Your Ni Dom

In this reflection I consider my emotional maturity as relating to new information. Supporting themes: Emotional denial; Mapping vs pairing of MBTI and the Enneagram; Nature vs nurture; Genetics; Birth order; Paternal vs maternal care; Baby mama drama; A season of heart work; The intersections of instinct and emotions (as a rational being); Cognitive, social, emotional and romantic orientations; Trust and safety; Vulnerability: Experiencing trauma and the storage of trauma. This reflection was influenced in part by 1) Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); 2) Pastor Tom ( "Type Eight Checklist" on YouTube); and 3) Personality Path ("How Each Type Experiences the Core Three Emotions "). Typology: INTJ8; Three Intelligent Centers of the Enneagram and their core emotions.

In this reflection I consider personality as stable (or not) and I consider it as real (or not). In other words, it's complicated. Supporting themes: Sexual orientation; Cognitive orientation; Social orientation; Emotions; Language; Human evolution; Trauma and Subjectivity; Predatory behavior; Defensive behavior; Achievement, competition and materialism; Class and neighborhoods Special note 1: This reflection was influenced in part by Enneagram 2.0 (a podcast) and Personality Hacker (a second podcast). Special note 2: This reflection has two parts: a) In the first 30 minutes I talk about the hosts from the two podcasts mentioned above; and b) The rest of the reflection is where I wrestle with the pairing of MBTI and the Enneagram as two personality systems. Special note 3: I read from the "The Complete Enneagram") by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut. Special note 4: This is reflection is actually a continuation of a reflection I did on "Theories/ Theorists". Please go to my Substack account (Your Ni Dom) for that first reflection.

in this reflection I talk about personal growth as relating to housing and work life balance. Trigger warning: I do a little crying. Listen with care. Typology: Dominant Ni and inferior Se.

In this reflection, I explore and embrace personality contradictions.    Note:  This file has been reloaded (it had been removed for a few hours).  It is now active.    Typology: INTJ8; Ni/Te; Ni/Si; Being a friendly Type 8      

In this reflection I give an update on my housing journey as a spiritual experience. Supporting themes: Priorities conflict; Childhood discomforts becoming adult discomforts; Proof of Income; House vs. apartment; Midwifing friends; A tunnel vs a birth canal. Special notes: 1. I ran out of time. Go to my YouTube account to hear what was left out. 2. It took me 50 minutes to really get into the pocket of this reflection. Typology: INTJ; Te; Fi.

In this reflection I process a literal and figurative battle I have had with housing. Supporting themes: Self-actualization; Systems theory; Scapegoating; Genius, greatness and impact. Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection I explore several themes that link to us possibly being in a simulator (a video game). Supporting themes: Tertiary-Fi (deleted from last week's recording); The unconsciousness of introverted intuition; Relating to and reconciling the good and bad within our parents. My INTJ sister's dilemma of being both effective and expansive; Self actualization as achievable (or not); Kendrick Lamar and Samuel L Jackson's half time message-- "deduct one life." Typology: NI,Te; Fi; INTJ; Type 8.

In this reflection I consider the uncontrollable aspects of tertiary-Fi. Supporting themes: Metta processing of the nail and the grenade; Imagining, pursuing and negotiating your best life; The politics of race; The N- word; Leadership subordination and hierarchies; Rational and irrational feelings. Typology: Ni, Te and Fi; Ni and Se; Te and Fi; Tertiary Fi and Tertiary-Fi.

In this reflection I consider the ways schemas have kept me from my next level. Supporting themes: Spirituality; Struggling; Faith; Entrepreneurship; Maturity; Sibling bonding. This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology"). Typology: INTJ8 and INTJ5; INFJ; Ni-domness

I end this reflection considering three M's: Masterminding, Models, and One Minute Acts of Manifesting. However, the bulk of the reflection is me interrogating myself as a masterminder (because I gotta little bit of imposter syndrome happening). Supporting themes: Strategy; Envisioning; Ambition; Calibrating; Grief; Death of parents; Motivation; Neurodivergence. Special Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Isabel Briggs Meyers ("Gifts Differing"). Special Note 2: I differentiate between three levels of masterminding; lowercase, uppercase, and all caps. Typology: Ni-domness; INTJ; INFJ; Te; Enneagram 8.

In this reflection I consider survival, growth and impact (areas of self actualization) to understand a loop that could very well be my life.   Supporting themes: Mastermind; Ground Zero; Instinct; Possessions; Stress; Business; Grants; Employment; Being over qualified; Sex and dating; Solo living; Disrupting social norms.    This reflection was influenced in part by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").   Typology: The Eight Instincts; Sexual, Self Preservation and Social; INTJ8.

In this reflection I talk about midwifing as an act of intimacy. Note: This is part of a series of events I'm calling a "pivotal moment." Supporting themes: Friendship levels; Empathy and emotional support; Type 8-Possession; Direction of care and reciprocity; Self worth and self respect. This reflection was influenced in part by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"). Typology: Enneagram 4; Enneagram 2; Enneagram 8; Enneagram 5; Enneagram 3; INTJ8.

In this reflection, I end with understanding the ways woundedness has impacted the way I do intimacy and the actions I plan to take as a result. Supporting themes: Theories; Neurodivergence; Giftedness; Enneagram tritype; Intimacy; Vulnerability; Families; Inclusion and exclusion; Rejection; Solo living; Therapy; An overt no vs a covert no. Typology: Enneagram 853; Enneagram 854; Enneagram 852; INTJ8

In this reflection I circle back to my therapist and analyze why. I also recognize my friends' reaction.  Supporting themes: Giftedness and neurodivergency; Mama trauma; Hidden (covert) aggression; Projection.   This reflection was influenced in part by Lynne Azpeitia, M.A. and Mary Rocamora, M.A. (Misdiagnoses of the Gifted") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").   Typology: Type 8; Type 6; Enneagram Instincts and Subtypes.   

In this reflection I qualitatively consider lifestyle nuances to being an INTJ Social'Subtype 8. Supporting themes: Money, Cache and Creativity (main themes); Qualitative research; Multiple selves vs a single self; Leadership; Entrepreneurship; Legal services; Emotional resources; Memory and learning; Long and short term storage.    Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Robert C. Bogdan and Sari Knopp Biklen ("Qualitative Research for Education" p. 43).   Note 2: There is no assignment to this reflection because I hope to record a Part 2 first).    Typology: Te; Type 8- Social; Type 8- Sexual; INTJ

In this reflection I confront the conundrum of living in a world in which I have been masking. Supporting themes: Giftedness, Excitability; Sensitivity; Adultism; Student agency; Mediocrity; Neurotypical behaviors. Typology: INTJ; Type 1; Type 8

In this reflection I talk about who I naturally am in oppressive spaces. Main themes: Group characteristics; Being a Social 8. This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"). Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection I consider neurodiversity and trauma. Main themes: Stressors for Enneagram Type 8; Intimidation; and Aggression. Special note: I read from three articles (mainly in the last 30 minutes). Those articles will be shared on my Substack (Your Ni Dom). Additional themes: Authenticity; Vulnerability; Intimacy; Fighting; Sibling conflict; Business development and job interviews. Typology: Ni simulation; Te- dominance; Fi/Fe- feelings; Enneagram Type 8

In this reflection I use two events to showcase what happens when Indirect emotions come out sideways. Supporting themes: Kendrick Lama and Drake; Unmet friendship needs; Primary and secondary emotions; Answer vs pain; Super Bowl and political art; Racial diversity and divides; Biracial vs mono-racial. Rap wars as cultural vs structural; Speeding and driving tickets; Astrology and the fire signs. Typology: INTJ8; Types 8, 9 and 1 as the anger cluster.

In this reflection I consider two different realities... one governed by the material world and the other governed by my imagination. Supporting themes: Beyonce; Grammy's; Genre; Being black and female; Business development; Entrepreneurship; Talent; Recruitment; Manipulation; Job searching; Leadership. Typology: Ni; Te; Fi; Fe; Ti

In this reflection I talk about January as a push to recognize and reconcile the paradox of me. Supporting themes: Being public and being private; Being connected to money and being unconnected to money; Being playful and being productive; Being scientific and being spiritual. Podcast 1 and Podcast 2; Neurodivergence giftedness autism and ADHD; Clairvoyance; Scapegoat impact; Yournidom becoming more than just a podcast. Special note: I'm doing a lot of data dumping from January (because I was on a break). Welcome to Season 10! :) Typology: INTJ8; Te and Fi; Fe and Ti.

in this reflection I become conscious of my personal growth as relating to personal worth. I also talk about my intentions for the new year. Typology: Enneagram 8; Te; Fi

In this reflection I confront a continued reality about scapegoating (particularly around the next generation). Supporting themes: Dominance; Creativity; Self discovery; Family power dynamics; Self gaslighting; Exclusion; Harm; Family values. Typology: Enneagram Type Eight- Social/ Self- Preservation.

In the second half of this reflection I talk about the ways Beyonce inspires me spiritually as a fellow Enneagram 8. However, the first half finds me talking about podcasting... technical challenges and new possibilities. Supporting themes: Cell phones; Budgeting; Speaking; Listeners; Blackbird; Tanner Adell, Reyna Roberts, Brittney Spencer and Tiera Kennedy; Christmas halftime show; White and Black country music; Symbolism. Typology: Ni-domness; Te; INTJ8.

In this reflection I explore my creativity as an essential part of me as a spiritual being. Supporting themes: Perspectives; SMART Goals, resolutions and intentions; the Pandemic; Extroversion andintroversion; Respect; Credibility; Credit score and the credit game; Employment and entrepreneurship; Vulnerability and dominance. Typology: Ni and Te; INTJ; ENTP

Special note: There are a few technical challenges. The episode abruptly ends around Minute 41. **** In this reflection I explore "perspectives" as a theme as I discuss "loss" and "discovery." Supporting themes: Space and Voyager 1; Beyoncé, half-time performance, Blackbird and justice; Leadership; Student discipline; Calibrating Ground Zero; Analyzing emotions; Interviewing; Faith and Spirituality. Typology: INTJ; Enneagram Eight; Fe; Si

In this episode I contend with two areas of unexpected growth: liking myself and trusting myself. Supporting themes: Parents and our sense of self; Parents and our sense of love; Loyalty; Guilt; the Death of my person; Broken love narratives and intimacy; Therapy; Employment and entrepreneurship; Yournidom and being in community. Special note: Three sources were referenced in this reflection: Social Psychology; The Complete Enneagram; and Personality Hacker. Typology: Ni-domness; Te and Fi; Traits of Enneagram Eight.

In this reflection I calibrate my vision of me-the-individual and me-the-institution. Supporting themes: Employment and entrepreneurship; Executive leadership; Goal setting and strategizing; Structural security; Social- friends and social- romance; Choices and divine intervention. Typology; INTJ and Enneagram Eight

In this reflection I start connecting the dots of my journey with authenticity, likeability, vulnerability and intimacy. Supporting themes: Therapy; Co- worker; Red Hat (and the Six Thinking Hats); Intellectual honesty; Passion; Patterns and eaning making; Social power and the matrix. Typology; INTJ8; NiTe; Healthy and unhealthy eight; Healthy and two.

In this reflection I explore the intimate me as relating to my judging functions. I called this episode "Breathing" because I'm learning how to relax in the process of growing. Supporting themes: Personality Hacker; Content engagement; Therapy; Race; Thanksgiving; Family; Six Thinking Hats; Introversion and intimacy. Typology: INTJ; TeFi Axis;

In this reflection I consider two events as two sides of the same coin. In a hurried ending (because I ran out of time), I consider attachment as the unifying factor. Supporting themes: Therapy; Family; Employment; Entrepreneurship; College; Thinking; Integrity. Older episode reference: "The Abyss" (June 20, 2022). Typology: Ni

In this reflection I explore different areas in my life in which I'm ambivalent. Supporting themes: NPR; Leadership; Power; Questioning and authority; Dating; Intimacy; Gender and Race; Ethnicity and nationality; Theories; Election2024; MAGA Republicans; Donald Trump; Kamala Harris; America and Black women; Foresight; Confidence and dominance. Typology: INTP/ENTP; Enneagram 8; INTJ; Te/Fi conflict

In this reflection I discover that my authenticity is tied to my strength (and my courage to be honest).   Supporting themes: Employment: Therapy; Family; Romance; Friendship; Entrepreneurship; Leadership; Conflict; Bodily freedom.    Typology: INTJ; Te and Fi.

In this reflection I finally accept the end of an era. Supporting themes: Logical- mathematical intelligence; Being a thinker woman; Autism and Neurodivergency; Therapy; Pathologizing; Thinking and feeling; Directness, strategy and impact; Intellectual foreplay and compatibility. Typology: INTJ and INFJ; Te vs. Fe; Ni.

In this reflection I discover cognition as being a key feature of my ability to be intimate and vulnerable. Supporting themes: Thinking and analysis; Deep learning; Therapy; Facing; Work; Trust; Respect; Power; Harm; Maternal energy; White supremacy culture; Race; Hip Hop and Black suffering; Performing country music; Sex. Typology: INTJ; Enneagram 8; Ni; Te; Fi.

In this reflection I consider the intersectional nature of giftedness, ni-domness, trauma, and education/ training. Supporting Themes: Domestic Violence; Friendship; Work; Family; and Being social. Typology: INTJ8 Note: This reflection was influenced in part by Howard Gardner ("The Theory of Multiple Intelligence.")

In this reflection I question this thing called life as a possible distortion of something else (an illusion).

In this reflection I explore the self as situational (not stable) and consider where I want to land as the full me. Supporting themes:Dr. Dario Nardi (64 subtypes); Dominance; Creativity; Normalizing; Harmonizing; Housing; Business; Masterminding; Safety and Control. Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection I consider love and power. Supporting themes: Existential integration (relating to self actualization and this project); Sex; Trauma; Going no contact or low contact; Rebellion and revenge; Masculine and feminine energy; Family dynamics. Supporting note: This reflection was influenced in part by Patrick Teahan and his community (adults recovering from childhood trauma). Typology: Enneagram Type 8, 2 and 1; INTJ.

In this reflection I try to understand my personality in intimate spaces. Supporting themes: Trauma; Sex; Gender; Work; Friendship; Masculinity and Femininity. Typology: INTJ; INFP; INTP; Enneagram Types 8,5,3, 2 and 1.

In this reflection I consider dominance and vulnerability. Supporting themes: Self Preservation; Structural survival; Financial and medical wellness; Friendships; Family; Energy levels; Domestic violence; Entrepreneurship and employment. Typology: Ni; Fi; Te; Enneagram Type 8.

In this reflection I consider my construction of love and being loveable within context. Supporting themes: Survival; Prosperity; Being solo; Aging solo; Romance; Finance; Business; Home and hearth; Childhood and family trauma; Sisterhood; Donald Trump; Kamala Harris and her late mother. Other episodes referenced: "Likeability;" and "The Spiral." Typology: Enneagram Type 8; INTJ

In this reflection I use spiral curriculum principles to confront a major life decision. Supporting themes: Location; Bloom's Taxonomy; teaching and learning; housing; employment; resignation; dating and romance; friends and social; leadership; survival; prosperity; low income learners; family divorce; self actualization. This reflection was inspired in part by Alan Ornstein and Francis Hunkins ("Curriculum: Foundations; Principles; and Issues"). Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection I contend with likeability as relating to friendliness, agreeableness and gender. Supporting themes: Gender penalty; support groups; therapy; Intergenerational and childhood trauma. This reflection was influenced in part by 1) Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); and 2) Leadership Mindset (Are you agreeable and likeable?"). Special note: There is a short segment of silence (90 seconds). I was trying to read from another app and my voice was cut off). Typology: Enneagram Type 8 and 2; INTJ; ENTJ; INFP; ESFP; ISFP

I'm back from break and July was a pivotal month. I start Season 9 with some story telling about being in conflict and beyond. Supporting themes: aweness; being social; inclusion and exclusion; conflict, communicating and fighting; expectations and accountability; trust and confidentiality; perception and the mind. Typology; INTJ8; Te and Fi; Ni-domness.

I close out the season (Season 8) by returning to shadow shadow work. Supporting themes: Season 8 and growth; Support of my followers as I begin the grief process; Dating and vulnerability; Being invincible and resilient; Holiday blues; Wilful loneliness; Group care and group threats; Sibling rivalry; Self love and acceptance. This reflection was inspired in part by 1) Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); and 2) Your Ni Dom - "Shadow Work" (December 9, 2023). Typology: Type 8 Shadows; Type 5 Shadows; INTJ Extroversion via Te and Se.

In this reflection I try to confront what my mind won't say. Supporting themes: The body keeps score; BFF and friendships; Structures, business and social as three key pillars; Pathologies; Pain by proxy; Cults and narcissistic family structures; Outgrowing yourself and your old connections. This reflection was influenced in part by WebMD ("What is Dissociation?"). Typology; INTJ; Type 8

In this reflection I process an episode published by Personality Hacker (the Husband and Wife Team): "Dealing with Trauma in Your Auxiliary Co-pilot." Supporting themes: Personality theory; Cognitive functions; Typing and typology; MBTI and the Enneagram; Abnormal Psychology; Depression; Religion and Spirituality; Social Institutions and socialization; Race, gender and the socio-political world; Physical abuse; Trapped grief; Systems thinking; Education. This reflection was also influenced by Isabel Briggs Meyers with Peter B. Meyers ("Gifts Differing"). Special Note: The first half of the reflection was about my journey with and acceptance of Personality Hacker. I offer critiques but I am truly thankful and am in awe of how they show up in the world. #lifechanging Typology: Ni, Te, Fi, INTJ, ENTJ, ESFJ

I this reflection I contend with a single pursuit. Supporting themes: Organizing and regulating the outer world; Self Preservation; Masterminding; Taking risks and calibrating; LinkedIn and a professional identity; Family and staying connected (or not); (Re) locating. This reflection was influenced in part by Isabel Briggs Meyers with Peter B. Meyers ("Gifts Differing"); Dr. Charles Chaffin ("Choice Overload: I Can't Decide"); and Personality Hacker (I referenced them frequently in this reflection). Typology: Te vs Ti, INTJ and Self Preservation- Eight