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The Living Apart Together (LAT) lifestyle choice is gaining traction among both married and unmarried couples, especially older folks ready for a bond beyond the traditional. The LAT framework is predicated on three pillars: 1/The couple agrees that they are a committed romantic couple. 2/ Others view them as a committed romantic couple, and, 3/ they live in separate places.This episode is a deep dive into LAT featuring two relationship experts: Vicki Larson and Melinda Blau, award-winning journalists and authors. Vicki has written on the ageist and sexist narratives women face in the context of relationships. Her most recent book, LATitude: How You Can Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work, explores the many iterations and paradoxes surrounding the LAT lifestyle. Melinda Blau, with 16 books on relationships to her credit, claims, “If you're good at relationships, you're good at life.”  Her three-decades-long LAT relationship is a testimony to that conviction.Show NotesVicki's LATitude book on Amazon.All books written by Vicki Larson.Vicki's website.Melinda Blau's Amazon page with all of her books, including her latest, "The Wisdom Whisperers: Golden Guides to a Long Life of Grit, Grace, and Laughter."Music in this episode includes Lemon Jelly by T.J. Collie and Our Only Lark by Bitters, both from Blue Dot Sessions.Support the show

Prolific author and lover of “old ladies” Melinda Blau hosts an unprecedented mother/daughter conversation with “America's gerontologist” Kerry Burnight, her 96-year-old mother Betty, and Melinda's daughter Jennifer Martin, a hospice nurse. The four discuss complexities of the mother-daughter duo as both age – role shifts, stumbling blocks and challenges, the need to simultaneously stay connected and draw boundaries.The episode is dotted with clips of Betty sharing her strategies for living exuberantly into her nineties. Kerry's videos of her everyday moments and thoughts have made Betty a burgeoning Instagram star – and that's okay with her. “I'm just thrilled with the fact that she is so popular. She's my baby!”Jennifer admits that as a young mother, being the daughter of a parenting expert was “challenging…similar to Betty having a daughter who's gerontologist!” But because of her own aging, her father's recent death, and her professional role helping patients and their families face end-of-life realities, Jen has a new appreciation of Melinda's life and choices. One hopeful takeaway from this lively discussion is that it's never too late to see the other as a person, not merely “mother” or “daughter.”Show NotesKerry's website: https://drkerryburnight.com/On Instagram: @the_gerontologist Kerry's book, Joy Span, is now available for preorder online and wherever books are sold.Enjoy this poem about mothers and daughters written by a member of the Crows Feet podcast team: https://jeanfeldeisen.com/blog/Support the show

Meet Susan Rice, a comedian and actress who's bridging the generation gap through humor. You've probably seen her in movies, commercials and maybe your local comedy club. She calls herself “a funny old bag” and continues to do standup for audiences from Gen Z to near 90. Join Nancy Franklin as she and Susan banter about Rice's 40-plus year career, dish about life on the road in her 70s, and being the “cool” grandmother everyone wishes they had. Website: susanricecomedy.comSupport the show

Binnie Klein is a Renaissance woman. At 74 she has reinvented her life time and again, from poet to psychotherapist to memoirist to songwriter, with several steps in between. She picked up boxing as a sport when she was 55. The red gloves in the corner of the gym caught her eye, and a memoir followed in 2010.   A surprise phone call in 2016  triggered memories of a long-ago love, heartbreak, and the radical politics of the 1960s. A six-part audio memoir ensued. In this episode, she talks with host Jane Trombley about creativity being the “sustaining thing,” the essential  “nutrient” for her well-being.Binnie started writing poetry at age eight. Childhood piano lessons laid the foundation for playing the music of the 60s on a hand-me-down guitar. In her 20s her poetry won awards and fed into her interest in becoming a psychotherapist. She has maintained a private psychotherapy practice since 1984, Binnie began a music and interview show on FM radio (WPKN, Bridgeport Connecticut, WPKN.org) in 1975. She's been a DJ there ever since. A few years ago, a 30-something Australian songwriter sent her some material requesting airplay. They started collaborating with Binnie's poetry and released an album, Quiver,  in 2024.  What's next? There is a lot in the pot. Have a listen. P.S. Exciting News: Binnie invites you to the In These Trees and Tartie listening party April 27, 2025, at 6 PM/Eastern, celebrating their musical collaboration and debut CD. Binnie (AKA In These Trees) will be in a live chat from Connecticut, with Tartie (Tash Anderson) from Australia! To attend this FREE event, RSVP here.   Downloads and CDs are available. Show Notes: Binnie's  WebsiteBinnie's Substack: Open Tuning WPKN Radio Program Book: Blows to the Head: How Boxing Changed My Mind (SUNY Press, 2010)Audio Memoir Ten Days in Newark, 2018Album:  “The Quiver” 2024Support the show

In this episode, Jean Anne Feldeisen talks with Connie Zuckerman, Managing Editor of the weekly newsletter agebuzz. In her late fifties, Connie started a small online newsletter for her circle of friends and family. Eight years later, agebuzz has grown to 50,000 subscribers.Before agebuzz, Connie spent years as a lawyer, bioethics consultant, and writer. Her career includes studying and making decisions about issues related to aging in settings like nursing homes, care facilities, and hospitals. Did all that prepare her for living under the same roof with four generations of family? In the second half of the episode Connie shares her thoughts about the challenges of The Club Sandwich generation, including what it takes to make an intergenerational home work for a household with ages ranging from young kids to ninety-year olds.Agebuzz is a weekly newsletter that pulls together all the latest information on topics of interest to older adults: nutrition, exercise, balance, fall prevention, loneliness, etc. The information the editors provide has been carefully curated to be reliable, useful and accessible to older adults. The material in each newsletter is easy to understand but also provides links for further research. To sign up for the free weekly newsletter, or just check out all the good info, go to agebuzz.com.Support the show

An interview with leading Orthopedic Surgeon and Sports Medicine Expert, Alan Beyer, M.D.  As we age, our risk of falls rises, leading to the  specter of serious and debilitating injury. But we can minimize those risks with some knowledge and common-sense precautions. Join host Jan M. Flynn in conversation with Dr. Alan Beyer, the Executive Medical Director of Hoag Orthopedic Institute in Newport Beach CA and host of radio show "Doctors in the Dugout" as he talks about falls and falls prevention in older adults. Tell us what you think of our podcast. Please take 5 minutes to complete the survey at this link: https://bit.ly/3DtI6m1 The Crow's Feet Podcast team needs to hear from listeners like you — all responses are strictly confidential, and your opinion will help us bring you episodes that matter. Thanks in advance!Show links:Dr. Alan Beyer “On the Other Side of the Scalpel” video blog: https://www.hoagorthopedicinstitute.com/blog/2012/october/hip-replacement-for-the-orthopedic-surgeon-on-th/Or watch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jQ-T9N2QZM4&t=5sHoag Orthopedic Institute, home pagehttps://www.hoagorthopedicinstitute.com/Alan H. Beyer, M.D., Hoag Orthopedic Institutehttps://www.hoagorthopedicinstitute.com/find-a-doctor/alan-h-beyer-m-d-/"Doctor in the Dugout" (Heard on AM 830 in Southern California) https://www.am830.net/show/doctor-in-the-dugout/#:~:text=Doctor%20in%20the%20Dugout%20is,features%20special%20guests%20and%20more.About Alan Beyer, MD, FACSAlan H. Beyer, MD, FACS is a board-certified orthopedic surgeon specializing in sports medicine, arthroscopic surgery of the knee and total knee replacement. As one of the founding physicians of Hoag Orthopedic Institute (HOI), Dr. Beyer has held key leadership roles since 2011 and currently serves as medical director. HOI is consistently rated in the top percentile of the nation for orthopedic surgery.Dr. Beyer graduated from Georgetown University School of Medicine. During his residency at the Hospital for Joint Diseases in New York, he became the chief resident of orthopedics and went on to complete a sports medicine fellowship at the Kerlan-Jobe Orthopedic Clinic. Dr. Beyer's passion for sports initially led him to specializing in orthopedics and continues to drive his active lifestyle and practice today.Dr. Beyer has published numerous papers and presentations on sports medicine and joint replacement. He is also currently involved with clinical research as the principal investigator for two studies.Dr. Beyer hosts the weekly “Doctor in the Dugout” radio show on AM 830 KLAA, featuring keen insights and an entertaining twist on sports medicine-related topics, current injury reports special guests and more.Dr. Beyer generously lends his expertise to many organizations, including serving on the board of the Arthritis Foundation of Orange County/Inland Empire and as the chairman and team physician for the Newport Beach Breakers. The recipient of the 2007 Vin Jorgenson Award for volunteerism at Hoag, Dr. Beyer remains an active volunteer and generous supporter of Hoag Orthopedics, the education and research organization supported by HOI physicians. His philanthropy helps support HOI's preeminent fellowship programs in training the next generation of orthopedic surgeons. He is a past president of Hoag's 552 Club and enjoys serving on various Hoag fundraising committees for the annual Hoag Classic golf tournament.Support the show

"Skilled nursing facility." "Post-acute care facility." "Rehabilitation hospital." Whatever they're called, they all mean the same thing: what most of us think of as a nursing home. The time may come when you or someone you love needs that level of care — and that need can be sudden, like after a fall or accident.When that happens, you can end up in a whole new world that operates by different rules — rules that may not be explained to you. That's why you'll want to listen as host Jan M Flynn chats with our returning guest, elder care manager and consultant Kira Reginato.As an elder care manager and consultant, Kira has served hundreds of older adults and their families in a variety of settings: hospitals, residential care and skilled nursing facilities, hospices, Alzheimer's adult day care programs and Meals on Wheels.  Kira is the author of the book "Tips for Helping Your Aging Parents… without losing your mind." We'll also hear from Dorothy Guajardo, another elder care specialist and owner of A to Z Gerontology serving Sonoma and Marin counties in California. She has some eye-opening stories about what can happen when nursing home patients or their loved ones don't know their rights.So stay tuned — because when it comes to nursing homes, what you don't know can hurt you.Show NotesFor more information about Kira Reginato, visit her website at www.Callkira.com  and check out her YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyO7atbCToRbKmnFI6EZGAgKira is the author of the book Tips for Helping Your Aging Parents...Without Losing Your Mind – click the link to purchase a copy.To learn more about Dorothy Guajardo and the services she provides, visit A to Z Gerontoloty at https://atozgerontology.com/about-us/Interested in finding a care manager for yourself or your family? Visit the national Aging Life Care organization at www.Aginglifecare.orgFind an Ombudsman in your state: The National Association of State Long-Term Care Ombudsman Programs (NASOP) is a nonprofit organization that was formed in 1985. NASOP is composed of state long-term care ombudsmen representing their state programs created by the Older Americans Act: https://www.nasop.org/Or contact the National Long-Term Care Ombudsman Resource Center (NORC) by going to: https://ltcombudsman.org/The National Long-Term Care Ombudsman Resource Center (NORC) provides support, technical assistance, and training to the 53 State Long-Term Care Ombudsman Programs and their statewide networks.Support the show

Whether you've been with your significant other for one year or 50, you know that successful relationships aren't always a bed of roses—both people have to work at it! How do we keep love alive and thriving, especially as we age, when our bodies, our work, our family situations, and our personal needs are changing?In this special Valentine's episode, you'll hear from a veritable Whitman's Sampler of Crow's Feet writers, listeners, and relationship experts—all sharing advice about how not to lose that loving feeling, no matter how long you've been together—no matter how much life has thrown your way.Featured guest contributors: Dr. Frank Powers and Dr. Gloria Horsley, Dr. Dale Atkins, Melinda Blau, Patricia Thornton, Joe Franklin, Kerry Kramer, Carole Olsen, Mel Schlesinger, Lisa Alexander, Beth Bruno, Catherine Dunn-Gilbert, J. Michael Flynn, and Mary McGrath. Guest readers: Jane Trombley and Rich Halten.Want more from this episode's guests? Visit the following links:Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers: • Featured in the February 14 2024 Crow's Feet podcast •Authors of Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior DatingDr. Dale Atkins: • Featured in the December 25 2024 Crow's Feet podcast • Author of The Kindness Advantage: Cultivating Compassionate and Connected ChildrenMelinda Blau: • Author of The Wisdom Whisperers: Golden Guides to a Long Life of Grit, Grace, and Laughter • On MediumPatricia Thornton, Ph.D.: • Featured in the January 8 2025 Crow's Feet podcast • On MediumKerry Kramer: • On MediumCarole Olsen: • On MediumMel Schlesinger: • On MediumLisa Alexander: • On MediumBeth Bruno: • On MediumCatherine Dunn-Gilbert: • On MediumMary McGrath: • On MediumShare your thoughts with us:NPR video on how to record and send your comments on the show. At the end, instead of sending to NPR, email your comment to crowsfeetpodcast@yahoo.Support the show

Beauty fads come and go. Today, you can choose from Derma-planing, CO2 laser resurfacing, Mesotherapy injections, Exosomes and.....BOVINE COLOSTRUM? Do any of these work or are we just f-ing up our faces? Meet Valerie Monroe, former Beauty Director of “O”, “The Oprah Magazine” and author of the popular “Don't F*ck Up Your Face” on Substack. In this episode, Monroe talks about what works, what doesn't, and what it really means to age “beautifully,” including the most important, and affordable, beauty product you can put on your face. This is for anyone who's looked in a mirror and asked “WTF?!”Here's an NPR video on how to record and send your comments on the show. But at the end, instead of sending to NPR, email your comment to crowsfeetpodcast@yahoo.com. Or text to 404-786-3605.Support the show

That's what psychologist and “dating anthropologist” Patricia Thornton, Ph.D., considered when she re-entered the dating scene after a divorce. In this episode, hosted by Nancy Franklin, we learn about Thornton's experiences dating more than 150 men and whether or not she eventually hired a male escort. Thornton offers great advice for elders reentering the dating scene, including dating outside the lines, and even embracing unconventional relationships.NPR video on how to record and send your comments on the show.  But at the end, instead of sending to NPR, email your comment to crowsfeetpodcast@yahoo.com. Or text to 404-786-3605.Music in this episode includes a selection from Tech Oasis on Pixabay.Support the show

In this episode, Dr. Dale Atkins talks with Jan M Flynn about something many of us would love to see more of in our communities, nation, and world: Kindness. More specifically, what authentic kindness means, and how it can show up in deeper and richer ways as we age — and how that can contribute to a kinder world for us all.Based in New York City, Dale Atkins is a licensed psychologist with more than 40 years experience as a relationship expert focusing on families, wellness, managing stress, and living a balanced, meaningful life. Author of seven books and many chapters, articles, and journals for popular and professional audiences, Dale is a featured speaker who lectures and leads seminars worldwide. She has appeared regularly on NBC's TODAY and CNN. Dale has a private psychology practice in New York City and has been a member of, and advisor to, several nonprofit boards, including Jumpstart for Young Children, from which she recently retired after serving twenty-two years, since its founding. She has two children and six grandchildren, and lives in Connecticut.Show note links: Dr. Dale Atkins website: https://www.drdaleatkins.com/Nature Walk Talks by Dale AtkinsBooks by Dr. Atkins:The Kindness Advantage: Cultivating Compassionate and Connected Childrenhttps://www.drdaleatkins.com/the-kindness-advantage-book/Sanity Savers: Tips For Women To Live a Balanced Lifehttps://www.drdaleatkins.com/sanity-savers-book/Wedding Sanity Savers: How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes, and Questions That Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Dayhttps://www.drdaleatkins.com/wedding-sanity-savers-book/I'm OK, You're My Parents: How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Workshttps://www.drdaleatkins.com/im-ok-youre-my-parents-book/Sistershttps://www.drdaleatkins.com/sisters-book/From the Heart: Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts About Their Married Liveshttps://www.drdaleatkins.com/from-the-heart-book/Support the show

It's a gift to let your family and other loved ones know what to do when you're gone and what you want done with everything from pets to possessions. But where to start – and how to make that happen? One answer: Rusty Rosman's “Two Envelopes” – a way to preserve “your voice” and let others know your wishes.In this anecdote-packed episodes, Rusty Rosman tells all-too-familiar stories about how we tend to avoid the difficult topic of dying and the chaos that comes of not-planning.  After all, we all have an expiration date...as host Melinda Blau puts it, “at least until there's a cure for mortality!” In the meantime, it behooves us to each leave behind a roadmap for our loved ones.  Rusty wrote her book, "Two Envelopes", as a guide to get us started navigating the practical and emotional complexities of end-of-life planning. She stresses that "Two Envelopes is not a workbook or a filing system! It's a guide to personal reflections and conversations you'll have with your loved ones. As you prepare your envelopes, you'll be ensuring that your voice, your wishes, continue to guide your loved ones after your death." "Two Envelopes" is available on Amazon and other booksellers. If you'd like to connect with Rusty, go to her website or email: TwoEnvelopesABook@gmail.com.Thanks to comedian Susan Rice for allowing Crow's Feet to feature one of her Don't Tell Comedy YouTube clips in our intro. Over the last 42 years, Susan has honed her craft at major comedy clubs around the country. In 2024 at the age of 72, she filmed her first 45 min special called "Silver Alert!" Read more about Susan on her website or listen to her podcast with Art Krug, “Stop Me If I've Heard This!” Support the show

In these weeks before the holidays, Mother Nature, the daily news, sometimes our own families, can seem to conspire to drive us all batty. In this podcast, we serve up a feast of useful suggestions for keeping it together in these turbulent times. Join host Jean Feldeisen and a Bakers Dozen Crows Feet Readers and Writers as they share their secrets for resilience and taking care of themselves.Show Notes & Links:Melinda Blau talked with Ellen Langer, Psychologist and Harvard Professor in this episode from 9/27/23.Learn more about Ellen at ellenlanger.meBarbara Biziou, Spiritual Alignment coach, Motivational Speaker and Ritual Expert. Listen to Jean's interview with Barbara on August 9, 2023Hear Patricia Ross on our episode from 7-26-23 with Melinda Blau.Contact writing coach Roz Warren at roswarren@gmail.com.We promised a link to this Mayo clinic article about laughter.Voices heard from our Crows Feet Community:Jean FeldeisenNancy FranklinBruce MurrayCarole OlsenChris (who didn't leave her last name)Lee J. BentchMary McGrathGail KnapikJan M. Flynn  Orren OnkenBetsy SweetMusic in this episode includes works from Pixabay.com by Nicholas Panek and Christoph Scholl.Support the show

How do we remember our past? What stories do we tell ourselves that become ingrained as memories even though the stories might not be real? Author, memoirist, and septuagenarian Jonathan Lerner sits down with Jane Trombley to reveal discoveries about his teen years outside Washington DC as he researched for his latest memoir, Performance Anxiety. Some of the stories he recalled didn't quite line up with reality, a discovery that caught him by surprise. Jonathan also talks about his earlier memoir, Swords in the Hands of Children, chronicling his early adult years as he dropped out of college, joined the anti-war movement and the militant Weather Underground organization. It took him nearly thirty years to process the experience, and gain enough distance to write a successful memoir, despite easy access to public archival material, early manuscripts and recorded interviews with former colleagues. Swords was published in early 2017. What is the upshot of delving into long-ago memories? As Jonathan says, “The result can be a kind of peacemaking with yourself and self-forgiveness, (and) maybe forgiveness of someone else.”We close with some pro tips for all us amateur memoirists looking to capture our own stories. Have a listen.Show links:Memoirs:Performance Anxiety: The Headlong Adolescence of a Mid-Century KidSwords in the Hands of Children: Reflections of an American RevolutionaryWebsite:   Jonathan LernerSupport the showMusic in this episode includes: Blue dot-Jane & Jon Lumber Down by Blue Dot SessionsMusic by Vlad Krotov from PixabaySupport the show

Pull up a seat! It's time to get in the Halloween spirit with some campfire stories.In this special episode, Crow's Feet writers and editors share some dark tales and memories of lore and legend just right for the season. Ever had an eerie experience you couldn't explain? We've got a strange feeling you're going to love “Cowbells and Ouija Boards” by Jan M. Flynn and “The Guardians of Dark Places” by C.M. Barrett (read by Jane Trombley). If ghost tales are more your thing, feel the goosebumps as Soozie Campbell tells “A Chilling Story” and Crow's Feet founder Nancy Peckenham spins a tale about her great-great grandparents, “Margaret and Christopher.” The holiday wouldn't be complete without a creature double feature! Two pieces – “The Werewolf of Defiance, Ohio” by Betsy Allen and “The Jersey Devil,” a poem by Jean Feldeisen – just might have you looking over your shoulder. And because we can't resist leaving you with a smile, we treat you to a fun spooky season memory: “Gomez Addams and the Pumpkin Caper” by Nancy Franklin. Enjoy our show and Happy Halloween!Support the show

Neil Offen doesn't necessarily believe that aging "sucks." He just believes there are things you can do to make it less "sucky." Like spending more time on the floor so if you fall, you're falling from less high up. Or exercising by lifting two glasses of wine, one in each hand, for several repetitions. Or challenging yourself by taking up a new hobby, like neurosurgery. After all, a man's reach must exceed his grasp or what's a step stool for? Join Neil and host, Nancy Franklin, for other helpful, and funny, tips on aging.Neal's book, "Building a Better Boomer" is available on Amazon and lots of other places online as well as brick & mortar bookstores.Support the show

What if we're not stuck living with weakening bones and painful knees or hips as we age? Join host Jan M. Flynn in conversation with Dr. Alan Beyer, the Executive Medical Director of Hoag Orthopedic Institute in Newport Beach CA  and host of radio show "Doctors in the Dugout" as he talks about heading off osteoporosis, what to do if joint pain starts limiting your life, and his journey through his own hip replacement. Show links:Dr. Alan Beyer “On the Other Side of the Scalpel” video blogOr watch on YouTubeHoag Orthopedic Institute, home pageAlan H. Beyer, M.D., Hoag Orthopedic InstituteDoctor in the Dugout Radio Show (AM 830)Music on this episode includes Weathervane and Chafftop by Blue Dot Sessions.Support the show

Fear of anger can ultimately be as destructive as expressed rage. However, Amanda Barusch argues that it's time for older adults to turn toward anger rather than denying or avoiding it. By taking it seriously, people can neutralize its destructive potential and harness its energy for personal and social change.Join host Lee Bentch with Amanda Barusch for this entertaining and informative dive into harnessing the energy of anger for the better good. Amanda has done an extraordinary amount of research on the topic, recently releasing a book titled Aging Angry: Making Peace with Rage.Amanda is a Professor Emeritus at the University of Otago, New Zealand, and the University of Utah. She has served as Editor in Chief for the Journal of Gerontological Social Work and Deputy Editor for the Australasian Journal on Aging.Comments? Suggestions? Call our toll-free Crows Feet Feedback line at 800-222-2216.Help Build a Positive View of Aging by Supporting Our Non-Profit Work.Support the show

The Generation X folks are no longer kids. They were born between 1965 and 2000, are now 44-59, and the oldest will soon enter their sixties. They have stepped into leadership roles across sectors, bringing their life experiences and perspectives to shape the future. Sari Botton is on the leading edge of that age cohort; she'll turn 60 next year. Besides publishing the engaging Oldster Magazine on Substack, she's an established essayist, editor of best-selling anthologies, and educator. In this episode, Sari Botton offers a unique and thoughtful perspective on Gen X aging, a topic that has fascinated her throughout her life. Host Jane Trombley and Sari explore the concerns of Gen X aging into a world qualitatively and quantitatively different from the one Boomers experienced—concerns about climate change, economic and job uncertainties, and the stability of Social Security. All this against the backdrop of conventional worries about moving into the next chapter of life. Support the Show.Websites: Oldster Magazinesaribotton.comMusic on this episode includes instrumental by nojisuma from PixabaySupport the Show.

Elaine LaLanne, widow of "Father of Fitness," Jack LaLanne, leads an audience of hundreds in breaking a Guinness World Record at the age of 98. After catching her breath, Elaine shares her new thoughts on aging.Support the Show.

With a new book about the women who inspire her to live a full life, NY Times best-selling author Melinda Blau talks with host Nancy Peckenham about unique women who come to life on the pages of The Wisdom Whisperers. She also introduces us to two of these women by reading passages from her newly-released book.Author Kathleen Murphy, an essay writer from Utah, then reads her story about how she overcame fear of aging by making a list of her fears, then poking holes in each of them.The episode ends with a reading by Mark Tulin, a writer and poet, who shares his contentment with life in his late 60s and his firm belief that he never wants to be young again.You can order The Wisdom Whisperers on Amazon and learn more about Melinda at her website www.melindablau.comRead more of Kathleen Murphy's work on Medium by visiting her profile page here.Mark Tulin's writing is published on Medium as well. Visit his profile page here.And check out more great essays about the latter half of life at Medium.com/crows-feet or visit www.crowsfeetlifeasweage.com.Music in this episode includes Palms Down from Blue Dot Sessions, ceton from Pixabay, and Roman Senyk from Pixabay.Support the Show.

Low mood is a common symptom for older adults, often a response to pain, loss, or changes in their lives. But Dr. Lee Penn, a Geropsychologist, college prof, and author, brings a hopeful message. That because of decades of experience, refined self-knowledge, and carefully honed problem solving skills, older adults can learn to manage their moods and greatly improve their quality of life. In this episode, host Jean Feldeisen, also a psychotherapist, talks with Dr. Penn about his work with older patients, including advice for them and their families. Dr. Penn has written The Golden Rules of Retirement and The Golden Rules of Life Satisfaction, to help people take practical steps to feel better. You'll find them at Amazon.com. To learn more about his research in Geropsychology, go to his website: lifecanbegolden.com.Music includes The Green Room by Blue Dot Sessions.Support the Show.

Here's a companion piece to our latest episode featuring a kidney donor in her fifties and a two-time kidney recipient. Crow's Feet writer Ann Litts had a long career as a nurse taking care of transplant patients, and saw her own daughter through a transplant. Nobody knows better the marvel of giving and getting the gift of life.Support the Show.

Kidney disease is a silent killer that affects more people than breast and prostate cancer. While fatal for many, others turn to kidney dialysis, offering a means to sustain life but with a few risks. Beyond dialysis, the best hope is a kidney transplant, which restores life without the burden of dialysis. In this episode, host Lee Bentch sits down with Carol Offen, a kidney donor in her fifties, and Betsy Crais, a multi-organ transplant recipient. Their book, The Insider's Guide to Living Kidney Donation, is a must-read for both kidney donors and recipients about giving or getting the greatest gift.  Support the Show.

A fitting quest for Pride Month, Esther Newton's personal and professional struggles mirror sixty years of LGBTQ+ history. In the mid-1950s, catapulted out of a liberal household in New York to a rigidly-gendered southern California high school where girls were frilly and feminine, Esther was, in her own words, “a failure as a girl.” She knew she was different—a “homosexual,” as such deviants were then called.  Alone as a teenager, fearing she had no chance at a normal life, Esther found comfort in Margaret Mead's Coming of Age in Samoa. “It showed me the culture of the 50s and 60s was just one among thousands and thousands.”Like Mead, Esther earned her PhD in cultural anthropology. She dared to observe and write her dissertation on drag queens, a culture much closer to home. She wrote scholarly papers on “stone butches,” and how they had sex. She outed herself and became more of an activist in her collection of essays, Margaret Mead Made Me Gay.  It was “career suicide,” she says of her early work in the field, but Esther seems to have the last word in her memoir, My Butch Career, and on screen, in the 2022 documentary, Esther Newton Made Me Gay.  Today, a new generation looks up to her for her courage and foresight.You can view the trailer for Esther Newton Made Me Gay on her website as well as links to her writing:  https://www.Esther-Newton.com . Crow's Feet is grateful to Jean Carlomusto, director of Esther Newton Made Me Gay, and Women Make Movies, the distributor of the film, for allowing us to use excerpts. Access the full documentary via Kanopy, if your local library subscribes, or by contacting the distributor: orders@wmn.com Support the Show.

Forget the necktie and the tool box. Our gift to you this Father's Day is a book…The Book of Dads, to be exact. Here you'll find a collection of stories from Crow's Feet writers that pays tribute to the men who played vitally important roles in their lives.  In the “chapters” of this book, there's a wealth of vivid memories. Some of these are happy. Some are sad. Others serve to remind us that while a parent might have loomed larger than life in one's childhood, they might also have exhibited some very human foibles. Betsy Allen and Rand Bishop recall the special ways they found a connection with their fathers in ways both large and small. Bruce Stambaugh, Daniella Mini, Alex Jordan, and Mary McGrath reminisce how, over the years since their youth, they came to understand their dads better—and appreciate them. And finally, Jerry Dunn, Ilana Rabinowitz, and Jane Trombley share the influences their fathers had on them and recognize the lasting legacies they left behind. So pull up a chair, relax, and let us tell you some stories about our dads. Support the Show.

Memorial Day is a solemn day of remembrance dedicated to honoring and mourning the military personnel who have died in the service of our country. It is a time for all of us to reflect on the sacrifices made by these brave individuals and to show gratitude for their unwavering commitment to protecting our freedoms.Join Lee Bentch as he speaks with Barabara Kautz, a Vietnam War veteran who served with the 24th Evacuation Hospital at the Long Binh Army Post in 1969. Barabara's thoughts, concerns, and the impact ongoing death had on her are very poignant and touching.Memorial Day has become overshadowed by Memorial Day weekend, the unofficial beginning of summer vacation. Lee points out that there is nothing wrong with going to the beach, starting a vacation, or spending time at a picnic or amusement park, as long as Monday, May 27, is reserved for a few minutes of silence, tears, and thoughts for the 700,000 men and women who fought in the many wars that shaped our country and died doing so. These are men and women who will Always be Remembered and Never Forgotten. Support the Show.

Each of us has a unique narrative about our mothers. They can be positive,negative, and everything in between.In this episode, we delve into a diverse collection of these stories. From talesof profound love to stories of absence, we explore the complex tapestry ofrelationships with mothers.Jean Feldeisen will speak about the deepening love between her and hermom, while Ann Litts tells us about the mother who was taken too soon.Soosie Campbell shares why she wanted to be very different from her mother,and how she feels about her own children wanting to be different from her.Jim Parton says he and his mom had an awkward relationship, and tellshow things changed later in life. Nancy Franklin also talks about how it took alifetime for her feelings about her mom to change.Sometimes, people can be forced into having to make an impossible decision,and Jan M. Flynn says this happened to her mom.Ace talks about a woman's grit and determination, while Karen Valentinoshares a daily habit she learned from her mother.There's even a story about fried chicken, as Lee J. Bentch shares a life thatrevolves around food.Support the Show.

Grandma Moses started painting seriously at 78. Norman Maclean published his first novel, A River Runs Through It, at 74. Truly, it's never too late to start painting, drawing, writing, making music, dancing—whatever inspires you. The creative payoffs can be huge. But it also presents challenges: you must be willing to learn and be a "beginner" again, take some risks, and be open to critique.  Canadian artist Janice Mason Steeves, herself a late bloomer, joins us to talk about her book, Bloom: On Becoming An Artist Later in Life. In it, she shares thoughts and observations from dozens of older artists who describe their creative journeys and explain how art has helped them find their voices, know themselves better, and become more enlightened.  Steeves also discusses the idea of “elderhood” – the idea that artists can use their enlightenment to make the world a stronger, kinder, more interconnected place. She manifests the concept of elderhood through her “Workshops in Wild Places” programs that allow her to take fellow artists to beautiful, remote locations around the world to connect to and be inspired by nature. For more information on Janice Mason Steeves, her art, book, and workshops, visit www.janicemasonsteeves.comSupport the show

At 61, Lyn Slater was a seasoned social welfare professional and Professor of Social Work and Law at Fordham University. Seeking a creative outlet to combine her two passions, clothing and writing, she started an Instagram blog in 2014. The Accidental Icon was born. Lyn didn't anticipate a personal reinvention, but fate had another plan.She was about to be thrust into the spotlight of the fashion industry. A chance selection for a Valentino eyewear ad soon led to global notoriety, opening doors to unexpected opportunities. The Accidental Icon transformed into a social influencer, amassing a million followers and evolving into a brand in its own right. By 2020, Lyn had again reinvented herself; she pivoted her blog away from fashion blogging and sponsored posts to writing about aging and advocating for pro-aging public policy. Her Stubstack newsletter gave rise to her first non-academic book, How To Grow Old, published in 2024. Lyn Slater holds a Ph.D. in Social Welfare from The Graduate Center, City University of New York. Links: AmazonSubstackWebsiteInstagramSupport the show

Join host Jan M Flynn in conversation with Kira Reginato as they explore the issue of where it makes the most sense to live as we or our loved ones age and our needs change. As an elder care manager and consultant, Kira has served hundreds of older adults and their families in a variety of settings: hospitals, residential care and skilled nursing facilities, hospices, Alzheimer's adult day care programs and Meals on Wheels. Kira's three decades of expertise, as well as her warm personality and compassion were enjoyed in two weekly radio shows focused on aging: The Elder Care Show and Call Kira About Aging!  Kira is the author of the book Tips for Helping Your Aging Parents...Without Losing Your Mind – click the link to purchase a copy.For more information about Kira, visit her website at www.Callkira.com  and check out her YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyO7atbCToRbKmnFI6EZGAgInterested in finding a care manager for yourself or your family? Visit the national Aging Life Care organization at www.Aginglifecare.orgYou can also book a phone or video consultation with Kira to discuss your needs and help connect you to a local care manager by clicking this link: "https://tinyurl.com/2p855cyx"  (Note: this information is provided as a potential resource but does not indicate an endorsement nor any other business relationship. Crow's Feet: Life As We Age does not receive any financial consideration for providing this link).Support the show

Meet Alicia Littman, the quintessential New Yorker, constantly reinventing herself and, at 82, star of her own one-woman cabaret show, "Senior Living." Alicia drove a taxi, designed clothing in her tiny Greenwich Village apartment, sold advertising for the New York Times and now sells high-end apartments in Manhattan. But her real love is theater. She attended a professional school for children, starred in every high school production, and snagged a featured role in a community theater production of The Pajama Game, singing and dancing the legendary “Steam Heat” number. Alicia never made it to Broadway, but even with a few replacement parts, she's still a babe — sassy, smart, and not afraid to make fun of herself.Support the show

Creating a vibrant, satisfying experience of aging sometimes means reinventing ourselves: taking on a new profession, pursuing a long-held dream, or remodeling our home, or ourselves, from the foundation on up. It can be really exciting – but also takes courage, and there isn't a handy instruction guide for how to get started. So it's inspiring and helpful to check in with people who have embarked on one or more reinventions and can attest to the risks and rewards.Join host Jan M. Flynn in conversation with Crow's Feet writer and podcast team member Jean Feldeisen, who never stopped starting over throughout a productive and creative life. From pursuing a doctorate in philosophy to running a catering business, to a long career as a psychotherapist, and recently transforming herself into a published poet, Jean approaches reinvention like she plays piano — in a spirit of exploration, fascination, and challenge.She's not afraid to start over. And when necessary, to go slower.Jean Feldeisen (jeanfeldeisen.com) is the author of:Not All Are Weeping, a poetry chapbook available through Main Street Raghttps://mainstreetragbookstore.com/product/not-all-are-weeping-jean-anne-feldeisen/Dear Milly: A Love Story ‘Til the End of Time, the story of Jean's parents and their love that survived and flourished through the Great Depression, World War II, and all the tumultuous times that followed. Dear Milly: a love story 'til the end of time'Catching Fireflies with Argy Nestor is a “picture book for adults:” poems and imagery riffing on the seasons in Maine.* Available for $25 plus a $5 fee for shipping & handling Contact Jean at empowermepeople@gmail.com or Argy at meartsed@gmail.com. Let them know if you want your copy autographed.Follow me at jeanfeldeisen.com.  Email me at empowermepeople@gmail.comJoin the fun.  To receive my bi-weekly email, click the link below. https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/BXZnupWSupport the show

Join psychologists and seasoned relationship experts Drs. Gloria Horsley and Frank Powers sharing insights from their new book Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating.  It's a guide to stepping out into the bewildering and sometimes intimidating world of online dating.  Host Jane Trombley explores with them the joys and trials of forging a committed relationship, including their own, in one's older years. Dr. Gloria Horsley, Ph.D. is a licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical nurse specialist.  She President and Co-founder of the Open to Hope Foundation, and a member of the Forbes Nonprofit Council. Dr. Frank Powers, Ph.D. has been a licensed psychologist in private practice in Scottsdale, Arizona, for the last 30 years. He served as Chairman of the Psychiatric Security Review Board for the State of Arizona and is now an award-winning sculptor. Gloria and Frank split their time between Palo Alto, California, and Scottsdale, Arizona.Links: AmazonGood ReadsInstagramSupport the show

Join host Jan M. Flynn in conversation with Dr. Greg Hampikian, founder of the Idaho Innocence Project and one of the leading forensic DNA experts in the U.S. A present-day Renaissance man, Dr. Hampikian is also a professor at Boise State University, an inventor, a NY Times contributing columnist, a playwright— and a fan of Crow's Feet: Life As We Age! Listen as Dr. Hampikian lets his lively mind loose on wide-ranging topics — most notably, how his work informs his own aging, and what he finds so exciting about life in his 60s.Bio & links: Greg Hampikian, PhD is an American biologist and the founder and director of the Idaho Innocence Project. He is considered one of the foremost forensic DNA experts in the United States. Dr. Hampikian lectures on DNA science generally as well as DNA in forensic evidence specifically nationwide. He is perhaps best knownfor his work on several exonerations both nationally and internationally, including his work on the Amanda Knox case. He is currently a professor in the Departments of Biological Sciences and Criminal Justice at Boise State University. He's also a New York Times contributing columnist whose two most popular contributions to date have been "Men, Who Needs Them" and "When May I Shoot a Student?". Dr. Hampikian has been  inducted as a Charter Fellow of the National Academy of Inventors. His inventions range from a magnetic shape memory alloy micro-pump to a forensic DNA labeling kit that prevents contamination of samples given to the policeSupport the show

Dementia is one of the greatest fears of people today and a growing problem worldwide. Yet many people avoid talking or thinking about it. Cynthia Stone's new documentary, Keys Bags Names Words hopes "to shift that narrative of fear and hopelessness to one of hope and action." Using a quirky and inspiring lens, Keys Bags Names Words portrays both personal stories and the work of experts studying the disease to create an inspiring tribute to the human spirit. Join host Jean Feldeisen as she talks with producer Cynthia Stone, and Jill Harmon, one of the caregivers featured in the film, about making the documentary and the impact of its message on their own lives.You can find more information about the film, including how to arrange for a showing in your community, at the film's website keysbagsnameswords.comSupport the show

The holidays mean more as you look back on a long life. So we asked our readers and listeners what they're feeling — probably much the same as you, ranging from love to loneliness and stress to nostalgia. Listen as they share their thoughts with you, like an old friend by a cozy fireside.Support the show

Aging into health is an idea that centerarian Dr. Gladys McGarey knows well. For more than six decades, "Dr. Gladys" has been a medical pioneer in the interconnectedness of her patients' physical, mental, and emotional health. She's board-certified in Holistic and Integrated Medicine and co-founder of both The American Holistic Medical Association and the Academy of Parapsychology and Medicine. Dr. Gladys recently published her 8th book, A Well-lived Life: A 102-Year-Old Doctor's Six Secrets To Health and Happiness at ANY Age. Join host Jane Trombley in exploring those secrets: the importance of finding one's “juice” and movement, defining boundaries, confronting the tough times we all go through, the power of love, and spending our energy wildly, even as we age. Now at 103, Dr Gladys continues to lead an active life as a sought-after speaker and hosts a weekly Instagram Live program. Her book is available on Amazon or through her website.Support the show

November is a time for gratitude and remembrance — and it's also National Hospice and Palliative Care Month. It's a topic often surrounded by confusion, especially since many of us find it difficult to talk about. But the more we know, the more we can help ourselves and our loved ones — and the less intimidating and scary it becomes. In this episode, you'll hear an interview with a leading hospice and palliative care expert, Dr. Glenn Komatsu. Then join Crows Feet hosts Warren Turner and Jan M Flynn in a conversation about what it's been like for them as they've had family members in hospice care — and what those experiences have taught them. Show Link: National Hospice and Palliative Care Organizationhttps://www.nhpco.org/Support the show

Our nations Veteran's have gone above and beyond to ensure the freedom of the United States and its Allies. In this episode, host Lee Bentch, illuminates the rich history of Veteran's Day, November 11th, while introducing the work of Honor Flight. Honor Flight is an organization dedicated to flying Veterans of all branches and years of service to Washington D.C. to visit the War Memorials. In this touching tribute you'll hear the voices of Honor Flight Vets who lived to tell their story of service and survival.Support the show

Villains and victims, evil witches and vengeful scourges—at the movies, getting old is scary business. It also generates big business at the box office. But what do these frightening depictions actually have to say about aging? Host Betsy Allen talks with Cynthia Miller, writer, cultural anthropologist, and college professor, about what Hollywood finds so scary about getting older and how we just might be on the verge of flipping the script. For more information about books by Cynthia J. Miller.Movies discussed in our conversation:The Brotherhood of Satan (1971)Bubba Ho-Tep (2002)Drag Me to Hell (2009)Hush…Hush, Sweet Charlotte (1964)The Hunger (1983)Indiana Jones and the Dial of Destiny (2023)Insidious: The Last Key (2018)Whatever Happened to Baby Jane? (1962)Support the show

It wasn't 'love at first sight' for Elaine LaLanne, when she met Jack LaLanne, the "Godfather of Fitness." In fact, Elaine was eating a donut when Jack quipped "The only thing good about a donut is the hole in the middle." Now 97, Elaine is fit, active and effervescent. Listen in for her secrets to living a longer, healthier life and how she's keeping the legacy of her husband alive. Support the show

Professor Ellen Langer, better known as "the mother of mindfulness,” spent the better part of her 45-year career challenging widely-held assumptions about the power of our minds. Her famous "Counterclockwise" study, first conducted in 1979, showed it's possible to reverse the affects of aging in one week. In her latest book, The Mindful Body: Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health, she says our minds can make us more hopeful, speed the healing process, and even help us live longer. The key: remember your mind and body are one integrated unit. "Where you put the mind, the body will follow." Langer defines Mindfulness as being in the moment — noticing new things about yourself and the environment rather than assuming today will be the same as yesterday which, in turn, opens us to new possibilities. In this rapid-fire conversation with Melinda Blau, Langer talks about applying mindfulness to aging, grief, caretaking, and serious illness.  You can find Ellen's books on Amazon and her websiteSupport the show

Thinking about returning to work, “working in retirement,” or launching an encore career? Ever experienced ageism in the workplace, felt pressured to leave a job before you're ready, or overwhelmed at the thought of trying to rejoin the workforce?The last week of September is National Employ Older Workers Week. Join Jan M. Flynn in conversation with Janine Vanderburg, founder of Changing the Narrative, a leading  initiative working to increase awareness of ageism and change how people think, talk, and act about aging and ageism.Leading Changing the Narrative, is Janine's encore career. She's led media and social media campaigns about the value of older folks, advocated for age-friendly public policies and stronger anti-discrimination laws, launched an anti-ageist birthday card campaign, and trained over 10,000 people in research-based messaging to counter negative stereotypes of older people and advocate the adoption of age-friendly policies. Janine has been recognized by the City of Denver, Denver Regional Council of Governments and the Colorado Center for Aging for her innovation and advocacy for older adults. Her favorite saying: “We are the leaders we are looking for.”Links To ResourcesChanging the Narrative website: https://changingthenarrativeco.org/Anti-ageist birthday card campaign page (that also links to artist cards):https://changingthenarrativeco.org/anti-ageist-birthday-cards/Resources on age-friendly workplaces:https://changingthenarrativeco.org/resources-2023/age-friendly-workplace-resources/Support the show

You know her as Granny from Space Jam 2, Dexter from Dexter's Laboratory and memorable characters from decades of TV and movie roles. Nearing retirement age she can still sound like a 9-year old boy. Maybe growing up in a halfway house for the emotionally disturbed and developmentally disabled had something to do with it? Join voiceover artist, comedian, and author, Candi Milo as she dishes on her career, life, and thoughts about aging with host, Nancy Franklin. Support the show

A spiritual alignment coach, motivational speaker, and global ritual expert, Barbara Biziou believes rituals can help us connect with one another, expand our levels of success, and create meaningful visions for our lives. As she puts it, ritual is where neuroscience meets old world tradition. In this episode, Barbara reveals how to bring rituals into daily life with Crow's Feet writer Jean Feldeisen, a psychologist and poet. Learn more about Barbara at her website:  https://www.barbarabiziou.com/Support the show

A child prodigy on the piano, music gave Patricia Ross refuge from a chaotic home. In this episode, Ross tells host Melinda Blau how resilience, curiosity, and making good choices were key to her life — achieving what Blau calls “exuberant geezerhood.” Becoming sober in her 40s was one turning point for Ross, along with learning photography from the great Ansel Adams, which led to a career in the craft. Marrying a psychologist put her on the path to becoming a psychotherapist herself and, now in her ninth decade, she writes personal essays on Medium. You can listen to Ross's amazing dexterity on the keyboard at https://soundcloud.com/patricia-ross-131826129.Support the show

Join host Jan M. Flynn in conversation with Lenore Guido, Bereavement Coordinator for a New Jersey hospice program, who has a private counseling practice focusing on compassionate grief care. Grief is something we often shy away from thinking about, but it's also something we'll all experience. Lenore, who is drawing on more than 45 years' experience in the field to write a book on healing from loss, shares a perspective both clear-eyed and hopeful. There is, she says, life after loss — and even joy. Support the show

Her famous husband thinks he's signing autographs when being admitted to the ER. He runs from airport security as if he's scoring a Super Bowl touchdown. Famous for bulldozing would-be tacklers, he's blindsided by brain trauma. Meanwhile, his remarkable wife not only coped, she launched a new career and became a fierce activist for other football families dealing with former players' brain injuries. Today, she's still flying high as an 81-year old flight attendant.Support the show

What if there were a way to get your teen grandkids to put down their phones and talk to you? Join host Jan M Flynn in conversation with Elly Katz, who left a successful career as a graphic designer to found Sages & Seekers — an innovative, immersive, and award-winning program that brings older adults (Sages) together with Seekers (teens). Over eight weekly sessions, the Sages and Seekers share their stories, linking the wisdom and experience of the elders with the energy and curiosity of the youth. With the program now reaching across international boundaries, two independent studies have shown that both the Seekers and the Sages reap significant benefits — and some that might surprise you. Check out the program, including fun shots of participants, at sagesandseekers.orgSupport the show

The New Florida Follies Proves That People Of All Ages Can Put on a Show. Artistic director and choreographer Cheryl Steinthal has been dancing most of her life, from Radio City Music Hall to a career in choreography and retiring to Florida where she joined the dancers of The New Florida Follies. Host Jean Feldeisen talks with Cheryl about the troupe of dancers who put on an annual Broadway calibre show, complete with tap dancing and Rockette-style big production numbers to raise money for children's charities in South Florida.Support the show