Podcasts about con man i almost married

Journalist and author Abby Ellin reveals her former fiance's devastating deception, betrayal, and pathological lies that brought the real-life NCIS to her doorstep, and landed him in jail. Watch and Subscribe to our YouTube Channel @NavigatingNarcissismPod Follow me on social:  Instagram - @doctorramani Pod Instagram - @navigatingnarcissismpod Facebook - @doctorramani Twitter - @DoctorRamani YouTube: Dr. Ramani's YT - DoctorRamani I want to hear from you, too. Have a toxic topic you want me to explore? Email me at askdrramani@redtabletalk.com. I just might answer your questions on air. Guest Bio: Abby Ellin (www.abbyellin.com) is an award-winning journalist, podcast host, and Emmy-nominated documentary filmmaker. A former NY Times business columnist, she is the author of, most recently,  “Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married.” “Duped” was turned into a podcast, “Impostors: The Commander,” which hit number one on Spotify. She also produced the NY Times Presents film “To Live and Die in Alabama,” which aired in December 2021 on Hulu/FX.  Guest Information: Instagram - @abby_ellin_author  Twitter - @abbyellin Facebook - Abby Ellin This podcast should not be used as a substitute for medical or mental health advice. Individuals are advised to seek independent medical advice, counseling, and/or therapy from a healthcare professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issue, or health inquiry, including matters discussed on this podcast. EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Jada Pinkett Smith, Ellen Rakieten, Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Meghan Hoffman, Fallon Jethroe VP PRODUCTION OPERATIONS Martha Chaput CREATIVE DIRECTOR Jason Nguyen LINE PRODUCER Lee Pearce PRODUCER Matthew Jones, Aidan Tanner ASSOCIATE PRODUCER Mara De La Rosa ASSOCIATE CREATIVE PRODUCER Keenon Rush HAIR AND MAKEUP ARTIST Samatha Pack AUDIO ENGINEER Calvin Bailiff EXEC ASST Rachel Miller PRODUCTION OPS ASST Jesse Clayton EDITOR Eugene Gordon POST MEDIA MANAGER Luis E. Ackerman POST PROD ASST Moe Alvarez AUDIO EDITORS & MIXERS Matt Wellentin, Geneva Wellentin, VP, HEAD OF PARTNER STRATEGY Jae Trevits Digital MARKETING DIRECTOR Sophia Hunter VP, POST PRODUCTION Jonathan Goldberg SVP, HEAD OF CONTENT Lukas Kaiser HEAD OF CURRENT Christie Dishner VP, PRODUCTION OPERATIONS Jacob Moncrief EXECUTIVE IN CHARGE OF PRODUCTION Dawn ManningSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever been duped? If it hasn't happened to you, chances are, it's happened to someone you know! This week, we're talking trust issues in Abby Ellin's Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married. S P I C Y. CW//The validity of Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny are discussed. People with children beware! Duped in one sentence: Mary Paige: So assume everyones lying. Okay. Great. Courtney: I trust books not people. Erica: Uhhhh why did I think this would be good for my trust issues??? PLAYED MYSELF AGAIN Read along with us! Coming up next: 5/10: If We Were Villains by M.L. Rio 5/24: The Inheritance Games by Jennifer Lynn Barnes 6/7: Save Yourself by Cameron Epsosito Check out our Instagram page @realfriendsbookclub or our beautiful new website, www.realfriendsbookclub.com! Links: Machiavelli for Women interview

Come join us this week as the Real Friends discuss Amanda Montell's, Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism. DISCLAIMER:This book club is in no way sinister (but would love a small cultish following of like minded bookish people). Share this episode with one of your bookish friends! Cultish in one sentence: Mary Paige: It's a culty world out there. Keep your eyes open and WATCH YOUR BACK friends. Erica: CULTS!!!!! THEY'RE EVERYWHERE! ARE YOU IN ONE? Courtney: Cults are everywhere and are not as sinister as they seem… until they are. Read along with us! Coming up next: 4/12- Get A Life, Chloe Brown by Talia Hibbert 4/26- Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married by Abby Ellin 5/10- If We Were Villains by M.L. Rio Check us out on Instagram @realfriends_podcast or visit our website, RealFriendsBookClub.com

IT'S HERE. THE DAY ERKS HAS BEEN WAITING FOR. The Real Friends are finally talking about Glennon Doyle's book, Untamed. Some may even say it's life-changing. No, that's not hyperbole. It really might change your life...but that's all we're saying here. You'll have to click play for the rest. Untamed in one sentence: Mary Paige: Even though feelings are hard…let yourself feel them because- feelings are for feeling. Courtney: Dare to eat the apple ladies. Erks: I am just going to share a phrase that Glennon had in her book because you can't do it better than her, "The braver I get, the luckier I am." Read along with us! Coming up next we've got: 3/29: Cultish by Amanda Montell 4/12: Get a Life Chole Brown by Talia Hibbert 4/26: Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married by Abby Ellin Did you know we have bloopers at the end of each episode? Well for this episode we shared our love of the song Catch Me by Mary Moore. Click the link and be ready for goosebumps! If you find yourself on Instagram check us out @realfriends_podcast or checkout our website at realfriendsbookclub.com.

Join Joyce & Abby Ellin, journalist and author, for a casual conversation you can walk to. From viscous love and body positivity, to little white lies and the ultimate deception, Abby will shed light on her past and what we can learn from it.About AbbyAbby Ellin is a former NYT columnist, frequent NYT contributor, the author of two books, and one podcast. But her greatest achievement is quitting Diet Coke after FORTY years, and naming karamel sutra for Ben and Jerry's. She's the author of two books -- the first about her odyssey through “fat camp” as a teenager and the most recent Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married. Connect with AbbyWebsite: https://www.abbyellin.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abby.ellinInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abby_ellin_author/Twitter: https://twitter.com/abbyellinBook: Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married

Do you know what it feels like to be duped, or lied to in an extraordinarily manner? Imagine falling in love, and having a whirlwind romance with a doctor, who also serves in the military, claimed to have been stationed at Guantanamo Bay for a time, and claim many other extraordinary things about his life and career. Imagine being proposed to and expecting to marry this amazing man who also worked at the Pentagon. Then imagine it was all a big lie. In this episode of Follow Your Different, Abby Ellin shares her story and more. Abby Ellin is an extraordinary bestselling author, New York Times writer, and contributor to a ton of other prestigious publications. Her book is called Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married. In our dialogue, we go deep into her story, and find out why agrees that you can't see red flags through rose colored glasses. Abby Ellin on being Duped The conversation starts off reminiscing about meeting famous people in the past, when we can all actually go outside. The topic then got to Leonard Cohen, and how they were a fan of his work. This segues into the topic at hand, as Leonard Cohen himself was duped by his longtime manager. Abby Ellin's book, Duped, seems very personal, and it was radically transparent on what transpired in her life. She didn't appear to do anything to make herself look good. It was an unembellished account of what she had gone through, and the manipulation that she was subjected to. “When I write, I can write something but I'm also controlling what you know, and I was totally willing to sound like an asshole and duped because that was part of what needed to be done for that story. I was trying to channel the way other people think about someone who gets deceived, that I was engaged to a pathological liar. He went to jail. And everyone I know who I said that story to have their own story or knew somebody who did. Some of them didn't want to tell the story publicly or use their names because they felt like such idiots. I was like, “Hey, man. I'm an idiot and I own it. Because it happens and it's real.” – Abby Ellin Monetized Suffering I then comment on Abby's book, and how it reads and feels like a suspense novel. Abby appreciates the description, and shares that she actually sold the rights to it. So at the very least, someone shares that sentiment as well. “The operative words here are monetize suffering. So when, when life gives you lemons, you make lemon meringue pie and you eat it and you don't worry about getting fat. I saw the podcast writes and it's coming out in September, I think, but it's going to be like a six part series, and it's like a suspense thing.” – Abby Ellin Abby Ellin on Quitting Diet Coke We then talk about the article that Abby wrote about Diet Coke, and how she quit from it. She has had it since she was around 12 years old, and had been drinking it ever since. People have told her to quit, but she told them to mind their own business. Yet she knew she was addicted. She was drinking three to four cans a day, and go looking for it when she didn't have any in reach. But something happened that prompted her to consider quitting. “My stomach started hurting a lot recently and no one knew why. And I was tasting this diet coke and it started to taste really chemical-y. I asked them if they changed the formula and they said no, but I just was like, I'm done. And I that was it.” – Abby Ellin To hear more from Abby Ellin and her story on being duped, diet cokes and her thoughts on the Madoff scam, download and listen to this episode. Bio Abby Ellin is an award-winning journalist and the author of "Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married" and "Teenage Waistland: A Former Fat Kid Weighs In On Living Large, Losing Weight and How Parents Can (and Can't) Help." For five years she wrote the "Preludes" column about young people and money for the Sunday Money and Business section of the New York Times...

Can food be addicting? After we tackle that dicey topic, we return to our chat with journalist Abby Ellin, this time covering food restriction, disordered teen eating, “fat camp,” interpersonal deception and trust. With all these meaty topics, you're sure to step lively!   LET'S TALK THE WALK! Wellness While Walking Facebook page Wellness While Walking on Instagram Wellness While Walking on Twitter Wellness While Walking website for show notes and other information Coach Carolyn on Clubhouse: @stepstowellness wellnesswhilewalking@gmail.com   RESOURCES AND SOURCES (some links may be affiliate links) ABBY ELLIN, JOURNALIST Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married, Abby Ellin Teenage Waistland: A Former Fat Kid Weighs In on Living Large, Losing Weight, and How Parents Can (and Can't) Help, Abby Ellin I Was Powerless Over Diet Coke, nyt.com Abby Ellin website Abby Ellin's podcast, Impostors Season 2: The Commander OTHER RESOURCES – FOOD ADDICTION AND FEEDING KIDS Hooked: Food, Free Will, and How the Food Giants Exploit Our Addictions, Michael Moss Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Familiy: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook, Ellyn Satter New Brain Imaging Study Provides Support For Notion of Food Addiction, sciencedaily.com Evidence For Sugar Addiction: Behavioral and Neurochemical Effects of Intermittent, Excessive Sugar Intake, sciencedirect.com The Real Reason Diet Coke Cravings Are So Powerful, mashed.com Artificial Sweeteners: Sugar-Free But at What Cost? health.harvard.edu Taco Bell, Trehalose, and the Trend of Transparency, foodbusinessnews.net Intense Sweetness Surpasses Cocaine Reward, pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov Five Reasons the Diet Soda Myth Won't Die, nyt.com What is Food Addiction, psychologyofeating.com Quitzilla app HOW TO SHARE WELLNESS WHILE WALKING Wellness While Walking on Apple  Wellness While Walking on Spotify Link for any podcast app: pod.link/walking Wellness While Walking website Or screenshot a favorite episode playing on your phone and share to social media! Thanks for sharing! : )     DISCLAIMER Neither I nor most of my podcast guests are doctors or healthcare professionals of any kind, and nothing on this podcast or associated content should be considered medical advice. The information provided by Wellness While Walking Podcast and associated material, by Whole Life Workshop and by Bermuda Road Wellness LLC is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment, and before undertaking a new health care regimen, including walking.     Thanks for listening to Wellness While Walking, a walking podcast.  

New York Times writer Abby Ellin visits Truth, Lies and Coverups today.  She wrote a new book Duped:  Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married.  It's based on events in her life and lots of research on leading a double life and the lies that go with it.  We also chat about a few of the liars we've both had common experiences with.  Enjoy!   Be sure to check out Abby's podcast Impostors at https://medium.com/ear-worthy/second-season-of-impostors-the-commander-releases-two-new-episodes-16b8e08fe218

Many assume that dating scams only take place online. A scenario where they create an emotional connection over a period of time and eventually start asking for money. Today, we talk with someone who was deceived in person and how to see the warning signs in real life. Today’s guest is Abby Ellin. Abby has been a freelance writer for 20 years. She has mostly written for The New York Times but has been published in countless other publications including Time and The London Daily Telegraph. Abby’s latest book Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married was published in 2019 and is the topic of today’s discussion. Show Notes: [1:14] - The reason Chris wanted Abby on the podcast was because Abby’s experience is different from the more common online dating scams. [1:40] - Very briefly, Abby was engaged to a man who turned out to be a pathological liar. She felt something was off and left him within a year. But later she got a phone call. [2:14] - It turned out that the man was using Abby’s name to write prescriptions for drugs.  [2:40] - Abby jumped into journalist mode and interviewed the people in the man’s life who he had also been deceiving. [4:17] - Abby explains the true things that were not deceptions: he had been a doctor in the Navy and was from Jacksonville, Florida. [4:42] - When he didn’t want Abby coming to Jacksonville with him it was because he was engaged to another woman who he lived with there. He would tell the other woman he was on a secret mission and would leave for long periods of time. [5:25] - Nothing was verifiable which drove the journalist side of Abby nuts. [6:14] - Abby initially met him during an interview. She was interviewing him as a doctor and when fact checking he shared that he was opening up a facility in Iraq and Afghanistan for kids with cancer. They kept in touch because of the story she could write. [7:25] - Abby describes his pattern starting with marrying someone, leaving them, and moving to another marriage. [8:07] - It wasn’t just “love fraud,” it was a real con. He was using names of people he had been with romantically as well as names of the people he worked with to get drugs for himself. [8:58] - Abby was suspicious and left him after a year. She shares a story about a time he lied to her parents so convincingly and it made her concerned about other possible lies. [10:17] - Some red flags Abby noticed were that he would always cancel plans last minute and unusual things would happen when she was out of town. [11:15] - Chris and Abby discuss how people use the claim of being in the military as their adopted persona because we don’t tend to question that. But the man she was engaged to was in fact in the military. [12:10] - He was a military doctor and you don’t ever expect someone in that kind of position to be a “bad egg.” [13:19] - Abby explains that he was caught for using drugs but he had gotten a hold of so much that she is also convinced that he was selling. [14:40] - For online scams, the goal is to receive money and the manipulation is a means to an end. For some in person scams, sometimes the manipulation is part of the goal, too. [15:51] - Because Abby had been suspicious and was not forthcoming about financial information, she did not lose any money. She says that if that had been his goal with her, she was a failed scam. But he did ask a few times about finances. [16:47] - When asked about trust, Abby explains that we are programmed to trust and that society will not function without it. [17:53] - Those gut feelings, intuition, or what Abby calls the “Spidey-sense,” can be right. Listen to your gut. [19:34] - Abby shares a story about a woman she just recently started seeing and how her gut feeling was actually wrong. She had been projecting her baggage to someone else’s scenario. [22:03] - When you see a photo of someone on a dating app who is in a military uniform, it is a scam. People who are truly in the military won’t be using a photo like that for their profile. [23:25] - There are some people who thrive on manipulating others. If the goal is to dupe someone for money, Abby thinks that scamming a freelance journalist was not the best plan for that goal. [24:58] - Abby shares that she called a scammer back one time just to see what would happen. [26:01] - Chris describes how sophisticated scams have gotten. [26:55] - The minute someone asks for money, that should be the end of the conversation. [28:01] - It is really hard to deal with an in-person situation like Abby was involved in because you have met them and you do have a relationship with them rather than an online dating scam where you don’t meet them in person. [28:58] - You need to know what someone’s baseline is. There is not a specific set of behaviors that indicate someone is lying. Everyone is different so take notice of things that are out of the ordinary for them. [29:44] - Abby discusses polygraph tests and how she needs to have hard evidence. [31:33] - In Abby’s situation, the man she was engaged to had duped his entire family. [33:02] - It became so much a problem for him, that lying became his default.  [34:29] - Abby shares a story about another red flag about their living situation. She caught him in a lie and she is convinced he believed his own lies. [37:05] - Abby will be starting a podcast to share more details of her experience soon. Thanks for joining us on Easy Prey. Be sure to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes and leave a nice review.  Links and Resources: Podcast Web Page Facebook Page whatismyipaddress.com Easy Prey on Instagram Easy Prey on Twitter Easy Prey on LinkedIn Easy Prey on YouTube Easy Prey on Pinterest Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married by Abby Ellin Abby Ellin Author and Journalist Home Page Abby Ellin on Twitter Abby Ellin on LinkedIn Abby Ellin on Facebook

Abby Ellin, author of the new book, Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and The Con Man I Almost Married, joins Host Lisa Birnbach in the examination of how it is possible that people close to to us can not be who we think they are.Lisa’s 5 Things: 1. Exhibit A’s exhibit™ 2. Meatless Meals, 3. Fresh Flowers, 4. Scrub Daddy Sponge, 5. Weekly phone calls/Zoom calls.Abby Ellin’s 5 Things: 1. Passport, 2. Playing my cello, 3. Climbing mountains, 4. Larry David, 5. Wearing a mask so you can yell at people on the street and they'll never be able to identify you in a line up.

This week, Liberty and Kelly discuss Dapper Dan, Beeline, Good Talk, and more great nonfiction books from 2019. This episode was sponsored the St. John's College, Ritual, and With a Little Help From My Friends.  Pick up an All the Books! 200th episode commemorative item here. Subscribe to All the Books! using RSS, iTunes, or Spotify and never miss a beat book. Sign up for the weekly New Books! newsletter for even more new book news. Books discussed on the show: Dreyer's English: An Utterly Correct Guide to Clarity and Style by Benjamin Dreyer Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion by Jia Tolentino The Yellow House: A Memoir by Sarah M. Broom Zoo Nebraska: The Dismantling of an American Dream by Carson Vaughn Will My Cat Eat My Eyeballs?: Big Questions from Tiny Mortals About Death by Caitlin Doughty and Dianné Ruz | Burnout: The Secrets To Unlocking The Stress Cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski Dapper Dan: Made in Harlem: A Memoir by Daniel R. Day Good Talk: A Memoir in Conversations by Mira Jacob Say Nothing: A True Story of Murder and Memory in Northern Ireland by Patrick Radden Keefe Beeline: What Spelling Bees Reveal About Generation Z' New Path to Success by Shalini Shankar Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl: A Memoir by Jeannie Vanasco Out Of The Shadows: A Memoir by Timea Nagy and Shannon Moroney Long Live the Tribe of Fatherless Girls: A Memoir by T Kira Madden Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb Solitary by Albert Woodfox Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married by Abby Ellis What we're reading: Children of Virtue and Vengeance (Legacy of Orisha) by Tomi Adeyemi More books out this week: The Glittering Hour by Iona Grey  The Road to Delano by John DeSimone A New World Begins: The History of the French Revolution by Jeremy Popkin  The Wonderful by Saskia Sarginson The Dead Girls Club: A Novel by Damien Angelica Walters  Regretting You by Colleen Hoover  The Story of a Goat by Perumal Murugan, N Kalyan Raman (translator) The Hills Reply by Tarjei Vesaas, Elizabeth Rokkan (translator) Africaville by Jeffrey Colvin The Wicked Redhead: A Wicked City Novel by Beatriz Williams  All That's Bright and Gone: A Novel by Eliza Nellums  Labyrinth of Ice: The Triumphant and Tragic Greely Polar Expedition by Buddy Levy Sonnets to Orpheus by Rainer Maria Rilke, Christiane Marks (translator) Gatekeeper: Poems by Patrick Johnson The German House by Annette Hess, Elisabeth Lauffer (translator) A Faithful but Melancholy Account of Several Barbarities Lately Committed by Jason Brown  

Abby Ellin is an American author and journalist. The author of two books, including Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married, she writes regularly for The New York Times, and has contributed to Time, Newsweek, and The Daily Beast, among other publications. Ellin grew up in Brookline, Massachusetts, and attended Brookline High School. She holds a BS in Communications from Ithaca College, an MFA in Creative Writing from Emerson College, and a Masters in International Public Policy from Johns Hopkins University. Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married was published in January 2019. Based on her relationship with a man she identifies as The Commander, an ex–Navy Seal who falsely claimed to be the high-level CIA operative mastermind, the book "turns her heartache into a riveting memoir that's also an insightful investigation into the nature of emotional con artists." The book expanded on "The Drama of Deception," a cover story Ellin wrote for Psychology Today in 2015. Abby's links Web: https://www.abbyellin.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abby.ellin Twitter: https://twitter.com/abbyellin Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbyellin/ And don’t forget to support the podcast by subscribing for free, reviewing, and sharing. Web: https://unstructuredpod.com/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/unstructuredp Facebook: https://facebook.com/unstructuredp Instagram: https://instagram.com/unstructuredp Join the Facebook group:  fb.com/groups/unstructured

As a culture, we love a good scam story. But it's less entertaining if you yourself fall victim to a scammer. That's what happened to our guest, journalist Abby Ellin, who almost married a man who turned out to have a complicated relationship with the truth. Her experience inspired her to write a new book, "Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married."

So much lying and cheating afoot!College Admissions Crimes: The scandal we just can't quit. Today we tackle:Felicity Huffman Might Get Jail Time? And what's with the hand-holding??https://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-felicity-huffman-admissions-scandal-legal-20190408-story.htmlWhat's Up with the Harvard Fencing Coach? https://www.cnn.com/2019/04/05/us/harvard-fencing-coach-under...for...Who Needs A Prison Consultant? https://www.businessinsider.com/college-admissions-scandal-parents-hired-prison-con...They Had It Coming. Caitlin Flanagan from The Atlantic. https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/04/what-college-admissions-scandal-reveals/586468/And our Satellite Sisters Book Club interview with Abby Ellin, author of Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married. Plus Lian has update on cheeseboarding (we have found our issue!) and talking to your dog.Julie brings us this story from the N Y Times Weddings section about the couple that did 10 little receptions instead of one big one. We liked the idea. Personal. Intimate. Warm. What's not to love? Plus in general our policy on weddings is to do whatever feels right to you.In Entertaining Sisters, Liz spends the afternoon with Richard Madden, star of Bodyguard on Netflix, potential new James Bond and all-around charming guy. Thank you to today's sponsors. Please use these urls and promo codes to support them.ZipRecruiter: ziprecruiter.com/sistersRothys: www.rothys.com Use promo code sistersKopari: www.koparibeauty.com/sistersListen to Liz's workplace advice show Safe For Work and the Madam Secretary recap show Lian and Julie do called Satellite Sisters Talk TV.Follow us on @Twitter and @Instagram @satsisters. Like our Facebook Page for all our news.Join our Facebook Group to get in on the conversation.Visit our complete website satellitesisters.com.To email us, use info@satellitesisters.com

So much lying and cheating afoot! College Admissions Crimes: The scandal we just can't quit. Today we tackle: Felicity Huffman Might Get Jail Time? And what's with the hand-holding?? https://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-felicity-huffman-admissions-scandal-legal-20190408-story.html What's Up with the Harvard Fencing Coach?  https://www.cnn.com/2019/04/05/us/harvard-fencing-coach-under...for... Who Needs A Prison Consultant?  https://www.businessinsider.com/college-admissions-scandal-parents-hired-prison-con... They Had It Coming. Caitlin Flanagan from The Atlantic. https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/04/what-college-admissions-scandal-reveals/586468/ And our Satellite Sisters Book Club interview with Abby Ellin, author of Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married.  Plus Lian has update on cheeseboarding (we have found our issue!) and talking to your dog. In Entertaining Sisters, Liz spends the afternoon with Richard Madden, star of Bodyguard on Netflix, potential new James Bond and all-around charming guy.   Listen to Liz's workplace advice show Safe For Work and the Madam Secretary recap show Lian and Julie do called Satellite Sisters Talk TV. Follow us on @Twitter and @Instagram @satsisters. Like our Facebook Page for all our news. Join our Facebook Group to get in on the conversation. Visit our complete website satellitesisters.com. To email us, use info@satellitesisters.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When journalist and writer, Abby Ellin, learned that the man she had been engaged to had lied to her about everything from being a Navy SEAL to working for the CIA -- and that he had been cheating on her much of the time they’d been together - she had to wonder why her usually strong professional instincts had let her down in her personal life. Abby has since written about her own experiences of romantic betrayal, and those of others -- both the betrayed and the betrayers - compiling her research into a new book, Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married. In this edition of Financially Ever After, Abby shares much of what she has learned about how and why women can be especially vulnerable to romantic, spousal deception, including: Why societal pressure that women be in coupled relationships can make them more likely to ignore or overlook relationship warning signs. [11:05] How scientific studies show it’s harder for people to detect deception when they’re in love. [13:00] Why, when a woman is in a committed relationship (made more complex by financial and familial ties), it is often to her benefit not to “see” the bad or painful things that a partner is doing. [14:45] Why deceptive behavior seems to be everywhere in our culture, and only getting more pervasive. [26:10] Why certain personality types can be more vulnerable to romantic deception; how you can protect yourself against being duped, and where to get support if you’re experiencing - or recovering from, a toxic relationship. [31:40]  Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: (212) 374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com Abby Ellin | W: www.abbyellin.com   Links to Items Mentioned in the Podcast: Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married The White Collar Wives Project: https://thewhitecollarwivesproject.org/about-lisa-lawler/  Institute for Relational Harm Reduction: https://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ Sexual Assault By Fraud: https://consentawareness.net/author/shortjm/

Recorded on March 17, 2019 Book Starts at 35:30 Recorded Sunday, March 17, 2019   Our 2019 Colorwork KAL will continue until May 15, 2019.  Come join the conversation on the Chatter Thread, and post your finished objects on the FOs thread.   We announce the winner of BostonJen’s new shawl pattern, Go with the Flow, at the end of this episode.   We are giving away a copy of the Frost Heaves Cowl by Bronwyn the Brave.  Comment on the thread to be entered to win.  The contest will end on April 20.  Bronwyn has also  set up a coupon code for $2 off the Frost Heaves pattern: THELONGWINTER, and says “It’s a nod to the Laura Ingalls Wilder book, not to mention this crazy winter we’ve had.”   KNITTING Barb has finished Mother Bear #155 & 156 Helix Hat #8 by Jessica Rose Vanilla Socks using DVD Viso in Rainbow Pantsuit.   Frost Heaves Cowl by Bronwyn the Brave, using Malabrigo Rios in the Azures color way   Tracie has finished a few Knitted Knockers in Cascade Pima Cotton, CoBaSi and Fibra Natura Radiant Cotton Knit Mermaid Doll by Lorraine Pistorio in Berocco Elements in 4937 Bismuth, James C Brett Twinkle Fashion DK, etc Zephyr #2 by Celia McAdam Cahill in Elemental Affects Cormo Sport in Cypress Vanilla Socks in Urth Uneek Sock, color #54 Featherweight Cardigan by Hannah Fettig in Fyberspates Scrumptious 4-ply Sport in Amethyst Frost Heaves Cowl by Bronwyn Hahn in Cedar House Yarns Old Growth Worsted in the Rhododendron colorway Eole by Nadia Crétin-Léchenne in Sirdar Snuggly Crofter Baby Fair Isle Effect DK   Barb is continuing to work on Donner by Elizabeth Doherty, using Cloudborn Fibers Superwash Twist Sock in the Grey Heather color way Fox Paws by Xandy Peters, using a Craftsy Fox Paws Kit (utilizing Clouborn Highland Sport)  in the Winter Sky color combination.   Shetland Peerie Mittens MKAL by Kathy Lewiniski, using Knit Picks Palette in the Pimento, Blush, Grey and White colorways Vanilla Socks using DVD Viso in Rainbow Pantsuit.   She has cast on Vanilla socks using DVD Viso in Grunge Sally Stripe Scarf by Tara Miller using Cloudborn Sprightly in the Black, Orange and Yellow color ways. Gnome de Plume MKAL by Sarah Schira using scrap yarn Knockers   Tracie has cast on Judah Cardigan by Juliana Lustenader in Tahki Yarns Cotton Classic in Spruce Little Unicorn by Lorraine Pistorio in Berocco Elements in 4937 Bismuth, James C Brett Twinkle Fashion DK, etc Confetti by Veera Valimaki in Anzula Nebula in Lottie and Knit Picks Hawthorne Fingering Multi in Rockaway Gnome de Plume MKAL   She continues to work on Jewel Box Cowl in Stunning String Studios Stunning Superwash in Jewel Box minis colorway Sand Layers by Lisa Hannes in January Yarns Staple Sock in Lucky and Serendipidye Kings Mountain Sock in Acapandemonium Fiddly Bits #7 by Jane Pihota in sport weight yarns Vanilla Socks in Urth Uneek Sock, color #54   BOOKS Tracie and Barb both recommend Duped:  Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married by Abby Ellin   Barb recommends: Braving It: A Father, a Daughter, and an Unforgettable Journey into the Alaskan Wild by James Campbell Behind the Scenes at the Museum: a novel by Kate Atkinson Educated by Tara Westover Strong Ending: a Journey from Combat to Comedy by Audible Originals   Barb does not recommend Bring Me Back by B.A. Paris   Tracie thought the following were just okay: The Dark Heart: A True Story of Greed, Murder, and an Unlikely Investigator by Joakim Palmkvist Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins Rise and Shine by Anna Quindlen   Tracie recommends: Bad Blood: Secrets and Lies in a Silicon Valley Startup by John Carreyrou Creepy Crawling: Charles Manson and the Many Lives of America's Most Infamous Family by Jeffrey Melnick   Tracie recommends Line of Duty on Acorn and Netflix Bondi Rescue on Netflix Leaving Neverland on HBO

Julie and Liz are in final prep for their travel to Patagonia. Lian will hold down the fort when they are gone, with special guests Sheila Dolan, Beth Howard and Wild Terrain: Group Travel For Creative Women..TREND ALERT!! Breaking Free by Breaking Plates-- actually smashing self-doubt. From the LA Times.Yoga Breathing Actually Works! Read the detailed Scientific America article here.And Yoga and Veterans from the NY Times.One other way to calm yourself: therapy cows Maire Kondo. You in or out? Based on Kondo inspired donations, looks like many of you are in.Thanks for supporting our sponsors and using these special urls:Ritual http://www.ritual.com/sisters Use promo code sistersThirdLove - http://www.thirdlove.com/sistersJoybird - http://www.joybird.com/sistersKopari Beauty - http://www.koparibeauty.com/sistersThank you to longtime Satellite Sister Kyra Sundance for recommending this place for Hooper's vacation while Liz is away. For more on Kyra and her fabulous work with dogs, go here. Our next book club book is Abby Ellin's DUPED. The appearance date is TBD but you can get started reading now. Full title is: DUPED: Double Lies, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married. Liz's other podcast Safe For Work was named by NBC News to their list of 10 Ten Career Podcasts and in the same week to Cosmo's Best New Podcasts of 2019. Go figure!

From Abby Ellin's first date with the Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unravel. Finally, it all became clear: he was lying about who he was. In her book “Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married,” Abby Ellin studies the art and science of lying, talks to people who've had their worlds upended by duplicitous partners and writes with great openness about her own mistakes. In this installment of “Leonard Lopate at Large,” she talks about writing “Duped” and shares her unbelievable story.

Double lives. Deception. Shame. Abby Ellin, journalist and author of the book: “Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married,” tells her incredible story, and equips us with advice for how to smartly handle even the most skilled liars. In Mailbag, long-term care policies for singles and the 4% retirement rule.

This week, Liberty and Rebecca discuss No Exit, Thick, The Far Field, and more great books. This episode was sponsored by the Read Harder Journal, Warby Parker, and As Long As We Both Shall Live by JoAnn Cheney. Subscribe to All the Books! using RSS or iTunes and never miss a book. Sign up for the weekly New Books! newsletter for even more new book news. Books discussed on the show: No Exit: A Novel by Taylor Adams Last Woman Standing by Amy Gentry The Dreamers: A Novel by Karen Thompson Walker Thick: And Other Essays by Tressie McMillan Cottom The Orphan of Salt Winds by Elizabeth Brooks The Good Food: A Cookbook of Soups, Stews, and Pasta by Daniel Halpern and Julie Strand The Far Field by Madhuri Vijay The Truths We Hold: An American Journey by Kamala Harris What we're reading: Eggshell Skull by Bri Lee Why Do So Many Incompetent Men Become Leaders?: (And How to Fix It) by Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic More books out this week: Marked by S. Andrew Swann Code Name: Lise: The True Story of the Woman Who Became WWII's Most Highly Decorated Spy by Larry Loftis Echo North by Joanna Ruth Meyer The Banished Immortal: A Life of Li Bai (Li Po) by Ha Jin The Perfect Liar: A Novel by Thomas Christopher Greene The Smiling Man: A Novel by Joseph Knox Unquiet: A Novel by Linn Ullmann A Bound Woman Is a Dangerous Thing: The Incarceration of African American Women from Harriet Tubman to Sandra Bland by DaMaris B. Hill The Gilded Wolves by Roshani Chokshi Bluff City: The Secret Life of Photographer Ernest Withers by Preston Lauterbach Planting Stories: The Life of Librarian and Storyteller Pura Belpré by Anika Aldamuy Denise and Paola Escobar Silence: A Social History of One of the Least Understood Elements of Our Lives by Jane Brox Diderot and the Art of Thinking Freely by Andrew S. Curran When Death Becomes Life: Notes from a Transplant Surgeon by Joshua D Mezrich Adèle: A Novel by Leila Slimani Dragon Pearl by Yoon Ha Lee The Birth of Loud: Leo Fender, Les Paul, and the Guitar-Pioneering Rivalry That Shaped Rock 'n' Roll by Ian S. Port No Mercy (Ellery Hathaway) by Joanna Schaffhausen Elsey Come Home by Susan Conley Mothers: Stories by Chris Power Talk to Me by John Kenney Annelies: A Novel by David R. Gillham Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love by Dani Shapiro Oculus: Poems by Sally Wen Mao Let's Go Swimming on Doomsday by Natalie C. Anderson Late in the Day: A Novel by Tessa Hadley Hark by Sam Lipsyte Womanish: A Grown Black Woman Speaks on Love and Life by Kim McLarin You Know You Want This: "Cat Person" and Other Stories by Kristen Roupenian Unmarriageable: A Novel by Soniah Kamal The Liar’s Room by Simon Lelic Joy Enough: A Memoir by Sarah McColl The Whispers by Greg Howard The Book of Training by Colonel Hap Thompson of Roanoke, VA, 1843: Annotated From the Library of John C. Calhoun by Percival Everett None of the Above: The Untold Story of the Atlanta Public Schools Cheating Scandal, Corporate Greed , and the Criminalization of Educators by Shani Robinson and Anna Simonton Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married by Abby Ellin Night School: A Reader for Grownups by Zsófia Bán and Jim Tucker Fearless by Sarah Tarkoff As Long as We Both Shall Live by JoAnn Cheney Something Like Breathing by Angeka Readman Aristotle's Way: How Ancient Wisdom Can Change Your Life by Edith Hall The Enchanted Hour: The Miraculous Power of Reading Aloud in the Age of Distraction by Meghan Cox Gurdon  Downhill from Here: Retirement Insecurity in the Age of Inequality by Katherine S. Newman Our Year of Maybe by Rachel Lynn Solomon Why We Fight: One Man’s Search for Meaning Inside the Ring by Josh Rosenblatt The Restless Kings: Henry II, His Sons and the Wars for the Plantagenet Crown by Nick Barratt Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age by Mary Pipher 96 Words for Love by Rachel Roy and Ava Dash Big Bang by David Bowman Rewrite: Loops in the Timescape by Gregory Benford Shadow Captain by Alastair Reynolds

Julian Lucas talks about the role of curses in contemporary African literature, and Abby Ellin discusses "Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married."

It's our favourite time of year: Betwixtmas. We hope you're face-planted on the sofa, whilst we waltz down your ears with this end of year episode. Dolly devises a very silly quiz which *sort* of refers to things that happened in 2018 and sort of includes rogue personal questions about her internet provider. The High Low is taking a winter holiday, so here's what's on our bookshelf to devour — whilst the pod is sunning itself with a cocky by the pool, restoring and renewing its energy for a new term in February. The Milkman, by Anna BurnsKudos, by Rachel CuskBrilliant, Brilliant, Brilliant Brilliant Brilliant, by Joel GolbyBecoming, by Michelle ObamaNotes to Self, by Emilie PineThe Parisian, by Isabella Hammad Vox, by Christine DalcherDiary of a Somebody, by Brian BilstonDuped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married, by Abby EllinA Spark of Light, by Jodi PicoultSweet, Fruit, Sour, Land by Rebecca Leythehighlowshow@gmail.com@thehighlowshowThe High Low will be back in early February! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.