worse about their sin, or proving themselves to God.I don't believe that's what repentance is at all.I believe repentance is about restoring intimacy.Throughout this Freedom Foundations series, we've been uncovering the deeper reasons behind the struggle with porn. We've explored your inner world, your formative wounds, your hungry heart, your triggers, your relationship with Jesus, and how to renew your mind.But understanding your heart is only part of the journey.Eventually, you have to bring your heart back to God.In this episode, I'll show you why repentance isn't punishment—it's an invitation. We'll look at the vows you've agreed with, the attachments you've relied on, and the soul ties that may still be influencing your heart. Most importantly, you'll learn a practical process for releasing those things and returning to intimacy with Jesus.If you've ever wondered why you know the truth but still feel pulled back into old patterns, this episode is for you.In this episode you'll learn:• Why repentance restores intimacy instead of producing shame• Why most unhealthy attachments began as survival, not rebellion• The difference between vows, attachments, and soul ties• How these hidden agreements quietly shape your recovery• A guided exercise to help you release what no longer belongs and return your heart to JesusGuided Reflection (from the eipsode):What have you been relying on to meet a need that only God was designed to fulfill?What agreement, attachment, or relationship is it time to bring fully into the light?

Most men don't struggle because they lack motivation.They struggle because they lack a clear, repeatable process.After thousands of coaching sessions with Christian men, I've become convinced that lasting freedom doesn't come from collecting more recovery tools—it comes from following a simple system you can trust.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, I bring everything together and show you how every lesson we've covered fits into just two practical systems.One helps you navigate your life today.The other helps you heal what was formed years ago.Together, they give you a simple framework you can return to again and again, whether you're facing temptation, stress, discouragement, conflict, or relapse.In this episode you'll discover:Why porn recovery often feels overwhelmingThe difference between tools and systemsHow System A helps you regulate your inner world and hungry heart todayHow System B helps you heal formative wounds and renew your mindWhy both systems ask the same questions from different perspectivesHow to move from confusion to confidence by simply gathering data and plugging it into the right systemIf you've ever found yourself thinking,"I don't know what to do right now..."this episode will help you replace uncertainty with clarity.My passion is helping Christian men become mature leaders who know how to understand their hearts, respond with wisdom, and experience the freedom Christ offers—not just from porn, but in every area of life.

Most Christians believe Jesus heals.But many have never experienced His presence in the places they still carry pain.In this fourth episode of the Freedom Foundations Series focused on the Inner boy, Shawn explores what it looks like to invite Jesus into the stories, wounds, and formative experiences that continue to shape your struggle today.This isn't about chasing emotional experiences or imagining something that isn't real.It's about opening your heart to the living Christ, the One who knows your story, understands your pain, and longs to reveal His love in deeply personal ways.After learning how to locate the boy within, understand his story, and lead him with truth, this episode brings the journey to its deepest point: allowing Jesus to meet you there.Together, you'll walk through a guided reflection designed to help you:Invite Jesus into a formative memoryExperience His compassion and presenceListen for His truthReflect on what He wants you to knowDeepen your trust in the One who restores heartsWhether you've followed Jesus for years or you're just beginning to understand His love, this episode is an invitation to slow down, open your heart, and allow Him to meet you personally.My passion is helping Christian men move beyond behavior management and into a relationship with Jesus that transforms the deepest places of the heart.

Most Christians know they're supposed to renew their minds.But very few have ever been shown how.In this powerful guided episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn walks through the practical process of leading the wounded places of your heart out of what feels true and into the truth of the Gospel.This isn't positive thinking.This isn't behavior management.This is Christ-centered inner leadership.You'll discover why so many men stay stuck in cycles of shame and relapse, why simply knowing Bible verses often isn't enough, and how God's truth becomes transformational when it's spoken directly into the wounds that first believed a lie.Through the teaching and bonus guided exercise, you'll learn how to:• Lead your heart with empathy instead of condemnation• Affirm your God-given identity instead of your failures• Apply the Gospel to specific wounds and lies• Cast a vision for the man God is calling you to become• Separate what feels true from what is eternally trueIf you've ever thought:"I know the truth... but I don't feel it,"this episode is for you.My passion is helping Christian men move beyond managing porn and into a life of clarity, confidence, maturity, and real freedom.Because lasting transformation doesn't happen by trying harder.It happens when the truth of Christ takes root in a heart that has learned to receive it.

Most men are in a hurry to change.Very few take the time to understand themselves.But before you can lead the boy within, you must first learn about him.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn guides you through one of the most powerful reflection exercises in his coaching process.Together you'll begin uncovering:• The emotions you learned to suppress• The beliefs you formed about yourself, others, God, and life• The survival strategies you developed• The heart hunger that still influences your decisions todayThis isn't about staying stuck in the past.It's about understanding the story beneath your struggle so you can finally stop reacting and start leading yourself with maturity and confidence.Through a guided exercise, you'll practice listening instead of fixing, becoming curious instead of critical, and developing compassion for the younger parts of yourself that simply learned how to survive.When you understand the boy, your present-day struggles begin to make sense.And when they make sense, they can finally begin to change.As a Christian coach, my passion is helping men understand what's happening beneath the surface so they can experience the freedom Christ has already made available to them.

Most men spend years trying to change their behavior while never stopping to understand the story behind it.What if your struggle isn't random?What if the anxiety, shame, triggers, and patterns you experience today are connected to lessons you learned years ago?In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn introduces one of the most transformative steps in his coaching framework: Locating the Boy.This isn't about living in the past or blaming your childhood.It's about developing compassion for your story so you can finally understand the roots of your struggle and begin leading yourself with maturity, confidence, and truth.Together, you'll slow down through a guided reflection exercise designed to help you identify a memory, story, or recurring theme from your formative years that still holds valuable insight for your healing today.If you've ever wondered:• Why do I keep reacting this way?• Why do I feel stuck in the same patterns?• Why does recovery still feel so difficult?This episode will help you begin connecting the dots.My passion is helping Christian men move beyond coping and behavior management into real clarity and lasting freedom by understanding the heart beneath the struggle.Take your time with this exercise. Don't rush it. Let God reveal what He wants you to see.

Many men hear words like childhood trauma and immediately think:"Nothing that bad happened to me.""My parents did the best they could""Its my fault im this way"But what if healing isn't about focusing on what happened to you?What if it's about understanding what formed in you because of it?In this episode, Shawn explores the concept of Formative Wounds and explains why many present-day struggles are connected to ways of coping , beliefs, fears, and survival patterns learned years ago.This isn't about blame.It's about understanding.Because when you understand your story, you stop asking:"What's wrong with me?"And start asking:"What did I learn?"Together we'll explore:• Why healing trauma often feels difficult • Why Shawn prefers the term formative wounds over childhood trauma• The difference between events (Big T trauma) and development (small T trauma)• What many men learned to suppress growing up and how its the core issue today• How wounds shape thoughts, emotions, and heart hunger • Why compassion creates more change than shame• Why leadership is fundamental to living a mature lifeYou'll also be guided through a practical reflection exercise to help uncover:• What the boy learned • What emotions were suppressed • What beliefs were formed • What heart hunger went unmet • What survival patterns still show up todayYour story explains you.It does not define you.

Many men think they need to work harder and do more good things... What they actually need is a better framework.In this episode, Shawn introduces the Red Zone and Green Zone - a practical tool that has helped countless men move from confusion and overwhelm into clarity and confidence.You'll learn why awareness always comes before change, how to identify what's happening beneath the surface, and what it looks like to respond intentionally instead of reacting impulsively.Together we'll explore:• The purpose of the Red Zone - Clarity of the real heart problem behind your addiction and struggle• The purpose of the Green Zone - Strategy to become emotional mature • Why porn recovery often feels overwhelming • How to identify the deepest thoughts, emotions, and heart hungers• What healthy response actually looks like• Why upgrading your life is better than getting busy• How to connect to God in a way that really worksYou'll also be invited into a practical exercise to help you begin moving from reaction to response in your everyday life.Because lasting freedom isn't built by trying harder.It's built by learning how to lead yourself well.

Most men think they want porn.But what if that's not actually true?What if porn has simply become a substitute for something your heart has been searching for all along?In this episode, Shawn unpacks one of the most important concepts in recovery: the Hungry Heart.You'll discover why so many men continue returning to porn even when they genuinely want freedom, and how understanding your deeper longings can completely change the recovery process.Together we'll explore:• What heart hunger really is • Why porn often feels comforting, even though you hate it • The deeper needs underneath temptation • Why freedom requires more than behavior change • How God meets us in our deepest longings• How to integrate porn recovery into your day with more ease• How to playtThe Heart Hunger GameYou'll also be guided through a simple reflection exercise to help uncover what your heart may actually be searching for.Because when you understand the hunger underneath the behavior, the path forward becomes much clearer.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on what they're doing.Very few stop to explore what's happening underneath it.The reality is that every behavior is connected to something deeper. Thoughts. Emotions. Longings. Fears. Stress. Heart hunger.In this episode, Shawn introduces one of the most important concepts in recovery: your inner world.You'll learn why so many men feel disconnected from themselves, how suppression creates confusion, and why porn often becomes a response to an inner world that feels overwhelming or misunderstood.Together we'll explore:• What your inner world actually is • Why most men become disconnected from it • How suppression fuels unwanted sexual behaviors • The connection between thoughts, emotions, and heart hunger • Why awareness creates clarity and hope when quitting pornYou'll also be invited into a simple reflection exercise to help you start noticing + the bonus hack to do these more effecively than ever before:• What you're feeling • What you're thinking • What your heart is hungry forBecause when you understand what's happening beneath the surface, your struggle starts making a lot more sense.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding temptation, but rarely stop to ask what their triggers may actually be revealing.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks the deeper meaning behind porn triggers, emotional patterns, and why so many men stay stuck in surface-level recovery approaches.This conversation explores why temptation often isn't random, how emotional triggers fuel porn habits, and why understanding your inner world changes everything when it comes to lasting freedom.In this episode:the difference between sexual temptation and emotional triggerswhy avoiding temptation alone rarely creates freedomthe deeper reasons why loneliness, overwhelm, shame, and disconnection fuel porn patternswhy porn often becomes a response to unmet heart hungershow to recognize patterns beneath urges and cravingspractical reflection questions to help you build claritywhy curiosity creates more change than condemnationShawn also walks through a real coaching example showing how seemingly “sexual” struggles are often connected to deeper emotional and relational patterns underneath.If you've ever wondered:“Why do my triggers feel so powerful?”“Why do certain situations affect me so much?”“Why do I keep going back even when I know better?”“Why does temptation feel so overwhelming sometimes?”this episode will help things start making sense.Reflection Questions:What am I usually feeling before urges hit?What patterns keep repeating in my life?What situations seem to intensify temptation?What am I avoiding emotionally?What is my heart actually hungry for?

Most men trying to quit porn are working incredibly hard, but still feel exhausted, confused, and stuck in the same cycles.In this first episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks one of the biggest problems in modern porn recovery:Men are being taught to work harder without understanding the real issue underneath their struggle.This episode explores why so many men lose hope in recovery, how the “effort trap” keeps people burned out, and why clarity changes everything when it comes to lasting freedom.In this episode:why modern recovery often failshow confusion destroys motivation and confidencethe hidden emotional drivers behind porn addictionwhy porn is often connected to deeper heart hungerthe difference between working hard and working smarthow clarity creates hope, confidence, and directionwhy freedom starts with understanding your inner worldShawn also shares a personal story about learning the Czech language and how that experience completely changed the way he coaches men through recovery.If you've ever felt like:“I've tried everything”“Why do I keep going back?”“Why does this still have power over me?”“Why does recovery feel so exhausting?”this episode will help things start making sense.Reflection Questions:What does porn seem to offer me emotionally?What am I usually feeling before I relapse?What is my heart actually hungry for?Where do I feel overwhelmed, disconnected, unsafe, or unseen?What if my struggle makes more sense than I think?

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding triggers. However, underneath the struggle is often something much deeper... a hungry heart that still doesn't know how to receive healthy connection, regulation, and care.In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Green Zone and explores what it actually looks like to respond to your heart hunger instead of escaping it.This conversation dives into regulation, heart hunger, and intentional recovery. Shawn shares about how true freedom begins through grounded action and healthy connection instead of constant burnout and survival mode.In this episode:why regulation is essential for lasting sobriety from pornhow healthy responses begin to retrain your inner world and conditioning the connection between confidence, clarity, and intentional actionwhat keeps many men stuck in recovery burnout and overwhelmhow to start building a practical Green Zone plan for nervous system regulation why lasting freedom requires learning how to lead yourself into what is true If you've ever known what triggers you, but still found yourself unsure how to actually move forward, this episode will help things start making sense.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on stopping the behavior…but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper: a dysregulated inner world full of suppressed emotions, negative thoughts, and unmet heart hunger.In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Red Zone and explores what it actually looks like to understand the deeper patterns driving your porn struggle.This conversation dives into emotional suppression, nervous system dysregulation, and heart hunger — and how true freedom begins through clarity and self-awareness instead of shame and reaction.In this episode:why finding clarity changes everything for porn recoveryhow suppressed emotions fuel unhealthy patterns leading to relapsethe connection between thoughts, reactions, and heart hungerwhat keeps many men stuck in cycles of overwhelm and confusion when trying to quit pornhow to start identifying what's actually happening underneath your urgeswhy lasting freedom requires more than behavior managementIf you've ever tried to stop porn… but still found yourself confused, reactive, or stuck in the same cycles, this episode will help things start making sense.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often a much deeper story involving emotional wounds, unmet heart hunger, shame, confusion, and misunderstood sexuality.In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Drew Boa - founder of Husband Material and author of Outgrow Porn, to unpack a radically different approach to porn recovery rooted in emotional honesty, nervous system regulation, Godly sexuality, and intimacy with JesusTogether, they explore why lasting freedom comes through understanding your story and desires instead of simply fighting your urges.This episode dives into:why porn triggers often reveal something deeper underneaththe difference between natural sexual arousal and emotional triggering (hysterical means historical)how understanding your story reduces shame and confusion (the boy behind the curtain)Drew's approach to inner child work and root healinghow to process porn urges instead of panicking or suppressing them (BOA approach)practical tools that help when you feel overwhelmed or triggered to watch pornwhat it means to collaborate with your sexuality instead of constantly fighting ithow emotional regulation changes porn recoverywhy many Christian men fear or misunderstand sexualitythe connection between heart hunger, healing, and intimacy with Jesushow humility, honesty, and curiosity create lasting transformationOne of the most freeing parts of this conversation is the realization that your sexuality is not the enemy, and your struggle makes far more sense than you think it does.If you've ever felt trapped in shame, confused by your triggers, exhausted from relapse cycles, or unsure how to experience real freedom in Christ, this episode will help things start making sense.

Most men trying to quit porn aren't lacking discipline.They're overwhelmed, disconnected from their inner world, and applying solutions to a problem they don't fully understand.In this episode, I share more about the transition happening inside my coaching and the way I help guys. I do a deeper dive on what I've learned after spending over 2,000 coaching hours helping men pursue freedom from porn.Check it out to hear more about:why clarity changes recoverywhy strategy and hard work only matter if you know what the problem isthe deeper role of the hungry heart and how scripture talks about it as the sourcewhy many men struggle with suppression more than severe traumahow intimacy with Jesus transforms healingwhy confidence grows when you understand what to do and how to do ithow its not sobriety from porn that creates lasting freedom, its clarity, strategy and confidenceIf recovery has felt confusing, overwhelming, or like you're constantly trying harder without understanding why, this episode will help things start making sense.If you want a quick insight into what your heart is hungry for,

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper:A hungry heart longing to be filled by God instead of numbed through escape.In this episode, Shawn and Helena unpack humility, surrender, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus meet the deeper places of your heart.Using Andrew Murray's book Humility: The Beauty of Holiness as a foundation, this conversation explores how real freedom grows through dependence on God, intimacy with the Holy Spirit, and learning to empty ourselves of self-reliance so we can be filled with truth and life.In this episode:why heart hunger matters in porn recoveryhow humility creates space for healing and freedom with JesusHelena's story of coming out of depression through surrender and filling herself with Christthe difference between suppressing desire and bringing it to Godhow intimacy with Jesus changes porn recovery, marriage, and parentingwhy lasting freedom from porn requires more than discipline alone--If you've ever known what you should do… but still struggled to trust God deeply in your recovery journey, this episode will help things start making sense.

“I've tried to quit, so why do I keep going back?”In this episode, I'll break down why your struggle with porn isn't actually about discipline or motivation — and what's really going on underneath it.You'll learn:why behavior isn't the real problemwhat your “inner world” actually is (in a simple way)how disconnection drives the cycleand why understanding your heart hunger changes everything I dropped a BONUS in the episode :) I shared about how you can play the The Heart Hunger Game for MAX awareness and effectiveness

Most men think porn recovery is mainly about discipline.Trying harder. Staying accountable. Fighting urges.But what if the real issue goes deeper than behavior?

You're making progress… so why does it feel like a lot to handle?In this episode, I'll unpack why quitting porn can feel overwhelming, even when you're doing better.You'll learn:why this doesn't mean you're failingwhat's actually happening in your inner world (emotions, thoughts, longings)the difference between the Red Zone and the Green Zone (regulating and getting sober)and the simple shift that helps you stop reacting and start leading yourselfIf you've ever thought, “Why does this feel harder, not easier?”, this will give you clarity.If you're listening to this and realizing you're tired of feeling stuck or unclearI want to invite you into a conversation.On this call, we'll slow things down and get clear on what's actually driving your struggle, so you can see the path forward and know what it's going to take to create real change.But this is for men who are ready to take ownership and do the work.If that's you, you can book a complimentary call here:

Most men are journaling, but they're still stuck.In this episode, we break down why journaling often doesn't lead to real change, and what actually does.If you've ever tried to “be more aware,” write out your feelings, or stay consistent with journaling but still find yourself falling back into porn, this episode will help you see why.We walk through a different approach to journaling, one that moves from emotional expression to clarity.Because healing doesn't come from dumping your thoughts, it comes from understanding what's actually happening beneath them.

Why do you keep going back to porn — even when you really want to stop?If you've been stuck in the cycle of trying to quit porn, relapsing, and starting over, this episode will help you understand what's actually going on.This isn't just a lack of discipline.And it's not random.Your porn habits are revealing something deeper.

I believe 100% that we must take every thought captive, renew the mind, replace lies with truth... all of thatBut what if we're missing the fuel to all of that happening?I am SICK of guys spending time, money and energy on things that dont work. They try so so hard to quit porn, stop masturbating, discipline themselves to stop lusting, but nothing ever seems to workUNTIL NOWIn this episode, I do something really special... I lay out my framework for getting clear, sober and free- Get 100% clarity of what drives your porn addiction- Get 100% clarity of drives your immaturity- Get 100% clarity on how to heal your root issues- How to Regulate and become emotionally mature- How to take awareness and turn it into healing- How to do Inner Child Work- How to get sober from porn- How to resolve trauma and find freedom over pornI do this work everyday with my 1:1 clients If you're serious and ready to get free, book a call now!https://secrethabit.ca/callWe have a $1000 discount for Black Friday if you book a call with this linkIf you need something a bit more entry level - group coaching, video course, etc, I got you!You can join our Inner Circle Brotherhood hereAt $49/month during Black Friday and Cyber Monday, you'll never find a better program at a price this low!https://deepcleancoaching.com/black-friday?am_id=secret3516If you see this link AFTER black friday, use this link to get the regular pricehttps://deepcleancoaching.com/innercircle?am_id=secret3478

Your longings are the compass of your heart... start focusing on the these and you will go in the right directionIn this episode, Shawn will discuss:- How to effectively say NO to porn - Why just saying no to porn because its bad doesn't work- Getting to the real heart issue- Healing trauma and resolving your woundsIf you're looking to get free from porn, its not a secret how to do that in the next 90 days. We have a very clear system and our new Inner Circle Brotherhood is only $2 a day⁠Join Inner CircleOr, check out, secrethabit.ca for all of our resources to quit porn and finding lasting freedom

This episode is based on this post I wrote in our DeepClean private community (learn more about Inner Circle):Last week I was working 1:1 with a client to help him pinpoint some wounds from his past.The challenge?He didn't know what happened to cause the wounds.He knew something was there — he has struggles today to prove it — but he just couldn't pinpoint what happened.And honestly?I see this all the time.Guys want to really dial in the trauma story. It makes sense… we want clarity. But let me remind you —

Suppressing emotions is at the heart of what drives people to escape reality - we call this fantasy...What if you could face reality with your Saviour? What if you had a grasp on your internal battles and let God fight for you?One of the greatest weapons against suppression is journalling. And one of the greatest weapons against distance from God is a heart that wants to be known This episode was inspired by a group call Shawn did where he had 15 men write their own psalm of lament... 4 Steps to writing a psalm:- Questioning- Complaint- Petition for Help- Statement of Confidence To learn more about Shawns porn recovery coaching, hop on this free MasterClassHelena was also moved by journalling in her journey. As a mom, a betrayed partner, one who went through pain and loss, this method of therapy was HUGE for her.In this episode, you'll learn about- How journalling helped us quit addiction, grow closer and move into new season- How to read the psalms - Vulnerability and trust- Why men are desperate for expression and safetyIf you're looking to get free from porn, its not a secret how to do that in the next 90 days. We have a very clear system and our new Inner Circle Brotherhood is only $2 a dayJoin Inner Circle

The Czech Republic has some staggering challenges when it comes to sexuality. Stats show us that they are top in the world in porn creation, sex trafficking, and some other difficult things to make sense of... I brought Pete Lupton on the show today to talk about his incredible mission to help a country start to understand that porn at the very least can be a problemPete also shares about his journey of recovery, going through 10 years of what doesnt work so he could finally find what does work. Now he spends all of his time making sure more people learn the truth and develop the tools that really work to say no to porn and get sober from sexual struggles.While listening, you may feel a nudge to get some help and a part of the solution to this problem rather than continue to give into the problem... if soCheck out secrethabit.ca to get connected to Shawn and his coaching with the DeepClean ProgramTopics we cover in this episode:- Passion behind a mission to change the narrative behind pornography- What does not work in recovery- What does work in recovery- Hope for whats available in Jesus - Czechs views of porn, sex and religion- Vision for the Czech Republic - What God is doing through NePornu and how everybody can helpTo get connected to Pete and NePornu, here are 3 ways to do soInstagram: https://instagram.com/info_npczWebsite: https://nepornu.cz/Donate (different ways per country below): -https://nepornu.cz/podpor-projekt-financne/- https://www.jaron.org/ministry-team/pete-lupton/- https://www.darujme.cz/projekt/1202617?locale=en

Helena and Shawn open up about their journeys from sexual shame and the weight of regret, to working as a team and developing a sexual union that is healthy and rawThis journey is one we all have to embark on... learning to be vulnerable, faithful and compassionate, while at the same time, holding a standard and casting vision of what is possibleShawn quit porn and masturbation in 2017, and overcame Erectile Dysfunction in 2020- To work with Shawn and his proven approach to lasting freedom from porn, go to secrethabit.caHelena had her own struggles with porn and masturbation before marriage, but her main journey was overcoming betrayal trauma which took 2 years after Shawn quit pornIn this episode, you'll learn about- The 4 stages we went through to heal wounds and become a team- The way to effective vulnerability- How to be safe for the other person- The deeper realm of trauma and woundsLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: ⁠⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠⁠Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠⁠today!If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Mind Over Explicit Matter - Dr Trish Leigh's new book is all about the connection between porn addiction and way way we function as humansIn this incredible interview, Dr Trish gets into some of the most practical, simple and profound ways someone can get clean from porn, quit masturbation and overcome erectile dysfunction Get ready to learn about:- What really works for people who want to quit porn- Fear and Anxiety - Dopamine Determination + Getting Healthy Seretonin and Oxytocin- Becoming self aware to learn from relapses- Inner Child Work and Root Healing- Finding your voice- Marriage conflict resolution ----Next action steps:Work with me 1:1: ⁠⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠⁠Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠⁠today!If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/------Work with Dr Trish or learn more about her resourceshttps://drtrishleigh.com/https://www.youtube.com/@DrTrishLeigh

The mother wound is often missed or misunderstood... however, iv found it to be the missing link to most guys wounds that lead them down the road to addictions to sex, porn and masturbationWhy?Because the mother is at the heart of our safety, nurture, affection and intimacy. She models for us what a women is like and what its like to interact and live around oneWhen men have a mother wound, they struggle to feel safe, to trust, to risk, to find their voiceI talk about my weekly Trauma Care Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠⁠ today!In this Episode, Im going to talk about everything mother wound:- How our mother forms our sexuality- Common wounds from the mother- Enmeshment - mom uses the son to numb her pain- Triangulation - mom does everything for the family to numb her pain- 4 practical steps you can take to heal your mother wound and BE A MAN who is free from porn, masturbation, sex and the fear holding you down from all God made you to beLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: ⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠today!If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Renewing your mind is a key concept in Christianity, but how do you do it?You may know what to do, but how?Lets talk about that today so you are clear in the how and have some ideas of your next stepsI talk about my weekly Inner Child Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠ today!In this episode. I talk about:- Overcoming temptation to porn, masturbation and other sins through articulating your deeper wounding- Bringing your wounds to Jesus- Developing your prayer life- Renewing your mind through clarity of what needs renewingFor more insights on Inner Child work and trauma care, check out my past episodes - they're FULL of coaching tips on how to apply what you're learningLooking for more?Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ today!Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Helena is back! Get ready to learn all about her recent 2 years and how she overcame depression and renewed her faith in Christ...We will talk about Helenas struggle with depression and the state it created in herAnd about how Shawn found himself as a foreigner, a parent of 2 girls and a husband of a wife going through ALOT at once.How did Helena overcome depression without pills?How did Shawn remain integrous and porn free?This is a really powerful raw chat between two people who have been through a ton. Married 9 years, 8 years of freedom from secual addiction and now 2 kids and a large coaching practise - we love giving back to inspire, convict and offer hopeMay out failures be your success so you can experience ALL that Jesus has for youIts time to overcome depression, fear, shame, porn addiction, masturbation and all other sexual bondage!Looking for more?Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the DeepClean Inner Circle⁠ today!Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsIf you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/RESOURCE PLUG: Humility by Andrew Murray is the book that CHANGED us around this topic of emptying ourselves and truly filling up with Jesus

Theres one challenge guys run into everytime when trying to quit porn, overcome masturbation and put and end to any sexual strugglesIt is not what you would expect... its focusing on the task at hand more than the purpose aheadI am a huge fan of seeing outcomes and experiences over the task itself.This can be a huge help to create more hope, optimism, faith and desire to do hard things any god recovery requiresA lot of guys do need help with these things though, its not EASY, even if its simpleIF you do need help, for $2 a day, you can join us in the DeepClean Inner CircleA place of Godly Brotherhood built on a Proven Content and Coaching model that has helped over 1500 guysLearn more about Inner Circle HereIn todays episode, you'll learn about:- Why a mission is so important- Why outcome focused is better than task focused- My powerful Mission Statement template- How to apply Mission Statements into your life for maximum effectivenessIf you want more info on our approach at DeepClean before joining DeepClean Inner CircleMake sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsIf you're really on the fence of what to do next, heres my free 90 day porn survival guide, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day

The final step in this framework is focused on freedom, but more honestly, its about confidence, integrity and longevity. This is really what guys want… they want to LIVE their lives without the bondage of “what if I slip again” or “what if I get tempted”ENOUGH with this crap… freedom doesnt talk like this, and I want to explain to you HOW to get free. Its not about time, its about resolving root pain and finding completion in your heart - sure this takes time, but time is not the main factor.You need a guide for this, hands down. I would love to be that guide if you want to consider working with meIf you're ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠In this part 3 episode, I am going to talk all about freedom and the ways to develop healthy confidence.What works Finding clarity on the reasons for the root issues, not just the root issues themselvesResolving the root pain behind the unmet needs and woundsFinding completion with painful relationships Renewing the mind and restoring your identity in ChristWhat does not workFocusing on the present and seeing re occurring problems as part of lifeSeeing on going issues as your thorn in the fleshAssuming that the past is forgiven so there's no need to do any work with your childhoodGetting stuck in the busy cycle of recoveryConceptsReverse Engineering - finding clarity in why XYZ arouses youForgivenessSoul TiesRedefining Core MotivationsInner Child WorkApplicationLocate - seeing the boy inside of youLearn - understanding what's at the heart of your on going struggles with pornographyLead - Going from what feels true to what is trueJesus - Re-experiencing life through a new lens with JesusNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

Its insane how many guys think that awareness is what changes your life… I was stuck in that mindset for a long time and it really kept me stuck… I knew my struggles but I didnt know what to do with themIn this episode, I will lay out the framework for you to get SUPER clear on the real problems and then get SUPER clear on what to do about them based off of what the problems are revealing about your heart.I am excited about this episode guys, this content is some of the best I have ever come by and I am really proud of the work we do with DeepClean… it took me many years to understand this concept and now you can figure it out with me in just 20 mins, thats pretty cool!If you're ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Heres what ill be sharing in this part 2 episode all about becoming emotionally mature and achieving solid sobrietyWhat worksBecoming emotionally aware THEN using that awareness to change the way you actWhat doesn't workDefining your emotions and expecting life to change because you now know how you feelConceptUtilize Trigger Digger, Trigger Template and Journaling to grow in awarenessQuick insight on each oneDefine your red zone plan - triggers, fear response, tendenciesUnderstand your longings/needs - main needs of humans and 4 ways to get them metCreate a green zone plan focused on what and how will help you experience what you need - proactive and reactiveApplication with exampleRed ZoneTrigger: Fear of rejectionResponse: Submit and freezeTendencies: people please, overeat, judge others, internal anger, avoidance of conflict, futility towards relationshipsNeedsSafety, vulnerability, support, predictability, hope, reassurance, curiosityGreen ZoneWhat can helpBible, prayer walks, calling a friend, spotify playlist, having a bath, meeting with mentor, throwing rocks by the water, hugging my wifeWho can helpWife, friend, mentor, God, sister, brotherWhen did I feel it beforeConflict with mom was resolved, safee to fail with wife, exposed by friend with love, invited into fellowship with church groupNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

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