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On Poland's election, its history, its self-conception. Philosopher Maciej Szlinder joins us to talk about Polish politics, society and history. Maciej is a member of the general council of the left-wing political party Razem ("Together"), as well as the president of the Polish Basic Income Network, so we discuss these matters as well as the general context. How did Poland represent a beacon of neoliberal democracy to Western liberals in the 80s and 90s – and what happened next? What does Poland represent, to Poles and to the rest of Europe, today? Is the political duopoly of the centrist Civic Platform and the right-wing Law and Justice falling apart? Why is political turnout up – and what anti-establishment parties are the young voting for? Why is Poland the most pro-American country in Europe, and how does Trump affect that? What is Poland's huge economic success felt like on the ground? How does precarious employment and emigration impact Polish politics? Links: In the Polish Mirror, Gavin Rae, New Left Review In Poland, Presidential Hopefuls Battle for Young Voters Who Don't Like Them, NY Times

I've never highlighted a book as much as They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship.  It's my favorite book in 2025! Watch the Video Interview Author Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms:  Sociopath Psychopath Love bomb Narcissist Boundaries Borderline Toxic Gaslighting Who is Dr. Isabelle Morley? Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume: Author of Navigating Intimacy and They're Not Gaslighting You Co-host of the podcast Romcom Rescue Contributor to Psychology Today Advisory Board Member of the Keepler app Founding Board Member of UCAN Member of the American Psychological Association Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2 Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1 PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015 Doctoral project researching hookup culture's impact on relationship formation, 2015 Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013 Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011 My Fatima Story I dated a woman for two years. Let's call her Fatima. In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above. After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I'm a narcissist? Let's look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.” She agreed. Perplexity wrote: To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include: Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Entitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations. Can only be around people who are important or special Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Interpersonally exploitative Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Arrogant Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Lack empathy Being unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Must be admired Requiring excessive admiration. Envious Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them. These symptoms must be pervasive, apparent in various social situations, and consistently rigid over time. A qualified healthcare professional typically diagnoses NPD through a clinical interview. The traits should also substantially differ from social norms. I asked her how many of these nine characteristics I exhibited consistently, pervasively, and in many social situations. She agreed that I was nowhere near five of the nine. Admittedly, I sometimes exhibited some of these nine characteristics in my intimate relationship with Fatima. I'm certainly guilty of that. However, to qualify as a true narcissist, you must display at least five of these nine characteristics often and with most people, not just your partner. To her credit, my ex-girlfriend sheepishly backed down from that accusation, saying, “You're right, Francis, you're not a narcissist.” Later, I would educate her (or, as she would say, “mansplain”) about another of her favorite words: gaslighting. I mansplained by sending her a video clip of renowned couples therapist Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who explained why standard disagreements and having different perspectives aren't gaslighting. Soon after explaining that, Mrs. Gottman explains why, in some ways, “everybody is narcissistic.” Watch 6 minutes from 1:35:30 to 1:41:30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9kPmiV0B34&t=5730s After listening to an expert define gaslighting, Fatima apologized for incorrectly using the term. This is what I loved about Fatima: she wouldn't stubbornly cling to her position when presented with compelling evidence to the contrary. This is a rare trait I cherish. Narcissists and sociopaths are about 1% of the population, so it's highly unlikely that all your exes are narcissists and sociopaths. Still, Fatima flung other popular, misused terms at me. She loved talking about “boundaries” and “red flags.” According to Dr. Morley, my ex “weaponized therapy speak.”   Dr. Morley writes, “It's not a new phenomenon for people to use therapy terms casually, even flippantly, to describe themselves or other people. How long have we referred to someone as a ‘psycho' when they're acting irrationally or being mean?” Although weaponized therapy speak isn't new, it's ubiquitous nowadays. Dr. Morley's book sounds the alarm that it's out of control and dangerous. Three types of people would benefit from Dr. Morley's book: People like Fatima: Does someone you know tend to denigrate people using therapy speak? Are they intelligent, rational, and open-minded like Fatima? If so, they must read this book to recalibrate how they use these powerful words. People like me: Are you (or someone you know) accused of being a psychopath, a gaslighter, or a person with OCD? Actual victims: The explosion of use of these powerful words has diluted their meaning. As a result, the real victims of narcissists and sociopaths are now belittled. Their true suffering is minimized when every other person has a sociopath in their life. Their grievances are severe. Let's not equate our relationship problems with their terror. I'll list some of my favorite chapter titles, which will give you a flavor of the book's message: Chapter 4: Are They Gaslighting You, or Do They Just Disagree? Chapter 5: Do They Have OCD, or Are They Just Particular? Chapter 6: Is It a Red Flag, or Are They Just Imperfect? Chapter 7: Are They a Narcissist, or Did They Just Hurt Your Feelings? Chapter 9: Are They a Sociopath, or Do They Just Like You Less Than you Like Them? Chapter 11: Did They Violate Your Boundaries, or Did They Just Not Know How You Felt? I will quote extensively to encourage everyone to buy Dr. Mosley's book. Most quotations are self-explanatory, but sometimes I will offer personal commentary. Excerpts The trend of weaponized therapy speak marks something very different. These days, clinical words are wielded, sincerely and self-righteously, to lay unilateral blame on one person in a relationship while excusing the other from any wrongdoing. ========== Many times, we use these words as protective measures to help us avoid abusive partners and reduce our risk of “wasting” time or emotional energy on family or friends who don't deserve it. But using these terms can also absolve people from taking responsibility for their actions in their relationships. They can say, “I had to do that because of my obsessive-compulsive disorder” or “We didn't work out because she's a narcissist,” instead of doing the hard work of seeing their part in the problem and addressing the issues behind it. As a couples therapist, I'm particularly concerned with how the enthusiastic but inaccurate embrace of clinical terminology has made it harder to sustain healthy romantic attachments. With Fatima, our relationship woes were always my fault because I crossed her “boundaries” and I was a “narcissist.” If I disagreed, I was “gaslighting” her. Or I was being “defensive” instead of apologizing. And when I apologized, I did so incorrectly because I offered excuses after saying I'm sorry (she was right about that). The point is that she used weaponized therapy speak to demonize me, alleviating herself from the burden of considering that perhaps she shared some of the responsibility for our woes. ========== Their friend doesn't agree with their warped view of an event or their disproportionate reaction? The friend is an empathy-lacking narcissist who is actively gaslighting them. ========== In one memorable session of mine, a client managed to accuse their partner of narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, blaming the victim, lacking accountability, having no empathy, and being generally abusive, manipulative, and toxic . . . all within twenty minutes. Although Fatima and I went to couples therapy, I don't remember Dr. Mosley being our facilitator, but that sure sounds like Fatima! LOL! ========== I'm certified in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT), which is a type of couples therapy based on attachment theory. ========== For example, if you feel like a failure for letting your partner down, you might immediately minimize your partner's feelings and tell them they shouldn't react so strongly to such a small issue. (For anyone wondering, this isn't gaslighting.) That makes them feel unheard and unimportant, so they get even more upset, which makes you dismiss their reaction as dramatic, and round and round it goes. Welcome to my world with Fatima! ========== You could claim your partner is toxic and borderline because they're emotionally volatile and unforgiving. You could say their feelings are disproportionate to the problem, and their verbal assault is bordering on abusive. But your partner could say that you are a narcissist who is gaslighting them by refusing to acknowledge their feelings, showing no empathy for the distress your tardiness caused, and shifting the blame to them (just like a narcissist would!). You'd both be wrong, of course, but you can see how these conclusions could happen. ========== Weaponized therapy speak is our attempt to understand people and situations in our lives, yes, but it is also a strategy to avoid responsibility. It puts the blame solely on the other person and allows us to ignore our part. ========== However, the vast majority of partners and friends are not sociopaths, narcissists, or abusers. They're just flawed. They're insecure, demanding, controlling, emotional, or any number of adjectives, but these traits alone aren't pathological. ========== But doing such things now and then in our relational histories, or doing them often in just one relationship, doesn't mean we have a personality disorder. These diagnoses are reserved for people who exhibit a persistent pattern of maladaptive behaviors in most or all of their close relationships. ========== I wasn't an abusive partner. I was a messy newcomer to relationships, as we usually are in our teens and twenties, trying my best to navigate my feelings while following bad examples from television and making plenty of other blunders along the way. Stonewalling was immature and an unhelpful way of coping, but it wasn't abuse. ========== If we're looking for a partner who will always do the right thing, even in the hardest moments, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment. As I mentioned before, really good people can behave really badly. ========== If we don't know the difference between abusive behavior and normal problematic behavior, we're at risk for either accepting abuse (thinking that it's just a hard time) or, alternatively, throwing away a perfectly good relationship because we can't accept any flaws or mistakes. Alas, Fatima threw away a perfectly good relationship. I was her second boyfriend. Her lack of experience made her underappreciate what we had. She'll figure it out with the next guy. ========== Disagreeing with someone, thinking your loved one is objectively wrong, arguing about what really happened and what was actually said, trying to find your way to the one and only “truth”—these are things that most people do. They are not helpful or effective, but they also are not gaslighting. ========== “What? I didn't say yes to seeing it, Cece. I said yes to finding houses we both liked and visiting them. Sometimes you just hear what you want to and then get mad at me when you realize it's not what I actually said,” Meg answers. “Stop gaslighting me! Don't tell me what happened. I remember exactly what you said! You told me yes to this open house and then changed your mind, and I'm upset about it. I'm allowed to be upset about it; don't invalidate my feelings!” Cece says, her frustration growing. Meg feels surprised and nervous. She didn't think she was gaslighting Cece, which is exactly what she says. “I didn't mean to gaslight you. I just remember this differently. I don't remember saying I would go to this open house, so that's why I don't understand why you're this upset.” “Yes, you are gaslighting me because you're trying to convince me that what I clearly remember happening didn't happen. But you can't gaslight me because I'm positive I'm right.” ========== Cece's accusation of gaslighting quickly shut down the conversation, labeling Meg as a terrible partner and allowing Cece to exit the conversation as the victor. ========== I find gaslighting to be one of the harder labels to deal with in my clinical work for three reasons: 1. Accusations of gaslighting are incredibly common. I hear accusations of gaslighting at least once a week, and yet it's only been accurate about five times in my entire clinical career. Boyfriend didn't agree with what time you were meeting for dinner? Gaslighting. Spouse said you didn't tell them to pick up milk on the way home, but you swear you did? Gaslighting. ========== You could say, “I want you to know that I really understand your perspective on this. I see things differently, but your experience is valid, and it makes sense. I'm not trying to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right, and I'm sorry if I came across that way.” WHAT IS VALIDATION? Validation is another word that suffers from frequent misuse. People demand validation, but what they're really asking for is agreement. And if someone doesn't agree, they call it toxic. Here's the thing, though: Validation is not the same as agreement. ========== You can disagree in your head but still validate how they feel: “Hey, you're not crazy. I see why you'd feel that way. It makes sense to me. I'd probably feel that way too if I were in your shoes, experiencing our interaction the way you did. I care about your feelings.” ========== “I bet it felt really awful to have me challenge your experience and make you feel like it wasn't right or valid.” I regret I learned this lesson too late with Fatima. I was too slow to validate her feelings. We learn something in every relationship. Ideally, our partner is patient with us as we stumble through the learning process, often repeating the same error until we form a new habit. However, Fatima ran out of patience with me. I couldn't change fast enough for her, even though I was eager to learn and dying to please her. By the time I began to learn about proper validation and apologies, she had given up on me. ========== My husband, Lucas, hates it when lids aren't properly put on jars. You know, when a lid is half on and still loose or haphazardly tightened and askew? I, on the other hand, could not care less. I am the only perpetrator of putting lids on wrong in our house. I barely screw on the top to the pickles, peanut butter, medications, water bottles, or food storage containers. I don't even realize that I do it because I care so little about it. This drives Lucas absolutely crazy. I love this example because it's what I would repeatedly tell Fatima: some habits are hard to break. Dr. Mosley knows her husband hates half-closed jars, but she struggles to comply with his wishes. We're imperfect creatures. ========== Is your partner always leaving a wet towel on the floor after showering? Red flag—they're irresponsible and will expect you to clean up after them. Is your friend bad at texting to let you know when they're behind schedule? Red flag—they're selfish, inconsiderate, and don't value your time. It's all too easy to weaponize this term in a relationship, in hopes that it will shame the other person into changing. ========== People aren't perfect. Individually, we're messy, and in relationships, we're much messier. We all make mistakes, sometimes repeatedly for our entire lives. Instead of labeling all unwanted behaviors as red flags and expecting change or running away altogether, try a new approach: Identify why those behaviors hurt you and share that with your loved one instead. ========== When confronted with the knowledge that we've hurt someone, many of us become defensive. We hate the idea of hurting the person we love and since we usually didn't intend to hurt them, we start explaining why our actions weren't that bad and why they shouldn't feel upset. It comes from a place of inadequacy, self-criticism, and remorse. If the other person responds like this but you can tell they care about your pain, this may be a good time to give them some grace in the form of empathy and time. Wait a few hours or even a few days, then try the conversation again. For every criticism I had about Fatima's behavior, she had 20 criticisms about my behavior. As a result, I had many more opportunities to fall into the trap of becoming defensive. It's so hard to resist. I'm still working on that front. ========== We all have a touch of narcissism, which can get bigger at certain points in life, ========== Conflicts are upsetting, and we've all developed ways of protecting ourselves, whether it's getting loud to be heard or emotionally withdrawing to prevent a panic attack. Underneath these less-than-ideal responses, though, we feel awful. We feel scared, insecure, inadequate, unimportant, and alone. We hate fighting with our loved ones, and we really hate that we've hurt them, especially unknowingly. We're not being defensive because we have a narcissistic belief in our own superiority; we're doing it because we're terrified that the person won't understand us and will see us negatively, so we need to show them our side and explain to them why we aren't to blame. ========== But whether it's an inflated ego, vanity, self-absorption, or just unusually healthy confidence, these traits do not make a narcissist. To have NPD, the person must also require external validation and admiration, and to be seen as superior to others. This is the difference between a big ego and grandiosity. Grandiosity goes several steps beyond confidence—it's a near-delusional sense of importance, where someone exaggerates their achievements and expects others to see them as superior. ========== Some people suck. They're immature, mean, selfish, and unremorseful. Some people don't respect other people in their lives. They lie and they cheat, and they don't care that it hurts others. But they can be all these things and still not be a narcissist. There's a lot of room for people to be awful without meeting the criteria for a personality disorder, and that's because (you guessed it!) people are flawed. Some people feel justified in behaving badly, while others just don't know any better yet. Our growth is messy and not linear. ========== The reality is that anyone who genuinely worries that they are a narcissist, probably isn't. That level of openness and willingness to self-reflect is not typical of a narcissist. Plus, narcissists don't tend to believe or care that they've hurt others, whereas my clients are deeply distressed by the possibility that they've unknowingly caused others pain. ========== As with gaslighting, I have rarely seen people accurately diagnose narcissism. To put it bluntly, I have never seen a client in a couples therapy session call their partner a narcissist and be right. In fact, the person misusing the label usually tends to be more narcissistic and have more therapy work to do than their partner. ========== person involved with a narcissist to accurately identify the disorder because people with NPD are great at making other people think they are the problem. It's an insidious process, and rarely do people realize what's happening until others point it out to them or the narcissist harshly devalues or leaves them. Now, you might be in a relationship with someone who has NPD, but instead of jumping to “narcissist!” it's helpful to use other adjectives and be more specific about your concerns. Saying that a certain behavior was selfish or that a person seems unremorseful is more exact than calling them a narcissist. ========== Love bombing can happen at any point in a relationship, but it's most often seen at the start. ========== Love bombing is also a typical follow-up to fights. ========== Humans are a complicated species. Despite our amazing cognitive capacities and our innate desire to be good (well, most of us anyway), we often cause harm. People act in ways that can damage their relationships, both intentionally and unknowingly, but that doesn't make them sociopaths. In fact, anyone in a close and meaningful relationship will end up hurting the other person and will also end up getting hurt at some point because close relationships inevitably involve a degree of pain, be it disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration. Even when we're doing our best, we hurt each other. We can't equate normal missteps and hurt with sociopathy. ========== People love to call their exes sociopaths, just like they love calling them narcissists. Dr. Mosley focuses on the term sociopath because it's more popular nowadays than the term psychopath, but they both suffer from misuse and overuse, she says. If your partner (or you) use the term psychopath often, then in the following excerpts, replace the word “sociopath” with “psychopath.” ========== calling someone a sociopath is extreme. You're calling them out as a human who has an underdeveloped (or nonexistent) capacity to be a law-abiding, respectful, moral member of society. And in doing so, you're saying they were the entire problem in your relationship. Unless you were with a person who displayed a variety of extreme behaviors that qualify as ASPD, that conclusion isn't fair, accurate, or serving you. Again, you're missing out on the opportunity to reflect on your part in the problem, examine how you could have been more effective in the relationship, and identify how you can change for the better in your next relationship. If you label your ex a sociopath and call it a day, you're cutting yourself short. ========== Let the record show that I have never seen someone use the term sociopath correctly in their relationship. ========== some boundaries are universal and uncrossable, but the majority are personal preferences that need to be expressed and, at times, negotiated. Claiming a boundary violation is a quick and easy way to control someone's behavior, and that's why it's important to clarify what this phrase means and how to healthily navigate boundaries in a relationship. Fatima loved to remind me of and enforce her “boundaries.” It was a long list, so I inevitably crossed them, which led to drama. ========== There are some boundaries we all agree are important and should be uncrossable—I call these universal boundaries. Violating universal boundaries, especially when done repeatedly without remorse or regard for the impact it has on the other person, amounts to abuse. ========== The main [universal boundaries] are emotional, physical, sexual, and financial boundaries ========== Outside of these universal, uncrossable boundaries, there are also individual boundaries. Rather than applying to all people, these boundaries are specific to the person and defined by their own preferences and needs. As such, they are flexible, fluid over time, and full of nuance. If they are crossed, it can be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily abuse. ========== boundary is a line drawn to ensure safety and autonomy, whereas a preference is something that would make you feel happy but is not integral to your sense of relational security or independence. ========== While a well-adjusted person might start a dialogue about how to negotiate an individual boundary in a way that honors both partners' needs, an abusive person will never consider if their boundary can be shifted or why it might be damaging or significantly limiting to the other person. Instead, they will accuse, blame, and manipulate their partner as their way of keeping that person within their controlling limits. ========== The point is that as we go through life, our boundaries shift. As you can see, this is part of what makes it difficult for people to anticipate or assess boundary violations. If you expect and demand that the people close to you honor your specific boundaries on certain topics, but you're not telling them what the boundaries are or when and how they've changed, you're setting your loved ones up for failure. ========== And again, people unknowingly cross each other's individual boundaries all the time. It's simply inevitable. ========== It will create an unnecessary and unproductive rift. 3. We Mistake Preferences for Boundaries Boundaries protect our needs for safety and security. Preferences promote feelings of happiness, pleasure, or calm. When someone crosses a boundary, it compromises our physical or mental health. When someone disregards a preference, we may feel annoyed, but it doesn't pose a risk to our well-being. ========== You've Been Accused of Violating a Boundary If you're in a close relationship, chances are you're going to violate the other person's boundaries at some point. This is especially likely if the person has not told you what boundaries are important to them. However, you might also be unjustly accused of violating a boundary, perhaps a boundary you didn't know about or a preference masquerading as a boundary, and you'll need to know what to do. ========== I never thought of telling Fatima that she was “borderline.” It helps that I didn't know what the term meant. Dr. Mosley says that a person must have several of the “borderline” characteristics to have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fatima only had one of them, so she did not have BPD. Here's the only BPD trait she exhibited: Stormy, intense, and chaotic relationships: Have relationships that tend to be characterized by extremes of idealization and devaluation in which the person with BPD idolizes someone one moment and then vilifies them the next. Because they struggle to see others in a consistent and nuanced way, their relationships go through tumultuous ups and downs, where they desire intense closeness one minute and then reject the person the next. Fatima promised me, “I will love you forever,” “I want to marry you,” “I will be with you until death,” “I'll never leave you,” and other similar extreme promises. Three days later, she would dump me and tell me she never wanted to get back together. Two days later, she apologized and wanted to reunite. Soon, she would be making her over-the-top romantic declarations again. She'd write them and say them repeatedly, not just while making love. Eventually, I'd fuck up again. Instead of collaborating to prevent further fuck ups, Fatima would simply break up with me with little to no discussion. This would naturally make me question her sincerity when she repeatedly made her I-will-be-with-you-forever promises. You might wonder why I was so fucking stupid to reunite with her after she did that a couple of times. Why did I always beg her to reconsider and reunite with me even after we repeated the pattern four times? (The fifth time she dumped me was the last time.) Humans are messy. I expect imperfection. I know my loved one will repeatedly do stupid shit because I sure will. So, I forgave her knee-jerk breakup reaction because I knew she didn't do it out of malice. She did it to protect herself. She was in pain. She thought that pulling the plug would halt the pain. That's reasonable but wrong. That doesn't matter. She's learning, I figured. I need to be patient. I was hopeful we'd break the pattern and learn how to deal with conflict maturely. We didn't. I'm confident she'll figure it out soon, just like I learned from my mistakes with her. ========== If I had to pick one word to describe people with BPD, it would be unstable. Fatima was unstable in a narrow situation: only with one person (me) and only when the shit hit the fan with me. Aside from that, she was highly stable. Hence, it would have been ludicrous if I accused her of having Borderline Personality Disorder. Luckily, I never knew the overused borderline term; even if I did, I wouldn't be tempted to use it on her. ========== Just as with red flags, we all exhibit some toxic behaviors at times. I don't know anyone who has lived a toxic-free existence. Sometimes we go through tough phases where our communication and coping skills are down, and we'll act more toxically than we might normally; this doesn't make us a toxic person. Indeed, many romantic relationships go through toxic episodes, if you will (should we make “toxic episode” a thing?), where people aren't communicating well, are escalating conflicts, and are generally behaving badly. We need to normalize a certain level of temporary or situational toxicity while also specifying what we mean by saying “toxic.” This is the only way we can determine whether the relationship needs help or needs ending. ========== trauma is itself a heavy, often misunderstood word. Its original meaning referenced what we now call “big T” trauma: life-threatening events such as going to war or surviving a car crash. Nowadays, we also talk about “little t” trauma: events that cause significant distress but aren't truly life-threatening, like being bullied in school or having an emotionally inconsistent parent. ========== Avoiding relationships with anyone who triggers hard feelings will mean a very lonely existence. ========== a trauma bond is the connection that survivors feel with their abuser. ========== A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== soldiers aren't trauma bonded after going to war together; they're socially bonded, albeit in an unusually deep way. A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== None of us get to have a happy relationship without hard times and hard work. It's normal and okay to sometimes struggle with the person you're close to or love. When the struggle happens, don't despair. Within the struggle are opportunities to invest in the relationship and grow, individually and together. ========== If you determine your relationship is in a tough spot but not abusive, now's the time for some hard relational work. A good cocktail for working on your relationship is specificity, vulnerability, and commitment. ========== Making a relationship work requires you and your loved ones to self-reflect, take responsibility, and change. This process won't just happen once; it's a constant cycle you'll go through repeatedly over the course of the relationship. You'll both need to look at yourselves, own what you've done wrong or could do better, and work to improve. Nobody is ever finished learning and growing, not individually and certainly not in a relationship. But that's what can be so great about being in a relationship: It's a never-ending opportunity to become a better person. And when you mess up (because trust me, you will), be kind to yourself. As I keep saying, humans are wonderfully imperfect. Even when we know what to do, sometimes we just don't or can't do it. ========== In this world of messy humans, how do you know who will be a good person for you to be with? My answer: Choose someone who wants to keep doing the work with you. There is no perfect person or partner for you, no magical human that won't ever hurt, irritate, enrage, or overwhelm you. Being in close relationships inevitably leads to big, scary feelings at times, so pick someone who wants to get through the dark times with you. Remember that when people are behaving badly in a desperate attempt to connect—not control—they'll be able to look at themselves, recognize the bad behavior, and change. Pick someone who has the willingness to self-reflect and grow, even if it's hard. Someone who will hang in there, even during your worst fights, and ultimately say, “Listen, this is awful, and I don't want to keep arguing like this, but I love you and I want to figure this out with you.” Wow. So well said. And this, in a paragraph, explains where Fatima and I failed. I dislike pointing fingers at my ex when explaining why we broke up. I made 90% of the mistakes in my relationship with Fatima, so I bear most of the responsibility. However, Fatima was the weaker one on one metric: having someone who wants to collaborate to make a beautiful relationship despite the hardships. The evident proof is that she dumped me five times, whereas I never dumped her or even threatened to dump her. I always wanted to use our problems as a chance to learn and improve. Fatima used them as an excuse to quit. She tried. She really did. However, she lacked the commitment Dr. Mosley discussed in that paragraph. Perhaps another man will inspire Fatima to find the strength and courage to bounce back and not throw in the towel. Or maybe she will mature and evolve to a point where she can be with someone less compatible than I was for her. She would often declare, “Francis, we're incompatible.” I'd say, “No, we are compatible; we have incompatibilities. Everyone has incompatibilities. We just need to work through them. If there is a willingness to collaborate, we can solve any incompatibility. The only couples who are truly incompatible are the ones where one or both individuals refuse to budge or learn. We can overcome countless incompatibilities as long as we both want to be together.” ========== We have wounds and scars and bad habits. We rely on ineffective but protective coping mechanisms. We push others away when we're hurt or scared. ========== Everyone behaves badly sometimes. But even then, odds are they're not gaslighting you. Conclusion I'll repeat: They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship is my favorite book in 2025! Buy it! Feedback Leave anonymous audio feedback at SpeakPipe More info You can post comments, ask questions, and sign up for my newsletter at http://wanderlearn.com. If you like this podcast, subscribe and share!  On social media, my username is always FTapon. Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr My Patrons sponsored this show! Claim your monthly reward by becoming a patron at http://Patreon.com/FTapon Rewards start at just $2/month! 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(***TIMESTAMPS in description below) ~ Captain Tazaryach is a Black Hebrew Israelite of the ISUPK under Commanding General Yahanna in NYC. PATREON https://www.patreon.com/JulianDorey FOLLOW JULIAN DOREY INSTAGRAM (Podcast): https://www.instagram.com/juliandoreypodcast/ INSTAGRAM (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/julianddorey/ X: https://twitter.com/julianddorey GUEST LINKS IG: https://instagram.com/tazaryach/?hl=en YT: https://www.youtube.com/live/08atmzC7aSY?si=lF2oNZASIXGaeqjb ****TIMESTAMPS**** 00:00 - Black Israeleti's & Captain's Christian Background 06:41 - Origin Story of Becoming a Black Israelite, Don't Like Africans & Currently Enslaved 14:17 - Slavery in Africa & Why Black Israelites Don't Like Them, Jewish People are Chief of White People, Real Jews 21:37 - Trump vs OJ Simpson, Joining Military 28:47 - Civil Rights Movement Failure 32:18 - Goal of Black Israelites, CIA Involvement in Feminist Movement 39:31 - Haitian Immigrant Connection, Determining Ethnicity & Color 51:27 - 1st People on Earth, Creation Story, Moses Breakdown Issues 01:04:47 - Modern Day Jews in Israel, Helen Thomas Kicked Out 01:15:51 - Racism Drives American Theory 01:19:11 - Bible Wants to Enslave White People, Going through Biblical Texts & Translations 01:37:25 - Joining the Black Israelite, Black People Ignoring Slavery, Small Business Owner (Diddy) 01:53:18 - Oppression & Generational Trauma & Zero Retribution 02:02:03 - Martin Luther King Jr. 02:14:11 - Jesus Returning, Whipping 02:24:03 - Israel vs Palestine History/Conflict, White Product Story 02:31:19 - Dr. Umar Johnson 02:43:21 - Current Cultural Issues & Consequences 02:55:19 - Mindset & Approaching Day to Day Life  03:02:11 - Purpose in Life CREDITS: - Host & Producer: Julian Dorey - Producer & Editor: Alessi Allaman - https://www.youtube.com/@UCyLKzv5fKxGmVQg3cMJJzyQ Julian Dorey Podcast Episode 270 - Captain Tazaryach Music by Artlist.io Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Negotiation is a game of strategy, and those who master it can achieve great success in the property market. But how do you know if you're a good negotiator? Do you always aim for a win-win, or do you have a secret fallback position that you rely on? In this episode, we explore the art of negotiation with renowned property expert Michael Yardney, who has developed a range of tactics to influence and persuade others to do what he wants them to do. With his book "Negotiate, Influence, Persuade: How to Persuade Others to Do What You'd Like Them to Do," Michael delves into the psychology of deal making, exploring how to achieve your desired outcomes by understanding the other party's perspective. We also discuss whether commonly used negotiation strategies such as aiming for a win-win or meeting in the middle are still effective in today's market, or whether it's time to ditch them and study the psychology of deal making instead. While we'll be viewing negotiation through a real estate lens, Michael's book emphasises that negotiation is a life skill that can be applied to any situation. Whether you're negotiating a property deal or trying to do something otherwise, understanding the psychology of deal making will certainly help you achieve your desired outcome. So if you're looking to improve your negotiation skills and achieve success in the property market, be sure to tune in to this episode and learn from one of the best in the business. Episode Highlights: 00:00 - What is the art of negotiation? 02:41 - Michael's inspiration behind his book "Negotiate, Influence, Persuade” 04:47 - Realising that all life is in negotiation 05:49 - What is the best negotiation? 08:31 - Let's talk about the three key areas of power in negotiation 12:43 - Don't go into a negotiation without knowing the end result 17:16 - Don't be tricked into making another offer 20:47 - What are the two motivators of negotiation? 24:33 - What are the benefits of having a good buyer's agent? 29:02 - How to negotiate in a buyer's market? 35:55 - The key thing buyers need to know about negotiation 38:21 - The biggest negotiating mistake property owners make 40:18 - The pros and cons of having different levels of vendor disclosure in different states in Australia 42:54 - How to make an offer after doing your due diligence 45:39 - What are some of the biggest biases in real estate negotiation? 50:41 - What is anchoring bias and how is it used in the real estate market? 57:52 - Michael Yardney's property dumbo About Our Guest: Michael Yardney is a highly respected and influential figure in Australia's property market, with an impressive list of credentials that includes being #1 bestselling author of 9 books and being voted one of Australia's 50 most influential thought leaders. He is also a trusted property commentator whose opinions are regularly quoted in the media, including major newspapers, finance and property magazines, and on Sky TV and commercial radio. What sets Michael apart is that he is not just a theorist but also a successful property investor and developer, and as a director of Metropole Group of Companies, he leads a team of professionals who help clients grow, preserve and pass on their wealth. Connect with Michael Yardney: Connect with Michael on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelyardney/ Follow Michael on Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelyardney/ Follow Michael on Twitter: https://twitter.com/michaelyardney Discover Michael's books on Amazon: https://amzn.to/40Dvtuj Visit Michael's website: https://propertyupdate.com.au/ Resources: The Elephant in The Room Property Podcast Episode 029: Negotiation masterclass | Fiona McKenzie, Resolving Matters https://www.theelephantintheroom.com.au/podcasts/029 Negotiate, Influence, Persuade: How to Persuade Others to Do What You'd Like Them to Do by Michael Yardney https://www.amazon.com/Negotiate-Influence-Persuade/dp/1925927245 The Elephant in the Room Property Podcast Episode 001: Who is Really Making the Decisions When You Bid at Auction? https://www.theelephantintheroom.com.au/podcasts/1 Visit our website https://www.theelephantintheroom.com.au If you have any questions or would like to be featured on our show, contact us at: The Elephant in the Room Property Podcast - questions@theelephantintheroom.com.au Looking for a Sydney Buyers Agent? https://www.gooddeeds.com.au Work with Veronica: https://www.veronicamorgan.com.au Looking for a Mortgage Broker? https://www.wealthful.com.au Work with Chris: hello@wealthful.com.au Enjoyed the podcast? 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Today, I'm really excited to have another one of my favorite authors along for my special holiday series to inspire you with some great reading and in this case take you deeper into one of the most valuable skills you can have in all areas of life.  Today, I've got Michael Yardney, the CEO of Metropole Property Strategists, and he's the author of the international bestseller “Negotiate, Influence, Persuade: How to Persuade Others to Do What You'd Like Them to Do.” I think it's a very underrated skill that we can all learn. So, I wanted to get the guy who had written the book on it to upskill us. Let's take a deep dive into how to become a power negotiator.  Let's go inside.   Resource Links: Books Mentioned: Pre-Suasion: A Revolutionary Way to Influence and Persuade by Robert B. Cialdini (https://amzn.to/3YBPdyD) Negotiate, Influence, Persuade: How to Persuade Others to Do What You'd Like Them to Do by Michael Yardney (https://negotiateinfluencepersuade.com/) Join the Perth Property Investment Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/perthpropertyinvestors) Join Jarrad Mahon's Property Investor Update (https://www.investorsedge.com.au/join) For more info on our award-winning and highly rated Property Management services that give you guaranteed peace of mind (https://www.investorsedge.com.au/perth-property-management-specialists/) For more info on how our Property Sales services can ensure you get the best selling price while handling all the stress for you (https://www.investorsedge.com.au/selling-your-perth-property/) Get Jarrad's strategic advice towards your property purchase and development plans (https://www.investorsedge.com.au/invest-in-perth-property/)   Episode Highlights: Intro [00:00] Being a Good Negotiator is an Important Skill That Property Investors Need to Learn [01:34] Life is One Big Negotiation; We Negotiate All the Time [03:57] Michael's New Book is for Salespeople and Consumers as Well [05:27] Australians Are Not Good Negotiators [06:33] Sometimes Emotion Gets Its Way of Investing Property [09:13] Negotiation is a Skill You Can Learn [12:31] Everything is Potentially Up for Negotiation [13:47] Treat Negotiation as a Game to Detach Your Emotion a Little Bit [16:47] Diving Deep Into Three Leverage Points in Negotiation [22:07] Biggest Mistakes You Might Be Making in Property Investing [25:11] Silent Sales Benefit of Buyer's Agent [32:34] Outro [36:10]   Thank you for tuning in! If you liked this episode, please don't forget to subscribe, tune in, and share this podcast.   Connect with Perth Property Insider: Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgT9-gB6RS69xSgc8J9KrOw Like us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/investorsedge   About the Guest: Michael Yardney, whose books have been translated into 5 languages, is Australia's leading expert in the psychology of success. His team has been involved in well over 3.5 Billion Dollars' worth of successful property transactions, making him one of the country's top experts in negotiation. He is a regular commentator on television and commercial radio and has a regular column in Yahoo Finance, Your Investment Property Magazine, and Smart Company. Michael's Property Update blog has been voted the world's #1 real estate website for 2017, 2018, 2019, and 2020, and his popular Podcast regularly ranks amongst Australia's top business podcasts. Michael has probably educated more successful property investors than anyone else in Australia and has again been voted Australia's leading property educator and mentor. You can buy the e-book or/and hard copy of Negotiate, Influence, Persuade: How to Persuade Others to Do What You'd Like Them to Do here: https://negotiateinfluencepersuade.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Drumma Boy is one of the most legendary producers in music who's still in his prime, he's also the CEO of Drum Squad Records. The label has been successful since its inception & is poised to become bigger with the recent addition of a star like Spark Dawg. We discuss how Drumma discovered Spark, what being on the label has done for Spark's career, what their working relationship is like, other artists on the label, what they're most proud of, how Drumma got placements on a major label Tela album as a teenager, Spark's future plans and album news, & much more. Watch the episode HERE Follow Drum Squad Records on IG HERE, Like Them on FB HERE Follow Spark Dawg on IG HERE Stream Spark Dawg's music on your DSP of choice HERE Subscribe to Spark Dawg's YouTube channel HERE

In episode 17 Josh Ashford and Kevin Brigance are joined by the Co-parenting Coach, Kevin Meeks Kevin became joined the fatherhood club at the very young age of 14 and has a very real understanding of what it takes to be successful at co-parenting. In this episode, he walks us through what it took (and still takes) to do co-parenting the right way. Also, he helps us understand that co-parenting isn't just for parents that live in separate households but married couples co-parent too. Join us as we have a open conversation about how to avoid pitfalls and things to do to immediately improve any situation. Episode 17 - Co-Parenting Done Right w/Kevin Meeks - Dads on Purpose Podcast 00:48 – Welcome Kevin Meeks 1:27 – Topic Breakdown 2:30 – Kevin's Backstory 5:12– Teenage Father 6:45 – Pressures of Co-Parenting 11:49 - A Crucial Message for Teen Fathers 15:51 - Secret to Successfully Co-Parenting Revealed 19:55 – Steps to Obtain Secret Sauce 25:40 - MUST HAVE FOR CO-PARENTS 32:28- Communicating with Bonus Parents 35:13 – Should You Date? 39:53– What If Kids Don't Like Them? 41:42 – Co-Parenting Resources 43:48 – Dealing with Irate Baby Momma/ Baby Daddy 47:42- KB Nuggets 49:42 – Meeks Speaks 53:36 – Kevin Meeks Final Words 55:40 – KB's Final Words Episode 17 - Co-Parenting Done Right w/Kevin Meeks - Dads on Purpose Podcast Instagram Josh Ashford: https://www.instagram.com/DadOnPurpose Kevin Brigance: https://www.instagram.com/TheMentorCoach Kevin Meeks: https://www.instagram.com/Kevin__Meeks Fatherhood Apparel: https://TLCbrand.com Episode 17 - Co-Parenting Done Right w/Kevin Meeks - Dads on Purpose Podcast --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tlcbrand/support

Engaging teams and leaders of those highly engaged teams understand that so much of life comes down to the habits and discipline of the team members. Highly engaged teams have systems and rituals they use to give them great results and you team can have the same results as well. If you want your team to be more engaged—well, there are some habits to form for that, too. I recommend these five, in particular: Plan to engage. It's difficult to be engaging when you're making everything up as you go along. Of course, you may find yourself in unexpected situations, with some surprise opportunities to talk to employees or to potential customers—but most of the time, you will have a chance to plan. Want to run an engaging team meeting? Take some time to plan your approach before the meeting. Want to engage a new client, rather         than bore him to death? Plan your pitch in advance. Listen. Get into the habit of understanding before you try to make yourself understood. This means getting out of the habit of talking over other people or struggling to assert your point of view first and last. Make sure you always take time to figure out where other people are coming from. They Think win-win. One of the best ways to engage people is to present your case in a win-win manner—explaining not just why you want a given outcome, but why it's also good for the other person. Be proactive about it; force yourself to always think win-win, and to lay out benefits and values. Focus on the outcome. Always know what kind of outcome you're looking to achieve, and lead with it. Don't bury the lead: Whether you're talking to a customer or a team member, be upfront about what you hope to achieve. This will give your conversations direction. Follow up. Engagement is a two-way street—and while I don't necessarily think you need to micromanage; I do think you need to give people room to ask questions or to offer you feedback. Get into the habit of asking for these things if you're not already.   Highly Engaged Teams Morning Rituals Morning affirmations and goals review One of my favorite leadership lessons comes from Stephen Covey's book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. The Habit is: “Begin with the End in Mind”. Many of the executives that I coach implement a morning ritual of positive affirmations while reviewing their goals. They see themselves achieving these goals as if the task has already been accomplished. They understand what most champions in sports and business have come to understand when they say. “When They Believe It, They Will See It!”   The Walkabout Whenever I get to the office or even start my day virtually, I like to do a walkabout. There was a company in Argentina called Neutrona Networks International, where I was the executive coach for the founders and their management team. I would fly to Buenos Aires three times a year to work with the team and each morning when I arrived at the office, I did my walkabout. I went and greeted each team member in the company to exchange pleasantries and asked him if there was anything, they needed to do their job better. I also asked them about their families and how they were doing. If you want to be an engaging leader it's important to also understand this principle. “People do Business with People Who They Like Who are Like Them!” In other words, if your team truly like you and you are engaging and sincere, chances are they will work even harder to help reach the organizations and your goals.   The Morning Huddle One of my favorite morning rituals and I believe to be one of the most important for any organization is the morning huddle. It's important to understand the philosophy behind the huddle. The goal is to have everyone on the team communicating with the leader what they will be working on for the week. It's also an opportunity for the leader to ask team members if they need any support to achieve their goals and objectives for the week. It's important to note that the morning huddle is not a meeting, in fact my team leader in Argentina contacted me and said the huddles were lasting too long. Our solution was to call it a coffee huddle, when the coffee is done the huddle is over! Think of a huddle in the National Football League, the quarterback calls the plays instructs the team what to do and says break and they come out of the huddle. I recommend that you have the huddle on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. This way you could start the week off communicating, check in with the team halfway through the week and on Friday review what had been accomplished and set the goals for Monday. I believe by implementing these morning rituals in addition to the five habits, you'll be well on your way to becoming a more effective and engaging leader. It takes time and diligence to be an engaging leader—and it takes the formation of good, healthy habits. Do you have any tips to add to this list on how you engage with your team or with your customers?  

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Todd O'Neal is a sweet potato farmer in Louisiana and his enthusiasm for the crop is electric. He talks to us about how sweet potatoes were considered something for poor people, as small farmers always had a patch to feed their family. But recently, the crop has been better understood as flavorful, nutritious and versatile. Todd talks to us for our holiday foods series about the ins and outs of growing them as well as give us his tip on the best way to enjoy sweet potatoes.  Todd is with Black Gold Farms, you can connect with them on online: On the Web: https://blackgoldfarms.com/ Like Them on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BlackGoldFarms/ Connect with Them on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/black-gold-farms/ Watch Todd talk growing sweet potatoes this season with the team at This Week in Louisiana Agriculture. Sweet Potatoes are now grown & enjoyed 12 months out of the year! It's no longer just a holiday thing! Did you know that the "regular potatoes" you think of are often called "white potatoes" or "Irish Potatoes?"   The Curing Process in Sweet potatoes: Regular/White/Irish Potatoes are brought inside to an environment to cool. Sweet potatoes on the other hand are heated up to help break down the sugars inside the sweet potato which makes it "sweet". The biggest time of the year for sweet potato farmers? Thanksgiving! Holidays are big in general. Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter are all big times for sweet potatoes. But they have been gaining ground and are now enjoyed year round! Why are sweet potatoes so popular? At one time every farmer grew sweet potatoes but there was a steady decline as farming numbers dwindled. At one time, sweet potatoes were somehow aligned with people "being poor" and so they fell off the general chart of attention span. In just the last decade, sweet potatoes have gained attention momentum, being associated with a general focus on health, being offered as solutions to many people with a variety of dietary needs including those who are diabetic and take take on the starches that are provided in the Regular/White/Irish Potato.They are high in Vitamin A & Beta Carotene. It's in the bag, man: When COVID-19 began gripping the US, there was a swell in sales of sweet potatoes (and all general foods that could be purchased/acquired at grocery stores). Todd also noticed something strange in a photo of a grocery store's produce area - the only things left were "loose apples" which helped to craft a new plan to help the sale of sweet potatoes. It was clear that people were grabbing things in a BAG, because people were paying attention to how many surfaces were touched by how many people. There's only ONE kind of sweet potato, right? There are many varieties of sweet potatoes - The Bayou Belle: It's not the prettiest potato but makes for great sweet potato fries! The Orleans sweet potato is the pretty one for fresh market handsome go to processors and there is a lesser known type - The Beauregard - all of which were developed and named - clearly - from their development at Louisiana State's Sweet Potato Research Station. The Count Matters - Which state tops sweet potato production? Wondering who is on top of the "sweet potatoes heap? North Carolina currently grows the most. Mississippi is in the second slot. California comes in third, and Louisiana takes the number 4 slot. Lookin' Mighty Fine (For a sweet potato...): Todd is SURE, (not because he lives and has a sweet potato farm there or anything) that Louisiana Potatoes LOOK the best of all available sweet potatoes. What makes these so great? Silt loam soils! Silt is a solid, dust-like sediment that water, ice, and wind transport and deposit. Silt is made up of rock and mineral particles that are larger than clay but smaller .. Loam is a special type of soil that has been formulated to contain a mixture of sand, silt and clay. Sandy loam soil is a very desirable medium that is used by farmers, gardeners, landscapers and property owners because of its very beneficial qualities. You can learn more about the passion for soil in this conversation with Mr. Ray Young that’s mentioned. Did You Know: A sweet potato will cure in 4-5 days in general, but depends a bit on time of year, temperature and humidity. Some Like It Hot - But Not Wet: 85% humidity and nice cool temperatures (55 degrees or so) is best to put sweet potatoes "to sleep" to help prevent CO2 levels form climbing too high that would cause the sweet potatoes to rot. They also like dry environments like Shay told us onions do... Smart Buildings Help Feed People? Huh? Sweet potato farmers often use buildings that detect how much CO2 is building up to help prevent unfavorable conditions! The Root of the Matter: A sweet potato is a Root. It's part of the Morning glory family - it's a WEED! It has the same type of flowers you may have seen in a vining garden. SORRY! You're Going to Have to Listen to This Episode to Find Out... The process of growing and cultivating sweet potatoes is incredibly detailed! Be sure to listen to this episode of Grounded By The Farm to understand all of it! Thanks, Todd! Big Machines - Beautiful sweet potatoes - ACTION! Interested in seeing ALL of the sweet potato farming Machines in action? "Dig It!" ;) https://youtu.be/EGFo3bZj_SM Planting sweet potatoes takes 40-50 days! Harvesting is probably 75 days of the year! Ready to learn more about "H2A Workers"? Be sure to check out The Grounded By the Farm episode on Peppers for more details! https://groundedbythefarm.com/how-americans-love-of-spicy-food-gave-this-farm-room-to-grow/ Counting Workers to Help Make It COUNT! Did you know that the Black Gold Farm location that Todd supervises, has almost 300 employees? Feeding people requires hard work and they truly enjoy their effort knowing that it will put food on the plates of many people! You Say "Yam" But They Say "Sweet Potato" -- What's the Story? Are Yams and sweet potatoes the SAME THING? As much as we want you to read and then know the answer, you're going to have to listen to this episode of Grounded By The Farm with Todd O'Neal from Black Gold sweet potato farm to find out! Suffice it to say, Louisiana is marketing smart! Finding sweet potatoes near you! The market for sweet potatoes has grown sometimes due to food services and restaurants. Do you know what a QSR is? It's an acronym that in this case stands for Quick Serve Restaurant! Do you know what an LTO is? It's an acronym that in this case stands for Limited Time Offer! What does YOUR favorite "QSR" offer as an "LTO?" Tell us PDQ, or you'll be SOL, and end up doing KP and if you're in the we'll surely all end up DOA! Curious about ONIONS? Be sure to check out the episode of Grounded By The Farm featuring onion farmer that's so good it'll make you CRY! https://groundedbythefarm.com/growing-onions/ Black Gold offers value added & bulk sweet potatoes! There are so many innovations that go beyond individual sweet potatoes or bags, doing poly-wrapped and more. Fresh at the grocery really went up when more people stayed at home, but the company also offers them in bulk of 40 pounds at their Delhi, Louisiana locations. Todd's favorite way to eat a sweet potato? First it gets peeled. Then you warm up a seasoned cast iron skillet. Slice the sweet potato length-wise. Toss in half a stick of butter and brown it up on both sides - sprinkle a little salt on it and you're there! He’s had sweet potato biscuits, sweet potato cakes and more! What’s YOUR favorite kind of sweet potato preparation? Contact us via The Grounded By The Farm's social media and tell us what yours is! The Struggle is REAL: Sweet potatoes WITH or WITHOUT - PECANS? That’s a controversy Storing them at home — keep them in a cool, dark place. Heat is the enemy that causes it to put sprouts on and it changes the texture inside. Stick It - In The Window! Even Todd grows sweet potatoes in his window sill! Have you tried? He gives the instructions on how to do it inside this episode! Listen, Learn, Grow and EAT! We Need to Hear from You!  What did YOU find interesting about this episode of Grounded by The Farm? What would you like us to be sure we include in the second season of the podcast? Tell Janice what you thought about it now and we just may use your feedback on a future episode

Showcasing UK artists fully reppin' the Lord. Be blessed as you hear the finest talents on this mix. Enjoy!!! Tracklist: 1. Jordy Mankoto – Philippians 4:19 2. ST – One Time 3. Shalini – Never Let Me Go 4. NoIf NoButz – ID 5. K. BILLIONZ – Looking 6. Renzo Ba x ST – Suns Out 7. Still Shadey – Oily 8. J Vessel – Ain’t Like Them 9. Still Shadey – Everything Changed 10. Marc Jones – Straight Lines 11. Stevie Valentine – Can’t Complain 12. Jordy Mankoto – Kings X Queens 13. R-Scar x Saint CJ – Uncomfortable (Remix) 14. Guvna B – Been Hustlin' (Black Del Boy) 15. R-Scar – Helicopter 16. Jordy Mankoto – Pretender 17. Stevie Valentine – God Is On Time 18. Renzo Ba – Holy Spirit feat. Bly 19. Mike B – Florida 20. Oladebo Ide – Good Life feat. Leke & Becca Folkes 21. K.O.F.I. – Dunamis feat. GS 22. Happi x Komenz x Melvillous – Take Time 23. A Star - 180 feat. J Vessel 24. Guvna B – Fairytales 25. Crown Freedom – Miracle feat. Rio & Alison Bethune 26. Micky Ledge & Melvillous – I Need You feat. Tamara 27. Faith Child – I Like It (JimmyJames Remix) 28. Feed'Em – Keep That 29. Traxx – Fear No One (Manga Saint Hilare Remix) 30. Guvna B – Aight Boom feat. Rude Kid 31. Gbola x Marko – Long Live The King 32. King Nana – Go Hard For The King 33. Melvillous – D's & E's 34. Vital Signs – Speaking In Tongues (Mark 16:17) 35. Marc Jones – 3 Door 36. Jordz – I Got Loud 37. Josoldier – Thank God It's Sunday 38. Loomz x Artz x Zelijah – On Drills 39. Luke November – Koba 40. Yxng Special-T – 2 Corinthians 5:17 (Sinners Story) 41. Marc Jones – Real 42. Icie – Pearly Gates feat. Effs 43. TJ Cream – Haven't You Heard feat. OZorO 44. Marko – Lord Knows Follow me: www.twitter.com/mrmintsofficial www.instagram.com/mrmintsofficial www.mixcloud.com/mrmints I am NOT the author of these tracks and I DO NOT own rights to any of this content. These mixes are made for entertainment purposes, not for monetary gain. If you enjoy the mixes, please support the artists by checking out the originals.

On This Week's Episode: - Trade News in the NFL - NBA is Back! (Predictions and Talk) - Coon Kanye - "Most Beautiful" Women ALive (According to Science) - Michael Jackson Greatest Singer Ever? - How to Tell Someone Confidently you Like Them? -Do Men Love Harder than Women? - Youngest/Oldest Age for a Woman You'd Get Involved With? - Open Relationships - How Many Bodies is "Too Many" to Turn you Off? Follow Us on Instagram to Keep up with us and the Latest: Aaquil: @aaquil_annoor China: @finestchina_ Deon: @itsprimetime21 Drae: @drae_linton Joe: @_josecinco Josh: @__joshalston

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, today’s episode is a tool you can use to find WELLNESS without the obsession. This is one of the 5 “wellness without the obsession” tools we coach you through in The UnDiet Academy so those in the program know it well but we wanted to share the basics of this tool with all of you so you can use it now. A lot of women get stuck in knowing how to introduce wellness without it getting diety again. AND most women DO want that. Being an UnDieter doesnt mean only eating the foods you didn't used to allow yourself to eat. It’s about honoring your body, mind and soul so you can live a life of wellness without the obsession. Nutrition is a part of this. But when we say nutrition you probably start to think, points, macros, calories or cutting out specific foods. NO! There is another way to consider nutrition without it being rigid, restrictive or unenjoyable. NOTE: We only recommend getting into these kinds of tools once you’ve done the mindset work of freeing yourself from the dieting mindset. If you’re unsure if you’re ready to think about nutrition -- don’t worry about it yet. BUT you CAN check out our mindset episodes which you can find at thebodylovesociety.com/podcasts-mindset/, we will link this in the shownotes. Now let’s dive into the Nutrition Ally: How do we consider nutrition without it being the FOCUS and “be all end all” of our food choices? First Let’s explain what we are talking about when we say NUTRITION: What it isn’t:   Reading nutrition labels Tracking anything - calories, points, macros, grams of ______ Having nutrition/ food rules of any kind Foods being good or bad Restricting certain foods   What it is:   Wanting to eat more veggies because you havent been eating very many The main intention is to feel good in your body Nourishing your body OVER TIME (not looking for perfection every day or even the same amount of nutrition every day) Allowing all foods to fit into your life Being flexible while still wanting to eat a vibrant variety of foods    So here are 5 steps to find THIS focus of nutrition:     Redefining what nutrition means to you. If it still means calories or a certain number of veggies every day it will be so hard not to fall back into these rigid ways. When you are intentionally choosing more nutritious foods, make sure you LIKE THEM! Do not choke down kale or a green juice just for the sake of some vegetables. This will lead to feeling forced and deprived which often leads to back lash AKA binge eating. Really explore what you love.     Eat in the colorful area ( the opposite of all or nothing thinking) - just because you had a donut for breakfast doesn't mean the day is ruined, it also doesn't mean you can't have a green smoothie with it. Just because you want to start considering nutrition doesn't mean you have to skip the pizza and JUST eat the salad, have it all! Its ok to put cheese on your dang broccoli, it doesn't cancel out the benefits of the broccoli. Remember you don't ALWAYS have to consider nutrition at every single meal for the rest of your life just because you want to focus some more on it. If you're having a big pasta dinner and you don't want to make a salad with it, don't. It's not all or nothing now, consider it when you want to and let it go and enjoy when you don't. There are no rules. Whatever happens each day, you have not failed. If you intended to eat more veggies and you didn't, that's ok! Whatever you do or don't do is fine. Remember -- this is OVER TIME consideration of nutrition. If you don't get any veggies in one week, no biggie, Just keep tuning into your body and it will even out over time. Feeling guilty for not doing what you said you would do just turns you back into a dieter… the shame, fear and self loathing cycle begins all over again. Self compassion is key here. Want to create this for yourself? - Wellness without the obsession? As you work towards embracing wellness without it taking over your life, we recommend having a daily activity that is getting you closer to your goals. A powerful tool is our WWTO journal.. This is a free 14 day process for you to transform your relationship with wellness, so you can have it all - freedom, enjoyment, wellness and nourishment! Go to https://theundiet.lpages.co/wwto-journal/ to grab your journal - be sure to tag us in your insta posts and stories and share about your journaling. See you next week! Jenna and Lauren xo

Let’s get real… We would all die for our kids. We love them so much our hearts physically ache at the mere thought of something bad happening to them.  And we know we could not survive without them.     But, sometimes we don’t like them.     When Vinnie smacked my upside the head with a toy car recently, I didn’t really like him for a few minutes.     The next day when he kicked me in the mouth, I didn’t adore him so much.   Sometimes at bedtime, when I’m heading upstairs for the umpteenth time to give another sip of water, or help him try to poop one more time, or find a misplaced toy, or adjust the cracked door so it’s not too open and not too closed, I want to gouge my eyes out.     On today’s episode I talk through 5 Ways to Love Your Kids When You Don’t Like Them.  We’ve all been there.  And sorry to break it to you – but you’re gonna be there again – probably sometime today.    Here’s how you can love your child when his/her behavior has you dreaming of solo beach vacation with unlimited drinks:   1. Speak their language Know where they are developmentally Talk about feelings & emotions Invite cuddles and conversation   2. Learn their currency Toys Food Activities – parks, games, shows, etc   3. Take space Tag team with your partner Have routine time off/help Use back up care as needed   4. Take care of YOU Sleep Exercise Nutrition    5. Keep Learning Read books  Attend talks Connect with parents who have same age kids (live parent groups or FB groups) Take time to reflect on what’s working and what’s not   We’re all doing the best we can, but you can’t do it all without your tool box.  Ask for help and support.  Know you’ll screw up.  Stay open to learning and evolving. Be committed to doing your best. Keep the wine close by. You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.shamelessmom.com

His Point Her View is a podcast hosted by Micheal & Katina. We discuss numerous topics ranging from entertainment to social issues to whatever comes to our mind. Each episode will be posted once a week every Tuesday. In today's episode we dive into the wild world of politics and discuss our views on the Presidential Candidacy race, the Presidential election, and other aspects of today's current politics and political state. We also get into the topic of women who don't like their mean big (if you know what I mean) and why, as well as Mike telling some embarrassing tales about himself. Show Notes: - 0:00:35 - 2016 Presidential Race & the State of American Politics - 1:17:40 - News Blast (& DON'T MESS WITH MAMA!!!) - 1:25:50 - Women Who Don't Like Them "Big" - Article: https://www.naij.com/818550-nigerian-women-reveal-reasons-not-enjoyoing-sex-men-big-penis.html - 1:42:15 Mike's Strange Tales Of Relations With Women All of WiseGuy Gaming Sports & Entertainment’s podcasts will be available to download in audio format (MP3) from the following locations: iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/wiseguy-gaming-sports-entertainment/id1109750877?mt=2 Google Play Music: https://goo.gl/app/playmusic?ibi=com.google.PlayMusic&isi=691797987&ius=googleplaymusic&link=https://play.google.com/music/m/Ij744qlx32sy3zni2rff7vgmjry?t%3DWiseGuy_Gaming_Sports_%2526_Entertainment_Podcasts Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/wiseguygse Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/wiseguygse/wiseguy-gaming-sports-entertainment?refid=stpr From here on you can find these links display in the description of each video on our channel along with our contact information. We hope you enjoy the content. Want to support the channel? Become a Patron! For as little as $1 a month you can help us improve the quality of our content and grow our brand. If you are interested in supporting us, head to our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/wiseguygse?ty=h If you have any questions, comments, or suggestions please send them to wiseguygse@gmail.com or tweet us @wiseguygse. We appreciate your support!

Bubba Mac's is a gourmet American restaurant in Douglasville at 5620 Fairburn Road serving the best Phillies, Wings, and Burgers in the Metro Atlanta area since 1997. This family owned & operated establishment has grown to become a huge staple in the Douglasville area. Open 7 days a week Bubba Macs has a full loaded menu of items. Find them & Like Them on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bubbamacs   

People will only listen to you if they know you LIKE THEM! This at first seemed to be a no brainer. Heck, I thought I pretty much liked everyone! Afterall, aren't we commanded to LOVE everyone? Of course I like these people and have their best interest in mind when I share my faith. However, […]