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Lindsay, Meg, Sarai & friends - a bunch of former church kids who came of age in 80s and 90s American Evangelicalism - are Holy Ghosting.

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    Resist Through Art: Comics as a Canvas for Change with Andrea Gilroy

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 39:41


    In an era where voices are silenced, and stories are censored, embracing and supporting spaces that offer uncensored narratives is more crucial than ever.Artistic Resistance: Andrea shares her insights on how comics have historically challenged societal norms and offered a platform for collective power and identity expression. With her expertise in comics history, she delves into how these narratives confront binaries and foster world-building.Comics and Community: Explore the role of local comic shops like Books with Pictures in creating safe communities and resisting censorship, especially in times when book banning is prevalent.Saga's Universe: We scratch the surface of the epic story of "Saga," a comic series that epitomizes the struggle for identity and belonging in a vast universe, mirroring our own challenges in society. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Everyday Acts of Rebellion with Brit Koch

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2025 43:08


    In today's empowering episode, we're joined by wellness guide and advocate Brit Koch, who introduces us to the transformative concept of rest as a form of resistance plus 49 other Actionable Ways to Resist. Our conversation redefines self-care and explores how small, personal actions can lead to significant societal change. Whether you're new to activism or looking for sustainable ways to continue your engagement without burnout, this episode offers valuable insights into balancing action with self-preservation. Brit's approach encourages us to rethink how everyday choices like resting, spending, and connecting can be potent forms of resistance. Download Britt's 50 Actionable Ways to Resist Guide https://britkoch.com/ She's offering it for free but if you're able to, I highly encourage you to make a donation. And while you're there check out her daily wellness book -- Rooted Rituals: Meaningful Wellness Practices from Ancient Native WisdomThreads: @britLkochTikTok: @brit.kochSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    The Strength of Us: How Community Shapes Our Resilience

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2025 8:41


    Today, let's talk about something close to our hearts -- community, growth, and the gritty reality of dealing with societal issues. In today's world, where chaos often seems to reign supreme, finding our people, opening up, and taking care of ourselves isn't just nice to have—it's essential for our survival and empowerment. We're bringing you a challenge to engage with your communities and build meaningful relationships while not forgetting your personal health and needs. Stage one is to resist. Together we can overcome.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Election Tensions: Managing Political Anxiety with Dr Laura Anderson

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2024 60:10


    In this crucial episode, we're joined by Dr. Laura Anderson to unravel the complex web of religious trauma and its intersection with political turbulence. We're adventuring into the realms of election anxiety, religious healing, and Christian nationalism, we discover challenges and pathways to personal empowerment and peace.What we're talking about this episode:Election Anxiety & Healing Trauma:How the current political climate exacerbates religious trauma and what it means for those caught at the intersection.The Christian Nationalism Conundrum: We break down the long game of Christian nationalism and its profound impact on personal and societal boundaries.Mastering Self-Care: Learn practical techniques for visualization, bodily awareness, and establishing emotional and physical boundaries, especially in tumultuous times.Navigating Family & Information Overload: Get insights on handling tricky family dynamics and shielding yourself from the chaos of constant news cycles.Embracing Change and Lightness: Amidst serious discussions, we find moments of lightness and strategies to embrace ease and joy in everyday life.Dr. Laura Anderson, author of When Religion Hurts You, and the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery have created the: Religious Trauma and the Elections Course: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    I Was Told The Simpsons Were Evil and other silly things with Kevin Garcia

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2024 58:21


    Hey ghosties, since we're in that wicked season, we thought we would take a stab at sharing some of the things we were told were evil. We welcome Kevin Garcia back to the show and we stuck ourselves back in middle school, in the early 90's when TV was evil.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Whole Again! Embracing the Body from Separation to Integration

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2024 70:27


    Episode CW: we talk about our bodies, restrictive eating, diet culture, sexual repressionIn this soulful episode of Holy Ghosting, Meg and Sarai Johnson delve into the deeply personal journey of embodiment and the common struggle of feeling disconnected from our own bodies—something many of us face, especially if we grew up in high-control religious settings. They unwrap how cultural and religious scripts have shaped our views on body image and why it's crucial to cultivate self-care and self-love.Together, they tackle the tough stuff: the impacts of purity culture and diet culture, and why intuitive eating can be a game-changer. They champion the idea of radical self-care, urging everyone to weave together the pieces of self and body to reclaim their personal power and agency.In this first episode of their "In This Body" Series, Meg and Sarai share some practical tips on embracing change and making yourself a priority because sometimes, the most revolutionary act is choosing to love yourself.Chapters00:00 The Journey of Embodiment02:28 Awakening to Physical Awareness06:45 Cultural and Religious Disconnection10:21 The Impact of Purity Culture13:02 Food, Body Image, and Self-Love18:11 Intuitive Eating and Self-Care20:50 Reclaiming Sexuality and Pleasure24:05 The Power of Self-Ownership27:27 Navigating Community and Expectations31:26 Integration vs. Separation36:18 The Importance of Self-Care38:59 Redefining Selfishness41:56 Embracing Needs and Vulnerability47:01 The Process of Becoming52:44 Finding Freedom in EmbodimentSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    We Stan A Woke Queen, Our Love Letter to Amy Grant

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2024 69:21


    Hi Ghosties! What's your summer been like? Ours were wild! Your hosts, Lindsay, Meg and Sarai start this episode by sharing our summer experiences, personal growth and big news about the podcast. AND THEN!!!! Ekkk! We celebrate Amy Grant. We talk about her legacy and her influence on our lives, discussing our favorite album art, our desert island song and the controversies surrounding her divorce. We get into the scandal and the redemption of our favorite crossover pop star on the newest episode of Holy GhostingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    It's Good To Feel Good: The Sexvangelicals Talk Sex & Purity Culture

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2024 76:05


    Welcome, Ghosties! This episode, "It's Good To Feel Good," brings the amazing duo of Julia and Jeremiah from the Sexvangelicals podcast to talk with Meg & Sarai about the journey from sexual repression to liberation, shedding light on how purity culture has shaped our views on intimacy and desire. We get INTO IT today, sharing personal stories and things we've learned about reclaiming bodily autonomy, exploring pleasures beyond shame, and challenging conventional norms like monogamy.From Repression to Expression: Join us as we navigate the choppy waters of deconstructing religious beliefs around sex. Our guests share their transformative journeys from sexual repression to embracing full, joyful expression.Shedding the Shame: We'll unravel the threads of shame and outdated gender scripts that high control religions often weave around our desires and relationships.Rediscovering Pleasure: Discover how therapies like sensate focus can help us explore touch and intimacy without the pressure of performance, paving the way for a healthier connection with our bodies.Challenging Norms: Why is monogamy the default? We're discussing how expanding perspectives on relationships can lead to a more fulfilling sexual life.Embodiment and Healing: We wrap up with powerful insights on embodying pleasure, the therapeutic power of yoga, and making our bodies a safe haven for our souls.Sexual liberation and healing from trauma are not just topics; they're pathways to deeper self-discovery and healthier relationships. Whether you're navigating these waters yourself or just curious about the conversation, there's something in this episode for everyone.Find the Sexvangelicals, Julia & Jeremiah, at Sexvangelicals.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    We're here. We're queer. And we're finally out! Our Late in Life Queer Stories

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2024 45:38


    Have you ever known some hetero Christian married couple who were together a real long time and then one of them is like, “oops, I'm gay!” and they break up? A lot of us have known folks in this position. And we also remember the fallout and the “prayer chain” (read: gossip train) buzz when these woes befell our brethren. By the way, is there such a thing as “sisthren?” or “siblingthren?” There should be. We digress. Long story short, this podcast is hosted by a sisthren of “oops, I'm gay!” women in their 40's. Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai have all experienced different journeys in discovering, accepting, and embracing their queerness. In this episode, our Holy Ghosting triumvirate share the ways their paths wound from compulsory heteronormativity toward full awareness of their unique sexualities. In this episode topics include feeling like imposters, finding acceptance and love in the LGBTQIA2S+++ community, and navigating the aftermath of a lifetime of mandatory sexual repression. Content Warning: welp. These broads definitely talk a lot about LGBTQIA2s+ history including discussion of internalized homophobia, general homophobia as disseminated by the evangelical right wing from the 80's until…um, right now, and honestly, the hosts are wont to talk about sexual trauma kind of a lot. Listen with care, and if it's not an episode that feels good to you, take a beat and take good care of your beautiful human self. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    The Cult of YWAM Pt. 4 Ghostie Stories

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2024 49:55


    Just when you thought your hellacious heroines, Lindsay, Meg & Sarai, couldn't possibly have more to say about YWAM, BAM! A fourth episode! This time, the call is coming from inside the house, so to speak, because Ghosties like you are sharing their YWAM experiences. Hang out with us as your Ghostie compatriots get brave and tell us the wild tales from their days traveling the world on God's dime. You'll have all the feelings there are to feel. Before you listen, know there are some contents that may be disturbing to some people. Content Warnings: sexual assault, animal cruelty, religious trauma, attempts to colonize the world for Jesus or somethingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    The Cult of YWAM Part 3: Navigating the Seas of Deconstruction with Karen Alea

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2024 69:52


    Ahoy, Ghosties! Set sail with us on the turbulent waters of YWAM's Mercy Ships as Karen Alea, from the Deconversion Therapy podcast, joins us for a deep-sea adventure into religious deconstruction. From the highs of missionary zeal to the lows of financial strain and the choppy waves of communal living, Karen shares her journey of finding land after leaving the evangelical archipelago.In this episode:

    Unveiling Shadows: Challenging Stigmas and Seeking Healing Beyond the Church with Anna Gazmarian

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2024 50:53


    Protect your peace: CW: Suicide, Depression, dark thoughts, religious ocdAnna Gazmarian shares her spiritual and mental health journey with Lindsay and Meg.Get Anna's book, out now! Devout: A Memoir of DoubtSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    The Cult of YWAM Part 2: Meg's Horror Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2024 51:47


    Meg opens up about her experiences in YWAM. You don't want to miss this episode in our Youth With A Mission series.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    The Cult of YWAM Part 1 with DL Mayfield

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2024 70:18


    In this episode, we dive into the not-so-wonderful world of Youth With a Mission, aka YWAM. We chat with our pal (and Lindsay's sister), D.L. Mayfield about the history and horrors of the cult-like organization that began with one white guy's vision of young people sweeping the globe for Jesus. (Totally not creepy, right?) Fast forward a few decades and YWAM is one of the largest missions organizations on the planet, with 1100 locations in 180+ countries and over 18,000 (unpaid!) staff.It should come as no surprise to our listeners that YWAM is super problematic.. We get into all the cultiest aspects of this organization - from their Discipleship Training School to the forced trauma bonding that they call “Plumbline”. YWAM's entire model is recruiting young people - before their prefrontal cortexes are fully formed - and they make it VERY hard to leave. If you do manage to escape the cult of YWAM, chances are you'll be left with zero real-life skills with a side of religious trauma. We'll be back in a few weeks with a part 2 where we hear from friends and listeners about their about their firsthand encounters with YWAM. (Spoiler alert: the reviews aren't exactly glowing.)Links-Check out DL and Krispin Mayfield's brand new project, Strong Willed (all about recovering from religious authoritarian parenting) - -DL Mayfield on Instagram - @d_l_mayfield-Tiktok - @dlmayfieldSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Pure or Lure: How to NOT Cause a Guy to Stumble in Ten Thousand Easy Steps

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2024 66:23


    In our latest episode we jump into the turbulent waters of gendered messages and purity culture with a critical eye on the Christian advice book, 'For Young Women Only'—or as we like to call it, “How to NOT Cause a Guy to Stumble.” Published in the early 2000s, this book perpetuates harmful beliefs about gender, sexuality, and the role of women in the church, echoing through youth groups and beyond.We dissect the enforced performance of masculinity, the unjust objectification of women's bodies, and the dangerous overlap of rape and purity cultures that unjustly places blame on women. Our discussion goes deeper, challenging the control exerted over thoughts and visuals, the male gaze, and the relentless standards set by modesty teachings and visual temptations, all underscored by eyebrow-raising survey results from teenage boys.This episode is an unflinching conversation about the impacts of sexual assault and harassment, underscoring the urgent need for autonomy, consent education, and a seismic shift in attitudes toward women's bodies and choices.Get ready, Ghosties, to break free from the shackles of high-control religion. It's time to unravel the mess, advocate for bodily autonomy, and maybe, just maybe, start healing.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Hi, I'm the Problem, It's Me: Savior Complex & the White Woman Problem (Recap Pt.2)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2024 71:29


    What happens when a homeschooled horse girl feels “god put Africa on her heart?” Well. It could be a lot of things. In fact, your own fave Ghostie Hostie, Lindsay, was exactly this kind of girlie. And yet! Just as two paths diverge in a yellow wood, so do our choices take us to different places. Lindsay, for one, went on a medical mission to Uganda, wore scrubs, and - shockingly - didn't perform a single medical intervention that would require training, certification, or licensure. For Renee Bach, the white missionary who is the subject of Savior Complex an HBO Original Documentary Series, she chose a path (hopefully) less taken and went full speed ahead providing services that were way beyond her training and competency - with dire results.Join your thrilling throuple, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai, as they discuss the second half of the Max docuseries, Savior Complex.Listen to Part One of our Recap HereThey get down and dirty into the accusations surrounding Renee as No White Saviors picks up momentum online, talk a whole load of shit about Renee's doting mother, Laurie Bach, and wrestle with the centering of white voices and behaviors that are rife within this story (including ours!)While it's useful, at times, to wrap our minds around something by defaulting to narratives with good guys and bad guys (or…good homeschool horse girls vs bad ones?), real life is much more complicated than all that. What we end up with is a very gray story with a lot of problematic white women centering themselves in it. Which you can hear more of while your ghostie hosts do a little of that too, hopefully in a helpful way. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Maybe God SHOULD Call the Qualified: Our Review of Savior Complex Part One

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2024 61:24


    Just when you think you've had your fill of problematic white women, Renee Bach comes along. Look, your Murder of MILFs (hey! It stands for “Mom I'd Like to Friend,” get your head out of the gutter!) watched “Savior Complex,” a documentary detailing the ascent of a young missionary, Renee Bach and Serving His Children, the organization she founded and operated in Uganda. At the wise and totally reasonable age of 19, she discovered she had “a heart for Africa” and was called by God. What started out as a feeding program rapidly mushroomed into an unlicensed medical clinic. Renee herself, homeschooled horse girl with no medical training or credentials took it upon herself to conduct medical procedures on malnourished children with disastrous results. We watched this horror so you don't have to! The docu-series is on HBO Max and is 3 episodes in total - in this episode, we tackle the first episode and part of the second. (Part 2 will be out soon!)Know this: you're going to need to gird your loins (or ears), because the conversation includes extremely ill and malnourished children, infant and child death, white supremacy, and Renée's mom, Laurie Bach, who might be the biggest trigger of all…Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    The Five Love Languages are Garbage & Other Spicy Takes with Crystal Britt

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2024 63:38


    In this episode, Meg and Lindsay chat with Crystal Britt, a licensed clinical social worker and actual therapist about the famed book, ‘The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts' by pastor (NOT therapist) Gary Chapman. We talk about how the Five Love Languages are reductive, gendered, and heteronormative and how there are many better resources for communication in relationships. Christians especially love this read and recommend the Five Love Languages as if the Lord himself wrote this book. Why is that? Welp, we get into it with the lovely Crystal Britt throughout this episode. (Spoiler alert: it's the misogyny.)Follow Crystal Everywhere@itscrystalbritt Podcast: Time To LeanRecommended:Bell Hooks:  All About Love The Gottman's:  7 Principles for Making a Marriage Work Dr. Rachel Vanderbuilt on TikTok - Queer FocusDr. Stan Tatkin:  Wired For LoveEmily Nagoski, Ph.D.:  Come As You Are & Come TogetherJessica Fern:  Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual NonmonogamyMarisa G. Franco PhD:  Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--FriendsFresh Starts Registry - A resource place to share your post-divorce needsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Less of Them, More of Me: Taking Our Power Back with Meredith Holley

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2024 69:38


    Have you ever felt like you didn't have a voice? Or that you didn't feel safe to talk about your needs or interests in your relationships, workplaces, your home -- uh, church, maybe?Well, today your favorite Apostolic Apostates, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai join forces with Meredith Holley of Eris Resolution to dig into the basics of Empowered Communication.Learn how to find your voice, how high control religion taught us disempowered communication strategies, and get ready for some juicy gossip about how Meredith's first betrothal (at the age of 7) worked out.Meredith is the cohost of The Empowered Communication Podcast, which focuses primarily on workplace communication. Meredith was also a civil rights litigator, expert shit talker, and - Oh! Also? This woman was raised in a cult, so she knows a thing or two about how to find yourself and speak your truth after high control religion.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Best Of: Losing My Religion with DL Mayfield

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2024 80:13


    Happy New Year Ghosties! We're back with an update and then we're sharing one of our favorite episodes where we talk to DL Mayfield in the midst of their deconversion from Christianity and we reflect on what the impact is on kids like us raised in high control religion.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    More of Me, Less of Him: Making Space for Our Messy Human Selves After High Control Religion

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2023 64:54


    What happens when you're deconstructing with your middle-aged mom friends...and you get to a point where you're like, cool, I'm no longer a part of this religion, but how do I live now?Short answer: Howsoever you fucking want; but more specifically, it's something you get to work out with fear and trembling, just like you probably did with your own salvation.Join your fave apostates as they discuss what this strange post-pandemic peri-apocalyptic year has wrought - at least at a micro-level.

    War On Xmas with the Original Sinfluencer

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2023 62:45


    It's beginning to look a lot like X-mas - you know, with the silver bells, the Santa at the mall, the carnage left behind when people utter the phrase "Happy Holidays..."Your Bible Busting Besties, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai are joined by the man behind the myth, the legend, The Original Sinfluencer, Joshua Colburn. Get in on the delightful hangout and learn who *really* canceled Christmas (spoiler: The Damn Puritans, good lort, those people), why Bill O'Reillly should be crowned a patron saint of Evangelical Christianity, and get a little sample of what post-Evangelical holiday tunes sound like.We all know Evangelical Christians are amazing at Scrooging away at everybody else's everything while claiming they are persecuted by the heathen masses. This is one space where they do it so extra well.A Brief History of the War on Christmas, Alex Altman, Time Magazine, December 24, 2008https://content.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1868542,00.html Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    What Would Jesus Buy?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2023 44:10


    In honor of Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and All the Buying Things Days from now until approximately December 25th, your Queen Ghosties, Lindsay, Meg, & Sarai bring you a deep dive into all things Christian bookstores, products, and marketing. They also take a perplexing look at why Christians are such brilliant capitalists whilst claiming they follow a broke carpenter who, apparently, "never asked for a raise" (listen if you want to be extra grossed out by what this actually means). Bottom line: we get into what we thought and bought as young Christian babes. Hear how Lindsay worked in not one, but TWO Christian bookstores. Learn how Sarai does real time podcast research to confirm her suspicions that the White Jesus Gets Us (erm, "He Gets Us") ad campaign has something to do with politics (shockingly, it does!)...and enjoy as Meg reveals her strange and wonderful journey from coveter of "the hottest Bibles" to Christian Bookstore-eschewing crone. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    No, Mom, That's Not How Boundaries Work and Other Fun Tips with Dr. Laura Anderson to Survive the Holidays With Your Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2023 75:21


    Just when you thought we were done with ghouls and horrors for the year, we're here to point out that the holidays are just around the corner...so beware! Because they love you, your terrific trio of hosts asked Dr. Laura Anderson back to give us all some tools to use at the dinner table and beyond.Dr. Laura has an array of ways to handle family communication around challenging, triggering, and re-traumatizing topics, so you can come home whole and unscathed. Everybody can pick up some great strategies for maintaining harmony - and if not that, prioritizing your sanity when it comes to family.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Tales From the Purity Culture Crypt

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2023 83:21


    Don't get spooked!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Best Of: Suck It Harvest Parties!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2023 56:53


    The specter of Halloween is upon us yet again! And so is this Best Of episode - To Hell with the Devil's Holiday or: Suck it Harvest Parties! Learn about Lindsay's quest to become Queen of Halloween, and hear some spooky stories of youth group shenanigans gone awry. Joyous references include: Hell Houses, Heaven's Gates/Hell's Flames, and other completely ridiculous "scared straight" tactics Christians loved using in the 80's and 90's to get the youth to secure their own eternal salvation. Pretty creepy, actually, good Halloween vibes.Content Heads Up:Mentions of animal cruelty and death, and probably a bunch of other triggery things, so...religious trauma! Take good care of yourself.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Demons Watching Over Me

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2023 63:33


    For kids who grew up during the Satanic Panic - especially those of us raised in Good Christian Homes - talking about, thinking about, worrying about, or wondering about demons was just an everyday thing. Join your Unwholesome Homeschoolers (and Meg) as they remember their personal demonologies and the way we really did think we always had demons scratching at every "foothold" to get in and influence (?) or possess (?) us. Phew! Wild times! Come along for this spooky season episode all about our demon upbringings. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Wake Up Sheeple! Christians, Conspiracies and Qanon: with Cynane Shay

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2023 86:02


    (Ultimate Spoiler: Oops, All White Supremacy - AGAIN?) Have you lost some people you love to an internet conspiracy theory? Is your weird aunt saying wild shit about Jewish space lasers at family dinners? If so, you might be a human being who still believes the earth is a globe that orbits the sun, or, say, that gravity exists...and your friends and relatives and people from church, in particular, are doubting those generally agreed upon realities. What gives? Why do Christians seem to fall for this stuff? And you know what - it's not because they already believe some pretty mind-boggling things - it's much deeper, more sinister, and perverse than that. Join Cynane Shay and your unholy trinity of hosts as they discuss the rapid unraveling of reality, thought reform, fascism, and why do Christians believe this stuff? (Once again, the answer will be disappointingly obvious).Cynane is the mastermind behind Taking Off the Tinfoil Hat. Find her work at: https://takingoffthetinfoilhat.com/Instagram: @taking.off.the.tinfoil.hatTikTok: @takingoffthetinfoilhat Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    The Homeschool of Hard Knocks: Our Plea for You to Not Brainwash Your Child

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2023 65:50


    CW: child abuseOf your three Holy Hosts, two of them were homeschooled. Both take a perverse kind of pride in being not like other homeschoolers, but if you really think about it, that may be the most homeschool thing about them. All that said, homeschooling has been on a meteoric rise since the 1980's (coincidentally, when the Christian Evangelical right wing marriage was consummated with the election of Ronald Reagan). It has been driven by conservative Evangelicals (a hilariously redundant thing to call them), who wanted to train up their children in the way they should go, according to these parental minds, and hope they don't depart from it. The problem: Sometimes they don't depart from it. Also problematic: the lack of regulation on homeschooling laws inadequately protect children from a heinously vacuous education, and also makes them susceptible to abuses that thrive in isolation and disconnection. Yet another exciting example as to why Focusing on the Family is a bad way to build a healthy society. Listen as your buds, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai arrive at no final conclusions, but talk about stuff and find that ambiguity is sometimes just alright.Links: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2020/05/law-school-professor-says-there-may-be-a-dark-side-of-homeschooling/https://arizonalawreview.org/pdf/62-1/62arizlrev1.pdfhttps://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/how-homeschoolings-rise-during-the-pandemic-has-impacted-traditional-school-enrollmenthttps://responsiblehomeschooling.org/advocacy/policy/abuse-in-homeschooling-environments/https://responsiblehomeschooling.org/advocacy/policy/homeschooling-abuse-concealing-abuse/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Born Into A Cult: Chad Harris from Shiny Happy People

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2023 77:01


    CW: Child Abuse, IBLP and Bill Gothard AbuseIf you're a survivor of IBLP please find support at: Recovering GraceShiny Happy People gave us a tiny glimpse into the realities of the IBLP (Institute in Basic Life Principles) cult. *Sidebar: be sure to listen to the Too Many Cults mini-series on this feed if you want to deep dive with our very own Lindsay and Krispin Mayfield from The Prophetic Imagination Station podcast! But even with 4 episodes, Shiny Happy People barely scratches the surface of daily life when you're a kid in a cult. And so, we are thrilled to welcome Chad Harris, an IBLP survivor who shared his experiences on Shiny Happy People, to give us his testimony of how he Holy Ghosted IBLP and high control religion. Not only will you learn more about “encouragement” (read: “corporal punishment with mind games”), the Joshua Project (Christian Nationalism through political and military-esque training), and more; you'll get insider tips on why white bread is the evil kind of bread, how the IBLP business model works (kind of), and whether snake oil really works or not.(Our sincere apologies to Aubrey Gordon for forgetting to fangirl about you in this episode WE LOVE YOU TOO!!)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Extraction, Exploitation, and Ego: An Interview with Fina on Capitalism and the Church

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2023 81:55


    Content heads up: rape, sexual assault, and institutional irresponsibility. The Evangelical church has quite an interesting relationship with capitalism and exploitation, and guess who cares about that? We do! And bonus: Fina of the Mindful Minds podcast cares about this too, so buckle up as she joins the Unfaithful Few, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai, on today's episode. Learn about how uncannily (and horrifically) THE SAME it is to grow up in the Evangelical church as a human being, especially one who is not a cis man, as it was 20 years ago when these middle aged mom friends got all tangled up in purity culture. Fina, a relatively recent college grad, tells your aghast hosts about her life in the church as a volunteer and as a survivor of sexual assault. Not only is this lack of evolution unacceptable, but it is also time for these institutions and the people who participate in them to take accountability for the lives they have failed to care about and support. It's not pretty, and it's not cool, but it's true and happening - so let's talk about it and uncover ways we might make different choices for ourselves now, as we heal from the experience of exploitation and repression the church foisted upon us. And more importantly, let's start looking at ways religious institutions must catch up with the rest of society in some key ways.Support Holy Ghosting and become a part of our Patreon communityWe want to be friends!! TikTok YouTube and InstagramSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Best Of: Let's Talk About Camp, Baby!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2023 39:59


    Hey, Ghosties! Whether you rocked a camp t-shirt with a punny camp theme or wore one to cover your already modest AF bathing suit, you're going to enjoy our encore visit to Evangelical Christian summer camp!Gird your loins for some jarring admissions of life-long devotion to the very concept of summer camp, including our own Sarai admitting she'd reconvert if some camp would hire her to work there forever and ever. Spoiler alert: she's lying, but it's still a fun idea!Let's talk about the tearful, overwrought, sometimes made-up completely bonfire testimonies, the strange intoxication of a camp experience, and one heroic tale of rattlesnake vanquishing from Meg.Support Holy Ghosting and become a part of our Patreon communityWe want to be friends!! TikTok YouTube and InstagramSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Best Of: Travel The World On God's Dime

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 30, 2023 72:06


    Ahoy, Ghosties! While we're still on break until we launch our next episodes starting in September, we missed you too much to stay all the way away. Give a listen to a classic episode from our first season and cringe at the stories of white saviorism, poverty tourism, and otherwise ghastly evangelizing activities Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai performed in their respective youths.Don't forget to rate (an honest five stars, oh please!) and review this podcast so other listeners like you can find us! Rock and roll.Support Holy Ghosting and become a part of our Patreon communityWe want to be friends!! TikTok YouTube and InstagramSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Age to Age She's Still Aflame: Queer Joy with Flamy Grant

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2023 46:19


    Y'all. Flamy Grant is this podcast's favorite Drag Queen, and today's episode is glorious because we get to talk with her! Join Meg and an ailing Sarai, as well as Lindsay, in spirit, as they chat with Flamy about queer joy and how we can all make more room to be more compassionate to ourselves and others.Pride month is full of celebration and joy AND ALSO a lot of your fave middle aged mom friends being their MOST middle aged mom-ness with relentless reminders to call your legislators and all the above. And all that's true and still stands (eat your damn vegetables!) - yet, let's not forget about the joy of finally being able to show up as fully, truly, and completely one's self. By embracing our sexuality and who we love (whether it's allowed by the religious programming we've endured or no) we are able to set ourselves and others free.Support Holy Ghosting and become a part of our Patreon communityWe want to be friends!! TikTok YouTube and InstagramFind more information about Flamy Grant hereFlamy Grant TikTokSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    It's Never Too Late: Coming Out After 30

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2023 41:27


    Join your bestie ghostie trifecta, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai as we have an amazing conversation with a particularly rad human being. Val is one of Meg's longtime dear friends, raised the same funky way we were in the Evangelical church.Listen as Val shares her journey of coming out in her 30's. Y'all, repression is REAL!She has a beautiful story to tell about self-discovery, community building, and representation. Most of all, she has clearly learned to trust herself - a massive accomplishment for those of us who were raised to trust only those who told us what god supposedly wanted for our lives. Join our Patreon community to support this podcast. You can find us on TikTok YouTube and Instagram.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Image Management Strategies & More (Recap of Ep 4 Shiny Happy People)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2023 49:45


    This is the last of our four-episode series "Too Many Cults", where Lindsay and Krispin (from the Prophetic Imagination Station and Linds' BIL) recap the docuseries Shiny Happy People: Duggar Family Secrets.TW: religious abuse, sexual abuse, family cover-up of abuse, psychological abuse, harsh punishment of children), controlling parenting, grooming, and sexual abuse. Most of this episode discusses sexual abuse and child pornography.A short section 13:55-22:55 discusses the plan for Christian homeschoolers to go to Washington and Republican politics, and also current youtube Christian influencers. 39:40-end is free of triggers around sexual abuse, and discusses the hope of survivors of IBLP. The episode talks about how the Duggar family and friends respond to Josh Duggar's allegations, how they respond to the sexual abuse of girls. There's also discussion of abuse charges and also legal retaliation. There's a short portion about how conservative Christians are trying to hold cultural power through politics and social media. We also talk a bit about the survivors of IBLP and how they've been healing and recovering from trauma.Join our Patreon communityHang out with us on socials TikTok and Instagram.Check out our YouTube ChannelSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Coming Out: Stories of Living Your Truth Under Christian Scrutiny

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2023 33:17


    Content Heads-Up: this episode contains mentions of attempted suicide, mental health challenges, and sexuality and gender dysphoria. Listen with care and call your bestie if you need support. If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts about taking their own lives, please dial the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988.Hey, Ghosties! What a day. As you know by now, Holy Ghosting is celebrating Pride this month with weekly episodes about different aspects of LGBTQ+ and Evangelicalism. This week, we are talking about Coming Out - and bonus: you'll get to hear directly from four listeners about how their entanglements with the church have worked out after they came out. Some folks are still (non-Evangelical) Christians, and others are no longer religious. All of them have something important to share about the challenges of being alienated from one's own sense of self, sexuality, and gender - and what it is like when you still make space for yourself to be all of who you are. We all want to thank the listeners who took the time and effort to send us their stories. We also want to thank Joy Weber, our spritely right-hand enbie who read one of the stories submitted anonymously by a 41 yr old listener who is still healing her own soul after her very difficult coming out story. Y'all. Be you. Be strong. Be safe. Be bold. You are not alone - and the more we all peel our layers of oppression away from ourselves, we make it safe for others to do the same. Rock and roll! Join our patreon community to support this podcast. You can find us on TikTok and Instagram.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Fascism in Plain Sight: A Recap of Ep. 3 of Shiny Happy People

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2023 47:14


    Fascism in Plain Sight is the third episode of our mini-series "Too Many Cults", where Lindsay and Krispin (from the Prophetic Imagination Station and Linds' BIL) recap the docuseries Shiny Happy People: Duggar Family Secrets.In this episode we talk about how IBLP and Jim Bob Duggar hold onto money while those with less power do unpaid work. We also talk about how Gothard created an environment in the IBLP that encouraged abuse to exist with impunity. Krispin shares some of the parallels he saw in his evangelical community in response to his disclosure of sexual abuse by a family member.TW: religious abuse, sexual abuse, family cover-up of abuse, psychological abuse, harsh punishment of children), controlling parenting, grooming and sexual abuse.Here's a breakdown of the episode and the topics:0:00 Introduction, brief non-specific mention on Josh's child pornography charges.2:00 Discussion of free labor in Evangelical spaces23:00 Discussion of sexual abuse from Gothard and sexual abuse within the IBLP.Join our patreon community to support this podcast. You can find us on TikTok and Instagram.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Our Pride and Joy: Gender Affirming Parenting

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2023 79:47


    Imagine, giving birth to a beautiful baby…assigning them a gender, and just a few years later finding out they already know themselves better than we ever could. Hearing “I'm a girl” from a kiddo you assumed was a boy can elicit a lot of reactions. Today we talk to two moms who heard their kids when their children told them who they really are and have chosen to raise them to affirm their respective genders. Their reactions were to believe and nurture their unique and beautiful children.That's what is happening in families across the world - and in America, a whooooole chunk of the country is actively trying to erase these kids (and their adult counterparts!) with anti-trans legislation. We can't stand by while old white men chat in state halls about who gets to pee where when our kids' very lives are on the line.Join the unholy trinity, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai as they learn from two parents who have joyously embraced their kids' identities, and raise them to affirm and support who their kids know they are. Have trouble understanding folks who are trans? Stick with us as we talk a bit about how we've chosen to learn from the courageous, self-knowing humans who dare to be completely true to their entire selves as they show up in the world. Celebrate and support your trans friends and don't let them be crushed by the hatred they face in the world. Stand beside the ones you love and believe them when they tell you who they really are. As Waterdeep would say, “Everyone's Beautiful” (and you're welcome for the very specific CCM deep cut).————————————————————Information about Trans suicide ratesACLU guide to talking to people about attacks on Trans YouthHuman Rights Campaign: fight anti trans legislation. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    An Environment Where Abuse Thrives (Recap of Ep 2 Shiny Happy People)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2023 55:22


    TW: religious abuse, sexual abuse, family cover-up of abuse, emotional neglect, psychological abuse, physical abuse (and violent punishment of children), intimate partner abuse.In this episode we talk about Bill Gothard's teachings, women's gender roles, and parenting ideals that create environments where abuse could occur with impunity.This is the second of a four-episode series called Too Many Cults, where Lindsay and Krispin (from the Prophetic Imagination Station) recap the docuseries Shiny Happy People: Duggar Family Secrets (Amazon Prime)Here are this Episode's topics:0:00 Introduction, overview of episode, discussion of why traumatized people can be drawn to fundamentalism9:45 homeschooling22:10 subjugation of women; abuse of girls & women, purity culture, gender roles30:00 child abuse; the discipline of children47:30 sexual abuseJoin our patreon community to support this podcast. Or join us on TikTok and InstagramSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    God, Gays, and Getting Your Spiritual Groove Back with Kevin Garcia

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2023 59:41


    Ghosties! Get ready for a month of amazing interviews celebrating PRIDE.Our first episode of this 4-Part Mini Series is a conversation with Kevin Garcia, author (of many things and most recently), “What Makes You Bloom: Cultivating a Practice for Connecting with Your Divine Self.”Kevin is a mystic who has discovered a path back to himself and his spirituality after a lifetime of Evangelical gay-shaming…nay, gay-annihilating… doctrine and practice. Luckily, the Vengeful Evangelical God™️ doesn't have a monopoly on spirituality. Kevin, like your fab three faves (Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai), has been able to carve a beautiful spiritual life out for himself - and he helps others do the same with his work today. You won't want to miss this or any other Pride conversation this month, so be sure to subscribe, tell all your friends, and leave a nice review if you have the inkling to do so. :) Love is Love and We Love YOU! Resources from this episode:Pray Away (Documentary on Netflix) App Suggestions: Headspace, BloomReading Suggestions: A Course in Miracles, The Soul of RUMIKevin's Podcast: A Tiny RevolutionSocials @thekevingarciaTikTok @thekevingarcia_ Books by Kevin Garcia“Bad Theology Kills” BadTheologyKills.com“What Makes You Bloom: Cultivating a Practice for Connecting with Your Devine Self”Available for Pre-Sale Now! Coming January 2024Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    19 Cults and Counting: A Recap of Ep. 1 of Shiny Happy People

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 52:20


    This is the first in a special four-episode series: Too Many Cults, hosted by Lindsay and Krispin (from the Prophetic Imagination Station). They recap the docuseries Shiny Happy People: Duggar Family Secrets [Amazon Prime] TW: religious abuse, sexual abuse, family cover-up of abuseWe're recapping the episodes, talking about what stands out to us, and processing some religious trauma along the way. Oh! And you can find episodes on both podcasts, a true crossover series!We're calling the series Too Many Cults, inspired by the video Too Many Cooks, which you should go watch!In this episode, we talk about how Bill Gothard's teachings of the Institute of Basic Life Principles (IBLP) are incredibly similar to mainstream evangelicalism and the Focus on the Family we all grew up with. Bill Gothard and Dr. Dobson were incredibly similar and created very similar dysfunctional family cultures (the latter just had fewer kids).Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    I Don't Want It: The Pain of Purity Culture with Dr. Laura Anderson, PHD

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2023 84:32


    Imagine a world, where you could admit that you were interested - nay, desirous of - sex. What?? That's nuts - ladies don't want that shit, right?? Get ready to think again: it's ok to want sex (contrary to popular DC Talk lyrics). Join your triumphant trio as they talk with Dr. Laura Anderson about the literal pain and trauma that purity culture leaves in its wake. Did you, for instance, know that sex is supposed to feel good????? And that feeling good includes not having pain? And what about that interesting "you're not married yet so shut that sexual anything down ASAP" to "you're married now, you gotta let that P into your V full force, or you're bad" transition? That's fun! No? It's terrible? OK, you're not wrong. Long story short here? Purity culture is a disaster for all the people it has harmed, continues to harm today, and will continue to harm well into the future - unless....hear me out...unless, we refuse to let sexual repression ruin our experience of being human. Join us and learn how a few chaste women entered their permanent slut era, or at least have found some nice ways to reach orgasm. And that's worth some investment of your time and energy. In closing: cum early, cum often. Love you! xoxo"When Religion Hurts You: HEALING FROM RELIGIOUS TRAUMA AND THE IMPACT OF HIGH CONTROL RELIGION" Dr Laura Anderson, PHD Pre-Order: https://drlauraeanderson.com/book"Transforming the Sacred Wound" by Peter Levin (Audio Book Only)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Be Anything. Do Anyone. Feminism, Motherhood, and the ERA

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2023 68:43


    It's an episode about motherhood! It's an episode about feminism! It's an episode about feminism and motherhood and all of the fun messages we were taught about being a Good Christian Girl™!In this episode we get into all the nitty gritty of what it means to identify as a woman in The United States of Evangelical America. Here are just a few of the things we cover:-The Equal Rights Amendment (ERA)-Concerned Women for America and the work of Phyllis Schlafly (spoiler: she's not in favor of equal rights for women! Not great!)-The (very few) positive female role models that exist in the Bible (and what was so wrong with Vashti anyway? And Jezebel got a bad rap!)-SPAGHETTI STRAPS AND THE PROBLEM OF SHOWING TOO MUCH SEXY SHOULDER-The mixed messages about what it meant to be a woman in Evangelical Christianity-Passing the Bechdel Test in your own damn IG bio-How Mothers are treated like garbage in this country. Paid maternity leave and free healthcare for all, plz.-The church's insistence on giving women carnations on Mother's Day. WHY?-How it's none of your business if people are going to have a baby or not! (Lookin' at you, Vanessa Lachey)-You can be anything and do anyone! You can change your name or your gender! You don't have to take your husband's name!-Motherhood is not the highest and only calling for women. It is a choice and we support your choice to be or not to be a mother. Period.-Motherhood is a gift and also a pain in the ass. Happy Mother's Day, call your senators, and support the Equal Rights Amendment. The end.To learn more about how to support the Equal Rights Movement please visit: https://www.eracoalition.org/Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/holyghostingFollow us on social: Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@holyghostingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/holyghostingpod/Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/holyghostingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Being Black in White Churches: Where Belonging is Actually Just Conformity

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2023 79:31


    Your fave middle-aged mom apostates connect with their friend Shaunea, a black woman who grew up in almost exclusively white spaces when her white mother converted to Christianity in the 1980's. Sha's mom had the kind of testimony Evangelicals went batshit crazy for back then (and still now!)Sha's story about growing up black in a white Evangelical world reveals some of the deeper beliefs and White Supremacist/Christian Nationalist leanings that have been with the American Evangelical church from…probably the beginning, let's be real. Join Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai as they listen and discover a long-suppressed reality - when people are not able to be themselves, where belonging is conditional to how one looks, acts, talks, and moves through the world - including the color of their skin (sorry, D.C. Talk - being colorblind isn't a thing and it's actually racist, heads up!)….well, it doesn't do anybody any good to continue to allow that system to flourish and persist. Let's confront some of the uglier sides of who we were as Evangelical white kids (say Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai) and learn from people who had a much more alienating and disempowering experience than we did. Which…if you've listened to even 10 minutes of a single episode of Holy Ghosting, you realize is saying A LOT. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    We Don't Need No (Public) Education: Schooling for Evangelicals

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2023 70:24


    If you grew up with Creationism instead of Science or had odd electives like Lapidary or Little House on the Prairie Curriculum then you may have been schooled by Christian Education! Our three hosts share all about their sheltered education from unschooling, homeschooling, and private education …so you know there are some pretty wild stories from Christian Campus life. If you'd like to support the show, become a Ghostie at Patreon.com/holyghostingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    This Hurts Me More Than it Hurts You: And Other Lies from the Cult of Dobson Discipline

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2023 81:55


    Growing up in American Christianity in the 80's and 90's meant we were smack dab in the height of Dobson Domination. That is, Dr. James Dobson and his Focus on the Family ubiquity in the realm of parenting and child rearing advice, children's entertainment (and, behind the scenes, lobbying and more exciting political dealings)…If your parents “dared to discipline” their “strong-willed children” the Dobson way, you probably got a good amount of spanking, control, and fear in your childhood. Parents were told that breaking the spirit of a child would ensure they would become good little Christians and (just as or more importantly) good little Republicans. Amazingly, many of us didn't end up that way - and the Boomers who listened to Focus on the Family's terrible advice haven't learned how to apologize for their behavior. And some of them are just left to wonder why their children have betrayed them. So…what now??? How do we learn to parent our children differently? How do we raise kids who become emotionally mature and intelligent? Join the conversation and hear how a handful of your fave middle-aged mom friends have been trying their hand at it so far. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    That's Me In The Corner: DL Mayfield on Neurodivergence, Evangelicalism, and Losing Her Religion

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2023 70:07


    Growing up neurodivergent and in the throes of evangelicalism, a high control and fear-based religion, offered DL Mayfield one choice...to be the best darn good girl she could be, the bestest christian and martyr for the lord, and to do it with perfection and grace. And so she did. FOR YEARS, DECADES even!Come along on a wild ride as we hear how DL Mayfield (Lindsay's sister!!!) has begun to disentangle her life from the world she grew up in after her autism diagnosis...and now she's Holy Ghosting.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Are you there, God? It's me. I left this performance fleece outside for you

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2023 59:49


    When we were kids, we were told to listen to “the voice of God” which was usually something someone else told us, and rarely, if ever, something we actually “heard” with our ears. Even our own intuition couldn't possibly be right, so we spent our childhoods and young adulthoods under the impression that we couldn't make a decision lest we be out of God's will. In the Bible, there are SO MANY stories about people using divination to understand what they perceived the will of God to be - and some of those stories (Gideon, for instance) are held up as triumphs…whereas others are condemned (King Saul consulting a medium or fortune teller - Jehova was like, NOPE, you're not King anymore). What is divination, anyway? Will you be smoted from the earth if you use it? (spoiler: no)  Divination is the practice of getting insight into a question or situation, it's not scary at all, we promise.Things you can read about divination (if you dare!)Divination is terrible and a sin: https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-divination.htmlReferences in the Old Testament to Divination: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Witchcraft_and_divination_in_the_Hebrew_BibleA Very Fun Article About Christians and Magic: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_views_on_magicSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Rolling with My Holies: Revival in the Land

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2023 78:34


    Not since Carman personally slayed the DEVIL himself when he called for Revival in the Land has there ever been such a meaningful movement of the awakening of the Christian spirit's openness to the Holy Ghost.Not until now.Asbury University has experienced a celebrity-level Revival in the Land amongst its student body. But, REVIVAL...what is it good for?Dr. Amy Ferrell "I hope for everyone's sake that if there is any kind of awakening that it is to the truths of this world. Especially the truth of our complicity in harm, like racism, patriarchy, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, Christian exceptionalism ("We're the good and right ones"), saviorism, martyrdom, emotional repression, binaries, paradigms of control using manipulation, coercion, intimidation, and punishment, and I could go on. Hoping we all can wake up and see through the illusions of the world and of us."Revival is never said in the New Testament, but 2 Chronicles 7:14 is used to justify "healing the land" of America from things Christians don't like.Watch the Carman Revival In The Land video with us at Patreon.com/holyghostingBiola Revival Article: https://charismamag.com/charisma-archive/spiritual-awakening-continues-to-shake-biola-university-in-california/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    God Hates Divorce But Sarai Loves It

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2023 69:49


    It's no surprise “God Hates Divorce” or at least “God Hates Divorce for Women” in evangelical christianity. There's only one thing that will end a marriage in God's eyes…ADULTERY. But even then, sometimes it's best to forgive (the man) and stay married! We're all big fans of personal choice over here, even if you signed a legal (gasp!) document one time when you were 20 (oh, was that just Meg?!) you don't HAVE to stay in a relationship you don't like (you don't even have to say your reason). Join us for a healing episode celebrating the TABOO of divorce!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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