Your Ni Dom

In this reflection I explore the interrelatedness of three isolated (and random) events. Supporting themes: Spirituality; Birdlife; Phobias; Spacial sovereignty; Sexual sovereignty; Friendship; Direction of care. Topology: INTJ8

in this reflection I deal with repressed and complicated grief regarding Mother's Day. Supporting themes: Inhibited/ masked grief; hypo- arousal; Alexithymia; Analytical safety. Trigger warning: There is a lot of sadness and a noticeable state of crying. Listen with care. Typology: INTJ; Enneagram 8; ESFJ; Enneagram 1

In this reflection I start and conclude with two questions that relate to a phenomenon called "Cognitive Omnipresence." Supporting themes: Land people and land suites; Weight loss management; Walking; Residential neighborhoods; Multiplicity; Location, work and love; Sex; Childhood reading; Being petty. Topology: Ni, Si and INTJ8.

Special note: This audio has background noise for the first 30 minutes.

In this reflection I talk about disputing social norms. Supporting themes: Coach Dawn Staley, March Madness and the perception of aggression; Negotiating the social constructs of race and gender with other Black folks; Navigating asynchronous social spaces through words, conflict and humor; Solo-ism; Fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Topology: INTJ8,; Sensor norms; Ni-domness

In this reflection I explore what it means to know in community... as an automatic experience or a manual one. Topology: INTJ8; INTJ5; Te; Ti; Ni; Se

In this reflection I use a car metaphor (using the front and back windows) to explore a current struggle I have with moving forward.   Supporting themes:  Automation (automated love and automated belonging); Friendships; Family; Loss; Romatic love vs familial/platonic love; The Purge; Attachment styles/disorders; Trauma; Book writing; Business acquisiton.    Typology: INTJ8; Enneagram 8 vs Enneagram 1 (or 5).; INFJ

In this reflection I explore my recent sickness as an act of purging toxic elelements from my psychological/spiritial life.   Supporting themes:  Sleep cycles; Narcolepsy; Paranormal Phenomenon; Limits of science and Western culture; Identity barriers; DIKW (Data, Information, Knowledge, Wisdom); Low frequency vs high frequency living; Dying process; Sensation fixes (food, etc.); Empathy and empathic experiences.    Typology:  INTJ8; Se-grips; Ni-insight (INTJ vs INFJ). 

In this reflection I contend with INTJ blues around labor and giftedness. 

In this reflection I unpack the different ways inferior-SE impact my life. Supporting themes: Belonging; Identity; Fear, anger and shame; Egypt, the Promise Land and the Egyptians; Business; Teaching;  Acquisition, contracts and websites.   Typology: Identity Stack; Shadow Stack; INTJ8.

In this reflection, I explore deep psychological truths that impact lifestyle by design.   Typology: INTJ8; INTJ; Enneagram 8

In this reflection I consider my perceptions and pursuits through specific paradigms.    Supporting themes; Ground Zero;" "Design Living;" Individual accountability; Security vs dignity; Rights and tensions of a boss; Business; The strategy of employment.    Typology: INTJ5 vs INTJ8; Enneagram Tri-type of 853 vs 854.

In this reflection I explore the deployment of my talents. Special note:This is the start of Season 12. Topology: INTJ8

In this reflection I consider dysfunction as different and owning one's difference versus being different and trying to fit in.   Supporting themes:  Sisterhood, enmeshment, love and growth; Judging friendships and conflicts; Reviewing 2025; Leadership and vulnerability; Facebook and personal growth; Sitting on a nail; Design living; Ground Zero; Dignified income;  Personal accountability.   Special note: This is the final episode of Season 11. Will see you for Season 12 in February (2026)!!!  Until I come back, be well!  :)   Typology: INTJ; Enneagram 8; INTJ8

In this reflection I discuss epistemic grief and disconfirming recognition.     Typology:  INTJ8

In this reflection I explore a radio as a "vehicle" exploring two metaphors: a) Growth; and b) Encrypted communications.   Supporting themes:  Metaphors (significant and basic); Cell (a metaphor for systems theory); RICO law (a metaphor for psychologically harmful systems); Spaceship launch (a metaphor for outgrowing friends); Learning theory and growth; Songwriting; Emotional awareness; Emotional growth; Emotional needs; Responsible self acceptance; An evolving/maturing thesis (T0; T1; etc).    Special note:  The second metaphor (regarding encrypted communications) was rushed and incomplete (I ran out of time). I am looking forward to returning so I can linger in it and discover its hidden goodies.     Typology:  INTJ8; Ni; Te; Fi; Type 8 and Type 5. 

In this reflection I push through a potpourri, myriad and tapestry of thoughts and discover a hidden denominator impacting my interactions with women. Supporting themes: Insecurities with accuracy, Consistency and knowing; Being effective vs being accurate; Theory building; Conflict and intimacy; Vulnerability and feelings. Topology: INTJ8; NI domness; Ti; Te; Fi

In this reflection I use an email that I received a few days ago to expand the conversation around interpersonal conflict.  Supporting themes:  Enmeshment; Epistemic equality; AI analysis.   Typology:  INTJ; Enneagram 8; ISFJ; ISFP; INFP.  

In reflection I process a pattern with my friendships around who gets to name an offence and whose emotions are valid.   Supporting themes:  Power; Soft dominance; Hard dominance; Social hierarchies; Communication; Self-advocacy; Holding two competing needs equally.   Typology:  INTJ, Enneagram 8; ISFJ

In this reflection I consider a spiritual calling from a neurological perspective, a psychological perspective, and an environmental experience. 

In this reflection I discover core truths that had been hidden within.   Supporting themes: Body intelligence; Emotions; Teaching; Leadership; consider the pull of the body as an intelligence center.    Topology: INTJ8; Te; Fi

This reflection is Part II to last week's episode: "A Rock and a Hard Place."  In it, I discuss the dark side to a recent decision I made. Supporting themes:  Love, pride and logic; Learning affect; Professional development; Culture, family and Black space; Race and Gender; Feminism; Authenticity and Autonomy; Zone of Proximal Development (ZPD); Teaching and Leading.   Typology:  INTJ8  

In this reflection, I explore what feels like the necessity of an unfortunate decision.    Supporting themes: The classroom; Authenticity within context; Accessible authenticity vs inaccessible authenticity vs entitled accessibility; Authenticity as an inner experience or an outer experience; Breakthroughs in my grief (clarity); Therapy; Black spaces; and much more.   Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection, I do a meta-reflection to last week's "Low Places" episode.   Supporting themes:  Juxtaposition between joy and optimism.  Garth Brook's lyrics to "Low Places."

In this reflection, I am in a low place and I introduce a strategy I am starting in route to my big (my mastermind).   Typology:  INTJ8; ESFP

In this reflection I revisit the idea of liking and/or not liking a person.   Typology:  Te linked to Se (INTJ) vs Te linked to Ne (ISTJ). 

In this reflection I talk about the moods that impact taking action.   Supporting themes:  Returning to employment (although it feels like I am selling myself into slavery); The Trump administration; Mood (or emotions) that causes action paralysis.   Typology: INTJ8

In this Take 2 reflection, I explore leadership as an issue of positionality vs orientation. Supporting themes: Racial and cultural implications of leadership; Leading upward; Song writing; The White coding of AI; Teaching and learning; Impostor syndrome. Special note: This reflection replaces a recording I did on August q8, 2025. Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection, I explore wellness as relating to neuroticism (in how the Big Five treats neuroticism).    

In this reflection I consider a low-frequency event from a month ago and consider it within my discovery of self worth. Supporting themes: Structural harm; College dorms; Pro- Black politics; Black belongingness; Bullying as play and the psychology of passive aggressive behaviors; Emotions. Special note: This is a re- recording of a failed episode I did a month ago. Typology: INTJ; Enneagram eight regression to the five.

In this reflection I work through a conflict that occurred while on travels.     Typology:  INTJ, Enneagram 8

In this reflection I process a season of growth regarding the integrated, synthesized me. Supporting themes: Beyonce as a Type 8 (not a Type 3); Strength, dominance, vulnerability and tears; AI technologies; Jeremiah as a weeping prophet; Grand masterminding and ground zero. Note: This reflection was inspired in part by Michael Scott ("The Office"). Typology: INTJ8; NiFi; TeSe; Enneagram Type 1, 5 and 9.

This reflection is the closing (and ultimate point) of "The Public and the Private" reflection released last week. I confront when I am assertive and when I withdraw. There is a strong Enneagram focus throughout the discussion. Note: The sound quality is lower (there was background noise).

In this reflection, I talk about authenticity juxtaposed within two different spheres: Public vs Private. Note: There is roughly a five minute pause around Minute 55. I was thinking and thought I hit the pause button. Clearly, I did not. Oops. Typology: Enneagram clusters around interpersonal styles (being assertive, being withdrawn and being dutiful); Considering an INTJ5 as mistyping; INTJ8 and Te.

In this reflection I consider the ways Giftedness, INTJness and Type 8-ness overlap. Supporting themes: Perceptivity; Divergency; Entelechy; Sensitivity; Excitability; Power and the matrix; Taking action; Autism; Dysregulation; Education; Social Institutions and the socialization process; Banking and customer service; Christianity and proselytizing;. This reflection was influenced in part by the Bible (John 1:1-3); and Howard Gardner ("Multiple Intelligence"). Typology: Cognitive functions of the INTJ; Core values of Enneagram Type 8.

In this reflection I consider this podcast and my learning around authenticity and vulnerability. I also discuss my plans for behavioral change.   Supporting themes: Family time; Anger; Trauma and the disconnected self; Digital presentations; Healthy vulnerability vs unhealthy vulnerability.  Note 1: This episode marks the start to Season 11. Note 2: This reflection was influenced in part by Jeanne Ormrod ("Human Learning"). Note 3: I briefly mentioned INTJ-Jon (Just Call Me Jon from YouTube). Typology: INTJ and Type 8 Relatedness; Type 5 Mistyping for INTJs; Big brother Te and Little Sister Fi.

In this reflection I consider dark matter as relating to emotions and spirituality. I also wrap up the season (Season10) and the life of this project (5 years). I truly appreciate each of you and am thankful for the myriad of ways I've been able to grow because of your presence!

In this reflection I consider three interconnecting concepts: Social interaction, Social Class and Social Play. Supporting themes: Friendships; Dating; Family/ Family conflict; Housing; Neighborhoods; Health Typology: INTJ and ESFP

In this reflection I consider my past as three phases and consider tomorrow. There is a lot of truth telling in this discussion. Supporting themes: Social change and impact work; Teaching, curriculum development and school leadership; Toxic relationships and self discovery; The creative me and the practical me. Typology: INTJ; INTP

In this reflection I question the song, "Second Time Around." Supporting themes: Race and gender (Karen); Presentations and speaking on my feet (with a special thank you to my listeners); Rapid manifestation (as in psychic abilities); Housing peace and neighborhoods; Entrepreneurship and employment (as relating to freedom, creativity, impact and complex authenticity); A return to the "nail and grenade" metaphor; Dating again; Fear of consumption. Special note: This reflection was influenced in part by two songs entitled, " Second Time Around" by a) Shalamar and b) Frank Sinatra. Typology: Te/Se, Ni and Fi connected to Type 8.

In this reflection I consider my emotional maturity as relating to new information. Supporting themes: Emotional denial; Mapping vs pairing of MBTI and the Enneagram; Nature vs nurture; Genetics; Birth order; Paternal vs maternal care; Baby mama drama; A season of heart work; The intersections of instinct and emotions (as a rational being); Cognitive, social, emotional and romantic orientations; Trust and safety; Vulnerability: Experiencing trauma and the storage of trauma. This reflection was influenced in part by 1) Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); 2) Pastor Tom ( "Type Eight Checklist" on YouTube); and 3) Personality Path ("How Each Type Experiences the Core Three Emotions "). Typology: INTJ8; Three Intelligent Centers of the Enneagram and their core emotions.

In this reflection I consider personality as stable (or not) and I consider it as real (or not). In other words, it's complicated. Supporting themes: Sexual orientation; Cognitive orientation; Social orientation; Emotions; Language; Human evolution; Trauma and Subjectivity; Predatory behavior; Defensive behavior; Achievement, competition and materialism; Class and neighborhoods Special note 1: This reflection was influenced in part by Enneagram 2.0 (a podcast) and Personality Hacker (a second podcast). Special note 2: This reflection has two parts: a) In the first 30 minutes I talk about the hosts from the two podcasts mentioned above; and b) The rest of the reflection is where I wrestle with the pairing of MBTI and the Enneagram as two personality systems. Special note 3: I read from the "The Complete Enneagram") by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut. Special note 4: This is reflection is actually a continuation of a reflection I did on "Theories/ Theorists". Please go to my Substack account (Your Ni Dom) for that first reflection.

in this reflection I talk about personal growth as relating to housing and work life balance. Trigger warning: I do a little crying. Listen with care. Typology: Dominant Ni and inferior Se.