Selfish for Success: Entrepreneur | Business | Psychology | Self Esteem | Happiness | Health

Last time, we discussed how crucial Resilience is for success, how it’s vital to have the strength of mind and body to weather the bumps on the road to success. The second crucial ability you need is Resourcefulness. Resourcefulness is the ability to skillfully and quickly solve problems, overcome challenges, and generate creative solutions. Without it, you're dead in the water. In today's podcast, we cover what Resourcefulness is, why it's critical to your success, what happens when you lack it, and how to access and develop it in yourself. Episode highlights:  The KEY to being resourceful: using what you already have Most people don’t realize they have enormous resources at their disposal that they can use RIGHT NOW to attain anything they want What your PRIMARY resource is and why most people barely use it You already have within you the most powerful tool in the world (I'll tell you how to access it) The 2 shifts you need to make to become powerfully Resourceful A famous example from history that exemplifies resourcefulness Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned SFS 071: How to Become Resilient Apollo 13 (movie) Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Resilience is crucial for success in anything. When you pursue big dreams or goals, challenges, problems and setbacks inevitably arise. If you lack Resilience to withstand those challenges, you will fail. Resilience means having the strength of mind and body to face and overcome challenges as you pursue your goals and dreams. It’s the ability to take a hit and bounce back. A resilient boxer can take punches and keep fighting, and stay in the fight until success. You must learn to do the same. What happens to most people is they start pursuing their dream, then they run into challenges. They quickly get frustrated, discouraged, and start doubting themselves, causing them to lose their confidence and motivation, AND THEY GIVE UP. This happens because they expected it to be easy, and smooth, and when challenges come up they see them as signs to give up or that they’re incapable. This mental outlook WEAKENS them mentally, emotionally and physically, zapping their Resilience. In today's podcast, I reveal the secret to becoming as Resilient as steel, so you can handle the inevitable challenges that arise on the way to your dream, and ultimately succeed. Episode highlights: The 3 KEYS to becoming powerfully resilient EXPECT that you will have challenges and problems on the road to your dream What you can learn from trees about resilience You must be flexible and adapt You need emotionally-compelling reasons WHY you want your dream Resilience is a MUSCLE--the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

There's a lot of talk about mindset. But WHY is mindset so important, and why does your success in EVERY area of your life depend on it? Your mindset is the fundamental beliefs you hold about yourself and the world. It determines how you feel, what actions you take, and the habits you develop. It creates who you are and what happens in your life. Your life right now (your level of success, emotional state, level of self-esteem, income, and how happy you are) is a direct reflection of your mindset. Today, I reveal why this is and how you can develop a winning mindset. Episode highlights: Your mindset will determine whether you have a life of happiness and success, or a life of fear, frustration, failure and unhappiness Your mindset is the ENGINE that powers you to success Skills, strategy, and knowledge are only 10% of success Why the best athletes in the world can CHOKE in competition 6 ways to adopt and foster a success mindset 2 CRUCIAL beliefs you need to succeed (otherwise, you're SCREWED) Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Mindset, by Carol S. Dweck, PhD SFS 061: The Secret to Self-Confidence Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Perfectionism means always trying to meet high standards AND not making mistakes or failing as you try to meet those standards. The problem with perfectionism is NOT high standards, but the rules for HOW to meet those standards. And the rules are: I can NEVER make mistakes, perform at an average or sub-par level, fail, stumble, and not be the best I can be--ALWAYS. If you try to live by these rules, it'll cause enormous havoc on your mental health, happiness, and enjoyment of life. WHY does perfectionism lead to misery and failure? And what is the rational alternative that allows you to have high standards and big dreams, without all the stress, anxiety, and pressure that perfectionists frequently experience? In today's episode, I'm going to give you a way to meet super-high standards, achieve really big goals, and also ENJOY your life in the process. Episode highlights: The FALSE alternative of perfectionism vs. low standards A way you can actually be perfect (without the trap of perfectionism) What a chipped tea cup and pets can teach you about perfection Perfectionists try to meet a standard that's IMPOSSIBLE for human beings How perfectionists continuously SCREW themselves (and how to avoid this) Why mistakes, setbacks, and failures are MASSIVE THREATS to a perfectionist Why perfectionism leads to a fear of taking risks Why perfectionism causes an enormous amount of anxiety and stress With perfectionists, life becomes a constant test of their self worth Many top performers are perfectionists, but that's NOT why they succeed (in fact, they would achieve more and with more joy if they weren't perfectionists) How perfectionism can lead to depression Why mistakes and poor performance are a GIFT that can lead you to excellence The RIGHT standard for high achievement and a joyous life “I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” Michael Jordan (from Brainyquote) Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Everyone procrastinates. But when it becomes chronic or stops you from performing tasks required to move towards your dreams and goals, it can have a devastating impact on your life. Today, I reveal what causes procrastination, and the most effective strategies for overcoming it so it doesn't stop you from creating the life you want. Episode highlights: The 3 main causes of procrastination How procrastination can literally KILL you Why sometimes it's GOOD to procrastinate Procrastination is just a form of AVOIDANCE 7 ways to STOP procrastinating The first question to ask yourself when you're procrastinating Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned SFS 039: How to Stop Beating Yourself Up Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Life consists of making decisions, small and big, every day. If you have fear or difficulty making decisions, it can cripple and inhibit your ability to accomplish your goals and be happy. WHY do so many people fear making decisions? The main reason is they fear making the WRONG decision. But that's not even the real fear. Today, I talk about what really drives the fear, and give you 6 keys for becoming good at making decisions. Episode highlights: The 4 fears underlying the fear of making the wrong decision The clearer you are about what you want, the easier it is to make decisions Making decisions is about YOUR values and knowing what’s good for you Why knowing the HIERARCHY of your values makes making decisions much easier Making decisions is an art AND a science Focus on making the best choice rather than avoiding making the wrong one How a quote from a rock song can relieve your anxiety about making decisions An EMPOWERING way to think about decisions Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Fear of failure is probably the #1 reason people don’t go after their dreams. Fear comes from the perception of danger or threat. But with fear of failure, the threat is NOT physical, but something more powerful. Today, we're going to delve into fear of failure and reveal why it's so deadly and stops so many people in their tracks. Episode highlights: What you're REALLY afraid of when you fear failure The way most people handle fear is completely WRONG and actually INCREASES their fear The two keys to conquering fear of failure How fear of failure is often tied to your SELF-ESTEEM (and why that's a massive threat) Knowing how you INTERPRET failure is one key to dissolving your fear Why many people would rather give up their dreams than face their fear How to turn failure into a tool of success Why when you fail, it means POSITIVE things about you If you're not failing,  it means you're not going after anything significant in your life Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

One of my email subscribers, a 20-year-old named Muskaan, emailed me in response to an email I sent out about "Why it's so hard to put yourself first" (you can read his full email below). It raised some big questions for him. Like, should we give up our dreams for others? When he was 12, Muskaan gave up his dream of being a tennis player to please his father who wanted him to focus more on his studies. Later, Muskaan gave up his dream of being an artist, also for his father. This is an issue almost everyone struggles with, and it's one reason I started this podcast--to provide some clear and rational answers to these types of questions. Today, I respond to the question of whether should you give up your dreams for others. Episode highlights: Why giving up your dreams for ANYONE is the worst thing you can do Why would someone else's happiness depend on you giving up your dreams? Giving up your dreams leads to unhappiness, dissatisfaction, and resentment (if done for someone else) School shouldn't be the only value for a child Why the most important part of childhood should be figuring out what you LOVE How you can put someone else first (while you're also putting YOURSELF first) People who love you should SUPPORT your dreams 100% (NOT ask you to give them up) Muskaan's email: Hello Dr. Orma , I appreciate you and your kind words. But I've a question for you. It'd be much appreciable if you could help me with this question. In this email you said that we've been taught that a good person is someone who puts others first and himself or herself last . So I wanted to ask you that , is it bad to put others first? And another thing, yes it is true and I appreciate your word that no one has ever come up with a rational justification for why we should give up on our dreams for others. According to me, we'd give up our dreams for those who we love and everyone loves their respectful family. Sometimes in our lives, there comes a point where you need to give up on your dreams. For the better understanding and explanation, here are my few words which are related to my life . I gave up on my dreams when I was around 12 or 13 years old. I love to play tennis back then. I was always play tennis with my brother and sister but one day..... I stopped playing tennis because of my father. He wanted me to focus on my studies for the better future . Yes, it is good thing that he cares about me a lot and he always wants my best. I also had my interest in art and craft too. I always wanted to become a good artist but.....again because of my father i gave up on this dream too. But I always say this to myself every morning that "this is not the end yet, I'll find my way to have what I want, it's just not the right time" :) I know I've big dreams to achieve but I'd never give up on my parents dreams too and I don't think so anyone would want that too. I may not be right in this case but it's just my opinion which I thought to share with you sir. So I guess we'd give up on our dreams for our loved ones . :) Thank you !! Regards, Muskaan Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

How many times have you heard someone say: "I'll pursue my dream (or goal) when..." and then they name some condition that has to be met BEFORE they go for their dream. Maybe you've done this or are doing it now with a dream you have. The condition might be when you have enough confidence, or money, or the right credentials, or have improved yourself enough. Whatever it is it must be met first before you go after your dream. Waiting is deadly to your dreams and goals and it's almost always the wrong choice. I know because I've done it myself. Episode highlights: You'll NEVER feel fully ready to go after your dream Going for your dream takes courage, clarity and decisiveness There's no better time than NOW to pursue your dream The HUGE rewards of not waiting to take action The longer you wait, the longer you won't have the value you really want Waiting to pursue your dreams leads to REGRET Ask yourself: Am I postponing, or making excuses, or waiting until some condition has been met before I pursue my dream? If so, STOP WAITING and start pursuing your dream NOW. Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

A very overlooked and rarely talked about key to success is Responsibility. I'm not talking about doing chores or fulfilling dreaded obligations, but taking responsibility for the course of your life. It comes down to two choices: 1. Take 1000% responsibility for your life, happiness and success 2. Leave it up to someone or something else to give you the life you want The choice you make will have a PROFOUND impact on your success, happiness and self-esteem. Episode highlights: Why giving up responsibility leads to anxiety, passivity, and failure When you give up responsibility you give up control over your life Taking 1000% responsibility for your life leads to enormous benefits How taking the reins of your life makes each day an adventure Ask yourself: Am I taking 1000% responsibility for my life? Or am I waiting for someone or something else to give me what I want (happiness, my dreams or goals, my values)? What are the consequences or rewards of each choice?  Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned SFS 061: The Secret to Self-Confidence Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Today I give you a step-by-step process for getting ANYTHING you want. This is not hyperbole. If there's something you want in your life, this is the process you need to follow every time to get it. Episode highlights: Even if you know what you want (and how to get there) these TWO things can stop you The best way to learn how to do something you don't know how to do The main ROADBLOCKS that must be navigated successfully Why the last step is the hardest and what you need to nail it Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned SFS 061: The Secret to Self-Confidence Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

To get anything you want--a successful career, fulfilling relationship, peak health--you need to believe in yourself. You need to have self-confidence. If you don't, you won't go after big goals or dreams, or you will give up quickly. Strong self-confidence is essential for life success and happiness. Today, I talk about what confidence is and isn't, and how you can foster and build it within yourself. Episode highlights: The HUGE difference between uncertainty and self-doubt (and why you need to know it) What self-confidence is NOT Common beliefs about what creates self-confidence (and why they're all WRONG) Where self-confidence actually comes from The mindset you need to have for unstoppable self-confidence Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Mindset, by Carol S. Dweck Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Today I talk about the crucial difference between fear and anxiety, and why it's so important for your mental health and well being. Episode highlights: What CAUSES fear and anxiety The KEY difference between anxiety and fear How fear and anxiety can paralyze you and limit your life Fear stops MANY people from going after their dreams and goals How a phobia (intense fear) can be cured in minutes 99% of the time when you feel fear there's NO actual danger Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Are you living the life you want? Today I talk about why I'm asking this question and why answering it is crucial to your success and happiness. Episode highlights: Why this is such a scary question for most people What to do if the answer is "NO"? Why some people know what they want but still don't go after it The huge risk of NOT asking this question How to use this question to create a life you love Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

An article on the Today Show's website features a Tweet by Will Smith to his wife Jada Pinkett Smith for their 20th wedding anniversary. The Tweet got 1.3 million likes and 37,000 comments. I thought it was worth commenting on because there was much I agreed with, and some I didn't that I think is worth highlighting. Will Smith's full Tweet: “20 Years Ago Today we held hands and walked naively down that aisle. Here’s what I’ve learned since. . Love is Like Gardening... I have learned to focus on HELPING you to BLOSSOM into what YOU want to be (into what you were born to be)... Rather than Demanding that you become what my Fragile Ego needs you to be. . I’ve learned to take pleasure in Nourishing YOUR dreams... Rather than wrestling with you to Fulfill my Selfish Needs & Satiate My Insecurities. . I have learned that Love is Listening. Love is Giving. Love is Freedom. Happy Anniversary, My Queen! I am forever Devoted to Nurturing your Deepest Truth.” I break down his comments and talk about what I like, why I like it, and what I disagree with. Episode highlights: Why I agree that “Love is Like Gardening..." Why it's selfish to nurture and support your partner Why a healthy romantic relationship is both giving AND receiving Is having an ego good or bad? Why I hate the saying, "A happy wife is a happy life." Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Today Show article: "Will Smith's anniversary tribute to wife Jada is beautiful — and really deep" SFS 012: Is Unconditional Love Possible? (and finding success in romantic relationships) Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and sleep coaching with me.

Are you a complainer or do you spend time around people who bitch a lot? If so, you'll want to listen to this episode to learn why this is damaging to your life and happiness, and ways to stop doing it or disengaging from those people in your life. Episode highlights: How complaining can undermine your mood, success and motivation You have to first catch yourself complaining to break the habit Focus ONLY on what you have control over in your life Why it's USELESS to complain about other people Focus 99% on YOUR life and most important values If you're going to complain, then offer a better alternative The ONLY things you have control over are what you THINK and what you DO Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Mark Aramli is CEO and founder of BedJet, a climate control device he engineered for beds. BedJet is the #1 customer rated product in the mattress category on Amazon and has received hundreds of five-star reviews. Mark is one of the most famous “failures” from the hit TV show Shark Tank. After various roles as a management consultant assisting start-up environmental technology companies with their new products, Mark decided that developing cool new innovative home gadgets using applied science would be way more fun. And that was the inspiration behind BedJet. Episode Highlights: How bombing on Shark Tank "lit a fire" under Mark to succeed How he became one of the top 5 most successful "fails" in Shark Tank history How he increased his confidence in his product by using Kickstarter How he learned that just because someone is successful doesn't mean their advice is always right How NOT GIVING UP is one key to success when you have a viable goal How business success feels like winning the Super Bowl Why having an overarching sense of purpose helped Mark overcome self-doubt Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Bedjet website Bedjet info@bedjet.com Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Are you more selfish if you prefer the window seat on an airplane? That's what an article in the The Telegraph says. And they quote two psychologists who claim this is science. My first question after reading the article was: Where’s the science? There's no study referenced, no definition of “selfish”provided (of course they mean it negatively), and they treat the concept of selfishness very superficially. This may seem like a frivolous article, but it reflects some major problems with the media's non-objective presentation of science, the field of psychology's lack of science, and the superficial way selfishness is dealt with in our culture. Episode highlights: Why so many people are skeptical about the field of psychology Why you should be selfish when choosing your airplane seat How a seemingly harmless article can do real damage Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Telegraph Article: The science behind why people who prefer the window seat are more selfish Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Andy Lurling is a serial entrepreneur, mostly known for founding iOpener Media GmbH, which develops a technology that allows gamers to participate virtually and in real time. He's also a co-founder of LUMO Labs, a two-year venture builder program that besides providing seed funding, actively supports entrepreneurs with a ''hands on'' approach. LUMO labs is active in Eindhoven (The Netherlands) and Los Angeles. Episode Highlights: Why Andy takes 5 minutes a day to envision success How he keeps "sane" while advising 7 cutting-edge tech companies Why Andy thinks business success is 90% mental and emotional Why he calls entrepreneurs "artists" Two really effective ways to manage fear Why FREEDOM is what Andy loves most about being an entrepreneur Why Andy thinks getting an MBA is NOT the way to become an entrepreneur Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Lumo Labs website Andy's LinkedIn page Andy's email: Andy@lumolabs.io Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button]   Additional Resources Online coaching for entrepreneurs.

 When there's something you really want, it can sometimes be the hardest thing to pursue. It might be a dream career, a person you're wildly attracted to or excellent health, but you find yourself not going after it and even pushing it away or avoiding it. Unfortunately, this happens to many people, and they end up living without ever pursuing the things they really wanted. This is tragic, because (in my view) the purpose of life is to go after and achieve your dreams. This came up for me recently as I considered starting a new business, one that’s completely aligned with the work I’ve always wanted to do. And I resisted. So I thought about what was going on. I’ve seen this before with other people and with many of my clients. I identified 5 reasons why it’s so hard to pursue things you really want, and provide actionable tips on how to overcome these roadblocks so you can pursue your dreams. Episode highlights: Why the fear of failure is greatest with things most important to you How the negative ways we interpret failure stop us The one fear that stops many people (and they don't even know it's happening) Techniques for getting past your fear The many rewards of taking risks to go after what you want Quote by Mark Twain: "Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover." Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Peter Kortenhoeven is co-founder and creative director of Pillow’s Willow VR Studios, a game developer that focuses on virtual reality, augmented reality and mixed reality. He’s been an animator, lead animator and art director for several gaming companies, and then founded Pillow’s Willow in 2016. Episode Highlights: How Peter manages being a creative artist while building a profitable business Why Peter feels what he's doing as an artist and entrepreneur is important and significant What Peter loves most about his work How a tough biker guy transformed into a child when he played a VR computer game How Peter takes care of his health as a busy entrepreneur Why Peter thinks having a great product is the key to having a successful company Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Pillow’s Willow website Pillow's Willow Twitter and Facebook pages Peter's LinkedIn page Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button]   Additional Resources Online coaching for entrepreneurs.

Are you an Ambitious Dreamer? Do you have big goals and dreams, and doing what's necessary to go after and achieve them? Today, I explain what an ambitious dreamer is and why YOU should become one (if you're not one already). Episode highlights: Why an extraordinary life requires being an ambitious dreamer Some famous examples of ambitious dreamers (and why they were so successful) 4 powerful reasons why you should become an ambitious dreamer How dreaming big gets beaten out of us at a young age Quote from Steve Jobs: "We don't get a chance to do that many things, and every one should be really excellent. Because this is our life. Life is brief, and then you die, you know? And we've all chosen to do this with our lives. So it better be damn good. It better be worth it." Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Emotional fuel is critical for success as an entrepreneur. We talk about what emotional fuel is, why it's so important, and how you can generate it at will. Episode highlights: Positive vs negative emotional fuel How emotional fuel is created Emotional fuel is what motivates you to take action and pursue goals every day Why building a business requires TONS of emotional fuel 3 simple ways to generate emotional fuel Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned SFS 041: The Power of CLARITY in Your Business Purpose Richard Branson Interview Steve Jobs Interview Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand How I built This podcast Tucker The Man and His Dream Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button]   Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Casey Wahl is founder and CEO of Wahl & Case, a professional recruitment and executive search firm headquartered in Tokyo, Japan that creates digital solutions to solve the pain and frustration that exists in recruitment today. Casey was born in upstate New York, but spent his childhood in the Saudi Arabian deserts. Soon after he graduated from college, he moved to Japan, later earning an Executive MBA from the Instituto de Empresa in Madrid. Casey has lived and worked in Tokyo for the past 15 years. We talk about the biggest mental and emotional challenges he faces building an innovative company in Japan. Episode Highlights: Casey's biggest fears as an entrepreneur and how he manages them The importance of a good support system for overcoming mental challenges Why Casey feels like the kid in his family being an entrepreneur Casey Wahl: "As long as you have more dreams than accomplishments, I think you'll always be young." The signals when Casey is pushing himself too hard How Casey feels he inspires people by having dreams and actually going after them Why Casey thinks Japan is the best place in the world now to start a business Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Casey's LinkedIn & Twitter pages Casey’s website The Quiet Comeback, by Casey Wahl Startup Girls (Casey’s movie) Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button]   Additional Resources Online coaching for entrepreneurs.

In our last episode, I talked about how pride has been attacked throughout the ages and is said to be the ultimate sin. But in fact pride is crucial to your success, self-esteem and happiness as an entrepreneur. Today I give you 6 MORE reasons you should feel proud to be an entrepreneur: 1. You face big challenges 2. You increase wealth and prosperity for yourself and everyone else 3. You use your mind to the greatest extent 4. You change the world 5. You are productive 6. It takes a ton of courage Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned 27 Companies That Changed the World Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Michael Acton Smith is co-CEO and co-Founder of Calm, an App for Mindfulness and Meditation, which was Apple’s app of the year for the iPhone in 2017. He’s also the founder of Firebox.com and Mind Candy – the creators of the global children's phenomenon Moshi Monsters. Today we talk about how Michael, with his company Calm, wants to revolutionize mental health by helping people take care of their minds with the "same respect and care" they do their physical bodies. Episode Highlights: Why Michael calls Calm "Nike for the mind." How he manages the intense mental demands of being an entrepreneur The "electrifying" feeling of seeing others get value from what you create Why having a strong conviction and vision is vital to entrepreneurial success The powerful "sign" that tells Michael when  he's heading down the wrong business path Why Michael feels the best entrepreneurs sacrifice short-term gains for long-term success How being "a little bit selfish" made Michael happier, healthier and a better company leader How entrepreneurs wear as a "badge of honor" how little they sleep (and why Michael thinks this is "crazy") Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Michael's LinkedIn & Twitter pages Calm website Why We Sleep, by Matthew Walker Rest, by Alex Soojung-Kim Pang Stealing Fire, by Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal Lost Connections, by Johann Hari Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, by David Burns Michael’s 3 favorite current products: Ping Pong Table Pilot VBall pen MUJI Notebooks Citymapper App Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button] Additional Resources Online coaching for entrepreneurs.

Pride has been attacked throughout the ages and is said to be the ultimate sin. Instead, you're urged to be humble. But pride is crucial to your success, self-esteem and happiness as an entrepreneur. Today we discuss what pride actually is and why you deserve to feel it as an entrepreneur. Episode highlights:  6 reasons you should feel proud as an entrepreneur (and why) What pride is and isn't Why you need pride to have confidence in yourself and your business vision How pride fuels you to continue to improve and reach for higher and higher achievements Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Butter's restaurant in Scottsdale, Arizona Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Amarpreet Kalkat is the co-founder and chief technologist of Frrole, a social data startup defining the next-generation of consumer intelligence. We dive into his cutting-edge product, and explore his greatest mental and emotional challenges as an entrepreneur in building his company. Episode Highlights: The importance of pacing when building a business His biggest fear as an entrepreneur (and how he handles it) What he finds most exciting about being an entrepreneur Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Amarpreet's's website, LinkedIn & Twitter pages INC article about Frrole Amarpreet’s 3 favorite current products: Ifttt Zoom G Suite Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button] Additional Resources Online coaching for entrepreneurs.

It's rare to hear selfishness portrayed in the media positively, especially from well-known entrepreneurs. In an interview on CNBC, Shark Tank entrepreneur and founder of FUBU Daymond John says that the way high-profile people "maximize" their days is that, "They're selfish." John says: "We've given up our power to everybody. We wake up in the morning, answer a million emails with everybody's problems, look on social media; everybody's doing better than us. Get and talk to the kids for a second, 'I'll talk to you later,' and you never see your kids because you didn't schedule them on a list to be with your family, you scheduled to be in meetings." I admire John for saying this, as it goes against the grain to urge people to be selfish. We break down what he says and I add my take on it. Episode highlights: Why you can't succeed (for the long-term) without being selfish I share how it's still hard sometimes for me to say "no" and take care of myself Being selfish (in the rational way) is HARD (but the rewards are HUGE) Make sure you are setting "appointments" with people you love Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Shark Tank's' Daymond John: Being selfish is a key to success SFS 018: How to Become Free From Guilt Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button] Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

John Lee Dumas is an entrepreneur and host of the wildly-popular podcast Entrepreneurs ON FIRE, awarded 'Best of iTunes', where he interviews the worlds most successful Entrepreneurs 7-days a week. With over 1900 interviews, 1.3 million monthly listens, and an annual revenue well over 7-figures, JLD, as he’s known to his fans, is just getting started on his Entrepreneurial journey. Entrepreneur on Fire was one of the first podcasts I ever listened to, and John Lee Dumas more than any other podcaster inspired me to start my own podcast. I read his book, Podcast Launch, which taught me all the basic information I needed to get started. Podcasts are becoming popular with entrepreneurs, as it’s a great way to reach a target audience, spread your message and promote your products and services. We take a quick dive into how to build a successful podcast with an engaged, enthusiastic audience. Episode Highlights: The keys to JLD's success in business and podcasting Why it's vital to communicate directly with your audience Why you don't need a large audience to build a thriving podcast The significance of ice fishing to your podcasting success Why you should "boot" the negative people in your life Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned JLD's website, Twitter, Facebook , & Instagram pages Podcast Launch: How to Create, Grow & Monetize YOUR Podcast, by John Lee Dumas Entrepreneurs on Fire podcast Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button] Additional Resources Online coaching for entrepreneurs.

Time is your most precious commodity as an entrepreneur. If you don't protect it, it will be devoured by unimportant activities and relationships that suck your energy and ability to build and enjoy the life you desire. Therefore it's crucial you're SELFISH with your time. The reason I chose this topic today is that I've decided to go back to doing 1 podcast episode per week instead of 3. It's been fun putting out more content, but I didn't realize how much time it would require. I decided I had to be selfish with my time to honor the other values in my life (projects, business, self-care) and still create valuable content. I'm still committed to the podcast. In fact, we have several cool interviews with entrepreneurs, as well as solo episodes, that will be released in the coming weeks! Episode highlights:  What being selfish with your time means Why it's crucial for your success and happiness to be selfish with your time Why it's okay, healthy and moral for you to protect your time Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Being rationally selfish means figuring out what you want, and then going after it to create a flourishing life. To do that effectively, you have to be CLEAR about what you want. Crystal clear. The human mind is extremely powerful and can guide you to almost anything you want. But it can only do what you tell it to do. If you give it vague, fuzzy orders, it will create vague, fuzzy directions, and your chances of getting what you want will greatly diminish or be impossible. The key to getting what you want in your business is being extremely clear about what you want. That's exactly what I teach you how to do in today's episode. Episode highlights:  What it means to be clear in your business purpose Some helpful examples of clear business purposes Amazon's mission statement & why it's so powerful How a clear purpose lowers stress, keeps you focused & increases business success Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Amazon's mission statement Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Jay Papasan is a bestselling author that serves as vice president and executive editor at Keller Williams Realty International, the worlds largest real estate company. The books Jay’s helped craft have collectively sold over 8 million copies. His most recent book with Gary Keller entitled, The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results has sold over a million copies worldwide and garnered more than 300 appearances on national bestseller lists, including #1 on The Wall Street Journal’s hardcover business list. Jay formerly worked in the publishing industry at HarperCollins, where he helped piece together such bestselling books as Body-for-Life by Bill Phillips and Go for the Goal by Mia Hamm. As a bestselling author, Jay’s books have been on numerous bestselling lists, including The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and The New York Times. Episode Highlights: A very common misconception about writing books How to prevent overwhelm and simplify when pursuing a business How people become masters at what they do What can pull you through self-doubt as you pursue challenging goals Jay: "Success happens outside your comfort zone." How fear can be fun and exciting instead of negative Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Jay's website, Twitter, Facebook , & Instagram pages Jay's books The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results, by Gary Keller & Jay Papasan Mastery, by Robert Greene Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, by Carol S. Dweck SFS 026: 6 Tips for Tackling FEAR in the New Year Jaws Quote Jay mentioned: "We are not afraid of predators, we're transfixed by them, prone to weave stories and fables and chatter endlessly about them, because fascination creates preparedness, and preparedness, survival. In a deeply tribal way, we love our monsters." E.O Wilson Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me Follow @drsteveorma [fb_button] Additional Resources Coaching for entrepreneurs. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Self criticism is common among high achievers and those that set high standards for themselves. Entrepreneurs frequently fit into this category. Today I talk about how to stop beating yourself up while maintaining high standards and big and bold business and life goals. Episode highlights:  Debunking the belief that criticizing yourself makes you better Why beating yourself up has NO positive benefits A powerful way to stop beating yourself up How to continually get better as an entrepreneur Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

The idea of GRIT being an essential component of success has become popular in recent years. What is grit and does it require pushing beyond your mental and physical limits for you to succeed as an entrepreneur? Today we explore this question. The answer can make the difference between success and failure in your business. Episode highlights:  Why grit is necessary for business and life success Why grit doesn't mean pushing beyond your limits The distinct difference between grit and pushing too hard How to know when to stop working (and still have grit) Taking a long-term view of success Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Angela Lee Duckworth's Ted Talk Peter Diamandis The XPrize How to make a spaceship, by Julian Guthrie Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Tony Wrighton has been a presenter on Sky Sports since 2006, and is also a personal development author and podcaster. He has three books published with Virgin Books in 12 languages and is one of the country's foremost experts on NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). He’s the host of the top-rated podcast Zestology, interviewing a wide range of experts in the field of health and personal development. He regularly appears as a guest on other shows talking about energy, vitality, and motivation. Episode Highlights: Why people are more open now about pursuing self-improvement How Tony used NLP to build his radio following Why you don't have to be confident at what you want to do to start doing it Not making decisions based on money but what will make you happy Is it harder to get out of your comfort zone as you get older? How you can use podcasts and podcasters as mentors Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Tony's website, Twitter, Facebook , & Instagram pages Tony's podcast Zestology Mastery, Robert Greene Tangentially Speaking podcast, with Chris Ryan Fight Club Interview with Josh Waitzkin on Tim Ferriss podcast The Art of Learning: A Journey in the Pursuit of Excellence, by Josh Waitzkin Searching for Bobby Fischer Bulletproof coffee Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Do entrepreneurs only care about making money? This is what you hear everywhere. And it's why people don't trust entrepreneurs and certainly don't think of them as heroes. But is this really true? The answer to this question is vital for success as an entrepreneur, i.e., attaining not only profit, but pride, self-esteem and happiness in your business and life. Episode highlights:  Why money and profit are good and moral motivations Making money is NOT the primary motivation for most entrepreneurs The motivation that leads to success, self-esteem and fulfillment in business What I think motivates Sara Blakely (Spanx), Gary Erickson (Clif Bar) & Jeff Bezos (Amazon) Why entrepreneurs emulate the essence of what it is to be a human being Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Sara Blakely Gary Erickson Jeff Bezos Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Is loving yourself bad? That's what an article in a popular online newspaper argues. In today's Selfish in the Wild segment, we'll explore this question and address the criticisms of self-love this article proposes. Episode highlights:  How self-love (and selfishness) is attacked everywhere Loving yourself doesn't mean closing yourself off from the world Why narcissists DON'T love themselves What "loving yourself" really means Why you should be selfish with who you love Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Is self-love the best type of love? Arrogance (or Narcissism) is Not the Same as High Self-Esteem SFS 012: Is Unconditional Love Possible? Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

The Association for Psychological Science has praised today's guest, Dr Edwin A. Locke, saying, "Locke is the most published organizational psychologist in the history of the field. His pioneering research has advanced and enriched our understanding of work motivation and job satisfaction. The theory that is synonymous with his name — goal-setting theory — is perhaps the most widely-respected theory in industrial-organizational psychology.” Dr. Locke is a psychologist and pioneer in goal-setting theory. He’s Dean's Professor (Emeritus) of Leadership and Motivation at the R.H. Smith School of Business at the University of Maryland, College Park. He received his BA from Harvard and his Ph.D. in Industrial Psychology from Cornell University. He’s the author or editor of 12 books, including The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion and Reason (with Dr. Ellen Kenner), and his seminal work A Theory of Goal Setting and Task Performance (with Dr. Gary Latham). Dr. Locke also a writer and lecturer for the Ayn Rand Institute and is interested in the application of the philosophy of Objectivism to behavioral sciences. We cover a wide range of topics and Ed provides a breadth of knowledge, advice and life experience that will help you achieve in your business and life. Episode Highlights: Ed Locke: "My god, why would I want to be a regular guy?" Why ED loves the Clint Eastwood quote, "A man's got to know his limitations." Why Ed never had self-doubt and the secret to his self-confidence Why you shouldn't take disapproval seriously Independence vs. mindless obedience Where self-esteem comes from (it's NOT other people) The crucial importance of leisure for a happy life Why ART is so important to a full life Be very selective about your favorites in work, love, friendships, leisure & art Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Ed's website The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love With Passion and Reason, by Edwin A. Locke & Ellen Kenner The Prime Movers: Traits of the Great Wealth Creators, by Edwin A. Locke The Illusion of Determinism: Why Free Will is Real and Causal, by Edwin A. Locke Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand The Fountainhead, by Ayn Rand Victor Hugo Thomas Edison General Sherman Winged Victory Venus de Milo Vermeer Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

The concept or idea of "selfish" that virtually everyone uses is WRONG. I explain why "selfish" (as it's usually used) is an invalid concept, and discuss what the actual meaning of selfish is. Episode highlights: How the definition of "selfish" combines two ideas that don't belong together Why taking advantage of others or doing whatever you feel is NOT selfish Why it's crucial to health and happiness to have an accurate definition of selfish The concepts you use determine how you think, feel and guide your life (for the positive or negative) Why the concept "selfish" (as it's commonly understood) makes it hard to do things for yourself without feeling guilty Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me.

Entrepreneurs/businesspeople are the most hated, criticized and underappreciated group in history. And I think this a grave injustice. I discuss why I love, admire and appreciate entrepreneurs so much. And it's not just the amazing things they create (although that's one reason), but much more than that. Episode highlights:  How entrepreneurs hold up the world Why your life and livelihood depend on entrepreneurs Why entrepreneurs/businesspeople should be treated as heroes not villains Entrepreneurs ARE selfish - and that's good! Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand Audacity (free recording & editing software I use) iRig Mic HD (the mic I use) Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Tim Sykes is the most famous penny stock trader in the country. He became a self-made millionaire when he took his $12,415 in Bar Mitzvah money and turned it into $1.65 million while still in college. He now teaches people how do the same thing and has more than 6,000 students in over 70 countries. Episode Highlights: Tim Sykes: "Being selfish is pursuing what you love..." How to handle fear when pursuing your dreams Why failure is good The growth benefits of traveling and seeing the world How to become financially successful and happy in life Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Tim's website, Twitter, Facebook , YouTube & Instagram pages Timothy Sykes Foundation http://howtomakemillions.com/ (all funds go to Tim’s charity) Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand Fountainhead, by Ayn Rand The Wolf of Wall Street Boiler Room Rudy Gattaca Working Girl The Upstarts, by Brad Stone Reminiscences of a Stock Operator, by Edwin Lefèvre & Roger Lowenstein Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Welcome to the new format for the Selfish for Success podcast! I announced a new format for the show a couple weeks ago, which will be 3 episodes per week (released every Monday, Wednesday & Friday). And there's a new focus: Entrepreneurs. In this episode I discuss why I'm changing the focus of the podcast. The theme is still the same (creating a life you love through rational selfishness), so if you’re not an entrepreneur don't worry, you can still benefit. The principles and tools for a successful life are the same for everyone. Episode highlights:  Why the show needed more structure and a new focus Why I'm focusing on entrepreneurs/businesspeople The enormous injustice done to entrepreneurs Why entrepreneurs should be admired and appreciated morally The new purpose of the podcast: to celebrate & liberate entrepreneurs Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically!   Share the Value If you're enjoying the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more listeners to the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources Therapy and coaching with me. **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Drew Ackerman, aka “Dearest Scooter," is the host of the incredibly popular podcast, Sleep With Me, where 3 times a week he tells “a lulling, droning, boring bedtime story to distract your racing mind” and put you to sleep. He has over 3,000 5-star reviews on iTunes from people with insomnia and sleep trouble who rave how Drew’s stories knock them out and how they can only get through 15 min of a 1-hour episode before dozing off. Today, we’re going to explore how Drew built such a successful podcast, what inspired him to start it, and what kept him going early on when he didn’t have an audience. Episode highlights: Why Drew's podcast helps thousands fall asleep every night How to start a podcast and hang in there until it's successful How to manage your time to honor ALL your values How to handle fear of doing something out of the box The power of recommending something you love to others Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Drew's website, YouTube, Twitter, & Facebook Sleep With Me Podcast Drew's podcast recommendations: Harmontown 99% Invisible Criminal The Allusionist Welcome to Night Vale Book recs: The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, by James Thurber Hocus Pocus, by Kurt Vonnegut Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

What exactly does Success consist of (and why is that so important to your chances of achieving it)? Episode highlights: What success ultimately leads to (hint: it's the purpose of life) How success is both the same and different for everyone How do you achieve success? What are virtues and why are they so important to your success? What ultimately creates self-esteem Plus: Details about exciting changes to the Selfish For Success podcast starting Monday, January 22. If you want a successful life, you need to know what that entails. Listen now to learn.   Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned SFS 006: Why Values Are the Meaning of Life The Virtue of Selfishness, by Ayn Rand (contains detailed explanation of the 7 virtues) Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life

Dr. Robert Puff is an internationally recognized clinical psychologist who brings a holistic approach to marriage and couples counseling, individual therapy, and family, teenager & child counseling. For over twenty-five years, he’s been successfully helping clients find greater peace and success in their lives and relationships by using a therapy that addresses the spiritual, emotional, nutritional, and physical aspects of the individual. He’s authored 13 books, including How to Live a Positive Life: The Art of Living Well, which was a #1 bestseller at iTunes books in the “Self-Improvement” category. He hosts The Happiness Podcast, which focuses on ways for all of us to find happiness. It’s been the #1 ranked podcast in the Health and Self-Help categories in iTunes. Episode highlights: How to handle failure What an integrated life is and why it's so important to your success Why taking care of yourself benefits the people you love Having a long-term picture of your life Why wealth and business success alone don't lead to fulfillment (and what does) Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Resources Mentioned Dr. Puff''s website, Twitter, Facebook , LinkedIn, & Instagram pages Dr. Puff's speaking page Happiness Podcast Meditation for Health Podcast Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life

Fear can stop you from living and enjoying your life. It can stop you from going after your goals and dreams. It can keep you from being the person you want to be and living the life you want. You can’t be free in your life if you’re tied down or limited by fear. Episode highlights: Why much of what people call fear is really anxiety The crucial difference between fear and anxiety How fear can be your friend Why you can't talk yourself out of fear 6 tips for becoming free from fear If you want to tackle your fears in the new year and ensure success in your goals, this episode is a must. Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! New Year's Success Challenge Ask yourself these two questions: What are my most important goals and values? Are there any fears I have that are limiting or stopping me from achieving or enjoying my goals and values? If so, make a plan to face these fears this year. Write down the fears, then create a timeline in your calendar for how you’re going to start facing them using the 6 tips we went over. Then as soon as possible, take action and get started. Resources Mentioned SFS 008: The Most Unexpected & Effective Approach to Relieve & Eliminate Anxiety Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life

Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Chris Voss is the former lead international kidnapping negotiator for the Federal Bureau of Investigation. He's the author of Never Split The Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. Chris now trains entrepreneurs and business leaders the skill and art of negotiation in business. If you want to be successful in your career and in life, it's vital to learn how to negotiate effectively. In this interview, Chris shows you how. Episode highlights: How to use empathy in negotiation A very simple yet powerful negotiating skill Why effective negotiation should lead to BOTH parties winning When NOT talking is more effective in getting what you want Why your emotional state is key to effective performance Resources Mentioned Subscribe to Chris's newsletter The Edge by texting FBIempathy to 22828 Chris's website, Twitter, Facebook , LinkedIn, & YouTube pages Never Split The Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It, by Chris Voss Dog Day Afternoon The Negotiator The Alchemist Armageddon Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Are your friendships adding to or taking away from your life? Today we delve into friendships and how to build and nurture relationships that allow you to thrive. Episode highlights: How to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy friendships Why friendships (and ALL relationships) should be 100% selfish How to improve good friendships and eliminate bad ones What the essence of a healthy friendship is How non-friends suck your time, energy, health and success Why you're not a servant or slave to your friends (or anyone) If you want to clean house in your friendships, and build healthy, satisfying relationships, this episode will show you how. Success Challenge 1. Do a “friend inventory” and categorize friendships that are adding to your life and ones that are taking away from it. 2. End the unhealthy friendships. 3. With the good friendships, identify any unchosen or unhealthy obligations you’ve made and break them (using the tips I went over) Resources Mentioned SFS 020: How to Become Free From Unchosen Obligations to Family Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life

Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! Want to escape your day job, start your own business and take control of your destiny? Nick Loper is an entrepreneur, podcaster, author and chief side hustler at his extremely popular blog Side Hustle Nation, a growing community and resource for aspiring and part-time entrepreneurs. You don't have to jump off a cliff without a parachute to start and build a profitable business. Whether you're an artist, baker, coach or tech wizard, Nick shares how you can break free from the 9-5 and build a business and life you love. Episode highlights: How to start a side hustle with low risk, low start-up cost and minimal time Why you don't have to know everything or be perfect to get started How to manage guilt by prioritizing your values and time How to handle criticism and disapproval from others The podcaster/entrepreneur that really inspires Nick Listen Now Resources Mentioned Nick's website, Twitter, Facebook , Pinterest, LinkedIn, & YouTube pages The Side Hustle Show podcast Northwest Sourdough  The One Thing, by Gary Keller & Jay Papasan Pat Flynn & Smart Passive Income Hamilton The Musical Hardcore History podcast So Good They Can't Ignore You, by Cal Newport Open Sky Fitness Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life **Some of the links above may be affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I’ll earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you, and I only recommend products or services that I think you’ll enjoy or may be helpful to you.

Don't Miss a Thing Get every episode automatically! The number one thing that stops people from achieving success and happiness is self doubt. And it's rampant in our world today. We dive deep and discuss what self doubt is, how it limits your ability to pursue and create a career and life you love, and how to overcome it and attain unshakeable self confidence. Episode highlights: 5 ways self-doubt ties you down The 4 reasons why so many people doubt themselves (no matter how smart or talented they are) 6 tips for becoming free from self-doubt (and building self-confidence) Why masters at their craft develop self doubt You won't hear self doubt discussed in more depth and dynamism than in today's episode, so you don't want to miss it! Success Challenge Make 3 decisions over the next week about things you’ve been putting off (bog or small). Think (only as much as necessary), make a decision, act, then see what happens. Let me know if I can help. Email me drorma@drorma.com Share the Value If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on iTunes and write a brief review. That would help a lot to spread the word and get more exposure for the podcast. Ask Questions or Provide Feedback To ask questions, request episode topics or provide feedback, email me at DrOrma@DrOrma.com Connect With Me [fb_button]   Follow @drsteveorma Additional Resources My indispensable sleep guide Stop Worrying & Go To Sleep My new video course Sleep Well For Life