Just Be Your Bad Self

Hey friend,In today's episode, I'm sharing the next chapter of my story—the one that doesn't have a neat resolution or tidy bow.Prodigal Daughter (Part 2): Descent into the Unknown is about what happened after I walked away. After the break. After the big decision. It's the part no one really prepares you for—the unraveling, the freefall, the weird space in-between where nothing feels real and everything feels tender.This episode is a vulnerable one. I talk about:* The ache of not knowing who I am anymore* The strange grief that comes with shedding old identities* The soft whispers of intuition that kept me moving forward, even when I didn't know where I was goingThere's no map for this part. Just a willingness to let yourself fall, feel, and maybe be found again—somewhere deeper and wilder and more honest.If you're in a messy middle of your own—if you've left something behind but haven't quite landed yet—I hope this episode feels like a hand to hold. A quiet reminder that you're not alone in the in-between.Thanks for being here. For real. I don't take it lightly that you let me into your ears and your heart.With so much tenderness,Kimber✨P.S. I'd love to hear what resonated. Leave a comment, send me a pm on instagram @thatkimbergirl, or send me a voice memo if you're listening on Spotify. I read and listen to everything, and it means the world.

Welcome back, my sweet sea cucumbers. Today's episode is a cozy, candlelit kind of storytelling moment. I'm finally sharing something I've never told all in one go before: the story of my spiritual journey over the past decade.From being a devout, scripture-loving Mormon girl at BYU-Idaho to having my world fall apart—and slowly, painfully, beautifully putting it back together again in a whole new way.This story (which I will tell in parts) is about the unraveling, the grief, the identity crisis, the dark nights... but it's also about rediscovering my magic, reclaiming my voice, and finding my own kind of wholeness.If you've ever felt like the ground beneath you gave out, or like you didn't know how to be a “good person” anymore when everything you were taught started to crumble… I made this one for you.Let's get cozy. Let's get real. Let's go back—so we can see how far we've come. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thatkimbergirl.substack.com

Hey my little sea cucumbers

In this episode:Why I'm treating this podcast like a meditation practiceLetting go of perfectionism in favor of consistencyThe pendulum swing between feminine and masculine energyHow cutting off my masculine side fed my burnoutA simple fire ritual for forgiving the wounded masculine and inviting in the divine masculineWhat shifted when I stopped waiting for motivation and just started doing the damn thingMeal planning without overthinking it to deathMentioned:Fire Ritual gifted by Kymber Phillips

[00:00:00] Hello, everybody. I felt like talking to you today. So here I am.I've been having a really hard time getting back to this podcast. I miss it. And I want to come back. But there are so many things blocking me. So. I thought maybe that's what I should talk about. And we're going to get a little bit meta on the podcast [00:01:00] today and talk about the podcast itself. If you've been following me for a while. Thank you for still being here. It's been a few years since we started this thing and there have been lots of ups and downs and lots of breaks. And if you're still here, you're my favorite.I want to go back to the roots of why I started this thing in the first place. And then talk about why it's been so hard to keep going, because I think the things I'm facing. Are things we all face as creators as humans. As livers of life. I started this podcast for fun. It was a challenge. I don't think I would have done it without a little nudge from a Facebook group to start a podcast. I did it as a way to face my fears and just talk about the things I care about. It was for me, it was for fun. I didn't really expect it to grow or be [00:02:00] anything then. Just for fun. Um, And. I want to listen to the way I started this podcast because I haven't listened to it in a while. And I think it's going to be a good reminder. So the audio quality is probably not going to be great because I'm just playing this from my phone. Um, I can't find the original recording, but hopefully you'll be able to understand this.I was raised in a very perfectionistic religion by two perfectionistic parents. And as a result of this, I've always taken the business of life. Very seriously. Probably definitely too seriously. The problem with perfectionism is that it doesn't let you be present in your all life or true to yourself. It's all about living up to the expectations of others. Perfectionism is an analyzer, a comparer. It doesn't let you sit within an experience because you're always observing it. So this podcast. Is about. [00:03:00] Letting go of that. Letting go of the perfectionism letting go of the hustle, the guilt, the never enoughness it's about showing up messy. It's about authenticity. It's about finding magic in the present moment. As about connecting with those you love while also holding space for yourself. It's about living wholeheartedly. And loving yourself in your imperfection. So. It's a quote. My favorite cartoon teacher, Mrs. Frizzle, Ms. Frizzle, not sure which one it is. I'm going to look it up. After I finished recording this. But she says, get ready to take chances. Make mistakes and get messy. It's time to be your bad self. Yeah, well, It turns out that's exactly what I'm still struggling with. I, I need to let go of perfectionism still, because that's what has gotten in the way of this podcast. And I think that's probably the life lesson I'm going to keep returning to over and over again. I do, I am doing this podcast because I need to say the things that I need to [00:04:00] hear. And today, once again, I need to hear. It's okay to just be it's okay. To be messy. It's okay. To make mistakes. Um, Okay. And I'm going to continue to be messy and make mistakes for the rest of my life. So having this expectation of. Perfectionism. It's not doing me. It's not doing me favors. Um, With this podcast. I started out messy as you heard. It was great. And as it started growing. I started to feel this pressure to show up a certain way. To get video recordings of myself, to manage an email list, to maintain a website, to monetize the podcast and the pressure of all of that. Along with just the stuff that was happening in my regular life became really. Really overwhelming. And the podcast stopped feeling fun because the pressure, there was so much pressure to do it. The right way. I let it fall by the wayside [00:05:00] and, um, and I've really missed it. And part of the reason I'm recording this today is because yesterday, for I painted for the first time in probably over a year. I got up my watercolors and just painted whatever I felt like. And I feel like painting for me is a portal into my creativity. I've never taken art classes. So my inner critic doesn't know what to say about my painting. It's just a fun thing that makes me happy and I don't expect myself to be good at it. I, I think I lost that joy when it came to this podcast. Um, it started with really low expectations from myself, but as it grew, my expectations. Got higher and the podcast became less fun.Today. I want to return to the fun of it. I want to return to the messiness. I want to give myself permission. To show up messy and [00:06:00] imperfect. And maybe this is going to be a boring podcast episode for some of you, but this, uh, I'm doing this for me. Perfection is the enemy of creativity. And this episode is about me dipping my feet back in the river. Getting muddy. Being messy.Um, another thing. That got in the way of this podcast. And again, I hope you're applying this to your own creative pursuits because I noticed this in a few different areas of my life, especially when it comes to creativity. Um, that another thing that gets in the way is when I start worrying about how. It's going to be received when I start thinking too much about. My audience. I, as I gained listeners to this podcast, I felt pressured to say things for them. Um, to record things in a way. That they liked and. It's tricky because there there's [00:07:00] nothing. Wrong with doing things. Other people like, I think the trick is.That you have to do it. For yourself. Um, In a way that. It is still for you. Um, always doing everything hoping someone else will like it. And with, with other people's eyes in mind can really suck the fun and the joy out of creativity. Um, I love my audience, but I will burn out if I'm only doing this podcast. For you. If I, if there's no reason I'm doing this for myself. And I, I need to return to doing this for me for fun. And a process, my stuff. If it helps others. Actually there's a quote. Um, Elizabeth Gilbert and big magic says you are not required to save the world with your creativity. Your art. Not only doesn't have to be [00:08:00] original. It also doesn't have to be important. Make your work for your pleasure. If your work ends up helping others. That's great. That's how I feel like I need to go back to doing this for me. If it ends up helping others. That's great. Um,And I think it's also important to remember that we create not just for the product of what we're creating. But for the process. My retreats, this podcast, my paintings. The whole, just be your bad self idea. These are not about creating perfect products or perfect lives. Uh, there are there about the process, the process of living the process of creating. My friend, Lindy Butler. She's a recording artist and she's freaking awesome. Um, She, and I were talking recently about AI. Uh, it's an incredible tool. [00:09:00] But it's also scary. It can produce so much. It can produce music, essays, social media posts. Even podcast episodes in seconds. When I discovered it. Uh, about a year and a half ago, almost two years ago. It.It put me almost into an existential crisis. And left me wondering. What's the point of me creating if computers. I can do it faster and oftentimes better. I felt so. Irrelevant. And like, I was just putting more words out into a world that didn't need my voice and didn't need whatever I was making, because. AI could make stuff so much faster. Um,And I think. I really do believe that this is true. That the creation process [00:10:00] is what's important. And I think as AI gets a bit bigger, it's really going to shine a spotlight on how important the process of creating. Is important to us as humans. That's what humanity is. That's what this podcast, my painting. And everything creative. Should focus on is the process over the product. Aye. I don't want to lose the making of things.I'm coming back to the messy making of this podcast a lot more human. I want to bring the making of things back into my life for myself, if it helps others. That's great. But I need to focus on it for me. The productivity cannot be my goal anymore. Success cannot be measured by numbers or appearances. It has to feel nurturing and fulfilling.And helps others. This episode is just a dip my feet back in the river to force myself to do it like jumping out of a plane. [00:11:00] This is my version of skydiving.Uh, One more thing I wanted to say, which is good job, Kimber. I think it's really hard to come back to something after you've categorized yourself as a failure or after you've gone through hard times and stopped something for a while. It takes a lot of strength to come back. It takes courage to get back on the horse after you've been bucked off. In some ways it takes more courage to come back to something you've stopped for a while. Then to start something new. I have a lot. More shame to work through. I have a lot more disillusionment. Uh, around the. Process and what that looks like that I need to make space for. I know how hard doing this podcast can be, but because it brings me joy, I'm going to make more space for the hard. For my own messiness for my own and consistency and humanness moving forward. And I hope I keep having that strength to come back, even when I'm inconsistent, even when I'm messy. I [00:12:00] think that as artists. We, we learned that creating things helps us work through our own fear and shame. And again, it's about that process. And I'm going to continue to come back to that process.Aye. I hope I stay brave. And. Yeah, just keep working through the shadows that come up as a creator. So. Good job me this time for coming back. And if you are doing the same thing or thinking about it, Good job to you. Do it do the thing, the scariest part is facing your own fears and shame. But we can do it. We can do it. Okay. That is it for today![00:13:00] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thatkimbergirl.substack.com

Navigating Grief and Healing: Unveiling the Rest in Peace, Rise in Power RetreatIn this episode, Kimber reconnects with drama therapist Anna Beck, one of her favorite guests, to discuss their upcoming 'Rest in Peace, Rise in Power' retreat. They dive deep into the theme of grief, an often-avoided but ever-present emotion, especially relevant with their October retreat's spooky death theme. From exploring the different stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—to sharing personal stories and strategies for coping, this episode offers valuable insights for anyone experiencing grief. Anna and Kimber emphasize the importance of community and acceptance in the healing process, promising that the retreat will be a fun, creative, and deeply supportive environment for all participants.The RIP (Rest in Peace/Rise in Power) Retreat will be held October 10-13, 2024, in Hildale, UT. For more details on how to attend, please reach out to Kimber on Instagram (@thatkimbergirl).00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:38 Exploring Grief and Its Importance02:32 Navigating Daily Grief08:44 Stages of Grief: Denial09:21 Personal Experiences with Denial17:04 Stages of Grief: Anger25:34 Expressing and Managing Anger28:49 Understanding Bargaining in Grief30:45 The Role of Anxiety in Bargaining33:37 Shame and Self-Punishment in Bargaining36:14 Exploring Depression in Grief42:27 The Journey Towards Acceptance49:41 The Importance of Community in Grief58:30 Retreat Details and Final Thoughts This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thatkimbergirl.substack.com

In this episode of the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast, Kimber Dutton explores the profound impact of religious upbringing on the often overlooked connection between spirituality and the physical body. Drawing inspiration from the book "Wild Mercy," Kimber delves into the historical tendency of religions to emphasize transcending the body, highlighting the significance of embracing the messy imperfections of life, as expressed in the quote "God lives among the pots and pans." Kimber candidly shares her own mystical experiences and evolving spiritual beliefs, asserting that God is intricately interwoven with both the tangible and intangible aspects of existence. The episode takes a personal turn as Kimber reflects on her journey of reconnecting with her body, addressing the challenges of overcoming societal conditioning and viewing her body as a friend rather than a burden. A surprise guest comes on to share her thoughts (Kimber's 7 year old daughter : ), then the conversation concludes with Kimber sharing exciting news about her backyard studio and encouraging community input for potential in-person or online interactions. Tune in to the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast for more insightful conversations on embracing imperfection and leading an authentic life.If you are interested in working with Kimber (Online, in-person, in a group, or 1-1), please fill out an interest form using this link: https://form.jotform.com/233345911073149 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thatkimbergirl.substack.com

In this episode of the "Just Be Your Bad Self" podcast, Kimber reflects on her transformative "year of no" and the profound impact of storytelling on her shifting reality. She shares insights from her journey of inner work, emphasizing the subjective nature of reality and the power of empathy for diverse perspectives. Kimber introduces her Substack platform as a new space for community engagement and invites listeners to join the conversation. The episode concludes with gratitude for the growing podcast community and a reminder that "you are enough, right now, in this moment." This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thatkimbergirl.substack.com

This is the voiceover of a Substack article I wrote on November 7 2023. The sound is weird for about the first 30 seconds and then it gets better, I promise. If you'd like to see the pictures or hear the songs I refer to in this episode, go ahead and visit the substack post using the link! I'd love to hear from you--what spoke to you about this episode? Anything you'd like to hear in the future? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thatkimbergirl.substack.com

I'm back! In this episode, I share and incredible (and raw) session with my life coach Melanie Hill, where we talk about the Internal Family Systems Method and use it to make some life changing breakthroughs regarding my inner child and how to become more open hearted. Find Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl and Melanie on Instagram @melaniehillcoaching

In this episode, I had a deeply insightful conversation with Melanie Hill, a human design coach for life and business. We dove into the world of human design and how it can be a powerful tool for self-discovery, self-acceptance, and embracing our inherent value. We also explored the importance of facing our shadow selves and the emotions that arise, such as guilt and shame. Through human design, we learn to integrate our shadows and cultivate self-compassion, building a community of self-love and understanding. Join us on this transformative journey toward self-exploration and growth, and remember, you can totally do this!Find Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl and Melanie on Instagram @melaniehillcoachingChapters:(0:00:00) - Human Design and Self-Acceptance(0:15:08) - Owning Your Inherent Value(0:18:46) - Embracing Our Shadow Selves(0:27:40) - Healing and Embracing Shadow Selves(0:38:11) - Exploring Self-Compassion Through Human Design(0:46:48) - Building Self-Love Community(0:53:49) - You Can Totally Do This

In this episode of the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast, host Kimber Dutton shares her personal journey towards finding a feeling of enoughness. Despite her message of self-worth and acceptance, Dutton has been struggling to embody these qualities in her own life. She seeks to move away from the constant chasing of happiness and prove that she is enough as she is. Dutton encourages listeners to also embrace a sense of enoughness in their own lives and not fall into the trap of constantly chasing something that is already within reach.[00:01:18] The Year of Enough. [00:05:00] Acknowledging your inner critic. [00:11:16] The Never Pleased. [00:13:39] Inner Critic and Self-Acceptance. [00:19:38] Masking in Neurodiverse People. [00:22:25] The Mask We Wear.------------------------------------------------------This episode was recorded back in January and somehow missed getting published--I was probably busy ignoring the Never Pleased. Also, I'm doing a pay-what-you-can come sit in your own enoughness retreat in Hildale, UT from April 21-23 2023. If this is calling to you, reach out to me on instagram and let's make it happen!

Guilt and Shame--something we all struggle with as humans as a consistent basis. In this episode I talk about my own battles with guilt and shame, and some tools I use to battle and work through those feelings! I recorded this episode a couple of months ago, and ironically have been feeling guilt and shame for not publishing it closer to do the date I recorded it....but listening to this episode as I was getting it ready to publish today really helped me release some of that.

Today on the Just Be Your Bad Self Podcast we are talking about An old Zen Story about 3-ft long chopsticks The difference between Rescuing and Empowering The importance of keeping our own cups full An exciting new opportunity to work with Kimber one on one!If you are interested in working with Kimber 1-1 and would like to book a free discovery call please visit her website www.kimberdutton.com or email her at Kimber@kimberdutton.comFollow Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl, or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction!For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

On the first episode of this new season, Kimber talks about shame, psychedelics, and the wisdom of the beginners mind.Follow Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl, visit her website www.kimberdutton.com or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction!For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

It's the 1 year anniversary of Just Be Your Bad Self and my life has come full circle. Apparently I have a "reputation" in my home town...it's not all good...and I'm totally giddy about it. I'm finally starting to live what I preach. I'm being my "bad" self and it feels so good! This is the last episode for a bit, so be sure to subscribe and follow me on instagram so that you don't miss when the next season starts!Until then remember, you are enough. Right now. In THIS moment. So....Just be your bad self!

Trigger Warning: There is some discussion about suicidal ideation in this episode from marker 26:07 to 32:38Join Kimber as she talks with McKray Jones, a robotics engineer and a friend from high school about: His chaotic upbringing and ow he learned to mask his authentic self in order to fit in. Times when masking is useful and when it is harmful How masking and code-switching blocks the path to true intimacy and growth How to teach our kids that growth comes with making mistakes and actually being our “bad self” Personal growth through divorce and dealing with suicidal ideation Teaching our kids to live their best lives through exampleMcKray's had an adventurous life so far and has had the benefit of experiencing a great deal of pain and adversity early in life. He endured a severely traumatic childhood and adolescent age before finding his first real community in performance art in high school. He excelled in trombone performance and used those skills to join the United States Marine Corps Band as a trombonist.Following his four-year career in the Marines, McKray studied Aerospace Engineering at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University with the intention becoming a military test pilot. His first engineering job was with the US Navy as a Flight Test Engineer for F/A-18 aircraft and solid-fuel missile engines. From that position, he was selected for the US Navy pilot training program but turned down the dream-opportunity in favor of living a more family-friendly life as an engineer.His next position took him to the Boston area where he has been since 2017. His sons, Sterling and Findlay, while both born in Mission Viejo, CA, identify Lowell, MA as their home. At his fourth job since moving, McKray found an organization with which he intends to stay for the foreseeable future. He helps develops robotic vehicles with Robotic Research, based in Clarksburg, MD.McKray began his peace-finding journey in the summer of 2021 where he discovered that he had been living a decade of his life as a projection of himself, created by the expectations someone else. On a path guided mostly by meditations of Stoicism and with support from his family community and mental health professionals, McKray discovered he was ready to begin his new life and be his bad self.Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction!For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Kimber as she talks with Kamini Wood–creator of AuthenticMe® and CEO of Live Joy Your Way, a coaching company helping individuals shake free of their limiting beliefs and behaviors in order to have healthy relationships and move forward on the professional path they choose. They have an engaging conversation about: Kamini's own journey as a recovering people-pleaser and perfectionist How to chase your own dreams when you are right in the middle of parenthood Internalizing Self-love Stepping into our authenticity in a way that feels good and whole and enough Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Kimber as she talks with Suzy Benson, a life coach who trained under Dr. Brene Brown. They discuss: How Suzy went from seeing life in black and white to seeing it in color How vulnerability is a strong courageous characteristic The kindness of setting boundaries Suzy Benson is a certified professional coach and facilitator. She personally trained with Dr. Brené Brown and is certified to deliver her Dare to Lead Program. She splits time working with clients and organizations in her coaching business and taking people on personal development expeditions to Uganda, Africa. You can find her at suzybensoncoaching.com or africanpromiseexp.com Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Kimber for a casual conversation with her little brother (and PHD student) Jared Worwood about: What is capitalism? How capitalism can be a system of oppression Some fun tangents that illustrate the intersectionality of all systems of oppression Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Kimber as she talks with Edy Nathan– licensed therapist and author of It's Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss. In this episode our discussion is focused around the following questions: What is grief? When do we experience grief? How do we learn to navigate a landscape of grief? How do we interact with and support people who are grieving? How do we learn to embrace and dance with our grief as a partner in life? What is sexual grief? What is the difference between using medication and self-medicating to help us cope with grief? Edy Nathan MA, LCSWR, CST is a public speaker, licensed therapist, and author of the book It's Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss. She is an AASECT certified sex therapist, hypnotherapist and certified EMDR practitioner with more than 20 years of experience. Edy earned degrees from New York University and Fordham University, with post-graduate training at the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. She practices in New York City. Grief is hard to talk about. Edy teaches you to dance with your grief, To know it as a way to know yourself. Whether it is the loss of a loved one or the loss of a limb or the loss of the life you once knew, it is your soul that offers the answers to relief. An essential element in her practice is to offer clients the chance to combine psychotherapy with a deeper, more spiritual understanding of the self. She is dedicated to helping people understand their grief, cope with the fear and struggle that holds them back, and learn to live fully. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study Find out more about Edy, or purchase her book here: https://edynathan.com/

Join Kimber as she talks with Cammie Hurst, the founder of Two Wild Wallflowers about: Her story of transforming her grief into a business that empowers women going through similar struggles. The pitfalls of comparison Owning our worth as women–inside and outside of the roles we play Cammie is the founder of Two Wild Wallflowers. When she started her career in the floral industry over 5 years ago, she began to learn about the Language of Flowers and how each flower has a symbolic meaning that can be used to communicate different emotions. After struggling with self worth from an abusive relationship, the language of flowers allowed her to fully bloom into herself. Flower crowns became how she translated her inner beauty and expressed it outwardly. The Language of Flowers became her stepping stone to remembering who she was. In January of 2021, her life was upended. She suffered her first miscarriage and fell into a depression unlike any she had experienced in her life. Her storm seemed so deep, it suffocated her. But even flowers need rain to grow, and through this experience, and through representing her whole family using birth flowers, she has been able to begin healing and bloom again. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study To find out more about Cammi and the work she does, you can visit her website at https://twowildwallflowers.com/

Join Kimber as she talks with author, humanitarian, and life coach Lisa Haisha about her life story and about : Shedding cultural expectations to find your authentic self How travel and new experiences can help you find your life purpose Finding your soul family How to stop living as an imposter version of yourself and live from your soul-self Lisa is a life coach, author, transformational speaker, TV host and avid traveler, with an MA in Spiritual Psychology. Her fascination with people has taken her to over 60 countries, where she has worked in everything from boardrooms to yurts helping people Make Shift Happen in their lives. Much of this humanitarian work can be found on her website whispersfromchildrenshearts.org. She is also the Chair(wo)man of Silicon Valley's Pitch Global L.A. chapter and frequently works with entrepreneurs helping them manifest change. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study To fiind out more about Lisa, take the imposter quiz, or purchase her book, please visit the following link: https://www.soulblazing.com/

Join Kimber as she talks with Beth Lease, Host of the “So, I Got Divorced Podcast” about her divorce and how it helped her: Learn to honor herself over her need to “perform” for others Be a better model for her son Parent differently than she was parented Beth Lease is a single divorced mama to a really cool 6-year-old. She views divorce as a gift that she didn't know she needed. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Kimber as she talks with Chelsea Olson, Founder of Undaunted Soul about: What it means to “Be The Buffalo” How to face your personal storms The importance of loving yourself NOW Chelsea is a mom of three girls! She grew up in Utah, met her sweetheart at Utah State University and started her journey to self love there. Chelsea has a passion to help other women love themselves as they are. To see their potential and to grow the confidence that is already within. She has based her coaching and apparel business around the analogy of “Being the Buffalo”. Her goal is to face her own daily storms and in doing so, teach you how to face yours. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

The title of this one about says it all. Join Kimber and Tara as they discuss Tara's traumatic childhood years and how she managed to find resilience and become a successful business woman despite it all. Tara is a human that has seen some shit. She grew up in a split-personality childhood with an abusive mother on one side and loving but strict grandparents on the other. As a grown-up person, she put herself through engineering school, went to therapy, did a lot of hard work making her brain do things it didn't want to do (like love herself) and now helps women run businesses that do not, in-turn run those women. When she's not bossing around business owners, she can be found hiking with her three teenagers and annoyingly perfect husband. Make sure you stick around to the end to hear all about Tara's system to divorce-proof a marriage! Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

After a month long absence, I'm back to give you a brief life update, and to tackle the following questions: What if the way you are makes sense? What if you are trying to cut of pieces of your perfect self to fit into an imperfect world? Join me for the discussion and be sure to follow my ig account at @justbeyourbadself or joing the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction! For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Kimber as she talks with her friend Justin Nuckles, about: 1. What it means to be a man 2. How the patriarchy hurts men 3. What the world needs from men in this day and age Justin describes himself as "a man learning how to do better". He's a husband and a father, and basically a professional parent. His education and training in child development and early relationships allowed him to get a job, but more importantly changed how he chooses to be with others. He writes his stories with the intent of demonstrating how people can be better in relationship with each other in difficulties and challenges. Mostly, he's a great big curmudgeonly goofball with a soft spot for humanity. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Kimber as she talks with Certified Personal Trainer Ashley Sorenson about: 1. What is Pelvic Floor Training 2.Early motherhood, Anxiety, and Isolation 3. Finding Community after COVID 4. Being your bad FIT self Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com .............................................................................................. This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, my #1 podcast tool. They provide a crystal clear sound and gorgeous HD video. I love that it records separate audio and video tracks for the guests and me. Plus, there is a secured cloud backup, so you never lose your interviews. It is super easy to use, and there is nothing to download. My guests just click on the link, and we start recording. Go to zen.ai/justbeyourbadself for 30% off your first three months with a PRO account ...............................................................................................

Join Kimber as she talks with Mattia Maurée, a non-binary life coach for neurodivergent queers about: Mattia's own story and experiences as a neurodivergent queer The construct of Gender When labels are helpful and when they're not Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself Follow Mattia on instagram @pufflingmoo For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study https://mattiamauree.com/ Listen to Mattia's podcast, The Longer Road .............................................................................................. This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, my #1 podcast tool. They provide a crystal clear sound and gorgeous HD video. I love that it records separate audio and video tracks for the guests and me. Plus, there is a secured cloud backup, so you never lose your interviews. It is super easy to use, and there is nothing to download. My guests just click on the link, and we start recording. Go to zen.ai/justbeyourbadself for 30% off your first three months with a PRO account

Join me as I talk with Andrea Neeley–a queer hairstylist specializing in transition haircuts–about what she does and why she does it. We will discuss: How she holds space with hair cuts Her own coming out story How cultural permission to explore sexuality is shifting How living an authentic life is an act of rebellion against patriarchy Follow Andrea on instagram @andreaneeley Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com .............................................................................................. This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, my #1 podcast tool. They provide a crystal clear sound and gorgeous HD video. I love that it records separate audio and video tracks for the guests and me. Plus, there is a secured cloud backup, so you never lose your interviews. It is super easy to use, and there is nothing to download. My guests just click on the link, and we start recording. Go to zen.ai/justbeyourbadself for 30% off your first three months with a PRO account

Join Kimber and Ultra Marathon Runner, Cory Reese, as they talk about: 1. His battle with smiling depression and the book that was born from that battle: "Stronger Than The Dark" 2. How Cory has become an "expert on suffering" 3. How we are prone to invalidate our own feelings and the importance of normalizing mental health struggles and therapy 4. How our gender can affect the way we experience emotion 5. Radical self-care and the meaning of life .............................................................................................. This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, my #1 podcast tool. They provide a crystal clear sound and gorgeous HD video. I love that it records separate audio and video tracks for the guests and me. Plus, there is a secured cloud backup, so you never lose your interviews. It is super easy to use, and there is nothing to download. My guests just click on the link, and we start recording. Go to zen.ai/justbeyourbadself for 30% off your first three months with a PRO account ............................................................................................... Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study Stronger Than The Dark by Cory Reese Secular Bhuddism Podcast Coryreese.com

Kimber and burlesque performer Meadow Lark Discuss: 1. How Meadow Lark went from returned Mormon Missionary to Burlesque Performer 2. Facing body insecurities in a profession where you are paid to show-off your body 3. How Meadow Lark empowers other women through burlesque 4. Meadow's vulnerable burlesque performance that echoes the story of many who have left religion You can follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

Join Certified Sex Therapist Natasha Helfer and Kimber as they discuss: 1. What it means to "Reclaim Female Sexuality" 2. The different messages men and women receive about pleasure and sexuality 3. How sexuality and guilt can be intertwined 4. The difference between sexual behaviors and sexual principles 5. The 6 health principles 7. What IS sexuality and how important is it? 8. What is "Erotic Nakedness?" 9. Natasha's Top Ten Tips on "Just Being Your Bad Self" in the bedroom (ways to reclaim your sexuality 10. What it means to live an "erotic lifestyle." Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study https://Natashahelfer.com/library https://mormonsex.info/ https://www.aasect.org/

In this episode, Kimber talks with clinical social worker Hannah Hammond about Hannah's battle with anorexia and how her perfectionism nearly killed her. Resources for further study: Books: More Than a Body by Lexie and Lindsay Kite Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resche The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Health at Every Size by Linda Bacon Untamed by Glennon Doyle Anti Diet by Christy Harrison What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey gordon Podcasts: Feeding humans by Katherine Zavodni Maintenance phase by Aubrey Gordon and Michael Hobbs Nutrition matters by Paige Smathers Therapy thoughts by Tiffany Roe Good psych by Christy Harrison Instagram accounts: @thenutritionistea @guidedeating @beauty_redefined @foodsciencebabe @nutritionforhope @thebirdspapaya @jessicawilson.msrd @willowshorecounseling @heytiffanyroe @doctorhannan Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this episode Kimber talks about how letting your shadow self be seen is the only way to truly feel held and in her opinion, is the way to heal as a society. She hits on the intense feelings of self-shaming and guilt and how to get through them. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For more extensive show notes, resources, and transcripts, please visit www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this episode, Kimber talks about starting therapy and a vulnerable instagram share. She addresses feelings of burnout and overwhelm, the lack of solutions, and bandaids that might help burnout sufferers survive. Ultimately she acknowledges that sometimes there is just no "fixing" the human condition, but we can comisserate and reach out to each other in our humanness. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself "I shared because you shared" and "Same" are poems from @hannahrowrites Vessel analogy from Tara @stardustlifecoaching Apps referenced: Loona and Freedom Books referenced: Digital Minimalism Podcast referenced: We Can Do Hard Things For more extensive show notes, resources, and transcripts, please visit www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this episode Kimber and parenting guru/Author, Julie Bogart talk about: 1. Letting go of "red pen syndrome" and encouraging creativity in our kids. 2.Letting go of parental fantasies and leaning into our child's passions 3.The importance of becoming an "Awesome Adult" 4. Julie's New book "Raising Critical Thinkers" and the interplay between information, opinions, and relationships (this is juicy stuff right here) Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study (As an Amazon Affiliate I get commissions for purchases made through any product links in this post. So if you like the podcast, this is a great way to support me!) Here is the cartoon I referenced about critical thinking (I thought it was a video, but it's just a comic strip) Books The Brave Learner Raising Critical Thinkers

In this episode Kimber and Reiki Master Steve Hansen talk about: 1. Learning to love yourself despite growing up in a culture or community that teaches you there is something wrong with you. 2. How learning to love yourself opens you up to loving others. 3. Navigating spirituality outside of religion 4. Finding empowerment and personal healing through Reiki Steve is a Reiki Master Teacher who is all about spreading wellness and inspiring hope! He feels most at home immersed in nature, connecting with others, and getting creative! He and his massage therapist husband both work with reiki and currently love living in Salt Lake City, Utah. You can find Steve on his Facebook page: Calming Vibes Reiki with Steve or his website: Calmingvibesreiki.com Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study (As an Amazon Affiliate I get commissions for purchases made through any product links in this post. So if you like the podcast, this is a great way to support me!) Books Reiki in Clinical Practice Articles Reiki: The Scientific Evidence Podcasts On Reiki and Bio Feedback The Biofield: The Missing Link Between Healing and Consciousness

In this episode, Anna and Kimber have a really juicy conversation about: 1. The challenges of bipolar two disorder 2. The pressure to monetize creativity 3.How we equate our ability to make money with our self-worth 4.How to reframe failure 5. The usefulness of labels in communicating our needs and understanding each other. You can find Anna McNamara on Instagram @practicalandpretty or her website practicalandpretty.com Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself Ekhart Tolle video clip For more extensive show notes, resources, and transcripts, please visit www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this episode, we get to peek behind the curtain of a drag queens story and life. In addition to Tanner's story, we talk drag-culture. make-up and how love can save lives. Tanner is a small town drag queen named Oso Aqua Velvet. He was born into the Mormon church to a teenage mom who raised him with help from her parents in the small town of Pocatello, Idaho. Tanner is a theater major and, it is his exploration of the world of theater led him to drag and to becoming an activist within the LGBTQ+ community. You can follow him on Facebook at Tanner Owen Gilman or follow the Queen on tiktok or instagram @osoaquavelvet. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For more extensive show notes, resources, and transcripts, please visit www.justbeyourbadself.com

Kimber talks about the thread that connects all of the podcast episodes together and why it is so important. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study (As an Amazon Affiliate I get commissions for purchases made through any product links in this post. So if you like the podcast, this is a great way to support me!) Books The Alchemist Video Clips Nature Boy by The Real Group Other As I Began to Love Myself Poem

In the final episode of this season, Kimber talks about letting go of perfection through the holidays and the beautiful Japanese philosophy of Wabi Sabi. The article by Omar Itani referenced in this episode is called 5 Teachings From The Japanese Wabi Sabi Philosophy That Can Drastically Improve Your Life and can be found here.

This episode is about being brave enough to speak your truth and finding the strength to step up and fight for your own inner child when no one else will. Join us as Bad-Ass Jasmine Freeman tells a powerful story of stepping up to the plate for herself after finding out that she had been sexually abused as a child by her favorite Uncle. If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted or abused and are looking for help, please visit Rainn.org or call the national sexual abuse hotline 800-656-HOPE (4673) For a written transcript or additional resources please visit www.justbeyourbadself.com Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself

In this episode , Kimber and Kacee talk steamy photo shoots. They get into the process of boudoir as well as why it is such an empowering experience for women. Follow Kacee on instagram @keekboudoir Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For more extensive show notes, resources, and transcripts, please visit www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this Episode Kimber and Tara talk about the relationships that change us, the adventures that shape us, and the life that can be ours if we are brave enough to choose it. Listen to Tara's story about how she went on several epic adventures, navigated an open marriage, and eventually discovered how to live her most authentic life. To book a session with her, use this link and the code BAD SELF for $50 off! https://www.stardustlifecoaching.com/?ref=JBYBS Follow Tara on instagram @stardustlifecoaching Notes from Tara: My brief description of what my coaching can look like comes from the teachings of the magical @themarthabeck . The quote about "we are all stardust and stories" comes from @erinmorgenstern I have infinite respect and admiration for @glennondoyle and @molly.wizenberg. For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For more extensive show notes, resources, and transcripts, please visit www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this episode, Jen Kane (Life Coach, Yoga Instructor, and Hypnotherapist) and Kimber talk about the importance of showing up for your own life in a multitude of ways: Claiming your own happiness, practicing mindfulness, shedding patriarchal expectations and following the feelings of fun and alignment. We also talk about setting a strong example for our kids, and the importance of "negative emotions" and ways to reframe them. Follow Jen on instagram @heyjenkane Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study (As an Amazon Affiliate I get commissions for purchases made through any product links in this post. So if you like the podcast, this is a great way to support me!) Books Burnout by Emily Nagoski Podcasts/Video Clips The Man Enough Podcast with ALOK Abraham Hicks on Segment Intending Will Smith: Your Happiness is Your responsibility

In this episode Kimber and Kirsten (Macrame Artist/Business Woman) talk about showing up in life, in business, and on social media as your most authentic self. Follow Kirsten on instagram @knottingthrulife Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this episode, Kimber talks about her background in music and the idea that we are expected to "perform" for others. She explores questions around shame as a motivator, perfection as a goal, and choosing to do things for the love of them. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

In this episode, Anna tells about her childhood and why she went into Creative Arts Therapy. We discuss the importance of reparenting “The Inner Child,” and the healing power of choosing to let go of our own victimhood and become the creators of our own lives. Follow Anna on instagram @southernutah.dramatherapy Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com Resources for further study (As an Amazon Affiliate I get commissions for purchases made through any product links in this post. So if you like the podcast, this is a great way to support me!) Books "Loving What Is" by Byron Katie: The Courage to Be Disliked Raising Human Beings by Dr. Ross Greene

In this podcast episode, Kimber dives a little bit into the origins of her own perfectionism and feelings of never-enoughness. Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com