Bite Your Tongue: The Podcast

In this episode, we talk to Dr. Laurence Steinberg about his new book - You and Your Adult Child:  How to Grow Together During Challenging Times.He brings us a whole new perspective. Touted as the first comprehensive guide for parents navigating the crucial decades of their children's lives, we explore everything so many issues. We delve into the complexities of the parent-adult child relationship and discuss the challenges and changes that come with this stage of life.Steinberg shares valuable insights on topics such as setting boundaries, fostering autonomy, and navigating financial support. We explore the impact of societal changes on the parent-adult child dynamic and how to build a positive relationship during this crucial phase.It's a must-listen for anyone seeking to strengthen their relationship with their adult children or gain a deeper understanding of this unique stage of life.We cover many topics ranging from  whether you should be involved in your child's college education, how to behave when they unexpectedly must move back home, how to state your opinion on their romantic partners, what to do when you disagree with the way they are raising their own child, and what parameters to apply if you want to give them money for a specific reason.  Steinberg helps us understand the challenging climate our young adult children are navigating and how we can be supportive yet not intrusive.  He offers some real tools and new ideas about navigating this journey.  Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer.  Write to us at biteyourtonguepodcast@gmail.com and let us know your questions and ideas for episodes! Also remember to follow us on Facebook and Instagram. And once again, with just a donation of $5, you can help us keep going!  Visit our website at biteyourtonguepodcast.com and select SUPPORT US.  You can buy a "virtual" cup of coffee for $5 and it will make a huge difference. Support the show The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

It's June and that is typically wedding season.  So we thought we'd combine our two wedding episodes into one BEST OF THE BEST.  You will hear first from fAleigh Huston-Lyons, a therapist and coach at AisleTalk: Consultation & Therapy.  A boutique practice devoted to helping brides and grooms cope with the stresses that arise during wedding planning and anticipation of marriage. From engagement and finances to the invite list and drama, Aleigh puts in all in perspective. Social media has taken a toll on weddings and learn how Aleigh gives some sound advice on keeping it all under control.Next we welcome Michelle Martinez, who is not only a Certified Wedding Consultant, with more than 20 years in the wedding and events industry, but also the creator and host of the world's mosts popular wedding podcast - The Big Wedding Planning Podcast. With 300 episodes under her belt and nearly three million downloads, she's been around the block a few times!It seems to all come back to what Julie Dolan told us in our grand-parenting episode about being the loving and loyal servant.If you are in the stages of wedding planning and don't have the budget for a big time wedding planner, Michelle now offers a masterclass on her website.  A tiny percent of what a full wedding planner would cost.  Check it out her Master Class offer here.Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer who did her very best in editing, cutting and splicing these two episodes together!  The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

It's Pride Month and we are taking a second look at the LGBTQ+ community.We have two guests.  The first is Linda K. Reeves,  a licensed marriage and family therapist certified as a gender specialist by the  World Professional Association for Transgender Health.  She is the founder of Linda K. Reeves Therapy. Her therapy utilizes her clinical  skills in the treatment of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, gender non-binary, questioning, and queer identified individuals.  Her recent article in Good Housekeeping, "How to Support Your LGBTQ+ Kid When He, She or They Come Out," got our attention.  We talk to her about this and well as what it means for a young person to come out to their family and friends.  We discuss how to respond to your child or friend and what to say and what not to say.  We also talk about the current continued discrimination against the LGBTQ+ community, We switch gears entirely when we welcome a Tik-Tok sensation - JannaTransMomma.   (she explains the unusual spelling of mamma).  Janna is a a single mom to a trans child named Cody.  She's been identified as a key influencer on Tik-Tok (love it or hate it) for making a real difference for trans youth.  She gives us a quick 101 lesson on what it means to be transgender, how to support your child and/or friends or family.  Janna shares some of the scary statistics about trans people and suicide.  Acceptance, she says, will save a life. She is honest about the mistakes she made on her journey and is funny, delightful and very knowledgeable.  She shares these sites for additional resources:   Pflag:  plfag.org Rainbow Youth Project : RainbowYouthProject.org and Uplift Outreach Center:  UpliftOutreachCenter.orgThanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us :  Visit Biteyourtonguepodcast.com for many ways to keep us going! The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Welcome back to THE most downloaded episode of Season 2.  Our guest today, one of the foremost experts who studies how individuals and families develop and change throughout their lives, tells us that as we age, we regret not reconciling with family members we may be estranged or distant from. Today we welcome Dr. Karl Pillemer, Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, where he is also a faculty member in Cornell's medical school. He is the author of the book: “Fault Lines, Fractured Families and How to Mend Them.” He is the author of several other remarkable books about love, relationships and aging.We are also welcoming a guest host - Stacie Lavato. Stacie is a long-time listener and reached out to us after we dropped the episode on understanding LGBTQ+ with Levi Teachey and Stacey Shigaya.  She wrote such a heartwarming email and the two of us connected.  Then, I learned that Stacy produces her own podcast called “Mindful Mama Conversations,” I listened to a few, and I liked her topics and her style, so I asked her to join me.The biggest “ah ha” moment for Stacie and I is when Dr. Pillemar mentioned “intergenerational stake.” We both had never heard of this - but it makes perfect sense. It is the generational bias in parents' and adult children's perceptions of their joint relationship.   Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer. Support us  P L E A S E! Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE Buy a mug: LINK HEREListen on: Apple Podcasts   Spotify or wherever you find your fav podcasts! The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Happy Mother's Day!   Today we are joined by two amazing moms with great advice for keeping our relationships with our adult children healthy, fun and spirited.    Also listen for some special Mother's Day messages of support and advice from some young adults!  This will be an episode that will get you thinking, make you smile and lift you up.   We hope you enjoy it!  Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer. Support us  P L E A S E! Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE Buy a mug:  LINK HERE Great Deal for Listeners! Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  There are also camis, underwear, leggings and much more! Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout. The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Street Interviews with Young Adults and Parents from Around the World!As the old saying goes, “the best laid plans of mice and men oft go astray.” That is exactly what happened.Denise's plan to visit Ellen in Prague took a turn when Ellen, then in Boston, tested positive for COVID just a few days before her planned trip to Prague for Denise's arrival.She thought she might join a few days later if she tested negative, but her mother, who lives in Wisconsin, took a fall and Ellen went to take care of her.  Denise and her husband, Kevin, spent 10 days in Prague in Ellen's apartment... sadly, without Ellen. The episode we had planned, about Ellen's book, had to be cancelled!So, today we are sharing street interviews with parents and adult children that Denise conducted in Prague. We interviewed people from Germany, New Zealand, Great Britain, the US and more. We also include some interviews from New York City's Central Park. We learned pretty quickly that some of the struggles parents have with their adult children are global issues. You will have to listen to learn more - it's a fun episode!Thank you to Connie Gorant Fisher, who took what we gave her and made the episode quite special and unique.Support us  P L E A S E!  Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE. Buy a mug:  LINK HEREFollow up on our social media platforms:  Facebook   Instagram   TwitteBlue Grit Podcast: The Voice of Texas Law EnforcementHost: Clint McNear and Tyler Owen discussing topics, issues, and stories within the...Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

This episode digs deep.  Today we interview Daniel Maté,  who, with his father  Dr. Gabor Maté has been holding  highly engaging and popular workshops called “Hello Again - A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children." He points out that they do not call their workshops "a happy ending," instead it is a "fresh start."  Everyone's fresh start will look different and he talks about how to get there. Dr. Maté, Daniel's father is a renowned speaker and author who, as his website says: "weaves together scientific research, case histories, and his own insights and experience to present a broad perspective that enlightens and empowers people to promote their own healing and that of those around them."And that is what we hear from Daniel today.  How they work with parents and adult children and sort carefully this "intense, speedy relationship."  "Once you are an adult," he says, your relationship with your parents is a choice...that comes with risks, rewards and pitfalls."  This is not an episode with "answers," this is an episode to truly get you to think and examine so many aspects of yourself, your child-rearing and your adult children.   This episode will help you realize what is possible.Read more about Daniel and his father's book, the New York Times best selling book “The Myth of Normal.”   Link to Daniel's Mental Chiropractic Service and as an award-winning composer, lyricist, and playwright for musical theatre don't miss his podcast  --  Let's Get Lyrical.Blue Grit Podcast: The Voice of Texas Law EnforcementHost: Clint McNear and Tyler Owen discussing topics, issues, and stories within the...Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Disrespect.  We've all been there with our grown children.  The rolling of the eyes, the under the breath grunt and sometimes just complete disrespect.  Is it normal?  How do we react and handle it?Today we speak with Jennifer Williams who is the founder of Heartmanity and the Heartmanity Center, located in Bozeman, Montana. Her passion is to help people create thriving relationships. She  wrote a blog titled  “How to Deal with a Disrespectful Grown Child” and we thought well that's a topic we'd all like to delve deep into. I don't know about you, but I was a bit of a “know it all” in my early adult years and not always as respectful as I could have been to my own parents.  So why am I surprised when I get a bit of lip from my kiddos?  Well, let's find out.  She takes us deep into understanding our role, how to lead with empathy, set boundaries and build the relationship we all deserve.  She also offers and explains three key actions parents can take to stay connected and have a great relationship with their adult children - whatever age they are! We hope you enjoy it! Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERE The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Before you listen to the episode make sure to download the APP INNERCAST on Apple or Android.  Create a FREE account and this episode will pop up.  Innercast is a podcasting app where you listen, discuss and connect in one place!  You can have a REAL conversation about this episode.  Tell us what you liked about our guests advice, give us your advice and ask more questions - we will get them answered!  We can't wait to hear from you!  This app was started by a young man and I really want to support his efforts.  Let's give it a try so he can see if it works!Today we talk to Dr. Jefferey Berstien. He is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been helping children, teens, couples and families for over thirty years. He is the author of several books including his latest - now coming out in its third edition called 10-days to a Less Defiant Child. The articles he has written are numerous covering many subjects.  Because of his breadth of experience we thought we'd use this episode to ask Dr. Bernstein many of our listener questions.   We talk about disrespect, significant others, identifying if it's a struggle or are we or they choosing not to?   Identifying our own baggage and moving forward to really begin to establish a relationship that is strong and satisfying for all parties. Dr. Bernstein role plays with us to really help us find the right words.  Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE. Buy a mug: LINK HEREFollow us on:   Facebook   Instagram   Twitter And remember sometimes you may have to BITE YOUR TONGUE! The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Today we speak with Tracy Hargen who tells us about her journey to becoming a featured writer on so many topics for the popular website Grown and Flown.She helps us, with real ideas, for starting conversations with our adult children that are not just about their jobs and relationships, but work to build our relationship with them as adults.We talk about this article “We Absolutely Made the Right Choice to be Friends with Our Children.” and why this matters so much.  And even if you are starting late she says "Parenting is the ultimate friendship – you will always be bound by DNA to have a relationship but friendship is choice," with many suggestions for getting started.We talk about her son and his battle with mental health disease and how her family faced this journey.  This article she wrote exploded on Grown and Flown ranking as one of the top downloaded blog posts for the year!  Here is a link to the article. She talks about the picture that is featured with this story. We also talk about her article, What's Important Now? Now That my Children are Grown, What is My Purpose?  We discuss the questions we need to ask ourselves as we enter into this new stage of life.  There is so much more!  We loved chatting with Tracy and hope you will visit her site and read all of her blog posts - they resonated with us!Write to us at biteyourtonguepodcast@gmail.com - share your ideas and thoughts about new episodes and topics!Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug: LINK HERE The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Before we get into this episode I want to remind listeners to sign up for this FREE "Graceful Empty-Nester" Virtual Conference.  It begins on February 19 and runs through Feb 28. There are featured experts with strategies to reconnect with your children, heal relationships and inspire a future of connectivity!  You can listen to one two or all of them! Denise is one of the guests and shares some of the bests pieces of advice from all of our 40+ episodes.   Link her to grab your front seat!Today we are replaying a wonderful episode about religion and spirituality.  Just passing a few major religious holidays we thought it would be important to re-visit our feelings about our adult children and their religious choices. How many of you struggled to get your adult child to attend religious services or maybe you are worried about your grandchild having any religious upbringing. Whatever your concerns you will love this wonderful discussion with the Reverend Elizabeth P. Randall and Galit Pinksy Gottlieb. Elizabeth is the Rector at St. Andrew's Episcopal Church in Denver, Colorado.  She is a graduate of Smith College and Yale Divinity School and  was one of the first clergy in Denver to recognize and perform weddings for the LGBTQ community. She's been happily married for over 30-years to someone who is Jewish. Together they have one daughter.   Since the interview, Elizabeth is now a grandmother to a wonderful grandson named Frank. Galit, who practices Conservative Judaism, served as a Synagogue Cantor for many years. She is also an author as well as a mother and the wife of a Jewish scholar. Her children were raised in the Jewish tradition and now are all in long-term relationships with non-Jewish partners.So many journeys to understand, learn and accept.  We think both Elizabeth and Galit offer support, understanding and some brilliant and thoughtful ideas and approaches.Galit is also an author of a wonderful mystery book series called the Whipped and Sipped Mysteries.  Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer. The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Don't underestimate how much the people who come after you are going to know about you!  Today, our guest is Erik Vance.  He is an award-winning story-teller and New York Times editor based in Boulder, Colorado. (lucky guy).  We came upon an article he wrote called:  "How I Time-Travel to Parent My Adult Son." When we started to read it really had nothing to do with adult kids, but then it did.Backstory:   Vance says: “Once a year I record a brutally honest conversation for my little boy. " He says (and we confront him on this) that is doing it now because he thinks he is more interesting at this age than in 20 years!  We don't think so!Our Adult Kids and Grandkids:   it is never too late and don't  underestimate how much the people who come after you are going to want to know about you.  Think about it.  If you could listen to your mother or father NOW and hear how they felt when you were a young adult - wouldn't you savor it?If you could hear the voices of your grandparents and learn more about their journey  - what a gift!I think all of us agree that we would love to hear the voices and experiences of our parents and grandparents - honest talk about their lives and struggles --  and as Erik said it can only help them feel like they can do it too.It's not too late. We are going to give it a shot and hope that this interview with Erik encourages many of our listeners to do the same,Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HEREShapermint: 20% off with the code biteyourtongue at checkout The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

This is the  most requested topic by our listeners!We talk to Dr. Mark McConville,a Clinical Psychologist and author of the book - “Failure to Launch,” Why Your Twentysomething Hasn't Grown Up….What to Do About It. Dr. McConville is an expert in adolescent psychology and his groundbreaking book comes at a time when 2.2 million young adults in America are struggling to find their way in the world.We talk about the root cause of the problem, why modern young adults are failing to launch in record numbers and the three critical skills necessary to make the transition from childhood to adulthood. He mentions the old adage of "benign neglect" and we found this article about this and the author says: "I think children are just like hearty houseplants — they should be watered liberally and you should ensure they get ample sunshine. But otherwise, just let them be."Do we love too much?Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE (only 5 BUCKS and it means alot!)Buy a mug:  LINK HEREFollow up on our social media platforms:Facebook   Instagram   TwitterAnd remember sometimes you may have to BITE YOUR TONGUE! The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Listener requested!  The wedding is over.  Grandchildren have arrived, but now there is trouble in paradise.  Your Adult Child is Getting a Divorce. When to bite our tongues? How or when to offer advice? The wedding was such an exciting time and now the heartache begins.   This episode will help you navigate the toughest situations.Also, we are going to explore narcissism and how to identify this characteristic in your adult children or significant others.We talk to two therapists in this episode. The first is Alena Scigliano. She is a licensed psychotherapist and an expert in narcissistic abuse. Narcissism also seems to be a trigger for divorce.We also speak with Ashley Quamme, a marriage and family therapist based in Columbia, Georgia. She specializes in EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy. We'd like to learn more about that, too.We explore everything fromHow your initial response can set the toneHow to be supportive but not overbearingHow to recognize a narcissistic partnerHow divorcing a narcissist can impose a new can of wormsWhat about the grandchildren?And so much more... Even if divorce is not on your radar, we think you will find the discussion interesting and learning about narcissism was a real eye-opener for us!Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE (only 5 BUCKS and it means alot!)Buy a mug:  LINK HEREFollow up on our social media platforms:Facebook   Instagram   TwitterAnd remember sometimes you may have to BITE YOUR TONGUE! The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Today we are rewinding and sharing a holiday episode we loved.  We interview Jane Isay. She is the author of the book Walking on Eggshells, Navigating the Delicate Relationships between Adult Children and Parents. She is a New Yorker from birth and gets right to the point.Have you had enough togetherness during the holidays? "Shut the door," she says. How about when the kids come home, how to make them happy? "Give them the keys!"And, wait until you hear what she said about her son who was Chief of Staff for Chuck Schumer's first senatorial campaign.  And just as a hint - it references Al D'Amato!!!! But there is lots more. Jane's bio is extraordinary. She's been an editor for over forty years. She discovered Mary Pipher's Reviving Ophelia, commissioned Patricia O'Connor's bestselling Woe Is I and Rachel Simmons' s Odd Girl Out, and edited such nonfiction classics as Praying for Sheetrock and Friday Night Lights. And of course she's written several books of her own, including Walking on Eggshells and her latest Unconditional Love. Jane's son is Dave Isay, the founder of StoryCorps. Here is a link to an interview for TED Talks he did with his mother.We hope you laugh out loud with this episode and love Jane as much as we did.Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE (only 5 BUCKS and it means alot!) Buy a mug:  LINK HEREHoliday gift giving?  Think about getting something from Shapermint.  Lots of great items for your or those you are gifting!    Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Follow up on our social media platforms Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Don't Bite Your Tongue -- that is what today's guest says!  "Silence does not build intimacy."  Today Denise and Ellen interview Dr. Ruth Nemzoff, the author of the book "Don't Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with your Adult Family."Dr. Nemzoff tells us that as her children became adults she kept hearing the old adage - "bite your tongue, loosen your purse strings and wear beige." This was not going to work for her and she questioned the entire premise.She claims it is better not to bite your tongue. Bringing up important topics builds intimacy, but there is a right and a wrong way to do it. And she gives us the scoop.We discuss how to feel confident raising issues of importance, as well as saying "good-bye" to our fantasies and "hello" to reality.We also talk about short and long visits with our adult kids -- how to handle it, how long is too long and more! Perfect for the holidays!We love what she says about letting go -- but you will have to listen to find out!She's a breath of fresh air, a brilliant woman that has walked the walk who provides us with a pathway to follow.Some things we talk about:Learning the tools to keep talking - so they will listenFiguring out our relevance as parents to adult children - no longer in chargeHow to feel confident raising issues of importanceWe cannot be close to our children if we don't communicate the things that are importantLetting go is not the solution!Goodbye to fantasy and hello to reality - let go of your dreamsThere is so much more.......we hope you listen and enjoy. Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher - our audio engineer!Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HEREFollow up on our social media platforms Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Today Ellen and Denise are talking to Ellie and Carrie Monahan.  They are sisters and as some of you might know they are the daughters of Katie Couric, an American journalist and author.  They just started a podcast and I listen to every Friday when they drop episodes. The title is: “All Each Other Has.” We love listening to the voices of these young adults - Ellie (a millennial ) and Carrie (on the Gen Z cusp).  They analyze all kinds of topics, but today we talk to them about a couple of things.1. The first SIBLING RELATIONSHIPS.  They explain that the podcast is titled - “All Each Other Has,” because their mother always told them -- “Be nice to each other – you are all each other has.”   And as parents of adult children, we all want our children to be close to their siblings because as they say: "you are all each other has."They tell us their journey to being close (it was not always that way) and the role the death of their father Jay Monahan , who died when Ellie was five and Carrie was two-year-old. Also the week before the interview, their mother announced that she had been diagnosed with breast cancer.  She is doing well but we talk a bit about this and what it means to adult children when your parents share this type of news. We also discuss how it feels to add a stepfather into your life as a young adult.   They give some good advice on how to break the "marriage" news to your young adult children and what it is like to have your single parent dating! We ask some general questions about adult children and their feelings toward  key topics of interest to parents.  They are very bright insightful young women.  We think you will like this.We also share the news of Ellen's new book coming in March - but now available on pre-order from Amazon.   The book, Bright Kids Who Couldn't Care Less, though written with a child in mind, translates to the young adult who is so bright and capable but just cannot seem to launch.   We are going to talk about this in an upcoming episode. Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HEREGreat Deal for Listeners!Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout. Follow up on our social media platforms Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Adult step children - so many different variations.  Today you will hear from a step-parenting author and expert and -- to round things out --  some adult step children.  Our guest says:  "I think being a step-parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world and it is also one of the biggest challenges to personal growth."  Denise speaks with  Nancy Landrum, the author of the book “STEPPING TWOGETHER.”  Stepping TwoGether is part instruction, part information, part stories and part workbook.In addition to having an MA in Psychology, Nancy has lived this journey with her late- husband and their five children. After years of working together her family has thrived.  In fact, they designed a curriculum for stepfamilies and have shared and taught their strategies throughout California.She talks about how step-parenting  gets very complicated as the stepchildren grow to become adults and if you re-marry late in life and now you are a stepparent to adult children.So many variations and we discuss it all.  A little push for Ellen's new book - Ellen's new book coming in March - but now available on pre-order from Amazon.   The book, Bright Kids Who Couldn't Care Less, though written with a child in mind, translates to the young adult who is so bright and capable but just cannot seem to launch.   We are going to talk about this in an upcoming episode. We are so proud of her!Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HEREGreat Deal for Listeners!Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Follow up on our social media platforms Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

What is the biggest regret of most parents today? Our guest today, one of the foremost experts who studies how individuals and families develop and change throughout their lives, tells us that as we age, we regret not reconciling with family members we may be estranged or distant from. Today we welcome Dr. Karl Pillemer, Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, where he is also a faculty member in Cornell's medical school. He is the author of the book: “Fault Lines, Fractured Families and How to Mend Them.” He is the author of several other remarkable books about love, relationships and aging.We are also welcoming a guest host - Stacie Lavato. Stacie is a long-time listener and reached out to us after we dropped the episode on understanding LGBTQ+ with Levi Teachey and Stacey Shigaya.  She wrote such a heartwarming email and the two of us connected.  Then, I learned that Stacy produces her own podcast called “Mindful Mama Conversations,” I listened to a few, and I liked her topics and her style, so I asked her to join me.The biggest “ah ha” moment for Stacie and I is when Dr. Pillemar mentioned “intergenerational stake.” We both had never heard of this - but it makes perfect sense. It is the generational bias in parents' and adult children's perceptions of their joint relationship.  He takes it a step further and lets us know why any difficulties in our relationships with our adult children will bother us much more than the adult children.We address such questions as: How do rifts begin? What makes estrangement so painful?  Why is it so often triggered by a single event? Are you ready to reconcile? How can you overcome past hurts to build a new future with a relative? Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HEREGreat Deal for Listeners!Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Follow up on our social media platforms Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!...

We made you wait for this one!  Why you may have trouble sleeping as you age and what you can do about.  Do you happen to know what the "on-off" switch for sleep is in your brain?  We did not.  But now we do.  Listen now to learn more about your sleep and how to make it better! As you know in our last episode we interviewed a young researcher Mark Czeisler who was part of the COPE Initiative dealing with young adults and COVID.  If you missed this episode, here is a link.While doing research on Mark we realized that he  has significant experience in the study of sleep! We got excited.  We know very few people our age who do not have some sleep issues!  (his credentials are below)So, although this has very little to do with building healthy relationships with our young adult children, we thought this would be a great benefit to our listeners. We talk about:Why we are waking up in the middle of the night and not able to fall back to sleepThe myth of needing less sleep as we ageThe science behind sleepWhat heredity might have to do with sleepHis father's role as the Director of the Sleep Medicine at Harvard Medical School and how that translate to their family's sleep habits!The role of Melatonin and how we are all using it completely wrong!Sleep meds to consider or notDo sleep studies or doctors make a difference and when might you need oneTips for changing it all - and a lot of it has to do with that darn "blue light"Credentials:Mark, in addition to being a graduate student researching at the School of Psychological Sciences in the Faculty of Medicine at Monash University, he is also an Honorary Research Fellow at the Institute for Breathing and Sleep (IBAS) at Austin Health. He received his Bachelor of Arts in Neurobiology with a minor in Global Health and Health Policy from Harvard College.Currently, he is a member of the Lichtman Lab, part of the Harvard Brain Science Initiative and is studying sleep physiology.  And the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Mark's father, Charles Czeisler, PHD MD, is a Professor of Sleep Medicine, Professor of Medicine and Director of the Division of Sleep Medicine at Harvard Medical School and Chief of the Division of Sleep and Circadian Disorders in the Departments of Medicine and Neurology at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston.Thanks again to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Shapermint.comDenise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also l

This is such an important episode and one that we hope all listeners will enjoy this second time around.For parents of adult children, mental health disease is one of our most frightening thoughts.  We are hoping this episode will help us understand, support and accept this disease.  This is a fabulous episode.  Today we speak with Dr. Elizabeth Cookson (Beth) a psychiatrist who has over 35 years of experience.  A former president of the Colorado Psychiatric Society, she is Board Certified in General and Addiction Psychiatry. She has dealt with children and adults of all ages in public psychiatric settings.She is here so that all of us have a better understanding of mental health for both ourselves and our adult children. For over 15 years she worked as the Director of Psychiatry for the Colorado Coalition for Homeless.  Beth explains in laymen terms for all of us the stages of mental health disease, when to look for signs and how to help your child you suspect may be suffering.  We cover so many topics.We loved this episode and feel like Beth was a rockstar interviewee.  Here are links to the resources that Beth mentions in the episode:I'm Not Sick I Don't Need Help, by Xavier Amador, is the source of the LEAP approach (Listen - Empathize - Agree - Partner). More specifics can be found here.The Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act - passed in 2008, went into effect 7/1/14. The heritability statistics I Beth referred to are from REthink.  She says that their website has some of the clearest info and advice for families that she has seen.This blog by a therapist is Washington State has specifics about ways to access CRAFT The Gardener and the Carpenter by Alison GopnikThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!Soraya -Be Convinced! Sharing Lifechanging Stories of HopeHost Soraya Coffelt shares lifechanging stories of hope to encourage and motivate you.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

Another listener favorite.  So many listeners wrote about how they put Dr. Heitler's suggestions to good use!Join us for a conversation with Dr. Susan Heitler, a renowned relationship therapist. She is best  known for clarifying the basics of collaborative dialogue and provides wonderful techniques to use - not only with your adult children but for all of the relationships in your life you value.You will take away real tools, words and actions to develop meaningful relationships.  This is a must listen.  Take your time, take notes and share with others you love.Dr. Heitler appeared on the CBS Early Show where anchor Harry Smith introduced her as “the most influential person in my life—my therapist.”  He encouraged his viewers similarly to seek therapy when they feel  distressed and to check out pre-marital counseling before they wed.Some links you will enjoy:Dr. Heitler's Website  therapyhelp.comDr. Heitler's Tedx TalkPsychology Today (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/susan-heitler-phd)Power of Two (https://www.poweroftwomarriage.com/)This is from Modern Love: The Podcast.  We thought it was appropriate for the advice Dr. Heitler gave us:  "Shamu and a Happy Marriage." (https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/11/style/modern-love-what-shamu-taught-me-happy-marriage.html)Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

This is the episode we've gotten the most mail about!  Listeners loved it!Today Ellen and Denise  welcome Tess Brigham, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and former twenty-something.  In a recent article from CNBC Tess says: “Over a decade ago, when I first became a therapist, I never expected that five years later, my practice would consist of nearly 90% millennials, with the rest of my patients being parents of millennials.”  So she's got both sides of the story for us. Tess has been featured in major media throughout the US  - from the New York Times to O Magazine.  So, we are pretty excited to have her with us today.In that recent CNBC article, she says that the number one complaint parents have about their adult kids is money.  With that lead, we thought we'd challenge Tess with helping us with constructive strategies for the TOP 10 issues between adult kids and their parents. Listen to hear what she says.  We talk about:How she became a millennial therapistSocial Media:  Keeping up with the Jones'How are millennials different from our generationWhat is it about this generation that no other generation has experienced before?Why is this stage of emerging adults so difficult?Tess Brigham CoachingYouTube Channel - lots of tips and tricksSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

This is one funny episode.  That's why we are doing a special EPISODE REWIND.  Today we interview Susan Engel, a professor of psychology at Williams College and the author of the New York Times Article:  When They're Grown, The Real Pain Begins.   Joining Denise as co-host is a dear friend Val Haller.  Val is the mother of four boys, very similar to the ages of Susan's boys when she wrote this article so she is our perfect co-host. (more about Val at the end)Susan tells us that this article still gets very much attention and you can see this by just looking at the over 500 comments and the angst and of course love in so many of them.One of the lines in her NYT story that resonated with us was a quote from a neighbor when she brought her first baby home at a few months old -- "“When they're little they sit on your lap; when they're big they sit on your heart.”Susan takes us through her journey when she wrote the article in 2012 and her three boys were 28, 25 and 19.  Today, ten years later,  she is a grandmother with two of these three boys married and living right next door.  Can you imagine?About Val Haller - our co-host:Val lives in Chicago and is passionate about music.  She is the founder/CEO of the music website Valslist.com. She launched it about 10 years ago (when her nest was empty) and it is the first music site specifically created to help busy adults keep up with new music.  Check it outThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDIN

The emerging adult - now recognized as “the third stage of life.” Our guest today says that studying the emerging adult years (about age 19-29) is much like studying the preschool years — the preschool years set the stage for the teen years, and the emerging adult years set the stage for the future adulthood.  Today we talk with Dr. Larry Nelson, one of the world's leading researchers on the emerging adult years. Dr. Nelson is the president of the Study of Emerging Adulthood (SSEA) and examines factors that contribute to flourishing or floundering during this time. He has published over 70 peer-reviewed journal articles and chapters in edited books on topics including conceptions of adulthood, social withdrawal, and the role of parents and culture in the transition to adulthood.Here are some things you will learn from today's episode:Why is this period of life critical to setting the stage for the adult years?What role do parents play during this stage of life? What are the signals for the flourishing and/or floundering young adult?Why our generation might not have done it “right.”How this stage of life is dealt with in many other parts of the world, and how we can learn from them.…and moreTo learn more about the emerging adult and Dr. Nelson, here are some informative links:Society for the Study of Emerging AdulthoodFlourishing in Emerging Adulthood, book by Dr. NelsonDistinguishing Features of Emerging Adulthood: The Role of Self-Classification as an AdultWe are anxious to hear your thoughts once you have listened to the episode.Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Today we talk about the COVID-19 Outbreak and the rise of anxiety and depression in young adults. We know we are all tired of hearing and reading about COVID-19. But this article in the New York Times caught our attention:  Young Adults Report Rising Levels  of Anxiety and Depression in Pandemic We reached out to the lead author of the study, Mark Czeisler, to talk more about it. Mark is actually younger than many of our adult children, but at 25 years old, he's an accomplished researcher and provided an insightful and impressive interview. He is one of a group of scientists (four from Harvard and one from the University of Melbourne) involved in the COPE Initiative. COPE, which stands for COVID-19 Outbreak Public Evaluation Initiative, assesses public attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs related to the coronavirus disease and the pandemic. The goal is to evaluate mental and behavioral health during the pandemic. Mark is well-spoken and takes us behind the scenes of this study, underscoring the way emerging adults have been affected -- maybe for the long-term -- by the global pandemic. He provides suggestions on how we might support our young adult children and also shares some interesting trends in mental health programs, both at the corporate and governmental levels, that were initiated by this study.We think you will enjoy this - and it is a short one!Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Today we speak with Kerrie Lee Brown, the author of the book My Heart, My Self: A Guide for Women Who Do Too Much.   Are you a people pleaser?   Do you do too much and neglect yourself?  This episode is for you. Does it relate to building healthy relationships with your adult children? You bet it does. Taking care of yourself and your health and learning to say "no," are the exact things that make us good parents - for our children at any age,Kerrie's story spoke to us. We hope it speaks to you.   She also founded an online platform called RedLily, a bold new brand that dedicated to women who want to share their stories and support each other. Kerri believes that each of us have stories to tell. Denise shared a special story on the RedLily platform and will share it with listeners when it goes live. Today we are sharing Kerrie's remarkable story that started her on a journey to helping women around the world tell their own stories and live their best lives.  Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Happy Father's Day.  We hope many father's (and even mother's) listen and take this episode to heart.  It's a good one!This episode is very special.  Not only do we interview an amazing therapist with a special interest in father/son relationships, we hear from many young adults on their father's role in their young adult life.Today, we welcome Dr. Deryl Goldenberg. We learned about him when we saw an article he wrote called: “The Psychology Behind Strained Father and Son Relationships.” With many years of  working with men in therapy, the issues that come up with careers or relationships can often be traced back to their lack of a relationship with their fathers. Goldenberg is a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years in private practice.  He is also the Executive Director of the Verdugo Hills Autism Project, a non-public agency providing intervention services to children with emotional and developmental disorders.  Today, in honor of Father's Day we want to talk about the father's role in the life of the emerging adult child.  We tend to focus so much on mothers, and the father is behind the curtain or many times silent.We talk about so many things and his thoughtful answers can apply to nearly any relationship in our lives.  To become a surgeon, carpenter or teacher takes time, practice and work, he says - but so do relationships.  For a strong relationship to develop a father has to be interested in really knowing their child - whatever their life choices.  This reminded us a bit about our conversation with Rosjke Hasseldine, when she spoke about "understanding" one another.  You do  not have to agree, but work to understand.  If you missed it, here is a link to that episode. We talk about anger, finance and generosity, relationships and  so much more.This is a thoughtful and helpful interview.  Don't miss it.Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

We sharing our LGBTQ+ episode that we dropped in Season I for Pride Month.  It remains one of our favorite episodes.We hope you will listen.Here are the episode notes from the earlier episode:Every time I listen to an episode, I think to myself, "everyone needs to listen to this. There are so many valuable nuggets of information for all of us in every episode."For this episode - I plead with everyone to listen and share it.  Many of us think we are progressive and accepting, but to step into someone's shoes helps us learn so much more.  This episode is NOT JUST FOR PARENTS of LGBTQ+ children, but for ALL OF US.  Let me know what you think. Today I speak with Levi Teachey, who is the Board President of PFLAG Denver, and Stacey Shigaya, who is the organization's Board Secretary.Levi shares his very personal journey as a trans man and Stacey shares her journey both as an ally within the LGBTQ+ community and with her daughter who is pansexual.We discuss both their stories and the rapidly changing landscape of this community.  Planned Parenthood writes: "Understanding the words, and the labels people use encourages respect and understanding."Please share the episode with friends and family who you think might benefit. Stacey and Levi also shared these documents which I found very helpful:Glossary of Terms (https://pflag.org/glossary)Faith FAQs (https://pflag.org/faithfaq)Becoming a Trans Ally 101 (https://pflag.org/transally101recording)Finally, Levi ends each of his emails with this phrase -- "courage, kindness and lasting change," -- keep it handy!PFLAG is a national organization founded in 1972 by Jeanne Manford, who marched with her son, in a gay pride parade in New York, with a sign that read: "Parents of Gays Unite."  It has become one of the most important organizations building support for friends and families of the LGBTQ+ community.  Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie CouricFinally, please remember to subscribe to this podcast, give us a review and follow us on all of our social media platforms:FacebookInstagramTwitterAnd PLEASE reach out to us by email with any suggestions for guests or episode ideas that YOU want see covered:  Email: Biteyourtonguepodcast@gmail.comFinally, remember there are just sometimes you have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!Until next time - keep on listening!

Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of BITE YOUR TONGUE: The Podcast.You asked for it!  This is another episode that answers a listener question!But before we start - think about supporting the podcast and buy us a coffee.  That's all it takes.  CLICK HERE TO BUY US A COFFEE.This is a quick a very quick refresher course on understanding the LGBTQ+ pronouns and languageAbout a year ago we had  of our most emotional episodes about understanding LGBTQ+ with Levi Teachey, President of P-Flag Denver and Stacy Shigaway, a parent of a pansexual daughter.Even since that episode things have changed.  We can't seem to keep our  pronouns and language straight for this ever-changing community.Our listeners asked for a refresher and we are happy to oblige. And we found the perfect guest.  Denise was in LA recently visiting her daughter.  She took a walk with a friend and a young 20-something person joined the group who identified as non-binary, using the pronoun “they.”  Denise was  tripping over her tongue the entire walk and finally at the end she asked they if they might join us on the podcast.  They agreed and here we are.They is concise and articulate.  Here is a link to the article we discuss:  What Quakers Can Teach Us About the Politics of Pronouns. This may be from WIKI, but we found this helpful as well. Print it out and work on learning these new and important pronouns. Don't forget our special offer from  Shapermint --  Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.If you order  now  using this LINK - you will get 20% off your purchase!  We will get a few bucks too!  So check out the website today - make sure to use our link.  We really love these BRAS!!!!Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

We are on it!  Today we are talking about mothers and daughters!But before we start - think about supporting the podcast and buy us a coffee.  That's all it takes.  CLICK HERE TO BUY US A COFFEE.And it begins with the burnt hamburger.  But more about that in today's episode.  You will have to listen.A listener wrote: Where have you been for the last 15 years? I have been searching for books, podcasts, and the internet for some real support on parenting adult children. Nothing.”  The listener proceeded to ask if we might explore more about the mother/daughter relationship and expressed some of the struggles she was having with her own adult daughters.In her message she said that she imagined that as she and her daughter got older, they would become closer. But instead, she feels like she is biting her tongue all the time.You asked for it - and we're on it!  Denise and Ellen welcomed Rosjke Hasseldine, an internationally recognized mother-daughter therapist with over 20 years listening to women and girls from around the world talk about their lives and relationships. Rosjke is the creator of the Mother-Daughter Coaching Model which uncovers and explains the hidden dynamics between mothers and daughters. She is also the author of two books - "The Silent Female Scream'' and "The Mother-Daughter Puzzle".  What started as a personal quest for Hasseldine grew quickly into her life's calling.  She says, “Despite the research on women's development, there is a worldwide epidemic of mother-daughter conflict that is screaming to be told.”Listening to this  podcast is just the beginning.  In her book, "The Mother-Daughter Puzzle"” she provides step by step instructions on how to map your mother-daughter history. Then in the following chapters she teaches you how to go about changing these destructive generational themes and beliefs.It's a powerful book that will help us peel back the layers and examine our mother-daughter history. Then, learn to connect the dots between what's happening between you and your mother or daughter. Visit Mother Daughter Coaching International  for information about Hasseldine, her books, training courses, and free articles and videos.  We are anxious to get listener feedback.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.&a

Today Denise and Ellen welcome Michelle Martinez, who is not only a Certified Wedding Consultant, with more than 20 years in the wedding and events industry, but also the creator and host of the world's mosts popular wedding podcast - The Big Wedding Planning Podcast. With 300 episodes under her belt and nearly three million downloads, she's been around the block a few times!Ellen's daughter is getting married so Ellen has some inside scoop on some of her issues. Michelle helps us see the whole picture, what are role is of parents - of the bride or the groom and underscores her three missions:Inclusivity is keyPerfection is a mythWedding planning for allIt seems to all come back to what Julie Dolan told us in our grand-parenting episode about being the loving and loyal servant.We talk about:The role of the bride and groom's familyHow the bride's family can help the groom's family feel more comfortableThe role of the newly engaged coupleGuest listsFinances and moreIf you are in the stages of wedding planning and don't have the budget for a big time wedding planner, Michelle now offers a masterclass on her website.  A tiny percent of what a full wedding planner would cost.  Check it out her Master Class offer here.Don't forget our "AND ONE MORE THING...BITE YOUR TONGUE" MUGS!  They are available on our website.  Here is quick link. Help support the podcast. Please stay engaged.  We can't thank listeners enough for their feedback and suggestions on topics to explore.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.  Write us at biteyourtonguepodcast@gmail.comSubscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all on social media and leave some comments - we love them!If you have ideas for future episodes, please email us at biteyourtonguepodcast.com.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer and remember - SOMETIMES YOU MAY JUST HAVE TO BITE YOUR TONGUE!&

You asked for it!  This episode is dedicated to the often-complicated relationship with mothers-in-laws and their daughter-in-laws. If you've ever felt slighted or wanted more connection than the other is willing to give -  this is the episode for you! For several months listeners have asked us to find someone who could talk to us about the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law dynamic.   So many layers to all of this.  We did some searching and this episode features our interview with  Dr. Deanna Brann. Dr. Deanna, as she likes to be called, is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and is a leading expert in the area of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships. She works with women involved in this pivotal yet particularly challenging relationship, and has helped women nationwide to restore hope and bring healing to their families.She is the author of the popular book,  Reluctantly Related: Breaking Free of the Mother-in-Law/Daughter-in Law Conflict. What you will love about the book and her website is that there are questionnaires to help you identify your personality type as well as your daughter-in-law's.  Then she provides steps to help you improve or enhance your relationship.She provides great insight for all of you who are mother-in-laws to first look inside yourself. Examine what YOU may be contributing.  Take the highroad.You may also enjoy some of the information on her YOUTUBE channel.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer and remember - SOMETIMES YOU MAY JUST HAVE TO BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Today Ellen and Denise  welcome Tess Brigham, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and former twenty-something.  In a recent article from CNBC Tess says: “Over a decade ago, when I first became a therapist, I never expected that five years later, my practice would consist of nearly 90% millennials, with the rest of my patients being parents of millennials.”  So she's got both sides of the story for us. Tess has been featured in major media throughout the US  - from the New York Times to O Magazine.  So, we are pretty excited to have her with us today.In that recent CNBC article, she says that the number one complaint parents have about their adult kids is money.  With that lead, we thought we'd challenge Tess with helping us with constructive strategies for the TOP 10 issues between adult kids and their parents.  Listen to hear what she says.  We talk about:How she became a millennial therapistSocial Media:  Keeping up with the Jones'How are millennials different from our generationWhat is it about this generation that no other generation has experienced before?Why is this stage of emerging adults so difficult?Tess Brigham CoachingYouTube Channel - lots of tips and tricksSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

This is a fun episode.  Today Denise interviews Stanford grads and Brooklyn comedians Carolyn Doyle and Emily Kop. Always wanting to understand and relate to the younger generation, we found these two 20-somethings by listening to their podcast called OKAY STUPID.  While listening Denise found herself gasping as they spoke so personally about their lives - including their sex lives. We wanted to learn more - about them, their podcast, their relationship with their parents and of course, their generation.Caroline grew up in San Francisco and has performed stand-up in Chicago, Berlin, the Bay Area and New York, as well as at comedy festivals like SF Sketchfest, the DC Comedy Festival, and Big Little Comedy Fest.  She's also a contributor to Reductress and McSweeney's. I learned after the interview that she is also a mechanical engineer!  Emily Kop, also from California,  has a lower profile but also performs regularly with Caroline and you can follow her on INSTAGRAM. They've been best friends since their freshman year at Stanford.It's a lively conversation about all of these things and more...and a chance to meet these two incredible young women who are following unique paths in life.You can see them perform regularly at Union Hall in Brooklyn.  Their next show is April 30 and here is a link with information and how to purchase tickets.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer and remember - SOMETIMES YOU MAY JUST HAVE TO BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Ellen joins Denise in today's episode as we chat with Julia Pimsluer.  Denise actually met Julia in a coffee shop in New York and the two began to chat.Denise opens the episode with the information that Empty Nest is actually a real "syndrome." In fact on the Mayo Clinic site, it says "If your last child is about to leave home and you're worried about empty nest syndrome, plan ahead. Look for new opportunities in your personal and professional life." So in today's episode that is what we are talking about.  Building Your Own Life   - After the Empty Nest.Julia is a scaling couch, speaker and best-selling author.  She is founder of Million Dollar Women, a New York-based social venture, which has helped thousands of women entrepreneurs  scale their businesses. Prior to that, she founded  and built Little Pim, a language learning program for young children, into a million-dollar company. We discuss that we are not all looking to build million dollar businesses, but we are all looking for the confidence to build our lives.  Julia discusses tools for all of us to start working on our mindset to inspire us to do all that we can do.  Here are some of Julia's book recommendations:GO Big Now, Julia PimsluerFinding Your Own North Star, by Martha BeckThe Power of Regret, Daniel Pink (How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward)"The Power of Regret shows how we can live richer, more engaged lives."Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and com

Today Ellen and Denise interviewed Judith Smith, the author of a new book called:  Difficult: Mothering Challenging Adult Children through Conflict and Change.Judith is a leader in gerontological research focusing on women's experiences as they age. She is a senior clinical social worker, therapist, and professor at Fordham University. She lives in New York City.Difficult focuses on adult children and takes the unique perspective of the mother.  I struggled reading this book and felt such compassion for these mothers and the sacrifices they made. Judith wrote the book because she discovered that there was very little written about parenting adult children and in particular for these mothers who were saddled with very difficult situations. Judith is writing about a particular set of mothers.  Mothers truly who have difficult adult children. She talks about her hope that using the words, "difficult adult child" will help others understand and be supportive.  She says that 80 percent  of all children are being raised in a single family home and the person carrying most of the weight is the mother.  That is changing, but not by much. Societal problems are also contributing to this issue. A broken mental health system.  Not enough psychiatric beds, we do not have sufficient substance abuse care that is affordable and accessible. The homeless problem is connected to the mental health.Also fascinating is what she learned during this research about elder abuse.  The most likely perpetrator is the adult child who is mentally ill or has a substance abuse problem and is living at home. She offers some great advice on how to help mothers struggling with difficult adult children and the small steps mothers can use to help themselves and be heard. There are no magical answers but she pushed herself to think about this and offers some tools both on the episode and in the book.Judith urges listeners to stay in touch by emailing her at judithsmith@difficultmothering.com and check out her website at  difficultmothering.com.Here final hope is that this book will help these mothers not feel alone. Some links: JASA. Book:  Torn in Two. Prochaska and DiClemte's Stages of Change AlanonSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!

This is one funny episode. Today we interview Susan Engel, a professor of psychology at Williams College and the author of the New York Times Article:  When They're Grown, The Real Pain Begins.   Joining Denise as co-host is a dear friend Val Haller.  Val is the mother of four boys, very similar to the ages of Susan's boys when she wrote this article so she is our perfect co-host. (more about Val at the end)Susan tells us that this article still gets very much attention and you can see this by just looking at the over 500 comments and the angst and of course love in so many of them.One of the lines in her NYT story that resonated with us was a quote from a neighbor when she brought her first baby home at a few months old -- "“When they're little they sit on your lap; when they're big they sit on your heart.”Susan takes us through her journey when she wrote the article in 2012 and her three boys were 28, 25 and 19.  Today, ten years later,  she is a grandmother with two of these three boys married and living right next door.  Can you imagine?About Val Haller - our co-host:Val lives in Chicago and is passionate about music.  She is the founder/CEO of the music website Valslist.com. She launched it about 10 years ago (when her nest was empty) and it is the first music site specifically created to help busy adults keep up with new music.  Check it out.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer and remember - SOMETIMES YOU MAY JUST HAVE TO BITE YOUR TONGUE!

WE ARE ON IT!  Answering YOUR Questions!Today's Question:How do you handle a situation where your adult child is participating in what you believe is dangerous behavior?  They are not getting the COVID VaccineYou suspect they are drinking too muchYou recognize an abusive relationshipThese are just a few of the topics we discuss with two experts.  The first you may remember from a previous episode (TALK THE TALK) with Dr. Susan Heitler, a renowned relationship therapist. She is best  known for clarifying the basics of collaborative dialogue and provides wonderful techniques to use - not only with your adult children but for all of the relationships in your life you value.Dr. Heitler's WebsiteWe do some "role playing" and she helps us with the right words, right tone and right attitude to approach our adult children on these difficult subjects.VACCINE HESITANCYSpecial course offering by our guest:  COVID Vaccine Ambassador Training. Don't miss it.And because COVID-19 is such a central topic and concern these days, we also spoke with Rupali J. Limaye, PhD, MPH, MA who serves as a full-time faculty member with Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. She is a leading researcher in vaccine demand; vaccine hesitancy; vaccine acceptance; health behavior change; infectious diseases.  In her work she has interviewed thousands of vaccine hesitant people and believesthat vaccine hesitancy comes down to one word: TRUST.  She says:   "It's really important for all of us to keep empathy front and center and to not be dismissive. A lot of people just need to talk it out and have a longer conversation."Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer and remember - SOMETIMES YOU MAY JUST HAVE TO BITE YOUR TONGUE!

The parent I hope to be.  The Children I hope to raise.We believe that this episode will change everything you think ever thought about parenting.This is one of the most personal interviews we've done.  Our vulnerability in raising our own adult children is challenged.   On this week's episode we speak with Einat Nathan, parenting expert and best selling author. We talk to her about her recent  book, My Everything, was released in Israel in 2018 and become a national bestseller. The book was translated into English and is now one of the #1 non-fiction books selling on Amazon.Her approach is relationship focused. She says:  "“I believe that parenthood is like a bungee jump. It's scary and fun, it makes you fly and often lets you down. This book isn't so much a parenting guide as an exploration of the complex emotional journey of being a parent, reminding us of the courage and energy it requires as well as acknowledging that no parent is perfect and at the end of the day, this relationship is about connection”.MY NAME IS EINAT AND THIS IS MY EVERYTHINGWe talk about everything from our egos, why anxiety is a misleading emotion, how to remain significant as our children grow and here are a few things she said that keeps us thinking:"Just as you think about a talk with a good friend, they need us curious enough, empathic enough, ready to have their back in a way that won't burden them with 'Oh God, I've ruined by mom's day' or 'She's over-identifying with me so maybe I should not tell her anything'"Every parent wants to be their adult child's first call when something goes wrong, but we need to earn that.And how do we earn that? Just listen and learn.This is one of our most personal and insightful interviews with a most inspirational guest. We hope you enjoy it.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher our audio engineer and remember - SOMETIMES YOU MAY JUST HAVE TO BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Listeners,Enjoy these pearls of wisdom garnered by our amazing guests this year.  Thank you to our audio engineer Connie Fisher who brilliantly put this together.We hope you will go to our website biteyourtonguepodcast.com and listen to any of the episodes you missed in the first season.Looking forward to meeting again in 2022.Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Today we speak with the amazing Sarah Morris, a legacy and estate planning attorney in Denver, Colorado.  Sarah specializing in wills, trusts, and philanthropy.  She was recommended to us by a very trusted friend and listener. When our friend gave Sarah a rating of a 10 +, we knew she was our gal.This is a great episode to listen to with your kids or share the link so they can understand the legal documents that they need to have by the time they are 18-years-old. This is a quick episode that gets right to the point. Listen to hear what documents your adult kids must have at 18-years-old.  Why the items are important and how they should be stored and shared.  She also discusses the ever-important - digital assets.Here is Sarah's website -- Sarah Morris Law --  if you want to speak with her more or want advice on getting started.We hope you enjoy the episode.  If you've missed any of our episodes, just visit our website: Biteyoutonguepodcast.com and listen when you can!One quick favor:  If you liked this episode - please share with a friend - but for sure listen with your adult child -- or share the episode with them!Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Welcome to another episode of BITE YOUR TONGUE.  The is part 2 of  "Holidays and your Adult Children."Connie Fisher, our audio engineer co-hosted this episode with Denise. They are sisters and figured that they had spent a lot of time going home for the holidays! So this was a fun episode to record.Ginny offered quite a bit of insightful observations that will get all of us to think:Relationships are dances - and if the parent/child relationship does not evolve (from parent/child to adult/adult) -- we just keep dancing the same dance.She gives us some great advice on how we, as parents can work on our dance and in turn, help the relationship to evolve.She explains that criticism and judgement come from fear. We may not think we are showing our fear, but our adult kids feel it and then.....Active listening - you will hear what she says about this!Ginny also has a specialty in eating disorders and she shares some interesting thoughts about food and the one thing not to do if you think your child has a weight issue.We don't want to give the whole episode away, but urge you to listen and really think about Ginny's advice and ideas.Many things she says are different from anything you've heard before - and frankly - it really starts us YOU......A thoughtful and insightful episode we think you will love.Here is a link to Ginny's article: "Why Adult Kids Don't Come Home for the Holidays."Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

This is part I of our double whammy holiday episodes.  Part 2 will drop on Friday - that's only two days from now.  Today we speak with Jane Isay.   She is the author of the book Walking on Eggshells, Navigating the Delicate Relationships between Adult Children and Parents.  She is a New Yorker from birth and gets right to the point.Have you had enough togetherness during the holidays? "Shut the door," she says. How about when the kids come home, how to make them happy? "Give them the keys!"And, wait until you hear what she said about her son who was Chief of Staff for Chuck Schumer's first senatorial campaign.  And just as a hint - it references Al D'Amato!!!! But there is lots more. Jane's bio is extraordinary. She's been an editor for over forty years. She discovered Mary Pipher's Reviving Ophelia, commissioned Patricia O'Connor's bestselling Woe Is I and Rachel Simmons' s Odd Girl Out, and edited such nonfiction classics as Praying for Sheetrock and Friday Night Lights. And of course she's written several books of her own, including Walking on Eggshells and her latest Unconditional Love. Jane's son is Dave Isay, the founder of StoryCorps. Here is a link to an interview for TED Talks he did with his mother. We hope you laugh out loud with this episode and love Jane as much as we did.Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Today we speak with Jane Adams, PhD and author of the book, When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us, Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving them Anyways and Getting on with Our Lives."In addition to being an author (of several books) , Jane is a "post-parent" coach.  And that is what our podcast is all about.  She also has a blog that she updates regularly on Psychology Today. Our dreams for our children begin as soon as they are placed in our arms - "give them a chance to grow up" Jane says, "before you make a judgement."She writes on her website:  "Being a parent doesn't end – it lasts as long as you do. I'm a social psychologist who's been studying how we handle our kids' transitions from youth to adulthood – on time, late or still not there yet. From Sex and the Single Parent to I'm Still Your Mother and When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us, I've been interviewing, researching and coaching parents who want their grown kids to be happy and successful in life but want a mutual, loving and authentic relationship with them even more. Whether you're a baby boomer or a GenX er, if your kids have moved out or boomeranged back in, and even if the ties that bind are frayed and worn, they're still what keeps you together."And that's what we talk about today.  Here are some of the topics we cover - but there is a whole lot more!Are we entitled to reasonable expectations of our kids?Why we feel guilty about being disappointed. It is not about us - it is about them.How can we not worry when we  watch a child drop out of school, live on the edge with no real goals for the future?  Whose story is it anyway?  When they mess up, is it really about us?How not to blame ourselves when things don't go as plannedAddicted, depressed or dependent - detour or final destination - and when do parents give up - or can you?She talks about parents of adult children - they either brag or lie!Why these emerging adult years cause such worry?  Will they be latched on to us forever - will they ever be independent. So, if you are disappointed  - how do you let go of their problems, love them anyway and get on with your life?Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

For parents of adult children, mental health disease is one of our most frightening thoughts.  We are hoping this episode will help us understand, support and accept this disease.  This is a fabulous episode.  Today we speak with Dr. Elizabeth Cookson (Beth) a psychiatrist who has over 35 years of experience.  A former president of the Colorado Psychiatric Society, she is Board Certified in General and Addiction Psychiatry. She has dealt with children and adults of all ages in public psychiatric settings.She is here so that all of us have a better understanding of mental health for both ourselves and our adult children. For over 15 years she worked as the Director of Psychiatry for the Colorado Coalition for Homeless.  Beth explains in laymen terms for all of us the stages of mental health disease, when to look for signs and how to help your child you suspect may be suffering.  We cover so many topics.We loved this episode and feel like Beth was a rockstar interviewee.  Here are links to the resources that Beth mentions in the episode:I'm Not Sick I Don't Need Help, by Xavier Amador, is the source of the LEAP approach (Listen - Empathize - Agree - Partner). More specifics can be found here.The Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act - passed in 2008, went into effect 7/1/14. The heritability statistics I Beth referred to are from REthink.  She says that their website has some of the clearest info and advice for families that she has seen.This blog by a therapist is Washington State has specifics about ways to access CRAFT The Gardener and the Carpenter by Alison GopnikThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE! 

Special episode with new guest host:  Connie Fisher. Connie is usually behind the scenes doing our tech work, but today she joined Denise to talk to  Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo. They are the hosts of the #1 marriage podcasts on Apple podcasts called One Extraordinary Marriage.Does this sound like you?Are you and your partner out of sync since you are no longer parenting young children?As your empty nest impacted your marriage?Do you wish for the same level of connection and intimacy you once had?Do you need the emotional skills to stay connected with your partner?Do you fear the important things are falling through the cracks?Then this episode is for you!Links to other mentions in the podcast:The Vagina BibleThe Penis Book10  Questions to Amazing Sex with Your PartnerTony and Alisa's Favorite Sex ToyThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Today we talk to Cameron Huddleston, an award-winning journalist who has been writing for over 20 years on personal finance.  US News and World Report named her one of the top finance experts to follow on Twitter.  Link to her Twitter feed.She just released an amazing book called, “Mom and Dad, We Need to Talk.”  The target for the book is our kids of course, but we switched the conversation with Cameron and called it - “Hey Adult Kids, We Need to Talk.”Here are some of the things we discuss:Why it is important to have a conversation with your adult kids now about estate planning (and estate planning is not just for rich people!).How to broach the subjects of estate planning and end-of-life planning  with your kids.The key legal documents that you need to have now, and how often to update them.Other important documents and information,  including passwords, car titles, bank accounts and more.  Here is a link to Cameron's IN CASE OF EMERGENGY document - or you can also download it from her website. It could take you weeks to complete, but it is a starting point in understanding all that your adult children need to know NOW!  Even though you are healthy and really don't think you will die or be injured soon, why it is so very important to be prepared.Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

EPISODE NOTESJoining us today are Nyge Turner and Merk Nguyen, the hosts of the wildly popular podcast - Adult ISH. Produced by YR Media and Radiotopia from PRX, these two young adults have become prominent voices of their generation. This episode they discuss everything from mental health and work ethic to social media and their relationships with their parents. They also bring a bit of diversity to BITE YOUR TONGUE. Nyge is an African American and I found through some research that he always wanted to be Eddie Murphy.  Merk is Vietnamese, in fact her parents immigrated to the US from Vietnam soon after 1975.More about our guests:Angela "Merk" Nguyen, 24, is an LA-based podcast producer who is a self-described "cis sis with a knack for puns and alliterations." She got her start in audio through KUOW's RadioActive Youth Media and can #humblebrag about being on NPR airwaves as a teen. She also aspires to be the next SpongeBob ( really, ask about her voice acting dreams).Nygel Turner, 24, is an Oakland, California-based creator of Not Your Father's Podcast and YouTube series Not Your Mama's Kitchen. Nyge is the only person in Oakland who has never lost an argument. One day we'll all see him own the red Jeep of his fantasies.Some things to remember:Subscribe to BITE YOUR TONGUE wherever you listen.  And if you like what you hear - give us a 5 Star review!You can listen to all our episodes, at any time, by visiting our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comFollow up on our social media platformsFacebookInstagramTwitterLinkedInThanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

Grandparenting.  This episode is for anyone who is a grandparent, has a grandparent in their life - or might soon become a grandparent. Or you just love an exceptional interview with a fabulous guest!We welcome Julie Dolan Smith, one of the legendary Satellite Sisters.  With over 20-years in the radio/podcast industry, Julie has now taken on the alter ego of “Urban Nana.”  With 10 grandchildren and  years of experience, her wit and wisdom will make you laugh. and think.We explore with Julie many questions submitted by listeners:When should grandparents get involved in disciplining, or even just talking to their grandchildren about their bad or impolite behavior, if ever?  When does it become necessary to tell the parents about bad or unkind behavior from the grandchildren?When grandchildren are at their grandparents' home,  being taken care of by the grandparents, whose rules have to be followed? What is your advice for the grandparent who lives far away from the grandchildren? How can they keep the connection alive?She sums things up very quickly with ONE piece of advice we all will want to tape to our foreheads.We hope you enjoy the episode.  To learn more about Julie and the Satellite Sisters, visit their website.  You can link to all of their podcast episodes, read the bios and learn why this podcast is really like “having coffee with a friend.”  Here is a quick link to their 20-year-history video.If you've missed any of our episodes, just visit our website: Biteyoutonguepodcast.com and listen when you can!Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!

In this episode, we speak to two young adults -- Sarah and Dan.  Both of them are in their early 30s.  We work to uncover their thoughts about young adulthood and the role their parents played in their journey.Full disclosure --  both of these young adults, although from different parts of the country, are white and from middle to upper-middle-class families.  Our goal over the next year is to speak with more young adults, from many different backgrounds.  But this is a start.Both of them give us some solid advice on issues such as:Do they want to know if you do not approve of their significant other?How often should you call - or not?When did they feel like they were "adults," and what did it mean to them?What is the hardest part of being an adult?How do their families deal with finances and if they were ready for a fiancial education in their younger years?Did they have reckless years in their 20s and do they agree with our earlier interveiw with Dr. Larry Nelson?Stay- tuned for their final advice at the end of the episode.  It is worth waiting for.Remember to write to us with your thoughts on the episodes and what topics you would like us to cover.  Reach us at biteyourtonguepodcast@gmail.com.Thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Visit our website at www.biteyourtonguepodcast.comSupport us:Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HERESome deals for listeners:Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Please stay engaged.  Let us know how you like the episodes and also let us know what topics you'd like us to explore.Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform - and give us a review!Follow us on all of our social media platforms - and comment - we love to hear from you!FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   LINKEDINAnd remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!