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We often think of PTSD as the result of dramatic, one off events, like an assault or car accident. But for many people, trauma is something they lived with every day growing up. In her bestselling book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Stephanie Foo documents her process of healing from an abusive childhood. She looks at her own past through the lens of investigative journalism, drawing on her skills as former radio producer on shows like This American Life and Snap Judgement.  Stephanie and I spoke about the wildly positive reception of her book, what it was like to approach the topics of generational trauma and abuse in the Asian American community, and parenting as a person with complex trauma. 

How can you begin to heal from complex PTSD?  In this episode, Jill sits down with Stephanie Foo to explore her memoir, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, a deeply personal account of her healing journey through complex PTSD (CPTSD). Stephanie shares what it's like to carry the weight of complex trauma, offering insights into how you can begin to heal too. Through her story and experience, you'll learn how CPTSD differs from PTSD and why understanding those differences can help you (or someone you love) feel less alone. Stephanie opens up about her therapy journey—EMDR, yoga, and meditation—and how relationships and community became her anchors in the storm. Whether you're a therapist, someone walking your own healing path, or supporting a loved one, this conversation is full of wisdom and practical advice to inspire hope and compassion. Listen and Learn:  Meet Stephanie and find out why she wrote What My Bones Know, a memoir about healing from complex trauma. Understand what makes CPTSD different from PTSD and how that knowledge can help you or someone you love. How writing and creativity can be powerful tools for processing trauma and finding meaning. The role of community, relationships, and support in recovering from trauma. The complexities of abusive relationships and how they shape the healing journey. Practical therapeutic methods like EMDR, yoga, and meditation, and why they worked for Stephanie. How social support can make therapy more effective and healing more sustainable. The importance of facing suicidal thoughts with connection and support from loved ones. How journalism and purpose helped Stephanie move forward after trauma. How to begin your own healing journey and the three key elements that helped Stephanie recover from complex trauma. How therapists can create compassionate, validating spaces for clients dealing with trauma. Resources:  What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Official Website: Stephanie Foo Facebook: Stephanie Foo on Facebook Twitter: @stephaniefoooo on Twitter Instagram: @foofoofoo on Instagram About Stephanie Foo Stephanie Foo is the NYT Bestselling author of What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. She has written for Vox and The New York Times. She worked as a radio producer for This American Life and Snap Judgment, and her stories aired on Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from the Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. Related Episodes: 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay 309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock 355. What is EMDR with Jamie Marich 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 374. Developing and Deepening Connections with Adam Dorsay 376. The Art of Therapy with Michael Alcee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One way to feel more thankful for things is to imagine life without them. We explore a practice shown to help you see the bright side, even when you feel down.We know gratitude is good for us, but what if we're struggling to feel it? This week's guest, author and podcast producer Stephanie Foo, finds herself missing her close-knit “chosen family” in California since moving to New York. Foo tries a practice called mental subtraction, where she imagines her life without New York. Later, gratitude researcher Ernst Bohlmeijer  shares how gratitude practices can reshape our emotions and possibly our whole outlook, and how the Mental Subtraction of Positive Events practice can be antidote to taking things for granted.Practice: Take a moment to think about a positive event in your life. It could be a career or educational achievement or a special trip you took. Imagine yourself back in the time of this event. Think about the circumstances that made it possible.  Ponder on the ways in which this event may never have happened. For example, if you hadn't learned about a certain job opening at the right moment.  Write down all of the possible events and decisions - large and small - that could have gone differently and prevented this positive event from occurring.  Imagine what your life would be like now if you had not experienced this positive event and all the fruits that came from it.  Remind yourself that this positive event did happen and reflect upon the benefits it has brought you. Allow yourself to feel grateful that things happened as they did.  Find the full Mental Subtraction of Positive Events practice at our Greater Good in Action website: https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/mental_subtraction_positive_eventsToday's guests:Stephanie Foo is a radio producer and author of the book What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma.Learn more about Stephanie and her book: https://www.stephaniefoo.me/Follow Stephanie on Twitter: https://twitter.com/imontheradioFollow Stephanie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foofoofoo/Follow Stephanie on Facebook:https://tinyurl.com/yx6pwdnfErnst Bohlmeijer is a psychology professor who studies gratitude at the University of Twente in The Netherlands.Learn more about Ernst and his work: https://tinyurl.com/2p92p6vnScience of Happiness Episodes like this one: Four Great Gratitude Strategies: https://tinyurl.com/2p9buvkd Tips for Keeping a Gratitude Journal: https://tinyurl.com/3jdbe52u Five Science-Backed Strategies for More Happiness: https://tinyurl.com/bd4ussjt Transcript: https://tinyurl.com/4r84778r

Stephanie Foo, author of the New York Times bestseller What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, brought CPTSD to the forefront of mental health care. She joins us to talk about her healing journey, what CPTSD recovery means to her, emotional flashbacks, the painstaking search for a therapist, “the dread”, and more. This podcast is made possible by NOCD. NOCD offers effective, affordable, and convenient OCD therapy. Schedule a free 15-minute call today at⁠ ⁠https://learn.nocd.com/alegrakastens⁠⁠ Follow Alegra on⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠⁠! Episodes edited by⁠ ⁠Donny Hadfield⁠

Stephanie Foo wrote What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, and recently welcomed her first child. Follow the folks in this episode: Stephanie Foo on Instagram  Stephanie Foo on TikTok Follow Finally! A Show Finally! A Show on Instagram Finally! A Show on TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

307. Healing From Complex PTSD with Stephanie Foo Abby, Amanda and Glennon are joined by author and radio producer, Stephanie Foo. They discuss Stephanie's memoir, What My Bones Know, and her journey healing from Complex PTSD.  Discover:  -The difference between Trauma, PTSD and complex PTSD;  -What “THE DREAD” is and how to know if you have it;  -Why if the trauma is relational, the healing has to be relational, too, and what that means, in-action; and  -Whether you can ever truly give what you never got as a parent.  CW: Discussion of physical and verbal abuse and neglect. About Stephanie: Stephanie Foo is a writer and the author of the New York Times bestseller, WHAT MY BONES KNOW: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. She is also a radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City. IG: @foofoofoo To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One time yoga instructor  Amanda Chay a.k.a the Lupus Warrior, author of new book The Girlfriend's Guide to Lupus: How to Control your Sh*tty Diagnosis (10/23), a self-help book for women who feel scared and alone with their lupus diagnosis.  About 1.5 million Americans have lupus, and there are an estimated 16,000 new cases each year. More than five million people worldwide have some form of the disease and ninety percent (90%) of people living with lupus are women. When asked about the most difficult aspects of coping with lupus, 65% said pain, 61% cited lifestyle changes, and 50% reported emotional problems.  Amanda's long battle with lupus, which often drives her bonkers, has fueled her passion for helping other women suffering from the disease. When she was diagnosed, searching for stories like hers was frustrating. She needed approachable, easy to understand information from trusted experts that she could actually use. Her family and friends didn't know exactly how to help or what to say. That's why she's written, in her own words, “the badass warrior lupus advocate book” The Girlfriend's Guide to Lupus. Written with a lighthearted and humorous approach to comprehensively describe the realities of lupus, the book is a fantastic resource not only for those diagnosed with lupus and looking for answers but also for those who care for them.  Recommendations: TV Show: Shrinking Books: The Girlfriend's Guide to Lupus⁠:⁠ How to Control your Sh*tty Diagnosis⁠  What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, Stephanie Foo As Long as the Lemon Trees Grow, Zoulfa Katouh Contact Amanda: Amanda Chay –Your New Lupus Girlfriend Amanda Chay | Facebook Amanda Chay - YouTube TikTok Amanda Chay (@amandaechay) • Instagram photos and videos

If you've lived through horrific trauma or abuse, is it really fair of us to say that the ways you've learned to cope are “bad,” or to use clinical speak, “maladaptive”?  This week on It's OK, Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, joins me to talk about complex PTSD and the ways we pathologize human responses to trauma. You'll also hear how claiming your own messy, complex coping mechanisms can help you build a community that sees you and loves you.  If you're haunted by any type of trauma, or know someone who is, this conversation is a great introduction to complex PTSD, and the work of survivorship.    In this episode we cover:    Why pretending to be a high-performing badass is maybe not in your best interest How storytelling can make you feel less freakish and alone The real problem with most books on trauma and C-PTSD   We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2022.   Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.   About our guest: Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City with her husband.   Find her at stephaniefoo.me and on Instagram @foofoofoo   About Megan:  Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief   Additional Resources: Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at refugeingrief.com Listen to previous episodes of It's OK that You're Not OK!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our guest on this episode is acclaimed writer and journalist Stephanie Foo, author of the book, "What My Bones Know:  A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma".  The book has been described as both “harrowing and inspirational”,  packed with valuable insight into trauma and the healing process.   Her website is stephaniefoo.me. 

How can you stop the cycle of generational trauma and start the healing process? Stephanie Foo, New York Times bestselling author, writer, and award winning producer seemed to be thriving in a successful career at This American Life and a loving relationship, but the constant panic attacks and severe anxiety led her to finally confront the complex PTSD that was weighing her down. She opens up about how to stop the self hate and shame around trauma, how to love yourself, what tools can help you in moments when you get triggered, and how to see the light at the end of the tunnel. - Sign up for Cathy's Meditation Membership - 4 meditations for $10/month! Cathyheller.com/membership - Get Stephanie's book What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma https://bit.ly/3Nw8zk6 - Follow Stephanie on Instagram @foofoofoo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

S2 EP #4: Stephanie Foo was diagnosed with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder,, also known as  CPTSD, after she began struggling with panic attacks at work every morning. Throughout childhood, she was  both  physically and  verbally abused,  neglected and even abandoned as a teenager. In this conversation, Stephanie shares how her life has been impacted by this CPTSD  and how she eventually found healing through education,  different forms of therapy and meeting others who also suffered from CPTSD. She went on to write a New York Times bestseller titled What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. Produced by MedCircle. Subscribe to our email list so that you never miss an episode: https://medcircle.com/podcast/ Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9qGV-IVn0Pw Stephanie's Memoir: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/658389/what-my-bones-know-by-stephanie-foo/ Learn more about Stephanie and follow her on social media: http://instagram.com/foofoofoo http://twitter.com/imontheradio

When journalist Stephanie Foo was 30, she finally learned her mental health diagnosis. She had complex post-traumatic stress disorder or C-PTSD, a condition caused by repeated exposure to trauma. At first, learning that fact made Stephanie feel hopeless. But she soon embarked on a journey of healing that helped her better understand what having C-PTSD really meant. In the process, she not only learned about herself, but also about the broader societal implications of trauma and how trauma in her family's past still affects her today. She chronicles that journey in her book What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. This hour, we return to our discussion with Stephanie. We talk about her book and how mental health care in the U.S. often ignores the pain of people of color. Since this episode first aired in February, the paperback version of the book was released and entered the New York Times Best Sellers list. GUEST: Stephanie Foo: journalist and author of What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma This episode originally aired on February 1, 2023.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   If you've lived through horrific trauma or abuse, is it really fair of us to say that the ways you've learned to cope are “bad,” or to use clinical speak, “maladaptive”? This week on Here After, Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, joins me to talk about complex PTSD and the ways we pathologize human responses to trauma. You'll also hear how claiming your own messy, complex coping mechanisms can help you build a community that sees you and loves you.    If you're haunted by any type of trauma, or know someone who is, this conversation is a great introduction to complex PTSD, and the work of survivorship.  In this episode we cover:  Why pretending to be a high-performing badass is maybe not in your best interest How storytelling can make you feel less freakish and alone The real problem with most books on trauma and C-PTSD   Click here for the episode webpage. Notable quotes:  “People are like, oh, you're so brave to have shared your story. And I was like, I burned down my whole life. There was nothing to lose anymore, so there was nothing to be brave about.” - Stephanie Foo About our guest:    Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City with her husband.   Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Find her at stephaniefoo.me and follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio  Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link  Additional resources   It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook)   For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle)   Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you. Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co to get in touch.   For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Author Stephanie Foo joins Forrest to share her journey with Complex PTSD. They talk about what it was like to receive a diagnosis, the various techniques and modalities she used (and what really helped), the importance of social support, self-acceptance and self-compassion, difficulties with access and cultural competence in the mental healthcare system, intergenerational trauma, and motherhood. About Our Guest: Stephanie is a writer and radio producer whose work has been featured on This American Life, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab among other shows, and she's the author of the truly wonderful book What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing From Complex Trauma.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction and disclaimer2:10: Stephanie's experience in sharing her story6:00: Features of CPTSD7:50: What led Stephanie to seek help, and work as a coping mechanism10:15: “The Dread” and healing through relationship17:40: The effects of receiving diagnosis, and aspects of CPTSD that are helpful25:45: Practices that helped Stephanie and incorporating them practically33:45: Balancing showing up for other people and receiving care35:15: Self-love, gratitude, psychedelics, and relationships38:20: Two way repair and comfort receiving feedback42:55: The need for reform to our mental healthcare system and who it serves49:55: Societal trauma among first generation immigrants53:30: More natural and communal frameworks for healing54:30: Parenthood57:00: Resources available on Stephanie's website58:15: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp, and you can join over a million people using the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Our guest on this episode is acclaimed writer and journalist Stephanie Foo, author of the book, "What My Bones Know:  A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma".  The book has been described as both “harrowing and inspirational”,  packed with valuable insight into trauma and the healing process.   Her website is stephaniefoo.me.    We're excited to tell you about another great product from our sponsor, Ritual.  It's called Synbiotic+ and it's a daily 3-in-1 clinically-studied prebiotic, probiotic, and postbiotic designed to help support a balanced gut microbiome.  Ritual's Synbiotic+ provides two of the world's most clinically studied probiotic strains to support the relief of mild and occasional digestive discomforts, like bloating, gas, and diarrhea.  Synbiotic+ and Ritual are here to celebrate, not hide, your insides. It's time to listen to your gut!  Ritual is offering our Nobody Told Me! listeners 10% off during your first 3 months.  Visit ritual.com/NTM to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today.

Sometimes you read a book and get a flash of insight - that “ah ha!” moment - about yourself and the ways you interact with others.  That happened to me when reading “Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World.”  It helped me to understand and justify my interest in (this won't surprise you) EVERYTHING related to geriatrics or palliative care.  Also hat tip to Matthew Growdon for recommending the book. Today we talk with Bob Arnold, who has a long list of recommendations for books that have the potential to generate an “ah ha!” moment.  The podcast is ostensibly focused on becoming a better mentor, but as you'll hear, we discuss techniques that can help you cope with anxiety, stress, your spouse…the list goes on.  In reality, insights from these books can help you be a better teacher, a more curious person, as well as a better mentor or mentee. Bob urges you to buy these books from your local bookstore.  To that end, we're not including links with the titles below.  Please shop locally. As a bonus, Lauren Hunt, frequent guest on GeriPal, heard we recorded this podcast and wanted to add a couple books to Bob's list (she saw Bob give a talk about these books at the NPCRC Foley retreat).  Her list will strongly resonate with women in academics. See below for Lauren's two additions to Bob's list, with her personal commentary. Enjoy! -@AlexSmithMD   Bob's booklist: Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Somebody: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed Ethan Kross, Chatter: The Voice Inside Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It Eric Barker, Plays Well With Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing From Complex Trauma Jennifer L. Eberhardt, Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do Claude M. Steele, Whistling Vivaldi: How Stereotypes Affect Us and What We Can Do Marcus Buckingham, Nine Lies About Work: A Freethinking Leader's Guide to the Real World Marshall Goldsmith, What Got You Here Won't Get You There Adam Grant, Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success David Epstein, Range: How Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World Douglas Stone, Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well Douglas Stone, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most Kerry Patterson, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High Kerry Patterson, Crucial Accountability: Tools for Resolving Violated Expectations, Broken Commitments, and Bad Behavior Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life James Clear, Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results, Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones Michael Bungay Stanier, The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever Peter Bergman, You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees--Even Family--Up Their Game Doug Lemov, The Coach's Guide to Teaching Doug Lemov, Teach Like a Champion 2.0: 62 Techniques That Put Students on the Path to College Doug Lemov, Practice Perfect: 42 Rules for Getting Better at Getting Better   ​​From Lauren: The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It by Valerie Young  I was inspired to read this book after reading a post on the 80,000 hours blog. I had heard of course heard of imposter syndrome in the past but I didn't make the connection to myself until I read this article and saw my thoughts printed on the page. You would think that after several years of a number of career successes, the imposter syndrome would have abated for me, but rather I found it getting worse! I thought that I should know more of what I was doing by this point in my career, but instead I often felt like I had no idea what I was doing!  So I came across this book and found it very helpful. Young defines people who have imposter syndrome as those who have a “persistent belief in their lack of intelligence, skills, or competence. They are convinced that other people's praise and recognition of their accomplishments is undeserved, chalking up their achievements to chance, charm, connections, and external factors. Unable to internalize or feel deserving of their success, they continually doubt their ability to repeat past successes.”  I certainly related to the point that instead of successes alleviating feelings of fraudulence, the opposite happens, because it increases pressures to uphold one's reputation. The pressures can be intense, leaving one wondering if it's all worth it, and prompting fantasies of leaving the charade behind.  One thing I really liked about this book is that it places the imposter syndrome into the context of a patriarchal, misogynistic, racist society and organizations that create cultures that cultivate self-doubt (ahem academia). Imposter syndrome is a rationale response to a crazy world. We exist in a society and culture that actually judges women to be less competent at work (the studies she details are SUPER disturbing). It is not surprising we would internalize these norms. Also that being underrepresented in a field creates pressures not only to represent just oneself, but an entire gender.  She focuses on women, but these concepts obviously apply to people of color and other disadvantaged social groups. And of course men can have imposter syndrome too.  Another part I liked about the book is digging into the notion that one's success is due to luck, or being in the right place at the right time. She dispels these notions by pointing out that, first of all, luck is always present, even for people who are enormously talented and second, being the right place at the right time, having the right connections, and having a winning personality can sometimes actually be the result of skills or abilities, often the result of hard-work, hustling, and efforts to develop one's socioemotional capacity.   This is a self-help book, so throughout she offers some useful rules and self-talk for responding to imposter syndrome thoughts. She details different ways to respond to thoughts based on your competence type. For example, if you are a perfectionist, she recommends reframing to a “good enough” quality standard—a mantra I adopted from colleague during the pandemic and has been incredibly helpful for me over the past few years. For the rugged individualist who equate true competence equals solo, unaided achievement, the reframe is “competence means knowing how to identify the resources needed to get the job done.”  Another really important idea she raises is that women often have difficult choices to make about their career and its impact on other parts of their families and their other social networks that aren't as pronounced for men in our society. Sometimes it is difficult to disentangle these questions from feelings of imposter syndrome. For example, is reluctance to take on more responsibility at work or relocate because you feel inadequate or is it because of genuine concern about the impact on your family? Moreover, women (generalizing here) tend to place lower value on traditional measures of work success (e.g. money, power, influence) and greater value on connection and meaning. It can require a lot of soul searching to figure out whether one is avoiding career “success” out of fear or that certain paths are just truly not aligned with our values.   Finally, towards the end of the book, she introduces the idea of “faking it till you make it” and having chutzpah—i.e going for it. Of course, she's not advocating for a George Santos approach (no lying) but just having a little bit more of a mindset that you'll figure it out once you're on the job.  I'd definitely recommend this book if you've ever struggled with similar feelings or mentor people who might. She's got a breezy and relatable writing style that's easy to read, lots of great real-world stories, and piquant quotes.   The No Club:  Putting a Stop to Women's Dead-End Work by Linda Babcock, Brenda Peyser, Lise Vesterlund, and Laurie Weingart  Summary of the book's premise:  Work activities fall on a spectrum from promotable and non-promotable (NPT).  Promotable activities are those that advance one's career. They use the word “advance” quite broadly to encompass various outcomes, like earning a promotion, getting plum assignments, increasing compensation, and enhancing marketability for other jobs. Promotable tasks are visible to others and increase the organization's currency. Some tasks may be indirectly promotable—they help you develop skills that have the potential to enhance your future success or access to future promotable work.  NPT's are important to your organization but will not help to advance your career. These tasks have low visibility (think committees and other service).  Too many NPT's can lead to work/work imbalance where promotable tasks get pushed to the side and advancement slows, or work-life imbalance, where advancement continues but at the expense of time in one's personal life (or both).  Although not exclusively a problem for women, women are more likely to take on NPT's at work. This is because they are both asked more often and are more likely to say yes when asked.  They propose both bottom-up (women saying no to more things) and top-down solutions (organizations making efforts to divide up NPT's more fairly and ensuring everyone is pitching in).  Before I read this book, I didn't fully grasp the idea that an activity would be helpful to the organization but not to my own career. Sometimes requests for participation in these activities come with a veneer or prestige and lots of feel-good gratitude. I personally feel a lot of guilt and worry about disappointing people when I say no to things. Even declining to review an article for a journal is accompanied by some stomach knots (it's so hard to find reviewers!) I also place a lot of value in collaboration and working in teams, and the idea of working in a culture where everyone is only looking out for themselves is not appealing to me.  But I'm also worried at the level of overwhelm I experience at times and perhaps some of you have experienced as well. How do we ensure that we are on sustainable path where we can stay in and build the world we want to live and work in?   The book also got me thinking about what is promotable or not in academia, i.e. what is the currency. I think we all know that grants and publications are promotable activities, but even within that there are hierarchies. Some of these hierarchies I think I understand: a data-based paper in a high-impact journal has higher promotability than an editorial in a lower-impact journal. Some of them I'm not sure about: is an NIH project grant more promotable than a foundation grant and if so why (bc higher indirects?)  Also, things like mentorship seem gray to me: senior-authored articles are evidence of independence and potential track to mentoring awards, but people often seem to place mentorship in the NPT category. I think having more transparency and discussion about what is promotable or not would be very useful.    Highly recommend this book for women, men, people in leadership, and employees. It's extremely well-written, nuanced, and eye-opening.   SPONSOR:    This episode of the GeriPal Podcast is sponsored by UCSF's Division of Palliative Medicine, an amazing group doing world class palliative care.  They are looking for physician faculty to join them in the inpatient and outpatient setting.  To learn more about job opportunities, please click here: https://palliativemedicine.ucsf.edu/job-openings  

When journalist Stephanie Foo was 30, she finally learned her mental health diagnosis. She had complex post-traumatic stress disorder or C-PTSD, a condition caused by repeated exposure to trauma. At first, learning that fact made Stephanie feel hopeless. But she soon embarked on a journey of healing that helped her better understand what having C-PTSD really meant. In the process, she not only learned about herself, but also about the broader societal implications of trauma and how trauma in her family's past still affects her today. She chronicles that journey in her book What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. This hour, Stephanie discusses her book and how mental health care in the U.S. often ignores the pain of people of color. GUEST: Stephanie Foo: journalist and author of What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We hear from former This American Life producer Stephanie Foo, who talks about her compelling memoir What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma.

One way to feel more thankful for things is to imagine life without them. Our guest tries a practice for seeing the bright side, even when you feel down. Episode summary: We know that gratitude is good for us. But what can we do when we're struggling to actually feel thankful? Our guest this week is author and podcast producer Stephanie Foo. Foo built a network of close friends around her in California, where she grew up. As a survivor of child abuse and Complex PTSD, her friends in California became her chosen family. And since she's moved to New York City, she finds herself often pining for the Golden State and the people she loves there. This week, Foo tries a practice in mental subtraction, which gratitude researcher Ernst Bohlmeijer describes as an antidote to taking things for granted. Imagining her life if she didn't live in New York helps Foo tap into gratitude even in the depths of winter – when she misses California the most. She even discovers her particular skill in getting the benefits of this practice by leaning into one of her PTSD symptoms. Later in the show, Ernst Bohlmeijer breaks down how keeping a gratitude practice can alter the emotions you're likely to experience in a given day, and maybe even change you as a person. Practice: Take a moment to think about a positive event in your life. It could be a career or educational achievement or a special trip you took. Imagine yourself back in the time of this event. Think about the circumstances that made it possible. Ponder on the ways in which this event may never have happened and write them down. For example, if you hadn't learned about a certain job opening at the right moment. Imagine what your life would be like now if you had not experienced this positive event and all the fruits that came from it. Remind yourself that this positive event did happen and reflect upon the benefits it has brought you. Allow yourself to feel grateful that things happened as they did. Find the full Mental Subtraction of Positive Events practice at our Greater Good in Action website: https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/mental_subtraction_positive_events Today's guests: Stephanie Foo is a radio producer and author of the book What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. Learn more about Stephanie and her book: https://www.stephaniefoo.me/ Follow Stephanie on Twitter: https://twitter.com/imontheradio Follow Stephanie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foofoofoo/ Follow Stephanie on Facebook: https://tinyurl.com/yx6pwdnf Ernst Bohlmeijer is a psychology professor who studies gratitude at the University of Twente in The Netherlands. Learn more about Ernst and his work: https://tinyurl.com/2p92p6vn Resources from The Greater Good Science Center: Four Great Gratitude Strategies: https://tinyurl.com/2p9buvkd Tips for Keeping a Gratitude Journal: https://tinyurl.com/3jdbe52u How to Increase the Love in Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/3k4ayj4n Why Cynicism Can Hold You Back: https://tinyurl.com/bd4ussjt More Resources for Mental Subtraction of Positive Events: New York Times - Five Ways to Exercise Your Thankfulness Muscles: https://tinyurl.com/t29ukucc NPR - A.J. Jacobs: How Can We Thank Those We Take for Granted?: https://tinyurl.com/56x48u99 TED - Your 5-day gratitude challenge: 5 exercises to increase your gratefulness: https://tinyurl.com/mt8j3x65 Tell us your thoughts about this episode. Email us at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or use the hashtag #happinesspod. Help us share The Science of Happiness! Leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or share this link with someone who might like the show: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aap

What does it take to address the collective trauma of a genocide? This week, NPR's Invisibilia podcast shines a light on the ghosts haunting a community of Cambodian immigrants living in San Jose, California. When author and reporter Stephanie Foo was researching for her memoir, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, she went back home after fifteen years to find a community still struggling to break pervasive cycles of trauma and abuse. In the process, she found a route towards understanding how to heal wounds spanning generations.If you or someone you know may be considering suicide, call or text 988 to reach the suicide and crisis lifeline.If you are experiencing abuse and need help, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or visit its page for an online chat.

Trauma-Informed Yoga   Episode Type: Professional  Host: Yasmin Harvey Link to Yasmin:  https://www.yasminharvey.com/   Description: In this episode, Yasmin Harvey, a trauma-informed yoga teacher discusses her work and how trauma-informed yoga and other bodywork can help survivors to heal.   Links Discussed: The Center for Trauma and Embodiment: https://www.traumasensitiveyoga.com/   Information on my work: https://www.yasminharvey.com/yoga   Yasmin's Book Recommendations: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr Bessel van der Kolk. What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo. When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté. Trauma and Recovery by Judith Lewis Herman. People Waiting to Help in the United States: • Emergency: 911 • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 • National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 • National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 • Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 • LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 • National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 • SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357) • Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 • National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 • Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: info@menaspeacemakers.org

Our fears for the future of this planet are part of an interwoven story of grief and hope. While it's easy to feel overwhelmed and defeated, author Stephanie Foo (What My Bones Know) has found one small consistent act that grounds her, and gives her a hope for the world: she volunteers with the urban parks system. If your climate anxiety has felt too big to tackle, don't miss this short bonus episode - you might just find a doorway to your own place in the woods.  In this episode we cover:  The difference between “good immigrant” plants and “bad immigrant” plants, and how that relates to the climate emergency How being a park steward has given Stephanie hope for the future AND a budding community (ok, pun intended) What trees teach us about weathering trauma Notable quotes:  “My action is relatively small, but I think it's really important. I kill plants.” - Stephanie Foo   About our guest:    Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. She lives in New York City with her husband, where she is a Parks Department Super Steward.   Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio  Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link  Additional resources   It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook)   For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle)   For a deep dive into the environmental activism of the 90s and early 2000s, check out the work of Joanna Macy. A lot of our current understanding of the mental health of activists comes from Macy's work.    Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you.  Follow the show on TikTok @hereafterpod Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, & TT   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you've lived through horrific trauma or abuse, is it really fair of us to say that the ways you've learned to cope are “bad,” or to use clinical speak, “maladaptive”? This week on Here After, Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, joins me to talk about complex PTSD and the ways we pathologize human responses to trauma. You'll also hear how claiming your own messy, complex coping mechanisms can help you build a community that sees you and loves you.    If you're haunted by any type of trauma, or know someone who is, this conversation is a great introduction to complex PTSD, and the work of survivorship.  In this episode we cover:  Why pretending to be a high-performing badass is maybe not in your best interest How storytelling can make you feel less freakish and alone The real problem with most books on trauma and C-PTSD Notable quotes:  “People are like, oh, you're so brave to have shared your story. And I was like, I burned down my whole life. There was nothing to lose anymore, so there was nothing to be brave about.” - Stephanie Foo About our guest:    Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City with her husband.   Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Find her at stephaniefoo.me and follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio  Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link  Additional resources   It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook) For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle)   Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you.  Follow the show on TikTok @hereafterpod Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, & TT    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've all had difficult, and sometimes horrible things happen to us. While some people may be luckier than others, it's rare that anyone goes unscathed. This episode is part of our Mental Health Reboot series to mark Mental Health Awareness Month. In this episode, Stephanie Foo shares her story of being diagnosed with complex PTSD and how she learned to process her trauma and live with her past. The result of her journey is a new book called What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. Stephanie Foo is a journalist and radio producer. Her previous work includes This American Life, The Cut, Reply All, and 99% Invisible. Her writing has been featured in The New York Times and Vox. In this conversation we talk about: The various therapies, meditation styles, and wellness modalities Stephanie explored to help process her traumaWhat actually worked for her, and how it might be relevant to other survivorsShame, gratitude, and self-loveHer transformative work with Dr. Jacob Ham, who will be featured in another episode this week. Content Warnings: Discussions of trauma and abuse, references to addiction and mental health challenges. Explicit language. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/stephanie-foo-452See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stephanie Foo's memoir What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma tells her story of her childhood, where she suffered abuse and abandonment from her parents, and how those experiences led her to suffer from complex PTSD.  Complex PTSD differs from regular PTSD, as it is caused when someone is exposed to a traumatic event repeatedly, over the course of years.  Complex PTSD also doesn't officially exist in the DSM-5, and so there is relatively little literature on the issue.  We speak with Stephanie Foo about her childhood trauma, her coming to terms with her Complex PTSD diagnoses, and how she's worked to overcome it.

Stephanie Foo's memoir What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma tells her story of her childhood, where she suffered abuse and abandonment from her parents, and how those experiences led her to suffer from complex PTSD.  Complex PTSD differs from regular PTSD, as it is caused when someone is exposed to a traumatic event repeatedly, over the course of years.  Complex PTSD also doesn't officially exist in the DSM-5, and so there is relatively little literature on the issue.  We speak with Stephanie Foo about her childhood trauma, her coming to terms with her Complex PTSD diagnoses, and how she's worked to overcome it.

Monday, April 18, 2022 - Trauma can impact how genes work. Stephanie Foo knows this all too well, having panic attacks, anxiety, depression and more devastating impacts of severe child abuse. As part of her healing journey, she wrote a book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. Foo's mother beat her repeatedly and both parents eventually abandoned her to live on her own while still in high school.

This week we hear from former This American Life producer Stephanie Foo, who talks about her compelling memoir What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma.

Stephanie Foo is a writer and radio producer, most recently on This American Life, and she is the author of What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. Today we talk about Stephanie's journey toward healing from Complex PTSD , fighting model minority stereotype, and the lasting impact of generational trauma.You can find links to everything we discuss on today's show on The Stacks' Website: https://thestackspodcast.com/2022/03/09/ep-205-stephanie-fooThe Stacks Book Club selection for February is A Mercy by Toni Morrison, we will discuss the book on March 30th with Imani Perry.Connect with Stephanie: Twitter | Instagram | WebsiteConnect with The Stacks: Instagram | Twitter | Shop | Patreon | Goodreads | SubscribeSUPPORT THE STACKSJoin The Stacks Pack on PatreonAthletic Greens - visit atheleticgreens.com/thestacks to get a free one-year supply of vitamin D and five free travel packs with your first purchase.Listen to Seizing Freedom, a podcast that illustrates the myriad ways Black people have fought for and defined their own freedom.Apostrophe - Save fifteen dollars off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at apostrophe.com/thestacks when you use code THESTACKS.Purchasing books through Bookshop.org or Amazon earns The Stacks a small commission. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Mimi Nguyen's mother, Thanh, has always been super anxious. She obsessively calls Mimi at all hours and is always worried they're in danger. This paranoia really put a strain on their relationship, until Mimi heard Thanh talking in her sleep one night. And Mimi realized… maybe there were long-hidden family secrets that might explain Thanh's behavior. This story contains strong language, graphic depictions of war, and mention of suicide. Please take care while listening. Thank you, Mimi & Thanh, for sharing your story with us! Stephanie Foo produced this story – she also wrote a memoir about intergenerational immigrant trauma and her own complex PTSD… in it, she tears down her own walls and shares her and her family's story. Check out her incredible new book, “What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma.” Produced by Stephanie Foo, original score by Renzo Gorrio, artwork by Teo Ducot Season 13 - Episode 9

Alberto Carvalho faces many challenges as he takes over the Los Angeles Unified School District. One of his main goals is dealing with some of the impacts the COVID-19 pandemic has brought to both students and teachers, Guest: Alberto Carvalho, LA Unified Superintendent Millions of Americans with disabilities face barriers to getting married. Tying the knot can mean losing the federal benefits they rely on. Reporter: Erika Mahoney, KAZU Governor Gavin Newsom and other California Democrats say they'll use the U.S. Supreme Court's reasoning on the Texas anti-abortion law to advance gun more control measures in California. Reporter: Alex Emslie, KQED A few years ago, Stephanie Foo was working as a successful radio journalist, producing stories for the show, This American Life. Then, it all started to unravel. The pain from Foo's past – she suffered terrible child abuse – was catching up with her, and she's written a memoir about it. Guest: Stephanie Foo, Journalist and Author of the book “What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma”

Complex PTSD is different to PTSD, but there's not that much understanding of it as its own condition - which was not much help to Stephanie Foo when she was diagnosed with it in 2018. We talk about facing trauma rather than burying it, self-care and self-soothing, endurance being an underrated word, and why people can quit sniping about triggers. Stephanie's new book is What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma.  Content note: Stephanie refers fleetingly to the parental violence and abandonment she experienced, and we also mention sexual violence; but, we don't discuss any of these things in detail. It's a more general conversation about psychology and trauma, rather than stories of traumatisation. There are also a couple of swears. Find out more information about the topics in this episde at theallusionist.org/cptsd, plus a transcript and the full dictionary entry for the randomly selected word. Sign up to be a patron at patreon.com/allusionist and not only are you supporting independent podcast, you get fortnightly patron-exclusive video livestreams and a Discord community full of language chat, craft pics and word game camaraderie! The Allusionist's online home is theallusionist.org. Stay in touch at twitter.com/allusionistshow, facebook.com/allusionistshow and instagram.com/allusionistshow.  The music is by Martin Austwick. Hear Martin's own songs via palebirdmusic.com. Our ad partner is Multitude. To sponsor an episode of the show this year, contact them at multitude.productions/ads. This episode is sponsored by: • Bombas, whose mission is to make the comfiest clothes ever. and match every item sold with an equal item donated. Go to bombas.com/allusionist to get 20% off your first purchase. • BetterHelp, online therapy with licensed professional counsellors. Allusionist listeners get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/allusionist. • Squarespace, your one-stop shop for building and running a sleek website. Go to squarespace.com/allusionist for a free 2-week trial, and get 10 percent off your first purchase of a website or domain with the code allusionist.  Support the show: http://patreon.com/allusionist See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.