The Evolved Masculine: Redefining Sex, Power & Success

Whether we're talking about COVID or the recent police brutality incident, we see a lot of energy flowing. Just turn on to the news or look around you! But, at the same time, we also see people trying to move on with their lives and pretend that nothing's really going on. The Evolved Masculine, as we continue to learn about, is not like that. We know that he is a man of principles and values that he stands for. So join my guest Sanyika “The Firestarter” Street and me, as we talk about how to engage in the midst of this moment.   Among many topics, we will get into:  Finding out the truth that there are no blacks and whites. Operating on non-negotiable commitments. Leaning into the discomfort. This is beyond quote cards and Facebook posts! How people are picking values as a business exercise and not willing to die for it.  Stepping into the fire. What does that mean? Do you want to be right or explore? Dealing with anger and judgment. Sanyika's experience with difficulty finding employment because of his skin color and name! The real difference between Black Lives Matter and All Lives Matter.  Identifying your values at this point in time. Your belief can lead to actions that lead to a more significant impact!   ~   About Sanyika Street:   Sanyika "The Firestarter" Street is a POWERHOUSE. He lights the FIRE in you so you can light up the world.   He teaches people how to stop negotiating with themselves pick one path and go ALL IN, via his High-Performance Coaching Program, The All In Method. It's about living in the black and white, NO GREY.   As High-Powered Storyteller & Speaker, Sanyika uses spoken word storytelling as an innovative method to tell stories for some of the biggest brands in the world. He's worked with Sony Playstation, FOX Network, The US Department Of Defense, Universal Music Group and INK Global.   For more, you can reach the firestarter on IG @FirestarterLive~   ~   You can find Sanyika Street on... Website: https://www.firestarterlive.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/firestarterlive/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/firestarterlive/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/firestarterlive/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVfP3vfLpsQsvu7U9Qzji1g     You've seen the hashtag, now actually go check out the website: http://BlackLivesMatter.com   ---   Connect with Destin Gerek! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvedmasculine Facebook: http://facebook.com/DestinGerekProfile The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs & the One She Craves: http://evolvedmasculinebook.com/ The Evolved Masculine Membership: http://evolvedmasculine.com/membership Website: https://www.evolvedmasculine.com/ [FREE] The Evolved Masculine Blueprint: http://evolvedmasculine.com/blueprint   P.S. If you received any value whatsoever from this episode please press SUBSCRIBE ✅, RATE & REVIEW this podcast!

Conspiracy theories are thriving right now on social media about the current crisis. Why is there a massive distrust with both the government and mainstream media? What are we really to believe? And where do we go from here? Join my guest Daniel Pinchbeck and me as we talk about how humanity can move forward in these trying times and understand these events on a deeper level. Among many topics, we will get into:    How both the government and traditional mainstream media have lost the trust of so many millions of Americans, and what we can do about it. Which parts of the conspiracies are facts, and what is simply distraction?  COVID-19's effect on the environment and the ideal ways to replenish the planet. The gifts of Trump-ism and concerns with the upcoming election. Finding ways to unify ideas and understandings. Why is it difficult for progressives to achieve the level of organization shown on the right? The world leaders being trapped in their egos and how egoic structures can be reprogrammed.  How can society accept and embrace the reality of psychedelic experiences? Are there actually there spiritual forces at play with what's going on?   ~   About Daniel Pinchbeck:   Daniel Pinchbeck is the author of How Soon is Now?, Breaking Open the Head, and 2012: The Return of Quetzalcoatl. He co-founded Evolver.net, Reality Sandwich, and his new online project Liminal.news ~   You can find Daniel Pinchbeck on... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pinchbeckdaniel/ Website: http://pinchbeck.io Blog: http://liminal.news/author/dpinchbeck/   ---   Connect with Destin Gerek! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvedmasculine Facebook: http://facebook.com/DestinGerekProfile The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs & the One She Craves: http://evolvedmasculinebook.com/ The Evolved Masculine Membership: http://evolvedmasculine.com/membership Website: https://www.evolvedmasculine.com/ [FREE] The Evolved Masculine Blueprint: http://evolvedmasculine.com/blueprint   P.S. If you received any value whatsoever from this episode please press SUBSCRIBE ✅, RATE & REVIEW this podcast!

What do the terms gender, biological sex, and sexual orientation really mean? Have you thought about the pronouns you use? Why should we be programmed to think in black and white when we know that's not the case? Join my guest Terra Lyn Anderson and me as we talk about redefining sex and the subtleties and differences within. This is such a great learning experience, and I wish that you learn with me on this episode. We will talk about:   The establishment of connection simply through the use of appropriate pronouns. The understanding of the new generation with the use of non-binary vocabulary. Terra's disagreement against this “binary” or “non-binary” mindset. Why can't there be ways to define others like Terra in a specific way like “man” or “woman”? Historically-gendered roles. Is cooking a delicate thing even if knives and fire are associated with it? And more...   ~   About Terra Lyn Anderson:   Terra Lyn Anderson MA, R-DMT, LPC-Intern, centers the queer, trans and non-binary community in their work as a diversity consultant and gender/sex therapist in Portland, OR. Terra is the owner and visionary of Embody Emerge, LLC, a training, consulting and counseling organization dedicated to ending gender and sexuality-based oppression through education and advocacy. Terra is a published author, certified sex coach, and erotic activist working passionately to support the LGBTQ+ community to access greater pleasure, fulfillment and connection by empowering the body as a guiding force for personal transformation. As a queer gender non-conforming femme, Terra pledges themself to a future where all bodies are free from social oppression to live and love in ways that truly celebrate the beauty in our differences.   ~   You can find Terra Lyn Anderson on... Website: https://www.embodyemerge.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/embodyemerge/   ---   Connect with Destin Gerek! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvedmasculine Facebook: http://facebook.com/DestinGerekProfile The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs & the One She Craves: http://evolvedmasculinebook.com/ The Evolved Masculine Membership: http://evolvedmasculine.com/membership Website: https://www.evolvedmasculine.com/ [FREE] The Evolved Masculine Blueprint: http://evolvedmasculine.com/blueprint   P.S. If you received any value whatsoever from this episode please press SUBSCRIBE ✅, RATE & REVIEW this podcast!      

#061: Mastering the Erotic Blueprints What's your Erotic Blueprint? Are you a Sensual? Energetic? Kinky? Sexual? or a Shapeshifter? And what does that even mean? Join my guest Master Erotic Blueprint Coach Ian Ferguson, and me as we talk about the nuances between these different ways of being sexually wired. These are like your personality types, but for your erotic being.  Among many topics, we will get into:   Ian's start from a failed, sexually unsatisfying marriage to an ownership of all of his desires and his authentic expression. Figuring out what your turn-ons and your turn-offs are Understanding the different erotic blueprints and how they can improve your sex life How to navigate being in relationship with a partner who has a different blueprint than you and more...   Take the Erotic Blueprint Quiz here! https://bit.ly/eroticblueprint-dg  ~  About Ian Ferguson: Ian Ferguson is a Master Trainer of the Erotic Blueprint™ Methodology and co-founder of Jaiya, Inc., a company dedicated to radically transforming how society discusses and experiences sex. He is an international speaker who has appeared on top podcasts for Tony Robbins and media such as Good Morning America, VH1, Anderson Live and has been profiled in Details magazine. His mission, along with over 100 Certified Erotic Blueprint Coaches™, is to release shame around sex, helping people empower themselves to reclaim the pleasure and true erotic expression that is their birthright. —  

#060: The Wildest Analogy for Finding Optimism in These Challenging Times  While you've likely been inundated with Corona Virus stories and opinion pieces. I promise that you've never heard it explained quite like this before! COVID-19 has seemingly changed our world practically overnight. Why did this happen? Why now? WTF is going on?!? And where are things going?  Among many topics, we will get into:   The string of crises that I experienced that brought my seven-year ‘Erotic Rockstar' adventure to an end: a toxic relationship, a respiratory infection, an intestinal parasite, the abortion of a child that I wanted, my mother's death, and 3rd stage adrenal exhaustion leaving me bedridden for months. All in the space of 1.5 years! How these wake up calls are that same thing that's happening in our world today. We have to break free from our resistance in accepting that the life we have been living is unsustainable, coming to an end, and something new is wanting to come forward. Preparing for the future by honing your power and capacity, and with that the role that You can play in creating a new way of living.   —  

#059: COVID-19: Transformational Growth in the Time of Great Crisis   In 2005, I went to New Orleans and Mississippi to volunteer in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. I learned many powerful lessons from my time down there:   Crisis brings out both the very worst and the very best in humankind. There were those taking advantage of the chaos for their own personal gain; and there were many more who were giving all they've got to be of support and service to total strangers.   Some people lost everything they had materially (in Mississippi, coastal homes were swept into the sea leaving only a cement slab of a platform remaining), and some people's homes were spared. Some people were devastated, and others were faring quite well through it all. Yet, it wasn't the amount that was taken that made the difference, it was entirely the difference in mindset that they held. Those focused on all that was lost were miserable, and those that were grateful for their lives and/or their families felt renewed by this crisis.   Which leads to: Crisis causes people to reassess their priorities as they come to see what really matters. And finally, times of crisis are incredibly fertile opportunities to create rapid, deep, and lasting transformational change; both in your own personal life, as well as, on a larger collective level.   In this episode, I share my thoughts on the #COVID19 pandemic; the potent difference between isolation and solitude; and how we can use this global crisis to accelerate our own evolutionary growth and that of this planet's.   —  

#058: Being a Female Leader on the Internet in 2020 (What Most Men Don't See) with Ruby Fremon   Two of the core things that I try to do with this podcast (and my work generally) is to help men deepen their sense of empowerment/leadership and to gain deeper understanding and insight into women and their experiences.    In this episode we dive deep into both. Join me and my guest Ruby Fremon as we have real, raw talk about the challenges that she has faced being a visible female leader with a potent voice on the internet. We talk about the issues that she's faced throughout her career and how she has been able to overcome them. And we discuss what men can do to both be received better by the women in their lives, and how men can play a role in creating greater safety for women. Among many topics, Ruby and I explore:   How to find your voice and stand for your truth Finding a position to be able to express something that you really stand for Dealing with emotions that you are unable to control The difficulties with being a female figure on a public platform and how to address this challenge for future generations Understanding how to both have respect and show a genuine interest as a man to women that you are attracted to How to connect with your sexual energy and gain greater mastery over it so that you are neither simply acting out from it nor needing to repress it.   ~   About Ruby Fremon:   Ruby's mission is to give the world a voice. As a Top Breakthrough Coach and Activation Expert for purpose-driven leaders who are ready to bring their big missions into the spotlight, her no-bullshit approach ignites true transformation, while flipping fear into actualized ambition and doubt into absolute confidence.   Ruby works with leaders, from artists to entrepreneurs, who are ready to activate their voice, unleash their missions, and gain the conviction to lead their purpose. Having worked with hundreds of clients, she is a catalyst for change and hugely successful at helping her clients embody radical resiliency and an unstoppable mentality.   Named “An Inspirational Woman” by The Huffington Post and an “Icon of Influence” at the 2018 New Media Summit, Ruby was the visionary behind the annual three-day transformative leadership event, Amplified Soul Live®. She is the founder of The Thought Leader Collective and host of “Today's Thought Leader” podcast and uses her bold, no-nonsense approach to help leaders rise up, fulfill their missions and make their voices heard.   Learn more about Ruby at rubyfremon.com or follow her online @iamruby.   Join Ruby's text community! Text #potenttruth to +1 (781) 336 0160 Subscribe to Ruby on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/IAMRUBYvlog Signup to receive Ruby's FREE Weekly LovePunch emails: www.rubyfremon.com/subscribe   —  

#057: Why Men Need Men   Join me and my guest Stefanos Sifandos as we talk about the power of men coming together in support of other men. Stefanos and I get real and you can witness realtime how he has learned to navigate his own life challenges. Among many topics, Stefanos and I explore:   Having the willingness to take accountability for the mistakes of your past The benefits of being vulnerable, confronting your weaknesses, and taking steps toward real change Understanding your value as a man What exactly is a men's group anway? And the value of guidance in solving the issues that men face Stefanos' experiences and lessons within his own relationships and the nature of commitment   ~   About Stefanos Sifandos:   Stefanos has been immersed in deep men's empowerment work and the exploration of intimate and sacred relationships. Merging the best of eastern and western methodologies and philosophies to promote balance, union and power in life and love. Using integrative techniques and methods, such as neural-empowerment, Shamanic Praxis, holotropic and biodynamic breath work, trauma release and integration, western psychology, Eastern Mysticism and more, Stefanos has created programs, models and systems to enhance the quality of your life, your intimate relationships and in essence bring you closer to your potential. Having worked with thousands of men and women from all over the world, elite special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists, some of the best fighters (multiple world champions) and leveraging physical challenge as an opportunity for transformation and expansion, Stefanos has learned much about the male and masculine condition and as a result deep insight in to the feminine and female condition. Having also traversed the depths of his own pain, suicidal thoughts and fears profoundly, He has overcome destructive patterns and has faced and overcome multiple ‘ego deaths'. Stefanos understands there is difference between culturally defined masculinity and sacred masculinity. He further explores what it means to be a GOOD man and to be GOOD at being a man in today's world.   —  

#056: Modern Manhood with the author Cleo Stiller Destin and Cleo talk about how the #MeToo movement affects not just women but also men. Women are mostly the victims of sexual harassment and sexual assault. As they bravely come out to share how it affected their lives, how do men react and how should they react? Tune in to this episode as Cleo shares about her book, how some men opened up their feelings and realizations about #MeToo and more... - Cleo Stiller is a Peabody Award–nominated, Emmy Award–nominated, and Gracie Award–winning journalist, speaker and television host. Her acclaimed health-focused television show explores deeply personal and political stories about health and identity. She speaks regularly about health and gender representation in the media and has been featured in The New York Times, Fortune Magazine, Self, Variety and many more. Her first book, Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today is available everywhere on November 12, 2019 with Simon & Schuster. https://cleostiller.net —  

#055: Seduction, Porn, Deida, Consent & More w/ Guest Michael Ellsberg   Among many other topics, Michael Ellsberg and I explore: --> The problems with the pickup movement, which was (unfortunately) the place a lot of men went for "guidance" on how to relate to women. --> The ups and downs of the "conscious sexuality" movement, which has also been a place many men have sought guidance--though is starting to feel dated to a lot of people.   --> How David Deida's "The Way of the Superior Man" (published 20 years ago) influenced the (mostly white) American personal development culture, and why it's time to move beyond it.   --> How ingrained homophobia in our society limits men's range of expressiveness, and how to move beyond these limitations towards a fuller and richer life, even for those of us who are straight.   --> Why it's crucial that even "masculine" men embrace and explore our own inner feminine sides. (And what do these terms even mean anymore?)   --> Why any man identifies as masculine must come to his own definition of this term, rather than following pre-conceived scripts--and how to find our own natural definition and ideal.   --> How to navigate the perilous balancing act between many women's desire for a man to lead the romantic interactions between them and be the "pursuer," versus men's newly increased sensitivity towards not overstepping boundaries or being imposing. (This is so important and SO many guys are tripped up about this now.)   --> The why and how of allowing erotic interactions with women to evolve organically, while still feeling empowered to express our desires and intentions clearly.   --> This is a juicy one: Michael and I debate on the merits of "affirmative consent."   --> The two types of responses men have had to #MeToo--one really constructive, one really destructive. (And how to embrace the former.)   --> And Michael Ellsberg's favorite topic--p*rn. Michael is someone who creates Indy p*rn, whereas in my practice, I have seen many of the compulsive and negative ways men can relate to porn--so we hash out our differences here in this lively segment.     Michael Ellsberg is the co-author of "The Last Safe Investment: Spending Now to Increase Your True Wealth Forever" (Penguin, 2016), and the author of "The Education of Millionaires: Everything You Won't Learn in College about How to Be Successful" (Penguin, 2011), and "The Power of Eye Contact: Your Secret for Success in Business, Love and Life" (HarperCollins, 2010). His writing has been published on Forbes.com, Time.com, and the blog of Tim Ferriss, and in the New York Times.   You can find Michael Ellsberg on: Michael Ellsberg: http://ellsberg.com Facebook: http://fb.com/ellsberg LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelellsberg/ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/ellsbergmichael Twitter: https://twitter.com/michaelellsberg —  

I came across Lillie Love's provocative article with this title and it seemed a valuable jumping off point to discuss the uncomfortable shadow side of where we are right now in the #metoo movement... https://medium.com/@lilclairelove/the-shadow-side-of-metoo-and-publicly-outing-perpetrators-5ec8d0d50142

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"Two years ago on a coaching course in LA, I met Destin Gerek, at a time in my life when I was a mess in how I was relating to women. At the time I knew I'd found a man who could really help me sort out what was holding me back from having the romantic life I wanted. Prior to meeting him, I'd studied and worked with pick-up artists who were the alpha-male "I'll help you date multiple hot women" types. Rating women out of 10. Focusing on sex as the goal. Going out with wingmen to prey on women. Marking endless notches on their belt and leaving a trail of hurt behind them. Unable to form quality relationships of depth with women. But Destin was different. He really cared about women. He deeply understood the importance of safety for women, both physical and emotional. His wisdom on seduction went far deeper than the professional seducers I'd worked with. They were like kindergarten students compared to him. It was a life-changing pleasure to do the equivalent of a PhD in Understanding Women with him during my time as his apprentice. My work with Destin was one of the major components of moving from a place of having loveless or toxic relationships with women, as well as a lot of empty casual sex, to a place of being in an awesome healthy relationship with an incredible woman. A relationship that has real depth of love. A relationship that found and continues to find my edges for expansion. Where my beloved and I create the kind of relationship that works for us, rather than blindly follow how we were told a relationship should be. The work I did with Destin was the fire-cracker up the bum I needed. To turn my focus to being a student of women, with full authenticity. To understand that although there'll always be an element of mystery to women, there is a LOT that can be understood by a man. To understand that the journey of understanding women continues until the last breath. To understand that very few men on the planet really understand women well. To understand that most of the men who claim to understand women, only understand them at a relatively superficial level." --@Dave McDermott

There are times in life in which you will be confronted with challenges greater than you would have thought you'd ever be able to handle. And yet, there they are. If you are a leader in a company, organization, or community that goes doubly. I am joined by Jaiya Ma (Erotic Blueprints & New World Sex Education), Robert Kandell (cofounder of OneTaste, host of TuffLove podcast), and Amy Jo Goddard (author of Woman on Fire, and The Fire Woman Retreat). Each with at least a decade of leadership experience.   We will be exploring: -How we've navigated extremely difficult situations that have arisen in our organizations. -How we've each made mistakes and/or negatively impacted individuals or our community at large -What we got right -How we can uplevel the industry & minimize these things from continuing to happen -What policies or best practices have we come up with for ourselves as leaders and our community, what's our current best understanding, what are our learnings -How to navigate recover that actually deepens the trust, connection and intimacy of a situation. -And likely a whole lot more...   Each of my three guests is extraordinary in their own right. I am honored to have them join me for this episode while I'm in the midst of navigating my own crisis situation.

From Namaste Moore: “The idea of the ‘Awakening Feminine' is hubris disguised as insight, darling. The truth? The Feminine was never asleep...women were” -- And what does this mean to us as men?

Josefina Bashout aka The Pu$sy Priestess join us to help answer the most frequently asked question in the highly charged comments sections of my last few posts, "What do you mean when you write 'the Feminine'?" Josefina shares about her journey from powerhouse producer working for Cindy Crawford, to her own 'feminine awakening' just two years ago and becoming a voice today during these times of great societal and cultural change. Oh, and sensuality and pleasure. We'll definitely be discussing that...

This week's Evolved Masculine livestream was likely the most challenging out of some 50+ that I have done. Let's just say that it went a bit off the rails. And like many conflicts, it got worse before it started to get better. Yet, Perri and I both place a high value on connection. Join us now, as we reconnect, unpack the how things went awry in our interview, and uncover the many lessons that we each are learning as a result.

This is the third installment of “The Future of Feminism?” series, here on Evolved Masculine Tuesdays, and already one of the more controversial ones. Feminism has brought women the right to vote, the right to own property, and their own bank accounts, entry into previously restricted Men-Only professions and spaces. And so much more. And yet, everything has a cost. If we aren't able to honestly look at But every positive intent in action also has unintended negative consequences. WARNING!: This episode went a bit off the rails by the end of it. So much so, that we did a followup episode a couple days later.

Women today don't trust men! Is this true? And if so, does it have to be? *Should* women even trust men in this #metoo era? Or perhaps is it that women achingly crave to trust the masculine, however there is a particular flavor that is being yearned for in order for that trust to occur? And what would that even look like? There is a new wave of pro-healthy masculinity, feminine empowerment that's been rising, that seems to contrast quite strongly with the current mainstream feminist conversation. This is Part 2 in our series exploring the cutting edge conversation...

There is a new wave of pro-healthy masculinity, feminine empowerment that's been rising, that seems to contrast quite strongly with the current mainstream feminist conversation. Gillian Pothier has been rising as a powerful voice within this new movement. Her commitment to the healthy support and upliftment of both women & men shines through in all of her highly shared, often controversial writings such as: THE SHAMING of THE MASCULINE: WEAPONIZED FEMININE PAIN A CELEBRATION OF CATCALLING: THE RIGHT TO CLAIM MY OWN EXALTATION and RUIN HER I'll be doing a series of conversations with women who embody this new movement over the coming month(s) on the Evolved Masculine livestream

Are you a Gamer? Or care for someone who is? Last week, the World Health Organization declared that compulsively playing video games now qualifies as a mental disorder. My guest is Cam Adair, founder of Game Quitters who helps people who are trying to quit gaming. He's been doing non-stop media appearances for the past week since the WHO announcement, and is even doing an interview with NBC 30min before he's on our show.

Why would a man choose to become a father? What do you do if it 'just happens'? My personal struggles with fatherhood. My complicated relationship with my own dad. Why are there so many crappy fathers? How do we do it better? and of course, your own questions and discussion..,

John Halcyon Styn

Satyen's post that led to the interview:https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10156385169557812 As a creative pallet to draw upon, rather than a hard and fast philosophy, we all have the whole Spectrum of Masculine and Feminine essences within us. Satyen Raja

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Men now get that women have orgasms, desires, fantasies. But male culture is still running from the paradigm that women are the gatekeepers & we have to get around their defenses. How do you spark her authentic desire and flip that dynamic on its head?

I was honored to speak on this panel along with two incredible pioneers in spirituality and consciousness. Listen in as we discuss dating in the aftermath of #metoo, and personal mental, emotional, spiritual shifts that are needed in order to move towards more harmonious relating between men and women.

Miriam Elyse

She was raped on her 15th birthday. Three months before we met. I ended up being the first person that she told. 16.5 years old, I was not exactly emotionally equipped to handle this. I felt every emotion I could think of in those moments. Most strongest would be rage. Anger. I would get these flashes of this imagery of throwing this unnamed invisible boy against the wall and hammering nails into his testicles one by one. We went on to have a multi year relationship with one another and that rape was ever present. Emotionally: As deep and intimate as we got it always seems like there was something there between us. Physically, I can't tell you the number of times I spent 2am sitting on the bathroom floor holding her hand while she was on the toilet screaming in pain from near constant UTIs and bladder infections. I took on a message somewhere in this time period that men are dangerous. Especially men's sexuality. I made a declaration at some point around 18 years old that I was going to do everything that I can with this life to help create a world where things like this didn't happen anymore. Little did I know though that what I was… I don't talk about this publicly a whole lot, I had a number of experiences in a row, it's like it opened up a pandora's box where suddenly this is what I started to attract in my life. Throughout college, I seemed to be the one that women would come to and share their stories of sexual assault and abuse to. And I further took on this message that men are dangerous. Over time I started disconnecting more and more from other men. My life started to be filled with women: my friends, my girlfriends, my bosses, my roommates, all were women as I further and further began to separate myself from other men. It took another 10 years for me to realize that something was really out of balance inside of me. That I had come to disconnect from my own masculinity and my own sense of being a man, because that is bad, it's wrong, it's what's causing the big problems of the world. I don't want to be that. The gift that came through all that is that I got very in touch with my own feminine. She, the feminine within me, has brought incredible gifts into my life. The deep limitless well of compassion and empathy that I seem to have, my incredible sensitivity to be able to feel what is going on in other people. Along with that I was feeling the weight of the world, the pain of the world, and a strong sense of responsibility to do everything that I can to ease that pain and suffering. So, I ended up in yet another relationship with a woman who had suffered multiple instances of sexual trauma, as has pretty much every woman that I've ever been with. And once more, what I can do? What can I do to make you happy? What can I do to ease that pain? And I bend over backwards, giving up more and more parts of myself in the process to just try to make you feel safe, to make you feel happy, to make everything ok. But it was always there, and it would just explode in another problem in some way. As I took it on as, what's wrong with me? What am I doing wrong? This is just another sign of what's wrong with me, and how I'm not enough. And if I just figure this out, if I just figure out HOW TO BE THE RIGHT KIND OF MAN FOR YOU. I could make it all ok. But yet another relationship where I didn't figure it out soon enough. Where the rollercoaster of our incredible love and beauty and depth and intimacy and connection and pleasure that we experience together in one moment, can just be met by the next moment of CRASHing down and blowing up into problems and conflict and pain and suffering. I can't tell you how many times I experienced this same relationship with a different woman. The pain and suffering was so intense that… combined with the depth of the love that I had, that I would do *anything* to understand this. To understand what I can do to be that man. And what I can do to change the culture of men. So I did. I put in countless hours. Countless trainings and traveling around the world and learning from experts and masters in fields around sexuality and energetics and spirituality, and masculine/feminine dynamics. And all the stuff that very few people even have an understanding that these things exist let alone go to the depths that I did. What originally was just how can I help women, how can I help heal this pain, this trauma they're holding. And ultimately realizing that I was simply dealing with symptoms. The problem is rooted in men. The problem is rooted in the culture of men. The problem is rooted in these ideas that we are raised to believe of what it means to be a man. And that if we really want to change these things, that's where we need to bring our attention: how do we shift that culture. And how do we shift that culture in a way that's not just: This is what's wrong with you. This is what's wrong with men in the world. I took on that message that men and masculinity was wrong and it just fucked me up. That's not the solution. We need an alternate model. An alternate model of a more evolved masculinity. That can inspire us with possibility. That can draw us into being more of what we are capable of being. Honestly what we are probably truly meant to be. Quite simply, that's why I do what I do. Join me. Be the role model that you wished you had. Take a stand and be a voice. And right now, more than anything, be a space of safety and just listen to the women in your life...

We are taking a short break here at The Evolved Masculine podcast. Please explore the other 28 episodes in the meantime. And while you are at it, download The Evolved Masculine Blueprint 10-minute guided audio as my free gift to help you step into your own Evolved Masculine Archetype. http://EvolvedMasculine.com/blueprint   To learn more about The Evolved Masculine Path  CONTACT US HERE. In service, Destin Gerek

  Dr. Heike and Jonathan Hudson are somatic s*xual healers. In this episode, Destin explores with them what that means, and how our past experiences are stored within our bodies as well as our minds. They offer insight into how to release past trauma from the body to allow for emotional and s*xual freedom. Dr. Heike and Jonathan Hudson have committed their lives to creating a new paradigm of relationships and s*xuality. This couple is passionate about throwing outdated concepts overboard and create new working systems. They are striving to be a living example of what a deep loving and conscious relationship can look like. Heike and Jonathan's passion is to guide and educate men and women in releasing anything that is in the way of experiencing the closeness and depth we all desire in relationships. What they have named, “S*xtraordinary Living”, is the modern and healthy blueprint to live a truly turned on life, in and outside the bedroom, without the past experience of pain or drama. As sex educators and somatic sexual healers, Dr. Heike and Jonathon are the creators of S*x and Love Unplugged Meetup, and The Pleasure on Purpose™ Healing System used in their signature programs for men and women. Together, they have created a master blend of spirituality and sexuality that they teach and embody in their own lives. With over 25 years of combined expertise in Human S*xuality, Somatic Bodywork, Naturopathy, Spiritual Counseling, Energy Healing, and Neuro-Linguistic Programming, clients from around the world experience extraordinary shifts in their relationships, s*x and love lives, businesses, and health. Heike and Jonathan promise that you CAN be fully s*xually expressed, have deep connection and authentic communication, and finally find true lasting love without ever attracting the wrong partner again, or feeling s*xually frustrated and pleasure deprived. Together they create S*xtraordinary Lives and Relationships!

Author, Seductress, and former Pro-Domme Arden Leigh shares with Destin her journey into her sexuality and how she has shifted from playing into the male fantasy through her work with seduction to embracing the parts of herself she believed men did not want to see. With rapier wit and full-frontal honesty, Arden sheds the trappings of her past identity to reveal more of who she is becoming, and shares with men her perspective on how to best show up for the women in their lives. ARDEN LEIGH is the founder of the Sirens Seduction Forum and the author of The New Rules Of Attraction. She is a coach at the Interpersonal Attraction Institute, writes a regular advice column for Auxiliary Magazine, and maintains her blog at ardenleigh.typepad.com. She is currently at work on a memoir of her experiences in the BDSM community. Her band, Arden and the Wolves, has released two EPs.

In this episode, Jayson Gaddis provides valuable information for men who experience conflict in relationship. He provides a way of looking at relationships that will help men step off of the rollercoaster and manage their own triggers so they can show up in a way that leads to more harmonious relating. Jayson Gaddis, relationship student & teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast, is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn't get in school–”How to do intimate relationships.” That's why he founded The Relationship School. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he's married to his amazing wife of 9 years and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn't live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.

Our world is in crisis. In this episode, Destin clearly responds to the toxic masculinity we see in the highest levels of our world leadership. This episode is your wake-up call. We have the opportunity and the responsibility now, more than ever, to own our power and ability to bring about a global shift in consciousness towards compassion, strength, and maturity as men. Will you join us in doing so? Destin calls you to step into your power. Step into leadership by becoming an example for other men. Join us on the Evolved Masculine Path.

In this Episode, Destin introduces the launch of the Australia chapter of The Evolved Masculine Path. He takes an audience at the Taste of Love Festival through his description of the Evolved Masculine, and fields questions related to masculine empowerment and what it means to be on the path of awakening consciousness. Finally, he introduces Dave McDermott who is spearheading the movement's spread to Australia, and leaves with a call to action. What will it take for YOU to embody the man you know you're capable of becoming?

In this episode, Dane Tomas and Destin go deep into narratives surrounding men's work and what they're doing in the burgeoning world of consciousness and personal growth. They explore what it means to be an evolved man, and how to balance the desire for self-improvement and the necessity to just let go. They dance around the question of how to become masterful in your life without simultaneously feeling shame about what you have not yet achieved. Dane Tomas is a writer, performer and innovator inspired by topics such as consciousness, sexuality, entrepreneurship and personal evolution. He is the author of two books “Clear Your Shit” and “The Conscious Hustle." He currently dedicates his time to poetry and performance, building transformational businesses, learning Brazilian Jiujitsu and is conducting a 148 day masculine archetype experiment as research for his new book: “The Integrated Man.” Men can join the Integrated Men's Circle on Facebook.

Philippe and Destin discuss the path to becoming a leader. They dive deeply into discussions of Patriarchy and how it affects men as well as women. They discuss the "Unfuckwithable State" and the journey that they, as well as many men who are rewiring their programming surrounding masculinity, have gone through. Philippe speaks about connecting to the inner child and the inner animal, and how it can help with the practice of embodiment. Philippe Lewis is a Love Coach, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Trained Somatica Practitioner, and Epic Event Producer. For the last 18 years, he has been exploring love, relationships, intimacy, sensuality and sexuality with individuals and communities through teaching, writing, coaching and events with the goal of growing men and women into better lovers and better humans. He is a father, a lover, a partner, a husband, a teacher, a producer, a writer, a social artist, a coach, a counselor, and much more. He has a deep appreciation for people and life, and his deepest wish is to leave everyone a little bit better and a little bit more delighted wherever he goes

Writer and activist Tiq Milan discusses his journey to self-determining his authentic masculine expression as a trans-man. Destin questions him about the crisis of masculinity and how he views himself in relationship to that struggle. Finally, they discuss some of the "uncomfortable" questions surrounding trans* identity, including surgery, and acceptance of the body versus modifying it. Tiq speaks and writes about intersectional leadership, transgender rights and racial justice. He shares stories of his life and how his transgender experience has informed his views on masculinity, race and the gender binary. A journalist for over a decade his work has appeared on MIC, Buzzfeed, NBC and CNN. He is also a strategic media consultant helping organizations and companies create detailed media campaigns that will engage diverse audiences in ways that are inclusive and authentic. Tiq has been most inspired by his years mentoring LGBT youth at the Bronx Community Pride Center and the Hetrick Martin Institute in the New York city. He was able to witness first hand the intersectional lived experiences of gay and trans youth and how it is affected by social systems put in place to help them. He most recently was the Senior Media Strategist and National Spokesperson for GLAAD where he utlilized the media to call attention to the needs of the lgbt community, particularly transgender people of color.  He is currently the Co-Founder of Milan Media Arts Productions along with his wife Kim Katrin Milan. MAPS is content creation and consulting firm that is dedicated to creating narratives of queer people and their allies.

Author and speaker Preston Smiles speaks with Destin about how he transformed his life from an LA street kid to a channel of divine love. He shares the five principles he's discovered in his journey and introduces his new book, Now or Never. Finally, he and Destin discuss the challenges facing men, including isolation and the response of the reptilian brain. Preston Smiles has generated millions of views with his message of LOVE, and personal freedom, making a deep impact through writing, speaking, and making heart based videos. With his loyal social media tribe, using his unique gift to make complex ideas simple and relatable, Preston Smiles is breaking all the rules, and carving out his own path as a Next Generation Thought Leader. With the success of his new book LOVE LOUDER published by the world renown Simon & Schuster, Preston is gearing up to release what he calls his best work to date in “NOW or Never your epic life in 5 steps on december 27th. He's has been featured in Forbes, South Africa Comos, LA Weekly, Los Angeles Magazine, and Origin Magazine. He is also a contributor to Huffington Post, The Daily Love, Good Guy Swag, and has appeared on top podcasts such as Lewis Howes's The School of Greatness and Addicted2Success. He recently won Elixir Magazine's Millennial Mentor Award, graced the cover of Millennial Magazine with his wife Alexi and is one of the youngest members of ATL (Association of Transformational Leaders), founded by Jack Canfield.

Author Daniel Pinchbeck and Destin discuss the courage required from us individually and collectively to face the shadow presented to us by a President Trump as well as by the ecological crisis we face. According to Daniel, we can see this period as an initiation or a rite of passage for humanity as a species. What is the next "operating system" for human society? How might it work and how can we contribute to it? Daniel Pinchbeck is the bestselling author of Breaking Open the Head and 2012: The Return of Quetzalcoatl. His new book, How Soon Is Now?, comes out in February from Watkins howsoonisnow.info. He was a founder of Reality Sandwich and Evolver.net. He was featured in the 2010 documentary, 2012: Time for Change. He is currently launching a new media platform, WOKE Woke.network. 

John "Halcyon" Styn joins Destin in discussing their personal journeys into sexuality and radical authenticity/expression, and with forging careers out of being authentically themselves. John discusses gender dynamics and the impact being raised in a feminist household has had on him as a man, as well as how he's added to that understanding over the years. They discuss the evolution of consent, a major focal point in both of their work. The interview serves as a comment on legacy, and how to integrate the aging process into a life radically lived.   Halcyon (www.Halcyon.pink) is the author of “Love more. Fear less.” and has hosted the weekly video broadcast Hug Nation for over 10 years. In 2010, Halcyon co-founded the San Diego-based “1st Saturdays” homeless outreach program. If you see him around, he'd love a hug.

Clinical Psychotherapist Eva Clay discusses what in our neurology causes us to seek and enjoy intimacy, and how technology interfaces with the brain in the context of intimacy. She brings up Facebook, Tinder, smartphones, and porn sites, illustrating how they can create a barrier to authentic connection. She and Destin discuss the relationship between attention and love, offering potential solutions and ways to deal with the encroachment of technology into the bedroom. An acclaimed psychotherapist, teacher, and sexuality expert, for 20 years Eva's mission has been to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex, and science.  Eva believes that self-love is the foundation for healthy relationships, and has helped thousands of people to attract hot and holy love.  Eva has trained extensively in mind-body philosophies and as a teacher of neuropsychology, she bodaciously reminds us that the biggest sex organ is the brain.  Eva's been privileged to study with some of the great teachers of our time, including David Deida, Esther Perel, and Harville Hendrix.  Her courses are an elegant marriage of the profound and the playful, and when she's not traveling the world teaching, you'll find her making mayhem on a dance floor.   Eva offers elite coaching for men, women and couples on on self-love, pleasure, and erotic intelligence. See www.evaclay.com

Intimacy and sexuality expert Michaela Boehm discusses her entry onto the path of sex and spirit, the true meaning of freedom, and how men can best cultivate their sensual power through tuning in to subtle sensations within their bodies, and unifying masculine and feminine energies. Destin questions her about issues specifically related to men's groups such as accountability and the challenges that come with the practice of embodiment.