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Today, I'm joined by Ian Kerner, a renowned sex therapist, best-selling author, and expert in helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy challenges. You might know him from his book She Comes First—a must-read on prioritizing women's pleasure. Ian is also the co-founder of the Sex Therapy Program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and a sought-after speaker at TED, Goop, and more.In this episode, we dive into how heterosexual men can become more attuned to their partner's pleasure, shifting focus from performance to connection.We talked about:Why did he write a book in 2004 to help men better understand women's pleasure?Oral sex and more pleasure for womenWhat has changed in heterosexual men's approach to sexuality since he wrote "She Comes First" in 2004?A relax penis is an erect penis!The 'willingness window' The areas that men still need to improve when it comes to heterosexual intimacyAnd much more!My guest :iankerner.comShe comes firstSo Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love LivesMy Instagram account: @camilleparlesexe -/- My website: www.camillebataillon.com
Natasha is joined by Ian Kerner on this episdoe of the Natasha Helfer Podcast. Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is the co-Director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and contributes regularly on the topic of sexual health for CNN. He is the New York Times best-selling author of "She Comes First" (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages and he maintains a private practice in NYC dedicated to honoring the centrality of sexuality in his patients' lives. Natasha and Ian discuss sexual scripts and also refer to another one of his books, "So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives." To help keep this podcast going, please consider donating at natashahelfer.com and share this episode. To watch the video of this podcast, you can subscribe to Natasha's channel on Youtube and follow her professional Facebook page at natashahelfer LCMFT, CST-S. You can find all her cool resources at natashahelfer.com. This podcast addresses many topics around mental health and sexuality and may not be suitable for minors. Some topics may elicit a trigger or emotional response so please care for yourself accordingly. The views, thoughts and opinions expressed by our guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views or feelings of Natasha Helfer or the Natasha Helfer Podcast. We provide a platform for open and diverse discussions, and it is important to recognize that different perspectives may be shared. We encourage our listeners to engage in critical thinking and form their own opinions. The intro and outro music for these episodes is by Otter Creek. Thank you for listening. And remember: Symmetry is now offering Ketamine services. To find out more, go to symcounseling.com/ketamine-services.
E344– Inner Voice – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan. In this episode, Dr. Foojan Zeine chats with Dr. Donald Meichenbaum about anger, how to manage anger, how to recognize the signs of an abuser in intimate relationship violence, and much more. Dr. Meichenbaum is a psychologist and Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Waterloo, Ontario. He is a research director of the Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment at the University of Miami. Dr. Meichenbaum is known for his research and publications on psychotherapy and contributed to developing the technique of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). The American Psychological Association has voted him the tenth most influential psychotherapist of the 20th century. He was also chosen as the "most valuable contribution to the general field of psychotherapy" of that year by the Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy. Dr. Meichenbaum developed the therapeutic technique of cognitive-behavior modification, publishing the 1977 clinical handbook Cognitive Behavior Modification: An Integrative Approach. This umbrella term describes treatments that aim to change overt behaviors by changing thought patterns and cognitive processes. He has authored 12 books, with his recent one being "Treating Individuals with Addictive Disorders – A Strengths-Based Workbook for Patients and Clinicians," published in 2020. www.melissainstitute.org. For obtaining the Road Map to Resilience, https://roadmaptoresilience.wordpress.com/ Therapists can go to https://jkseminars.com/homestudy/getting-better-result-core-tasks-and-skills-expert-psychotherapists to get home study for Getting a Better Result Core Tasks and skill Expert psychotherapists. Check out my website: www.FoojanZeine.com, www.AwarenessIntegration.com, www.Foojan.com
Dr. Jonathan Lebolt is a licensed clinical social worker, psychoanalyst and certified group psychotherapist. He has over 33 years' experience providing individual, couples, family and group psychotherapy and psychoanalysis to adults, as well as professional consultation and training. Jonathan's private practice is located in New Jersey, but as a former resident of Maryland, he is licensed in the DMV and a total of 12 jurisdictions, in which he works with patients and clinicians via Zoom. Jonathan is on the faculty of the Center for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis of New Jersey, and he is a former instructor at the Institute of Contemporary Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis in DC, as well as former adjunct faculty at the graduate schools of social work at VCU, NYU, Columbia, Adelphi and Fordham. His doctoral dissertation was the first study of gay affirmative psychotherapy, and his latest article, “Evolution of a Gay Male/Non-Binary Psychoanalyst,” has been accepted for publication by Psychoanalytic Inquiry journal.Learn more about Dr. Jonathan Lebolt:https://doctor-jon.com/Psychology Today--Get in touch by sending a message to robinsmithshow@gmail.com or by calling the hotline at +1 (301) 458-0883Listeners of The Robin Smith Show can now become a supporter on Patreonpatreon.com/therobinsmithshowJoin Team Robley on Kiva and help expand financial access to underserved communities
Astrid Blodgett is the author of the short story collections This Is How You Start to Disappear (U Alberta Press, 2023) and You Haven't Changed a Bit (U Alberta Press, 2013). Her stories have appeared in many Canadian literary magazines, and in translation in Inostrannaya Literatura, a Russian journal that publishes foreign writers. One of her stories is part of the Danish Royal Ministry of Education's English exams and now the educational textbook Connect (in the chapter on "Puzzle Plots"!). Her work has been short- or long-listed for the Writers' Guild of Alberta Howard O'Hagan Award for Short Story, a ReLit Award*, the Danuta Gleed Literary Award*, and the High Plains Book Award* for Short Stories. She is also a co-author of Recipes for Roaming: Adventure Food for the Canadian Rockies. For many years she co-hosted a literary salon in her home. Astrid also loves multi-day river trips and very long walks. She lives in Edmonton / amiskwaciwâskahikan. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network
Astrid Blodgett is the author of the short story collections This Is How You Start to Disappear (U Alberta Press, 2023) and You Haven't Changed a Bit (U Alberta Press, 2013). Her stories have appeared in many Canadian literary magazines, and in translation in Inostrannaya Literatura, a Russian journal that publishes foreign writers. One of her stories is part of the Danish Royal Ministry of Education's English exams and now the educational textbook Connect (in the chapter on "Puzzle Plots"!). Her work has been short- or long-listed for the Writers' Guild of Alberta Howard O'Hagan Award for Short Story, a ReLit Award*, the Danuta Gleed Literary Award*, and the High Plains Book Award* for Short Stories. She is also a co-author of Recipes for Roaming: Adventure Food for the Canadian Rockies. For many years she co-hosted a literary salon in her home. Astrid also loves multi-day river trips and very long walks. She lives in Edmonton / amiskwaciwâskahikan. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/literature
New Year Greetings Glocal Citizens! Thank you to all that land here with us weekly to #listenandlearn about #DynamicDiasporans living, working and playing worldwide. I look forward to a new year of conversations that will include taking deeper dives into the whys and ways of reimagining global impact economics alongside continuing to travel far and wide with our guests. Stay tuned! This week, I'm joined by Monroe France the inaugural Vice Provost for Institutional Inclusive Excellence Tufts University (https://www.tufts.edu) and a professor of practice at the Jonathan Tisch College of Civic Life. Previously, Monroe served as the Senior Associate Vice President for Global Engagement and Inclusive Leadership in the Office of Global Inclusion, Diversity, and Strategic Innovation at New York University (NYU). Monroe's career at NYU spanned nearly 20 years and he has 25 years of progressive experience in higher education, non-profits, corporate sectors, arts and creative industries, as well as social responsibility, humanitarian, and philanthropy initiatives as an educator, professor, professional trainer, consultant, strategist, and keynote presenter. Monroe has provided DEI, leadership and strategic consulting for executive managers across the globe at organizations such as the American Eagle Outfitter (AEO) and Unilever Global, the executive team for American Repertory Theater (A.R.T.) at Harvard University, and the management team at the Center for Responsible Lending (CRL) in Washington DC. He works regularly with UN Women and has served as a consultant to a number of United Nations affiliates globally. Monroe has written articles and given lectures across the globe on the future of higher education and work. When he was at NYU, he founded and was the primary principal for the Global Inclusive Leadership and Management Institute and NYU's Environmental and Justice Institute. Monroe's background spans higher education, non-profits, corporate sectors, arts and creative industries, as well as social responsibility, humanitarian, and philanthropy initiatives. Monroe currently serves on the board for Global Black Pride and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy where he serves as lead strategist for DEI. Monroe is a member of Future Talent Council where he serves on their DEI Task Force, Talent Acquisition and Employer Branding, and Future Skills think tanks. Monroe is also a professor at NYU Abu Dhabi J-term and a visiting thought leader for Woxsen University in India. He was most recently a visiting scholar for the University of Southern Maine's school of business. Often described as a change maker, innovator, global thought leader, strategist, visionary, and a life-long learner I think you'll agree once you have a listen. Where to find Monroe? On LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/monroefrance/) On Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/monroenyc/) On Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/monroef/) What's Monroe watching? HGTV (https://www.hgtv.com/shows) Investigation Discovery TV (https://www.investigationdiscovery.com) Other topics of interest: NYU Accra Labone Dialogues (https://www.nyu.edu/accra/about-us/labone-dialogues-and-events-.html) University of Free State, South Africa (https://www.ufs.ac.za/about-the-ufs) About the 2003 Northeast Blackout (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Northeast_blackout_of_2003) About Occupy Wall Street (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occupy_Wall_Street) Lambda Legal (https://lambdalegal.org) Posse Foundation (https://www.possefoundation.org)
Why would a twin sacrifice her own needs to make sure her same-age sibling is always cared for? What would cause a twin to have panic attacks when he and his brother go away to separate colleges? Why do some twins find it so difficult to develop friendships and romantic relationships? The "twin mystique" and twins' own expectations of their relationship contribute to their difficulties. A therapist who understands the psychology of twins can articulate what's going on between the siblings. Clients will feel validated as well as relieved to gain clarity about a defining aspect of their identity. Twins in Session: Case Histories in Treating Twinship Issues (Rocky Pines Press, 2018) shows therapists how important the twin connection is, what it means, why it's sometimes more important than the relationship to either parent, and why some twins don't know who they are apart from the twinship. It will help therapists become a trusted outsider who can give twin clients perspective about their twinship issues and assist them in developing healthy relati Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychoanalysis
Why would a twin sacrifice her own needs to make sure her same-age sibling is always cared for? What would cause a twin to have panic attacks when he and his brother go away to separate colleges? Why do some twins find it so difficult to develop friendships and romantic relationships? The "twin mystique" and twins' own expectations of their relationship contribute to their difficulties. A therapist who understands the psychology of twins can articulate what's going on between the siblings. Clients will feel validated as well as relieved to gain clarity about a defining aspect of their identity. Twins in Session: Case Histories in Treating Twinship Issues (Rocky Pines Press, 2018) shows therapists how important the twin connection is, what it means, why it's sometimes more important than the relationship to either parent, and why some twins don't know who they are apart from the twinship. It will help therapists become a trusted outsider who can give twin clients perspective about their twinship issues and assist them in developing healthy relati Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network
Why would a twin sacrifice her own needs to make sure her same-age sibling is always cared for? What would cause a twin to have panic attacks when he and his brother go away to separate colleges? Why do some twins find it so difficult to develop friendships and romantic relationships? The "twin mystique" and twins' own expectations of their relationship contribute to their difficulties. A therapist who understands the psychology of twins can articulate what's going on between the siblings. Clients will feel validated as well as relieved to gain clarity about a defining aspect of their identity. Twins in Session: Case Histories in Treating Twinship Issues (Rocky Pines Press, 2018) shows therapists how important the twin connection is, what it means, why it's sometimes more important than the relationship to either parent, and why some twins don't know who they are apart from the twinship. It will help therapists become a trusted outsider who can give twin clients perspective about their twinship issues and assist them in developing healthy relati Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology
Advancing Psychotherapy for the Next Generation: Humanizing Mental Health Policy and Practice (Routledge, 2023) brings together a global community of mental health professionals to offer an impassioned defense of relationship-based depth psychotherapy. Expressing ideas that are integral to the mission of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), the authors demonstrate a shared vision of a world where this therapy is accessible to all communities. They also articulate the difficulties created by the current mental health diagnostic system and differing conceptualizations of mental distress, the shortsightedness of evidence-based care and research, and the depreciation of depth therapy by many stakeholders. The authors thoughtfully elucidate the crucial importance of therapies of depth, insight, and relationship in the repertoire of mental health treatment and speak to the implications of PsiAN's mission both now and in the future.With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. Linda Michaels is not only an editor of this book, but the chair and co-founder of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), consulting editor of Psychoanalytic Inquiry, clinical associate faculty of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis, and fellow of the Lauder Institute Global MBA program. Linda is a psychologist with a private practice in Chicago. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychoanalysis
Advancing Psychotherapy for the Next Generation: Humanizing Mental Health Policy and Practice (Routledge, 2023) brings together a global community of mental health professionals to offer an impassioned defense of relationship-based depth psychotherapy. Expressing ideas that are integral to the mission of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), the authors demonstrate a shared vision of a world where this therapy is accessible to all communities. They also articulate the difficulties created by the current mental health diagnostic system and differing conceptualizations of mental distress, the shortsightedness of evidence-based care and research, and the depreciation of depth therapy by many stakeholders. The authors thoughtfully elucidate the crucial importance of therapies of depth, insight, and relationship in the repertoire of mental health treatment and speak to the implications of PsiAN's mission both now and in the future.With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. Linda Michaels is not only an editor of this book, but the chair and co-founder of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), consulting editor of Psychoanalytic Inquiry, clinical associate faculty of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis, and fellow of the Lauder Institute Global MBA program. Linda is a psychologist with a private practice in Chicago. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network
Advancing Psychotherapy for the Next Generation: Humanizing Mental Health Policy and Practice (Routledge, 2023) brings together a global community of mental health professionals to offer an impassioned defense of relationship-based depth psychotherapy. Expressing ideas that are integral to the mission of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), the authors demonstrate a shared vision of a world where this therapy is accessible to all communities. They also articulate the difficulties created by the current mental health diagnostic system and differing conceptualizations of mental distress, the shortsightedness of evidence-based care and research, and the depreciation of depth therapy by many stakeholders. The authors thoughtfully elucidate the crucial importance of therapies of depth, insight, and relationship in the repertoire of mental health treatment and speak to the implications of PsiAN's mission both now and in the future.With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. Linda Michaels is not only an editor of this book, but the chair and co-founder of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), consulting editor of Psychoanalytic Inquiry, clinical associate faculty of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis, and fellow of the Lauder Institute Global MBA program. Linda is a psychologist with a private practice in Chicago. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/medicine
Advancing Psychotherapy for the Next Generation: Humanizing Mental Health Policy and Practice (Routledge, 2023) brings together a global community of mental health professionals to offer an impassioned defense of relationship-based depth psychotherapy. Expressing ideas that are integral to the mission of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), the authors demonstrate a shared vision of a world where this therapy is accessible to all communities. They also articulate the difficulties created by the current mental health diagnostic system and differing conceptualizations of mental distress, the shortsightedness of evidence-based care and research, and the depreciation of depth therapy by many stakeholders. The authors thoughtfully elucidate the crucial importance of therapies of depth, insight, and relationship in the repertoire of mental health treatment and speak to the implications of PsiAN's mission both now and in the future.With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. Linda Michaels is not only an editor of this book, but the chair and co-founder of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), consulting editor of Psychoanalytic Inquiry, clinical associate faculty of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis, and fellow of the Lauder Institute Global MBA program. Linda is a psychologist with a private practice in Chicago. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology
Advancing Psychotherapy for the Next Generation: Humanizing Mental Health Policy and Practice (Routledge, 2023) brings together a global community of mental health professionals to offer an impassioned defense of relationship-based depth psychotherapy. Expressing ideas that are integral to the mission of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), the authors demonstrate a shared vision of a world where this therapy is accessible to all communities. They also articulate the difficulties created by the current mental health diagnostic system and differing conceptualizations of mental distress, the shortsightedness of evidence-based care and research, and the depreciation of depth therapy by many stakeholders. The authors thoughtfully elucidate the crucial importance of therapies of depth, insight, and relationship in the repertoire of mental health treatment and speak to the implications of PsiAN's mission both now and in the future.With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. Linda Michaels is not only an editor of this book, but the chair and co-founder of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), consulting editor of Psychoanalytic Inquiry, clinical associate faculty of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis, and fellow of the Lauder Institute Global MBA program. Linda is a psychologist with a private practice in Chicago. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/public-policy
Advancing Psychotherapy for the Next Generation: Humanizing Mental Health Policy and Practice (Routledge, 2023) brings together a global community of mental health professionals to offer an impassioned defense of relationship-based depth psychotherapy. Expressing ideas that are integral to the mission of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), the authors demonstrate a shared vision of a world where this therapy is accessible to all communities. They also articulate the difficulties created by the current mental health diagnostic system and differing conceptualizations of mental distress, the shortsightedness of evidence-based care and research, and the depreciation of depth therapy by many stakeholders. The authors thoughtfully elucidate the crucial importance of therapies of depth, insight, and relationship in the repertoire of mental health treatment and speak to the implications of PsiAN's mission both now and in the future.With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. With a distinguished international group of authors and a clear focus on determining a future direction for psychotherapy, this book is essential reading for all psychotherapists. Linda Michaels is not only an editor of this book, but the chair and co-founder of the Psychotherapy Action Network (PsiAN), consulting editor of Psychoanalytic Inquiry, clinical associate faculty of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis, and fellow of the Lauder Institute Global MBA program. Linda is a psychologist with a private practice in Chicago. Judith Tanen is an LP candidate at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Valery Krupnik is interviewed by Dr. Tony Varela about his recent paper, “The Therapeutic Alliance as Active Inference: The Role of Trust and Self-Efficacy.” This paper was published in the Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy in Nov 2022. This episode contains innovative information about predictive processing and active inference that will be interesting for practitioners who work with patients experiencing chronic pain and mental health concerns emphasizing therapeutic alliance. Here is the series of Frontiers manuscripts references in the episode. Find out more about the Foundation for Orthopaedic Manual Physical Therapy (FOMPT) and the American Academy of Orthopaedic Manual Physical Therapists (AAOMPT) at the following links:Foundation website: www.aaompt.org/foundationAcademy website: www.aaompt.orgTwitter: @AAOMPTFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aaompt/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialaaompt/?hl=enPodcast e-mail: aaomptpodcast@gmail.comPodcast website: https://aaomptpodcast.simplecast.fm
Valery Krupnik (LinkedIn) is interviewed by Dr. Tony Varela about his recent paper, “The Therapeutic Alliance as Active Inference: The Role of Trust and Self-Efficacy.” This paper was published in the Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy in Nov 2022.
Johanna Dobrich, author of Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process (Routledge, 2021), is the recipient of the 2023 Sandor Ferenczi Award. The award is given for the best published work in the realm of psychoanalysis related to trauma and dissociation in adults and/or children. Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: (Ability and Disability in Clinical Process is the first book to address the topic of relational trauma within the families of a child with severe disabilities. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process explores a previously neglected area in the field of psychoanalysis, addressing undertheorized concepts on siblings, disabilities, and psychic survivorship, and broadening our conceptualization of the enduring effects of lateral relations on human development. What happens to a person's sense of self both personally and professionally when they grow up alongside a severely disabled sibling? Through a series of qualitative interviews held between the author and a sample of psychoanalysts, this book examines both the unconscious experience and the interpersonal field of survivor siblings. Through a trauma-informed contemporary psychoanalytic lens, Dobrich combines data analysis, theory-building, memoir, and clinical storytelling to explore and explicate the impact of lateral survivorship on the clinical moment, making room for a contemporary and nuanced appreciation of siblings in psychoanalysis. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process will be of immense interest and value to psychoanalysts and other mental health professionals, and for all therapists who work with and treat patients that are themselves survivor siblings. Uniquely integrating both academic and memoir writing, this book will also engage those building theory around the implications of the analyst's subjectivity on clinical processes. Johanna Dobrich is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Psychoanalyst with a private practice in New York City that specializes in the treatment of dissociative disorders, among other conditions. Johanna has a master's degree in political science from Rutgers University and an MSW from New York University. Johanna teaches courses in relational psychoanalysis and its intersection with traumatology and supervises post-graduate psychoanalytic candidates-in-training at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and at the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Study Center. Johanna enjoys writing, supervising, engaging and coming together with those who share an interest in understanding the complexities, joys and pains of human connection and expression. Judith Tanen, MA LP CANDIDATE. Email: judithtanen@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychoanalysis
Johanna Dobrich, author of Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process (Routledge, 2021), is the recipient of the 2023 Sandor Ferenczi Award. The award is given for the best published work in the realm of psychoanalysis related to trauma and dissociation in adults and/or children. Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: (Ability and Disability in Clinical Process is the first book to address the topic of relational trauma within the families of a child with severe disabilities. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process explores a previously neglected area in the field of psychoanalysis, addressing undertheorized concepts on siblings, disabilities, and psychic survivorship, and broadening our conceptualization of the enduring effects of lateral relations on human development. What happens to a person's sense of self both personally and professionally when they grow up alongside a severely disabled sibling? Through a series of qualitative interviews held between the author and a sample of psychoanalysts, this book examines both the unconscious experience and the interpersonal field of survivor siblings. Through a trauma-informed contemporary psychoanalytic lens, Dobrich combines data analysis, theory-building, memoir, and clinical storytelling to explore and explicate the impact of lateral survivorship on the clinical moment, making room for a contemporary and nuanced appreciation of siblings in psychoanalysis. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process will be of immense interest and value to psychoanalysts and other mental health professionals, and for all therapists who work with and treat patients that are themselves survivor siblings. Uniquely integrating both academic and memoir writing, this book will also engage those building theory around the implications of the analyst's subjectivity on clinical processes. Johanna Dobrich is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Psychoanalyst with a private practice in New York City that specializes in the treatment of dissociative disorders, among other conditions. Johanna has a master's degree in political science from Rutgers University and an MSW from New York University. Johanna teaches courses in relational psychoanalysis and its intersection with traumatology and supervises post-graduate psychoanalytic candidates-in-training at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and at the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Study Center. Johanna enjoys writing, supervising, engaging and coming together with those who share an interest in understanding the complexities, joys and pains of human connection and expression. Judith Tanen, MA LP CANDIDATE. Email: judithtanen@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network
Johanna Dobrich, author of Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process (Routledge, 2021), is the recipient of the 2023 Sandor Ferenczi Award. The award is given for the best published work in the realm of psychoanalysis related to trauma and dissociation in adults and/or children. Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: (Ability and Disability in Clinical Process is the first book to address the topic of relational trauma within the families of a child with severe disabilities. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process explores a previously neglected area in the field of psychoanalysis, addressing undertheorized concepts on siblings, disabilities, and psychic survivorship, and broadening our conceptualization of the enduring effects of lateral relations on human development. What happens to a person's sense of self both personally and professionally when they grow up alongside a severely disabled sibling? Through a series of qualitative interviews held between the author and a sample of psychoanalysts, this book examines both the unconscious experience and the interpersonal field of survivor siblings. Through a trauma-informed contemporary psychoanalytic lens, Dobrich combines data analysis, theory-building, memoir, and clinical storytelling to explore and explicate the impact of lateral survivorship on the clinical moment, making room for a contemporary and nuanced appreciation of siblings in psychoanalysis. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process will be of immense interest and value to psychoanalysts and other mental health professionals, and for all therapists who work with and treat patients that are themselves survivor siblings. Uniquely integrating both academic and memoir writing, this book will also engage those building theory around the implications of the analyst's subjectivity on clinical processes. Johanna Dobrich is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Psychoanalyst with a private practice in New York City that specializes in the treatment of dissociative disorders, among other conditions. Johanna has a master's degree in political science from Rutgers University and an MSW from New York University. Johanna teaches courses in relational psychoanalysis and its intersection with traumatology and supervises post-graduate psychoanalytic candidates-in-training at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and at the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Study Center. Johanna enjoys writing, supervising, engaging and coming together with those who share an interest in understanding the complexities, joys and pains of human connection and expression. Judith Tanen, MA LP CANDIDATE. Email: judithtanen@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology
Johanna Dobrich, author of Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process (Routledge, 2021), is the recipient of the 2023 Sandor Ferenczi Award. The award is given for the best published work in the realm of psychoanalysis related to trauma and dissociation in adults and/or children. Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: (Ability and Disability in Clinical Process is the first book to address the topic of relational trauma within the families of a child with severe disabilities. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process explores a previously neglected area in the field of psychoanalysis, addressing undertheorized concepts on siblings, disabilities, and psychic survivorship, and broadening our conceptualization of the enduring effects of lateral relations on human development. What happens to a person's sense of self both personally and professionally when they grow up alongside a severely disabled sibling? Through a series of qualitative interviews held between the author and a sample of psychoanalysts, this book examines both the unconscious experience and the interpersonal field of survivor siblings. Through a trauma-informed contemporary psychoanalytic lens, Dobrich combines data analysis, theory-building, memoir, and clinical storytelling to explore and explicate the impact of lateral survivorship on the clinical moment, making room for a contemporary and nuanced appreciation of siblings in psychoanalysis. Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process will be of immense interest and value to psychoanalysts and other mental health professionals, and for all therapists who work with and treat patients that are themselves survivor siblings. Uniquely integrating both academic and memoir writing, this book will also engage those building theory around the implications of the analyst's subjectivity on clinical processes. Johanna Dobrich is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Psychoanalyst with a private practice in New York City that specializes in the treatment of dissociative disorders, among other conditions. Johanna has a master's degree in political science from Rutgers University and an MSW from New York University. Johanna teaches courses in relational psychoanalysis and its intersection with traumatology and supervises post-graduate psychoanalytic candidates-in-training at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and at the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Study Center. Johanna enjoys writing, supervising, engaging and coming together with those who share an interest in understanding the complexities, joys and pains of human connection and expression. Judith Tanen, MA LP CANDIDATE. Email: judithtanen@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
“The basic principle in defense analysis is that one approaches what is going on right now - it's an experience-near technique. You don't make conjectures about what would be called experience-distant phenomenon until you have a lot of material, a lot of knowledge about the patient. As the treatment goes on you really stick with what the patient is doing right now.” Episode Description: Leon shares with us what he sees as the fundamental method of analytic treatment, which "regardless of the manifest theoretical orientation of the therapist ... are effectively utilizing the technique of interpreting defenses against unwelcome affects." He emphasizes the importance of being interested in the patient's defenses and less so the warded-off content. We consider the term 'protection' in place of 'defense'; how these interventions are an amalgam of clarification and interpretation; and the source of the bad reputation that attaches to the concept of 'defense interpretation'. He shares with us how this approach links with the neurosciences and the concept of implicit emotion regulation. We discuss the work of Berta Bornstein, who introduced the importance of defending against unpleasant affects. He discusses two cases of disruptive children and their use of aggression in an effort to avoid sadness and loneliness. We close with his sharing his view of our field and his conclusion that "analysis will survive - it's too powerful a tool." Our Guest: Leon Hoffman, MD, is a psychiatrist and child and adolescent psychiatrist. He is a Training and Supervising Analyst at the New York Psychoanalytic Society and Institute. He is the Co-Director of the Pacella Research Center of NYSI. Among many publications, he is co-author with Timothy Rice and Tracy Prout of Regulation Focused Psychotherapy for Children (RFP-C): A Psychodynamic Approach and with Timothy Rice Defense Mechanisms and Implicit Emotion Regulation: A Comparison of a Psychodynamic Construct with One from Contemporary Neuroscience. In 2022, he presented the Norbert and Charlotte Rieger Psychodynamic Psychotherapy lecture at the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry on “Helping Parents Spare the Rod: Addressing Their Unbearable Emotions” based on a paper he authored with Tracy Prout. He presented the Paulina Kernberg Memorial Lecture at Weill Cornell Medicine Child & Adolescent Psychiatry Grand Rounds. On Regulation Focused Psychotherapy: An evidence-based psychodynamic treatment for children with disruptive behaviors. And The Bruce A. Gibbard Lectureship in Psychiatry, University of Vermont, Department of Psychiatry. Linked Episode: Episode 38: A Psychoanalyst Studies ‘Why is it easier to get mad than it is to feel sad?' with Leon Hoffman Recommended Readings: 1. Hoffman, L. (2007) Do Children Get Better When We Interpret Their Defenses Against Painful Feelings? Psychoanalytic Study of the Child 62:291-313. 2. Hoffman, L. (2014). Berta Bornstein's Frankie: The Contemporary Relevance of a Classic to the Treatment of Children with Disruptive Symptoms. The Psychoanalytic Study of the Child 68:152-176 3. Rice, T. R., & Hoffman, L. (2014). Defense mechanisms and implicit emotion regulation: a comparison of a psychodynamic construct with one from contemporary neuroscience. Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 62(4), 693-708. 4. Prout, T. A., Rice, T., Chung, H., Gorokhovsky, Y., Murphy, S., & Hoffman, L. (2021) Randomized controlled trial of Regulation Focused Psychotherapy for Children: A manualized psychodynamic treatment for externalizing behaviors. Psychotherapy Research, 32(5), 555-570. 5. Hoffman, L. (2020). How can I help you? Dimensional versus categorical distinctions in the assessment for child analysis and child psychotherapy. Journal of Infant, Child, and Adolescent Psychotherapy, 19(1), 1-15. 6. Leon Hoffman, Tracy A. Prout, Timothy Rice & Margo Bernstein (2023): Addressing Emotion Regulation with Children: Play, Verbalization of Feelings, and Reappraisal, Journal of Infant, Child, and Adolescent Psychotherapy, DOI: 10.1080/15289168.2023.2165874 7. Prout, T. A., Malone, A., Rice, T., & Hoffman, L. (2019). Resilience, defenses, and implicit emotion regulation in psychodynamic child psychotherapy. Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy, 49(4). 235-244. 8. Hoffman, L., & Prout, T. A. (2020). Helping parents spare the rod: Addressing their unbearable emotions. Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, 73(1), 46-61.
Vous vous souvenez en décembre dernier de la conférence de Doctolib sur le thème "Psychologues : être bien avec soi, pour être bien avec ses patients” ? Eh bien à la suite du succès de la conférence, Doctolib en a fait un guide pratique à destination des psychologues ! Par ici pour télécharger l'étude et découvrir la réponse à la question "Comment vont (vraiment) les psychologues" grâce à un sondage mené en novembre auprès de 470 psy : https://doctolib.info/FDxY ____________ Albert Einstein disait : "L'imagination est plus puissante que la connaissance". L'imagination fait partie intégrante de notre vie intérieure. Elle est comme un second univers à l'intérieur de nos têtes. Elle nous accompagne depuis notre tendre enfance. Enfants, nous inventions des animaux, des amis, des princesses et des rois, adulte, nous inventons des événements qui n'existent pas, nous refaisons l'histoire avec des conclusions différentes, nous rêvons à des utopies sociales et morales. La magie de l'imagination fait qu'elle nous permet de voyager dans le temps, dans l'espace, dans les réalités, sans aucun obstacle à l'horizon. Dans cet épisode, nous répondrons aux questions suivantes, pas forcément dans cet ordre mais on y répondra : qu'est-ce que l'imagination ? En quoi est-elle cruciale dans notre quotidien ? Pourquoi certaines personnes disent ne pas avoir d'imagination ? Où l'imagination se loge dans le cerveau ? Le cerveau arrive-t-il à faire la différence entre l'imagination et la réalité ? Peut-on avoir une imagination excessive ? Production, animation, réalisation et illustration : Anaïs Roux Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/neurosapiens.podcast/ neurosapiens.podcast@gmail.com Produit et distribué en association avec LACME Production. Pour apprendre à créer rapidement et à moindre coût son podcast, c'est par ici : https://www.neurosapiens.fr/commentcreerunpodcast _________ Musique KEEP ON GOING Musique proposée par La Musique Libre Joakim Karud - Keep On Going : https://youtu.be/lOfg0jRqaA8 Joakim Karud : https://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud ONE NIGHT AWAY Musique de Patrick Patrikios _________ Sources : J. Bigelsen et C. Schupak, Compulsive fantasy: Proposed evidence of an under-reported syndrome through a systematic study of 90 self-identified non-normative fantasizers, Consciousness and Cognition vol. 20, pp. 1634-1648, 2011. Schlegel A, Kohler PJ, Fogelson SV, Alexander P, Konuthula D, Tse PU. Network structure and dynamics of the mental workspace. Proc Natl Acad Sci U S A. 2013 Oct 1;110(40):16277-82. doi: 10.1073/pnas.1311149110. Epub 2013 Sep 16. PMID: 24043842; PMCID: PMC3791746. E. Somer, Maladaptive daydreaming: A qualitative inquiry, Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy vol. 32, pp. 197–212, 2002. F. Di Rienzo et al., Impact of neurologic deficits on motor imagery : A systematic review of clinical evaluations, in Neuropsychology Review, vol. 24, pp. 116-147, 2014. G. Hétu et al., The neural network of motor imagery : an ALE meta-analysis, in Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, vol. 37, pp. 930-949, 2013. The neurobiology of imagination: possible role of interaction-dominant dynamics and default mode network https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2013.00296/full https://www.cerveauetpsycho.fr/sr/ecole-des-cerveauxdes-images-mentales-pour-mieux-penser-18198.php?_ga=2.70341272.961864033.1676045378-1099127097.1676045378
Raymond Rodriguez is a Clinical Social Worker with over twenty years of experience in clinical practice. He received his social work degree from Columbia University School of Social Work where he now teaches as a part of their adjunct faculty. His clinical interests include family therapy, trauma-informed care, immigration, anti-oppression and diversity, LGBTQ empowerment, spirituality, working with marginalized communities, and community-based mental health.In the last ten years Raymond has specialized in trauma therapy, assisting clients with complex psychological trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He is certified in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) and has extensive training and practice in psychodynamic psychotherapy, family systems therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Family Therapy, and Theraplay. He is currently on faculty with the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute. In addition to clinical social work he is an interfaith minister and spirituality is an integral part of his life and my work.“I formerly served as a counselor faculty at Hostos Community College of the City University of New York and worked in several community-based mental health clinics around New York City. I am currently on faculty with the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute; The Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in the Trauma Studies Program and the Families and Couples Treatment Services (FACTS); and the Integrative Trauma Certificate Program of the National Institute for the Psychotherapies. I am also an Adjunct Lecturer at Columbia University School of Social Work and at Smith College School of Social Work. I formerly served on the Executive Committee of The Trauma Studies Program of the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, on the Board of the National Association of Puertorrican and Hispanic Social Workers and on the Board of the No More Fear Foundation. I live in the Bronx with my partner and our son.”In This EpisodeRaymond's websiteSensorimotor Psychotherapy InstituteThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement
Riley Nickols, PhD, CEDS Rebecca McConville, MS, RD, LDN, CSSD, CEDRD-S Psychology and Nutrition of Sports are discussed today, including injury, playing and performance. There's discussion about higher levels of care (HLOC) for athletes with eating disorders. Find out why attunement is important and how to use RPE – Rate of Perceived Exertion What if the Athlete's One Gear is To Hammer? Calories In vs Calories Out is “Hogwash” - Gaining weight in long term restriction is not surprising Buckle Up, Hang in there – we don't know what we don't know. Keep a sense of humor. Maintain the Joy! You can have Becca and Riley in your pocket: https://allevents.in/org/riley-nickols-and-rebecca-mcconville/19108306 Arizona State - May 14th CPSDA – SOLD OUT June 10th – virtual, 4 CEs Discount code: SEASONEDRD Riley and Becca's Seasonings: Externships and internships – NYC Ron Thompson and Roberta Sherman – Book - Eating Disorders in Sport 1st Edition Olympic Committee and NCAA Bios: Rebecca McConville, MS, RD, LDN, CSSD, CEDRD-S (connect to June 4 2021 From Humble Pie to Authentic Connection) https://TheSeasonEDRD.podbean.com/e/from-humble-pie-to-authentic-connection/ Riley Nickols, PhD, CEDS is a counseling and sport psychologist who specializes in working with athletes to address mental health and performance concerns through his private practice, Mind Body Endurance where in-person and virtual services are provided to address performance, eating, mental health, and nutritional concerns for athletes. Dr. Nickols obtained an MS in Sport Psychology from Ithaca College in addition to an MS in Counseling Psychology and a PhD in Counseling Psychology from Fordham University. He regularly speaks to athletes, coaches, and sport personnel about disordered eating, eating disorders, and unbalanced exercise in sport. Dr. Nickols consults with eating disorder professionals on best practices for integrating exercise during eating disorder treatment and is sensitive to the unique demands of eating disorder recovery in relation to training and competing in sport. Currently, Dr. Nickols is on EDCare's Scientific Advisory Board and is the Senior Program Advisor for Athlete Edge at EDCare in Denver, CO where specialized intensive eating disorder treatment is provided for athletes. He was previously the Director of the Victory Program, the nation's first residential eating disorder treatment facility for athletes, from 2013-2021 at McCallum Place in St. Louis, MO. Dr. Nickols is listed in the United States Olympic & Paralympic Committee Mental Health Registry (2020-2022). He is a Certified Eating Disorder Specialist (CEDS) through the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals (IAEDP) and holds a certificate in the Integrated Treatment of Eating Disorders from the Contemporary Psychotherapy's Center for the Study of Anorexia & Bulimia (CSAB) in New York, NY. Dr. Nickols is a licensed psychologist in California, Indiana, and Missouri. Additionally, he is an approved, participating PSYPACT psychologist and can provide telehealth to the 28 participating PSYPACT states. Dr. Nickols is currently on the steering committee for the proposed Division of Eating Disorders and Body Image as part of the American Psychological Association (APA) and was on the steering committee for Safe Exercise at Every Stage's (SEES) Athlete Guidelines. Dr. Nickols is a member of the Big Sky Sport Psychology Group, Collegiate Clinical/Counseling Sport Psychology Association (CCSPA), American Psychological Association's Division 47 (Exercise & Sport Psychology), Association of Applied Sport Psychology (AASP), and the AASP Eating Disorders Special Interest Group. In addition to competing in endurance sports for over 20 years, Dr. Nickols is a running coach and a USA Triathlon coach. https://mindbodyendurance.com/ With your host Beth Harrell
Rebecca Alexander inspires, empowers and entertains us with hilarious anecdotes; candid insights and expert advice that will help you overcome any obstacle and encourage you to live life to its fullest in this lively conversation with Katrina Carlson and Jefferson Denim. Rebecca is the perfect guest with whom we celebrate “National Month of Hope” because she brings that and much more in this podcast! This episode is also completely closed captioned on Crazy Amazing Humans' Youtube channel. Born with a rare genetic disorder called Usher Syndrome rendering her almost completely deaf and blind, Rebecca has written the best-selling book Not Fade Away: A Memoir of Senses Lost and Found which is currently in development to be made into a major motion picture and received an Indie Book Award. She was also honored as one of the MS Society's Books For A Better Life. She recently narrated the PBS American Master's biopic documentary “Becoming Helen Keller” and her TEDx talk entitled “H.E.L.P. - Humanity's Essence, Living Proof,” has been critically acclaimed. Rebecca has been featured on many TV shows such as The Today Show, NBC Nightly News, and ESPN, as well as numerous publications including People, Cosmopolitan and Shape. Rebecca has been honored with prestigious awards for her advocacy work, presented for TEDx, and has been the keynote speaker for many esteemed companies and organizations. She has been honored with prestigious awards for her advocacy such as The American Foundation for the Blind Helen Keller Achievement Award, Disability Rights Advocate Eagle Award, Future Vision Foundation Luminary Award, The Foundation Fighting Blindness Hope and Spirit Award, Strike Out USH, No Limits for Deaf Children Spirit of Leadership Award, University of Michigan Bicentennial Alumni Award, JWI Woman To Watch, Center for Hearing and Communication - Irving Berelson President's Award. Among her many extraordinary feats, Rebecca participated in the 600-mile AIDS Lifecycle ride, summited Mt. Kilimanjaro, swam from Alcatraz to shore in the San Francisco Bay, and competed in the Civilian Military Combine (CMC) races. Rebecca has a thriving psychotherapy practice with two masters' degrees from Columbia University in Clinical Social Work and Public Health. She works with individuals, couples, and groups, specializing in the treatment of anxiety, depression, grief/loss, eating disorders, and disability. Rebecca received post-graduate training at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy at the Center for the Study of Anorexia and Bulimia and received her psychodynamic psychotherapy training from the American Institute for Psychoanalysis. Rebecca is certified in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) and also communicates in American Sign Language and Tactile Sign Language. Rebecca currently serves on the boards of Usher Syndrome Society, Usher Syndrome Coalition, No Limits for Deaf Children, Disability Rights Advocates, Kresge Hearing Research Institute at the University of Michigan Department of Otolaryngology. As we celebrate the National Month Of Hope, always remember that we can be the source of hope for others. Every small kindness has the potential to create a Crazy Amazing Human experience, one person at a time. You have the power to create that every day because you are Crazy Amazing! And we, at Crazy Amazing Humans, are in your corner, we're rooting for you, and really appreciate you as part of our community.
Thoughts on Record: Podcast of the Ottawa Institute of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
While most psychotherapists identify with one predominant theoretical orientation, in practice it is common for clinicians to adopt an "eclectic" approach that aligns with the varied lens/interests a clinician might hold as well as to meet the varied needs of clients. Consultant, coach, author and podcast host, Imi Lo, joins host Dr. Pete Kelly for a very wide-ranging discussion of a variety of topics related to psychotherapy including: Imi's preferred theoretical orientation, conceptual framework and why she has chosen to focus on work with emotionally intense and highly sensitive peopleblending psychodynamic and CBT principlesa brief discussion of the schema therapy model, with a focus on mode workthe judgment that can be inherent in the conceptualization of personality disorderscurrent conceptualizations of mental illness and the functional utility of "symptoms"the inner lives of highly sensitive, intense peoplethe notion of emotional "over-control" and a brief consideration of the utility of RO-DBT in this contextnavigating & integrating the ongoing tension between champions of "vulnerability" vs "radical self-responsibility"Imi's reflection on process-related aspects of therapymanaging emotional depletion to avoid burnoutreflections on principles of acceptance, and not resisting one's experience (for clinician and client, alike)description of, and navigation of the so-called "midlife passage" some overall thoughts on current areas of interest and growth in psychotherapyImi Lo is a consultant for emotionally intense and highly sensitive people. She is the author of Emotional Sensitivity and Intensity, available in multiple languages, and The Gift of Intensity. Imi is the founder of Eggshell Therapy and Coaching, working with intense people from around the world. Imi has practised as a social worker and therapist in London (U.K). She has trained in mental health, psychotherapy, art therapy, philosophical counseling, and mindfulness-based modalities. She works holistically, combining psychological insights with Eastern and Western philosophies such as Buddhism. Imi's credentials include a Master in Mental Health, Master of Buddhist Studies, Graduate Diploma in Psychology, Bachelor of Social Science in Social Work, Certificate in Logic-based Therapy, and an Advanced Diploma in Contemporary Psychotherapy. She has received multiple scholarships and awards including the Endeavour Award by the Australian Government. She has been consulted by and appeared in publications such as The Psychologies Magazine, The Telegraph, Marie Claire, and The Daily Mail.eggshelltherapy.com
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
On today's episode of The Empowered Relationship Podcast, Dr. Ian Kerner and I discuss what a ‘sex script' is and why it can help couples achieve intimacy by rewriting our sex script. He shares his insights into why these sex scripts are not only based on physical behaviors and describes how he helps couples understand that psychological arousal begins with our minds. We dive into the details of why Dr. Kerner has been a longtime advocate for a new paradigm of sexual pleasure for heterosexual couples, focused around clitoral stimulation rather than the previous procreative model of sex. Dr. Kerner explores why the core of the orgasm gap between men and women is down to the differences in how men and women experience the plateau phase in the process of sexual response. We also discuss how getting into a state of ‘neutral entrainment,' when you're relaxed and in the moment and feeling the erotic heat being generated, helps foster a sensual connection. Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT, is the co-leader of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and contributes regularly on the topic of sex for CNN. He is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages, and he maintains a private practice in NYC dedicated to honoring the centrality of sexuality in his patients' lives. Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode: 07:32 How psychological arousal relates to sexual intimacy 08:28 Why couples in long term relationships often develop a ‘sex script' over time 12:51 Recognition that psychological arousal is a key component of sexual satisfaction 14:06 Why anticipation is an integral part of psychological excitement and how tapping into our erotic imaginations and fantasies helps get us going 18:42 Reciprocity is elemental for our sense of bonding, particularly when we're talking about intimacy and the vulnerability around reaching that authentic sexual place 26:06 The element of play and being able to express sexual fantasy in recreating your sexual script 32:37 How to move from the shallow end in these conversations about sexual fantasy and drift further in so that we don't get fearful and anxious about the process of connecting sexually 35:57 Dr. Kerner's tips to help someone safely explore to open up more capacity and let go of their sexual rigidity 37:44 Introducing the idea of sexual exploration without pressure 41:50 Shifting from intercourse to outercourse and creating a sex script that adds and rearranges the right elements for us as a couple 43:15 How to find out more about Dr. Ian Kerner and get ahold of his latest book So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives Mentioned So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives (*Amazon Link) She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (*Amazon Link) Connect with Dr. Ian Kerner Website: iankerner.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
Featured This Episode: Benjamin Meyer, LCSW-R specializes in helping English and Spanish speaking individuals and couples with learning differences to manage workplace challenges, relationships, and friendships. He was selected as a social ambassador for the NVLD project in New York City and has published multiple articles, presented at university campuses, and co-presented with Sheri Perlman, OTR LCSW, for the Learning Disability Association of New Jersey. He has been interviewed for podcasts on autism, social media use, and dating by Tosha Rollins, LPC, and on adapting to the workplace with NVLD by Susan Micari, BCET, and Annalisa Perfetto, Ph.D., of Edtherapy NYC. He writes regularly for a blog on his website, benjaminmeyerlcsw.com, and has also co-published in a peer-reviewed journal, The Educational Therapist. He maintains a private practice and he is licensed to see clients in New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania. He has earned a certificate in psychodynamic psychotherapy from the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, as well as completed the Foundations in Family Therapy and Live Clinical Supervision course at the Ackerman Institute for the Family. Benjamin also offers workshops on developing dating and professional skills for neurodiverse young adults. More information can be found about his services and offerings on his website. His initial interest in psychotherapy stems from his international experience providing trauma relief to victims of the Salvadoran Civil War and Chilean dictatorship. He also has experience providing culturally informed individual, couple, and family psychotherapy to Spanish speaking clients of all ages, and most recently was invited to speak in Havana, Cuba, regarding family therapy techniques for individuals with learning differences. This episode is transcribed via OTTER.AI & will be available at autisminactionpodcast.com Please visit autisminactionpodcast.com for more information. Find us on social media at https://www.facebook.com/AUTISMINACTIONPODCAST/ JOIN OUR FB GROUP at https://www.facebook.com/groups/2433480950016553 Instagram is our Jam at https://www.instagram.com/autisminactionpodcast/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIVxtEr2KYi3jVEKq_P7_3Q --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/autisminaction/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/autisminaction/support
Monique Lang, LCSW, author of Healing From Post-Traumatic Stress and coauthor of Journey to Wholeness: Healing From the Trauma of Rape, has more than 30 years of experience as a psychotherapist specializing in the treatment of trauma. A psychotherapist in private practice since 1980, she has been staff counselor at the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies since 1998. She also has been a student of meditation for the past 20 years. In addition to providing psychotherapy to individuals and couples, she is a certified Reiki practitioner and leads yearly vision quests and wilderness retreats. She offers a variety of workshops, and teaches clinicians how to use a multi-modal approach in their practices. Lang is on the executive committee of the Trauma Studies Program of the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and teaches their group process module. In addition, she has served on the faculties of Columbia University School of Social Work, the State University of New York at Stony Brook's Department of Child Welfare, and Mercy College Department of Psychology. Now a New Yorker, Monique Lang was born in France, grew up in Central America, and has lived in many different states and countries. “Although moving around was difficult at the time,” she says, “it allowed me to experience different cultures, ethnic backgrounds, and spiritual orientations. This understanding is helpful in my work with my clients as it enables me to understand and put into context each person's particular background and way of viewing the world.” Today we will be discussing her latest book, Meditations and Ceremonies for Healing: Handbook for Personal Growth and Wellness, published in 2019. To know more about Monique consulting or training and teaching activities please go to https://moniquelanglcsw.com
In the personality structure, there are always some child components, not only as the roots of personality but as active elements at any time. This panel shows some vicissitudes in working with the inner child in the analytical session. Three analysts from different regions and traditions will offer clinical vignettes and theoretical reflections on the subject. Chair Abel Fainstein, Argentina Presenters Melinda Gellman, United States Sérgio Lewkowicz, Brazil Antonio Pérez-Sánchez, Spain Please visit http://www.ipa.world/theinfantileonline to explore the extensive program and to register. The 52nd IPA Congress will be held online from July 21st to August 1st, and by visiting our program you can set your schedule to suit your personal time zone. Abel Fainstein MD. Psychiatrist. Mag. in Psychoanalysis. Full Member, Training Analyst and former President of the Argentine Psychoanalytical Association. Former President of FEPAL. Former member of the IPA Board and Ex Com. Member of the Institutional Issue Committee and Advisor of the IRED. Konex Award in Psychoanalysis 2016. Private Practice. Supervisor. Professor at the Angel Garma Institute of APA and at the Universidad del Salvador, Buenos Aires. wwwabelfainstein.com. Melinda Gellman is a graduate and faculty at New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy; faculty at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in New York City; and adjunct faculty at Austin Riggs Center in Stockbridge, Massachusetts. Sergio Lewkowicz is training and supervising psychoanalyst of the Porto Alegre Psychoanalytic Society (SPPA). He was the Scientific Director of the Latin American Psychoanalytic Federation (FEPAL). He is professor and supervisor for psychoanalytic psychotherapy in the Psychiatry Department of the Medical School of the Federal University of Rio Grande do Sul. He was president and chair of the Institute of the Porto Alegre Psychoanalycal Society where he teaches regularly in a weekly basis. He was member of the Programme Committee of the 43rd Congress in New Orleans (2004) where he was the plenary session discussant of the Keynote Papers. He is a former member of the Publications Committee of the IPA (2001-2009), former member of the website task force of IPA (2012-2014). He is former Latin American Deputy Editor of the International Journal of Psychoanalysis and former Editor of the Psychiatry Journal of Rio Grande do Sul. He has edited and published several books and articles. Antonio Pérez-Sánchez is a psychiatrist, training and supervising analyst at the Spanish Psychoanalytical Society (SEP). Past president of SEP (2008–2011). He is the author of five books. His last two books are The Psychotic Organization of the Personality (2018) and Interview and Indicators in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (2019, 2ª Edition in Spanish, and in English in 2014). He is chair of the Sponsoring Committee of the IPA for the Portuguese Study Group, Nucleo Portuguese de Psicoanalisi, and member of the European team of the IPA-Interregional Encyclopedic Dictionary. The Children of Nathan Starr (1835) Ambrose Andrews. Courtesy Met Museum, New York.
Welcome to episode 227 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome back Dr. Ian Kerner to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Kerner talks to me about his new book; So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives, overcoming psychological sexual rigidity, expanding into verbal foreplay and ways you can bring new sexual ideas to your partner. Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. He regularly consults for articles in major publications such as The Atlantic and The Economist, and he also writes on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He is the co-director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities. In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and he is also a member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR) and The American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). Ian was born and raised in New York City, where he maintains a private practice and lives with his wife and two sons, and their beloved dogs, Jitterbug and Oscar. In this episode, you will hear: How many couples can’t remember when asked, when the last time they had sex was Can sexual chemistry be created if there’s never been much attraction? Looking at psychological sexual rigidity Learning to adapt and change your erotic template The need to have good foreplay to allow for better sex Expanding into verbal foreplay Not setting yourself unrealistic expectations How our busy lives effects our sexual well-being Ways you can bring new sexual ideas to your partner Understanding not to give up straight away and give things time Knowing these issues are common and something everyone struggles with Find Dr. Ian Kerner Online https://www.iankerner.com Free Masterclass https://sexologypodcast.com/masterclass/ In this Masterclass we will Define “Boredom” as it relates to your Intimate Life We will explain the latest research findings on boredom in the bedroom as, more often than not, it is not as simple as feeling tired of monotonous routine. Identify the main source of intimacy dissatisfaction in your relationship We will first discuss the most common causes of intimacy dissatisfaction in relationships and then explore the roots of these issues. Tackle your specific intimacy challenges We will guide and walk you through addressing identified problems and explore the most effective ways to improve connection with your partner. Giveaway We have 5 copies of Dr Kerner’s new book to giveaway! To enter the competition and win a copy, simply subscribe to Sexology Podcast, write a review on iTunes, Stitcher etc and send a screenshot of the review to - https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast/. Winners will be announced on our email newsletter on May 11th, 2021. Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio
Ian Kerner, PhD, joins us to talk about why he asks all of his clients the question, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (also the title of his new book), and how this question helps uncover couple's repetitive sex scripts. He also shares tips on how to re-write old sex scripts for more sex and better intimacy, as well as ways to "turn off" to really turn on. We also answer a sex question: My wife has never had an orgasm. How can I help her achieve one + open up more sexually? Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. He is also the New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First and many more, including his latest book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex, helping couples achieve more intimacy and better sex. He is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists; certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (where he also sits on the board); the Society for Sex Therapy and Research; and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. To learn more visit iankerner.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off delicious, organic, ready to eat meals with code SHAMELESS at sakara.com/shameless Get 15% off of some of our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast
Dr. Ian Kerner is the Sherlock Holmes of sex—he's a detective who helps people to understand the mysteries behind their sexual problems. His approach to sex therapy begins with a simple question: “So tell me about the last time you had sex.” This question establishes the “scene of the crime,” and then it all becomes a matter of searching for the clues that led up to it. For this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I sat down with Dr. Kerner, who co-leads the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in New York City. He is the New York Times best-selling author of the book She Comes First, and his latest book titled: So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. We talk all about Dr. Kerner's unique approach to sex therapy, how people at home can use it as a form of self-help, and general tips for improving your intimate life. Specific topics we cover include: How is sex therapy like a form of detective work? And how can this approach help sex therapists to better serve their clients? How can you better understand your own—and our partner's—sexual scripts, and why is this a vital first step in fixing a sexual problem? What are the different frameworks for sexual desire? And what can you do if you and your partner have different desire frameworks? How is sex therapy similar or different with heterosexual patients compared to LGBTQ patients? Why is it important for us to change the way we think about our own sexual fantasies? How can you more effectively communicate about your fantasies with a partner? To learn more about Dr. Kerner, check out his website here. Also, be sure to pick up a copy of his new book, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
Dr. Ian Kerner is the Sherlock Holmes of sex—he’s a detective who helps people to understand the mysteries behind their sexual problems. His approach to sex therapy begins with a simple question: “So tell me about the last time you had sex.” This question establishes the “scene of the crime,” and then it all becomes a matter of searching for the clues that led up to it. For this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I sat down with Dr. Kerner, who co-leads the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in New York City. He is the New York Times best-selling author of the book She Comes First, and his latest book it titled: So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. We talk all about Dr. Kerner’s unique approach to sex therapy, how people at home can use it as a form of self-help, and general tips for improving your intimate life. Specific topics we cover include: How is sex therapy like a form of detective work? And how can this approach help sex therapists to better serve their clients? How can you better understand your own—and our partner’s—sexual scripts, and why is this a vital first step in fixing a sexual problem? What are the different frameworks for sexual desire? And what can you do if you and your partner have different desire frameworks? How is sex therapy similar or different with heterosexual patients compared to LGBTQ patients? Why is it important for us to change the way we think about our own sexual fantasies? How can you more effectively communicate about your fantasies with a partner? To learn more about Dr. Kerner, check out his website at iankerner.com Follow Dr. Lehmiller on Twitter @JustinLehmiller or Instagram @JustinJLehmiller. To stay up-to-date on the latest sex research and tips, check out https://sexandpsychology.com
Debbie is a psychotherapist with a private practice in New York City, where she has specialized in trauma, grief, and loss. Interweaving eastern philosophy, energy healing, and spiritual practices from cultures around the world, Debbie bridges together traditions of ancient and modern, east and west, the wisdom of the ages, and the many different ways people have ritualized grief and healing. She uses time-honored practices to inform the tools she shares with readers and clients.Debbie holds a deep curiosity and interest in how people have been dealing with grief and loss since the beginning of time. She helps normalize common feelings and experiences for people who are grieving, and holds space for each of us to experience grief in our own way and time, because grief is not linear. There are many gifts that accompany loss, including spiritual awakenings, discovering the connection with forever love, developing deep compassion, and grateful appreciation for the blessings along the way - from grief to healing to transformation and joy. Debbie has walked this path throughout her life and wants to help you on your path from grief to joy.Prior to becoming a therapist she had a successful career in the financial industry for over twenty years. Debbie has a Master's Degree in Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness from New York University and completed a two year post-graduate Advanced Trauma Studies program at the Institute of Contemporary Psychotherapy. In 2012 she received the NYU Steinhardt Award for Outstanding Clinical Service. Her book, "You Are Not Alone" is the 2018 Winner of the Foreword INDIES 2018 Book Awards, Grief/Grieving, and an Award Finalist in Health: Psychology/Mental Health 2019 International Book Awards. With the connection of a shared experience, Debbie guides the reader through grief to transformation and a new beginning.Website: https://www.debbieaugenthaler.com
Catch our live Ask The Expert Q&A session with Anthony Davis to learn about managing your lockdown stress. Anthony is an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist, and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and Social Work England. He holds a Diploma in Contemporary Psychotherapy and Post Graduate Certifications in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Psychological Studies. With over 10 years of experience as a counsellor and psychotherapist, Anthony has worked with individuals of various age groups and diverse backgrounds. Practising in both the United States and the United Kingdom, he has worked with clients in the NHS, adult social care and in private practice exhibiting a range of difficulties that impact their lives and cause them emotional and psychological distress. Anthony is also a workplace well-being consultant working with organisations to support their employees to manage their mental health and formulate prosperous professional and interpersonal relationships. Currently, he works in private practice as a therapist providing short-term counselling and long-term psychotherapy. In his practice, he provides integrative therapy using various therapeutic modalities such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Psychodynamic, Person-Centred, Existential and NLP. His specialization includes working with a range of difficulties such as anxiety, depression, stress (personal and work-related), relationship difficulties and bereavement/loss. Anthony also specialises in working with the LGBTQ+ and BAME communities. Our fully interactive Q&A sessions are hosted by a different business expert every day. Pick up valuable tips and advice and discover practical positive steps you can take in the weeks ahead. You ask all the questions — add yours in the comments section of YouTube or Facebook or use the #QBATE hashtag on Twitter. #QuickBooks The world's largest workforce works for themselves. We work for them by providing smarter business tools. QuickBooks is always backing you. https://quickbooks.intuit.com/uk/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://bit.ly/2ycNB3g Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QuickBooksUK/ Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/QuickBooksUK
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
In today’s episode, I’m joined by Ian Kerner. We discuss the effects of pornography on sexual health, why Ian became depressed about his personal sexuality, and how his sexual anxieties impacted his early relationships. He talks about his own battles with erectile unpredictability, how he grew up in a sex-invasive environment, and why he suffered from chronic early ejaculation as a young man. Ian talks about the importance of working with a sex therapist when a couple is challenged with sexual concerns. It can be extremely helpful in understanding sexual research and science to offer validation and direction. Listen in to learn how critical it is to have a safe space to explore vulnerable emotions and all that is involved within our experience sexually (i.e. physically, emotionally, culturally, socially, mentally, etc). (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio: Ian Kerner is a nationally-recognized sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books, including, She Comes First, which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The Atlantic, the Economist and NPR amongst others and he contributes regularly on the topic of sex for CNN. He teaches and supervises at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in NYC. His new book will be published by Grand Central Publishing later this year. In this episode, Ian Kerner and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How anxiety can greatly influence our experience around sex Where couples commonly have issues around sex The psychological component of erectile unpredictability Differences in sexual issues based on gender Why women experience an orgasm gap The shame associated with the topic of sex Negative effects of an idiosyncratic masturbatory style How people can exile their sexuality in a relationship Why the essence of sex is also about being turned off as well as turned on Mentioned Ian Kerner (website) She Comes First (book) Connect with Ian Kerner Join Ian Kerner on the web Pick up a copy of She Comes First Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!
In this podcast I speak with Tom Corbishley about what we call 'being a square watermelon'. We discuss how our childhoods can shape us and how we may unconsciously choose our partners. Toms information and how to find him: After gaining a degree in Physics I worked in industry and marketing and then ran my own manufacturing business for over 30 years. Following a 'life swerve' I was trained in psychotherapy at the BeeLeaf Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. I was trained in sex and relationship therapy at the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology – CICS. I have also trained in Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor at the PBSP UK Training Institute. In 2019 I was the inaugural recipient of the Lowijs Perquin Memorial Award which is given annually to acknowledge efforts made by individuals within the UK PBSP community. I have a private psychotherapy practice in Croxley Green between Rickmansworth and Watford in Hertfordshire called Talk-Works and also run a specialist sex and relationship practice called Sex Therapy Watford. You can find out more at talk-works.co.uk and sextherapywatford.co.uk To contact Becky visit beckycrepsleyfox.com and instagram becky_crepsley_fox
Psychotherapy offices are typically thought of as existing in the background of treatment, but they are brought to the foreground in Mark Gerald's new book In the Shadow of Freud's Couch: Portraits of Psychoanalysts in Their Office (Routledge, 2020). In this beautifully written book, illustrated with pictures of psychoanalysts in their offices from around the world, psychoanalyst and photographer Mark Gerald explores the stories offices tell about their holders and their role in the transformations experienced by patients. In our interview, we discuss why he became involved in this decades-long photography project and what he learned along the way about the powerful interface of psyche and physical space. Mark Gerald is a practicing psychoanalyst and trained photographer based in the USA who has written, presented, and taught widely about the visual dimension of psychoanalysis. He is a faculty member of the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis, the Stephen Mitchell Center for Relational Studies, the National Institute for the Psychotherapies, and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Eugenio Duarte, Ph.D. is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology
Psychotherapy offices are typically thought of as existing in the background of treatment, but they are brought to the foreground in Mark Gerald's new book In the Shadow of Freud's Couch: Portraits of Psychoanalysts in Their Office (Routledge, 2020). In this beautifully written book, illustrated with pictures of psychoanalysts in their offices from around the world, psychoanalyst and photographer Mark Gerald explores the stories offices tell about their holders and their role in the transformations experienced by patients. In our interview, we discuss why he became involved in this decades-long photography project and what he learned along the way about the powerful interface of psyche and physical space. Mark Gerald is a practicing psychoanalyst and trained photographer based in the USA who has written, presented, and taught widely about the visual dimension of psychoanalysis. He is a faculty member of the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis, the Stephen Mitchell Center for Relational Studies, the National Institute for the Psychotherapies, and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Eugenio Duarte, Ph.D. is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychoanalysis
Psychotherapy offices are typically thought of as existing in the background of treatment, but they are brought to the foreground in Mark Gerald’s new book In the Shadow of Freud’s Couch: Portraits of Psychoanalysts in Their Office (Routledge, 2020). In this beautifully written book, illustrated with pictures of psychoanalysts in their offices from around the world, psychoanalyst and photographer Mark Gerald explores the stories offices tell about their holders and their role in the transformations experienced by patients. In our interview, we discuss why he became involved in this decades-long photography project and what he learned along the way about the powerful interface of psyche and physical space. Mark Gerald is a practicing psychoanalyst and trained photographer based in the USA who has written, presented, and taught widely about the visual dimension of psychoanalysis. He is a faculty member of the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis, the Stephen Mitchell Center for Relational Studies, the National Institute for the Psychotherapies, and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Eugenio Duarte, Ph.D. is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Psychotherapy offices are typically thought of as existing in the background of treatment, but they are brought to the foreground in Mark Gerald’s new book In the Shadow of Freud’s Couch: Portraits of Psychoanalysts in Their Office (Routledge, 2020). In this beautifully written book, illustrated with pictures of psychoanalysts in their offices from around the world, psychoanalyst and photographer Mark Gerald explores the stories offices tell about their holders and their role in the transformations experienced by patients. In our interview, we discuss why he became involved in this decades-long photography project and what he learned along the way about the powerful interface of psyche and physical space. Mark Gerald is a practicing psychoanalyst and trained photographer based in the USA who has written, presented, and taught widely about the visual dimension of psychoanalysis. He is a faculty member of the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis, the Stephen Mitchell Center for Relational Studies, the National Institute for the Psychotherapies, and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Eugenio Duarte, Ph.D. is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome to episode 204 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Ian speaks with me about the psychological reasons men have low desire, the negative consequences shame can have on your sex life and learning to reconnect with your sexual self. Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. He regularly consults for articles in major publications such as The Atlantic and The Economist, and he also writes on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He is the co-director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities. In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and he is also a member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR) and The American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). Ian was born and raised in New York City, where he maintains a private practice and lives with his wife and two sons, and their beloved dogs, Jitterbug and Oscar. In this episode, you will hear: Looking the psychological reasons men have low desire? Why we as individuals want to self-actualize more Learning to expand your erotic space that will lend itself to desire How your self image can affect how you are in the bedroom Looking at the sexual boredom study Ian previously conducted The negative consequences shame can have on your sex life Why we might have become disconnected from our sexual selves Learning to reconnect with your sexual self The role that porn plays around this issue Find Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT online https://www.iankerner.com Find Promescent Online https://www.promescent.com Discount Code – sexology15 Find Dr. Moali online: http://www.sexologypodcast.com Find me on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio
In this episode we interview author, therapist and overall amazing human Ian Kerner, PhD, all about the power of pleasing the pussy first. He tells us why he thinks this is important plus gives us some tips and tricks along the way. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 11. About our guest: Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist), is a nationally-recognized sex counselor and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books, including, She Comes First, which has been translated into more than a dozen languages and is considered a classic in the genre. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The Atlantic, the Economist and NPR amongst others and he contributes regularly to CNN. He is the co-Director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Ian was born and raised in NYC, where he lives with his wife and two sons and their dogs, Oscar and Jitterbug. Esther Perel has said of him, “Dr. Ian Kerner is one of the most recognizable voices in clinical sex therapy.” To learn more visit iankerner.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want clinically proven science-backed multi-vitamins made from the best ingredients? Go to ritual.com/SHAMELESSSEX and get 10% off during your first 3 months Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com
Dr. Lawrence Ballon talks about psychiatry and psychology and how these treatments provide important tools to help people with their mental health. Dr. Ballon is a board certified psychiatrist as well as a psychoanalyst and psychopharmacologist. He has over 30 year of experience successfully treating thousands of patients, has held a 12 year term as Chief of Psychiatry at Virginia Hospital Center, and served as President and Medical Director of Arlington Psychiatric Group. Dr. Ballon earned his M.D. and trained in psychiatry at Georgetown University Medical Center, and received his certification in psychoanalysis from the Institute of Contemporary Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis in Washington, DC.
Trigger warningThis content discusses issues of self-harm, mental health and suicide. Please take the time to consider your own mental health, and seek support if you need it. In the UK, the Samaritans can be reached for free on 116 123.Welcome to Learn on the go, a Community Care Inform podcast where we discuss what the latest research, practice models and policy guidance mean to your practice.This episode is about looked-after children and self-harm. It covers what self-harm is, why looked-after children are more at risk of self-harming, and how social workers can support young people and carers. Discussing these questions are Judith Furnivall, lecturer and consultancy lead at the Centre for Excellence for Children’s Care and Protection at the University of Strathclyde, and Dr Eileen Harkness-Murphy, lecturer at the School of Health and Life Sciences in the University of the West of Scotland. The questions were asked by Ruth Hardy, content editor at Community Care Inform.2:34: What is self-harm and what behaviours can it include?7:30: Research suggests that about half of looked-after children meet the criteria for a mental health disorder, which is a much higher figure than the general population. Why is this?12:44: What are the risk factors for self-harm?22:59: How can social workers support young people waiting for a mental health referral?27:40: General good practice principles when working with young people who self-harm.This content covers some difficult and sensitive issues, so please take the time to consider your own mental health, and seek support if you need it. In the UK, the Samaritans can be reached for free on 116 123.ReferencesBeautrais, A L (2000)'Risk factors for suicide and attempted suicide among young people'Australian and New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry, Volume 34, pp236–420Brophy, M; Holmstrom, R and Flynn, K (2006)Truth HurtsReport of the National Inquiry into Self-harm among Young PeopleCukrowicz, K; Wingate, L; Driscoll, K and Joiner, T (2004)'A standard of care for the assessment of suicide risk and associated treatment: The Florida State University Psychology Clinic as an example'Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy, Volume 34, pp87-100Hales, H; Davison, S; Misch, P and Taylor, P J (2003)'Young male prisoners in a young offenders’ institution: their contact with suicidal behaviour by others'Journal of Adolescence, Volume 26, pp667-685Harkess-Murphy, E (2011)'Self-harm and psychosocial risk characteristics : a study of three student cohorts within West Central Scotland'PhD Thesis, University of the West of ScotlandHarkness-Murphy, E; Macdonald, J and Ramsay, J (2013)'Self-harm and psychosocial characteristics of looked after and looked after and accommodated young people'Psychology, Health and Medicine, Volume 18, Issue 3, pp289-99Hasking, P; Momeni, R; Swannell, S and Chia, S (2008)'The Nature and Extent of Non-Suicidal Self-Injury in a Non-Clinical Sample of Young Adults'Archives of Suicide Research, Volume 12, pp208-218Hawton, K; Rodham, K; Evans, E and Weatherall, R (2002)'Deliberate self harm in adolescents: self report survey in schools in England'British Medical Journal, Volume 325, pp1207-1211House of Commons Education Committee (2016)Mental health and wellbeing of looked-after childrenLondon, House of CommonsMeltzer, H; Lader, D; Corbin, T; Goodman, R and Ford, T (2004)The mental health of young people looked after by local authorities in ScotlandEdinburgh: The Stationery OfficeMental Health Foundation (undated)The Truth About Self-harmLondon, Mental Health FoundationMind (2016)Understanding Self-harmLondon, MindMuehlenkamp, J J; Hoff, E R; Licht, J-G; Azure, J A and Hasenzahl, S J (2008)'Rates of non-suicidal self-injury: A cross-sectional analysis of exposure'Current Psychology: A Journal for Diverse Perspectives on Diverse Psychological Issues, Volume 27, Issue 4, pp234-241NICE (2014)Self-harm: SummaryNICE Clinical Knowledge SummariesO’Connor, R C and Nock, M K (2014)'The psychology of suicidal behaviour'The Lancet. Psychiatry, Volume 1, Issue 1, pp73–85O’Connor, R; Rasmussen, S; Miles, J and Hawton, K (2009a)'Deliberate self-harm in adolescents: self-report survey in schools in Scotland'British Journal of Psychiatry, Volume 194, pp68-72Prinstein, M J; Heilbron, N; Guerry, J D; Franklin, J C; Rancourt, D; Simon, V and Spirito, A (2010)'Peer Influence and Nonsuicidal Self-Injury: Longitudinal Results in Community and Clinically-Referred Adolescent Samples'Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, Volume 38, pp669-682Scottish Government (2011)Responding to Self Harm in Scotland: final reportEdinburgh, The Scottish Government
Patty Murin's article in Cosmopolitan: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/a20633159/patti-murin-frozen/ Therapy resources: Anxiety and Depression Association: https://adaa.org The Actors Fund: https://actorsfund.org/services-and-programs/mental-health Psychology Today (find a therapist in your area) : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us BetterHelp (online counseling): https://www.betterhelp.com TalkSpace (online counseling): https://www.talkspace.com Renewed (specifically for eating disorders): https://renewedsupport.org National Institute of Mental Health: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help/index.shtml National Institute for the Psychotherapies: https://nipinst.org Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy: http://icpnyc.org Evan Ruggiero's fan page: https://www.facebook.com/evan.ruggiero.14/ Evan Ruggiero's instagram: @lord_pegleg Corey's instagram: @coreyjohnhafner Corey's twitter: coreyjohnhafner Corey's website: https://www.coreyjohnhafner.com Website: https://www.lilitorre.com/the-dreaded-question-podcast Instagram: @thedreadedquestion Lili's instagram: @lili_torre Email: thedreadedquestionpodcast@gmail.com
Therapist and LGBT advocate Jay Simanovich sits down with Suzanne McColl to discuss the complexities of gender identity and sexuality. Jay shares experiences and insight gained working with LGBTQ+ identified adults at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, along with his work connecting transgender youth and their families to transition related services. He is the founder of Born Again Trans: a platform for transgender and gender non-conforming people to share their stories in the pursuit of acceptance, self-expression, and actualization. To find out more, go to: www.shealthandwellness.com
In our return from the holiday, I spoke with Edie, a psychotherapist who works with the LGBT community to help manage the anxiety and depression that comes with managing the stigma it often faces. We discuss treatment options, anxiety, who you should see, how difficult it can be to see someone, and the difference between being LGBT Friendly and LGBT Knowledgable. Edie specializes in what we might term "identity conflict" and works with individuals toward a deeper sense of integration within a world that seems to demand labels for every experience under the sun but doesn't necessarily encourage understanding the experiences themselves. Her practice is queer as well as poly and kink friendly. She is dedicated to improving a sense of creativity, grace, thoughtfulness, and courage in the lives of individuals. Edie has been in the field for several years, having worked in community mental health with low-income adults who suffer from chronic and severe mental health disorders and is a fellow at the well-regarded Chicago Center for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Currently, she’s a doctoral student at the European Graduate School in Philosophy and Critical Thought, where she is focusing primarily on the politics, ethics, and physio-philosophical aspects of listening and subjectivity. Prior to her work as a psychotherapist and social worker, Edie worked in pastry, taught yoga, and completed her first Master's in Film and Digital Media. She also owns a BA in English and Women's Studies at the University of Chatham in Pittsburgh, PA.
This episode, a look in to daydreaming inspires a question: Can people do it too much? dreamcatching.podcast@gmail.com (828) 407-0578 @dreamcatching.podcast (Instagram) http://facebook.com/Dreamcatching EPISODE SOURCES"When Daydreaming Replaces Real Life," The Atlantic"The Virtues of Daydreaming," The New Yorker"Maladaptive Daydreaming: A Qualitative Inquiry," Eli Somer, Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy. 2002
Are you curious to know the most common issue that I hear about from clients, and from listeners who write in? It’s communication - or, rather problems with communication. Whether it’s being heard, or feeling like you have no idea where your partner is coming from, or you’re trying to communicate one thing but your partner hears something completely different, or you’re always being criticized - the list of potential communication problems goes on and on. Fortunately, today’s guest is going to help you take a monumental leap in the direction of communication that creates growth and connection in your relationship - and in how you communicate with others in general. Today’s guest is Marty Babits, contributor to Psychology Today, and Co-Director of the Family and Couples Treatment Service, a division of the Institute of Contemporary Psychotherapy in NYC. Marty is also the author of the extremely helpful book, “I’m Not a Mind-Reader - Using the Power of Three-Dimensional Communication for a Better Relationship”. Marty has been working with families and couples for over twenty-five years, and the wisdom in this book combines that experience with the work of many of the guests who have been here on the show, to create a manual for communication that will give you a completely new perspective on how to do it well. Prepare to dive deep into a recipe for communication that is sure to shift the results that you get as you interact with the world - especially the ones you love. The 3 dimensions of communication: These 3 dimensions are in every interaction between any two people who are connected: The 1st dimension- This is the literal meaning of what we say, or rather the surface meaning. This is where we can ask: are the messages clear and coherent? The 2nd dimension- This is the meaning that is under the surface, aka the emotional subtext. This dimension is often more complex and it includes the way we are thinking about the way we are. It is in this dimension that love comes through, or contempt. The 3rd dimension- This is the deepest and most profound dimension of communication. It requires reflectiveness and mindfulness. This is where we can take the pulse of whether what we are communicating is moving us towards creating emotional safety with our partner or away from that. Implicit in this dimension is our ability to monitor how the whole direction of the relationship is going. Try this: Pause in your next challenging interaction and take a mental snapshot in any given moment and compare it with what is happening 3 minutes later. This will give you a sense of the direction it is going and will help you practice being aware of what feelings, ideas, and tones are actually transpiring compared with those that you would like to be communicating or feeling. This willingness to become more aware of how we are showing up in our interactions is helpful in any kind of communication! Beginners mind- Foster your willingness to try something new on and a willingness to begin again! Maintaining openness can offer whole new vistas we may be currently unaware of. And that not knowing is okay! Allow yourself to forge ahead into unknown territory knowing that this risk is what it means to be human, and to evolve. Bring this openness and willingness to not know into your relationship. Can you be open to the possibility that attitudes can change and that people can grow? Openness and willingness to not know are the key for couples to get out of that locked patterning that can happen due to expectations and assumptions. When one partner begins to change, the other partner often continues to expect more of what they previously experienced, thus not able to see the newness in their partner's actions or attitudes-even when these changes are attempts at trying to create a better relationship. Resistance to change is common, and natural, as there is often a strong sense of inertia that carries you towards what has been, perhaps out of fear because change WILL inevitably disrupt patterns that may have been in place for a long time. To help move forward, consider that when you are busy focusing on your partner’s faults, you often miss all of the nice things that they are doing! In an effort to energize the positive, give yourself a direct encouragement to try to look for those new things. Actually open yourself to the possibility of new trends- this is the heart of what develops in successful couples work, and what ultimately transforms disappointments, disillusionments, and resentments… The optimal prelude to conversation is invitation: Are you willing to be open to the possibility that you CAN have better interactions? As we learn over and over again, we can not force someone to feel, see, or hear our perspective- but we CAN invite them to do it. By inviting your partner to join you in conversation is to honor their sense of choice in how they enter the dialogue. This honoring leads to a sense that you respect their inner world, which then sets the stage for more openness and trust. Now the conversation can begin. Being safe is a prerequirement for making breakthroughs in intimate communication- This goes for ALL interactions, interpersonal, romantic, sexual, etc. In order to understand each other, people have to be open to each other, and in order to do this there has to be safety. Attachment theory suggests that our survival, and therefore our sense of safety, is dependent on the extent to which we do, or don’t, feel connected to others. Conversely, when we feel threatened (whether this is perceived or real) our autonomic nervous system goes into its fight or flight response, at which point we are not available or open for connection OR communication. Therefore, it is important to cultivate an awareness of how safe our interactions are. Get into the habit of asking yourself “is the way I am communicating right now contributing to an overall sense of safety in this interaction or is it distracting from it?” We all have the capability to activate the part of our neurobiology that is very highly attuned to interpersonal issues! Meaning, we each know how to connect and build empathy in our interactions, we just need to first learn how to be relaxed within ourselves and have the safety in order to do so. The power of the unconscious. We are each guilty the following: Your partner says something that makes you feel something, and you make an assumption that how you are feeling is connected to some truth about what your partner just said. This leap happens on an unconscious level. Invite yourself to consider the possibility that you may be misinterpreting! Sometimes we think we are reading our partner’s mind, but we have this unconscious tendency to misread their meaning depending on our own conditioning. This is important to remember as both the receiver/lister and the giver/talker. When you are speaking, bear in mind that your partner may be hearing you through their own lens- communication does not end when you have muttered what you want to say, rather it is a process that you must follow through on, noticing if what you said had the effect you intended. Listen three dimensionally! We are more than our words. Words can be profound, yet we are sharing lives not words. Remember that what people mean is more important than what they say. Although, there is a strong relationship between the two! With compassion, we can move ourselves towards fuller expression. This requires a rethinking of what listening is. Expand your sense of listening to include a listening in on your own internal voice so that you can remain aware of what you are thinking , feeling, and believing and how you are putting this together with what you are hearing from the other person. Then work on extending your awareness to include a consideration of what might be happening inside of the other person that may be producing the speech or the tone you are hearing now. This alive awareness of what is being said, how it is being said, and how it is being received helps move towards a communication that is open, flowing, and receptive enough so that the love that is needed can come through, and the sense of contact and connection is felt and genuine. Receiving- to receive you have to give to yourself. For those of you who are more comfortable with being the caregiver than the receiver, allow yourself to see this as an invitation to learn more about yourself. Is there are sense of unworthiness? This is just one example of resistances we may have built in how we are in relationship, and while it may be tempting to accept this as just the way things are, often times rejecting this very notion is what will lead to growth and opening. Remember that ‘working’ on your relationship is really ‘learning’. If you can change your perspective and attitude on problems and redefine them as challenges, then you will be able to turn your problems into opportunities. Get curious and compassionate with yourself and reflect on questions like “How can I make things better?”, “How can i allow myself to feel more loved than i do?”, and “How can I work with receiving while maintaining my integrity?” A synonym for complexity is richness! In effort to rethink “working” in and on your relationship, it may be helpful to welcome complexity as richness. Together you can begin looking to create possibilities and new roads where you thought there were dead ends. Ask, “What else is possible in this moment?” and “What if this isn't what i think it is?” These are the questions that make awareness three dimensional. You are aware of the problem AND you are aware of there being other possibilities. With 3D awareness it is as if you can walk around the problem- seeing it without totally being in it. Troubleshooting mode- how to turn the ship around. Okay, so let’s say you're in a conversation and it is about to go south- what can you do? First, name it. Say something like “Hey, I think we are at that place we have been before, and I know what has happened in the past, do you think it is possible that we can try to do something different?”. Then, for example, you can say something like “I’m having that feeling again that we are going further away from each other- let's take a brief break and resolve to come back again and approach this with a more positive attitude- because right now i am feeling a little hopeless and defensive”. These statements are founded on the belief that you CAN change the dance. To do so requires a plan, preemptively created, that can be used in tense moments. If you know that when one of you is triggered, voices often get raised then collaborate together when you are both regulated to set up a plan and a statement such as “hey babe, you must really be activated right now because you are raising your voice, let's slow down”. Acknowledging each other’s autonomic responses without judgement, and having a plan that gives each other permission to calm back down helps to create emotional safety. This emotional safety is unavailable and often threatened when we are in up-regulated and triggered states. Have an insult substitute ready! There are inevitably going to be times when you will not be able to get around your biological state of fight or flight (defense and anger), and this is NOT going to be a time when you are going to create new understandings that are going to become the foundation of a better relationship- no, this is going to be a moment to just get through. When all else fails, and we cannot regulate ourselves with the grace or swiftness our system or our partner needs, then it can be helpful to have a venting statement at the ready as a means of damage control! This allows you to have a way to express your anger or activation in a somewhat contained way. You can say, for instance, “I'm not going to say what is on my mind right now because if i do it is going to create bad feelings, I just want you to know that I am that angry and I'm going to, for the sake of our relationship, chill out for a minute”. Figure out a statement that works for you and your partner, and don’t be ashamed to use it on occasion- when triggered enough our autonomic system reverts to old patterns and conditioning that can lead to much more damaging behaviors and statements than something like “woah, I’m super activated right now and can’t engage or I may say something hurtful that I would regret”. Remember also that YET, the word and the concept, hold all possibilities present. Try bringing it in when you feel stuck- “I’m not ready, yet”, “I’m not yet calm enough”, “I don’t want to, yet”... “Communicate don’t Debate”: You may be so accustomed to debate style conversations that you don’t realize any more how much energy is going into discussing who is right and who is wrong. Begin to notice how open you are to hearing each other. You do not have to agree, but you do have to agree to openly listen. The actual nuts and bolts decision making that is often fodder for debate will come easier as you develop your capacity to work things out without being deadlocked in not understanding each other. Often criticism is a veiled attempt at repairing a disconnection. This is a hard one to conceptualize, and even harder when we are in midst of hurt. And yet, the idea that criticisms can actually be a way for our partner to say they need to connect with you is a core principle in attachment theory. Of course it is not a great way to do so, nor is it very effective, but it does speak to the concept that our main motivation in communicating is to connect. When we feel we cannot connect effectively than we become frustrated, and this can come out looking like hostility. It is not necessarily hostility against the target person, even though it sounds like it, it is more about what is underneath- a pleading for connection. How does the fear of abandonment and loneliness show up in your interactions? How can you find ways together to say “I am here”, even in those messy and hurt moments? The predominant element in relationships is work, not magic. Mindreading, although so tempting and so habitual, is not advised. It is not the mindreading itself that is destructive, as much as it is the assuming that your (mis)reading is the truth. When we take our own readings as the way it is, we leave our partners feeling in the dark and misunderstood. How you analyze or hold onto what you think your partner is thinking and feeling often becomes a critical aspect of the tone of your relationship. It can lead to resentment, frustration, hurt, and alienation. Although you likely know your partner very well, do not confuse this with having the ability to mindread- your assumptions of what are going on with your partner are often times NOT TRUE (especially if you are assuming the worst). Conversely, holding onto the attitude that your partner should automatically and intuitively “already know” is equally destructive and misleading. The golden rule is that YOU have the responsibility to help your partner understand what you are feeling. Express and share yourself in a clear way so that your partner can better give you what you want. Through a mutual commitment of 1) not mindreading and 2) not holding onto the “well my partner should have known” ideal, you will become partners, not adversaries. This is not to say that partners who are close sometimes CAN understand each other on a beautifully profound level, or that there are times when genuine unconscious communication does happen, but it cannot be expected or taken for granted. In general, relationships DO take work, especially when it comes to communication. Resources Read Marty’s book “I’m Not a Mind-Reader - Using the Power of Three-Dimensional Communication for a Better Relationship” Learn more about Marty’s work at his website martybabits.com Check out his blog on psychologytoday www.neilsattin.com/communication Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide to this episode with Marty Babits and qualify for a signed copy of his book. 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Dr. Ankur Saraiya is a Board Certified psychiatrist who obtained his undergraduate degree in Biology from Harvard University, attended medical school at Columbia University, and completed a residency in general psychiatry also at Columbia and the New York State Psychiatric Institute. Dr. Saraiya went on to complete a fellowship in forensic psychiatry at New York University and Bellevue Hospital and is also Board Certified in Forensic Psychiatry. Dr. Saraiya?s long standing interests include the integration of multiple modes of treatment for the treatment of mental illness and the promotion of physical and mental health. Dr. Saraiya is an Attending Physician at Bellevue Hospital as well as an Assistant Clinical Professor at Columbia University. He has a private practice in Manhattan and serves as a supervisor of young psychiatrists training in Columbia?s residency. Recently, Dr. Saraiya co-authored a question and answer review for Medscape that was distributed at the national meeting of the American Psychiatric Association. He has lectured on the management of the suicidal patient at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and will be quoted in an upcoming article in Men?s Health magazine. Dr. Saraiya is currently working on a book analyzing the psychological obstacles that interfere with individuals in making positive changes in their health habits.
Dr. Ankur Saraiya is a Board Certified psychiatrist who obtained his undergraduate degree in Biology from Harvard University, attended medical school at Columbia University, and completed a residency in general psychiatry also at Columbia and the New York State Psychiatric Institute. Dr. Saraiya went on to complete a fellowship in forensic psychiatry at New York University and Bellevue Hospital and is also Board Certified in Forensic Psychiatry. Dr. Saraiya?s long standing interests include the integration of multiple modes of treatment for the treatment of mental illness and the promotion of physical and mental health. Dr. Saraiya is an Attending Physician at Bellevue Hospital as well as an Assistant Clinical Professor at Columbia University. He has a private practice in Manhattan and serves as a supervisor of young psychiatrists training in Columbia?s residency. Recently, Dr. Saraiya co-authored a question and answer review for Medscape that was distributed at the national meeting of the American Psychiatric Association. He has lectured on the management of the suicidal patient at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and will be quoted in an upcoming article in Men?s Health magazine. Dr. Saraiya is currently working on a book analyzing the psychological obstacles that interfere with individuals in making positive changes in their health habits.
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