Heal from Infidelity

In this episode, Majo Torreli, a somatic coach who helps women break unhealthy relationship patterns and cultivate self-love, shares her personal journey of healing from emotionally abusive relationships and the transformative power of somatic coaching. Key Takeaways: Majo Torreli is a somatic coach helping women heal from unhealthy relationship patterns. Her personal journey involved overcoming emotionally abusive relationships. Somatic coaching helped her achieve what years of therapy could not. Feeling safe in one's body is crucial for emotional healing. Intellectual understanding of self-worth is different from experiencing it emotionally. Forgiveness requires processing and releasing trapped energy. Women often need to create safety within themselves after betrayal. Trusting intuition takes time and requires emotional digestion. Taking accountability for relationship patterns is essential for growth. Healing is a gradual process that requires self-compassion. Majo is a somatic coach who helps women break out of painful relationship patterns by reconnecting with their bodies. After more than a decade stuck in unhealthy cycles, anxiety, and self-doubt in love—despite doing “all the right things”—she finally broke free and found lasting self-love through somatic (body-based) coaching. Today, she guides other women through the same journey—helping them cultivate inner peace, confidence, and love they can feel in their bones, not just in their heads. To learn more from Majo: Website: https://www.shesembodied.com/ Instagram: @shesembodied More from me: Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we'll explore the critical distinction between manipulation and influence, particularly in the context of relationships affected by infidelity. We'll emphasize the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier interactions and personal growth. The discussion covers how manipulation often stems from fear and self-serving motives, while influence is rooted in strength, clarity, and a desire for collective betterment. Key Takeaways: Understanding the difference between manipulation and influence is crucial after infidelity. Manipulation often arises from fear and self-serving motives. Influence is about seeking the betterment of everyone involved. Recognizing patterns of manipulation can help break the cycle of unhealthy behaviors. Effective communication is key to fostering influence rather than manipulation. Living in alignment with your values can enhance your influence in relationships. Asking for what you want is a form of kindness, not manipulation. Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in distinguishing between manipulation and influence. Trust is built through honesty and consistency in relationships. Shifting from control to influence increases the chances of achieving desired outcomes. More from me: Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we're exploring unbecoming and self-discovery. We'll look at the importance of stripping away old identities and beliefs that no longer serve us, particularly those rooted in childhood trauma. We need to create space for authenticity and self-acceptance, rather than striving for an idealized version of ourselves.  Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity involves unbecoming old identities. Many beliefs about self-worth are rooted in childhood experiences. Unlearning is often more important than becoming something new. Creating space for authenticity allows for true self-discovery. The pressure to be better can stem from past trauma. It's essential to recognize what stories are not truly yours. Self-acceptance is a key part of the healing process. The journey of unbecoming can be uncomfortable but necessary. You are not defined by your past or the actions of others. Real work is about being present with yourself, not rushing to an outcome. More from me: Register for the Free Masterclass - Reclaiming Her: Mothering with a Shattered Heart After Infidelity - here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/reclaiming-her Sign up for the $47 class Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Actions alone are insufficient for healing after betrayal. Today we're talking about the importance of genuine connection, the impact of childhood experiences on emotional safety, and the necessity of self-awareness and self-care in the healing process. A person who has been betrayed has to prioritize their emotional safety and seek deeper, more meaningful connections in their relationships. Let's talk about how... Key Takeaways: Healing requires more than just actions; it needs genuine connection. Box checking can create an illusion of safety but lacks depth. Emotional safety is often rooted in childhood experiences. Resentment can undermine efforts to rebuild trust. Real healing often disrupts appearances and requires vulnerability. Self-awareness is crucial for understanding emotional needs. It's important to communicate needs clearly in relationships. Surface-level compliance can lead to deeper feelings of loneliness. Creating safety starts from within and requires self-compassion. True connection is built on mutual respect and understanding. More from me: Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today I'm going to share a personal experience of navigating some complex emotions during my daughter's wedding. Let's talk about the importance of making room for all feelings, including joy and grief, and acknowledge the societal expectations surrounding emotional responses to significant life events. Key Takeaways: Emotional maturity involves holding multiple truths at once. It's okay to feel both joy and grief simultaneously. Cultural expectations can create pressure around how we should feel during significant events. Mixed emotions are a natural part of the human experience. Self-judgment can intensify emotional struggles. Making room for all feelings is essential for healing. Emotions are not problems; they are experiences to be felt. You don't have to wait for the hard times to celebrate the good. All parts of you are welcome in your emotional journey. Healing involves embracing complexity and allowing all emotions to coexist. More from me: Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we talk about how important it is to focus on personal growth after infidelity rather than fixating on the actions of the partner. We need to prioritize self-healing, understanding the true nature of remorse, and the significance of moving forward rather than trying to return to the past. Key Takeaways: Focus on personal growth rather than the partner's actions. The decision to stay or go should not be the first question. Remorse from a partner does not equate to personal healing. Healing is not contingent on the partner's regret or recognition. Self-care and personal needs should take precedence over monitoring the partner's change. Moving forward is essential; returning to the past is not an option. Trusting oneself is more powerful than surveillance. Liberation from dependency on others is key to healing. Ask yourself who you are becoming in the healing process. This experience can sharpen important aspects of your character. More from me: Sign up for the class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we cover the critical concept of integration after infidelity. It's so important to move beyond mere education and understanding and advocate for a deeper embodiment of the lessons learned. True healing comes from slowing down, feeling emotions, and practicing integration. It's not easy facing the challenges of decision-making in the aftermath of infidelity; we have to commit long-term to the healing process. Key Takeaways: Integration is essential for true healing after infidelity. Education without integration leads to avoidance. Embodying change requires slowing down and feeling emotions. Real transformation happens when we practice the pause. Making decisions about staying or leaving requires integration. Infidelity can be an invitation to learn and grow. You already possess the answers within you. Courage is needed to move from knowledge to action. Long-term commitment is crucial for lasting change. Letting knowledge change you is the key to healing. More from me: Sign up for the class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today, let's explore the phrase 'happy wife, happy life' and its implications on relationships. We'll discuss the dangers of suppressing emotions, the cost of avoiding truth, and the importance of building true intimacy and honest partnerships. Real happiness in relationships comes from mutual respect, truth-telling, and emotional resilience rather than appeasement and avoidance of conflict. Key Takeaways: The phrase 'happy wife, happy life' promotes dishonesty and emotional withdrawal. Suppressing emotions leads to resentment and distance in relationships. Real partnership is built on mutual truth and respect, not just keeping one person happy. Avoiding conflict can create a false sense of peace that is unsustainable. Politeness can kill passion and intimacy in relationships. Codependency often disguises itself as love but is rooted in fear. True intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to express needs without blame. Conflict is an opportunity for engagement, not something to avoid. Creating a culture of honest communication strengthens relationships. Reflecting on what conversations are being avoided can lead to deeper understanding. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we're delving into the importance of honesty and truth-telling in the healing process after betrayal. We'll talk about the courage required to face one's own truths and the detrimental effects of withholding honesty in relationships, and we'll explore the concept of 'mini betrayals' and how they can lead to larger issues in relationships. Key Takeaways: Honesty is essential for healing and growth. Self-honesty requires courage and vulnerability. Withholding truth creates distance and resentment. Mini betrayals can lead to larger issues in relationships. Facing our truths can lead to clarity and alignment. Silence in relationships often leads to assumptions and disconnection. Truth-telling is a commitment to authenticity. Embracing complexity in truth allows for personal evolution. Avoiding truth can lead to feelings of being stuck. Sharing truths can foster deeper connections with others. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we're talking about the concept of emotional leeches — people or beliefs that drain our energy without giving anything in return. It's so important to recognize these leeches, understand the false narratives attached to them, and to ultimately release them to reclaim our energy and well-being. Key Takeaways: Emotional leeches drain your energy without giving anything in return. Recognizing leeches is the first step to reclaiming your energy. False narratives often stem from childhood conditioning. Healing from infidelity reveals the leeches we carry. Setting boundaries is essential for self-care. Letting go of leeches is an act of love and kindness. You are not responsible for others' emotions. Identifying leeches helps in understanding unhealthy dynamics. Reclaiming your energy allows for personal growth. Healing is a journey that requires self-reflection. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we discuss the transformative power of truth in the healing journey after infidelity. There is emphasis on the importance of facing hard truths, both about ourselves and our relationships, and how this process can lead to personal empowerment and freedom. Through various exercises and reflections, listeners are encouraged to embrace their truths and develop emotional maturity, which is essential for genuine healing and growth. Key Takeaways: Truth is the threshold between devastation and transformation. The hardest truth to tell is often the one we tell ourselves. Ignoring the truth only makes it louder. Real healing begins when we stop lying to ourselves. Truth is not a weapon; it is a doorway to freedom. Emotional maturity is essential for telling and hearing the truth. We must integrate the truth we receive into our lives. Living in truth requires daily decisions to honor what is real. Trusting ourselves is the foundation of personal empowerment. Freedom is only possible when we have the emotional maturity to hold it. More from me: Offer for a very special couple - email me for this special offer: andrea@andreagiles.com Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today's guest is Julie Cluff, a hope and grief coach, who shares her profound journey of loss and transformation after the tragic death of her two children in a car accident. Julie discusses the impact of grief, the importance of self-compassion, and the process of reclaiming joy after loss. She emphasizes the significance of sharing our stories and the potential for generational healing through personal growth. The conversation highlights the challenges of navigating grief and the transformative power of embracing our experiences to foster healing and connection. Key Takeaways: The hardest things can lead to profound transformation. Grief is a complex journey that requires time and compassion. Self-compassion is crucial in the healing process. Finding joy again is a relearning process after loss. Sharing our stories can inspire and help others heal. Generational healing can occur through personal growth and self-love. Pain often drives us to seek help and change our lives. Healing is not linear; it involves ups and downs. We can reclaim our space and redefine our relationship with grief. Transformation requires us to build a new foundation after loss. More from Julie: After losing my brother John to suicide and going through a painful divorce, I was left to pick up the pieces with my three young children. I remarried and following the births of three more children, my husband Ron and I built a remarkable life together blending our beautiful family with our six children. Then on Mother's Day, May 13, 2007, tragedy entered our life once again when our two youngest children, Carrie (10) and David (8) were killed in a car accident. For three years, I experienced profound, unimaginable grief. The pain was incomprehensible. However, in May 2010, my soul awakened to the beauty of life, and my life was transformed overnight as the miracle of healing entered my being. Through my personal healing experiences with spiritual guidance to share my story to help others, I developed the Build a Life After Loss podcast and programs, including the HOPE Model of Healing. Over the years, following these painful losses, I learned to communicate with my brother and children beyond the veil. I have often felt like I live in two worlds – the physical and the spiritual. As I worked with many grief clients I often felt their departed loved ones assisting in bringing love and light to their family members during our sessions. Then one summer day in 2020 in a remarkable moment I unexpectedly felt the distinct presence of a friend's son who had recently passed away. Not knowing what else to do I wrote down the messages that I was receiving from him and later shared those messages with his mother. These extraordinary experiences kept happening as I felt the presence of angels, spirit guides and loved ones leading the sessions with clients. I am forever grateful for the opportunity to bring this love and light to my clients as a spiritual guide between worlds. In addition to training and many years of experience in life and grief coaching, I am trained in energy work, angel readings, religious trauma, reiki, mediumship, EFT tapping, astrology, human design, and more. As we work together, I look forward to customizing a coaching experience specifically for you. To learn more from Julie: Website: http://juliecluff.com/ Website: http://buildalifeafterloss.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/buildalifeafterloss Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliecluffcoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@juliecluffcoaching More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we're going to stop reacting and start leading. Let's talk about the importance of moving from a reactive state to a proactive one in relationships, especially after infidelity. We'll discuss the need for self-leadership, the power of pausing before responding, and the significance of understanding one's triggers. Key Takeaways: Reacting to a partner's choices gives them power over you. Responding from strength leads to clarity and control. Jumping to conclusions can be dangerous and unproductive. Emotional outbursts often stem from a place of fear. Making decisions based on a partner's mood undermines your values. The power of the pause can transform your responses. Self-leadership shifts the power dynamic in relationships. Understanding your triggers is key to personal growth. Healthy relationships require mutual validation, not begging for it. Commit to leading yourself first to foster personal empowerment. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we discuss the essential process of self-repair after experiencing betrayal with an emphasis on the importance of focusing on your relationship with yourself rather than solely on repairing the relationship with your partner. We explore how infidelity can shatter self-trust, the urgency of self-repair, and practical steps to rebuild self-trust, set boundaries, and engage from a place of choice. Ultimately, the episode highlights that true healing begins with you and that nurturing a strong relationship with yourself leads to healthier external relationships. Key Takeaways: Self-repair is often neglected after infidelity. Healing the relationship with yourself is crucial. Infidelity can lead to a deep rupture in self-trust. Many focus on repairing the relationship first due to urgency. Self-repair involves rebuilding self-trust and listening to intuition. Setting boundaries is essential for self-care. Engaging from a place of choice enhances relationships. The stronger your self-relationship, the better your external relationships. Healing starts with individual actions and self-awareness. Knowing oneself intimately is invaluable for personal growth. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we explore the critical importance of investing in oneself for healing and personal growth after infidelity. Those who commit financially and emotionally to their healing journey tend to see the most significant transformations. We address some common objections to investing in oneself, the concept of money as an energetic exchange, the high costs associated with remaining stuck in unhealthy patterns and the impact of personal healing on future generations. Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity requires courage and self-discovery. Personal growth often involves stepping out of comfort zones. Choosing how to respond to challenges is crucial for growth. Micro choices can significantly impact emotional resilience. Feeling pressured can hinder personal progress. It's essential to take ownership of one's healing journey. Difficult conversations can lead to personal empowerment. Learning new skills can enhance confidence and self-esteem. Embracing challenges can broaden one's horizons. Repairing relationships starts with self-awareness and choice. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Get on my email list here: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/z9q3x1 Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we discuss the journey of healing from infidelity through personal growth and empowerment. Using a skiing experience as a metaphor, I emphasize the importance of making conscious choices in response to challenges and triggers. The episode highlights the significance of micro choices in shaping our emotional responses and the power of taking ownership of our healing journey. Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity requires courage and self-discovery. Personal growth often involves stepping out of comfort zones. Choosing how to respond to challenges is crucial for growth. Micro choices can significantly impact emotional resilience. Feeling pressured can hinder personal progress. It's essential to take ownership of one's healing journey. Difficult conversations can lead to personal empowerment. Learning new skills can enhance confidence and self-esteem. Embracing challenges can broaden one's horizons. Repairing relationships starts with self-awareness and choice. Join me on February 11th, I'm hosting an all-day virtual retreat called "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity." It's going to be from 9 am to 4 pm MT all online with amazing content and amazing guests. Come learn how to get out of your own way - how to stop self-sabotaging, how to let go of the painful stories that continue to hurt you so that you can call in the things that you really need. Get access for this day, and you also get access to a call replay. So if you can't come to the whole call, you will have access to the replay and can watch it later. Get in here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9wXtaLU6/checkout More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we explore the critical differences between healthy love and love addiction. We discuss the emotional dependencies that characterize love addiction, the signs to recognize it, and the traits of healthy love. The conversation delves into the root causes of love addiction, including unresolved childhood wounds and attachment styles, and offers practical steps for healing and cultivating healthy relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, emotional independence, and the need for mutual respect and growth in relationships. Key Takeaways: Healthy love is about mutual respect and emotional security. Love addiction often involves prioritizing the relationship over self-respect. Signs of love addiction include intense anxiety and worthlessness when alone. Healthy love allows for individuality and personal boundaries. Unresolved childhood wounds can lead to love addiction. Awareness and acceptance are the first steps to healing. Cultivating a fulfilling life outside of relationships is essential. Setting boundaries is crucial for healthy relationships. Love addiction is rooted in fear and compulsion. You deserve love that feels steady and secure. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we discuss the importance of self-leadership in the healing process after infidelity. Self-leadership involves taking responsibility for one's thoughts, emotions, and actions, which can significantly influence relationships. We cover various aspects of self-leadership, including emotional regulation, integrity, accountability, setting boundaries, and the ripple effect of personal growth. Reflect on your control, set intentions, and seek support as you navigate your healing journey. Key Takeaways: Self-leadership is crucial for personal growth after infidelity. Emotional regulation is key to fostering trust in relationships. Living with integrity inspires others and builds credibility. Setting healthy boundaries is essential for effective communication. Vulnerability is necessary for authentic connection. The ripple effect of self-leadership can influence future relationships. Reflecting on control helps in managing emotions and actions. Daily intentions can guide personal behavior and choices. Support systems are vital for deeper self-leadership. Leading yourself forward is a continuous journey of growth. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we look at the concepts of transactional versus generous giving in relationships, particularly in the context of healing after infidelity. We discuss the motivations behind giving, the emotional toll of transactional giving, and the importance of genuine generosity without expectations. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness and communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy after betrayal. Key Takeaways: Transactional giving seeks control or an outcome. Generous giving is rooted in love and authenticity. Trust is rebuilt through consistent, small gestures. Expectations can complicate the act of giving. Generosity should not come at the expense of one's own needs. Self-awareness is key in understanding motivations for giving. Both partners can struggle with feelings of insecurity after infidelity. Genuine giving fosters connection and mutual respect. It's important to communicate expectations honestly. Shifting from transactional to generous giving is a courageous act. More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we discuss the challenges of navigating personal change and grief after infidelity. I share my own experiences of emotional upheaval as my son leaves for college, exploring the triggers that arise during significant life transitions. We'll emphasize the importance of self-awareness, healthy communication, and grounding techniques to manage intense emotions.  Please embrace your healing journey and consider joining my transformative program for support and growth. In this episode: Navigating Personal Change and Grief Understanding Triggers and Emotional Responses Tools for Managing Change and Grief Embracing Healing and Growth More from me: Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we discuss the concept of false confidence, particularly in the context of healing from infidelity. We explore the difference between true empowerment and the illusion of strength, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in the healing process. The episode highlights how performative behaviors can hinder emotional recovery and the significance of assertiveness over control in rebuilding trust. I provide actionable steps for listeners to cultivate true confidence, including acknowledging pain, taking ownership of healing, and focusing on personal growth. In this episode: The Illusion of Strength vs. True Empowerment The Impact of Performative Behavior Understanding Remorse and Authenticity Navigating Control and Assertiveness Building True Confidence After Betrayal Mentioned in this episode: Ep #149 - The Three Phases of Recovery More from me: The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Kendra Last and I delve into the complexities of narcissism in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal and infidelity. Kendra shares her personal experiences with narcissistic partners, highlighting the signs and traits of narcissism, the impact it has on individuals, and the importance of recognizing one's worth in the healing process. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-love, understanding the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, and the journey towards healing and empowerment. In this episode: Understanding Narcissism in Relationships Kendra's Personal Journey with Narcissism Identifying Narcissistic Traits and Behaviors The Impact of Narcissism on Relationships Differentiating Between Narcissistic Traits and Disorder The Love Bombing Phase of Narcissistic Relationships Recognizing Vulnerabilities to Narcissistic Partners Healing and Moving Forward After Narcissistic Abuse About Kendra: Kendra Last is a Certified Life Coach who specializes in helping women thrive after experiencing narcissistic abuse and/or betrayal trauma.  She has a gentle yet direct approach to help you really understand what you have been through, process it and then see your options for moving forward.  She helps her clients really understand the "WHY" behind the choices they make.  This helps her clients heal faster, and feel empowered to finally see all of the options available to them.  She is a single mom to 3 awesome teenagers, loves the beach and sewing and enjoys living with her kids in Lawrence, Kansas. To learn more from Kendra go here: https://linkr.bio/luxuryladiesretreats More from Andrea: The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout The price for my program "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" goes up January 1st. Email me at hello@andreagiles.com for more information. Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we discuss the critical role of remorse in healing from infidelity. I'll emphasize the importance of genuine apologies, the characteristics of real remorse, and how to advocate for meaningful communication in relationships. The conversation provides insights into what constitutes true remorse and the steps necessary for rebuilding trust after betrayal. In this episode: Understanding Remorse After Betrayal Defining Real Remorse The Importance of Genuine Apologies Characteristics of Real Remorse What Real Remorse Does Not Look Like How to Ask for a Meaningful Apology More from Andrea: The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout The price for my program "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" goes up January 1st. Email me at hello@andreagiles.com for more information. Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Today let's delve into the complexities of commitment, especially in the wake of infidelity. We'll discover how committing can feel like a terrifying free fall and learn strategies to navigate these intense emotions. I'll share insights from coaching sessions, emphasizing the importance of going all in to find personal empowerment and growth. Whether you're deciding to stay in or leave a relationship, this episode offers valuable guidance on embracing vulnerability and finding grounding in uncertainty. Join me as I help you transform fear into a path of healing and self-discovery. In this episode: The Anatomy of Commitment Why We Avoid Commitment Personal Stories and Insights Embracing Vulnerability and Growth More from Andrea: The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout The price for my program "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" goes up January 1st. Email me at hello@andreagiles.com for more information. Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Join Andrea in episode 167 of the Heal From Infidelity podcast as she explores the power of making choices, one at a time. Discover how each decision, big or small, can shape your life and lead to personal growth and healing. Andrea shares personal reflections from her busy Thanksgiving weekend, including the importance of advocating for oneself and the profound impact of life-altering decisions. She also announces an upcoming workshop on the decision to stay or go, offering guidance for those at a crossroads. Tune in to learn how to embrace your choices and create a life that truly reflects your values. In this episode: Workshop Announcement Thanksgiving Reflections Choices and Consequences Big Decisions and Their Impact Personal Growth and Coaching Embracing Unexpected Outcomes More from Andrea: The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea shares personal experiences and insights that show how letting go of the need for certainty can lead to profound personal growth and self-discovery. She discusses the costs of clinging to the familiar and the steps needed to embrace the unknown, offering listeners a pathway to rebuild self-trust and create a life filled with possibility. Tune in to discover how stepping into the unknown can help you become the boldest, truest version of yourself. In this episode: Program Updates The Importance of Uncertainty Clinging to Familiarity Embracing the Unknown Personal Growth and Self-Trust More from Andrea: Ready to join? Sign up here! Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea delves into the complex relationship between escapism and infidelity. Discover why individuals turn to escapism, how it manifests in both betrayed and betraying partners, and the long-term impact on relationships. Andrea offers insights into identifying escapism tendencies, confronting them, and fostering personal growth and healing. Tune in to learn how to face personal struggles and relationship challenges head-on, and explore healthier coping strategies for a more fulfilling life. In this episode: Black Friday Specials Announcement Understanding Escapism Escapism Examples Impact on Relationships Healing and Confronting Escapism More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Andrea explores the profound impact of judgment on relationships, especially in the aftermath of infidelity. Discover how judgment can hinder healing and connection, and learn the difference between judgment and discernment. Andrea discusses empathy and self-compassion as powerful tools to overcome judgment and foster communication. Whether you're working to rebuild a relationship or deciding to move on, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice to help you navigate the complex emotions of betrayal. In this episode: Announcement: Free Class on Handling Triggers The Price of Judgment Types of Judgment Judgment vs. Discernment Impact on Relationships Empathy and Self-Compassion Open Communication More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

FREE CLASS! Friday, November 15, 2024 10:00 am MT / 12:00 pm ET Join us for a special class on navigating and trigger-proofing your holidays, hosted by Andrea! This last-minute session is set for Friday, November 15th at 10:00 AM Mountain Time. Can't make it live? No worries! The class will be recorded, and you can catch the replay. Act fast, as exclusive offers will be available for only 48 hours post-webinar. Secure your spot here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/trigger-proof-your-holidays  Don't miss out on this opportunity for holiday support!

In this episode, Andrea delves into the intricate relationship between technology and infidelity. Discover how the digital age has transformed the landscape of relationships, presenting both challenges and opportunities for healing. Andrea shares insights on setting digital boundaries, differentiating between surveillance and privacy, and the importance of open communication to rebuild trust. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of betrayal or preparing for new relationships, this episode offers empowering advice to help you take control of your digital space and foster healing. Tune in for a transformative discussion on safeguarding your mental health and reclaiming your power. In this episode: The Role of Technology in Modern Infidelity Setting Boundaries and Communication Privacy vs. Surveillance Digital Detox and Mental Health Compassion and Moving Forward More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea delves into the profound journey of healing from betrayal. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, she explores the expectations versus the reality of healing, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and resilience. Andrea shares a poignant story about a dream that reignited past emotions and uses it as a metaphor for understanding the healing process. Join her as she uncovers the subconscious fears that linger and offers guidance on how to confront them with courage and kindness. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that healing is not about erasing the past, but about growing stronger and more self-aware. In this episode: Personal Reflection and Dream Analysis Metaphor of Physical Healing Subconscious Fears and Triggers The True Meaning of Healing Invitation to Work Together More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Join Andrea as she delves into the complex journey from betrayal to rebuilding trust. This episode offers tactical insights and real-life examples to help listeners understand the dynamics of trust after infidelity. Andrea references Brene Brown's "Atlas of the Heart" to explore the emotions tied to betrayal and trust, emphasizing the need for accountability, integrity, and self-trust. Whether you've experienced betrayal or are working on self-trust, this episode provides valuable guidance for healing and growth. In this episode: Discussion on Betrayal Insights from Brene Brown's Work Building Trust: The BRAVING Framework Self-Trust and Personal Growth More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Join Andrea as she explores the transformative possibilities that await after infidelity. Through real-life client stories, Andrea sheds light on the healing journey and the potential for personal growth and stronger relationships. Discover how courageous individuals have navigated betrayal, rebuilt trust, and emerged more confident and connected. Whether you're dealing with a recent discovery or a long-standing issue, this episode offers hope and strategies to move forward with intention and resilience. In this episode: Client Success Stories Dealing with Same-Sex Infidelity Rebuilding After Separation Couples' Journey to Reconnection More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Andrea delves into the complex emotion of anger and its impact on personal growth. Discover how anger can serve as both a warning signal and a barrier to healing, and learn practical strategies to channel this emotion into positive action. Whether you're struggling with boundaries, resentment, or fear, this episode offers insights to help you move forward with confidence. Tune in to explore how to turn anger into a catalyst for change and create a life of empowerment and peace. In this episode: Virtual Retreat Announcement Understanding Anger Anger and Boundaries Resentment vs. Anger Anger as a Cover for Fear Moving Forward More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea explores the concept of changing your mind, its challenges, and benefits. She shares a story about Terry Real, a well-known therapist, who publicly retracted a previous statement, demonstrating humility and growth. Andrea discusses common obstacles like cognitive biases and the sunk-cost fallacy, which prevent individuals from being open to change.  Highlighting the importance of personal growth and integrity, she encourages listeners to be curious, seek diverse perspectives, and embrace flexibility in decision-making. By sharing her personal experience of navigating challenging decisions during her first marriage, Andrea illustrates that changing one's mind, when aligned with personal integrity and transformation, can lead to empowerment and growth.  Listeners are encouraged to challenge existing beliefs for deeper personal development. In this episode: Today's Topic: Changing Your Mind Personal Story: An Email from Terry Real Why It's Hard to Change Our Minds The Benefits of Changing Your Mind How to Change Your Mind Becoming More Open to Change More from Andrea: Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea explores the concept of "your bottom line" and how it plays a crucial role in the healing process after experiencing infidelity. She shares real-life examples from her clients and her own journey, illustrating how identifying and adhering to your bottom line can provide clarity and empowerment. She discusses the importance of self-reflection, understanding personal values, and establishing firm boundaries to protect oneself. Tune in to learn how to define your bottom line and why it's essential for your emotional well-being. In this episode: Importance of Knowing Your Bottom Line Real-Life Examples Andrea's Personal Story How to Identify Your Bottom Line Communicating Your Bottom Line More from Andrea: Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this empowering episode, Andrea delves into the complex topic of your relationship to trauma. Andrea shares personal stories and professional insights to help you understand and redefine your relationship with trauma, especially in the context of infidelity. She challenges the conventional narrative that trauma must be a lifelong burden and offers a fresh perspective on how to transform your pain into growth. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your life, shift your mindset, and build a future that's not defined by past hurts. In this episode: Understanding Relationships with Various Aspects of Life The Common Narratives Around Trauma Personal Story: Healing and Feeling Like a Victim The Role of Support Systems The Impact of Identifying with Trauma A Pivotal Moment: The Day My First Husband Died Changing Your Relationship with Trauma Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Life Invitation to Join the Program More from Andrea: To work with her, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea delves into the concept she calls "The Boomerang Effect." Inspired by a coaching session with a client, Andrea explores how strong emotional reactions often lead us to make drastic decisions, only to later soften and reconsider our stance. She discusses how this phenomenon manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, politics, and religion, and emphasizes the importance of finding a middle ground.  Tune in to learn how to navigate these emotional swings and make more grounded decisions. In this episode: The Origin of the Boomerang Effect Examples in Relationships The Role of Politics and Religion When to Fling Yourself Away The Softening Phase Personal Reflections and Advice More from Andrea: To work with her, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea welcomes forgiveness expert Dara McKinley to explore the profound and transformative power of forgiveness. Dara shares her personal journey and professional insights into how forgiveness can liberate us from emotional burdens, helping us to heal and move forward. They discuss the misconceptions about forgiveness, the difference between forgiving and pardoning, and the role of unconditional love. Dara also provides practical advice on how to approach forgiveness, even in the most challenging circumstances, and emphasizes that everyone is inherently capable of this healing process. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that promises to reshape your understanding of forgiveness. In this episode: Dara McKinley's Background The True Meaning of Forgiveness Dara's Personal Forgiveness Journey Practical Steps to Forgiveness Emotional Health and Forgiveness Addressing Misconceptions The Role of Unconditional Love Applying Forgiveness in Everyday Life   Dara McKinley has studied and worked in the realm of spirituality and health for over three decades. In 2012, difficult life circumstances pointed her to forgiveness where she realized that many spoke prolifically about why one should forgive but no one spoke of how. Her background enabled her to successfully create and follow a forgiveness path that worked, but in the years that followed, the experience made her see some significant themes. In particular, she saw how mainstream forgiveness understanding (pardoning, ceasing anger, having compassion, and letting go) was obscuring the forgiveness path. She also saw that people who identified as spiritual-but-not-religious required a forgiveness path that was clear, and logical. This inspired Dara to devote her professional life to understanding forgiveness' infrastructure and to making forgiveness the practical healing modality it was always meant to be. To learn more from Dara: Website: http://howtoforgive.com Website: http://daramckinley.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DaraMckinley108/ Twitter: https://x.com/daramckinley Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daramckinley   More from Andrea: To work with her, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Today, Andrea dives into the complex issue of spiritual bypassing. She discusses how individuals often use spiritual practices as a way to avoid facing the real issues at the heart of infidelity. Through real-life examples and personal anecdotes, Andrea explains why it's crucial to address the root causes of betrayal rather than masking them with temporary solutions. She also highlights the importance of facing uncomfortable emotions and the potential negative impacts of spiritual bypassing, such as emotional confusion and codependency. Tune in to learn how to confront these challenges head-on and grow into a more authentic and confident version of yourself. In this episode: Real-life Examples Understanding Spiritual Bypassing The Problem with Avoidance Personal Anecdotes Negative Impacts of Spiritual Bypassing Signs of Bypassing To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this week's episode, Andrea takes us on a heartfelt walk in the country to discuss the importance of recognizing and remembering your value. Learn how to move from needing validation to wanting it, and make powerful, courageous decisions that align with your true worth. Andrea shares personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and inspiring examples that will empower you to step into your full potential. Listen now and take the first step towards embracing your true value. In this episode: Discussing self-worth with teens Recognizing our own value Reactive vs. proactive actions Examples of valuing yourself Moving from "need" to "want" Questions for self-reflection To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Are boundaries hard for you? Do you struggle to know when to be firm and when to let up? In this episode, I interview expert Linsday Poelman about boundaries, how to think about them, and what to try if you struggle to set them. You will leave with a concrete way to check in with yourself as you become more autonomous in your closest relationships. Ready to embark on a NEW CAREER? Join Lindsay's exclusive masterclass to dive deep into her Trauma-Informed Coach Certification. Get insider access to a special 72-hour discount by clicking here! Plus, use code ANDREA at checkout for an extra 5% off. Don't miss this chance to transform your life! https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/a/2147833935/FE9GqLkU To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Do you wonder what will actually work for you in moving forward after the infidelity? With so much conflicting information, it can be quite confusing. In this episode, I go into depth about the 5 milestones that, if practiced, will work for anyone, in any situation. Commitment to the process is what will get you strong results. These milestones are built on each other, and the end product of mastering each one is a calm mind, vibrant relationships, and high-level practical skills you will use for the rest of your life. You can move forward, you can reclaim your life, and you can be a version of yourself you are so proud of. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Do you ever wonder what you should be focusing on after infidelity? This episode details the three areas that couples need to dive into in order to have a chance at building something better than what was there before -- or to go their separate ways as peacefully as possible. Tune in to check in with where you are, what to lean into and what to let go of. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

One of the biggest struggles in the aftermath of infidelity is not knowing what to do. Do I just wait on him to see what he does? How can I ever let this go? What if it happens again? Can I ever trust him again? All of these questions lead to endless rumination and winding up more confused than ever. In this episode you'll learn an effective strategy that will help you know the next step to take. When you learn to scan out into the future and really see what is there, it can help give you the courage to make bold moves that will help ensure the future you want most. Referenced downloadable worksheet To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode I go deep and personal with my journey since the ten year anniversary death of my first husband on July 9th. Many struggle in the aftermath of infidelity with how to let go. They find themselves un-intentionally sabotaging new relationships because they are still focused on all that went wrong. I did the same thing, and share in this episode how I learned to let things be so I could be present with the life I was creating (and now enjoy!). If you are stuck in replaying painful stories over and over, this episode is for you. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

After infidelity, you may believe your relationship is forever damaged. While you can never go back and undo it, there is an opportunity to build a wiser, stronger relationship than before. Whether you stay or not, the reflecting and internal introspection that can happen as part of the healing process carves out wisdom in us that can transform our relationships, whether with the person we are now partnered with, or in the future. This episode covers three different stages of relationships, what each has to offer, and how to turn the pain of infidelity into hard-won wisdom. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

As a follow-up to episode #138, “Losing Strategies,” this episode will cover “Winning Strategies.” There are five skills that, when used (and practiced!!), can make a massive difference not only in your relationship, but in how to view yourself. Self-respect is based on how we view ourselves, so growing our skills of being more relational will reflect right back on how we view ourselves. Tune in, pick one you want to practice, and watch your relationships change. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

For most people, any kind of infidelity or affair is quite a life-changing blow, but the reality is that not all affairs are the same. In this episode, I go through several different types of affairs so you can educate yourself on what it is you are dealing with. Knowledge can be painful to hear, but in the end it will empower you to know what action to take. You will know if it's time to double down on rebuilding a marriage that was already in trouble, or if he has issues he needs to deal with alone. Knowing what kind of affair it was can give you direction and courage to know how to proceed, and how to ultimately get some peace back, with the facts in hand. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Join me this week as I share a personal experience of taking on a major project. You'll hear some of the obstacles that made me want to quit, and the reasons why I kept going. This episode is less about a renovation and more about what it actually looks like in real time to make your dreams happen. It is hard work that requires more skill of you than what you may currently have. If you need some motivation to go after what matters most to you, don't miss this one. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

A question I get asked a lot is, “Who should I tell?" After infidelity discovery, you may want to shout it to the rooftops, or tell absolutely no one. Tune in to this episode to get some ideas of who it might we wise to tell, and what to watch out for. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles