Podcasts about Filicide

Timestamps - (10:45) Moms Who Murder A study by Brown University showed that from 1976 to 2007, on average, there were 500 cases of filicide a year in the United States. Filicide is the deliberate act of a parent killing their own child. Police were called to a home in Florida on May 30, 2025 for a welfare check on Ra'myl Pierre.   School officials were worried about his absence.  When authorities arrived at the home, they found Ra'Myl's mother, Rhonda Paulynice, acting ‘oddly'.   Ra'myl was found dead and wrapped in a blanket in the house.  It is alleged that Rhonda killed her son in an attempt to exorcise him of evil spirits. On May 26, 2025, neighbors in Bundaberg, Queensland in Australia called police after they allegedly witnessed Lauren Flanigan in the front yard with her deceased daughter, Sophia.  Lauren is alleged to have stabbed her daughter to death.   She was taken into custody.   Lauren suffered a ‘medical emergency' in her cell and was taken to hospital where she passed away on 1 June, 2025.   A full investigation into her death has commenced. Read our blog for these cases - https://truecrimesocietyblog.com/2025/06/04/moms-who-murder-june-2025/ Be sure to follow us on Instagram for the latest crime news - Instagram.com/truecrimesociety Join us on Patreon for exclusive weekly and ad-free content - patreon.com/truecrimesociety

What drives seemingly devoted fathers and husbands to annihilate their entire families in an act of ultimate betrayal and horror?Get the Darkness Syndicate version of #WeirdDarkness: https://weirddarkness.com/syndicateDISCLAIMER: Ads heard during the podcast that are not in my voice are placed by third party agencies outside of my control and should not imply an endorsement by Weird Darkness or myself. *** Stories and content in Weird Darkness can be disturbing for some listeners and intended for mature audiences only. Parental discretion is strongly advised.IN THIS EPISODE: Weirdo family member, Katie Jo, tells us that as a child she saw something similar to glitter – but in a very supernatural form! (Sparkles) *** An old man opens up to something that happened to him over six decades ago that he has never told anyone before – something that he says ruined his life. (Something Happened 63 Years Ago) *** A woman in bed is startled awake in the middle of the night when she feels someone pull her arm out from under her head – but she's the only one in her apartment. (Someone Or Something Moved My Hand) *** Mirrors, mirrors, mirrors everywhere. The more mirrors Lucida had the more she could admire herself.  She even is said to have made a deal with the devil in order to maintain her youthful beauty. (The Creepy Story of Lucida Mansi) *** Village life in Lemont, Illinois was as peaceful as it could be, and the Willmans farm was one of the collection of typical sleepy homesteads in the region. Until the day the demon came. (The Demon of Lemont) *** Chillingly, statistics suggest that a child is more likely to be killed by a parent than by a stranger and in most cases, the killer takes his own life after the act. We'll look into the disturbing psychology of family annihilators. (The Psychology of Familicide)YOUTUBE CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS…00:00:00.000 = Lead-In00:03:27.691 = Show Open00:05:43.393 = Sparkles00:07:29.864 = Someone Or Something Moved My Hand00:10:27.289 = Something Happened 63 Years Ago00:30:17.973 = The Demon of Lemont00:41:50.985 = The Creepy Story of Lucida Mansi00:47:30.025 = The Psychology of Familicide, Part 101:05:06.190 = The Psychology of Familicide, Part 201:15:48.492 = The Psychology of Familicide, Part 301:28:13.325 = Show Close01:30:05.752 = BLOOPERSSOURCES AND RESOURCES FROM THE EPISODE…“Sparkles” by Weirdo family member, Katie Jo“Someone Or Something Moved My Hand” by Mirandra for Your Ghost Stories: http://bit.ly/37muJPH“The Creepy Story of Lucida Mansi” by Ellen Lloyd for Ancient Pages: http://bit.ly/2DgFrcK“The Demon of Lemont” by Ursula Bielski for Chicago Hauntings: http://bit.ly/2rnR9zG“The Psychology of Familicide” by Fiona Guy for Crime Traveller: http://bit.ly/2rmEOM2“The List Family Massacre” from All That's Interesting: http://bit.ly/34itO0I=====(Over time links seen above may become invalid, disappear, or have different content. I always make sure to give authors credit for the material I use whenever possible. If I somehow overlooked doing so for a story, or if a credit is incorrect, please let me know and I will rectify it in these show notes immediately. Some links included above may benefit me financially through qualifying purchases.)= = = = ="I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness." — John 12:46= = = = =WeirdDarkness® is a registered trademark. Copyright ©2025, Weird Darkness.=====Originally aired: November 2018EPISODE PAGE at WeirdDarkness.com (includes list of sources): https://weirddarkness.com/JohnListTAGS: John List, familicide, family annihilators, family murder, mass murder, murder-suicide, criminology, true crime, family tragedy, domestic violence, family homicide, family annihilation cases, familicide research, murder psychology, family murderers, true crime stories, family annihilation motives, crime analysis, mental health and crime, murder case studies, family violence, family crime patterns, true crime podcast, criminal psychology, family killers, shocking crimes, dark true crime stories

Nakesa Sineath wasn't even an adult, by legal standards when she faced the ugliest act imaginable - the deliberate taking of her child's life by the very person charged with caring for him - his biological father.  He robbed their son,  Amari, of a future.  He robbed Nakesa of peace of mind. To compound this tragedy Nakesa had few resources and had just given birth to her daughter.Join us on an episode that explores "filicide" - one of the ugliest words in the English language.  Learn how this admirable young woman succeeded despite all odds in terms of her spirit, mothering, and her support of others.

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Dans l'actualité de ce mardi 2 juillet : Un nouveau rapport révèle des liens inquiétants entre la violence domestique et le filicide, l'acte délibéré du parent qui tue son propre enfant ; en France, mobilisation pour faire barrage à l'extrême droite après le succès inédit du Rassemblent National aux législatives anticipées ; et, la Cour Suprême des Etats Unis accorde l'immunité a Donald Trump et les anciens présidents américains...

Filicide, the killing of a child by a parent or a parental figure, is a heinous and incomprehensible crime. Professor Thea Brown, with her colleagues Associate Professor Danielle Tyson and Dr Paula Fernandez Arias from the Monash Deakin Filicide Research Hub shared between Monash and Deakin Universities, has been studying filicide for years, in the hope of uncovering common factors linked to filicide that could be included in future prevention initiatives. Her studies identified common social, familial, and personal circumstances that characterised many cases of filicide in Australia over the past decades.

Join Michael as he explores the disturbing reality of parents or step-parents killing their own children, shedding light on the term "filicide" and its various forms such as neonaticide and infanticide. Through research findings and expert insights, the episode explores the motives behind filicide, ranging from altruistic reasons to revenge and emphasises the importance of understanding the underlying factors to prevent future tragedies. Overall, the episode serves as a thought-provoking exploration of a tragic and sensitive topic, urging for greater awareness and prevention efforts to protect children from harm. KEY TAKEAWAYS On average, 58 children in the UK are killed by family members, parents, or step-parents each year, highlighting the alarming frequency of child deaths at the hands of those expected to care for them. Filicide, the killing of one's child, is a disturbing reality that prompts questions about the motives and circumstances that lead to such heinous acts. Mental illness plays a significant role in cases of filicide, with a study showing that 37% of perpetrators were suffering from a form of mental illness, emphasising the need for further research and understanding in this area. Different motives for filicide include altruistic reasons, fatal abuse or ill-treatment, unwanted children, psychotic states, and revenge, shedding light on the complex psychological factors at play. Factors such as mental health issues, relationship breakdowns, domestic violence, substance misuse, and child abuse often coincide in cases of filicide, underscoring the importance of identifying and addressing these risk factors to prevent future tragedies. BEST MOMENTS "I was stunned by that statistic because even as a social worker who has worked with children over many years, the frequency or rate of children being killed was conspicuous." "Filicide refers to the killing of one's son or daughter. As a result of doing this research, I was introduced to more words that I had hitherto not known about." "In a study involving 297 cases of convicted philicides and 45 cases of philicide suicides in England and Wales between January 1997 and December 2006, it was revealed that there was an over-representation of mental illness in cases of philicide." "Philip J. Resnick, a well-known forensic psychiatrist, found that neonaticidal mothers are often unmarried women with unwanted pregnancies who receive no prenatal care." "Gaining as clear a picture as possible about the circumstances, reasons and factors that lead parents to perpetrate filicide are of critical significance if we are to prevent and lessen future unnecessary child deaths." VALUABLE RESOURCES familycourtcoaching@gmail.com Instagram: michael240656 HOST BIO Michael Watson is a qualified social worker and author with over thirty years of experience working with children and families. As an expert in family court, Michael is in a key position to assist, advise, and coach parents through their private law family proceedings and provide them with the information and skills to represent themselves successfully in court. His two books, ‘How to Represent Yourself in Family Court', and ‘FAMILY COURT: Giving Evidence In Family Court', provide parents with a clearer understanding of family court proceedings, legislation, and parenting skills.

On June 20th, 2001, former high school valedictorian, captain of the swim team, and registered nurse, Andrea Yates, coldly drowned all five of her children in a bathtub. Is she a monster.... or also a tragic victim? We explore the intersection of murder and mental illness on this heavy bonus episode. WATCH THIS EPISODE: https://youtu.be/pb7wmFLBstYFor Merch and everything else Bad Magic related, head to: https://www.badmagicproductions.com

A young mother falls under the spell of charismatic serial killer H.H. Holmes, entering into an ill-fated affair that leads to her grisly demise in the depths of his infamous Chicago "Murder Castle." Subscribe on your favorite podcasting apps: https://talkmurder.com/subscribeSupport us on patreon: https://patreon.com/talkmurderSee our technology: https://talkmurder.com/gearContent warning: the true crime stories discussed on this podcast can involve graphic and disturbing subject matter. Listener discretion is strongly advised.Fair use disclaimer: some materials used in this work are included under the fair use doctrine for educational purposes. Any copyrighted materials are owned by their respective copyright holders. Questions regarding use of copyrighted materials may be directed to legal [@] Talkocast.com

Megan Conner has known her older cousin, Lori Vallow Daybell, all her life.  They grew up within their tightly-knit, extended family in the context of the Mormon faith.  Megan eloquently explains the roots of the triple murders which her cousin was found guilty of.  This included the murder of Meegan's niece and nephew, Tylee Ryan, and Joshua "JJ" Jaxon Vallow at the hands of her cousin ("filicide").  The third conviction was for the homicide of Lori's last husband's wife, Tammy.  Lori was sentenced to three consecutive life terms. (Lori faces two additional counts of conspiracy to commit murder related to the death of her fourth husband, Charles Vallow, and conspiring to kill her niece's ex-husband Brandon Boudreaux.)Lori's children went missing in 2019 which set off a national manhunt for their whereabouts.  Lori was nick-named "Doomsday Mom" in the popular press due to her religious beliefs solidified in the Netflix documentary series "Sins of Our Mother."Today Megan speaks out in the hope that people will look upon the tragedy in her family as a cautionary tale.  She urges others to speak the truth, heed warning signs and get outside help earlier rather than later.

A married couple with their first child on the way are forced to live apart by the husbands job.Eventually they are able to settle 800 miles away from their families and church support network when the child arrives.Three months later the wife and child are found dead, killed by burglars.Or were they?...This week we talk about: Murder, Family Annihilator, Filicide, InsuranceSources: https://www.dykesmemorialchapel.com/obituary/4043945https://thecinemaholic.com/shanna-diederik-vandewege-murders-where-is-craig-vandewege-now/https://apnews.com/article/5488dd34948c43a5b4829ef43cb60481https://lawandcrime.com/crime/texas-man-gets-life-in-prison-for-slitting-the-throats-of-his-wife-and-3-month-old-son-before-blaming-nonexistent-burglar-in-2016/https://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/fort-worth/article149710764.htmlhttps://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/fort-worth/article214617515.htmlhttps://www.presstelegram.com/2016/10/20/baby-eliza-of-long-beach-was-likely-dead-before-being-put-in-dumpster-examiner-testifies/https://www.syracuse.com/crime/2016/12/exclusive_in_prison_murderous_dad_takes_on_enduring_question_in_baby_maddoxs_dea.htmlhttps://www.manchester.ac.uk/discover/news/findings-from-most-in-depth-study-into-uk-parents-who-kill-their-childrenSupport the showPatreon https://www.patreon.com/MMoMEmail: murdermeonmondaypodcast@gmail.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/MMonMonday Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/murdermeonmondaypodcast/ Theme Tune is published under license from: Tribe of Noise – Awkward Mystery https://prosearch.tribeofnoise.com/artists/show/29267/32277

A case that beggars belief. How does a detective cope with such a scene, and complete an investigation when having to take it all in? On September 2nd, 2001, a father murdered his three children. Jackson, six years old, Taylah, 11 months, and Mikaylah, 11 weeks. Still to this day, police don't have a motive. But what did the investigation look like, and how does a detective cope? Former Detective Carla Tomadini is an example of exceptional police work, and someone who deserves the recognition she's received. Now lecturing at Charles Sturt University, Carla spent nearly two decades in the police before moving into the DPP as a solicitor.  Her career is immense, and one host Brent Sanders goes through in intricate detail.  If this content affected you, the number for Lifeline is 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we delve into the dark recesses of mental health, discussing postpartum depression and its horrific linkage to Filicide. It's not all gloomy though, as we recount personal anecdotes, from a memorable Nerf gun skirmish, to Jamie's much-anticipated school starting date, and even the challenges of selling a house.Take a deep breath, we're not done yet. We also uncover the intricate dynamics of relationships, breakups, and the delicate dance of handling past sexual partners. We dissect some of the most notorious cases of Filicide, such as that of Andrea Yates and Susan Smart, and ponder the possibility of perpetrators reintegrating into society. A mix of humor, sincerity, and a touch of controversy keeps our conversation lively and thought-provoking. So, tune in, laugh, ponder, and maybe shed a tear or two with us.

Drame dans Lanaudière : une mère en deuil après que son ex-conjoint ait assassiné leurs deux enfants avant de s'enlever la vie. Condamné à un an de prison pour avoir filmé sa belle-fille nue à son insu. L'incendie majeur qui a coûté la vie à sept personnes en mars dernier dans le Vieux-Montréal a été allumé par une main criminelle. Une nouvelle tendance Tik Tok fait fortement réagir. Que se passe-t-il avec Adèle? Tout savoir en 24 minutes avec Florence Lamoureux, journaliste à la recherche chez QUB radio.Pour de l'information concernant l'utilisation de vos données personnelles - https://omnystudio.com/policies/listener/fr

In this episode of the Family Ties Podcast, we explore the heartbreaking case of 20-month-old Quinton Simon, who went missing from his home in Savannah, Georgia on October 5, 2022. The police found Quinton's remains almost two months after he first went missing, and on November 28, the FBI confirmed that the remains belonged to Quinton. Leilani Simon, Quinton's own mother has been charged with the murder of her missing toddler, among a host of other charges. The case is ongoing, and further updates will be shared as they become available. Tune in to this episode to learn more about the case and the state of children's rights in America.Support the show

A jury will be asked to decide if the woman accused of murdering her three children in their Timaru home was insane at the time. Lauren Dickason allegedly killed 6-year-old Liané and 2-year-old twins Maya and Karla in September 2021. She appeared in the High Court at Christchurch today, where it was confirmed she'll mount a defence of insanity and infanticide at her trial, which begins next month. NZ Herald reporter Anna Leask told Jack Tame that her lawyers will call experts who say she was insane, while the Crown's expert will say the opposite. She says there'll also a court appointed, independent expert, who will do a report on what they think was happening at the time. LISTEN ABOVESee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Classification: [Crime] Matthew Graville was murdered by his half brother Jeffrey Vogelsberg. Compared to people without disabilities, people with disabilities are more likely to be murdered by their family members and caregivers. Today, on OVpod, we tell Matthew's story and talk about this phenomenon. -Pallet Cleanser- Fiona Robertson - Disability Day of Mourning 2022 -Sponsored by- Our Patrons at http://www.patreon.com/ovpod  

In a small town in Michigan, a young girl is trapped in her bedroom, unable to escape while her house catches fire. When Calista Springer lost her life, many initially thought of it as a tragic accident for her family. However, as the investigation unfolded, many in her community came forward to express their long-running concerns about her safety, with mounting accusations of abuse and neglect charged at her parents. Tommy and Mick explore the potential role of disability and stigma in Calista's case. They also discuss the issue of Filicide and the National Disability Day of Mourning. https://disability-memorial.org/

Lindsay Clancy, a 32-year-old labor and delivery nurse killed her three children and attempted to kill herself on Tuesday, January 24, 2023. How can this happen??Tickets for PAD's 5-year PODiversary Party: Click HereJoin our Patreon and enjoy early and ad-free episodes, bonus content, discounts on our merchandise and more! www.patreon.com/palmahawkmediaVisit our website paradiseafterdark.com for links to our store, Patreon, tip jar and more! Facebook.com/palmahawkmediaInstagram @palmahawkmedia Twitter @paradisedark239TikTok @palmahawkmedia If you see something say something!!Music by Captain Fathands @ captainfathands.com

Another one has crawled out of the dust and flopped in the cesspool of mother killers like Diane Downs and Susan Smith. Why do parents kill their children? In the case of Lindsay Clancy, it was either “a moment of psychosis” or (allegedly) meticulously thought out. Premeditation or not peace to the victims. Her children: Cora, Dawson, and Callan. Sources:Funeral GoFundMe Clancy ArraignmentHistorical Facts

In the wake of two disturbing murder cases in the South Shore area, we're joined by psychiatrist and former attorney Dr. Ronald Schouten to hear what could possibly be going through a person's mind when they commit the unthinkable.

I mean, the title really does say it all! This week, Rachael digs into (get it?) people who bury others in their backyard. Get ready for some very gratifying karma in this one, folks. Rachael highlights four separate cases and goes into some statistics on backyard burials, because this is apparently something that is common enough for people to write academic journals on...yikes. Sources:1) https://lawandcrime.com/crime/man-strangled-girlfriend-to-death-then-had-a-fatal-cardiac-event-while-burying-the-body-sheriff/2) https://nypost.com/2022/05/11/joseph-mckinnon-dead-of-heart-attack-while-burying-patricia-dent-after-he-killed-her/3) https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/joseph-mckinnon-dies-burying-patricia-dent-murder4) https://www.hatcherfuneralhome.com/obituaries/Mrs-Patricia-Ruth-Vaughn-Dent?obId=248331995) https://people.com/crime/man-dies-heart-attack-trying-bury-girlfriends-body-after-murdering-her/6) https://www.wlox.com/2022/09/19/st-martin-man-gets-life-killing-woman-found-buried-his-backyard/7) https://www.wxxv25.com/missing-woman-found-backyard-identified/8) https://www.cbsnews.com/miami/news/body-of-missing-woman-found-buried/9) https://www.tapinto.net/towns/coral-springs/sections/police-and-fire/articles/missing-coral-springs-woman-found-buried-in-mississippi-backyard10) https://www.co.jackson.ms.us/DocumentCenter/View/919/State-of-the-Department-202011) https://www.theledger.com/story/news/2014/04/25/lake-alfred-woman-found-guilty/8174473007/12)https://www.baynews9.com/fl/tampa/news/2014/4/24/jury_deliberating_in#:~:text=Prosecutors%20argue%20Scott%2C%2066%2C%20shot,used%20it%20to%20kill%20him.13) https://www.news9.com/story/5e35ada383eff40362beabfe/wife-who-buried-former-oklahoma-man-in-garden-charged-with-murder14) https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2128396/Elderly-woman-murdered-husband-buried-body-backyard-tired-looking-him.html15) https://westorlandonews.com/woman-who-buried-husbands-body-in-backyard-charged-with-murder/16) https://www.clickorlando.com/news/2012/04/11/wife-of-man-buried-in-yard-charged-with-murder/17) https://www.wesh.com/article/police-woman-shot-tied-up-buried-husband/441577218) https://www.theledger.com/story/news/2012/04/11/wife-charged-with-killing-ailing/8057965007/19)https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2694780/#:~:text=Filicide%20is%20defined%20as%20the,of%20life%20it%20is%20neonaticide.20) https://www.newsweek.com/baby-discovered-buried-backyard-parents-arrested-north-carolina-173566621) https://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/ny-north-carolina-baby-dead-murder-cousins-20220831-ucrqn4s2xfg4dllcppe2zjcb6a-story.html22) https://abc11.com/infant-death-erwin-body-found-autopsy/12180924/23) https://www.wspa.com/news/crime/its-heartbreaking-neighbors-shocked-saddened-after-dead-baby-found-buried-at-erwin-nc-home/24) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/shadow-boxing/202106/why-would-killer-bury-bodies-in-the-yard-025) Article: Serial Murders Spatial Decisions: Factors that influence Crime location Choice 26) Article- Body Disposal: Spatial & Temporal Characteristics in Korean Homicide 

In this episode, we're discussing a cold blooded killer. Colder than any killer I can think ofIt's the case of Christy SheatsListen now on Love and MurderWant to hear us talk about a specific true crime story? Email us at noconductradio@gmail.comJoin us, hosts Ky & Rick, every Sunday for new episodes.YouTube: https://bit.ly/LoveMurderYouTubeBonus episodes: www.patreon.com/loveandmurderFan page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/landmfanpageMerch: https://murderandlove.com/our-shop/Follow us:www.facebook.com/relationshipcrimeinstagram.com/loveandmurderpodcastGo to our website www.murderandlove.comIntro music by:Shalash by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/4899-shalashLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Commercial Music:Hammock Fight Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Licensehttp://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

We've all heard the stories of razor blades in apples, needles in candy, and sweetheart shaped ecstasy hidden in Halloween candy. Where do these stories come from and have these things actually happened? In 1974, one dad chose trick over treat and it has gone on to perpetuate these stories and will affect the perception of Halloween candy forever. Episode 55.Thank you for listening!Please follow us on Instagram, support our Patreon, view show notes, and more at https://www.sleuthbetold.com

In this episode we share the story behind Susan Eubanks, a California inmate who is on death row for committing "FILICIDE"(killing ones own children)-the horrific events that unravelled 10-26-97. We share the details leading up to what, how, and why Susan killed Brandon, Austin, Brigham, and Matthew. How far is too far.....was it the addiction, rage, or premeditated..lets discuss....S.B.S. of the week: The Roxy Encinitas517 S Coast Hwy 101 Encinitas, CA 92024https://www.instagram.com/theroxyencinitas/?hl=en

Was Elaine Campione a cold hearted perpetrator of filicide or was she unwell. Join me in my latest True Crime episode where we take a look at the events that unfolded on October 2nd 2006

Barry disagrees with the idea of imprisoning women who have abortions, focusing instead on the personal cost and heroic nature of mothering.       Scripture: John 10:10 Referenced Episodes: Can There Be Life on Earth Post-Roe? (Eps 17-19)  

FILICIDE:   The Romero family lived in a one-story home in Loganville — a Gwinnett County city of 10,000 people about 35 miles east of Atlanta. The Gwinnett County Police Department raced to the home on Emory Lane in reference to a 911 call by Maria Isabel Garduno-Martinez on July 6th, 2017.  She laid her family out on the bed and placed Bibles on their bodies—one by one.LOST LOVE ONES:33-year-old Romero, Isabela Martinez, 10; Diana Romero, 9; Dacota Romero, 7; Dillan Romero, 4 and 2-year-old Axel Romero | https://www.canva.com/design/DAFGGHiuhoo/d0yOLp0i4rFiPSOBU3_aCg/view?utm_content=DAFGGHiuhoo&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelinkGOFUNDME:Romero Family Funeral & MedicalFund | Hallie Romero is organizing this fundraiser on behalf of Antonio Romero. | Fundraiser for Antonio Romero by Hallie Romero : Romero Family Funeral & MedicalFund (gofundme.com) |EDUCATE/SUPPORT/DONATE: What to Know About 988, the New Mental Health Crisis Hotline | LAUNCH 07/16/22 |  https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/12/well/988-suicide-prevention-hotline.html?smid=tw-nytimes&smtyp=cur BIPOC Mental Health Awareness Month Learn More  | BIPOC-MHM-Toolkit Download HERE BIPOC MHM would not be if it wasn't for Bebe Moore Campbell at mhanational.org/bebemoorecampbell  MEXICAN CESSION (1848) | encylopedia . com | 01/01/2019 | Mexican Cession (1848) | Encyclopedia.com Children's Mental Health | MHA National . Org | 01/01/2022 | Children's Mental Health | Mental Health America (mhanational.org) Beyond the Numbers: Talking to Your Loved Ones About Mental Health | Mental Health America Webinars YOUTUBE | 07/06/22 | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_OzLknZjiY ARTICLES/SOURCES:5 Things to Know: Georgia Mother Accused of Stabbing Her Husband and 4 Kids to Death | Peoples . com | 07/10/17 | 5 Things to Know: Georgia Mom Accused of Killing Family | PEOPLE.comGeorgia Mom Accused of Fatally Stabbing Husband, Kids Told Surviving Daughter She Was Going 'to See Jesus' | Peoples . com | 07/20/17 | Georgia Mom Allegedly told Daughter She Was Going to 'See Jesus' | PEOPLE.comIllegal immigrant mom accused in stabbing deaths of children, husband smiles in court | Fox News | September 27, 2017 | Illegal immigrant mom accused in stabbing deaths of children, husband smiles in court | Fox NewsDA: No death penalty for Gwinnett mom who killed 4 kids, husband | The Atlanta Journal-Constitution | April 16, 2018 | DA: No death penalty for Gwinnett mom who killed 4 kids, husband (ajc.com)Georgia mother pleads guilty to killing husband, 4 children | Fox News | 04/23/19 | Georgia mother pleads guilty to killing husband, 4 children | Fox NewsLone survivor of knife attack speaks out after losing family | YouTube WSB-TV | 07/25/17 | Lone survivor of knife attack speaks out after losing family - YouTubePATREON SHOUTOUT:Kat K. Member as of April 20, 2022 ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Nancy Rommelman joins Brad and Ileana to discuss a range of matters both pressing and perennial: Why is Zelensky running guns and stamps on Twitter? Is Nancy going back to Ukraine (it appears so!) and what did she discover while she was there? What does the future hold for Paloma Media? Why do mothers kill their kids, and what can we learn from wading into messy, uncomfortable details? All sorts!

Interviewed in this episode:D'Andre Lane, Bianca's Dad - Serving a Life Sentence at Thumb Correctional Facility in Lapeer, Michigan Referenced in this episode:People v. LANED'Andre's Facebook PageCharley Project - Bianca Lily Jones

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Episode 7-1. 1984 Is the Father the Killer? Accident or Filicide? Did a father poison his children? Did he murder his five-year-old daughter? What did the family think? What did the lawyers think? What did the jury think? What would you decide? Felonfile.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/felonfile/message

A look back at the horrific murders committed by Susan Smith.Facebook: @3MPodcastTwitter: @3MPodcast3TikTok: @3MPodcastYouTube: https://bit.ly/3apYTV0Website: www.mysterymurdermagick.comBackground music provided by: https://www.purple-planet.comResearch assistance provided by: Stevie the Cat

In 1983 Diane Downs carries her three small children into a hospital in Oregon, all suffering from gunshot wounds.The mother explains that she had been the victim of an attempted carjacking, but managed to trick her attacker and escape. However, not long after, the police's attention turns towards her as a potential suspect. What could lead a mother to harm her own children? In this episode of Bad People, presenters Dr Julia Shaw and Sofie Hagen discuss the topic of familicide and Julia shares her own family's close encounter. Warning: This episode includes descriptions of murder and possibly some strong language.CREDITS Presenters: Dr Julia Shaw and Sofie Hagen Producer: Simona RataMusic: Matt Chandler Editor: Rami Tzabar Academic Consultants for The Open University: Lara Frumkin and James Munro#BadPeople_BBCCommissioning Assistant Producer: Adam Eland Commissioning Executive: Dylan HaskinsBad People is produced in partnership with The Open University and is a BBC Audio Science Production for BBC Sounds.

Lillie Mae Curtis tried to take out 90% of her family in the 1930'sJoin my patreon to hear a new episode each week!www.patreon.com/crimesofadecadeContact Me:crimesofadecade@gmail.comResources:https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/28514856/lillie-mae-curtishttp://thisdayinmurder.blogspot.com/2012/03/lillie-mae-curtis-murders-6-of-her-9.htmlhttp://unknownmisandry.blogspot.com/2014/11/lillie-may-curtis-texas-family.htmlhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5282617/https://www.cnn.com/2017/07/07/health/filicide-parents-killing-kids-stats-trnd/index.htmlhttps://news.brown.edu/articles/2014/02/filicidehttps://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-02-08/mothers-murdering-their-children-on-the-rise-domestic-filicide/10793162https://people.com/crime/killer-moms-susan-smith-diane-downs-and-others/Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/crimesofadecade)

On November 18, 2012, 13-year-old Dylan Redwine traveled from his mother Elaine's house in Colorado Springs to visit his father Mark in Vallecito, Colorado for a court-ordered visit. According to Dylan's big brother, Cory, Dylan was not looking forward to visiting his father.  A while back, Dylan had accidentally come across compromising and disturbing photos of his father.  The photos disgusted him and he planned to confront Mark.Mark Redwine picked up Dylan at the airport.  On the way to Mark's house, they stopped at Walmart and picked up fast-food at McDonalds. Throughout his trip, Dylan had been communicating with his Durango friends and making plans to see them. Text messages indicated that Dylan tried to make plans to stay with a friend nearby rather than with his father.  When Mark said no to that plan, Dylan made plans to see his friend at six-thirty the next morning.Join us at the quiet end for Dylan Redwine's Last Visit.  Dylan's last phone activity was at 9:37 p.m. on November 18.  He failed to show up at his friend's house the next morning.  Mark claimed that Dylan was asleep on his couch when he left his home at 7:30 a.m. that morning and that when he returned at 11:30 a.m., Dylan was gone.  As the last person to see his son alive, Mark Redwine was immediately a person of interest.  Sigmond Freud once said “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection.”  Not only did Mark Redwine fail to protect Dylan, he was the one who Dylan needed protection from.

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Trigger warning: Child abuse and child homicide The docs dole out the research on child homicide; filicide in particular (the murder of a child by their parent). They then discuss the lack of information on victims of filicide from the LGBTQIA+ community before reviewing two cases where this was in fact the primary motive. They also review typologies, related legal concepts, like the "panic defense," and future considerations for such cases. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lansc/message

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Dr. Jan Canty is a homicide survivor who seeks to spread awareness and garner more support for other homicide survivors. In this week's episode, Dr. Canty explores the traumatic moment when she went from living a “normal” life to finding out that her husband was missing, then murdered. She explains her experience with traumatic loss and helps us to understand why so much more support is needed for those who are survivors (but still victims nonetheless) of homicide.  Support the Podcast Dr. Canty's Domino Effect of Murder Podcast What to Do When the Police Leave: A Guide to the First Days of Traumatic Loss A Life Divided: A Psychologist's Memoir About the Double Life and Murder of Her Husband - and Her Road To Recovery Transcript: Alyssa Scolari [00:23]: Hello everybody. Welcome back to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. I'm your host, Alyssa Scolari. And today we have with us a very special guest, Dr. Jan Canty. Dr. Canty was born, raised and educated and widowed in Detroit. Two months shy of completing her postdoctoral fellowship, her husband of 11 years went missing. Two weeks later, he was found murdered. That event separated her life into before and after segments. Due to media pressure, she moved, changed her name, and did not speak of it for 30 years. When she came out of the shadows, she wrote a book called A Life Divided, and started a podcast for other so-called homicide survivors called Domino Effect of Murder. So this is quite the harrowing story that we have today. So, with all of that said, I am going to turn it over to Dr. Canty herself. Hello. How are you? Jan Canty [01:33]: I'm fine. How are you doing? Alyssa Scolari [01:35]: I'm good. I'm really glad we connected, happy to have you on the show, happy to have you hear. I know we're talking about some tough stuff today. Jan Canty [01:45]: Yes. Alyssa Scolari [01:46]: Even reading your bio alone was just like oh, man, there's so, so much here. I guess I'll start with take me through your journey. How long were you married for? Jan Canty [02:07]: I was married to Al for 11 years before he went missing. Alyssa Scolari [02:11]: Okay. And what was life like prior to that? Jan Canty [02:16]: I would say pretty steady. He was very supportive of my career aspirations, and we were doing okay financially. He was 18 years older than me, and the reason I mention that is because when he began, at the very end of that 11-year period to seem more removed or tired or pre-occupied, I attributed it wrongly to his health, thinking well he's older, he needs a physical, but instead he was up to his eyebrows in trouble and not telling me. Because he had befriended two people in downtown Detroit that he allowed them, encouraged them in fact, to take advantage of him financially. And he did this for 18 months, and when he ran out of money they murdered him. Alyssa Scolari [03:06]: So here you are, you're married, you're going to, it looks like, you were in graduate school going for your PhD? Jan Canty [03:16]: I'd completed my PhD at that point, and I was going through my two-year postdoctoral fellowship. I was in the last two months of it when it all happened. Alyssa Scolari [03:24]: Okay. So all this time you're thinking, well, it's just that Al is really, his health is declining because of his age? Jan Canty [03:35]: Mm-hmm [affirmative]. Alyssa Scolari [03:36]: When really what was happening is he essentially had like another life where he was- Jan Canty [03:41]: Yes. He was pretending to be a physician by the name of Dr. Miller. I found this all out in talking with the chief inspector of homicide the day they called me down to interview me. I had no knowledge of anything that he'd been up to. And one of the many things that he said to me was go home and look at your finances, and you're probably broke, and that was kind. I mean, when I looked into our finances, this is in 1985 dollars, I was $30,000 in debt. So that translates into about $90,000 today. Alyssa Scolari [04:14]: Oh my gosh. Jan Canty [04:17]: We were behind on taxes, rent at the office, mortgage payments, health insurance, you name it. It was way overdue, because he'd been giving these two people all of our money and more. He'd even bought cars for them, he paid their rent. He even gave them a scrapbook or a photo album that I assembled for insurance purposes of the interior of our house, with the estimated value of each of the larger items in the house. And in case there was a fire, I could just grab it and I'd have evidence of what we owned, and it would be easy to turn into the insurance company. He even gave that to them, so they had the knowledge of what was in the house, as well as the layout. Alyssa Scolari [05:00]: So your whole world, every aspect of your world, got turned upside down in a matter of a week? Jan Canty [05:11]: He was missing a week. So between the time he didn't come home and the time I met with Inspector Gil Hill, I was just pacing and worrying and trying to figure out what happened. And then he called me down a week later after he'd been missing, and told me that he suspected he had been murdered, but he didn't have a body yet. And then back in '85 you needed that to have a prosecution, but he had a fair idea what had happened. I now know he had a whole lot more evidence than he was telling me. But then it was the following week, almost to the day that he called me down, and said that they had unearthed his shallow grave in Northern Michigan. He had been killed by the way of a baseball bat and then dismembered. So they had buried his identifiable body parts in a bog in Northern Michigan called the University of Michigan Biologic Station. It's an area where they do scientific research on mosquitoes, and to do that they have road kill dumped there, so it was a perfect camouflage for where they buried him. And I really believe that had an informant, an accomplice, in the burial not come forward, they would have never figured it out. Alyssa Scolari [06:20]: Yeah. So that's what happened, somebody came forward with that tip? Jan Canty [06:25]: Yep. Yep, to escape prosecution. He wanted immunity from prosecution in order to give the information. And they made a deal with him saying yes, if you can lead us to the body parts, you will be off the hook, and you will have to testify in court though against the two defendants, which was John Carl Fry and Dawn Marie Spens. And he agreed to all of it, and they held up their bargain as well, so that's what happened. Alyssa Scolari [06:50]: Wow. And in the months after, well, because I'm sure a trial took place? Jan Canty [07:00]: Yes. Alyssa Scolari [07:00]: Are these people now in jail? Jan Canty [07:02]: They were at the time. And on that point, I'll say that only 5% of murders go to trial, 95% are plea bargains. So that was a concern that I had, is if they all plea bargained to more information that the police wanted, and it could've ended in something minor, because there was evidence that he knew a lot more about other murders in Detroit. But they didn't plea bargain. He did go to trial, and they were convicted. John Carl Fry was convicted of first-degree murder, and convicted to life without parole, which was the maximum in Michigan at the time. I think it's still the same. However, his accomplice, Dawn Marie Spens, was given a very light sentence, and she was out before I could even sell my house. Alyssa Scolari [07:47]: What? Jan Canty [07:48]: Yeah, because she didn't do the actual killing. She just helped transport the body parts. So they charged her and convicted her of, I think the wording is something like mutilation of a dead body or something like that, and so she was off pretty quickly. I think she served two years, maybe 18 months. It was really brief. And then he died in prison after five years of Hep C, so he's no longer around, she still is. Since she's been out, she went back to school and she's alive and well. Alyssa Scolari [08:29]: That makes me want to throw up, it truly does. Jan Canty [08:33]: There was a public outcry when the public became aware of her light sentence, but it's a done deal. You can't make a judge change his mind. Alyssa Scolari [08:42]: Right. Right. So then for you, after all of that, between having to grieve and being in shock, I'm sure, you made that decision to change your name, move completely out of the area? Jan Canty [08:58]: Eventually, because I tried moving locally and the media would not leave me alone. I had to change my phone number so often I had to write it down to make sense of it. And they were coming to my work place, people were driving by my house. It was always in the press, any little thing, like John Carl Fry escaped one time while he was incarcerated. Alyssa Scolari [09:18]: What? Jan Canty [09:19]: So it drummed it all up again. And when he died, it drummed it all up, and I just thought I'm leaving. I've had it. This isn't my swan song. I don't want to forever be known as the widow. This isn't how I want my life to unfold at this point. It was hard. I loved living where I did. My practice was taking off, it was something, a goal, I'd worked for for over a decade. And it was working, but I wasn't happy, and I was on edge all the time. And I was tired of people pointing at me in public, and finally I just said enough. And so to your point about grief, because of all the drama, the media, my health risks, I was told I had to get an HIV test because of his infidelity with prostitutes, there were so many irons in the fire at any given time that grief was totally postponed for a long time. That was a luxury. I didn't have time to process it. I was constantly putting out fires. If it wasn't the media, it was bills. If it wasn't the bills, it was my health. If it wasn't that, it was moving. If it wasn't that, it was something else. So it kept getting postponed. It was one of those things that I thought later, I can deal with that later. Right now I've got to figure out, I mean, in the early weeks frankly, I had to figure out how I was going to eat and how I was going to keep the lights on, because he'd given away all our money and we were in debt. And I had just started my practice, so my income was very low. Alyssa Scolari [10:49]: Right. Jan Canty [10:50]: So I started selling things that I owned to not only prepare to move to a smaller place, but to survive. And winter was setting in, and I was worried about the heat bill, because it was a really old house and it sucked up energy. So my mind was consumed with survival for a long time. Alyssa Scolari [11:09]: Right. It's as you were talking about you couldn't really even go anywhere or do anything without the media, of course I think to myself there's no way you even had two seconds to grieve. Jan Canty [11:21]: No. Alyssa Scolari [11:21]: As you said, that's a luxury, right? Jan Canty [11:21]: Yeah. Alyssa Scolari [11:24]: I'm in survival mode. There's no time to process any of this. Jan Canty [11:29]: No. I postponed what I could postpone, and that was one of them. I had to prioritize. I had to make my bills, I had to eat, I had to figure out how I was going to heat the house, I had to try to sell the house. And that was an issue, because Michigan law, even to this day, states that if there is a serious crime in which the owner of the house is involved, even if it does not take place on the property, you have to divulge that information to the potential buyer in case they are superstitious. If you fail to do that, they can rescind the offer at any time in the future, so that devalued the house. Alyssa Scolari [12:06]: What? Jan Canty [12:06]: Yeah. Alyssa Scolari [12:07]: Is that just me, or does that seem like an absolutely ... Jan Canty [12:11]: It was like one thing on top of another, like I said. It made no sense to me, because it didn't occur in the house. So I didn't think it, but everybody knew anyway. Alyssa Scolari [12:19]: It made no sense. Jan Canty [12:19]: Because the media published pictures of our house, and even a map to get to our house, so it really wasn't a secret in the sense. But the people that ended up buying the house came from England, so they would not have known anything about this, but they still had to be told about it. And so as a consequence, the house was probably valued by a third less of what it was worth, and then I used a lot of that money just to pay off bills. Alyssa Scolari [12:43]: Right. I feel like I've been shaking my head so much throughout this interview already that my head might actually spin off. I'm just, I'm baffled that a law like that even exists, like it- Jan Canty [12:56]: Yeah. I checked recently, and it's still there. Alyssa Scolari [12:59]: Unbelievable, right? As if things weren't, it's like you had everything working against you all at the same time. Jan Canty [13:07]: Mm-hmm [affirmative]. Alyssa Scolari [13:08]: How did you stay sane? Jan Canty [13:11]: I attribute a lot of my coping skills, number one, to how my parents raised me. They were never, ever one to allow me to escape responsibility. And if I complained, they'd always point out somebody has it worse than you, come on, get on with life, you don't have it so bad. That was a factor, my childhood. My parents flew in from Phoenix to be with me, and they were immense help. Once they arrived, which was a week into his disappearance, my dad took charge of the front door and the phone. My mom took charge of laundry and cooking, because I hadn't eaten, and in fact, the dinner that I had prepared for Al and I the night he was to come home, I'd left it on the stove for a week. I hadn't even noticed it. That's how out of it I was. It was hamburger. We were going to have hamburgers that night, and it just was sitting in the summer heat for a week and I didn't even notice it. So the minute she walked in the house, she's like, "What in the God's name is that odor? That stinks." Alyssa Scolari [14:10]: And you didn't even notice it. Jan Canty [14:11]: And I hadn't had a shower, because it wasn't like a week, it was like one very long day. That's how it felt to me. There was no morning, noon and night, 24-hour cycles. It was like the next hour or the next minute, the next hour, and it just kept going, and I was getting by on cat naps for a long time. So it didn't seem like a week until that they came. It seemed like one very long day. Morning, noon and night had no meaning at all. Alyssa Scolari [14:39]: I think that that's a deeply accurate description of the traumatic loss, like what that trauma is like in the initial phases. That's what it is. A week went by and it felt like a day. I think that's a perfect way of describing it, and- Jan Canty [15:04]: Well, I think you're so into your own skin, those external benchmarks are gone. You don't know the date, you don't know the hour. Alyssa Scolari [15:04]: None of that even matters. Jan Canty [15:11]: You don't know if it's morning, noon or night, you don't. It's you're so inside your own skin, and thinking about what's happened and what needs to happen, that that's all very external, very removed, and meaningless at the time. Alyssa Scolari [15:26]: Yeah. It's like none of that even matters, the date, the day, the time. It's all, right, none of, like you said- Jan Canty [15:26]: Right. Alyssa Scolari [15:36]: The external just doesn't matter. Now for you, when did the grieving process, like when did you transition, was it when you moved, from that shock to the grief? Jan Canty [15:54]: Well, I would say in earnest, it was after I left Michigan. It was probably a year and a half later. Alyssa Scolari [16:02]: Okay. And what- Jan Canty [16:02]: Because up to that point I was just treading water. And finally, when I got away from everybody I knew, all the reporters, the media, the police, and I could sit and think. Even at the funeral I couldn't think, because the media were there. I mean, they were so intrusive, so invasive, and impersonal and in my face. And I couldn't even grieve at the, all I could think about at the funeral was getting out of there and getting home. They had cameras and microphones, and it was like a circus. I felt like all that was missing was popcorn. Alyssa Scolari [16:36]: A circus you don't want to be at. Jan Canty [16:38]: No. No. Alyssa Scolari [16:39]: Not at all. Jan Canty [16:40]: So it was a long time, and I was pretty removed from it all by then. And I did not have a name for the kind of grief that I was experiencing at the time, but now looking back, I know that it's a unique kind of, well, maybe it's more common than we think. It's called conflicted grief, where there is relief in your grief, where there is some element of, oh, I'm glad that's over. I know I wouldn't want him back, because of all the deceit, all the infidelity, endangering my life, let alone his own. There was this anger like I had never experienced in my life. You still have the other typical parts of grief, the sadness and the feeling empty and remembering the good times. That's still all there, but in addition to that there's this other layer of how dare you? How dare you have done what you did to your life and my life and our life? What was wrong with you? And so that conflicted grief, for me, and I'm not saying this is everybody, but for me made it easier. Because you don't go to that depth of soul searching and mourning, because your anger is it bottoms you out. It's at a point where if he had lived, if he had survived, I would have left him in a heartbeat. I mean, I wouldn't have put up with that. Alyssa Scolari [18:04]: Right. Right. Jan Canty [18:05]: So it made it easier for me, and I took it a day at a time. Again, when that happened, I wish I'd had a name for it then. All I know is I felt terribly guilty for not feeling more sad, more mournful than I did, but I was able to start sleeping soon. And you go in the Hallmark section of a card area and you'll see they're still with you in your thoughts, and you'll be together one day. None of that applied to me. It was like I don't want to walk with him again. I don't want to be with him at some future time. Alyssa Scolari [18:38]: Yeah, you were mad as hell. Jan Canty [18:39]: Yeah. Alyssa Scolari [18:39]: You were mad as hell. Jan Canty [18:40]: And there's no place to discharge it, because he's not here. Alyssa Scolari [18:43]: Right. You can't even scream at him. Jan Canty [18:45]: No. And his mother really was in denial. He was an only child, and so my mother-in-law was like feeding it, like I bet ... She even sent me an anniversary card after he had- Alyssa Scolari [18:59]: What? Jan Canty [18:59]: Yeah. A few after he left, after he died. And she was not in touch with what was going on. She refused to believe his role in his own demise, and always said he'd been blackmailed, there was another explanation. But she would not go to court, she would not go to the police station, she would not face any of the facts as we knew them, so she could continue to live in that sense of denial. And at her age, I thought let her. What's the difference? It's her only child. She's entitled to see it how she needs to see it, if that makes her sleep, but I don't want to be a part of it. And so there's an old saying that murder kills not just victims, it kills families too, and that's a good example of that. Alyssa Scolari [19:39]: It's so true, so, so true. Now, but for you, it didn't kill you. Jan Canty [19:46]: No. Alyssa Scolari [19:47]: And it sounds like it's partially because it's, like you said, that type of conflict grief, right? You have all this rage, this anger, because there's this sense of betrayal. Jan Canty [19:58]: Mm-hmm [affirmative]. Alyssa Scolari [19:59]: But you also, even just reading your bio and seeing where you're at now, you've now kind of incorporated the past and what happened to you into the work that you do now. Jan Canty [20:13]: Yes, I do. It took me 30 years to speak of it. I did not talk about it for a long, long time after I moved, but there was specific events that happened that made me come out of the shadows. And when it did, I had enough objectivity there, the dust had settled. I had gotten my ducks in a row. I'd deliberately done things to get myself back on track, because back in 1985, you're alone. There is no internet. There's no way to search out, I didn't even know the name homicide survivor then. All I knew is I didn't know a soul who'd been through what I'd been through, so it was up to me to deal with it as best I could and figure out how I was going to heal myself. So I fell back on a very old model that I was taught in my training, which is you look at biopsychosocial dimensions of behavior. And I thought I've got to address each of those. I've got to look at what I'm doing biologically, so I started doing triathlons. I started looking at things socially. I traveled around the world and went to remote villages, and visited and helped communities in very remote places who didn't even have drinking water, let alone a spouse. Women had no rights, and it was bug infested, and I tried to throw myself into helping other people who were less fortunate, in some ways, than myself. That put it in perspective. And I tried to heal myself psychologically by trying to read up on it. Once the internet came into being, and I could get resources, I started researching a little bit more about homicide survivors. And even now there's not a ton of information, but it's better than it used to be. And so that was my focus, was to say life, strangely, has prepared me for this. I've got my formal training, and I have my life training, and my goal now is to help other homicide survivors, and people close to homicide survivors, like perhaps a close friend of somebody who's lost someone to homicide. My goal is to help that population deal with their experience, because there's very little out there now. There's no parades in our honor. There's no national day that people are aware of for homicide survivors, and we're misrepresented in movies, if we're represented at all, because most of the time the focus is on the crime and the perpetrator, and maybe a trial, which is a myth, because like I said, most of the time it's a plea bargain. But as for the family of the deceased, they're just in the background. They're this fleeting people that are dissolved into tears, and then they lead them off stage and that's it. And that's where the story starts, that's not where it ends. So my goal has been to try to fan the flames of that, and create better understanding and a pool of resources for people in that situation. Alyssa Scolari [23:07]: And is that largely what you book is about, A Life Divided? Jan Canty [23:14]: Yeah. Alyssa Scolari [23:14]: Or is that more of a memoir? Jan Canty [23:16]: It's both. It's both. Alyssa Scolari [23:16]: Okay. Jan Canty [23:17]: It's a true crime memoir, but my deliberate intent was to segue at the end towards speaking to trauma survivors in general, so that you can use my story as a springboard to understand what goes on with trauma, so that other people can use it for their own benefit. Like, for example, I talk about nightmares as not something to fear. That's a part of the healing process, and it's natural and it's inevitable, and it's your mind trying to reset itself, and just as one silly example. But there's that, and then also the podcast. It was actually suggested to me by a relative in South Carolina who owns a crime scene cleanup business, and it was her idea to say you'd be a perfect person to have a podcast. And I'm thinking I don't know anything about podcasts, the technology, pop filter, the whole there's a lot as an uphill of information you have to gather. Alyssa Scolari [24:21]: It's a lot, right. Jan Canty [24:22]: But as you probably know, Alyssa, other podcasters are very helpful. It's like a nice community. Alyssa Scolari [24:28]: It's a nice community. It is. Jan Canty [24:29]: They're not competitive, they're helpful. Alyssa Scolari [24:31]: Yes. Jan Canty [24:31]: And they really helped me get on my feet, so that's how The Domino Effect of Murder was born. And that was two years ago, and it's now heard in 11 countries. Alyssa Scolari [24:39]: Wow. That's incredible. It's incredible. Jan Canty [24:44]: And I've met the most remarkable people. That's been so enjoyable. It's like my tribe. That's what I think of them as. These are people that went through, every homicide is unique, they're all different, but these are people that somehow figured out a way to make lemonade out of lemons, and I admire them. They're resilient. They're creative. They're compassionate. They're passionate and articulate, and willing to talk about their histories. And I've just admired them, and I enjoy speaking with them. Alyssa Scolari [25:19]: Yes, and you are one of those people. I mean, you truly are, and it's the kind of grief, and the kind of traumatic loss that you have been through. I think the grief expert, David Kessler, who is just one of my all-time-favorite people on the planet, he wrote the book called Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief, and I believe he has an entire chapter dedicated to homicide, and it is because it is a much different type of grief. Jan Canty [25:59]: And it's a grief that one of the sad things about it is that when you start to knit together, when you start to pull yourself out of this, that's about the time the trial happens, or the court proceedings, and it just opens it up again. And anytime you see somebody in the news who died under very similar circumstances as your loved one, it opens it up, so that's another part that makes it hard. When I hear of somebody who's lost a loved one, they're missing and then they're found murdered, it's just, ah, it just rips at me. Alyssa Scolari [26:38]: Yeah. It's like this wound that just you can't get medical attention for. Jan Canty [26:38]: Right. Alyssa Scolari [26:44]: It's just this wound that weeps. Jan Canty [26:46]: Yeah. Alyssa Scolari [26:47]: And there's no healing. And one of the questions that I'm very curious to ask your opinion on this, there has been such a trend toward true crime, and I don't know if it's specifically in this country, or if it's worldwide. People are obsessed with true crime, myself included, right? Myself included. I listen to many, many, many true crime podcasts, and I think that there's been a lot of criticism that people are obsessed with it in a way that almost minimizes the tragedy. Do you feel that that's the case? Have you noticed that, that people more so are all about the drama of it, and less aware of like, no, this is homicide, this is devastating and life altering? Jan Canty [27:49]: I think you see an array. There are some podcasts which make light of it. My favorite podcasts, one is Wine and Crime, and they even laugh, and it trivializes it. Alyssa Scolari [28:04]: Yes. Jan Canty [28:06]: And in addition to that, it doesn't focus on the aftermath, it focuses on the crime itself. Alyssa Scolari [28:11]: The crime itself. Jan Canty [28:12]: Which is very common. But there are a handful out there that do bring up, and do try to address, the victims who are living. They're in a minority, but they're there, and I don't think they were even there five years ago, so that's refreshing. Alyssa Scolari [28:28]: Yes. Jan Canty [28:28]: What I find equally upsetting, for me, is the lack of interest in scholarly research on homicide survivors, because here's a for instance. When I do my episodes, I guess it's the researcher in me, but I always try to research the topic I'm going to be specifically addressing in that episode. One week I was going to be speaking with a young woman, she was like in her mid-twenties, maybe late-twenties at the most, who was a filicide survivor, meaning that her mother murdered her brother. Filicide is the murdering of one's child. She survived it. Alyssa Scolari [29:06]: I didn't know it. Jan Canty [29:08]: And so I thought, okay, I want to research filicide, and particularly what's the impact on the surviving child? Because it's not like the Watt's case. They're not always where all the children are killed. It's unique, it's there's differences. I could not find one shred of data, one study anywhere in the world that talked about this. And that's just one example, but it's not unique. And so but if you look up serial killers, oh my God, you don't have enough room to read all the articles. So academia is following that same mode. It's like can't you get off the subject of serial killers and the homicide itself and look at the aftermath? There's so much we need to know. What's the impact on development of children who witness a homicide? Or what's the impact of an older child if he sees his parent murder a younger child? We don't know, because nobody's researching these things. So that's one thing. And movies, they don't show the reality of it very often either. There's only a very few, few films out there that start with the trial, and then proceed to show the people's life afterwards. They're definitely in the minority, which I don't totally blame the academicians and the producers and the podcast hosts for this, because homicide survivors tend to run and hide. We don't like the spotlight. We don't want to talk about it. It took me 30 years to talk about it. So it's not just them not giving us a thought, but we run from the spotlight too, and so you put the two together and there's this big unknown. But I will tell you this, that it's an equal-opportunity club, and that at any moment anybody can join us. You just never know. Whether it's a mass homicide or an individual homicide, you don't know until it happens to you. Alyssa Scolari [31:06]: Exactly. Exactly. I thank you for that, and I thank you for your honesty, because I see that and I open my eyes to it. And listen, I am no angel in this. I, myself, am reading about The Stranger Beside Me, about Ted Bundy, Original Night Stalker or Golden State Killer. They recently caught him, but what are there books about- Jan Canty [31:32]: But the thing that I think we need to underscore here is that I believe, and the research supports this, that many women in particular who follow true crime do so as a learning tool for their own safety. What do I need to know to avoid this happening to me? So it's not always a gossipy kind of mystery-intrigue angle that they have, it's self-protection. Alyssa Scolari [31:57]: Absolutely, but I think that self-protection also can be extended to looking at the impact of the survivors, because as easily as we could be a victim of homicide, that's as easily as we could be a survivor of homicide, right? Jan Canty [32:14]: I wish more people would see that. Alyssa Scolari [32:16]: Yeah. And it's, you know, there are no books on, like you said, like I ... Jan Canty [32:21]: One book, if I can plug it, and I learned about it from my podcast. Alyssa Scolari [32:24]: Oh yeah? Jan Canty [32:24]: The one about [inaudible 00:32:25], and it's a wonderful book. If you are a police officer listening, get this book in your department to hand out at crime scenes of homicides. It's called What to Do When the Police Leave, and it's exactly what it's about. It's almost like a manual, like Step A, Step B. Alyssa Scolari [32:44]: Wow. Jan Canty [32:44]: And it's been printed over 40,000 copies, but it's I think it should be, and especially with the uptick in homicides in the last year. Homicides have nationally gone from an average of 18,000 annually to now 20,000 since COVID has hit. Alyssa Scolari [33:00]: Oh my gosh. Jan Canty [33:00]: It's still rare. It doesn't mean it's frequent. It's like if you picture a football stadium, we're now talking about ten people in that football stadium, as opposed to maybe seven before, but still it happens. Alyssa Scolari [33:13]: Still significant, yeah. Jan Canty [33:14]: And that doesn't include always the bigger-scale homicides, the mass tragedies. But I think that there are books like that out there, but this is it, the public doesn't know about this safety net. They don't know the resources that are out there. I'm still learning about them, and it's so darn hard to find them. And I wish there was a clearinghouse or public, I don't know, a nationwide conference, or something we could pull these resources together, police, victims and attorneys and so on, and learn from one another, to get a boost going so that the safety net is there and in place. The closest one I can find is through Arizona. The Arizona Homicide Inc is what they call it, I-N-C, Homicide Inc. It's- Alyssa Scolari [34:02]: And that's a conference? Jan Canty [34:03]: It's an organization within Arizona. They have support groups, they have pamphlets, they have speakers. And they are probably, and from where I sit, it looks like the most organized, and probably one of the earliest. The other one is Parents of Murdered Children. They're both in the United States and Canada. They are very organized. And despite what the name sounds like, they are open to speaking with people other than parents. But there aren't many. There's very, very few. Alyssa Scolari [34:32]: Very few. Jan Canty [34:33]: And so I'm hoping that through your podcast, and people listening here as well as my own, that people will become more aware of resources out there. Alyssa Scolari [34:44]: Yes. And I will absolutely link your book, your podcast, as well as the What to Do When the Police Leave book in the show notes for the listeners. Jan Canty [34:57]: It's written by Bill Jenkins, J-E-N- Alyssa Scolari [34:59]: Bill Jenkins? Okay. Jan Canty [35:00]: Whose son was murdered. One thing also, if I could just touch on quickly. I know we're running out of time, but- Alyssa Scolari [35:06]: Oh yeah, go ahead. Jan Canty [35:07]: If I could speak to some of the other myths surrounding, one I've already mentioned, that frequently murders end in trial. That's like CSI stuff on TV. Alyssa Scolari [35:17]: Yeah. Jan Canty [35:17]: That isn't the case. Alyssa Scolari [35:17]: Law and Order. Jan Canty [35:19]: 95% of them end up in a plea bargain, so be prepared for the murderer of your loved one to get a lesser offense charge. The other one is that once a homicide occurs, that the grieving people who are going through it, that they receive a lot of support. And that doesn't usually happen, except at the time of the funeral, and maybe at the time of the trial, but it quickly falls off. And therefore, one of the recommendations I would make is if you knew somebody that had had this happen to, and you're close to them, stay in touch with them over the next few months. They're going to need you to be there for them month five, month six, and the year anniversary of the murder. The other misperception is that once people are convicted of homicide that they serve very long sentences, and that too is false. Nationally, if you are convicted of a first-degree premeditated murder, the national average, and it does vary by jurisdiction, is 17 years. If you are convicted of second-degree impulsive murder, the national average is only five years nine months. That's involuntary manslaughter 9.2 years, so it's really not what you think. We don't have these life sentences. About 2% of murder convictions are false convictions, that is an innocent person has been railroaded into giving a false confession and put behind bars. And there's a man I met, he was a guest on my episode, called Deskovic is his last name, Jeffrey Deskovic. He was a teenager who was interrogated over many hours and just given caffeine, finally falsely confessed to a murder of his classmate, and served 16 years before he was released. He's now an attorney himself and helps other exonerees get their day in court. Alyssa Scolari [37:15]: Wow. Jan Canty [37:17]: Another myth is that women are at greatest risk when they are alone outside after dark. And what the data shows is that the most common place for women to be murdered is their own home, and the most common perpetrator is someone close to them. It could be an ex-boyfriend, could be a neighbor, but it's somebody known to them. It's not the stranger pulling them into a van and dumping them into the woods. That happens, but that's not the biggest risk. Most women are murdered in their home. And about 65% of murders are by people who know each other well, so family members, friends, coworkers are the 65% of all homicides are perpetrated by that group versus strangers, which is not how it's portrayed in the media very often. Alyssa Scolari [38:02]: No. Jan Canty [38:04]: So there are other myths, but those are just the ones I wanted to throw out. Alyssa Scolari [38:07]: Wow. Thank you. Jan Canty [38:10]: Yeah. Alyssa Scolari [38:10]: Thank you for what you do. You truly embody, I think, the word resiliency. You embody what this podcast is really all about. Jan Canty [38:23]: And if I can do it, other people can do it. Alyssa Scolari [38:26]: Yes. Jan Canty [38:26]: You need to surround yourself with strong people. You need to pay attention to your biology, get your rest, get your hydration. You don't have to do marathons and triathlons. Alyssa Scolari [38:26]: Could though, right? Jan Canty [38:37]: But you do have to get off your chair and go walk at least. So pay attention to your diet, ratchet down the cigarettes and the pop and the bad stuff. Take care of yourself biologically. In fact, I would recommend you see a physician within the first weeks of a homicide. Take care of yourself socially. Don't become a hermit. I did that, it doesn't work well. Surround yourself with at least one or two close allies. They don't have to have been through what you've been through, but just to have them sit there and listen. They don't have to throw out any recommendations, there's no magic words they need to come up with, but just to sit there non-judgmentally and listen to you, whether it's 3:00 am or whatever it is, and listen to them is very, very helpful. The other thing that friends can do which is very helpful, especially in the early weeks, is do not say call me if you need something, because people don't know what they need. And instead, say- Alyssa Scolari [39:30]: Right, so they won't call you. Jan Canty [39:31]: Right. Instead, say I noticed you need to take your car in to get your tires rotated. I'm going to do that for you. Or you need to get your cat into the vet. I'll get that done for you. Or I'm going to grocery shop. I'm going to bring your groceries to you. Do something specific and concrete that you know they will benefit by. I had a friend whose husband suicided, and I know she was very worried, she kept talking about how am I going to get my grass cut, because she was not physically well. And so I purchased landscaping for that summer for her, and you'd think I'd given her a million dollars. If I had said to her call me if you need something, that would have never happened. Alyssa Scolari [40:04]: No. I have almost felt, I hate that phrase so much. I have always seen it as a cop out, and it might just be a personal thing. It might be I think sometimes people feel uncomfortable, they don't know what to say, so then they say just let me know if you need anything, and I feel like that's a cop out. Jan Canty [40:04]: Right. Alyssa Scolari [40:20]: It's like, no, that person will not be able to tell you what they need. Jan Canty [40:23]: Nope. Nope. Alyssa Scolari [40:23]: There are no words for this. Jan Canty [40:25]: No. Alyssa Scolari [40:25]: Just look and go into action. Jan Canty [40:28]: Yep. Alyssa Scolari [40:29]: And that's how you can be the best help. Jan Canty [40:31]: Yep. Alyssa Scolari [40:32]: I mean, that's my spiel on that. And that phrase always just frustrates me when there's grief or loss. It's like, no, because that puts more pressure on the victim. Jan Canty [40:44]: It does. You can't even make a decision. Alyssa Scolari [40:45]: Right, like what am I, the CEO of- Jan Canty [40:47]: And you're not looking at your life objectively. Alyssa Scolari [40:49]: Right. Jan Canty [40:49]: I mean, my mother comes in and sees the week-old, rotten hamburger. I mean, obviously I needed somebody to clean my kitchen, but I didn't notice. Alyssa Scolari [40:56]: Right. Exactly. Exactly. So ... Jan Canty [41:00]: But because of people like you reaching out and allowing me to speak, I do feel more optimistic that more people will be helped. Alyssa Scolari [41:07]: Yes. Even just today, right, or the week I'm having, listening to this, A, puts things into, I think, very serious perspective for me, but also helps me to know that people out there, myself included, can do very hard things, and can take so much pain, pain that we did not deserve. You did not deserve it, you didn't need it, you didn't ask for it, you didn't want it, you never saw it coming. Jan Canty [41:41]: No. Alyssa Scolari [41:41]: But you took it, after many, many years, as hard as it was, and now you are using it to help other people. Jan Canty [41:48]: I think people are more capable of doing things than they even think they are. Alyssa Scolari [41:52]: Agreed. Agreed. Jan Canty [41:53]: You don't know until it happens, what you're capable of. Alyssa Scolari [41:57]: 1,010% So I thank you so much for your vulnerability, for sharing your story. Everything will be linked in the bio for the listeners, so you can check all of that stuff out, and thank you. Jan Canty [42:14]: Thank you, Alyssa, for having me on. Alyssa Scolari [42:16]: Thanks for listening, everyone. For more information, please head over to lightaftertrauma.com, or you can also follow us on social media. On Instagram, we are at lightaftertrauma, and on Twitter it is @lightafterpod. Lastly, please head over to patreon.com/lightaftertrauma to support our show. We are asking for $5.00 a month, which is the equivalent to a cup of coffee at Starbucks, so please head on over. Again, that's patreon.com/lightaftertrauma. 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Connolly murdered his 2 sons, Duncan and Jack, before taking his own life. Connolly had been going through a rough custody battle with his ex-wife. 

A Side (Adam): Adam is ready for America's favorite pastime. Its Draft time and in true Adam style, he celebrates it with a movie...Draft Day. B Side (Brooke): Mothers are usually the fiercest protectors of their babies, so its still surprising when one commits filicide (murder of their child). This week we discuss, Audrey Gagnon. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/aside-bside/support

Simmons was sentenced to death for the murders of 16 people. 14 of his victims were members of his family.  

Elizabeth Diane Downs is accused of the murder of her 7-year-old daughter and the attempted murder of her other two children, aged 8 and 3.  

Every year on March 1, the disability community gathers across the nation to remember disabled victims of filicide–disabled people murdered by their family members or caregivers. Filicide, the murder by one's parents, is one of the top three causes of death in children under five. It is one of the top five overall causes of death among all children and teens. Autistic children are particularly vulnerable, as parents use the “trauma” of having an autistic child as a legal defense.  Encounters with police can also be dangerous for autistics, especially autistic persons of color. Individuals with a mental illness, including autism, are 16 times more likely to die during an encounter with police, the highest of any group studied. From 2013 through 2015, data show half of the police encounter deaths were people with mental illnesses or cognitive differences. https://autismmemorial.wordpress.com https://disability-memorial.org https://autisticadvocacy.org/melmemorial/ https://autisticadvocacy.org/projects/community/mourning/ Guest: Peter Joseph Gloviczki (Ph.D., University of Minnesota, Mass Communication, 2012) examines representation in the digital age. He is particularly interested in the ways that memorialization and mediated narration either hold space for or obscure voices that are most often othered or excluded in mediated discourses. He works as an associate professor of communication at Coker University. He also serves as an assistant editor of the Journal of Loss and Trauma (Taylor & Francis). Gloviczki is active in both the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication (AEJMC) and the Carolinas Communication Association (CCA). His first book is Journalism and Memorialization in the Age of Social Media (Palgrave Macmillan, 2015) and his second book Mediated Narration in a Digital Age: Storying the Media Worldis forthcoming in the Frontiers of Narrative Series with University of Nebraska Press.

The first call was placed in January 7, 2007 by Dylon Peterson, 25, who tells the dispatcher that he has just killed  two people. Peterson, who is drunk, seems incoherent, has a bizarre affect, and gives no explanation for his act. He was homeless at the time, and had been staying with a friend, Nick […]

The first call was placed in January 7, 2007 by Dylon Peterson, 25, who tells the dispatcher that he has just killed  two people. Peterson, who is drunk, seems incoherent, has a bizarre affect, and gives no explanation for his act. He was homeless at the time, and had been staying with a friend, Nick […]

It seems inconceivable to shed any light on the murder of Alejandro Ripley. His is an extreme case, a victim of the unimaginable. This episode is for our Autism Spectrum Disorder community and anyone who wants to learn more about the possible "WHYS" and the plea for "WHAT NEXT?"#Miami#autism#autismspectrum#autismsupport#autismreality#autismfamily#autism911 Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/disorderlyblondes)