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You've learned about Heart Hunger. You've discovered the Red Zone and the Green Zone. You've started understanding why pornography isn't simply about willpower.So... now what?One of the biggest challenges I see after coaching thousands of Christian men is that information doesn't automatically lead to transformation. It's one thing to understand the framework. It's another thing to know how it applies to your story.In this episode, I explain why I created the Personal Recovery Plan and how it helps men move from confusion to clarity by understanding the true issue beneath their struggle with pornography. I'll walk you through exactly what happens during a session, who it's designed for, and why personalized clarity often becomes the turning point in lasting porn recovery.If you've been asking yourself, "Why do I keep relapsing?" or "I understand the concepts, but how do I actually apply them?" this episode is for you.If you've already taken the Clarity Quiz and you're ready to stop guessing, I'd love to help you build a personalized recovery strategy based on your story, your patterns, your Heart Hunger, and your season of life.

After everything you've learned throughout the Freedom Foundations Series, one question remains:Now what?This final episode isn't about learning another recovery strategy. It's about becoming the man you've been building toward all along.Throughout this series, we've explored your inner world, your Hungry Heart, formative wounds, regulation, the Red Zone and Green Zone, leading the boy within, renewing your mind, repentance, forgiveness, and intimacy with Jesus. But none of those lessons were meant to stay as information.They were meant to become your new way of living.In this episode, Shawn helps you step out of survival and into maturity by showing you how to live from what is true rather than what merely feels true. You'll reflect on how far you've come, identify what has changed in your heart, and create a simple daily rhythm that helps you continue growing with clarity, confidence, and freedom.You'll also work through a practical exercise to develop your own New Man Mantra: a simple, personalized reminder that keeps your heart anchored in truth and helps you intentionally respond to life's challenges.In this episode, you'll discover:Why repetition, not more information, is what creates lasting transformationHow to recognize the growth God has already begun in your heartWhat it looks like to lead yourself with confidence instead of reacting from survivalHow to build simple daily habits that reinforce truth and emotional maturityA practical exercise to help you continue walking in freedom long after this series endsWhether you've listened to every episode or you're just beginning your journey, my hope is that this series helps you understand your heart, renew your mind, and become the man God created you to be.Thank you for joining me throughout the Freedom Foundations Series. It's been a privilege to walk this journey with you.If this series has helped you see your struggle more clearly, don't stop here.Ready for your next step?

Forgiveness is one of the hardest parts of the healing journe. Not because it's complicated, but because it touches the deepest places of our hearts.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn explores why forgiveness isn't about pretending the past didn't happen or minimizing the pain you've experienced. It's about restoring intimacy with God and finding freedom from the weight you've been carrying.Through two powerful stories from his coaching journey, Shawn unpacks why many Christian men struggle to forgive others completely, why receiving God's forgiveness can be even harder than giving it, and how both are essential for lasting healing.Together, you'll work through two guided exercises:Receiving Christ's forgiveness for the shame, regret, and failures you've been carrying.Offering specific, intentional forgiveness to someone who has deeply hurt you.Rather than rushing past your pain, this episode will help you identify what actually needs forgiveness and bring it honestly before Jesus. The accompanying workbook encourages you to be specific, to speak forgiveness aloud, and to return to the process whenever new hurts surface, making forgiveness an ongoing practice instead of a one-time event.In this episode you'll discover:Why forgiveness restores intimacy with GodWhy forgiving generally often leaves you stuckThe difference between forgiving yourself and receiving Christ's forgivenessHow to release bitterness without denying your painA practical, guided process to receive and offer forgivenessIf you've ever felt trapped by resentment, shame, or regret, this episode is an invitation to stop carrying what Jesus has already carried for you.

Most men think repentance is about trying harder, feeling worse about their sin, or proving themselves to God.I don't believe that's what repentance is at all.I believe repentance is about restoring intimacy.Throughout this Freedom Foundations series, we've been uncovering the deeper reasons behind the struggle with porn. We've explored your inner world, your formative wounds, your hungry heart, your triggers, your relationship with Jesus, and how to renew your mind.But understanding your heart is only part of the journey.Eventually, you have to bring your heart back to God.In this episode, I'll show you why repentance isn't punishment—it's an invitation. We'll look at the vows you've agreed with, the attachments you've relied on, and the soul ties that may still be influencing your heart. Most importantly, you'll learn a practical process for releasing those things and returning to intimacy with Jesus.If you've ever wondered why you know the truth but still feel pulled back into old patterns, this episode is for you.In this episode you'll learn:• Why repentance restores intimacy instead of producing shame• Why most unhealthy attachments began as survival, not rebellion• The difference between vows, attachments, and soul ties• How these hidden agreements quietly shape your recovery• A guided exercise to help you release what no longer belongs and return your heart to JesusGuided Reflection (from the eipsode):What have you been relying on to meet a need that only God was designed to fulfill?What agreement, attachment, or relationship is it time to bring fully into the light?

Most men don't struggle because they lack motivation.They struggle because they lack a clear, repeatable process.After thousands of coaching sessions with Christian men, I've become convinced that lasting freedom doesn't come from collecting more recovery tools—it comes from following a simple system you can trust.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, I bring everything together and show you how every lesson we've covered fits into just two practical systems.One helps you navigate your life today.The other helps you heal what was formed years ago.Together, they give you a simple framework you can return to again and again, whether you're facing temptation, stress, discouragement, conflict, or relapse.In this episode you'll discover:Why porn recovery often feels overwhelmingThe difference between tools and systemsHow System A helps you regulate your inner world and hungry heart todayHow System B helps you heal formative wounds and renew your mindWhy both systems ask the same questions from different perspectivesHow to move from confusion to confidence by simply gathering data and plugging it into the right systemIf you've ever found yourself thinking,"I don't know what to do right now..."this episode will help you replace uncertainty with clarity.My passion is helping Christian men become mature leaders who know how to understand their hearts, respond with wisdom, and experience the freedom Christ offers—not just from porn, but in every area of life.

Most Christians believe Jesus heals.But many have never experienced His presence in the places they still carry pain.In this fourth episode of the Freedom Foundations Series focused on the Inner boy, Shawn explores what it looks like to invite Jesus into the stories, wounds, and formative experiences that continue to shape your struggle today.This isn't about chasing emotional experiences or imagining something that isn't real.It's about opening your heart to the living Christ, the One who knows your story, understands your pain, and longs to reveal His love in deeply personal ways.After learning how to locate the boy within, understand his story, and lead him with truth, this episode brings the journey to its deepest point: allowing Jesus to meet you there.Together, you'll walk through a guided reflection designed to help you:Invite Jesus into a formative memoryExperience His compassion and presenceListen for His truthReflect on what He wants you to knowDeepen your trust in the One who restores heartsWhether you've followed Jesus for years or you're just beginning to understand His love, this episode is an invitation to slow down, open your heart, and allow Him to meet you personally.My passion is helping Christian men move beyond behavior management and into a relationship with Jesus that transforms the deepest places of the heart.

Most Christians know they're supposed to renew their minds.But very few have ever been shown how.In this powerful guided episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn walks through the practical process of leading the wounded places of your heart out of what feels true and into the truth of the Gospel.This isn't positive thinking.This isn't behavior management.This is Christ-centered inner leadership.You'll discover why so many men stay stuck in cycles of shame and relapse, why simply knowing Bible verses often isn't enough, and how God's truth becomes transformational when it's spoken directly into the wounds that first believed a lie.Through the teaching and bonus guided exercise, you'll learn how to:• Lead your heart with empathy instead of condemnation• Affirm your God-given identity instead of your failures• Apply the Gospel to specific wounds and lies• Cast a vision for the man God is calling you to become• Separate what feels true from what is eternally trueIf you've ever thought:"I know the truth... but I don't feel it,"this episode is for you.My passion is helping Christian men move beyond managing porn and into a life of clarity, confidence, maturity, and real freedom.Because lasting transformation doesn't happen by trying harder.It happens when the truth of Christ takes root in a heart that has learned to receive it.

Most men are in a hurry to change.Very few take the time to understand themselves.But before you can lead the boy within, you must first learn about him.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn guides you through one of the most powerful reflection exercises in his coaching process.Together you'll begin uncovering:• The emotions you learned to suppress• The beliefs you formed about yourself, others, God, and life• The survival strategies you developed• The heart hunger that still influences your decisions todayThis isn't about staying stuck in the past.It's about understanding the story beneath your struggle so you can finally stop reacting and start leading yourself with maturity and confidence.Through a guided exercise, you'll practice listening instead of fixing, becoming curious instead of critical, and developing compassion for the younger parts of yourself that simply learned how to survive.When you understand the boy, your present-day struggles begin to make sense.And when they make sense, they can finally begin to change.As a Christian coach, my passion is helping men understand what's happening beneath the surface so they can experience the freedom Christ has already made available to them.

Most men spend years trying to change their behavior while never stopping to understand the story behind it.What if your struggle isn't random?What if the anxiety, shame, triggers, and patterns you experience today are connected to lessons you learned years ago?In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn introduces one of the most transformative steps in his coaching framework: Locating the Boy.This isn't about living in the past or blaming your childhood.It's about developing compassion for your story so you can finally understand the roots of your struggle and begin leading yourself with maturity, confidence, and truth.Together, you'll slow down through a guided reflection exercise designed to help you identify a memory, story, or recurring theme from your formative years that still holds valuable insight for your healing today.If you've ever wondered:• Why do I keep reacting this way?• Why do I feel stuck in the same patterns?• Why does recovery still feel so difficult?This episode will help you begin connecting the dots.My passion is helping Christian men move beyond coping and behavior management into real clarity and lasting freedom by understanding the heart beneath the struggle.Take your time with this exercise. Don't rush it. Let God reveal what He wants you to see.

Many men hear words like childhood trauma and immediately think:"Nothing that bad happened to me.""My parents did the best they could""Its my fault im this way"But what if healing isn't about focusing on what happened to you?What if it's about understanding what formed in you because of it?In this episode, Shawn explores the concept of Formative Wounds and explains why many present-day struggles are connected to ways of coping , beliefs, fears, and survival patterns learned years ago.This isn't about blame.It's about understanding.Because when you understand your story, you stop asking:"What's wrong with me?"And start asking:"What did I learn?"Together we'll explore:• Why healing trauma often feels difficult • Why Shawn prefers the term formative wounds over childhood trauma• The difference between events (Big T trauma) and development (small T trauma)• What many men learned to suppress growing up and how its the core issue today• How wounds shape thoughts, emotions, and heart hunger • Why compassion creates more change than shame• Why leadership is fundamental to living a mature lifeYou'll also be guided through a practical reflection exercise to help uncover:• What the boy learned • What emotions were suppressed • What beliefs were formed • What heart hunger went unmet • What survival patterns still show up todayYour story explains you.It does not define you.

Many men think they need to work harder and do more good things... What they actually need is a better framework.In this episode, Shawn introduces the Red Zone and Green Zone - a practical tool that has helped countless men move from confusion and overwhelm into clarity and confidence.You'll learn why awareness always comes before change, how to identify what's happening beneath the surface, and what it looks like to respond intentionally instead of reacting impulsively.Together we'll explore:• The purpose of the Red Zone - Clarity of the real heart problem behind your addiction and struggle• The purpose of the Green Zone - Strategy to become emotional mature • Why porn recovery often feels overwhelming • How to identify the deepest thoughts, emotions, and heart hungers• What healthy response actually looks like• Why upgrading your life is better than getting busy• How to connect to God in a way that really worksYou'll also be invited into a practical exercise to help you begin moving from reaction to response in your everyday life.Because lasting freedom isn't built by trying harder.It's built by learning how to lead yourself well.

Most men think they want porn.But what if that's not actually true?What if porn has simply become a substitute for something your heart has been searching for all along?In this episode, Shawn unpacks one of the most important concepts in recovery: the Hungry Heart.You'll discover why so many men continue returning to porn even when they genuinely want freedom, and how understanding your deeper longings can completely change the recovery process.Together we'll explore:• What heart hunger really is • Why porn often feels comforting, even though you hate it • The deeper needs underneath temptation • Why freedom requires more than behavior change • How God meets us in our deepest longings• How to integrate porn recovery into your day with more ease• How to playtThe Heart Hunger GameYou'll also be guided through a simple reflection exercise to help uncover what your heart may actually be searching for.Because when you understand the hunger underneath the behavior, the path forward becomes much clearer.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on what they're doing.Very few stop to explore what's happening underneath it.The reality is that every behavior is connected to something deeper. Thoughts. Emotions. Longings. Fears. Stress. Heart hunger.In this episode, Shawn introduces one of the most important concepts in recovery: your inner world.You'll learn why so many men feel disconnected from themselves, how suppression creates confusion, and why porn often becomes a response to an inner world that feels overwhelming or misunderstood.Together we'll explore:• What your inner world actually is • Why most men become disconnected from it • How suppression fuels unwanted sexual behaviors • The connection between thoughts, emotions, and heart hunger • Why awareness creates clarity and hope when quitting pornYou'll also be invited into a simple reflection exercise to help you start noticing + the bonus hack to do these more effecively than ever before:• What you're feeling • What you're thinking • What your heart is hungry forBecause when you understand what's happening beneath the surface, your struggle starts making a lot more sense.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding temptation, but rarely stop to ask what their triggers may actually be revealing.In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks the deeper meaning behind porn triggers, emotional patterns, and why so many men stay stuck in surface-level recovery approaches.This conversation explores why temptation often isn't random, how emotional triggers fuel porn habits, and why understanding your inner world changes everything when it comes to lasting freedom.In this episode:the difference between sexual temptation and emotional triggerswhy avoiding temptation alone rarely creates freedomthe deeper reasons why loneliness, overwhelm, shame, and disconnection fuel porn patternswhy porn often becomes a response to unmet heart hungershow to recognize patterns beneath urges and cravingspractical reflection questions to help you build claritywhy curiosity creates more change than condemnationShawn also walks through a real coaching example showing how seemingly “sexual” struggles are often connected to deeper emotional and relational patterns underneath.If you've ever wondered:“Why do my triggers feel so powerful?”“Why do certain situations affect me so much?”“Why do I keep going back even when I know better?”“Why does temptation feel so overwhelming sometimes?”this episode will help things start making sense.Reflection Questions:What am I usually feeling before urges hit?What patterns keep repeating in my life?What situations seem to intensify temptation?What am I avoiding emotionally?What is my heart actually hungry for?

Most men trying to quit porn are working incredibly hard, but still feel exhausted, confused, and stuck in the same cycles.In this first episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks one of the biggest problems in modern porn recovery:Men are being taught to work harder without understanding the real issue underneath their struggle.This episode explores why so many men lose hope in recovery, how the “effort trap” keeps people burned out, and why clarity changes everything when it comes to lasting freedom.In this episode:why modern recovery often failshow confusion destroys motivation and confidencethe hidden emotional drivers behind porn addictionwhy porn is often connected to deeper heart hungerthe difference between working hard and working smarthow clarity creates hope, confidence, and directionwhy freedom starts with understanding your inner worldShawn also shares a personal story about learning the Czech language and how that experience completely changed the way he coaches men through recovery.If you've ever felt like:“I've tried everything”“Why do I keep going back?”“Why does this still have power over me?”“Why does recovery feel so exhausting?”this episode will help things start making sense.Reflection Questions:What does porn seem to offer me emotionally?What am I usually feeling before I relapse?What is my heart actually hungry for?Where do I feel overwhelmed, disconnected, unsafe, or unseen?What if my struggle makes more sense than I think?

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding triggers. However, underneath the struggle is often something much deeper... a hungry heart that still doesn't know how to receive healthy connection, regulation, and care.In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Green Zone and explores what it actually looks like to respond to your heart hunger instead of escaping it.This conversation dives into regulation, heart hunger, and intentional recovery. Shawn shares about how true freedom begins through grounded action and healthy connection instead of constant burnout and survival mode.In this episode:why regulation is essential for lasting sobriety from pornhow healthy responses begin to retrain your inner world and conditioning the connection between confidence, clarity, and intentional actionwhat keeps many men stuck in recovery burnout and overwhelmhow to start building a practical Green Zone plan for nervous system regulation why lasting freedom requires learning how to lead yourself into what is true If you've ever known what triggers you, but still found yourself unsure how to actually move forward, this episode will help things start making sense.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on stopping the behavior…but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper: a dysregulated inner world full of suppressed emotions, negative thoughts, and unmet heart hunger.In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Red Zone and explores what it actually looks like to understand the deeper patterns driving your porn struggle.This conversation dives into emotional suppression, nervous system dysregulation, and heart hunger — and how true freedom begins through clarity and self-awareness instead of shame and reaction.In this episode:why finding clarity changes everything for porn recoveryhow suppressed emotions fuel unhealthy patterns leading to relapsethe connection between thoughts, reactions, and heart hungerwhat keeps many men stuck in cycles of overwhelm and confusion when trying to quit pornhow to start identifying what's actually happening underneath your urgeswhy lasting freedom requires more than behavior managementIf you've ever tried to stop porn… but still found yourself confused, reactive, or stuck in the same cycles, this episode will help things start making sense.

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often a much deeper story involving emotional wounds, unmet heart hunger, shame, confusion, and misunderstood sexuality.In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Drew Boa - founder of Husband Material and author of Outgrow Porn, to unpack a radically different approach to porn recovery rooted in emotional honesty, nervous system regulation, Godly sexuality, and intimacy with JesusTogether, they explore why lasting freedom comes through understanding your story and desires instead of simply fighting your urges.This episode dives into:why porn triggers often reveal something deeper underneaththe difference between natural sexual arousal and emotional triggering (hysterical means historical)how understanding your story reduces shame and confusion (the boy behind the curtain)Drew's approach to inner child work and root healinghow to process porn urges instead of panicking or suppressing them (BOA approach)practical tools that help when you feel overwhelmed or triggered to watch pornwhat it means to collaborate with your sexuality instead of constantly fighting ithow emotional regulation changes porn recoverywhy many Christian men fear or misunderstand sexualitythe connection between heart hunger, healing, and intimacy with Jesushow humility, honesty, and curiosity create lasting transformationOne of the most freeing parts of this conversation is the realization that your sexuality is not the enemy, and your struggle makes far more sense than you think it does.If you've ever felt trapped in shame, confused by your triggers, exhausted from relapse cycles, or unsure how to experience real freedom in Christ, this episode will help things start making sense.

Most men trying to quit porn aren't lacking discipline.They're overwhelmed, disconnected from their inner world, and applying solutions to a problem they don't fully understand.In this episode, I share more about the transition happening inside my coaching and the way I help guys. I do a deeper dive on what I've learned after spending over 2,000 coaching hours helping men pursue freedom from porn.Check it out to hear more about:why clarity changes recoverywhy strategy and hard work only matter if you know what the problem isthe deeper role of the hungry heart and how scripture talks about it as the sourcewhy many men struggle with suppression more than severe traumahow intimacy with Jesus transforms healingwhy confidence grows when you understand what to do and how to do ithow its not sobriety from porn that creates lasting freedom, its clarity, strategy and confidenceIf recovery has felt confusing, overwhelming, or like you're constantly trying harder without understanding why, this episode will help things start making sense.If you want a quick insight into what your heart is hungry for,

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper:A hungry heart longing to be filled by God instead of numbed through escape.In this episode, Shawn and Helena unpack humility, surrender, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus meet the deeper places of your heart.Using Andrew Murray's book Humility: The Beauty of Holiness as a foundation, this conversation explores how real freedom grows through dependence on God, intimacy with the Holy Spirit, and learning to empty ourselves of self-reliance so we can be filled with truth and life.In this episode:why heart hunger matters in porn recoveryhow humility creates space for healing and freedom with JesusHelena's story of coming out of depression through surrender and filling herself with Christthe difference between suppressing desire and bringing it to Godhow intimacy with Jesus changes porn recovery, marriage, and parentingwhy lasting freedom from porn requires more than discipline alone--If you've ever known what you should do… but still struggled to trust God deeply in your recovery journey, this episode will help things start making sense.

“I've tried to quit, so why do I keep going back?”In this episode, I'll break down why your struggle with porn isn't actually about discipline or motivation — and what's really going on underneath it.You'll learn:why behavior isn't the real problemwhat your “inner world” actually is (in a simple way)how disconnection drives the cycleand why understanding your heart hunger changes everything I dropped a BONUS in the episode :) I shared about how you can play the The Heart Hunger Game for MAX awareness and effectiveness

Most men think porn recovery is mainly about discipline.Trying harder. Staying accountable. Fighting urges.But what if the real issue goes deeper than behavior?

You're making progress… so why does it feel like a lot to handle?In this episode, I'll unpack why quitting porn can feel overwhelming, even when you're doing better.You'll learn:why this doesn't mean you're failingwhat's actually happening in your inner world (emotions, thoughts, longings)the difference between the Red Zone and the Green Zone (regulating and getting sober)and the simple shift that helps you stop reacting and start leading yourselfIf you've ever thought, “Why does this feel harder, not easier?”, this will give you clarity.If you're listening to this and realizing you're tired of feeling stuck or unclearI want to invite you into a conversation.On this call, we'll slow things down and get clear on what's actually driving your struggle, so you can see the path forward and know what it's going to take to create real change.But this is for men who are ready to take ownership and do the work.If that's you, you can book a complimentary call here:

Most men are journaling, but they're still stuck.In this episode, we break down why journaling often doesn't lead to real change, and what actually does.If you've ever tried to “be more aware,” write out your feelings, or stay consistent with journaling but still find yourself falling back into porn, this episode will help you see why.We walk through a different approach to journaling, one that moves from emotional expression to clarity.Because healing doesn't come from dumping your thoughts, it comes from understanding what's actually happening beneath them.

Why do you keep going back to porn — even when you really want to stop?If you've been stuck in the cycle of trying to quit porn, relapsing, and starting over, this episode will help you understand what's actually going on.This isn't just a lack of discipline.And it's not random.Your porn habits are revealing something deeper.

I believe 100% that we must take every thought captive, renew the mind, replace lies with truth... all of thatBut what if we're missing the fuel to all of that happening?I am SICK of guys spending time, money and energy on things that dont work. They try so so hard to quit porn, stop masturbating, discipline themselves to stop lusting, but nothing ever seems to workUNTIL NOWIn this episode, I do something really special... I lay out my framework for getting clear, sober and free- Get 100% clarity of what drives your porn addiction- Get 100% clarity of drives your immaturity- Get 100% clarity on how to heal your root issues- How to Regulate and become emotionally mature- How to take awareness and turn it into healing- How to do Inner Child Work- How to get sober from porn- How to resolve trauma and find freedom over pornI do this work everyday with my 1:1 clients If you're serious and ready to get free, book a call now!https://secrethabit.ca/callWe have a $1000 discount for Black Friday if you book a call with this linkIf you need something a bit more entry level - group coaching, video course, etc, I got you!You can join our Inner Circle Brotherhood hereAt $49/month during Black Friday and Cyber Monday, you'll never find a better program at a price this low!https://deepcleancoaching.com/black-friday?am_id=secret3516If you see this link AFTER black friday, use this link to get the regular pricehttps://deepcleancoaching.com/innercircle?am_id=secret3478

Your longings are the compass of your heart... start focusing on the these and you will go in the right directionIn this episode, Shawn will discuss:- How to effectively say NO to porn - Why just saying no to porn because its bad doesn't work- Getting to the real heart issue- Healing trauma and resolving your woundsIf you're looking to get free from porn, its not a secret how to do that in the next 90 days. We have a very clear system and our new Inner Circle Brotherhood is only $2 a day⁠Join Inner CircleOr, check out, secrethabit.ca for all of our resources to quit porn and finding lasting freedom

This episode is based on this post I wrote in our DeepClean private community (learn more about Inner Circle):Last week I was working 1:1 with a client to help him pinpoint some wounds from his past.The challenge?He didn't know what happened to cause the wounds.He knew something was there — he has struggles today to prove it — but he just couldn't pinpoint what happened.And honestly?I see this all the time.Guys want to really dial in the trauma story. It makes sense… we want clarity. But let me remind you —

Suppressing emotions is at the heart of what drives people to escape reality - we call this fantasy...What if you could face reality with your Saviour? What if you had a grasp on your internal battles and let God fight for you?One of the greatest weapons against suppression is journalling. And one of the greatest weapons against distance from God is a heart that wants to be known This episode was inspired by a group call Shawn did where he had 15 men write their own psalm of lament... 4 Steps to writing a psalm:- Questioning- Complaint- Petition for Help- Statement of Confidence To learn more about Shawns porn recovery coaching, hop on this free MasterClassHelena was also moved by journalling in her journey. As a mom, a betrayed partner, one who went through pain and loss, this method of therapy was HUGE for her.In this episode, you'll learn about- How journalling helped us quit addiction, grow closer and move into new season- How to read the psalms - Vulnerability and trust- Why men are desperate for expression and safetyIf you're looking to get free from porn, its not a secret how to do that in the next 90 days. We have a very clear system and our new Inner Circle Brotherhood is only $2 a dayJoin Inner Circle

The Czech Republic has some staggering challenges when it comes to sexuality. Stats show us that they are top in the world in porn creation, sex trafficking, and some other difficult things to make sense of... I brought Pete Lupton on the show today to talk about his incredible mission to help a country start to understand that porn at the very least can be a problemPete also shares about his journey of recovery, going through 10 years of what doesnt work so he could finally find what does work. Now he spends all of his time making sure more people learn the truth and develop the tools that really work to say no to porn and get sober from sexual struggles.While listening, you may feel a nudge to get some help and a part of the solution to this problem rather than continue to give into the problem... if soCheck out secrethabit.ca to get connected to Shawn and his coaching with the DeepClean ProgramTopics we cover in this episode:- Passion behind a mission to change the narrative behind pornography- What does not work in recovery- What does work in recovery- Hope for whats available in Jesus - Czechs views of porn, sex and religion- Vision for the Czech Republic - What God is doing through NePornu and how everybody can helpTo get connected to Pete and NePornu, here are 3 ways to do soInstagram: https://instagram.com/info_npczWebsite: https://nepornu.cz/Donate (different ways per country below): -https://nepornu.cz/podpor-projekt-financne/- https://www.jaron.org/ministry-team/pete-lupton/- https://www.darujme.cz/projekt/1202617?locale=en

Helena and Shawn open up about their journeys from sexual shame and the weight of regret, to working as a team and developing a sexual union that is healthy and rawThis journey is one we all have to embark on... learning to be vulnerable, faithful and compassionate, while at the same time, holding a standard and casting vision of what is possibleShawn quit porn and masturbation in 2017, and overcame Erectile Dysfunction in 2020- To work with Shawn and his proven approach to lasting freedom from porn, go to secrethabit.caHelena had her own struggles with porn and masturbation before marriage, but her main journey was overcoming betrayal trauma which took 2 years after Shawn quit pornIn this episode, you'll learn about- The 4 stages we went through to heal wounds and become a team- The way to effective vulnerability- How to be safe for the other person- The deeper realm of trauma and woundsLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: ⁠⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠⁠Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠⁠today!If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Mind Over Explicit Matter - Dr Trish Leigh's new book is all about the connection between porn addiction and way way we function as humansIn this incredible interview, Dr Trish gets into some of the most practical, simple and profound ways someone can get clean from porn, quit masturbation and overcome erectile dysfunction Get ready to learn about:- What really works for people who want to quit porn- Fear and Anxiety - Dopamine Determination + Getting Healthy Seretonin and Oxytocin- Becoming self aware to learn from relapses- Inner Child Work and Root Healing- Finding your voice- Marriage conflict resolution ----Next action steps:Work with me 1:1: ⁠⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠⁠Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠⁠today!If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/------Work with Dr Trish or learn more about her resourceshttps://drtrishleigh.com/https://www.youtube.com/@DrTrishLeigh

The mother wound is often missed or misunderstood... however, iv found it to be the missing link to most guys wounds that lead them down the road to addictions to sex, porn and masturbationWhy?Because the mother is at the heart of our safety, nurture, affection and intimacy. She models for us what a women is like and what its like to interact and live around oneWhen men have a mother wound, they struggle to feel safe, to trust, to risk, to find their voiceI talk about my weekly Trauma Care Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠⁠ today!In this Episode, Im going to talk about everything mother wound:- How our mother forms our sexuality- Common wounds from the mother- Enmeshment - mom uses the son to numb her pain- Triangulation - mom does everything for the family to numb her pain- 4 practical steps you can take to heal your mother wound and BE A MAN who is free from porn, masturbation, sex and the fear holding you down from all God made you to beLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: ⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠today!If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Renewing your mind is a key concept in Christianity, but how do you do it?You may know what to do, but how?Lets talk about that today so you are clear in the how and have some ideas of your next stepsI talk about my weekly Inner Child Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠ today!In this episode. I talk about:- Overcoming temptation to porn, masturbation and other sins through articulating your deeper wounding- Bringing your wounds to Jesus- Developing your prayer life- Renewing your mind through clarity of what needs renewingFor more insights on Inner Child work and trauma care, check out my past episodes - they're FULL of coaching tips on how to apply what you're learningLooking for more?Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ today!Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Helena is back! Get ready to learn all about her recent 2 years and how she overcame depression and renewed her faith in Christ...We will talk about Helenas struggle with depression and the state it created in herAnd about how Shawn found himself as a foreigner, a parent of 2 girls and a husband of a wife going through ALOT at once.How did Helena overcome depression without pills?How did Shawn remain integrous and porn free?This is a really powerful raw chat between two people who have been through a ton. Married 9 years, 8 years of freedom from secual addiction and now 2 kids and a large coaching practise - we love giving back to inspire, convict and offer hopeMay out failures be your success so you can experience ALL that Jesus has for youIts time to overcome depression, fear, shame, porn addiction, masturbation and all other sexual bondage!Looking for more?Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the DeepClean Inner Circle⁠ today!Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsIf you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/RESOURCE PLUG: Humility by Andrew Murray is the book that CHANGED us around this topic of emptying ourselves and truly filling up with Jesus

Theres one challenge guys run into everytime when trying to quit porn, overcome masturbation and put and end to any sexual strugglesIt is not what you would expect... its focusing on the task at hand more than the purpose aheadI am a huge fan of seeing outcomes and experiences over the task itself.This can be a huge help to create more hope, optimism, faith and desire to do hard things any god recovery requiresA lot of guys do need help with these things though, its not EASY, even if its simpleIF you do need help, for $2 a day, you can join us in the DeepClean Inner CircleA place of Godly Brotherhood built on a Proven Content and Coaching model that has helped over 1500 guysLearn more about Inner Circle HereIn todays episode, you'll learn about:- Why a mission is so important- Why outcome focused is better than task focused- My powerful Mission Statement template- How to apply Mission Statements into your life for maximum effectivenessIf you want more info on our approach at DeepClean before joining DeepClean Inner CircleMake sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsIf you're really on the fence of what to do next, heres my free 90 day porn survival guide, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day

The final step in this framework is focused on freedom, but more honestly, its about confidence, integrity and longevity. This is really what guys want… they want to LIVE their lives without the bondage of “what if I slip again” or “what if I get tempted”ENOUGH with this crap… freedom doesnt talk like this, and I want to explain to you HOW to get free. Its not about time, its about resolving root pain and finding completion in your heart - sure this takes time, but time is not the main factor.You need a guide for this, hands down. I would love to be that guide if you want to consider working with meIf you're ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠In this part 3 episode, I am going to talk all about freedom and the ways to develop healthy confidence.What works Finding clarity on the reasons for the root issues, not just the root issues themselvesResolving the root pain behind the unmet needs and woundsFinding completion with painful relationships Renewing the mind and restoring your identity in ChristWhat does not workFocusing on the present and seeing re occurring problems as part of lifeSeeing on going issues as your thorn in the fleshAssuming that the past is forgiven so there's no need to do any work with your childhoodGetting stuck in the busy cycle of recoveryConceptsReverse Engineering - finding clarity in why XYZ arouses youForgivenessSoul TiesRedefining Core MotivationsInner Child WorkApplicationLocate - seeing the boy inside of youLearn - understanding what's at the heart of your on going struggles with pornographyLead - Going from what feels true to what is trueJesus - Re-experiencing life through a new lens with JesusNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

Its insane how many guys think that awareness is what changes your life… I was stuck in that mindset for a long time and it really kept me stuck… I knew my struggles but I didnt know what to do with themIn this episode, I will lay out the framework for you to get SUPER clear on the real problems and then get SUPER clear on what to do about them based off of what the problems are revealing about your heart.I am excited about this episode guys, this content is some of the best I have ever come by and I am really proud of the work we do with DeepClean… it took me many years to understand this concept and now you can figure it out with me in just 20 mins, thats pretty cool!If you're ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Heres what ill be sharing in this part 2 episode all about becoming emotionally mature and achieving solid sobrietyWhat worksBecoming emotionally aware THEN using that awareness to change the way you actWhat doesn't workDefining your emotions and expecting life to change because you now know how you feelConceptUtilize Trigger Digger, Trigger Template and Journaling to grow in awarenessQuick insight on each oneDefine your red zone plan - triggers, fear response, tendenciesUnderstand your longings/needs - main needs of humans and 4 ways to get them metCreate a green zone plan focused on what and how will help you experience what you need - proactive and reactiveApplication with exampleRed ZoneTrigger: Fear of rejectionResponse: Submit and freezeTendencies: people please, overeat, judge others, internal anger, avoidance of conflict, futility towards relationshipsNeedsSafety, vulnerability, support, predictability, hope, reassurance, curiosityGreen ZoneWhat can helpBible, prayer walks, calling a friend, spotify playlist, having a bath, meeting with mentor, throwing rocks by the water, hugging my wifeWho can helpWife, friend, mentor, God, sister, brotherWhen did I feel it beforeConflict with mom was resolved, safee to fail with wife, exposed by friend with love, invited into fellowship with church groupNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode and 3 part series, I am going to show you the SIMPLE way to do recovery effectively. I have seen thai help hundreds of guys overcome porn, masturbation, and sex addiction and I want to share it with you in a bite size versionI have been free nearly 8 years from porn, masturbation and sex and iv spent 10 000 + hours refining this process. I hope you will glean from it so you can have everything and more in the next few years of your recoveryIf you're ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Here's what I talk about in this part 1 episode on Gaining PerspectiveWho/WhereThe Gospel - Scripture, Holy SpiritMentorsPeers/SpottersDisagree'ersWHYWe need to get out of our own head and feelings start to see and know what is true, factual and provenLet this dictate how you choose, feel and liveNASIn knowledge and understanding, you will grow in confidence… ASSURE yourself in the salvation story, Gods character and His promises for youFind a spiritual father - glean from experienceFind a discipleship partner - sharpen one anotherFind a resource that is focused on scripture, facts and has proven results… NOT MORE HYPE or surface stuffNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

We're a month into 2025, how are you doing with your triggers and temptations? In this episode, I want to ensure you dont just run away from your temptations, I want you to understand them, face them and overcome them We just launched DeepClean Signature 2.0 and its FIRE - you will learn much more about in this episode. If you're ready to book a call with our team, you can learnj how you can work 1:1 with Shawn Bonneteau: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today, we will talk about: - How Emotions and Sexuality Are Connected - What Triggers and Temptation Tell Us - How To Create a Trigger Template - How to Ask Great Questions About Our Temptations and Triggers - How To Get To The Bottom Of Why you're Triggered - Defining Core Lies - Getting Needs Met - Pursuing Real Recovery These topics are fundamental to recovery. Guys in DeepClean are getting incredible results from just these 2 videos in our new course. If you want to take your recovery to the next level, theres no better time to take the next step, Heres a few ways for you take that next step 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Credit to DeepClean and Sathiya Sam & Pure Desires Arousal Template

Hey man, 2025 is fast approaching, but that doesnt mean you cant still make the most of 2024! In this episode I share some thoughts on how you can focus on generosity in this season and get yourself set up for success by enrolling in DeepClean If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ This episode was inspired by a nudge from the Lord to stand firm in my calling as a father one morning. Since then, I started to think about how we need to go from compassion, to leadership to firmness In this episode, you will learn all about the ways to change, but even more, the ways to go through the pain that comes with change 1. Speaking to the man with language that conveys strength and boldness 2. Focusing on 30 day increments to experience the blessing of change/sobriety from porn 3. Creating task focused mission statements to snap yourself out of the dopamine spiral and into the truth 4. Emotional Regulation to ensure you have the bedrock of recovery rock solid If you need help with any of these steps, dont delay getting in touch. I know these concepts can be difficult to apply on your own, not to say you MUST get 1:1 coaching, but to say, you really need to be honest with yourself and how probable it is that you can do this without the right help If you feel ready to explore coaching, book a call, it costs you nothing and could cause you to gain everything https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learning the Czech Language has made me so aware of what guys need when healing from porn addiction... they need clarity, simplicity and spotted reps. They don't need more discipline or harder work, they need more guidance! If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, ill share about my journey of learning Czech and how its improved my coaching 100x over Ill go into details about why the DeepClean system is so incredibly powerful, even more than I knew before learning a language If you feel helpless, lost, or stuck when it comes to quitting porn and overcoming sexual brokenness, then this episode is definitely for you! Book a call to work with me: https://secrethabit.ca/call

If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ This episode is all about helping YOU make the most of your time and effort, so you can get the healing from porn addiction that you're looking for In this episode, you will learn about - the true mindset to prioritizing what matters most - deep work vs learning and preparing - making time vs having time - mission statements - inner child healing A lot of this can be fairly easy to apply, however, to stay consistent, thats the true test. If you struggle with consistency, I would assume theres some deeper roots to work through If you need help healing the roots, book a call with our team. Working with us is often the difference between someone throwing mud against the wall or finding lasting freedom from their porn addiction Book your call now: https://secrethabit.ca/call/

This is Episode 100 of the SH podcast! Bring on the fireworks!! Im so excited to bring this REALLY IMPORTANT word for such a milestone episode If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Iv been UBER convinced lately that guys need to grow in leadership... I did and I still do, and that's after 7 years of freedom from porn addiction! Here are a few of my recent convictions: - Leadership is a non-negotiable - leadership is difficult and rarely taught/understood - leadership is built on empathy and strength - Iv missed out on ensuring guys feel fully equipped in the step of leadership - Anytime someone is stuck after growing in self awareness it always comes down to a lack of leadership Here are some of the biggest challenges I see with clients recently: - Moving from self-awareness to daily AND life long change - How to live in TRUTH when what FEELS TRUE is so powerful - Leading themselves aka, renewing their minds  Here is what I want to explain, explore, and coach you on today: - Where guys are struggling to lead (with examples) - Defining their inner child feelings, thoughts, and needs  - Role-playing leadership to ensure you are fully equipped - my 3 step formula - Learning about the boy within - my 3 step template - Separating what feels true from what really is true through love and STRENGTH *For more content on inner child work, you can check out other episodes on the POD, but for now, check out some of the resources linked here, they will get you on the right track. * Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bonus Resources: Betrayal Trauma Coaches (Affiliated with DeepClean) Lila Pisor - book a call Stacey Oliver - book a call

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Most people struggle to feel momentum in their Christian walk. This leads to low self esteem, dull confidence and lukewarm living... which leads guys to relapsing with porn. Not a fun cycle to be in! One of the biggest reasons I see for this is that we dont know how to truly sharpen one another (Scripture says that iron sharpens iron) Most people are "great" at giving advice, but the advice is actually harmful, or unhelpful at best... We focus way to much on the surface problem and neglect peoples deep pain We must start asking questions that get to the heat of the issue King Artaxerxis in Nehemiah 2 is a great example of what we call curiosity in the recovery world. He asks Nehemiah a wonderful question to get below the surface, and then further, he asks how he can help RATHER than assuming his advice is what he needs I also dive ito some paradigm shifts when it comes to discipleship, accountability and friendship These are some AWESOME tips on how to develop a healthier life which leads to quitting porn and growing in sexual integrity Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ In this episode, you'll learn why you you're coming up short even if you're "doing all the right things" This may be in porn recovery, family, marriage, work... whatever it is, you MUST change your core motivation or else you'll stay stuck. We all have a core identity and from that core identity we have motivations If your motivations are focused on NOT being a failure and working hard to not be one, you'll miss the gospel The gospel saves, PERIOD. Jesus is the solution here, but he meets us in such strategies to renew our belief system and change the very reason we do anything May this be the driver to changing your life... its time to quit porn and masturbation, to redeem your marriage, to enjoy Godly sex and to be men of integrity! Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ In this episode, Shawn is going to get really real about the ONLY thing that leads to a healthy routine of spiritual disciplines. Stop trying to work harder, do more, comdemn yourself... its not working! Start with the posture of heart THAN work from that. Get ready to learn about the very dichotomy we all live in and how to choose truth, love and joy Jesus wants you to be free from porn, masturbation and sexual sin... however, He doesnt want you to think the work he already did has to be done again! Its time to change your heart and mind so you can change the very way you live each and every day Do you need some direction on what to do next? Check out ⁠⁠secrethabit.ca⁠⁠ to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to talk to you about triangulation, enmeshment and the process of getting out of what seems so stuck! If you seem to make immature decisions more than you would like to admit, then stick around and learn what it means to unmesh from your past Shawn has a personal testimony of overcoming these challenges and shares candidly about his own journey to growing in maturity, compassion and integrity This is at the heart of what it means to be free from porn, masturbation and sexual sin... If you feel stuck and dont know how to fix it, this is the right place for you Do you need some direction on what to do next? Check out ⁠secrethabit.ca⁠ to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/call/ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing In this episode, get ready to learn from Shawn Bonneteau about something that may shock you... How the types of porn you watch can actually reveal the very thing that needs healing... Its true, check out how And thats not all... Learn how your brain has created neuro connections that have become so engrained that you've become a slave to them Ill offer you a few key next steps to ensure you can apply what you learned and have some major breakthroughs This is what it takes to get free from porn addiction, overcome masturbation and outgrow sexual sin Do you need some direction on what to do next? Check out secrethabit.ca to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

Inner Child Work has become one of the most effective approaches to healing addiction, trauma or past pain. I absolutely love it when it comes to helping men quit porn and overcome sex addiction... It's been so successful that im doubling down on it today and doing an episode to share about the 4 steps I now teach. On top of the 4 steps, I want to really unpack the most important on going step - leading the boy. Without this step being an on going habit, you will never get to the place where you have power over the trauma... you will always be a victim to the inner child getting activated, and thats no fun! If you're ready to GET FREE FROM PORN and you think inner child work is the best way for you to get there, ⁠book a call with our team at DeepClean.⁠ Extra resources: In episode 50 I share about the 9 steps to inner child work and in episode 59 I walk guys through a step by step exercise to apply the inner child approach These are AMAZING episodes, please listen to them. However, this info here will help you boil it down even more and get the absolute best out of your inner child practice. In this episode you learn about the nervous system. I do a deeper dive on this in ep 60 - all about fight, flight, freeze and finding safety in your day to day life. Get your free copy of my E-Book: The 4 Stages of Overcoming Porn Withdrawal Symptoms Tune in and submit your questions to the Unleash The Man Within Podcast with Shawn Bonneteau and Sathiya Sam

Today I brought on my good friend and past coach Greg Oliver. Greg was pivotal in my personal journey to holistic healing and freedom from porn, masturbation and erectile dysfunction Greg and his wife Stacey have been working with men and women through Awaken Ministries for nearly a decade! They focus on sexual addiction, trauma support and betrayal trauma healing while offering 1:1 coaching, support groups and in person retreats. Things weren't always so sweet for Greg... He was not only addicted to porn and masturbation, but his addiction led him to adultery. His full blown addiction was exposed 15 years ago, but only 6 years later, after getting into true recovery, he was set free and called by God to begin helping others Its an incredible story of Gods redemption over sexual addiction! In this episode, Greg and I dive into some major topics. 1. How to identify the trauma in your story 2 How to engage with God in recovery even when you feel angry/distant from him because of spiritual abuse or other trauma? As we unpack these topics, you'll here some incredible wisdom, humility and power from Gregs words He expands on a few major concepts: - Big T and Little T trauma - Behaviour follows Beliefs - How To Compare The Correct way - Finding Safety With The Right People - The Gospel and How Its The Power To Save - The 4S' of Recovery Get connected with Awaken today: - Virtual support: https://awakenrecovery.com/meetings - Retreats: https://awakenrecovery.com/intensives - Donate: https://awakenrecovery.com/donate Work or Connect with us at DeepClean: - Book a Free Strategy Call - Submit Your Questions To Our Podcast Need some help getting over the first 90 days of porn recovery? - Grab your free copy of our 90 day survival guide: Getting over porn withdrawal symptoms