Podcasts about high control religion

One of the worst things you could be in a cult is selfish. Pursue a career? Selfish. Go to college? Selfish. Skip a meeting because you're too exhausted to feign interest? Selfish. When you're handed the grandiose mission of saving the human race from Armageddon, even a tiny spark of personal joy starts to feel like a moral failure. But now you're out. You survived. And for the first time, you can do anything you want. The only problem? You've never been allowed to want anything for yourself. It feels weird. It feels wrong. You feel guilty. (Which, of course, is by design.) In this episode, we're going to deconstruct and recalibrate the idea of "selfish"—and explore why taking care of your own needs isn't just okay… it's essential. For your healing, and for the people you love. We'll cover: How high-control religion weaponizes "selflessness" to keep you obedient Why everything we do—including “selfless” acts—is actually motivated by self-interest (and that's not a bad thing) The beautiful irony: how prioritizing your joy makes you more generous, more grounded, and more whole This is your permission slip to want things, try things, and be a little gloriously selfish—for your own sanity, healing, and yes, the joy of eventually giving back from a full cup. DrRyanLee.com/beyondbelief

From time to time we all get sucked into the sunken place of depression, and some of us sink deeper than others. Until recent year, I'd been in and out of the clinical depression hole most of my life. Today, I walk you through the fool proof blueprint I mapped out myself to climb out of that hole every single time, one I have walked many clients through successfully. If you're struggle-bussing, this blueprint will get you out of the hole, and if you're not, it'll keep you out

More spiritual food to choke on... at the proper time

Today we're going to take the first of many stabs at the wonderfully awkward world of post-cult dating. Essentially, the challenge of learning things most people learned in high school at the age of 35.  Here's the thing, you can't skip the mess. The mess builds the muscles. But we've put together some of the most common lessons learned for all you late bloomers that will hopefully make the leveling up process just a little bit easier.  In this episode, we'll be starting, as usual, with the mess left to us by the cult, then moving on to the shame of feeling inexperienced, the most common pitfalls we'll likely fall into, and why it might be a good idea to fall into them anyway

Proper bullshit at the proper time

A playful breakdown of the narcissistic deflection cascade

Prior to my work with ex-JWs, I would generally encounter clients with parents on the narcissistic spectrum maybe around 20% of the time. Once I started working with ex-JWs, that number went up to about 80%. This is no cute coincidence. There's a pattern here, and we spend this entire episode exploring that pattern in more detail, not only in how it presents in those on this spectrum, but also in the way the same characteristics can be seen in the organization itself, as a narcissistic entity.

Fresh off the tail of our very first ex-JW ayahuasca retreat, I'm thrilled to report that it surpassed all expectations. Today we're going to give you a breakdown of all the joy, surprises, and personal lessons learned in the process. Through the retelling, we'll be touching on themes of connection, nuances of forgiveness, and something called "the caretakers dillemma". 

Kalla Mort shares her jaw-dropping story of escaping the high control religion of her youth (read: cult) and coming out as queer. This is an incredibly rich exploration of Attachment in the Mental Center, and how Type 6 navigates revolutions of core beliefs. Enjoy. LINKS Learn at The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/ Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/ Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 2:17 - Growing up in high control religion, 6 attachment in head center 8:30 - Young 6 strategizing, ‘selling out' in religion, theater life 10:21 - Sexuality in a purity culture 13:23 - IBLP, Gotthard, being a mouthpiece for collective ideals 24:56 - Awakening to identity 33:15 - Christian ‘beacon of love' vs. personal visceral truth 46:03 - Dissociation of the attachment types 50:41 - Mental health, conversion therapy 55:10 - 6 ‘copy-paste' discernment 1:04:21 - Psychosomatic symptoms of body/mind incongruence 1:13:49 - The mental center as a prison for the heart 1:31:45 - Deconstruction 1:38:13 - Weaponizing faith 1:51:02 - Getting ‘too big' for old constructs 1:55:12 - Esoteric healing methods 2:02:25 - 6's mistrust of the mental center 2:18:38 - “My biggest savior is my biggest sin - subjectivity” 2:25:56 - Outro CREDITS Interview by Josh Lavine Edited by Kristen Oberly Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram6

Today, we're talking about pain; more specifically Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain: Clean pain is the sharp but necessary pain of ripping off the Band-Aid. It heals you. Dirty pain is the slow, grinding misery of avoidance. It traps you. Ex-JWs know all about dirty pain—it's what keeps people stuck in the cult, chasing after shunning family, or waiting for an apology that's never coming. So today, we're breaking it all down:

This episode marks a new emphasis for On Becoming. While I have referred to trauma before, here it becomes a lens through which we examine high-control religion (like Evangelicalism). I begin by considering the role of cruelty in Christianity, though a recent article by David French. Next, I turn to Alice Miller's book The Drama of the Gifted Child as a way of thinking about how children are often treated with a lack of respect and thus traumatised. Finally, I turn to James Dobson to work out the ways in which trauma and violence are part of most Evangelical's upbringing.

2-15-25 A Chat With NYT Bestselling Author Tia Levings About Escaping High Control Religion! go to TiaLevings.com to get the book 'A Well Trained Wife'go to patreon.com/daveneal for more bonus content!

What the build up to an ayahuasca purge can feel like

In this episode, Jordan and Becca share their story of leaving the Church of Christ -- a high control religion similar to Mormonism. Wherever you're at in your faith, this is a powerful and encouraging episode you won't want to miss!--The Unveiling Mormonism podcast pulls back the curtain on Mormon history, culture and doctrine. Join us for new episodes every Monday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/mormonism.Help others go "full circle" as a follower of Jesus through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources at home, with a small group, or in a one-on-one discipleship relationship.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at podcast@pursueGOD.org.Donate Now --

In this episode, Jordan and Becca share their story of leaving the Church of Christ -- a high control religion similar to Mormonism. Wherever you're at in your faith, this is a powerful and encouraging episode you won't want to miss!--The Unveiling Mormonism podcast pulls back the curtain on Mormon history, culture and doctrine. Join us for new episodes every Monday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/mormonism.Help others go "full circle" as a follower of Jesus through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources at home, with a small group, or in a one-on-one discipleship relationship.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at podcast@pursueGOD.org.Donate Now --

Hey guys, Sorry for the fake out, but for reasons I explain in this episode we decided to skip the episode on my worst psychedelic experience (for now) and instead focus an entire episode on ayahuasca.  We focus on the benefits of ayahuasca, some explanation around what an experience is like, and of course I share a little about my own encounters with the medicine (plus a more-than-you-asked-for helping of adolescent toilet humor)

This episode marks the first in a three part series in honor of our upcoming Ex-JW Ayahuasca retreat in March (DrRyanLee.com/retreat for more info). In today's episode we talk a little about the upcoming retreat, some best practices for working with psychedelics, and then we take you on a little adventure through my first ever LSD experience. Episode 2 will cover my worst experience (lots to learn from my mistakes) Episode 3 will cover my best experience (lots to learn if you're considering working with Ayahuasca)

In part 1 of this two part episode we tackle everything related to the experience of losing our JW community and rebuilding our social circle from scratch, including how to navigate trust issues and rewriting some of our core beliefs around human connection

An analogy to help us conceptualize the work of deoprogramming

More comforting ideas gleamed from ego death experiences

On our very first Halloween episode, we take a cold, hard, chilling look at the spooky topic of death, and explore the possibility that death isn't necessarily the big scary monster we thought it was. We start by sitting for a bit with the uncomfortable actuality of our imminent demise, followed by some more comforting ideas to take the edge off. Finally, I open up about some of my personal experiences with the afterlife...

This episode is the first in a series of "mini" episodes entitled STRONGER.  Sometimes we get so mired down in all the heaviness around leaving the org, that we lose sight of why we left in the first place; which is to grow, explore, and experience life to the fullest. The STRONGER series will be focused on all things related to building resiliency and developing the skill set which will move us from surviving to thriving. In today's episode, we focus on the practice of meditation. Sure, it may be a well covered topic, but I have a unique take that I believe will clarify a few misconceptions and might make this practice a bit more accessible to you

The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives (Hulu) follows a group of young TikTok moms, MomTok, who get caught in the midst of a swinging sex scandal that makes international headlines. There is even an arrest in the very first episode! But how does this group of young wives, many of whom no longer practice the faith, even GET here? We explore the base of the tenets of High Control Religion that draws a connecting line to everything that we see unfold on screen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last week we came down pretty hard on all you "nice" guys and gals out there. This week, as promised, we bring some practical steps towards breaking this nasty habit, including mindfulness, saying yes to "no", saying no to "sorry", and the difference between "being nice" and kindness. 

The death spiral caused by people pleasing in relationships

Of all the common challenges faced by ex-JWs, people pleasing is at the number one spot for most universal. We can't help ourselves. We have been wired in every way imaginable towards having this disposition. And lets be honest... it sucks It's corrosive to our sense of well being, to our confidence, and extremely detrimental to our relationships. In part one of this two-part episode, we take a long hard look at the ugly side of being (shudder) "nice"

There was a time in my life when I rolled my eyes at the idea of therapy. It seemed ridiculous that simply talking with someone could ever lead to any kind of real change or improvement to my life experience. I'm delighted to report that I was very, very wrong about that assessment.  Today's episode is a bit of love letter to therapy. We talk about what is therapy, what it is not, how it can be helpful, what good therapy looks like vs bad therapy, and how to go about finding the right therapist (or counselor, or coach) for you. If you've ever wondered what all the fuss is about, this episode is for you

In this conversation, Dr. Laura Anderson, an expert in religious trauma, discusses the definition and impact of religious trauma, particularly in the context of purity culture. She shares her personal experience growing up in a high control religion and the effects it had on her. Dr. Anderson emphasizes the importance of recognizing religious trauma as a form of trauma and highlights the various ways it can manifest, including mental health disorders, physical issues, and relational difficulties. She also discusses the role of social media in the rise of deconstruction and the need for support for those leaving high control religions. In this conversation, Laura Anderson and Cody discuss the impact of purity culture and religious trauma. They explore the physical, psychological, and relational effects of purity culture, including sexual pain and dysfunction, guilt and shame, hypervigilance, and trauma. They also discuss the shift from a focus on religious freedom to Christian nationalism in the United States. Laura shares her hope for change and healing, emphasizing the importance of living fully and experiencing pleasure and relationship. She also mentions her book, 'When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion,' and her work at the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. For Training: www.codyharman.com Instagram: mrcoachcody Email: trainwithcoachcody@gmail.com

We were so honored and excited to be joined by Dr. Laura Anderson, PhD! She is a licensed psychotherapist, religious trauma expert and coach, speaker, educator, and author of the book "When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion". In this episode we discuss the connections and similarities between high control religious groups and domestic violence/controlling relationships. This is definitely one you won't want to miss! TW: religious trauma, domestic violence ______ Some important resources we want to share based on this episode: "When Religion Hurts You", Dr. Laura E. Anderson https://a.co/d/06nSsmL7 *Dr. Anderson's website*: ⁠Laura Anderson | Religious Trauma Expert (drlauraeanderson.com)⁠ *National Domestic Violence Hotline* 800-799-7233   ⁠⁠https://www.thehotline.org/⁠⁠  *National Mental Health Hotline* 866-903-3787   ⁠⁠https://mentalhealthhotline.org/⁠⁠  ______ Thank you for listening!

I am beyond excited to have the renowned Dr. Laura Anderson (@drlauraeanderson), a therapist, trauma resolution and recovery coach, writer, and educator, to discuss the psychological complexities of a high-control religion. She shares her insights on navigating the challenging journey of DECONSTRUCTION and reclaiming one's AUTHENTICITY.   In this episode: Understanding ADVERSE RELIGIOUS EXPERIENCES and their impact beyond trauma The power of CURIOSITY, SELF-COMPASSION & PATIENCE in the questioning process Dr. Laura, on strict religious obedience: "High demand religions typically require individuals to DIVORCE THEMSELVES from their BODIES and move exclusively into their MINDS."   Laura has a Ph.D. from Saybrook University and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She specializes in complex trauma with a focus on domestic violence, sexualized violence, and religious trauma. Her bestselling book, "When Religion Hurts You: Healing From Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion," offers a compassionate guide for those on the path of healing and liberation.   WATCH our episode on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SoulRoseShow  ... Follow Dr. Laura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauraeanderson/ Join Dr. Laura's year-long course: "Religious Trauma and Politics": https://ctrr.podia.com/religious-trauma-and-the-election-cycle Dr. Laura Anderson's book: "When Religion Hurts You: Healing From Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion”: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BW12SBFC Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cherie.burton/ Join my new MINDBODY Soul Membership: https://www.cherieburton.com/mindbody-membership Get my Free WHOLE BODY Healing Mini-Course:  https://www.cherieburton.com/freeminicourse Ask to join our private Facebook group, Soul Rose COMMUNITY, for exclusive content and free monthly, live sessions & classes!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/353442392180748/

Black and white, right and wrong, good and bad... This is how JWs approach the world, and it creates a real problem for those of us who enter into the world with this rigid dualistic mindset. Forget black and white. Today we learn to live in color

Black and white, right and wrong, good and bad... This is how JWs approach the world, and it creates a real problem for those of us who enter into the world with this rigid dualistic mindset. Forget black and white. Today we learn to live in color

How many times have we heard about the dangers of trusting our treacherous heart? Among the many ways in which JW indoctrination sabotages our senses and turn us against ourselves, this is one of the most insidious. It tells us not to trust one of the deepest and most important aspects of our being. Today we take some time to dispel this nasty bit of programming, and embrace our hearts and what it looks like to learn to trust and love it, maybe for the first time in our lives

In episode 33 of The Cult Next Door Podcast, "When Religion Hurts You: with Dr. Laura E. Anderson", hosts Mattie and Ashleigh welcome first time guest Dr. Laura Anderson to the CND conversation. Dr. Anderson is a psychotherapist, trauma resolution and recovery coach, educator, and creator who specializes in complex trauma with a focus on domestic violence, sexualized violence and religious trauma. She is the founder and director of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery, an online coaching company where she and the other practitioners work with clients who have experienced high demand/high control religions, adverse religious experiences, cults, and religious trauma. And, she is co-founder of the Religious Trauma Institute and the author of the book When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion, a book we cannot recommend enough!In this episode, Dr. Anderson shares her own story of growing up in fundamentalism and what eventually led to her exit. We discuss high control religion, Adverse Religious Experiences, and the impact trauma has on the nervous system. Dr. Anderson also gives listeners some tips on ways to regulate the nervous system and begin to heal.  Resources: You can find Dr. Anderson on Instagram @drlauraanderson where she provides daily content offering wisdom and encouragement for those healing from religious trauma. You can also schedule an appointment with a counselor who specializes in high demand/high control religions, adverse religious experiences, cults, and religious trauma through the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery:https://www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com/Listen to Dr. Anderson's podcast, Sunday School Dropouts on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information about the Religious Trauma Institute, check out the website. https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com/

How many times have we heard about the dangers of trusting our treacherous heart? Among the many ways in which JW indoctrination sabotages our senses and turn us against ourselves, this is one of the most insidious. It tells us not to trust one of the deepest and most important aspects of our being. Today we take some time to dispel this nasty bit of programming, and embrace our hearts and what it looks like to learn to trust and love it, maybe for the first time in our lives

Ok, so you've just left the organization. First of all, congratulations! Welcome to our ex-JW tribe! What you have done is nothing short of heroic. It takes so much bravery to make that choice, and trust us, it will be worth it. But now that you're out, you may be wondering what comes next? Where should you channel your energy and attention? Well, all of our episodes will be geared towards answering this question in a number of different ways, but today (on our debut episode!) we be discussing some of the essential tasks people should consider when newly out of the Jehovah's Witnesses.  If you like our podcast, please hit the subscribe button and leave a review. If you're feeling moved to pay it forward, please share it with other people who might benefit For questions, feedback or ideas for future episodes, please email me at DrRyanLee@DrRyanLee.com If you are interested in working with me, please vist my website at DrRyanLee.com

Ok, so you've just left the organization. First of all, congratulations! Welcome to our ex-JW tribe! What you have done is nothing short of heroic. It takes so much bravery to make that choice, and trust us, it will be worth it. But now that you're out, you may be wondering what comes next? Where should you channel your energy and attention? Well, all of our episodes will be geared towards answering this question in a number of different ways, but today (on our debut episode!) we be discussing some of the essential tasks people should consider when newly out of the Jehovah's Witnesses.  If you like our podcast, please hit the subscribe button and leave a review. If you're feeling moved to pay it forward, please share it with other people who might benefit For questions, feedback or ideas for future episodes, please email me at DrRyanLee@DrRyanLee.com If you are interested in working with me, please vist my website at DrRyanLee.com

Do you want to understand how survivors of religious trauma are finding the strength to reclaim their lives and make a difference? Join us as we explore a story of resilience, transformation, and healing in the face of religious abuse and domestic violence. We'll be sharing the solution so that you can achieve that result. Get ready to hear a shocking and moving story of how a survivor escaped when her life depended on it. Trauma took your past, but it does not have to have your present and your future, too. And you are the one in charge of that. - Tia Levings In this episode, you will be able to: Explore personal stories of escaping Christian patriarchy and find inspiration for your own journey to empowerment. Learn about the profound impact of religious trauma on mental health and discover strategies for healing and resilience. Uncover the complexities of domestic violence within religious contexts and gain insights into supporting survivors. Gain a deep understanding of deconstructing fundamentalism in modern politics and its implications on society. Discover effective strategies for healing and recovery from religious abuse, empowering yourself to move forward with strength and confidence. My special guest is Tia Levings Tia Levings is an insightful writer, podcaster, and speaker, with a focus on the realities of Christian fundamentalism, evangelical patriarchy, and religious trauma. Her expertise has been featured in notable publications such as Salon, the Huffington Post, and Newsweek. As a content strategist, Tia delves into the impact of religious trauma on mental health, domestic violence within religious contexts, and the deconstruction of fundamentalism in modern politics, shedding light on these critical issues. Her forthcoming memoir, "A Well Trained Wife," chronicles her personal journey of escaping Christian patriarchy, presenting a compelling and courageous narrative that promises to resonate with those seeking empowerment and healing from religious abuse. Tia's work is driven by her passion for advocating resilience and recovery from religious trauma. Tia is on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok The key moments in this episode are: 00:00:02 - Introducing Tia Levings 00:01:17 - Trigger Warning and Self-Care 00:02:25 - Growing Up in Mainstream Fundamentalism 00:05:22 - Trauma and Dogmatism 00:07:42 - Effects of Fundamentalism on Women 00:14:08 - The Influence of High Control Religion 00:15:34 - The Pressure of Traditional Gender Roles 00:16:55 - Red Flags and High Control Religion 00:20:47 - The Manipulative Nature of Patriarchy 00:25:53 - Addressing Pushbacks and Myths 00:27:34 - The Incredulity of Religious Trauma 00:28:22 - Challenges in Seeking Justice 00:29:26 - Empowering Survivors 00:32:35 - Finding Solidarity and Community 00:38:27 - Building Healthy Relationships 00:41:09 - The Impact of Religious Trauma 00:43:18 - Coping with Discomfort and Denial 00:44:50 - Healing from Religious Trauma 00:46:31 - Advocating for Survivors 00:53:18 - Taking Action and Making a Difference 00:56:22 - Understanding Mental Illness and Abuse 00:57:11 - Seeking Justice for Mica 00:57:45 - Supporting Victims of Domestic Violence 00:58:30 - Making a Difference 

While mainline denominations are seeing a overall decline in attendance, exvangelicals, a term that denotes former evangelical status, are part of a growing online community who are outspoken about why they've left the church. In Nashville, evangelical culture is everywhere — think Bible verses on your favorite donut store's boxes, prayer at social gatherings or the common practice of incorporating a gospel song into a set. With guest host Marianna Bacallao, we explore the experiences of exvangelicals in Nashville. Are the city's exvangelicals finding support from one another, and if so how? This episode was produced by Magnolia McKay. Guests: Marianna Bacallao (host), Reporter, WPLN Holly Meyer, religion news editor, Associated Press Rev. Diane Dowgiert, Reverend, First Unitarian Universalist Church of Nashville Mike Maeshiro, ex-pastor, consultant for queer and deconstructing Christians Heather Mae, artist, activist, and songwriter Eve, ex-evangelical content creator, and host of Chewed Gum Live Dr. Laura Anderson, therapist, religious trauma resolution coach & consultant, author of *When Religion Hurts You: Healing From Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion.* Further Reading and Listening Reorganized Religion by Bob Smietana and The Great Dechurching, by Jim Davis and Michael Graham. For more about dechurching trends in the United States, Pew Research released two studies fairly recently: In U.S., Decline of Christianity Continues at Rapid Pace and How the Pandemic Has Affected Attendance at U.S. Religious Services. Last fall, the AP released a report called, The Nones, about people who self-identify as “nonbelievers or unaffiliated with any organized religion.” You can find additional background coverage by listening to the past This is Nashville episodes: The growth of LGBT-affirming churches 1. *[The role of Black churches in Middle Tennessee](https://wpln.org/post/episodes/the-role-of-black-churches-in-middle-tennessee/)* 2. *[The Southern Baptist Convention report: What it means for abuse survivors and the faithful](https://wpln.org/post/episodes/southern-baptist-convention-sexual-abuse/)*

Ryan George grew up in an abusive independent fundamental Baptist church led by his father. In the conversation, Ryan discusses how he eventually left that church and the abuse of his father and started a journey of healing from the trauma of his upbringing. He talks about some of the unhealthy and abusive behaviors he experienced. He also talks about how he eventually found healthy church communities that helped him heal and come to know Jesus in a new way. We talk secure attachments, fear and faith, and adventure. So join us as we wade through destructive behavior and trauma and find our way out towards healthy, faith-filled communities centered on Jesus. Ryan George is the author of Scared to Life and Word on the Street. He's the blogger behind Explorience.org. He co-founded and co-leads Dude Group, a spiritualadventure community in the Blue Ridge Mountains where he lives with his wife,Crystal, and daughter, Deonnie.Ryan's Book:Hurt and Healed by the ChurchRyan's Recommendation:Will the Circle be Unbroken? by Sean DietrichConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Threads at www.facebook.com/shiftingculturepodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/shiftingculturepodcast/https://twitter.com/shiftingcultur2https://www.threads.net/@shiftingculturepodcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@shiftingculturepodcastConsider Giving to the podcast and to the ministry that my wife and I do around the world. Just click on the support the show link below.Support the show

Emily Maynard is a licensed therapist in southern California focusing on helping people heal from religious trauma and dysfunctional families. She loves reading books, baking, and swearing. Connect with Emily: Website: https://emilymaynardtherapy.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilymaynardlmft/ | Threads: https://www.threads.net/@emilymaynardlmft Connect with Maggie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hello_deconstructionists/ | Email: hello.decons@gmail.com Learn more about Amy's music: Amy's Website: ⁠⁠https://www.amyazzara.com/⁠ ⁠⁠ | Foray Music: ⁠⁠https://www.foraymusic.com/⁠⁠ | Amy's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/amyazzara/⁠ Transcript found here.

On this episode, I talk with Dr. Laura Anderson: therapist, trauma resolution and recovery coach, writer, educator, and creator, about her vast expertise in Religious Trauma. We shape the conversation around different facets of her newly published book: When Religion Hurts You: Healing From Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion. This is a subject I have wanted to discuss in depth on the show for quite some time, as healing from religious trauma has been a significant aspect of my own mental health journey. Laura and I discuss some of the nuances of religious trauma (such as purity culture, fundamentalism, and abusive dynamics of power and control) through the lens of our own personal experiences, but also broaden the discussion into psychoeducation about trauma in general, and dismantling some of the more common misnomers. I hope this conversation is helpful and healing to anyone who can relate.  CW: discussion of detailed themes of religious trauma throughout  Follow Laura's work and various projects here! ⁠⁠Psyche Magic Patreon, Website, Socials and more!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠NEW 1:1 Dream Coaching⁠⁠⁠! As a reminder, detailed show notes with all referenced material from the episode (as well as plenty of other fun bonus resources) are available to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribers! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jordan-hale1/message

Content warning: religious trauma & talk about triggersWelcome to the LAST guest episode of Mindful Minds!! As a little thank you, I have released my religious trauma sticker collection!! You buy the stickers on Etsy here!This week we have a super special guest. I am so excited to welcome Dr. Laura Anderson (she/her) to the podcast!! Dr. Laura's work has been so impactful in my personal deconstruction journey, and it was such an honor to have her on the show. Dr. Laura Anderson (PhD, Saybrook University; LMFT) is a therapist, trauma resolution and recovery coach, writer, educator, and creator who specializes in complex trauma with a focus on domestic violence, sexualized violence, and religious trauma. Laura has a private practice in Nashville, Tennessee, and is the founder and director of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery, an online coaching company where she and the other practitioners work with clients who have experienced high demand/high control religions, adverse religious experiences, cults, and religious trauma. In 2019, Laura cofounded the Religious Trauma Institute with the goal of providing trauma-informed resources, consultation, and training to clinicians and other helping professionals who work with religious trauma survivors. You can find Dr. Laura on social media at @drlauraeanderson , @traumaresolutionandrecovery , and @religioustraumainstitute . You can also visit her website. Dr Laura's new book, “When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion” is out now! Products & Services we LOVE:- Skouts Honor: We are HUGE fans of Skouts Honor. Their probiotic products saved our pup from SO much itchiness. If you use code MINDFULMINDS at checkout, you can get 20% off of a purchase of $50 or more! Keep those pups happy & itch free. - Buzzsprout: I started my show with NO podcast experience and Buzzsprout made it so easy. If you are looking to start a podcast, or find a new host, try Buzzsprout! Listeners will receive a $20 credit by using our link and you'll be supporting the show. Please rate us 5 stars and leave us a review! You can find all things Mindful Minds here. You can buy our sticker collection here. You can also follow us on Instagram (@mindfulmindspod) or on Tik Tok where I do a lot of deconstruction content (@mindfulmindspod). Join our brand new Facebook group!! Mindful Minds is owned and operated by Serafina. All content belongs to Serafina. Please feel free to contact us at mindfulmindspod@gmail.com for any and all questions, sponsorships, or guest requests!

This episode is sponsored by Better Help. Today we welcome Wise Jezebel and former fundie Dr. Laura Anderson to the ALBC huddle. She's a psychotherapist, podcaster, and smarty-pants content creator specializing in helping people come back from the sneaky scars of high control religion. She's also the author of the next book you need to read. Seriously. We cannot recommend it enough and it's called: When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion. Dr. Anderson is here with us to talk about her story, the ways and means of culty church trauma, and the non-linearity of the healing process. In case you need another reminder that toxic churches, some mainstream American religious communities, and even your culty as fuck personal development organization can be traumatizing: This episode is for you. Let the unpacking commence. NOTES:  Dr. Laura Anderson, PhD, LMFT is a therapist and trauma resolution and recovery coach in private practice specializing in complex and developmental trauma and the dynamics of power and control of culty religions. She's a writer and educator who specializes in religious trauma. She's founder and director of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery, an online coaching service for folks recovering from adverse religious experiences and cults. And she co-founded the Religious Trauma Institute, a training institute focused on helping the helpers in their trauma-informed healing work. You can listen to her on her own podcasts The Wise Jezebels and Sunday School Dropouts. She lives with her dog, Phoebe, in Nashville, Tennessee.   Find her online on her own website,  on her own podcasts The Wise Jezebels and Sunday School Dropouts,  on and social media: @drlauraeanderson: Instagram (also TikTok & FB),  @traumaresolutionandrecovery (IG & Facebook) @religioustraumainstitute (IG & Facebook) @wisejezebelspod (IG) @sundayschooldropoutspod (IG) Hashtags: #religioustrauma #whenreligionhurtsyou   Though our pod spans the culty religious fallout gamut, this one pairs well with the June two-parter Shiny Happy Wife: Tia Levings on Christian Fundamentalism (Tia Levings is co-host of The Wise Jezebels) and Leaving the Fold: Dr. Marlene Winell on Religious Trauma Syndrome. See also: Our episode about Attachment Theory with the deep and amazing Alexandra Stein. Also…Let it be known far and wide, loud and clear that…   The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad.   OTHER LINKS: Check out our lovely sponsors Join ‘A Little Bit Culty' on Patreon Get poppin' fresh ALBC Swag Support the pod and smash this link Cult awareness and recovery resources   CREDITS:  Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony Ames Production Partner: Citizens of Sound Producer: Will Retherford Co-Creator & Writer: Jess Tardy Theme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel Asselin  

Laura E. Anderson, PhD, was raised in a Christian family and experienced first hand what religious trauma is all about. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a Ph.D. in Mind Body Medicine from Saybrook University. She specializes in complex trauma, with a particular focus on domestic violence, sexualized violence, and religious trauma. Her new book is When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion. She founded and directs the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. She supports religious belief and involvement and wants people to be healthy. In this moment of religious extremism, her voice is a valued perspective. Learn more about Steven Hassan and Freedom of Mind Resource Center. Visit freedomofmind.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you're deconstructing with your middle-aged mom friends...and you get to a point where you're like, cool, I'm no longer a part of this religion, but how do I live now?Short answer: Howsoever you fucking want; but more specifically, it's something you get to work out with fear and trembling, just like you probably did with your own salvation.Join your fave apostates as they discuss what this strange post-pandemic peri-apocalyptic year has wrought - at least at a micro-level.

Frank Schaeffer In Conversation with Dr. Laura Anderson, PhD, LMFT, founder and director of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery, exploring the themes of her upcoming book, When Religion Hurts You._____LINKShttps://drlauraeanderson.com/book_____Dr. Laura Anderson (PhD, Saybrook University; LMFT) is a therapist, trauma resolution and recovery coach, writer, educator, and creator who specializes in complex trauma with a focus on domestic violence, sexualized violence and religious trauma. Laura has a private practice in Nashville, TN and is the founder and director of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery, an online coaching company where she and the other practitioners work with clients who have experienced high demand/high control religions, adverse religious experiences, cults, and religious trauma.In 2019, Laura co-founded the Religious Trauma Institute with the goal of providing trauma-informed resources, consultation, and training to clinicians and other helping professionals who work with religious trauma survivors. Laura's first book, When Religion Hurts You: Healing From Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion, is being released by Brazos press on October 17th, 2023. She lives with her dog, Phoebe, in Nashville, Tennessee._____I have had the pleasure of talking to some of the leading authors, artists, activists, and change-makers of our time on this podcast, and I want to personally thank you for subscribing, listening, and sharing 100-plus episodes over 100,000 times.Please subscribe to this Podcast, In Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer, on your favorite platform, and to my Substack, It Has to Be Said.Thanks! Every subscription helps create, build, sustain and put voice to this movement for truth.Subscribe to It Has to Be Said. Support the show_____In Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer is a production of the George Bailey Morality in Public Life Fellowship. It is hosted by Frank Schaeffer, author of Fall In Love, Have Children, Stay Put, Save the Planet, Be Happy. Learn more at https://www.lovechildrenplanet.comFollow Frank on Substack, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Threads, and YouTube. https://frankschaeffer.substack.comhttps://www.facebook.com/frank.schaeffer.16https://twitter.com/Frank_Schaefferhttps://www.instagram.com/frank_schaeffer_arthttps://www.threads.net/@frank_schaeffer_arthttps://www.youtube.com/c/FrankSchaefferYouTube In Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer PodcastLove In Common Podcast with Frank Schaeffer, Ernie Gregg, and Erin Bagwell

Dr. Laura Anderson, therapist, speaker and author of the new book When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion, sits down with Tim to discuss her book. Dr. Anderson explains her background and why she wrote her book. Tim and Dr. Anderson break down over-used psychological terms and how they should really be applied. They also discuss the difference between spiritual abuse and adverse religious events. Lastly, they discuss what factors create high-control religion and the tools to process the ramifications of that environment. Read Dr. Laura Anderson's Book Follow Us On Instagram @thenewevangelicals   Support Our Work Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Religious Trauma and High-Control Religion: An Interview with Anna Clark Miller, LPC, LMHC Curt and Katie interview Anna Clark Miller about religious trauma. We explore what religious trauma and high-control religions are. We look at common mistakes therapists can make when working with religious trauma survivors as well as what therapy and healing can look like for these folks. Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com! In this podcast episode, we talk about religious trauma and high-control religion We were interested to learn more about how therapists can support religious trauma survivors, so we reached out to an expert, Anna Clark Miller, to share her wisdom. What is religious trauma? ·      Complex trauma over a long period of time ·      Impacts to the nervous system ·      Traumatic beliefs about religion and the after life ·      Following rules and conforming to a religious group's idea of how someone should live What mistakes do therapists make when working with religious trauma survivors? ·      Therapists becoming the client's new spiritual authority ·      Clients using therapy to tell them how to think and live ·      Clients need to own themselves and their own minds, not work to please the therapist What does healing after leaving a “high control” religion look like? ·      The loss of so much, including social support, identity, etc. ·      Complex PTSD healing ·      How will I fit into the world? How will I talk with people? ·      Building hope for someone who is needing to completely remake their life and identity ·      The client needs to create a sense of safety within themselves ·      You can't “rip off the Band-Aid” with leaving a high control religious group ·      Helping clients with their judgment around their emotions (starting with observation before judging if it is good or bad) ·      Working with clients to examine their beliefs (over time) What is included in the treatment for religious trauma survivors ·      Noticing one's body ·      Exploring and reimagining healthy relationships ·      Identity work ·      Deconstruction of topics based on what the client is thinking, feeling, etc. ·      Addressing spiritual bypassing ·      Not just “mindfulness” due to concerns about secular psychology Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement: Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimagined Modern Therapist's Survival Guide Creative Credits: Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/ Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

This week I am joined by Dr. Laura E. Anderson to discuss religious trauma and the impact of high-control religion. Dr. Anderson has a new book called "When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion".  We hear a bit of Dr. Anderson's story, discuss trauma, religious trauma, adverse religious experiences and how we can begin to heal from such things. Religious trauma is trauma and Dr. Anderson provides helpful tools and resources to do the difficult work of healing. Enjoy! Resources: When Religion Hurts You (Book) Religious Trauma Institute Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery DrLauraAnderson.com

This week's guest is is Dr. Laura Anderson, author of the book When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion. We talk about the definitions of trauma and abuse, what drew her to this work, the importance of embodiment, and more. Find all the ways to follow Laura online at https://drlauraeanderson.com/ Support this podcast with a subscription to The Post-Evangelical Post newsletter. Subscribe for free or upgrade to $5/month or $50/year to get ad-free podcast feeds. Learn more at postevangelicalpost.com - As noted in the intro, I want to acknowledge that two days after my last episode was published, the war in Gaza began. I'm not the person to listen to in this moment. Here are some essays that have spoken to me and helped me understand this moment: "a lot of things are true." by Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg "Speech and Speechlessness," by Talia Lavin "The Children Are Ours," by Camille Hernandez Churches for Middle East Peace, October 12th letter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://www.postevangelicalpost.com/about

What do trauma, religion and the system of patriarchy have in common? You'll find out in this episode.  Join me as I sit down with Lindsay Poelman, my friend, and fellow coach who helps others become trauma-informed. You'll hear Lindsay's story of checking the societal boxes of education, marriage, family, and a good job that supposedly lead to security and a happy life and then through her journey from her husband's mental breakdown to her process of self-recovery, healing, and intuitive reclamation. She imparts how a trauma-informed approach has helped her reconnect with herself and navigate the complexities of life.Throughout our conversation we touch on trauma and grief enveloped in the lost expectation of what life should be. We also dive into high-demand/high-control religions and the system of patriarchy within those cultures touching on the internalized oppression and the revolutionary act of trusting our own knowing. We go from discussing the importance of compassionate self-recognition to the dangers of self-gaslighting and self-denial.  We explore the importance of creating a safe space for ourselves and others. The episode closes on a note of releasing generational trauma and embracing self-acceptance and healing. Don't miss this insightful episode where Lindsay shares her incredible journey and helps us understand the importance of being trauma-informed.Lindsay's website for more info.Lindsay's podcast.Lindsay's Instagram.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/Trauma-Religion-and-the-System-of-Patriarchy

Dr. Laura Anderson is a therapist, trauma resolution and recovery coach, writer, educator, and creator who specializes in complex trauma with a focus on domestic violence, sexualized violence and religious trauma. She holds a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and a PhD in Mind Body Medicine from Saybrook University with her research focusing on the experience of living in a healing body after sexual trauma. Laura has a private practice in Nashville, TN and is the founder and director of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery, an online coaching company where she and the other practitioners work with clients who have experienced high demand/high control religions, adverse religious experiences, cults, and religious trauma. Her Book: Book | Religious Trauma Expert (drlauraeanderson.com)In 2019, Laura co-founded the Religious Trauma Institute with the goal of providing trauma-informed resources, consultation, and training to clinicians and other helping professionals who work with religious trauma survivors. Laura's first book, “When Religion Hurts You: Healing From Religious Trauma and the Impact of High Control Religion”, is being released by Brazos press in Fall 2023. She lives with her dog, Phoebe, in Nashville, Tennessee.Connect with Dr. Laura Anderson on Instagram, and Tik Tok, Andrew's LinksBecome a Patreon member HERE and access all bonus episodes + other benefits. https://www.patreon.com/4ndrewpledgerConnect with Andrew Pledger through social media, and his website. https://andrewpledger.mypixieset.com/links Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Carissa Shaw pastor's kid and former pastor's wife who left behind a life of church work to pursue healing and finding who she is apart from who she was told she should be. On top of being an online food content creator, Carissa uses her platform on Instagram and Tiktok to share her journey of recovery from spiritual abuse, purity culture, Christian homeschooling, losing a parent to COVID, and more. She can be found at @carissaexplainsnothing26 on TikTok and Instagram and @CarissaExplainsNothing on Twitter.  

Today on the podcast we share our interview with the lovely Julia + Jeremiah of @sexvangelicals on the intersection of high-control religions and sexuality. We explore:

GrabTerina had an unique experience leaving the church. Going from devout Mormon to reading the Gospel Topic Essay's and two weeks later crying in her bishops office knowing she was  being done. Join me as I have a beautiful conversation with Terina, who is a life coach, as she shares some valuable tools that assisted her in her transition out of Mormonism. Grab my latest book, Leaving Religion a Guide! https://www.amazon.com/Leaving-Religion-Those-Leave-Behind/dp/1952566487/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1VJZLYGIDGFTI&keywords=leaving+religion+%26+those&qid=1654055556&sprefix=leaving+religion+%26+those%2Caps%2C180&sr=8-1To follow Terina:http://www.terinamaldonado.comhttps://www.instagram.com/terina_maldonado/https://www.facebook.com/HealEmpowerEducate https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTdt726Xv/https://www.linkedin.com/in/terina-maldonado-49129b201/Grab her book, Fear to Freedom: Stories of Triumph After Leaving a High Control Religion https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B08D89DNTY/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_3YH4KKX14D5WDRBMJAQ1

A discussion on how to remain empowered even when we are wrong (because, let's face it -- we're almost always wrong about something!)

Cyndi is a former Jehovah's Witness and today you are going to hear her talk about the painful cost she paid in leaving that religion, and the many wonderful things she has created – and is continuing to create – as a result of that pain. This is one of those interviews that reminds me why I do this whole podcsasting thing – because I have learned so much from so many people over the years – and there is always so much more to learn.   Like this whole thing that Cindy brings up about Heart Math – bringing balance between heart and mind - a tool that can help people better deal with conflict in life. That sounds like a pretty good tool, doesn't it? Did you know that questions themselves can be tools that work in similar ways?  Even having the freedom to ask questions – to explore the answers – and to keep on questioning and keep on exploring.   For example, some of the questions we ask and explore in this episode are: What are neurons?  What do they do in my brain?  What do they do in my heart? How do any of these neurons impact my daily life? How can I become more aware?  Once I am more aware, can I influence my neurons – could I learn to flex my neurons the way I flex my muscles?  What is Self-love, unconditional love – is love really actually  a real thing that actually exists?What happens when someone becomes a slave to their fears?What happens when someone learns to trust instead of only fear?   Is there a difference between shunning vs. showing tough loveWhat does it mean to live life on autopilot vs. taking control?  (Do you feel any heart-healing yet from any of these questions?) 

Is there really power in asking Questions? Do we all see the world through a unique lens? If we are looking at the world through a lens, is it really the world that we see, or the characteristics of that particular lens? Can stories, beliefs, and expectations be considered lenses?

Wendi Jensen is a life coach and author of "The Healing Question Guide: Relevant Questions to Ask the Mind to Activate Healing in the Body." In 2019 she started a Facebook group called "Empowered Former LDS." It is now 3.1k members strong. In today's episode, Wendi discusses her departure from the Mormon church and the healing empowering lessons she learned along the way.

Wendi shares her reflections on living an empowered like through the metaphor of a dragonfly

Wendi interviews Glenn about the healing aspects of humor

My guest today is Cyndi Markey who used to be a Jehovah's Witness. Did you know that Jahova's witnesses' cannot celebrate birthdays? They cannot socialize with people outside of their church family unless it's for work or school. Cyndi shares with me about how growing up women and children were to be seen and not heard. In High School Cyndi was able to take a class that was not an approved class from the church. She loved her teacher and he taught her critical thinking skills. She later received a scholarship but couldn't accept it as higher education was frowned upon. At 18 years old she met a guy that she loved and as nature would have it, they had sex. Cyndi was given a public reproof in front the of the church for her sin and if you were not shown to be sorry enough, you would be ex-communicated from the church. She had been told that if she disassociated herself before she was dis-fellowshiped that it would be better for her as she could still be with her family. She learned quickly that this was not the case, in fact this was much worse. Cyndi moved to Tennessee and her family followed her, she was stalked by her family and members of her church as they were trying to save her soul.  She moved from Tennessee to Arizona and then to Chicago to live with her grandmother. In Chicago she tried to establish some sort of normalcy. To her normalcy looked like establishing routines, getting a car, a job, getting friends and having a sense of community. As Cyndi tried to unpack the previous years of her life it was painful and she attempted to take her life at 21 years old. She later married a man, divorced and then had a few other marriages. She asked herself, "Why can't I find the keys to happiness?" This question propelled her into finding her healing. Cyndi breaks down finding happiness and yourself in 4 steps:1. Know Yourself2. Trust3. Teach4. Love SelfYour heart knows, Cyndi shares. Build your own resilience. Did you know there are more neurons in the heart than there are in your brain? Cyndi is now a heart math practitioner and shares some fascinating information about the power of the heart. Cyndi was an author on a book Fear to Freedom: Stories of Triumph After Leaving a High Control Religion. Get your copy today! https://www.amazon.com/Fear-Freedom-Stories-Triumph-Religion/dp/0228825652/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1647314520&sr=8-1To connect with Cyndi, visit her website: https://www.cyndimarkey.comAre you signed up for my emails yet? https://amandajoyloveland.mykajabi.com/optin?preview_theme_id=3223780Grab your tickets for my upcoming speakers symposium, Lean Into Your Light. https://www.amandajoyloveland.com/leanin

All too often, victims and survivors are left with zero answers and nowhere to turn. Join me as I discuss this topic with Licensed Therapist and Financial Literacy Coach Hannah Brown.

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