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emotional exhaustion: a state of feeling emotionally worn-out and drained as a result of accumulated stress from your personal or work lives, or a combination of both. chronic state of emotional depletion. Allostatic load. compassion fatigue: “a state of exhaustion and dysfunction biologically, psychologically, and socially as a result of prolonged exposure to compassion stress and all it invokes." also called vicarious trauma. burnout: a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress Think of these as a spectrum. EE more from life stressors. CF/B more from work/responsibilities. EE could be from carrying unresolved trauma, stress overload, being out of alignment, living with or experiencing systemic oppression, late state capitalism, chronic stressors, being chronically dysregulated, Sx: apathy, withdrawal, isolation, exhaustion, soul tired, irritable, feeling stuck or helpless, not being able to do what you know would help, only paying attention to negative, headaches, tense muscles/sore body, trouble sleeping, brain fog, depression, numb,   How to mitigate/fix Heal trauma. Rewire your mind for growth, healing, helpful thoughts. Cut out stressors/toxic people, things etc. Radical acceptance. Do whats useful to have done and possible to do. Learn to build a resilient nervous system. Mindset work. Journaling Process emotions. Make choices that create/maintain alignment Locus of control Do things that feel energy giving. Move well, eat well, sleep well. Connect with others. Set boundaries. Radical honesty. Radical accountability. Do work that feels purposeful. Let go of perfectionism.

Trauma disconnects from self, leaves no room for exploration or building a self concept Dont confuse your occupation with your purpose You are what you love, not who loves you Healing means being the you that you've always been but didn't have the space to be because you had to survive. Authenticity and survival mode don't exist at the same time, because authenticity requires presence of safety.   Ways to start exploring: MTBI test Enneagram test Human Design Astrology/Birth Chart Write down a list of things you enjoy or used to enjoy or think you might enjoy or that you enjoyed as a child Find a list of values, circle the ones that are important to you Know this is a life long journey unraveling who you are. Write down beliefs you hold and assess if those resonate Ask friends to describe you using five words

Most automatic things we do are conditioned responses that we learned during childhood, but they're no longer serving us. Until we are 6, we exist mostly in theta brainwaves, which is associated with a hypnotic state. We are the most suggestible we will ever be. Everything a child that young hears is taken as true, nothing is questioned. Most people then never question the programming they received as children. This is good for adults who need to teach a child how to behave in the world quickly, and not so good for the child that becomes the adult if they don't learn to question their programming.   Some I come across often: You dont have to do something every day for it to be consistent, successful or effective. Your partner doesnt have to follow your schedule for your relationship to work. Love is not earned, but neither is it unconditional. You dont need permission to do thing you want to do. Just because someone disagrees with your choice, doesnt mean its the wrong choice. Your healing journey is your own and wont look like others. Youre allowed to disappoint other people when doing whats best for you. No one really gives a shit about what you're doing/no one notices/cares. You're allowed to change your mind. Quitting does not mean failing. You don't have to forgive people who have hurt you. Having an abundance of money doesn't make you evil. Life doesn't have to be hard. Relationships don't have to last forever to be good, and breaking up/getting divorced doesnt mean the relationship failed.     How to break: Question and assess if your automatic assumptions are true, and even if they are true, are they helpful. Write down a list of beliefs you have about how people or the world "should" operate. Question these. When you hear a should, that's programming. Assess if your behaviors are actually getting you the life you want, if not theres programming to undo.

Recap - over 900 therapy sessions 5 workshops Launched Boundaries Baddie Traveled to: Florida, Texas, Dublin Ireland, Florence Italy, Cuba, Decided to build a house we'll be starting this year. Established Lighthouse Energy as an LLC Completed 117 hours training in RRT, and about 50 more studying. Started working on Exhale & Release to get ready to launch next month. Worked with Andrea. Sabrina. Mahdi.   2024 plans. Word: Build. Committed. Intentional. Nurture. Plans: Go on a cruise to Mexico, Belize, Honduras. Go to Costa Rica. Perhaps Alaska or Bali or nowhere else. Go to Florida for RRT intensive in Jan. Get RRT specialist certification. Launch Exhale & Release. Launch a journal. Potentially launch grounded mornings. Bring on another therapist. Build the house. Thinking about doing a PhD program.

I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Exhale & Release: www.exhaleandrelease.com If you've feel like practicing gratitude hasn't worked for you, you're probably right. And it's not you, its that the most common way doesn't work for everybody. There are a million ways to practice gratitude, but all I seem to see is gratitude lists. Well, just like there's a million ways to make a sandwich, there's a million ways to incorporate a gratitude practice. In this episode I talk about why the typical way - gratitude lists - don't work for some people and other ways to start a gratitude practice. How to make a gratitude practice work for you is the central question I answer in this episode, and I'd love your thoughts! Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders Track: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing Track: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Exhale & Release: www.exhaleandrelease.com There's a revolution and a reckoning coming in the leadership space. Incompetent leaders are no longer allowed to get away with mediocrity. Quality leadership requires so many skills. Embodying authenticity, emotional regulation, excellent communication, holding a vision - all these things combine into a leader that people are happy to follow. Kat developed her particular brand of leadership by going against the status quo - which we all know wasn't built for visionaries, marginalized identities or women who are fiercely themselves. Kat realized early that there was a place for leaders who operate from their heart, fiercely protect their people and hold the vision. Kat and I discuss being unemployable by most companies, because most companies are lead by authority figures instead of leaders. We discuss the importance of becoming and working with and for leaders who embody integrity, trust and service. The next generation of leaders lead with love, embody integrity and live their values. Tune in to hear our conversation about how to truly embody leadership. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Humans are the only creatures who can block themselves. Birds don't sit around thinking "oh I really want to fly to that branch, I wish I could get myself over there. I need to jump and then keep myself flying and if I could just get motivation to get myself there I would do it." While we're smarter than birds, sometimes I think birds are smarter than us in some respects. Humans, in our infinite complexity, can either get in our own way or systems and structures that humans create get in our way. So, lets discuss. So many of my clients want a bigger life, a more adventurous life, a better life and yet they struggle to manifest it. So I started thinking "ok what's in the way here" and after doing this for thousands of hours, these are the barriers my clients experience most. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: www.livemyhappyhealth.com/selfcoaching Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlistfirstresponder Healing: www.exhaleandrelease.com/waitlisthealing Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Y'all, real talk. Talking to your friends, while it may be therapeutic, is not actual therapy. Also, your friends may be f *cking you up more! Yes friends listen, yes friends may give you feedback, yes friends may validate you and while all of that is wonderful, that's only part of the therapy process. So ok, let's talk about why you need an actual therapist and not just to talk to your friends. There is a REAL, MASSIVE difference between talking to your friends and actual therapy. On this episode I talk about the differences between venting to your besties and seeing a professional trained in trauma and rewiring your brain and nervous system. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Changing can feel big and scary and hard, but it doesn't have to actually be any of those things. Ok, then, how does it become easy? Well, for one, listening to experts help. Behavior change is creating a future that you're excited to wake up to, a life you love living, a person you love being. Karin's company - Body Brain Alliance - takes a compassionate approach to growth and change, and instead of focusing on goals, they focus on values and becoming someone you want to be. If you've been thinking that you'd like to change some things, if you feel burned out by the personal development world or if you feel like you "should" be doing things differently, then behavior change coaching sounds like a perfect fit for you. In this episode we talk about shames, shoulds and leaving those behind to build an intentional, happy life. www.bodybrainalliance.com IG: @bodybrainalliance Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free It's so human to want more right? More money, more love, more pleasure, more fun, more delight. And yet so many people struggle to step into more, for so many reasons. Not holding the standard is one of the most common reasons people don't manifest their desires. This is something I come across so often with clients, and afer digging into the things holding them back with two hundred people and counting, I started to see some themes. In this episode I talk about the common blocks people experience to getting more, including how our mindset often keeps us white knucking what we do have so hard that it prevents us from getting what we want. This episode is a big lesson in faith, integrity and courage. I discuss taking desired action and how taking action before you see results is one of the most valuable levers to pull for manifesting, attracting and changing your life. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Mindset is a funny thing, if you don't intentionally cultivate a growth focused mindset then it's exponentially harder to reach your goals. In fact, if you aren't intentional with your mindset, I can almost guarantee that you won't reach your goals, because mindset is the thing that makes or breaks people. Think about it this way, every goal is only a series of steps, but the difference between those who complete the steps and those who dont isnt a matter of ability, its a matter of mindset. So in that respect, mindset makes or breaks you. This episode is about mantras but its really about cultivating a mindset so strong Arnold Schwarzenegger is jealous. These non-negotiable mantras cultivate a mindset that makes everything else easier, because you stop spending precious energy second guessing yourself. These mantras become the foundation you build your success, happiness and growth on, and with a foundation like these, watch out world because you'll be unstoppable. Download mantras here: https://www.canva.com/design/DAFvM7AYl8Q/JOAtwMg485MkAJPnTlW9Pw/view?utm_content=DAFvM7AYl8Q&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelink Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Ask anyone if they like change, and chances are they're gonna say "I hate change." This thought, my sweet croiissant, keeps them (and you) stuck. One of the biggest secrets of success is not only embracing change, but actively choosing to change anything that's no longer serving them. When people say "I'm terrified of change" what they're really saying is that they're afraid what they'll change will be worse than what they have now. Most people are taught to be afraid of change, and they're brought up in a culture that tells people they're a victim, they're stuck and if it's not perfect then it's horrible. This is so damaging, and it doesn't have to be this way. You can control the changes you make. And I argue in this episode that the more changes you consciously, intentionally make, the happier you are. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Your first therapy appointment is the intake. This is where the therapist will ask a bunch of questions, get your history, why you're wanting to do therapy, what your goals are and all the jazz. The intake, for most people, feels pretty awkward. Yep, even when I did an intake with a therapist I saw after I ended things with my husband it was weird. Even so, they're necessary. Gotta start somewhere right? My intakes are pretty standard, but of course with some differences. In this episode I walk through my intake process: what to expect during a therapy intake, some insight about therapy in general. Hopefully, this episode helps you feel at ease, know whats coming and feel a little more ready to meet with your therapist. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Repeat after me: "I am not a burden. Relationships are supposed to be reciprocal." Sure you can try and go through life alone, but it's literally not possible. Humans have come this far only because we help each other. Hell, you didn't even come into this life alone, you were supported to come into this world and were supported to get to where you are now. Were you well supported? Maybe not. Maybe you learned early on that your job was to take care of others. Maybe you learned early on that the way to create safety or to get love was to be useful and to not be a burden. How clever of you then to become very independent, and perhaps now those same skills aren't necessary. Mind works in some specific ways to ensure our survival, and becoming hyper independent to the point where asking for help or accepting help feels like eating a jar of mayonnaise that's been left out in the sun for a few hours is a trauma response. Somewhere along the way you learned that you couldn't trust others or rely on them. Makes sense then, not so useful now. This episode will help you reprogram that so you feel comfortable accepting help and building reciprocal relationships. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free That weight on your chest. The feeling that you can never get enough oxygen. That weakness you've felt in your body. The racing thoughts. Jumping to the worst case scenario. Yep, I'm talking about anxiety. Or the more useful way to put it, experiencing anxious thoughts and feelings. I heard recently that anxiety is the most common cause for ER visits. Anxiety is also the most common mental health diagnosis. Anxiety is something almost every one of my clients deals with, so Ive dealt with it almost daily for almost a decade now. Its safe to say I'm an expert in healing it. Not just teaching my clients to cope, in actualy healing it. Yes, its possible. These are the tools I use the most often, I hope they give you some breathing room, some calm and a lot of peace. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free One of the reasons so many people struggle with trying to be happy all the time and only allowing high vibe emotions is that its not possible to do. When we try to do something impossible, mind becomes frustrated and puts more energy into it, hoping that'll fix it, and because it's impossible mind becomes stuck in this loop. If you've been feeling like you can't just be happy, its likely because you've been operating under this paradigm. Emotions are an all or nothing game, either they're all allowed or nothing comes through. So many of my clients come to me disembodied (shut down emotionally) because they've been burying unpleasant emotions, and part of their healing is to become embodied (present in their body aka feeling emotions). I discuss why so much spiritual bypassing is happening, how it's creating suffering and a way of thinking about emotions that is much more useful if we want to be free. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Being afraid of failure is something I help clients with all the time. Because subconscious is wired to avoid an percieved threat, and most people are taught that failing is bad, of course mind will then learn to avoid failure. But think about the happiest people you know, they aren't letting fear hold them back. In fact, they're likely the people facing their fears and doing the scary thing, and loving it! Getting comfortable with discomfort is one of the most powerful shifts you can make, and being okay with failure is part of that. I discuss where fear of failure comes from, how subconscious becomes wired to avoid it, the consequences of doing so and how to break the patterns. Get ready to embody the courage of Moana my sweet croissant. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free One of the prices you pay for growth and healing is losing people along the way. That can be a painful experience, and it can make growth seem lonely (and honestly, sometimes it is). Healing and growth puts you into a different energetic state, which means you may no longer resonate with the people you used to vibe with. This is so normal! And it's something all my clients deal with at some point in their healing journey. Healing can be lonely. I talk about what I see most often in my clients, my thoughts on leaving people behind and what happens when growing means outgrowing. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Struggling with feeling like your life has no meaning? Let's give it some purpose. All most of us heard growing up was the advice to find our purpose to pursue our passions and to be useful. Somewhere along the way this got a whole generation of people feeling hopeless and dissatisfied. Finding and living your purpose is a skill, but most people have no idea how to do it. In this episode I teach you how to find it, and then how to start putting energy towards your purpose. It's stupidly simple, and trust me it's going to blow your mind. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Joelle and Alysa are literally a dream team, they run Beyond The Weights and they're married (happily, see what I mean by dream team?). They're fitness coaches who specialize in metabolism and working with the whole person. They discuss balancing all the things happening in life We talk their journey into fitness, where most people get into trouble physically, the role of metabolism in health and taking a holistic approach to health. Website: https://www.beyondtheweights.net/ IG: @beyondtheweights Their podcast: Beyond The Weights Podcast

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Maybe you try and cover up your loneliness by becoming what you think other people will like. This is one of the fastest ways to lose yourself, to feel miserable and alone. Being palatable isn't the cure you think it is, and in fact it makes you more isolated because then no one knows the real you. "Yeah, Amanda, thats the point, if no one really gets to know me they can't decide they actually hate me." I hear that and I'll challenge it. If no one really knows you, no one can really love you. In this episode I talk about the actual cure for loneliness, vulnerability. Yep. Being who you are, darkness and all. Being authentic lets people get to know the real you, and gives people the opportunity to actually connect with you. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Perhaps you find yourself in crisis after crisis, situationship after situationship or constantly putting out fires. That can be so exhausting, and let me tell you why that's happening. Trauma retunes your nervous system for chaos. Humans are adaptable little gremlins, in fact we're so good that we will learn how to thrive in chaos. Because your system sets trauma as the default, when you start healing you may find yourself unconsciously seeking out drama and chaos. In this episode I talk about the science behind why that happens, and why its a problem. I discuss how the nervous system adapts to match the environment and why it takes awareness and intentional action to heal. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Have you ever watched an animal wrapped up so tightly that they can't get free? And they struggle and struggle, and get more tightly wound until they immobolize themselves. Maybe you've done this too - struggled and strained and tried to pull away only to become more stuck and more entrenched? This is something I see all the time, and while it's a normal instinct, it only makes us more stuck. In this episode I talk about how more often than not, the secret to breaking free is to surrender so that the tension and pressure releases. When you stop fighting, your nervous system calms and you can do what's actually helpful - think. Fighting doesn't help you. Struggling doesn't help you. Being calm and having access to calm and creativity does. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Trauma changes you and leaves predictable patterns of behavior. The way the mind and subconscious processes an event determines if the event gets coded as traumatic or not, and if the event gets coded as traumatic there are predictable somatic responses and thought patterns related to the event. Mind has a goal of survival, always. When data about an event gets processed as trauma, mind will continue to prioritize survival and for many people this leads to being stuck in perpetual survival mode, aka fight or flight. In this episode I talk about some of the most common behaviors I see in clients who have unhealed trauma. I discuss how mind/unconscious reads data about events and why sometimes that data gets stuck and how that leads to being in chronic survival mode. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Maybe you struggle to hear your intuition. Maybe you wish you were someone who could make decisions with more ease and more knowing. Maybe you've been disconnected from your body for a while and up in your head too much. Perfect, this epidose is for you. Intuition is one of the most powerful sources of knowledge and once you learn to tap into it, you have access to so much wisdom. In this episode I talk about what intuition feels like, and how to tap into your own intuition. Dr. Gabor Mate was discussing trauma with Sah D'Simone and it inspired this podcast episode. When you heal from trauma, you reconnect to yourself, which means you have access to your intuition. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free If you have ever laid your head down on your pillow, ready to finally get some sleep after a long day of life-ing, only to find that your brain takes this opportunity to think about everything you've ever done and also tomorrows to do list and also that one really weird thing you said when you were 12? So frustrating right, like hello brain, we're trying to sleep here! In this episode I explain why this happens, what your brain is actually doing and how to fix it so you can get that beauty sleep you don't even need because you're already so beautiful. No, the answer isn't melatonin or meditating or having a 4238 step bedtime routine. The fix is simple and doesn't even take that long. You're welcome. And if you want me in your brain helping you create an absolutely magical life, check out how to work with me via my website. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free People who operate from abundance just MOVE differently. When you have an abundant mindset, there is no need to worry or protect or brace; because you know and understand that there is always more then enough. More than enough money, love, opportunities, time. This mindset allows you to focus on you, take your time, trust that the things that are meant for you will always be yours. Operating in abundance opens you up. Compare that to a scarcity mindset which tells you to take every opportunity (even the ones you know are wrong for you) because another may not come, to settle because who knows when you will get another chance, to constantly brace yourself to defend. Operating from scarcity closes you off, and the worst part is that people who operate from scarcity think you're protecting yourself. In reality though, you're just closing yourself off. In this episode I discuss the difference between abundance mindset and scarcity mindset, and teach you how to cultivate an abundance mindset. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Sometimes life be lifing, but a little too hard and you're like "Ok life, can we life a little less please?" Lucky for you, we know that you can have anything you want, if you're willing to ask the right questions. What I've found is that most people aren't very good at asking valuable questions. In this episode I'm giving you four questions to ask yourself to get clarity, figure out what to do next and to get you back on track. For those times when life feels like walking through a swamp, I ask myself four questions to get unstuck and get realigned. I'm a fan of using simple and powerful methods, so I developed these questions after needing a framework for helping people get unstuck and realigned quickly and easily. These questions are the simplest way I've found to figure out what to do quickly and with ease. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

How does working out support mental health? Glad you asked, sweet. While the gym is not therapy, it does have a high volume of research linking the benefits of movement with mental health. So if you are wanting to heal anxiety, trauma, depression or looking to just feel better in general, movement is one of the most powerful tools there is. Many people enter the personal development world through the gym, yoga, running or another movement practice. The trouble is, some people use that movement as a substitute for doing the actual healing work and then become stuck, which then usually leads to them going harder and burning out. Don't let this be you, in this episode I talk about the dangers of thinking the gym is therapy and how to use movement as a tool to support your mental health.Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free You can be doing all things in all the books, but if you aren't consciously choosing to avoid the things I talk about in this episode, you will still find yourself miserable. My dream for you is to be happy - truly, smiling ear to ear when you think about your life and how awesome it is - happy. In order to do that, there are some things you need to stop doing, because they actively sabotage your happiness. If you ask most people if they want to be happy, they would say yes. Hell, you would probably say yes. Who doesn't want to be happy, right? If youre like most people, you want to be happy but youre not sure how to get there, which is both totally normal. Our society isn't set up to foster happiness and most people believe that a life they love is beyond their reach. I came up with this episode because I see these things time and again with people I work with, and once you become aware of these things, they become pretty simple to avoid. So happiness is both working towards building a life you love and making sure you avoid happiness poisoners. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free If you're feeling stuck or depressed or anxious, I encourage you to take a very close look at the words you use. Most people don't understand how powerful language is and how much the words you think and say impact your life. Language can either keep you stuck and spiraling, or it can help you manifest a life you adore. Because your brain hates being wrong, it will make whatever you say true. If you say "they broke me" your brain is going to say "I am broken" and act accordingly. If you say "I could never do that" your brain will make sure that you WILL never do that. In this episode I give you the most powerful language shifts I work with on all my clients on and I discuss why and how language is one of the most powerful tools you have access to in order to change your life. I share how many of my clients make anxiety, depression and trauma their identity and how that language perpetuates that stuckness. Using intentional language, using language that gives you power will change your life. Your language will create a shift either way, so let's make it helpful. If you want to get started working on this, start with my free resources on my website. Website: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Finding a really good business coach can be tricky, in the wild west that is the coaching industry, anyone can call themselves anything. Shady business coaches prey on you being ignorant of the industry and having a strong desire to run your own business, and they will sell you a dream that they say only they can help come true. This is garbage. You deserve a coach who uplifts you, teaches you, supports you and actually sets you up for success. This episode lays out things for you to consider when you are thinking of hiring a business coach. In this episode, I tell you what to look out for so you don't get scammed and lose thousands of dollars. I also tell you eleven things to consider when you think you want to hire someone. There is so much more to consider than just what they put out into their marketing. I give you examples of how coaches use marketing to con people and how to determine if a business coach knows what theyre talking about and if they can help you. If you want to get started working on this, start with my free resources on my website. Website: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free If you've been feeling stuck lately and like you know you should be doing something different, you may be in a cycle of lying to yourself. I see people do this all the time. People will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to justify staying in a bad sitation, or continuing to be a toxic human. When people don't want to change, they will come up with all the excuses and lie to themselves constantly in order to protect themselves from changing. These lies can range from "Oh I could never do that" to "This is just who I am" and all it does is keep someone stuck. One of the tools I use with all of my clients to help break them of this pattern is teaching them and challenging them to be honest about EVERYTHING. This one skill is so life changing, and in this episode I talk about how to apply it, how to put it into action and some of the transformations Ive seen when clients adopt this strategy. Once you get good about this, life opens up to you. If you want to get started working on this, start with my free resources on my website. Website: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Thinking you "should by over it by now, it's been long enough" and then feeling bad about the fact that you're not healed yet is the result of a toxic narrative. That though keeps you stuck, grieving and feeling ashamed about not being over it yet, because you are only doing half of the equation. Time alone isn't enough, and in fact if you are waiting and doing nothing else then things will only get worse and whatever you're dealing with will only fester. In this episode I talk about what you can do to actually heal and move on. I give actionable strategies that you can start using today to start shifting that stuckness and start healing. Once you start actively working on healing, then time comes into the equation. Healing is energy intensive in the beginning, but with time the amount of work you do goes down and the rewards you get from the work compound. If you want to get started working on this, start with my free resources on my website. Website: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free This work - whether you are building a business or healing - is hard and it takes time. Healing and growth are not linear. This work will test you, it can exhaust you and it can feel like you take two steps forward and three steps back. This is perfectly normal. What I see for you is that you navigate healing and growth with ease and with wisdom. This is one of the roles of a good coach/therapist, to help make this process easier and to help you navigate your particular landmines and defuse them. You are literally digging the rot out of your life and planting flowers, but the day that you plant seeds is not the day that your flowers bloom. When you start working with me, my primary goal is to reorganize your brain and nervous system so that you are forever more resourced and more able to navigate whatever happens. The process takes courage and commitment and perseverance, and on the other side of this work is freedom and joy and so much ease. When you choose to do this work now, you benefit for the literal rest of your life. If you want to get started working on this, start with my free resources on my website. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Self trust is foundational to a happy, aligned life. When you trust yourself to make the right decisions, to survive what life throws at you, to make the right choice - life becomes so much easier. Every single client I work with struggles with trusting themselves for differrent reasons. In my work with clients, teaching them to explore options and make decisions and then stand by those decisions is the foundation to learning to trust yourself. When you become so rooted in yourself and your own knowledge, you realize that you are the ultimate authority and that every decision you make is the best decision you can make at the time. Self trust is the first step to self confidence and is one of the things that comes as a result of stacking evidence that you always have your own back. If you want to get started working on this, start with my free resources on my website. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free We all know a "realist" right? Someone who says things like "I don't want to get my hopes up" or "I don't really think it'll work out, but here goes nothing" and then when it doesn't work out, pretends they're not disappointed and isn't sure what made it fail? I guarantee that part of what made it fail was their mindset, their belief that it wouldn't work and their refusal to believe in themselves to the point of delusion. Let me be the person to tell you, someone out there is living the life that you are dreaming of - not because they're better or more qualified or smarter than you - simply because they chose to believe it was within their ability to do it. Believing in yourself, even without the evidence to back it up yet, is one of the biggest secrets to wild success. Your ability to be completely delusional about your dreams and your ability to make them come true will be the difference between you achieving or not achieving them. In this episode I talk about choosing to be delusional and why the most successful people on the planet - however you define success - is directly correlated to how delusional they are about their dreams. If you want to get started working on this, start with my free resources on my website. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free If you want to grow then learning from people who are smarter than you is not optional. You can waste a lot of time trying to figure it out on your own, expirementing and being stubborn about your suffering; or you can use mentorship and courses to expedite your learning and your growth. With a good coach/course/book - whatever option you want to start with and learn from - you can collapse time and get results much faster and much easier than you can on your own. In this episode I share what I paid for mentorship last year, what I am slotted already to pay this year and why I made the chocies I made in the courses and coaches I invested in. Wanna learn how to use this tool in a macro way and work together so you feel way lighter and more free? Check out how to work with me and learn from me via my website. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free As humans, we need external validation, but there is a point where it becomes a trap and it becomes a cup you can never fill. When you are always looking for someone else to validate you, you outsource your power to them and you become a slave to their praise. This means that they now have control over you, and they are able to manipulate you via praise or criticism. This is a dangerous place to be in. Is the answer to never ask for validation? No, again, its a human need. This episode covers the dangers of relying solely on other's validating you and start giving yourself the validation you are looking for. I give you a framework for validating yourself, which has hella benefits. Not the least of which is that you become full and you are no longer choosing people who have pretty words but shit follow through. When you practice self validation, your confidence naturally grows. Wanna learn how to use this tool in a macro way and work together so you feel way lighter and more free? Check out how to work with me and learn from me via my website. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free "I want to learn to love myself" is something almost all my clients say, all my girl friends have said at one point, and honestly I've lost count of how many times I've heard it. It's a great goal and its necessary, but most people get the actual process wrong. When I'm teaching clients and students to love themselves, first you need to understand what it looks like when you aren't operating in that space. This insight is going to help you understand all the spaces where you are self abandoning and self betraying. In this episode I go over the problems that come up when you're not operating out of self love, how self love becomes the foundation for growth and healing and what most people get wrong about loving themselves. I promise, its not about repeating affirmations into a mirror that feel fake af and its also about taking hella baths. If you want more, follow me on Instagram where I announce all the masterclasses. I'm doing one a month and they're hella full of teaching, fun and clarity. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free I see you - talking to your friends/partner all time, staying so busy that you never have time to think or feel, avoiding things you want to do because you don't want to go alone. All of that is keeping you from growing and healing, because in order to heal you need to be able to spend time alone and to be content doing so. If you keep running from spending time alone, you will continue making choices from scarcity instead of abundance and overflow (and I can tell you which is more fun). In this episode I walk you through long term consequences of not learning how to be okay alone, what I see in clients who have this fear, and how to fix that and why you want to. Learning to spend time alone solves so many problems, and this episode is going to help give you some clarity on what problems are stemming from that fear and also what to do next. If you want more, follow me on Instagram where I announce all the masterclasses. I'm doing one a month and they're hella full of teaching, fun and clarity. Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach

Getting into a healthy relationship after a toxic one can be a total mind f*ck, and it can be easy to overthink what to look for, what they're doing and what it means. Knowing red flags are only one half of the equation, and if all you have ever known are toxic relationships, it can be really hard to figure out what to look for in a healthy parther. HFor you know if they're toxic or not, you have to know green flags too. In this episode, I review green flags that I talk about with clients all the time. While yes we want to look out for red flags, I would argue that green flags are actually more important. There may be some that I discuss in this episode that are a surprise for you.

Free Stuff: https://livemyhappyhealth.com/free Wanna grow, start a business. Any entrepreneur will tell you that the growth that comes with entrepreneurship is both like drinking from a fire hose and also unlike anything else. In my time working with entrepreneurs - I work mainly with service based entrepreneurs - I have had a front row seat to their journey and their growth. So many people think businesses are built with systems and taking action, but what really makes a business successful is your ability to grow into who you need to be in order to run that business successfully. Not only does entrepreneurship require that you work through your fears, you also have to learn and grow and implement and build your skillset - its like therapy without a therapist. This is one reason I strongly encourage entrepreneurs - especially service based entrepreneurs - to work with a coach. Cheers to your success and your growth my darling! Website: www.livemyhappyhealth.com IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach