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I first came across Hodan Ibrahim in 2016, when she basically dropped everything she was doing in Canada and moved to Dubai to organize and host M-Powered Summit. This was a first-of-its-kind conference on Muslim startups and entrepreneurship. I ended up interviewing her and her co-founder for Ilmfeed, and also did writeups of the event. I haven't seen one like it, since. She hosted another, similar conference in Malaysia then next year, and has since moved on to bigger and better things. You see, Hodan is a serial entrepreneur. So the easiest thing that I did, and the hardest thing that I did, was becoming an entrepreneur. Um, it's, it's who I am. And I started out by failing a bunch of times and having little digital startups. The first company that worked out for me was a digital marketing agency that I had, um, and Alhamdulillah, after like three months. I went full-time on that. Being an entrepreneur is "cool" now...every other Instagram profile has the title splashed across their bio. But Hodan was in the entrepreneurship Game long before it was even a thing. As a first-generation, Somali-Canadian immigrant Muslim (her family fled because of the war,) she ticked multiple minority status boxes... And frequently found herself the only black woman in a room full of white men. There was not a single person of color in any of these rooms that could understand my perspective...I remember one incident where I went to CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation.) This was the first event that I ever did, in Ottawa, and it was about supporting entrepreneurs of color. And I went and got an interview with the CBC, and they're just like, "Why does it matter if an entrepreneur is a person of color?...why can't you just learn from all types of entrepreneurs? Why don't you have white entrepreneurs?" None of this stopped her. What's interesting to me is how she didn't let her hamster run wild and create a narrative of victimhood (Feminism, Patriarchy, Toxic Masculinity, yadda yadda yadda.) She just did what she had to do to get where she needed to go. And it was her faith that aided her. In this episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast, Hodan and I talk about: Being a minority business owner as a first generation Somali-Canadian immigrant black Muslimah The historical context behind attitudes toward Muslim women today Feminism (and why Muslim women don't need it) How Muslim women can develop their self-worth and happiness Why she's pro-polygyny and thinks its the best relationship arrangement for her personality and lifestyle And a bunch of other topics For complete show notes, visit our blog: https://becomingthealphamuslim.com/muslimah-serial-entrepreneur-hodan-ibrahim

Every Muslim man needs to learn how to network in a way that is natural and doesn't seem fake. The key here is to not BE fake. To genuinely be interested in people and want to invest in the relationship. Today, I'm talking to Jay Campbell, a repeat guest on the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast. Jay is one of the best natural networkers I have ever seen, and a master at making feel important and appreciated. People don't remember what you said. They remember how you made them feel. During the discussion, you're going to hear us talk about: How to introduce yourself to strangers and what to say to make them feel comfortable How to stay present and give your conversation partner the attention he deserves How to look for areas of commonality and mutual interest How to proceed past the initial interaction to create a deeper relationship How to maintain contact with a large network and keep relationships warm And a few other related topics For complete show notes, visit: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/how-to-network-like-a-pro

My guest this episode is dating and relationship coach, Pat Stedman. This is his second appearance on the show. I invited him on to talk to me about how married Muslim men can develop their personalities to become more attractive and sexually desirable to their wives. This was a very organic discussion, where we both bounced ideas off each other and developed each other’s arguments. Show Notes: [00:05] This episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast was brought to you by halal bedroom dot com. For a limited time, buy-one-get-one-free offer on your first order. Click here to buy now. [02:50] Are millennials and generation Z creating culture or re-creating monoculture? Hipsters in the 5 boroughs in New York are exactly the same as hipsters in Dubai [04:50] The cultural cognitive dissonance of the West [06:30] The three pillars of attraction - pre-selection, persona, and personality - can be thought of as marketing, sales, and product Pre-selection - social status and physical appearance Persona - masculinity and social skills (Game) Personality - what do you have to offer as a person [09:10] Men who have great relationships are strong in at least two and good in one [10:15] You can also think of the three pillars in evolutionary terms environmental factors (pre-selection) - what types of males are attractive in a society behavioral factors(persona) - how these males behave with the opposite sex psychological factors (personality) - how they maintain the relationships long-term via relationship dynamics [12:30] Pre-selection and persona will get a man up to closing the deal. Personality is what maintains the relationship. [13:20] The example of Pick-up Artists. They are very capable of getting a girl’s attention in the beginning but have a hard time holding it afterwards. [17:10] There are two dimensions of personality. Psychological growth and maturity, and chemistry (desire) and compatibility (comfort). [22:35] The attractiveness of women vs their emotional maturity. The younger girls (late teens to early 20s) who men are attracted to are basic bitches. The older women (late 20s to early 30s) are the ones bringing more to the relationship than their box. The sexual marketplace is so inefficient because there are two marketplaces operating in parallel - the physical and the psychological [29:00] The similarities between Muslims and Ahlul Kitab - we’re all having premarital sex and “oral and anal don’t count”. [32:00] Marriage is a massive vehicle for psychological growth. Couples who get married young and stick together past the difficult years stay married for a very long time and have the best relationships. They make each other grow together. [36:30] The Western tradition vs the Eastern tradition: the individual is the smallest unit of society vs. the family is the smallest unit of society [37:55] Marriage is 50% of your religion. Marriage accounts for so much of your spiritual growth and exercise of many of Islam’s religious duties. [40:10] When you’re with someone, a mirror is held up to you. Our romantic desire for someone and being bound to them, forces us to work on ourselves and become better people. [42:00] How Nabeel met and married his wife [44:20] How long it takes to mature in a marriage and step into your role as the patriarch [46:20] Men without children are man-children and women without children are self-absorbed narcissists [47:20] You’re never truly ready to get married or have children. Allah provides sustenance for each person. My upward mobility strategy: get more wives and have more kids. [49:50] Hypergamy and cognitive dissonance in women. [51:40] Islam places a cost of doing business on both genders attempting to fully realize their respective sexual strategies (hypergamy and plate-spinning). [54:30] Misconceptions about Islam and polygynous societies, “there are all these unmarried men without sexual access to women”. [57:10] Pat impresses us with his knowledge of early Islamic history. [58:10] There will always be the bottom end of the bell curve, Muslim or non-Muslim, male or female, who will likely always be single because they have no prospects [59:30] Using Myers-Briggs Type Indicators to understand and explain personality. Pat gives us a short primary. [1:02:00] I ask Pat to analyze my type - ESTJ-A (People Mastery - Assertive). Pay close attention to this. It’s a little complex to type out. [1:07:00] How to become a more well-rounded and attractive husband: develop your inferior function. In my case, Introverted Feeling. [1:08:50] How to develop your personality functions. The first step is to become aware of your type and your behavior in particular situations. Then you work to consciously exercise these inferior function behaviors. [1:12:30] The difference between persona and personality. Persona is masculinity. So, developing a well-rounded and integrated personality does not affect your status as a masculine male. [1:15:45] I ask Pat to interpret some of my rash and spontaneous behavior, despite being primarily logic and routine based. He says this is the development of my Extraverted Intuition. [1:19:50] Pat’s type makes him someone who likes to debate and argue a lot. We discuss the difference between Pat’s kind of debating/arguing and my desire to debate/argue. [1:24:30] I ask Pat to explain how understanding MBTI and knowing his and his wife’s types have helped him and his wife develop their relationship. Pat and his wife have very complementary types: she helps him get more organized and achieve more in life. He helps her feel emotions she never felt before. [1:30:00] Pat and I think it’s a good idea for both husband and wife take an MBTI test, analyze it, and figure out ways to help each other grow together. [1:33:00] The advantage of the MBTI test over the Big-5 test. It gives you a much better idea of how you can develop your personality and what will happen to you as you do. [1:37:10] Pat is working on a book exploring and elaborating on his theory of the three pillars of attraction. [1:39:30] Pat has a book on Text Game called, “Tackling Texting”, which even married men can use to create desire and sexual tension in their wives. [1:43:20] Learning to read and use sub communication, which is Pat’s forte and features heavily in his book, can be adapted to any situation. [1:46:30] This episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast was brought to you by halal bedroom dot com. 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In this episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast we are talking to Hussein, a Muslim Chicagoan and the founder of the Streets of Cordoba podcast. It's a brand new podcast focusing on Muslim issues in the West.  I invited him on to talk about the Second Amendment, self-defense, defending one's family, and related issues. Show Notes: [03:30] How would you explain the Second Amendment to a FOB (Fresh Off the Boat)? When the British were defeated in 1776, there was a debate over the role of government The second amendment was drafted as a failsafe in case the government reverted back to British rule, as well as for self-defense The purpose of an armed militia comprised of free citizens is to defend against citizens usurping the rights of others and to defend against foreign aggressors [07:50] The debate over the second amendment isn't new. It has been going on for centuries. E.g. Supreme Court rulings in the past forbade black slaves from owning firearms. In the '30s, there was a law banning silencers In recent years, gun ownership has become increasingly popular and a politicized issue, so the debate has become more prominent in the media [09:50] On the argument that modern firearms are vastly different than those that existed during the time when the second amendment was written There is a misconception about semi-automatic weapons. People confuse them with fully-automatic weapons. There are several historical examples of semi-automatic and automatic firearms from the mid-18th to mid-19th centuries Implicit in this argument is that the Founding Fathers had no concept of technological advancement Also implied is that the U.S. Constitution can only be interpreted in the light of late 18th century America [15:30] Which way do U.S. Muslims lean on gun ownership and gun control The shooting range Hussein frequents is full of Muslims training 1st generation immigrant Muslims may sometimes have an inferiority complex so they behave like second-class citizens and are reluctant to exercise their constitutional rights Indian Muslims tend to be anti-2A; Pakistani Muslims tend to be pro-2A [18:30] The Islamic obligation of self-defense Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "A man came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: 'O Messenger of Allaah, what do you think if a man comes wanting to take my property?' He said: 'Do not give him your property.' He said: 'What if he fights me?' He said: 'Fight him.' He said: 'What if he kills me?' He said: 'Then you will be a martyr. He said: 'What if I kill him?' He said: 'He will be in Hell.' [Sahih Muslim] It is from the man's Qawwamah that he be able and prepared to defend himself, his family and property from harm  [21:00] The U.S. political climate in recent years has made self-defense more necessary than ever for Muslims Several U.S. Muslim scholars have spoken about gun ownership and many own firearms Dr. Yasir Qadhi has mentioned on social media he has a concealed carry permit Imam Suhaib Webb once did a Snapchat proudly displaying his new gun Imam Marc Manley is a member of the MRA Sheikh Ilyas Lahoz of Safina Society mentioned being pro-2A and enjoying hunting during an episode of their podcast [23:40] Laws and regulations around firearm ownership There are a few federal laws Each state has its own laws related to who is permitted to own and purchase firearms Most states require training and to pass a test before you can get a concealed carry permit Go online and become familiar with your local laws [28:00] Practical tips for situational awareness Whether you are carrying a firearm on your person or not, you should always be aware of your surroudings  You need the right gear and accessories to carry a concealed weapon e.g. special belts, holsters There are lots of resources online, e.g. Youtube has a large gun enthusiast community You need to get comfortable wearing and walking around with a firearm [31:35] What size gun should you buy if you want to carry concealed?  It depends on your personal preference and what you are comfortable carrying Being able to draw, wield, and fire your weapon smoothly and confidently is extremely important, and this will also affect your choice Most important is training and practice; you want to reach a level of unconscious competence in using whichever firearm you own [34:30] What is dry firing practice? It is when you practice pulling the trigger of an unloaded firearm to improve your technique and to get used to pulling the trigger [36:45] You need to practice your marksmanship once a week. At the very least, you should go to the shooting range once every two weeks [38:45] How to carry your weapon in the masjid Some states don't allow carrying weapons in any place of worship (not so in Illinois, where Hussein lives) Most people are in their own world and not observing the people around them As long as your weapon is fully concealed, no one will notice [41:00] Most people are in Condition White. You must be Condition Yellow.  [42:40] Most police officers have dealt with people with concealed carry permits "Officer, I just want to let you know I have a concealed carry permit and I am carrying right now."  Give the officer control of the situation to put him at ease Don't say, "Officer, I have a gun" like Philando Castile If you have a concealed carry permit, you're much less likely to get a ticket [46:40] How to spot people who might be carrying a firearm [48:45] How do you defend your home? Your family should be educated, trained, and comfortable around firearms Store your weapons in quick-lock safes so they are ready to go in the event you have to use them [52:40] The Streets of Cordoba - a podcast for Muslims talking about contemporary issues in an inclusive and non-polarizing way

I wasted my 20s. Here’s how: a Born Muslim’s Convert Story. It was all necessary. Those experiences made me who I am today. But that doesn’t mean others have to make the same mistakes, or worse. You don’t have to learn the hard way. Most of you will, because you don’t listen to people with more experience than you. Some of you won’t. You’re the smart ones. This post is for you. Like me, Alexander Juan Antonio Cortes wasted his 20s. I asked him to join me on the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast to talk about the mistakes we both made. We also tell you how young Muslim men (and non-Muslim men) in their late teens and early-to-mid 20s can do better. If you don’t know who Alex is, he was one of my earliest podcast guests. We talked about the connection between physicality and spirituality. You should listen to it after you finish listening to this one. Both are jam-packed with invaluable wisdom and practical life advice. Do you have any questions about anything we discuss during the episode? Leave a comment on the blog and let us know. Full show notes are available here: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/how-waste-your-20s-man

In this episode I speak to SIM, Mort, and Mahin, of the Mad Mamluks podcast. They've been podcasting for around a year and a half and I wanted them to tell the story of their journey as content creators. We talk about: What motivated SIM to start the show, their views on the quality of production required to get the attention of a Muslim audience, their strategies for growing the podcast and where their main growth comes from, how they present themselves to the world in a Muslim community that is not used to open and frank discussion on controversial issues, how they deal with criticism and haters and how they differentiate between the two, the people who support their show and how they can best support them, and how they plan to make the show sustainable over the long-term.  You can find the Mad Mamluks on:  Their website - themadmamluks.com Twitter - @themadmamluks Facebook - @themadmamluks Full show notes are available at Becoming the Alpha Muslim: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/becoming-muslim-content-creator 

In this podcast, we are going to do a deep-dive (sort of) into halal dating. As surprising as it sounds, 20% of my readers are women. Some of them even e-mail me asking for help with their boy problems. They're usually a hot mess (as women are when they catch feels) but Alhamdulillah I was able to help them avoid potential disasters. On top of that, as you know, I review matrimonial apps for Becoming the Alpha Muslim. I would say about half, or a little more than half, of the women looking to get married, are in their 30s and 40s. A lot of these women are divorcees but as just as many have never been married. Which is a little weird, honestly. This being the case, I was SO glad when Soraya Soobhany-Chohan contacted me asking if I'd like to have her on my podcast. Soraya is a relationship and marriage coach for single Muslim women in their 30s and older. She herself got married well into her 30s AFTER 14 years of looking. We plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I We plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I However, when I internet stalked her researched her business I noticed we both have similar ideas on gender roles, masculinity, femininity, marriage, and relationships. The pre-interview phone call we did confirmed that. The pre-interview phone call we did confirmed that. In this interview, Soraya and I talk about: What does Single Muslima Solutions offer women? How many women has she helped and are there success stories? Why did it take Soraya so long to get married? What did she do wrong? And what did she do to fix it? What's the right way to look for a husband? What do single Muslimas need to look for? What is Halal Dating? Is it even halal? What are the boundaries of interaction? How do you avoid bad situations? When do you involve the male guardian? On men being men and women being women. Halal dating tips for guys and girls What are guys REALLY looking for in a spouse? Why should guys go for older women (in their 30s and 40s) as opposed to younger women (18s and early 20s)? What benefits do older women bring to the table? Why aren't more of these women considering polygyny as an option? Does it make sense for a 40-year old divorcee to say "I don't want to be a second wife?" Soraya's top tip for single Muslimas on their first meeting with a guy: DO NOT fall into this trap If you want to read a full transcript of the interview... AND get details about a FREE e-mail course Soraya offers single Muslim women... AND find out where you can find more of Soraya's work... Click on this link- http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/halal-dating/

In this episode of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, I go over Ramadan Strength Training. I cover the terrible advice that's available online (explaining why it's so bad,) and give you my recommendations on what I think you should do instead. I also tell you what I'm going to be experimenting with this Ramadan in terms of my own training and nutrition. Important: I am not a doctor and don't play one on the internet. If you are considering implementing any of the information in this podcast or the accompanying blog post, please consult a qualified medical doctor first. To read the show notes click here: Ramadan Strength Training: The Definitive Guide (Updated)

This week's episode of the BTAM podcast is a narration this week's blog post by the same name.  It's an adaptation of a khutbah I wrote a couple of years ago.  Show notes are here - The Doors of Repentance are Always Open...Until They Aren't Please remember to subscribe and leave me a rating and review on iTunes:  Becoming the Alpha Muslim on iTunes

Important disclaimer: This podcast interview contains information about Testosterone Replacement Therapy. The information is not advice, and should not be treated as such. You must not rely on the information in this podcast interview as an alternative to medical advice from an appropriately qualified medical professional. If you have specific questions about any matter you should consult an appropriately qualified medical professional. If you think you may be suffering from any medical condition you should seek immediate medical attention. You should never delay seeking medical advice, disregard medical advice, or discontinue medical treatment because of information in this podcast interview. In this episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast I interview Jay Campbell, the founder of TRT Revolution and Fab Fit Over 40. This interview is an introduction to Testosterone Replacement Therapy for those unfamiliar with the subject. It serves as a supplement to my review of Jay's book, "The Definitive Testosterone Replacement Therapy MANual: How to Optimize Your Testosterone for Lifelong Health and Happiness." Jay's book is available on Amazon in paperback and Amazon Kindle formats. To read my review and get a FREE pdf copy of the book, you should click on this link: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/jay-campbell-testosterone-replacement-therapy

Today’s youth is taking longer and longer to become viable human beings. What is causing this phenomenon? What does it have to do with the greater occurrences in our society? How do Eastern cultures differ from the West? On this episode, Nabeel Azeez shares on these topics and his insight into how we can become healthier and anti-fragile as we face the future. When times are harder and people value work ethic and waking up and putting in a day’s effort, great things come about. -Jay Campbell Three Takeaways The weaker the population is, the easier they are to mass control. The Western culture of junk food and fast food has filtered through to parts of the world that would otherwise be healthy. The instant gratification culture we’re living in has led to people not being trained to power through difficult things. At the start of the show, Nabeel shared how Eastern societies are still dealing with issues like high sugar consumption, and the connection between the opulent lifestyle and bad health habits. We also discussed how Western culture is in decline, and the phenomenon of kids who are very smart, but not motivated to contribute to society. Nabeel also shared on how science is engineering dependents and why. Towards the end of the show we talked about body building. Nabeel also shared insights on; The effect of plastics on hormonal health How the wealthy are at risk Fasting and how it aids in focus and health The instant gratification culture has negatively impacted our health, and the drive to be a strong contributing member of society. This is becoming a global issue as more and more people adopt American culture. What does this mean for our society? It means there will be a correction that will ultimately make us better, but it will get worse before it gets better. When we start valuing hard work and dedication, ingenuity, knowledge transfer, and other great things will happen in our culture. Guest Bio Nabeel is the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim. Follow him on Twitter @NabeelAzeezDXB. Go to BecomingtheAlphaMuslim.com. To Download Your FREE PDF Copy of the Amazon Best Seller: The Definitive Testosterone Replacement Therapy MANual, Click Here  For a FREE Paperback Copy. The TRT MANual has helped hundreds of thousands of men around the world reclaim their health and vitality. Don’t suffer in silence a moment longer! PS. As an added bonus, upon finishing the book-once you provide a Thoughtful, High Quality Review on Amazon (hopefully 5 STAR), we will send you our new unreleased eBook 7 Lies You’ve Been Told About Testosterone for FREE.* (To receive book, email jay@trtrevolution.com a screenshot of your posted review.)

In this episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast I welcome Nour Goda, founder and editor-in-chief of the Between Arabs Project, which is a website and podcast that brings together Arabs of all faiths and Muslims of all ethnicities to discuss social issues that plague our communities. What I like about Nour's work and that of her colleagues at the Between Arabs Project, is its ability to take on difficult, polarizing conversations on relevant issues in the Muslim community in a constructive way. Nour was gracious enough to invite me on her show soon after I launched Becoming the Alpha Muslim, and we recorded one of her best, if not the best, episodes. So, it's high time I returned the favor. Show Notes What are the essential differences between Western and Eastern Muslims? The relationship between race and religious identity. The myth of freedom of religion in secular societies. What's changed for Muslims living in Trump's America? Trump as the continuation of endless imperialism and capitalist domination. Better relationships with non-Muslims at the grass roots level. The Islamophobia/victimhood narrative and hate-crime hoaxes by Muslims. "Breaking stereotypes" and "pushing boundaries."  Neo-orientalist fetishization of the Muslim woman. Trump's recent airstrike on Syria The Muslim armchair quarterback - overnight PhDs in political science and foreign policy Forget the politics for a second, are the innocent Muslims safe? What's a more productive way for Muslims to channel their outrage, instead of pontificating on social media? Intellectual empathy, the principle of charity, and husn adh-dhann. Listen more than you speak, ask more questions than you give opinions. "Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change that which is within themselves." WTF is Critical Race Theory? How race, power, and law work to maintain "white supremacy." The apex fallacy - do homeless white people have white supremacy too? Is racial discrimination systemic or a reaction to life experiences? Racial stereotypes - Ego Trip's Big Book of Racism. Why should Muslims support Black Lives Matter (BLM?) Getting back to the agenda of civil rights. Opportunistic Muslim support of BLM not based on an Islamic paradigm. A branding problem - the linguistic meaning of "black lives matter" vs. "Black Lives Matter" the organization. The BLM organization, funded and led by radical liberals, feminists, and homosexuals - "Herstory," promoting LGBTQ, destroying the nuclear family. The communal obligation of Muslims to invite people to Islam. Secularism is not and has never been "live and let live." Black-on-Black crime - why doesn't BLM care about this? The subversion of movements for social change and the illusion of political protest. Hotep vs. BLM - Hotep is a movement of self-improvement, self-reliance, self-accountability, and refusing to be victims. Shoutout to Uncle Hotep, @handymayhem on Twitter. The two-pronged strategy of working to improve yourself and working to improve the system. "You ain't ready to revolt against s***" - Killer Mike. Older Muslim women finding it difficult to get married. The marriage marketplace - men age like wine, women age like milk. The Prophetic model of marriage. How Feminism is destroying Muslim women's ability to find a husband. The practical considerations of male-female attraction are human, not culture, and cannot be ignored. Recipe for disaster - expecting a religious Muslim man in his 20s who has little-to-no experience with the opposite sex to marry an older woman. How some Muslim women are "settling" just so they can have kids or marrying outside the faith. How "I'm a strong, independent Muslim woman who don't need no man" is BS. "The Wall" - the point of no-return for a Muslim woman. What's wrong with marrying young? Don't make the halal so difficult that Muslims are forced into haram. Marrying young needs enlightened, forward-thinking Muslim parents. The current generation of Muslims is part of the global Islamic awakening. Nour Goda's own experience as a divorcee trying to get re-married. Marrying up - Nabeel Azeez's experience is not the norm. The late 20s and early 30s are the new mid-20s when it comes to marriage in our times - education and parental pressure causing the delay. Men and women with a "past" finding a partner willing to give them a chance. Muslim women as victims of the sexualization of women in American culture. Religious, virgin Muslim men who have no game or social skills with the opposite gender being brow-beating by the Muslim community to marry women who have previous sexual experience. The nature of the male-female dynamic - how women's nature to let men lead has been beaten out of them by Feminism. She wants to be your wife, not your mother - seduction, passion, romance, etc. Men are not taught how to be men anymore - one of the motivations behind Becoming the Alpha Muslim. Criticizing Feminism does not mean we are against women's rights. Feminism has serious problems with respect to how it views men and masculinity. Masculinity is attractive and should be appreciated. P***y-whipped Muslim husbands are not a good look. An Alpha woman is a beta wife with the right man. Manosphere/Red-pill dating/relationship advice has a lot of overlap with Islam - shoutout to Pat Stedman, friend of Becoming the Alpha Muslim. The Between Arab Project's upcoming work. Live event at Connecticut College on April 14th, 2017 - details here. Short hiatus from publishing new content for the past 4-5 months because of Nour's work commitments. More content will be published on the Between Arabs Youtube channel - subscribe here. How Feminism enslaves, not liberates, women. Nour has written about this - Did Western. How work-life balance is important for women and stay-at-home moms are looked down on. How Feminism and Capitalism work hand-in-hand - the Corporate Overlords can't have 50% of the population not consuming. The paradox of female happiness - the more liberation and equality women get, the more miserable they become. One-in-four women have mental health issues and are on antidepressants. Feminism encourages women to act against their fitrah (natural disposition.) Allah prescribed different roles and responsibilities for men and women because as our Creator, He knows best how we ought to live so we can be happy. Becoming the Alpha Muslim is not a misogynist website Encouragement and support from female readers who, like Nour, have noticed the dysfunctional gender dynamics being promoted among Western Muslim communities. This extended episode is a gift to my female readers, to thank them for their support. On Western Muslims attempting to silence others and prevent difficult, yet necessary, conversations from happening. How Nour/Between Arabs Project and the Mad Mamluks podcast take criticism from the community for associating with me. On intellectual honesty, open discussion, exposing yourselves to ideas you disagree with or find offensive, and the spiritual growth that happens as a result. Nour's journey through being an atheist and finding her way back to Islam, and how her faith is much stronger than it ever was. Related reading: Interview with an Ex-ex-Muslim. If you enjoyed the episode... Please leave me a rating and review on iTunes.

Why aren't there any popular Muslim Dad Blogs? Maybe there are, but I sure as hell haven't seen them. Technically this is a good thing because it means the dads are out earning a living to provide for their families. It's also a bad thing because this means the online Islamic discourse is dominated by women and, sadly, Feminists at that. You may have also noticed, if you read them, the Dad Blogs which do exist read like they were written by women or effeminate men. Which brings me to my guest, Neil white, who is the founder of This Dad Does, a blog for "dads who do more." I enjoy reading him because his writing is masculine and he has traditional ideas about fatherhood. So, I thought it would be a good idea to have him on because: I haven't written or podcasted about fatherhood before This Dad Does fits with our theme here at Becoming the Alpha Muslim. Topics discussed Who is Neil White? The virtue of having daughters in Islam Why did Neil start This Dad Does? What sort of topics does Neil write about? Blogging side-discussion Why does every dad blog sound like it's been written by a huge fag? Dad Blogs as a blank canvas for Advertising and PR agencies Why are mainstream media and popular culture trying so hard to emasculate and feminize fathers? What is the role of the father in the Current Year? How is the father-son relationship different to the father-daughter relationship? Neil is working on a book You can find complete show notes here: Why Fatherhood is how Empires are Built P.S. Don't forget to leave me a rating and review on iTunes

My Short-lived Career as a Preacher A few years ago I had a brief stint as a Jumuah Khateeb (someone who delivers the sermon at Friday Mass.) I took it very seriously – I wrote all of my sermons myself – and was well received. Ideally, the Friday sermon should be very inspiring and an immediate boost to the faith of the congregants meant to encourage and sustain them for the entire week. I’m a big proponent of drilling the fundamentals, so in one of my sermons I explained the meaning of la ilaha illa Allah (one-half of the Muslim testimony of faith.) It was quality work but that’s not why I mention it. I mention it because of the reaction of the congregants. One of them, an elderly gentleman, said, “We’ve been saying it our entire lives, but no one actually explained to us what it means, the way you did.” Keep in mind, this is as fundamental as you can get. Our children should know it as well as they know their own names. Religious Literacy, Religious Literacy, Religious Literacy In a time where celebrity preachers routinely rubbish the study of Islamic creed, is it any wonder religious literacy among the Muslim masses is trash? Instead, these same preachers will do advanced Quran Studies with an audience, many of whom don’t know the basic fundamentals of their religion. FYI, this is the opposite of what the Companions of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ would do. It was narrated that Jundub bin ‘Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: We were with the Prophet (ﷺ), and we were strong youths, so we learned faith before we learned Qur’an. Then we learned Qur’an and our faith increased thereby. [Source: Sunan Ibn Majah] Becoming the Alpha Muslim Don’t Play That As woke Muslim men and readers of this website you shouldn’t fall into the same trap. So, to help improve your understanding of Islamic creed, here is my sermon in full. I have added sub-headings to make it easier for you to read. Non-Muslims Should Read this Too If you are a non-Muslim this is probably the most important post of mine you will ever read. Few non-Muslims get exposed to such a detailed explanation of the core of our faith. Fewer still get exposed to a Friday sermon in English. My hope for this post is that we all, Muslim and non-Muslim, walk away spiritually energized. May Allah make it so. http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/who-is-allah  Please Subscribe, and Leave a Rating and Review on iTunes Becoming the Alpha Muslim on iTunes  

This week's podcast is actually a week overdue. I was supposed to release it with last week's post, "American Muslims in 2017: will the Schizophrenia Continue?" If you want to read the entire article (you should,) here's the link: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/american-muslims-2017/ Today I answer questions about me and Becoming the Alpha Muslim for the benefit of my Muslim listeners who can't reconcile some of my online associations with the fact that I'm a religiously observant Muslim. Here are some of the most common questions: Nabeel, are you alt-right? Why do you support alt-right figures like Mike Cernovich and Milo Yiannopolous who clearly hate Islam and Muslims? Why are you so against Muslim activists / Social Justice activists? Why are you so provocative and controversial online? If you want to hear the answers, listen to the episode. And please remember to subscribe on iTunes and leave me a rating and review: Here's the link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/becoming-the-alpha-muslim/id1150590015?mt=2 

My guest today is Dr. Shadee Elmasry Dr. Shadee Elmasry was born and raised in New Jersey. He began studying the traditional sciences rigorously at age eighteen after a summer in Fes, Morocco. Since then he has studied all over the world including Hadramawt (Yemen), Mecca and Madina (Saudi Arabia), London (UK), Cairo (Egypt) and New Jersey (U.S.) under several luminaries. He received a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of London, School of Oriental and African Studies. He is currently the Scholar in Residence and Director of Education and Community Affairs at the New Brunswick Islamic Center in New Jersey. He is also the founder and head of Safina Society - an institution dedicated to the cause of traditional Islamic education in the West. You can follow Dr. Shadee on Twitter and Facebook. Time-stamped show notes: 03:20 Why has Islamic Aqidah (Creed) become a bad word among Muslims in the West?  07:40 The three-part foundation to understanding Islam Cosmology - what do we believe exists? Epistemology - what are our sources of truth? Methodology - how do we interpret these sources?   12:33 Cosmology is where believers split with atheists. 13:45 Epistemology is where mainstream Muslims (Sunni Muslims in general) split from the deviant sects in Islam and all other religions.  16:55 Methodology is where mainstream Muslims will differ in their interpretations of Islam. Some interpretations fall within the scope of correct methodology while others do not. 23:43 What happens when someone who claims to be Muslim denies one of the axiomatic tenets of Islam? Those things that are necessarily known as part of the faith. (Arabic - ma'lum min ad-din bi 'dh-dharurah)  24:45 Dr. Shadee goes off on Big Dawah. the Dawah establishment. (I've seen this term used formally once before; I think we should make it stick.) 27:30 Dawah is a failed enterprise if it's not grounded in knowledge. 28:35 I comment on how Dr. Shadee's strategy of sticking to the masjid and using the internet and social media to spread knowledge is the safest bet. 31:47 Dr. Shadee gives the example of Sheikh Murabit Al-Hajj, who lives in a Mauritanian desert camp while his students travel from all over the World to live and study with him. 32:56 I mention one of the fundamental maxims of Islamic law - avoidance of harm takes precedence over seeking benefit. 34:42 Dr. Shadee tries to stay as financially independent as possible because the guy who writes your check owns you. 37:05 Stand by your principles and people will respect you. 38:40 Dr. Shadee explains the result of politically correct preachers. 41:40 The fake unity of politically correct Islam, and the selfishness of Muslims who don't unequivocally make the Truth clear.  45:10 How to know who to spend your time with: ask yourself "would I trade my Book of Deeds with that person on Judgement Day?" 47:10 In religion, the old way is the right way. 48:15 A personal development principle that's relevant to Dawah. Fall in love with the process, not the results. 49:40 The differences between Grassroots Dawah (in the masjid) and Big Dawah.  50:20 Doing what's best for your audience - the Web Analytics and Bounce Rate Analogy. 51:30 Identifying the true metrics of success as opposed to vanity metrics. 53:40 Allah asks Ibrahim to call all the people of the World to Hajj and He will make sure the message is conveyed. 57:05 How should Muslims go about gaining the understanding of the fundamentals - cosmology, epistemology, methodology. 1:02:42 How should a beginner student approach studying Aqidah? 1:07:40 The importance of studying the history of the transmission of the Quran and Hadith - the need of the time. 1:13:07 Why are we being negative and sounding off these alarms? 1:16:30 The fasiq (sinful) Muslims of the past had a better Aqidah than some of the Muslim academics today. 1:18:00 The Muslim community can sometimes be more dangerous to a Muslim's faith than any non-Muslim. 1:19:45 My concern over my daughters reading and being brainwashed by deviant websites like Muslim Girl, Tempest, and Altmuslimah. 1:22:30 The importance of the student guarding his humility. 1:23:00 Why does Dr. Shadee refrain from speaking about politics? Is that on purpose? 1:24:12 If you want to do one great thing you have to say no to a hundred good things. 1:24:50 What sort of classes does Safina Society offer? 1:28:40 Segregation of the sexes is a feature of all traditional societies. The longest-surviving, most successful societies seperate genders and mix ages - modern Western society does the opposite. 1:30:24 How do people enroll in Safina Society classes? Do they have online classes? 1:32:50 To close out the show I ask Dr. Shadee to give Becoming the Alpha Muslim readers his #1 piece of advice. If you enjoyed listening to this episode, please leave be a rating and review on iTunes or Stitcher.

Nabeel Azeez is the founder of BecomingTheAlphaMuslim.com and the Podcast by the same name.  Nabeel Azeez presents Becoming the Alpha Muslim.   Men's issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man. Episode 1 of Becoming the Alpha Muslim Podcast available now on iTunes. Website: https://becomingthealphamuslim.com Twitter: @nabeel4reel  

This past Ramadan I was a guest on Dukkan Show, a lifestyle podcast based out of Dubai. We ended up doing a series of four episodes together. My first sit-down was with two the co-founders, Irshad and Feras. We talked about a prepping for Ramadan and a bunch of other things. Some of the discussion didn't make it into the final cut. It was quality material nonetheless, so I asked them to put it together for me. That's what you'll be hearing in this episode. We talk about my work as a copywriter, meeting interesting people on Twitter, why and how regular Muslims follow Islamic scholars, the nature of God's essence and attributes, and finally, the purpose behind Becoming the Alpha Muslim. Enjoy, and please leave me a rating and review on iTunes and Stitcher. 

In this week's episode Irshad caught up with his brother Nabeel once again, via Skype for the 4th and final episode of our Ramadan series. In this episode, Nabeel shed the light on the beauty and importance of the last 10 nights of Ramadan and especially Laylat Al Qadr. Pull up a seat and pass the time. From Dubai to the world.   Reference: http://goo.gl/aM32Ke ---- DUKKAN: www.dukkanshow.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter ---- THE HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men's issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's episode Irshad caught up with his brother Nabeel once again, via Skype for the 4th and final episode of our Ramadan series. In this episode, Nabeel shed the light on the beauty and importance of the last 10 nights of Ramadan and especially Laylat Al Qadr. Pull up a seat and pass the time. From Dubai to the world.   Reference: http://goo.gl/aM32Ke ---- DUKKAN: www.dukkanshow.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter ---- THE HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men’s issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com

In this week's episode, Irshad hangs out with his brother Nabeel by the Dukkan to discuss Zakat, which is a form of alms-giving and religious tax in Islam. Like a lot of people, Irshad had a basic understanding of the concept of Zakat, but wanted to understand the finer details from someone who could elaborate on the practice of charity as part of the broader Islamic lifestyle.  Pull up a seat and pass the time.  From Dubai to the world. ----  DUKKAN LINKS: www.dukkanshow.com  ----  HOSTS: HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men's issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week’s episode, Irshad hangs out with his brother Nabeel by the Dukkan to discuss Zakat, which is a form of alms-giving and religious tax in Islam. Like a lot of people, Irshad had a basic understanding of the concept of Zakat, but wanted to understand the finer details from someone who could elaborate on the practice of charity as part of the broader Islamic lifestyle.  Pull up a seat and pass the time.  From Dubai to the world. ----  DUKKAN LINKS: www.dukkanshow.com  ----  HOSTS: HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men’s issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com

In this week's episode Irshad & Toofless are joined by Irshad's brother once again to discuss health and wellness during Ramadan, in which Nabeel has shared how he hacks Ramadan, Iftar, and his workouts. Pull up a seat and pass the time.  From Dubai to the world. ----  DUKKAN LINKS: www.dukkanshow.com  ----  HOSTS: HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men's issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's episode Irshad & Toofless are joined by Irshad's brother once again to discuss health and wellness during Ramadan, in which Nabeel has shared how he hacks Ramadan, Iftar, and his workouts. Pull up a seat and pass the time.  From Dubai to the world. ----  DUKKAN LINKS: www.dukkanshow.com  ----  HOSTS: HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men’s issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com  

In this week's episode, Irshad brings his brother Nabeel over to join Feras at the Dukkan for the first of four Ramadan episodes. Almost 10 years ago Nabeel immigrated to the UAE and underwent a deep spiritual transformation. This was around the same time when Irshad and Feras were performing as lead MC's for the Hip Hop group ‘Diligent Thought'. Nabeel was at their first gig in fact, at the Irish Village, sporting the beginnings of his beard. Being the academic of the family Nabeel absorbed Islam and changed his entire way of thinking. He shares some of this with us in what will be a two part episode.  Pull up a seat and pass the time. From Dubai to the world; wishing all our listeners a Ramadan Kareem. ---- DUKKAN LINKS:  www.dukkanshow.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter ---- HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men's issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com READ: 11 Donald Trump Persuasion Hacks that Taught me Copywriting READ: Do You Even Lift (While Fasting)? A Muslim Meathead's Guide to Ramadan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's episode, Irshad brings his brother Nabeel over to join Feras at the Dukkan for the first of four Ramadan episodes. Almost 10 years ago Nabeel immigrated to the UAE and underwent a deep spiritual transformation. This was around the same time when Irshad and Feras were performing as lead MC's for the Hip Hop group ‘Diligent Thought’. Nabeel was at their first gig in fact, at the Irish Village, sporting the beginnings of his beard. Being the academic of the family Nabeel absorbed Islam and changed his entire way of thinking. He shares some of this with us in what will be a two part episode.  Pull up a seat and pass the time. From Dubai to the world; wishing all our listeners a Ramadan Kareem. ---- DUKKAN LINKS:  www.dukkanshow.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter ---- HOSTS: OT: Instagram | Twitter Irshad: Instagram | Twitter Toofless: SoundCloud ---- NABEEL AZEEZ: Nabeel is a freelance copywriter and the co-founder of Drop Kick Copy, providing conversion copywriting and content marketing services to small marketing agencies. He's also a blogger, public speaker, and the founder of Becoming the Alpha Muslim, writing on men’s issues, masculinity, and self-improvement for the modern Muslim man.  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn. www.dropkickcopy.com READ: 11 Donald Trump Persuasion Hacks that Taught me Copywriting READ: Do You Even Lift (While Fasting)? A Muslim Meathead’s Guide to Ramadan