SURE Parenting

Erika Fotes, mother of 4 adult sons, is a Sacred Remembrance Guide and creator of The Sacred Return™, a two-phase soul journey that helps women reclaim their joy, sovereignty, and divine embodiment. A former real estate pro turned intuitive mentor and energy channel, Erika blends emotional alchemy, embodiment practices, and playful spiritual rituals to guide women out of survival mode and back into their truth. Through her podcast Powered by Joy, transformational events, and signature tools like The Sacred Shift Practice™, she supports women in harmonizing their feminine and masculine energies — so they can rise rooted, radiant, and wildly alive.   Today, she shares how she recommends keeping solid relationships with adult children so that those with adult children can reconnect and repair if needed, and those whose children are still young can look forward to the future with hope and excitement.   Podcast: Powered by Joy Website: https://www.poweredbyjoypodcast.com/ Instagram: @poweredbyjoypodcast TikTok: @erika.fotes YouTube: Powered by Joy Podcast Channel   Find Sami at:   www.sureparenting.com facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids youtube.com/c/sureparenting And @sureparenting or @reparenting_realm on Instagram  

This was an incredible interview with a passionate woman advocating for awareness, education, understanding, and compassion regarding roughly half the population's most hidden biological function! We get to end the shame girls and women feel around their bodies and their periods and she does this work with parents and children in first-moon circles that allow kids to learn shame-free and ask all their questions in a safe environment.  Visit her site at www.myclubred.com or her IG @myclubred to follow and learn more!  JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting  

This component of parenting is ESSENTIAL and so hard when no one demonstrated how to do it for us. We need to understand the nervous system and how to coach our kids through their emotional experiences so they can develop brain patterns for regulation and empathy. We also do this with Inner Child Healing work too because we are filling the gaps in what we didn't receive. If you're struggling with this you can set up a free call at bit.ly/callsami or visit www.sureparenting.com for more support.   IN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting  

Today I had the honor of speaking with sleep specialist Kim Hawley. We share a love for biologically normal infant sleep and a whole-family approach to make sure everyone's needs are met with compassion and empathy and realistic science-backed expectations.  Kim Hawley, MA, MPH, IBCLC is a Holistic Sleep Coach, Lactation Consultant, Peaceful Parenting Educator, mom, and the host of The Responsive Family Sleep Podcast. She helps tired parents bring together developmental knowledge, sleep science, and their intuition to improve family sleep. Her specialty is holistic, responsive sleep support for babies, toddlers, and nursing families. Kim lives in Capitol Hill, Washington DC with her husband, 2 kids, guide dog, and cat. She loves running, listening to audio books, coffee, chocolate, and wine. You can find her at: Website: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/ The Responsive Family Sleep Podcast: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/podcast https://www.instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc/ https://www.facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Here is the Blog regarding the quality of sleep research: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2022/5/5/sleep-training-research-unpacking-sleep-training-culture My links:  JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Friend RQ: www.facebook.com/sami.bell.sure.coach FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting  

Sunshine Boatright will share a bit of her story and how to find harmony and the middle ground when you're tempted to pendulum swing too far in the name of breaking generational curses. She is a great example of self-advocacy, advocacy for our children, and advocacy for other parents breaking the cycle!  JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting  

We all have emotions we struggle to manage sometimes and the older we get the more shame we carry that we still struggle! This is one part of the process that I've found profoundly helpful and given me a sense of peace and groundedness. I share them here with you to encourage you to process your overwhelming feelings and uncover the messages they are trying to deliver. Feelings are fine. We can even learn from them. If you're feeling overwhelmed and need support in this endeavor, set up a free call to see what I might be able to do to help.  https://lindsaybraman.com/emotion-sensation-feeling-wheel/ Jazmin Gill: https://msha.ke/amjaz/ JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting

Jazmin is a mom of 5 and she is sharing her experiences helping humans lean into Observation and Awareness to find Ease. We don't need the constant judgement we typically lob on ourselves in order to be good people, good moms, good friends, etc. We are safe to be ourselves in all the messy glorious humanness that we each possess.  Find Jazmin: https://www.facebook.com/abundantlymade or https://www.abundandtlymade.com/   JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting  

Amanda shares the journey she's made to change her parenting as she attempts to raise her children with more emotional safety than she knew.  Find Amanda at: https://www.facebook.com/AmandaWoodburyUnravelYourStress JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting  

Mariana discusses her journey to learn the importance of emotional availability from being there in the hard feelings to repairing when needed. She's a cycle breaker parent to 2 Elementary aged kids and a daughter of immigrants with a unique and valuable perspective.  JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/SUREParenting      

This mom is concerned that her 4 year old will look down on feminine things and women in general because of his loud clear dislike of "girl things" now at 4. In this episode we explore what is typical development for a 4 year old and and helpful ways to ensure self advocacy, tolerance for different preferences, an expansion of nuance and perspective as this kiddo gets older. As per usual, it starts with us, the grown ups in his life and requires calm confident leadership and modeling. JOIN the SURE Family (group coaching) www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids  

Sometimes I hear people say that their trauma is what made them strong and I vehemently disagree. Responsive respectful parenting is NOT making weak children or weak adults. This video gives several examples of how, when, and why SURE Parenting creates resilience, persistence, and a problem-solving mentality. JOIN the SURE Family www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

Grief is a complicated, multi-variable, every changing process of lots of emotions. There's no wrong or right way to experience grief and it's normal if the holidays create extra sessions of grief for you. You're not broken, you're not alone, you're not expected to be "over it already." I see you, I hear you, I believe you. You're doing better than you think, and you've got this. JOIN the Create Your SURE Family group coaching www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids  

December 1st brings with it the yearly Santa discussion. Is it lying to your kids? It it manipulation? Is it ruining the magic of Christmas? Does it make your kid hate you and not trust you later? We discuss all of this as well as options for different family situations in this week's podcast.   JOIN the SURE Family www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids    

In this episode, I talk about some of the takeaways from Yin On Fire this past weekend. I'll share what it really looks like to hold space for someone's emotions, why we might struggle to do so, and how we can then hold space for ourselves and feel whatever needs to flow through us so we can heal.  JOIN the SURE Family www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids    

When people decide to shift to conscious or respectful parenting they often worry about the "big stuff" and wonder if perhaps those are exceptions to the new approach and require a step back into the old punishment paradigm. They question what sort of consequence they should use when they really mean punishment. In this episode I'm able to answer this mom's question, break down consequences vs punishments, help her son repair and learn accountability, social skills, and trust after her son comes home with a startling tale of misadventure. JOIN the SURE Family www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood Https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids    

Responding to a video of a mom describing a terrible afternoon with her 4 year old to help you understand why it's so hard to stay regulated when our kids are melting down, the steps to take to get better at it, and the hope that comes with repair even when we do mess up.  JOIN the SURE Family: https://www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: htpps://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids    

Answering a mom's question about how her teen is reacting to her attempt to change her parenting now that she's 13. Pushback and lack of trust is totally normal, it doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. Keep going. JOIN the SURE Family www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood https://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: https://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids    

Ziya Shyama shares her journey to writing 4 incredible books aimed at spreading love, connection, healing, gratitude, and positive acceptance. We talk about the incredible ripple effect these messages can have and how even adults without young children can benefit from these empowering messages! Check out the Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/truleewildllc/trulee-wild-stories-presents?ref=user_menu Follow Ziya on IG: @ziya_nicole Amazon: The Real Love Story: A Journey Through and to Yourself https://a.co/d/1eLu0gD JOIN the SURE Family www.sureparenting.com/surefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood HTTP://bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: HTTP://bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids  

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Alison shares a remarkable new way to look at emotions - especially Anger, Sadness, and Fear. They have superpowers. They can be allies. Wouldn't you love to learn how to harness and utilize these emotions to your benefit? Alison will share how!! Check out her group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/poweremotions JOIN the SURE Family http://bit.ly/subsurefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

Karen Carlson had been a relaxation expert for years as a massage therapist when inspiration led her to discover a SAFE way to introduce kids to calm bodies and minds. Find your own Magic Pillows at https://grandmasmagicpillows.com/ JOIN the SURE Family http://bit.ly/subsurefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

There are so many options when it comes to potty training - but most of them contribute to the ever-growing pressure on kids and parents! Take a deep breathe mama, you are not doing it wrong! Your child won't be in diapers forever. Knowing some of these facts may just allow you to relax a bit and follow the child in front of you!! JOIN the SURE Familyhttp://bit.ly/subsurefamilySubmit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

Taylor Douglas' story is amazing! Married at 17, divorced and destitute by 19, she has overcome tremendous struggles and become a mentor to other young women who need to know they CAN change their lives! Taylor is mama to 2 amazing kiddos with 1 on the way and has a unique way of making the process of changing your own life attainable. You can find more at her website https://www.taylorddouglas.com/ . JOIN the SURE Family http://bit.ly/subsurefamily Submit your own Topic: https://forms.gle/HE9wsUoNzAJ9Jcas6 Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

Comparing ourselves is the opposite of self-honor, and yet we all do it! How can you stop? Shift your perspective and get good at arguing!  The book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook   Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami   IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

Find Melissa at: https://www.facebook.com/CreativeFamilyConnection/ Melissa Price is a mama and grandmother who wanted to empower youth to avoid or recover from addiction, bring families together, and contribute to healthier, more emotionally intelligent humans in the world. Her stroke of genius became a game called Emotion Commotion that utilizes a play-based (most effective) approach to a complex topic with amazing results. Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

Honor is dedicated to helping moms Break Free from Anxiety and Overwhelm and Awaken to Joy in Motherhood. I loved speaking with her about her work and what YOU can do to learn to win against your anxiety!  You can schedule a free clarity call with her at www.honorgenetski.com/call Her free webinar is at https://honor-genetski.mykajabi.com/p/five-steps-replay  And her Facebook group is https://www.facebook.com/groups/193508864433254 As always, you can find Sami and SURE Parenting at www.sureparenting.com, http://bit.ly/sureparentingbook,  www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids and http://bit.ly/callsami  

When parents contact me with a struggle and their comments include "he should be _____ by now" I know we need to first remove "should" from the conversation. Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook   Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami   IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

Sarah Hofer is a licensed marriage and family therapist from California, now living in Idaho with her twin 3-year-old boys and 2-year-old daughter. She has overcome more than most and shares her story to inspire, uplift, support, and encourage other mothers. Sarah's professional website: www.sarahhofercounseling.com Resources mentioned in the podcast: https://www.postpartum.net/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us https://www.goodtherapy.org/ Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

I asked in our FB group, facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids , and compiled all of your answers, tips, and tricks to survive and even enjoy the solo time when the other parent is out of town for a week or more for work! What tips would you add??   Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

In SURE Parenting, the U stands for Unique. Understanding the unique brain YOUR child has, empowers you to reach them on their level and parent in the most productive way possible. Further breakdowns into these 4 Brain Types coming soon!   Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook   Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami   IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

4-year-olds have come up a lot recently and if yours is struggling with impulse control and follow-through - you are NOT alone!  What's a mom to do? Here are my thoughts on 3 posts from our group today.  Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook   Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami   IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

When your kid says "I'm so stupid," or some other negative self-statement, you wonder where did they learn this! And you wonder if their self-esteem is in trouble. The good news is that you can work with your child on growth mindset NOW even if you fear you've contributed to this self-image in the past. Let's move forward together! Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook   Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami   IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

We started a new segment of the SURE Parenting podcast called Ways We Mom where we learn from the differences in our motherhood journeys.  In this episode, we explore different perspectives on setting boundaries (particularly going no-contact) with family members.    Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook   Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami   IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

It hurts, it's unfair, and it's normal. How to handle when a 3-year-old decides they hate daddy! Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids  

Why do kids lie? What should you do about it? What shouldn't you do about it? Here's my take. Check out the book: S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood bit.ly/sureparentingbook Schedule a free call: bit.ly/callsami IG: @sureparenting FB Page: @sureparenting FB Group: facebook.com/groups/empoweringmomstoupliftkids

If you're a parent of more than one you know kids bicker, quarrel, and disagree - a lot. In this episode, you'll learn how to mitigate the angst and manage the healthy disagreements while facilitating growth, problem-solving skills, and even empathy! 

From infancy, it seems we're set up to struggle with our kids around bedtime. This is the S.U.R.E. Parenting approach to make bedtime run more smoothly and enjoyably for everyone.  Free call: bit.ly/callsami Email list: bit.ly/sureparentingemails S.U.R.E. Parenting: Building Blocks to Create Their Best Childhood: bit.ly/sureparentingbook The No-Cry Sleep Solution: https://amzn.to/2Xykwte www.sureparenting.com

Learn the Building Blocks to creating their best childhood with parent-child relationship mentor, motivational speaker, and Amazon published author Sami Bell.  In this first episode, learn what started S.U.R.E. Parenting, what gap Sami aims to fill by creating something new and unique in the parenting world.