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Similarly to the Pixar movie, INSIDE OUT, where her emotions are portrayed as totally different characters that experience different experiences and roles and access different memories. In IFS therapy, they refer to these characters as parts. A majority of your parts will take on protective roles, he uses the example of managers and firefighters, but other parts carry pain or trauma from past experiences, exiles, but crucially, there are NO BAD PARTS. In the therapy aspect you tend to work on learning to sit with each of the parts, hearing and respecting their roles, so you can better understand your own system and how to work alongside it. centered self: Compassionate, curious, calm, clear, courageous, confident, creative, connected. Present, patient, playful, persistent, and keeps perspective Exiles: wounded and carrying pain. Abandonment, fear, loneliness, shame, anxious, Protectors: firefighters and managers. Firefighters deal with immediate threats, Distract, avoid, dissociate, Mangers work to keep you from future problems. Hyper-vigilant, avoidant, The goal is to access the qualities of the Centered self to work with these wounded parts to SOURCE: https://www.ceangail.ie/blog/tips-for-starting-internal-family-systemshttps://ifs-institute.com/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapyRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Turning 40 inspired me to stop and reflect in a deeper way. In that reflection, I asked a question I hadn't asked in a while: which ideas have actually changed the way I live? Four rose above the rest (convenient since it was my 40th!), and one thing that surprised me is how they build on each other, almost like a manual for how to live. In this solo reflection, I walk through all four, along with the single thread that connects them: awareness/mindfulness comes before change, every time. Key insights include: Why alignment, not achievement, has been the biggest unlock for me, and ways to know when something is truly aligned. How meditation became less about reaching some blissful end state and more about being still enough to hear what's actually true (with a nod to "self vs. parts" from Internal Family Systems). Why identity is built through repetition, and how treating life as an ongoing experiment turns results into feedback instead of judgment. How your standards, what you're willing to tolerate on your lowest day, quietly shape your health, relationships, business, and even the standards your team accepts. The balancing act of not postponing your life for a "someday" that may never come, and why success should expand your life rather than delay it. Tune in for an honest look at how a decade of small shifts, and one big birthday, changed the way I make decisions - plus a simple one-question challenge to carry into your week. TRANSCRIPT: Garrett Salpeter (00:00.974) Hello, New Fit Nation. Welcome back to the Undercurrent Podcast. This is the first episode that I am recording in my 40s. I just turned 40, and that is actually the theme of today's episode because it certainly feels like a milestone. It has caused me to stop and reflect, and I'm going to share some of those reflections with you here today. In the recent years of Gone through periods of transition in business, in life, my kids have hit new milestones. This year, my daughter, older daughter started high school. I've also gone through some personal transitions with a separation and divorce. And all of this has caused me, especially in combination with with a significant birthday like this, caused me to look up from the day to day and ask some bigger questions and wonder if I'm living my life in the way that I wish to be living my life. I I look at and I think about. How I'm responsible for what has happened and is happening in my life. The one that immediately led to this episode, I also thought about and asked myself what ideas and principles have influenced me and actually changed the way that I live? And when I sat with that question, there's four principles that rose above the rest. So I was, as you can imagine, I was very excited to see that having four corresponds well with a 40th birthday. I'm glad the numbers work out. I also saw a common thread and realized that they're not necessarily four separate lessons, but that they build on each other. And there's almost a sequence that for me is like a manual for how to live. And that is what I want to share with you today. And before I get into that, a couple notes. One is that if you're familiar with me, with our work at Newfit, you know that for nearly 20 years now, for me it's it's all come back to one thing, which is the nervous system. And when we're Talking about the new fit method and the newbie, it all comes down to helping people retrain their nervous system. It's the operating system of the body. We want the whole system to be running better. And I, in reflection on these, I see how I've been doing the same type of thing with myself, trying to get my operating system to work better. And one of the biggest things that, as you know, the nervous system does it's to make us aware, aware of our internal and external. Garrett Salpeter (02:22.486) environments and so awareness is a thread that also ties together these four lessons that I'm going to share with you because each one of them is preceded by or begins with awareness with noticing noticing where I am where I'm not in alignment noticing what my habits are and how they're influencing my life noticing what I'm accepting or tolerating in my life and also noticing for me areas in which I've been postponing my life and waiting for something to happen so I could achieve something and then feel a certain way, things like that that that I'll get into here. So these are the four, I don't necessarily want to say lessons, but I'd say the four biggest shifts in how I've lived that really stand out to me as being very impactful. And my intention here and sharing them with you is that they'll also be worthwhile to you in some way. So on to the first shift. For me, it's all about alignment. This is number one, I'm choosing this first because choosing to share this first because I feel like alignment has been the biggest unlock for me in the sense that finding where I feel aligned or where I haven't felt aligned and how the decisions I made from that, I can see how things play out. And one of the first times where I really realized the the dark side of this of acting out of alignment was an issue with a a person I had worked with and I knew deep down inside that there wasn't alignment. It wasn't a good cultural fit. And I overrided or overrode that in part because of people pleasing tendencies, because it was difficult for me to have hard conversations and and let this person know what was problematic, what was not working, what needed to change, difficulty for me setting boundaries. And I also had this, this was very early on in my career, also had this sort of scarcity mindset as opposed to abundance mindset of like, gosh, can I ever find anyone else to work with me? You know, so there's this feeling of not being worthy, not being good enough, noticing these things certainly all influenced it. But in overriding that, I allowed to continue Garrett Salpeter (04:49.91) situations and dynamics that ended up costing far more in the long run, emotionally and monetarily, costing a lot more than the initial pain and cost or the immediate pain and cost would have been having a hard conversation up front or getting rid of a person, you know, who wasn't a good fit years ahead of when I finally found the courage and clarity to do it. And when I Look at at other times where I've made decisions that have come out of alignment. Like, for example, coming out of college, I had a physics undergraduate degree, and I was set to go to engineering graduate school at the University of Texas here in Austin, which is how I got down here. And it was a fabulous experience, and I'm so glad I did it. And I had options to take jobs. I had a job offer with a big consulting firm out of college. I had an opportunity to interview with a large, very well-known investment bank, which I may or may not have gotten a job, but I decided that I wanted to pursue this because it felt more aligned with who I was and what I was interested in doing. And that ended up being a great decision. And that engineering background ultimately gave me the the experience and the perspective to be able to lead the team that ultimately created the newbie device and do the things that I'm doing now. It was a big part of that journey. So I'm I'm so glad that I did it. Also early on in my career back when I was working in a clinic and I had this hundred and twenty square foot office in the chiropractic office, chiropractic clinic of the guy who was the U T Longhorns chiropractor, his private practice. I was using older versions of electrical stimulation. That's part of what led me to ultimately creating the newbie. And I you know, very young doing this, it wasn't sure no one was really sure where this was gonna go. Me l me most of all. but I I knew that I really want to do it. And there was a moment there when when Brianna and I, my former wife, got pregnant with our first daughter. And I was still in my early twenties and I was honestly scared. And there were some suggestions, like my father, for example, very reasonably and lovingly encouraged me to take my master's degree in engineering and go get a stable. Garrett Salpeter (07:13.814) job so I can provide for my family. And I understand and appreciate why he said that. And for me, I sat with that and realized that what I really wanted to do was to follow my heart and pursue this work, doing this clinic and this type of work that led to new fit and everything that that we're doing now. And I'm so glad I did it. And it came from alignment. So those are some examples of acting from alignment or overriding the internal knowing. and acting from a place of misalignment. So that to me, that really is the f foundational framework. And a big catalyst for me understanding this has been my experience in meditation over the last couple years. I probably first got interested in meditation From listening to and reading Sam Harris's work and conversations with my friend Wesley Cress, who's been on this podcast, and hearing his experiences and his his explanations of meditation really helped it resonate with me in a way that it got me interested in pursuing it. And I've done more formal work both with Shauna Shapiro and Corey Muscara. Shauna's been on the podcast as well. And I highly recommend both of their books and their online work and courses or in-person work and courses because For me, meditation has been the way to really clarify and crystallize this concept or operationalize this and bring it into my daily life, where a lot of times we think that meditation is about sitting still until we get to a place of bliss or happiness where nothing bothers us. But what it's really about, as I've learned from people like Corey and Shauna, what it's really about is Have being still enough so that we can be aware enough or mindfulness, right? Mindful enough to be aware of what's going on in our own experience. So that I can actually feel when something I'm contemplating doing is aligned or is not aligned. And the the framework that I really love here that I have started using w whenever I can is understanding when I'm making a decision. Garrett Salpeter (09:28.44) From a place of self or parts, using the language of internal family systems. Another great book recommendation is No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, Dick Schwartz, that describes this concept of internal family systems. When I'm making decisions from my true self, which you have a true self, I have a true self. We all have this true self, this place within us that is our deepest truth, where we feel clear and calm and confident and courageous and creative. And connected. There's these different C words that describe this state. Even just hearing those, you may feel some energy resonating. And the the parts are the different different patterns within ourselves that I alluded to earlier in my own experience, where I learned to act a certain way, you know, in people pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries. I had also learned that I felt like I had to achieve something in order to be worthy of love. And so these are the patterns. These patterns are parts. Of me and different parts can be online at different times and they can interact in certain ways, and I can be acting from certain parts or acting from self, those different places. And so meditation for me allows me to have the opportunity to slow down enough to drop in deeply enough to get clearer on what is my true motivation for doing something and making a decision. Is it aligned? Is it coming from a place of self or is it coming from a place of parts? And so the the question I really love to ask myself, which I got from Corey Muscara and his teaching is am I doing this? Am I considering doing this thing because I already feel complete as a person and it's aligned with my true desires? Or am I feeling empty inside and I'm choosing this thing as an attempt to grasp at something that might fill me up? Because we all know that that you know, getting past a certain point at least getting more money or getting a nicer house or a nicer watch or a nicer car, you know, we feel like that's gonna that's gonna be the thing that finally gets us happy. And we know that it doesn't work that way. But there's these patterns that I even will notice sometimes that I fall into. And it's the kind of underlying awareness of this alignment dynamic that helps me navigate this. And there's a few examples where I've seen my ego that Garrett Salpeter (11:50.307) that that part many many examples where I've seen that you know I was I was just reflecting in preparation for this like one for example doing what I do for work I I admittedly take a lot of pride in helping people get get results in sports medicine and rehabilitation and things like that and and with myself I put off for many years getting a hip surgery that I likely should have gotten earlier, and that I finally did get, and that was helpful. I got bone shaved down, bone spurs shaved down off the neck of my femur where I had a femoral acetabular impingement FAI. And I you know, I'm so glad I did it. But I put it off for a long time. I also noticed really interesting, after my first meditation retreat. I, as you likely can tell, you know, I read a ton of books, and I think a lot of the the where I am and what I've learned and who I've become is positively influenced by the books that I've read. And so I think that's wonderful. And I also at the same time observed that a lot of that came from a place of feeling somewhat empty or incomplete and thinking that if I was just a little bit smarter, If I knew a little bit more, then I'd be better, then I'd finally be worthy of some sort of status or love or belonging, some sort of internal drive like that. And I learned that some of that consumption of you know books, podcasts, etc., was some of that grasping trying to fill me up inside. And it was so interesting that after my first meditation retreat with Corey Muscara for a couple months. I I noticed that desire was significantly diminished. Where I you know, instead of always wanting to listen to a podcast or a book on tape audio book when I'm in the car, book on tape, they're not on tape anymore, but when I noticed that I would actually just enjoy sort of doing a breathing exercise or sitting and listening to music, things like that. It was it was an interesting shift. And so now I still read. Garrett Salpeter (13:59.679) And I ask myself if I'm doing it from some sort of compulsive desire to fill a perceived void, or if I'm doing it from a place of true interest and alignment. And it often is from a place of interest and alignment, but I really like that framework, and I felt compelled to share that with you. So I think the big, the big question that I would ask, and that I encourage everyone listening to this to ask, is It's not necessarily about following your passion, but following your alignments. I would ask you if what you're contemplating doing is truly aligned. And one exercise that that I have done in the past is actually close my eyes and consider a path A, consider a path B, and see how they feel in my nervous system. Because that often will give us a clue. It'll, you know, sometimes it's as dramatic as one path. will feel very constricting energetically and one will feel expansive, like it's giving us energy. And I've that's one thing that I've found is that if I'm doing things that could be objectively hard, even if it even if it is hard, it feels somewhat easier to me because that sense of alignment gives me energy and and it doesn't feel as hard. It makes makes having a going through difficult times in business or having a a a workout program sustainable. So I would ask myself and encourage you to ask yourself, where in my life am I choosing from emptiness rather than from fullness? Whatever, whatever that means to you. So that's the first the first one is is understanding alignment. And we really have to understand our identity, our true selves, who we are, what is most important to us, what we value, what what is in alignment with us at that deepest level. And then This second shift principle that I want to wanna share is how our identity is built through repetitions, how we are a culmination of our habits. And I think a lot about my life as an ongoing experiment. I think about my inputs that I do in my in my training and lifestyle, in my business, how I show up with my family and what you know what I do with my kids. And I look at the results that that come out of that. Think about it as as sort of one big ongoing experiment. There's also this great quote. Garrett Salpeter (16:25.578) Of attributed to Aristotle of we are what we repeatedly do. He talks about excellence is not an act, but it's a habit, because what we repeatedly do adds up to who we are. And so I think also in this sort of scientific ongoing experiment, results are feedback. They're not necessarily judgment. We don't fail, we gather information. I think that's a good mindset shift. I also think a lot about this in terms of Fitness and and health, which I think is a great metaphor for anything, because in fitness there is this balance of of work and and recovery and rest and regeneration. There's this this balance of delayed gratification of having to work for a period of time to see a result that comes later, of having to have faith in the process of of getting help and support and coaching and learning and and finding the most effective way, not the shortcut, but the most effective and direct path to your goal. So there's all these different lessons that I think extrapolate beautifully to all areas of life. And I I think a lot about the the way that what how what I do every day, how to have a daily routine. That helps me get to the levels of health and fitness and physical and mental performance and vitality that I wish to achieve for myself. So one thing that I'm working on is I'm generally very stiff. I have a background of ice hockey. As Greg Cook says, I was was one of these examples of someone building fitness on top of dysfunction. I didn't have my core movement fundamentals down, and yet I built a fair amount of size and strength and speed on top of that. And so couple that with playing ice hockey and being locked in that kind of half squat position with hips and external rotation, very little foot and ankle movement because the feet are locked in a in boots, you know, ice hockey boots, the skates, and all that leads to significant mobility restrictions that now I want to work on. And so I think about how my habits influence that. And there's things that I do to work on hip internal rotation. Garrett Salpeter (18:38.638) And I do those six or seven days a week. I work it into my plan. And over time, it's been so cool to see my hip internal rotation go from generously zero degrees to you know 15, 20 degrees. It's still not, you know, anatomically ideal, but it's gotten a lot better. And it's cool to see the progress, even in something that's as slow to change as structural remodeling of joint capsules. And I think this is a great. prompt for us all to look at our habits. You know, if someone all also going back to fitness, there's a great a great quote that the body you have is the body you've earned. So how if we're if we're not as strong in a certain area or we're several pounds overweight or you know, there's there's likely some reason for it. And it's sometimes not the individual's fault. Sometimes there's there's toxic exposure or things like that that's out of their control that's causing more inflammation that That throws things off or some disease state. And oftentimes once once we know about it, then there's things that we can do about it. So there's certainly the I think a lot of value in understanding that our life now is the culmination of our habits and really examining and evaluating those and making sure that yes, they are aligned. So we have number one being alignment, number two being habits, repetition, how that how that builds upon and cements our identity. And then related is number three, which is the standards. There's this great saying that we get what we tolerate. There's there's our our standards really shape our lives. And so for me right now, I actually just keeping on the fitness metaphor, one of my standards is being able to to sprint all out. And I'm dealing with an Achilles injury that is very frustrating to me because I'm currently not able to meet my own standard. And because I take that standard seriously, it creates within me a sense of urgency where I'm rehabbing my Achilles very diligently. And it's difficult for me to be patient and understand that it can take, you know, several months for tendon tissue to remodel. And that's actually the subject of what will probably be the next podcast we release. a little bit of a foreshadowing there. Garrett Salpeter (21:02.536) on on Achilles tendon injuries and recovery from surgery and that whole topic. That's something that I'm diving into, trying to l really learn as much about as I can, both out of interest and a desire to share it and this personal desire to get back to my standard, where by the end of this summer, I intend to be able to get back to at least my weekly sprinting. So that's something that I I I think a lot about and that is is very important to me in terms of what we tolerate there that's both within ourselves and it's with you know the people that work within our businesses. It's fit within family members and friends and things like that. It's sort of this not just what we do on our best day or when we hit our stretch goal, but it's what do we tolerate on the the floor on our the lowest day. And it's important in in business. You know, we're not going to hit our stretch goal every every week, every month, every quarter, every year, but if there's a minimum number of calls that we're going to make or if there's a minimum number of some effort that we're going to make. If we hold ourselves to that, chances are we're going to better over time. Same thing in the gym. If you you're not going to set a PR every day, but if you're going to continue working and getting better and following the program, that often leads to a great place in the long term. for me, one one standard is my bedtime. I will occasionally occasionally stay out late for a special event or something like that. If I really feel like and this plays into number four where I I'm I'm focusing on yes, delayed gratification is important, but I don't want to delay everything for a someday that may never come. So every once in a while I'll do this. But generally speaking, I'm very diligent about my bedtime because I know that if I if I don't go to bed on time, I'm not gonna be as effective the next day. It's gonna throw off different aspects of my vitality and energy and and mental and physical ability. And so if I have something to do, one, having a being more strict with my bedtime, it forces me to prioritize getting shit done during the day, pardon my language. And it also, you know, it makes it clear for me if I have something that I need to work on, I I will choose to to go to bed earlier and then work get up earlier and work on it in the morning rather than stay up and and do it that night. Garrett Salpeter (23:25.196) because that will I know that the outcome is gonna be better if I go to bed now and get up and do it in the morning in in in many ways. So there's a lot a lot of ways that That affects me. And that's one that's important for me. You know, for some people, it's a minimum number of pages that they're going to read in a book per day or whatever it might be. People have a devotional or they just want to read different different things. Or meditation. For me, I think about the minimum number of minutes per day or days per year that I'm going to meditate. But the standards that we hold ourselves to apply everywhere in health and recovery, in relationships, in our self-talk, in our environment and our finances and our businesses and the standards that I as a leader accept from myself become the standards that our team accepts too. So especially for those of you who are leading teams and businesses or leading leading within your family and home life, this is this is very important as well. So I think it's best summed up in that the the quote that I've heard many places, I don't know where it originally came from, but we don't get what we want, we get what we tolerate. So I encourage you to ask what what you and I will ask myself, what have I quietly or not so quietly started to tolerate that I never used to or that is not in alignment with who I wish to be and how I wish to live my life and how I wish my business to be and how I wish my family to be, et cetera. And that segues into the fourth shift. And this is, you know, if we talk about alignment with our identity, we talk about reinforcing that identity and number two, through our habits. We talk about preserving that through the standards and what we're willing to accept. Number four is about rounding out that identity because I know that I was, especially in the early New Fit years, I was very much in this trap of optimizing everything for later. Garrett Salpeter (25:23.31) Putting off most of everything now, thinking that once this business grows, once I achieve a certain level of success, then I'll be able to enjoy my life, then I'll be happy, then this, then that. So it's this notion of journey over destination, process over outcome, or something like that. So I I just I want to also frame this up as a continuum, because on one hand, there's what I just described, there's putting off entirely putting off the future, d entirely delayed gratification, and not enjoying anything right now. And then on the other end, there's like total nihilism or or not caring about later and just wanting just enjoying today and not planning for the future at all. And so what I'm proposing where I've settled on this balance for myself and it can be personal for everybody, where I've settled on this is is somewhere in between. Where I do I do work hard now for where That will bring our business and and my family in the future. I work hard now for where my that will bring my health in the future, right? I want to be healthy and vital in my next decade, in the decade after that, and the decade after that, which God willing I will live to see. And I I so I wanna I want to strike that balancing act. But there's there's a great book that I highly recommend called The Happiness Advantage by sh I believe it's Sean Acor. and it it talks about how many of us fall into this same trap of thinking that if I if I achieve this now, this promotion or make this amount of money or have this or that, then I'll be happy. And it's so amazing that he shifts that on his head. He talks about the r how the research says quite the opposite. How if if we're happy now, we're actually more likely to achieve the thing that we wish to achieve. Because Generally speaking, happiness makes people healthier, more resistant to getting sick, more effective, more creative, gives them more energy, more health and vitality. And that, of course, makes it more likely that they will achieve the thing that they're setting out to achieve, assuming it is back to number one, assuming it is aligned with their true selves and deepest desires and and all that. And so for me, this has really Garrett Salpeter (27:50.669) manifested in a couple of ways. It's something that I I read about and I I I was aware of this notion and it just sort of gradually hit me that I was putting off so much of my life for later. And so I I finally just somehow, some way crossed over that threshold where I realized that I do need to make time to enjoy life now. along the way, even as I'm practicing delayed gratification in certain important areas. And so taking my kids several years ago on a trip to Spain over the summer for a week and a half was an amazing memory. Taking them this year to Disney World, you know, creating these memories while my kids are still young enough to to make these memories, there's a great concept of memory dividends. I forget the I think I first heard about this from the guy who wrote Die with Zero. I've gosh, I can see his face. I forget his name now. He's here in Austin. Cool, really cool guy. And he talks about this notion of Die with Zero being that if we accumulate all this money, we should actually enjoy it in this life. You should give it away because that will create joy. We should also invest in experiences because it creates these memory dividends. You know, having the memories from these different trips with my kids is worth is worth so much more. I'm getting a return on that investment, more than if it was sitting an account earning interest somewhere. Also for me, I joined EO and and a forum. EO is an entrepreneurs organization, similar to YPO if you're familiar that. And it's all all founders, all business owners. And so I'm in this forum with anywhere from seven to nine other guys. And we do these adventure trips every year. And that was something that I sort of I realized along the way that I just wasn't I was putting off for later the idea of having you know friendships and social relationships. And I finally realized, you know what, I I would like to have more of that in my life now. I would like to prioritize and make some time for that. And we've done these amazing adventure trips. We've gone hiking twenty miles through the narrows in Zion National Park and kayaking and fishing in the San Juan Islands between Seattle and Vancouver. And just this year, camping and fishing and Garrett Salpeter (30:05.624) Hiking in Colorado along the Gunnison River. You know, my first time I was kind of a city kid. these trips allowed me to go camping for the first time in my life, which was amazing. And so I I encourage you to consider what this right balance is for you. Again, it's very individual. Consider where this where this where you fall along that spectrum. And if if it falls into wanting to play more golf now rather than waiting until you're retired, give me a call and play a r play around of golf. So again, it's not not about like being anti discipline or being reckless. There are areas where we still have to sacrifice. It is it is a balancing act. And I think there's there's this sense that success should expand our lives, not necessarily postpone it. So I will Ask you, what are you postponing in your life that you actually could start living now? And as we wrap this up here, I will end where I started with talking about turning 40. And when I was younger, I was so focused on on life and on focusing my life on becoming successful, whatever that meant at the time. And I really believe that if I just worked hard enough, sacrificed enough, delayed enough that Everything else, the happiness, relationships with life, would it would all sort itself out later. Now I I I'm grateful that that younger version of me put so much time and effort into learning and and beginning, building the early stages of new fit and all that. And now I I am grateful for the added perspective and experience too, where I realize that it's not it's not just about becoming more. accomplished and achieving more, it's also about alignment. And when I think about alignment, that actually helps produce more success than than some of the other tactics and strategies and and mindsets too. So it's interesting how these four can also interact as well. And again, this was Garrett Salpeter (32:28.576) not necessarily a a dramatic overhaul, but it came from noticing from awareness. And so I I hope that you can have some sort of practice, and perhaps you already do, that has been as meaningful to me as this meditation practice in in becoming aware of these different dynamics in my own life. And in closing, I'd like to leave you with one small challenge. Pick one of these four that hit you the hardest, whether it be focusing on alignment, your habits, your standards, and what you tolerate, and or balancing. work now sacrificing now for something later figure out which of those four hit you the hardest and this week ask yourself the question where are you choosing from act from empty instead of full? What are your daily inputs building you into? What have you started to tolerate that you no longer intend to tolerate? Or finally, what are you putting off? that you feel like deep inside you really would be better served by doing now. So I I really appreciate you spending this time with me. If this one resonated, I'd love to hear your comments on the social media or direct message, anything like that. And I look forward to seeing you on the next episode of the Undercurrent podcast.
We sit down with psychotherapist Kirsten Davidson to unpack why couples drift into disconnection and how Internal Family Systems therapy can help us lead ourselves with more clarity, compassion, and courage. We challenge the stories we tell ourselves in conflict, practice speaking from “parts” instead of blame, and lay out simple shifts that rebuild real connection. • assumptions driving communication breakdowns and unnecessary hurt • avoiding hard talks out of fear of the truth and discomfort • using IFS “parts” language to create space and reduce shame • defining self-energy and what “self-led” looks like at home • turning fights into dialogue instead of debate • choosing radical honesty about our limits and patterns • why couples counseling works better when we go earlier • tips for newlyweds and engaged couples to benchmark what works • resources to learn IFS, including Richard Schwartz's No Bad Parts • how we build hope when couples feel exhausted and stuck Coming June 23: Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life.Available now for Kindle Pre-Order for 99¢Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce stress, and create a more meaningful life—one small habit at a time.Available June 23 wherever books are sold.The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.orgYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLifeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelifeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.comhttp://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/
Why do so many businesses hit a ceiling at around 10 employees? Many founders start their business because they're brilliant at what they do. In the early days, decisions are fast, communication is simple, and the founder sits at the centre of everything. Then the business grows. Suddenly, what made the business successful starts to become the thing holding it back. In this episode of ScaleUp Radio, Kevin Brent speaks with Tameron Chappell, founder of Athinka, a business psychology consultancy that helps organisations build healthier, higher-performing teams using evidence-based psychology rather than management fads and airport business books. Tameron explains why the transition beyond 10 employees is one of the most challenging moments in a founder's journey, how personality dynamics influence team performance far more than technical capability, and why shared leadership is critical for sustainable growth. About Tameron Chappell Tameron is the founder of Athinka, a consultancy specialising in business psychology and team effectiveness. Working primarily with startups and scale-ups, Tameron combines psychodynamic and systemic approaches to help founders and leadership teams understand the hidden patterns, behaviours and relationships that influence performance. His work often begins when traditional consulting approaches have failed to deliver lasting results, helping organisations uncover the deeper causes of team dysfunction and leadership challenges. In this episode: Why businesses often stall at 10 employees Many founders unknowingly create a business model that relies entirely on them. As the team grows, this becomes unsustainable. The founder becomes the bottleneck for decisions, problem-solving and accountability. Tameron explains why the 10-person mark is a critical inflection point and why leaders must begin building shared ownership and leadership much earlier than they think. The uncomfortable reality of scaling leadership One of the biggest mindset shifts for founders is recognising that they may not always be the best person for their current role. Growth requires leaders to continually evolve and sometimes redefine their responsibilities. Tameron discusses why succession planning, delegation and leadership development should be part of the scaling conversation from day one. Why personality matters more than technical skills Recruitment often focuses heavily on experience, qualifications and technical competence. However, Tameron argues that personality fit, behavioural tendencies and stress responses are often far better predictors of long-term success. Past performance in one environment does not guarantee success in another. Understanding how individuals naturally operate under pressure can significantly improve hiring decisions and team performance. Understanding the psychology behind team dynamics Rather than viewing personality through simplistic labels and categories, Tameron describes personality as a complex mixing deck of traits that interact differently depending on circumstances. Helping team members understand their own preferences and those of colleagues can reduce conflict, improve communication and increase trust. Evidence-based business psychology Athinka's approach is grounded in established psychological theory and research. The consultancy combines: • Psychodynamic approaches to explore the relationship between an individual's inner world and workplace behaviour. • Systemic approaches to uncover hidden organisational patterns and group dynamics. The result is practical insight that helps teams function more effectively and leaders make better decisions. Standout Quote "Most businesses don't stop growing because of strategy. They stop growing because the founder's control model no longer works." Key Takeaways • The 10-employee mark is often the first major scaling challenge. • Founders must evolve their leadership style as the business grows. • Shared leadership creates stronger, more resilient organisations. • Personality and behavioural fit matter more than technical skills alone. • Team effectiveness improves when people understand how others naturally operate. Resources mentioned in the episode: Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/ Lumina Splash App - https://luminalearning.com/our-products/lumina-splash-app Co-Pilot - Claude - From Tameron: If you're a founder and you're curious about the psychology underneath your business — the patterns, the dynamics, the parts of you that show up under pressure — here are some resources I often recommend: Edgar Schein's work on Humble Leadership for the fundamental shift from 'expert' to open-minded curiosity which is the foundation of all relational leadership. Mike Hohnen's practical interpretation of Dave Snowden's Cynefin model, especially for founders navigating complexity, pace and ambiguity. Mike makes complexity human and usable. Richard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems (IFS) for understanding your inner architecture, your triggers, and how to lead yourself with more clarity and compassion. His book No Bad Parts is a great entry point. Systemic thinking for teams and organisations = anything that helps you uncover the hidden patterns around you. John Whittington's blogs (start with his views on Founders and their Origin Story https://www.linkedin.com/posts/johntkwhittington_systemiccoaching-founders-theoriginstory-activity-7452030365994569728-s7wJ?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAC1NiYBYHjcV1QthjsMa96N6IIja61N-Mo ), Jan Jacob Stam's Systemic Leadership, and Tess Cope's Harness and Your Team Is Not The Issue are excellent. Trait‑based personality models such as Lumina Spark, Hogan, or NEO Primary Colours. These help you understand behaviour under pressure and in context. (N.B. Not Type tools like MBTI, DISC, Insights or Strengths, they're fun and ubiquitous, but they don't stand up to psychological scrutiny. If you want something highly practical, David Marquet's intent‑based leadership work (Turn the Ship Around, Leadership is Language) and his short Leadership Nudges videos on YouTube are brilliant for everyday behavioural shifts. And of course… if you've got humans in your business and don't fancy reading all these theories and ideas come and find me - I'm always curious about your world, your successes and challenges. Find me on LinkedIn or at Tameron.Chappell@athinka.com and if you mention you came across me via Kevin's podcast I can offer you a no-strings-attached Diagnostic Conversation where we can focus on your situation, leadership, team and organisation.
In this episode, we explore the reality that many people experience on a plant-based or vegan journey: imperfection. From cravings and convenience to social situations, family dynamics, and emotional ties to food, living in alignment with your values isn't always linear—or simple. Inspired by the book No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, this episode introduces a powerful shift in perspective: instead of battling the parts of yourself that struggle, what if you listened to them? In this episode you'll learn: Why inner conflict is a natural part of behavior change How to navigate cravings and contradictions without guilt The role of compassion in creating lasting change How to stop all-or-nothing thinking in veganism A new way to relate to yourself through this journey An understanding of the different parts within us, stemming from the Internal Family Systems Framework This episode is an invitation to move from perfection to awareness, and from self-judgment to self-understanding. For all the links mentioned in today's episode, click here or visit brownble.com
In this episode, Ava Arani is joined by Ryan Hassan from The Centre for Healing for a grounded conversation on what happens when a core wound becomes active and how it can be met with compassion rather than self judgment. Ava shares a recent retreat experience in India where she noticed a persistent unsettled feeling that she first assumed was guilt, but later recognised as “not enoughness.” Through the lens of Internal Family Systems and the book No Bad Parts, they explore protector and exile parts, why there are no bad parts within us, and how healing can happen through contact, kindness, and the right kind of inner support. They also discuss why meditation can feel hard to commit to, how guided practice reduces resistance, and what trauma informed meditation looks like when the intention is healing rather than chasing transcendence. Increasing accessibility to functional healing + non-dual spiritual oneness: www.functionalspirituality.com Free resources: Newsletter sign-up: A monthly update for me on new offers and the energy of the month. Community meditation: Join the Functional Spirituality Group and enjoy a free resource for meditators and yogis to connect to and enjoy a like-minded community. Free training - 3 part method of Functional Spirituality: Learn the clear, practical framework for deep healing, emotional regulation, and spiritual integration. Connect on Socials Where you can hear from us in daily life Personal account & Functional Spirituality: @functionalspirituality Studio: @spandaschool Lavandula Botanicals: @lavandula.botanicals
Motherhood is a profound transformation — yet many moms feel overwhelmed by guilt, anxiety, and an unforgiving inner critic. In this episode of the Mindful Mama Podcast, Hunter Clarke-Fields talks with Dr. Angele Close, clinical psychologist and author of Unburdening Motherhood, about how the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model helps mothers understand their inner world, release “good mom” myths, and reconnect with calm, confidence, and self-compassion. Together, they explore matrescence, the role of the inner critic, and simple ways moms can access their steady, compassionate center — even in the middle of parenting chaos. In this episode, you'll learn: Why motherhood is a major identity shift (matrescence) How IFS helps us understand our inner “parts” Why the inner critic isn't the enemy What to do when worry and anxiety take over How IFS builds on mindfulness for deeper healing One simple IFS practice for tough parenting moments ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: /mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Snow-Maggedon is here and it ain't over yet. The blizzard warning continues until 1pm this afternoon…and then it'll be almost 60° by Friday. Go figure. In the news this morning, the latest on the search for Nancy Guthrie, an outbreak of Norovirus on a Princess cruise ship sickens over 150 people, Target is apparently going to sell less toys in the future, and a recap of last night's Oscars. In sports, the Bucks split the weekend with a loss on Friday and a win yesterday, the Badgers lost to Michigan in the semifinals of the Big Ten Tournament and still managed to get a five-seed for the NCAA men's bracket, Team USA beat the Dominican Republic at the World Baseball Classic to advance to the championship game, Denny Hamlin wins in Vegas, and Team USA sweeps the hockey gold at the Olympics & Paralympic games! We talked about what's on TV today/tonight and we discussed a recent Reddit thread about movies that are 10/10 with no bad parts. Did you see Dave Grohl at that random BBQ serving up food? A group of dads in Texas got together recently and bought a vehicle for a beloved crossing guard who was using public transportation & rideshares after her car broke down, and another elderly worker is set for life after someone started a GoFundMe for him. Elsewhere in sports, a look at the First Four of the NCAA men's bracket, the Jim Irsay collection sold for a LOT of money, Auston Matthews is out for the season and now the Maple Leafs are asking the NHL to change it's suspension policy, and apparently Ronda Rousey is in the AEW now. If you're looking for a new gig, Pizza Hut is apparently looking for a crust connoisseur. And in today's edition of "Bad News with Happy Music", we had stories about a golf cart DUI in #Florida, a #FloridaWoman tried to murder her own sister, a woman who ate some homemade fermented swordfish & got botulism, and a reporter in California who had an unexpected guest while doing a live shot.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of the Kriya Yoga Podcast, we explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can support deeper meditation, psychological integration, and an authentic experience of divine communion. Drawing from yogic philosophy, contemplative practice, and modern therapeutic insight, this talk examines why sincere meditation and devotion sometimes feel blocked—even after years of practice. The core insight: spiritual realization flourishes most naturally when the inner world is coherent, stable, and Self-led. Internal Family Systems offers a practical framework for understanding the “parts” of the psyche—protective managers, reactive firefighters, and wounded exiles—and how unresolved inner conflict can quietly interfere with meditation, prayer, and daily spiritual life. When these parts are listened to, integrated, and guided by the Self, inner noise settles and spiritual practice becomes more effortless, spacious, and alive. The episode connects IFS with key yogic principles such as Īśvara Praṇidhāna (communion or surrender to the Divine), samādhi, and Self-realization, suggesting that psychological healing is not a detour from the spiritual path, but often a powerful accelerator of it. This conversation is especially relevant for long-time meditators who feel stalled, seekers struggling to sustain inner peace beyond the cushion, or anyone interested in bridging therapy, yoga, and contemplative spirituality in a grounded, discerning way. Referenced text includes No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz and prior Kriya Yoga Podcast discussions on psychological wellbeing and spiritual practice. The Kriya Yoga Podcast 202 Spiritual Counseling Spiritual Practice The Kriya Yoga Podcast 95 Healing Blockages of the Heart Chakra -
This week, Thomas is joined once again by the founder of Internal Family Systems, Dr. Richard Schwartz, for a deep exploration of how we can integrate collective trauma work into our daily lives, relationships, and communities.Combining wisdom from psychology and spiritual traditions, they discuss fresh insights on creating a holistic healing framework for modern times that expands our traditional understanding of therapy and healing by addressing deeply ingrained ancestral and collective wounds.They also explore the power of accessing the core Self to help us release individual and inherited burdens, and how this process of unburdening can accelerate our collective evolution and influence the greater health of humanity.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:
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This week, Thomas sits down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the founder of Internal Family Systems, for an in-depth discussion on the power of healing in groups, intergenerational and ancestral trauma healing, and the relationship between therapy and spirituality—all topics that are featured in their forthcoming book; Releasing Our Burdens: A Guide to Healing Individual, Ancestral, and Collective Trauma.Thomas and Dr. Schwartz dive deep into the phenomena of ancestral and collective "legacy burdens", which are traumas from our shared past that unconsciously drive our current behavior and societal conflicts. They share therapeutic and spiritual strategies for addressing these inherited wounds, and discuss the urgent need for what Thomas calls a “collective healing architecture” to mend social fragmentation and revitalize our democratic systems.They also share insights on the importance of our interconnection with the natural world and the need for safe spaces to access “Self Energy,” where the profound impacts of individual parts work can amplify collective healing.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:
**SPECIAL ENCORE PRESENTATION** Richard “Dick” Schwartz earned his PhD in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University. He coauthored the most widely used family therapy text in the United States, Family Therapy: Concepts and Methods, and is the creator of the Internal Family Systems Model, which he developed in response to clients' descriptions of various “parts” within themselves. With Sounds True, Dick has written a new book titled No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon talks to Dick about the transformation that occurs when we welcome every part of who we are. He explains that even our most destructive parts have protective intentions, put in place to shield us from unprocessed pain, and details his method for accessing and mending these inner wounds. They also discuss the myth of the “mono mind,” and why the mind is naturally multiple; how “exiled” trauma can manifest as bodily pain; connecting with our core Self and letting it lead us in our healing; and how the language of “parts” can be useful in our relationship dynamics. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Listeners of Insights At The Edge get 10% off their first month at www.betterhelp.com/soundstrue.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
**SPECIAL ENCORE PRESENTATION** Richard “Dick” Schwartz earned his PhD in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University. He coauthored the most widely used family therapy text in the United States, Family Therapy: Concepts and Methods, and is the creator of the Internal Family Systems Model, which he developed in response to clients' descriptions of various “parts” within themselves. With Sounds True, Dick has written a new book titled No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon talks to Dick about the transformation that occurs when we welcome every part of who we are. He explains that even our most destructive parts have protective intentions, put in place to shield us from unprocessed pain, and details his method for accessing and mending these inner wounds. They also discuss the myth of the “mono mind,” and why the mind is naturally multiple; how “exiled” trauma can manifest as bodily pain; connecting with our core Self and letting it lead us in our healing; and how the language of “parts” can be useful in our relationship dynamics. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Listeners of Insights At The Edge get 10% off their first month at www.betterhelp.com/soundstrue.
In this episode, we explore the more mystical, spiritual, and hard-to-pin-down ideas sprinkled throughout No Bad Parts. From talk of the Self as an eternal essence to the almost magical way parts seem to heal, we unpack the “woo-woo” elements of the book — the ones that made us pause, smile, or scratch our heads. Join us as we wrestle with what feels profound, what feels out-there, and how even the woo might hold wisdom. Buy the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems by Richard Schwartz Join the library and get a FREE I.F.S. Coaching session. Join now and we will send you the link to book. Cancel anytime. https://www.thewholenessnetwork.com/membership Watch the video version in the wholeness library. Explore The Wholeness Library App FREE! Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/wholeness-library/id1545002697 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.thewholenessnetwork.thewholenessnetwork On the web https://www.thewholenessnetwork.com/ Follow us https://www.instagram.com/thewholenessnetwork/ https://www.facebook.com/thewholenessnetwork Leave us a message! tel:646-883-3350 Information is intended for entertainment only Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Chalene and Mechelle are currently in IFS coaching training and we invited our practice group partner Julie Davis to join us for a conversation about parts work and the wisdom of Richard Schwartz's No Bad Parts. We share real experiences, challenges, and “aha” moments from both studying and practicing IFS together. Connect with Julie Instagram http://thisisbluebook.com Bluebooktutoring.com Buy the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems by Richard Schwartz Check out the other books we discussed. Running on Empty The Tao of Fully Feeling Watch the video version in the wholeness library. Explore The Wholeness Library App FREE! Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/wholeness-library/id1545002697 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.thewholenessnetwork.thewholenessnetwork On the web https://www.thewholenessnetwork.com/ Follow us https://www.instagram.com/thewholenessnetwork/ https://www.facebook.com/thewholenessnetwork Leave us a message! tel:646-883-3350 Information is intended for entertainment only Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This month we're exploring No Bad Parts—and this conversation brings that lens to the body. Dr. Hall traces a health-first childhood to a chiropractic career, then reframes common fears about the first adjustment (it's safer and gentler than it looks). Through a Parts Work lens, we explore how the body's “protectors” show up: muscle guarding as a protective part, sharp pain as a signal part, and the sympathetic fight/flight system as a vigilant manager—none of them “bad,” all trying to help. We look at referred pain (the ache isn't always the source), “turned-off” muscles and reactivation, migraines as vascular/nerve miscommunications, and why babies sometimes benefit from ultra-gentle neck work after birth. Dr. Hall offers practical ways to support your inner and outer systems—posture, daily movement, posterior-chain strength—so your parts (physical and psychological) can coordinate instead of compete. We close with wholeness as bio-psycho-social-spiritual integration: welcoming every part and giving each a job that truly serves. Connect with Dr. Hall https://bodyworkschiro.com/ https://www.facebook.com/BWcheckthisout https://www.instagram.com/bodyworkschiro/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/theronhall Watch the video version in the wholeness library. Explore The Wholeness Library App FREE! Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/wholeness-library/id1545002697 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.thewholenessnetwork.thewholenessnetwork On the web https://www.thewholenessnetwork.com/ Follow us https://www.instagram.com/thewholenessnetwork/ https://www.facebook.com/thewholenessnetwork Leave us a message! tel:646-883-3350 Information is intended for entertainment only Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome back to Operation Be! This episode is a really special one for me because I get to introduce you to someone who has had a massive impact on my own journey—Amber Kerby. Amber is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of Non-Ordinary Therapy, and she's been walking beside me for over seven years now. We dive into what therapy really looks like when you're willing to go all in. From Internal Family Systems (IFS) to ketamine-assisted therapy, and most importantly—the power of integration and self-compassion—this conversation pulls back the curtain on what true healing actually requires. I share pieces of my own story here, how working with Amber has shaped the way I see myself, the way I set boundaries, and how I choose to show up every day. This isn't about surface-level fixes. It's about doing the deeper work that makes lasting change possible. If you've ever been curious about non-traditional therapy, wondered what it looks like to process emotions in real time, or needed a reminder that you're not alone in the mess of figuring yourself out—this one's for you. ✨Tune in, and let this conversation meet you exactly where you are. 0:00 – 2:45: Intro & Guest Welcome 2:46 – 6:30: Amber's Non-Ordinary Therapy Approach 6:31 – 12:00: First Impressions & The “Feeling Cards” Breakthrough 12:01 – 16:00: Finding the Right Therapist 16:01 – 20:30: Pruning Relationships & Choosing What to Re-Engage In 20:31 – 25:00: Presence & Slowing Down 25:01 – 31:00: No Bad Parts & The Wisdom of the Inner Critic 31:01 – 36:00: Integration & Psychedelic Therapy 36:01 – 41:00: Doing the Work vs. Checking the Box 41:01 – 45:00: Grief, Anger, & Permission to Feel 45:01 – 48:00: Worth, Productivity & Self-Compassion 48:01 – 50:00: Amber's Practice: Microdosing Mindfulness Connect with Amber: https://www.facebook.com/nonordinary.therapy https://www.instagram.com/nonordinary.therapy/ https://www.amberkerby.com/ Please like, comment, subscribe, and share this episode and tag us with @jamie.thurber on Instagram or Jamie Thurber on Facebook. #OperationBe Want to connect with me on social media? www.instagram.com/jamie.thurber www.facebook.com/jamiethurber.biz www.jamiethurber.com https://www.youtube.com/@JamieThurber If you're interested in getting the exclusive content I put out on the newsletter, sign up here: https://jamiethurber.com/newsletter Join my community and let's take this conversation even deeper! Operation Be: The Podcast is where I teach personalized lessons on intentional living & creating a lifestyle by design. https://operationbe.com #operationbe #bethechange #intentionalliving #invisibleillness #polyvagaltheory #partswork #operationdo #getshitdone #healingjourney #unbusy #slowdown #awareness #youfirst #selfawareness #chronicillness #healfromwithin #therapyforlife
In this episode, we dive into Richard Schwartz's book No Bad Parts, which introduces the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and its transformative view that every part of us — even the ones we'd rather get rid of — has value and purpose. We talk through the core ideas of the book, our reactions, and how this perspective can change the way we relate to ourselves and others. Whether you're new to IFS or already exploring your inner world, this conversation will give you insights and maybe even a little self-compassion. Buy the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems by Richard Schwartz Join the library in September 2025 and get a FREE I.F.S. Coaching session. Join now and we will send you the link to book. Cancel anytime. https://www.thewholenessnetwork.com/membership Watch the video version in the wholeness library. Explore The Wholeness Library App FREE! Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/wholeness-library/id1545002697 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.thewholenessnetwork.thewholenessnetwork On the web https://www.thewholenessnetwork.com/ Follow us https://www.instagram.com/thewholenessnetwork/ https://www.facebook.com/thewholenessnetwork Leave us a message! tel:646-883-3350 Information is intended for entertainment only Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
For every personality trait, there is a shadow. Emily and Amelia discuss Shadow Work and do just a touch of dream analysis.Links:Carl JungJungian archetypesMapping Your Emotional Floor Plan:A comic by Erika Moen based on Come TogetherJaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions (interview)Monica's Secret Closet | FriendsFSP Season 2, Episode 22: The Magic Trick of TranscendenceLocus of controlStepmomming Made Easy (preorder)No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzWeRateDogsRebecca Dupas - HOW TO SLAY A DRAGON (youtube)(this is the poem at the end of the episode.)
In Episode 315:7 of the Best Books for Women with ADHD, You Will Discover: Powerful books that help you feel seen in your ADHD experience The neuroscience of ADHD to work with your brain instead of fighting it Resources offering both validation and practical strategies you can implement today Work With Me:
Ever feel like one part of you wants to say yes... while another part screams no?You're not crazy, you're human. And today's episode of Everyday Epigenetics: Raw. Real. Relatable. dives into why that happens, and how to work with it, with Kate King leading the conversation on Parts Work and Internal Family Systems (IFS).IFS is a powerful, non-pathologizing therapeutic model that helps you understand the different "parts" of your personality, like your inner perfectionist, your people-pleaser, or your avoidant protector. These parts aren't problems. They're protectors trying their best to keep you safe… even if their strategies no longer serve you.In this episode:What IFS (Internal Family Systems) is and how it worksWhy parts form in childhood, and how they affect us in adulthoodThe difference between exile, manager, and firefighter partsThe 8 C's of True Self: a compass for inner healingHow to tell when you're being “flooded” by a part (and how to come back to center)The surprising connection between parts work, epigenetics, and nervous system regulationCreative tools like journaling and “Parts Cards” to start exploring your inner worldWhen to seek professional support and how to begin your IFS journeyAnd why there are no bad parts, only misunderstood onesWhether you're feeling out of alignment, curious about how past wounds shape present behaviors, or just want to understand yourself better, this episode offers deep insight, humor, and hope.RESOURCES:Kate's YouTube Channel:https://www.youtube.com/@TheRadiantLifeProjectIFS Playlist on Kate's YouTube Channel:https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLLD14_nXiLme65kY8fzBoNvHi9J9jMEO1Richard Schwartz's book No Bad Parts:https://www.amazon.com/s?k=no+bad+parts+by+richard+c+schwartz&hvadid=694915120712Check out Susan's NEW E-book! Download it FREE here: https://healthyawakening.co/ebook-signupShow notes: https://healthyawakening.co/2025/08/11/episode70/Visit the website: healthyawakening.co/podcastFind listening links here: https://healthyawakening.co/linksConnect with Susan:Check out Susan's NEW E-book! Download it FREE here: https://healthyawakening.co/ebook-signupContact me for your DNA testing or epigenetic coaching! To schedule a FREE Personalized Health Strategy Session, send an email to susan@healthyawakening.coFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/susanrobbinshealthyawakeningInstagram: @susanrobbins_epigeneticcoachSusan's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/susanrobbinsConnect with Kate King:Kate's Website: https://TheRadiantLifeProject.comKate's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theradiantlifeprojectP.S. Want reminders about episodes? Sign up for our newsletter, you can find the link on our podcast page! https://healthyawakening.co/podcast
Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 748 Are your unresolved childhood wounds hijacking your relationships and keeping you stuck in depression or anxiety? Neuro-Rewiring Expert Mike Zeller joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 748, to share how healing your protector parts can transform conflict into deeper connection and trust, why psychedelics can reopen critical social learning periods and give you access to the hidden programming of your mind, and how to move from fear-driven protector parts into authentic flow state. "Our core longing as human beings is connection and love. We think that the wounded, victim, angry self is who we are because that part is in the driver's seat, and we're identified with that feeling. When we do the neuro-rewiring work, we separate that enmeshment. And because of that separation, we can now recognize the patterns and awareness instead of being in it so much that we can't see." - Mike Zeller
Emily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well as other books and therapy to help with recovery.Let's talk about neuroplastic pain and the stress response cycle.(Do you subscribe to Emily's newsletter? You can sign up here for free.)Links:FSP2025: We're Stronger Than the FireApple Podcasts • Spotify • YoutubeIn an Unspoken Voice by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. Complete the stress response cycle - See chapter 1 of BurnoutSomatic experiencingFriendly's No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzEmily's newsletter post about neuroplastic painThe Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon ZivExplain Pain Supercharged by G. Lorimer Moseley & David S. ButlerCurable app
Self-Leadership: The Roadmap to Healing, Hope, and Deeper Intimacy In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis reflect on Marianne's powerful experience presenting at the ITAP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals) Conference, where she introduced a healing-intensive approach combining Frazier's Dissociative Table and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). Together, they explore the theme of self-leadership—what it means to take ownership of your healing journey and to navigate pain, trauma, and emotional disconnection with intention and insight. They dive into the importance of understanding our internal parts, drawing from Richard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems (IFS) and his concept of “No Bad Parts.” Listeners are guided to reflect on their emotional patterns, discover the unmet needs behind their actions, and learn how to respond to their emotions with compassion rather than reactivity. The conversation emphasizes that true self-leadership is not about perfection, but about authenticity, congruency, and ultimately, the ability to show up more fully in our most important relationships. Whether you're healing from betrayal, navigating relationship challenges, or seeking personal growth, this episode offers practical insights and encouragement to help you reconnect with yourself and others. Key Topics Covered: The role of self-leadership in trauma recovery and personal transformation Using the Dissociative Table and ART in a one-day intensive model Internal Family Systems and understanding our emotional “parts” The difference between insight and action in behavior change How trauma can lead to emotional reactivity and how to regulate it Why connection is the ultimate goal of healing and self-mastery The importance of giving yourself permission to pause and prioritize healing Resources Mentioned: Frazier's Dissociative Table Technique – A tool to identify internal parts and unresolved trauma Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) – A trauma-informed approach for rapid emotional processing Internal Family Systems (IFS) by Richard Schwartz Book: No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey (reference to “Sharpen the Saw”) Loving-Kindness Meditation – A mindfulness practice focused on compassion for self and others Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – Insights on unmet needs and attachment ruptures in couples Quote from C.S. Lewis – “There are no ordinary people. You have never talked to a mere mortal.” Listener Takeaway: You don't have to be perfect to lead yourself well. Begin by noticing your patterns, asking what your emotions are trying to tell you, and taking small, intentional steps toward the connection and healing you deserve. Self-leadership is ultimately a journey toward becoming the kind of person who can love—and be loved—deeply.
Many of us hold the convenient belief that we possess a single identity. Dr. Richard Schwartz began challenging the flatness of that assumption in the early 1980s. His curiosity led to the creation of the Internal Family Systems Model (IFS), which recognizes the role of internal “parts” or subpersonalities that resemble a family structure. Forty years later, Dick continues to expand on the model, exploring its capacity to resolve interpersonal conflicts, address broader societal issues, and reconnect us to our innate humanity. On this episode of Transforming Trauma, host Emily Ruth and Dr. Schwartz discuss how IFS helps clients reclaim their agency, restore inner harmony between their diverse parts, and strengthen their capacity to reveal their true self. About Dr. Richard Schwartz: Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that de-pathologizes the multi-part personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. He is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. Dick lives with his wife Jeanne near Chicago, close to his three daughters and his growing number of grandchildren. Learn More: IFS Institute LinkedIn *** To read the full show notes and discover more resources, visit https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/transformingtrauma SPACE: SPACE is an Inner Development Program of Support and Self-Discovery for Therapists on the Personal, Interpersonal, and Transpersonal Levels offered by the Complex Trauma Training Center. This experiential learning program offers an immersive group experience designed to cultivate space for self-care, community support, and deepening vitality in our professional role as therapists. Learn more about how to join. *** The Complex Trauma Training Center: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com View upcoming trainings: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/schedule/ *** The Complex Trauma Training Center (CTTC) is a professional organization providing clinical training, education, consultation, and mentorship for psychotherapists and mental health professionals working with individuals and communities impacted by Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Complex Trauma (C-PTSD). CTTC provides NARM® Therapist and NARM® Master Therapist Training programs, as well as ongoing monthly groups in support of those learning NARM. CTTC offers a depth-oriented professional community for those seeking a supportive network of therapists focused on three levels of shared human experience: personal, interpersonal & transpersonal. The Transforming Trauma podcast embodies the spirit of CTTC – best described by its three keywords: depth, connection, and heart - and offers guidance to those interested in effective, transformational trauma-informed care. We want to connect with you! Facebook @complextraumatrainingcenter Instagram @complextraumatrainingcenter LinkedIn YouTube
I'm so thrilled to welcome Dick Schwartz, the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), back to the podcast, as well as my friend Ocean, who brings her voice and lived experience to this important conversation. Today, we explore the intersection between IFS and the plural community--those living with DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and OSDD (Other Specified Dissociative Disorders). What's the difference between DI parts and the IFS parts many of us talk about? How can we bridge misunderstandings between the IFS community and those living with more distinct parts? This conversation was deeply moving and healing. I'm so grateful to both Dick and Ocean for their honesty, wisdom, and compassion. In this episode, we explore: The differences and overlap between DI parts and IFS parts Why the plural community has sometimes felt unseen and misunderstood by IFS The harm in labeling parts as managers, firefightes and exiles The complicated relationship many survivors have with Self Energy Strategies for working with systems shaped by deep trauma Why trust, patience, and honoring every part is a prerequisite to healing Be sure to watch the extended video interview with Dick and Ocean over on our Substack. Favorite Quotes: “IFS was never meant to pathologize people. It was meant to honor the fact that all of us are multiple, and that those parts aren't what they seem.” — Dick Schwartz "There's a huge difference between saying, 'Your parts are managers, firefighters, and exiles,' and saying, 'I'm noticing some of your parts seem to be taking on these roles to protect you.'" — Ocean About Tiffany "Ocean" Morgan Tiffany Morgan (Ocean) is a Certified IFS therapist, consultant, and educator with lived experience of OSDD (Otherwise Specified Dissociative Disorder). She specializes in eating disorders, complex PTSD, and dissociative disorders, and brings over 30 years of experience to her work supporting deep healing and system-wide trust. She is passionate about destigmatizing DID, neurodivergence, and the multiplicity of mind. She creates compassionate, inclusive spaces where all parts are welcome and seen. She also shares resources and reflections through her platform, tidesoftransformation.com, and co-sponsors the podcast A Couple of Multiples. About Richard "Dick" Schwartz Dr. Richard Schwartz is the founder of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy., He is the author of several books, including No Bad Parts and You Are the One You've Been Waiting For, and continues to lead workshops and trainings worldwide through the IFS Institute. Episode Sponsors: Pisgah Coaching Institute Founded by IFS trained master coach Brian Jaudon, a pioneer in the integration of IFS and coaching for more than two decades. Brian and his faculty teach a blended methodology for clarifying and living into a vision of any kind. Enrollment is now open for his 2026 training. pisgahcoaching.com Cape Cod Institute This summer, deepen your practice with half-day CE courses at the Cape Cod Institute, offered in person on Cape Cod or live online from anywhere. Learn from IFS leaders Jeanne Catanzaro, Richard Schwartz, and Cece Sykes, or explore topics like mindfulness, couples therapy and leadership and many more with experts shaping the field. Celebrating 45 years, the 2025 season runs from June, 30 to August, 22. Start your day with interactive learning, then spend your afternoons applying new insights with clients, connecting with colleagues or exploring the cape. Learn more and register at www.cape.org Use Discount Code: theoneinside for $50 off. About The One Inside: Check out The One Inside Substack community to access all episodes, exclusive extended interviews, meditations and exercises, and more. Find The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He's a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence. Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. To learn more about sponsorship opportunties on The One Inside Podcast, email Tammy
What if every part of you—even the ones you struggle with—deserves compassion? In this live session, we'll explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) through the lens of the book No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz. Learn how to connect with and heal different aspects of yourself, fostering greater self-acceptance, inner harmony, and emotional freedom.
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Welcome to part 4 of the How To Heal series. In this episode about radical listening, you'll learn strategies for listening more carefully and trusting your intuition and inner wisdom so that you can build a better relationship with your core self.You'll Learn:How to practice radical listening with compassion The 4 parts within you that you are listening toExamples of patterns that might not be serving you5 steps to radical listening and a deeper understanding of yourselfThe closer you move to your authentic, core self, the more content you will feel. This truest version of you feels peace no matter what is happening. -------------------------------------Healing is really about wanting to feel better. To feel freedom, joy, gratitude, peace, safety, and calm. To be kinder to yourself, become a good friend to yourself, notice your patterns, and make small changes to influence them. Those are our goals here.As my mentor, Martha Beck, says, “Your true nature, the part of you that always remembers what it is meant to be and never stops trying to be what it is, no matter what happens to her. Your birthright is to feel peace and joy and gratitude and love. And in your core, you carry all of that.” Radical ListeningThe goal of radical listening is to find your inner guidance to move away from the patterns that you've created to protect you from pain and toward new patterns that help you get what you actually want. We all have patterns in ways that we think, feel, and act. We need to look at them and ask ourselves where they're coming from. Are you trying to avoid pain? Are these patterns protecting you, or are they sabotaging you because you don't think you're worthy of feeling freedom, love, peace, and joy? The statements we're working with as we learn to radically listen are:I will listen to my needs and wants and see those as valid and important.I will listen to my intuition and trust my inner wisdom. Who Are You Listening To?When you practice radical listening, you are having a conversation with yourself. But who are you talking to? In his book No Bad Parts, Richard Schwartz outlines four parts that live within each of us: Your Inner ChildYou may have wounds or patterns that you developed in childhood. These were really important to you as a kid, but they might not be necessary now. These wounds are often based on attachment or authenticity. Perhaps you were conditioned in childhood to believe that you don't matter or that your needs aren't important. Or your need for security and attachment wasn't met, so you didn't feel safe. You may have been told all sorts of negative things about yourself. Or you were taught that you had to look or perform a certain way in order to be loved, valued, and accepted. For example, I grew up in a household where it often felt like there wasn't a grown up. As a result, I developed patterns of hypervigilance, overthinking, overplanning, overstructuring, and then getting easily dysregulated when things weren't going to my plan. Now that I am the adult, I've had to teach myself (and my inner child) that I am safe. The grown-ups are here.Were you taught that your value depended on your grades, performance in sports, or how nice you were? Did you hear that you were dumb, ugly, mean, selfish, lazy, rude, or a problem? What messages did you hear in childhood that you might still be acting out today? Maybe it's time to look at those messages and examine them. Where's the evidence? Your PainOur wounds and patterns can also come from culture - religion,...
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Have you ever felt like a part of you is holding you back? This week Luke Gordon (coach and co-founder of Choose Recovery Services and host of the Beyond the Facade podcast) joins Alana, and together they explore the transformative journey of parts work and the power of self-acceptance in healing. Luke courageously shares his own story of how understanding his protective parts led to breakthrough moments in his recovery. Discover powerful insights on acknowledging and understanding the different parts of yourself to promote deeper connection and authentic living. Ready to do your own parts work? Register now!Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom. Referenced in this episode:No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzAltogether You and Altogether Us by Jenna Riemersma and Dr. Richard SchwartzComing Up!The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically.Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources.Watch us on YouTube.Schedule a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesChoose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Connect with us on Social Media:Alana GordonAmie WoolseyChoose Recovery Services
Hi friends, welcome back to the podcast! I'm thrilled to share this deeply insightful conversation I had with Stacey Uhrig, a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach who has a gift for breaking down the complexities of developmental trauma into something we can all understand and work with.In this episode, Stacey and I explore how our childhood patterns and core beliefs influence our lives—and how we can heal and transform them to find greater peace, joy, and connection. Stacey's approach draws heavily from Internal Family Systems (IFS), a therapeutic model developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz that looks at the different “parts” within us and how they work together—or sometimes in conflict—to shape our inner world.Here's what we cover:What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)? Stacey explains how our inner parts develop as a response to survival needs, creating a fascinating internal system that's here to protect us, even if it sometimes causes us stress or pain.Understanding Our Inner Parts: Stacey describes how these internal “managers,” “firefighters,” and “exiles” influence our behaviors, relationships, and decision-making.From Trauma to Wholeness: We dive into how IFS helps us connect with our authentic self, clearing emotional layers and finding self-leadership.Tools and Resources: Stacey shares her favorite books like No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz and encourages exploring IFS-trained therapists or coaches for deeper work.This conversation was so healing and enlightening for me, and I hope it resonates deeply with you too. I left feeling empowered to approach my inner world with more compassion and curiosity—and I can't wait for Stacey to come back for another episode!Connect with Stacey Uhrig:Website: flipyourmindset.comInstagram: @staceyuhrigYouTube: Flip Your MindsetStay Connected with Me:Website: katiefarinas.comInstagram: @katiemomandyogiEmail: katie@momontheverge.orgIf this episode spoke to you, I'd love for you to share it with someone you care about! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and check out my website for more resources to help you find your purpose and peace.Thank you for being here!New Opportunities to Work with Katie:
Tim shares his mental health journey throughout 2024. Tim opens up about his struggles with apathy, suicidal thoughts, and the conflict between his professional role as a coach and his personal experiences. He discusses the importance of self-awareness and the tools he uses to manage his well-being, such as journaling and meditation. Tim also reflects on a transformative trip to India and his decision to walk across the country as a form of personal pilgrimage. The episode emphasizes vulnerability, acceptance, and the ongoing journey of mental health. Connect with Tim! Support his Walk Across America: https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-tims-walk-for-mens-mental-health LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/timperreira/ Reflections on 2024's Mental Health Journey (00:00:00) Tim reflects on his past mental health experiences and the cyclical nature of challenges. Signs of Decline (00:06:40) Tim identifies habits that indicated a decline in his mental health around June. The Avalanche Effect (00:08:22) Tim describes the overwhelming feeling of apathy affecting his usual coping mechanisms. Coping Strategies (00:08:34) Tim outlines his toolbox of strategies to maintain mental well-being despite challenges. Experiencing Apathy (00:09:53) Tim discusses how apathy impacted his motivation and daily activities. Suicidal Thoughts Emergence (00:12:48) Tim reveals the onset of suicidal thoughts during a particularly difficult period. Past Experiences with Depression (00:14:01) Tim recounts his previous struggles with depression and its impact on his life. Turning Point in Career (00:15:03) Tim shares a pivotal moment that led him to reassess his life and priorities. Unexpected Urge to Jump (00:18:55) Tim describes a shocking moment of suicidal ideation while running across the Golden Gate Bridge. Understanding Suicidal Ideation (00:24:26) Tim discusses the distinction between wanting to end life and wanting to eliminate a part of oneself. Finding Hope in Struggles (00:25:25) He reflects on how his challenges might eventually help him and others. Living Misaligned (00:26:32) Tim shares his realization of living misaligned with his true desires and values. The Shift in Perspective (00:28:36) Tim describes a significant shift in how he perceives his emotions and struggles. The Concept of No Bad Parts (00:29:13) Discussion on the book "No Bad Parts" and how it influenced their understanding of emotions. Navigating Emotional Resistance (00:34:46) They discuss the impact of resisting emotions and the importance of acknowledging them. Hope Through Connection (00:39:51) The conversation touches on the importance of community and shared experiences in healing. Traveling to India (00:40:57) Tim shares his transformative experience during a pilgrimage in India. The Nature of Change (00:49:05) Discussion about personal growth and how experiences mold individual identities over time. Embracing Transformation (00:51:04) The importance of allowing change and letting go of old identities for personal growth. Non-Judgment and Freedom (00:51:58) Tim emphasizes the liberating feeling of being non-judgmental towards oneself and others. Loving Reality (00:53:09) Tim shares insights from Byron Katie's book about accepting reality as it is. The Pressure of Expectations (00:54:17) Speaker 1 discusses the stress of business growth and the importance of being present. Authenticity in the Journey (00:55:19) Tim describes his upcoming walk as a transformative pilgrimage for personal and mental health awareness. Preparation for Change (00:56:10) Tim shares the emotional significance and preparation for his journey ahead. Eulogy for the Old Self (01:02:51) Tim discusses writing a eulogy for his past self as part of his transformation process. Support for the Journey (01:04:10) Tim outlines how others can support him during his walk and the mission behind it.
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David & Sherie finish talking about internal family systems or IFS. This will help you to know if it's going to help in your own healing and growth process and whether or not more information will get you where you want to be. If so, we recommend the following books: No Bad Parts: https://a.co/d/9ezT5RVInternal Family Systems Workbook: https://a.co/d/buzWoerAre you interested in worthing with us directly? Please reach out! Work with David or learn more about him here: https://www.discoverinnovo.com/Work with Sherie or learn more about her here: https://lakewoodfamilytherapy.com/sherie-adams-christensen/
To celebrate my podcast's rebrand, I invited my friend James Kerr to help me with this re-introduction episode, Who The F*ck is Nadine Zumot Part 2. Join us for a candid conversation where I share my money story, and my path from working in accounting to becoming a financial wellness and trauma coach. If you are interested in checking out Who the F*ck is Nadine Part One, go here.Mentioned in this episode:- Kat HoSoo Lee- Financial Coach for Tattoo Artists, Ryan Roi.- No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz- The 8 Money Archetypes by Deborah Price- Dr Gabor Mate- Dr Peter Levine____________________________ Connect with James:James Kerr is Father, husband, musician, tattoo artist and a trauma informed coach. James has worked in the tattoo industry for 19 years. As a trauma survivor, he has had to do a lot of work on himself in order to prevent passing down the cycle of abuse to his child. That work started when his mother finally gave his father the choice of either stopping the physical abuse, or losing his family. James' healing journey lead him through dark places, crossing into methanphetamine abuse starting at age 14 and into mental hospitals and halfway houses. To connect with James and view his art, or maybe even get a fab tattoo, visit https://www.captainkerrart.com/Listen to James' podcast, The Fire of Truth here: https://www.youtube.com/@fireoftruthpodcastThank you for being here ❤️ ⭐️If you are interested in working with me 1:1 APPLY HERE!✨If this podcast is a helpful resource for you, please share it with your friends, on social media, and leave a 5-star rating and review.Connect with me on Instagram for free tips, inspo: https://www.instagram.com/nadinezumot/ ~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony
Hopestream for parenting kids through drug use and addiction
ABOUT THE EPISODE:Everyone knows the experience of internal dialogue and conflict about who we are and how we will respond to the world around us. It can feel as if there are parts of us at war with each other. For kids using substances, these parts can become extremely polarized – for instance, part of them wants nothing more than to use, and another genuinely desires self-control. My guest today says that while their inner parts are engaged in this debate about use, it's hard for them to see the underlying cause of the substance use or addictive behavior, whether that be loneliness, anxiety, or shame. Cece Sykes saw her first client almost 45 years ago, and since then has been doing incredible work with young people suffering from addiction and trauma. Cece is one of the first practitioners of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a framework for understanding the roles each of these parts are playing, discovering what role they play in our coping, and gaining a deeper understanding of our kids' needs and motivations.Interestingly, understanding IFS can change our relationship with ourselves as well. We all have these parts, and the self-examination that this framework provides can help us move beyond the unhealthy dynamics that often develop between parents and kids using substances. In this episode, Cece explains how that works, and how we can help our kids recoginze all the parts of them, without shame, and with more self-compassion.EPISODE RESOURCES:Cece Skyes, LCSW websiteIFS Therapy for Addictions“We All Have Parts,” by Colleen West“No Bad Parts,” by Dr. Richard SchwartzThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsLearn about The Woods, our private online community for dadsFind us on Instagram: @hopestreamcommunityDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
Have you ever met someone who is doing the thing you wish “younger you” had known? Recently, I met Esther and wow…Just. Wow. In many ways she reminded me of “younger me” but better. Way. Better. (And with a cool accent to boot:)She's been a mom on a mission to turn her household around. And she has implemented so much in such a short amount of time - literal lightning speed. I feel like what took me decades to figure out has taken Esther minutes. She's inspiring to say the least…especially if you have an extra spicy strong willed one. Esther started as a podcast listener and became a self-directed learner. Now she's a committed and super impressive, pack-leading Mama Bear. Take a listen, and imagine all the ways you can transform your family with the right support!In this episode, you'll learn:How we can use tech tools and old-fashioned compassion to support moms wherever they are in their pack leadership journeys.Why well-meaning parents mistakenly see conformity and obedience as kid-raising goals.What I really think of the performative perfection standards too many of us hold ourselves to as parents.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-301About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksThe Highly Sensitive Child, by Elaine Aron, Ph.D. https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/Dr. William Sears' Attachment Parenting https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/attachment-parenting/No Bad Parts, by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. https://ifs-institute.com/nobadpartsOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Jill is happy to welcome listeners back for the second part of her conversation with trauma-informed master coach Sarah Failla! (If you missed last week's episode, you can still go ahead and listen to this one now and go back and listen to part 1 later.) In the first part, Jill and Sarah had a fascinating conversation filled with twists and surprises, and they talked about topics such as faith, personal growth, and why Sarah ultimately left organized religion. Sarah and Jill also discussed internal family systems, also known as parts work, which they continue to talk about in this part. They explore parts work in depth and even explore Jill's own parts as an example of what Sarah's process looks like. Their conversation highlights how understanding these inner parts can lead to profound personal growth and healing, with Sarah and Jill engaging in a revealing exploration of Jill's own parts, including a protective "monster" and a vulnerable inner child, uncovering how these aspects have influenced her choices and self-perception. They discuss the importance of acknowledging and integrating these parts to move beyond past traumas and current challenges. Listen in to gain a deeper understanding of how parts work can offer new perspectives on personal development and emotional healing. Whether you're new to parts work or looking to deepen your practice, this discussion offers valuable insights and practical examples! Show Notes: [03:25] - What is parts work? [04:54] - Jill identifies some of her own parts. [07:18] - Hear how Sarah recognized that past experiences, like feeling controlled as a child, can influence present behavior. [09:39] - At 45, Sarah feels her age by connecting with her inner child and integrating past experiences into her present self. [11:15] - Sarah highlights the importance of understanding and healing the parts of ourselves that may be causing current issues. [14:22] - Jill reflects on the sadness of always being the one to invite others and connects it to her childhood desire to escape her unsafe and embarrassing home. [17:55] - Jill feels anger and protectiveness toward her younger self and struggles with the intense emotions that surface when she tries to connect with her past. [19:31] - Jill felt a powerful, protective part of herself emerge as an almost monstrous presence when reflecting on her anger. [21:35] - Recognizing the development of her "mama bear" instinct, Jill understands it as a protective force that formed after childhood trauma. [25:10] - In reflecting on past relationships, Jill identifies that she sought out unhealthy partners unknowingly searching for a sense of protection she felt she lacked. [28:35] - Jill's protective part emerged after a traumatic experience in college which helped her leave an abusive relationship and empowered her to recognize her worth. [30:43] - Jill acknowledges that her protective part is no longer needed in the same way and envisions it as a friendly, supportive presence. [33:25] - Jill finds this experience powerful, despite her tendency to second-guess her reactions and insights. [34:42] - Sarah emphasizes interconnectedness, helping clients recognize their parts. [37:06] - Sarah has calmed her own parts, highlighting the complexity and impulse-driven nature of parts work. [39:51] - Sarah makes note of Jill balancing hosting with inward reflection, relating to her own over-explaining tendencies. [42:50] - Everything is interconnected; parts work blends with inner child work. [44:05] - Sarah recommends Mary Magdalene Revealed and No Bad Parts as key books for self-discovery. Links and Resources: Sarah's Instagram Page Mary Magdalene Revealed: The First Apostle, Her Feminist Gospel & the Christianity We Haven't Tried Yet by Meggan Watterson No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Be You Podcast!” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
In this episode I have a paradigm shift that will alter your drive. We are all raised in the mono-mind belief system, the idea that we have one mind, and from this one mind we have an infinite amount of differing thoughts and emotions and impulses and urges. That we often feel are competing against each other. We think of our good selves and our bad selves. Our healthy and unhealthy aspects. And we get frustrated and feel guilty that our one mind seems so schizophrenic. My guest today has a very different theory and perspective. From his research he believes we have a multiple personality, and all the parts are doing what they are supposed to. If we understand this, we can use them in harmony to help us be our best selves. Richard C. Schwartz, is an American systemic family therapist, academic, author, and creator of the Internal Family Systems branch of therapy. He developed his foundational work with IFS in the 1980s after noticing that his clients were made up of many different pieces or "parts" of their "Self.” Dick is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and his latest of five books is called, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. The forward is by renowned music artist, Alanis Morissette who credits Dick's work with IFS as revolutionizing her own therapy and life perspective and even bringing her to her core spirituality. Famed physician Gabor Maté and psychologist Bessel Van Der Kolk attest to IFS as one of the most innovative and transformational therapies to have emerged in the present century. I sat down with Dick to dig into Internal Family Systems and the message in his new book, No Bad Parts, to uncover how changing our paradigm on the different parts of our minds can significantly alter what drives us for the better. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don't want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer. Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout. Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you know that you have NO bad parts? Not even that weird hair in your ear. In this episode, we'll tell you why when Brendan talks with the fantastic Tori Olds, PhD, psychologist, popular YouTuber and musician. The two dive into all kinds of parts like: Breaking down IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy, what it means and how it will make you love yourself more. Why it's actually OK to blame your parents. The science behind the single MOST POWERFUL form of neuroplasticity. The REAL reason why it's so hard to love ourselves. Whether or not it's ok to only talk to the HOT part of ourselves?RESOURCESTori OldsTori Olds YouTubeIFS Parts Work TherapyThe only real job in Austin Support the Show.
In this episode of The Kriya Yoga Podcast, Ryan Kurczak discusses the concept of spiritual strength and power, focusing on how to cultivate these attributes through yoga and meditation practices. The core of the talk revolves around the teachings from the Yoga Sutras, particularly Sutra 23 in Chapter 3, which highlights the importance of friendship and its role in developing spiritual strength. The speaker explains that by contemplating and engaging in true friendship, one can cultivate immense spiritual power akin to the strength of an elephant. This concept extends beyond mere social friendliness to include deep, internal self-compassion and acceptance. The discussion delves into the idea that many people turn to meditation and spirituality due to underlying emotional or psychological distress. It is emphasized that instead of using meditation as a means to suppress these feelings, individuals should foster a compassionate relationship with themselves, recognizing and attending to their inner wounds. This approach not only enhances meditation practice but also leads to genuine spiritual growth and strength. Mr. Kurczak also shares personal anecdotes, including the impact of significant losses in his life, which forced him to internalize support and engage in profound self-analysis. He cites the book "No Bad Parts" by Richard Schwartz, which aligns with the talk's theme of embracing all aspects of oneself with love and compassion. In conclusion, Ryan encourages listeners to practice self-analysis, cultivate internal friendship, and approach meditation not as an escape but as a means to become more present, alive, and spiritually robust. -- Your host, Ryan Kurczak, is a Kriya Yoga meditation teacher and author. He was authorized to teach Kriya Yoga in 2005, by Roy Eugene Davis, a direct student of Paramahansa Yogananda. If you would like to participate in online live sessions consider becoming a member of The Kriya Yoga Online Patreon Community or applying to the Kriya Yoga Apprenticeship Program. For continued inspiration and instruction, please read my new book, An Essential Guide to Kriya Yoga Practice. Now available in hardcover and softback on Amazon. Also, now available Understanding the Holy Science: A Theoretical and Experiential Study Guide to Sri Yukteswar's Kriya Yoga Practice. For more information about Kriya Yoga events, courses and online classes please visit: A community of Kriya Yoga practitioners engaged in supporting this work. https://www.patreon.com/KriyaYoga Blog posts, books and information on the Kriya Yoga Apprenticeship Course. https://kriyayogaonline.com/ A Year Long Kriya Yoga Introduction Course Kriya Yoga Online Ashram (teachable.com) Hundreds of hours of videos related to Kriya Yoga and spiritual growth. https://www.youtube.com/user/KriyaYogaOnline
This week Scott is joined by therapist and creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Richard Schwartz. Dr. Schwartz offers his latest thoughts on IFS, personal burdens, and the 8 C's of Self-Energy. He even helps Scott make contact with a part of himself that's been buried since childhood summer camp during an impromptu therapy session. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dr. Rick and Forrest are joined by Dr. Richard Schwartz, creator of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy, to explore how we can integrate all the aspects of who we are. They explain the IFS model, the nature of parts and their roles, and how we can use this knowledge to increase self-awareness and deal with common problems. Then Rick and Dr. Schwartz dive deep into the nature of the “Self,” where it comes from, and how we can tune into and strengthen it.This was a wide-ranging conversation, and we were thrilled to have Dr. Schwartz on the podcast again. You won't want to miss this one.About our Guest: Dr. Richard “Dick” Schwartz is the creator of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy, and has authored a number of books and over fifty articles focused on IFS. His newest book is No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model.Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there. Key Topics:0:00: Introduction2:15: Quick explanation of the IFS Model6:45: Releasing the “Self”11:10: Where does the Self come from?16:00: How the practical side of IFS connects to the spiritual23:20: The four goals of IFS, and parts of parts26:15: Becoming your own attachment figure32:15: Richard's experience integrating his exiled parts37:25: Personification in IFS. Why think in terms of “parts”? 46:15: Why befriend our “bad” parts?49:55: The non-pathologizing nature of IFS in a clinical framework55:25: First and second darts57:15: Identifying parts with curiosity, courage, and physical awareness1:03:25: How asking yourself questions gets you in touch with your intuition1:12:45: RecapYou can watch this episode on YouTube.Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website
If you haven't had the pleasure of seeing one of Flynn Skidmore's viral videos on social media or listening to his incredible podcast, let us introduce you: Flynn is a therapist trained in Internal Family Systems and somatic experiencing. And let's just say it like this, Flynn + TBM = total power couple. Today he and Jessica dive into so many compelling rabbit holes, like exploring your internal landscape in order to regulate your nervous system, becoming more emotionally “athletic,” and starting to get in tune with your body about what clues it may be giving you regarding your relationship dynamics. Also! if you've been manifesting a ticket to the LA stop of the TBM speaking tour, you might wanna listen in… Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:Narcissism and scarcity mindsets in relationshipsTapping into expressing feelings to navigate interpersonal relationships and process past woundsHow love, safety, and belonging are abundant and available and how to attain and cultivate the feelings you want in a relationshipReframing relationships to be “co-creative” dynamicsHow Flynn arrived at a place of joy and abundance from the inside out using energy and self-sufficiency.Building relationship foundations from the energy we want to ultimately experienceFlynn's perspective around ADHD and tailoring a helpful process in order to achieve goalsLearning to allow yourself to have the life you want and setting yourself up for the abundance available THEMES / TIME STAMPS:Understanding narcissism and processing past wounds (00:17:50)Mindset shifts surrounding ADHD and using multiple tools and pathways to understanding ourselves (00:55:00)Self love, compassion, and choosing to give yourself the love you desire (01:08:10) Resources: Get your Tickets for The Magnetic Self Speaking Tour with Lacy & Jessica New York SEPT 16th SOLD OUTVancouver BC NOV 4th - more tickets added!Los Angeles DEC 2nd (Join the waitlist More tickets to be released!Take the Quiz to see what Manifestation phase you are in!BITE - 20% off your first order with code MAGNETICFresh mint toothpaste bits Seed - code TBM for 30% off your first month's supply of Seed's DS-01® and PDS-08™% off your first month's supply with code TBMSeed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic (for adults ages 18+)Seed's PDS-08™Pediatric Daily Synbiotic - (for kids ages 3-17) No Bad Parts by Dick Schwartz, Ph.DFind our Reprogramming DIs mentioned in this episode inside our Daily Practice Library!Find all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! Where To Find Flynn!The Flynn Skidmore PodcastFlynn Skidmore's NewsletterConnect more with Flynn SkidmoreFlynn Skidmore IGFlynn Skidmore TikTokOther ResourcesSubmit to Be a Process GuestText Us: +1-213-423-5226 - (texting is only for US, Canada, & Puerto Rico)Alexis Smart x TBM EXPANDED Flower RemedyTBM Manifestation Journal Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryUnblock with us! Wanna find out why you're not manifesting? Start our free mini- workshop!