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The Secret Habit of Accurate Thinking Originally aired on the IBGR radio network, this episode of 'Building Success Habit' hosted by Londina Cruz and Donna Kunde discusses 'The Secret Habit of Accurate Thinking' from their 'Success Habits for the New Year' series. The show references ideas from the book 'The Law of Success,' highlighting six key steps for cultivating accurate thought. The hosts delve into the importance of proactive and constructive thinking, the destructive nature of default thinking, and the power of intentional thoughts on our mind and body. The session also touches on creating new neural pathways and the significance of collaborative efforts in achieving great ideas. 00:00 Introduction to Building Success Habits 00:37 The Secret Habit of Accurate Thinking 01:39 Understanding Accurate Thought 02:06 Steps to Accurate Thinking 03:21 The Power of the Mind 04:27 Resiliency and Positive Thinking 05:40 The Role of the Brain in Accurate Thinking 07:32 The Importance of Thought in Achievement 08:31 Collaborative Thinking and Achievements 09:44 Opinions vs. Accurate Thoughts 10:52 Conclusion and Community Invitation

Secret to live to 100 years oldHabits for Longevity and GrowthEver wondered if the secret to living a long and fulfilling life lies not in comfort but in embracing everyday resistance? Join me, Jenna Zint, as I explore this intriguing idea, inspired by the world's longest-living communities featured in the Netflix series "Live to 100: The Secrets of the Blue Zone." We'll discuss the importance of incorporating resistance into daily routines—whether through the natural exercise of navigating hilly terrains or the resilience built by living simply. These habits illuminate the fascinating connection between lifestyle choices and longevity, offering a fresh perspective on how small, everyday challenges can contribute to our well-being.Embarking on a journey through discomfort, I challenge the Western obsession with ease and propose that true growth often stems from facing life's hurdles head-on. To support this journey, I'm excited to introduce the Habit Reboot mini-course, designed to help cultivate resilience and purpose amidst life's challenges. Let's partner with our difficulties to uncover long-term benefits, promoting a fulfilling life of growth and vitality.Get my Habit Reboot E-Course!--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you've enjoyed this podcast; would you consider financially supporting the show? Every $5/month donation- helps Jenna to continue to prioritize making content for you. Click this link to support the show. patreon.com/TheHabitLabWe appreciate it so much! The Zints

"Send us a message! (questions, feedback, etc.)"When I think of Shawn, I sometimes have to remind myself we've never actually met in person. Shawn is the kind of person who's easy to get to know quickly. He is kind & curious, and also open & vulnerable.Shawn has a compelling sexual recovery story. Growing up impacted by family of origin trauma (like so many), Shawn turned to pornography as a comfort and became addicted. Like so many other young men, he experienced an unexpected physical impact - porn-induced erectile dysfunction. (Have you noticed lately how many ED medication ads we're seeing lately marketed for young men?) *Note: If you listen to the podcast with kids around, be aware that we use clear physiological descriptions in the ED part of the conversation. We hope this will offer you an opportunity to engage with your internet-connected kids on the important topic of porn. Through embracing recovery and digging deeper into his own trauma story, Shawn began to experience spiritual, emotional, and physiological healing. Drawing from his own experience, he founded Secret Habit, offering porn recovery coaching from a Christian perspective. More recently, he joined Sathiya Sam's Deep Clean ministry as lead coach.Listening to Shawn's story, we hope you'll hear things that make you feel less alone, and that give you hope that life can be more than what we often settle for. Healthy connection is for everyone. #shawnbonneteau #secrethabit #deepclean #counseling #coaching #gospel #sexualaddiction #sexaddiction #awaken #awakenrecovery #awakenpodcast #whatwereallywant #wwrw #grace #connection #conversationSecret Habit Christian Recovery CoachingPorn Addiction recovery coaching with Deep CleanShawn on Instagram Awaken websiteRoots Retreat Men's IntensiveRoots Retreat Women's WorkshopAwaken Men & Women's support meeting info (including virtual)

I'm a firm believer that in order to get to new heights of success we need to remain students for life.No better way to do that than to read books by mentors who've gone before us.If you want to be sure that you continue to grow as a communicator, business leader, and speaker, then you've got to take time to invest in yourself and in growing your speaking skills.In today's episode you'll learn:about the 5 books that made me a better communicatorwhy you should consider these books how each book can help you improve on your speaking skills

Today we talk to Tracy. She has struggled with night eating since she was in college. And she found out it is more common that she knew. Talking about this behavior and sharing her vulnerabilities has helped Tracy to overcome a lot of shame and stigma.

I am answering the BIG questions today - why did I move to Czech? why did I join DeepClean? Why did I stop coaching with Secret Habit? Do I miss Canada? Am I staying in Czech? And so many more! Helena and I moved to Czech back on May 30th from Canada. I joined DeepClean on June 8th and since then, its been quite the God story. However, it goes much further back, and thats what I want to share about today If you're ready to quit porn in the next 120 days, book your free strategy call with us, we would love to help you find out the best next steps with DeepClean! * www.secrethabit.ca/call If you want to know more about DeepClean before booking a call, grab a free copy of "The Last Relapse"

The Secret Habit Of World ChangersFormer World Champion, James Laughlin, shares his high-performance habits, methodologies, and tips for leaders and high performers. Support the show

In todays episode Trin shares a hidden action that may be stopping you from living your life and taking away from your happiness levels.WATCH THE VIDEO POD HERE!! JOIN OUR HGW GROUP CHATSUBMIT TO THE WELLNESS CAFE:- be featured on the next community EP- ASK TRIN!! Advice Session Form FOLLOW TRIN:IG @trinitytondeleirIG @thewellnesscafepodTikTok @trinitytondeleirYoutube: trinity tondeleir

In todays episode Trin shares a hidden action that may be stopping you from living your life and taking away from your happiness levels.WATCH THE VIDEO POD HERE!! JOIN OUR HGW GROUP CHATSUBMIT TO THE WELLNESS CAFE:- be featured on the next community EP- ASK TRIN!! Advice Session Form FOLLOW TRIN:IG @trinitytondeleirIG @thewellnesscafepodTikTok @trinitytondeleirYoutube: trinity tondeleir

I've heard it said that all trauma has to do with loss. That's a profound statement! This means that grief and loss are a part of the journey to healing past trauma. And that's precisely why I wanted to bring Jason Flinn on the show to talk about Navigating Grief on the Road to Recovery. Jason is a Greif Recovery Method Specialist certified through The Grief Recovery Institute. This guy knows what he's talking about! The best part about Jason is it's not just theoretical. He lost both his parents and had to learn what it meant to truly grieve and find what he calls “completion” in those relationships In this interview, you will learn about the following: Jason's story and passion for grief work and resiliency coaching The Greif Recovery Handbook and Program The myths about recovery The unhelpful responses we often get when we're grieving Enshrinement and Bedevilment Understanding our coping mechanisms How to know where and when you experience grief and loss Creating a loss graph Writing letters of completion to the relationships that carry pain  Mindset shifts and building resiliency I love how applicable this is for anyone! This is for EVERYONE. It will help if you're struggling with pmo, betrayal trauma, erectile dysfunction, or other unwanted sexual behaviours.  I personally (Shawn) went through coaching with Jason for 7 weeks and was so blessed by it! To learn more about Jason and working with him, here are some ways you can connect: www.vaultlifecoaching.ca https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/jason-flinn jason@vaultlifecoaching.ca WhatsApp: 902-292-9106 SPECIAL OFFER to anyone who signs up with Jason in the next 30 days: Share that you were referred over from “Secret Habit” and you will receive $50 off the 7-week program Other Next Steps with Secret Habit: - If you're looking to quit pornography or other unwanted sexual behaviours and want to work with Shawn, book a coaching consultation today - Join our free mens porn recovery community and get access to great content and support such as this live training, 3 free courses and daily posts of encouragement and help. 

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We were so thrilled to have guests, Shawn and Helena Bonneteau, with us for this episode. They started Secret Habit Life Coaching in 2017 as a way to help couples overcome the harms of p*rn addiction and betrayal trauma. Since then, they have played a helping hand in transforming over 2000 relationships through their coaching services and podcast. Both Shawn and Helena struggled with an addiction to p*rn and by the grace of God are now celebrating over 5 years of freedom individually and as a couple. Shawn is a certified Inner Child Recovery Specialist and together, they are certified sexual addiction mentors and certified Husband Material coaches. They are parents to their daughter Violet and currently reside in Canada's Ocean Playground, Nova Scotia. You can find all their resources here! Website: secrethabit.ca Community: secrethabit.ca/community 4 stages resource: https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/ podcast: secrethabit.ca/podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/secrethabitlifecoaching/ As always, we would love to hear from you. And if you want more information about 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resources...please go and visit our website @https://www.unrelentingpursuit.org. We would love to be a part of your growth and healing in marriage. You can also email us @info@unrelentingpursuit.org --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/unrelentingpursuit/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/unrelentingpursuit/support

Pornography is not just a personal issue; it's a societal one! It's not just something that happens to a specific type of person. It's a problem that affects people of all ages, genders, and backgrounds. That's why this conversation is so essential for us to engage in as church leaders! The effects of pornography on individuals can include increased feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation. It can also lead to problems with sexual function and intimacy, as well as mental and emotional health issues. For couples, it can cause trust issues, communication problems, and even lead to infidelity. Pornography's impact on relationships can be devastating, and it's a topic that needs to be addressed with honesty and compassion. So how do we find freedom from the patterns and traps many people often fall into? On this week's podcast, I had the privilege of speaking with Helena Bonneteau about her experience co-founding Secret Habit and their work to help men and women work through the harmful effects of their addiction and find freedom on the other side. Her vulnerability and honesty give insight into this addiction's damaging impact on couples while offering hope and encouragement for anyone struggling in that place right now! Don't miss out on the incredible insights that Helena Bonneteau shares in episode 110 of the Ron Huntley Leadership Podcast, "Pornography & Rejection Trauma in Marriage."

What habits are most helpful for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau presents a beautiful menu of ideas to transform habits without pressure, perfectionism, or "shoulding" all over yourself in 2023.Shawn Bonneteau is a Christian pornography recovery coach and podcast host at Secret Habit. After quitting porn in the summer of 2017, he has spent his life pursuing God's call to transform relationships through coaching men to find freedom from porn. Shawn is a certified Husband Material coach, certified sexual addictions mentor and an inner child recovery specialist. He spends the majority of his time coaching men all over the globe in both 1-on-1 and group settings. He has a deep passion for speaking and has had the privilege to share with tens of thousands of men and women on the topics of porn addiction, masturbation and erectile dysfunction over the past 4 years. Shawn lives in Halifax, Canada with his wife Helena and daughter Violet. In his spare time he loves to watch hockey, play the drums and watch a good mindbender from Christopher Nolan.Resources by Shawn:Secret Habit PodcastSecret Habit CommunityFree Recovery Navigator CallMentioned in this episode:The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction (interview with Shawn Bonneteau)The Ruthless Elimination Of Hurry by John Mark Comer (paid link)Man Cards: Conversation Starters For Men by Husband MaterialTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast and leave a review Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

We all get sexually triggered, but that's not the problem. The problem is that very few men actually know why they're being triggered and how to deal with the root issue. This makes it really hard if you want to experience freedom porn... In this live teaching from Secret Habit's lead coach Shawn Bonneteau, you're going to learn the 3 essentials to understanding, handling and overcoming your triggers so you can gain the awareness and self-control that freedom from porn requires. This episode is taken from a recording of a live training Shawn did back in the summer of 2022 called "Sexual Triggers, Why They Happen & What You Can Do About Them". He is speaking to a male audience but what he shares is applicable to anyone struggling with porn addiction, sexual triggers and other unwanted sexual behaviours. In this episode, I will help you understand why you get triggered, what to do when you get triggered, and how you can develop the confidence to deal with them when they arise. In this episode you will learn about: How Sexual Triggers reveal our insecurities that have been sexually hijacked How to learn from our triggers so we can deal with their root issue - our unmet needs How to develop a gameplan and self-talk routine focused on understanding our core needs is a proactive and healthy way to develop confidence and overcome our sexual triggers JOIN our free men's porn recovery community for more trainings, content, support and help as you work towards freedom in 2023!

Inner child healing has become a really popular concept as of late. Just recently, I became an Inner Child Recovery Specialist. It's becoming so popular because it makes a ton of sense and the approach really works! If you have felt stuck in your addiction to porn, are acting out in ways that are far from mature and continually feel confused about how you got to the point of relapsing once again, then this approach is definitely for you. The concept of how to heal your inner child is one thing, but what I want to do is walk you through the 9 steps I am helping my clients with on a daily basis. Let's unpack this so you leave feeling like you have a grasp on the ideology as well as the practicality. In this episode, Shawn and Helena will help you learn: 1. What is inner child healing? 2. Why does inner child healing matter? 3. The 9 steps of inner child healing (The How) These 9 steps will help you do 6 key things: help you pinpoint the fears keeping you from mature decisions. help you name the things that trigger the inner child to activate and run towards things like porn help you understand what the inner child does to protect and cope and why help you become aware of what your inner child needs so you can see what the real problem is help you grow in love, care and leadership so you can help your inner child feel seen, supported and led to follow your leadership as a mature adult help you invite Jesus into the very areas that need His love so you can experience more and more of His goodness. So many people go through life struggling with porn, masturbation, erectile dysfunction, drugs, etc, all without any inclination as to why they struggle… Thats point one. Point two is that 99% of them condemn the heck out of themselves! This is why inner child healing matters! It offers you the chance to understand your pain, temptations, triggers and coping choices… not because understanding them is everything, but it opens the door for you to say “Oh! That makes sense why I fear this, or hate that, or want this, or am triggered by that!” When we can get to this point, we can then offer ourselves compassion. What? Offer compassion? Yep! We all need love and care when we're in the dumps, not condemnation and rigidity. That's why this works. You're going to practice the art of “loving before you lead”. If you're looking for some hands on help with inner child work, join Shawn in the Secret Habit community and RSVP to the FREE live training on "recognizing and healing the parts of you". Read the Blog Here: Credit: Eddie Capparucci and his book "Going Deeper" Kim Miller and her book "boundaries for the soul"

Knowing how to help your partner who is struggling with porn can be really confusing... What's your role? Whats too much? What is healthy and whats unhealthy? These are questions we hear all the time and we hope to bring some light to how you can help your partner as they recover from porn addiction. This episode was recorded to answer a question we got directly from a listener, here's what she wrote: “My boyfriend told me a few weeks ago that he struggles with pornography and in the midst of processing that I'm also trying to understand what my role is in his healing and how I can be supportive and encouraging while still maintaining an appropriate relationship given that we're not married. I know walking through an addiction together can be painful and can also bring couples to a really deep level of intimacy because it's such a personal issue, and I want to be wise about how emotionally intimate we become at this point in our relationship” We cover 3 major insights in this episode to help answer her question and shed light on her situation. The 3 areas we touch on are: 1. Having a Standard With Grace (Truth & Grace) 2. Focusing On Emotional Intimacy 3. Really Getting To Know One Another We have a STRONG passion for relationships to thrive. It was actually this passion that fueled everything we do with Secret Habit. We want couples, especially pre-marriage, to get on the same page so they begin their marriage ahead of the 8 ball... This is why we record episodes like this and continue to release new episodes every week! Read our BLOG post on: How To Help Your Partner With Porn Addiction? JOIN NOW MEN, join the free Secret Habit recovery community, 100% free and loaded with content and value for you to enjoy right now Episodes referenced in the show Dos and Donts of Recovery Doing vs Attending Recovery

When we try and do things alone and avoid vulnerability, we become blind to the things that we cannot see. Also, when we are alone, shame can easily develop and cause us to isolate ourselves further. The partnership of Isolation and shame is incredibly dangerous… especially for those who are struggling with porn addiction. Many men that I work with feel as if others will judge them, which is not something I have ever seen in the Secret Habit community. Many men feel as if others do not have the time for them, which again, is amazing when it's reiterated that they can call them anytime, and sadly, many men simply feel as if they do not matter, which, if you're breathing air, then you matter because God made you and you matter to Him. In this episode, Shawn is going to help you understand what it means to become vulnerable with trusted people in your life and why it is vital to your recovery from porn addiction. Sometimes people think they have to seek help from someone like a coach or a therapist, and I'm all for that... but I want you to understand that you can seek help right now, with someone in your life, simply by opening up and being real. The power of vulnerability will blow your mind when you begin to apply it with the right people in your life. Get ready to learn about: - The common struggles men face when becoming vulnerable during their struggle with porn. - The role of shame in our lives and how it keeps us from opening up - Why vulnerability is so important to your porn recovery - Practical steps that you can apply literally today (especially if you join the free Secret Habit community) *This is an audio clip from Shawns "Porn Recovery Accelerator" - His all-in-one coaching system for Christian men who want to find lasting freedom from porn. Join the Recovery Accelerator Free offer: Join the Secret Habit Porn Recovery Community for Men today!

The dreaded and tragic moment so many couples face... Being caught watching porn, finding porn on their phone and/or other sudden ways that the secret comes out are devastating to both parties... With stats showing us that upwards of 70% of Christian men, 25% of Christian women and 56% of pastors watch porn regularly, we must realize that getting caught with porn is a normal and traumatic event that is happening all too often these days... The sad part about all of this is that it hurts both parties deeply... The man faces an immense shame of being seen in his failure to do "right" and the woman faces immense shame wondering what she did "wrong". The man faces the reality that his protective layer is gone, he can no longer hide and the depth of his struggle is now known. The woman faces the reality that she doesn't know who she married, her trust is destroyed and she loses any safety she thought she had. Shawn and Helena share in this episode from their hearts because they have experienced this horrific experience... Shawn was lying and hiding porn from Helena for over a year. When he was finally found out and the truth came out, he was left to find answers to his problems. For Helena, she was rocked by the news, hurt and betrayed. This caused the first 9 months of their marriage to be an uphill battle that they don't want to see couples have to go through! In this episode, you will learn more about: -What happens to the man and the woman when this devastation occurs -What it means to grieve the pain of finding out about your partner's porn addiction -Letting Jesus into the pain -Breaking down shame with 5 expert tips + The opportunity to get hands-on coaching from Shawn -The results of quitting porn, healing the relationship and coming out of the darkness For the women who want further help: Episode 34 of the Secret Habit podcast on "setting boundaries" Episode 10 of the Secret Habit podcast on "betrayal trauma" -- If you want to get in touch and learn more about our programs/services, you can chat with Shawn here

Shawn Bonneteau is a passionate speaker and certified mentor to men struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. With his own 14-year pornography addiction, struggles with erectile dysfunction, and ultimately, sexual brokenness, he has been called to use his redemption story as a beacon of hope to those in similar places. Shawn has had the opportunity to speak in various settings to men and women around the world. He has been a guest speaker/writer with X3 Church, Bravehearts, Husband Material, Family Life Canada, and many more. With a holistic, Gospel-centered approach, Shawn has helped men from all walks of life experience live in sexual integrity. Shawn runs Secret Habit with his wife Helena, and together, they are on a mission to help men and women experience God's beautiful design for sexuality. They live in Halifax Nova Scotia and are the proud parents of a beautiful daughter, named Violet. To contact Shawn and/or Helena, use the following links: https://secrethabit.ca helena@secrethabit.ca IG: @secrethabitlifecoaching -------------------   If you want to help us transform the lives of even MORE MEN for God's glory, please take a minute to leave us a helpful REVIEW on iTunes: http://www.rmcpodcast.com and SHARE this podcast with any young man (or men) you're mentoring or discipling. And make sure you don't miss an interview episode by signing up for our Man-to-Man eNewsletter at http://www.RealMenConnect.com, and grab your FREE copy of the Real Men Victory Tracker.  Are you stuck? Want to go to the next level in your marriage, career, business, or ministry?  Then maybe it's time you got a coach. ALL CHAMPIONS have one. Let me coach you to help you strengthen your faith, improve your marriage, spiritually lead your family, achieve more, balance your time, grow your ministry, or even stop an addiction. Click here for details: http://www.RMCfree.com   Also join us on: Join the Real Men 300: http://www.RealMen300.com Facebook Group: http://www.realmenuniversity.com/ YouTube: http://www.RealMenTraining.com Facebook: @realdrjoemartin Instagram: @realdrjoemartin Twitter: @professormartin

In this episode, I chat with Shawn Bonnetteau. Shawn is co-founder & lead coach of a ministry called Secret Habit, helping people overcome struggles with pornography. We discuss his story of how he, himself, became addicted to pornography and how he found freedom in Christ. We also talk about how destructive pornography is in today's culture and what we can do to help others find freedom from it as well.   Secret Habit is an incredible ministry that helps, motivates, encourages and empowers people to transcend their addiction to pornography and find hope, freedom, and restoration on the other side! Shawn has coached and mentored men from around the world, spoken to crowds in person and virtually from all over the globe, and has led trainings for leaders wanting to help their organizations deal with the harms of pornography.   The 91st episode of the Ron Huntley Leadership Podcast, “Finding Freedom from Pornography", is available to listen to now on Spotify & Apple Podcasts.   Listen on https://apple.co/3vjltcS

There seems to be an ever-growing problem in the church where men and women are not getting the help that they need... Whether its help for porn addiction, betrayal trauma, or other sexual struggles, the lack of help is tragic. We have seen stats showing us show us that roughly 70% of men, 56% of pastors and 15% of women watch porn regularly and see it as a struggle in their lives. These are huge numbers! They show us that there is a huge problem not being dealt with and that the help being offered is either non-existent or unhelpful! The reality is, in North America, only 7% of churches offer a recovery program to help with porn addiction... This means that there is silence and lack in an area with such a high number of sufferers. This then robs the church of vulnerability and safety which are 2 elements that are vital to overcoming addiction We share all of this because we want to help fill the gap! We see the gifts God has blessed everyone with - Pastors are teachers and shepherds of the word and for us, we are gifted in teaching and coaching on the topic of sexual addiction and freedom from pornography. Its not wise for us to ask someone who is gifted in one area to try and help in an area of weakness... it just doesn't make sense! This is why we want to help churches utilize systems like Secret Habit... so they can focus on their gifts and we can focus on ours. (See 1 Corinthians 12 to see how this is to be lived out) This is how the church becomes healthy... this is how the church becomes a hospital... this is how pastors thrive in their giftings... this is how church members feel seen, heard and connected! Part of the issue with all of this is that the church has been indoctrinated by the "purity culture" movement... A focus on avoidance, prohibition and annihilation has become the norm for pastors and how they educate on dealing with sin. This does not work!! Clearly, by the stats and the health of our church, we need to take a different approach In this episode, we unpack all of this with a posture to help the church, fill the gaps and ensure the flock is healthy and cared for. * Secret Habit Pornography Recovery Accelerator: The All in One porn recovery system for Christian men who want to find lasting freedom from porn People/Authors mentioned in this episode: Jay Stringer: Unwanted Julie Slattery: Authentic Intimacy and Sexual Discipleship Sheila Gregoire: The Great Sex Rescue

Welcome to episode #119 with Shawn Bonneteau of Secret Habit!True surrender to God is necessaryShawn's wife, Helena, asked him what life would look like if he never got porn out of his life. She then asked what life could look like if he did. Thinking about these questions hit Shawn on a soul level and led him to get on his knees and surrender to God. This was the start of him engaging in the fight in a new way every day and having spirit-led conversations with Helena about his struggle, rather than hiding in his shame and guilt.'Trying' to quit porn is keeping many people stuck in their secret habitShawn realized he had been doing a lot of recovery 'stuff,' but finally just said to God, "I am open. I will follow you from now on." He started learning what it looked like to experience God's strength in his weakness and to follow God in freedom rather than trying to quit porn in his own strength.Porn can cause erectile dysfunctionBefore Shawn gave his life to Jesus, he was sexually active with an attractive girlfriend. He started losing his erections and was embarrassed at this reality. His girlfriend thought it was her fault and he didn't know what to say. He realized in time that this was due to his porn use. His brain's neurochemistry was altered to the point of only getting aroused by pixels on a screen. This carried into his marriage and lasted for eight years before things got back to normal.Know your sexual templateWe all have thoughts that run through our minds when we hear the word 'sex' or engage in sexual activity. They point to beliefs we have that often go unspoken. Shawn has a course for singles or couples to go through that helps identify core beliefs about sex. This helps us understand ourselves, our partners, and walk in the freedom from shame that God wants us to experience.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!ResourcesSecret HabitSecret Habit PodcastSean's Sexual Template Mini-CoursePure Freedom Journey for men and womenCleansing HoursPersonal 1-on-1 Coaching with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 13 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Knowing what NOT TO DO is only half the battle... Truly, you need to learn what TO DO to really progress in your recovery and freedom over porn addiction and betrayal trauma. When a couple in relationship goes through these 2 things at the same time, it can feel really hard... Triggers, dysregulation, and untamed emotions can certainly get the best of us. This is why we want to have this conversation... To bring clarity to what is helpful and help you understand what is unhelpful. When we begin to understand what we are moving away from and feel confident in what we are moving toward, we can begin to make strides in our recovery. Because Shawn and Helena did all the DONTS in their own recovery and had to learn the hard way, they bring a fresh and fun tone to this episode that is all about what they learned along their journeys to sexual integrity and health. Shawn speaks to the men going through porn addiction and Helena speaks to the women who are experiencing betrayal trauma Get ready for some practical, helpful, and real tips on how to get on the right track in your journey to freedom! We cant wait to hear how these help you and your spouse grow towards becoming sexually healthy together. Link to Secret Habit services: Betrayal Trauma Recovery Program Porn Addiction Coaching Mens Group Coaching Books referenced: Going Deeper by Eddie Capparucci Unwanted by Jay Stringer Intimate Deception by Sherri Keffer

Are you overwhelmed by recovery? Or are you underwhelmed and unsure of what to actually do? Sadly, these 2 realities are so common and they're so frustrating! In this episode, Shawn and Helena break down the difference between doing recovery and attending recovery, as well as how they are to partner together. Too often, we see men and women attending groups and therapy with no real intention of doing the work... And then on the flip side, we see many men and women doing a ton of different things, with no community and no real guidance. Both of these lead to frustration and ultimately, a lack of results. This is why we want to dig into the areas that we find many of our clients struggle with. We believe this conversation is foundational to you being able to overcome pornography addiction, recover from betrayal trauma, and have a healthy marriage the way God designed it to be. * To learn more about Shawn's group coaching launching on May 7th, sign up for more info here Topics of discussion: - How to DO recovery and ATTEND recovery so that it works together - Tips and ideas on how to get on the right track in your recovery - Roadblocks and issues that cause one to avoid doing and gravitate towards attending - The pain of change or the pain of regret * Coaching options with Secret Habit to help you DO recovery well Mentioned in this episode: - Pure Desire 7 pillars of freedom

Do you find yourself confused as to why you feel emotionally and sexually frustrated and unsatisfied? Do you seem to always regret the choices you make? Well, we understand that all too well and want to take some time to unpack what is at the core of your emotions, triggers and temptations. We want you to leave this episode understanding what you really need in times of temptation and also some practical steps on how to begin making great decisions in the heat of the moment. In this episode, you will learn a critical recovery principle that offers you insight into what it takes to quit porn, heal betrayal trauma, overcome erectile dysfunction and recover from whatever else may be happening in your sexuality and relationship. Discussion points: - Emotions: what they tell us and what we can do with them - David and the Psalms - Core Longings and Needs - Questions to ask in the heat of a temptation - 3 Practical steps to begin fulfilling your true longings and experiencing satisfaction To learn more about Shawn's group coaching launching on May 7th, sign up for more info here --- For great content, reels and updates, follow Shawn and Helena on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca

Shawn Bonneteau is a passionate speaker and certified mentor to men struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. With his own 14-year pornography addiction, struggles with erectile dysfunction, and ultimately, sexual brokenness, he has been called to use his redemption story as a beacon of hope to those in similar places. Shawn has had the opportunity to speak in various settings to men and women around the world. He has been a guest speaker/writer with X3 Church, Bravehearts, Husband Material, Family Life Canada, and many more. With a holistic, Gospel-centered approach, Shawn has helped men from all walks of life experience live in sexual integrity. Shawn runs Secret Habit with his wife Helen-a, and together, they are on a mission to help men and women experience God's beautiful design for sexuality. They live in Halifax Nova Scotia and are the proud parents of a beautiful daughter, named Violet. To contact Shawn, you can visit his website at https://secrethabit.ca/ or email him at shawn@secrethabit.ca  --------------------------   If you want to help us transform the lives of even MORE MEN for God's glory, please take a minute to leave us a helpful REVIEW on iTunes: http://www.rmcpodcast.com and SHARE this podcast with any young man (or men) you're mentoring or discipling. And make sure you don't miss an interview episode by signing up for our Man-to-Man eNewsletter at http://www.RealMenConnect.com, and grab your FREE copy of the Real Men Victory Tracker.  Are you stuck? Want to go to the next level in your marriage, career, business, or ministry?  Then maybe it's time you got a coach. ALL CHAMPIONS have one. Let me coach you to help you strengthen your faith, improve your marriage, spiritually lead your family, achieve more, balance your time, grow your ministry, or even stop an addiction. Click here for details: http://www.RMCfree.com   Also join us on: Join the Real Men 300: http://www.RealMen300.com Facebook Group: http://www.realmenuniversity.com/ YouTube: http://www.RealMenTraining.com Facebook: @realdrjoemartin Instagram: @realdrjoemartin Twitter: @professormartin

We have all heard the successful tips and tricks around time management, but really, do they work? So often, men and women going through recovery have to face the reality that they don't know how to manage their time. And here's the kicker, we aren't talking about managing what you are doing day in and day out. We are talking about making a paradigm shift! In this episode, we will unpack what we believe true time management is, how to do it and why it connects to living out God's purpose for your life and His design for sexuality. Get ready to learn from Shawn and Helena's ups and downs, experiences, and expertise on a topic that can change your life if you get it right. We want to talk about mentality, language, making time, surrender, redefining your capacity, and living in what is "God" rather than what is just "good". We hope this conversation helps you learn a new recovery principle that we believe is a catalyst to finding freedom from porn, healing betrayal trauma, and overcoming unwanted sexual behaviors. John Mark Comer Resources (Our favorite influencer on slowing down) The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry Book Practicing The Way Podcast --- To learn more about Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca

In this podcast, Dr. Trish Leigh talks with the Secret Habit Coach about the negative side effects of porn if it has become your secret sex life. This video will go over:- How porn affects your life and relationships- How the ripple of change works- Sobriety vs. Freedom- Why your porn habit is hurting othersTo learn more, go to https://drtrishleigh.com/porn-brain-programs/Listen now. Want to donate to help kids avoid porn addiction. https://pornbrainprevention.org/ Brain Training to Quit Porn;Get the Muse brain training headband with the exclusive Dr. Trish Leigh discount using the box in the middle of the link below. Look for the discount in the checkout  https://drtrishleigh.com/neurofeedback-coaching-program/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/pornbrainreboot) Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/pornbrainreboot)

Rules and roles from our childhood are major contributors that impact all areas of life... Good and bad, they affect us all. In this episode, Shawn and Helena will unpack some of the lessons they learned from the movie Encanto and how family rules and roles impact the way you live today. These findings may very well be one of the greatest "aha moments" for you to begin understanding why you are the way you are, and even more importantly, what you can do about becoming the healthiest version of yourself. Because childhood trauma can be so deep and even shameful, we wanted to bring a different angle to this topic and hopefully open up the door to some helpful reflection on your end. May you begin to see how your childhood has impacted the areas of your life you hold most dear - your faith in God, your marriage, your parenting, your work, etc. We believe God has some wonderful truths about your rules and roles to live by, and we want you to leave feeling understood, encouraged, and empowered to take the next steps towards healing the deeper parts of your heart. --- Thanks to our friend Drew Boa from Husband Material for his awesome write-up on Encanto and what each character can teach us about ourselves. Questions we ask in the episode: I wonder which of these roles might resonate with you? What role(s) did you play in your family? What burden or belief do you want to let go of? --- Download the free Rules/Roles/Lies/Truth worksheet --- Resources Mentioned: Restoring The Foundations Rusty Rustenbach Iner Healing Prayer Book --- To learn more about Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca

We are unpacking the often confusing differences between the 2 common types of intimacy. Of course, we will talk about sex too, but be aware, intimacy means so much more than sex. Get ready for a convo between Shawn and Helena as they share from their own stories, findings, victories, and client experiences. This episode is all about breaking down the stereotypes... High libido and low libido, emotional nature vs. sexual nature, high sex drive and low sex drive, etc... We want to create an open space to courageously share what we have found, so you can realize that what you may be going through is NORMAL! We want to dig into the beautiful idea of what it means to get our true longings met so you can experience fulfillment as an emotional and sexual being made in the image of God... This is what we see as the ultimate version of sexual health! Tune in and learn some great tips that will certainly enhance your marriage, intimacy and sex life! We spend a considerable amount of time unpacking the "sexual template" which we will unpack further in future episodes. To grab the mini-course and begin working on your very own sexual template, check out the course page here: https://secrethabit.ca/overcoming-erectile-dysfunction-mini-course/ We mention a few people in this episode: Gabor Mate: you can learn more about him here Drew Boa and Husband Material: You can learn more about him here --- To learn more about Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca

In this very real and open conversation, Shawn and Helena unpack the nature of sexual brokenness and sexual shame - what it is, how it plays out, and what we can do to better understand what it's telling us. They offer insights from working with men and women all over the world dealing with this topic. On the same note, they contrast how sexual brokenness/shame actually reveals the way to deeper healing and how it can be the catalyst to developing sexual integrity. Because we so often hear the world and especially the church talking only about quitting porn, quitting masturbation, and focusing on avoiding the areas of our sexuality, this conversation about pursuing sexual integrity is rather refreshing. A life of greater purpose is something Shawn and Helena believe is foundational to true healing that lasts the tests of time. May this be a help for you and your faith walk, as men and women who want to have a healthy marriage, thriving sex life, and experience purity in a way that is actually freeing and wholesome. Listen in for 3 practical steps that offer you a great place to begin your journey from sexual brokenness to sexual integrity. Books/People mentioned in this episode include: Re-Thinking Sexuality by Dr. Julie Slattery Unwanted by Jay Stringer The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregoire --- Grab Shawns free coaching video and get 3 bonus PDF worksheets: "The essential step to quitting porn" Shawn has created 2 DIY mini-courses focused on helping you find lasting freedom from porn, as well as erectile dysfunction: https://secrethabit.ca/quitting-porn-mini-course/ https://secrethabit.ca/overcoming-erectile-dysfunction-mini-course/ Helena has her new Betrayal Trauma Healing program up and we want you to know about it! https://secrethabit.ca/betrayaltraumaonlinecourse/ --- To learn more about Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca

Shawn Bonneteau is the co-founder of Secret Habit Life Coaching and the co-host of the Secret Habit podcast. He is a Certified Coach with Husband Material and a Certified Mentor through Bravehearts and is on a mission to help Christian men experience sexual integrity. He is a firm believer that God's design for sexuality is better than we imagine and is on a mission to help men become sexually healthy and all they were created to be In this episode, you will learn about Shawn's story - one of addiction to porn, sex, and masturbation, ultimately the pursuit of acceptance, or so he thought. He found all he was longing for in a place he never expected... and this fulfillment has been the foundation of the life he has today with his Helena. A life of sexual integrity, a marriage that is thriving, a family that is healthy, and a faith in Jesus Christ that is constantly growing deeper. Shawn has a deep passion to help men not only quit pornography but to outgrow porn! This is done by helping them become men of character, faith, and integrity which leads to a life of holistic health... Ultimately it leads to a life where there is freedom from things like sexual addiction, shame, and dysfunction and it opens the door to a life of freedom for God's purpose and healthy relationships. 3 Focal Points From This Episode: #1 - What it means to actually surrender to God #2 - What it looks like to have a helpful community and a guide in recovery from porn #3 - What transformation of a trauma story through God looks like -- Shawn has recently released a free coaching video "The essential step to quitting porn". Grab yourself a copy and start 2022 off with a bang: https://secrethabit.ca/the-essential-step/ To learn more about Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca -- Shout out to Pure Desire

Helena Bonneteau is the co-founder of Secret Habit Life Coaching and the co-host of the Secret Habit podcast. She is a Certified Coach through Husband Material and a Certified Mentor with Bravehearts and is on a mission to help Christian women give their pain a voice. She is a firm believer that Gods design for sexuality is better than we imagine and wants to help men and women experience all it has to offer. In this episode, you will learn about Helena's story - one of addiction to pornography, navigating toxic relationships, an eating disorder, sexual abuse, betrayal trauma, and ultimately the pursuit of love, or so she thought. She found love in a place she never expected... and this love has been the foundation of the life she has today with Shawn. A life of sexual integrity, a marriage that is thriving, a family that is healthy, and a faith in Jesus Christ that is constantly growing deeper. Helena has a deep passion to help Christian women give their pain a voice. She does this by helping them holistically heal from betrayal trauma and the sexual brokenness they have experienced in their lives. She is also an advocate for women's health in the areas of fertility, body image, and the body as a beautiful creation by God. To learn more about Helena's work, and her newest program on Betrayal Trauma Recovery, check out https://secrethabit.ca/betrayaltraumaonlinecourse -- To learn more about Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca

We are Shawn & Helena Bonneteau and we are so pumped to share a snapshot of our story with you. We both come from very sexually broken pasts full of sexual abuse, pornography addiction, masturbation addiction, pre-marital sex, betrayal trauma, body objectification, and erectile dysfunction. Because we have gone through the school of hard knocks and experienced so much pain in our young lives, we truly know what it's like to be stuck in the darkness of sexual brokenness and shame. In this episode, you will hear about this, however, you will also hear about the incredible healing in our lives, and this is really why we are here... to bring you hope, truth, and an example to relate to and glean from. Shawn and Helena are both Certified Professional Mentors and Certified Coaches in the area of sexual addiction and recovery and have been able to coach and mentor people all over the world who want to quit porn, heal betrayal trauma and live in sexual purity. -- To learn more about Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca -- Shoutout to Pure Desire mentioned in the show who have an awesome podcast!

May this introduction inspire you and get you fired up for what's in store. We are Shawn & Helena Bonneteau and we are so excited to bring you real, raw, and relatable stories, teachings, and insights all focused on understanding and experiencing Godly sexuality. Join us on this journey as we share the motivation that drives the Secret Habit podcast... and a hint, it's all about you! Because we have gone through so much pain and suffering in our own personal and marital journeys to get to where we're at today, we want to offer you what we wish we had when we were really struggling with the harmful effects of porn. May this episode leave you feeling understood, encouraged, and hopeful that you are never alone. We believe God's design for sexuality offers the greatest satisfaction and we want you to let our failures be your success in finding this for yourself. You can look forward to weekly episodes digging into topics that are really hard to talk about... we want you to leave each time feeling like sexual satisfaction in Christ is FOR YOU no matter where you're at right now. We know what it's like to go through the wringer of porn addiction, masturbation, sexual addiction/dysfunction, betrayal trauma, and the shame it all brings... Because of this, we want to help you avoid the pits we fell into so you can experience sexuality as it was intended... TO BE BEAUTIFUL AND SATISFYING. Stay tuned for future episodes that dive into how to quit porn, healing betrayal trauma, overcoming erectile dysfunction, Christian sex in marriage, and all other things that tie into becoming sexually healthy. We ultimately want you to experience sexual healing that leads to sexual integrity and wholeness in God. -- To learn more about Secret Habit Life Coaching and the work they do, follow them on Instagram: @secrethabitlifecoaching Or check out the Secret Habit website for free resources, testimonies, coaching, and programs: Secrethabit.ca -- *There's a small edit error that was no longer reversible by the time we caught it. We are extending ourselves grace as we learn the ropes of podcasting/editing :)

Shawn Bonneteau is a passionate speaker, certified mentor and founder of Secret Habit with his wife Helena. His mission is to help men struggling with pornography addiction, erectile dysfunction, and ultimately, sexual brokenness. He has been a guest speaker/writer with X3 Church, Bravehearts, Husband Material, Family Life Canada, and many more.  In this candid interview, Shawn details his experience with porn-induced erectile dysfunction AND a classic case of erectile dysfunction as well, detailing the origins, the experiences itself, and how he and his wife together have worked through it. Shawn also explains what it has been like to be married to someone with a porn consumption history and how its affected his own sexuality.  Reach Shawn directly Check out Secret Habit Follow Secret Habit on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn Access the mini-course on Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction & Betrayal Trauma Read Unwanted by Jay Stringer Read Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com

Shawn Bonneteau is a passionate speaker, certified mentor and founder of Secret Habit with his wife Helena. His mission is to help men struggling with pornography addiction, erectile dysfunction, and ultimately, sexual brokenness. He has been a guest speaker/writer with X3 Church, Bravehearts, Husband Material, Family Life Canada, and many more. In this candid interview, Shawn details his experience with porn-induced erectile dysfunction AND a classic case of erectile dysfunction as well, detailing the origins, the experiences itself, and how he and his wife together have worked through it. Shawn also explains what it has been like to be married to someone with a porn consumption history and how its affected his own sexuality. Reach Shawn directly Check out Secret Habit Follow Secret Habit on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn Access the mini-course on Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction & Betrayal Trauma Read Unwanted by Jay Stringer Read Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com

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Porn addiction can be defined as compulsive use of the internet for porn.  This can interfere with daily life and your relationships.  Addiction can leave you feeling ashamed and isolated. If you notice porn having a negative impact on your life this podcast will give you tools and help to find wholeness and recovery.  My guest is Shawn Bonneteau.  Shawn is a passionate speaker and certified mentor to men struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. With his own 14-year pornography addiction, struggles with erectile dysfunction, and ultimately, sexual brokenness, he has been called to use his redemption story as a beacon of hope to those in similar places. Shawn runs Secret Habit with his wife Helena. Together, they are on a mission to help men and women experience God's beautiful design for sexuality. You can connect with Shawn and his ministry at:https://secrethabit.ca/services/pornography-addiction-help/https://www.instagram.com/secrethabitministry Inspiring Stories of Faith In times like these, we need hope. You can partner with me as we inspire the people around the worldSupport the show (https://paypal.me/alightbreaksthrough?locale.x=en_US)

Shawn Bonneteau, is committed to helping men understand and heal their sexual brokenness. With a 14-year addiction to pornography and a severe struggle with erectile dysfunction, he uses my experiences and expertise to mentor and disciple men around the world. He has the privilege of doing this work with his wife Helena as they run their company Secret Habit together. He joined me this week to tell me more. For more information: https://secrethabit.ca/ Instagram: @secrethabitministry Facebook: @secrethabitministry

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau's story of PIED/ED, why he continued to struggle after years of freedom from porn, and how he finally overcame it. Shawn also shares practical steps to freedom from PIED/ED, including The Thought Model.Download Shawn's free 5-page PDF explaining The Thought Model here.Shawn Bonneteau is a professional mentor and the co-founder of Secret Habit, where he and his wife Helena equip & empower people to heal from the harmful effects of pornography. Contact Shawn at https://secrethabit.ca/contact/Join Shawn and Helena for a more intimate conversation about erectile dysfunction from a couple's perspective on May 4th inside our private community at husbandmaterial.appText Drew at 805-398-6170 .

Millions of men view porn every day. Many of them don't want this to be part of their daily life. They want to break free from this secret habit. In this episode, our guest is Shawn Bonneteau. He shares honestly and openly about his own story and how his journey out of porn addiction is now helping other men find freedom too. If you're a man who wants to dig deep and discover a way out of porn, Shawn's story and insights will help you. Links to connect with Shawn: * http://secrethabit.ca/ * http://facebook.com/secrethabitministry * http://instagram.com/secrethabitministry More men's resources: http://Men.Bebroken.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

This week's podcast focuses on “Porn and the Pandemic” - Chris interviews Shawn & Helena Bonneteau who are the founders of Secret Habit. An initiative based in eastern Canada, that exists to bring freedom to those who are struggling pornography addiction. This conversation deals with the hard facts and realities of pornography, as well as provides hope for those who are hooked on pornography.  

Grab a Cup of coffee and join Matt and Shawn for a discussion on how Jesus freed him from pornography addiction and is now using him to give help, hope, and healing to those affected by pornography. Find out more about Shawn and his ministry work through Secret Habit at: www.secrethabit.ca --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/cupoffreedom/support

Millions of men view porn every day. Many of them don't want this to be part of their daily life. They want to break free from this secret habit. In this episode, our guest is Shawn Bonneteau. He shares honestly and openly about his own story and how his journey out of porn addiction is now helping other men find freedom too. If you're a man who wants to dig deep and discover a way out of porn, Shawn's story and insights will help you. Links to connect with Shawn: * http://secrethabit.ca/ * http://facebook.com/secrethabitministry * http://instagram.com/secrethabitministry More men's resources: http://Men.Bebroken.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations