Raising Daughters

There are many valuable strategies that parents can learn from business owners when building a strong family culture. Dr. Tim Jordan explores these CEO-inspired approaches with parenting coach Avital Levy. Together, they examine the current trends in family building and parenting, as well as how to establish a clear vision within a home, much like a business would. Avital warns about the consequences of gentle parenting, particularly its tendency to raise less resilient children. She also discusses the need to return to a play-based childhood and allow young ones to develop their skills and talents in the most enjoyable way.Related resources:Resources from Avital Levy:Hi, Fam!@HiFamLife on Instagram@HiFamLife on YouTubeAvita's book: Reclaim Play

Description: Listen in as Dr. Jordan describes the many benefits grandparents bring to their grandchildren, including providing unconditional love and support, always having time to play or just listen, following their lead, deriving pleasure from being in the moment vs. worrying about their future, and sharing stories that connect kids to their heritage and cultural identity. Enjoy many touching stories about grandparents connecting with their grandkids.Dr. Jordan's new book is available! Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition with an invaluable chapter on technologies and social media and readiness signs for both; https://drtimjordan.com Amazon Book LinkJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/Blog Post URL https://drtimjordan.com/podcast-2/

Kids are not necessarily safe just by staying at home anymore. Once they go online through their phones, they are already at risk in meeting and being preyed upon by online predators. Dr. Tim Jordan interviews expert Nate Lewis, CEO of The Innocent, about how to keep your daughter safe from these evildoers lurking around the internet. They discuss how parents must set the right boundaries for their children when accessing websites or social media platforms to decrease the likelihood of becoming victims of online predators. Nate also explains how elders should become role models for kids when it comes to using mobile phones and accessing the web.Resources:For more information on this topic from Nate Lewis, visit his website at www.theinnocent.org or on social media at @theinnocent.usaGood article and video on this topic: How many strangers are in your teenager's bedroom article, Katherine Martinko: www.Fbi.gov/itsnotagame video on online predators; Learn more at www.fbi.gov/itsnotagameRead Dr. Jordan's chapter on when kids are ready for smartphones and social media in his new book: Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition https://drtimjordan.com

Description: Dr. Jordan describes the incredible benefits for overnight camps including: time in nature, a break from technologies, a slower pace, a break from your regular life, building autonomy and confidence, and making special friends for life.Related Resources:Check out Dr. Jordan's overnight camps for girls: Camp WelokiRead Michael Thompson's book about the value of camps: Homesick and Happy: How Time Away from Parents Can Help a Child Grow Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes ways to discover the best context in which your daughter is most likely to share with you, including a shoulder-to-shoulder approach, describing the issue from their point of view, having her express her thoughts in writing, or sharing your own stories so she knows you can relate.Valuable resources on this topic:Read the chapter on how to best listen to your daughters in Dr. Jordan's new book, Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated editionAmazon Book Link:Dr. Jordan's previous related podcast: 8 Mistakes Parents Make When ListeningFor more info on my camps and resources, go to our website at www.drtimjordan.com or www.campweloki.comOr contact Anne@drtimjordan.comJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/Blog Post URL https://drtimjordan.com/podcast-2

20's has always been a decade of uncertainty. Most people in this age range face tons of doubts and are often unsure what they should do with their lives. In this new podcast, Dr. Tim Jordan interviews author and mental health advocate Kate Berski about her new book, 30-Phobia: Why Your 20's Suck and How to Get Unstuck. She breaks down practical tips on preparing girls throughout their childhoods to be able to deal with the uncertainties of their 20's. Kate also discusses how young people should deal with the constant change in life, the right way to handle emotions, and how to build self-confidence and a resilient mindset.Resources:For more info on Kate Berski and her new book, check out her website at https://kateberski.comDr. Jordan's previous podcast where he interviews 4 high school seniors who discuss why teen girls don't want to grow upDr. Jordan's new book is available! Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition with an invaluable chapter and technologies and social media and readiness signs for both https://drtimjordan.com.

Description: In this podcast, Dr. Jordan describes a tried and true process for teaching your daughters how to learn from their mistakes. Girls can learn to become aware of the internal alarm that sounds at decision points, where they feel it in their bodies, why they ignored it when they made a mistake, and what they will do different so that they won't be vulnerable to making the same mistake again.Resources:Dr. Jordan's new book is out! Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition with an invaluable chapter on technologies and social media and readiness signs for bothAmazon Book Link: https://www.amazon.com/author/timjordanmdLink for book on Dr. Jordan's website: https://drtimjordan.com/books/Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/Blog Post URL https://drtimjordan.com/podcast-2/

Description: In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes how technology and social media have caused teenagers and young adults to feel so socially awkward today. When it comes to creating close connections, girls have evolved from being scuba divers to jet skiers. They used to have in depth conversations/connection (scuba divers) to now have very little connection and racing along alone (jet skiers). Good resources on this topic:Look for Dr. Jordan's new book: Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition with an invaluable chapter on technologies and social media and readiness signs for both.Social Media and Technologies Books: 1) Turkle, Sherry. Alone Together2) Turkle, Sherry. Reclaiming Conversation3) Powers, William. Hamlet's Blackberry: A Practical Philosophy for Building a Good Life in the Digital Age4) Boyd, Danah. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens5) McGonigal, Kelly. The Willpower Instinct6) Siegel, Daniel. Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain7) Haidt, Jonathon. The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness2 previous interviews in Raising Daughters of authors on this topic:Gabriela Nguyen gabriela@appstinent.org Appstinent app: www.appstinent.org Katherine Johnson Martinko Author of "Childhood Unplugged: How to Get Your Kid Off Screens and Find Balance"; website the analog family knmartinko@gmail.com Substack, After BabelJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes how girls today are experiencing debilitating stress from pressures/expectations to be perfect and a sense of never being enough and feelings of discontentment. Learn ways to support girls in choosing healthy intentions for all that they do and create their own expectations.Resources:Look for Dr. Jordan's new book: Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition to be published late March 2025.Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Dive into a captivating conversation where Dr. Tim Jordan and the unstoppable serial entrepreneur Melissa Saleh dissect the very DNA of female leadership. They delve into how to artfully blend masculine drive with feminine intuition, turning obstacles into stepping stones. Melissa's raw, real-world experience illuminates how adapting isn't about conforming. It's about strategically reshaping the landscape, and most importantly, how we're raising the next generation of powerhouse women to lead authentically, not apologetically, in a world that's finally catching up. Resources:● Check out Melissa Saleh's website.● Dr Tim's resource on this topic is his book She Leads, which you can find here. ● Watch for Dr. Jordan's new book: Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition to be published late March 2025.

Description Flexible, Authoritative Parenting Teaches Kids to Problem-Solve and Create Win-Win Agreements: In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan encourages parents to adopt the authoritative style of parenting where you are flexible enough to allow give and take when making agreements. This leaves kids feeling heard, respected, able to problem-solve and create win-win agreements, and remaining close to their parents.Resources:Look for Dr. Jordan's new book: Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised and updated edition to be published late March 2025Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

How can I get my children and myself unplugged from technology? How can I provide opportunities for what kids really need—downtime, boredom, unsupervised free play, and in-person time with family and friends? In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan interviews author Katherine Martinko to answer these questions and more.Resources:Website: Katherine Johnson Martinko Newsletter: The Analog FamilyBook: Childhood Unplugged: How to Get Your Kid Off Screens and Find BalanceLook for Dr. Jordan's new book, Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised edition—coming late March 2025.

In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes girls who decide they are dumb and will have a poor future because they struggle in school due to learning disabilities or dyslexia. He discusses how to help these girls reframe their negative beliefs about themselves and also shares stories about eminent people who overcame learning struggles to find fulfillment and success, including Thomas Edison, Richard Branson, Albert Einstein, George Washington and Jennifer Lawrence.Resources:Find stories of successful people who struggled in school, had LDsList of High achievers with dyslexia:Look for Dr. Jordan's new book: Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised edition to be published late March 2025

In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan interviews Gabriela Nguyen, founder of Appstinent, about her 5D Step Method to wean off social media.Despite teens' fears of losing friends, this process encourages them to replace social media with meaningful activities, including alternative ways to stay connected via phone calls, video calls, and texts, as well as more in-person connections.5D Method: Decrease, Deactivate, Delete, Downgrade, & DepartPrepareJournal your deepest fears about quitting social media.Identify your ultimate reason for leaving.List realistic daily activities to replace social media.Recognize that campers don't miss their phones when replaced with real connections and fun.Write down the most important people in your life.DecreaseUnfollow ALL “junk” accounts—gossip pages, news stations, your ex—anything that negatively affects you or steals your time.Remove social media apps from your phone and laptop. Only access them via your laptop browser without saving your password.Turn off all non-urgent notifications.Increase real-world engagement using your list of analog activities.Prioritize close family and friends—schedule phone calls and meet-ups.Stop multitasking—be present and take more time for what you're already doing.DeactivateOnce you notice your social media use decreasing (this may take weeks or months), deactivate the account you use the least.Major platforms provide a 30-day window before permanent deletion.During this time, continue increasing real-world engagement.DeleteAfter 30 days, your account will automatically be deleted.Repeat the Deactivate and Delete steps until all accounts are gone.Do not rush the process—allow yourself time to adjust.DowngradeIf possible, switch to a “transition device” that is less advanced than a smartphone but more functional than a basic flip phone.A device like the Cat S22 has a small, slow display that discourages excessive phone use.DepartBy now, you are months or even a year into your journey.Review your initial list of fears—did they come true? How did they make you feel?Reflect on your reasons for quitting social media—was it worth it?Understand that, like any lifestyle change, there are trade-offs, but the benefits far outweigh the costs.ResourcesFind more information on Gabriela Nguyen and the 5D Process at www.appstinent.org.Check out Dr. Jordan's previous podcasts on social media:How Parents Can Know When Their Daughter Is Ready for Social MediaWorried About Unhealthy Messages About Beauty on Social Media? Teach Your Daughter to Become Media and Image SavvyWatch for Dr. Jordan's new book:Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants (Revised edition, publishing in late March 2025).

Description: In this podcast, Dr. Jordan describes 2 girls, a 4th grader and an 11th grader, who are stressed out due to over full schedules. Dr. Tim also describes 2 other factors that add to children's stress levels today: excessive pressure to excel and valuing achievement over character. Kids and teens have internalized the message that more is better and that everything that they do, grades and sports and activities, are done to improve their future outlook for college applications. This causes kids to get anxious because everything they do as kids now will affect their future. Dr. Jordan describes the need for time to refuel and reground themselves as well as ways that they can take breaks to destress and replenish themselves. Finally, it is critical that kids make self-care important so that they will regularly schedule such times no matter how busy they become.Resources:Dr. Jordan's previous podcast: Why rushed kids are lonely and stressedWatch for Dr. Jordan's new book, Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised edition to be published late March 2025Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Description: In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes the importance of parents spending time together so that when the last child leaves the nest, they haven't become strangers. Dr. Jordan describes the ‘empty nest divorce trend' that can result from years of couples neglecting their needs as a couple. Learn some rituals you can do together in order to keep your marriage fires burning so that you leave your children with a healthy template of a loving, close, respectful marriage. Oh, and NEVER go to a tropical island on vacation with children!Related resources:Empty nest divorce articleFor information on Dr. Jordan's weekend retreats and summer camps for girls, his 6 published books, and info on his presentations for parents and professionals, go to his website at www.drtimjordan.comLook for Dr. Jordan's new book that should be out in March 2025: Keeping your Family Grounded When You're Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised edition Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

In this new podcast, Dr. Tim Jordan highlights critical ways girls can demonstrate to their parents that they possess the maturity and responsibility needed to earn a smartphone or use social media. These include having a solid sleep routine and getting enough sleep, appropriately managing prior levels of technology, exhibiting good impulse control, consistently following through with agreements without arguing or rebelling, making thoughtful decisions and learning from mistakes, maintaining a strong track record of handling boredom productively, and being transparent enough for parents to feel connected and understand their thoughts on important issues.Dr. Jordan's previous podcast discusses the social readiness signs teens need to exhibit to show they are prepared for smartphones and social media.Don't miss Dr. Jordan's revised edition of Keeping Your Family Grounded When You're Flying by the Seat of Your Pants, featuring four new chapters, including one on social media.

Learn how your daughter's connectedness to parents, family, community, and culture is more predictive of their mental health than their history of adversity. Dr. Jordan also describes how the timing of adversity makes a huge difference in determining overall risk for kids. Kids need someone who can reinforce that it's not their fault, they're not crazy, and that they can get thru tough times. Be sure you provide a therapeutic web of support of relatives, friends, teachers, coaches, and sometimes a therapist to buffer adversities.Listen to Dr. Jordan's previous related podcast, The Most Important Factor In Girls Gaining Confidence And Resilience, to learn about the concept of “safe bases.”Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Dr. Jordan offers 2 powerful metaphors about how your daughters can learn to face and overcome adversities. Unlike cows, buffalos charge directly into storms, facing the challenge head-on, maintaining control over their path and with support from the herd. Instead of procrastinating or avoiding challenges, lions teach us to go towards and thru our fears because they almost never have as much “teeth” as we imagine. The approach of the buffalo and the lion will result in girls developing more self-esteem, self-efficacy, and optimism.For more information on the resources Dr. Jordan offers, visit his website at www.drtimjordan.comJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes how to teach your daughters how to become media and image savvy in order to combat the onslaught of unhealthy messages about their bodies from social media, ads, and videos. Learn some critical questions girls can learn to ask themselves every time they look at photos, and to understand they are being sold the message that they are not good enough and that in order to be sexy, popular, and cool they need the products in the ads.Related resources:Dr. Jordan's previous podcast on mom's influence on her daughter's body imageValuable and insightful videos to watch with your daughters about the effects of ads and media on their sense of self:Dove self-esteem project: @doveself-esteemproject8697 Reverse selfie, EvolutionOnslaught: Talk to your daughter before the beauty industry doesQuestions girls can ask themselves whenever they look at photos/ads/images online:· Do I really need this product, is it good for me?· What are they trying to sell me? Selling idea that in order to be happy, need this product · If you want to be sexy & popular and cool with tons of friends like the people in the ad, you must buy our product; · You are not good enough, creates cravings· “Does that look real or fake to you?” “Do you think this photo reflects that girl's real life?” Do you think it makes girls feel bad about themselves to see photos like this? Does it make you feel bad?”, “Do you think there's an addictive property to social media? What do you think the solution is? How do you navigate it in a healthy way?”

Dr. Jordan uses stories of eminent people like scientist Marie Curie, violinist Itzhak Perlman, and actor James Earl Jones to demonstrate how allowing girls to overcome adversity helps them to develop courage, resilience, self-esteem, grit, and optimism. The reason the butterfly pushes against the sides of her cocoon is to push fluids down the length of her wings in order to strengthen them in preparation for flying. It was this struggling that allowed her to be ready to survive and thrive.And so it is with our children.For more resources on this topic, go to Dr. Jordan's website at www.drtimjordan.comJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Ever wonder how to rekindle your child's love of learning and develop them into critical thinkers? Join Dr. Tim Jordan as he sits down with Jerry Kolber, the creative mind behind the award-winning podcast for kids, "Who Smarted." Discover the secrets to fostering critical thinking skills, turning everyday moments into learning experiences, and using storytelling to make education fun and engaging. Plus, learn how Kolber's podcast and TV shows, including "Brainchild" and "Brain Games," are inspiring a new generation of STEM enthusiasts by showcasing the brilliance of female experts.Resources:● Who Smarted● Link for other educational resources by Jerry Kolber: Atomic EntertainmentSend suggestions for future show topics and feedback on these episodes to: anne@drtimjordan.com

Do you ever hear your daughter negatively comparing herself to other people and feel at a loss as to how to help her? Today's podcast will offer parents a short but sweet and effective tool to keep your daughter from discouraging herself.At a recent retreat for middle school girls, an 8th grade girl I'll call Natalia thru tears described how she gets up every morning before school at 4 AM in order to put on makeup, fix her hair perfectly, and try on as many as 7-10 outfits to get just the right one. She has been trying desperately to be accepted into a group of popular girls who she described as, “the pretty girls.” She tries to dress like them and talk like them in an effort to be seen and included. And when she's not included, she has let it mean that she is ugly and unattractive.The mirror neurons in our brain are always watching other people to figure out what are others doing and saying in order to understand their tribe's social mores. For 150,000 years, if you got kicked out of the tribe, you died, and so belonging to a group meant survival. That logic still plays out today for us all but especially during those vulnerable times like middle school where it's normal to feel some self-doubt and uncertainty about yourself due to all of the changes you are undergoing.Here's what we taught Natalia and the other 19 girls: if you see something you like in another person, like you think she looks pretty today or you like how easily she makes new friends, instead of making it mean something bad about you, go and affirm them instead. Their strengths mean nothing bad about you unless you let it.Summary: So, parents can teach their daughters to catch themselves when they are comparing themselves to others and encourage them to go to that person and give them the compliment and don't let it mean anything about them. This will result in girls being less discouraged and less self-critical and more confident.Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Does your daughter get overwhelmed by overthinking and overanalyzing everyone and everything in her life? If you have a middle or high schooler living under your roof, the answer is probably yes. In this podcast, Dr. Jordan describes a simple tool to help her to catch herself when ruminating herself into anxiety and switch it.Scenario: girl Ellie sees photo of her 2 best friends at a sleepover and she wasn't invited; this starts a cascade of thoughts that get more negative and anxiety-provoking: why didn't they invite me? Did I do something wrong? Are they mad at me? Are they getting closer and thus am I losing them as friends? Who will I sit with at lunch on Monday? Am I going to have to sit alone like the weird kids?Girls always ruminate worst case, not best case. Rumination is one of the most common causes of anxiety and panic attacks in the girls that I counsel.Instead of getting caught up in the negative spiral of “what if”, your daughter can learn to switch it to:What is? i.e. what is the truth? I didn't do anything so it doesn't have to mean anything unless I let itWhat else? What else could it mean? There are lots of possible explanations that don't involve me in a negative way: maybe her mom said could only have 2 friends over after her volleyball game and they are on the same team…The worst-case rumination explanations are almost never true. And girls can check out the truth by asking her friends about why she wasn't invited so that she can get out of her head and hear the truth.Summary: help your daughter learn to become aware of when she's starting to ruminate & Shift from “What if” to “What is the truth” and “What else could it mean?”Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

“I Hate My Body!” is a phrase many girls silently struggle with, often shaped by societal pressures and unhealthy body image messages they encounter daily. In this episode, Dr. Tim Jordan dives into this critical issue with Dr. Ashleigh Gallagher and Dr. Janet Boseovski, authors of the groundbreaking book Beyond Body Positive: A Mother's Science-Based Guide for Helping Girls Build a Healthy Body Image. Together, they explore the pivotal role mothers play in shaping their daughters' body image, starting as early as the preschool years. The discussion covers practical strategies, including modeling healthy self-talk, affirming non-physical qualities, helping girls become more image and media savvy, and fostering self-compassion to counteract negative body perceptions. This conversation is a must-listen for parents seeking actionable insights to empower their daughters and combat harmful body image narratives. Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Ever worry that your daughter lacks the confidence to solve her own problems and advocate for herself? Dr. Jordan describes how parents need to stop doing for kids what they can and need to do for themselves so that, like the great barrier reef, they can learn to grow strong and resilient.The Great Barrier Reef stretches some 1,800 miles from New Guinea to Australia. Tour guides regularly take visitors to view the reef. On one tour, the guide was asked an interesting question. “I notice that the lagoon side of the reef looks pale and lifeless, while the ocean side is vibrant and colorful,” a traveler observed. “Why is this?”The guide gave an interesting answer: “The coral around the lagoon side is in still water, with no challenge for its survival. It dies early. The coral on the ocean side is constantly being tested by wind, waves, storms – surges of power. It has to fight for survival every day of its life. As it is challenged and tested it changes and adapts. It grows healthy. It grows strong. And it reproduces. Then he added this telling note: “That's the way it is with every living organism.” Children need to be allowed to make mistakes, suffer, get frustrated and work thru their emotions and problems to gain the strength, resilience, and confidence that they can take care of themselves, solve their own problems and overcome adversities and challenges because they have been allowed to throughout their lives. Stop doing for kids what they can and need to do for themselves so that, like the great barrier reef, they can learn to grow strong, vibrant, and resilient.Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Election: discouragement, people pushed to extremes, culture and families can feel fractured, polarized:Rousseau believe man is naturally good but institutions make man wickedHumans better able to cope with harsh climate conditions of last ice age b/c had developed the ability to work together (71), cooperation more critical to survival than competition and struggle; humans crave connection, togetherness, and interactionStudies: kids as young as 3 divide a cake equally, at six would rather throw a slice away than let 1 P have larger portionInherent goodness of people: Disaster research ctr at U Delaware found that in 700 studies of disasters since 1963, there's never total mayhem, crimes usually drop, adversity strikes and there's a wave of spontaneous cooperationMarshall WWII study: most soldiers never fired their guns (15-25%), most P with fear of aggression & inner resistance to killing a fellow man, most causalities were the work of a small minority of soldiers; Gettysburg study found 90% muskets from battlefield were still loaded, many double or triple loaded, loading it was excuse not to shoot it; humans have an aversion to violenceHunter-gatherer societies rarely had war; thousands of cave paintings about hunting bison, horses, gazelle, not one depiction of war;Be kind to every child for you don't know what adversities they have faced; we all have stories about why we act the way we doSonder. It's the profound awareness that every person you encounter has experienced a lifetime of hopes, fears, loves, and heartaches that you'll never know. Each moment of sonder is a reminder to appreciate how little we truly grasp about others' lives. Adam Grant;Cranes made by Japanese girl: In 1955 a thirteen-year-old Japanese girl died of radiation-induced leukemia. Sadako Sasaki was one of many who suffered the after-effects of those bombs dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki in 1945. Japanese myth has it that cranes live for a thousand years, and anyone who folds 1000 paper cranes will have a wish granted. So, during her illness, Sadako folded paper cranes, and with each crane she wished that she would recover from her illness. She managed 644 cranes before she left this life behind. Sadako's classmates folded the remaining 356 cranes so that she could be buried with a thousand paper cranes. Friends collected money from children all over Japan to erect a monument to Sadako in Hiroshima's Peace Park. The inscription reads:This is our cry. This is our prayer. Peace on earth. Each year people place paper cranes at the base of the statue to recall the tragedy of war and to celebrate humanity's undying hope for peace. In some places around the world, people fold paper cranes each holiday season to use as decorations and as a symbol of their deep desire for lasting peace.Calling long distance: man calling wife from airport phone booth, operator said 1 minute left, man hurried but cut off before he could tell wife he loved her; no more coins, as he was walking away the phone rang, he picked it up and operator said that after he hung up his wife said she loved you, I thought you'd want to know.++++Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

The best antidote parents can teach their teenage daughters for dealing with the stresses in their lives is to learn to focus on what they do have control over.Life raft metaphor: focus on what you have control overYour teenage daughter too often focuses on trying to control all of the people and things that are causing her to feel anxious and stressed out. These might include: parents, friends, rumors and gossip about them, what peers post about them on social media, teachers, the amount of homework they receive, coaches, some physical things about their bodies, their parent's fighting, or the college application process.In this podcast, Dr. Jordan describes a role play he does with preteen and teenage girls: 1 girl in the middle of the room is surrounded by people representing stressors like her parents, friend drama, rumors about her, homework, a teacher, a coach, aspects of her body she has no control over, and anxious or negative thoughts that pop in her head. When I say go, all of these stressors begin to talk at her at the same time and her job is to attempt to control them. Of course, they ignore her, causing her to work harder and become more frustrated and overwhelmed. This is a great way for the rest of the teenagers to visually see what they experience every day. I take the place of the teen volunteer but keep all of the stressors in play, and when I say go, they restart their clamoring at me. What I do is to sit quietly and just do some deep, slow breathing and I just notice, in a detached and mindful manner, all of the stressors. Eventually they always slow down and get quiet.What these teenage girls see and learn is that they can learn to focus on what they do have control over, which is themselves, their reactions, and their emotions. The stresses haven't changed, but their response and relationship with them has.You can't calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass. Timber HawkeyeAll of man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone. Blaise Pascal;Teach your daughters how to be alone without being lonely, and to cultivate quiet, alone time with practices like journaling, meditation, yoga, or artwork. Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Dr. Jordan describes how parents can help their daughter make good sense of the adversities she's faced so that she doesn't lose sight of who she really is or see her self-esteem drop. A crumpled $100 does not lose its value, and no matter what adversities your daughter has experienced or mistakes she's made, she is still worthy and deserving of love. Adversities your daughter faces can build character and resilience.“One small crack does not mean that you are broken, it means that you were put to the test and you didn't fall apart.” Linda Poindexter; you are stronger & more resilient than you think; learn to focus on strengths that got you thruBessel van der Kolk: “Healing from trauma is as much about remembering how we survived as it is about what is broken”, remember and express gratitude to who helped you survive.Change often brings uncertainty, anxiety and self-doubt. Embrace the uncertainty and remember these words from poet Maya Angelou: “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”Previous related podcasts by Dr. Jordan:The spiral of beliefs: how to help your daughter become unstuckJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Parents who worry that their daughter is overindulged, spoiled, or ungrateful can use the “George Bailey effect” to help them become more grateful for the people, experiences, and material things in their lives.In the famous holiday movie, It's a Wonderful Life, Jimmy Stewart's character is so discouraged and depressed that he thinks committing suicide to give his family his life insurance money is better than him being alive, and he wishes he had never been born. An angel, Clarence, comes down from heaven and allows Jimmy to see what would have been different for all of the people in his life if he indeed had never been born. This has the effect of making him extremely grateful for his life and he becomes happy and ready to live his life fully.Dr. Jordan encourages parents to teach their daughters this tool to engender a sense of gratitude for their lives. Have your daughter imagine what her life would be like without a major blessing like parents, siblings, relatives like grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, good friends, and any positive life events. Then encourage them to express gratitude internally or to thank them in person or with letters of gratitude.What a great exercise for us all to do during this thanksgiving and holiday season.Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/

Does your preteen or teenage daughter ever suffer with negative self-talk? Get overwhelmed by ruminating worst case scenarios about her friendships and feelings? Do you as her parent ever feel helpless about how to best support her? Then this episode is for you!Girls can learn to just notice any negative or anxious thoughts in a more detached way, notice where they feel associated emotions in their bodies that arise with these thoughts, and then use tools to allow the thoughts to pass thru them more quickly. Dr. Jordan discusses some breathing techniques and the use of mantras to cope with negative self-talk.Dr. Jordan also describes how even though we aren't in charge of negative thoughts popping in our heads, once they are there, we ARE in charge of whether or not we believe them and allow them to build to overwhelm. He uses the following axiom to describe this process: Bird nest in your head. We are not in charge of whether or not negative or anxious thoughts pop up in our heads, but we are in charge of whether or not we let them build a nest.For more information on Dr. Jordan's personal growth weekend retreats and summer camps, go to his website at Camp Weloki.

One of the main causes of the increasing levels of anxiety in children today is the lack of free play. If they cannot have unstructured and unsupervised play, they might not know how to handle pain, shape a resilient mindset, or take courageous leaps. Dr. Tim Jordan describes the benefits of letting girls have free play, taking risks, and being responsible for their own safety.Dr. Jordan's previous related podcast: The most important factor in girls gaining confidence and resilience: Safe bases!Dr. Jordan's previous related podcast: In defense of helicopter parents

In this episode, Dr. Tim Jordan shares how Mr. Rogers overcame bullying as a child and how his story can inspire your daughter to overcome bullying, too. Parents will learn effective ways to support their daughters by encouraging healthy emotional outlets, fostering friendships that align with their personalities, and promoting a sense of community in schools where children stand up for one another. With the right tools and guidance, you can help your daughter build the resilience she needs to overcome bullying.Resources to help support your daughter:Dr. Jordan's previous podcast: How to Bully-Proof Your DaughterDr. Jordan's article on teaching kids to stand up to bullies: Bullies Beware!Biography of Fred Rogers, The Good Neighbor: The Life and Work of Fred Rogers

When is the right time to allow your daughters to go online and get on social media? Dr. Tim Jordan describes many examples of social behaviors your daughter needs to live out to show parents they are ready to try these fast-paced and overly complicated online platforms. He also reveals his recommended age for young girls to start using social media to ensure they get the most out of it without exposing them to serious harm.

In this episode, Dr. Tim Jordan describes the concept of parents being a “safe base” that allows their daughter to have the courage to venture out, take risks, have adventures and cope with any adversities she experiences that allow her to develop resiliency and confidence. This process begins in infancy and extends throughout their daughter's life.For information on Dr. Jordan and his wife's personal growth weekend retreats and summer camps that help girls gain self-awareness, self-confidence, coping skills, and leadership skills, go to his website at Camp Weloki for Girls.

Parents are often accused of being overprotective of their children, to the point that they micromanage and babysit them way too much. Therefore, Dr. Tim Jordan is here to share a dozen powerful phrases our daughters need to hear more from parents for them to grow up confident, resilient, and successful. He explains how a few words could change a child's mindset, pushing them to stand up for themselves in the face of adversities both in the family and at school.

Why can't your daughter let go of her toxic best friend? In this episode, we explore the unique brain wiring that makes it difficult for girls to move on from unhealthy friendships. You'll learn how to truly listen and support her without jumping into problem-solving mode, and uncover the secret to avoiding the emotional ‘hot potato' game. Tune in to gain the tools that will guide your daughter through these emotional challenges with empathy and understanding. For more information on girl's emotions and friendships, read Dr. Jordan's book, Sleeping Beauties, Awakened Women: Guiding the Transformation of Adolescent Girls. For more information on girl's emotions and friendships, check out Dr. Jordan's online parenting course, “Parenting girls: The challenges girls face today with their feelings and friends and what they need.”

Dr. Tim Jordan takes a closer look at helicopter parents and explores the numerous factors that have driven parents to micromanage and overprotect their children for over 100 years. These include smaller family sizes, fears of abduction, the pressure to keep up with the Joneses in the race to nowhere, societal traumas (such as 9/11, wars, school shootings, COVID, and intruder drills), the overwhelming amount of conflicting parenting advice, and the influence of social media and technologies like the 360 app and Infinite Campus. Additionally, many parents today feel increasingly isolated from family and friends, further fueling their anxieties.For more information on this topic:Jordan's previous podcast: Why Teens Don't Want to Grow UpRecommended books:Raising America by Ann HulbertAnxious Parents by Peter Stearns

In this podcast, Dr. Jordan shares a collection of inspiring stories from girls who express why they love the activities they are passionate about. Through these real-life examples, he explores the importance of cultivating intrinsic motivation, showing how it empowers kids to fully immerse themselves in their interests and excel in their chosen pursuits. By fostering this self-driven motivation, children can build the foundation to master their craft and find lasting fulfillment in what they do.For more resources and insights from Dr. Jordan, visit https://drtimjordan.com.

Learn how to differentiate between normal anxiety and an anxiety disorder in girls, and discover when professional help might be necessary. This episode covers key areas such as temperament, unsafe family and school environments, friendship challenges, typical childhood transitions, emotional overload, and how children may absorb their parents' anxiety.Related resources from Dr. Jordan: Dr. Jordan's book: Sleeping Beauties, Awakened Women: Guiding the Transformation of Adolescent GirlsPrevious Dr. Jordan podcasts on similar topics:● Why Teens Do Stupid Things● Why Teens Don't Want to Grow Up● How to Help Young Adults Deal with Uncertainty About Their Future

Learn ways to connect with your teenager to increase closeness so that you remain an influence in her life. Through heartwarming anecdotes and practical tips, discover how to foster these connections, whether with your own children, neighborhood kids, or young relatives. From understanding the subtle cues of infants to engaging with toddlers and beyond, this episode offers valuable advice on building meaningful relationships with children at any age. Tune in to discover the beauty of connecting with your teenager and how these early interactions can lay the foundation for all future relationships.Links to Dr. Jordan's Previous Podcasts on Related Topics:● Goodwill Account podcast● 8 Mistakes Parents Make When Listening podcast● Letting Go podcast● LGBTQ podcast● 25 Ways to Connect with Teenagers and Preteens

In this insightful episode, Dr. Tim Jordan delves into the importance of allowing your daughter to take charge of her own motivation by setting her intentions for the school year. He discusses how giving her the autonomy to decide her academic goals, social engagements, activities, family interactions, and personal growth areas can foster a stronger sense of responsibility and self-confidence. Dr. Jordan also provides practical advice on how parents can support their daughters in this process without micromanaging, ensuring they have the space to learn, grow, and thrive.Related Episodes:Homework, Chores, and Routines: Top 4 Tips to Avoid Messing Up the School YearHow to Purposefully Parent with the End in MindWhy Teens Don't Want to Grow Up

The transition into freshman can be exciting and overwhelming at the same time. But fret not, because Dr. Tim Jordan brings some high school seniors to share their wisdom in navigating the freshman year. This podcast episode has it all, from finding your perfect friend group to conquering academic anxieties. Learn how to find your tribe, conquer academic challenges, and embrace personal growth. Discover the importance of being authentic, building meaningful relationships, and navigating the ups and downs of your freshman year with confidence. Tune in now and get ready to thrive as a high school freshman!

Dr. Jordan interviews Doula Kristin Revere about her new book, Supported: Your Guide to Birth and Baby. They discuss why new parents seem more anxious today and the best support for them throughout the pregnancy experience.Important Related Links: Kristin Revere's websiteWebsite for Kristin Revere's book

College and cash may sometimes not be a perfect mix to think about, but that doesn't have to be the case because we've got it covered for you! In today's episode, Dr. Jordan interviews college financial advisor, John Boruk, about the ins and outs of college costs, affordability, and how to help your daughter to attend her dream college. From FAFSA hacks to scholarship secrets, we'll break down the complex world of college finances in an easy-to-understand way. But it's not just about the money! We'll also explore how to find the perfect college fit – academically, socially, and financially. Don't let college dreams turn into financial nightmares! Join John Boruk in this insightful conversation. How to reach guest John Boruk:Website: www.smartcollegeadvisor.comEmail: John@ collegefundingsolutions.org Links to previous related podcasts by Dr. Jordan:Why And How You Go To College Is More Important Than Where You Go Best Ways To Support Your Daughter Through The College Application Process With Dr. Pamela Ellis Is college necessary for a successful life?

Dr. Jordan shares his favorite ways to make connections with kids, whether they are yours or others, including: knowing their names, doing the unexpected, following their lead, being fully present, letting go of inhibitions and playing like a kid, finding common interests to do together, and being a great listener.For more resources from Dr. Jordan, visit his website.Listen to Dr. Jordan's previous podcast on the value of unstructured, unsupervised downtime and the benefits of boredom here.

Author Danielle Lindner discusses how to teach prosocial skills as early as preschool and how to help forge a lifelong love of learning in children.For more information about Danielle Lindner and her resources: http://www.daniellelindner.com/Danielle Lindner's book: Parent's Pocket Guide to Surviving the Preschool Years: One Challenge at a TimeDr. Jordan's site with show notes from this podcast: www.drtimjordan.com

In this podcast, Dr. Jordan describes how to normalize a child's grief and support them through the process of grieving instead of pathologizing, diagnosing, and medicating these normal emotions.See links to previous related podcasts by Dr. Jordan:● Embracing and Learning from Our “Dark Feelings” of Anger, Anxiety, and Grief● 8 Mistakes Parents Make When Listening● A 10 is a 10 is a 10: Understanding a Girl's Emotional Roller CoasterIf you would like more information on understanding and dealing with your daughter's emotional life, check out Dr. Jordan's online course: Parenting Girls: The Challenges Girls Face Today with Their Feelings and Friends and What They Need.

In this podcast, Dr. Tim Jordan describes how parents' past unresolved issues and emotions can be at the root of why they nag, overparent, and get triggered by their kids. The awareness of these forces will allow people to more consciously and effectively parent their children.Links to Dr. Jordan's previous podcasts that are related to this podcast:Understanding the effects of touch points on children and parentsAre you an unreasonable parent? Perhaps there is a ghost in your nursery.Find more valuable resources from Dr. Jordan at his website: https://drtimjordan.com

In today's fast-paced world, girls often find themselves caught up in a whirlwind of responsibilities, leaving little time for them to pause. Dr. Tim Jordan describes the many reasons why girls are so rushed and busy today, the costs to them, and how they and their families can take back control of their time and lives. Slow down, take a pause, and reflect on the insights of Dr. Jordan in this episode.Links to related articles:Article on why the modern world is bad for your brain.Link to Dr. Jordan's podcast interview with Laura Martin, author of the book, Uptime.

Many parents struggle with juggling everything, leaving them feeling burnt out. Even in the midst of chaos, you can still find calm, clarity, and connection with the magic of meditation. Today, Dr. Jordan chats with Katie Krimitsos, founder of the Women's Meditation Network, to explore how meditation and mindfulness practices can be powerful tools for busy parents. She also reveals the misconceptions about meditation, identifies meditation practices, and how meditation helps with parenting. No matter how busy you are, Katie will show you how to fit it into your day with easy-to-follow guided meditations and mindfulness practices. Learn how to become a more present and mindful parent today! Join Katie Krimitsos to unlock your potential today.