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What if friendship—not romance, not marriage—were the central relationship in your life?That's the question Rhaina Cohen asks in her book The Other Significant Others. And wow, do we love this book. David, TJ, and Elena sat down with Rhaina to talk about what it would mean to build a life around deep, committed friendship—and why our current relationship hierarchy (romantic > everything else) might be due for a rethink.Once you start centering friendship, it starts disrupting many other assumptions. We talked about: what it looks like to live near your friends, how parenting could look different, what happens when friends make commitments, when other people don't recognize those commitments, and whether secular folks should borrow a few ideas from monks.Join us and—if you haven't already—go read the book!About Our GuestRhaina Cohen is an award-winning editor for the NPR documentary podcast Embedded and the author of the national bestseller, The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center, which Trevor Noah described as "my new Bible." Her writing on social connection has appeared in The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Washington Post and has been supported by the National Endowment for the Humanities. Rhaina's recent TED talk on the untapped potential of friendship has been viewed more than half a million times. She lives in Washington, D.C. with her husband and close friends.—★ Timestamps(00:00) Why we were excited to interview Rhaina Cohen(04:17) Rhaina Cohen: "Reimagining life with friendship at the center"(10:27) Deconstruction and reconstruction: You can't be what you can't see(19:10) Live Near Friends(24:52) Conflicts in friendships: needing language, recognition(28:29) Parenting doesn't have to be exhausting(37:00) Can we TEACH better relationship skills?(41:33) Covenant relationships: "You can be committed to someone and not be sleeping with them"(47:04) Would secular people benefit from monastic models?(55:03) What's next? Monogamy, marriage vows, and more(01:01:52) Recommended readings from Rhaina and more—★ Links and References“A Grand Experiment in Parenthood and Friendship” by Rhaina Cohen (The Atlantic, 2025)Live Near Friends: livenearfriends.comSuper Nuclear: supernuclear.substack.comPlatonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends by Marissa Franco (2022)Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections by Anna Goldfarb (2024):Stay True, a memoir by Hua Hsu (2023)First Love: Essays on Friendship by Lily Dancyger (2024)Invisibilia (NPR) series on friendship, especially: Nun of Us Are Friends, Esther Perel gives Therapy with FriendsFollow Rhaina: Related on Substack, @RhainaCohen on InstagramTJ's Story (New Kinship episode #6): “TJ's Story | Dysphoria, Queerness, Contextualization, and Conviction”—★ Send us feedback, questions, comments, or support!Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship | Patreon: @newkinship—★ CreditsCreators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson, carlswensonmusic.com | Podcast Manager: Elena F. | Graphic Designer: Gavin Popken, gavinpopkenart.com ★ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newkinship.substack.com

Psychologist Dr. Marisa G. Franco, author of the book Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends talks about how to navigate honest conversations with friends from setting boundaries to expressing hurt, and offers advice on handling conflict with care. Listeners share their stories and ask questions about having difficult conversations about friendship.

It's the finale of friendship month, and Doree and Elise speak with return friendship expert Dr. Marisa Franco (author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends).They discuss how as you get older you raise the bar for friendship and focus on quality over quantity, giving your friends the chance to say “no” to you, navigating turmoil in your friendships by starting with curiosity, and why your friendships will really blossom when you stop predicting and start experiencing.To leave a voicemail or text for a future episode, reach Doree & Elise at 781-591-0390. You can also email the podcast at forever35podcast@gmail.com.Visit forever35podcast.com for links to everything they mention on the show or visit shopmyshelf.us/forever35.Follow the podcast on Instagram (@Forever35Podcast) and sign up for the newsletter at forever35podcast.com/newsletter. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a world that emphasizes romantic relationships, we explore the science of friendships in humans and our primate relatives—how we make them and how they not only influence health and happiness, but our survival. Episode Summary: Romantic love gets plenty of attention, but what about the friendships that sustain us through life's ups and downs? In this episode, we explore the science and significance of deep friendships, how they contribute to our mental and emotional health, and why they deserve just as much care as romantic relationships. We also discuss practical ways to strengthen friendships and rethink how we define meaningful connections.Scroll down for a transcription of this episode.This is part of our series The Science of Love, supported by The John Templeton Foundation.Sign up for The Science of Happiness podcast's 7-Day Love Challenge to receive these science-backed practices delivered directly to your inbox: tinyurl.com/7daylovechallengeToday's Guests:DR. MARISA G FRANCO is a psychologist and professor at The University of Maryland and author of the book “Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make – and Keep – Friends.”Learn more about Dr. Marisa G Franco here: https://drmarisagfranco.com/Follow Marisa on Instagram: @drmarisagfrancoDR. LAUREN BRENT is an evolutionary biologist and professor at the University of Exeter. She studies the ecological and evolutionary basis of social relationships and networks.Learn more about Lauren Brent here: http://www.laurenbrent.com/Related The Science of Happiness episodes:  36 Questions to Spark Love and Connection: https://tinyurl.com/ktcpz78uHow 7 Days Can Transform Your Relationship: https://tinyurl.com/bdh2ezhrWhy We Need Friends With Shared Interests: https://tinyurl.com/bp8msacjRelated Happiness Breaks:A Meditation on Love and Interconnectedness: https://tinyurl.com/ye6baxv3A Guided Meditation on Embodied Love: https://tinyurl.com/3dmpfam6Visualizing Your Best Self in Relationships: https://tinyurl.com/4797z2vfTell us about your experience building lasting friendships. Email us at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or follow on Instagram @HappinessPod.Help us share The Science of Happiness! Leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts and share this link with someone who might like the show: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapTranscription to come.

We've had a lot of focus on this show leading into Election 2024 about the state of the country and the deep divides that we're seeing in society.  We're grateful to and for everyone who worked to ensure that democracy worked in early November. AND, given the election results, we know that these divides still exist and have the ability to grow even deeper.    What can we do about that? One step that we can take right now is to examine how we talk to each other, to better connect. So today, we focus on the good stuff - building community, nurturing friendships, and coming together with a lot of meaning and joy. And given who we are, of course, we don't just do it alone - we do it in partnership with a leading psychologist who specializes in developing friendships, showcased in her NYT bestselling book Platonic, and who - alongside us in our multi-racial identities, also has personal experience driving her desire to help more of us understand how to belong, and find those connections in the world.    Listen for so many scientific frameworks about: The importance of friendships - because so many of us make them less of a priority! Three types of loneliness: intimate, relational, and collective How adults make friends Nurturing our existing friendships What we need to consider when building relationships with those different than us Action items:  Reflect on what is truly meaningful and important in your life, and be intentional about making time for those things. Consider evaluating your existing friendships and community based on factors like authenticity, energy exchange, and shared values. Be brave and put in the effort to make new friends, even if it feels uncomfortable at first - i.e. get over our overt and covert avoidance! Explore internal work to develop a stronger sense of self, which can help in tolerating and nurturing healthy relationships. About our guest:    An enlightening psychologist, TED speaker, and New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Marisa G Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities.  For tips on friendship, you can follow her on Instagram (DrMarisaGFranco), or go to her website,www.DrMarisaGFranco.com, where you can take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend & reach out for speaking engagements.  

Trudy and Lisa turn their eyes to the ebb and flow of relationships as they navigate absent loved ones and changing friendships over time. Read our blog: CroneCast.caShare your questions and comments at https://cronecast.ca/contact.  We want to hear from you about all things crone.--Chapters--(00:00) - Intro (03:59) - Cycles (09:37) - Grace (15:01) - Reciprocity (17:14) - Ebbs + Flows (22:03) - Stages (24:44) - Shared Experiences (29:36) - Close --References--    Franco, Marisa G. (2022) Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends. G. P. Putnam's Sons. New York, US.--Credits—Hosted by Trudy Callaghan and Lisa Austin Produced by Odvod MediaAudio Engineering by Steve GlenOriginal music by Darrin Hagen

Hey friends! Welcome to Girls' Night! Okay, friends, today's episode is going to look a little different than usual! While getting settled in Spain these past few weeks, I haven't had as much time to record new Girls Night episodes, although that will be changing VERY soon now that I have my little podcast studio set up in our apartment!  In the meantime, over the next few weeks, I thought this would be a great time to pull some of our favorite episodes out of the Girls Night archive. This is the perfect time to catch up on episodes you might have missed, or listen again to old favorites. Today, we're revisiting a conversation I had with the incredible Dr. Marisa G. Franco where we talked about making and keeping friendships!  Marisa wrote a book called,  Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends. Marisa is a brilliant psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author. She is known for digesting and communicating the science of human connection in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. Here are just a few of the things she's going to teach us in the episode: Why friendship is essential no matter what stage of life you're in How to not only make new friendships but also keep our friendships What an attachment style is and how we can figure out what ours is How to make new friends as an adult and improve the quality of our friendships And so much more! If you've been desiring deeper connections in your friendships, you're in the right place. Marisa seriously has an abundance of knowledge to share with us on this topic – I can't wait for you to hear from her! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Greetings Glocal Citizens! This week we're going full circle with Zimbabwean-American, Vimbo Watson. Born in Zimbabwe, Vimbo's family relocated to the US before she spoke her first words. Nonethless, her mother tongue has remained in her heart and has been a foundational part of fullfilling a life-long passion to uplift people and especially those ini need back home. After a career in education as a teacher and principal, she's now applying her administrative talents as the Director of Development for Kuda Vana Partnership (https://www.kudavana.org) an American-Zimbabwean non-profit operating a children's home and school in Zimbabwe. A passionate speaker and professional development provider she often translates her enthusiasm for learning and education into teaching others how to make time for wellness and self-care in their daily lives. Where to find Vimbo? On LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/vimbo/) On Instragram (https://www.instagram.com/vimbowatson/) On Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/vimbowatson) On Youtube (https://www.youtube.com/@VimboVivien/featured) What's Vimbo reading? Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (https://a.co/d/3M4FuOe) by Marisa G. Franco PhD Atomic Habits (lin https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits) by James Clear Drowning (https://a.co/d/a9sRbeu) and other books by T.J. Newman (https://tjnewmanauthor.com) Books by Brené Brown](https://brenebrown.com) The Art of Gathering (https://www.priyaparker.com/book-art-of-gathering) by Priya Parker The Lazy Genius Way (https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com) by Kendra Adachi Other topics of interest: Mutare, Zimbabwe (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mutare) Clans and Totems in Zimbabwean Culture (https://beingafrican.com/clans-totems-in-shona-culture/#:~:text=Referred to as Mutupo in,believed to be your totem.) On Trauma-focused Therapy (https://www.verywellmind.com/trauma-therapy-definition-types-techniques-and-efficacy-5191413) Special Guest: Vimbo Watson.

Radical advice on rethinking success, individualism, and the American dream.Mia Birdsong is a pathfinder, culture change visionary, and futurist. She is the founding Executive Director of Next River, a think tank and culture change lab for interconnected freedom. In her book How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community, Mia maps swaths of community life and points us toward the promise of our collective vitality. In this episode we talk about:How to build communityWhat it looks like in her own lifeMutuality vs reciprocity How to work with resentment and rejection The etymological connection between friendship and freedom The transformative power of asking for helpAnd why she thinks the idea of bootstrapping—or going it alone—is a kind of self-hatredRelated Episodes:How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends | Dr. Marisa G. FrancoThe Many Benefits of a “Paradox Mindset” | Dolly Chugh. Ten Percent HappierEscape From Zombieland | Koshin Paley Ellison — Ten Percent Happier An Uncomfortable (But Meaningful) Conversation About Race | Lama Rod OwensSign up for Dan's weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/mia-birdsongSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#230: We've heard the term “girl's girl” before and understand what in means in theory to support other women. But what does it actually look like putting it to practice?Today I have the pleasure of sitting down Dr. Joy Harden Bradford. Dr. Joy is a licensed psychologist and the host of the award-winning podcast Therapy for Black Girls. We have an in-depth conversation on sisterhood, why community is vital for our well-being, and how to create meaningful connections with other women in our lives.We Also Talk About…What inspired Dr. Joy to become a licensed psychologist and create Therapy for Black GirlsWhy female friendships are beneficial to our healthThe differences between friendship, community, and sisterhood and why they aren't interchangeableHigh-maintenance vs. Maintenance friends and the role of reciprocityHow attachment styles shows up in friendshipsThe benefits of intergenerational friendshipsNormalizing therapy and exploring different types of therapeutic modalitiesResources:Follow Dr. Joy on Instagram @hellodrjoyListen to the Therapy for Black Girls podcastListen to the “What Does It Mean to Be A Girl's Girl?” episode on Therapy for Black GirlsNeed someone to talk to? Check out the Therapy for Black Girls Directory to find a therapist near youJoin the Therapy for Black Girls Sister CircleRead Dr. Joy's book “Sisterhood Heals: The Transformative Power of Healing in Community”Read “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends” by Dr. Marisa G. FrancoKeep in touch with Balanced Black Girl:Watch on YouTube @BalancedBlackGirlFollow on IG: @balancedles @balancedblackgirlpodcastFollow on TikTok @balancedlesVisit our website at balancedblackgirl.comSubscribe to our newsletter, Mirror NotesSponsors:Nike | Find your feel with Nike Bras & Legging that deliver supportive flexibility and comfort for whatever your day brings. Shop now at Nike.comMaidenform | Visit www.maidenform.com and use code BBG20 at checkout for 20% off your first purchase.Alo Moves | Unlock your personal wellness routine with Alo Moves. Visit alomoves.com and use code BALANCED30 for an exclusive 30-day free trial and enjoy 20% off an annual membership.Delta | Delta Air Lines helps you feel at home, even if you're 30,000 feet above it. Learn more at delta.com.Nurx | Nurx provides reliable reproductive and sexual health that's accessible right from home – no judgement or stigma attached. Go to nurx.com/balancedles to get started. Results may vary. Not offered in every state. Medications prescribed only if clinically appropriate, consultation required.Vionic Shoes | The Vionic Vitals collection has the best essential styles for everyday wear to get you ready for the season. Use code BALANCEDLES at checkout for 15% off your entire order at vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. One-time use only.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Psychologist Marisa Franco is an expert on friendship and talks with Maya about research-backed strategies to make new friends, deepen our existing relationships, and navigate friend breakups. This conversation was one of our most popular ones and so we've decided to revisit it during a time when it's been hard to feel connected to others. We'll be back in March with new episodes!  For more on Marisa's work, check out her book, “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends." Sign up for Maya's new newsletter here https://bit.ly/41lPqaZ and follow her on instagram @DrMayaShankar.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Meg and Lindsay chat with Crystal Britt, a licensed clinical social worker and actual therapist about the famed book, ‘The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts' by pastor (NOT therapist) Gary Chapman. We talk about how the Five Love Languages are reductive, gendered, and heteronormative and how there are many better resources for communication in relationships. Christians especially love this read and recommend the Five Love Languages as if the Lord himself wrote this book. Why is that? Welp, we get into it with the lovely Crystal Britt throughout this episode. (Spoiler alert: it's the misogyny.)Follow Crystal Everywhere@itscrystalbritt Podcast: Time To LeanRecommended:Bell Hooks:  All About Love The Gottman's:  7 Principles for Making a Marriage Work Dr. Rachel Vanderbuilt on TikTok - Queer FocusDr. Stan Tatkin:  Wired For LoveEmily Nagoski, Ph.D.:  Come As You Are & Come TogetherJessica Fern:  Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual NonmonogamyMarisa G. Franco PhD:  Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--FriendsFresh Starts Registry - A resource place to share your post-divorce needsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Friendship is essential to a remarkable life. Peter McGraw believes it is time to elevate friendship, and in that vein, he invites Marisa Franco to talk about the topic. Marisa is the New York Times bestselling author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends. What do you think of the conversation? Join the Solo community and let Peter know: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://www.petermcgraw.org/solo/

Calling all the girlies who want to level up this year– you have been officially summoned. It's time to enter into your successful era!The successful era is all about recommitting to the habits, routines, and lifestyles that make you feel happy, healthy, thriving, and most importantly, like the best version of you!From wellness to finances, I'm helping you map out your year of success and make growth your new best friend.I also talk about…How to create your own definition of successKey ways to maintain successThe relationship between success and consumerismPersonal branding and living up to your fullest potentialNot focusing on goals, but on the attributes you haveResourcesListen to my episode with Jodie Taylor called “The Ultimate Glow Up: How to Level Up in Your Career and Life”Listen to my episode with Dr. Marisa Franco called "Intimacy in Friendships: Having Healthier Friendships and Making Friends As An Adult”Read “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends” by Dr. Marisa FrancoRead “Reach Out**:** The Simple Strategy You Need to Expand Your Network and Increase Your Influence” by Molly BeckDownload the Copilot app to track your financesWatch The Wealth Planner with Katie hereHave a question you want answered on an upcoming episode? You can share them anonymously with me here.What are you focusing on in your successful era? Leave a comment under my latest Instagram post!Keep in touch with Balanced Black Girl:Follow on IG: @balancedles @balancedblackgirlpodcastFollow on TikTok @balancedlesVisit our website at balancedblackgirl.comSubscribe to our newsletter, Mirror NotesSponsorsOpen | Get 30 days of free meditation, breathwork, and movement classes with Open. Visit www.withopen.com/balancedlesElastique Athletics offers self-care you can wear. Visit elastique.co and use code “BALANCEDLES” for 20% off your first order.Thrive Market offers affordable healthy grocery items and supplements at the best prices. Visit thrivemarket.com/balancedles for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week I'm kicking things off with a life update before going into big sister mode and answering your questions on how to navigate exes coming back, finding the right friend group, your most wanted advice on how to get through your 20s, and more.Have a question you want answered on an upcoming episode? You can share them anonymously with me here.I also talk about…My Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T and life updatesResourcesListen to How to Get Unstuck: My 25 by 25 Case Study episodeListen to Intimacy In Friendships: Having Healthier Friendships and Making Friends As An Adult episodeRead Reach Out: The Simple Strategy You Need to Expand Your Network and Increase Your InfluenceRead Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Dr. Marisa FrancoRead Songs of Irie by Asha BromfieldRead The Neighbor Favor by Kristina ForestDownload the Alive App for workout programs and moreShop all my beauty favorites hereNeed holiday gift ideas? Check out my 2023 holiday gift guideKeep in touch with Balanced Black Girl:Follow on IG: @balancedles @balancedblackgirlpodcastFollow on TikTok @balancedlesVisit our website at balancedblackgirl.comSubscribe to our newsletter, Mirror NotesSponsors:Try Notion AI for free when you go to Notion.com/balancedOpen | Need a daily routine? Get 30 days FREE withopen.com/BALANCEDLES Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do friendships change as we get older? Should you join a bowling league? And also: how does a cook become a chef? RESOURCES:“Social Support From Weak Ties: Insight From the Literature on Minimal Social Interactions,” by Joshua Moreton, Caitlin S. Kelly, and Gillian Sandstrom (Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 2023).Join or Die, documentary (2023).“I Tried Bumble BFF for 30 Days — Here's What Happened,” by Beth Gillette (The Everygirl, 2022).Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends, by Marisa Franco (2022).“Grocery Store Opens ‘Chat Registers' for Lonely Customers,” by Gabriel Geiger (Vice, 2021).“The State of American Friendship: Change, Challenges, and Loss,” by Daniel A. Cox (Survey Center on American Life, 2021).“Number of Close Friends Had by Adults in the United States in 1990 and 2021,” by Michele Majidi (Survey Center on American Life, 2021).“You're Not Uncool. Making Friends as an Adult Is Just Hard,” by Peter O'Dowd and Kalyani Saxena (WBUR, 2021)."My Restaurant Was My Life for 20 Years. Does the World Need It Anymore?" by Gabrielle Hamilton (The New York Times Magazine, 2020).“Why You Miss Those Casual Friends So Much,” by Gillian Sandstrom and Ashley Whillans (Harvard Business Review, 2020).“The Bros Who Met Their BFFs on Bumble,” by Rebecca Nelson (GQ, 2016).“Sex Differences in Social Focus Across the Life Cycle in Humans,” by Kunal Bhattacharya, Asim Ghosh, Daniel Monsivais, Robin I. M. Dunbar, and Kimmo Kaski (Royal Society Open Science, 2016).Blood, Bones & Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef, by Gabrielle Hamilton (2011).“Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review,” by Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Timothy B. Smith, and J. Bradley Layton (PLoS Medicine, 2010).Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community, by Robert Putnam (2000).The Great Good Place: Cafes, Coffee Shops, Bookstores, Bars, Hair Salons, and Other Hangouts at the Heart of a Community, by Ray Oldenburg (1999).Character Lab.EXTRAS:“How Much Are the Right Friends Worth?” by People I (Mostly) Admire (2022).“Is It Weird for Adults to Have Imaginary Friends?” by No Stupid Questions (2022).“How Much Do Your Friends Affect Your Future?” by No Stupid Questions (2020).“Is There Really a ‘Loneliness Epidemic'?” by Freakonomics Radio (2020).Tell Me Something I Don't Know (2017).

Anita wouldn't have made it through her 20s without her work friends. But now that she's a manager and working in a hybrid office, she's noticed that work friendships don't come as easily as they used to. A psychologist answers her burning workplace relationship questions and dives into the surprising amount of data about work besties. Plus, a Gen Z writer urges her to re-think the importance of work as a primary social hub. Meet the guests: - Dr. Marisa G. Franco, a psychologist and author of "Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends," shares the benefits of a work bestie and talks about why employers are invested in these positive relationships in the workplace - Katherine Hu, assistant editor at The Atlantic, talks about how her generation is navigating the social scene at work Read the transcript | Review the podcast Follow Embodied on Twitter and Instagram Leave us a message for an upcoming episode here!

Hey friends, we are back with another episode in our For the Love of Community & Friendships, and we happen to have a true friend of the show returning to lay down some expertise about what it means to make and keep friends. We're delighted to have Dr. Marisa Franco, (who also partnered with Jen to create a MeCourse on Friendship) who delves into the fascinating world of friendship attachment styles. Dr. Franco shares her extensive knowledge and insights on how our attachment styles, often formed during our early years, can significantly influence the type of friendships we form as adults. She discusses the three main types of attachment styles—secure, avoidant, and anxious—and explains how understanding our own style can help us navigate our friendships more effectively. Jen and Marisa touch on: How the three main types of attachment styles can change over time as we typically become more secure as we mature How, when we're younger, we tend to have more friends (and friends who are very similar to us) as we look to expand our identity, and when we become more solid in our identity, we're more open to be friends with people who are different from us Why friendship doesn't just typically “happen,”--it takes effort, and some ways you can put yourself out there to make new friends, and how to do the work to keep the friends you already have How to approach conflict in friendship where we kindly share our needs with a spirit of reconciliation over an attitude of defensiveness  * * * Thank you to our sponsors! Chime | Visit chime.com/forthelove to learn how you can benefit from using Chime! FOCL | Visit https://focl.com/ and use code FORTHELOVE at checkout for 20% off of your purchase Jen Hatmaker BookClub | Visit jenhatmakerbookclub.com and use code READ at checkout $5 off your purchase!   Thought-Provoking Quotes: “If you don't understand your attachment style, you think that the world is just mean and cruel and people are gonna reject you or people are going to betray you. If you're more avoidant and you don't have any power, you don't have any agency because all the issues are out in the world.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “I think if we can understand our attachment styles, we have more agency, we have more control, we can shift our behaviors and we can find the relationships that we really want.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “People are a lot more likely to be friends with people that are similar to them. It's called homophily. The value of these similar relationships is they do make us feel very safe.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “We see in the research that people who see friendship as happening without effort are more likely to be lonely five years later. People that see it as requiring effort are less likely to be lonely five years later.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “What we see in the research is that when people try to reconnect with someone, that person is happier to receive that reconnection than we predict.” - Dr. Marisa Franco  “In a healthy conflict, I think of; what does this conflict look like without blame? What if I go into here not trying to blame this person, not trying to even assume that they were trying to intentionally hurt me. So then, how do I navigate it with that being what's going on in my head?” - Dr. Marisa Franco Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Platonic How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends a book by Dr. Marisa Franco Guest's Links: Dr. Franco's Website  Dr. Franco's Instagram  Dr. Franco's Facebook Dr. Franco's Twitter Dr. Franco's Psychology Today Connect with Jen! Jen's website Jen's InstagramJen's Twitter Jen's FacebookJen's YouTube

I have the best, most loyal friends from different parts of my life but I'll be honest, the idea of making NEW friends makes my pits sweat. I'm in my late forties, but even thinking about making new friends and all of a sudden I'm thrust back into my middle school when a group of girls made fun of me for walking into their circle and introducing myself. On the podcast this week, Penn and I spoke to Dr. Marisa G. Franco, a friendship expert who wrote the book “Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends.” She explained why friendship is essential at every stage of life, and friends can help you discover a totally new side of yourself. We dive deep into the science of friendship, trends between men and women, and how you can apply these same concepts to having healthy relationships with family. Dr. Franco shares one thing you can do right now to make friends—and it's probably not what you think.PS. - You can get our an exclusive version of our game, Family Faceoff, at TARGET! Ask a question or just say hi, by calling 323-364-3929 or emailing us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review!Shop Our MerchPlay Our GameGrab Our BookJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race.The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino.Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on Facebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I welcome an enlightening psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Marisa G. Franco! She is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice.  In this episode, we dive into friendship and attachment, the very real challenges we all experience around friendships and why we might be experiencing them, PLUS pro tips on how to initiate new friendships as an adult and keep them intimate, nourishing, and lasting. Listen now on your favourite podcast app, on Youtube or at markgrovespodcast.com Discover: Why we devalue friendships and only focus on connection through romantic relationships Friendships with attachment theory applied and how it can help us be better friends How men and women approach relationships differently and the stigmas that need to be broken around that How to make and keep friends 00:00 Intro  01:19 Why do we devalue friendships? 03:46 Friendships and attachment styles 10:17 Friendships and conflict 12:40 Friends helped us to grow 17:35 Friendships between men and women 22:40 Male and female group behavior  24:34 Are we in a masculine-friendly culture? 26:53 Friendships and attractions 29:58 The fear of vulnerability 33:24 Skills you need to make and keep friends 36:20 Building connections and initiating friendships 44:56 How to maintain relationships Links: Dr. Franco's Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/ Instagram: @DrMarisaGFranco - https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Website: http://www.DrMarisaGFranco.com Sponsors: Manna Vitality | Use code Mark20 for 20% off at mannavitality.com Primally Pure | Use code MARKGROVES for 15% off sitewide at primallypure.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode #63 with Dr. Marisa G. FrancoConflicts in friendships can feel so daunting, but sometimes we have to tell friends they've let us down rather than distancing ourselves and ignoring calls and texts. (A tactic too many of  us use.) Here to help is Dr. Marissa G Franco, author of the instant NYT bestseller, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends. Dr. Franco will help us learn what to say to friends when there's conflict and how to hear it when friends are upset with us, too. We also delve into attachment theory and its significance in understanding our emotions and behaviors in friendships.The summer (virtual) gathering of the Dear Nina Book Club is coming on July 24th at 7PM CST. I'd love to see you!This time we're discussing---Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Marisa G. Franco, Ph.D. Sign up at ninabadzin.com/bookclub/Meet Dr. Marisa G. FrancoAn enlightening psychologist and national speaker, Dr. Marisa G Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and her forthcoming book Platonic: How The Science of AttachmentCan Help You Make—and Keep—Friends debuts with Penguin Random House in September 2022. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities across the country, including Harper Collins Publishers, Cisco, American Association for the Advancement of Science, and The Department of State. On her Instagram (DrMarisaGFranco), you can find more friendship tips, and on her website, www.DrMarisaGFranco.com, you can find a free quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend.Let's connect over all things friendship! Here's my Substack newsletter about friendship & more Dear Nina website with show notes and a guide to pitching yourself as a guest Instagram & TikTok Twitter JOIN the Dear Nina Facebook group Ask an anonymous question Next Virtual Book Club Meetings

Dr. Marisa Franco (Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends) and Justin talk about the importance of developing and maintaining strong platonic friend connections, why our society seems to prioritize romantic relationships above others, and how our upbringing impacts the attachment styles we have as adults. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join us as we chat about the skills you need to make and keep friends, especially as an adult. These include showing initiative, being vulnerable, and demonstrating affection. Sandy has been learning some more life hacks on Instagram, and we also learn that Henny is turning over a new leaf these days! Check out the episode to learn more!   **Show Notes** Book we mentioned: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make - and Keep - Friends by Marisa G. Franco

Franco is the author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends.'

It's a mistake to prioritize romantic and familial relationships over friendship, argues psychologist Dr. Marisa Franco. Strong, supportive friendships expand our sense of self, she says, and are associated with greater well-being and health. Marisa offers research-based strategies to make new friends and deepen our existing friendships, including helpful concepts like mutuality and the mere-exposure effect. Marisa and Maya also discuss how to stay friends through big life changes, why fighting could make your friendship stronger, and how to break up with a friend with clarity and kindness. For more on Marisa's work, check out her book, “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends."See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it really take to feel better in friendship? Often, we imagine it will require a ginormous effort on our part. But the truth is that it's often simpler than we think. In this episode, I'll be sharing the 3 things that can quickly take you from feeling meh about your friendship life, to feeling really good. SHOWNOTES: https://www.theconnectedmomlife.com/90 MENTIONS: Our Mom Friends Community Opens April 24thJoin the Waitlist for a Special Discount Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends Quiz: What's Standing Between You and the Circle You Crave? WANT MORE EPISODES? Subscribe to the Connected Mom Life #RealTalk PRIVATE Podcast! You'll support the show and enjoy a candid look of the ups and downs of building a community from scratch-ish as a busy working mom. Plus enjoy extended guest interviews and responses to your most pressing connection and friendship challenges. LET'S CONNECT! Instagram @theconnectedmomlife Join our Circle of Mom Friends  ARE YOU A FAN OF THE PODCAST?If you loved today's episode, would you head to your favorite podcast app and leave a rating and review? The more ratings and reviews the podcast gets, the more moms will be in-the-know that we can stop "playing it cool" and actually connect!

I think vulnerability is your sexiest quality. To be powerful enough to be weak says a lot about a person.  I read a lot of quotes from the book, "Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends" by Marisa G. Franco Ph.D.". Great book. Thanks for listening - continue to rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast!  FOLLOW JASMINE ON SOCIAL MEDIA:https://www.instagram.com/all.jas/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/thejasmineshow_/?hl=en

One of my friends had their birthday this week and that got me thinking about one of my favourite subjects lately; adult friendships. This coincided with me listening to a really insightful compilation of ideas about adult friendships on Blinkist called Finding and Nurturing Adult Friendships. So while my mind's on this, let's talk about friendships. Psychologist Marisa Franco, author of “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends”, gave a Ted Talk in which she made a point that really stuck with me: The thing that's particularly difficult about adult friendships is that, unlike in childhood, it doesn't happen organically. It takes effort. We're not used to this because our entire friendship paradigm is modelled around how we did it as kids. When you're an adult, there are no occasions that create organic communities for you, you have to make that happen yourself by prioritising it. When you were a child, you had to go to school every day, and many things at school would force you to interact with other people, from group projects to sports and everything in between. As an adult, you can live completely disconnected from others. Sure many of us have to go to work, but you don't have to talk to anyone at work and even if you do there's no incentive or obligation to befriend anyone. Since I've already shared a great guide and book on how to make and nurture friendships, I want to close the loop with the guide to losing all your friends. Then, equipped with all the knowledge, you'll be better at making your own choices. What if you were tired of all the friendships you have and you want to know how to lose friends instead? But you want to be so clinical about it that people choose to leave you of their own accord. The following is a non-exhaustive guide to driving everyone away. Sidenote: With it being the end of February when most of us are falling off our new year's resolutions, I don't want to give you yet another difficult thing to do. Unlike many other how-to guides out there, you'll find that you have to put very little effort into being good at many of these points. In fact, you're probably already quite proficient at some of them. Anyway, here's how to make everyone you know and love slowly drift away from you. 1 Talk only about yourself. The first thing you need to do is develop a strong tendency to steer any conversation back to the topic of yourself. This shouldn't be too difficult, you have lots of topics to choose from; what do you have going on in your life? Your dreams and aspirations? What are you excited about? What's something terrible that happened to you last week? Why waste any time talking about anything else when you have all this about yourself you can talk to people about? Get used to the idea of getting into monologues about yourself. If you're really proficient, you'll even master the art of steering every discussion topic to eventually be about you. Now that will really make talking to you an agonising experience. If the other person is not talking about you, then don't pay attention to what they are saying. Use that time to think about the next thing you'll say about yourself. If you're listening do it only to spot cues where you can jump in with an interesting segue to the time when the same thing happened to you. When your friend is telling you about something going on in their life? Never miss the opportunity to bring up a relatable situation that happened to you and focus on that. Don't ask them questions either—unless they're about you. Always be the one who answers questions. Do not, under any circumstances, give people the impression that you are interested in them or what they have going on.2 Spill the tea on other people. I know, I know. You obviously can't talk about yourself the whole time, even you won't enjoy that. So take breaks from it by talking about mutual friends and acquaintances. Not in the way you talk about yourself though. No! That would ruin your progress. When you talk about other people, be sure to focus only on their most negative qualities. Never miss a chance to voice your dissatisfaction and disapproval of their behaviour, their life choices, their fashion sense, etc. you get the idea. When you know something wrong that someone did, spill the tea, even if it's none of your business. The key here is to make it clear to everyone that you're not someone who roots for people who don't deserve it, according to your standard. Then make sure to set that standard impossibly high. Bonus points if you can do this while clarifying that you're highlighting their negatives because you want to see them do and be better. You want to be known as someone who's critical and generally disapproving of the people around you and you aren't afraid to voice it. 3 Don't be helpful. Never extend your hand to help another person. Don't waste your time lending a hand to those in need. Your own problems should always take precedence, and you should avoid contributing to your community of friends at all costs. Make sure to dodge any responsibility or labour, and let others do the heavy lifting while you take the credit. Keep your talents to yourself and never share them with others. Imagine you're at a party and the music suddenly stops because there's something wrong with the computer. As the resident computer expert, everyone turns to you for help. Don't be a hero - refuse their pleas and watch the party spiral into chaos. After all, you're not a plaything to be used and abused by those around you.4 Be a pessimistIf you want to be the life of the party, make sure to bring your dark cloud of pessimism with you. It's the perfect accessory to make everyone around you feel like they're drowning in a sea of negativity.When your friend is telling you about their promotion, don't celebrate with them. Instead, remind them that there's always a chance they'll get fired. When your sister is excited about her new haircut, make sure to tell her how much better she looked before. And when your co-worker presents a new idea, shoot it down immediately and tell them all the ways it could fail.Pessimism is like a gift that keeps on giving. It's the ultimate buzzkill that ensures that everyone around you is constantly reminded of all the things that could go wrong. So the next time you're at a party, be sure to remind everyone that the world is a terrible place, and there's no hope for humanity.And don't forget to add a healthy dose of complaining to your pessimism. Nothing says "I'm a joy to be around" like constantly whining about the temperature, the traffic, and the sorry state of your back.Always find something to complain about. Call yourself a realist, even though in reality you're a pessimist. 5 Be closed-minded Be confident in your beliefs and don't be swayed by others' opinions.Now that you have a strong dose of pessimism, assume that whatever information you have at the present moment is the gold standard. It's better than whatever anyone else has been told. If someone tries to share their perspective on life with you, be default against it, even before you know what it is. It's not what you think, so it's probably wrong. Whenever it turns out that you were right about something, make sure to make everyone know that you were right and they were wrong and they should listen to you next time. Assume that because you read it in a book or heard it on the news, then it must be true. Never create a space for dialogue. Don't talk about the nuances of a situation, but stay fixated on the negatives. Don't let anyone influence you. Hold on with an iron grip on whatever you believe in right now and guard it with your life. 6 Forget humility - you're the best, and everyone should know it.Maintain a constant facade that you are blameless and perfect. Refuse to acknowledge any potential shortcomings or mistakes, and instead focus solely on promoting your own virtues and talents. Allow your ego to consume you and bask in the glory of your own greatness.Never look at a situation objectively and be blissfully unaware of your flaws. If you do find some flaws, hide them at all costs. You can't let anyone realise that you're not the most perfect human being. A great way to demonstrate to people that they can never get close to you is to never show any kind of weakness or vulnerability. This will help you to not be relatable whatsoever, again a perfect human being. Then after that, all you have to do to keep it up, with reference to point number one, is to always build yourself up and talk very highly about yourself. And be very snappy and defensive immediately when anyone calls your perfection into question. Remember, modesty is overrated. Confidence is key, and you are the shining example of perfection that everyone should aspire to be.Just as important as maintaining the perfection of your character is maintaining the perfection of your work. If you made something it's the exemplar. If anyone criticises it, they're wrong! No matter how valid or constructive their criticism is, if it's directed at you it's wrong. You're the one who criticises. 7 Be flakyDon't be someone that people can rely on. Keep people guessing about whether you'll show up or not. A great way to develop this reputation is to always say yes when people invite you to things and reassure them you'll be there, then cancel at the last minute possible. It is important that you're seen as someone who is always busy or overwhelmed and who is constantly plagued by unexpected obligations. So always have an excuse handy. You want to be the guy that always has something that comes up at the last second. Bonus points for the most creative excuses. If you keep this up long enough, people will call you less and less until eventually, they leave you alone. You'll grow distant from them—you're not a pleasant person to be around anyway—and eventually, you won't have any friends. Perfect! 8 Taking initiative is overrated.Now that no one calls you anymore, we need to tie up the final loose end. Always wait around for people to come up with plans and things to invite you to. Never come up with your own ideas, never have your own things going on and never invite anyone to anything. Since you're already a pretty unpleasant human and a bad friend, no one's going to invite you to anything anyway. Couple this with number seven well enough and people will eventually get the impression that you don't want to spend time with them and they will move on to other people. If you were just tired of having a thriving social life and you wanted everyone to just leave you alone and slowly drift away for the rest of your life. Then at this point my friend, you're at the top of the mountain!If you want more ideas on how to be miserable, check out Randy J. Paterson's book “How To Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use” and Joey Schweitzer's YouTube channel where most of these ideas were derived. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit justreflections.bhekani.com

As the world of Artificial Intelligence continues to evolve,it's increasingly evident that AI tools are rapidly changing the way we work in Developer Relations & Community Building. Tools like ChatGPT and GitHub Copilot are transforming the landscape of our work by .. automating tedious and repetitive tasks ..providing valuable insights and analytics..and even helping to generate content on our behalf. However, the integration of AI into our industry also raises new questions. Can AI truly enhance the work of DevRel practitioners and allow us to focus on different challenges.. or will it end up diminishing our creativity and impact on supporting developers? How do we make sure AI is used ethically and responsibly? And what impact will it have on the future of not only DevRel, but software development in general? Join us as we explore the exciting world of AI in Developer Relations on this episode of "The Community Pulse". Checkouts Chris DeMars * 3 Ways Feature Flags Could Have Saved Jurassic Park (https://www.split.io/blog/3-ways-feature-flags-could-have-saved-jurassic-park/) * I'll be at Orlando Codecamp (https://orlandocodecamp.com/) in March; DEVNEXUS (https://devnexus.com/) in Atlanta, Georgia, in April; and Chain React (https://chainreactconf.com/) in Portland, Oregon, in May. Rizel Scarlett * DevRel for Black Developers (https://www.youtube.com/live/8AZyqiQ3RKc?feature=share) * Finding Me by Viola Davis (https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Me-Memoir-Viola-Davis/dp/0063037327) * BlackRel Discord - a discord for Black folks in Developer Relations - sign up form (https://tinyurl.com/blackrel-discord) Wesley Faulkner * Elk Alpha (https://elk.zone) - A nimble Mastodon web client * The ChatGPT Cheat Sheet (https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UOfN0iB_A0rEGYc2CbYnpIF44FupQn2I/view) Jason Hand * 8 Things You Didn't Know you Could do with GitHub CoPilot (https://github.blog/2022-09-14-8-things-you-didnt-know-you-could-do-with-github-copilot/) * Platonic : How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (https://www.amazon.com/Platonic-Science-Attachment-Make-Keep-Friends/dp/0593331893) by Dr. Marisa G. Franco * Learning From Incidents Conference (https://www.learningfromincidents.io/) (in Denver) * The Darker Side of ChatGPT (https://towardsdatascience.com/not-all-rainbows-and-sunshine-the-darker-side-of-chatgpt-75917472b9c) * ChatGPT for writing technical articles and documentation (https://blog.almaer.com/developer-docs-genai-%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f/) * Developer Docs + GenAI (https://blog.almaer.com/developer-docs-genai-%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f/) AI Tools Caption: For Talking Videos (https://apps.apple.com/us/app/captions-for-talking-videos/id1541407007) NVIDIA: Eye Contact (https://www.nvidia.com/en-us/geforce/broadcasting/broadcast-app/) Descript (https://www.descript.com/) Grammarly (https://www.grammarly.com/) Interesting Articles * The Darker Side of ChatGPT (https://towardsdatascience.com/not-all-rainbows-and-sunshine-the-darker-side-of-chatgpt-75917472b9c) * ChatGPT for writing technical articles and documentation (https://blog.almaer.com/developer-docs-genai-%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f/) * Developer Docs + GenAI (https://blog.almaer.com/developer-docs-genai-%e2%9d%a4%ef%b8%8f/) Enjoy the podcast? Please take a few moments to leave us a review on iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/community-pulse/id1218368182?mt=2) and follow us on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3I7g5WfMSgpWu38zZMjet?si=565TMb81SaWwrJYbAIeOxQ), or leave a review on one of the other many podcasting sites that we're on! Your support means a lot to us and helps us continue to produce episodes every month. Like all things Community, this too takes a village. Artwork photo by Emiliano Vittoriosi (https://unsplash.com/@emilianovittoriosi?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText) on Unsplash (https://unsplash.com/@emilianovittoriosi?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText) Special Guests: Chris DeMars and Rizel Scarlett.

Did you know that having friends can make you less depressed? One survey found that the average American had not made a new friend in the last five years but 45% of people said they would go out of their way to make a new friend if they only knew how. Our guest today, Dr. Marisa G. Franco, has written a bestselling book about how understanding your own psychological makeup and attachment style can help you make and keep friends. Franco is a psychologist and a professor at the University of Maryland. Her book is called Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends.This is episode three of a four part series in which we are doing some counter programming against the typical Valentine's Day fair. In this episode we talk about:Why friendship is undervalued in our society (while romantic love is overvalued) and why this is damaging on both a societal and individual levelThe impact of technology on our relationships as explained by something called “displacement theory”The biological necessity of social connection and the devastating physiological and psychological impacts of loneliness Attachment style and its relationship to our friendshipsWhat you can do to make friends, including being open or vulnerable (without oversharing)How to reframe social rejectionThe importance of generosityHow to handle conflict with your friendsThe difference between flaccid safety and dynamic safety in your friendshipsWhen to walk away from a relationship How to make friends across racial, gender, and socioeconomic linesHow to deal with social anxietyAnd how our evolutionarily wired negativity bias can impact the process of making friendsFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/marisa-g-franco-561See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1. Practical ways to make a friend and become what Dr. Franco calls a “Super-friend.” 2. How to address issues with a friend even if you hate conflict. 3. Why expressing anger is more likely to deepen a relationship than destroy it. 4. How we need to express vulnerability to make friends – but first, what the hell is vulnerability? 5. Destroying the unhelpful myth that friendship happens organically.  About Dr. Franco:  Dr. Marisa G Franco is psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author known for digesting and communicating science in ways tha change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. TW: @DrMarisaGFranco IG: @drmarisagfranco To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Marisa G. Franco reveals how to harness the science of attachment to foster deeper relationships at work and in life. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The three types of loneliness we all experience. 2) Why work friends are critical to your wellbeing. 3) The six practices that help you make and keep friends. Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep840 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT MARISA — An enlightening psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Marisa G. Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities. For tips on friendship, you can follow her on Instagram (DrMarisaGFranco), or go to her website, www.DrMarisaGFranco.com, where you can take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend & reach out for speaking engagements. • Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends • Instagram: @drmarissagfranco • Website: DrMarisaGFranco.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are by Michael Slepian • Book: Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen • Book: All About Love: New Visions (bell hooks Love Trilogy)" by bell hooks • Book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1. How your attachment style determines how you make – or don't make – friends and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. 2. How Dr. Franco's work helped Glennon make healthy adult friendships over the past year. 3. Why we're lonelier than ever – and how that loneliness can make us sick. 4. Why platonic friendships are beneficial to the health of our romantic partnerships.  5. Learning to “trust the spark” when you meet a potential friend – and concrete steps to foster new friendship.  About Dr. Franco: Dr. Marisa G Franco is psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author known for digesting and communicating science in ways tha change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. TW: @DrMarisaGFranco IG: @drmarisagfranco To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As adults, building and maintaining friendships is a challenge. What felt so easy as kids, now feels like an overwhelming task full of rejection, uncertainty, and confusion. But connection plays a huge role in our overall health and well-being. Studies show that it's even more important than regular exercise!So in today's episode, we're diving into platonic intimacy with Dr. Marisa Franco. Dr. Franco is a psychologist, international speaker, and professor. She's also the author of The New York Times best seller Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends.Together, we discuss the importance of friendship, the science behind our need for platonic connection, and how simple it can be to make friends as an adult.We Also Talk About…How friendship is acted out across gender linesLoneliness as a stress experience & critical longevity indicatorTreating our friendships with as much care, excitement, and celebration as our romantic partnershipsHow healthy conflict in relationships can lead to deeper intimacy and understandingFriendships throughout times of transitionResources:Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make – and Keep – Friends by Dr. Marisa FrancoVisit Dr. Marisa Franco's WebsiteFollow Dr. Marisa Franco on InstagramSponsors:Zocdoc | Find and book a top-rated doctor in your area today with Zocdoc. Visit zocdoc.com/balanced to download the app for free. Keep in touch with Balanced Black Girl:Visit our website at balancedblackgirl.comJoin Club Balanced, our community on GenevaSubscribe to our newsletter, Mirror NotesFollow on IG: @balancedblackgirlpodcast @balancedlesFollow on TikTok @balancedblackgirl @balancedlesSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/balanced-black-girl/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/balanced-black-girl/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

So much research and time and thought goes into romantic love. But what about platonic love – aka friendship? I loved Marisa Franco's new book entitled Platonic and this interview is one of my favorites. I especially honor when she describes  friendships as being the relationships that are the steadiest your entire life. What you're about to listen to is our conversation, with real, tangible, pragmatic steps to make friends and keep them. So if you struggle with that, this episode is for you! Or if you need reminding of how to maintain those friendships you enjoy, there's great advice there as well. Here are three tips she offers and you can hear how grounded they are in reality: Initiate; don't wait for friendships – they don't happen organically. You have to actively look for friends. They're not going to show up on your doorstep. Maybe you make them at work or at school. But other than that, you need to be on the lookout. Assume people like you. This may seem cocky but not really. Assuming you're liked gives you confidence and you're more likely to focus on letting others know what you like about them. Research calls this "the acceptance prophecy" and it works! You can't just show up once; join a community that meets regularly. She calls this "the exposure effect" - you're more likely to make friends when you show up in each other's lives on a regular basis. And if the meeting is about something you're truly interested in, then that helps as well.   Vital Links:  Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends: - order her book today! Click Here for the fabulous offer from Athletic Greens - now AG1 - with bonus product with your subscription! Click this link to try out some of the best CBD out there! Ozark Mountain Medicine's CBD products and get 10% off!  You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has been published and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! And there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you!          

One of Ali's most requested topics from our listeners has been how to make friends as a big person. And here it is! Dr. Marisa G. Franco has written the book we've all been waiting for, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make - and Keep - Friends. Franco explains our connection programming, otherwise known as attachment styles, and how knowing yours can help develop and maintain those crucial friendships. She explains the importance of platonic love, how it creates identity and builds character, and why she calls friendship the underdog of relationships. Perhaps mostly importantly, she lays out the steps for how we can make more. If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) Links of Interest: Dr. Marisa on Instagram Dr. Marisa's Website: here you can take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend  Also mentioned in the episode: ACE: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of SexSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How can we help young people build healthy friendships? How do we balance old friendships with new ones? And why should we be strategic about the energy we put into friendships? The truth is, friendship doesn't just happen. Great friendships take effort. In Part 2 of our conversation about friendship with Dr. Marisa G. Franco, psychologist and the New York Times bestselling author of “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends,” House Calls explores some of the underpinnings for strong platonic relationships. Building on the first part of their conversation, the Surgeon General and Dr. Franco talk about the mental health challenges young people are experiencing and how to help them create the types of connections that lead to meaningful relationships. Later in the conversation, Dr. Franco shares her tips for using the “intimacy skills” we often save for romantic partners to deepen our important friendships. * Help us get the word out about House Calls by rating and reviewing wherever you get your podcasts. (02:14) Why “phubbing” isn't just rude (05:40) How are young people doing with friendship? (10:36) How does Dr. Franco support her students' mental health? (13:58) What makes someone a social igniter? (18:04) How do we balance old and new friendships? (22:30) Why is it important to be strategic about friendships? (24:27) Can we move away from a friendship? (26:33) How can we address conflict in a friendship? (29:59) Has it become harder for us to talk to one another? (31:35) What are some great friendship songs? (33:21) What gives Dr. Franco hope for the future? Dr. Marisa G. Franco, Friendship Expert & Psychologist Twitter: @DrMarisaGFranco Instagram: @drmarisagfranco About Dr. Marisa G. Franco A psychologist, speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Marisa G. Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She is a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the NYT bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends.  She writes about friendship for  Psychology Today  and has been a featured in  The New York Times, The Telegraph, and  Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities. For tips on friendship, you can follow her on Instagram (DrMarisaGFranco), or go to her website, www.DrMarisaGFranco.com, where you can take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend.

What's the single best action a person can take now to live a longer life? How do you take the edge off depression? What can single people do to flourish, and partnered people do to revitalize their romantic relationships? One answer: having good friendships. Our guest is Dr. Marisa G. Franco psychologist and author of “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make – and Keep - Friends.” In this episode (part 1 of 2), they talk about loneliness, how to have high-quality friendships, friendship among men, and the pitfalls of leaning on romantic partnerships for everything. (03:38) Have we gotten rusty at friendship? (05:22) Are we in a state of “learned loneliness?” (07:53) What's driving the narrowing of friend networks? (10:54) What makes for a high-quality friendship? (14:36) Romantic versus platonic love (17:07) How can same-sex friendships help us understand friendship? (21:43) How can men have deeper friendships? (25:05) Dr. Franco's interest in friendship (27:48) What is attachment theory and what's your style? (30:13) Setting up our kids for healthy friendships * Help us get the word out about House Calls by rating and reviewing wherever you get your podcasts. Dr. Marisa G. Franco, Friendship Expert & Psychologist Twitter: @DrMarisaGFranco Instagram: @drmarisagfranco About Dr. Marisa G. Franco A psychologist, speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Marisa G. Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She is a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the NYT bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured in The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities. For tips on friendship, you can follow her on Instagram (DrMarisaGFranco), or go to her website, www.DrMarisaGFranco.com, where you can take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend.

A full workweek. Hobbies. Working out. Family obligations. A potential partner. Does anyone have time for friends anymore?According to the Census Bureau's American Time Use Survey, Americans are spending less than half as much time with friends than they did a decade ago.In this week's Enlighten Me, Delaware Public Media's Kyle McKinnon chats with Marisa Franco – a psychologist, friendship expert, and author of “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends” – about why Americans are spending less time with friends and more time alone.

Click for full show notes, exercises, and parenting scripts from this episodeWe often place our romantic relationships above all else–just look how many new dating apps are invented every year! We pledge to love each other until death does us part, assuming that our perfect soulmate might be the only person we'll ever need. And although love, marriage and the baby carriage can bring us plenty of joy, we sometimes forget about a tried-and-true source of support and kindness–friendship.Unfortunately, we often treat friendship as secondary, when we should be doing the opposite. Our friendships tend to outlast those romantic relationships…even when we thought that love was forever. Plus, having strong friendships has been linked to higher self-esteem, greater levels of empathy, and an overall increase in quality of life. This especially true for teens, who are still learning how to forge strong relationships of all kinds.So how can we encourage teens to make more friends? We're asking Marisa Franco, author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. Marisa is a professor at the University of Maryland who writes regularly for Psychology Today. She's also been featured in media outlets like the New York Times, NPR, and Good Morning America!In our interview, Marisa and I are talking about why our culture stopped valuing friendship–and why we need to start prioritizing our friends again. We also discuss tips and tricks for making new friends, and how traits like authenticity and vulnerability can lead to deeper, more satisfying friendships.Click for full show notes, exercises, and parenting scripts from this episode

Maybe you've used the phrase yourself: "It's purely platonic." Plato would not be impressed. The word he lent his name to was supposed to mean a love so powerful it transcends the physical. Marisa G. Franco is a psychologist, and a professor at the University of Maryland. She is the author of the book Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make – and Keep – Friends. Something is happening to men that's leading them to have fewer friends than women. Producer Arman Aghbali looked into two recent books examining friendship among men: Hua Hsu is the author of Stay True. Michael Pedersen is the author of Boy Friends.

Do you feel like you have fewer friends than you used to? You're not alone. People all over the globe are reporting having smaller social circles and feeling more isolated. In this episode of "Spartan Up," host Joe De Sena talks with Dr. Marisa G Franco, author of “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends,”  about the loneliness epidemic and the importance of friendship for success and happiness. From joining a club or activity group to taking the initiative to reach out to others, Dr. Franco offers practical advice for combating loneliness and making new friends. Plus, learn how having a strong support network can make big hills look smaller and might even help you perform better in a Spartan race and other endurance events.    LINKS: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends https://amzn.to/3VKxnrh More about Dr. Marisa G. Franco https://drmarisagfranco.com/   Joe De Sena & Spartan “10 Rules for Resilience” by Joe De Sena https://amzn.to/3TlpeaR Spartan Up podcast https://podfollow.com/spartan Spartan Up podcast on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/SpartanUpPodcast Joe De Sena on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/realjoedesena/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SpartanUpPodcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Website: https://www.spartan.com/   SPONSORS: Spartan Up podcast is brought to you by Wild Health www.wildhealth.com Wondering which diet is right for you? What your optimal recovery routine is? How your sleep impacts performance? Wild Health will help you uncover all the answers to your health questions with a fully personalized, precision health plan, based on your DNA & bloodwork. Discover your truth - sign up at wildhealth.com with code SPARTAN10 for 10% off.    AC+ION Ion Charged Alkaline Water. They've unlocked water's full potential so that you can unlock your own. AC+ION Ion Charged Alkaline Water is premium hydration with no added sodium and electrolytes for a pure taste. Visit drinkaction.com    This episode of Spartan Up! is brought to you by Trifecta. Unbox your best self with the food, coaching, and community support you need to reach your goals. Trifecta delivers delicious, macro-balanced meals directly to your door. Let Trifecta handle meal prep and take 40% off your first order using code SPARTAN at checkout.  CREDITS: Host: Joe De Sena Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion.com © 2022 Spartan  

According to a survey of 2000 adults, the average American hasn't made a new friend in the last five years, and yet, 45% of people would go out of their way to make a new friend if they knew how. Former fellow and friendship expert Dr. Marisa Franco joins Dr. Stephanie Gage for a candid conversation about her NYT best-selling book “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends.” Their conversation explores the topics of loneliness, the importance of friendship, and how to make lasting friendships. This podcast does not necessarily reflect the views of AAAS, its Council, Board of Directors, officers, or members. AAAS is not responsible for the accuracy of this material. AAAS has made this material available as a public service, but this does not constitute endorsement by the association.

Anita wouldn't have made it through her 20s without her work friends. But now that she's a manager and working in a hybrid office, she's noticed that work friendships don't come as easily as they used to. A psychologist answers her burning workplace relationship questions and dives into the surprising amount of data about work besties. Plus, a Gen Z writer urges her to re-think the importance of work as a primary social hub. Meet the guests: Dr. Marisa G. Franco, a psychologist and author of "Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends," shares the benefits of a work bestie and talks about why employers are invested in these positive relationships in the workplace Katherine Hu, assistant editor at The Atlantic, talks about how her generation is navigating the social scene at work Read the transcript | Review the podcast Follow Embodied on Twitter and Instagram

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Today's Hot Topic is one that has been a loooong time coming. We're joined by bestselling author, professor, and psychologist Dr. Marisa G Franco. Having written "Platonic: How The Science Of Attachment Can Help You Make—And Keep—Friends", Marisa is particularly well equipped to help us tackle the complicated world of platonic friendships. If you struggle when it comes to friendships, or you'd like more friends but don't know how to get started, or feel like you're doing all the work in your friendships, OR perhaps you'd like to end a toxic friendship.... let's just say this conversation is for you.More Marisa:Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep FriendsInstagram: DrMarisaGFrancoWebsite: www.DrMarisaGFranco.com (take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend!)Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Marisa G Franco!1:25 - What Inspired Her To Write A Book On Platonic Friendship3:15 - Biggest Thing She Learned About Herself In Writing “Platonic”7:25 - The Most Surprising Fact About Platonic Relationships9:48 - Attachment Styles12:35 - How To Make New Friends24:55 - Is She An Introvert Or Extrovert?26:01 - How To Maintain Long Distance Friendships27:24 - Does Our Easy Access Culture Affect Our Friendships?31:18 - What If It Feels Like You're Doing All The Work?35:02 - Vice Versa36:49 - When You're The Connector But End Up Feeling Left Out40:45 - Can You Be Friends With Someone You're Attracted To?45:22 - The Proper Way To End A Toxic Friendship49:29 - Is It Ever OK To Power Fade A Friendship?52:23 - How To Maintain Friendships When Your Lives Are Heading In Different Directions55:25 - Script For How To Turn An Acquaintance Into A Friend56:06 - How To Deal With A Friend Who Constantly Copies You58:38 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dr. Marisa G. Franco is a psychologist, Professor at the University of Maryland and author of the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications including the New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities. On her website you can take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend & reach out for speaking engagements.   Key themes for discussion:  The role of friendship in flourishing, and why friendship is so important for flourishing How we can apply research on attachment styles to cultivate great friendships. https://www.flourishfmpodcast.com

Hey friends! Welcome to Girls' Night! I'm so excited about today's episode. Today we're talking about friendship. I learned SO MUCH from our guest, and I can't wait for you to hear from her.  Our guest for today's episode is Dr. Marisa G. Franco. Marisa has a book called Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends. Marisa is a brilliant psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author. She is known for digesting and communicating the science of human connection in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. Here are just a few of the things she's going to teach us in the episode: Why friendship is essential no matter what stage of life you're in How to not only make new friendships but also keep our friendships What an attachment style is and how we can figure out what ours is How to make new friends as an adult and improve the quality of our friendships And so much more! If you've been desiring deeper connections in your friendships, you're in the right place. Marisa seriously has an abundance of knowledge to share with us on this topic – I can't wait for you to hear from her!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A lot changes when you retire, including your social connectivity. Dr. Marisa G. Franco, author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep—Friends, has research-based advice on making new friends as an adult, and creating new connections. _________________________ Delaying retirement? Many of my clients are. But they're using this time to get a jump on their future. You could wait until you retire and ask What Now? – and then scramble - or drift. Instead, why not start now to proactively explore your options and design your new post-full-time work life? Find how how the Designing Your Life process (developed by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans at Stanford) can help you unlock a new direction. Apply the same principles of design thinking that Nike and other leading companies use to design your future. Learn more about my One-on-One coaching and small group programs. Take the first step toward your new life today - schedule a call. __________________________ Bio Dr. Marisa G. Franco is the New York Times bestselling author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep—Friends;  and she is a professor, speaker, and psychologist. Her research focuses on the powerful role of our communities in shaping who we are and why we flourish. Marisa uses her expertise to advise clients and companies on how to nurture deeper connections. She believes that connections underlie everything—our health, our motivation, our work, and our sense of who we are. Dr. Franco holds a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Maryland and works as a professor there. She writes for Psychology Today and she has been a featured psychologist in The New York Times, NPR, and Good Morning America. ____________________________ For More on Dr. Marisa G. Franco  Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep—Friends Website _____________________________ Podcast Episodes You May Like Where to Retire – Silvia Ascarelli Plays Well with Others – Eric Barker Thinking Better to Live Better – Dr. Woo-kyoung Ahn The Emotional Side of Retiring – Kate Schroeder ____________________________ How to Win the Retirement Game (It Might Just Be the Most Important Game of Your Life) What Readers Are Saying:            “Definitely the best book I've read on the non-financial aspects of retirement.”            “I wish I had this book when I retired.”            “…the book is amazingly readable, and chock full of insights.”            “This is a great gift for anyone anticipating retirement years or already in the thick of it.” Amazon    Barnes & Noble    Bookshop.org ____________________________ Wise Quotes On Making Friends as an Adult "So making friends is about having a certain type of setting or environment. Rebecca G. Adams, she's a sociologist, describes it as having repeated unplanned interaction and shared vulnerability. So that's school, right? You see someone every day, you have recess, you have gym, you have lunch, right? For some people that's work, for other people not, because sometimes people go to work and they're not quite vulnerable, which is why one study found that the more time we spend together at work, the less close we feel. And I think, in general, as we move forward to adulthood, we just don't inhabit those same types of settings that really foster connection. So if we rely on this concept of making friends that we had when we were kids, we're just going to be like, it should just happen, right? And then we don't. We're not realizing we're not in that setting anymore. So it's not going to just happen for you. And in fact, there is a study on older adults that found that people who thought friendship happened based on luck were lonely five years later, whereas those that saw it as happening based on effort were less lonely five years later because they made that effort."

Today I talk to Dr. Marisa G. Franco (@drmarisagfranco), a New York Times bestselling author, professor, and psychologist. She communicates the science of connection in digestible ways and is passionate about sharing research with the people it could help the most. Dr. Franco is the author of the NY Times bestseller Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends as an Adult. Purchase Platonic: https://amzn.to/3zmTZ83  (Amazon Link) Brought to you by American Giant (get 20% off using code PassionStruck at https://www.american-giant.com/). What We Discuss with Dr. Marisa G. Franco Dr. Franco generously shares her deep understanding of how to nurture true and deep connections. She explains why our connections underlie everything—our motivation, career, health, and sense of who we are. We discuss how to make and keep friends in a world that is filled with distraction, burnout, and chaos.  Why we as a society place more emphasis on romantic love at the expense of other relationships and the sciences that is behind the bonds we form between us—for example, why your friends aren't calling you back (it's not because they hate you!). Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://passionstruck.com/marisa-g-franco-nurture-deep-connections/  --► For information about advertisers and promo codes, go to: https://passionstruck.com/deals/  --► Prefer to watch this interview: https://youtu.be/Temggvj7TCc  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally! --► Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel Here: https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnRMiles Want to find your purpose in life? I provide my six simple steps to achieving it - passionstruck.com/5-simple-steps-to-find-your-passion-in-life/ Did you hear my interview with Dr. Nate Zinsser, a West Point performance psychologist? Catch up with episode 204: Dr. Nate Zinsser on How Do You Create a Confident Mind ===== FOLLOW ON THE SOCIALS ===== * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/passion_struck_podcast * Gear: https://www.zazzle.com/store/passion_sruck_podcast Learn more about John: https://johnrmiles.com/ 

Dr. Marisa Franco is a New York Times bestselling Author, Professor, Psychologist, and self-proclaimed friendship expert. Marisa discusses the science of connection — and the importance of platonic friendships. Her new book is called Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends. She believes friendship is the single best action a person can take to live a longer life, take the edge off depression, flourish and even revitalize a marriage. She challenges the notion that friendships should be at the bottom of the relationship totem poll.  Her mantra is — Never stop cultivating friendships and connections.  She gives us many reasons to prioritize platonic love and bring more friends into our life, nurture the ones we already have and keep building community. If we do these things, we'll always be surrounded by love —whether or not we choose a romantic relationship.

This week, professor, speaker, and author, Dr. Marisa G. Franco joins Gabrielle and Pallavi for an expert informed conversation on friendship. Dr. Franco explains the importance of understanding your attachment style and how that affects the way you approach interactions with friends. Discover more about the research-based approach to making and keeping friends in Dr. Franco's book, "Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make-and Keep-Friends" and share this episode with your friends! For extra content and to suggest friendship experts for future episodes, head over to our patreon -patreon.com/waffpodcast and follow us on Instagram @waffpodcast and on Twitter @WAFFpodcast. We love you WAFFam! Come see Gabrielle & Pallavi live as they host WhoHa-Halloween in Los Angeles!Get your tickets here: https://bit.ly/3ElRS7Y WAFF followers can use promo code WAFF10 for 10% off each ticket purchased. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you looking to make more friends? How about deepen existing relationships? Dr. Marisa Franco is the author of a new book called Platonic, How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make-and Keep-Friends. In this episode, I detail some of the core ideas that stood out to me, steps I have been taking to make friends, and how a Portfolio Career is helpful for making friends. Excited for you to build and grow your Portfolio Career!This episode with notes is available on my websiteConnect with David on Twitter!

Dr. Marisa Franco is a New York Times bestselling author, professor, and psychologist. She communicates the science of connection in digestible ways and is passionate about sharing research with the people it could help the most. Her book is Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friend---Call Zak with your essential friendship advice @ 844-935-BEST---bestadvice.showIG: @bestadviceshowZak's twitter: @muzachary

This week, I interview Dr. Marisa G Franco. She's an enlightening psychologist and national speaker, Dr. Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland, and she's the author of the NY Times best-selling book Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities across the country. We discuss: Why friendships don't just happen organically Beating your personal fear of rejection. Why belonging is at the root of a real friendship. But first, I want to tell you about an upcoming women's summit I'll be co-hosting. It's the Fall Women's Summit on Oct 27, 2022, from 8:00 AM - 11:30 AM in Albuquerque Event link https://www.bizjournals.com/albuquerque/event/167871/2022/2022-fall-womens-summit (https://www.bizjournals.com/albuquerque/event/167871/2022/2022-fall-womens-summit) First, we will hear a keynote address from Jen Paul Schroer, Cabinet Secretary for the NM Department of Tourism. Then I will share the Well Woman Life® Framework - a combined strategic and "heart centered" approach to leadership. Aspiring women leaders as well as seasoned pros can use this to identify their challenges and discover tools to overcome them. We will host roundtable discussions that relate directly to the Well Women Life® Framework immediately following where you'll learn new skills/tools and connect with other businesswomen. PROGRAM 8:00-8:30a Registration and Networking 8:30a Welcome 8:35-8:55a Keynote: Jen Paul Schroer, Cabinet Secretary for NM Department of Tourism 9:00-9:20a Well Woman Life® Framework with Giovanna Rossi 9:30a-11:30p Roundtable Discussions You can find out which stage you're in and get free tools to help you at http://wellwomanlife.com/quiz (wellwomanlife.com/quiz) As always, all the links and information are at http://wellwomanlife.com/298show (wellwomanlife.com/298show) The Well Woman Show is thankful for the support from The Well Woman Academy™ at http://wellwomanlife.com/academy (wellwomanlife.com/academy). Join us in the Academy for community, mindfulness practices and practical support to live your Well Woman Life.

Paul Simon wrote Old Friends — the song that opens Midday today — when he was 26 years old and singing with his young friend, Art Garfunkel. Tomorrow, Simon celebrates his 81st birthday.Old friends are treasures. They ground us, they sustain us, they're always there when we need them. There's nothing quite like an old friend. But what does it take to make new friends? As we get older, does it get harder to make new connections that flourish into friendships? We are fed a steady diet of stories and songs that celebrate the joys of romantic love. But what about platonic love? What about those friendships that don't involve romance? Do we know as much about navigating the vagaries of those important relationships? In her recent book, Dr. Marisa G. Franco, a psychologist on the faculty of the University of Maryland's Honors Program, argues that the answer to that question is “no.” “Platonic love,” she writes, “lies at the lowest rung of the hierarchy our culture places on love.” And she has some suggestions for making and keeping new platonic friendships, which she undergirds with fascinating data. Dr. Franco writes, for example, that “Out of 106 factors that influence depression, having a confidante is the most powerful. Loneliness is more fatal than a poor diet or lack of exercise; as corrosive as smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. Friendship literally saves our lives.” Her book is called Platonic:  How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make – and Keep - Friends.  Dr. Marisa G. Franco joins us on Zoom from Washington, DC.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Making new friends, and deepening older friendships, is possible at any age.  Find out why that's important in our conversation with psychologist and friendship expert Dr. Marisa Franco, author of the book, “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends”.  Her website is https://drmarisagfranco.com/   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Thanks to our sponsor of this episode!:  Gladskin is a new category of skin treatment made for people of all ages with eczema-prone, acne-prone, and rosacea-prone skin.  You may have wondered what actually causes the itchiness, redness, inflammation, and discomfort in the skin.  It's a disruption of the bacterial environment also called the skin microbiome. Gladskin specifically works to target the imbalance in your skin's microbiome. But unlike other skin brands and prescription medications, Gladskin uses Micreobalance - a revolutionary protein that restores the balance of the good and bad bacteria that live on your skin so it can finally heal. So if you've been frustrated with your treatment options, don't wait to try Gladskin. They are offering our Nobody Told Me!  listeners 15% off plus free shipping on your first order at gladskin.com/NOBODY

We will learn: The biggest mindset shift you can take on when meeting new people. How to deal with conflict in friendships, and how to decide which ones are worth the effort. How to optimize your socializing efforts and keep the friends you meet. Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? Or at least make really good friends. It can seem daunting and a little scary if you haven't done it before, but the good news: there are specific, research-based ways to improve the number and quality of your connections using the insights of attachment theory and the latest scientific research on friendship. So today we're going to talk about a clear and actionable blueprint for forging strong, lasting connections with others—and for becoming our happiest, most fulfilled selves in the process. Our guest is Marisa Franco. She is a psychologist, a national speaker, a professor at The University of Maryland, and the author of “Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends”. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/249 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There's a cottage industry of books written about finding and keeping a mate, but not nearly as many about finding and keeping friends. Marisa G. Franco is a professor at the University of Maryland who also writes for Psychology Today. She joins host Krys Boyd to discuss the latest science on friendship, why it's essential to our health, and ways to use your own strengths to forge lasting relationships. Her book is called “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make – and Keep – Friends.”

Episode Notes Friends! How many of us have them? Friendships are crucial for our well-being yet making friends as an adult can be difficult. Luckily, Dr. Marisa G. Franco's book, Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends, provides practical applications for how to make friends, including how to overcome our own relationship insecurities and defense mechanisms. On this episode, SunAh sits down with Dr. Franco to learn more about the importance of friendships and how to put some of her insights into practice. Dr. Marisa G. Franco is an Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of Maryland, a licensed counseling psychologist, and friendship expert.

If you desire a winning mentality that takes your mindset to where it needs to be, you need to change your perception of your reality. So much of our lives are predicated on the lens through which we view life. Our perception impacts how we view, comprehend, analyze, reflect, and interact with the world around us. I have no idea how so many of you could put yourself in a position where you view everything in a negative light. I'm really hoping that this podcast is the podcast that inspires you to implement the five steps I laid out in the episode and put them to use to change your perspective, create a winner's mindset, and better your reality. ► Get the full show notes for all resources from today's episode: https://passionstruck.com/does-the-concept-of-free-will-really-exist/  -► Want the transcript: https://johnrmiles.com/5-steps-to-change-your-perception/  --► Prefer to watch this episode: https://youtu.be/_sLYC8B68k4  --► Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel Here: https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnRMiles --► Subscribe to the Passion Struck Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-struck-with-john-r-miles/id1553279283  Thank you, Dry Farm Wines and Policygenius, For Your Support Dry Farm Wines have No Chemical Additives for Aroma, Color, Flavor, or Texture Enhancement. Dry Farm Wines - The Only Natural Wine Club That Goes Above and Beyond Industry Standards. For Passion Struck listeners: Dry Farm Wines offers an extra bottle in your first box for a penny (because it's alcohol, it can't be free). See all the details and collect your wine at https://www.dryfarmwines.com/passionstruck/. Policygenius provides free quotes tailored to your needs with support from licensed agents, helping you get insurance coverage fast so you can get on with life. Save 50% or more on life insurance at https://www.policygenius.com/. Passion Struck Podcast Starter Packs New to the show? These Starter Packs are collections of our most popular episodes grouped by topic, and we now have them also on Spotify. To find your old favorites, you can also browse starter packs for existing listeners. Every week, John interviews everyday heroes from all walks of life. Learn how to subscribe to the show and never miss a new episode and topic. Show Links Purchase Dr. Marisa Franco's Book Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep Friends: https://amzn.to/3f5NoHP (Amazon Link) Purchase Dr. Jay Van Bavel's book The Power of Us: Harnessing Our Shared Identities to Improve Performance, Increase Cooperation, and Promote Social Harmony: https://amzn.to/3R1Vfn3 (Amazon Link) My interview with Rachel Hollis: https://passionstruck.com/rachel-hollis-becoming-your-best-self/  My interview with Scott Barry Kaufman and Jordyn Feingold: https://passionstruck.com/jordyn-feingold-scott-barry-kaufman-chose-growth/ My solo episode about how your environment influences who you become: https://passionstruck.com/how-your-environment-influences-who-you-become/ My solo episode on why your brain dictates your reality: https://passionstruck.com/why-your-brain-dictates-your-reality/ My interview with Ayelet Fishbach, a professor at the Booth School of Business University of Chicago, on how to get it done, the science of motivation: https://passionstruck.com/ayelet-fishbach-get-it-done-find-the-fun-path/ My interview with Katy Milkman, Ph.D. on how to create lasting behavior change: https://passionstruck.com/katy-milkman-behavior-change-for-good/ My solo episode on why micro choices matter: https://passionstruck.com/why-your-micro-choices-determine-your-life/ Follow John on the Socials: * Twitter: https://twitter.com/Milesjohnr * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnrmiles.c0m * Medium: https://medium.com/@JohnRMiles ​* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/john_r_miles * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/milesjohn/ * Blog: https://johnrmiles.com * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/passion_struck_podcast/ * Gear: https://www.zazzle.com/store/passion_struck/ -- John R. Miles is the CEO, and Founder of PASSION STRUCK®, the first of its kind company, focused on impacting real change by teaching people how to live Intentionally. He is on a mission to help people live a no-regrets life that exalts their victories and lets them know they matter in the world. For over two decades, he built his own career applying his research of passion-struck leadership, first becoming a Fortune 50 CIO and then a multi-industry CEO. John is also a prolific public speaker, venture capitalist, and author. Passion Struck is a full-service media company that helps people live intentionally by creating best-in-class educational and entertainment content.     

How do we make and keep friends in an era of distraction, burnout, and chaos, especially in a society that often prizes romantic love at the expense of other relationships? This is the question Dr. Marisa G. Franco explores in her new book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep—Friends. Using insights from attachment theory and the latest scientific research on friendship, Marisa shows us that making new friends, and deepening longstanding relationships, is not only possible but essential. This week you'll learn specific, research-based ways to improve the quantity and quality of your platonic connections.   Guest Bio Dr. Marisa G. Franco holds a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Maryland and works as a professor there currently. She writes for Psychology Today and she has been a featured psychologist in The New York Times, NPR, and Good Morning America. Dr. Franco delivers talks about connection and belonging all over the country to private companies, universities, and non-profit organizations.   For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode200   Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com   Mentioned in this Episode Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep—Friends   Guest's website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/ and Instagram @drmarisagfranco https://www.instagram.com/DrMarisaGFranco/    Host Bio Kristen Manieri is a coach who works with teams to increase both productivity and wellbeing. She also helps individuals navigate transition with clarity and confidence. Her areas of focus are: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, habit formation, rest rituals, and self-care. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 200 authors about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional and joyful life. Learn more at kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me.    Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast   Web: https://kristenmanieri.com Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristenmanieri_/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kristenmanieri/  

Friendships are a force -- but why are friendships harder to come by as adults? And why do we not find them as important as, say, romance? We delve deep into the power of friendship in today's episode. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Dr. Marisa Franco

Kate consciously uncouples from different forms of news in a way that's better for her mental health and Doree continues to whittle down the clothes in her closet. Then, Dr. Marisa Franco, author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends, joins them to discuss how to manage our own hang-ups, insecurities, and anxieties while trying to build new friendships, what mutuality and affection look like in a friendship, and the power loneliness holds over us. To leave a voicemail or text for a future episode, reach them at 781-591-0390. You can also email the podcast at forever35podcast@gmail.com.Visit forever35podcast.com for links to everything they mention on the show or visit shopmyshelf.us/forever35.Follow the podcast on Twitter (@Forever35Pod) and Instagram (@Forever35Podcast) and join the Forever35 Facebook Group (Password: Serums). Sign up for the newsletter! at forever35podcast.com/newsletter. This episode is sponsored by:NATIONAL HONEY MONTH - Join us in celebrating National Honey Month by learning more about how you can help save honey bees and their hives! Visit HoneySavesHives.com for more info.BETTER HELP - Get 10% off your first month with the discount code FOREVER35. Go to betterhelp.com/FOREVER35 to get started today.KIWICO - Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping with code FOREVER35 at kiwico.com. MASTERCLASS - Visit masterclass.com/forever35 for 15% off the Annual All-Access Pass.MEJURI - Head to Mejuri.com to shop new arrivals now. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One subject that comes up over and over again with our community is friendship, so we're excited to bring Dr. Marisa Franco, a psychologist and friendship expert, back on the podcast today!Some of the things we cover in this episode include keeping friendships healthy when we're in a busy season of life, tools for navigating conflict in friendship (and why conflict isn't necessarily a bad thing), and ways to approach ending a friendship if the time comes for this to happen. Dr. Marisa also shares her best tips for making new friends, what to say when first engaging with new people, how strong friendships benefit our overall well-being, and so much more. We really want to make friendship uncomplicated for you and meet you where you are, because it's normal to feel nervous about these topics. If friendships are something that you're working on, like we are, we are proud of you because we recognize that this can be hard! If you enjoy what Dr. Marisa shares today, you'll want to get a copy of her brand new book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends, which is available now! As always, we also want to hear your biggest takeaways from this episode, and you can tag us on Instagram, @DrMarisaGFranco and @herselfpodcast. We'd love for you to share this information with others, because it's so important for us to work on and build the friendships we all have in our lives! MEET Dr. Marisa: https://www.instagram.com/DrMarisaGFranco/ 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself20% off at VUORI: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself Links & Resources:Dr. Marisa's Website, Speaking Page & InstagramTake Her Platonic Friendship QuestionnaireGet Dr. Marisa's Book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (available now)! 59. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult FriendshipsLet's connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers and WHOOP.Our friendships and relationships are an integral part of who we are and how we evolve. Even though we don't need each other to survive anymore, we do need each other to thrive. All of the best things in life come from connection, community, and relationships. So how do we make and keep friends in an era of distraction, burnout, and chaos, especially in a society that often prizes romantic love at the expense of other relationships?Today on The Dhru Purohit Podcast, Dhru talks to Dr. Marisa G. Franco about how friendships are the most influential thing on our health, success, and happiness. They also talk about how to make, maintain, and deepen friendships and why understanding your attachment style—secure, anxious, or avoidant—is the key to unlocking what's working (and what's failing) in your friendships.Dr. Franco is a psychologist and national speaker. She works as a professor at the University of Maryland and is the author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like the New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. In this episode, we dive into: -The connection between friendships, relationships, and longevity (2:49)-Why social connection affects our longevity (5:33)-Questions to ask yourself to figure out if you're lonely (12:15)-How being a better friend helps you in every aspect of your life (16:33)-How to make friends as an adult (20:35)-How to break into an established friend group (24:22)-How our baggage affects how we show up as friends (29:57) -How to assess if you are being a bad friend (48:56)-Firing a friend (1:02:38)-How our trauma impacts our relationships (1:07:26) -How to navigate differing opinions in friendships (1:09:04) For more on Dr. Franco, follow her on Instagram @drmarisagfranco, Twitter @drmarisagfranco, and through her website, drmarisagfranco.com. Get her book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends, here.This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers and WHOOP.Magnesium Breakthrough really stands out from the other magnesium supplements out there. BiOptimizers is offering my community 10% off, so just head over to magbreakthrough.com/dhru with code DHRU10.WHOOP is a personalized digital fitness tracker and health coaching platform that monitors your physiology 24/7 and provides personalized recommendations based on what your body needs. For me, it's been a game-changer to optimize my sleep and improve my fitness, performance, and overall health. To get yours, go to join.whoop.com and get 15% off your membership with code DHRU15. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

Psychologist Marisa Franco suggests adjusting some of our thinking about friends and friendship, and spending less time thinking about romance in the book "Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends."

A new book explains how to build lasting relationships using the insights of attachment theory and the latest scientific research on friendship. Psychologist and friendship expert Dr. Marisa G. Franco discusses her new book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends, and offers tips to listeners. Franco joins Vienna Pharaon in conversation to unpack the latest, often counterintuitive findings about the bonds between us for a virtual event with the 92nd Street Y tomorrow, Sept. 8 at 7:30 p.m.

Loneliness is a far more common and far more serious problem than we think. It affects one in five Americans, and takes a toll on our bodies and minds. To thrive we need to several types of social interactions - both casual and more intimate.   With the help of US Surgeon General Vivek Murthy; Harvard Divinity School fellow Casper ter Kuile; and friendship expert Marisa Franco; Dr Laurie Santos looks at how loneliness might be affecting you or someone you know, and what science-back steps you can take to increase your circle of friends.  For further reading:  Vivek Murthy - Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World. Marisa Franco - Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends as an Adult. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you know there's a science to making friends? Psychologist and D.C. local Marisa G. Franco has been researching friendship, and she shares some tips with us. Let's be real: we could all use some advice on how to build friendships in this transient city of ours. Dr. Franco's book “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends" comes out today. Get it now for more friendship advice. Read more about the Takoma Park sidewalk mural story, if you want to get involved.  And leave us a voicemail at 2026422654 with your opinions on the best and worst fast casual restaurants in D.C.! For more local loves and gripes, sign up for our morning newsletter. We're also on Twitter at @citycast_dc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is friendship truly the greatest gift of life? This week, Our Body Politic guest host and acclaimed radio journalist Celeste Headlee interviews psychologist, educator and author of the forthcoming book Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make– and Keep– Friends, Dr. Marisa Franco, who shares insights on the mental and physical benefits of social interactions and community building and how in times of loneliness, people are prone to inadvertently sabotage these critical bonds. Then, Headlee speaks with award-winning journalist and TV critic Eric Deggans about how the legacy of racism and exclusion and its continuation in fantastical mega-franchises like Star Wars serves to threaten any future fandoms, as newer generations are increasingly diverse.

Themes: Friendship, Love, Attachment, Vulnerability, Platonic Relationships, Intimacy, Connections, Culture, Society, Belonging Today I welcome an enlightening psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Marisa G. Franco! She is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice.  In this episode, we dive into friendship and attachment, the very real challenges we all experience around friendships and why we might be experiencing them, PLUS pro tips on how to initiate new friendships as an adult and keep them intimate, nourishing, and lasting. Discover: Why we devalue friendships and only focus on connection through romantic relationships Friendships with attachment theory applied and how it can help us be better friends How men and women approach relationships differently and the stigmas that need to be broken around that How to make and keep friends 00:00 Intro  01:19 Why do we devalue friendships? 03:46 Friendships and attachment styles 10:17 Friendships and conflict 12:40 Friends helped us to grow 17:35 Friendships between men and women 22:40 Male and female group behavior  24:34 Are we in a masculine-friendly culture? 26:53 Friendships and attractions 29:58 The fear of vulnerability 33:24 Skills you need to make and keep friends 36:20 Building connections and initiating friendships 44:56 How to maintain relationships Links: Dr. Franco's Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/ Instagram: @DrMarisaGFranco - https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Website: http://www.DrMarisaGFranco.com Sponsors: Manna Vitality | Use code Mark20 for 20% off at mannavitality.com Primally Pure | Use code MARKGROVES for 15% off sitewide at primallypure.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards