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Have you ever wanted a peek inside a man's brain?

Have you heard of The Bristle Reaction? It's a term Vanessa coined—and when we posted about it on TikTok, over 8 million people watched. (You can watch that here

Ask a sex therapist is back! Have you ever Googled something about sex and then immediately deleted your search history?

Maybe it's a gross habit that totally kills the mood… Maybe it's a bigger issue that leaves you feeling unseen or disconnected… This week, we're diving into a question we hear all the time: Should I be putting up with this in my relationship? Whether it's your partner's lack of ambition, a dead bedroom, constant yelling, or socks in the couch cushions (yep, really) — we're breaking down how to tell the difference between healthy compromise and straight-up self-betrayal. We're walking through real stories submitted by our audience and sharing tools to help you: Tune into your own boundaries. Get clear on what's worth working through. Speak your truth without blowing things up. The difference between patience and people-pleasing. When to accept a quirk vs. when to draw a hard line. How to handle dead bedrooms, defensiveness, and money fights. What to do if your partner's gross habits are killing your vibe. The truth about “sticking it out” vs. knowing when you've had enough.

Does sex feel like a chore to you? According to 86% of our audience? Yes. Maybe sex doesn't feel great. Maybe it it's more about your partner getting their needs met than you. Maybe it's just started to feel like another thing to check off your list. But maybe the issue isn't sex at all. Maybe it's that you're carrying too much — between the keeping the household running (and kind of clean), parenting logistics, and the weight of every single thing it takes to adult… It's not that sex is a chore: it's that chores are sabotaging your sex life! In this episode, we're breaking down how mental load affects desire, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction (spoiler alert: a lot more than you think). And of course, we're sharing practical tools to help lighten the load and bring the connection back.

In this episode, we're giving you a realistic, 4-week plan to help you and your partner get out of that relationship rut — even if you're super busy, overwhelmed, or feeling disconnected. No grand gestures. No impossible checklists. Just simple, thoughtful actions you can start this week to feel closer again — emotionally and physically. Here's what we're covering: The difference between a rut and a red flag

Ready for our go-to masterclass on one of the most overlooked (but absolutely essential) parts of intimacy? We're bringing back one of our most downloaded episodes of all time — and trust us, it's worth a re-listen (or a first-time bender if you're new around here). Foreplay — the most misunderstood, rushed-through, and skipped-over part of sex. But here's the truth: foreplay isn't optional. It's not just a warm-up. It's the whole damn vibe. In this episode, we're breaking down the 5 biggest mistakes couples make when it comes to foreplay — and how to turn things around so it actually feels good (for both of you). Here's what we're diving into: Why “just get to the point” is killing the vibe What makes receiving foreplay so hard (especially for women — hi, it's not your fault) The most common foreplay ruts we all fall into How to make foreplay fun again — not forced, awkward, or performative A mindset shift that will change how you think about sex forever Whether you're feeling stuck, unsure what your partner wants, or just ready for a heck of a lot more pleasure… this episode is your permission slip. Links & Resources:

We're bringing back a fan favorite this week… and yep, we're going there. Butt stuff.

We're back this week with another coaching episode — where we listen to real voice notes from real listeners who are navigating some seriously relatable challenges.  From craving more pleasure but not knowing how to ask for it… to dealing with desire differences after kids and trying to orgasm for the first time (yes, ever) — we're holding space for your stories. If you've ever found yourself thinking:  “Is this it?” “Why don't I want sex more?”  “How do I even bring this up with my partner?” You're not alone — and this episode is for you. We're walking through these submissions with curiosity, compassion, and practical tools to help these couples — and you — feel more connected, more confident, and more turned on by your sex life again.  

If you've ever joked about “peeing just a little” when you sneeze, or you're the kind of person who always has to know where the bathroom is, this one's for you. Vanessa is sharing her personal (and super vulnerable) journey with bladder issues: how it started, the surprising symptoms, the anxiety it caused, and the expert-backed tools and tricks that actually helped. We asked our community if they've experienced bladder problems — and 62% of women said yes. So if you're in that group, or just curious to hear a side of health and intimacy we've never talked about before, tune in. This episode might just be a game changer for you. Here's a peek at what we cover: That awkward moment when you realize… something's off The role of pelvic floor physical therapy (and who V followed to learn more) Bad habits no one tells you are actually bad The urologist visit from hell (you won't believe what they said) How Vanessa trained her bladder like a dog (yes, really) Small changes that made a HUGE difference — and why Vanessa finally sleeps through the night Disclaimer: This episode is based on personal experience and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with your doctor about your individual health needs. Links & resources in the episode: Expecting and Empowered The Vagina Whisperer

Is it cheating if you go to sex club… but just to watch? What about a flirty Snapchat streak with your ex? A prostate massage with no orgasm?

We've all had that moment — your partner brings something up, and suddenly you're snapping back with a list of everything they did wrong. But wait… is that defensiveness, or are you just defending yourself? This week, we're diving into one of the trickiest relationship dynamics out there: defensiveness. And we're not just talking about it — we're unpacking real, raw stories straight from you. From sex drive mismatches to mental load meltdowns, parenting disagreements to pasta-water disputes (yep, really), these stories highlight how easy it is to get caught in the cycle of feeling blamed, getting reactive, and shutting down. But we're also sharing tips to break out of that cycle — with more compassion, more understanding, and way fewer spirals. What You'll Hear In This Episode: ✅ What defensiveness actually looks like (and why it shows up so fast) ✅ The difference between explaining yourself and shutting down ✅ Real-life listener stories around parenting, mental load, and misunderstandings ✅ What it really means to validate your partner (without agreeing) ✅ How to talk to your partner without triggering defensiveness ✅Practical ways to pause, reflect, and repair (without spiraling) Links & Resources: Check out DEEPER — our new membership with full access to VanessaAI, monthly date night ideas, live calls with us, and more Grab The Ultimate Foreplay Guides to level-up your pleasure skills Follow us on Instagram for more relationship tips and convos Want us to cover your story next? Keep an eye on our IG Stories for callouts Join our email list – Be the first to know about exclusive offers, new products, and exciting updates: vmtherapy.com/subscribe ================================= THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS =================================

We're back with a fan-favorite series—Am I The Asshole?

Initiating sex in your relationship should feel exciting, not frustrating—but let's be real… for most couples, it's anything but smooth. Whether you're feeling stuck, rejected, or just plain awkward when it comes to getting things started in the bedroom, today's episode is here to help! We surveyed our audience, and only 17% of people said they're happy with how initiation is going in their relationship. That means a lot of us are struggling with:

Ever wish you had a sex therapist on speed dial? We get so many questions every week (because you guys are THE BEST) that we just can't get to them all—so today, we're dedicating an entire episode to answering your biggest intimacy and relationship dilemmas. From navigating mismatched libidos to handling awkward bedroom moments, we're here to break it all down with practical, shame-free advice. In This Episode, We Cover:

Cowgirl is one of the most empowering positions in the bedroom—so why do so many of us avoid it?

Have you ever wondered if there's something you do in the bedroom that your partner secretly (or not-so-secretly) wishes you'd stop doing? Well, you're not alone. A while back, we asked our audience this very question, and the responses came flooding in. So many, in fact, that we had to bring this topic back for Part 2! In today's episode, we're diving into the most common complaints from partners about what they wish their significant other would stop doing in the bedroom. We're covering everything from awkward communication habits to frustrating foreplay, plus some surprising grievances about kissing, initiation, and even what happens after the fun is over. And don't worry—this isn't just about calling out the bad. We're also giving you practical tips on how to improve your sex life by doing more of what your partner actually loves. What We're Covering in This Episode:

Ever wonder what we really want to say when someone leaves a spicy comment on one of our social media posts? Well, you're in for a treat. Social media has been an incredible way to connect with our community, share free resources, and help couples build their best relationships. But putting ourselves out there also means we encounter some… interesting feedback. In this episode, we're diving into the comment sections of our most viral posts. From debates about quickie intimacy to whether or not you should “fuck first,” we're breaking down the conversations, sharing what we wish we could've said, and offering our advice to help you create a happier, healthier love life—trolls not included. Links & Resources: Reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-193&utm_term=podcast-193 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-193&utm_term=podcast-193 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-193&utm_term=podcast-193 Connect with us!

We're diving into part 4 of one of our favorite series, “Is This Normal?” We'll be exploring topics like: Is it normal for my husband to have absolutely no sex drive? Is it normal to never have fought? Is it normal for my partner to talk in a baby voice and for it to turn me off? And even more of your questions! This episode is packed with real talk, judgment-free advice, and practical tips to help you navigate these tricky (and sometimes awkward!) situations. Links & Resources: Reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Treat Your Partner to the Best Foreplay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Connect with us!

If you were raised in Purity Culture, you already know how challenging it can be to overcome now that you're an adult. You spent years being taught that it's important for you to be wholesome, that pleasure is sinful, and that there are very specific rules you need to follow. In this episode, we're sharing stories from people who were raised in Purity Culture, and giving you step-by-step tips for overcoming shame. Links and Resources: Reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-191&utm_term=podcast-191 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-191&utm_term=podcast-191 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-191&utm_term=podcast-191 Connect with us!

Have you ever wanted something from your partner, but found yourself wondering, “Am I asking too much?” Or has your partner ever asked you for something that didn't feel reasonable to you? We asked our community to share some of their questionable relationship requests, and the responses were fascinating! Tune in as we break down the line between what's reasonable, what's ridiculous, and what's simply part of being in a relationship. Links & Resources: Your Best Week Ever is designed to give the maximum impact for minimum effort. ****Ready to reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-190&utm_term=podcast-190 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-190&utm_term=podcast-190 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-190&utm_term=podcast-190 Connect with us!

It's officially 2025 and you might be feeling like your relationship could use a fresh start. We asked our Instagram audience if they've ever wished for a fresh start in their relationship—and the responses came pouring in! We're reading through your submissions, sharing our thoughts, and offering practical advice for anyone looking to refresh their connection with their partner. Whether you're dealing with intimacy, post-pregnancy, or even income issues, we've got you covered with tips to help you and your partner move forward and rekindle that spark. Links & Resources: Reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Connect with us!

We were feeling inspired… The Ultimatum is back on Netflix, and it was wild. It left us wondering if our own audience has ever given (or been given) a relationship ultimatum, so we asked! In this episode, we're breaking down your ultimatums and sharing our opinions and advice. If you've ever considered giving an ultimatum - or if you're just curious about the ones other people have issued - this is a must-listen! Links & Resources: Reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-188&utm_term=podcast-188 Connect with us!

Tis the Season for DRAMA! We're so excited to bring you another hilarious “Am I The Asshole?” episode this week. In the theme of the season, we're doing another holiday edition. We're talking about affairs, secret Santa mishaps, and a disastrous salmon situation. Get ready to grab your coziest blanket and cup of cocoa for this new episode of one of our favorite series! Links & Resources: Join our VIP email list Follow us on Instagram If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks ZocDoc. Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/pillow

There are a ton of topics we want to cover on this podcast, but sometimes we just don't have enough material to make a full hour-long episode for each one. So we're trying something new to give you our hottest takes and tips… a multi-topic episode! Today we're talking about being non-hetero in a male-female relationship, period sex, and internal versus external processors. Think of this episode like a podcast tossed salad and get ready to dive in. Links & Resources: Join our VIP email list Follow us on Instagram Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow Thanks Cozy Earth. Go to cozyearth.com/pillowtalks and use code PILLOWTALKS for an exclusive discount for up to 40% off. Thanks Unbound Merino. Head over to their website unboundmerino.com where new customers can use our code PILLOW for 15% off of their order!

Straight from a certified Sex Therapist, this episode is everything you need to know about porn and its role in relationships. Vanessa is taking on one of our most asked-about topics solo and diving into every possible aspect of porn that you could be thinking of. How does watching porn affect you personally, is there ever a benefit to watching porn, even how to navigate porn in your relationship. Links & Resources: Join our email list! Instagram: @vanessaandxander Thanks Chewy. Take advantage of amazing holiday savings and shop your personal favorites at Chewy.com/pillows. Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co Thanks Unbound Merino. Head over to their website unboundmerino.com where new customers can use our code PILLOW for 15% off of their order!

Do you want more physical intimacy in your relationship? In this episode, we're talking about different kinds of physical intimacy, why it's so important, how to ask your partner for more, and what to do if you're worried they won't understand. Links & Resources: Challenge: Sweet Or Spicy If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks Jack Black. Go to GetJackBlack.com/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for 10% off your order. Thanks MarleySpoon. Experience the most personalized meal kit today with Marley Spoon. Head to MarleySpoon.com/OFFER/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for up to 25 FREE meals!

Do you want more emotional intimacy in your relationship? In today's episode, we're covering what emotional intimacy actually is, how to get more of it in your relationship, and even what to do if your partner doesn't understand what you want. Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co

What happens when you have a fantasy that your partner is just not into? When your “yum” is their “yuck” if you will. We asked our IG community for stories about times when their partner wanted to try something they weren't into, or vice versa. Now, we're sharing our best advice on how to handle the differences. Links & Resources: Sign up for our email list: vmtherapy.com/subscribe Thanks Cozy Earth. Go to cozyearth.com/pillowtalks and use code PILLOWTALKS for an exclusive discount for up to 40% off. Thanks StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/pillow Thanks Jack Black. Go to GetJackBlack.com/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for 10% off your order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How are we really doing? We had a plan to talk about a different topic, but once we sat down in front of the mics, we decided to go rogue and talk about what life has really been like recently. In today's episode, we're getting extra personal and sharing some of our ups and downs from the year so far. We've got details about all the tough decisions we've been making about the future of our company, personal updates about the state of our relationship, and even a behind-the-scenes look at the state of this podcast… Links & Resources: Our Courses & Guides Thanks Chewy. Take advantage of amazing holiday savings and shop your personal favorites at Chewy.com/pillows.

It's time for another edition of one of our most popular series, Smash or Pass! This is where we try out the internet's weirdest sex tips, so you don't have to! (We even recorded audio of ourselves trying out a lot of the tips…) Today's theme is sex tips from 90's and 00's women's magazines. Do these tips about “driving your man wild” actually work? Tune in to find out! Links & Resources: Guide: The Sexual Mastery Package Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow. Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks Jack Black. Go to GetJackBlack.com/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for 10% off your order.

What's the difference between a clitoral orgasm, g-spot orgasm, and cervical orgasm? What's squirting? How common is it for women to orgasm multiple times in 1 session? Today we're taking it back to the very first topic Vanessa became known for - female orgasm (Buzzfeed even called her The Orgasm Whisperer)! In this episode, Vanessa is answering some of the most commonly asked questions about female pleasure and giving you top-tier advice on how to start having the best orgasms of your life. Links & Resources: Course: Finishing School Thanks Cozy Earth. Go to cozyearth.com/pillowtalks and use code PILLOWTALKS for an exclusive discount for up to 40% off.

We're bringing one of our favorite Instagram games to the podcast, Tie-Breakers! We asked our community to share some of the things that they just can't agree on with their partner. We break the tie for them! We've got some interesting relationship stand-offs to dig into for this episode, like who is responsible for chores if only one of you works, if you should charge rent to in-laws, who are living with you, and are you too old for hand jobs? Links & Resources: Book: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life Guide: The Ultimate Foreplay Guides Guide: Mental Load Workbook Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co.

Mutual masturbation is one of the sexiest things you can do in the bedroom! But when we asked our audience if they had ever mutually masturbated with their partner, only 36% said yes. in today's episode, we break down what mutual masturbation is, how to get comfortable and confident doing it, and how to take it to the next level! Links & Resources: Guide: The Ultimate Foreplay Guides Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co. Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow

Is it cheating to keep nudes from past relationships? Have an Only Fans account? Have a “work wife”? For this episode, we asked our community to tell us about a situation they're in that has left them wondering, “Does this count as cheating?” The answers were fascinating, and we had a blast giving our hot takes. This is a great episode to listen to with your partner, to make sure you're on the same page about what counts as cheating in your relationship. Links & Resources: Check out our courses Instagram: @vanessaandxander Tiktok: @vanessaandxander Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks Flure. Check out the Flure Dating App at www.flure.com

Is there something your partner does in the bedroom that you're not sure you should put up with? This episode was inspired by a message we got from a woman whose husband wears headphones and listens to podcasts while they have sex. She wanted to know if it was OK for her to be upset by this behavior. Minds blown, we turned to Instagram to ask people what other confusing or unusual behaviors they were putting up with. In this shocking (and honestly pretty unhinged) episode, we'll give you our hot takes on what you should and shouldn't put up with. Links & Resources: Guide: Dirty Talk 101 Thanks Zocdoc.Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks Horoscope Weekly. New episodes release every Monday, wherever you get your podcasts. Just search for “Horoscope Weekly with Aliza Kelly”. Thanks Flure. Check out the Flure Dating App at www.flure.com

Does Vanessa wear the pants in the relationship? Are we skipping out on meetings to have sex in the middle of the day? Are we rich?? It's time for another round of Ask Us Anything, and we're answering all your nosiest assumptions. We're covering the most personal topics involving our relationship, our business, and even our sex lives. Links & Resources: Course: Your Best Week Ever If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow. Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Thanks Chewy. Save $20 on your first order and get free shipping by going to chewy.com/PILLOWS Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co.

Ever found yourself feeling attracted to someone else despite being in a committed monogamous relationship? Maybe someone cute you saw at the gym. Or a college. Or even your partner's best friend?? Don't worry, you aren't the only one. Today we're digging into real stories from our community about times they were attracted to someone else, and giving our best advice on how to handle attraction to other people while in a relationship. Links & Resources: Free Guide: 20 Great Compliments To Give Your Partner Subscribe here Instagram: @vanessaandxander Thanks MarleySpoon. Experience the most personalized meal kit today with Marley Spoon. Head to MarleySpoon.com/OFFER/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for up to 25 FREE meals!

Have you wanted to bring a sex toy into the bedroom but been worried about your partner's response? It can be a scary ask! Maybe you're worried about hurting your partner's feelings, maybe you don't even own one yet. Well, we think sex toys can be an incredibly useful way to balance the orgasm gap and increase pleasure! So in this episode, we're going to help you introduce sex toys into the bedroom (but without making it weird)! Links & Resources: Recommended Products Guide: Ultimate Foreplay Guides Guide: Next Level Intercourse If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks HelloFresh. For FREE breakfast for life go to HelloFresh dot com slash freepillow. Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co.

“When mommy and daddy lock the bedroom door…” We've all been there at some point in our childhood when someone sat us down and talked to us for the first time about sex. Odds are it was probably awkward, uncomfortable, and maybe left you with more questions than before. In this episode, we're digging into all of your true stories about how “The Talk” was given to you, and we're sharing our stories too. So if you've ever wondered how similar your first conversation about sex is to someone else, this is an episode you can't miss. Links & Resources: Course: How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow. Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.

We're back with Part 2 of our “What Do Women Really Think About…?” series. We turned to our instagram community again and asked for a new batch of topics. We're diving into women's real thoughts about spitting vs swallowing, their partners watching porn, and some (pretty crazy) wild cards. Links & Resources: Ultimate Foreplay Guides Next Level Intercourse If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Thanks MarleySpoon. Experience the most personalized meal kit today with Marley Spoon. Head to MarleySpoon.com/OFFER/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for up to 25 FREE meals!

Ever had a frustrating situation with a partner that left you wondering, “Is this your problem to fix? Or mine?” Whether it's disagreeing on parenting choices or your partner having a fetish that you're not into yourself, it's completely normal to be confused about who needs to make a change. Today we're bringing back “Is This Your Shit Or Mine?” for part 2. Get ready for some fascinating stories from other couples and our best advice for how to move forward! Links & Resources: Our Courses & Guides Thanks Chewy. Save $20 on your first order and get free shipping by going to chewy.com/PILLOWS Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co.

Long distance relationships are hard! About 14 million people are in long distance relationships in the US alone, and most of them report struggling to keep the spark alive. In this episode, we're going to help you stay connected and keep it spicy with hacks, techniques, tips, and tricks. Links & Resources: Sex Talks Dirty Talk 101 UFG NLI If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.

Have you ever considered opening your relationship? Or just ever felt nosy about why other people open theirs? For today's episode, we asked our Instagram audience to let us know if they were considering opening their relationship. We weigh in on what they should do and give them (and you!) our best advice. Links & Resources: Art Of Initiation If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Does a lack of privacy get in the way of your sex life? You're not alone. 62% of our audience say they wish they had more privacy, and 92% of them say they'd be having more and better sex if they had more privacy. If you don't have privacy, you may find it difficult to get in the mood, relax in the moment, make any noise, or even allow yourself to have sex in the first place. In this episode, you'll get access to practical tips taken straight from one of our paid courses, Rediscovering Us! Links & Resources: Rediscovering Us: Intimacy And Sex for Parents If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.

Did you know that only 24% of people said they're happy with the level of vulnerability in their relationship? We asked our community why they struggle to be vulnerable, and heard things like: I didn't grow up being vulnerable, so I don't know how to do it We've been together for so long without being vulnerable; it would feel weird to try to start now What's the point of vulnerability? Our hot take is that without vulnerability, you don't have a real relationship. So in this episode, we're breaking down your barriers and helping you and your partner get more vulnerable! Links & Resources: Simple Daily Check-In If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.

Your partner wants you to flirt with them more! But the majority of us feel like we don't know HOW to flirt. It feels awkward or cheesy... Or we don't know what our partner will actually like. Get your notebooks out because today we're going to teach you how to flirt with your partner! We'll cover why flirting is so important in long-term relationships, how to get over your resistance to it, and dozens of specific examples of how to flirt. Pro-tip: this is a fantastic episode to listen to with your partner! Links & Resources: Art Of Initiation Dirty Talk 101 If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies, but most of us feel completely clueless about how to actually make them happen! In today's episode, we walk you through how to have your first one, and share some hot, hilarious, awkward, and horrible stories about other peoples' threesomes. If you've ever wanted to have a threesome or just want to hear about others' experiences, you're in for a treat! Links & Resources: Courses & Guides If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!