The Sensitive & Soulful Show

In today's episode, Alissa shares the powerful story of a private client who transformed her self-worth and friendships by healing sisterhood wounds and learning to break free from overgiving tendencies. Alissa offers deeply relatable insights for HSPs who struggle to feel truly accepted in friendships—and gives you the exact mindset shift to start creating friendships that feel soul nourishing and aligned.What you'll learn:How past relational wounds (especially with your mother) can affect your adult friendshipsWhy overgiving is a symptom of low self-worth—and how to shift out of itThe “do the opposite” method to rewire old relational patternsWhat it really means to create your own “cool table” and attract aligned friendsHow radical self-acceptance leads to magnetic friendshipsWhy healing self-worth is foundational for HSPs to thrive sociallyQuestions answered in this episode:Why do I feel like I always give more than I receive in friendships?What does it mean to have a sisterhood wound?How do I stop people-pleasing in my relationships?Can I build new, better friendships after outgrowing old ones?What steps can I take to feel more confident and grounded socially?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

If you're someone who spirals when a friend doesn't text back or seems distant, this episode is a powerful reminder: it might feel personal...but it probably isn't. Alissa explores why highly sensitive people often take things personally in friendships and how past wounds may be showing up in the present. You'll learn how to identify your triggers, assume the most generous, and support yourself with compassion—so you can experience more peace in your relationships.What You'll Learn:Why HSPs often take things personally in friendships—and how to stopThe connection between overreacting and unresolved past hurtHow your nervous system goes into “threat mode” over neutral situationsThe difference between assuming the worst and assuming the most generousHow to check in with your triggers instead of blaming yourself or othersWhy personal growth means not projecting past pain onto present peopleWhat it looks like to show yourself compassion in emotionally activated momentsTools to ground yourself before jumping to conclusionsHow to gracefully approach honest conversations when neededWhy real friendships can survive seasons of less communicationQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do I always take things personally with my friends?How can I stop overanalyzing texts or slow replies?What if I'm triggered by a friend pulling away—how do I manage it?Why does silence or distance from someone I care about feel so threatening?How do I know if it's a real issue or an old wound being activated?What does it mean to “assume the most generous” in friendships?When is it time to bring up concerns—and how do I do that with care?How do I stop letting other people's actions define my worth?What's the link between friendship struggles and abandonment wounds?Can I really feel safe in my relationships, even when things aren't perfect?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

If you've ever thought, “Why do I always care more?”—this episode is for you. Alissa Boyer unpacks the deep emotional pattern many highly sensitive people experience in friendships: the “I care more” wound. When you're constantly overgiving, anticipating everyone's needs, and doing the emotional heavy lifting, it can leave you feeling unseen and burned out. This episode helps you uncover why that dynamic keeps repeating—and how to shift out of it so you can create friendships that feel mutual, supportive, and deeply fulfilling.What you'll learn:The root of the “I care more” wound that many HSPs carryWhy you might give too much in friendships—and how to stopHow to tell the difference between genuine care and giving from insecurityWhat happens when your empathy lacks boundariesHow past family dynamics shape your friendships todayWhy being overly responsible in relationships doesn't make you more lovableHow to expand your identity beyond the “helper” or “fixer”What it looks like to give from a place of security vs. fearHow to take empowered ownership of your friendship patternsWhat it really means to be authentic and emotionally available as an HSPQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do I always feel like I'm doing more than others in friendships?What's the difference between healthy empathy and self-abandonment?How do I stop overgiving without feeling guilty or selfish?Why am I afraid people will leave if I stop being “the one who does everything”?How do I create friendships that feel more mutual and emotionally safe?What role do past wounds play in my current relationship patterns?Can I still be kind without constantly bending over backwards?How do I set boundaries without shutting people out?How can I be more myself in friendships and still feel loved?What kind of friendships am I a match for when I stop overgiving?Click here to join Confident & Content Relationships: The Friendship EditionUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

You are a good person—and you're still allowed to say no. In this soul-nourishing episode, in today's episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest emotional blocks for highly sensitive people: guilt. Whether it's over setting a boundary, saying no to a social invite, or not stepping in to solve someone else's problem, guilt can feel like too much to bear. But what if the work isn't to avoid guilt, but to learn how to hold it with compassion? This episode is here to help you build that emotional resilience—and remember that you can be kind and have boundaries.What You'll Learn:Why HSPs often feel guilty for setting boundaries or saying noHow to identify where your guilt is really coming fromThe difference between avoiding guilt and expanding your capacity for itWhy you don't have to fix other people's problems to be lovingThe identity traps HSPs fall into (helper, peacemaker, overgiver)How your upbringing and past wounds shape your emotional reactionsWays to build a new self-image rooted in authenticity—not approvalHow to choose between two types of discomfort: people-pleasing or self-honoringHow guilt doesn't mean you did something wrong—it's just a feelingA new, empowering way to define kindness and care as a sensitive soulQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do I feel so guilty when I say no—even for small things?What if I hurt someone's feelings when I set a boundary?How do I stop feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions?Can I still be a good person if I need space?How can I stop tying my self-worth to being “the helpful one”?What does it look like to expand my emotional tolerance as an HSP?How do I hold compassion for myself when guilt comes up?Is there a healthier way to handle guilt without ignoring it?How do I create space for rest and authenticity without self-judgment?What are practical steps to reclaim my energy in friendships and relationships?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

This episode is your gentle but powerful reminder: people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. And yes—that truth can set you free. Alissa invites you into a much-needed conversation about the discomfort of being misunderstood, the fear of judgment, and how to find emotional safety within yourself. If you've ever spiraled after a group text or overanalyzed a social media post, this one's for you. Learn how to reclaim your peace and stop outsourcing your self-worth!What you'll learn:Why your fear of judgment often comes from an old wound—and how to heal itHow to stop placing your self-worth in the hands of othersThe mindset shift that will free you from overthinking every interactionTools to help you feel safe when you're misunderstoodWhy discomfort doesn't mean danger—and how to survive itHow to build your internal sense of validation as an HSPThe power of expanding your “window of tolerance” for stressWhat emotional self-regulation really looks like in everyday lifeHow to break free from the prison of perfectionism and people-pleasingWhy authenticity will always feel better than approvalQuestions answered in this episode:How do I stop overthinking after social situations?Why do I care so much about how others perceive me?What do I do when I feel like people are judging me?How can I build confidence as a highly sensitive person?What's the difference between healthy validation and needing approval?Why do I get triggered by being left out or overlooked?How do I heal past wounds that make me feel “not good enough”?What practices can help me regulate when I feel overwhelmed by judgment?How do I stop playing small out of fear?Can I really feel confident without needing others to approve of me?Mentioned in this episode: Try EFT Tapping For HSPsUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

This episode is a  love note to the fellow HSPs, the deep feelers, the ones who felt like you were too much! In this heartfelt episode, Alissa reminds you that feeling deeply is NOT a flaw—it's a GIFT. Sharing her own journey of growing up feeling "too much" and now raising her spirited daughter, Alissa offers powerful reflections and lessons for you as a highly sensitive person. Through her honest experiences, you'll be encouraged to embrace your emotional depth, recognize your sensitivity as a strength, and extend compassion to yourself through every high and low.What You'll Learn:The different ways highly sensitive people (HSPs) adapt to feeling "too much"How emotional patterns from childhood can resurface in adulthoodWhy it's normal for deep-feelers to experience intense highs and lowsThe importance of emotional regulation and how it empowers you as an HSPHow parenting—or any triggering relationship—can highlight hidden areas for healingWhy your passion and intensity are strengths, not burdensPractical mindset shifts to help you honor your emotional experienceThe role of self-compassion when you feel you've "messed up"How to stop comparing yourself to people who seem more "chill" or "easygoing"Why true self-acceptance is your most important work as a sensitive soulQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do HSPs often feel like they're "too much"?How can childhood wounds show up again in adult life or parenting?What does healthy emotional regulation look like for sensitive people?How can you break free from shame after emotional outbursts?In what ways is sensitivity actually a superpower?How can you support yourself when emotions feel overwhelming?Why is self-regulation essential for thriving as an HSP?How can you view emotional challenges as opportunities for healing?What role does compassion play in your growth journey?How do you fully embrace your intense emotional experience without judgment?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, Alissa's diving deep into how to move through life's disappointments with faith, self-compassion, and a spiritual perspective. She shares powerful reflections and a moving client story that illustrates how our most painful moments can hold hidden lessons, ultimately leading us closer to who we're meant to become. This is a must-listen for any highly sensitive person navigating uncertainty, regret, or self-blame. What you'll learn:Why a spiritual perspective is essential for emotional resilienceHow to shift from victimhood to empowerment in tough situationsWays to reframe past regrets and find the lessons in themThe importance of detaching self-worth from external circumstancesHow Alissa's own health journey and job path taught her to trust the bigger planQuestions answered in this episode:What if something I was excited about didn't turn out how I expected?How can I stop blaming myself for situations that went wrong?What's the role of spirituality in handling life's challenges?How do I find purpose and peace in the middle of pain or uncertainty?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I dive into the process of how personal growth and healing can change your relationships and friendships. As you evolve and step into your authentic self, your standards for the people in your life naturally rise. This can lead to some friendships evolving, some fading away, and even the need to have tough conversations about boundaries. I share how important it is to recognize your values and how they shape your relationships, and how owning your worth is a vital step in attracting healthier, more aligned connections.What you'll learn:How personal growth leads to higher standards in relationshipsThe importance of recognizing your values when evaluating friendshipsWhy some friendships may change or fall away as you evolve, and why that's okayHow to discern who you should be vulnerable with and who isn't the right fit for deeper emotional connectionThe importance of self-compassion when navigating changes in your relationships and honoring your personal growthJoin Breaking The Good Girl Cycle! Enrollment ends April 21st: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/goodgirlcycleUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I explore the concept of vulnerability for highly sensitive people (HSPs) and the emotional risks we take when we share parts of ourselves. I discuss how we can approach vulnerability with courage, especially when our openness isn't met with the response we hoped for. I also share tips on how to discern who is safe to be vulnerable with and how to be compassionate with yourself when things don't go as planned.What you'll learn:How to embrace vulnerability as a courageous act, even if it doesn't always receive the desired response.The importance of discernment in choosing who to share your vulnerability with and recognizing when someone isn't the right person for deeper emotional connection.Practical ways to check in with yourself before sharing to ensure you are sharing with intention, not out of discomfort or to fill silence.How to avoid the cycle of oversharing and protect your emotional energy while still fostering deep connections.The value of self-compassion and using moments of vulnerability as opportunities for growth and learning.Join Breaking The Good Girl Cycle! Enrollment ends April 21st: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/goodgirlcycleUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I dive into how overstimulation and overwhelm impact me as a highly sensitive person (HSP) and how understanding these traits has helped me better support myself in managing them. I share personal examples of what overstimulates me, like noise and visual clutter, and the simple steps I take to reduce these stressors and maintain balance. I emphasize the importance of not judging myself for my sensitivity but rather embracing it, and how this mindset shift allows me to thrive.How overstimulation manifests for HSPs (e.g., noise, clutter, or too many people).Practical strategies to manage overstimulation, like tidying up, taking breaks, or going outside.The importance of owning your sensitivity and not feeling ashamed of it.How self-awareness and self-compassion can help you thrive as an HSP.Tips for creating your unique "guidebook" to managing sensitivity and avoiding overwhelm.The power of establishing boundaries and communicating your needs confidently.Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I dive into the process of rebirth and transformation, especially when stepping into a new identity. I share how, during times of growth, you may feel like you're caught between the person you were and the person you're becoming. You'll learn how to handle this in-between space, the importance of visualizing the person you want to become, and how to practice shifting into that new version of yourself.What you'll learn:How to embrace the discomfort and awkwardness of shifting into a new identityWhy having a vision of the person you want to become is essential in navigating transformationHow to practice responding as your future self in everyday situationsThe significance of acknowledging and appreciating your old self while embracing new growthThe importance of patience and self-compassion during the process of transformationUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, we talk about and explore the freedom that comes with being true to yourself, even if it means being disliked or misunderstood by others. I discuss how trying to please everyone can lead to self-abandonment and how embracing your authentic self, no matter who disagrees, will empower you. You'll learn how healing your self-worth can help you stand firm in your authenticity and attract more aligned relationships.What you'll learn:Why it's impossible to be loved by everyone, and why that's a good thingHow to stop abandoning yourself in the pursuit of being likedThe power of standing firm in your authenticity, even if others disagreeHow healing your self-worth helps you show up as your true selfWhy being disliked or misunderstood can actually be a sign you're doing things rightUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident selfTAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I dive deep into the idea of taking radical responsibility for our lives and how embracing triggers can lead to personal growth. I explain how being open to uncomfortable moments and reflecting on the role we play in our own struggles can help us step into our empowered, authentic selves. I also introduce tools like the Sensitive Shadow Archetype Quiz and the Unbotherable Workshop to help you uncover blind spots and learn how to use triggers as opportunities for growth.What you'll learn:How to shift from a victim mentality to an empowered mindset.The importance of taking radical responsibility in your own life.Why triggers are opportunities for growth and healing.How to identify your blind spots and what they reveal about your struggles.How to use triggers to unlock personal growth and expand your self-awareness.Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I discuss the importance of surrendering versus forcing, especially for highly sensitive people. I explore how embracing the natural ebbs and flows of our energy, rather than constantly pushing ourselves, is key to thriving and finding peace. I share my personal experience as a second time mom and offer practical insights on how to slow down, release control, and trust that the right answers will come when we allow space for them.In this episode, you'll learn:How can I stop feeling guilty when I don't feel productive or inspired?What can I do when I'm frustrated because things aren't going as planned?How can I manage my need for constant achievement and perfectionism?What does it mean to "surrender" and how does it help me heal?How can I navigate times of uncertainty or feeling "stuck" in life?What are the benefits of slowing down and trusting the process instead of forcing results?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I dive into the power of using triggers as opportunities for personal growth and healing. I share how seemingly minor frustrations, like a chipped nail or a social media post that doesn't perform, can reveal deeper insecurities and lead to valuable lessons when approached with the right mindset. I explain how to transform these moments into a chance for up-leveling and self-discovery.What you'll learn:How to reframe frustrations and challenges as opportunities for growthThe importance of using triggers to uncover and heal deep-rooted insecuritiesA practical mindset shift: turning "Why me?" into "What can I learn from this?"How embracing triggers can fast-track your personal development and manifestationHow to manage and neutralize triggers using a step-by-step process (Learn how in my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our Un-Botherable Workshop)Uncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWThe Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I discuss the challenges highly sensitive people (HSPs) often face in friendships, particularly the tendency to overgive and feel unappreciated. I share insights from my work with clients who struggle with abandonment wounds and the patterns of overcompensating to avoid rejection. By healing your self-worth and understanding your own needs, you can shift away from overgiving and create healthier, more balanced friendships.What you'll learn:How overgiving in friendships can stem from abandonment wounds and insecurityThe importance of assessing your energy in friendships and whether you're giving from a genuine place or out of anxietyWhy it's essential to unapologetically own your desires in friendships and not settle for unfulfilling relationshipsHow to heal your self-worth to stop feeling the need to earn love and validation through overgivingThe benefits of letting go of misaligned friendships and creating space for more authentic connectionsUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I reflect on how my relationship with my husband, who is not highly sensitive, has been a journey of growth and healing for both of us. I share the lessons I've learned about embracing our differences and using them to complement each other's lives. I also discuss how healing my self-worth allowed me to step into a healthy, loving relationship and how we can all thrive in relationships, whether we're with an HSP or not, by learning to accept ourselves first.What you will learn:How embracing differences in a relationship can lead to personal growth and strengthThe importance of healing your self-worth to build healthy relationshipsHow to accept your partner's unique qualities without trying to change themWays to communicate your needs confidently in any relationshipHow to use challenges in relationships as opportunities for healing and self-awarenessConfident & Content Relationships: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/confidentandcontentrelationshipsUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I share the story of how I landed a book deal with Penguin Random House (!!) and the lessons I've learned along the way! I talk about how navigating through triggers, criticism, and insecurity has been essential for my growth and manifestation process. These experiences have helped me heal my self-worth and become the person capable of achieving big dreams. I encourage you to embrace challenges as opportunities for expansion and trust that your dreams are meant for you. This journey is all about showing up, healing, and believing in yourself, no matter the obstacles.What you'll learn: How triggers and criticism are opportunities for growthWhy healing your self-worth is key to manifesting your desiresThe importance of showing up and staying committed even when facing rejectionHow to use discomfort as a stepping stone to becoming the person you need to be to reach your goalsThe power of embracing your dreams and taking inspired action toward themDownload Sensitive Soul Rewind + learn how I started my HSP business! https://lifebyalissa.myflodesk.com/srya8gdy6bUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, we're talking about why we often take things personally, especially as highly sensitive people, and how those feelings are actually tied to our own insecurities. I talk about how healing your self-worth can help dissolve the tendency to assume others are judging you, empowering you to let go of these negative thoughts and embrace self-compassion. It's time that you shift your perspective and shake up what you thought you knew.In this episode you'll learn: Why taking things personally often stems from insecurities within yourselfHow healing your self-worth can dissolve the tendency to assume others are judging youThe importance of viewing situations neutrally and not through the lens of your insecuritiesPractical ways to shift your mindset and stop assuming people are criticizing youWhy other people are often too focused on their own lives to judge you as much as you thinkUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, we're diving into a powerful mindset shift that can help reduce anxiety and improve your experience of challenging situations. By adopting the perspective of "What if it goes better than expected?" I share about how reframing anxious thoughts can lead to better outcomes, increase your inner peace, and help you manage uncertainty with more confidence!What you'll learn from this episode:How to shift from anxiety and fear to optimism about the unknownThe impact of changing your perspective on outcomes and managing stressHow to embrace challenges and view them as opportunities for growthPractical ways to reduce mental suffering before an event even happensUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode, I talk about the importance of setting boundaries with yourself, a practice that has helped me feel more empowered, grounded, and in control. We dive into the ways you can take ownership of your experience by recognizing where you feel resentful, burnt out, or anxious, and how setting personal boundaries can help alleviate these feelings. From establishing clear boundaries around time, social media, and self-talk to learning how to redirect ruminating thoughts, setting boundaries with yourself empowers you to thrive. By implementing these boundaries, you can regain mental energy, reduce anxiety, and improve your overall sense of self-respect.What you'll learn in this episode:How setting boundaries with yourself can help you feel more empowered and less overwhelmedPractical ways to create boundaries around time, social media, and self-talkHow to redirect anxious and ruminating thoughts and stop them from draining your energyWhy taking ownership of your experience and keeping your side of the street clean is crucial for personal growthThe power of small shifts in boundaries to create lasting change and more peace in your lifeUncover your sneaky internal belief that's stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU'VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

In this episode of Sensitive & Empowered, Matt and I dive into the topic of self-trust and chat through big questions like why highly sensitive people struggle to trust themselves, what it looks like when you don't trust yourself, and HOW you can begin to trust yourself after a lifetime of not being able to do so.As always, we get vulnerable, share our personal experiences, and provide you with actionable takeaways that'll leave you empowered and inspired to embark on your own self-trust journey.CLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

In today's episode, I guide you through the powerful practice of connecting with your highest self and using that version of you as a blueprint to navigate life's challenges - not only this upcoming year but ANY TIME. You'll learn how triggers and obstacles aren't meant to stop you but to serve as opportunities for growth and healing, isn't that wild? By tapping into the confident, authentic version of yourself aka your highest self, you'll be able to face discomfort, heal insecurities, and take aligned actions toward the life you want. And, let's not forget how to respond to certain situations and how this approach can lead to greater confidence, self-acceptance, and alignment with your goals! What you'll learn in this episode:How to connect with your highest self and use it as a guide for navigating life's challengesWhy triggers and obstacles are opportunities for growth and healingHow to shift from feeling insecure to responding confidently in difficult situationsThe importance of embracing discomfort and seeing it as part of your journeyHow to practice self-acceptance and alignment with your true self in real-life scenariosCLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

In this episode, I dive into the challenges of stepping into your authentic self, especially when it comes to navigating pushback from others. Inspired by my group program, Breaking the Good Girl Cycle, I discuss how highly sensitive women can transition from being people-pleasers to confident, boundary-setting individuals without the guilt. We explore the discomfort that arises when you change the way you show up in relationships and how it's essential to allow others to have their own experience. I share stories from my clients who have gone through similar struggles and how they've navigated these challenges while remaining true to themselves.What you will learn in this episode:How to handle pushback when you shift into your authentic, empowered selfWhy it's important to let others have their own experience and not feel responsible for their emotionsHow setting boundaries can impact your relationships, and why that's okayThe power of standing firm in your new authentic version, even when it's uncomfortableWhy holding two truths at once (feeling guilty yet empowered) is part of your growthThis episode is an invitation to stop people-pleasing and start living as the empowered, confident person you were always meant to be.CLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

In this episode, I share the power of quiet confidence and how embracing your authentic self can transform your life. As a highly sensitive person (HSP), you may feel pressure to be more extroverted or outgoing, but true confidence comes from being unapologetically yourself, whether that means being more reserved or preferring deep, meaningful conversations. I dive into how accepting your quiet nature and stepping into radical self-acceptance can help you show up confidently in any situation, without fear of judgment. This episode is a call to embrace who you truly are and carry yourself with confidence.What you will learn in this episode:How embracing your authentic self leads to true confidenceWhy quiet confidence is just as powerful as loud, extroverted confidenceHow to stop second-guessing yourself and fully accept your quiet natureThe importance of building self-worth and self-acceptance to feel grounded in who you areHow embracing your authenticity can positively impact your relationships and how others perceive youCLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

In this episode, I dive into the powerful connection between self-worth and manifestation, sharing how improving your self-worth can help you manifest your deepest desires. I talk about how I learned manifestation isn't just about thinking positively—it's about aligning your actions with your higher self and becoming the person who already has what you want. Through my own journey of manifesting a dream opportunity, I explain how triggers and challenges are actually opportunities for growth on the path to manifestation.What you'll learn:How self-worth directly impacts your ability to manifest what you desireThe importance of aligning your actions with your ultimate goalsHow to take aligned actions despite discomfort or fear of rejectionWhy challenges and triggers are opportunities to grow into your next-level selfCLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

In today's episode, we dive into a powerful lesson that will change the way you approach your relationships and manage stress, especially during the busy holiday season. If you're someone who constantly feels the need to manage others' emotions, fix situations, and ensure everyone around you is happy and comfortable, this episode is for you. I'll teach you how to let go of this overwhelming need to "fix" others and why allowing people the dignity of their own experience is not only freeing but crucial for your own emotional well-being.As we unpack this idea, I share insights from my personal life and how I learned to stop trying to control others' feelings, including a powerful story about my husband. You'll learn how shifting this mindset can help you feel more grounded, resilient, and unbotherable in all situations.What you'll learn in this episode:The importance of allowing others to have their own experience without trying to manage or control their emotionsHow the need to "fix" others is rooted in a fear of discomfort and rejectionWhy constantly trying to make others happy can lead to burnout, stress, and chronic illnessHow to cultivate healthy empathy without carrying the emotional burdens of othersThe role self-worth plays in learning to let go of controlling behaviors and how to heal itA powerful story illustrating the importance of letting go of control in relationships and allowing others their own journeyThis episode will help you shift out of the "people-pleasing" mindset and embrace a healthier, more balanced way of interacting with others, especially during stressful times like the holidays. If you've been feeling the weight of managing everyone's experience, it's time to release that burden and step into a space of greater self-care and self-trust.CLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

In this episode, I dive into the concept of becoming "unbotherable" and how Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) can thrive in any environment, no matter what life throws at them. As an HSP, external circumstances—like lack of sleep, stressful situations, or challenging behaviors from others—can easily disrupt our inner peace. However, the key is learning how not to let the outside world control your internal experience.You'll hear about how I've embraced this idea in my own life, especially as a mom balancing totally unpredictable days. I share practical tools I use to stay grounded, even when external situations challenge my sense of calm. One of the tools I use is a six-step process for managing and neutralizing triggers, which helps me regain my center, even during tough moments.What you'll learn in this episode: How to shift from reacting to responding in tough situationsWays to maintain internal peace, even when external circumstances are challengingWhy it's important to view difficult moments as opportunities for growthA six-step process for managing triggers that you can use in real-time, no matter where you areThe mindset shift required to stop letting external chaos control your internal stateThis episode is perfect for anyone who wants to stop being controlled by the stresses of daily life and start thriving as an HSP.CLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

CLICK HERE to sign up for the Un-Botherable Workshop: a free workshop where you'll learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP!CLICK HERE to download the Cord-Cutting Meditation

In this episode, Matt and I discuss the difference between having needs and being needy. We explore why it's common for Highly Sensitive People to feel “needy” in their relationships, and share ways you can reframe having needs as a sensitive person. The conversation thoroughly explores how to discern when a need should be met by others, and when it should be met by ourselves. Having needs can feel vulnerable, and it's important to normalize having conversations about our needs. Come join us in feeling empowered to have your needs met too, you deserve it!Links from today's episode:Authentic Relating & Empowerment for HSPBlog post referenced by and written by Matt

In today's episode, I discuss the powerful idea that no one can make you feel a certain way and how adopting this mindset can transform your life. I explain how taking ownership of your emotional responses can lead to greater peace and control. I share practical examples, including a frustrating customer service situation that I'm dealing with right now, plus parenting challenges, to illustrate how you can choose your reactions and regulate your nervous system! It's not easy but it can be done! Hit play for some encouragement!

In today's episode, I discuss the importance of building self-trust through taking action before you're ready. I share how a lack of self-trust can lead to overthinking, second-guessing, and inaction. Drawing on a pivotal moment in my life when I moved to California for an internship with very little self-belief, stepping out of my comfort zone, and being authentic helped me build my self-trust. The answers truly lie within each of us - hit play to hear more and be encouraged!

In today's episode, I discuss one of my favorite topics: empowered discomfort and choosing your discomfort. This concept is crucial for anyone, especially highly sensitive people, who want to build self-confidence and trust themselves. Through real-life examples from my coaching program, I illustrate how vulnerability and honest conversations, although uncomfortable, are essential for building self-trust and authenticity. This approach to managing discomfort is key to healing past wounds, overcoming fear of judgment, and achieving a powerful sense of self-worth.

In today's episode, I discuss the idea of expanding your capacity through life's challenges. These situations serve us by promoting growth and evolution, making us stronger whether dealing with personal setbacks or professional disappointments, it's important to view challenges as opportunities for development. In this episode, I showcase how facing adversity teaches valuable lessons, such as speaking up, understanding one's optimal environment, and becoming more independent. The key takeaway is to shift from a 'why me?' mindset to a 'let's go' attitude, seeing difficulties as chances for growth, fostering resilience, and returning to our authentic selves.

In today's episode, we're diving into the concept of living in alignment as a highly sensitive person, challenging the misconception that alignment is always easy and feels good. I explain how choosing to follow our intuition and align with our true selves often involves discomfort and facing our biggest insecurities. Through my journey from the corporate world to starting my blog, I show you how commitment and facing discomfort can lead to growth, healing, and living a life filled with passion and fulfillment. Listen to Sensitive Soul Rewind! A 5-episode private podcast where I'm taking you behind-the-scenes my five years in business to give you five action steps YOU can take to go from being a dreamer to having the dream business impacting thousands of people.

In this episode of Sensitive & Empowered, Matt and I discuss our personal journeys with self-abandonment and how we've shifted from always being available to others to becoming discerning about who gets access to us. We discuss how you can manage the guilt for prioritizing yourself when you've always been available to others and Matt leads us through four powerful questions you can ask yourself to get to the root of why you're self-abandoning in any given situation.Cord-Cutting MeditationMatt's YouTubeMatt's Program: Authentic Relating & Empowerment for HSPsConnecting with your self-abandoning part (ask the part these 4 questions)What feeling are you protecting me from?What is the emotional need you are fulfilling?What are you afraid would happen if you stopped self-abandoning?How can I nourish you? (ask the part)

In this episode, I discuss the challenges we face as highly sensitive people (HSPs), particularly women, when we cling to the 'good girl' identity. I explore how deeply ingrained behaviors from childhood can lead to chronic stress and health issues in adulthood due to a lack of healthy boundaries. I emphasize the importance of balancing empathy and kindness with self-care, and outline the steps needed to develop a new, empowered identity. I introduce the concept of the 'authentic woman' and highlight the critical role of awareness, emotional processing, and setting boundaries in achieving a healthier, more balanced life.

In today's episode, we're talking all about the importance of intuition for highly sensitive people and the need to trust yourself and move past the fear of others' opinions. I share techniques like breath work, meditation, and EFT tapping to manage anxiety BUT ultimately, address the deeper issues of low self-worth and self-abandonment. The significance of keeping promises to oneself to build self-trust and shares personal anecdotes about trusting your intuition is so important. Tune in to be encouraged to develop a regular practice of meditation, observe body reactions, and be playful with your intuition.

In today's episode, I share about my intense week dealing with a wildfire near my home and the subsequent evacuation...also dealing with husband actually being head on and in it as a volunteer firefighter! We talk about the importance of remaining grounded and resilient in chaos- because the truth is; highly sensitive people can thrive in imperfect circumstances by cultivating their own inner strength and flexibility. The fact is- ideal conditions aren't necessary for well-being and that's not realistic, either. It's time to view your challenges as opportunities for growth and empowerment, embrace discomfort, and build resilience.

In today's episode, we talk about the challenges of being a people pleaser, particularly highlighting the 'good girl' archetype that many highly sensitive women identify with. We explore the internal conflicts and conditioning that lead to self-abandonment and the fear of offending others. It's time to reflect on what you ACTUALLY gain from these behaviors and I'm giving insight into how to begin changing these patterns. Through my personal experience and client success stories, I'm going to illustrate the transformative power of stepping into your authentic self and setting healthy boundaries. CLICK HERE to sign up for the Break Through Self-Abandonment Workshop + take the "Good Girl" Archetype Assessment!

In today's episode, we discuss the concept of the 'good girl' identity and its impact on highly sensitive women. I explain the four archetypes: perfectionism and achievement, over-responsible relationships, disconnection from self, and the nice girl. I also emphasize the importance of moving from a 'good girl' mentality to becoming an authentic woman, highlighting the benefits of self-awareness and personal growth. Hit play and let's overcome self-abandoning behaviors!

In today's episode, we talk about how to manage personal triggers and emotional responses as a highly sensitive person (HSP). I touch on the importance of viewing challenges as opportunities for growth and learning and share a recent personal experience of handling negative comments and messages on social media, explaining the emotional impact and the strategies used to remain unaffected. In this episode I also highlight the significance of setting boundaries, recognizing when others project their insecurities onto you, and the practice of mental techniques such as cord-cutting to protect one's peace. The ultimate message here is about choosing to be less affected by external triggers and seeking growth from difficult experiences.

I'm pregnant with my second baby! And it was a journey to get here.In this episode, we're getting deep and talking about my journey of struggling with miscarriages. I reveal how I experienced multiple miscarriages, questioning my ability to have more children after successfully carrying my first daughter. I talk about how a divine intervention led me to a fertility doctor who finally gave me the answers I was looking for. Of course in this episode, I highlight the importance of trusting the process, having faith, and trusting your intuition. With this episode, I hope to give inspiration to others going through similar experiences, because no one is alone and there's always a reason behind the struggles.

In today's episode, we're talking about the topic of rejection, particularly how it affects Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). We dive into practical advice on how to view rejection as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement and look at rejection from a neutral perspective, analyze their insecurities, and focus on personal development. I also emphasize the importance of self-worth independent of external validation. This episode will empower you to view life challenges as chances to become stronger and more confident versions of yourself.

In today's episode, we are talking about comparison. You may have heard the saying, "Comparison is the thief of joy". And it's so true, particularly for highly sensitive people (HSPs). As always in this episode I share my personal experiences with perfectionism and comparison, highlighting the importance of staying true to myself and building self-worth. In this episode you'll be encouraged to focus on your own paths, set boundaries, and view inspiring comparisons as motivation rather than a source of self-doubt.

In today's episode, we talk about the importance of making quicker decisions and building self-trust as a highly sensitive person (HSP). I share my personal story, including moving to California on a whim and starting her HSP membership, to illustrate how action and self-trust can lead to confidence and life-changing opportunities. Hit play to be encouraged to trust your intuition, overcome overthinking, and avoid seeking external validation. Self-trust is built through taking action and learning to support yourself through challenges - you got this!

In today's episode, we talk about the importance of tuning out external noise to reconnect with one's authentic self. I share my personal journey from sidelining my creative passions to rediscovering my love for writing, which led me to start a blog and now to my next venture - writing a book. There are so many challenges and rewards of living in alignment with one's true self, on top of addressing the societal pressures that can lead individuals astray. In this episode learn how to stay true to yourself and the significance of understanding what genuinely lights YOU up.

In this episode, we're discussing the importance of not letting others' perceptions determine your self-worth. Highlighting real-life examples and personal experiences, I explore why people might form negative opinions, including past traumas and differing social preferences. She emphasizes the value of authenticity, emotional intelligence, and the need for highly sensitive people to manage triggers. Staying true to yourself despite external judgments and the importance of self-acceptance is so important as an HSP. Hit play and let's dive in!

In today's episode, we talk about how highly sensitive people (HSPs) can navigate life with empowerment and confidence despite feeling frustrated when others don't share their level of empathy and care. We also talk about the need for HSPs to build self-worth and self-confidence to become leaders and positively impact the world. Hit play to hear about the importance of self-acceptance and viewing sensitivity as a special gift rather than a burden.

Today's episode is all about who you're actually BEING when life feels hard. We talk about the importance of personal growth through the challenges we face, of course sharing my personal take and client stories that highlight the significance of stepping out of default responses and learning to navigate life with empowerment and self-trust. Hit play for a much-needed reminder that life's challenges often serve as a deep reflection on how to find opportunities for growth.