Podcast appearances and mentions of Karl Pillemer

After television, a big part of the ad budget for fast-food restaurants' is spent on outdoor advertising like billboards. This episode begins with the impact of that advertising and some insight into how fast-food restaurants get you to eat their food. https://www.apa.org/topics/obesity/food-advertising-children You have undoubtedly had people in your life who inspired you. What was it that made them so inspiring? What are the necessary traits of an inspiring person? How can you be more inspiring to others? That is what Adam Galinsky is here to discuss, and it is something he knows a lot about. Adam is social psychologist and Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School as well as the author of the book Inspire: The Universal Path for Leading Yourself and Others (https://amzn.to/3EeUYN6). Nature has a lot of rules and regulations. And those rules are what allow all the creatures and plants on earth to co-exist. We humans rely on other plants and species to do what they do to help create an environment that allows us to survive and thrive. Many of these other species we never interact with or even know about – but we are all following the rules. Here to explains these rules of how life works is Sean B. Carroll, an award-winning scientist who is vice president for science education at the Howard Hughes Medical Institute and professor of molecular biology and genetics at the University of Wisconsin–Madison. He is author of the book The Serengeti Rules: The Quest to Discover How Life Works and Why It Matters (https://amzn.to/3E69uq8). What makes a relationship work? Listen to discover what 700 married couples said was most important for a long and happy relationship – and they are things that are so simple. Source: Dr. Karl Pillemer, author of 30 Lessons For Loving (https://amzn.to/3EcsovL). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As Betterment's Director of Behavioral Science, Dan Egan knows that understanding human behavior is key to your client's financial success. But knowing that's true and knowing what to do about it are two different things. There are a lot of opinions thrown around in the behavioral finance space on what works and what doesn't. And you probably don't want to “test” some of these ideas on clients you hope to work with for 10-30 years. For years, Dan has been testing behavioral finance interventions to figure out what actually works (and what is a waste of time). In this episode, he reveals proven ideas you can implement to enhance your client's outcomes without having to go through your own trial-and-error process. What You'll Learn: How to frame taxes to prevent impulsive decisions How visualizing goals makes saving more consistent Why you should NOT engage clients during a market downturn How robo-advisors actually enhance the value of human advisors The two types of clients most likely to panic during market volatility *To sign up for Brendan's newsletter packed with resources to master the human side of advice → Click Here Resources: "Siddhartha" by Hermann Hesse "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" by Robert M. Pirsig "Atomic Habits" by James Clear 30 Lessons for Living by Karl Pillemer, Ph. D. Research by Dilip Soman Research by Eric Johnson Research by Abby Sussman Michael Kitces Connect with Brendan Frazier:  RFG Advisory LinkedIn: Brendan Frazier Connect with Daniel P. Egan: LinkedIn: Daniel P. Egan Betterment Advisor Solutions About Our Guest:  Dan Egan is a behavioral finance professional and the Director of Behavioral Science at Betterment. With years of experience applying behavioral principles to financial technology, Dan focuses on improving client outcomes by helping people make better decisions, especially during stressful times. His work highlights the powerful intersection of psychology and technology in shaping the future of financial advice. – Content here is for illustrative purposes and general information only. It is not legal, tax, or individualized financial advice; nor is it a recommendation to buy, sell, or hold any specific security, or engage in any specific trading strategy. Information here may be provided, in part, by third-party sources. These sources are generally deemed to be reliable; however, neither our guest nor RFG Advisory guarantee the accuracy of third-party sources. The views expressed here are those of our guest. They do not necessarily represent those of RFG Advisory, its employees, or its clients. This commentary should not be regarded as a description of advisory services provided by RFG Advisory, or performance returns of any client. The views reflected in the commentary are subject to change at any time without notice. Securities offered by Registered Representatives of Private Client Services. Member FINRA / SIPC. Advisory services offered by Investment Advisory Representatives of RFG Advisory, LLC (“RFG Advisory or “RFG”), a registered investment advisor. Private Client Services and RFG Advisory are unaffiliated entities. Advisory services are only offered to clients or prospective clients where RFG Advisory and its representatives are properly licensed or exempt from licensure. No advisory services may be rendered by RFG Advisory unless a client agreement is in place. RFG Advisory is an SEC-registered investment adviser. SEC registration does not constitute an endorsement of RFG by the Commission, nor does it indicate that RFG or any associated investment advisory representative has attained a particular level of skill or ability.

En théorie, les fêtes de fin d'année devraient nous rendre heureux·ses. Mais en réalité, la magie n'opère pas toujours, et c'est encore pire quand la famille n'est pas un endroit où l'on se sent en sécurité. Laura et Bruno, qui témoignent dans cet épisode et qui ne parlent plus à une partie de leurs familles respectives, n'aiment pas cette période de l'année. Ils ont longtemps hésité avant de couper les ponts, et ne l'ont en fait pas tout à fait décidé, alors même que leurs histoires familiales sont lourdes. Pourquoi est-ce si difficile de rompre avec sa famille ? Vaut-il mieux essayer de maintenir le lien à tout prix ? Dans cet épisode, Marie Misset se rend à la Maison des liens familiaux dans le 19e arrondissement de Paris et y interroge Clarisse Bompoint, psychologue et directrice du lieu sur les processus de médiation qui s'y passent. Elle fait également appel au psychologue Adrien Chignard, qui a travaillé sur la question des conflits et leur résolution, ainsi qu'au philosophe Maxime Rovère, auteur de Se vouloir du bien et se faire du mal. Philosophie de la dispute.Pour aller plus loin : - L'épisode de Faites des gosses “Peut-on se mettre nu devant son enfant ?” sur la notion d'incestualité- “Survivre à Noël” de Stéphane Floccari- “My absolute darling” de Gabriel Tallent- “Nos puissantes amitiés” d'Alice Raybaud- “Une aspiration au dehors” de Geoffroy de Lagasnerie- “Fault lines” de Karl Pillemer (en anglais) - Le sondage “Dans la tête des Français” par Opinion Way pour le Parisien en 2023Si cet épisode vous a plu, nous vous conseillons d'écouter un autre épisode d'Émotions : Doit-on aimer sa famille ?Émotions est un podcast de Louie Media. Marie Misset a tourné, écrit et monté cet épisode. La réalisation sonore est de Guillaume Girault. Le générique est réalisé par Clémence Reliat, à partir d'un extrait d'En Sommeil de Jaune. Elsa Berthault est en charge de la production. Pour avoir des news de Louie, des recos podcasts et culturelles, abonnez-vous à notre newsletter en cliquant ici. À l'occasion de la sortie du hors-série Cerveau & Psycho consacré aux émotions, profitez d'une offre exclusive, réservée aux auditeurs.trices d'Emotions, en vous rendant sur ce lien. Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.

Natalie McVeigh joins me to talk about her interest in the study of neuroscience of stress and conflict and how she uses what she continues to learn about human brains, emotions, and stimuli in her work with families as a coach, consultant, and mediator. And she helps to bust a few brain myths. Here are some key points Natalie made: perception is everything. When we think about conflict we should focus not on the stimuli (which can very rarely control), but on our response to stimuli. We are 100% irrational. Our beliefs follow our behavior.Natalie recommended two books by Neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett: How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain andSeven and a Half Lessons About the Brain. She also mentioned Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them by Karl Pillemer.Find her on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nataliemcveigh/Find Natalie at EisnerAmper here: https://www.eisneramper.com/about-us/professional-directory/natalie-mcveigh/Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/And you can follow us on Twitter @conflictsolving.  

June 4, 2024 - One in six residents of assisted living facilities in New York have experienced physical or verbal aggression from a fellow resident, according to a study from Dr. Karl Pillemer, professor of gerontology in medicine at Weill Cornell Medicine.

To my teenagers, climate change is an existential crisis.  It's the end of the world as we know it.  They decry the lack of serious attention and prioritization this issue has in the US.  My kids ask - why don't adults care about this issue the same way that they and their friends care about it?  My kids have taught me that the emphasis on personal responsibility (reduce your carbon footprint!) was supported by the fossil fuel industry, because it shifted responsibility for change from industry to individuals.  Voting and emailing congress to advocate for systemic change (e.g. less reliance on fossil fuels) likely has a greater impact than recycling your newspaper. Today we find inspiration for my kids: there are adults who care deeply about this issue, particularly for older adults who are much more vulnerable to health effects of climate change. Karl Pillemer is a sociologist and gerontologist who studies this issue and has created a platform called, “Aging and Climate Change Clearinghouse,” that is a wide tent with room for older adults, researchers, and organizations.  As a researcher, I found the bibliography fascinating, including this gem by the gerontologist Rick Moody on the moral obligation of older adults to address climate change.  Leslie Wharton is a leader in the 26,000 member grassroots organization Elders Climate Action, which organizes older adults to create communities engaged in making a difference at local, state, and national levels.  As she notes, these volunteer activities can bring meaning and purpose, in the face of a seemingly insurmountable problem, to the elders in her organization.  And we talk with Ruth McDermott-Levy, who wrote a practical guide for discharge planning in the era of climate change (example - a generator safety checklist).  Ruth advocates for and teaches about aging and climate change at Villanova, and calls on nurse scientists and other health researchers to study climate change. -@AlexSmithMD    Additional links: JAMA paper on clinical research risks, climate change, and health Geriatric medicine in the era of climate change  Health Care Without Harm: https://noharm.org/ Practice Green Health: https://practicegreenhealth.org/ Global Consortium for Climate and Health Education: https://www.publichealth.columbia.edu/research/programs/global-consortium-climate-health-education

The holidays are a time for family, and for some, for the first time since the pandemic, multigenerational gatherings, which makes them the ideal time to talk with your family about your estate plan. In this episode of Edelman Financial Engines' Everyday Wealth™, Jean and wealth planner Andy Smith discuss how to broach the topic of estate planning - from what to say to who to say it to - and how a planner could make those conversations a lot easier. Later in the episode, Jean interviews Dr. Karl Pillemer, one of America's leading family sociologists and researchers on aging, on family estrangement and how to navigate difficult conversations with family members during the holidays.   Ms. Chatzky receives cash compensation for acting as hosts of the Everyday Wealth radio show and podcast and for related activities and therefore has an incentive to endorse Edelman Financial Engines and its planners.  That compensation is a fixed sum paid on an annual basis; and reimbursement for certain expenses.  The amount paid each year does not vary, is not based on show content or any results-dependent factors (e.g., popularity of the show). This show is pre-recorded, and any callers are prescreened. Neither Edelman Financial Engines nor its affiliates offer tax or legal advice. Interested parties are strongly encouraged to seek advice from your qualified tax and/or legal professionals to help determine the best options for your particular circumstances. The information being provided is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be construed as investment advice. Although some of the statistical information has been gathered from sources believed to be reliable, we do not guarantee its accuracy or completeness. You should consult with a professional and/or do your own due diligence to help determine the best options for your particular circumstances. The views and opinions expressed by Dr. Karl Pillemer are solely his own and may not reflect the views or opinions of EFE or its planners. The information being provided is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be construed as investment advice. You should consult with a financial advisor to help determine the best options for your particular circumstances.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to THE most downloaded episode of Season 2.  Our guest today, one of the foremost experts who studies how individuals and families develop and change throughout their lives, tells us that as we age, we regret not reconciling with family members we may be estranged or distant from. Today we welcome Dr. Karl Pillemer, Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, where he is also a faculty member in Cornell's medical school. He is the author of the book: “Fault Lines, Fractured Families and How to Mend Them.” He is the author of several other remarkable books about love, relationships and aging.We are also welcoming a guest host - Stacie Lavato. Stacie is a long-time listener and reached out to us after we dropped the episode on understanding LGBTQ+ with Levi Teachey and Stacey Shigaya.  She wrote such a heartwarming email and the two of us connected.  Then, I learned that Stacy produces her own podcast called “Mindful Mama Conversations,” I listened to a few, and I liked her topics and her style, so I asked her to join me.The biggest “ah ha” moment for Stacie and I is when Dr. Pillemar mentioned “intergenerational stake.” We both had never heard of this - but it makes perfect sense. It is the generational bias in parents' and adult children's perceptions of their joint relationship.   Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer. Support us  P L E A S E! Buy us a coffee:  LINK HERE Buy a mug: LINK HEREListen on: Apple Podcasts   Spotify or wherever you find your fav podcasts! The information provided by Bite Your Tongue The Podcast (“we,” “us,” or “our”) or biteyourtonguepodcast.com (the “Site” and our mobile application is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE or on the Podcast is for general informational purposes only. All information on the SITE and PODCAST is provided in good faith, however we make no representation or warranty of any kind, expressed, or implied regarding the accuracy, adequacy, validity, reliability, availability or completeness of any information the SITE or the PODCAST. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHALL WE HAVE ANY LIABILITY TO YOU FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE OF ANY KIND INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THE USE OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY GUESTS ON OUR PODCAST. YOUR USE OF THE SITE AND PODCAST AND YOUR RELIANCE ON ANY INFORMATION FROM THE SITE OUR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK. The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLEY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

Alan Gutterman recently launched the Older Person's Rights Project to advance awareness of the challenges and opportunities inherent in our increased longevity. In this podcast, he speaks with Karl Pillemer, professor in the Department of Psychology and professor of Gerontology in Medicine at Weill Cornell Medicine, about what motivates people to get involved in advocating for climate issues, overcoming ageism, being open to intergenerational activities, and rethinking approaches to bringing older adults into the fold.

In this episode, storyteller and end-of-life care advocate Kimberly Paul explores the power and possibilities unleased by facing end of life issues head on. She argues that talking about dying helps us to live more fully and be a more powerful presence in the lives of those we love.  Resources Kimberly Paul's website  https://www.deathbydesign.com/Kimberly's tour https://www.deathbydesign.com/live-well-die-well-tour-stops/ The Death Deck https://thedeathdeck.com/Karl Pillemer, PhD, 30 Lessons for Livinghttps://www.karlpillemer.com/books/30-lessons-for-living/ We Really Need to Talk is funded by the Finger Lakes Geriatrics Education Center at the Ithaca College Gerontology Institute. Editing and production support provided by Dr. Becky Lane and Jay Williamson at the Center for Creative Technology at Ithaca College. Web: www.ithaca.edu/gerontology-instituteEmail us icgi@ithaca.edu

The term “cancel culture” came to be around 2016 and according to the dictionary, it's the practice or tendency of engaging in mass canceling as a way of expressing disapproval and exerting social pressure. Yet, in families, estrangement has been around quite a long time. Parents can distance themselves from children. Adult children can stop “coming around” as the term goes. Friendships can end. The root of the word in Latin is extraneare, "treat as a stranger." It can be chosen by you or it can be chosen for you, meaning that someone can estrange themselves from you. It can be a painful part of any relationship where there has formerly been affection or trust or mutual respect. How is it connected to a dynamic called parental alienation? And of course, how do the stereotypes of “family” and “the holidays” make the pain of estrangement even worse? We'll talk about these questions and I'll be looking into the work of Dr. Karl Pillemer to give us great direction. He's the author of the recent book, Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them. The listener email today is from a mom who's been a listener to SW for quite some time – but a tragedy has occurred in her family, and she's asking for some advice. There's a trigger warning here – her daughter has been sexually abused – so please listen with care. Vital Links!  Click this link to try out some of the best CBD out there! Ozark Mountain Medicine's CBD products and get 10% off!  BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now! Psychology Today article on "Estrangement: The Silent Epidemic" New York Times article on Fractured Families Forbes article on parental alienation You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has been published and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! Now there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you!  

What is the biggest regret of most parents today? Our guest today, one of the foremost experts who studies how individuals and families develop and change throughout their lives, tells us that as we age, we regret not reconciling with family members we may be estranged or distant from. Today we welcome Dr. Karl Pillemer, Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, where he is also a faculty member in Cornell's medical school. He is the author of the book: “Fault Lines, Fractured Families and How to Mend Them.” He is the author of several other remarkable books about love, relationships and aging.We are also welcoming a guest host - Stacie Lavato. Stacie is a long-time listener and reached out to us after we dropped the episode on understanding LGBTQ+ with Levi Teachey and Stacey Shigaya.  She wrote such a heartwarming email and the two of us connected.  Then, I learned that Stacy produces her own podcast called “Mindful Mama Conversations,” I listened to a few, and I liked her topics and her style, so I asked her to join me.The biggest “ah ha” moment for Stacie and I is when Dr. Pillemar mentioned “intergenerational stake.” We both had never heard of this - but it makes perfect sense. It is the generational bias in parents' and adult children's perceptions of their joint relationship.  He takes it a step further and lets us know why any difficulties in our relationships with our adult children will bother us much more than the adult children.We address such questions as: How do rifts begin? What makes estrangement so painful?  Why is it so often triggered by a single event? Are you ready to reconcile? How can you overcome past hurts to build a new future with a relative? Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.Support us  P L E A S E!Buy us a coffee:  LINK HEREBuy a mug:  LINK HEREGreat Deal for Listeners!Denise's favorite shape-wear company.  Denise particularly LOVES their best selling Truekind Daily Comfort Wireless Bra.  "It holds you up and is so comfortable.  I am hooked - truly," says Denise.  Use this link and just put biteyourtongue (one word) in the CODE at checkout.Follow up on our social media platforms Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn And remember - sometimes you might just have to BITE YOUR TONGUE!...

Sam Parr is the creator of The Hustle – a media company that has sold for tens of millions by the time he turned 32. In this conversation, we spoke about why Sam was nervous to talk to Ariel Helwani, how he met his wife, some of his spiciest tweets, what he really thinks about psychedelics, how to get rich before your 32nd birthday, and why getting sober was the key that set him free. (0:00) Hasan Minhaj (3:45) Ted Turner (4:37) Sacrifices worth it? (5:44) Anti MBA (first blog) (8:32) Big cities (9:50) Individual sports (11:10) Ariel Helwani (13:13) Cross-country motorcycle trip (16:16) Seeking out new experiences (17:33) How to manifest (19:53) Quitting (20:24) Energy (21:03) Living in Austin/NYC (23:38) Sober (26:45) Almost hired Airbnb (29:03) Chip on shoulder (31:14) Early days of The Hustle (33:33) Copywork (35:28) Hypnotherapy (38:01) Ross Ulbricht (41:20) Crypto (42:50) $10,000,000 by 30 (46:31) Craigslist office (48:50) Manifestation of $20m by 30 (52:49) Online vs. offline balance (53:50) Getting jacked (58:22) Meeting Shaan Puri (1:00:50) Successful people (1:04:19) Sam's weird habits (1:08:01) Psychedelics (1:11:10) Getting knocked out (1:12:29) Modern cigarettes (1:15:20) Big Restaurant Energy (1:16:30) How Sam met his wife (1:19:11) Successful people (1:23:45) Sam as a criminal (1:25:20) The right spouse (1:30:05) Asking questions (1:32:09) Less is more (1:38:36) USA (1:42:40) 80-year-old Sam's advice to present-day Sam (1:45:45) Outro - Resources Mentioned https://trycopythat.com/ https://gracesmithtv.com/ American Kingpin by Nick Bilton – https://www.amazon.com/American-Kingpin-Criminal-Mastermind-Behind/dp/0143129023 Instagram post – https://www.instagram.com/p/sRM0m3g9Ul/?hl=en 30 Lessons For Living by Karl Pillemer – https://www.amazon.com/30-Lessons-Living-Advice-Americans/dp/0452298482 - Sam on Twitter – https://twitter.com/thesamparr Sam's Podcast – https://www.mfmpod.com/ - Continue the conversation with me...

Today, we have a fascinating conversation about the powerful idea of interdependence. Here on the show to lend his expertise on the subject is Dr. Karl Pillemer, the Hazel E. Reed Professor in Cornell University's Department of Human Development and the author of the recent book, Fault Lines, in which he examines the impact of familial estrangement. We get to hear from our guest about many aspects and angles of interdependence with a focus on why it is something that should never be neglected, especially as we grow older and enter into our retirement years. Karl speaks about life expectancy and how relationships factor into this, why the fear of being burdensome is so common, and how American norms around families and support compare to other parts of the world. We also get to spend some time on the potent concept of longer shared lifetimes and how this underlines the work that Karl is doing. This conversation is jam-packed with amazing insight, illuminating research, and Karl's personal expertise and passion for helping us have better and longer lives, so make sure to join us.Key Points From This Episode:Defining interdependence and why meaningful connections are so important to all of us. How the pandemic has impacted our conception of interdependence. The need for greater focus on interdependence; rethinking how we analyze this.  Examining how the fear of being a burden comes into this conversation.  Karl explains the idea of longer shared lifetimes and why it is so powerful. The dangers of how the media often portrays intergenerational conflict.  Comparing the familial norms in the US to standards in other countries. How smaller families and more broken homes are influencing the way we support each other.  Assessing the usefulness of government action and policy changes. Thinking about the role of the healthcare sector in supporting interdependence. Digitization versus interdependence; are these two areas at odds with each other? Ageism and social media and how micro-aggressions online are doing damage.  The creation of infrastructure that supports interdependence and where to start.  Karl's thoughts on senior living communities and how they can solve certain problems.  How to approach the facilitation of age-inclusive workplaces. Why Karl believes so strongly in the health benefits of interdependence.Recapping the top ten takeaways from today's conversation with Karl!Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:HumanaDr. Karl PillemerDr. Karl Pillemer on TwitterFault LinesCornell UniversityThe ChairHarry TrumanRobert FrostCivilization and its DiscontentsCosmopolitanColin Milner EmailRethink Aging

Two years ago, I sat down with real estate coach, Nick McLean, and the episode impacted a lot of people. Today we have the privilege of digging back into his mind, and learn from his knack for bringing an actionable framework to any concept. He's going to share a powerful thought process that binds the most fulfilled and successful people - making your work more meaningful.    Nick is an entrepreneur, coach and founder/CEO of the Nick McLean Real Estate Group. The former pilot uses knowledge in systems pilot and applying the same techniques he learned from the aviation industry to build a successful real estate business.    What's the most meaningful part of being in real estate? Money, financial success, commission checks? Surprisingly, no. For many agents, the buzz and satisfaction of cashing a commission check doesn't live up to all the hype. From Nick McLean's perspective there's a really good reason why we don't get a dopamine hit from the money - it doesn't provide the meaning that makes us happy and fulfilled.    What do we pursue if we want our jobs and lives to have more meaning? Chasing the parts of the process that give us the most joy, and creating those meaningful impact points in our day.  Guest Info   Nick is an entrepreneur, coach and founder/CEO of the Nick McLean Real Estate Group. The former pilot uses knowledge in systems pilot and applying the same techniques he learned from the aviation industry to build a successful real estate business.    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/realestategreatnesswithnickmclean/?ref=bookmarks Instagram: @nickmcleanre Twitter: @nickmcleanre Books Mentioned    30 Lessons for Living by Karl Pillemer   The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel   CTA   ​​Please leave us a review at https://ratethispodcast.com/nla

Episode 304: Your Top 3 Favorite Conversations This Year and More In this last episode for 2021, Mike Kabeya interviews me asking questions about the biggest lessons, updates, and personal challenges I overcame. Also included are your top three favorite conversations and our favorites. I have found book writing to follow the emotional rollercoaster of innovation. Extreme highs and brilliant ‘ahas' along with visits into the pit of pain like feeling inadequate, confused, and overwhelmed, to sittings with the writing imposter. Mike invites a brief update on where I am after missing a self-imposed deadline and my goal in 2022. Out of the 100 or so book titles, my working title is this, Self-Leadership Mentoring: The Explorer's Dual Innovation Practice. A practice-based on how we can evolve as a leader while redesigning our businesses. I developed the practice from working with thousands of entrepreneurial leaders since 1992. You will also hear where I am getting writing support. Two books I Highly Recommend A novel that explores themes of teamwork, coaching, family, and economic class. “The Boys in the Boat,” writes author Daniel James, “is a book that tells the story of nine American rowers who won an Olympic gold medal in 1936.” The book became a best-seller and adapted into The Boys of '36 documentary. “The novel follows Joe Rantz's journey to the Olympics, during the Great Depression and Adolf Hitler's rise to power. It begins in 1933 when Joe attends the University of Washington and tries out for the rowing team.” This book was inspired by my daughter, Olivia, who joined the UW-Madison rowing team this fall.  The other book, given to me by a neighbor, is Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them by Dr. Karl Pillemer (2020). A rare book that explains the landscape of estrangement affecting more than 65 million Americans and how those he researched found a path to reconnection. I discuss an idea I am implementing to reconcile with my dad. Even if reconciliation doesn't happen, this book broadens understanding and helps in conscious decision-making when relationships become strained. Milestone Birthday Blunder Insights Milestone birthdays have been challenging to plan with loved ones during this covid pandemic. What do you do? Who do you invite? How big or small? When under so much stress, do we allow for different ways we make decisions? How are we redefining expectations and handling disappointment? My idea for celebrating my 60th birthday this year flopped. The thought was to do something low-key, so I wrote down numbers from 1 to 60 on a piece of yellow tablet paper. I started the list by appreciating the vegan meal I made. I told Matthew and Olivia they could add to the list by writing down something they appreciated about me or did for me or a gift they bought. This spring (April) was still so stressful that I didn't get the buy-in, which led to a hurt that triggered unnerving feelings about my self-worth. I discuss my learnings that included loving acts of forgiveness, understanding, and healing. Mike also shares how his celebration plans went for his wife, Sylvie Kabeya, on her 50th birthday. Our conversation was surprisingly nurturing. You will hear what we both learned about ourselves and our spouses. Before moving into your favorite podcast conversations, we discuss is a 21-Day Abundance exercise I did with a friend. Deepak Chopra created the exercise. I share the shocking results. Mike was so impressed with the results that he wants to go through this free 21-Day Abundance program. If you would like to join us, email me at nancy@wementor.com. I will get you the details. Your Top 3 Favorite Conversations This Year #1 Barbara Winter, Pioneer, and Author of Making A Living Without A Job (2020 and 2021) It Is Time To Explore Multiple Profit Centers | WeMentor Mondays with Nancy PODCAST Employee Mindset vs. Entrepreneurial Mindset | WeMentor Mondays with Nancy PODCAST

Have you ever looked out on the world (listened to too much news) and wondered, "why can't people just get along?"We all want roughly the same things: a happy life, experience love and family, prosper and live. But we all seem ready to roll over others to achieve these goals, desperate in our feelings of lacking.Indeed, global peace and recognizing each other's shared needs and desires seem unimaginable. It is easy to feel hopeless and powerless in that reckoning because even many of our close relationships are at odds. Our country seems more at war within in recent years, and the fighting spills over into families. We've lost sight of each other while entrenching ourselves in our camps.Do you feel that tug of toxicity – from entrenched opinions about thorny subjects like religion and politics – with some people in your life? I do. But wait, we must have some influence, if not on the world stage, at least in our backyards with family and community.Our families are a microcosm of humanity, a path to understanding our bonds to the larger world. Through family and friendships, we gain insights into how to be humane. So, when intimate ties crash, we can feel lost not just in who we are but also in what purpose our lives even serve.If you've struggled to find peace within and without, this episode of The Delicious Story is for you. Here I chat with Elena Greenberg, a practicing attorney, mediator, and professional mentor.Elena walks us through steps and ideas to help us find common ground and harmony with family, not just for the holidays, but the long haul, too.Our Separateness We are each unique in our views of the world. You've probably realized this when you've shared an experience, witnessed an event, or even read the same book with others and noted that you don't "see" the facts or their meaning the same way.We each interpret the outside "reality" based on our prism of life knowledge and prejudices. And the truth of the variations of perspective is that sometimes objective facts become irrelevant. Often, two people can't agree on what is, infact fact. We become stranded in subjective opinion instead.And what's more, the person you are now and the opinions you hold dear may not be relevant later as you grow and change. Thus, you can't be certain that the opinions you believe today, will be yours by tomorrow.So, in theory and based on experience, we get that we're different. And we either come to terms with the differences, find them exciting or unimportant or deny they exist at all. We often seek those we believe are the "same," because differences can cause us internal stress.When it comes to strongly held opinions, like those of politics and religion, we become entrenched in the "facts" (code for opinions) that we believe even at the expense of important relationships. And the more we insist on our rightness, the less we hear or seek to understand any other point of view. Growth is not possible.Finding Our Common GroundI've been thinking a lot about estrangement in families lately since I've read Karl Pillemer's book Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them. Throughout the book, he interviews numerous people experiencing estrangement from family members.Pillemer suggests that these fractured bonds don't serve us and leave holes in our family ties that impact generations into the future. He also tells stories of those who decide they want to end the estrangement.Reconciliation hinges on a few points. To mend, all involved realize that the past disagreement is no longer critical. They also recognize they don't require an apology for an old wrong. And ultimately, the path to a relationship lies in going forward.If you've been teetering on the brink of fissures in your family because of toxic topics, try to turn a corner for the holidays and beyond. Elena offers some tips for guidance.1.Recognize nobody's opinions are going to change. Straight up acknowledge that you don't wish to change your opinions, and neither does the other party. Lower your bar of expectation. Search for topics where you're less invested and more aligned and discuss those. 2.Stick to doing things together you enjoy. My husband's family used to put on elaborate dinners where we'd eat and then finish up discussing topics for hours into the evening over fine bottles of wine. On the other hand, my parent's family gathered a couple of times a year and largely didn't say anything I considered to be of substance. Instead, we played Trivial Pursuit and other games. For years, I didn't get why this was their choice. But now I see the wisdom. When you don't have a lot of topics of interest in common, playing games is one way to enjoy time together and have fun. 3.Set boundaries for the time of the holidays. Allow room for discussions later. Elena explains that setting boundaries for a family event doesn't mean we can only talk about the turkey and the pie. It does mean determining when other more challenging subjects are best to discuss. You can set aside time to talk about issues you want to talk about, but agree that doing so during dinner, for example, will not help you all enjoy the time together. 4.Determine for yourself what it is you want to accomplish by gathering as a family. It's a good idea to establish your goals for the family event and then check in often if you feel yourself slipping into a mood or veering toward a topic that will derail that objective.The challenge is to gracefully ask Uncle John, for example, in a patient way if we can table a conversation for a time other than dinner. How would you ask Uncle John to shift to another subject? 5.Be curious. When you do open up to discuss difficult topics, spend more time listening and repeating back what you hear. "Tell me more" is a lot more inviting than "no, you're wrong!" We all want to be understood. A barrage of facts or arguments where neither party is actually listening is not going to make understanding possible.You're On a Quest! Be objective, listen actively. (Yes, this is a massive shift, and a challenge) Put on your scientist's hat, and look at the situation as if you're tasked with studying it. You can benefit from learning what is driving someone's opinions beyond the facts. Why do they feel as they do? Try to understand the feelings of the other person: they are more important than the facts themselves.There is no doubt that many of us feel stressed about the cultural dialogue we hear and talk about these days. But bickering about facts and disassociating with family and friends is not going to solve problems or help you even feel better.Personal bitterness is a road to personal suffering. Strive to understand yourself and others. Make connection on common ground such as shared feelings the goal. Practice the tips here, and not only will you enjoy your family and friends more, but you'll also feel more hopeful about personal circumstances and the world outside of your control.To learn more about Elena Greenberg and the services of mediation she provides via Iowa Mediation Services you can check out her links.

Älter werden wir dann doch alle irgendwann. Das ist das Schöne daran, man ist ja eigentlich nicht allein und doch muss man das letztendlich mit sich selbst ausmachen. Besonders als Frau bedeutet das Älterwerden oftmals eine Herausforderung. Da geht es mir persönlich wie so vielen anderen Frauen auch. Das jugendliche Aussehen schwindet, der Körper verändert sich, Lebensabschnitte gehen zu Ende und was kommt dann?In dieser Folge schaue ich ganz persönlich auf das Thema Frausein und Älterwerden. Wenn das auch dein Thema ist, dann hör‘ doch mal rein. Vielleicht findest du dich in meinen Themen wieder und was sagen eigentlich wirkliche Experten zu dem Thema? Was sagen alte Menschen zum Älterwerden? Auch dazu gibt es einiges in dieser Folge.Falls du deine persönlichen Erfahrungen zum Thema mit mir teilen möchtest, freue ich mich auf eine Mail von dir: hc@cobaugh.de Buchempfehlungen/Links: Die kleinen Dinge machen das Leben schön Was wir von den Alten lernen könnenvon Karl Pillemerhttps://amzn.to/3tX5xel  Happy-Aging statt Anti-Aging: Glücklich und sinnerfüllt alt werdenvon Gerhard Spraktieshttps://amzn.to/3hTMAV8  Gesund alt werden: Die 7 Geheimnisse der Hundertjährigen aus den Blue Zonesvon Takumi Matsumurahttps://amzn.to/3tWlOQN Webseite:https://www.cobaugh.de Email:https://www.cobaugh.de/kontakt/ YouTube: Heike Beck-Cobaugh - YouTube

With Season 5 of The Grand Life starting just weeks away, here's another bonus episode to keep you updated on topics that are "popping up" on network TV, in books, and in certain Christmas crafts popular with the grandchildren (and which contain zero actual gingerbread). Our guest Dr. Karl Pillemer, speaking on Estrangement in our Season 3, was recently on CBS Sunday Morning. See the story at https://www.cbsnews.com/video/when-family-bonds-are-broken/ .See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Michelle Martin shares a recommended read to help families heal.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For the past year and a half, the pandemic has kept many older adults apart from their loved ones. But now that people are getting vaccinated, many older Americans are finally reuniting with their friends and family. On today's episode, CNN Chief Medical Correspondent Dr. Sanjay Gupta gives CNN's Don Lemon advice about reuniting with his risk-averse mother now that they're both vaccinated, Dr. Preeti Malani explains how to best support the older adults in our lives through the pandemic and beyond, and gerontologist Karl Pillemer talks about the ways older adults can teach the rest of us about living through difficult times. To learn more about how CNN protects listener privacy, visit cnn.com/privacy

Karl Pillemer is a leading family sociologist and expert researcher when it comes to aging. He's a Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, as well as a Professor of Gerontology in Medicine at Weill Cornell Medical College.  Over the course of his career, he's focused on how family relationships change over the course of people's lives, working with both families and the professionals who work with them in his research.  In his book, Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, he explores the issue of family estrangement. He shares what he learned over the course of hundreds of interviews with estranged and reconciled families to get at the heart of this silent epidemic, to better understand what breaks families apart, and how to heal. Today, Karl joins the podcast to talk about his fascinating work in the nascent field of gerontology, why so many people struggle to find fulfillment or purpose in retirement, and what we all can learn from his conversations with people from all walks of life who have had long, satisfying relationships for decades. Show Notes: RetireWithPurpose.com/219 Rate & Review the Podcast: RetireWithPurpose.com/review Weekly Retirement Newsletter: RetireWithPurpose.com/weekend-reading

In today's episode, Lauren makes an announcement about her mental health journey and explains her decision. Fault Lines by Karl Pillemer: https://www.amazon.com/Fault-Lines-Fractured-Families-Mend/dp/0525539034 Adult Children of the Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD: https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/B01F2L1HLM You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother by Danu Morrigan: https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Not-Crazy-Understanding-Narcissistic/dp/B074JKZBZM Recommended Shadow Work Journal: https://www.etsy.com/listing/982950913/illuminare-shadow-work-workbookjournal --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Introduction Welcome to Let’s Talk Family Enterprise, a podcast that explores the ideas, concepts and models that best serve Family Enterprise Advisors in supporting their clients.   All views, information, and opinions expressed during this podcast are solely those of the individuals involved and do not necessarily represent those of Family Enterprise Exchange or its employees.   Description Guest Host Steve Legler speaks with Dr. Karl Pillemer of Cornell University and author of Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them. Together, they discuss various ways that Family Enterprise Advisors (FEAs) can act as valuable resources to their family clients who have experienced family estrangement, which can occur over money and inheritance or unmet expectations.   Guest bio Karl Pillemer, Ph.D., is one of America’s leading family sociologists and researchers on aging. Dr. Pillemer is a Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and Professor of Gerontology in Medicine at the Weill Cornell Medical College.   Throughout his career, Dr. Pillemer’s research has focused on how family relationships develop and change throughout people’s lives. His research takes place in the real world of families and professionals who work with them.   Karl Pillemer lives in Ithaca, New York, with his wife, Clare McMillan. He is the father of two daughters, Hannah and Sarah, and the grandfather of (scientifically and objectively speaking) the most adorable grandchildren in the world, Clare and Tommy. When not writing, you may find him running, biking, and playing the guitar (badly).   Book: Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, by Karl Pillemer, Ph.D.   You can find out more about Dr. Karl Pillemer here.   Key Takeaways [0:30] Steve Legler introduces Dr. Pillemer and launches the conversation on how learning to work with fractured families is relevant to family advisors.   [2:47] Karl talks about the silent epidemic that a great number of families struggle with as well as some of the ways professionals can help families tackle this issue.   [5:50] The advisor may well be perfectly suited to serve a preventative function within families; Dr. Pillemer explains how.   [8:32] Karl describes one of the major highways to family estrangement and how advisors can help zero-sum game situations.   [10:40] There are multiple paths to estrangement, and Dr. Pillemer offers that socio-cultural expectations may have a big role to play as well.   [15:12] There is hope, even when there are fractures; Dr. Pillemer shares some of the results he saw in case studies.   [18:00] Should some fractures even be mended? Karl shares what signs to watch for as well as an anecdote from his book.   [22:40] Dr. Pillemer talks about the problem of inertia in the context of family conflicts.   [25:35] Successful reconciliation required one key aspect from the people involved, and Karl shares how he has seen this again and again.   [30:10] Looking forward despite disagreement is hard, but Dr. Pillemer shares how people who mend families have found a way.   [31:12] Steve invites Dr. Pillemer to share a book recommendation as well as his advice to advisors.   [36:40] Steve thanks Dr. Karl Pillemer for sharing so much of his expertise and invites listeners to subscribe to the podcast.   Share your thoughts with us at fea@family-enterprise-xchange.com   Mentioned in this episode Let’s Talk Family Enterprise podcast is brought to you by Family Enterprise Xchange. Book: Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them Hidden Valley Road: Inside the Mind of an American Family, by Robert Kolker   More about Family Enterprise Xchange Family Enterprise Xchange FEX on Facebook FEX on Twitter FEX on LinkedIn

Dr. Karl Pillemer, author of Fault Lines, reveals to us what his massive survey into estranged family members tells us about the importance of relationships, forgiveness, and thinking twice about cutting ties.

We are so excited to have our first solo episode! Today, we talk to Karl A. Pillemer, Ph.D. Karl is a professor of human development at Cornell University and a professor of gerontology in medicine at the Weill Cornell Medical College. An internationally renowned gerontologist, his research examines how people develop and change throughout their lives. He has authored five books and over 100 scientific publications and speaks throughout the world on aging-related issues. He has interviewed hundreds of couples to learn why they fall in love and why they stay in love. We have read all of his books and have learned so much. This episode was so fun! Here are few things we cover: Karl Pillemer’s mission and passion behind his books Dealing with difficult political conversations Honesty within marriage Communication in marriage Three buckets of family estrangements How to deal with differing values in marriage Is finding your spouse: luck or choice? How people change within marriage How money can cause estrangements Hardest conflicts in marriage Can there be a perfect marriage? Qualities to develop for healthy conflicts You can learn more about Karl here ▶ https://www.karlpillemer.com/ You can check out his books here ▶ https://www.karlpillemer.com/books/ If you haven’t yet, please rate Couple Things and subscribe to hear more. Follow us on Instagram to keep the conversation going at https://www.instagram.com/couplething...​ And if you have suggestions/recommendations for the show, send us your ideas in a video format – we might just choose yours! Email us at couplethingspod@gmail.com. We're supported by the following companies that we love! Check them out below: Betterhelp ▶ Visit betterhelp.com/EASTFAM to get 10% off of your first month. Athletic Greens ▶ Visit athleticgreens.com/EASTFAM and get your FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs today. FAN MAIL ADDRESS: Shawn and Andrew East 750 N San Vicente Blvd., East Tower, 11th Floor, Los Angles, CA 90069 Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson...​ Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson​​​​​ Follow My Twitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/ShawnJohnson​​​​​ Snapchat! ▶ @ShawneyJ Follow AndrewsTwitter ▶ http://www.twitter.com/AndrewDEast​​​​​ Follow My Instagram ▶ http://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast​​​​​ Like the Facebook page! ▶ http://www.facebook.com/AndrewDEast​​​​​ Snapchat! ▶ @AndrewDEast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kate and Oliver sit down with Dr. Karl Pillemer, whose research found that 25% of people live with some kind of family estrangement. They discuss the stigma, the causes, steps to reconciliation, and more.Executive Producers: Kate Hudson and Oliver HudsonProduced by Allison BresnickEdited by Josh WindischMusic by Mark HudsonThis show is powered by Simplecast.This episode is sponsored by Upstart, Each & Every, and Beauty Blender (PROMO CODE: SIBLING)

What problem touches millions of people and causes distress so profound that it can last a lifetime? What if no reliable professional guidance exists for this problem, so most people who suffer from it are on their own in finding solutions? This critically important issue - and hidden epidemic - is family estrangement. Few problems are so widespread and so damaging, sometimes for decades and across generations, and yet there has not been a definitive, popular and data-informed book about how families are broken and stay broken - until now. Fault Lines is a fascinating, moving and above all practical treatment of this complex issue, aimed at adults of all ages. Based on 300 in-depth interviews with 1,800 individuals, this book captures the eloquence of ordinary people facing family challenges that threaten their identity, health and well-being, relying on sources never before available, including a unique combination of rich, in-depth interviews, data from large-scale surveys and conversations with leading family therapists. This is the first book to reveal successful strategies from people who have found ways to repair rifts or live peacefully with the consequences when nothing can be done - and the first to offer hope to broken families which need it the most.

CNN's Christiane Amanpour joins us to discuss the top news stories of 2020. And, a survey by sociologist Karl Pillemer revealed that about 25% of people live with some kind of family estrangement, and those damaged relationships take a toll — mentally and physically. His new book, "Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them," addresses this, as well as how to mend these relationships. He joins us to discuss.

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A quarter of Americans -- millions of people -- are currently estranged from a family member. That's one of the findings Dr. Karl Pillemer describes in his book, Fault Lines: Fractured Familes and How to Mend Them. As Dr. Pillemer interviewed hundreds of people in his study of estrangement, he discovered a subset of his interviewees who had been estranged, often for years, and had reconciled. And he found that their experiences of reconciliation were transformative. In our delightful interview with Dr. Pillemer, we explored his work, and applied it to a listener question from a wife about how a cutoff between her husband and her father was threatening her marriage.Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Over 25% of Americans are experiencing an estrangement with a loved one or family member. This can negatively impact your romantic relationship and overall well-being. After years of studying family estrangement and rigorous research, Dr. Karl Pillemer has been able to find the common reasons families become estranged, and how they successfully repair these fractures. Through interviews with over 100 families who have repaired an estranged relationship, Karl has unique insights and knowledge to help us repair fractured relationships, and live a happier, healthier life.   In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with difficult and problematic in-law relationships Steps to take to repair a fractured relationship with a family member or loved one How to mend an estrangement and start having a better relationships with your family and friends Why fractured families can negatively affect your romantic relationship and how to prevent this Why coming to agreements and resolutions with estranged family members is not necessary to repair an estranged relationship And much more! Dr. Karl Pillemer is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. A world-renowned family sociologist, he spent five years studying processes of estrangement and reconciliation in families. His just-published book, Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, provides strategies and tips for healing family rifts. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/274 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. Function of Beauty is the world’s first fully customizable hair care brand. Visit FunctionofBeauty.com/IDO to take your four part hair profile quiz and save 20% on your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah

What are we to do when we are blocked from having a relationship with our grands by their parents--our own children? Emily explores this hard topic with a social researcher and author, an estranged grandparent who helps others manage, and a Millennial dad who shut down his relationship with his mother for the good of his family. RESOURCES Alienated Grandparents Anonymous, a resource for support groups and related insights mentioned by Dr. Pat Hanson (2nd guest) Books mentioned or written by this episode’s guests: I Thought I was the Only One: Grandparent Alienation: A Global Epidemic by Amanda When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Children Don’t Get Along by Dr. Joshua Coleman Invisible Grandparenting: Leave a Legacy of Love Whether You Can Be There or Not by Dr. Pat Hanson (2nd guest) Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them by Dr. Karl Pillemer (3rd guest) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

#001: September 2013. That's the last time I remember having an in-depth conversation with my guest, Justin, about our marriage. Until now. On this episode, Justin and I try to make sense of why our marriage failed and what we both learned the hard way about ourselves and the institution of marriage. Hear from Justin himself what he's always wanted the chance to tell me. Hint: It's his "my ex-wife" one-up show stopper. Show notes including full transcript can be found at www.candykiss.com. About The Show We all want the secret to a happy marriage. Thousands and thousands of hours are spent talking about marriage, thinking about marriage, analyzing marriage. Anyone who has been married knows that marriage is hard. Stress from everyday life spills over into our interactions with our partner. We all wish we had the skill set required to productively communicate under stress. We often fall short of that ideal. What can we learn from a marriage that failed under the stress of two demanding jobs and two small children? The transition to parenthood is one of the greatest periods of decline in marital satisfaction most couples ever experience. In this episode, we hear what that stress sounds like in a real world example, and we learn how couples can best protect themselves after the birth of their first child. Why do some couples fair better than others? Let’s learn together. 001’s Guest Justin is a vascular surgeon who grew up in Cincinnati, Ohio. We met in our mid-20s in the Mississippi Delta while teaching in the Teach for America Americorps program. We got married in 2002 in my hometown of Malvern, PA, had our daughters Stevin in 2006 and Rowan in 2008, and got divorced in 2015. He gave marriage another try, marrying Micah in 2018. And he was brave enough and good-hearted enough to be my first guest on this podcast. Key Concepts Transition to Parenthood (TTP): The state of life after the birth of the first child Marital Satisfaction: An individual’s assessment of the perceived benefits and costs of marriage to a particular person Adaptive Skills: Skills used in our everyday life to meet our basic needs Positive Problem Solving: Communication skills for negotiating solutions to specific challenges that avoid negative talk or counterproductive reactions Relational Humility: possessing an accurate view of oneself, a humble portrayal of oneself to others, and a perspective that is more focused on others rather than on oneself Websites, Resources, and Ideas Mentioned Gottman Institute’s Seven Principles Gottman Institute’s Four Horsemen Love Bucket Dr. Karl Pillemer’s Research Tanner’s Post About Being Married to a Divorced Man Research Studies Informing the Recap The transition to parenthood: impact on couples’ romantic relationships; Doss, B., & Rhoades, G. Perceived partner humility predicts subjective stress during transition to parenthood; Ripley, J. S., Garthe, R. C., Perkins, A., Worthington, E. L., Jr., Davis, D. E., Hook, J. N., Reid, C., Van Tongeren, D. R., Dwiwardani, C., Ord, A., Fennell, M., & Eaves, D. The transition to parenthood as a critical window for adult health; Saxbe, D., Rossin-Slater, M., & Goldenberg, D. The Dyadic Effects of Supportive Coparenting and Parental Stress on Relationship Quality Across the Transition to Parenthood; Durtschi, J., Soloski, K., & Kimmes, J. Marital satisfaction across the transition to parenthood: Three eras of research; Lawrence, E., Rothman, A. D., Cobb, R. J., & Bradbury, T. N. From Partnership to Parenthood: A Review of Marital Change Across the Transition to Parenthood; Kluwer E.S. Thank you for being part of the Marriage is Hard community. If you're new here, you'll want to subscribe because just like today's episode on the next episode I'm having open, honest, and real conversations about life partnership that inspire and teach. Let's rock out the most important relationship we get to choose! 

Older people have seen a lot – including plenty of tough times. And yet we so often neglect to ask elders about the wisdom they’ve gained through perseverance.Dr. Karl Pillemer, professor of gerontology in medicine at Weill Cornell Medicine,joins host Krys Boyd to look at our current crisis through the eyes of people who can say from experience that “this, too, shall pass.”

Cornell Professor and author of “30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from The Wisest Americans“ Dr. Karl Pillemer talks about how the oldest Americans can teach Millennials and Generation Z’s how to get through the Coronavirus crisis. Read Dr. Pillemer's latest article on on elder wisdom and the coronavirus crisis. https://www.human.cornell.edu/about/stories/living-well-through-crisis

Good communication is at the core of every healthy relationship. Ashley and Jason revisit the book 30 Lessons for Loving by Karl Pillemer, Ph.D. to see what the experts have to say about learning how to communicate with your partner. 

Fighting isolation through schedules, journaling and connection kicks off this episode. We also talk about the roles of cultivating gratitude and curiosity in times of adversity, and we celebrate walking on the US’s National Walking Day even as we distance ourselves socially during the coronavirus pandemic.   LET’S TALK THE WALK! Wellness While Walking Facebook page Wellness While Walking on Instagram Wellness While Walking on Twitter Wellness While Walking website for show notes and other information Email: wellnesswhilewalking@gmail.com   RESOURCES AND SOURCES (some links may be affiliate links)   Cultivating Gratitude “Why Gratitude is Good,” greatergood.berkeley.edu Walking Organizations Walk With a Doc organization Corona Cluster Distance Walkers Facebook Page – public walking group (temporary, during Coronavirus Crisis) Isolation during Coronavirus Pandemic “I Spent a Year in Space, and I Have Tips on Isolation to Share,” Scott Kelly, nyt.com Kelly’s Recommended Coronavirus Sources: World Health Organization and Coronavirus Resource Center The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron “Julia Cameron Wants You to Do Your Morning Pages,” nyt.com “How to Help – Or Get Help – in the Coronavirus Pandemic,” time.com Curiosity: A Character Strength Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life, Todd Kashdan. 30 Lessons For Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans, Karl Pillemer. Your Empty Nest Coach podcast, Episode 83     DISCLAIMER Neither I nor my podcast guests are doctors or healthcare professionals of any kind, and nothing on this podcast or associated content should be considered medical advice. The information provided by Wellness While Walking Podcast and associated material, by Whole Life Workshop and by Bermuda Road Wellness LLC is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment, and before undertaking a new health care regimen, including walking.      

Ashley and Jason continue the conversation about how to choose the right partner. On this week's episode, they discuss warning signs and 5 things you can do to help you choose a partner. This episode is inspired by the Book 30 Lessons for Loving by Karl Pillemer, Ph. D.

How do we choose someone to spend the rest of our life with? How can we be sure that we are making the right decision? Especially in a day and age when we have so many options, literally in the palm of our hands. This episode is inspired by the Book 30 Lessons for Loving by Karl Pillemer, Ph.D. 

As a career coach, author, and speaker, John supports individuals and teams in making more effective career choices and more sustainable career plans. John works across generations, from graduate students looking to land their first jobs, to GenX and Boomer workers over fifty looking to redefine and sustain their careers beyond traditional retirement. Starting with the notion that our ideal career is already inside us, John advocates a more personal-growth approach to career development, vs the traditional HR skills-based paradigm.John has a new LinkedIn Learning course, Connecting with Your Millennial Manager. Marc and John discuss the inevitability of your working for a Millennial as you age in the workplace and how you can make it a positive growth experience.Marc is asking for your financial support for the Repurpose Your Career podcast. Please donate at Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer to support this Podcast.   Key Takeaways: [1:38] Marc welcomes you to Episode 154 of the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [1:51] If you are enjoying this podcast, please share it with other like-minded souls. Subscribe on CareerPivot.com, iTunes, or any of the other apps that supply podcasts. Share it on social media or just tell your neighbors and colleagues. The more people Marc reaches, the more people he can help. [2:10] Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the 2nd Half of Life Third Edition is available at Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com, Powells.com, BooksaMillion.com and many other fine online retailers. The book has 30 reviews on Amazon platforms. Marc thanks everyone who has taken the time to review it. [2:36] After three years of doing the Repurpose Your Career podcast it is time for a change. Marc talks about the financial concerns around the podcast and Marc’s Career Pivot business. Marc’s business now focuses on the Career Pivot online membership community to help the most people at a lower cost to the people he helps. [3:15] 2018 was the year the Millers became expats living in Ajijic, Mexico, which greatly reduced their living expenses and helped finance the restructuring of the business. Career Pivot needed to be financially viable. [3:33] In 2019 the Career Pivot website was attacked. For the first time, the website traffic for the year declined from the previous year, though very slightly. [3:47] Marc recently posted about “A Redesigned and Refocused Career Pivot After Attack.” He discussed the website and why he recently changed it. [3:58] Because the business no longer supports the costs of production, Marc is making changes starting with the next episode. Marc will eliminate the time-stamped podcast show notes with a detailed write-up of the show. About half of Marc’s listeners read the show notes. Marc will provide dramatically reduced notes. [4:30] Marc acknowledges the production work of Podfly Productions, as he transitions the Repurpose Your Career podcast to in-house production. Marc recommends using the Podfly.net team if you want to start your own podcast! [4:54] Marc will move to scheduling an episode every other week instead of the weekly schedule he has kept for three years. If Marc gets ahead on episodes over the next few months, he may revert to a weekly schedule. [5:07] Marc will not publish an episode the week of the U.S. Thanksgiving and will produce two episodes in December. On January 6th, 2020 Marc will start the regular biweekly schedule. [5:22] If you would like to financially support this show, please go to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer/ to give. This link will be at the top and bottom of the show notes at CareerPivot.com/episode-154. [5:34] Next week’s episode will be an interview with Teresa Ferguson, Executive Director of AustinUP, a community alliance committed to making Central Texas a place where older adults live full and engaged lives. Teresa has a unique view of the fifty-plus employment world. [5:57] This week, Marc interviews returning guest, John Tarnoff. John just published a LinkedIn Learning Online course, Connecting With Your Millennial Manager. Marc thinks it is incredibly well-done. We may all work at some time for a Millennial Manager. Marc hopes you enjoy this episode. [6:24] Marc welcomes John Tarnoff to the Repurpose Your Career podcast and introduces John to the listening audience. [6:33] John has a new course on LinkedIn Learning, called Connecting with Your Millennial Manager. Marc comments on how well-done this course is. It is divided into short modules with a quiz after each one. If you miss a question it tells you how to find the right answer. [7:13] John gives credit to LinkedIn for ushering him through the process of designing an instructional course. [7:28] LinkedIn approached John a year ago about setting up a course on age-related issues. Managing Someone Older Than You came out in February 2019. John asked them about the “companion piece” of an older worker needing to relate to a younger, probably Millennial boss, and they agreed. That course came out in October 2019. [9:13] The first module is “Everyone’s Getting Younger.” John explains that means in the workplace. If we have children, they are probably Millennials. Boomers often perceive Millennials as entitled slackers. They change jobs often. However, this is also related to the economy being much different than the economy in which Boomers started working. [12:02] Statisticians are finding that by the time a Millennial is promoted to a managerial position, it’s because they are very committed, on top of their job and their responsibilities, and are likely a top contender to work for. [12:28] Millennials are working in a very different economic climate, with colossal student debt and depressed wages. Home ownership is harder for them to achieve than it was for Boomers. They don’t see getting to the American Dream. [13:29] In Marc’s Multi-Generational Workplace workshop, he talks about the Millennials being the echoes of the Boomers. [13:52] Ashton Applewhite was a guest on this podcast. She talked about our natural tendency to self-segregate by age group. [14:30] Marc gave a talk on ageism last year. Afterward, a Boomer walked up to him and said he had volunteered for the Beto O’Rourke for Senate Campaign. He said, “Boy, did my attitude change about the Millennials!” [15:09] John’s course covers common-sense business relationship-building practice. Look at working for a Millennial as an opportunity to be of service. Be ready to mentor; support the work that they do. You will have a lot more fun in your job, find your ‘fit,’ and inspire a closer working relationship with this younger person. [16:32] The course section, “Working for a Millennial Boss,” discusses being of service. One of the keys to mentoring is that it’s not teaching. It’s listening openly and offering suggestions for how that person can figure out how to do it for themselves in their own way. [17:13] As a mentor, you don’t want to tell someone how you did it; you want to listen to what they are going through and have them list the specific problems and tactically offer up possibilities for them to consider. Give them alternatives, perspective, and context. Let them come to the conclusion. [17:54] When you first come to your Millennial boss, be a really good listener. John quotes Steven Covey: “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” Be humble. The world is really different. Younger people have an understanding of how the pace of change is affecting business and technology is affecting management communication. [19:03] Stuff still gets done but now we talk of lean process, agile management, and design thinking. These are new trends in the past decade. A diligent Millennial Manager is going to be working overtime to understand how these processes can benefit their team. There’s a lot we have to learn to be part of that team. We also have a lot to offer. [19:57] Marc takes a break from the interview with John to talk about the Career Pivot Membership Community, which continues to help the approximately 50 members who are participating in the beta phase of this project to grow and thrive. [20:10] Marc reads a member testimonial from community member Scott: “There are multiple online Mastermind groups each week as well as experts speaking to the group on a regular basis. Better yet, the content is recorded in case you have other plans that day. If you are debating LinkedIn Premium or Career Pivot, go with Career Pivot. [20:33] “You get tons of access to Marc and the wisdom of the tribe. You’ll be glad you joined.” Marc hopes you liked what Scott had to say. Marc would like to highlight that the key piece is the wisdom of the tribe. [20:48] This is a paid membership community where Marc offers group coaching, special content, mastermind groups, branding sessions, Slack channels, and more importantly, it’s a community where you can seek help. Please go to CareerPivot.com/Community to sign up to learn more. [21:13] What makes us in the second half of life an asset to today’s workforce? John says it’s the wisdom and experience. We come up with methods that just work, based on what we already have done. Our neural pathways have become well-worn in this area and we come up with answers quickly. It’s not just experience but also context. [23:14] Don’t tell people how to do it, or what worked “in my day.” Never say, “in my day”! Always be in the present. Don’t invoke your experience. Talk about your suggestion on its merits. Justify your solution based on present conditions. [24:04] Marc shares an anecdote from his days at IBM in the 1990s, when he was training technical support people. They found that when you solve a problem in a specific domain, the next time you see a similar problem in a similar domain, you will solve it sooner. [24:32] Marc gave the technical support people opportunities to work with technology when the product was still immature, so they would encounter more problems quicker. Marc has things he learned in college as an engineer apply today when he fixes his car. [25:05] John warns to be careful about invoking past solutions just because they worked once in a different domain. The solution can be offered as an approach if it will work today. If it works, and your manager asks where the idea came from you can then admit that you’ve been doing it that way for years. Millennials are suspicious of the past. [26:14] The past is not relevant. Think about the solution in terms of what’s going to work today. Don’t use past success as your authority for a current application. [26:43] John wants the course to give people confidence about reporting to a younger person. Almost 60% of people over 55 are reporting to someone younger. As Millennials age into these positions of responsibility, someone two generations below you will manage you. [27:37] John also says we need to spread the word that reporting to someone younger can be very enriching and liberating. If you develop a good working relationship with someone who is 30 years younger think of how that will enrich your perspective and cultural influences. We stay young by the diversity of connections we make. [28:39] The more we spend time with people of varied backgrounds and ages, the more our lives are enriched and the more we discover inside ourselves we never knew was there, or that we had lost. It enriches our lives. Put aside the nostalgia and embrace new experiences. Continue contributing to work, life, and culture. [30:25] Boomers and Millennials are very compatible. They have the same activist tendencies for meaning, purpose, and social justice. There is a lot to be gained by forming close relationships with Millennials, especially in the context of work. [30:59] From developing these courses, John learned that his initial hypothesis was correct that the more time Boomers and Millennials spend together, the more they get from each other. All the research points in that direction. [31:43] John cites a study by Dr. Karl Pillemer at Cornell that says the more generations spend time together, the more age bias withers away. Familiarity breeds harmony, cooperation, and understanding. We just need to spend more time hanging out with, working with, people of different generations. That is the future. [32:27] Marc talks about the multi-generational families where he lives in Mexico. Marc notes that in all the ‘Blue Zones’ where there are more centenarians, a common trait is that there are multi-generational families. [32:53] Multi-generational family living keeps your brain growing because you are constantly learning and experiencing life with people that are not ‘like you.’ [33:23] You can take John’s course on LinkedIn Learning (originally, Lynda.com). Find him at JohnTarnoff.com. Find John on LinkedIn, or Facebook. A Google search brings up some of his links on the first page. [34:25] Marc thanks John for being on the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [34:37] Marc hopes you enjoyed that episode. Marc was impressed with this thought-provoking interview. [34:50] The career Pivot Membership Community continues to help the approximately 50 members who are participating in the Beta phase of this project to grow and thrive. This is a community where everyone is there to help everyone else. Marc is recruiting new members for the next cohort. [35:05] If you are interested in the Career Pivot Membership Community and would like to be put on a waiting list, please go to CareerPivot.com/Community. [35:20] Marc invites you to connect with him on LinkedIn.com/in/mrmiller. Just include in the connection request that you listen to this podcast. You can look for Career Pivot on Facebook, LinkedIn, or @CareerPivot on Twitter. [35:35] Please come back next week when Marc will interview Teresa Ferguson, Executive Director of AustinUp! [35:43] Please support the Repurpose Your Career podcast by going to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer. This link is also at the top of the show notes. [35:58] You will find the show notes for this episode at CareerPivot.com/episode-154. [36:08] Please hop over to CareerPivot.com and subscribe to get updates on this podcast and all the other happenings at Career Pivot. You can also subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, the Google Podcasts app, Podbean, the Overcast app, or the Spotify app and soon to be on Pandora!

Worrying more than anything else keeps us from living our best life. Of course it feels horrible, but it also keeps us from walking with God into the life we want. Join Dave Schmelzer as he reviews some of the richest lessons ever offered as we stop worrying and start living!   Mentioned in this podcast:    How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, by Dale Carnegie   30 Lessons for Living, by Karl Pillemer   Real Happiness, by Sharon Salzberg   Matthew 6:22-23, Psalm 118:24, Proverbs 23:7, Psalm 90:12

How do we find and sustain the kind of meaningful work that's at the heart of our deepest dream? Dave Schmelzer looks at how great contemplative teachers suggest that common biblical wisdom about this question works just great--until it doesn't, and we realize we're being invited into a different experience of life than we'd anticipated. All with our dream right at the center.  Mentioned on this podcast: "Follow That Dream" by Bruce Springsteen Matthew 14:22-33 and 2 Peter 1:4 30 Lessons for Living, by Karl Pillemer

How do we find and sustain the kind of meaningful work that's at the heart of our deepest dream? Dave Schmelzer looks at how great contemplative teachers suggest that common biblical wisdom about this question works just great--until it doesn't, and we realize we're being invited into a different experience of life than we'd anticipated. All with our dream right at the center.    Mentioned on this podcast:   "Follow That Dream" by Bruce Springsteen   Matthew 14:22-33 and 2 Peter 1:4   30 Lessons for Living, by Karl Pillemer

Thanh Pham from Asian Efficiency shares his expert tips and favorite resources for optimal productivity.   You'll Learn: The biggest productivity myth How to be more productive while doing less A simple productivity tip to exponentially improve your focus   About Thanh: Thanh is the Founder and Managing Director of Asian Efficiency. He is considered one of the top thought leaders in the productivity industry and he has been featured in Fast Company, Inc.com, Forbes, Huffington Post, and The Globe & Mail. On a day-to-day basis, he is responsible for executing the company’s mission and helping people become more Asian Efficient. When he’s not sharing his newest productivity wisdom, he likes to drink lots of green tea, eat eggs benedict at hotels, make video blogs, and read non-fiction books. Thanh’s podcast: The Productivity Show Thanh’s website: Asian Efficiency    Resources mentioned in the show: App: TextExpander App: OmniFocus App: BusyCal App: BusyContacts Product: Bose QuietComfort 35 II Wireless Smart Headphones Website: Brain.fm Website: Focus@Will Website: GreatAssistant.com Book: 30 Lessons for Living by Karl Pillemer, Ph. D. Book: The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others do in 12 Months by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington Book: Eat That Frog! 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time by Brian Tracy Prior episode: 339: Achieving Hyperfocus with Chris Bailey Prior episode: 421: Why Great Leaders Have No Rules with Kevin Kruse   Thank you Sponsors! BetterHelp provides affordable therapy on demand. Get 10% off your first month at BetterHelp.com/AWESOME with the discount code AWESOME. Babbel helps you learn a new language anywhere, anytime! Speak a new language with confidence with Babbel.com

2019...NEW BEGINNINGS   1.  Beatty's suggestions for taking care of your old and new unfinished business that continually gets in the way of your life and relationships.   2.  Are you following the Gary Null protocol for maximum health?   3.  30 Lessens for Loving.  A must read book by Dr. Karl Pillemer, PHD.   4.  Evidence based research to fight opioid addiction.    TO LIFE AND LOVE, XXXBEATTY 

30 LESSONS FOR LOVING: ADVICE FROM THE WISEST AMERICANS ON LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE. Cornell professor and gerontologist Karl Pillemer interviewed 700 people, with an average of 43 years of marriage each, for his new book. He brings us their advice on how to pick your battles, how do deal with money woes and how to keep romance alive.

30 LESSONS FOR LOVING: ADVICE FROM THE WISEST AMERICANS ON LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE. Cornell professor and gerontologist Karl Pillemer interviewed 700 people, with an average of 43 years of marriage each, for his new book. He brings us their advice on how to pick your battles, how do deal with money woes and how to keep romance alive.

30 LESSONS FOR LOVING: ADVICE FROM THE WISEST AMERICANS ON LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE. Cornell professor and gerontologist Karl Pillemer interviewed 700 people, with an average of 43 years of marriage each, for his new book. He brings us their advice on how to pick your battles, how do deal with money woes and how to keep romance alive.

This week, Rabbi Segal speaks with Moishe Bane, President of the Orthodox Union and partner at Ropes & Gray LLP. In the first part of their conversation, President Bane offers an inside look at the OU, and discusses his educational philosophy (for children and adults alike) with Rabbi Segal. President Bane also explores his background as an activist within the Orthodox community, and shares his most powerful moment of the Jewish year. The book President Bane mentions is "30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans," by Karl Pillemer.

BCTR associate director Chris Wildeman sits in for Karl Pillemer this episode. Our guest James Garbarino argues that teenage killers are not doomed to a life of violence and most can be reahabilitated by the time they are fully-developed adults. They also talk about sentencing in these cases, how the judicial system deals with young killers, and what could be changed to better serve this youth while keeping the public safe. James Garbarino holds the Maude Clarke Chair in Psychology and was founding director of the Center for the Human Rights of Children at Loyola University Chicago. His research focuses on issues in the social ecology of child and adolescent development. He has a long-standing interest in a wide range of violence-related issues, including war, child maltreatment, childhood aggression, and juvenile delinquency. Since 1994, he has served as a scientific expert witness in murder cases. Among the books he has authored are: "Miller’s Children: Why Giving Teenage Killers a Second Chance Matters for All of Us" (2018) and "Listening to Killers" (2015).

In this episode BCTR director Karl Pillemer welcomes Dr. Monika Safford to discuss how the chronically ill rural poor are underserved or completely unserved by the current health care system. This lack of resources has created resourceful and creative community medical groups that fill in the gaps, and with whom Dr. Safford and her team have partnered to address the health crises in their communities. Dr. Safford is the John J. Kulper Professor of Medicine in the Department of Medicine and the chief of the Division of General Internal Medicine at Weill Cornell Medical College. She is a clinician-investigator with clinical expertise in preventive healthcare, treatment of acute and chronic illness, and the coordination of care for those with complex diseases. She is an expert in patient-centered research on diabetes, cardiovascular epidemiology and prevention, and health disparities.

In this episode Karl chats with Dr. Elissa Kozlov about psychological support for patients in palliative care. Dr. Kozlov also discusses insurance coverage for mental health in palliative care, support for family members, and the important difference between palliative and hospice care (they're not at all the same thing!). Dr. Elissa Kozlov is a T32 post-doctoral fellow at Weill Cornell Medical College at the Center for End-of-Life Research. She earned her doctorate from Washington University in both Clinical and Aging and Developmental Psychology. Her research focuses on mental health assessment and intervention within palliative care, patient and family knowledge of palliative care, later life family communication, and barriers to palliative care integration and utilization. Dr. Karl Pillemer is director of the Bronfenbrenner Center for Translational Research, Hazel E. Reed Professor of Human Development, and Professor of Gerontology in Medicine at the Weill Cornell Medical College.

In this episode Karl Pillemer talks with Marianella Casasola about her work examining infant cognitive development, early word learning, and early spatial cognition. Dr. Casasola talks about her experiences partnering with Head Start to do research, details of her more recent findings, and she gives some advice that any new parent can easily employ to boost infant learning. Marianella Casasola is an associate professor of human development and a faculty fellow of the Bronfenbrenner Center for Translational Research (BCTR) at Cornell University. She studies infant cognitive development and early word learning with a particular interest in the interaction between thought and language during the first few years of development. She is especially interested in the emergence of spatial concepts, the early acquisition of spatial language, and the interplay between spatial cognition and spatial language in infants and young children.

What does it take to keep a marriage going, and going happily? Karl Pillemer shares what he's learned from couples who've been married, forty, fifty, sixty years, or longer. Pillemer is a Cornell University gerontologist and author of 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage.  

In this episode Bronfenbrenner Center director Karl Pillemer talks with Anthony Burrow, assistant professor of Human Development, director of the Purpose and Identity Processes Lab, and co-director of the Program for Research on Youth Development and Engagement (PRYDE) at Cornell. Karl and Tony discuss the importance of purpose in the lives of young people and the ways that we can encourage youth connection to purpose for their own benefit.

In this episode Bronfenbrenner Center director Karl Pillemer talks with Corinna Loeckenhoff, associate professor of Human Development and director of the Laboratory for Healthy Aging at Cornell and associate professor of Gerontology in Medicine at Weill Cornell Medical College. Karl and Corinna discuss Dr. Loeckenhoff's research on aging and its effects on emotional and mental health, including the reminder that aging is not dying. They also talk about the new book "Emotion, Aging, and Health" (American Psychological Association), which expands on ideas explored in the 2013 Bronfenbrenner Conference. Corinna Loeckenhoff co-edited the book with Anthony Ong, also of the Department of Human Development at Cornell.

In this episode we hear from Andy Turner, who heads the 4-H Youth Development Program in New York State. He talks with BCTR director Karl Pillemer about 4-H/Cornell connections and changes he sees that will keep 4-H at the forefront of youth development programming. Andy has over 25 years' experience in Cooperative Extension/4-H. Advancing environmental education and sustainability, and applying a facilitative leadership style towards organizational change and innovation are two consistent themes throughout his career. Andy earned his bachelor's and master's from Cornell University and his Ed.D in executive leadership from St. John Fisher College.

In this episode of Doing Translational Research, BCTR director Karl Pillemer interviews Cornell professor of nutritional science Carol Devine. Professor Devine studies how food choices over the life course are shaped by life transitions, social roles, and the lived environment.

It was Woody Allen who said that “marriage was the end of hope.”  We know from the behavior of millennials today that while they strongly favor equality of marriage, they are not to keen on the institution for themselves.Arguably marriage today, like so much in our society, is undergoing a transition and even disruption.  Marriage today is certainly not your parents marriage….but is it maybe your grandparents.Suppose we skip back not one, but two generations and look at marriage. Can we learn anything that is at all relevant to our 24/7 tech driven culture today?Karl Pillemer thinks so.  He has taken the time to talk to hundreds of older retirees about their relationships and their marriages, in the hope that age might provide a little wisdom on one of the oldest subjects. The results are in 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage.My conversation with Karl Pillemer:  

Karl Pillemer wrote an amazing book called, 30 LESSONS FOR LIVING ~ Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans After Terry watched a :60 Minutes story about aging, he knew he had to reach out to Karl again! On this show Karl explains what he's learned about Faith and Spirituality as well as Worry and Stress .... plus how older people have learned to "kick out all the jerks."   This is a must listen!

Sermon preached at St. Francis Episcopal Church, Great Falls, Virginia, on the First Sunday after Pentecost, Trinity Sunday, May 26, 2013, preached by the Rev. Benson Shelton. Gospel is John 16:12-15. Epistle is Romans 5:1-5. Story of comedian taken from Wright, N.T. "Paul for Everyone: Romans Part One", pp. 80-81. The project cited was the "Legacy Project" at Cornell University with Karl Pillemer. Survey on character of God was done by Baylor Institute for Studies of Relgion and Department of Sociology, Baylor University, 2006.

Karl Pillemer, author of the book, "30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans" reflects on what he's learned from discussions with older Americans.

When it comes to the stuff of life, there is no shortage of people and resources who offer insights on how to be successful, get a job, have meaningful relationships, and more. The experts range from celebrities to academics to anyone with a blog. Our guest in this episode is Karl Pillemer, author of 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans. There are all kinds of reasons why Justin Bieber or other celebrities aren't the best sources for life lessons! But what if we talked to people who have lived much of their life and had a bit of a retrospective or lessons learned with them? That's the idea behind Karl's book, which we discuss in this episode. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Have a great week! Total Duration 40:24 Download episode 90   30 Lessons Trailer For more about Karl and his book, check out this trailer: {youtube}PRaboPigDyc{/youtube} QUADRILLE LAURIER (6EME PARTIE) by Isidore Soucy is licensed under a Orphan Work License. TROUBA by Steve Gunn is licensed under a Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike License.

Lessons Learned... For Life Hopefully by now you have had the opportunity to listen to my interview with Karl Pillemer. I can honsestly say this is one of my favorite books in the last year so it's my pleasure to share some additional insights with you from the discussion with Karl. In this premium episode we'll discuss ideas such as: Who are your experts? How a profound awareness of short time horizon helps us make better choices The importance of work that is intrinsically motivating Why, unless there is a compelling reason not to, you should error on the side of saying "Yes" The importance of relationships and why emotional intelligence trumps expertise Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Have a great week! Total Duration 12:38 {mp3remoate}http://traffic.libsyn.com/peopleandprojectspodcast/90-PremiumFollowUpLifeLessons.mp3{/mp3remote} Download the premium episode

Weekly JourneywithJesus.net postings, read by Daniel B. Clendenin. Essay: *A Day of Ashes and Rituals of Renewal* for Wednesday February 22 and Sunday, 26 February 2012; book review: *30 Lessons for Living; Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans* by Karl Pillemer (2011); film review: *Hell and Back Again* (2010); poem review: *Marked by Ashes* by Walter Brueggemann.

New Years is right around the corner and we are going make resolutions for the coming year to make our life better. My guest today is Dr. Karl Pillemer, Ph. D. who wrote a book, “30 Lessons for Life”. He has been written up in New York Times, Forbes Magazine, the Huffington Post, Daily Beast […] The post Things My Mom Taught Me – 30 Lessons for Living appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.