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Coley & Trill Predict NFL Wild Card Winners and Dive into Patriots' Mike Vrabel Rumors: On the latest episode of Third Time's the Charm, Coley and Trill spend the first half of the episode deep-diving into all the latest rumors on potential NFL head coaches. Is Mike Vrabel destined for the Patriots? Should Ben Johnson commit to the Jaguars? Has Brian Flores done enough to get a head coaching gig again? Then, the boys preview an eventful NFL and College Football Playoff weekend. Don't miss this hilarious and insightful episode of Third Time's The Charm! (0:00) Men Don't Wear Shrouds Anymore (1:33) Patriots Are Going to Hire Mike Vrabel (7:50) Ben Johnson Should Choose the Jaguars (13:03) Should the Patriots Consider Liam Coen? (18:28) The Rooney Rule Needs to Be Fixed (25:59) Josh McDaniels Will Be the Patriots' OC (27:30) Tom Brady and the Raiders Fire Their GM (30:19) UD Ad Read (31:14) The NBA Needs to Promote Basketball Like They Promote LiAngelo Ball (33:13) Cavaliers Beat the Thunder (34:34) Back to Coaches' Corner (40:44) Will Shedeur Sanders End Up with the Raiders? (45:04) The Raiders Suck (50:34) Robert Kraft's Legacy (51:43) Tom Brady's Legacy (54:01) Would Rob Gronkowski Ever Make an NFL Comeback? (57:03) Trill's Fantasy Football Ideas (1:03:52) Jeremiah Smith Going Back to College Is Bad for the NFL (1:05:29) Chargers-Texans Preview (1:12:04) Steelers-Ravens Preview (1:15:23) Broncos-Bills Preview (1:19:51) Packers-Eagles Preview (1:23:29) Commanders-Buccaneers Preview (1:26:42) Vikings-Rams Preview (1:36:43) Penn State-Notre Dame (1:40:50) Ohio State Will Be National Champions (1:51:43) Why Trill Wouldn't Take Dylan Harper Over Cooper Flagg (1:56:09) Coley Has No Love for Brandon Jennings' Slander on Jayson Tatum Coley Mick and Trill Withers are back (again), with Third Time's The Charm! Their newest show, presented by Underdog Fantasy, features the two like they never left. Coley and Trill will cover sports and just about everything else. Sign up for Underdog Fantasy HERE with promo code CHARM and get up to 50% first deposit bonus up to $1,000: https://play.underdogfantasy.com/p-third-timesthe-charm Subscribe to the Podcast

Feeling Broken Beyond Repair?   In this episode of Consciousness Unleashed, Master Energy Tracker Bonnie Serratore and co-host Cynthia dive into questions such as, What is Wholeness vs. Brokenness? and Is someone ever too broken to be fixed?   Bonnie explains what it means to be whole, living life free of self-sabotage and the constant fear of doing or saying something wrong. Even more importantly, she shares what it takes to get back to the state of wholeness.   Join Bonnie and Cynthia for this insightful talk and feel supported in your journey to love and accept yourself!   Too Broken to Be Fixed: https://members.spiritualacceleration.com/shop/too-broken-to-be-fixed/   Journeying Back to the Womb - Clearing Mom's Energy: https://members.spiritualacceleration.com/shop/journeying-back-to-the-womb-clearing-moms-energy/   Clearing the Well of Grief: https://members.spiritualacceleration.com/shop/clearing-the-well-of-grief/   Videos About Grief and Curses:   What No One Tells You About Grief: https://youtu.be/HjrAGKEdoZk   Free Mini-Clearing for Sadness and Grief: https://youtu.be/Sn6ZJ42SwrM   Curses and the Power They Hold: https://youtu.be/HSFdD1CyJkI   2 Shamans and a Muggle Talk About Curses: https://youtu.be/3DFCfkEuUws  

What do we lose when we're not allowed to be angry?    In a lot of ways, anger is more taboo than grief. They're deeply related, as you'll hear in this two-part episode: both grief and anger are considered “negative” emotions, things you shouldn't feel, and definitely shouldn't express in polite company. But what if reclaiming our anger was the way to build the world - and the relationships - we most want? All of that and more with the best selling author of Rage Becomes Her, Soraya Chemaly.    In this two-part episode we cover:    What is the right amount of anger? Why deciding some emotions are “good” and some are “bad” isn't really helpful  What would “anger competence” or “anger literacy” look like? (and why would you want that??)  Why Soraya says “most grief is ambiguous grief” How the old split between the head (logic) and the heart (emotion) cuts us off from what we most want Finding your best community by embracing your anger   We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2023.   Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.   About our guest: Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning writer and activist whose work focuses on the role of gender in culture, politics, religion, and media. She is the Director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project and an advocate for women's freedom of expression and expanded civic and political engagement. A prolific writer and speaker, her articles appear in TIME, The Verge, The Guardian, The Nation, HuffPost, and The Atlantic. Find her best selling book, Rage Becomes Her at sorayachemaly.com. Follow her on social media @sorayachemaly   About Megan:  Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief   Additional Resources: We mention Pauline Boss in this episode. If you're not familiar with her excellent work on ambiguous loss (a term she coined in the 1970s), check out her website at ambiguousloss.com   To read more about anger and how it relates to grief, check out It's OK that You're Not OK.   If you want to explore your anger with creative prompts and exercises, check out the guided journal for grief, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.    Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here.    Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do we lose when we're not allowed to be angry?    In a lot of ways, anger is more taboo than grief. They're deeply related, as you'll hear in this two-part episode: both grief and anger are considered “negative” emotions, things you shouldn't feel, and definitely shouldn't express in polite company. But what if reclaiming our anger was the way to build the world - and the relationships - we most want? All of that and more with the best selling author of Rage Becomes Her, Soraya Chemaly.    In this two-part episode we cover:    What is the right amount of anger? Why deciding some emotions are “good” and some are “bad” isn't really helpful  What would “anger competence” or “anger literacy” look like? (and why would you want that??)  Why Soraya says “most grief is ambiguous grief” How the old split between the head (logic) and the heart (emotion) cuts us off from what we most want Finding your best community by embracing your anger   We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2023.   Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.   About our guest: Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning writer and activist whose work focuses on the role of gender in culture, politics, religion, and media. She is the Director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project and an advocate for women's freedom of expression and expanded civic and political engagement. A prolific writer and speaker, her articles appear in TIME, The Verge, The Guardian, The Nation, HuffPost, and The Atlantic. Find her best selling book, Rage Becomes Her at sorayachemaly.com. Follow her on social media @sorayachemaly   About Megan:  Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief   Additional Resources: We mention Pauline Boss in this episode. If you're not familiar with her excellent work on ambiguous loss (a term she coined in the 1970s), check out her website at ambiguousloss.com   To read more about anger and how it relates to grief, check out It's OK that You're Not OK.   If you want to explore your anger with creative prompts and exercises, check out the guided journal for grief, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.    Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here.    Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever ponder the role of business and profit in our society through the lens of Christianity? Jeff Van Duzer, the author of Why Business Matters to God (And What Still Needs to Be Fixed), delves into the connection between theology and business. He discusses how having a clear understanding of our purpose and calling can positively impact the world. Find full show notes here: https://bit.ly/359jeffvanduzer Share the love. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate it on Apple Podcasts and write a brief review. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-flourishing-culture-podcast/id1060724960?mt=2   By doing so, you will help spread our podcast to more listeners, and thereby help more Christian workplaces learn to build flourishing cultures. Follow our Host, Al Lopus, on X https://twitter.com/allopus  Follow our Host, Al Lopus, on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/allopus/ Email our host at al@workplaces.org  

When we suffer a serious loss, we come face-to-face with the fragile nature of this world. Yet in today's culture, we often try to avoid or deny the deep emotions associated with losing the people and things we love. In this podcast, Tami Simon speaks with therapist and grief consultant Megan Devine about her uniquely helpful books with Sounds True, It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.  Tune in for a much-needed conversation on the best ways to tend one another's pain during periods of loss, as Tami and Megan discuss: the cover-up narrative that "bad things help us grow"; the roots of today's grief phobia; pain vs suffering; grief without a story; the healing power of acknowledgment; tolerating feelings of helplessness; the impulse to fix things; the weaponization of acceptance; time and the notion of complicated grief; the dangers of pathologizing grief; the lost opportunity to reframe grief during the pandemic; naming the awkward instead of silencing yourself; offering concrete assistance rather than an open offer to help; three kinds of hope: transactional, functional, and inhabitable; speaking our truth and allowing others the same; and more. Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

"God is just waiting to give you someone really special! " That's right ya'll! This week we take on the church's response to singleness. It's a ride! Hop in. Buckle up. Check your back seat cause we're all going to Hell after this one! 7 reasons why it's hard to be single in the churchSingle CreekDear Church: Singleness Is Not a PROBLEM to Be Fixed

Sam Sanders is a well known and well loved radio and podcast host. He went a little extra-viral for a recent episode of his show, Vibe Check, in which he and his co-hosts openly discussed grief. This week on It's OK, Sam joins us to talk about being open with his grief, and the ongoing relationships we have even after death.  In this episode we cover:  What happens if you give grief a voice?  The double-edged sword of church communities Why understanding context helps you treat yourself more kindly How men speaking honestly about grief helps everyone Throwing out the rule book on grief   Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.Train with Megan here: next course begins 9/04   Related episodes: A Renaissance of our Own: Rachel Cargle    Coming Home to Yourself with Alex Elle   Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok Notable quotes:  “I wish churches would say, “Every emotion you feel is allowed and is in fact, holy, because God made them all.” - Sam Sanders   About our guest: Sam Sanders is the host of Into It, the flagship culture podcast from Vulture, and the co-host of Vibe Check on Stitcher. He covered electoral politics for NPR, and was one of the original co-hosts of The NPR Politics Podcast. Sam also created and hosted the NPR news & culture podcast, It's Been a Minute. Find him on social @samsanders   About Megan:  Psychotherapist Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Find her @refugeingrief   Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed    Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's time to talk The Flash! A movie that all three hosts LOVED very much, and one in which we each went into with different levels of expectations and excitement. In the hosts' humble opinion, this film deserves to rest near the top of the DCEU. We examine every moment and play the big moments from the movie while we break it all down. But before we get started with The Flash we reveal a new segment as Scott shares his James Bond journey now getting caught up and watching all the James Bond movies from scratch. How does he like the first few? Find out! Then it's time to head into the Speed Force and get into The Flash! So grab your candy bars, don't phase through the floor without your clothes, and yes... this show straight Beeves. It's The Flash on The Movie Defenders Podcast! Click here to listen and connect anywhere: https://linktr.ee/moviedefenders 00:00:00 Intro and Announcements 00:16:26 Bonding with Scott 01:00:30 The Flash Discussion Starts 01:38:11 The Movie Begins 01:48:51 Flash's Origin 02:10:35 Barry Meets Barry 02:24:18 Barry 2 Doesn't Get It 02:39:15 Why Barry Needs His Powers 02:54:37 Everyone Dies and it Can't Be Fixed 03:10:23 Barry's Mom, Dad, and the End Special thanks to all of our amazing Patreon supporters! Alex Kirkby  Alexis Borchardt Barrett Young Brett Bowen Brev Tanner Daryl Ewry Ena Haynes Eric Blattberg Jason Chastain Jason Mackay Josh Evans Joshua Loy Kevin Athey Mark Nattress Mark Martin Megan Bush Michael Puckett Randal Silver Sean Masters Stephanie Erwy Attack of the Killer Podcast  

After a few months off the podcast taking care of my sick soul-pup he peacefully crossed the rainbow bridge. Today I'm back, feeling a lot lighter, and talking all things pet loss and pet grief. In this episode of In The Meadow I cover what helped me through the disenfranchised grief of losing a fur baby, how to help others in your life when they lose one, and ways to create pet memorials (whether your fur baby is still here or passed!). This episode title might be something avoidant feeling to some, and I understand that, but I promise it's a happy approach of what I wish I knew and took the time to think about before unexpectedly having to face euthanizing my sweet pup.References from the Ep (Books, Creators and More!)Cuddle Clones 15% off Discount Code: VIC15XBooks mentioned:Good Greif: On Loving Pets Here and Hereafter by E.B BartelsHow to Carry What Can't Be Fixed (workbook) by Megan DivineAnd I Love You Still (workbook) by Julianne CorbinWill You Love Me by Barby KeelThe Invisible Leash (picture book) by Partice KarstLove Notes to Grievers by Angela MorrisSmall Businesses for Pet Memorials and Creators Mentioned:Mickey Alice Kwapis for Eye Pendants and Pet Nose Impression KitsForget Me Not Jewels for Cremation JewelryCuddle Clones for Pet Replica Stuffed AnimalsRainbow Bridge Raina on Tiktok for Comforting ContentFor more on my personal pet loss and pet grief experience you can find me on Instagram with highlights at vicinthemeadow and on Tiktok at vicsauce.For inquiries and partnerships please e-mail vicinthemeadow@gmail.com (business only) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Wonder is the root of love, the lack of wonder is the root of violence.”  Is there a way to create boundaries with someone who wishes to cause harm? Can you love them and hold them accountable? Do you have to fight for a just world for everyone? Valarie Kaur is no stranger to violence. As a Sikh, as a woman, as a person of color, violence has shaped both her activism and her deep sense of community care. Her Revolutionary Love Project is the blueprint for organizers, activists, and really - anyone in love with the world and what it could be.    This week, the activist, and best-selling author of See No Stranger joins me to talk about love, action, and the power of wonder in the face of impossible things.    We cover activism, wonder, horror, grief, acts of violence, acts of justice, parenting in an age of rampant school violence, healing family wounds, building true community - and why fighting for love and pleasure is always going to be more sustainable than fighting against hate.  “I spent the last 20 years organizing my life around hate and I want to spend the next 20 years organizing around love. The pain of the world is the pain of the world, regardless.” - Valarie Kaur   * One brief content note, Valarie's neighborhood had some construction going on, so there's more background noise in this episode than usual. Listen for the goodness, though - it's all around you.    In this episode we cover: How do you continue to work on behalf of EVERYONE for a more just and beautiful world, when some of those people cause great harm?  Getting outside of unbearable pain so you can survive Do you have to suffer in order to be of service? Being an activist for the long haul “Squad care” and what it means for activists and anyone alive in the world What do you want future generations to inherit from your time here?    Want grief support with Megan? Apply for 1:1 sessions here, or join the monthly Q&A here.  Related episodes: The Love-Filled World A Place Called Home: a conversation with child welfare advocate, David Ambroz Connection is the best medicine: with Dr. Rana Awdish Notable quotes:  “We're living in a time where we have to metabolize grief on a scale that no other generation before us has had to.” - Valarie Kaur   “Our solidarity is only as deep as our ability to love one another, and our ability to love one another is only as deep as our ability to weep with one another.” -  Valarie Kaur About our guest:  Valarie Kaur is a renowned civil rights leader, lawyer, award-winning filmmaker, educator, author of the #1 LA Times Bestseller SEE NO STRANGER, and founder of the Revolutionary Love Project. A daughter of Punjabi Sikh farmers in California, her work has ignited a national movement to reclaim love as a force for justice. See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love.  About Megan:  Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries.  The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world.   Additional resources: Valarie Kaur's websiteThe Revolutionary Love Learning Hub   Want to talk with Megan directly? Two options: apply for one of her 1:1 sessions through the contact form at megandevine.co, or join our Patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. Either way, it's your questions, answered.   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed    Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.co  See omny.fm/listener for privacy information.

Did anyone teach you that understanding your grief is the key to being (or becoming) a healthy human being? Probably not.    In this expansive episode, Megan speaks with world-renowned author and physician Gabor Maté about the role of trauma and grief in our personal lives and in society at large.  Dr. Gabor Maté on grief, this week on It's OK that You're Not OK, the podcast.    In this episode we cover:    What is “personal agency” and why does losing personal agency create disease?  Why calling grief a disorder has social, relational and political ramifications How do elephants grieve? Is it really so different from humans?  Women as the emotional shock absorbers for the rest of the world Why we often ignore other peoples' pain to make ourselves comfortable Does taking pain seriously make you more hopeful?  Dr. Gabor Maté's conversation with Prince Harry (!)    About the guest: Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and author, with expertise in trauma, stress, addiction, and child development. He's the NYT best-selling author of The Myth of Normal, the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, and many other books.    Find him at drgabormate.com About Megan:  Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries.  The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed     Books and research mentioned in this episode  The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté Scattered Minds by Gabor Maté The Wisdom of Trauma - documentary exploring Gabor Maté's work to understand the connection between illness, addiction, trauma, and society.   Jaak Panksepp researched connections between human emotion processing and other mammals Hold Onto Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté Research on early trauma in elephants The Washington Post article about Megan's loss NYT Mothers are The ‘Shock Absorbers' Of Our Society  Article on Hillary Clinton's traumatic family history  NYT Fighting Maternal Mortality Among Black Women   Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn   For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   In this final episode of season two, we answer the central question from episode one: is there any hope? Okay, well we don't answer it. But we do review what we've learned. Turns out, everyone has an opinion about hope - from the creative to the bleak to the functional. Maybe one of these versions speaks to you.   Click here for the episode webpage.   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    About our guest: Megan Devine is a best-selling author, psychotherapist, grief advocate and podcast host. Her book It's OK that You're Not OK is the go-to resource for over half a million people. Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” is used in training programs around the world. She's been published in GQ, The New York Times, and The Washington Post, and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.   For the full episode from each of the guests you heard from in the show:    Nelba Márquez-Greene  Rebecca Woolf  Dr. Rana Awdish  Emily X.R. Pan  Emi Nietfeld  Aubrey Hirsch  Koshin Paley Ellison  Leanne Pedante  Alex Elle    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.   Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.   Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co to get in touch.   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   Nobody likes to talk about pet loss… but everybody wants to talk about pet loss. What a difficult scenario that is! Veterinary oncologist Dr. Renee Alsarraf joins us to talk about grief, professionalism, and the importance of being human - on the job and off.    In this episode we cover:    The whole truth about loving - and losing - your pets The terrible advice Dr. Renee Alsarraf's grad school teacher gave her (and why she refused to listen)  Why veterinarians and other professionals should really NOT check their human emotions at the door When it's time to welcome a new love into your life (human or otherwise) How Dr. Alsarraf's experience with veterinary oncology did (and didn't) prepare her for her own cancer diagnosis Click here for the episode webpage. Notable quotes:    “I think we tend to see our pets - especially when they're ailing - more like our little babies, and so we want to protect them. That's our innate role. And yet we can't protect them from the inevitable. That's really hard.” - Dr. Renee Alsarraf   “You can't push emotions down and expect them to not pop back up in other places.” - Megan Devine   About our guest:  Dr. Renee Alsarraf is a veterinary oncologist, lecturer, and philanthropist. Her new book Sit Stay Heal is a moving and uplifting memoir of an esteemed veterinary oncologist fighting to save her four-legged patients while making sense of her own unexpected cancer diagnosis.   Find Dr. Alsarraf on IG @reneealsarraf  and read more about her book at sitstayhealbook.com Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You've experienced a great loss and it's so overwhelming that you have to make life really small for a while, just to survive. What do you do when you disappear from life for long enough that you're not sure if the people, places, and things you love most will be patient enough to wait for you? CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE TRANSCRIPT FOR THIS EPISODE STUFF MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Audible Premium Plus: BeckyLMcCoy.com/Audible Here are a few books to help you feel less alone in your grief:Crying in H Mart by Michelle ZanierRebellious Mourning: The Collective Work of Grief edited by Cindy MilsteinThe Sixth Stage of Grief by David KesslerH is for Hawk by Helen MacdonaldHow to Carry What Can't Be Fixed by Megan DevineThe Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion Grief Library: http://BeckyLMcCoy.com/GriefLibrary 4 Mantras for When I'm Overwhelmed: BeckyLMcCoy.com/4mantras FIND BECKY ONLINE: Website: BeckyLMcCoy.com Social Media: @BeckyLMcCoy Subscribe, rate, review, and share this podcast with the resilient people in your life! Links may be affiliate links, so you're supporting this podcast when you buy through them. Thanks!

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   “Getting people to feel angry with me makes me feel less alone, less helpless. (It) makes me feel like, okay, there's a whole team of us. We're all gonna do it.” - Writer and illustrator, Aubrey Hirsch    The world is such a hot mess: every day a new disaster, a new human rights catastrophe. It can just feel… endless. Illustrator Aubrey Hirsch joins us to talk about outrage and trauma and community building - it's like the greatest hits of modern culture. But mostly, she joins us to talk about art - specifically, the ways that storytelling helps us band together and work towards the world we all want.    PS: Listen all the way through so you don't miss Aubrey's slightly sinister but ultimately functional ideas on hope.  In this episode we cover:  The relationship between rage and creation: when there's so much wrong with the world all you can do is scream Why taking action to change things matters - even if your actions won't save everyone Women and anger: hoo boy, it's a whole thing.  Why healing inside trauma is actually kind of… boring.  Connecting through the power of storytelling   Click here for the episode webpage. Notable quotes:  “I feel very helpless and I don't wanna feel like that because I know that to be f*cked is a spectrum and we can be more f*cked than we are now or less f*cked. It's not a binary. I want us to move in the right direction (less f*cked),  and I want to be a part of that movement - even if my action comes too late for some.” - Aubrey Hirsch About our guest: Aubrey Hirsch is the author of Why We Never Talk About Sugar, a collection of short stories, and This Will Be His Legacy, a flash fiction chapbook. Her stories, essays and comics have appeared widely in print and online in places like American Short Fiction, Vox, TIME, The New York Times, The Rumpus, The Toast, and in the New York Times bestselling anthology, Not That Bad. Her essay on trauma and surviving gun violence is a must read. Find it here.    Additional resources Aubrey occasionally teaches comics for “non-artists.” Check her TW @aubreyhirsch for announcements. She publishes new comics and essays on Roxane Gay's substack, The Audacity.    Aubrey's written on so many topics relevant to human life. Find a long list of awesome essays on her website, https://aubreyhirsch.com   Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co to get in touch.   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   If you've lived through horrific trauma or abuse, is it really fair of us to say that the ways you've learned to cope are “bad,” or to use clinical speak, “maladaptive”? This week on Here After, Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, joins me to talk about complex PTSD and the ways we pathologize human responses to trauma. You'll also hear how claiming your own messy, complex coping mechanisms can help you build a community that sees you and loves you.    If you're haunted by any type of trauma, or know someone who is, this conversation is a great introduction to complex PTSD, and the work of survivorship.  In this episode we cover:  Why pretending to be a high-performing badass is maybe not in your best interest How storytelling can make you feel less freakish and alone The real problem with most books on trauma and C-PTSD   Click here for the episode webpage. Notable quotes:  “People are like, oh, you're so brave to have shared your story. And I was like, I burned down my whole life. There was nothing to lose anymore, so there was nothing to be brave about.” - Stephanie Foo About our guest:    Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City with her husband.   Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Find her at stephaniefoo.me and follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio  Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link  Additional resources   It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook)   For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle)   Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you. Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co to get in touch.   For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Guest Info/Bio: Welcome back for part 2 of my conversation with Megan Devine in our series on grief and loss. Psychotherapist Megan Devine believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. She advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss – personally, professionally, and as a wider community.Megan is the author of the best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand, and her guided grief journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. Her animated “how to help a grieving friend” video distills a complex issue into simple, actionable steps in just over three (adorable) minutes. Gaining over 50 million views in its first few months, the animation is now used in training programs all around the world.Megan's work has been translated into 15 languages, and is featured widely in the media, including the New York Times, Marketplace, The Atlantic, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review, and Bitch magazine. She's a sought after expert when grief erupts in the public sphere. Her latest collaborative project, the PBS documentary Speaking Grief, is out now. Guest (selected) Publications: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand” Guest Website/Social Media: www.refugeingrief.com Facebook: @refugeingrief Twitter: @refugeingrief Instagram: @refugeingrief Theme Music by: Forrest Clay “Does God & Recover” found on the EP, Recover.You can find Forrest Clay's music on iTunes, Apple Music, Spotify, YouTube, or anywhere good music is found!This episode of the Deconstructionists Podcast was edited, mixed, and produced by John Williamson Stay on top of all of the latest at www.thedeconstructionists.com Go there to check out our blog, snag a t-shirt, or follow us on social mediaJoin our Patreon family here: www.patreon.com/deconstructionists Website by Ryan BattlesAll photos by Jared HevronLogos designed by Joseph Ernst & Stephen PfluigT-shirt designs by Joseph Ernst, Chad Flannigan, Colin Rigsby, and Jason Turner. Starting your own podcast? Try Riverside! https://riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_1&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=john-williamsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code deconstruct50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-deconstructionists/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   What if you were just about to get divorced, but your partner gets sick? Like really sick? Rebecca Woolf was just about to leave an unhappy marriage when her husband got sick and died. What followed was a crash course in performative grief, and the dismantling of one life in order to build the next. In this episode, we cover love, sex, marriage, divorce, grief, shame, assumptions (both internal and external), and personal agency - it's QUITE the conversation. Sensitivity note: this episode contains the F word, and references sex.  In this episode we cover:  The conventions of marriage and grief that trap people in inauthentic versions of themselves How you can love someone AND be relieved they're dead Why everyone has an opinion about how soon is too soon to date, have sex, or otherwise live your life after someone dies Grieving the time you lost living someone else's life Building your own “house of hope,” according to your own desires   About our guest: Rebecca Woolf has worked as a writer since her teens - it's the way she understands both herself and the world. Her essays have appeared on Refinery29, HuffPost, Parenting, and more. She currently authors the bi-weekly column Sex & the Single Mom on romper.com. Her latest book, All of This: a Memoir of Death and Desire, hits the shelves last month.    Find her on IG @rebeccawooolf (with three o's) and at rebeccawoolf.com   Additional resources It can be hard to find information about grieving the loss of a complicated relationship (an abusive parent, or an estranged partner, for example). Check out this post on grieving people you didn't always like.    Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, and share the show with everyone you know. Talking about difficult things gets easier with practice, and that's why we're here. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co to get in touch.   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Guest Info/Bio:Welcome to 2023! We're back! To kick off the year I welcome the amazing Megan Divine to kick off our series on grief and loss. Psychotherapist Megan Devine believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. She advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss – personally, professionally, and as a wider community.Megan is the author of the best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand, and her guided grief journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. Her animated “how to help a grieving friend” video distills a complex issue into simple, actionable steps in just over three (adorable) minutes. Gaining over 50 million views in its first few months, the animation is now used in training programs all around the world.Megan's work has been translated into 15 languages, and is featured widely in the media, including the New York Times, Marketplace, The Atlantic, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review, and Bitch magazine. She's a sought after expert when grief erupts in the public sphere. Her latest collaborative project, the PBS documentary Speaking Grief, is out now. Guest (selected) Publications: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand” Guest Website/Social Media: www.refugeingrief.com Facebook: @refugeingrief Twitter: @refugeingrief Instagram: @refugeingrief Theme Music by: Forrest Clay “Does God & Recover” found on the EP, Recover.You can find Forrest Clay's music on iTunes, Apple Music, Spotify, YouTube, or anywhere good music is found!This episode of the Deconstructionists Podcast was edited, mixed, and produced by John Williamson Stay on top of all of the latest at www.thedeconstructionists.com Go there to check out our blog, snag a t-shirt, or follow us on social mediaJoin our Patreon family here: www.patreon.com/deconstructionists Website by Ryan BattlesAll photos by Jared HevronLogos designed by Joseph Ernst & Stephen PfluigT-shirt designs by Joseph Ernst, Chad Flannigan, Colin Rigsby, and Jason Turner. Starting your own podcast? Try Riverside! https://riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_1&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=john-williamsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code deconstruct50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-deconstructionists/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   PROLONGED GRIEF DISORDER! It's everywhere - social media, The New York Times, The Washington Post… it's the hot new medical condition everyone's talking about. But why is everyone so mad about it?    This week on the show, an overview of this hotly contested “new” human disorder, and what it means for the average person, for healthcare providers, and honestly - for the whole world. This is one medical diagnosis that affects everyone.    Want your questions answered on the show? Submit your questions at megandevine.co   In this episode we cover:  Why anyone should care what the APA thinks about grief The actual diagnostic criteria for prolonged grief disorder (translated from psych-jargon into the way real people speak) Access to care + funding for research: two of the main reasons people think this diagnosis could be helpful (and why it isn't)  The real world impact of the DSM: doubling down on shame and misunderstanding Why launching new rules about how long it's ok to grieve is more than a bit problematic while we're still in the middle of a mass death and mass disabling event (aka the pandemic) One surprise reason this diagnosis *could* be seen as a good thing Click here for the episode webpage Notable quotes:  “Grief makes you less productive, and what we value above all else is productivity.” - Megan Devine   Questions to Carry with you:  Read up on the unfolding public conversation about prolonged grief disorder - how do *you* feel about it? Let us know! Visit megandevine.co Additional resources For an interview with both Megan and the author of the NYT article, Ellen Barry, on WGBH TV Boston, click here.    To read Megan's more detailed response to the NYT article, including tweet-by-tweet takedowns of most of the major “pro disorder” points, check out the original Twitter thread, and the extended thread. Versions of these threads are also on the blog.    Want to read even more about our culture's deep avoidance of human emotion, and all the ways that messes with day to day life? Maybe more important, want to know what's actually normal inside grief? Check out Megan's best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK, and follow @refugeingrief on IG/FB/TW  We recommend you check out the Perfectly Normal campaign, serving up just the validation you need when you're feeling like the only person in the world doing that “weird” thing you do.    Therapist, clinician, or other healthcare provider? Be sure to check out upcoming trainings that address PGD and re-humanizing grief. Follow Megan Devine on LinkedIn, too.  Other articles on prolonged grief disorder include Medicalizing Grief May Threaten Our Ability to Mourn Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    To submit your questions visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   Our early childhood experiences of grief - and how our family systems dealt with loss - have a huge impact on our adult behaviors and relationships. This week, author Allyson Dinneen (Notes from Your Therapist) joins me as we discuss generational grief stories. We also have the first of many conversations addressing your number one most asked question: how does a grieving therapist (or another healthcare provider) go back to work?    About this week's guest:  Allyson Dinneen is a marriage and family therapist, author, and the creator of the immensely popular Instagram account, Notes from Your Therapist - which is also the name of her recent book. Allyson's work has been featured in Forbes, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, and more. Find her on IG @notesfromyourtherapist   Questions to Carry with you: Exploring the risks and rewards of telling the truth    Notable quotes:  “I plan to keep my conversation going with grief my whole life.” - psychotherapist Allyson Dinneen   References: Megan and Allyson discuss a question from a previous episode that aired on January 3rd. That episode is linked HERE.   Find all this, plus instructions for how to submit YOUR questions to be answered on a future show in this episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    To submit your questions visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon.   Everybody knows the stages of grief. Even if you didn't go to grad school, I bet you can rattle them off. Thing is - those stages don't help anyone: not the pros trying to support patients or clients, not the person trying to survive an impossible situation. Tune in for the inside scoop on the stages of grief and what we should be doing instead, with a special shout-out to the tv shows getting grief right.     In this episode we cover:   where the stages of grief came from, and why their creator was Less Than Pleased with what happened next whether an “innocent” mention of the stages of grief really matters in a movie or tv show (shout out to netflix: HMU!)  what to do if your boss asks you to support your co-workers through a death in the company and much more, because I have a lot to say on these stages, apparently.  Questions to Carry with you:   rooting out the ways the stages of grief live in your head (it's not as uncomfortable as it sounds!)  Extra resources: I've written a lot about the stages of grief. Check out this article, this instagram post, and for more of my feelings about The Starling, click here. Be sure to pick up It's OK that You're Not OK wherever you get your books, too - there's a lot about the stages in there (including the reasons why graduate programs still teach this outdated model).    For more help navigating grief in the workplace, check out Alica Forneret, Lantern, and Grief Coach. I provide corporate consulting on grief related comms, too. Get in touch via megandevine.co  Disclosure: these aren't paid placements - I've worked with all these folks and I super dig them. Go check them (and me!) out.    Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    To submit your questions visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Could it be the case that the Western Buddhists have lost touch with the radical questioning and the transformative power of transcendence?  Has the focus on meditation, the mimicking of South Asian monastics with the necessity of engaging in long and austere silent retreats, and the dominant materialist view that Buddhism is a “science of mind” created an ecology that is elitist and exclusionary?  Will worshipping at the secular alter with its fMRI brain scans satisfy our yearnings for transcendence? Is stress-reduction, neuro self-optimization and vague notions of individualistic ‘happiness' and so-called “human flourishing” among the Secular Buddhist all we can expect from Buddhism modernism?   What if -- rather than science and psychology -- that the arts may a more fruitful path and gateway for us in the West to engage with the Transcendent, to rediscover our true nature, or what Paul Tillich called our “infinite passions” and the “joy of creative communion”?  Rather than celebrating the mainstreaming of mindfulness as it has accommodated itself to the needs of capitalist ideology, can we engage in a politics of refusal and reclaim Buddhism as a countercultural force in the modern world? These thought-provoking questions are the subject of Curtis White's new book, Transcendent: Art and Dharma in a Time of Collapse, published by Melville House. In this episode, Curtis White dives deep into these questions, showing us why the 60's counter-culture was so open and receptive to Buddhism and it felt so familiar as if something lost was being returned to us. Curtis argues that our own native traditions – from the English Romantic poets to the American transcendentalists – were forms of social transcendence that opposed the alienating effects of rationalism, science and industry – social movements that were not only aesthetic, but liberative.  Our conversation was wide-ranging – from trashing the Davos crowd to appreciating Blues music, to the wrathful compassion and performative enactment of comedy embodied in George Carlin, to the spiritual transcendence of a Vermeer painting – White shows us how our everyday world is where transcendence is always available and that we can play to be free and how art can model that freedom. Curtis White spent most of his career has writing experimental fiction, and was formerly a Professor of English at Illinois State University. He is the author of some 16 books, including such titles as Living in a World That Can't Be Fixed, The Science Delusion, We, Robots: Staying Human in the Age of Big Data. His essays have appeared in Harper's Magazine, Salon, the Village Voice, Tricycle, Orion, and In These Times. His newest book, Transcendent: Art and Dharma in a Time of Collapse was published by Melville House, 2023.  

In this final episode of season two, we answer the central question from episode one: is there any hope? Okay, well we don't answer it. But we do review what we've learned. Turns out, everyone has an opinion about hope - from the creative to the bleak to the functional. Maybe one of these versions speaks to you.   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    About our guest: Megan Devine is a best-selling author, psychotherapist, grief advocate and podcast host. Her book It's OK that You're Not OK is the go-to resource for over half a million people. Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” is used in training programs around the world. She's been published in GQ, The New York Times, and The Washington Post, and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.     For the full episode from each of the guests you heard from in the show:  Nelba Márquez-Greene  Rebecca Woolf  Dr. Rana Awdish  Emily X.R. Pan  Emi Nietfeld  Aubrey Hirsch  Koshin Paley Ellison  Leanne Pedante  Alex Elle    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.   Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co to get in touch.   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can you make space for the whole truth in your life? The whole truth *of* your life? This week, best-selling author Alex Elle talks about the post-partum period after the launch of her newest book, and how her healing is intertwined with hearing the truth - the whole truth - about her own life.    In this episode we cover:    Why one of Alex's friends told her she stop hoarding her stories How owning your own story - and your own healing - impacts everyone around you The intersections of writing, healing, and grief How to give yourself permission to heal from the same thing more than once Why learning to slow down is the key to self-healing    Notable quote:  “No one taught me how to be a mother. No one taught me how to be warm and nurturing. I had to figure that out on my own. No one taught me how to hold space and not try to fix someone's tears. I had to figure it out on my own. I think part of my healing and my grief work is (exploring): ‘What did I need that I didn't get?'” - Alex Elle   About our guest:   Alexandra Elle is a New York Times Bestselling author, wellness educator, and certified Breathwork coach. Her work has been featured by a wide range of media outlets, including The New York Times, NPR, Good Morning America, Essence, MindBodyGreen, Forbes, and many others. She teaches workshops and leads retreats centered around writing-to-heal and self-care. Find her on social media @alex_elle, and at alexelle.com   Additional resources   Every month I host a live video Q&A session. If you've ever wished you could talk to me directly, this is by far the easiest way to do it. All the information is at my patreon page, right here.  Hope to see you there each month.    Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Message us at megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A bonus episode (and a re-release) for Valentine's week - the love story at the core of the best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK, this podcast, and all of Megan's work. This episode is unlike our normal weekly show. Tune in, and let us know if you'd like more occasional bonus episodes. Resources:  This essay first appeared in a slightly different form on Modern Loss Get in touch:    Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link.    Thanks for listening to this week's bonus episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do we lose when we're not allowed to be angry?    In a lot of ways, anger is more taboo than grief. They're deeply related, as you'll hear in this two-part episode: both grief and anger are considered “negative” emotions, things you shouldn't feel, and definitely shouldn't express in polite company. But what if reclaiming our anger was the way to build the world - and the relationships - we most want? All of that and more with the best selling author of Rage Becomes Her, Soraya Chemaly.    In this two-part episode we cover:    What is the right amount of anger? Why deciding some emotions are “good” and some are “bad” isn't really helpful  What would “anger competence” or “anger literacy” look like? (and why would you want that??)  Why Soraya says “most grief is ambiguous grief” Is anger the most social emotion? How the old split between the head (logic) and the heart (emotion) cuts us off from what we most want Finding your best community by embracing your anger   About our guest:   Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning writer and activist whose work focuses on the role of gender in culture, politics, religion, and media. She is the Director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project and an advocate for women's freedom of expression and expanded civic and political engagement. A prolific writer and speaker, her articles appear in Time, the Verge, The Guardian, The Nation, HuffPost, and The Atlantic. Find her best selling book, Rage Becomes Her at sorayachemaly.com. Follow her on social media @sorayachemaly Additional resources   We mention Pauline Boss in this episode. If you're not familiar with her excellent work on ambiguous loss (a term she coined in the 1970s), check out her website at ambiguousloss.com   To read more about anger and how it relates to grief, check out It's OK that You're Not OK. If you want to explore your anger with creative prompts and exercises, check out the guided journal for grief, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.    Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, and @hereafterpod on TT   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do we lose when we're not allowed to be angry?    In a lot of ways, anger is more taboo than grief. They're deeply related, as you'll hear in this two-part episode: both grief and anger are considered “negative” emotions, things you shouldn't feel, and definitely shouldn't express in polite company. But what if reclaiming our anger was the way to build the world - and the relationships - we most want? All of that and more with the best selling author of Rage Becomes Her, Soraya Chemaly.    In this two-part episode we cover:    What is the right amount of anger? Why deciding some emotions are “good” and some are “bad” isn't really helpful  What would “anger competence” or “anger literacy” look like? (and why would you want that??)  Why Soraya says “most grief is ambiguous grief” Is anger the most social emotion? How the old split between the head (logic) and the heart (emotion) cuts us off from what we most want Finding your best community by embracing your anger   About our guest:   Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning writer and activist whose work focuses on the role of gender in culture, politics, religion, and media. She is the Director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project and an advocate for women's freedom of expression and expanded civic and political engagement. A prolific writer and speaker, her articles appear in Time, the Verge, The Guardian, The Nation, HuffPost, and The Atlantic. Find her best selling book, Rage Becomes Her at sorayachemaly.com. Follow her on social media @sorayachemaly Additional resources   We mention Pauline Boss in this episode. If you're not familiar with her excellent work on ambiguous loss (a term she coined in the 1970s), check out her website at ambiguousloss.com   To read more about anger and how it relates to grief, check out It's OK that You're Not OK. If you want to explore your anger with creative prompts and exercises, check out the guided journal for grief, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.    Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, and @hereafterpod on TT   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dog search team expert Cat Warren's current work focuses on historical research, specifically: searching for abandoned or hidden burial grounds. This fascinating branch of search work combines history, racism, grief, and social reckoning.    In this episode we cover:  How dogs let us talk about historical acts of violence in ways that seem impossible otherwise Are there bones in the highway you're driving? Probably yes.  Where to even start looking for burial grounds someone wanted to keep hidden How Cat's atheism intersects with searching for remains Cat's version of hope: is it ugly, or is it beautiful? Hard to say.      About our guest:   Cat Warren is the New York Times bestselling author of What the Dog Knows: Scent, Science, and the Amazing Ways Dogs Perceive the World. The book tells the story of learning to work with her impossible young shepherd as a cadaver dog to find the missing and dead. It won critical acclaim and was long listed for the PEN/E.O. Wilson Literary Science Writing Award. She taught science writing, journalism, and creative nonfiction at North Carolina State University for 26 years before retiring in 2021. Additional resources All of Cat's information is at her website  NY Times article on cadaver dogs and archaeology  African American burial grounds & cadaver dogs   Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, and @hereafterpod on TT   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Our fears for the future of this planet are part of an interwoven story of grief and hope. While it's easy to feel overwhelmed and defeated, author Stephanie Foo (What My Bones Know) has found one small consistent act that grounds her, and gives her a hope for the world: she volunteers with the urban parks system. If your climate anxiety has felt too big to tackle, don't miss this short bonus episode - you might just find a doorway to your own place in the woods.  In this episode we cover:  The difference between “good immigrant” plants and “bad immigrant” plants, and how that relates to the climate emergency How being a park steward has given Stephanie hope for the future AND a budding community (ok, pun intended) What trees teach us about weathering trauma Notable quotes:  “My action is relatively small, but I think it's really important. I kill plants.” - Stephanie Foo   About our guest:    Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. She lives in New York City with her husband, where she is a Parks Department Super Steward.   Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio  Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link  Additional resources   It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook)   For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle)   For a deep dive into the environmental activism of the 90s and early 2000s, check out the work of Joanna Macy. A lot of our current understanding of the mental health of activists comes from Macy's work.    Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you.  Follow the show on TikTok @hereafterpod Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, & TT   Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you've lived through horrific trauma or abuse, is it really fair of us to say that the ways you've learned to cope are “bad,” or to use clinical speak, “maladaptive”? This week on Here After, Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, joins me to talk about complex PTSD and the ways we pathologize human responses to trauma. You'll also hear how claiming your own messy, complex coping mechanisms can help you build a community that sees you and loves you.    If you're haunted by any type of trauma, or know someone who is, this conversation is a great introduction to complex PTSD, and the work of survivorship.  In this episode we cover:  Why pretending to be a high-performing badass is maybe not in your best interest How storytelling can make you feel less freakish and alone The real problem with most books on trauma and C-PTSD Notable quotes:  “People are like, oh, you're so brave to have shared your story. And I was like, I burned down my whole life. There was nothing to lose anymore, so there was nothing to be brave about.” - Stephanie Foo About our guest:    Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City with her husband.   Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Find her at stephaniefoo.me and follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio  Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link  Additional resources   It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook) For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle)   Get in touch:   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you.  Follow the show on TikTok @hereafterpod Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.Megandevine.co   For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, & TT    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part 2 of episode 121 continues with a discussion of Dr. Jordan B Peterson's Relationship Principles mentioned in episode 121. In short the principles are 1. Conflict Delayed Is Conflict Multiplied. 2. Don't Worship People. 3. It's Hard to Fix Someone. It's Even Harder to Fix Someone Who Doesn't Want to Be Fixed. 4. Have Urgency. 5. Give Precise, Meaningful Praise. 6. Pay Attention to Your Conscience. 7. Remove Resentment. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/asher-tchoua0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/asher-tchoua0/support

Wait, isn't palliative care something hospice does before somebody dies? Well, yes, but that's just part of the story: palliative care covers a whole lot of health conditions, even temporary medical health setbacks. Palliative care is like symptom relief for the emotional challenges of being alive. Doesn't that sound really interesting? Find out what it is, and why it applies to YOU in this week's episode.    Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   In this episode we cover:  What is palliative care and why should *anyone* outside of hospice care? Getting your colleagues to care about the emotional pain of their patients Dr. Red's love letter / shout-out to nurses  Why a skilled surgeon also needs to be a compassionate human being How to keep your personal losses out of your workplace (sort of) Why Megan hopes you'll start seeing the whole world through a palliative care lens   Notable quotes:  “There's no way I could have come back to this job without being under the care of an amazing trauma informed therapist. You have to do your work or there's no way you're going to avoid bringing all of your stuff back to the job. My partner's death definitely informs who I am personally and professionally, but it cannot be all about me in the room.” - Dr. Red Hoffman on the personal/professional gray area   About our guest: Dr. Red Hoffman is a board certified trauma surgeon trained in surgical care and hospice and palliative medicine. She's one of the leading voices advocating for palliative medicine across all departments and subspecialties in medicine. Follow her on Twitter @RedMDND Questions to Carry with you: Where are your palliative care people? Go on an expedition to find out more! Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What is perfectly normal in grief? Pretty much everything. Listen as Alina and Judith chat about page 10 in Megan Devine's How To Carry What Can't Be Fixed (the companion journal to the MUST-READ It's OK That You're Not OK). This page covers some symptoms and side effects of grief, e.g. forgetting your keys, memory loss, digestion problems, and interpersonal issues. What else is perfectly normal for you in grief? Check our Megan's hashtag #perfectlynormal or her Instagram account @refugeingrief for more! ::: Things we talk about in this episode: - Amateur Hour | As Long As I'm Living - Consolation Prize | As Long As I'm Living - Executive dysfunction, illustrated - Judith's sneakers: Pair 1 (not purchased), Pair 2 and Pair 3 (purchased) ::: Follow As Long As I'm Living on Instagram at @aslongasimlivingpodcast, send us an email at aslongasimlivingpodcast@gmail.com, or visit us at anchor.fm/aslongasimliving! We would love to hear from you! ::: As Long As I'm Living is a podcast about life, love, and laughter after infant loss. Judith and Alina are rebuilding Happier Ever After one day at a time despite excruciating grief and trauma and offering support to grievers of all flavors, but especially those who have lost a baby to SIDS, infant death, birth accidents, stillbirth, TFMR, ectopic pregnancy, or miscarriage. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/aslongasimliving/message

Hi, Here After with Megan Devine fans! This week we're including the episode Amy Brown did with Megan. We hope you enjoy it! Grief counselor, psychotherapist, writer, grief advocate & communication expert, Megan Devine {@refugeingrief}, is on for all 4 things today! Megan is dedicated to helping people live through things they never thought they'd have to face. In 2009, she watched her partner, Matt, drown. FIRST THING: Megan shares her experience with grief and how it changed her life & relationships with others! Megan wants people to know it's okay that you're not okay and how to best meet grief & loss in a society that doesn't understand. SECOND THING: Journaling through grief with Megan's latest book: “How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.” THIRD THING: Megan debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. FOURTH THING: Megan shares with us 4 things she is grateful for. She also shared with us that gratitude is a companion to grief...not something you can do to get rid of any grief. Link to “It's Okay That You're Not Okay: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Society that Doesn't Understand”: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1622039076?ref=exp_radioamy_dp_vv_d Link to “How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed” (new grief journal): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1683643704?ref=exp_radioamy_dp_vv_d See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You know what makes the scary stuff easier to talk about? Making it fun. This week, my fellow “fun and scary” psychotherapist, Kat DeFatta, joins us to talk about body image, disordered eating, and how to help a friend facing a tough diagnosis. Sounds scary, but we had a lot of fun making this show. Come listen.  Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   In this episode we cover: Why brand new psychotherapist Kat DeFatta said she'd “never work with grief” (spoiler: she knows better now)  How to support a friend going through a health crisis when you're concerned about potential disordered eating How much exercise is “too much exercise” when you're dealing with a tough life experience Why grief is always in the room, no matter what your clients or patients present with   Notable quote:  “The question here isn't, "Why the addiction?" It's, "Where is some unmet need causing you pain?" The question isn't, "Why do you have a negative body image?" The question is, "Where are you hurting?" - Kat DeFatta    Guest Bio: Psychotherapist Kathryn DeFatta is the host of the You Need Therapy Podcast, where she brings the kind of rare, meaningful conversations of the therapy office out into the world. Find her at www.YouNeedTherapyPodcast.com     Questions to Carry with you: Making conversation with your body: how exactly do we do that?      Resources:  Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you're going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now.  Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops  Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Everybody knows the stages of grief. Even if you didn't go to grad school, I bet you can rattle them off. Thing is - those stages don't help anyone: not the pros trying to support patients or clients, not the person trying to survive an impossible situation. Tune in for the inside scoop on the stages of grief and what we should be doing instead, with a special shout-out to the tv shows getting grief right.     In this episode we cover: where the stages of grief came from, and why their creator was Less Than Pleased with what happened next whether an “innocent” mention of the stages of grief really matters in a movie or tv show (shout out to netflix: HMU!)  what to do if your boss asks you to support your co-workers through a death in the company and much more, because I have a lot to say on these stages, apparently.      Questions to Carry with you: rooting out the ways the stages of grief live in your head (it's not as uncomfortable as it sounds!)      Extra resources: I've written a lot about the stages of grief. Check out this article, this instagram post, and for more of my feelings about the Starling, click here. Be sure to pick up It's OK that You're Not OK wherever you get your books, too - there's a lot about the stages in there (including the reasons why graduate programs still teach this outdated model).    For more help navigating grief in the workplace, check out Alica Forneret, Lantern, and Grief Coach. I provide corporate consulting on grief related comms, too. Get in touch via megandevine.co  Disclosure: these aren't paid placements - I've worked with all these folks and I super dig them. Go check them (and me!) out.    Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when someone cuts you out of their life? How do you back away slowly from someone you really don't want to be around? Boundaries are part of all human relationships, but they are TRICKY. This week, part one of our show about boundaries - how to make them, how to keep them, and sometimes, how to breach them - with special guest Dr. Alexandra Solomon, host of Reimagining Love.   Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   In this episode we cover: Why relational self-awareness is the key to all good relationships Can step-parents and adult step-kids get along after a loss in the family?  Why relationships based on conscious choice are so important How to negotiate the relationship you want when the other people maybe don't want you around The difference between “letting go of outcome” and setting yourself up for success   Guest Bio: Dr Alexandra Solomon is one of the most trusted voices in the world of relationships. She's a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and the author of two bestselling books: Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. You might know her from her popular instagram channel, or from her podcast, Reimagining Love. Find her at https://dralexandrasolomon.com.    Questions to Carry with you: Check back next week for part two of this special episode on boundaries to get your Questions to Carry With You   Resources:  Want to train with Dr. Solomon? Check out her current training courses at https://dralexandrasolomon.com Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you're going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now.  Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops    Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's no secret that healthcare professionals and caregivers of all kinds are stretched beyond their limits. We can't look to healthcare systems themselves to give us the care and attention we need, so where CAN we go for support (and answers)? Don't miss this week's episode with guests Koshin Paley Ellison and Chodo Robert Campbell of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care.    To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   In this episode we cover:   why it's important to look beyond the identified patient to the invisible web of caregivers the realities of caregiver burnout and stress the one practice you can do even - and especially - when you have no time to care for yourself do you stay or do you go? Making decisions for yourself inside this healthcare system catastrophe   Guest info and resources:   Sensei Chodo Robert Campbell is co-founder of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care — a non-profit organization that focuses on the teaching of Zen and Buddhist practice with the goal to make them more accessible to people all around the world. His passion lies in bereavement counseling and advocating for change in the way our healthcare institutions work with the dying. Find Chodo and the NYZC @newyorkzencenter on IG, and online at zencare.org   Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison is an author, Zen teacher, Jungian psychotherapist, and Certified Chaplaincy Educator. Koshin is a world-renowned thought leader in contemplative care. He is the author of Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up and the co-editor of Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life Care. His work has been featured in the New York Times, PBS, CBS Sunday Morning, Tricycle among other publications. Find him on IG @koshinpaleyellison   If you work in healthcare, I very strongly recommend you check out New York Zen Center's Contemplative Medicine Fellowship. Registrations for the 2022-2023 fellowship are open now.     To hear one of my favorite passages of all time, read by Chodo Robert Campbell, check out the first video at this link. The whole video is a lovely teaching from the founders of the Zen Center for Contemplative Care.    All of the Zen Center's offerings, from books to support groups to ongoing educational opportunities can be found at zencare.org.    Questions to Carry with you:   special bonus questions and meditations from our guests! I'll be back next week with my own QtCWY, but don't miss this edition!   Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You ever feel like there's not enough love and support to go around? Like, there's a severe shortage of compassion in the world, both for you and well, everyone? Me too, friends. This episode is basically my TED talk, if I had one, on how we create that support-filled world we all want (and deserve). It's my personal favorite episode of season one.  In this episode we cover: Why comparing divorce to death, or pet loss to child loss, is a Very. Bad. Idea. (usually) Is it ok to be sad about a musician or actor's death, even if you never met them?  How to treat compassion like an abundant resource AND have good boundaries all at the same  The path to the love-filled, support-rich world we all want (it's not easy, but it's worth it)    Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co Notable quote:  “It sounds pretty woo but compassion really is an expandable resource. Practicing inclusion and validation means people feel heard, and heard people hear people, which means the whole culture starts to change from one of vindictive “how dare you feel that way!” to at worst, a neutral, impartial kindness, and at best - well, being generous like this creates a world built and sustained by love.” - Megan Devine Questions to Carry with you: Fun ideas to help you seed love and compassion in the world, plus the one habit to break and re-make Resources:  Love in action! Check out this exceptionally non-extensive list of people to learn from as we grow the love filled world we all want:  Rachel Cargle, Alok Menon, Alice Wong, Free Mom Hugs, Farmer Veteran Coalition, Natalie Weaver, & Resting Waters Terminology update: in this episode, I use the term “gender fluid,” but the term  gender-expansive is more accurate. The “is there love available here?” question comes from Mark Silver.   Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on the show, we're talking about something that pretty much everyone can relate to: wonky interpersonal relationships. Even in the best of times, human relationships can be tricky. Honestly, it's a wonder we create the social bonds we do considering how many things get in the way of a good connection. Tune in to find out how to help nice people get better at helping you, and how to step out of endless arguments that aren't going anywhere. Don't miss it!  In this episode we cover: why it's so hard to describe your personal experience so other people get it how to overcome that “crisis of translation” (including a shout out to one of my all-time favorite movies, Powder - in which I misremember who was actually in that movie) the one communication tool that helps make interpersonal communication a whole lot easier (it's a useful trick - promise!) how to enforce your boundaries without getting into endless arguments with people who just won't listen    IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: in the show, I say that Cher starred in the movie, Powder. Cher is not in the 1995 movie, Powder - I had a memory glitch. Still a great movie though.    Questions to Carry with you: playful, low stakes ways to practice the communication tools we talked about in this week's show. Give it a go!    Resources: For ideas on how to help a grieving partner, check out this article in GQ magazine . Lots of stuff in the article applies to the ways you might support anyone you care about (not just a partner)    Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jeff Van Duzer's teachings draw on his distinguished career in higher education, law, and financial management. At Seattle Pacific University, he held several positions including provost, dean of the School of Business and Economics, and professor of business ethics and business law. He practiced as a partner with the international law firm Davis Wright Tramaine for more than 20 years and is the author of Why Business Matters to God: (And What Still Needs to Be Fixed) along with many other articles in academic and popular journals.

Wait, isn't palliative care something hospice does before somebody dies? Well, yes, but that's just part of the story: palliative care covers a whole lot of health conditions, even temporary medical health setbacks. Palliative care is like symptom relief for the emotional challenges of being alive. Doesn't that sound really interesting? Find out what it is, and why it applies to YOU in this week's episode.    Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co   In this episode we cover:  What is palliative care and why should *anyone* outside of hospice care? Getting your colleagues to care about the emotional pain of their patients Dr. Red's love letter / shout-out to nurses  Why a skilled surgeon also needs to be a compassionate human being How to keep your personal losses out of your workplace (sort of) Why Megan hopes you'll start seeing the whole world through a palliative care lens   Notable quotes:  “There's no way I could have come back to this job without being under the care of an amazing trauma informed therapist. You have to do your work or there's no way you're going to avoid bringing all of your stuff back to the job. My partner's death definitely informs who I am personally and professionally, but it cannot be all about me in the room.” - Dr. Red Hoffman on the personal/professional gray area   About our guest: Dr. Red Hoffman is a board certified trauma surgeon trained in surgical care and hospice and palliative medicine. She's one of the leading voices advocating for palliative medicine across all departments and subspecialties in medicine. Follow her on Twitter @RedMDND Questions to Carry with you: Where are your palliative care people? Go on an expedition to find out more! Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.    For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The division of labor inside a family system is never equal, is it. What happens when grief hits the main caregiver, and they just can't keep giving? This week on the show, we discuss gender roles, invisible labor, and the redistribution of the workload inside families, with special guests Eve Rodsky and Dr. Aditi Nerurkar of the Timeout: A Fair Play podcast.  Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover: The long history of invisible labor, and what that means for women right now How systems, boundaries, and communication can help redistribute the workload inside families Why women's time is spent like sand, and men's time is valued like diamonds How grief intensifies the workload on the identified “I keep this family rolling” person Guest Bios: Eve Rodsky is a New York Times bestselling author and the creator of Fair Play: a step-by-step approach that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload. Find her at everodsky.com. Special note for therapists and other healthcare workers: Eve's Fair Play system can be adapted to working with your clients. Follow the Fair Play link above for details.  Dr. Aditi Nerurkar is an internal medicine physician, public health expert, and medical correspondent with an expertise in stress, resilience, and mental health. Find her at draditi.com Together, Eve and Aditi host the new show, Timeout: A Fair Play Podcast, which maps the ways caregivers can reclaim their time inside families and other systems that often invalidate women's contribution. Find Timeout wherever you get your podcasts.  Questions to Carry with you: Mapping your own workload (so you can clearly see where you need help!)  Resources:  Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you're going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now.  Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops  Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

PROLONGED GRIEF DISORDER! It's everywhere - social media, The New York Times, The Washington Post… it's the hot new medical condition everyone's talking about. But why is everyone so mad about it?  This week on the show, an overview of this hotly contested “new” human disorder, and what it means for the average person, for healthcare providers, and honestly - for the whole world. This is one medical diagnosis that affects everyone.  Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover:  Why anyone should care what the APA thinks about grief The actual diagnostic criteria for prolonged grief disorder (translated from psych-jargon into the way real people speak) Access to care + funding for research: two of the main reasons people think this diagnosis could be helpful (and why it isn't)  The real world impact of the DSM: doubling down on shame and misunderstanding Why launching new rules about how long it's ok to grieve is more than a bit problematic while we're still in the middle of a mass death and mass disabling event (aka the pandemic) One surprise reason this diagnosis *could* be seen as a good thing Click here for the episode webpage Notable quotes:  “Grief makes you less productive, and what we value above all else is productivity.” - Megan Devine Questions to Carry with you:  Read up on the unfolding public conversation about prolonged grief disorder - how do *you* feel about it? Let us know! Call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co Additional resources For an interview with both Megan and the author of the NYT article, Ellen Barry, on WGBH TV Boston, click here.  To read Megan's more detailed response to the NYT article, including tweet-by-tweet takedowns of most of the major “pro disorder” points, check out the original Twitter thread, and the extended thread. Versions of these threads are also on the blog.  Want to read even more about our culture's deep avoidance of human emotion, and all the ways that messes with day to day life? Maybe more important, want to know what's actually normal inside grief? Check out Megan's best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK, and follow @refugeingrief on IG/FB/TW  We recommend you check out the Perfectly Normal campaign, serving up just the validation you need when you're feeling like the only person in the world doing that “weird” thing you do.  Therapist, clinician, or other healthcare provider? Be sure to check out upcoming trainings that address PGD and re-humanizing grief. Follow Megan Devine on LinkedIn, too.  Other articles on prolonged grief disorder include Medicalizing Grief May Threaten Our Ability to Mourn Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

We know that healthcare workers are burned out and exhausted. Provider mental health is a huge issue… but are the institutions listening? This week, burnout expert Dr. Jessi Gold talks to us about (obviously) burnout, but also ways HCW* can start to change the workplace culture into one that actually values their human workforce. Sound unlikely? Listen in to find out.   *We talk a bunch about HCW in this episode, but the topics involved are relevant to everyone who feels even a little bit exhausted by the pressures of the world!  Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover: Can you be emotionless and still practice good medicine? How medical training seeks out perfectionists, and then uses that perfectionism as a way to wring out even more work  Why you can't self-care your way out of burnout, but you can support yourself inside the catastrophe Ways to get the administration to start valuing their workforce (spoiler: it involves speaking the language of capitalism!)  Notable quotes:  “The mental health system is broken. You can't fix it by breaking yourself.” - Dr. Jessi Gold.   “Let's borrow from the c-suite, let's borrow tactics from the upper levels of the industry - they do have a balance sheet at the end of the day. They need to know there's economic benefit to valuing peoples' humanity and their limits. Denying people their humanity costs us.” - Megan Devine   Guest Bio:  Dr. Jessi Gold is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Washington University School of Medicine in St Louis. She's a nationally recognized expert on healthcare worker mental health and burnout (particularly during the pandemic). Her work can be found in major publications like The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and TIME. Find the “burned out burnout expert” at www.Dr.JessiGold.com and on TW @drjessigold Questions to Carry with you: Tell yourself the truth about one thing. Why is that important? Listen to the episode to find out.  Resources:  For resources related to healthcare worker mental health, check out:  physician's support line on social @shrinkrapping American Foundation for Suicide Prevention on social @afspnational provider resource hub developed by @theNAMedicine)  Emotional PPE   Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for consulting, resources, and upcoming trainings    Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

What should you do if someone wants to be friends, but you're not into it? Boundaries are part of all human relationships, but they are TRICKY. This week, part two of our show about boundaries - how to make them, how to keep them, and sometimes, how to breach them - with special guest Dr. Alexandra Solomon, host of Reimagining Love. Notable quotes:  Boundaries are essentially “need negotiation” between humans. - Megan Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover: Starting over in a new place with new friends  Why we so often confuse boundaries with being mean or rude The power of social observation to gather data (Megan's go-to move!)  Scripts for saying “no thank you” to a potential friendship when that feels both mean and necessary Guest Bio: Dr Alexandra Solomon is one of the most trusted voices in the world of relationships. She's a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and the author of two bestselling books: Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. You might know her from her popular instagram channel, or from her podcast, Reimagining Love. Find her at https://dralexandrasolomon.com.  Questions to Carry with you: Discovering your existing boundaries in disguise! Plus communicating one new boundary. You've got this.  Resources:  Want to train with Dr. Solomon? Check out her current training courses at https://dralexandrasolomon.com Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you're going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now.  Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops  Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

What do you do when someone cuts you out of their life? How do you back away slowly from someone you really don't want to be around? Boundaries are part of all human relationships, but they are TRICKY. This week, part one of our show about boundaries - how to make them, how to keep them, and sometimes, how to breach them - with special guest Dr. Alexandra Solomon, host of Reimagining Love. Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover: Why relational self-awareness is the key to all good relationships Can step-parents and adult step-kids get along after a loss in the family?  Why relationships based on conscious choice are so important How to negotiate the relationship you want when the other people maybe don't want you around The difference between “letting go of outcome” and setting yourself up for success Guest Bio: Dr Alexandra Solomon is one of the most trusted voices in the world of relationships. She's a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and the author of two bestselling books: Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. You might know her from her popular instagram channel, or from her podcast, Reimagining Love. Find her at https://dralexandrasolomon.com.  Questions to Carry with you: Check back next week for part two of this special episode on boundaries to get your Questions to Carry With You Resources:  Want to train with Dr. Solomon? Check out her current training courses at https://dralexandrasolomon.com Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you're going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now.  Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops  Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Your typical small talk is LOADED with inappropriate questions. Think about it: you ask a person you just met whether they're married or if they have kids. If they're new in town, you ask them why they moved here. The answers to those questions are rarely simple, and they sometimes lead to awkward, intimate conversations - right there, next to the bean dip.  This week, we explore keeping secrets - in small talk, in the workplace, in families, and out in the wider world with listener questions about outing someone's sexuality after their death, and whether you should tell the truth or preserve your privacy when someone asks how many kids you have.  Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover: The difference between “secret” and “private” Whether you should out someone's gender or sexuality after their death Why it's ok to only tell part of the story (or none of it) when someone asks a personal question based on your public information Where to go for help if you feel like you can't tell the people around you what you're going through The real problem with small talk  Questions to Carry with you: Building a small talk library of questions that don't suck: a group project Resources:  Free Mom Hugs is the best place I know if you're part of the LGBTQIA+ community and feel like no one's on your side. You might also check with the Trevor Project, GLAAD, or google LGBTQIA+ resources in your area and online.  That scene I reference from Schitt's Creek is in season five, episode 11 (Meet the Parents). Check it out on Netflix.  Wish you could connect with grieving people who truly, truly get how complicated death and grief can be? The next session of the Writing Your Grief course and community is open for registration now. Your loss is unique, and you are three thousand percent definitely not alone.  Clinician or medical provider? Be sure to visit megandevine.co to learn about trainings and resources to help your clients navigate these issues.  Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

You know what makes the scary stuff easier to talk about? Making it fun. This week, my fellow “fun and scary” psychotherapist, Kat DeFatta, joins us to talk about body image, disordered eating, and how to help a friend facing a tough diagnosis. Sounds scary, but we had a lot of fun making this show. Come listen.  Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover: Why brand new psychotherapist Kat DeFatta said she'd “never work with grief” (spoiler: she knows better now)  How to support a friend going through a health crisis when you're concerned about potential disordered eating How much exercise is “too much exercise” when you're dealing with a tough life experience Why grief is always in the room, no matter what your clients or patients present with Notable quote:  “The question here isn't, "Why the addiction?" It's, "Where is some unmet need causing you pain?" The question isn't, "Why do you have a negative body image?" The question is, "Where are you hurting?" - Kat DeFatta  Guest Bio: Psychotherapist Kathryn DeFatta is the host of the You Need Therapy Podcast, where she brings the kind of rare, meaningful conversations of the therapy office out into the world. Find her at www.YouNeedTherapyPodcast.com Questions to Carry with you: Making conversation with your body: how exactly do we do that?  Resources:  Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you're going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now.  Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops  Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co Since we've already got February 14th assigned as a holiday, I'd like to claim Valentine's Day not for romance, but for all love. Let's make it a real sacred occasion - one that helps create a world where there's more than enough love and support to go around. This episode is basically what I'd give for my TED talk, if I had one. Don't miss it.  Grief is part of love, so of course we're talking about grief today. We navigate some clinical concerns as they relate to love, and we throw in a little bit of social justice here too, because what is justice but love in action. tada! We've got an episode suitable for february 14th, and we won't even need conversation hearts to do it.  In this episode we cover: Why comparing divorce to death, or pet loss to child loss, is a Very. Bad. Idea. (usually) Is it ok to be sad about a musician or actor's death, even if you never met them?  How to treat compassion like an abundant resource AND have good boundaries all at the same  Ways to navigate the shortage of compassion in your clients, patients, friends, or yourself The path to the love-filled, support-rich world we all want (it's not easy, but it's worth it)  Notable quote:  “It sounds pretty woo but compassion really is an expandable resource. Practicing inclusion and validation means people feel heard, and heard people hear people, which means the whole culture starts to change from one of vindictive “how dare you feel that way!” to at worst, a neutral, impartial kindness, and at best - well, being generous like this creates a world built and sustained by love. Happy Valentine's Day.” - Megan Devine Questions to Carry with you: Fun ideas to help you seed love and compassion in the world, plus the one habit to break and re-make Resources:  Love in action! Check out this exceptionally non-extensive list of people to learn from as we grow the love filled world we all want: Rachel Cargle, Alok Menon, Alice Wong, Free Mom Hugs, Farmer Veteran Coalition, Natalie Weaver, & Resting Waters Terminology update: in this episode, I use the term “gender fluid,” but the term gender-expansive is more accurate. The “is there love available here?” question comes from Mark Silver. Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co Episode Description: A bonus episode for Valentine's week - the love story at the core of Here After and all of Megan's work. This episode is unlike our normal weekly show. Tune in, and let us know if you'd like more occasional bonus episodes. Resources:  This essay first appeared in very slightly different form on Modern Loss Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week's bonus episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

It's no secret that healthcare professionals and caregivers of all kinds are stretched beyond their limits. We can't look to healthcare systems themselves to give us the care and attention we need, so where CAN we go for support (and answers)? Don't miss this week's episode with guests Koshin Paley Ellison and Chodo Robert Campbell of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co In this episode we cover: why it's important to look beyond the identified patient to the invisible web of caregivers the realities of caregiver burnout and stress the one practice you can do even - and especially - when you have no time to care for yourself do you stay or do you go? Making decisions for yourself inside this healthcare system catastrophe Guest info and resources: Sensei Chodo Robert Campbell is co-founder of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care — a non-profit organization that focuses on the teaching of Zen and Buddhist practice with the goal to make them more accessible to people all around the world. His passion lies in bereavement counseling and advocating for change in the way our healthcare institutions work with the dying. Find Chodo and the NYZC @newyorkzencenter on IG, and online at zencare.org   Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison is an author, Zen teacher, Jungian psychotherapist, and Certified Chaplaincy Educator. Koshin is a world-renowned thought leader in contemplative care. He is the author of Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up and the co-editor of Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life Care. His work has been featured in the New York Times, PBS, CBS Sunday Morning, Tricycle among other publications. Find him on IG @koshinpaleyellison If you work in healthcare, I very strongly recommend you check out New York Zen Center's Contemplative Medicine Fellowship. Registrations for the 2022-2023 fellowship are open now.   To hear one of my favorite passages of all time, read by Chodo Robert Campbell, check out the first video at this link. The whole video is a lovely teaching from the founders of the Zen Center for Contemplative Care.  All of the Zen Center's offerings, from books to support groups to ongoing educational opportunities can be found at zencare.org.  Questions to Carry with you: special bonus questions and meditations from our guests! I'll be back next week with my own QtCWY, but don't miss this edition! Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

How do you go on after your most transformational experience - motherhood - turns into your worst nightmare? Emmy nominated journalist René Marsh discusses storytelling, pediatric cancer, and becoming an advocate for the cause that broke her heart.  “I wrote this in my journal: if I survive this, it's not because I found some great tool to survive it. It's that I figured out how to position my stance to carry this load forever.” - René Marsh In this episode we cover: how the experience of deep loss changes who you are as a storyteller - personally and professionally finding joy in advocacy, even though you wish you never had to be an advocate at all  what CNN correspondent Rene Marsh wants other journalists to know about grief - on the job and off and listener questions on the benefits of journaling, plus managing personal emotions as an advocate Guest bio: Emmy nominated CNN correspondent, René Marsh, has been writing and telling stories for nearly two decades. Her journalism covers climate change and environmental justice, along with other heavy hitting modern issues.  Rene's son, Blake, was diagnosed with brain cancer at only nine months old, and passed away in April of 2021 at the age of two. She's an outspoken advocate for pediatric cancer awareness, hoping to help families just like hers get the support - and the research - they deserve.  To watch Rene's interviews on grief and advocacy, click here.  To learn about Rene's work to raise funding and awareness for pediatric cancer research, and to order her book, The Miracle Workers, visit renemarsh.com. Proceeds from the book go to fund pediatric cancer research.  Resources Are you a journalist? Check out this guide to reporting on death. Looking for a welcoming, inclusive community of writers? Registration is open now for the February session of Writing Your Grief  Learn more about Dr. Lonise Bias (mentioned in the episode) at the Bias Foundation  Questions to Carry with you: Emotionally devastating stories can leave you feeling helpless. This week - one action to take that helps combat that feeling of helplessness. Don't miss it!  Get in touch!  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

This week on the show, we're talking about something that pretty much everyone can relate to: wonky interpersonal relationships. Even in the best of times, human relationships can be tricky. Honestly, it's a wonder we create the social bonds we do considering how many things get in the way of a good connection. Tune in to find out how to help nice people get better at helping you, and how to step out of endless arguments that aren't going anywhere. Don't miss it!  In this episode we cover: why it's so hard to describe your personal experience so other people get it how to overcome that “crisis of translation” (including a shout out to one of my all-time favorite movies, Powder - in which I misremember who was actually in that movie) the one communication tool that helps make interpersonal communication a whole lot easier (it's a useful trick - promise!) how to enforce your boundaries without getting into endless arguments with people who just won't listen  IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: in the show, I say that Cher starred in the movie, Powder. Cher is not in the 1995 movie, Powder - I had a memory glitch. Still a great movie though.  Questions to Carry with you: playful, low stakes ways to practice the communication tools we talked about in this week's show. Give it a go!  Resources: For ideas on how to help a grieving partner, check out this article in GQ magazine . Lots of stuff in the article applies to the ways you might support anyone you care about (not just a partner)  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Everybody knows the stages of grief. Even if you didn't go to grad school, I bet you can rattle them off. Thing is - those stages don't help anyone: not the pros trying to support patients or clients, not the person trying to survive an impossible situation. Tune in for the inside scoop on the stages of grief and what we should be doing instead, with a special shout-out to the tv shows getting grief right.   In this episode we cover: where the stages of grief came from, and why their creator was Less Than Pleased with what happened next whether an “innocent” mention of the stages of grief really matters in a movie or tv show (shout out to netflix: HMU!)  what to do if your boss asks you to support your co-workers through a death in the company and much more, because I have a lot to say on these stages, apparently.  Questions to Carry with you: rooting out the ways the stages of grief live in your head (it's not as uncomfortable as it sounds!)  Extra resources: I've written a lot about the stages of grief. Check out this article, this instagram post, and for more of my feelings about the Starling, click here. Be sure to pick up It's OK that You're Not OK wherever you get your books, too - there's a lot about the stages in there (including the reasons why graduate programs still teach this outdated model).  For more help navigating grief in the workplace, check out Alica Forneret, Lantern, and Grief Coach. I provide corporate consulting on grief related comms, too. Get in touch via megandevine.co  Disclosure: these aren't paid placements - I've worked with all these folks and I super dig them. Go check them (and me!) out.  Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Sending a care package to someone newly bereaved, or trying to buy a gift for your grieving loved one this holiday season? Listen for our recommendations for things that will be used and appreciated. ::: Judith's Aiden necklace Em and Friends Empathy Cards Alina's favorite pajamas Alina's favorite candle Judith's watercolor set Option B, Sheryl Sandberg Untamed, Glennon Doyle It's OK That You're Not OK, Megan Devine How To Carry What Can't Be Fixed, Megan Devine You Are Not Alone, Emily Long Quinn's memory box --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/aslongasimliving/message

Hey helpers! This week we're taking umbrage with the concept of "Imposter Syndrome," sharing some readings and intersectional ideas we hope you'll consider in reclaiming some healthy self doubt AND questioning the environmental and relational elements perpetuating your sense of not belonging. It's time to get inclusive out here y'all, tune in, we're so glad you're here. Readings and Resources: Dan Siegel's book - The Mindful Therapist: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/7529269-the-mindful-therapist Ruchika Tulshyan & Jodi-Ann Burey HBR Articles: "Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome" https://hbr.org/2021/02/stop-telling-women-they-have-imposter-syndrome  "End Imposter Syndrome in Your Workplace" https://hbr.org/2021/07/end-imposter-syndrome-in-your-workplace Feenstra, S., Begeny, C. T., Ryan, M. K., Rink, F. A., Stoker, J. I., & Jordan, J. (2020). Contextualizing the Impostor “Syndrome.” Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 3206.https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.575024 ( https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.575024) Herman, J. L. (1997). Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence ; from domestic abuse to political terror (Kindle Edition.). Basic Books.https://read.amazon.com/?asin=B00X2ZW918&language=en-US ( https://read.amazon.com/?asin=B00X2ZW918&language=en-U) Langford, J., & Clance, P. R. (n.d.). THE IMPOSTOR PHENOMENON: RECENT RESEARCH FINDINGS REGARDING DYNAMICS, PERSONALITY AND FAMILY PATTERNS AND THEIR IMPLICATIONS FOR TREATMENT. 7. McNally, J. (2019, July 9). The Pretend Professional. Counseling Today, 62(1), 44–47. Validation of the Clance Imposter Phenomenon Scale.: EBSCOhost. (n.d.). Retrieved November 8, 2021, fromhttps://web-p-ebscohost-com.er.lib.k-state.edu/ehost/pdfviewer/pdfviewer?vid=1&sid=bcbd0e24-f4da-46ca-85b4-34fac9cd064d%40redis ( https://web-p-ebscohost-com.er.lib.k-state.edu/ehost/pdfviewer/pdfviewer?vid=1&sid=bcbd0e24-f4da-46ca-85b4-34fac9cd064d%40redis) The Moth | Stories | What Can't Be Fixed. (n.d.). Retrieved November 8, 2021, fromhttps://themoth.org/stories/what-cant-be-fixed ( https://themoth.org/stories/what-cant-be-fixed)

There's something big happening that few people are really talking about in a meaningful and constructive way. A sense of loss, on so many levels, even if there's also hope and excitement. We hate talking about this stuff, but it's so important.Whenever I'm grappling with any kind of loss or grief, whether around a person or even just a broader sense of freedom, connection, humanity, or possibility, my go-to person is my dear friend, Megan Devine, who also happens to be today's guest. Megan is a psychotherapist and grief advocate. She's the author of the best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK, and the new guided journal for grief, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.Megan was on the show back in 2016, but I asked her to come back after a conversation we had about how so many of us are carrying an unacknowledged sense of loss and grief right now. I wanted to explore what that does to us, what it means for us, and how to work with it in a way that owns the reality, and also allows us to be changed, and move forward from a place of greater understanding, and maybe even lightness and grace. And, that's what we dive into in today's conversation.You can find Megan at: Website | InstagramIf you LOVED this episode:You'll also love the conversations we had with Ocean Vuong about how loss and othering as a child led to creativity and insight as an adult.Check out our offerings & partners: Everlane: Shop Everlane for the most beautiful essentials, at the best factories, without traditional markups. Go to everlane.com/goodlife and sign up for 10% off your first order plus free shipping. And get easy returns within 30 days of your ship date.Zocdoc: Find In-Network Doctors. Choose from the largest directory of in-person & video visit providers in the nation. Search for Doctors based on availability, location, insurance, reviews & more. Go to Zocdoc.com/GOODLIFE and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Many are available as soon as today.My new book, Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive is now available for pre-order at https://sparketype.com/book/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Grief counselor, psychotherapist, writer, grief advocate & communication expert, Megan Devin {@refugeingrief}, is on for all 4 things today! Megan is dedicated to helping people live through things they never thought they'd have to face. In 2009, she watched her partner, Matt, drown. FIRST THING: Megan shares her experience with grief and how it changed her life & relationships with others! Megan wants people to know it's okay that you're not okay and how to best meet grief & loss in a society that doesn't understand. SECOND THING: Journaling through grief with Megan's latest book: “How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.” THIRD THING: Megan debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. FOURTH THING: Megan shares with us 4 things she is grateful for. She also shared with us that gratitude is a companion to grief...not something you can do to get rid of any grief.  Link to “It's Okay That You're Not Okay: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Society that Doesn't Understand”: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1622039076?ref=exp_radioamy_dp_vv_d  Link to “How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed” (new grief journal): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1683643704?ref=exp_radioamy_dp_vv_d  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

In which I discuss WHY I believe that framing my neurodiverse brain and the way I experience the world as a DISORDER, a disability and/or a PROBLEM which NEEDS to BE FIXed is only ONE way to frame it (and is potentially very limiting and dangerous). I discuss: decolonization begins within (how I treat my self and my parts) (decolonizing the self); unlearning and questioning the colonial capitalist mindset; reconnecting my parts; learning love and compassion; CURIOSITY as the polar opposite of shame; and SO much more! This was recorded in response to a listener asking for clarity on what I said about "mental illness is a deep disconnection from the self" in a past audio journal. Recorded May 23, 2021 Support Feelin Weird on PATREON: www.patreon.com/feelinweird Buy M E R C H: www.kyeplant.bandcamp.com Donate via PAYPAL: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=FZLGHJJCMWDYJ&source=url Instagram: @feelinweirdpod Web: feelinweird.com Email: feelinweird@gmail.com

ONCE UPON A GENE - EPISODE 080 Rare Disease and Grief - It’s OK That You’re Not OK with Megan Devine Megan Devine is the author of It's OK That You're Not OK, a psychotherapist, a grief advocate and communication expert dedicated to helping people face their toughest experiences. This book, her story and explanation of grief changed everything for me. After this episode, be sure to get a copy of the book for yourself, join her community and check out her new illustrated journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS Can you share the background on how your book came about? I've been a psychotherapist for about 18 years working with trauma, but when my partner died in an accident, my perspective on loss changed. I saw that the way we talk about grief in culture is flawed. When my partner died, I closed my practice. I began speaking about grief publicly, training and writing books to do what I could to help grieving people feel more heard and supported. Today, I'm a psychotherapist, author and grief advocate and I talk about the ways we get grief wrong and what to do better for us and for others.  What are the biggest misconceptions about grief? Grief usually belongs to death, but grief is a spectrum and you get to claim grief for yourself. Just because other people may have it worse doesn't mean you can't grieve. You don't have to demote your grief based on other people having more of a right to be grieving. All grief is valid, but that doesn't mean that all grief is the same. If we can be curious about the different ways we grieve, it's a way for us to come together to talk about it and meet each person's loss and grief with curiosity instead of trying to fit it into a one-size-fits-all package.  What do you mean by "some things can't be fixed and they must be carried"? We live in a problem-solution culture. Not everything has a solution and not everything works out for the best. It's not our job as humans to rise above everything. It's not realistic. Tell me about the movement you've created for people to acknowledge their grief. When we tell the truth about grief and let people tell their truth about their own experience, they get to just be in pain. If you think about grieving, you often find that you have to defend your grief and experience. That need to defend your experience causes annoyance and suffering because you're expending energy on defending your right to feel how you feel instead of feeling supported. Refuge In Grief is online, on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Refuge In Grief is the grievers community. We have to start normalizing grief and talking about what it's really like and what power there is in healthy grief. There's also a Writing Your Grief course that has awesome writing prompts, but mostly a magical community that forms during the live sessions. We open new sessions about every five weeks. How can we show up for someone who is grieving and support them? Interrupt your impulse to fix. It's human to find it difficult to watch someone you care about in pain and not try to make it better. Recognize your impulse to make it better and think about what you can do that would feel supportive in the moment. Don't assume you know what someone needs, don't jump in with solutions, but instead acknowledge and offer what you can offer and ask if your offering is helpful. LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED It's OK That You're Not OK https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B073XXYKLP/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0 How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1683643704/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i3 Writing Your Grief https://refugeingrief.com/writing-your-grief/ Speaking Grief Documentary https://speakinggrief.org/ Refuge in Grief https://refugeingrief.com/ Refuge In Grief on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/refugeingrief/ Refuge In Grief on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/refugeingrief Refuge In Grief on Twitter https://twitter.com/refugeingrief

Show Description: Episode 31: When we know both our weaknesses and strengths, we can accept ourselves and focus on areas we thrive instead of where we struggle. Top Takeaways: · [1:57] Understanding Weaknesses Versus Strengths· [3:39] Not Two Sides of the Same Coin· [5:15] We Don’t Need to Be Fixed· [6:44] Are We Allowing Our Weaknesses to Hinder Us?· [8:16] Are Our Behaviors Weaknesses?· [9:52] Accessing Our Strengths and Weaknesses· [11:50] Moving Forward Episode Links: Ø Our inner critic Ø Supposed to differ from others Ø Allowing my egoic mind Ø Things we are passionate about Ø Inspired action Ø In a flow state Ø Don’t inspire us Ø Our influence will be more significantØ Our happiness will increaseØ Dr. Don Clifton Ø Limitations Ø Dualistic egoic worldØ Joy Ø Fuels us to continue to learn Ø Despite any traumas Ø Can change our behaviors Ø Can take responsibility Ø Building our self-confidence Ø Do everything perfectly Ø We need to accept this part of us Ø Reduce our stress Ø The egoic mind has a limited viewpointØ There may be things we need to unlearnØ Believed I wasn’t creative Ø Raven Transcending FearØ

with guest Carissa Youssef, Food for the Hungry Canada. What is poverty, really? Where does it come from? What are ways to effectively tackle such a huge problem? Carissa's been wrapping her head and heart around it for years. She shares life-lessons on healthy helping, and tells her own personal experience with poverty and why she now is pouring her life into walking alongside others experiencing this vulnerability. Recommended Resources: https://chalmers.org/product/when-helping-hurts/ (Helping Without Hurting) by Corbett and Fikkert; https://www.amazon.ca/Why-Business-Matters-God-Still/dp/0830838880 (Why Business Matters to God: (And What Still Needs to Be Fixed)) by Jeff Van DuzerEpisode Episode hosted by Shelaine and Eric. Support this podcast

We discuss weird speculation that Google Cloud would buy Salesforce. It seems like bullshit, mostly, but it gives us a good jumping off point to talk cloud strategy. Also, Coté talks about being part of the VMware Tanzu team, how kubernetes could become the white box of the PC market (this is a good thing), that being #3 in a market is probably just fine, and we discuss poisoning-by-bread. Mood board: This is a New Year’s resolution we can all get behind: it’s time to just give up on some stuff. Man, this coffee is bad. Carbohydrate Coté is angry. Coté gets his birthday wrong. You’re really just pretty negative. Our man in Tanzu-land Cotem. After the headline, that article didn’t need to be written more. I’m not going to get into it, so here I go. The Turn the hydra head into a nanny acquisition strategy. Man, I should have just started with the bread. Relevant to your interests Tanzu Coté - VMware completes $2.7 billion Pivotal acquisition (https://techcrunch.com/2019/12/30/vmware-completes-2-7-billion-pivotal-acquisition/). Google buying Salesforce acid-dream - Google could acquire Salesforce and spin out its cloud business to catch up to Amazon and Microsoft, analyst predicts (https://www.businessinsider.com/google-salesforce-cloud-platform-spinout-analyst-prediction-2020-1) ServiceNow! Sort of examples the vagueness of Google’s Cloud Corporate Strategy. Drunk under a lamp post M&A click-bait strategy. “We only want to be #1 and #2 in a market.” Known fix: just redefine your market so you’re number one or number two. Share price premium for # 1 or #2 in the market. Pay people cheaper than you get paid to do things fallacy. Google 2023 deadline for Google Cloud to beat Amazon. Things we didn’t get to - Gartner, Splunk & McKinsey – IT Infrastructure & Operations (https://www.forbes.com/sites/steveandriole/2019/12/16/gartner-splunk--mckinsey--it-infrastructure--operations-------------predictions-for-2020/#35937dbe1dd2) A Cloud Guru Announces Acquisition of Linux Academy (https://www.prweb.com/releases/a_cloud_guru_announces_acquisition_of_linux_academy/prweb16790924.htm) For The New York Times, a swing and a miss at Amazon Web Services (https://mostlycloudy.substack.com/p/for-the-new-york-times-a-swing-and) Google execs reportedly debated getting out of cloud computing, but instead set a goal of being a top-two player by 2023 (https://www.cnbc.com/2019/12/17/google-reportedly-wants-to-be-top-two-player-in-cloud-by-2023.html) Google Brass Set 2023 as Deadline to Beat Amazon, Microsoft in Cloud (https://www.theinformation.com/articles/google-brass-set-2023-as-deadline-to-beat-amazon-microsoft-in-cloud) Stratoscale closes down, lays off 60 (https://en.globes.co.il/en/article-stratoscale-closes-down-lays-off-60-1001310966) Anyscale, from the creators of the Ray distributed computing project, launches with $20.6M led by a16z (https://techcrunch.com/2019/12/17/anyscale-ray-project-distributed-computing-a16z/) Compare Red Hat OpenShift vs. Cloud Foundry in a Kubernetes faceoff (https://searchitoperations.techtarget.com/feature/Compare-Red-Hat-OpenShift-vs-Cloud-Foundry-in-a-Kubernetes-faceoff) IBM tailors Swift relationship after 'review of open source priorities' (https://www.theregister.co.uk/2019/12/17/swift_ibm_pulls_back_open_source_priorities/) AWS hits back at open-source software critics (https://www.zdnet.com/article/aws-hits-back-at-open-source-software-critics/) Amazon Conference Badges Tracked Attendees' Movements (https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/pkeyqk/amazon-conference-badges-tracked-attendees-movements) IBM to Google: Istio, Knative, TensorFlow should be under 'open governance' (https://www.theregister.co.uk/2019/12/20/ibm_istio_knative_tensorflow_should_be_under_open_governance/) Exclusive: Pentagon warns military members DNA kits pose ‘personal and operational risks’ (https://news.yahoo.com/pentagon-warns-military-members-dna-kits-pose-personal-and-operational-risks-173304318.html?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAE0JhKe_XfOhdcOGvu6l8lKLn4C2yptTBJ5q1RVejnyxYCU2HLoo2WWccf-ZhDFh5OUypD2mJND5PxZEF3m4bogO9BX6tTYVB9uywg1EQV8AvLXUFPBf-EyrE4vISxKZM8HAMVVeUc5xiPum5ez9MGcjuPy2SeMNwN_hnO-IXbdM) Employee error to blame for massive data leak (https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2019/12/surveillance-camera-company-wyze-confirms-leak-of-user-data/) Video games are easy channel for money launderers (https://www.ft.com/content/4658d340-24f6-11ea-9a4f-963f0ec7e134) BigID bags another $50M round as data privacy laws proliferate (https://techcrunch.com/2020/01/06/bigid-bags-another-50m-round-as-data-privacy-laws-proliferate/) The Biggest Problems With Bluetooth Audio Are About to Be Fixed (https://news.google.com/articles/CAIiENtnIajSFSjFkfxM7Anh2o0qFQgEKg0IACoGCAowlIECMLBMMJ-mHg?hl=en-US&gl=US&ceid=US%3Aen) Introducing Cloudflare for Teams (https://blog.cloudflare.com/introducing-cloudflare-for-teams/) Major union launches campaign to organize video game and tech workers (https://www.latimes.com/business/technology/story/2020-01-07/major-union-launches-campaign-to-organize-video-game-and-tech-workers) Code-wise, cloud-foolish: avoiding bad technology choices (https://forrestbrazeal.com/2020/01/05/code-wise-cloud-foolish-avoiding-bad-technology-choices/) Accenture Buys CyberSecurity Services Business of Symantec (http://www.finsmes.com/2020/01/accenture-buys-cyber-security-services-business-of-symantec.html) Sponsors Arrested DevOps Podcast: Arrested DevOps is hosted by Matt Stratton, Trevor Hess, and Bridget Kromhout. All the hosts are active in the DevOps community and they help put on DevOps days all over the world. So what are you waiting for you can subscribe today by searching for “Arrested DevOps” in you favorite podcast app or by visiting (https://www.arresteddevops.com/)https://www.arresteddevops.com/ (https://www.arresteddevops.com/). Conferences, et. al. NO-SSH-JJ wants you go to DeliveryConf (https://www.deliveryconf.com/) in Seattle on Jan 21st & 22nd (https://www.deliveryconf.com/), Use promo code: SDT10 to get 10% off. JJ wants you to read about Delivery Conf Format too (https://www.deliveryconf.com/format). June 1-4: ChefConf 2020 (https://chefconf.chef.io/) Jordi wants you to go to GitLab Commit (https://about.gitlab.com/events/commit/) Jan. 14th DevOpsDays Austin 2020 (https://devopsdays.org/events/2020-austin/welcome/) May 4th and 5th SDT news & hype Join us in Slack (http://www.softwaredefinedtalk.com/slack). Send your postal address to stickers@softwaredefinedtalk.com (mailto:stickers@softwaredefinedtalk.com) and we will send you free laptop stickers! Follow us on Twitter (https://twitter.com/softwaredeftalk), Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/softwaredefinedtalk/) or LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/software-defined-talk/) Listen to the Software Defined Interviews Podcast (https://www.softwaredefinedinterviews.com/). Check out the back catalog (http://cote.coffee/howtotech/). Brandon built the Quick Concall iPhone App (https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/quick-concall/id1399948033?mt=8) and he wants you to buy it for $0.99. Use the code SDT to get $20 off Coté’s book, (https://leanpub.com/digitalwtf/c/sdt) Digital WTF (https://leanpub.com/digitalwtf/c/sdt), so $5 total. 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No hace falta ser muy veterano en esto del Internet para saber que iPhone nuevo significa drama nuevo, o en este caso, dramas nuevos. Con los nuevos iPhone XS nos encontramos ante tres problemas principales. Algunos ya los comenté en el anterior episodio de mis impresiones generales pero en general tenemos tres problemas con el nuevo iPhone, de diferente nivel de seriedad. El primero: una gestión confusa en el procesado de las imágenes de nuestras caras. El segundo: un fallo de programación que impide que algunas unidades del nuevo iPhone comience a cargar si la pantalla está apagada. El tercero: diversos problemas en la recepción inalámbrica de señales. Analizamos en qué consisten, cómo se pueden solucionar —o si pueden ser solucionados— y por qué tenemos que agradecer a los críticos que buscan fallos en los iPhone. Noticias iOS 12 alcanza el 50% de instalación mucho más rápido que iOS 11 Apple y Salesforce se alían para crear mejores plataformas corporativas 7 años de la muerte de Steve Jobs Enlaces Apple iOS 12.1 Beta Fixes iPhone XS Charging Issue: Report Major Complaints About the iPhone XS Are Stacking Up iPhone XS and XS Max Owners Complain of Wi-Fi and LTE Connectivity Issues – Mac Rumors How to Fix Connectivity Issues on Your iPhone XS How to fix iPhone XS LTE + Wi-Fi problems | iMore WiWavelength: Antennagate reduXS? If so, what can Apple and iPhone users do about it? iPhone XS Antennagate Can’t Be Fixed with Software, Expert Says How to Find Out If Your iPhone X Has Qualcomm or Intel LTE Modem Puedes ponerte en contacto con nosotros por correo en: alex@barredo.es Suscríbete al boletín de información diario en http://newsletter.mixx.io Escucha el podcast diario de información tecnológica en http://podcast.mixx.io Nuestro grupo de Telegram: https://t.me/mixxiocomunidad

In this episode, Tim and Jon wrap up their discussion on the image of God. Scripture tells us that humans are made in the image of God, but what does that actually mean for our lives? Do we exist simply to glorify God, or does bearing the image of God mean we have a greater responsibility? As Christians, we tend to think we have to divide secular and sacred, but as the guys will unpack, this doesn’t have to be the case and we can choose to reflect God and his image in all that we do. In the first part of the episode (01:15-04:48), Tim and Jon talk about why the garden shouldn’t be considered perfection. The garden was good, but it is only the beginning of the story! God’s story will be complete when humans are fully united to God and his creation is redeemed. In the next part of the episode (05:15-16:58), the guys talk about the parent/child relationship between God and humans. It’s crucial to understand that God wants to share his creation with us! Just like in the garden, humans will one day reign with God. The Westminster Confession of Faith is a well-known confession of the church of England. You may be familiar with it: “Man's chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him forever.” In the next part of the episode (17:19-35:16), the guys unpack this a little bit and point out the problems with taking this bystander approach to humanity’s purpose on earth. Glorifying and enjoying God is only a small part of bearing the image of God. So what does it mean for humans to bear the image of God? In the last part of this episode (35:45-1:07:14), the guys will talk about the implications of the image of God for followers of Jesus. We’re not simply a representation of God, we get to work with him to bring about his purpose on earth! But we have to realize that we are image bearers who don’t always represent God well. What does it look like for us to renew our hearts and minds to better represent God to the world? Video: This episode is designed to accompany our video on the image of God. You can view it on our youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YbipxLDtY8c Book References: The Westminster Confession of Faith by the Westminster Assembly Why Business Matters to God: (And What Still Needs to Be Fixed) by Jeff Van Duzer Scripture References: Genesis 1-2 Psalm 86 Psalm 8 Show Music: Defender Instrumental by Rosasharn Music Blue Skies by Unwritten Stories Flooded Meadows by Unwritten Stories

There are no easy answers when it comes to grieving. There is no way to escape certain levels of pain. And grieving can not be reduced to a simple formula. At it’s very root, grieving is wrestling with the bigger question of pain. Why do we have to endure pain in this world? Why do […] The post Failure201: Week 4—Grieving: What To Do When Things Can’t Be Fixed appeared first on Paul Elmore.

When we hear about layoffs and other painful business decisions, the blame often goes to voracious stockholders or the unforgiving bottom line. Jeff Van Duzer says not so fast—though companies must survive, there is a time for examining those demands and realigning priorities. He is author of Why Business Matters to God: and What Still Needs to Be Fixed. Shirley Hoogstra hosts.