Therapy Works

In this episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a listener's complex situation involving an on-and-off situationship marked by his avoidant detachment. They discuss the complex emotions of longing, grief, and fear of vulnerability that arise from such experiences. They offer insights into recognising and addressing historical patterns of attachment, the importance of self-reflection, and the necessity of open communication with partners. They explore the potential subconscious reasons for choosing an emotionally unavailable partner and suggest ways to untangle these emotional threads through self-awareness, therapy, and communication.  This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this live episode of Hurt to Healing, Julia Samuel is joined by acclaimed author and advocate Kit de Waal for a powerful conversation about friendship, fear, and the patterns we inherit from childhood. With her signature blend of candour and compassion, Kit opens up about the painful unravelling of a close friendship and how it stirred echoes of her early life — growing up with a strict Jamaican Jehovah's Witness father and a fiery Irish Catholic mother. She reflects on the emotional survival tactics that shaped her, the fierce loyalty of her siblings, and the way fear and secrecy became part of her emotional DNA. Together, Julia and Kit explore the complexities of trust, identity, and repair — what it means to rewrite the stories we were raised with, and how we begin to parent and connect differently. From Kit's teenage rebellion and escape from a rigid religious upbringing to her work in social care and advocacy for marginalised voices, this is a conversation about resilience, rupture, and growth.  Find Kit: Website: https://www.kitdewaal.com/ Instagram: @kitdewaal Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this expert episode, Julia sits down with Dr. Lucy Pollock, a geriatrician with nearly three decades of experience, to explore the truth about growing older. Together, they unpack the challenges, joys, and misconceptions of ageing — from navigating dementia and end-of-life decisions to improving communication between patients, families, and doctors. Dr. Pollock shares practical advice for ageing well, discusses the emotional weight of caregiving, and highlights why listening is one of the most powerful tools in medicine. This thoughtful conversation is rich with wisdom, humour, and deeply moving personal stories that challenge how we think about aging, autonomy, and what truly matters as we grow older. Buy Lucy's book: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/448165/the-golden-rule-by-pollock-lucy/9781405953245 Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Therapy Works, Julia is joined by Dr. Daniel Levitin — acclaimed neuroscientist, musician, and best-selling author of Music as Medicine. Together, they explore the extraordinary ways music can transform mental and physical health. From its ability to boost mood and memory to its role in treating trauma, depression, and neurological disorders like Parkinson's, Dr. Levitin explains the science behind music's profound effects on the brain. He also discusses how music compares to prescription medication, and why personalised playlists can be as powerful as therapy. The conversation delves into the emotional and cultural significance of music, highlighting how collective musical experiences foster connection, belonging, and healing. This episode is a compelling reminder of the importance of agency and personal resonance in any therapeutic journey — and why Dr. Levitin believes music education should be a universal right. They also touch on the future of AI and human connection, ending with a hopeful vision for integrating music more deeply into everyday well-being. Listen now to discover why music might just be one of the most powerful forms of therapy we have. Find Daniel:Instagram: @daniellevitinofficialBuy his book: https://amzn.eu/d/eSkZSZo Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Agony Aunties delve into the complexities of preverbal trauma, explaining why it is difficult to process such trauma and how it affects the body and brain. Through a detailed example of a young child who suffered early neglect, the discussion highlights how trauma manifests and persists beyond early childhood. They give their insights on therapeutic approaches like EMDR, sensory regulation, and the importance of co-regulation. Additional resources from experts like Bessel van der Kolk, Peter Levine, Bruce Perry, and the concept of the polyvagal system are recommended for deeper understanding. The episode underscores the importance of patience, self-compassion, and the development of a sensory toolbox for trauma survivors. Additional Resources: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – A groundbreaking book on how trauma is stored in the body and how we can begin to heal. Somatic Experiencing by Peter Levine – Learn more about Peter Levine's body-based approach to resolving trauma. What Happened to You? by Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey – A compassionate, neuroscience-based look at childhood trauma and healing. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this expert-led episode, Emily Samuel is joined by Dr Henry Venter to explore the vital role resilience plays in a child's development. Together, they delve into the tools, habits, and parenting strategies that help children adapt to challenges, manage emotions, and build inner strength in an ever-changing world.Whether your child is navigating friendship struggles, academic stress, or emotional setbacks, this conversation offers accessible insights to help them thrive. Find more on Dr Venter: https://www.nu.edu/degrees/social-sciences/faculty/dr-henry-venter/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties address a heart-wrenching question from a listener facing a terminal diagnosis. They offer invaluable advice on how to communicate this devastating news to teenage children without causing unnecessary fear or resorting to dishonesty. They emphasise the importance of honesty and ongoing dialogue, suggest starting the conversation by asking the children what they already understand about the illness, and provide strategies to help manage the emotional burden for both the parent and the children. They also discuss the benefits of using supportive resources from organisations like Child Bereavement UK and Macmillan, and the option of preparing messages and videos for future milestones in the child's life. The discussion concludes with advice on engaging schools and other family members for additional support. Support links:  Macmillan Cancer Support: https://www.macmillan.org.uk/ Child Bereavement UK: https://www.childbereavementuk.org/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special live-recorded episode of Therapy Works, we explore the often unspoken patterns that shape our families — and ourselves. Whether you're navigating sibling tensions, generational expectations, or a long-standing rupture with a parent, this conversation offers powerful insight into how family systems operate, why we fall into certain roles, and how healing truly begins. Note: As this was recorded live, the audio isn't perfect — but the rawness adds to the realness! You'll hear real-life therapy sessions unfold in real time — including a moving segment on estrangement — revealing just how much our early environments impact our adult relationships, self-worth, and sense of belonging. What we explore in this episode: Why understanding the family system matters more than focusing on one person's behaviour How unresolved trauma can silently pass through generations What happens when a family faces unexpected change The difference between rupture and repair — and why both are inevitable Why communication breaks down, and how to rebuild it with clarity and compassion How to navigate the tension between love, resentment, and loyalty With stories, therapeutic insight, and deeply human moments, this episode is for anyone trying to make sense of where they come from — and how to break free from cycles that no longer serve them. Highlights: 01:57 – How families react to change 03:58 – Parenting under pressure 05:33 – Tools for breaking family patterns 21:31 – Live therapy: Joe's estrangement story 36:17 – How revelations shape identity 43:15 – Compassion vs. resentment: finding the balance 48:32 – Q&A and closing reflections Find out more about Curious Minds Festival: https://www.batharts.co.uk/curious-minds This is a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at ⁠@juliasamuelmbe⁠ for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties address a common concern among individuals in their mid-thirties who feel overwhelmed by life's big decisions, especially regarding having children. The discussion dismantles the false narrative of a linear path to success, emphasises the importance of self-awareness, and offers insights into managing societal pressures and personal expectations. The episode also touches on the significance of recognising real time boundaries for biological factors, broadening one's concept of family, cultivating curiosity about one's true desires, and the benefit of therapy in understanding personal choices.Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Amanda Wakeley, OBE, designer, creative director, and multiple award-winner, delves into the profound challenges she faced following the loss of her brother and the end of her eponymous fashion brand. Amanda shares the emotional impact of these significant losses, her process of grieving, and how a new chapter unfolded in her life. She talks about the therapeutic value of her new dog, the importance of nature, and the power of listening to one's gut instinct. Through introspection and resilience, Amanda navigated through her 'fertile void' and rediscovered her purpose, culminating in the launch of her own podcast and a forthcoming style DNA book. The conversation emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, courage, and the joy found in new beginnings. 00:38 Amanda's Career and Personal Losses 01:39 The Challenge of Sibling Loss 05:50 Fashion and Personal Identity 10:49 The Healing Power of Nature and Pets 22:48 The Emotional Toll of Business Closure 27:26 Cosy Work from Home and Meeting Luna 27:52 The Comfort of Cashmere 28:46 Defining Personal Style 30:15 Navigating Major Life Transitions 32:16 Starting a New Chapter with a Podcast 33:28 Dealing with Anxiety and Finding Control 34:01 The Healing Power of Nature and Movement 36:58 Hypnotherapy and Overcoming Fears 38:51 Grieving and Emotional Healing 46:07 Embracing New Beginnings and Wisdom 49:16 Final Reflections and Tribute to Charlie Find Amanda: Instagram: @amandawakeley Website: amandawakeley.com Podcast: Listen here Links referenced in episode: Eugene Gendlin on Focusing: https://focusing.org/sixsteps Sibling Support: https://www.siblingsupport.co.uk/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties address a listener's concern about feeling invisible in their mid-fifties due to ageism in both work and social spaces. Reflecting on their own experiences, the Agony Aunties discuss the psychological challenges and societal biases that come with aging, particularly for women. They emphasise the importance of valuing oneself, embracing inner strengths, and finding liberation in this new phase of life. They also touch upon the cultural obsession with anti-aging and all the benefits of reaching one's fifties. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Olivia shares the harrowing experience of her husband being arrested in 2014 for downloading and sharing paedophilic images of children. She discusses the subsequent impact on her life and her four children, detailing the years of coercive control, emotional abuse, and manipulation she endured during her marriage. Olivia reflects on the therapy and support she received that helped her come to terms with the situation, reclaim her sense of self, and start to rebuild her life. Despite the trauma, Olivia speaks of her path to freedom, the crucial role of her support system, and how she managed to rebuild a life filled with joy and self-discovery. 00:12 The Day Everything Changed 01:22 Living Under Coercive Control 05:10 Realisations Through Therapy 10:19 The Arrest and Its Aftermath 14:14 Struggles with Shame and Guilt 31:30 Support Systems and Healing 37:46 Reflections and Moving Forward Support Links & Further Resources Understanding the Vagus Nerve – Learn more via the Polyvagal Institute Carolyn Spring – Resources on trauma and recovery: carolynspring.com Women's Aid – Support for those affected by domestic abuse: womensaid.org.uk Support for Families & Friends of Perpetrators – Guidance via the Survivors' Network: Read here Dr. Gwen Adshead: Reith Lecture – Listen on the BBC: Episode link Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties discuss the intense pressure and anxiety faced by a 16-year-old dealing with exam stress. They highlight the importance of timetables that include breaks and exercise, the benefits of studying with friends, and the significance of sleep, food, and exercise in reducing anxiety. Additionally, the conversation explores emotional coping mechanisms, the dangers of self-imposed pressure, the impact of comparing oneself to others, and the importance of recognising one's worth beyond academic performance. Real-life anecdotes and practical advice provide a comprehensive guide to managing stress and finding balance during exam periods. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt and inspiring episode, Julia reconnects with world-famous light artist Chris Levine - best known for his portraits of the Queen, Kate Moss, and Elton John - for the first time in over a decade. Chris opens up about his personal battles, from growing up with a father struggling with alcoholism to facing his own challenges with addiction. He shares how these experiences shaped not only his journey of recovery, but also his unique creative path.  Together, they explore how meditation, energy, and a deep connection to a higher power have become central to both his healing and his art. Chris also talks about his fascination with sacred sites, cosmic energy, and the magic of light that continues to inspire his incredible work. This is an intimate and moving conversation about resilience, creativity, and finding peace through stillness. 02:31 The Impact of Addiction 06:04 Artistic Journey and Addiction 08:21 Recovery and Self-Realisation 11:24 Balancing Heart and Mind 17:44 The Role of Higher Power in Recovery 20:29 Expressing Through Art and Meditation 21:35 A Life-Changing Journey to Kathmandu 22:16 Discovering Vipassana Meditation 23:16 The Power of Stillness and Meditation 24:07 Creating Art Through Meditation 27:21 Manifesting Dreams and Serendipity 38:54 The Spiritual Significance of Sacred Sites 42:19 Reflections on Meditation and Creativity Find out more about Chris Levine: https://chrislevine.com/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. This is a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Agony Aunties respond to a listener question about the difficulties of making, keeping, and spending time with friends, emphasising the importance of deep friendships in their life. They mention the challenges posed by frequent moves and busy schedules, particularly in the context of having children and seeking affordable, spacious homes. The speaker acknowledges that many people share this experience and struggle to maintain close connections with their supportive friends due to these factors. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Julia welcomes mother-daughter duo Doris and Athina to share their personal journey through Athina's struggle with anorexia. They describe how Athina developed the disorder during her teenage years amidst family and societal turmoil, leading to severe health issues and hospitalisation. They discuss the physical and psychological battles they faced, including the shame and denial associated with the illness and the relentless daily struggles of recovery. Doris highlights the importance of trusting parental instincts and maintaining a united front against the disorder, while Athina shares her journey toward acceptance, recovery, and ultimately, living a fuller life. The conversation emphasises the significance of early intervention, the power of professional support, and the enduring impact of family dynamics on recovery. Support links for carers and advice:  New Maudsley Carers: https://newmaudsleycarers-kent.co.uk/about-us/ Beat Charity: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties dive into a listener's question about imposter syndrome. We open up about our own experiences of feeling undeserving or underqualified - even when the facts say otherwise - and unpack why so many of us carry these doubts. We explore how imposter syndrome often acts as a protective mechanism, and how reframing it can help shift the narrative. From recognising emotional patterns to using stress reappraisal as a tool, we discuss ways to build self-trust, sit with discomfort, and see it as a sign of growth. This one's all about giving yourself credit - even when your inner critic's the loudest voice in the room. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this compelling and candid conversation, Julia sits down with her close friend Mariella Frostrup – renowned author, broadcaster, journalist and tireless campaigner – for a wide-ranging and deeply personal discussion on life, loss, and the pursuit of equity. Mariella reflects on her remarkable career path, from the world of music PR to becoming one of the UK's most recognisable voices in journalism and broadcasting. She opens up about the early trauma of losing her father, the resilience forged in childhood, and the enduring impact it's had on her outlook. Mariella shares what drives her advocacy for women's rights – particularly around menopause and midlife. As the UK government's menopause ambassador, she's on a mission to tackle workplace inequality and challenge long-standing stigma around women's health. This episode is a celebration of fighting spirit, friendship, and the power of using your voice – not just for yourself, but for the generations of women who follow. 00:50 Early Life and Formative Experiences 02:25 Challenges and Resilience 08:45 Fighting for Women's Rights 21:16 Menopause and Advocacy 25:10 The Norm of Curvy Career Paths 25:46 Menopause and Workplace Discrimination 26:34 Campaigning Challenges and Strategies 27:23 Personal Reflections on Campaigning 35:09 The Importance of Menopause Awareness 41:29 Personal Growth and Overcoming Adversity 45:06 Parenting and Childhood Reflections Find Mariella: Website: https://www.mariellafrostrup.com Instagram: @mfrostrup Buy her book 'Cracking the Menopause': https://amzn.eu/d/ftcAjjL  Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a listener's question about feeling less valued than their younger half-brother by their stepmother. The listener shares experiences of unequal treatment and seeks advice on addressing these feelings without causing more tension. They discuss the challenges of adult children living at home, navigating complex family dynamics, and offer practical communication strategies. The episode emphasises the importance of being self-reflective and seeking supportive conversations both within and outside the family. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this powerful and very moving episode, Esther Ghey shares her story of unimaginable loss — the tragic murder of her daughter, Brianna Ghey, in February 2023. Speaking with grace and courage, Esther opens up about her grief journey, her ongoing campaign to improve mental health support for young people, and her mission to create safer online spaces through her charity, Peace and Mind UK. Esther discusses the healing practices that have helped her, including mindfulness, meditation, and the transformative power of self-compassion. She also reflects on the complexities of Brianna's life and the harsh realities young people face online today. One of the most striking moments in this conversation is Esther's expression of empathy toward the mother of one of her daughter's killers - a testament to her capacity for forgiveness and her commitment to peace over hatred. Through her book, Under a Pink Sky, and her advocacy work, Esther is turning personal tragedy into meaningful change - and this conversation is a deeply emotional and inspiring reminder of the human capacity for compassion and hope. Timestamps: 00:19 – The Tragic Loss of Brianna Ghey 01:07 – Coping with Grief and Mental Health 02:28 – Mindfulness and Self-Compassion 06:07 – Reflections on Personal Struggles 13:24 – Brianna's Complex Personality 16:30 – The Impact of Social Media and Lockdown 19:52 – Family Struggles and Addiction 21:28 – The Dangers of Online Content 25:09 – Parental Challenges and Public Perception 27:12 – A Mother's Compassion: Meeting the Killer's Mother 27:55 – The Power of Forgiveness and Empathy 29:22 – Building Bridges: Friendship with Emma 31:24 – Restorative Justice and Letting Go of Hate 34:14 – Peace and Mind UK: A Legacy of Hope 37:32 – Cherry Blossoms and Pink Skies: Signs from Brianna 39:21 – Grief, Acceptance, and the Mystery of Afterlife 42:13 – Reflections on the Conversation with Emily and Sophie Buy Esther's book: https://amzn.eu/d/b59YwyE Support Peace and Mind UK: https://www.peaceandminduk.org/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this Agony Aunties episode, a listener writes in about the emotional challenges of caring for her mother who is starting to show signs of aging. The Agony Aunties discuss the delicate balance between providing help and respecting the parent's independence. They highlight the importance of having tender, collaborative conversations and preparing for the future. The discussion also touches on the emotional complexity of witnessing a parent's decline and offers practical advice for maintaining patience and understanding. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, award-winning broadcaster, journalist and author Emma Barnett opens up about the unseen struggles that have shaped both her personal and professional life. Emma shares her journey with endometriosis and adenomyosis, the toll of chronic pain, and the emotional realities of going through IVF to have her children. Speaking with clarity, honesty and conviction, she dismantles taboos around women's health and offers a nuanced perspective on the complexities of motherhood — one that goes far beyond picture-perfect expectations. We also dive into her book Maternity Service, where Emma challenges outdated notions of maternity leave and reclaims the narrative of what it means to become a mother. This episode is a candid reflection on resilience, identity, and why the stories we don't often tell are the ones that matter most. 01:02 Emma's Health Challenges 03:13 IVF Journey and Motherhood 05:50 Living with Pain and Finding Strength 08:28 Emma's Background and Upbringing 15:11 Professional Life and Broadcasting 20:26 Discussing the Book 'Maternity Service' 33:25 Losing and Gaining Yourself 33:43 Balancing Career and Home Life 34:00 The Importance of Flexibility 35:12 The 'Let Them' Movement 35:26 Influence and Relationships 38:50 Community and Support 45:46 Survival Strategies for Parents 49:07 Hope and Determination 54:24 Reflections on Motherhood Find Emma: Instagram: @emmabarnett Buy her book, Maternity Service: https://amzn.eu/d/3C2izpu Website: https://www.emmabarnett.org/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties tackle a listener's question about dealing with the pain of family estrangement. They provide thoughtful advice, suggesting outreach to communities in similar situations, the therapeutic use of letters, and the importance of individual and family therapy. They emphasise the necessity of processing grief, managing obsessive thoughts, and finding personal agency in the face of unresolved trauma. Lastly, they acknowledge the listener's own emotional journey and encourage self-support during this challenging time. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Julia welcomes Lindsey Burrow, widow of rugby legend Rob Burrow. Lindsey discusses the challenges of coping with Rob's battle against motor neurone disease and life after his passing in June 2024. She opens up about dealing with anticipatory grief, the struggle of single parenthood, and maintaining a positive mindset. Lindsey also shares her ways of coping through exercise, the importance of communication, and the support she received from family and friends. Lindsey also sheds light on the role of unpaid carers, the importance of exercise and communication, and her efforts to continue Rob's legacy through fundraising for a specialist MND care centre and her upcoming book, 'Take Care,' which which focuses on love, resilience, and the power of family during adversity. Buy Lindsey's book: https://amzn.eu/d/epJlLxi Follow Lindsey on Instagram: @rob7lindsey 00:22 Lindsey Burrow's Story: Life with Rob Burrow 01:11 Greatest Challenges After Rob's Passing 03:03 Coping with Grief and Loss 04:25 Balancing Parenthood and Personal Grief 06:02 The Role of a Carer 15:44 Children's Grief and Resilience 29:10 Rob's Legacy and Future Plans 30:17 Writing the Book: A Therapeutic Journey 32:57 Final Thoughts Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, a letter to the Agony Aunties sparks a deeply honest conversation about what it means to love two people at once. The writer shares her experience of being in a long-term marriage of 33 years while also falling for another man. The hosts explore the emotional weight of this dual connection and the very human complexities of desire, loyalty, and longing. Drawing on the insights of relationship experts like Dan Savage and Esther Perel, the discussion unpacks the prevalence of extramarital affairs and the often-unspoken struggles within committed relationships. From trust and secrecy to self-reflection and growth, this episode invites listeners to sit with the grey areas and consider how we reconcile love, truth, and our evolving sense of self within a marriage. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Nadiya Hussain shares her journey from a housewife to a renowned baker and author, detailing the challenges she faced along the way. She discusses the impact of her immigrant background, societal pressures, and personal struggles with anxiety and panic attacks. Nadiya touches upon her career's milestones, including her victory on The Great British Bake Off, and how each new project brings its own set of challenges and expectations. She also reflects on family dynamics, the significance of open communication, and the importance of maintaining dreams and aspirations despite obstacles. The conversation highlights Nadiya's relentless determination, love for family, and the unique challenges she faces as a British Bangladeshi Muslim woman in the public eye. 00:09 Nadiya's Multifaceted Identity 00:54 Challenges and Overcoming Them 02:15 Facing Criticism and Bias 06:25 Childhood Dreams and Realizations 09:34 Family Dynamics and Cultural Expectations 11:35 Pursuing Education Against All Odds 23:57 Marriage and Personal Growth 25:06 Navigating Family Dynamics and Adaptability 27:47 Understanding Parental Decisions and Forgiveness 29:23 The Legacy of Courage and Change 32:08 Overcoming Personal Challenges and Achievements 36:31 Facing Cultural and Professional Hurdles 41:39 Family, Fame, and Open Communication 48:11 Embracing Challenges and Personal Growth Find Nadiya: Website: https://www.nadiyahussain.com/ Instagram: @nadiyajhussain Buy Nadiya's new book 'Rooza': https://www.nadiyahussain.com/book/rooza/ Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties discuss a delicate and complex issue brought up by a listener whose partner's brother has two adult daughters conceived using a sperm donor. Despite being aware of the donor conception, the daughters have never been told, and the listener seeks advice on whether and how they should be informed. The Agony Aunties emphasise the importance of the biological parents handling the conversation and suggest seeking support from organisations like the Donor Conception Network. They also recommend exploring personal fears around disclosure and preparing for the conversation through therapy. Throughout the discussion, they highlight the roles family members can play in providing support and maintaining strong relationships. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Julia Samuel welcomes Lucy Brazier, the author of 'The Honesty Box', who candidly shares the challenges she faces in her marriage due to her husband's longstanding struggles with depression. Lucy discusses the transformative impact of an eventual ADHD and autism diagnosis on their relationship, their coping mechanisms, and the critical role of honest communication.  Their story also highlights systemic issues in mental health diagnosis and treatment. Additionally, the episode features a discussion among Julia and her daughters about the broader implications of these struggles in marriages, underscoring the importance of understanding, patience, and resilience. 00:32 Struggles with Depression in Marriage 00:59 Decision to Divorce 02:25 Emotional Impact and Resentment 03:20 Challenges of Supporting a Depressed Partner 11:32 Discovery of ADHD 13:04 The Honesty Box Project 16:46 Impact of ADHD Diagnosis 26:44 Dual Diagnosis: ADHD and ASD 30:54 Understanding Family Dynamics 31:17 Balancing Openness and Protection 33:02 Collective Agency in Mental Health 34:23 Navigating Differences in Marriage 36:31 Embracing Imperfections and Courage 39:14 The Importance of Honest Conversations 40:24 Coping Mechanisms and Adaptations 54:05 The Role of Diagnosis and Acceptance 57:08 Reflections on Divorce and Relationships Buy Lucy's book: https://amzn.eu/d/990Khdl Instagram: @brazier.lucy Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this engaging episode, Owen O'Kane, a psychotherapist, former palliative care specialist, and ex-NHS clinical lead for mental health, shares his professional journey and deeply personal story. He reflects on his transition from nursing in palliative care to training as a psychotherapist, a shift inspired by witnessing the profound psychological distress many patients faced. Owen also opens up about his upbringing in Northern Ireland during the Troubles and the personal struggles of coming out as gay in a Catholic family. He highlights how his lived experiences shape his therapeutic approach, emphasising the power of empathy, trauma awareness, and emotional resilience in mental health care. Drawing from his latest book, Addicted to Anxiety, Owen introduces the concept that anxiety can function like an addiction, offering a false sense of safety while keeping individuals trapped in cycles of fear. He discusses practical strategies for managing anxiety, including learning to acknowledge, accept, and even befriend the anxious self rather than resisting it. His insights provide a fresh and compassionate perspective on understanding anxiety, helping listeners develop greater self-awareness and healthier coping mechanisms to break free from its grip. Buy Owen's new book, 'Addicted to Anxiety': https://amzn.eu/d/cxRKYCD Follow Owen: @owenokaneten Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, broadcaster, author, and political commentator Iain Dale shares an intimate look at his career and personal journey. He opens up about the pressures of public life, imposter syndrome, and health struggles, as well as the deeply personal experience of coming out to his family. Through candid storytelling, Iain reflects on the importance of being seen and validated by loved ones, the impact of childhood experiences, and the complex emotions surrounding his relationship with his mother. Iain discusses the challenges of navigating a public career while staying true to himself, offering insights into the role of therapy, personal reflection, and overcoming self-doubt. A thought-provoking and heartfelt episode, this discussion reminds us of the importance of embracing vulnerability and finding strength in our personal stories. 01:22 Challenges of a Public Role 10:15 Health Struggles and Personal Reflections 19:36 Coming Out and Family Reactions 28:10 Reflecting on a Mother's Love and Regret 29:04 Complex Emotions and Unspoken Wounds 30:04 Career Reflections and Family Dynamics 30:45 Navigating Public and Private Life 31:47 The Journey of Acceptance and Identity 33:03 Thoughts on Parenthood and Personal Choices 35:33 Imposter Syndrome and Professional Growth 38:06 The Role of Education and Early Influences 39:34 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Finding Confidence 40:36 The Breakthrough in Radio 44:49 Final Reflections Find Iain:  Instagram: @iaindale X: @IainDale Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a heartfelt message from a listener struggling with the loss of a close friend. As an atheist, they feel isolated and alienated by the predominantly Christian language surrounding grief. The Agony Aunties explore the importance of finding grief support that resonates with non-religious individuals and suggest alternatives like The Grief Gang. They acknowledge the profound pain and loneliness that can come with grief, emphasising the need for open expression and validation of loss. The conversation also delves into the role of anger in the grieving process, highlighting its importance as a natural emotional response. The Agony Aunties share practical ways to navigate grief, including emotional regulation techniques and finding therapists or support communities that respect non-religious perspectives. This episode serves as a reminder that everyone deserves compassionate and inclusive support, no matter their beliefs. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this deeply moving episode of Therapy Works, Lottie Clark shares the story of her husband James's battle with motor neurone disease. She opens up about the emotional and physical toll of his diagnosis, the challenges of caring for a loved one with a terminal illness, and the difficult decisions their family faced—including James's choice to pursue assisted dying at Dignitas. Lottie speaks candidly about the impact on their children, the process of saying goodbye, and the long road of grief that follows loss. This conversation offers an intimate look at navigating life when faced with unimaginable circumstances. Lottie's story is one of heartbreak but also of deep strength and unwavering love. She reflects on the power of open conversations, the importance of honouring personal choices in end-of-life care, and her ongoing campaign for assisted dying legislation. This is an episode about grief, but also about the extraordinary courage it takes to walk alongside someone through their final chapter. 00:55 Facing a Terminal Diagnosis 04:41 The Emotional Impact and Initial Reactions 06:36 Planning for the Future 13:01 Communicating with the Children 15:11 The Decision for Assisted Dying 26:55 Reflecting on the Impact of Loss 27:26 Honest Conversations with Children 29:32 A Final Family Trip 31:44 Saying Goodbye 33:12 Campaigning for Assisted Dying 36:29 The Journey of Repatriation 39:20 Finding Strength in Love 50:22 The Complexity of Assisted Dying 57:34 The Long Road of Grief If you are looking to campaign, please find out more here: https://www.dignityindying.org.uk/ This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we discuss navigating the challenges of finding a suitable therapist, especially when finances are a concern. We cover various aspects such as therapist fees, the importance of a good therapist-client fit, and practical advice on utilising sliding scales, group therapy, and recommendations from friends. We also touch on the value of accredited therapists and the benefits of support from voluntary organizations and training institutes. The conversation includes tips on making initial free phone calls to therapists and emphasises the power and affordability of group therapy. 00:36 Challenges in Finding the Right Therapist 00:59 Financial Considerations and Sliding Scale Options 01:34 Importance of Therapist-Client Fit 04:10 Exploring Group Therapy 07:04 Alternative Therapy Options and Final Thoughts Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on Therapy Works, Dr Julie Smith—clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and online mental health educator—joins Julia Samuel for a deeply personal and insightful conversation on health, success, and the importance of mental well-being. Julie opens up about the unexpected success of her first book, the challenges of navigating a public career, and how her values—particularly as a parent—help her stay grounded. She also shares how her cancer diagnosis and treatment impacted her both personally and professionally, reflecting on how she managed to balance her roles as a parent and an author while facing one of the most challenging experiences of her life. The conversation also explores the power of language, books, and storytelling in helping people navigate difficult emotions and experiences. Julia's daughters, Emily and Sophie, offer their own reflections on the discussion, delving into the role of books as a source of support, the complexities of motherhood, and the ongoing challenge of work-life balance. Buy Julie's new book: https://amzn.eu/d/fR4P4j2 Website: drjuliesmith.com Instagram: @drjulie TikTok & YouTube: @DrJulieSmith Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this deeply personal episode, Julia opens up about the year following her devastating skiing accident—a journey marked by a broken shoulder, multiple surgeries, and the onset of Ramsay Hunt syndrome. She candidly shares the physical and emotional toll of her recovery, from the lasting effects on her face to the daily challenges of living with pain and physical limitations. Through honesty and vulnerability, Julia reflects on the lessons of resilience, humility, and acceptance that have emerged from this experience. She expresses gratitude for the support she has received while also acknowledging the frustration of navigating ongoing setbacks. This conversation offers a powerful insight into the psychological impact of injury, the unpredictability of healing, and the strength it takes to keep moving forward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a listener considering whether to reconnect with their estranged father after years of no contact. Inspired by New Year reflections, the listener navigates the emotional weight of this potential decision. The Agony Aunties explore the complexities of family dynamics, discussing how to manage expectations, understand personal motivations, and protect one's emotional well-being. They share thoughtful advice, such as seeking therapy, leaning on trusted friends for support, and remembering there is no obligation to reconnect. Whether you're grappling with similar family challenges or simply seeking insight into navigating tricky relationships, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable steps to prioritise self-care. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this thoughtful and uplifting episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a listener's heartfelt concerns about feeling behind in life and grappling with self-comparison as the New Year begins. They explore why these feelings are so common and how our tendency to measure ourselves against others can create a false sense of inadequacy. The Agony Aunties share practical advice for approaching the New Year with self-compassion and positivity, encouraging listeners to focus on their personal journeys rather than comparisons. They discuss the power of recognising and challenging critical self-talk, finding small 'glimmers' of positivity in daily life, and setting resolutions that spark joy instead of fostering deprivation. If you're looking for a fresh perspective on starting the year with self-acceptance and meaningful change, this episode is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Agony Aunties are here to help you tackle the highs and lows of the festive season! In this episode, they share practical advice on managing Christmas stress, from handling family tensions to dealing with financial pressures and sky-high expectations. They talk about the power of setting boundaries, planning much-needed time-outs, and having open conversations about presents and plans to ease the strain. The Aunties also highlight the importance of self-care and protecting your mental health during this busy time. With tips like envisioning positive interactions and staying flexible with family traditions, they offer realistic ways to keep the season joyful. Don't forget—you can check out past AA episodes for even more guidance on navigating holiday challenges! If you're looking for more support this Christmas, please find one of our older episodes about navigating Christmas stress here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/bonus-a-guide-to-navigating-christmas/id1646616622?i=1000639395275 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this expert episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Claire Plumbly, the author of Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You, delves into the complexities of the autonomic nervous system and explores how it plays a critical role in managing stress and trauma. Using the polyvagal theory by Stephen Porges, she explains how the nervous system is impacted by these experiences and offers practical tools for prevention and healing. The conversation also focuses on key strategies for managing burnout, particularly during emotionally charged times such as the Christmas season. Dr. Plumbly highlights the significance of self-compassion and compassion for others, offering actionable techniques to regulate emotions, navigate grief and loss, and approach family conflicts with understanding. This episode provides valuable psychoeducation and advice, empowering listeners to maintain their mental and physical well-being during the holiday season and beyond. Read Claire's book: https://www.drclaireplumbly.com/burnout-book Claire's website: https://www.drclaireplumbly.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a listener grappling with self-esteem and confidence as they navigate the changes that come with ageing. They share candid reflections on their own experiences, including the challenges of feeling less visible and the impact this can have on self-worth. The discussion explores how ageing can be both a loss and an opportunity to cultivate new strengths, roles, and sources of confidence. The conversation highlights the importance of embracing body positivity, redefining personal power in later years, and finding joy in the wisdom and resilience that come with age. With empathy and insight, the Agony Aunties offer practical advice on how to balance the grief of lost youth with the cultivation of new possibilities, reminding listeners of the value in supporting one another through life's transitions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Miranda Hart opens up about living with chronic illness and the profound life changes it brought. She shares how a long-term, debilitating condition led her into solitude, challenging her to reassess her identity beyond societal expectations. Miranda reflects on her evolving relationship with vulnerability—once misunderstood as a performance but now embraced as a path to self-awareness and emotional growth. She delves into the cultural and personal challenges of admitting needs and setting boundaries, shaped by her upbringing and career demands, and how she found strength through self-compassion and authenticity. Miranda discusses insights from her book, I Haven't Been Entirely Honest with You, which captures her path toward joy, connection, and a more meaningful life. Together, they unpack the healing power of understanding our needs, seeking help, and embracing vulnerability as a foundation for personal growth. This is an inspiring episode for anyone navigating challenges and seeking a deeper connection with themselves. Buy Miranda's Book: https://amzn.eu/d/fpMrzng Follow Miranda: @realmirandahart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we respond to a listener's heartfelt question about why dating feels so difficult, especially in the world of apps. Together, the Agony Aunties explore the emotional challenges of modern dating—the repetitive swiping, the emotional labour involved, and the way dating platforms are designed to keep users engaged rather than help them find lasting connections. Emily shares her own experiences with loneliness and offers advice on embracing being single, focusing on self-worth and finding joy within. We also discuss the concept of 'active hope'—taking small, proactive steps to build resilience and personal happiness, regardless of relationship status. Finally, Sophie reflects on the reality that even in relationships, new challenges emerge, proving that every stage of life has its complexities. This episode is a reminder that while dating can be tough, focusing on your own well-being can make all the difference. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Mimi opens up about the sudden loss of her mother at the age of 27. As an only child living in New York and emotionally distant from her family, Mimi's world was upended when her mother, while visiting family in Stockholm, suffered a fatal heart attack. This devastating event forced Mimi to re-evaluate her priorities and self-identity, leading her to move back to London to live with her father. Mimi reflects on her regrets about not spending more time with her mother, the cultural differences that shaped her family dynamics, and her ongoing journey toward self-compassion and emotional growth. She shares how this experience has brought her closer to her father and allowed her to find a deeper connection to her late mother. Throughout the conversation, Mimi emphasises the importance of living authentically, connecting with one's roots, and finding strength in empathy and community support while navigating grief. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a listener navigating a complex family dynamic. The listener shares their story of a nine-year relationship filled with love and joy alongside their three-year-old son, but also the weight of familial troubles. From addiction to parental separation and childhood trauma in their partner's family, these challenges raise questions about how to balance compassion with personal well-being. The Aunties offer thoughtful advice on how to approach these sensitive issues. They discuss the importance of open communication with the partner, understanding your own emotional limits, and seeking professional support through therapy. They explore strategies for breaking unhealthy family patterns, building emotional intelligence, and prioritising the child's stability and happiness. This episode is a compassionate guide for anyone grappling with similar challenges, offering both practical steps and reassurance for finding balance amidst complexity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, Julia sits down with former footballer Tony Adams to explore his extraordinary journey through addiction, recovery, and personal growth. Tony reflects on his challenging childhood, marked by fear and loneliness, and how football became his escape. He shares candid insights into his struggles with addiction, recounting the pivotal moments that led to his ‘rock bottom' and the transformative support he found through AA and his therapist, James West. Tony discusses the power of therapy, the importance of vulnerability, and the role of trust in his recovery, offering a deeply personal perspective on overcoming life's hardest challenges. Now sober since 1996, Tony has dedicated himself to helping others through Sporting Chance, the charity he founded to support athletes with addiction and mental health issues. He reflects on how recovery has reshaped his relationships, particularly with his children and grandchildren, and shares the life lessons he's learned about accountability, letting go, and finding purpose. Tune in to hear Tony's inspiring story of redemption and the life lessons he's learned along the way. Episode Highlights: 00:54 Challenges and Family Background 02:25 Childhood Fears and Escaping to Football 07:19 Struggles with Addiction and Recovery 16:04 Rock Bottom and Turning Point 20:44 The Role of Therapy and Support 26:03 Existential Therapy and Self-Discovery 26:41 The 12-Step Program Journey 29:04 Facing Fears and Addiction 31:58 Sporting Chance and Mental Health Advocacy 45:17 Grieving and Letting Go 48:33 Reflections on Life and Legacy Find Tony: Twitter: @TonyAdams Instagram: @tonyadamsofficial Visit Sporting Chance's website to discover more about their work supporting athletes with addiction and mental health challenges. If you'd like to connect, follow me on Instagram @juliasamuelmbe. And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A person seeks advice from the Agony Aunties about dealing with a husband who regularly expresses frustration, anger, and suicidal threats, which affects the whole family. They emphasise understanding one's own limits and seeking support, discussing concepts like codependency and the importance of self-care. They suggest looking into resources like support groups, while maintaining open communication with the children and considering the impact on their well-being. They recommend resources such as CoDA.org and the book 'Codependent No More' by Melody Beattie, while also addressing the complexities of maintaining relationships amidst conflict. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this deeply moving episode, Zoe opens up about her journey following the imprisonment of her ex-husband, sentenced to nine years. She candidly shares how this life-altering event has impacted her and her two children, as they navigate the emotional turbulence, grief, and stigma that accompany such a profound upheaval. Zoe reflects on her children's varied emotional responses, her personal challenges in setting boundaries, and the toll on her mental health. She also explores her complicated feelings towards her ex-husband and the difficulties of maintaining connections through the prison system. Throughout the conversation, Zoe emphasises the crucial role of support systems—therapy, faith, and structured routines—in finding stability amidst chaos. Julia also highlights the importance of allowing space for joy and fun, even in the most stressful times, as part of the journey toward healing. This conversation offers a deep exploration of multi-dimensional grief, the need to adapt to new ways of living, and the powerful resilience required to rebuild and move forward. Support Resources: Children Heard and Seen Sesame Street - Little Kids, Big Challenges Storybook Dads Barnardo's If you'd like to connect, follow me on Instagram @juliasamuelmbe. And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a parent's question on supporting their child through the grief of not having friendships and dealing with the discrepancy between parental expectations and reality. They discuss the emotional difficulties parents face when their children struggle socially, the importance of acknowledging and validating both the parent's and child's feelings, and practical strategies to help the child find social connections. They emphasise the significance of resilience, finding alternative environments for belonging, and role modelling healthy relationships within the family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartwarming episode, Sophie Ellis-Bextor opens up about her diverse roles as a musician, songwriter, podcaster, and mother of five boys. She delves into how music has been a constant, deeply personal passion since childhood, likening its impact to a time portal connecting her with her past selves. The conversation explores her early career highs and lows, her pragmatic and resilient approach to life's challenges, and the importance she places on family and close relationships. Sophie also reflects on how motherhood has influenced her work and vice versa, her structured approach to juggling professional and personal life, and her recent experiences rejuvenating her music career. Sophie also discusses the importance of surrounding oneself with good people, and the wisdom she's gained along the way. Don't miss this candid conversation filled with honesty, joy, and inspiration. 00:35 The Power of Music 03:52 Facing Challenges and Overcoming Adversity 05:32 Early Career and Lessons Learned 07:46 Family Life and Parenting 12:04 Balancing Fame and Core Values 15:18 Navigating Work and Motherhood 21:19 Unexpected Success and Future Plans 23:45 Unpredictable Work and Family Life 24:27 School Closures and Bedroom Changes 25:15 Managing Parental Expectations 25:39 A Call from Elton John 26:45 Balancing Work and Family 27:53 The Joy of Performing 32:41 The Challenge of Engaging Crowds 36:17 Maintaining Perspective and Humility 39:46 The Importance of Friendships 41:02 Wisdom and Reflections Find Sophie: Instagram: @sophieellisbextor Podcast: You can listen to her podcast, Spinning Plates, where she interviews inspiring women about balancing work and family on platforms like Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Music: Stream her music on Spotify and YouTube. If you'd like to connect, follow me on Instagram @juliasamuelmbe. And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A listener inquires about reclaiming their sexual self after dedicated years as a single parent of adopted children. The Agony Aunties provide reassuring advice, emphasising that it is never too late. They recommend starting with self-exploration, grieving past losses, and giving oneself permission to pursue sexual pleasure. Several resources are suggested, including the Savage Love cast and books like 'Come As You Are' by Dr. Emily Nogoski and 'Naked at Our Age' by Joan Price. They also suggest engaging in activities that stimulate erotic energy and emphasise self-worth. Link to Maya Angelou's poem 'Phenomenal Woman': https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48985/phenomenal-woman If you'd like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips. Follow me on @juliasamuelmbe.And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, psychotherapist Jenny Gibbs shares her deeply personal story of a life-changing accident just months before her wedding. She recounts her experiences with pain, both physical and psychological, and describes the long journey towards accepting her new reality. Jenny talks about the support systems that helped her, including her work as a therapist, her family, and a significant therapeutic somatic experience. She also reflects on the impact of her accident on her personal relationships and career, ultimately finding meaning and acceptance in her changed circumstances. 01:19 The Life-Changing Accident 03:13 Coping with Disfigurement and Isolation 06:25 The Journey to Acceptance 08:36 The Role of Therapy and Support 10:13 Reflections on Relationships and Identity 13:34 The Healing Process and Moving Forward 20:24 Lessons Learned and Future Outlook 32:42 Embracing Imperfections and Finding Beauty 33:28 The Power of Connection and Loneliness 35:12 Navigating Trauma and Personal Growth 42:16 The Role of Therapy and Emotional Release 45:03 The Impact of Compliments and Praise 48:56 Coping with Public Spaces and Vulnerability 58:32 Reflections on Personal Change and Relationships 01:06:33 The Importance of Acceptance and Moving Forward If you'd like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips. Follow me on @juliasamuelmbe.And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices