The Rising Beyond Podcast

Ever look in the mirror and think, “I don't even know who I am anymore”?If you've survived a coercive, abusive relationship — or are still dealing with the chaos of post-separation abuse — that feeling isn't just common, it's expected. You've been in survival mode for so long that things like identity, purpose, and values may feel like luxuries you can't afford.But what if reconnecting with your values is exactly what helps you move forward.In this episode Sybil gets real about what happens to your sense of self after abuse — and how you can begin to reclaim it, even if you're still living in the storm of post-separation chaos. She'll walk you through how your values got buried (or used against you), why reconnecting with them is not optional for healing, and a powerful exercise that helps uncover what truly matters to you.This is not about reinventing yourself — it's about remembering who you are.You'll Learn:Why your values were likely distorted or silenced during the abuseHow moral injury shows up when you're forced to act against your beliefsWhat your current pain might reveal about your deepest valuesA powerful journaling exercise to help you reconnect with your truthHow to start living by your values again — even in tiny ways — and why that changes everythingPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

If you've ever been told that a psychological test “proved” you were unstable or overeactive in your custody case—while your abusive ex seemed cool, calm, and collected—you are not alone.In this short but important episode, I'm unpacking why the MMPI and MMPI-2—often used in court-ordered evaluations—can misrepresent survivors of coercive control and domestic violence. These tests were not designed with trauma survivors in mind, and their results can be dangerously misinterpreted when evaluators aren't trained in coercive dynamics.I'll also explain how abusers, especially narcissists, often “pass” these tests easily by presenting as emotionally flat or in control—while the survivor appears anxious, reactive, or paranoid, all of which are normal trauma responses.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating family court, custody evaluations, or preparing for a psychological assessment after surviving abuse.Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

How much did financial abuse impact you in your relationship?We know that over 98% of all domestic violence victims experience some form of financial abuse and that it does not stop once you have left.So, how can you be prepared for your separation and divorce and be set up to survive in the aftermath?Because I am not a financial expert AND because I understand the devastation that financial abuse can cause, I asked Jun Chen, a certified divorce financial analyst and certified financial planner to share his knowledge with all of us. We discuss the basics, like what a CDFA actually does and the best ways to prepare to the more nuanced questions around what to do if your ex is hiding money.And similar to most aspects of divorcing a narcissistic and abusive partner, there are nuances to your situation.  So, if this episode has given your more questions that you started out with or something wasn't answered…I invite you to come to our FREE Q&A style workshop on June 12th. REGISTER FOR THE FREE WORKSHOP W/ JUN: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/financesAbout Jun: With over 13 years of experience in the financial services industry, Jun Chen is a seasoned wealth advisor known for providing comprehensive, client centric guidance tailored at each stage of life.  As a Certified Financial Planner™ (CFP®), Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®), and Certified Plan Fiduciary Advisor™ (CPFA™), Jun brings a uniquely broad skill set to families seeking to create bespoke financial plans that require a high level of expertise.  Jun  specializes in holistic financial planning, investment management, retirement planning, and workplace retirement plans. Known for a thoughtful, educational approach, Jun prioritizes building long-term relationships rooted in trust and transparency. Outside the office, Jun is active in the local community, frequently volunteering as a pro bono CFP with Women's Resource Center to End Domestic Violence and Wings For Widows  He is also a board member of Sunnyside, a non-profit focused on resources for neurodivergent individuals.  Jun believes that financial planning should not be limited to those of high net worth but available to those who might not have the resources.Connect with Jun:linkedin.com/in/jun-chen-cfp®-cdfa®-cpfa®-067bb443Email: jun.team@fidaPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Are you in need of a little bit of hope?If you are a survivor of coercive control and domestic abuse (or a professional who works in this space) then hope can often be hard to come by.  In this episode, I reconnect with coercive control expert, Kate Amber, M.S. after our joint presentation at this year's International Justice Center Conference in San Diego in order to share our reflections from our experience.  We share some of the questions we were asked during our panel along with our answers, some of the most impactful speakers and presentations we were able to attend and how their topics may impact you, along with our overall reflections of where the field is trending. And this is where both Kate and I experienced some hope and hopefully you will too.Since many of you were not able to be there with us, we wanted to be able to share with you so that you can start to see some of the hope too.Episode 66 with Kate: “Breaking Down Coercive Control” - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/13665588Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

If you've ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” this episode is for you.When you're still navigating post-separation abuse, family court chaos, or co-parenting with someone who continues to hurt you, healing might not look—or feel—like what you expected. You might still freeze when a message comes in. You might still cry in the car before showing up for your kids. And you might believe that means you're not healing.But what if the most important signs of healing are the ones no one sees—not even you?We're talking about the invisible signs of progress: the quiet, powerful shifts that don't get celebrated but matter immensely.You'll hear:Why healing doesn't always feel like joy or peace—and what it might feel like insteadReal-life examples of subtle progress that survivors often overlookHow trauma makes it harder to recognize growth, even when it's happeningA new way to think about hope when the future feels foggyBecause even if it doesn't feel like it… you are healing.Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

As you heal from the narcissistic abuse from an intimate partner, you might come to this realization - that one of your parents is also a narcissist and has been abusive.Sometimes this realization is mind blowing and stops you in your tracks forcing you to rethink everything you thought you knew about your childhood and the family you grew up with.In today's episode I have a conversation with Katherine Fabrizio, a therapist working with these dynamics for decades, more specifically with the mother daughter relationship resulting in “The Good Daughter Syndrome.”We discuss the dynamics and challenges that arise for the daughters of mothers with narcissistic or other difficult personalities throughout their lives.  This includes the subconscious conditioning that starts during the early childhood years and how that impacts all of their relationships moving forward.  Katherine shares how she works with clients with these challenges with some ideas and tips that you can take and use right away after listening to this episode.BIO: Katherine Fabrizio, M.A., L.C.M.H.C., psychotherapist, mother, and author, has treated adult daughters of difficult mothers trapped in the “Good Daughter” role for over 35 years.Book https://a.co/d/0kUKQtO/ Quiz -https://daughtersrising.info/good-daughter-quiz/Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Feeling completely burned out from healing? You're not alone.In this episode, Sybil dives into a phase of healing that almost no one talks about — the exhaustion that hits after leaving an abusive relationship. If you're feeling numb, unmotivated, or like healing is suddenly impossible… this is for you.We'll explore:Why burnout happens after you finally find safetyHow the nervous system shifts from fight/flight to freezeWhat healing burnout really looks like (spoiler: it's not laziness)How to give yourself permission to rest and resetA gentle guided practice to reconnect with your body, without shameHow to reframe what “progress” really meansAnd if you're listening when this episode goes live — enrollment for The Rising Beyond Community is open until May 8th, 2025 at 11:59pm MST. If burnout is where you are right now, the community could be the lifeline you didn't know you needed.

In this episode, I speak with attorney, advocate, and author Meg Groff, whose 40+ years of experience supporting victims of domestic violence have impacted countless families. We dive into the critical missteps attorneys often make in family court, how those missteps put survivors and children at risk, and what needs to change. Meg also shares insights from her powerful new book, Not If I Can Help It, and offers a vision for how legal systems, legislation, and cultural understanding must evolve to better protect survivors.About Meg:Meg Groff is an attorney, advocate, and author with more than four decades of experience representing victims of domestic violence in family court. She has trained thousands of professionals on the dynamics of abuse, contributed to legislation protecting survivors, and developed legal programs ensuring free representation for victims seeking protection. Since retiring from trial work, she continues to consult, mentor, and write, most recently authoring Not If I Can Help It, a memoir and call to action for legal and cultural reform.Connect with Meg:Buy Not If I Can Help It - https://www.amazon.com/Not-If-Can-Help-Domestic/dp/1953943470/ref=sr_1_1?Meg Groff Twitter/X - @meggroffauthorMeg Groff Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571087065596Meg Groff Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/meggroff2025/www.meggroff.comRegister for the Moral Injury workshop here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/moral-injuryPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

You finally left. You survived.So why do you still feel like you're the one who did something wrong?We're unpacking the survivor's guilt and moral injury that often surface after leaving an abusive relationship—especially when your children are still in contact with the abusive parent, or when you feel like others "had it worse."We explore:The psychological and emotional experience of moral injuryThe guilt of not being able to protect your children full-timeHow survivors remain stuck with “no-win” decisionsHow survivors often minimize their own traumaThe long-term impact of being the safe parent while the abuser still holds powerAnd, most importantly, how to begin healing and moving from moral injury to moral resilienceIf you're listening to this as it comes out, this episode is a prelude to my upcoming workshop (May 2, 2025) on healing from moral injury—if you've ever felt crushed by guilt for surviving or worry that your pain isn't valid, this is for you.Referenced episodes:Episode 141: The Shame Was Never Yours: Healing from Vicarious Shame After Abuse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16741508Ep 147: Co-Parenting with a Manipulative Ex: How to Shield Your Child from Coercive Control - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16971544Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/12984312Ep 56: Start Healing from Moral Injury with Guest Dr. Daniel Roberts - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/13198006Register for the Moral Injury workshop here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/moral-injuryPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Abusers who use coercive control don't just manipulate one person—they manipulate everyone around them, including their own children. As a protective parent, whether you've left the relationship or are still navigating it, how can you empower your child to recognize manipulation and maintain their sense of self?In this episode, we dive deep into:✔️ How coercive control tactics—like triangulation, gaslighting, and emotional withholding—are used against children ✔️ The subtle and overt ways abusers condition kids to doubt themselves and comply with their demands ✔️ Why strengthening your bond with your child is the first and most critical step in protecting them ✔️ How to foster open communication and critical thinking without “disparaging” the other parent (and putting your legal case at risk) ✔️ Practical strategies to help children recognize manipulation and trust their own perceptions ✔️ How to teach emotional intelligence, body awareness, and discernment in an age-appropriate way

As you start healing from coercive control and domestic violence within your relationship, it is likely that you will start to have revelations about other relationships in your life.Patterns and experiences in your family of origin, specifically with your parents may come to the forefront, especially if there was physical or emotional abandonment.  We welcome Kaytee Gillis, LCSW back to The Rising Beyond Podcast as we do a deep dive on the impacts of parental abandonment; what that means, how you have been impacted, how cultural messages have impacted your ability to understand unhealthy dynamics, and what you can do now on your healing journey to heal those attachment wounds.Kaytee Specializes in working with survivors of family and relationship trauma, psychological abuse, and CPTSD.  She is a psychotherapist, author, educator and proud cat mom of three fur babies.  She has published 4 books, two on the topic of intimate partner violence and two on family trauma and her newest book, “Healing from Parental Abandonment and Neglect” may be a game changer as you process your relationship with your parents.Connect with Kaytee:https://www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com/Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Language shapes how we see ourselves, our experiences, and our healing journey. In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, we're diving into why words matter for survivors of domestic violence—how they can be used to manipulate and harm, and how they can also be reclaimed to empower and heal.What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The power of survivor language vs. the gaslighting words abusers use. ✔️ How trauma-informed language can support healing while victim-blaming language hinders it. ✔️ The role of the media and family court in shaping narratives around abuse. ✔️ How abusers weaponize language to maintain control—gaslighting, word salad, and blame-shifting. ✔️ Why naming experiences like coercive control, post-separation abuse, and trauma bonding is so validating. ✔️ The impact of self-talk on your recovery and how to reframe harmful internalized messages. ✔️ How to reclaim your narrative and choose empowering language for yourself.Why This Matters:Language isn't just about words—it's about power, control, validation, and healing. When survivors don't have the right words to describe their experiences, they can feel lost or even doubt their own reality. But when they do? It's like turning on a light in a dark room.Glossary: www.risingbeyondpc.com/glossaryPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Being able to share your experiences of coercive control and domestic violence in a way that is credible is imperative if you are dealing with any larger systems or trying to get support from friends and family.And this is something survivors of abuse struggle with.In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast we look at not only the importance of sharing a credible story, but the common challenges that survivors face and then some practical steps that can be taken to improve the level of credibility that you can gain when telling your story.Some of the top challenges are:The myths and misconceptions about domestic violence that lead to biasThe timeline of family court and other evaluations do not allow for healing to happen before a survivor needs to tell their storyThe trauma responses that arise when sharing the narrativeSurvivors sharing context before their key points, concerns or asksSome of the ways discussed to become more credible:Use “rocks in a jar” for all communicationFind ways to regulate your nervous systemUse the support of others to find places and people where it is safe to be safePlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

How often have you felt voice-less and silenced as a survivor of coercive control and domestic violence?Survivors are voice-less when living in the relationship with their abuser.  They also often do not get a chance to speak their truth in family court or within any other larger systems either.And so when you are in a place where you want to be heard and decide to make things more public, it is possible that your abuser will do anything and everything to silence you again. This is what happened to my guest, Lorraine Marshall. She received defamation charges against her after writing her book titled, “Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?”So, if you have ever been in a place where you want to be an advocate for other survivors by writing a book or having a podcast or Youtube channel you will need to learn how to protect yourself just in case.  Lorraine Marshall shares her story of abuse, how she was silenced, and how she was able to beat the charges filed against her. Loraine Marshall is a self-published author and survivor of hidden emotional abuse that was revealed to her post-separation. If money was not a concern, I would buy a home and run a retreat to help women in recovery from trauma after any of the three Ds in relationship endings.Connect with Loraine:Book - Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man? UK - https://amzn.to/3NBlQbxUS - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDHBlog - https://successwithloraine.com/when-four-months-turns-into-four-years/https://ko-fi.com/lorenkeelingauthor  https://www.youtube.com/@successwithloraine/podcastsPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Supervised visitation and therapeutic visitation are meant to provide safety and structure for children and families navigating complex custody dynamics. But what happens when there are no regulations, inconsistent oversight, and a severe lack of training among those facilitating these visits? In this episode, I share real-life stories, my experiences getting trained, and the major concerns with how these services are currently being implemented. I'll break down:What supervised and therapeutic visitation should look likeThe risks of unregulated or poorly structured visitation servicesWhy documentation, training, and therapist collaboration must be prioritizedWhat we can do to bring awareness and demand better oversightIf you've experienced supervised or therapeutic visitation—or have concerns about how it's being handled in your case—this episode is for you.Referenced Links: Episode 44: The Myth of Parental Alienation: What is it really?Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Even though you've left the relationship, do you still feel embarrassed when you remember the way your ex treated others? Do you find yourself cringing at memories of their public outbursts, apologizing for their past behavior, or worrying that others judge you because of them?This lingering sense of responsibility is called vicarious shame—when you feel embarrassed on behalf of someone else's actions, even though you weren't the one who did anything wrong.In this episode, we explore:✔️ Why vicarious shame lingers long after leaving an abuser✔️ How abusers used it to manipulate and control you✔️ The emotional toll of feeling responsible for someone else's behavior✔️ Steps to stop carrying their shame and fully step into your own healingVicarious shame is a tool abusers rely on to keep you second-guessing yourself, isolating from support, and feeling like you need to "fix" things that were never your fault. But the truth is: You are not responsible for their actions—then or now.Join community here - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/?msopen=/member/plans/allWhen you join the RB community, you'll get expert thoughts from me and others on strategy, parenting, family court, healing, all the things, connection with other survivors in a safe place. And in a place where you won't have to defend yourself anymore. We believe you. You'll also have access to live events, workshops, and our online forum. Doors close on midnight, Tuesday, February 11th. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

What if the key to your post-separation freedom wasn't fighting for control, but letting go of what's beyond it?Imagine reclaiming your energy by focusing only on what you can control, even in the face of narcissistic abuse or coercive control. How might that shift your healing journey?Our guest Karen McMahon is a divorce coach specializing in supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse. Karen shares how to move from helplessness to empowerment. Together, we explore:The power of accepting your current reality and identifying what is truly within your control.How the 7 Layers of Energy Blueprint can help you shift your mindset and reclaim your agency.Practical steps to transform feelings of powerlessness into purposeful action.If you're ready to let go of the struggle and embrace a new kind of freedom, this episode is for you.Karen McMahon is a High Conflict Divorce Strategist, Certified Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is also the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, and co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility”.Website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/mediaIG: https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/Podcast: Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast - http://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-beyond-divorce-podcast/id1261400624Join community here - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/?msopen=/member/plans/allWhen you join the RB community, you'll get expert thoughts from me and others on strategy, parenting, family court, healing, all the things, connection with other survivors in a safe place. And in a place where you won't have to defend yourself anymore. We believe you. You'll also have access to live events, workshops, and our online forum. Doors close on midnight, Tuesday, February 11th. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Join community here - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/?msopen=/member/plans/allWhen you join the RB community, you'll get expert thoughts from me and others on strategy, parenting, family court, healing, all the things, connection with other survivors in a safe place. And in a place where you won't have to defend yourself anymore. We believe you. You'll also have access to live events, workshops, and our online forum. Doors close on midnight, Tuesday, February 11th. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

If you are a survivor in the battle ground of family court, would you say that your attorney is representing you well?Do you feel heard?  Or maybe you do not have the financial means to even hire an attorney.And so you find yourself going pro se.  Representing yourself in family court.  This can be extremely scary and it is possible that you will be able to do an even better job going pro se than with an attorney.  On this episode of I have a conversation with Casey Schreiber-Brinkman on how she was able to turn her case around to finally be able to protect herself and her children when she got rid of her attorneys and became pro se.Casey shares her best tips for representing yourself well as well as what a family court coach/consultant can do to help you on this journey.  We discuss the importance of documentation, knowing your rights, doing the right research, how to get evidence in as evidence, and more.  About Casey: Casey is a dedicated protective mother who spent nearly five years navigating the complexities of the family court system. For just under three years, she worked with an attorney, but it wasn't until she took on her case pro se in the last two years that she was able to truly have her voice, and her children's voices, heard. Through her persistence and determination, Casey successfully turned her case around to protect her children, a journey that sparked her passion for helping other protective moms facing similar challenges. Connect w Casey: IG: @mamasaurus860 and @cbmum2boysJoin community here - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/?msopen=/member/plans/allWhen you join the RB community, you'll get expert thoughts from me and others on strategy, parenting, family court, healing, all the things, connection with other survivors in a safe place. And in a place where you won't have to defend yourself anymore. We believe you. You'll also have access to live events, workshops, and our online forum. Doors close on midnight, Tuesday, February 11th. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

Have you ever felt like your entire life is consumed by the chaos of post-separation abuse? What if I told you that there's a part of you—a healing self—that can exist outside of the constant stress and conflict? And what if you could nurture that part of you, even in the middle of everything you're facing?There is the delicate balance between the part of you that is stuck in survival mode—managing the daily chaos of post-separation abuse, family court battles, and co-parenting with a toxic ex—and the part of you that is yearning to heal, grow, and reclaim your life.This episode will help you understand and separate these two selves so you can protect your energy, find moments of joy, and ultimately integrate these parts of yourself to live more fully. We'll also share powerful mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you navigate this complex journey.If you've ever felt like you're losing yourself in the chaos, this episode is here to offer you hope, clarity, and actionable steps toward healing.Join community here - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/?msopen=/member/plans/allWhen you join the RB community, you'll get expert thoughts from me and others on strategy, parenting, family court, healing, all the things, connection with other survivors in a safe place. And in a place where you won't have to defend yourself anymore. We believe you. You'll also have access to live events, workshops, and our online forum. Doors close on midnight, Tuesday, February 11th. Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?When you finally realize that you are being abused in your relationship and that your partner is a narcissist, it can hit you like a ton of bricks.In this episode, I have a conversation with Mita Begum on her experience of realizing that she had been in two different abusive relationships after watching a video on Tik Tok and what she did to start getting her power back before even leaving her relationship.  She shares the steps she continues to take as she heals and helps other women heal and find their power.We also talk about:How domestic violence does not discriminate and how she did not fit the “picture” of a victimHow your family of origin and culture can make you more vulnerable to finding an abusive relationshipThe difficulties of breaking a trauma bond and what helped for herTips to finding your power and sense of selfAbout Mita:Mita is a passionate advocate for personal growth and empowerment, holding certifications as a Life Coach, Mindset Coach, and Domestic Violence and Abuse Specialist. She is the founder of Glowing Beyond, where she helps individuals reconnect with their mind, body, and soul while guiding abuse survivors to reclaim their power and transition into healthier, thriving lifestyles.With 16 years of experience as a makeup artist, including working as a celebrity makeup artist for clients like four-time Olympic gold medalist Hayley Wickenheiser, Mita's expertise extends to empowering women through both inner and outer transformation. Her work has been featured in magazines, multiple podcasts, and community platforms.As the host of The Glowing Beyond Show, Mita shares her journey of overcoming depression, anxiety, and abuse throughRegister HEREI want to help you jumpstart your healing process, no matter where you are on your healing journey, with evidence- based practices that I have seen work for survivors in this new, transformative workshop.This workshop is for you if: You have survived an abusive relationship and set the goal to move forward on your healing journey in 2025. Whether you are in the thick Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Explore the transformative power of creativity as a tool for processing emotions and reclaiming your identity after abuse. Learn how engaging in creative expression can help rewire your brain, improve your mood, and reconnect you to your true self.We'll dive into:Why creativity is particularly powerful for survivors of trauma.Insights from The Body Keeps the Score on how trauma affects brain function.How creative outlets like art, writing, and movement can help you reframe your story and build resilience.Overcoming perfectionism and embracing the healing power of the creative process.This episode includes real-life examples of creative healing and actionable steps to start your own creative journey today.Key Takeaways:Creativity engages the right side of the brain, enabling you to process trauma in ways that words alone cannot.Artistic expression can help you find new strengths, reframe your narrative, and celebrate progress in your healing journey.You don't need to be an artist—just willing to explore and experiment.Register HEREI want to help you jumpstart your healing process, no matter where you are on your healing journey, with evidence- based practices that I have seen work for survivors in this new, transformative workshop.This workshop is for you if: You have survived an abusive relationship and set the goal to move forward on your healing journey in 2025. Whether you are in the thick Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?We're diving deep into the world of triggers. A common and often overwhelming experience for survivors of trauma and abuse. We'll explore what triggers are, why they happen, and how they can actually become opportunities for healing and growth.Whether you're just beginning your recovery journey or you're further along, this episode offers practical tools and validation to help you navigate triggers with confidence and compassion.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Understanding Triggers: What they are, how they relate to the brain and body's fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses, and the difference between triggers and flashbacks.Common Triggers: Examples like certain sounds, behaviors, or phrases that may remind you of past trauma.Recognizing Triggers: Learn how to identify early signs of being triggered and track patterns using a “trigger tracker” journal.Managing Triggers in the Moment: Techniques like grounding exercises, deep breathing, and creating a personalized “calm kit.”Growing Through Triggers: How to reframe triggers as milestones in your healing journey and use them as data to guide therapeutic work.Key Takeaways:Triggers are a normal part of recovery and not a sign of failure.Grounding tools, when practiced consistently, can help regulate your nervous system.With mindfulness and support, triggers can illuminate unresolved trauma and help you move toward healing.Call to Action:This week, choose one grounding tool like deep breathing or the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, and practice it daily. Building this habit can make it easier to manage triggers when they arise.Related Episodes:Episode 133: Polyvagal Healing with EricaPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Why is it that we can understand the abuse we suffered, understand why we are hypervigilant, and yet not see the progress we are hoping for on the healing front?The trauma of an abusive, narcissistic and coercively controlling relationship affects survivors in such a way that we cannot just think our way out of it.  Your brains and nervous systems have been re-wired to protect you and your survival at all costs.  And your nervous system will not give up those strategies of survival just because you now understand the abuse.This abuse is held in our bodies as well.  So we need a full bodied, holistic approach to healing and this is what I am talking about with Erica Bonham, LPC today.  We discuss the different ways in which trauma is held in our bodies and she shares some practical tips and skills you can use today to start to lower your hypervigilance and fight, flight, freeze, and fawning responses.Erica shares her passion in helping survivors heal and how she is offering this healing to a wider audience in her new book, Always Enough, Never Done.Erica Bonham is a certified EMDR clinician, consultant and trainer, and is a licensed professional counselor and nervous system regulation coach in the state of Colorado.   She aspires to be a catalyst for change, justice, growth, evolution and all around badassery.  She specializes in abuse recovery, trauma related to social injustice, and spiritual abuse.  She incorporates her training as a yoga instructor and mindfulness practitioner to deepen clients healing of their bodies and specializes in somatic and attachment EMDR, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, and ego state work. She is a published author and speaker.  Connect with Erica:AVOS practice website: www.avoscounseling.comTo order the book, Always Enough, Never Done, the accompanying workbook, course, and/or join coaching calls: https://www.avoscounseling.com/coaching-packagesDownload Erica's Free Polyvagal Toning Guide with a BONUS of 6 guided meditations:https://www.avoscounseling.com/freebieFollow Erica on social:http://m.facebook.com/avoscounselinghttps://www.instagram.com/avoscounseling/https://www.tiktok.com/@ericabonhamsomaticcoach?_t=8sEnEoat3zH&_r=1Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?If you're a survivor navigating family court, co-parenting with an abusive ex, and just trying to make it through another day, goal-setting might feel like an impossible task. Even though it is a new year, you are expecting the same old BS from your co-parent and the family court system.In this episode, we explore how to set meaningful goals for the year ahead—even when life feels like it's stuck on repeat and the container you're in does not seem to be changing.Drawing inspiration from the book 10X Is Easier Than 2X, I share how thinking bigger—instead of smaller—can help you create radical change, even in challenging circumstances. We'll contrast 10X thinking with the more traditional SMART goals and “1% better each day” theories, highlighting the pros and cons of each approach. Most importantly, I validate the very real feeling that if you're low on energy or hope, these big ideas might feel overwhelming or out of reach. And that's okay—we're meeting you where you are.This episode focuses on balancing outside-the-box thinking with the strategies you already know work for, as well as putting energy into what is in our control:Navigating family court more effectivelyParenting and co-parenting in high-conflict situationsProtecting your energy and mental healthWhether you're ready to dream big or simply looking for small steps to regain control, this episode offers practical, compassionate guidance to help you move forward in your unique situation.Referenced Links:Episode 128 - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16201738-ep-128-when-hope-feels-out-of-reach-for-domestic-violence-survivorsBook: Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?One of the most devastating consequences of coercive control and domestic abuse is the stripping away of the victim's identity and sense of self.The emotional and psychological abuse leads victims to feel incapable of doing even small tasks that may once have felt easy, let alone the belief that one can follow their dreams.What if finding a way to take that first step towards your dreams could catapult your healing?On this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I talk with Lola REid Allin on how following her dreams to become a pilot allowed her to escape her abusive marriage in a time when it was shocking for a woman to leave her husband.  In this episode we also discuss the harmful culture in the male dominated profession of aviation and what leads to this harassment and “boys club” culture.Lola shares her reason for writing her memoir,  HIGHWAY to the SKY: An Aviator's Journey. It is a way that she can bring light to the many women's issues that prevent women from living out their dreams.About Lola: Lola Reid Allin is a survivor, former Airline Transport Pilot, pilot examiner, and the first female flight instructor at two flight schools (BC & ON), and the first woman to fly the Twin Otter (DHC6/300) for a scheduled air service, commemorated on the Wall of Women in Aviation History at the Bush Plane Museum in Sault Ste Marie.In addition, she is a SCUBA Dive Master, and an award-winning author and photographer whose work has appeared in many notable local, national, and international publications, including National Post, Globe & Mail, Toronto Star, National Geographic, Santa Fe Centre for Photography, Verge Magazine, & Grapevine Magazine. To promote the role of women in aviation and to encourage other females to consider aviation careers, Lola is a speaker with the Northern Lights Aero Foundation & the Eastern Ontario 99s Education & Outreach Committee. In 2022, she and Robin Hadfield, the International 99s President, created the New Track Scholarship, an annual award for female pilots.Connect with Lola: https://www.lolareidallin.com/https://www.facebook.com/Lola.Reid.Allin.Pilot/https://www.instagram.com/lola.reid.allin/https://www.linkedin.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What can we learn from all that happened in 2024?In this episode, I share some of the top themes that I have seen throughout the year based on the most listened to podcast episodes, my communications with the other advocates fighting for survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, and most importantly the clients and community members I have the honor to walk alongside every day.I have seen parallels between the podcast episodes that had the highest engagement and that of the typical healing process from abuse.  I also discuss the changes legislatively that have happened in 2024, as well as the increased awareness and media coverage of our family court crisis. I also share the common struggles of the survivors I am working with currently.While we have done a better job working together this year, we still have a long way to go including improvements in accountability and enforcement, transparency, and leading people to take the next step when we are doing work to bring awareness to family court and domestic violence issues.Offer your input on what you want to know more about in 2025 - https://us20.list-manage.com/survey?u=7d2b7e1333294299a48cf04aa&id=fd5c41ccdf&e=07c24158c9&mc_cid=a6957ae7b5Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Post separation abuse resources are still scarce even though it is no longer a secret that abuse continues after a victim leaves the relationship.Feeling like you are on your own as you read and respond to your co-parent's messages in your co-parenting app or as you search through hundreds of messages to find that one thread that your attorney has asked you to find by the end of the day is common for survivors dealing with post separation abuse.The Rising Beyond Podcast first introduced Anne Wintemute, the co-founder of Aimee says, the AI companion for survivors of domestic violence in Dec 2023 when this resource was just getting off the ground.  A year later, AImee is helping tens of thousands of survivors every month and we wanted to follow up to chat about how this tool continues to help combat the challenges post separation brings and some interesting themes that Anne is seeing with their users.We explore the time and money saved by using Aimee and how "Aimee" combats the loneliness and isolation that survivors experience by offering 24/7 support, from co-parenting advice to emotional validation.Listen now to see if Aimee could be a helpful tool in your post separation abuse tool box.Anne Wintemute is a post-separation abuse consultant and co-founder of Aimee Says, an Al tool for survivors. Her work strives to bridge the gap in understanding that allows perpetrators of abuse to act within a culture of tolerance.  Previously, Anne was a Head of School at an independent elementary in Denver.Checkout the app - https://www.aimeesays.com/en/homePlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Navigating the family court system with an abusive ex can feel like an endless, uphill battle. And with our current system broken and the current state of our world, the idea of “finding hope” and positivity may not feel possible.In this episode, we explore how to find steadiness and strength when hope feels out of reach. Instead of relying on external outcomes, we discuss how cultivating resilience and persistence can empower you, and how creating personal anchors can offer daily stability. These tools are practical, actionable, and within your control—helping you stay grounded, no matter what challenges arise.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why “hope” can feel misplaced in the family court system and what to focus on instead.The power of resilience and persistence in staying steady through the process.How to create and use emotional, physical, and mental “anchors” for daily grounding.Practical examples of resilience-building practices and anchoring techniques.How to integrate persistence and anchors for long-term stability and self-empowerment.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Do you ever feel like you are stuck in your head?It may mean that you need to get out of your thoughts and into your body and emotions.On this week's episode we do a deep dive with Bre Wolta, a relationship coach and certified EFT practitioner, on her experiences leaving an abusive relationship and the invaluable lessons about boundaries, self-worth, and the illusion of "potential land” she learned on her healing journey. She explains how clinging to hope can keep you anchored in dysfunction, and emphasizes the importance of emotional recognition and processing. Discover the transformative power of the "analytical buoy," and how allowing yourself to feel the full range of emotions, from grief to anger, can be healing. While it is important to understand what you've gone through it is just as important to allow yourself to feel what you've gone through.  Healing from abuse takes both.Bre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner, is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women heal from the mindf*ck of toxic relationships so that they can securely attach and finally experience healthy love. Bre's own toxic relationship healing journey, and her ability to hold safe space allows her to walk alongside clients as they find clarity and build trust from within, rekindling the most important relationship of all: the one they have with themselves.Connect with Bre:Website: www.brewolta.comPodcast (Heartbreak to Healing: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships): https://link.chtbl.com/nGsnWVzZEpisode 25 "What To Do After The Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through The Grief & Heartbreak Of A Narcissistic Relationship" - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/25-what-to-do-after-the-breakup-4-steps-to-help-you/id1714991254?i=1000655949382Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBd9yoGwfdc-m5RhAUolGwgIG: @‌lucid.living.with.breMini Course: Find Yourself Again - https://www.brewolta.com/find-yourself-again. Use code Podcast10 to receive 10% offPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What does the family court system and other systems need to know about the realistic time it will take someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or those who are high on the continuum of narcissism to actually change?That is if they are willing to change.And if you are struggling to leave, hoping that your partner will make the changes they have promised, what do you need to know?In this episode I critique and summarize an article that hooked me in several years ago called “10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders: Narcissists can slowly change, with appropriate therapy and a lot of effort.”This article suggests 10 stages for the clinical “curing” of NPD. I share the takeaways for those who come into contact with someone with NPD or someone high on the continuum of narcissism including how the family court system can learn from and make changes to their assumptions based in this article.  I also discuss what is missing from the article and ideas for future research.Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201908/10-stages-in-the-treatment-narcissistic-disordersPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Transparency is a requirement for any meaningful change in our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  This is extremely apparent when you hear the horror stories of survivors day after day of their time and retraumatization in family court.And just recently, the curtain has been pulled back to allow the world to see what is really going on when a survivor of domestic violence tries to protect her children in family court.  Today I am talking with two survivors with their own horror stories who have both received media attention on their cases.Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins was recently in the news after being jailed for protecting her children.  And while the media reported several things incorrectly (which will be corrected in this episode) it shed the light on courts ordering reunification therapy when there are significant concerns of sexual abuse with what turns out to be an unethical therapist.Erin Siegal's case was in the limelight several years ago on her experiences with unethical and harmful court evaluators and other legal professionals.  This case and reporting were at the start of the movement here in Colorado that allowed Kayden's Law and other laws to be passed to help start court reform.  She continues to be threatened with gag orders to silence her advocacy.We need to continue the momentum and continue to shine the spotlight on what is really going on in our family court system.  So that survivors are not silenced.  Where to find Erin and Rachel -Erin - https://linktr.ee/fortitudeflourishRachel - https://www.tiktok.com/@mount.simon.minis?_t=8qQwZPeFfit&_r=1 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550070298795&mibextid=LQQJ4d Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Coercive control and dv thrive in secrecy and so for many reasons victims lose their voices in the process of these relationships.  Once a victim has left they have to make the decision of what parts of their story to share and with whom.  This is especially important when a victim finds themselves in the family court system trying to protect their family.When facing a divorce with your abusive ex partner it would seem that a trial is inevitable and based on research and the experiences of so many I've worked with, it's a crap shoot to whether your story will be heard or believed.What if there was another way? What if you as the survivor could use your expertise on your ex and your family to get a better deal in divorce?This is what we are discussing today; the different ways you can use your knowledge and voice to get a settlement agreement with your ex, even if only for some of the concerns, instead of leaving it all up to the cookie cutter decrees set by most family court judges.  If you have a case that needs a custom plan due to things like substance use or abuse, then the tips and tricks in this episode may be exactly what you are missing. Julie blends professional insights with her personal story of navigating a high-conflict custody dispute. She avoids sharing too many specifics to respect her ex and children, she explains how her background in dispute resolution helped keep their family out of the courtroom, despite major challenges. Julie specializes in helping law firms enhance client experience (CX) through customized training and support. Outside of work, she volunteers to support parents navigating divorce, ensuring the safety and well-being of their children remain central. The Secret to Speaking Up: Practical Strategies of Negotiation During Post Separation Abuse Workshop | November 14th, 2024 12 to 1:30 p.m., MST Register Here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/speakingupWhat You'll Gain:Clarity on the Challenges: Understand the emotional and legal obstacles you'll face as you speak up, and how to prepare for them.Confidence to Use Your Voice: Learn how to find your voice amidst trauma responses.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Are awareness and education the best option for decreasing the rates of domestic violence and coercive control?While it is important, we have been bringing awareness to the public since 1987 and it doesn't feel like a lot has changed.What I believe will have the most impact is accountability for those that perpetrate family violence and coercive control on others? And I am not the only one.  But why isn't it happening?In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I share my thoughts on why there is consistently no accountability for abusers in our larger systems and what you can do to improve the chances of seeing accountability in your case.We are focusing on the things that are within your control, looking at the logistical things that will make it more likely for your abuser to be held accountable to some extent and things you can do to take care of yourself during this journey when so much is outside of your control.The Secret to Speaking Up: Practical Strategies of Negotiation During Post Separation Abuse Workshop | November 14th, 2024 12 to 1:30 p.m., MST Register Here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/speakingupWhat You'll Gain:Clarity on the Challenges: Understand the emotional and legal obstacles you'll face as you speak up, and how to prepare for them.Confidence to Use Your Voice: Learn how to find your voice amidst trauma responses.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mi...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Isolation as a tactic of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence is fairly well understood, however are there larger consequences to continued isolation post separation?Similar to the scores from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale (ACES), isolation has been shown to have long term negative impacts on your physical, mental, and brain health.In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast you will come along with me as I learn more about how the tactic of isolation can impair your brain's ability to heal through neuroplasticity and impair its ability to form new connections.  I take a look at: Why isolation is so helpful to the abuser to maintain power and control during the relationship as well as post separationThe negative long term effects of isolationHow social connections can be the number one tool for healing and getting your brain function back on track.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Gu...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What is Officer Involved Domestic Violence? This is an area of advocacy where we have known to be a problem for years and it is unspoken; a “dirty little secret.”  Bruce Bieber agreed to share his story as a way to move this issue into the forefront so that change might actually happen.Take care of yourself as you listen to this story.Abigail Rose Bieber, “Abby” to her friends and family, was the first of their three children to move to the Tampa Bay area.  In short order, Abby became a Hillsborough County Sheriff's Office Deputy where she served for four years.  Both of her brothers are also in law enforcement.The Biebers have always been an incredibly close family and the pull to join their children in Florida was too great to resist so Bruce and Sarah retired and followed their three kids and grandkids to Florida. Seven months after moving to a home 1.5 miles from Abby's house, Bruce and Sarah were planning Abby's funeral.  On January 29, 2022, Abby was shot three times in the head by Detective Daniel M. Leyden, also with the Hillsborough County Sheriff's Office while they, along with two other HCSO Deputy couples, were vacationing in St. Augustine.  Leyden killed himself.   Since that fateful night, Bruce has been on a journey of grief, learning, discovery and advocacy – seeking to understand what went wrong and how to apply the lessons learned to the prevention of another death at the hands of a law enforcement officer.   Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Gu...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What happens when you finally find that one or two people who actually get the narcissistic abuse that you have gone through and continue to go through post separation?Oftentimes you might find yourself sharing like water coming out of a fire hose.  The validation and head nods when you are sharing your experiences just increase the amount you are sharing.  And this is solidified when they are able to finish your sentences before you do.And while these experiences can be extremely helpful as you heal, the constant conversations around the abuse can create a relationship that is extremely limited.  And you (and your new found friend) are more than the abuse you have endured.So how can you maintain this level of support while also creating relationships where you do not feel burn out and can move beyond the labels of being “survivors.”Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Gu...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What is a typical pattern or blueprint for the relationship with a narcissist?Love Bombing happens first.  Followed by devaluation.  And then concludes with the Discard.And this cycle happens over and over again within the relationship leaving the victim confused, hurt and willing to do anything just to experience the good times again.But does this pattern happen after a victim separates from their partner?In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Nova Gibson and I discuss this pattern and how it changes and what it looks like during post separation abuse.  Nova shares her insight on why this patterns works so well for the narcissist before, during, and after the relationship.Nova Gibson is director, founder and primary counsellor of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service and the go-to expert on narcissistic abuse recovery in Australia. She is the author of Australia's best-selling practical self help book of 2023, 'Fake Love  - Understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse published by Harpercollins and the host of her own Podcast,  Fake Love and Flying Monkeys. Nova has helped thousands of clients in Australia and around the world with one-on-one professional support. She lives in Brisbane, Australia.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Gu...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What is it going to take for there to be real systemic change? The state of our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse is horrific for so many families.  And recently some of the unethical and biased decisions made by judges has had the curtain pulled back and has made it into the media here in CO.  This episode is a rant and some of my thoughts about everything that has been going on in our family court system as I supported those working with Rachel Pickrel Hawkins, the mom who was sent to jail for protecting her children.And if you are feeling ignored or silenced because your case is not getting the support or attention that it deserves, I talk directly to you.Link to articles about the case:https://denvergazette.com/colorado-watch/reunification-therapy-colorado-child-abuse/article_96e08e26-66f4-11ef-b15c-ab5c4905bfc1.htmlhttps://denvergazette.com/news/colorado-mother-avoids-jail-therapy-dispute/article_7db23428-716b-11ef-ac35-73da23496db5.htmlPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Gu...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?How does a narcissistic and abusive partner get you stuck in a relationship?Most of the time it is through love bombing, moving extremely quickly, and coercing you into a larger commitment, like living together, getting engaged or married or having a baby.But what does it look like when the victim says “no?”Oftentimes the perpetrator will find another way, like with reproductive coercion.In this episode, my guest, Lynn Stroud and I dive into a lesser discussed topic where a perpetrator of abuse does all they can to get their partner pregnant leaving the victim in a precarious spot. A place where they need to make decisions that will impact their lives forever, no matter what choice they make.Lynn is a survivor of sexual assault, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and reproductive abuse. She aims to educate the world about the danger of reproductive coercion. Lynn was fortunate enough to escape her abusers, but will continue to share her story in the hopes that better laws surrounding coercive control will protect others.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Gu...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Is it easy for you to choose what battles to fight and what battles to let go of when you are co-parenting with your abusive and narcissistic ex-partner?Many of the survivors I have worked with struggle to make this decision based on the judgments of others, the self-doubt, and the weight that their decisions may carry for their children.In this episode, I want to guide you through some questions that you can use to assess whether the battle in front of you is worth fighting or not in a way that will keep your children safer and minimize the negative impacts on your mental health. We will also look at ways to respond to others when they do not agree with your decision.The questions are broken up into the following categories:Safety ImplicationsLegal ImplicationsCo-parenting/Day to DayPersonal Boundaries/Healing/Moral InjuryEpisode References:Grab your FREE PDF of all of the questions discussed HERE.Episode 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral InjuryMaslow's hierarchy of needsThe Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Register for the September, 2024 in-person retreatPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex ...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Why did I end up in an abusive relationship?There is no one reason or answer to this question with the exception of…your partner chose to abuse you.And I know that this answer does not satisfy anyone.  So we are going to look at one of the factors that make women more susceptible to being targeted by an abusive person and why they are more likely to stay in an abusive relationship. We are doing a deep dive into generational trauma.Generational trauma is when trauma is passed down through generations through a combination of psychological, behavioral, and biological mechanisms or pathways. I touch on each of these pathways and the impacts that they have on you and your family.Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and abuse in a family system is extremely difficult work and starting with a trained mental health professional is the first step to healing yourself so that you can break this cycle for your family. Some of the work you may do during this process are:Understanding where it comes from and how your family has contributed to your trauma is not an excuse, but an explanationUnderstanding your role in the family dynamic and what your family might do to keep you in the role and why? Plate and marble exampleHelp you identify where you need to set boundariesAllowing you a place to examine your values and set plans for how to live with those at the forefront Allowing you to imagine a life that looks differentGrieving the loss of … innocence or your childhoodOffering yourself forgivenessFinding inspirational stories of success of breaking the cycleCreating your safe inner circle of support with healthy peopleOne of the most positive impacts of doing all of this work is that you get to teach your children all of the things you The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Register for the September, 2024 in-person retreatPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex ...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?How can we add a layer of protection for young people so that they can see coercive control in relationships a mile away?What if we brought education about coercive control and teen dating violence into our schools?In this episode, I have a conversation with Lis Hoyte on her goal to bring this education on coercive control and healthy relationships into the school systems in the UK and then across the globe.  We talk about the realities of when coercive control starts to show up in the relationships of our teens and tweens and some of the consequences of this.  We talk about the challenges of getting schools on board with bringing this into the classroom. We also look at some benefits that might come from adding this curriculum to our schools, including introducing this information to the staff so that families dealing with coercive control and post-separation abuse can get better treatment and allowing children with coercively controlling parents the education to truly see and understand their situations.Where to find Lis:Lis's Website - https://www.lishoyte.com/Lis's Email Address - lisreallywhat@gmail.comLis's LinkedIn Profile - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lishoyte/The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Register for the September, 2024 in-person retreatPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex ...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?What is the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting?If you have separated from your narcissistic ex-partner and you share children together, it is likely that you will still have to parent your children together in some capacity.  So, which one is right for you?Co-parenting, in theory, is what is in the best interest of your children. During co-parenting, you are making decisions together, discussing concerns, attending events together, and trying to keep the rules and structure in the home consistent. This only works if both parents can truly put the child's needs first and there is some trust in the other parent.It is more likely that you all are going to be parallel parenting. Parallel parenting is shared parenting where you limit contact and interact with the other parent as little as possible to avoid conflict while both parents maintain a relationship with the child.In this episode I speak about the challenges of parallel parenting with an abusive ex, why the courts still use the term co-parenting (and why you will use it too), and some of the things that you can do to help support your children during this and how to take care of yourself.The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Register for the September, 2024 in-person retreatPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child'...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?Our family court system continues to harm families on a daily basis.  If you are a survivor of domestic violence, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse and share children with your ex-partner, you are likely experiencing this firsthand.But what can we do about it?We are creating an army of advocates who are passionate about creating massive changes within our larger systems.  And today I have the honor of talking with two of the women on the front lines of this fight, Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko.In this episode, you are going to hear how and why their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld was created and how it is going to be a necessary tool in this fight.  You will get a sneak peek into this book as Dr. C and Amy share excerpts from the stories in the book and it will give you chills.This book is available for pre-order at the time of this release and it is extremely important that folks pre-order so that we can get this book to more of the people who need it.  You can pre-order this book here: https://narcfreepress.com/If you want to help spread the word about this book, please take a look at how you can be a part of the book launch team.A few things you can do: Join our FB FRAMED Book Launch Team: FRAMED Facebook Book Launch TeamAdd yourself to our FRAMED email list and check for updatesLike our social media posts and share them. Ask others to follow us on social media.Write a review. Invite friends to our workshop: Know The Abuser's Playbook (datesFor more information and to register, click here.The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Register for the September, 2024 in-person retreatPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child'...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?If your children have not had contact or very little contact with your abusive ex-partner then it is likely that a judge will court order reunification therapy.What exactly is reunification therapy?  And is it in the best interests of your children?I share the good, the bad, and the ugly aspects of reunification therapy based on my personal experiences of being trained (sort of) and providing reunification therapy with families involved with child protection.  There were times where the process was beautiful and other times when the process was completely unethical.  Don't miss the CRUCIAL questions you MUST ask therapists before starting reunification therap in order to better protect your children from potential trauma and abuse.What does the process of reunification therapy look like with you?What kind of documentation do you provide to the parents or to the courts? What do you need from me? What is my role in this? What is your communication like with the other members of the team?How do you ensure that you're building enough rapport and relationship with my child so that they will share if they don't feel safe with you or with their other parent, what does that process look like?How are you assessing for emotional safety, how are you assessing when it's safe to move forward?Two questions you can ask that might cause some discomfort for everyone involved:What is your stance on parental alienation?Are there cases or do you have cases where you did not recommend that the child reunify and have parenting time with the parent you're working with?For more information and to register, click here.The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Register for the September, 2024 in-person retreatPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child'...

We'd love your feedback! What resonated for you in this episode? What do you want more of?“Playing the game” of family court and co-parenting when your ex partner is a narcissist is so mentally taxing and goes against every fiber of the survivors I work with.This episode is a bit of a rant after the themes of the moving goal posts of an abuser and the system, needing a crystal ball to make decisions to ensure safety, and the mental exhaustion all came up in my first few days back from vacation.How can you find relief from the extreme weight placed on your shoulders and combat the moral injury that continues to develop as you follow court orders?Know that you are not aloneBecome in-tune with what you need in the momentFocus on your Why when moral injury feels extremeChoose your battles to make fewer decisionsAcknowledge the weight and heaviness of what you are experiencingUse coping skills like distraction and self soothing with intentionAcknowledge what is in your control Episode References:Moral Injury Episodes Ep 56 Start Healing from Moral Injury | with Guest Dr. Daniel RobertsEp 63: Reducing Your Child's Anxiety Around VisitsNational Domestic Violence Hotline - 800.799.SAFE (7233)Call 988 a mental health crisis line from anywhere in the United States For more information and to register, click here.The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register for the Septe...

Send us a Text Message.What do you do with the story of your abuse?Who do you tell?  What do you tell them?  You will find yourself in many different situations with many different people where you will need to share the same story of your narcissistic abuse over and over again and it is actually important to make a conscious decision on how and what you are sharing with the different people.Today we are going to talk about discernment, specifically about sharing your story.  But the strategies here can generalize to many other areas where you need to make conscious and intentional decisions.Early on in your healing…You likely look like a hot mess, you are learning the language, learning the systems, it is likely that you do not fully understand what you are in for with post separation abuse and the family court system…You probably show up in one of two ways,Word vomit/fire hydrant of info… context for days, looking like a crazy personShut down, not trusting, fearfulBoth make sense.Now that you have some psycho ed under your belt and hopefully have done some healing work with a therapist or in a group…Use these questions to assess who and what you will share about your abuse story?What is the role of the person you are talking to?What is the goal you hope to achieve?What evidence do you have that this person will listen/understand?Where are you in this moment?How safe will the information be?Once you have asked these questions, then you can make decisions and some discernment about how much and what to share.And if you have the calling to do advocacy work, write a book, or speak in public about your story, there are some other considerations you need to consider.Episode References:For more information and to register, click here.The Journey Back to You: Rewriting Your Story is a Transformative Retreat for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. Join us for a transformative two-day, in-person retreat designed to help you rewrite your story. This retreat is a refuge where you can connect with others who understand your journey and take steps toward reclaiming your narrative. Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register for the Septe...

If you share more than one child with your narcissistic ex, then it is likely that you have seen your children treated differently.Oftentimes a narcissistic parent creates a dynamic where one child is “the golden child” and another is “the scapegoat.”  The golden child is treated much differently than the other children, getting more attention and special treatment, whereas a scapegoated child will take the brunt of the blame and shame for anything that is going wrong or that the narcissistic parent doesn't like.But why does this dynamic persist and why is it so common?And more importantly, what can you do as a protective parent to help your children as they manage the negative consequences of this dynamic?In this episode we take a look at why this dynamic works for a narcissistic parent, the negative consequences for each child, and what you can do about it as a protective parent.Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits

Did you know that there are actually members of law enforcement that understand and want to find solutions to support victims of domestic violence and coercive control?I know for many of you this is hard to believe, and I have found one!In today's episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I interview Detective Brandon Wootan on his journey starting a high risk domestic violence team, what it looks like and the goals of the team.  We also take a look at the risk factors correlated with domestic violence homicide, where law enforcement is missing the mark, and some tips and strategies for victims and survivors when reaching out to law enforcement to help.I learned a lot from this episode and I feel a sense of hope with each conversation I have with Detective Wootan.   Detective Brandon Wootan's Bio:As a police detective with over a decade of law enforcement experience, I am committed to protecting and serving the community with integrity, professionalism, and compassion. My core competencies include investigation management, teaching, teamwork and leadership.Currently, I work as a detective at the City of Fort Collins, where I investigate crimes against persons, such as homicide, assault, sexual assault, and domestic violence. I also lead the Larimer County Domestic Violence High Risk Team, a multidisciplinary team of professionals who collaborate to identify, assess, and intervene in high-risk domestic violence cases. Additionally, I leverage my teaching skills to provide training and education on domestic violence prevention and response to law enforcement agencies, community organizations, and the public. I have contributed to the development and implementation of policies and protocols to enhance the safety and well-being of domestic violence survivors and their families.References mentioned:AIMEE Says appTalking Parents appPlease leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits

What would it be like to get a full night sleep?  Or to be able to focus on the task at hand?After experiencing the trauma of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse many survivors find that their daily functioning completely goes away.  And this makes complete sense, right?The constant trauma while in the relationship and the continued trauma in the aftermath cause a myriad of problems for your physical and mental health.On the last episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I explained many of the most common trauma modalities that therapists today are using to support survivors.  In this episode we are diving deeper into a lesser known modality; neurofeedback.I have a conversation with Louise Finley, LPC on how neurofeedback can be used as a part of your healing journey from your abusive relationship.  We discuss what neurofeedback is and what it might look like during a session, and we also talk about some of the possible benefits and symptoms that can be targeted through this modality.  Louise is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Georgia, USA and has worked in the therapy field since 2011.  Her early career years were split between private practice and hospital outpatient settings and consequently, Louise has gotten to work with individuals in many stages of life, mental health crises, trauma recovery, and growth.  In 2017 Louise was offered the opportunity to be trained in the Othmer Method of Neurofeedback--she initially saw this as a way to expand support for clients, but it has ended up re-shaping her, both personally and as a clinician.  The additional training has led Louise to actively integrate more brain and nervous system education in her talk therapy work and to appreciate how an appropriately timed brain-based intervention can be a catalyst for beautiful change.  Louise currently balances being a parent and seeing a small number of clients in private practice.  She occasionally blogs about Neurofeedback at www.louisefinley.com and would love to be a resource to any individuals or clinicians with Neurofeedback questions or looking to connect with a Georgia provider!Where to find Louise:www.louisefinley.comwww.eeginfo.com (website of the organization that trained Louise, some providers listed here) https://neurofeedback-network.squarespace.com/home (international/US NF provider listings, as well as basic NF information)Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest Enjoy some of our freebies! Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits