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Have you tried everything to fix your relationship, but nothing seems to work? Are you torn between staying and giving it one more try, or finally walking away? This week, Andrew talks with renowned couples therapist MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS about how to navigate one of the hardest decisions in a relationship: When is it time to stop trying? Michele is the creator of the “Divorce Busting” approach, which aims to empowers individual to make concrete, positive changes in their relationships—even when their partner isn't on board. Her work is deeply hopeful, but she also understands that sometimes, despite our best efforts, it may be time to let go. Together, Andrew and Michele explore: Coping with different levels of sexual desire in your relationship Why one partner often wants change more than the other Common differences in how men and women communicate Working together in therapy to make the "final call".  Michele Weiner-Davis is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, marriage therapist, and professional speaker who specializes in helping people change their lives and improve important relationships. She is the author of seven books including Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, and The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple's Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido. Michele's work has also been featured in The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post and on the BBC.  If You're Looking for More…. You can subscribe to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Podcasts) and hear a bonus mini-episode every week. Or you can join our Supporters Club on Patreon to also access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests  and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  This week supporters will hear: How to Get Through to the Man You Love - Without Nagging.  Three Things Michele Weiner-Davis knows to be true.  AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Attend Andrew's new men's retreat, Reconnect With Yourself, this autumn in the Brandenberg countryside near Berlin  Get Andrew's free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things  Visit Michele Weiner Davis's website: Divorce Busting Read some of Michele Weiner Davis's books: Divorce Busting: A Revolutionary and Rapid Program for Staying Together  The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido  Follow Michele Weiner Davis on social media: Facebook: Michele Weiner-Davis X (formerly Twitter): @DivorceBusting Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall   

In today's episode of Backpacker Radio presented by The Trek, brought to you by LMNT, we are joined by acclaimed author, marriage therapist, and speaker, Michele Weiner-Davis, known in my household simply as "mom".  Being our Valentine's Day episode, this one is meant to equip you with the knowledge necessary to make your relationship flourish. We cover a range of questions, both general tips on how to improve your relationships, but also thru-hiking specific scenarios, including how to navigate when one partner is on the trail and the other is back home, encountering challenges when hiking together, and how to get buy in from nervous parents (a subject in which my mother is overqualified to speak on). Chaunce also attempts to get Badger to blush by asking embarrassing questions about his past.  We wrap the show with some sobering news about how listeners can help a past guest in her fight against cancer; Chaunce and her fiance, Garrett, air out their pettiest fights; and we search for the perfect word for that post-massive dump feeling. LMNT: Get a free sample pack with any order at drinklmnt.com/trek. Gossamer Gear: Use code “BACKPACKER20” for 20% off packs at gossamergear.com.  [divider] Interview with Michele Weiner-Davis Michele's Website Time stamps & Questions 00:05:15 - Reminders: Join us for our live show in Austin, listen to our episodes ad-free on Patreon, and apply to blog for the Trek! 00:09:00 - Introducing Michele 00:09:50 - What are you most proud of professionally? 00:12:15 - What's the crossover between saving marriages and raising children? 00:13:27 - How does your work influence your own marriage? 00:14:35 - What is it like being mother to Zach Davis? 00:16:10 - What's the dumbest thing you've ever seen Zach do? 00:19:22 - Describe why Zach is called the feral child 00:21:28 - What is something about Zach you don't think the listeners would know? 00:22:45 - What was your advice to Zach when he was engaged and about to hike the PCT? 00:24:48 - How did you get into this work in the first place? 00:29:30 - In what other ways is your angle different from the average therapist? 00:31:00 - Should marriages always be saved? 00:33:18 - Where are the key areas where relationships go wrong? 00:36:50 - How can someone hiking make their partner at home feel valued? 00:43:50 - Discussion about parents reacting to their children's thru-hikes 00:47:30 - How long did it take you to feel comfortable with Zach being on the AT? 00:49:00 - How would you handle a situation where the person at home feels jealous? 00:54:25 - “I love hiking but my wife doesn't. She's short (under 5ft) so how big a backpack would I need to kidnap, I mean, carry her in? Seriously she hates camping and nothing I've tried works. We've been married for almost thirty years. Any suggestions?” 00:55:25 - “If a marriage is already rocky, do you think that sharing a thru-hike is more likely or less likely to help fix a relationship?” 00:58:38 - “So I'm single and not only am I getting into long distance backpacking but I also work in film where we could be hired for a project that has us traveling for months at a time within a week of being hired. I often find myself hesitant to get into a relationship with someone who has a more stable 9-5 lifestyle. How can I approach the initial conversation to set expectations of these long gaps in availability? Should I just stick to dating people in my industry/ people with less traditional lifestyles? Thanks!” 01:00:50 - How would you advise a child to get their parent's sign off for a hike? 01:07:37 - “My partner supported me initially with my desire to do multi day backpacking trips. However, he's now made comments about how he hopes I'm not planning to make this a regular thing (I've gone away twice for ~2.5 weeks). I realize it's a lot to ask when you are a parent, even though our kids are teens, but I do want to be able to continue to enjoy these trips (he's not interested). How would you approach this situation to avoid resentment building on both sides?” 01:11:33 - “Do couples who make it through a thru-hike together really stay together?” 01:16:22 - What kind of conversations can people have prior to the end of the trail? 01:18:07 - “One of the most difficult parts of a thru hike for my wife and I is the time away from each other, but once we get over that and the trail is finished the next hardest thing for both of us is just getting used to being around each other again, we both have basically lived separate lives for the past few months and have become used to our own routines and now we're stuck with each other again. Any tips for making that transition back into “normal” married  life any easier.” 01:21:38 - “I'm considering a thru-hike during a career break. My husband doesn't have the same time off work so I would be hiking without him. He's very supportive of my hiking plans but I worry about what it will do to our marriage if I have this transformational experience without him. Any advice on managing this?” 01:26:55 - “How do I deal with the guilt of leaving a spouse at home while I'm hiking like a happy forest fairy?” 01:28:10 - “Do we outgrow people and stagnate our own growth, or is this a misconception?” 01:32:42 - How much of a good relationship is meeting your soulmate and how much is working towards it? 01:33:45 - Do you think anyone can make a relationship work with anyone? 01:35:45 - Stay Salty Question: What is your hottest take in the world of relationships? 01:40:40 - Is there a book you'd recommend for thru-hikers? Segments Trek Propaganda Fundraiser to Support Renee "She-Ra" Patrick The Ultimate Guide to Making Coffee on Trail by JT Simmons QOTD: What word describes that sweet relieving feeling after taking a big dump? 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Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW, author and relationship expert bringing couples back from the brink of divorce through her effectively powerful Divorce Busting program.

Sex Starved ~ The importance of repairing a sex starved marriage - a short interview with Michele Weiner Davis. Listen to caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit www.drkenner.com for more information about the show.

Sex Starved? ~ What is a sex starved marriage? A short interview with Dr. Michele Weiner Davis. Listen to caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit www.drkenner.com for more information about the show.

What happens when children are the absolute focus of a family? Marriages suffer, says Michele Weiner-Davis, a renowned relationship expert who pulls couples back from the brink. We asked Michele to bust some couple myths and set us straight. Boy, she knows her stuff.  Books by Michelle Weiner-Davis: Divorce Busting, The Divorce Remedy, Healing from Infidelity, The Sex-Starved Marriage, The Sex-Starved Wife. The Sex-Starved Marriage, a Ted Talk by Michelle Weiner-Davis. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I just plowed through Michele Weiner-Davis's awesome book, DIVORCE BUSTING. It reminded me of how much I used to enjoy using Solution Focused Brief Therapy with my therapy clients. It is such a simple but absolutely brilliant mindset shift. It's like a giant shovel that digs out all the thick, stinky piled up muck of complications and negativity to zero directly in on the pinpoint of light shining through your tunnel, so you can make your way toward it as efficiently and effectively as possible. I'm going to share how you can use three magic questions to leverage this type of therapy to transform your marriage. www.bethechangeinyourmarriage.com. https://www.bethechangeinyourmarriage.com/blog “What is Your ‘Wife Style'?” Quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/61c0e2c4b3f4200018bf41e0 Free Guide and Episode Updates: pages.bethechangeinyourmarriage.com Reference: DIVORCE BUSTING by Michele Weiner-Davis

Banyak pernikahan gagal di tengah jalan karena kurangnya komunikasi antara pasangan suami istri. Michele Weiner Davis dalam bukunya The Sex-Starved Marriage mengatakan bahwa pasangan yang punya keterampilan komunikasi yang baik bisa belajar dan mengatasi perbedaan mereka lebih baik. "Jika Anda ingin merasa lebih terhubung dengan pasangan, penting bagi Anda untuk mempelajari cara-cara yang lebih baik untuk mengomunikasikan pikiran dan perasaan Anda satu sama lain." Mengapa komunikasi dianggap sebagai dasar paling penting dalam sebuah pernikahan? Simak Ngopi, “ Ngobrol Inspiratif Pagi” dengan topik Bukan Pernikahan Kebatinan Narasumber : ● Kartikanita Widyasari, S.Psi Supported by: @cheerswater

Multiple songs have been written about the futility of trying to make someone love you. But if that someone is your spouse, you may spend years (and a lot of money) in the attempt. So, how do you know when it’s time to let go and go through with a divorce? Dr. Frederick Tiesenga is an award-winning, board certified bariatric surgeon dedicated to helping people achieve a healthier lifestyle. He is also the author of I Do Until I Don’t: A Surgeon’s Story of Divorce and Healing, a collection of his experiences through marriage and divorce. In the book, Dr. Tiesenga gets real about what a healthy marriage should look like and shares his hard-earned insights into divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Tiesenga joins Katherine to share the story of his own contentious divorce, describing what he did to try and save the marriage—and why it didn’t work. He offers his take on why a prenuptial agreement is a necessity and discusses what couples can do to communicate their needs before it’s too late. Listen in to understand what Dr. Tiesenga did to heal and move on from his divorce and get his advice on hiring a divorce attorney who will advocate for you! Topics Covered What inspired Dr. Tiesenga to write I Do Until I Don’t What Dr. Tiesenga learned from trying to save his marriage Don’t force your partner into counseling Can’t buy things to make spouse like you Dr. Tiesenga’s tips for navigating a contentious divorce File counter-petition (no matter what) Don’t spend money unless ordered by judge Leave courthouse as quickly as possible Ask for trial date asap, first deal = best deal Why couples wait too long to go to marriage counseling Why Dr. Tiesenga advocates for getting a prenup How focusing on his career helped Dr. Tiesenga start to heal Discussing expectations as couples negotiate a prenup Dr. Tiesenga’s advice for choosing a divorce lawyer Connect with Dr. Frederick TiesengaDivorce Dr. Tiesenga’s Website: https://drtiesenga.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources I Do Until I Don’t: A Surgeon’s Story of Divorce and Healing by Frederick M. Tiesenga, M.D.: https://www.amazon.com/Do-Until-Dont-Surgeons-Divorce-ebook/dp/B07Y2HXBCX Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again by Michele Weiner-Davis: https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Busting-Step-Step-Approach/dp/0671797255

If you’re denying your spouse sex, you’re denying yourself the chance for a rich, happy marriage in and out of the bedroom. Many happy marriages go awry because of little known differences in the way each partner looks at, and reacts to, sex. Stereotypes are simply wrong when it comes to many men and women, yet no one is talking about it so no one knows how to bring the love back. In this episode of the Bottom Line Advocator Podcast with Sarah Hiner, internationally renowned relationship expert Michele Weiner Davis [https://www.divorcebusting.com/index.htm] joins Bottom Line Inc President Sarah Hiner to talk about the misunderstandings that can lead to distance in relationships and how easy it is to bring love and connection back to all aspects of your marriage. Topics explored in this episode: Sex-starved marriage defined (2:25 – 7:05) Men’s biggest secret—low desire (8:03 – 8:58) What sex really means to men (8:58 – 11:28) Women’s fears of “being used” (11:28 – 15:50) When women become mothers (15:50 – 17:00) Even sex is a collaborative decision (17:00 – 20:40) When sexual desire really occurs (20:40 – 22:27) Spontaneous vs. responsive desire (22:27 – 24:35) What holds “low desire” spouses back (24:35 – 27:32) The impact of sexual rejection (27:32- 32:15) How to reject someone (32:15 – 35:47) Symptoms of a sex-starved marriage (35:47 – 42:35) One partner can change It all (42:35 – 48:31) You can learn more about Michele and her work at her website, Divorcebusting.com ,and her books are available on Amazon and all major booksellers. You can connect with and stay in touch with Sarah at her website www.bottomlineinc.com! Find Bottom Line on Facebook @WeAreBottomLine and at Bottom Line Inc. on www.linkedin.com. https://www.linkedin.com/company/98249/admin/ And if you enjoyed this podcast, please share a review so that more people can benefit from The Bottom Line Advocator Podcast. Be sure to subscribe to the Bottom Line Advocator Podcast with Sarah Hiner on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and Stitcher.

Michele Weiner-Davis is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, and professional speaker that specializes in helping people change their lives and improve important relationships. Eli sits down with Michele and discusses her own struggles that made her a better therapist, parent, and spouse. She discusses her origin story and discusses who her biggest influences were in her career. Michele recalls her own personal experience with receiving therapy and the benefit that it had on her career. Lastly, Michele discusses some of the new programs and books she has coming out that address infidelity in couples.

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, marriage therapist and professional speaker who specializes in helping people change their lives and improve important relationships. Among the first in her field to courageously speak out about the pitfalls of unnecessary divorce, Michele has actively spearheaded the now popular movement urging couples to make their marriages work and keep their families together. She is director of The Divorce Busting® Center with offices in Boulder, Colorado, and Woodstock, Illinois. Divorcebusting.com In this episode of the Bottom Line Advocator Podcast, Michele joins Bottom Line President Sarah Hiner to discuss the shifting demographics of divorce…considerations before you take that big step…and the surprising effects of divorce that most people don’t think about until it’s too late.

➤ Intimacy ~ The importance of repairing a sex-starved marriage - a short interview with Dr. Michele Weiner Davis. Eavesdrop on caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit DrKenner.com for more information about the show.

Welcome to Episode 32 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 32, The Number One Divorce Secret: It Will Be Better Tomorrow, we talk about the crisis of divorce that almost every single person experience including the strong illusion that your current misery will last forever. Fortunately, it won’t. Divorce is a transition to a new life. But how do you get to that new life? What steps can you take to get out of the misery and get excited about your future? Join us as we help you connect with family, friends, and maybe a new version of yourself that you never knew existed! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening! Episode 32 Resources: www.divorcebusting.com and book Divorce Busting by Michele Weiner-Davis

Are you the higher desire partner in your relationship? In this episode, we discuss strategies to help you build the intimate relationship with your spouse that you’ve always wanted. Play in a new window Download Show Summary: Today we are going to talk about being the higher-desire partner in your marriage.  In Episode 34 we discussed sex and intimacy coming more from the lower-desire partner perspective.  I believe that it is so important for each one of us to cultivate that connection and desire for ourselves within our marriage and I go a lot more in depth on that in Episode 34.   Higher Desire Partners   So today I wanted to address the opposite - what if you are the higher desire partner in your marriage?  Today we are going be focusing again on the higher desire partner for sex and intimacy, but there is usually a higher desire partner in a lot of aspects of marriage, not just sex.  If a partner desires something more than another partner then they are the higher desire partner.   Right now my husband and I are in discussions about moving.  He wants to move more than I do.  So in this case he is the higher-desire partner.  Another area you see this a lot is deciding to have more children.  There is usually one spouse who wants to have a child more than the other.  But just because one partner wants something more than the other one, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are polar opposites, although that too can be the case.  But there is always one partner that wants something MORE than the other.   So, for the sake of consistency, and considering my audience is primarily women, I am going to be addressing this from the perspective that the woman is the higher desire partner.  I know a lot of you would balk at that.  I think culturally it is assumed that the husband is usually the higher desire partner, but that is not always the case.  I know many women, including myself, who are the higher desire partner.  Again, that doesn’t make your spouse “low desire” just “lower” than you.  But, even if you aren’t the higher desire partner in your marriage, I think this can be a really good way for you to understand what things might be like for your spouse and how they may be feeling as the higher desire partner.  I also think if you are NOT the higher desire partner, you shouldn’t just sit back and expect your spouse to change.  You are equally responsible for how you are showing up in this aspect of your marriage.   Thoughts and Feelings of the Higher Desire Partner   Being the higher desire partner is a powerless position.  You can’t make your spouse WANT to be with you. You can’t make them have more desire.  You can’t make them deal with their own sexuality, so it really is a hard position to be in.  But hopefully you’ll have a better idea of what you can do to create a better dynamic in your marriage after this podcast.   Ok - so what happens in your brain when you have the desire for sex or connection and intimacy and your spouse doesn’t?  Maybe you’ve tried to initiate things and they shut you down.  You might have thoughts like:   “This isn’t fair”  “Why can’t he just do it because I want to” “If he was a good husband, he would try to meet my needs” “This isn’t like what I see in movies”   So we know that all of our feelings are created by our thoughts.  So when you have thoughts like that, what kind of feelings does that create in you?  Probably something like: Frustration Anger Resentment Helplessness Hopeless   Or maybe you make it mean something about you when he doesn’t want sex?   “If I were more attractive he’d want to have sex with me more” “He doesn’t love me” “He doesn’t desire me” “I’m too fat” “Maybe if my boobs were bigger he would find me more attractive and want to have sex more.”   And those kinds of thoughts create feelings of Inadequacy Rejection Jealousy Neediness   Now think about when you are feeling these emotions?  Frustration, anger, resentment, jealousy, rejection, inadequacy, neediness.  How do you act?   Frustration, anger and resentment isn’t going to create a relationship where he wants to build a connection and intimacy with you.   Moping around from rejection or being needy isn’t sexy either…   So what do you do?   Two meaning frames   According to Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, who is an LDS Sex Therapist there are usually two things that happen and neither option is very good.   Pressure   The first way is that you trying to pressure your husband into sex.  You pressure, you cajole, maybe you even punish him or try to guilt him into it.  When you do this, he may continue to shut you down or he may finally give in and give you “mercy sex.”  But, I would guess receiving “mercy sex” doesn’t really bring thoughts that create love and connection between the two of you.  If you think about it, it can actually bring a lot of thoughts that can make you feel even worse about yourself.  “He’s not really doing it because he wants to”  “He doesn’t actually love me, he’s just tired of me nagging and gives in.”  Not great.      The other direction is if you feel entitled to sex, just because you are married.  “He SHOULD have sex with me.  He SHOULD want it more.”  Do you hear those “shoulds” in there?   That’s not going to create love and connection either.     Avoidance   The second way that Dr. Finlayson-Fife says that we often deal with our partner not wanting sex as much as we do is to avoid sex altogether.  We don’t want to bring it up, we don’t want to confront it because it makes us uncomfortable or it makes our spouse uncomfortable and we can’t deal with the discomfort from either person.  So we just try to avoid it all together.   Discomfort is a feeling, which comes from our thoughts.  So what thought is that feeling of discomfort coming from?  Think on that?  Why does it make you feel uncomfortable to bring it up?  Or why does it make you uncomfortable if your spouse feels uncomfortable?   Solution   In our marriages and in our sex life we want to feel desired, wanted, loved and chosen.  So often it’s not actually about sex, but about the intimacy.  We want to be known.  We want to be seen.  But that can feel scary because it means that we have to be vulnerable.  We have to open up ourselves to the possibility of being rejected and being hurt.  But since you are probably already feeling that anyway… maybe opening up is the key!   So how do we create that intimacy?  How do we create feelings of love, and connection EVEN when our spouse doesn’t seem to want sex?  The answer is, of course, is it comes from our thoughts.   We create feelings of love, connection, desire, and intimacy with our thoughts about our spouse.  It doesn’t even matter if our spouse reciprocates.  We are still capable of feeling those feelings, even if nothing changes on their end.   But, there are things we can do to hopefully help build that connection between the two of you.   1. Don’t take it personally   Differences in sexual desire within couples is very common.  It really may not be about you at all.  It may be a matter of hormone deficiency or other physiological problems, and it could be totally about them.  Your partner may have thoughts and feelings about themselves that create a lack of desire in them.  Don’t underestimate how hard this is for your spouse.  Try to be understanding.   2. Pay attention to what helps your partner feel more desire.   If your husband is constantly rejecting your advances, the last thing you might feel like doing is being kind and thoughtful.  But, if you want to improve things, doing things that help him feel more desire is a great way to go about it.    3. Do something different   Obviously what you are doing right now isn’t working.  So try something different.   You may need to back off for a while and give them space.  Don’t try to initiate anything.  Sometimes the lower-desire partner simply needs more time for their batteries to recharge.  If the constant tug-of-war is gone, they might feel more amorous.   This is also a great time to do some self-confrontation. Instead of asking the question “What’s my spouse’s problem?” it becomes ”What can I do to be more desirable to my spouse.”     We need to take a hard look at who WE are and how we are showing up in our marriage.  Are we showing up in love and goodness?  Are we being kind?  Are we being generous?  Are we confident in ourselves and not constantly seeking validation?  Take a good look and see what areas you need to improve.  What is your desirability?  How are you coming off to your spouse?  And, when it comes to sex, what kind of lover are you?  And I don’t mean you have to know lots of positions and moves.  But are you wanting to be pleasured but don’t reciprocate?  Are you selfish?  Are you doing things to help your spouse feel desired inside and outside the bedroom?  Are you showing up as your best self to your spouse? Or are you needy? Do you have anxiety around sex?  These are all good questions that you can ask yourself.  Be honest.  Self-confrontation isn’t easy.  You may even want to ask your spouse about some of these things to see how they see you and how they feel.  While you can’t control how they feel about it, it may give you some insight on areas where you can improve.  But you need to create that safe space for them to feel comfortable opening up and sharing.  You can’t get defensive or mean.  You need to ask with the intent to not just listen, but truly hear what they are saying without judgement.  Give them the space to be honest and to be themselves so that you can create the connection between two people who are being their true selves and living from their own integrity.  It might be hard to hear some of the things they have to say.  But understanding where they are coming from and where they see things need to improve will go a long way to creating that connection you want.   4. Focus on what works   Have there been time in your relationship where the sex was better? (Besides the honeymoon period?)  See if you can pin point what was different during those times and try to recreate it.  If they are reproducible, then do it!   5. Accept what is offered   Sometimes we are so focused on the sex that we miss what is actually being offered.  In good relationships, people do things all the time for their partners that may not be exactly what they feel like doing in the moment.  But seeing what your partner IS doing and accepting those offers as act of love, can go a long way to building intimacy and connection.   6. Communication   Communication is so important with our spouse.  But we need to understand who we are, and what we truly want in our marriage first.  Once we understand what we truly want,  we need to communicate our wants from a place of integrity.  If we are saying to our spouse that we “NEED” sex like it’s a biological need that they are supposed to satisfy, that is not going to help build the intimacy in your marriage.  But if you communicate with your spouse from a place of honesty and integrity, then that creates a place where you can both come together to communicate your needs and desires and negotiate how it is going to work best for the two of you.   Maybe that means negotiating frequency or a schedule, something where you know as the higher desire partner you will be fulfilling that need without the lower desire partner feeling pressure all the time.     Maybe that means the lower-desire partner needs certain conditions to be met to engage in or enjoy sex (like morning vs night, kids not home, shower first, etc.)  You may see these as excuses, but it’s what your partner needs to feel relaxed and comfortable so getting in the mood is easier.  But this is only done through communication and understanding yourself first!   If you’ve gotten to the point where you are starting to look outside of the marriage to meet your needs, you need to be brutally honest with you spouse.  You need to communicate how important this topic is to you and what you are willing to do to work on it.  Make certain that your spouse understands what will happen in your marriage if nothing changes.  I wouldn’t threaten, especially in the heat of an argument, but just calmly communicate how important this issue to you and how much you want to work on it together.   Michele Weiner-Davis, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker said   “Each partner in a relationship needs to take personal responsibility for making things better. When both of you make more of an effort to understand each other's needs and feelings, you will undoubtedly feel closer and more connected emotionally and physically. And at the end of the day, isn't that what healthy relationships are all about?” (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-busting/201001/9-vital-tips-the-partner-higher-sex-drive)     So, I have a list of new thoughts you can try to help create better feelings for you until you can work things out.  Remember - these thoughts are like clothes, try them on and see if they work for you.  And if they don’t, you can try on different ones.   “Even though he doesn’t want sex, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want ME”   “What a bummer for him, because sex with me is great”   “We can work this out so that we are both happy and satisfied”   “I want to create an better sexual relationship with my husband and I can figure out how”   “I love my husband now and I will continue to make our relationship even better”  

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How can you heal your relationship after one of you has had an affair? What does it take to restore trust and come back to a place of mutual love, passion, and understanding? And how do you “affair-proof” your relationship to begin with? In today’s episode, we’re chatting with Michele Weiner Davis, bestselling author of Divorce Busting, and author of the new book Healing from Infidelity, which is meant to be a guidebook for couples who are trying to answer these very questions. Michele’s work draws upon decades of experience and is focused on the strategies that actually work - both for rebuilding your relationship after an affair, and for preventing affairs from happening in the first place. It can be challenging, but the rewards are most often a stronger, more connected relationship than what you had before. Healing from infidelity takes courage: Shame is one of the largest roadblocks to recovery. After infidelity has been discovered, both the betrayed and the unfaithful partners can feel shame, although for different reasons. The unfaithful partner takes on shame around having being dishonest and hurtful, and the betrayed partner takes on shame that they would even consider staying with a partner who cheated. While this shame is worth listening to for any wisdom it holds, you must also hold onto the truth that choosing to work towards repair is anything but cowardly or weak. Acknowledge ways that shame is showing up for you, and choose to work WITH it. Professional help, especially during the crisis stage immediately following the discovery of infidelity can be incredibly helpful in building the tools, and the courage to address your relationship. Note: Seek experienced help! If you choose to go see a therapist, be sure to vet them first. Most therapists do not have training on how to help couples deal with infidelity, and so it is worth asking them beforehand about their level of experience walking couples through infidelity. Also do not hesitate to ask your therapist what percentage of the couples they work with end up positively working things through. Be direct with your questions because you deserve highly skilled professional support! Stronger through the struggle: Whether ultimately you choose to stay in your relationship or not, the work you do now will not be in vain. Many couples share that through confronting what led to the infidelity and tending to what needs rebuilding their relationship became stronger than it had ever been before. Additionally, if you do not stay together, you will both have gained insight and skills that will be invaluable in your personal growth, and future relationships. Immediate and opposite reactions to infidelity: Often, the unfaithful spouse experiences a certain amount of relief when an affair is finally public. This is true because affairs are not all cakes and rainbows. While the affair has likely been fulfilling a need, it also means living a duplicitous life which can be challenging, hard, and guilt producing. Therefore, this partner can feel relieved to be done with the lying and pain associated with living double lives. That said, just when they are exhaling, the betrayed partner is likely at the lowest point in their lives. This discrepancy in the immediate aftermath of a discovery is inevitable, and yet, both partners have to (and this is where professional support is so critical!) begin to take steps towards collaboration and connection, despite the impasse. The process of healing happens in layers, and stages. The healing process is not entirely linear. It is also unique to each person, and each couple. That said, there are three main phases. First is the crisis period in which both partners are experiencing their own and often opposite reactions to the discovery. For one there may be intense shock and for the other long waited for relief. Emotions are often big and overflowing in this stage. During the crisis period the focus is on re-stabilizing through compassionate communication, difficult questions, and deeply honest answers. Allow this phase to take as long as it needs. The second phase is focused on reinventing and rebuilding the relationship. Once there is more emotional equilibrium and safety restored both partners can begin to ask where to go from here. What does creating a strong and healthy future look like? And thirdly, together you take these questions into a phase of commitment: how do we maintain this new strength indefinitely? Getting back to secure ground:  For the betrayed partner, the discovery of an affair leaves them feelings like the entire ground beneath them has shifted, and what they took as reality and stability is no longer. Their trust is often shaken to the core. They begin wondering “How can I even believe anything you say again?”, “how can I even know if you are telling me the truth right now?”. Part of rebuilding trust is through the ability to ask lots and lots and lots of questions.  The betrayed partner will likely be experiencing intense curiosity, and will dig for details to help them process the news. This is an opportunity for the unfaithful spouse to show up compassionately and courageously and share the truth of what happened. That said, the betrayed partner is responsible for their own curiosity. Curiosity and control: People have the insatiable urge to ask questions in order to help make sense of something unfathomable, and to help connect the dots. For betrayed spouses they have often felt a deep sense that something was off- their partner may have been MIA, may have been getting off their laptop or cell phone quickly when they enter the room, etc. Questioning their partner is a way to make sense of what happened, while also an attempt to gain control back. Generally, this question period is especially intense immediately following the discovery period. It is common for couples to have marathon discussions revisiting all the details. During this interrogation phase, both partners have a responsibility in how they engage in these conversations. Helpful or hurtful? If you are the betrayed partner it is understandable that you may be overwhelmed with curiosity, and yet be careful as sometimes asking ALL the questions does not serve you. Slow down enough to notice how you feel after asking a question. Did it help because the fears you were imagining in your head were worse than reality? Or does it leave you feeling more overwhelmed, hopeless, and discouraged? If so, it is important to build strategies to distract yourself. The intensity of this phase will subside, and you do not want to dig yourself into more pain only because you can not control your immediate urges. Make a list of concrete behaviors you can engage in to help you resist asking the harmful questions (take a walk, pray, meditate, play your guitar, call a friend…). That said, when you DO ask questions, it is imperative that you respect your partner’s vulnerability and courage as they work to be transparent with you. Do not use the information to attack them or punish them for their confessions, instead, work inside yourself to cultivate empathy for the effort of love they are committing to you by engaging in these often difficult conversations. This can be a time where it can feel incredibly supportive to have the presence of a third party, such as a couple’s counselor, who can help hold neutral and safe space for these conversations. Hold space for each other’s process and pain. During this initial crisis period it is critical that the unfaithful spouse allow space to really listen to their partner’s feelings, to hear the questions, and to answer without defensiveness. While the unfaithful spouse is processing through their own intense emotions, they need to be present for the anger, rage, hurt, disappointment, sadness, and disillusionment of their partner. If you are doing your best to be transparent, answer questions, and hold your partner’s pain, and they continue to shame and blame you, speak up and let your partner know you cannot give them the honesty they desire and deserve if they are going to threaten you with each thing you share. Neither one of you will benefit from having unsafe conversations. Don’t forget about communications skills 101: These initial conversations are raw, real, and difficult. Use all of the core communications skills in order to create as safe of a container as possible so that you can both show up with empathy, compassion, and the ability to take responsibility for your own escalation patterns. Remember to use “I” statements, especially if you are the betrayed spouse expressing intense emotions. The more raw the conversations, the more emotional traffic control is needed. Do not hesitate at this time to seek professional help. The goal is to create safety enough so that both partners can be heard, seen, and felt without an immediate reaction that leads to either escalation, or shutting down. Finding a balance: In the initial phase of healing there will be a LOT of processing. This might at times feel circular, repetitive, or even two steps forward one back. And this is okay. That said, there becomes a time when what needs to happen is a moving forward into the second and third phase of healing. Knowing when is right to move into this next phase can be another moment of tension in a relationship. The unfaithful spouse might be thinking “how can we heal if we just keep talking about what happened?” while the betrayed spouse may be thinking “how can you not be willing to talk about this for as long as I need?”. The truth is that both are right. How can you come together to bridge this divide? Can you create a planned time to talk and process, while building in more time to focus and put energy into other aspects of your life together? And in what ways can the betrayed spouse take care of their need to process in creative ways? What other outlets can you use, be it a social network, a spiritual practice, etc. to continue moving through ruminating thoughts without being paralyzed by them. Thought Stopping- The ruminating thoughts can become hurtful, and can take on a life of their own. Anything and everything can become a trigger to painful feelings. This is inevitable, and thus it is important to cultivate a plan on how to address it when it occurs. Thought stopping is one way. Thought stopping is just as it sounds. Begin by imagining a place, or a person you feel very safe with. Let this ‘happy place’ expand in your mind- what are the colors, the sights, the smells? Take time to conjure up this image and make it as tangible as possible. Once you feel you can truly access this space in your mind, introduce the thought that has been plaguing you. As soon as you bring that thought up, imagine a BIG RED stop sign and choose to go back to your serene peaceful place. This is not necessarily easy to do at first, but with practice you will see that you CAN change what you focus on. You do have control over where your focus is- and whatever you focus on expands. This is a wonderful and potent way to interrupt a negative thought pattern before it hijacks your autonomic nervous system. By doing this you are teaching your emotional system resiliency, and helping show yourself that you have your own resources to self soothe. This will build confidence often lost on finding out about your partner’s affair as it lets you feel in control again of the most important thing: yourself! An opportunity to learn valuable skills: While healing from infidelity can be an incredibly painful process, it is also a process that provides infinite opportunities for growth that will serve each spouse for many years (and potentially relationships) to come. These lessons include, but by no means are limited to learning how to no longer be the victim, learning to self-regulate and self-soothe, learning to build intimacy during difficulty, and learning to develop iron-clad safety in relationships. These lessons help create a foundation upon which a relationship, or a heart, can withstand future adversity. Remember that the hurt goes with you when you leave, and so any time spent exploring the hows and whys of the infidelity, will only better serve you in the future.That said, time exploring your relationship before you leave is never wasted time! Make decisions during moments of clarity, not crisis: The ultimate roadblock to growth and change however, is hopelessness. It is less about the difference in people’s opinions, values, or backgrounds, nor is it the nature or severity of the problem at hand that makes people throw in the towel, it is hopelessness. Hopelessness, Weiner Davis says, “is the real cancer in marriage”. If you have been trying to get your marriage back on track and you are losing hope, seek professional help before you make any big decisions about your future! A therapist or coach can help hold hope for you while you navigate through the uncertainty of the initial stages of repair, and build the tools to see if your marriage can be saved. Remember- life decisions should not be made in the midst of crisis! Make decisions just for today, and just in an effort to re-regulate and gain the clarity needed to see your options. Becoming intimate again: There are some people who do not have intimacy issues after an affair, in fact, some couple’s describe having incredible sex post infidelity. While this is the case for some, it is not the case for all. It may take a long time to build back the trust needed to feel safe enough being intimate. Try to welcome the process of reconnecting as an opportunity to really get in touch with your and your partner’s needs and desires. Crises like this can crack open long-held taboos and silence around sex, and so, this can become a moment to bring awareness and curiosity to your sex life. Bring it out of the closet! Talk about what feels good! What turns you on? How do you want your partner to initiate sex? Do you want it more experimental? Also talk about triggers and how to support each other when one or both of you becomes disregulated. Most importantly, and throughout the conversations and reconnecting, BE PRESENT. Be present with what is happening in yourself, in your partner, and between the two of you. While you are beginning to piece your physical relationship back together again, it is critical that you set the intention to be as transparent as possible about what is happening internally and externally. Be open to the fact that sex might look different on the other side of an affair- redefine your lovemaking so that it is fulfilling and safe to both of you. Perhaps there are different forms of intimacy and smaller sexual gestures that your partner is craving? Ask, ask, ask, and listen. Final tip to affair-proof your relationship: Wanting to be proactive and build resiliency in your relationship to avoid infidelity? Make sure that your relationship feels like a top life priority! Ask your partner: “what will make you feel like you are the most important thing in my life?” Find out, in concrete terms, what this means to your partner. Does it mean having meaningful conversations? Sex? Regular date nights? Every spouse has a different definition of what makes them feel loved and what specific behaviors makes them see you as being completely dedicated to them and the relationship. Get to know your partner’s desires and needs inside and out, and then absolutely do it! Follow through! Resources: Go to Michele’s website to get the first chapter of the brand new book Healing from Infidelity for free! Read Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage Buy Michele’s brand new book Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair Learn more about Michele’s work and find more resources on her website Call today to schedule a consultation! 1800-664-2435 Feedback? Questions? You can contact Michele directly at: michele@divorcebusting.com www.neilsattin.com/busting2 Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide to this episode with Michele Weiner Davis. Our Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out

What do you do when you feel like your relationship is going in the wrong direction? How do you find new things to try when you feel like you’ve tried everything? And what’s possible for you when you’re going it alone - perhaps when your partner already has one foot (or both feet) out the door? On today’s episode, we are chatting with Michele Weiner Davis, author of the bestselling books Divorce Busting, The Sex-Starved Marriage, and The Divorce Remedy. Her solution-focused therapy has helped thousands of couples come back from the brink of separation and divorce to a place of lasting, thriving love. You can’t figure this stuff out by meditating on the top of a mountain. We are not necessarily born with the skills required to have healthy and happy relationships. Instead, we learn by watching our adult caregivers, and for many of us, this means that we did not have great role models or teachers. That said, it is possible to learn these skills, including how to navigate conflict with grace and compassion, how to show tenderness, how to communicate needs lovingly, etc. We learn how to actively love within the context of our relationships- and our relationships are always giving us teaching opportunities. In order to grow from these lessons, it is critical that we pay attention to our roles, patterns, and habits in the relationship. More often than not, one’s relationship patterns will follow them into any subsequent relationship. This may explain why first marriages end 42% of the time, but the rates of divorce for 2nd and 3rd marriages is much much higher. So, be willing to get into the weeds and to learn everything you can about how to have a good, healthy, and loving relationship now! It takes one to tango: Do you feel like you are taking on your relationship alone? That your partner isn’t as interested or willing to ask the hard questions? One big assumption in relationships is that change has to take two people. The truth is that when one person makes changes in a relationship, their partner will change in response. You CAN effect change singlehandedly in a relationship as long as you are willing to take the first steps! You have nothing to lose (and everything to gain) by taking the initiative and trying a new approach to making changes in your relationship- tip the first domino and watch how you can be a catalyst for big shifts. STEPS: These steps are for anyone who wants to turn their relationship around (or simply to feel better): Step 1) Start with a beginner’s mind: Many people have loads of misconceptions about marriage in general, and long-held stories about their own. Often these assumptions and fictions are limiting and debilitating, creating an invisible context that silently stifles the relationship and gets in the way of what is needed to make things better. Get curious and bring awareness to the beliefs you hold about the concept of marriage/partnership, and check in with the stories you may have created about what is possible in your own. Step 2) Know what you want: Many people spend a lot of energy and time cause hunting- meaning they focus on places in their relationship that are no longer working. Try to look concretely at what is working and forward to where you want to be. By identifying specific steps necessary to achieve what you would rather have, you can begin to set goals. These goals should be action-oriented, measurable, and doable. Step 3) Ask for what you want: Once you know your goals, you will be more prepared to lovingly communicate your desire for change to your partner in a way that will likely bring you both closer to what you want, and away from the shame/blame cycle. Asking for change when you have taken the time and energy to identify your own responsibility as well as specific steps forward will mean that your partner will hear a request for change rather than a complaint. Complaints lead to defensiveness and your partner is much less likely to be curious, open, or willing to comply. Be intentional about your timing- trying to have a heart to heart while in the midst of dishes, kids, and chaos is not the time. Find quietude, and preface the conversation with conciliatory and loving statements, such as “I know you don’t mean to do this, and I haven’t been open enough with you about how this has affected me, however I would love to talk about…”. From here, be specific! Ask for what you want and help paint a path forward with concrete action steps. Step 4) Stop going down cheese-less tunnels. Where in your relationship do you find yourself getting stuck over and over? Are you saying and doing the same thing repeatedly? Is there one place your partner really digs in their heels? Bring curiosity to stuck places as these are likely the result of consistent yet ineffective attempts to intervene and fix. Look inward and ask yourself what patterns you may be repeating that have not yet worked. The want to fix can be so strong, and the pain of disappointment or discontentment so great, that we can blind ourselves to how we may actually be exacerbating the conflict or stagnancy. Thankfully, doing something different usually brings enough movement to break free from toxic cycles of behavior, and into creativity and possibility! Step 5) Experiment and Monitor Results:  Begin to experiment. Have a trial and error philosophy- try doing things differently- it almost doesn’t even matter what you do, because anything will be better than what hasn’t been working. Remember that spontaneity is a powerful force in relationships as it breaks patterns and opens new doors that allow for more creativity. What other actions might you be able to take that are different than your status quo? Embrace the idea that it is probably and possible that if you approach things differently, you WILL get different results! Step 6) Take Stock: As you begin to make shifts, keep your eyes open for signs of shifting and change. Do not expect big tectonic plate sized shifts, but rather become keenly aware of microshifts, training yourself to look for small signs. Is there a change in your partner’s tone? Are they asking different questions? Body language shifts? Are they initiating conversation differently? Scale expectations down and look for the baby steps forward. This is not because big shifts are not happening, but rather because the more small shifts you can appreciate and notice, the more encouraged you will feel and this alone will bring new energy and vitality to your relationship! Step 7) Keep the Positive Changes Going: Lasting change has setbacks- the road to positive lasting change is paved with many ups and downs. What separates those who can sustain and grow over time from those that get stuck and resentful is the willingness to take personal responsibility in the context of their relationship. Don’t wait for your partner to come to you. Take personal responsibility for doing what you need to do in the moment to get your relationship back on track on any given day. Positive change buttons: We all know those things that we can say that really gets under our partner’s skin. Those hot button topics or statements that tick them off and totally and immediately send them into defense. Well, this ability to so quickly change the mood can be used in reverse as well! Take time to notice what brings your partner to life and makes them feel good- then begin to incorporate these ‘positive change buttons’ throughout the day! Last resort technique? Do you feel you are in the 11th hour of your relationship? When it feels like all else has failed, the last resort technique helps with skills that work to turn things around, even without the direct support of your spouse. If you feel like you have done everything to save your marriage, but you are losing steam or hope, begin by taking a deep breath and several steps backwards. You want to break the toxic victim/defender dynamic. At this point your partner may be used to being pursued intensely, so try to stop chasing. Turn towards yourself and focus on your own growth- exercise, meditate, find friends, go out, rediscover self-care. By focusing on your own wellbeing you will feel more confident, grounded, and independent, and often, this will not only just make you feel better but it will likely bring your partner closer! This didn’t save my marriage but it did save my life: All of the steps outlined above, including the last resort technique, will help you get grounded into yourself. They connect you with what you hope for in your relationship and your life, and to a greater sense of optimism that comes from a sense of increased clarity and capability. These steps may not necessarily save your relationship, however they will leave you feeling independent, strong, clear and inspired. Resources: Read the Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage   Keep your eyes open for Michele’s newest book Healing from Infidelity available January 2017 Learn more about Michele’s work and find more resources on her website Call today to schedule a consultation! 1800-664-2435 Feedback? Questions? You can contact Michele directly at: michele@divorcebusting.com www.neilsattin.com/busting Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide to this episode with Michele Weiner Davis. Our Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out

Bring the spark back into your bedroom and your relationship with gutsy and effective advice from bestselling author Michele Weiner Davis. It is estimated that one of every three married couples struggles with problems associated with mismatched sexual desire. Do you? If you want to stop fighting about sex and revitalize your intimate connection with your spouse, then you need to listen to this podcast where Noel Meador interviews Michele Weiner-Davis on her book, “The Sex-Starved Marriage” Michele Weiner Davis will help you understand why being complacent or bitter about ho-hum sex might cost you your relationship. If you're the more highly sexed partner, you'll breathe a sigh of relief. At last someone understands your feelings about the void in your marriage. Discover why your pleas for touch have fallen upon deaf ears and why your approach to the lull in your sexual relationship could be a sexual turnoff. Most important, learn new ways to motivate your spouse to take your needs for more physical closeness to heart. If you're the spouse with a lagging libido, you're far from alone. You'll learn about the physiological and psychological factors, including unresolved relationship issues, that may contribute to the chill in your bedroom and what you can do to melt the ice. And if you're a man, you'll be surprised to learn that staggering numbers of men, even men whose sexual machinery works just fine, "get headaches" too! The Sex-Starved Marriage will give you and your spouse the inspiration, encouragement, and answers you need.

168 - Modernes Beziehungsmanagement. Dr. Claudia Enkelmann im Interview Es gibt sie doch: eine Männerversteherin vom Feinsten. Claudia E. Enkelmann zählt zu den ganz wenigen weiblichen Top-Trainerinnen in Deutschland. Gemeinsam mit Ihrem Vater Nikolaus B. Enkelmann führt die Autorin und Diplom-Psychologin (Jg. 1968) das 1978 gegründete Institut Enkelmann in Königstein. Schon früh hat sie sich auf die drei Themen spezialisiert: "Erfolg, Charisma und modernes Beziehungsmanagement“. Bereits während ihres Studiums der Psychologie in Deutschland und an der Stanford University (USA) suchte Sie nach dem Geheimnis des Erfolges und befolgte selbst den Rat stets nur von den "Besten" zu lernen. Was Männer mögen und Frauen glücklich macht, hat sie von den bekanntesten amerikanischen Liebes-Experten gelernt, insbesondere Michele Weiner-Davis, Dr. John Gray, Ellen Kreidmann und vielen anderen. Dr. Claudia Enkelmann promovierte in Soziologie, Psychologie und Pädagogik an der Universität Augsburg mit einer empirischen Arbeit über die erfolgreichsten Frauen im Finanzvertrieb. Claudia E. Enkelmann hat es sich zur Aufgabe gemacht, Männer und Frauen zu helfen, im Leben noch viel leichter erfolgreich zu werden. Bekannt wurde sie zunächst vor allem mit ihrem Spezialgebiet "Modernes Beziehungsmanagement" und ihrem ersten Buch "Mit Liebe, Lust und Leidenschaft zum Erfolg". Dieses Buch ist inzwischen in der 9. Auflage erschienen und in 7 Sprachen übersetzt worden. Sie kennt und verrät die wichtigsten Unterschiede im Denken, Fühlen und Handeln von Männern und Frauen. Die Faszination für erfolgreiche Frauen ist ihre große Leidenschaft und so ist auch "Die Venus-Strategie" und das Buch „Erfolgreich mit den Waffen einer klugen Frau“ ein beliebter Business-Bestseller geworden. In ihrem Seminaren verstärkt sie gezielt das Selbstbewusstsein und die Fähigkeit sich sicher und weich durchzusetzen. (Text von www.enkelmann.de) Weitere Infos zur Person, Seminaren usw. findest Du auf: http://www.enkelmann.de Wir freuen uns über Deine Kommentare und Erfahrungen zu diesem Thema im Kommentarfeld unter diesem Podcast oder per e-Mail! Viel Spaß beim Anhören! Euer Tom :) Moderator und Herausgeber http://www.TomsTalkTime.com - DER Erfolgspodcast #1 in "Business News" - 5 Tage nach Launch (international PodOmatic Ranking) 100% Content 100% Qualität 100% FREE   p.s. Gerne kannst Du mir eine Mail mit einer Deiner Erfolgsgeschichten oder auch einfach einen Themenvorschlag schicken. Ich freue mich immer über Anregungen die von meinen Zuhörern kommen. Anregungen bitte an: Redaktion (at) TomsTalkTime (dot) com   p.p.s. Bist Du Selbständig oder Unternehmer? Hättest Du gerne eine massive Umsatzsteigerung mit Hilfe von Podcasting. Falls das für Dich interessant ist, lade ich Dich herzlich zu meinen kostenlosen Webinaren ein. Termine und Infos findest Du unter www.UmsatzRAKETE.com    

168 - Modernes Beziehungsmanagement. Dr. Claudia Enkelmann im Interview Es gibt sie doch: eine Männerversteherin vom Feinsten. Claudia E. Enkelmann zählt zu den ganz wenigen weiblichen Top-Trainerinnen in Deutschland. Gemeinsam mit Ihrem Vater Nikolaus B. Enkelmann führt die Autorin und Diplom-Psychologin (Jg. 1968) das 1978 gegründete Institut Enkelmann in Königstein. Schon früh hat sie sich auf die drei Themen spezialisiert: "Erfolg, Charisma und modernes Beziehungsmanagement“. Bereits während ihres Studiums der Psychologie in Deutschland und an der Stanford University (USA) suchte Sie nach dem Geheimnis des Erfolges und befolgte selbst den Rat stets nur von den "Besten" zu lernen. Was Männer mögen und Frauen glücklich macht, hat sie von den bekanntesten amerikanischen Liebes-Experten gelernt, insbesondere Michele Weiner-Davis, Dr. John Gray, Ellen Kreidmann und vielen anderen. Dr. Claudia Enkelmann promovierte in Soziologie, Psychologie und Pädagogik an der Universität Augsburg mit einer empirischen Arbeit über die erfolgreichsten Frauen im Finanzvertrieb. Claudia E. Enkelmann hat es sich zur Aufgabe gemacht, Männer und Frauen zu helfen, im Leben noch viel leichter erfolgreich zu werden. Bekannt wurde sie zunächst vor allem mit ihrem Spezialgebiet "Modernes Beziehungsmanagement" und ihrem ersten Buch "Mit Liebe, Lust und Leidenschaft zum Erfolg". Dieses Buch ist inzwischen in der 9. Auflage erschienen und in 7 Sprachen übersetzt worden. Sie kennt und verrät die wichtigsten Unterschiede im Denken, Fühlen und Handeln von Männern und Frauen. Die Faszination für erfolgreiche Frauen ist ihre große Leidenschaft und so ist auch "Die Venus-Strategie" und das Buch „Erfolgreich mit den Waffen einer klugen Frau“ ein beliebter Business-Bestseller geworden. In ihrem Seminaren verstärkt sie gezielt das Selbstbewusstsein und die Fähigkeit sich sicher und weich durchzusetzen. (Text von www.enkelmann.de) Weitere Infos zur Person, Seminaren usw. findest Du auf: http://www.enkelmann.de Wir freuen uns über Deine Kommentare und Erfahrungen zu diesem Thema im Kommentarfeld unter diesem Podcast oder per e-Mail! Viel Spaß beim Anhören! Euer Tom :) Moderator und Herausgeber http://www.TomsTalkTime.com - DER Erfolgspodcast #1 in "Business News" - 5 Tage nach Launch (international PodOmatic Ranking) 100% Content 100% Qualität 100% FREE   p.s. Gerne kannst Du mir eine Mail mit einer Deiner Erfolgsgeschichten oder auch einfach einen Themenvorschlag schicken. Ich freue mich immer über Anregungen die von meinen Zuhörern kommen. Anregungen bitte an: Redaktion (at) TomsTalkTime (dot) com   p.p.s. Bist Du Selbständig oder Unternehmer? Hättest Du gerne eine massive Umsatzsteigerung mit Hilfe von Podcasting. Falls das für Dich interessant ist, lade ich Dich herzlich zu meinen kostenlosen Webinaren ein. Termine und Infos findest Du unter www.UmsatzRAKETE.com