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#87: My guest today is Jamie Brindle, who's actually our first ever non-audio guest for the podcast! Some of you may already be familiar with Jamie and his work on social media, where he helps out freelancers across all industries, focusing on aspects around pricing, dealing with client pushback, finding quality clients, and much more.   In this episode, Jamie and I talk about the skills, mindsets, and experiences that freelancers need to develop to make sure that their career in audio thrives.   Find Jamie here: Website: https://jamiebrindle.io/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejamiebrindle/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejamiebrindle?lang=en LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamiebrindle/   Get info on The Game Industry Professional, my flagship course that teaches you how to make a great living in game audio here: bit.ly/gameindustrypro  

Elspeth Duncan, is a Trinidadian multi-hyphenate creative based in Tobago. Born into a scholarly family in St. Augustine, Trinidad, her father is a professor of botany, and her mother worked as a librarian. Elspeth's upbringing fostered a love for travel and learning, pursuing an education at the University of the West Indies, St. Augustine, where she earned a B.A. in English Literature and minored in linguistics, general psychology and sociology at UWI. She later attained a Master of Philosophy in Criminology from the University of Cambridge, driven by a desire to explore rehabilitation. She took part in Activities and societies: Women's Football Team; New Hall Women's Cricket Team; Squash; Cycling Elspeth's creative journey began in the advertising industry, where she worked as a Copywriter for McCann Erickson and Lonsdale/Saatchi & Saatchi for nearly a decade, crafting compelling campaigns across various media. In 2000, she founded Happy Hippie Productions, later becoming THOU ART YOGA. Elspeth is a KRI-certified Kundalini Yoga instructor since 2002, and has taught locally and internationally. Her dedication to animal welfare blossomed after relocating to Tobago in 2012, where she founded her nonprofit/NGO -Venus Doggess Of Love. This initiative aims to rescue, rehabilitate, and advocate for animals, with the belief that “Love changes lives.” Elspeth's commitment has earned her accolades, including the 2018 Angostura Champions Award for her significant contributions to animal welfare. Elspeth is an accomplished writer, of poetry, fiction, articles for Caribbean and international publications and scripts for film and theatre. Her first published work of fiction, Daisy Chain, links 53 women to each other in a chain of eclectic vignettes, some of which Elspeth intends to translate into film. She also paints and composes song lyrics and music that blends electronic and acoustic elements, reflecting her varied artistic talents. Her award-winning films, such as *Venus & Magnet*, showcase her storytelling prowess. Elspeth runs an intimate dining experience called Table For Two, curating personalized meals, that celebrates love and connection. Currently residing in Tobago with her three rescue dogs, Venus, Sheba and Brindle, and three cats, ABBA, Krispin, and Angelo, Elspeth continues to advocate for animal rescue and welfare.Elspeth Duncan embodies a unique blend of creativity, compassion, and commitment to positive change. Whether through her teachings, philanthropic efforts, culinary creations, or artistic expressions, she continually seeks to inspire and instill a sense of harmony in the world around her. As a devoted animal advocate and a passionate yoga instructor, she is dedicated to raising awareness and fostering connections—one class, one meal, and one rescued animal at a time. Elspeth enjoys nature, the outdoors, traveling, independent films, social and environmental activism, conscious living and any creative pursuit. Connect with this wonderful creative at:https://linktr.ee/elspethduncanhttps://www.facebook.com/elspeth.duncanhttps://www.facebook.com/VenusDoggessOfLoveCharlotteville Tails'—official selection 2025 at @caribbeanfilmfest11 - 15 June 2025, Trinidad #CharlottevilleTails #carribeanfilmfestival...see TRAILER HERE-https://youtu.be/r1sn6e9N8oQ?si=TqM4vXKpKobX5ah6

Encouragers, we're finally kicking off a brand-new season of the Be Encouraged! Podcast, and my heart is bursting to share this with you! Especially, the FRESH look of the podcast! New Season = New Cover Art Before we jump in, let me take you back—five years ago, I was trail running near my house with two dear friends, sharing dreams, and praying together. Little did I know, those conversations would spark something deeper… what started as a blog turned into voice memos, then into this very podcast. And now, here we are, stepping into a fresh season of faith-filled encouragement!I am so grateful for this journey and for all of your support along the way! It means the world to me! Season 2 is called the Believe Series. Why? Because when you believe in who God is, what He says about you, and the plans He has for your life—the impossible becomes possible.  "The RE-INTRODUCTION" our FIRST episode starts TODAY! I can't wait for you all to listen in to what I have been learning, what's been stirring in my heart, and where we are heading for 2025! The next episode will DROP, MARCH 19, 2025!I'll be releasing 7 powerful episodes every other Wednesday before taking a summer break. This season is all about faith, truth, and encouragement straight from God's Word. Let's do this together: Dive into Ephesians 1 before the next episode—I promise, it will stir something in your soul. DM me: What are you believing God for in this season? I'd love to pray for you!  Leave a review on Apple Podcast & I'd love to shout you out on the next episode! AND SUBSCRIBE --- so you can get all the latest episodes, show notes, and more! This isn't just another season—it's a call to believe bigger, trust deeper, and walk stronger in faith. I can't wait to encourage you through it all. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or anywhere you get your podcasts! Click the link in my bio to tune in!Tag a friend who needs this, and let's step into Season 2 together! Click on the link to view more encouraging content and to find information where you can book Jackie for any other faith-infused speaking engagements! BE ENCOURAGED! Jackie #BeEncouragedPodcast #BelieveSeries #FaithOverFear #GodIsFaithful #EncouragementForTheSoul #encourageothers #onward #encouragement #beencouraged #season2 #podcaster 

Fresh from QuickBooks Get Connected, Tom Herbert kicks off the podcast with the start of event season. He recaps key announcements, Making Tax Digital (MTD) product updates and the upcoming Festival of Accounting and Bookkeeping (FAB) on 12-13 March, highlighting the importance of these events being the last proper window for vendors to push their MTD message. Continuing with MTD, Richard Hattersley covers HMRC's plan to start writing to sole traders and landlords in April. The team debates whether this signals real progress or if it's still too early to tell. Herbert also shares how event attendees are reacting to MTD and why HMRC's presence at FAB makes it a must-attend. This week's special guest is Jess Brindle, co-founder of Jessica & Morton and an upcoming FAB speaker. Matthew Ord talks with Brindle about the changing role of finance leaders, their expanding responsibilities and the need to stay ahead of tech advancements. She also previews her FAB session, What's The Forecast and the importance of preparing for upcoming changes.

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Send us a textEver sent a proposal, only to hear… nothing? You're not alone. In today's episode, we tackle the age-old freelancer problem of proposal ghosting. Is it your pricing? Your process? Your client selection? My special guest co-host Jamie Brindle and I break down two different approaches—one that involves a streamlined, high-conversion proposal system and one that cuts proposals out of the equation entirely. Whichever path you choose, this episode will help you land more clients with confidence.WE ALSO TALKED ABOUT• The biggest mistakes freelancers make when sending proposals• How to structure a proposal that converts (hint: it's not just about the price)• Why your proposal process should start before you even send the document• The power of presenting pricing live on the call instead of in a proposal• How to prequalify clients so you stop wasting time on people who were never serious• The secret to closing deals without second-guessing your rates• Why deadlines, follow-ups, and video walkthroughs can make all the difference• The one email you should send instead of a proposal if you know a client isn't a fitAbout Our GuestJamie Brindle been freelancing for 16 years, and in that time he's worked with clients ranging from local mom and pop restaurants, to Fortune 500 companies like Google, Hillshire, Netflix, and Lionsgate. In 2020 he began producing social media content for his fellow freelancers on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, an LinkedIn. Today he helps over 500,000 freelancers everyday with practical tips. Links You Might WantJamie's NewsletterFreelance Year One ebookThe Freelancing ProgramConnect with Jamie onLinkedInInstagramSupport the showThank you for taking time out of your busy day to listen to Boss Responses. This podcast is a passion project that comes from years of helping freelancers shape a business that supports the lifestyle they want. Have a question you'd like answered? Send it to info@bossresponses.com If you'd like to support the podcast, click that link above. Those lattes help keep us going and are much appreciated!

Send us a textTrying to market yourself as a freelancer but drowning in a sea of conflicting advice? Social media, SEO, cold outreach—where do you even start? In today's episode, my special guest co-host Jamie and I break down exactly how to cut through the noise and focus on the right strategies that actually bring in clients. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by all the ways you could market yourself, this episode is your shortcut to clarity.WE ALSO TALKED ABOUT• The reason freelancers struggle to market themselves (hint: it's not about social media)• Why broad marketing messages don't work—and how to get specific about your value• The exact questions to ask yourself before you even think about marketing• How to identify where your ideal clients are hanging out (and position yourself there)• Why offering value before you start selling leads to easier client acquisition• How audience research can reveal your best marketing angles• The biggest mistake freelancers make when marketing on social media (and how to fix it)• Why marketing to other freelancers isn't a business growth strategy• The easiest way to turn engagement into paying clients without feeling salesyAbout Our GuestJamie Brindle been freelancing for 16 years, and in that time he's worked with clients ranging from local mom and pop restaurants, to Fortune 500 companies like Google, Hillshire, Netflix, and Lionsgate. In 2020 he began producing social media content for his fellow freelancers on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, an LinkedIn. Today he helps over 500,000 freelancers everyday with practical tips. Links You Might WantJamie's NewsletterFreelance Year One ebookThe Freelancing ProgramConnect with Jamie onLinkedInInstagramSupport the showThank you for taking time out of your busy day to listen to Boss Responses. This podcast is a passion project that comes from years of helping freelancers shape a business that supports the lifestyle they want. Have a question you'd like answered? Send it to info@bossresponses.com If you'd like to support the podcast, click that link above. Those lattes help keep us going and are much appreciated!

Send us a textEver finish a project, pat yourself on the back for a job well done, and then… nothing? No follow-up, no repeat work, just radio silence. You know they liked your work—so why aren't they coming back? The answer has nothing to do with talent and everything to do with positioning. In this episode, Jamie and I share how to go from “task-completer” to “strategic partner”—and why that's the key to locking in long-term clients.WE ALSO TALKED ABOUT• Why doing great work isn't enough to get repeat business• The key shift from “task-completer” to “strategic partner” (and why it changes everything)• The role of messaging and positioning in attracting ongoing work• How to lead clients toward their next project before they even realize they need it• Why retainer agreements work—and how to get clients to want one• The power of prequalifying your clients so you're only working with people who see your value• How small language shifts—like using “partner” instead of “hire”—change client perception• Why being the person who “solves problems” (not just “delivers work”) makes you indispensable• An analogy that will forever change how you think about client workAbout Our GuestJamie Brindle been freelancing for 16 years, and in that time he's worked with clients ranging from local mom and pop restaurants, to Fortune 500 companies like Google, Hillshire, Netflix, and Lionsgate. In 2020 he began producing social media content for his fellow freelancers on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, an LinkedIn. Today he helps over 500,000 freelancers everyday with practical tips. Links You Might WantJamie's NewsletterFreelance Year One ebookThe Freelancing ProgramConnect with Jamie onLinkedInInstagramSupport the showThank you for taking time out of your busy day to listen to Boss Responses. This podcast is a passion project that comes from years of helping freelancers shape a business that supports the lifestyle they want. Have a question you'd like answered? Send it to info@bossresponses.com If you'd like to support the podcast, click that link above. Those lattes help keep us going and are much appreciated!

Send us a textFreelancers often struggle with the fear of raising their rates, worried that it might cost them valuable clients. This episode breaks down the essentials of how to navigate these conversations, stressing the importance of value, communication, and building strong client relationships.About Our GuestJamie Brindle been freelancing for 16 years, and in that time he's worked with clients ranging from local mom and pop restaurants, to Fortune 500 companies like Google, Hillshire, Netflix, and Lionsgate. In 2020 he began producing social media content for his fellow freelancers on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, an LinkedIn. Today he helps over 500,000 freelancers everyday with practical tips. Links You Might WantJamie's NewsletterFreelance Year One ebookThe Freelancing ProgramConnect with Jamie onLinkedInInstagramSupport the showThank you for taking time out of your busy day to listen to Boss Responses. This podcast is a passion project that comes from years of helping freelancers shape a business that supports the lifestyle they want. Have a question you'd like answered? Send it to info@bossresponses.com If you'd like to support the podcast, click that link above. Those lattes help keep us going and are much appreciated!

In this episode of the HEAL with Kelly Podcast, I speak with Katie Brindle, best-selling author, and leading expert in Chinese medicine, holistic well-being, and self-healing. Katie's personal story is truly remarkable, in which she shares how a life-changing car accident led to her firsthand discovery of the healing power of Chinese medicine and other ancient healing practices. Together, we explore the intricate connection between physical, emotional, and spiritual health, examining how key organs function like "ministers" in a harmonized system, constantly communicating and shaping our overall well-being. Katie also explains why she believes circulation is the foundation of good health and shares a number of simple daily movements we can all easily implement to create positive lasting change. We also explore the fascinating world of BaZi wisdom, uncovering how this ancient system can provide laser-focused clarity on life purpose, self-discovery, and healing. Katie and I discuss Chinese medicine's ability to not only relieve pain but also better align individuals with their higher selves and ultimately foster greater balance in their lives. Tune in now to unlock a number of ancient insights designed to help you better embrace your true path, and cultivate a life filled with greater vitality, purpose, and joy. Links Katie Brindle's Website: https://www.katiebrindle.com/ Katie Brindle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katie_brindle/ Yang Sheng: The Art of Chinese Self-Healing on Amazon: https://amzn.to/40DvJLS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Struggling to make writing click for your students? In this episode, 5th-grade teacher Elise Frank shares practical strategies to tackle the challenges of teaching writing, inspired by "A Path to Better Writing" by Steve Graham and Karen Harris.Key takeaways:Simplify the hidden processes of writing for your students.Boost ownership and feedback.Integrate writing across all subjects.Packed with actionable ideas, this episode is a must-listen for every teacher! Tune in now and transform your writing instruction!Resources: Focus Article: "A Path to Better Writing" by Steve Graham and Karen HarrisSee Elise's writing instruction in action:Video: 5th Grade ELA: Writing about Esperanza Rising with SRSDVideo: 5th Grade ELA: The Power of SRSD and EL Education (Esperanza Rising)Urban teachers' implementation of SRSD for persuasive writing following practice-based professional development: positive effects mediated by compromised fidelity. McKeown, D., FitzPatrick, E., Brown, M., Brindle, M., Owens, J., & Hendrick, R. (2019). Powerful Writing Strategies for All Students by Harris, Graham, Mason and FriedlanderPowerful Teaching: Unleash the Science of Learning by Patrice Bain and Pooja K Agarwal We answer your questions about teaching reading in The Literacy 50-A Q&A Handbook for Teachers: Real-World Answers to Questions About Reading That Keep You Up at Night.Grab free resources and episode alerts! Sign up for our email list at literacypodcast.com.Join our community on Facebook, and follow us on Instagram, Facebook, & Twitter.

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“Emotions drive money decisions all day, every day. If we can normalize that for clients and listeners, it resonates deeply for a lot of us.”Step into the world of financial therapy with our host, Ed Coambs, and Khara Croswaite Brindle, a leading voice in this rapidly growing field. Khara uncovers the emotional undercurrents that shape our financial decisions, urging us to recognize and embrace the "gray" areas where logic often takes a backseat to emotions. Through insights into frameworks like the Enneagram and attachment theory, Ed and Khara explore how understanding our emotional responses can lead to better money management and financial intimacy.Ed and Khara dig into how money influences everyday decisions, from the mundane to the monumental. Khara shares personal anecdotes that illustrate the complex dance between perceived value and actual quality, especially in the context of therapy and professional services. They also tackle the often tricky territory of setting professional rates, reminding us that the price tag isn't always an indicator of quality, and how financial therapy can aid in untangling these nuanced threads.Their discussion also shines a light on the personal journey therapists must embark on to serve their clients more effectively. Khara emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and supervision in maintaining a balanced therapeutic stance. To help listeners on their path to financial well-being, she introduces a practical workbook designed to guide you through the complexities of your own financial beliefs. Let's challenge those preconceived notions about wealth and nurture healthier financial mindsets together.Key Topics:The Role of Emotions in Financial Decisions (00:00)The Impact of Financial Therapy (08:10)The Importance of Values in Financial Decisions (12:41)The Framework of Financial Therapy (15:25)Emotional Neutrality in Financial Decisions (36:19)The Impact of Media and Cultural Influences on Financial Beliefs (38:38)Practical Tools and Resources for Financial Therapy (44:46)Final Thoughts and Advice for Listeners (46:23)Resources:Croswaite Counseling PLLCConnect With Healthy Love and Money: Schedule your free 30-minute Discovery Call About Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™. Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz. Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way. Hit Follow on Your Favorite Podcast Player To Get the Latest Episodes.

What is noble poverty, and is it impacting your financial decisions? In this episode, Linzy welcomes financial therapist and consultant Khara Croswaite Brindle to explore the concept of noble poverty—an underlying belief that can impact financial decisions, particularly within helping professions like therapy. Linzy and Khara discuss how therapists are often socialized to equate service with sacrifice, leading many to adopt a mindset that prioritizes scarcity over financial well-being.Together, Linzy and Khara examine the roots of noble poverty, its connections to gender, education, and the nonprofit world, and the impact it has on therapists' money mindsets. Khara offers valuable insights on how to identify this pattern and shares strategies for breaking free from noble poverty, empowering therapists to build a healthier, more abundant financial future.If you're ready to challenge limiting beliefs around money and embrace financial empowerment, don't miss this episode. Tune in for practical insights on breaking free from noble poverty.For a full transcript of the episode and much more, check out the blog post on our website! https://moneynutsandbolts.com/?p=15801To watch a video version of this, check it out on YouTube: https://youtu.be/WzPi8AkabXE Connect with KharaHave you ever wondered how your relationship with money impacts your success as a therapist and small business owner? Discover what Financial Therapy can bring to your life with Khara Croswaite Brindle:https://croswaitecounselingpllc.com/financial-therapyWant to work with Linzy?Check out the FREE masterclass, The 4 Step Framework to Getting Your Business Finances Totally in Order, where you'll learn the framework that has helped hundreds of therapists go from money confusion and shame to calm and confidence, as well as the three biggest financial mistakes that therapists make. At the end, you'll be invited to join Money Skills for Therapists and get Linzy's support in getting your finances finally working for you. Click here to find a masterclass time that works for you! https://moneynutsandbolts.com/masterclass-signup/ Mentioned in this episode:Try Mentaya for FreeToday's podcast is brought to you by Mentaya. Mentaya is a tool that allows American clients to easily claim their out-of-network benefits when they work with a therapist who does not take their insurance. Mentaya is here to help. Discover Mentaya with one month free access. Click the link and use the code “LINZY”. https://www.mentaya.com/?referrerId=linzy Try Mentaya for FreeWant to work with Linzy?Check out the FREE masterclass, The 4 Step Framework to Getting Your Business Finances Totally in Order, where you'll learn the framework that has helped hundreds of therapists go from money confusion and shame to calm and confidence, as well as the three biggest financial mistakes that therapists make. At the end, you'll be invited to join Money Skills for Therapists and get Linzy's support in getting your finances finally working for you. Click on the link to find a masterclass time that works for you! Register for...

Todays' Episode is a fast-moving, high-intensity blast from start to finish. That's mostly because of the people I'm talking to, but also due to the circumstances under which we are doing the talking. First the people. Richard Brindle is well known to anyone in our business as one of the most dynamic underwriters in the market. And anyone following the Fidelis story will know that now the business has split into the Fidelis Partnership and the Fidelis Insurance Group, Richard has freed up time to be even more dynamic. It's perhaps understandable that Richard Coulson, The Fidelis Partnership's CEO of Insurance & Deputy Group Chief Underwriting Officer, doesn't yet have the same public profile as his namesake, but on this performance it won't take long for that to start building. Secondly the venue was Monaco at the Monte Carlo RendezVous. The RendezVous always heightens the intensity of any interaction. People come there ready to communicate against the clock and that cut-to-the-chase feel very much comes through in this encounter. As a result this podcast covers everything it should – the state of global markets and where Fidelis is positioning itself to make the most of the opportunities those markets are throwing up, the Fidelis Partnership's entrance to Lloyd's and the two Richard's views on all the major issues of the day. Listening back this is a really enjoyable Episode, packed with singular, original and sometimes surprising insights. NOTES The Fidelis Partnership wanted to add the following points to our discussion about Intellectual Property (IP) insurance: Like others Fidelis exited the IP market earlier this year; Arguably IP is a great example of the bravery of innovation with measured downside and then pulling back quickly as soon as the warning alarms sounded; As a relatively small and well-managed book, there was very little impact on their overall exceptional long-term bespoke underwriting performance.  LINKS: We thank our naming sponsor AdvantageGo: https://www.advantagego.com We also thank audio advertiser, The Insurance Network (TIN), organiser of the highly-successful TINtech events series. They are advertising their new London-based event, Data Jam, which is focused on exploring the implications and opportunities of data, analytics, AI and automation in the insurance sector. It's on 28th November at Convene, 133 Houndsditch, London EC3. I'm going to be there. Find out more and Sign up Here

Do you know someone who needs an attitude check? Are you nodding your head yes? Great! But first, let's check our own attitudes at the door. This is something God has been showing me throughout my day and life, when my attitude is negative or focused on complaining. He showed me through a few instances, that when I have a bad attitude or let other's bad attitudes affect me, I miss opportunities to be a blessing! Think about it, if we are to serve others with a good attitude and to do good works like Ephesians 6 tells us, then how can I do that effectively if I have a sour attitude towards what I am in the position of doing? I have to ask myself, "What can I do today to help me remove barriers that keep me out of the pit of my bad attitude and shake off others that pull me down with them? The old saying goes, "My response is my responsibility". This saying was something that shook my core and changed my attitude, during one of the times, I should have been helping the one that I loved, but instead focused on me. Then, I realized my stinking attitude had seeped into that conversation and the work I was doing. The one small step of giving myself a heart and attitude check with God was humbling and just what was needed. Turning to the Lord, changed everything! Perhaps, you have struggled like me with a bad attitude when helping others and need an encouraging word to know you are seen, appreciated, and loved! So grab your cup of coffee, get on your walk or run, and wherever you are ---- BE ENCOURAGED! Jackie Follow on Social media Instagram: @be_encouraged_podcast Learn more about the host, Jackie Brindle by clicking the link here: https://linktr.ee/jackiebrindle --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beinspiredandmore/support

Hey Everyone, Angela Bowen here, the host of She's A Small Wonder: A Small Wonder Podcast. Today I covered, S3E19: I'll Drink To That, which aired on February 20, 1988. In this episode, due to Vicki's mishandling of terms, Child Services Officer Mrs. Fernwald thinks Ted is an alcoholic and threatens to take Vicki away unless he joins AA. I thought this episode was just ok, I wish it had more meat to the episode like an after school special type simular to what we got in Season 2's Chewed Out episode. I just feel so much more could have been done to make this a better episode, raise the stakes a little bit. Mrs. Fernwald, the woman who is too obsessed with this family, she's practically a stalker, going so far to barge into their home on an unannounced visit because she happened to just be in the neighborhood and pawing through the Lawson's trash looking for evidence to comdemn the Lawson's as unfit parents. Is she like this with every family who's case she's assigned? If I were them I'd have the DCFS do an investigation on her, if she even works there. Who really knows? and I also covered S3E20: Big J, the D.J., which aired on February 27, 1988. In this episode Vicki imitates Lyle Alzado to help auditioning Jamie. This was a kinda fun episode, granted we are introduced to a new character Ida Mae, Brandon's sister. She's just annoying, not Brindle level, but I guess they needed someone to replace Bonnie who is apparently away taking care of her mother for a week. Is this how they write her out of the show, and then they just extend her stay away indefinitely? I hope you enjoy the Podcast Episodes and I'll be back with two more soon. Have a great weekend!

In this episode we talk with Khara Croswaite Brindle about her book Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships.We hear about how therapists can prepare to address ruptured mother daughter relationships in a therapeutic space. Whether it is repairing the estrangement or preparing for it, Khara takes us through the cycle of estrangement and offers tools to manage the different stages. We focus on areas such as identifying the cycle, challenges of each stage and how to attend to these in a skilful and therapeutic way. Khara bio:Khara Croswaite Brindle is a licensed mental health therapist in private practice in Denver, Colorado. She holds various roles, including financial therapist, TEDx Speaker, burnout consultant, author, and professor. Her book is Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle (Rowman & Littlefield, July 1, 2023).

Welcome to this special episode as we join Katie as she guides you through an understanding of the current energetic shifts and how these changes can influence your physical, emotional, and spiritual health. This podcast is taken from Katie's live 'Healing Circle' classes which you join by subscribing on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katie_brindle/ Discover how to harness the power of your heart and connective tissue to absorb the natural energy around you, strengthen your body, and enhance your overall vitality. Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KatieBrindleOfficial/videos To contact Katie, email: ownyourhealth@katiebrindle.com To find out more about Katie's Beauty Range, go to: https://hayoumethod.com/ 'Own Your Health' is a Viral Tribe Production Disclaimer: Yang sheng techniques are designed to support your overall wellbeing and should not be used as a substitute for any medical treatment you may be undergoing. You should not use the information in this podcast for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of "Insurance Business Babes," host Kathe Kline is joined by guest Christian Brindle to discuss the intricacies of preparing for the transition or sale of a Medicare business. They differentiate between selling the entire business, which includes systems and leadership and tends to be more lucrative, and selling just the client book or policies, which is generally less profitable. They delve into key concepts such as EBITDA, earnouts, and the importance of knowing your business metrics. They also emphasize the necessity of proper succession planning to avoid losing the business's value in cases like unexpected death. Kathe and Christian advocate for the book "Profit First" to better manage business finances and briefly touch on retirement and its challenges, with Kathe sharing her own hesitations and experiences. They wrap up by inviting listeners to stay connected and promising more insightful content in future episodes. Show notes: # Understanding the Transition of Your Medicare Business Transitioning your Medicare business can be a pivotal moment, whether it involves selling, retirement, or succession planning. This episode, featuring the insightful Christian Brindle, dives deep into the intricacies of preparing for these transitions. ## Two Types of Business Sales When considering selling your Medicare business, Christian Brindle outlines two main pathways: selling the entire business or just the client book. 1. **Selling the Entire Business**: This is where larger companies, such as Integrity Marketing and AmeriLife, come into play. They purchase not only your clients and revenue but also your established systems and leadership, allowing the business to run independently. This often requires the seller to stay onboard for several years to guide the transition, leading to significantly higher payout multiples based on your EBITDA. 2. **Selling the Client Book**: This option is typically for smaller businesses where only the clients and policies are sold, often resulting in a lower payout compared to a full business sale. With this type, the acquirer handles the operation and growth moving forward, which is less valuable and hence less lucrative. ## The Importance of Knowing Your Numbers One critical piece of advice from Brindle: know your numbers. Metrics such as monthly revenue, carrier earnings, and especially EBITDA are crucial when preparing for a sale. This financial transparency and understanding allow for more informed negotiations and more accurate business valuations. ## Succession Planning: Essential but Overlooked Succession planning is vital yet frequently neglected in the insurance industry. Proper planning ensures that your business legacy is preserved and smoothly transitioned in case of unexpected events. Setting up your business structure correctly, such as through a corporation, and having a will in place are fundamental steps for safeguarding your assets and ensuring continuity. ## The Psychological Aspect of Retirement Beyond the transactional aspects, retirement poses personal and psychological challenges. Reflecting on her journey, Kathe highlights the difficulty of letting go and the perennial concern about future economic stability. Her transition story underlines the need for careful, deliberate planning to align financial goals with personal fulfillment. ## Further Learning This dynamic discussion is just a snippet of the valuable insights shared in the Insurance Business Babes podcast. For those contemplating similar transitions or seeking more in-depth advice, books like **"Profit First"** offer valuable guidance on managing and understanding your business finances. Tune in and empower yourself with knowledge to successfully navigate the complexities of business transitions, ensuring a prosperous and well-planned future for your Medicare practice.

How do you feel about SERENDIPITY?In this episode of Reclaiming Your Hue, we dive deep into the peaks and valleys of motherhood and entrepreneurship with our special guest, Mary.Mary shares her journey, highlighting the triumphs and challenges she has faced through a planned adoption, shifting gears with her career and Motherhood, and the importance of always putting Family first. From moments of success to overcoming adversity and her story of resilience, this conversation is packed with valuable insights and inspiration for aspiring Mompreneurs.Mary's insight into the later years of Motherhood offers divine perspective. She is truly in a transformative & philanthropic hue of life.Key Topics Covered:- Mary's Personal & Entrepreneural journey- Major successes and breakthrough moments in her entrepreneurial journey- Challenges and setbacks faced, and strategies for resilience- Balancing the dual roles of Mother and entrepreneur- Practical tips for aspiring mompreneurs- Current projects and future aspirationsConnect with Mary:Email: mbrindle@comcast.netFacebook: Mary Brindle - Facebook PageLinkedIn: Mary Brindle| LinkedInStay Tuned:Don't miss our next episode airing Tuesday 7/30, where we'll be talking to Dr. Anna R. about pre & postnatal diet, health and wellness.Contact Kelly Kirk: Email: info.ryh7@gmail.com Get Connected/Follow: IG: @reclaimingyourhue_ryh Facebook: Reclaiming Your Hue Facebook Page YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@RYHReclaimingYourHue Credits: Editor: Joseph Kirk Music: Kristofer Tanke Thanks for listening & cheers to Reclaiming Your Hue!

Chapter 519 - "The Power Of Spreading The Word" ...as read by Deep AL BrindleToday we welcome Alastair Wilson and Diego Castellanos from Deep AL Brindle to the podcast. The new Deep AL Brindle record, Are You Nervous?, came out last Friday on Tooth and Nail Records. The guys talk about how their path's crossed as audio engineers, the decision to make music together, recording in Mexico City, navigating the music industry as a small band, and more. https://deepalbrindle.com/https://asthestorygrows.substack.com/https://www.patreon.com/asthestorygrowsDiscordEmail: asthestorygrows@gmail.comChapter 519 Music:Deep AL Brindle - "Festival"Deep AL Brindle - "Paradigm"Deep AL Brindle - "Dreaming"

In today's episode of “Supervision Simplified”, we are thrilled to welcome our good friend and colleague, Khara Croswaite Brindle, co-founder of the Empowerment Model and the Electronic Supervision Record (ESR), a revolutionary online platform for mental health professionals and financial therapists.We explore Khara's fantastic book, ‘The Empowerment Model of Clinical Supervision', which showcases a dynamic five-part model that supports and empowers both supervisors and supervisees with the central question “What do you look for in a supervisor?”.We also discuss effective leadership, entrepreneurship in our field, and the vital importance of continued education in helping support the next generation of supervisees. We loved this conversation with Khara and can't wait to share it with you all!About Our GuestKhara Croswaite Brindle, MA, LPC, ACS, CFT-I is passionate about giving people aha moments that create goosebumps and catalyze powerful action. Khara began her career working within community mental health before becoming a supervisor to newly graduated clinicians serving at-risk youth and families. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Approved Clinical Supervisor, and owner of a private practice in Lafayette, Colorado. Khara offers a variety of resources to support fellow mental health and financial therapist professionals to turn pain points into possibilities, including engaging training, Financial Therapy, online courses, Medicaid Mastery, sup of sup, and professional consultation.Connect With Kharahttps://www.empowermentmodelsupervision.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/company/supervisionary-llchttps://www.instagram.com/supervisionary_llc

In our latest podcast episode, I had the pleasure of welcoming back Alister and Diego from the band Deep Al Brindle. With their highly anticipated new album "Are You Nervous?" set to release on July 12th via Tooth & Nail Records, we delved into an in-depth discussion about the album's creation process. From its inception to completion, we explored how their sound has evolved, emphasizing the incorporation of more vocals and the musical journey that shaped this transformative project.Beyond their musical evolution, we tackled the current landscape of streaming platforms and the challenges and opportunities they present for artists. Alister and Diego shared insights into their approach to content creation, discussing the strategies they employ to connect with their audience in meaningful ways.This episode offers a compelling look behind the scenes of "Are You Nervous?" and provides valuable insights into the creative process, streaming dynamics, and the ever-evolving music industry. Don't miss out on this insightful conversation with Deep Al Brindle, as they gear up to captivate listeners with their latest musical endeavor.Follow Deep Al Brindle:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deepalbrindle/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deepalbrindleSpotify: Deep Al Brindle Spotify

Air Date - 09 July 2024Croswaite Brindle examines the challenges and needs of adult daughters navigating the immensely difficult and defining event of estranging from their mother. In this deep dive, you'll learn the ripple effects of mother-daughter estrangement, assumptions about estrangement that need to be dispelled and so much more.About the Guest:Khara Croswaite Brindle is a licensed mental health therapist in private practice in Denver, Colorado. She holds various roles, including financial therapist, TEDx Speaker, burnout consultant, author, and professor.Her new book is Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle (Rowman & Littlefield, July 1, 2023). Access therapeutic tools for adult children at www.estrangementenergycycle.com.Social Media:Website: https://www.estrangementenergycycle.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/croswaitecounselingpllcInstagram: @kharacroswaite#KharaCroswaiteBrindle #InspiredConversations #LindaJoy #Women #SelfHelp #Mindfulness #Lifestyle #InterviewsVisit the Inspired Conversations Show Page https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/inspired-conversationsConnect with Linda Joy https://linda-joy.com/Subscribe to our Newsletter https://omtimes.com/subscribe-omtimes-magazine/Connect with OMTimes on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Omtimes.Magazine/ and OMTimes Radio https://www.facebook.com/ConsciousRadiowebtv.OMTimes/Twitter: https://twitter.com/OmTimes/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/omtimes/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/2798417/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/omtimes/

Welcome to the BE ENCOURAGED! Podcast! You are listening to episode 130 part 2.  On today's episode, I want to unpack the lies and traps I have fallen into as I journeyed through life, pursuing my God-given purpose.  I have learned that perseverance is an attribute that is not easily acquired. Therefore, I pray this episode encourages you right where you are at!  I hope that it ignites the fire within you to keep on going! Don't you dare give up! Don't fall into the trap of believing the lies that set us back and derail us from who you are becoming! If God has called you to it, He will see you through it!  Whether when you are just starting your career, getting ready for the next school year, working on the next sports season, working towards a Big God sized dream! Perhaps you need this message to help you persevere in your marriage, as you lead your family, and community, to keep a fresh perspective on how you will continue to care for those around you or gain new ground in the entrepreneurial space you are muddling through in this season.  I pray this episode is the fresh wave of encouragement to be the life-enhancer agent in your journey! So grab your cup of coffee, get on your walk or run, and wherever you are — BE ENCOURAGED!  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beinspiredandmore/support

Hello and Welcome to the BE ENCOURAGED! Podcast. My hope is that you will be encouraged to find purpose in the beginnings of life! Everything that exists has a beginning! Let's deep dive into this topic as we purse purpose in who we are, what we do, and in all that is created! I hope that you will leave this episode refreshed with a new perspective knowing that from the beginning you have purpose and that there is a divine purpose for you! Especially, in the HERE and NOW! So grab your cup of coffee get on your walk or run and BE ENCOURAGED! Jackie Follow me on Instagram @be_encouraged_podcast --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beinspiredandmore/support

The electronic duo of Diego and AL are back with their newest song creation titled "Nervous", but we wouldn't use that word to describe how they felt when sitting down to talk with Hudson about the release.

Polly Brindle from Selling the OC joins Kate to discuss season 3 of the Netflix hit show, which follows the real estate team at The Oppenheim Group, with lavish oceanfront listings and big personalities. Reality Life with Kate Casey Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/katecasey Twitter: https://twitter.com/katecasey Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/katecaseyca Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/itskatecasey Cameo: https://cameo.com/katecasey Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/113157919338245 Amazon.com: www.amazon.com/shop/katecaseySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

No doubt Cur dogs are responsible for a lot of meat on the table and a valuable part of our hunting dog history.  We hope you enjoy learning about a not so well known breed to modern hunters, but a dog that helped pave the way for treedogs.Want to hear your favorite Full Cry story or author featured on the podcast? Leave us a review with your favorite memories from the pages of Full Cry and subscribe for your chance to hear it in future episodes!Can't get enough vintage Full Cry? Download classic issues and subscribe to the all-new Full Cry Magazine at https://www.fullcrymag.com/products/new-subscription-usahttps://www.fullcrymag.com/collections/allhttps://issuu.com/fullcry/stacksWe would like to thank those who support this podcast.  Special thanks to Alpha Dog Nutrition and Double U Hunting Supply for sponsoring this episode.  Want to learn more about Alpha Dog Nutrition? Check out the links belowhttps://www.dusupply.com/alphadogwww.dusupply.comhttps://alphadognutrition.com/

No doubt Cur dogs are responsible for a lot of meat on the table and a valuable part of our hunting dog history. We hope you enjoy learning about a not so well known breed to modern hunters, but a dog that helped pave the way for treedogs. Want to hear your favorite Full Cry story or author featured on the podcast?  Leave us a review with your favorite memories from the pages of Full Cry and subscribe for your chance to hear it in future episodes! Can't get enough vintage Full Cry? Download classic issues and subscribe to the all-new Full Cry Magazine at https://www.fullcrymag.com/products/new-subscription-usa https://www.fullcrymag.com/collections/all https://issuu.com/fullcry/stacks We would like to thank those who support this podcast. Special thanks to Alpha Dog Nutrition and Double U Hunting Supply for sponsoring this episode. Want to learn more about Alpha Dog Nutrition? Check out the links below https://www.dusupply.com/alphadog www.dusupply.com https://alphadognutrition.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No doubt Cur dogs are responsible for a lot of meat on the table and a valuable part of our hunting dog history.  We hope you enjoy learning about a not so well known breed to modern hunters, but a dog that helped pave the way for treedogs. Want to hear your favorite Full Cry story or author featured on the podcast? Leave us a review with your favorite memories from the pages of Full Cry and subscribe for your chance to hear it in future episodes!Can't get enough vintage Full Cry? Download classic issues and subscribe to the all-new Full Cry Magazine at https://www.fullcrymag.com/products/new-subscription-usahttps://www.fullcrymag.com/collections/allhttps://issuu.com/fullcry/stacks We would like to thank those who support this podcast. Special thanks to Alpha Dog Nutrition and Double U Hunting Supply for sponsoring this episode. Want to learn more about Alpha Dog Nutrition? Check out the links belowhttps://www.dusupply.com/alphadogwww.dusupply.comhttps://alphadognutrition.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@DoubleUHuntingSupply/podcasts

No doubt Cur dogs are responsible for a lot of meat on the table and a valuable part of our hunting dog history.  We hope you enjoy learning about a not so well known breed to modern hunters, but a dog that helped pave the way for treedogs.Want to hear your favorite Full Cry story or author featured on the podcast? Leave us a review with your favorite memories from the pages of Full Cry and subscribe for your chance to hear it in future episodes!Can't get enough vintage Full Cry? Download classic issues and subscribe to the all-new Full Cry Magazine at https://www.fullcrymag.com/products/new-subscription-usahttps://www.fullcrymag.com/collections/allhttps://issuu.com/fullcry/stacksWe would like to thank those who support this podcast.  Special thanks to Alpha Dog Nutrition and Double U Hunting Supply for sponsoring this episode.  Want to learn more about Alpha Dog Nutrition? Check out the links belowhttps://www.dusupply.com/alphadogwww.dusupply.comhttps://alphadognutrition.com/

Khara Croswaite Brindle joins me to talk about her book, Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey Through the Estrangement Energy Cycle.  One point Khara stresses is the concept of Acknowledgement, followed by Apology, and then Action.You can learn more about her work and the book here:  https://croswaitecounselingpllc.com/Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/And you can follow us on Twitter @conflictsolving. 

E347– Inner Voice – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan. In this episode, Dr. Foojan Zeine chats with Khara Croswaite Brindle, a licensed mental health therapist in a private practice in Denver, Colorado. She holds various roles, including financial therapist, TEDx Speaker, burnout consultant, author, and professor. Her new book is Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle.  Access therapeutic tools for adult daughters at estrangementenergycycle.com. You may also check out her children's book - Penny McGee's Family Tree: Talking to kids about family estrangement. https://a.co/d/8vdTmzU. Check out Khara at https://croswaitecounselingpllc.com. We explored what creates issues between mothers and daughters and how they can heal through letting go and connecting.   The Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan Podcast has been selected as the #1 top podcast at FeedSpot 20 Best California Mental Health Podcasts https://podcasts.feedspot.com/california_mental_health_podcasts/    Check out my website: www.FoojanZeine.com, www.AwarenessIntegration.com, www.Foojan.com  

Heyyy! It's me, your host, Jackie Brindle. You are listening to episode 127.  I am here to give you another bite-sized bit of encouragement.  I first, would like to thank you for making space to listen.  In particular, this episode's topic will add value to your life, as I unpack one of the most commonalities all humans face. WORRY!  I have a feeling that you might have a lot on your plate, which means you might have the added weight of worry on your shoulders.  Friend, if you need to relieve some of that worry and be encouraged by ways to battle worry in your life. Then keep on listening!  So grab a cup of coffee, get on your walk or run, or wherever you are, be encouraged! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beinspiredandmore/support

An espresso-sized midweek podcast featuring one of my favourite Zestology guests. I'm back on Monday with the full podcast, but in the meantime, enjoy this quick burst of energy and enthusiasm - a short, energizing boost.

Rob is a former college and high school basketball coach.  He currently works in the Parks and Recreation department for the city of Mount Holly.  In this episode we discuss his coaching journey, the people and connections he's made along the way, and of course, March Madness!

Are you interested in healing your past? In this episode I talk with Khara Croswaite Brindle is a licensed mental health therapist in private practice in in Denver, Colorado. She holds various roles, including financial therapist, TEDx Speaker, burnout consultant, author, and professor. Her new book is Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle. She discussed the common stages and experiences of estrangement, including questioning the relationship, confronting the parent, and potentially experiencing a rupture. She explained how estrangement is a difficult process rather than an impulsive decision. The interviewees also shared personal stories of struggling to gain approval from their mothers and dealing with the lasting impacts. Overall, the episode provided validation for adult daughters experiencing estrangement and explored how to heal from a damaged mother-daughter relationship.   Questions I asked: ·      What brought you into talking about Mother Daughter estrangement as a topic? ·      What would you say some people's assumptions about estrangement need to be dispelled? ·      What separates these stages in the parental estrangement experience? ·      What would you say, separates these stages in the parental estrangement experience? ·      What would you speak to women today that have gone through something like abandonment by their mother to help them understand their value? ·      What are the social stigmas attached to this mother daughter estrangement? ·      What would you say the social stigmas are attached to this mother daughter estrangement? ·      What assumptions about estrangement need to be dispelled? ·      Where can people find you online?   Topics Discussed: ·      Validation ·      Healing ·      Community ·      Growth ·      Hope ·      Motherhood   Quotes from the show: ·      "Most of the people I work with are women of all different backgrounds, you know, all the way from like 19 years old to like 65 and there seemed to be this pattern that they all had a different, contentious relationship with mom, but they were just trying to heal or fix or make better." @KharaCroswaiteBrindle @SisterhoodSweat ·      “This book felt like a love letter to adult daughters who didn't feel seen.” @KharaCroswaiteBrindle @SisterhoodSweat ·      “I would say pick up the book and read these nine women's stories that might also bring some heart into it” @KharaCroswaiteBrindle @SisterhoodSweat ·      “There's hope there's, you know, there's a possibility that I'm not going to be in this feeling forever.” @KharaCroswaiteBrindle @SisterhoodSweat     How you can stay in touch with Khara Croswaite Brindle: ·       https://www.estrangementenergycycle.com/ ·       The Burden of Busyness ·      Schedule with me for a Professional Consultation or Discovery Call ·      Am I a Perfectioneur? A Quiz! ·      Grow Your Business with Perfectioneur Pointers ·      Ready for the Perfectioneur Workbook? ·      Join the Perfectioneur community!     How you can stay in touch with Linda: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest YouTube SoundCloud   "Proud Sponsors of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T" Essential Formulas

We all know how it feels to wait, right? So, how do we remain encouraged in the waiting, especially in the seasons that last longer than we expect? Today on the Life On Purpose Podcast, I am talking with the host of the BEncouraged Podcast, Jackie Brindle. Jackie shares how her season of waiting, produced opportunities and people she would have never experienced without it. Enjoy.❤️

We all know how it feels to wait, right? So, how do we remain encouraged in the waiting, especially in the seasons that last longer than we expect? Today on the Life On Purpose Podcast, I am talking with the host of the BEncouraged Podcast, Jackie Brindle. Jackie shares how her season of waiting, produced opportunities and people she would have never experienced without it. Enjoy.❤️

Congratulations to all the members of the Dubuque Area Sports Podcast All-Area Team! Thank you to coach Brindle and East Dubuque Head Coach Scott Schaber for stopping by and giving advanced scouting reports on each player. Thanks to our great sponsors: Xtreme Strength and Sports Performance Nolan Weber Agency EXIT Realty with Jerry Elbert Tricor Insurance Company Kramer Pest Control Bar Raising Fitness Foley Distributing Advanced Wellness Center

Welcome to "Shit Talking Shrinks," I'm your host Paulie Siegel, a Licensed therapist, Certified Addiction Counselor and master-level trained mindfulness practitioner with a passion for psychology, humor, and insightful journeys through the realm of mental wellness. Join me as we explore the depths of the human mind, unraveling complexities while keeping it lighthearted.In this episode, we're joined by Khara Croswaite-Brindle, MA, LPC, ACS, CFT-I, an esteemed author and suicide assessment trainer.Together, we talk through the critical topic of suicide prevention, exploring essential resources and gaining valuable insights into the current landscape of suicidality. We'll discuss the prevalence of suicide and how to support someone who is struggling, letting them know they're not alone.But our conversation doesn't stop there. We also examine the impact of social media on feelings of loneliness and disconnection, shedding light on its influence in today's digital age. And importantly, we explore how to seek the support you need if you're struggling, providing actionable steps for those navigating difficult times.Join us for a crucial conversation on suicide prevention and navigating support during challenging times. Your participation is essential in raising awareness and fostering understanding.Learn more about Khara's work here.Follow Khara on Instagram: @kharacroswaiteIf you want to work with me therapeutically and live in CO or ILhttps://www.courageouspathscounseling.comNeed quality therapy ASAP?! Receive 10% off your first month by clicking this link

Navigating the financial landscape at any stage of life can be daunting. While situations may change, the pressures remain the same, as well as the cultural messages that tell us we need to have more to be more. In this episode, we discover the hidden connection between money and self-worth as we're joined by financial therapist Khara Croswaite Brindle. We tackle the emotional weight of managing money through evolving life chapters, from the youthful skepticism about the value of traditional milestones to the introspective middle age when retirement isn't just a distant concept but a looming reality. Khara introduces us to the empowering practice of conscious spending and challenges the one-size-fits-all approach to success, encouraging a life measured in quality, not just quantifiable assets.Khara also introduces us to the concept of "loud budgeting", which may be the key to unlocking a harmonious financial relationship that allows us to find stability in the ebb and flow of personal finance. Special GuestKhara Croswaite Brindle, MA, LPC, ACS, CFT-I is passionate about turning pain points into possibilities for mental health and financial therapist professionals. She is a TEDx Speaker, Licensed Mental Health Therapist, and Financial Therapist in Colorado. Khara enjoys various roles as a serial entrepreneur, author, professional speaker, professor, and consultant. She is originally from the Pacific Northwest and gets her best ideas walking outside and being around water. When Khara's not writing her next book or supporting fellow professional helpers on their own self-discovery journeys, she enjoys spending time with her daughter, reading, and indulging in gluttonous, gluten-free desserts with her family.To contact Khara or learn more about her services, go to:https://croswaitecounselingpllc.com/

When the bond between a mother and daughter fractures, the emotional fallout can resonate through every aspect of life. Hilary Russo guides this raw and enlightening conversation with celebrated family therapist Khara Croswaite Brindle, author of "Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships,” and peels back the layers of this deeply personal issue. ⁣ ⁣ During this intimate conversation, Hilary and Khara unravel the tangled reasons behind daughters distancing themselves from their mothers, from toxic dynamics to ancestral traumas. Addressing the societal stigmas that often accompany the decision to step back, we shed light on the importance of setting boundaries for emotional health, and how the decision to create distance is rarely taken lightly, but often a necessary step in preserving one's well-being.⁣ ⁣ Touched, moved, or inspired by this conversation? Consider sharing it with someone you know and leave a rating/review wherever you are tuning in. ⁣ ⁣ Connect with Khara and grab a copy of her books:⁣ https://www.estrangementenergycycle.com/⁣ https://www.facebook.com/croswaitecounselingpllc⁣ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kharacroswaite/⁣ https://www.instagram.com/kharacroswaite/⁣ ⁣ Connect with Hilary:⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ ⁣https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.facebook.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://twitter.com/HilaryRusso⁣ https://www.tiktok.com/@hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ ⁣ ⁣Music by Lipbone Redding https://lipbone.com/⁣ ⁣ ⁣ --------- EPISODE CHAPTERS WITH SHORT KEY POINTS ---------⁣ ⁣ (0:00:00) - The Rise of Mother-Daughter Estrangement⁣ Therapy, abuse, trauma, and generational trauma influence the rising trend of estrangement in mother-daughter relationships.⁣ ⁣ (0:04:32) - Understanding and Navigating Family Estrangement⁣ Family estrangement's multigenerational impact, forms of distance, setting boundaries, therapy for affected family members, maintaining emotional well-being.⁣ ⁣ (0:13:54) - Understanding the Estrangement Energy Cycle⁣ The emotional journey of adult daughters dealing with ruptured mother-daughter relationships and how educators can support children experiencing family estrangement.⁣ ⁣ (0:22:16) - Healing Estranged Mother-Daughter Relationships⁣ Nature's complexities of mother-daughter estrangement, generational trauma, and attachment styles, and the value of therapy and coaching for healing.⁣ ⁣ (0:28:09) - Understanding Mother-Daughter Estrangement and Healing⁣ Healing and reconciliation between estranged mothers and daughters, with emphasis on individual journeys and the importance of mutual effort.⁣ ⁣ (0:36:16) - Understanding and Healing Mother-Daughter Estrangement⁣ Healing estranged mother-daughter relationships, prioritizing mental health, and using self-regulation tools like Havening for self-empowerment.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ --------- EPISODE TRANSCRIPT ---------⁣ ⁣0:00:00 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ I think a lot of people are now talking about it. I think it's always been happening, but maybe we're seeing an uptick because people have are going to therapy, they have language for it. Now they're looking at this from the lens of abuse and trauma and that's justifying some of the rupture, the distance between parents and their children. ⁣ ⁣ 0:00:18 - Hilary Russo⁣ One in 12. One in 12 people my friends are estranged from a family member and it's a choice that can be very challenging for many. But when you do the inner work, when you create the space for healthier relationships and for a better understanding of self, it really can pave the way for a new you. And when it comes to mother and daughter estrangement especially where there's been possibly repeated trauma, discomfort, pain, misunderstanding even a daughter's choice to cut her ties from her mother can come with so much emotion and still much pain in the healing process. ⁣ ⁣ Khara Crosswaight Brindle is a licensed therapist who wrote the book about this very thing understanding ruptured mother-daughter relationships, guiding the adult daughter's healing journey through the estrangement energy cycle. And I have to say, Khara, this is such an important topic because of the clients that I see. There's so much parental child estrangement that I've been seeing more so than probably years ago. I feel like people are coming into their own and I'm really happy you're here to talk about this topic because it is a important one and I know you specifically focus on the mother-daughter in this book specifically, but this is happening with many relationships. So thank you for being here, thank you for sharing your voice and your wisdom, thank you, Hilary. ⁣ ⁣ 0:01:48 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, I'm excited to talk about it. It's on the rise, so let's talk about it. ⁣ ⁣ 0:01:53 - Hilary Russo⁣ So let us talk about that when we say it's on the rise and we hear numbers like one in 12, one in 12 seems like a pretty big number when you think about in the grand scheme of things, that that could potentially be a real issue. I don't know. When I growing up, you just respected your parents. You took whatever came at you. In a way, you didn't talk back, and I think we're seeing more people now using words like narcissism, parental narcissism it's not just within intimate relationship and gaslighting and manipulation and I'm curious, these terms tend to be buzzwords now too, right? So how do we define the difference between that and really know that? What's my responsibility in all this, and am I in a position where I'm in a toxic relationship that does need severed ties? ⁣ ⁣ 0:02:52 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, I mean I think this is one of the chapters of the book we go through a bunch of assumptions of estrangement and one of them is that therapists are pushing for clients to stop talking to their parents, especially because we have a generation, or now two generations, that are coming into therapy doing their own work and now have a language for what happened right of trauma, abuse, neglect, something happening in that family relationship that led to that rupture. ⁣ ⁣ And although it's assumptions because you and I as mental health professionals can say like we're not here to champion estrangement, like we're here to say what's best for the client and like helping them discover for themselves what's best I tackled that assumption as well as like this toxic word and it's funny you named it, you said the word toxic, so I think people are overusing that word, but when it comes to estrangement, maybe it's just now a simple, a simplification for what's happened, like I don't want to go into detail about how painful this estrangement was for my parent, but if I say the word toxic, people will respect that and just look it up from like boundaries, and so I think a lot of people are now talking about it. I think it's always been happening, but maybe we're seeing an uptick because people have are going to therapy, they have language for it. Now they're looking at this from the lens of abuse and trauma and that's justifying some of the rupture, the distance between parents and their children. ⁣ ⁣ 0:04:09 - Hilary Russo⁣ And there's some other words that we hear a lot as of late, and it's ancestral trauma, generational trauma and going back to the root of your ancestry, and how do you avoid bringing that into this present generation and generations going forward? I've been hearing that a lot and that's something I think I've even battled. I'm like I don't want to bring that into the next generation. ⁣ ⁣ 0:04:35 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ How do? ⁣ ⁣ 0:04:35 - Hilary Russo⁣ I stop the trauma right here. ⁣ ⁣ 0:04:38 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Absolutely. I'm like, yeah, so in my personal experience, I'm married into a family that has four generations of estrangement and what I noticed because I'm a mental health professional I can see it. I'm not in it. I'm kind of behind it looking at what's going on and it's like now it's been modeled. Now it's modeled that if I have a significant conflict with you I can just cut ties. That's what's been said, is fine, is acceptable in this family, even though there's lots of hardship and lots of grief and loss behind the scenes. ⁣ ⁣ They're modeling for the youngest generation, which I'm now a parent of a two-year-old. So I'm very thoughtful to this. I'm like what are we telling that youngest generation about? If it's a conflict that doesn't feel solvable, resolvable, do we just walk away? Do we just say I'm done talking to you, stay out of my life, and so it's not that simple. But I think a lot of people on the outside are just seeing estrangement as this dynamic of I'm mad at you, so I'm not going to talk to you, when this look goes so much deeper as to what's truly going on, from that cellular trauma level to generations, to modeling, to here's neglect and abuse that was happening for that person. ⁣ ⁣ 0:05:41 - Hilary Russo⁣ Yeah, and the other thing about that is that there's the fine line where, as mental health professionals, our dedication and our loyalty is really to the client or the patient right, but not to tell them what to do, but help them find what works best for them right. It's never telling them, it's never healing them. It's giving them the tools to come to those decisions themselves right. ⁣ ⁣ Exactly. But the part of that is some people don't want that person in other lives, and I've seen that a lot. It's like finding that healthy boundary with that person, whereas is there a level of estrangement where it's not they're totally out of your life, but you have healthy boundaries so that they're still in your life. You love this person. It's obviously a tie, but how do you do so in a way that, where it's not impacting your emotional well-being and you can still have someone of a healthy relationship, even at a distance? ⁣ ⁣ 0:06:40 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, and so you're kind of speaking to. We talk about in the book. We talk about physical estrangement versus emotional estrangement. So physical estrangement is what people's heads go to, their minds go to we're not speaking, I've moved away, you don't know anything about my life, we're never seeing each other at holidays or never at family gatherings. It's kind of like a hard stop, like very dramatic sense of there's grief and loss. This feels like a death when we stop talking to that person. Then there's this emotional estrangement, which is that slow burn of like I'm going to start kind of distancing myself, like when I restrict how long I'm talking to you on the phone, how often I call you, how long I stay at that family event. So it creates some of those boundaries you're naming Hillary with. Like I want some distance, but I'm still connected to them, I'm still talking to them. I'm just creating some boundaries around what that looks like. ⁣ ⁣ 0:07:28 - Hilary Russo⁣ And then you have the other side of it, like other family members who witness that, and I've been in a position where I've had family members who have been estranged or still are, and you so want everybody to get along, you so want to step in and be like, oh gosh, what can I do to help? Even though it's not your place, how do you deal with being the family member who's on the outside looking in and they're the one that wants the piece within everyone? Because I'm sure someone can benefit from this book and pick it up and read it, because maybe there is an estrangement between family members that they love both both of those people. ⁣ ⁣ 0:08:07 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Oh, yeah, yeah. And so we have a section in the book that talks about this ripple effect on families and specifically for siblings. This was inspired by my spouse, who's talking to all four of those generations and the family, but none of them are talking, so he's very much the person saying what you've just said. I want everyone to get along, I want to see all of you, I want us in a room together. I miss us as a family, right? So that's very heartfelt For those siblings or loved ones. ⁣ ⁣ Some of the strategies are know that this is your agenda, this is your desire, this is your wish, your want of the family. Do you go to your own therapy to process the sadness that you have that your family has been fractured in this way? Is it about not taking sides, not bad mouthing one loved one to the other as you're like oh, I'm siding with mom or I'm siding with sister and this mother daughter example of estrangement. But some other tips of like, it's not up to you to fix it, it's not up for you to convince them to reconcile. Actually, it'll backfire if you do. ⁣ ⁣ If you're like just get along, just talk to each other. That creates more damage. But, more importantly, there's this alliance that we have to have, or we feel like we have to have, and I have to choose mom or sister. I cannot be connected to both. And that is where I think doing their own individual therapy is important, because they're feeling caught between and they love both people and they want both people in their lives, but they feel like they can't speak about that person. I can't mention mom to sister and I can't mention sister to mom, and it's just a huge mental energy for them to navigate estrangement this way. ⁣ ⁣ 0:09:36 - Hilary Russo⁣ Yeah, and it can cause a lot of draining of that energy too. You know you don't want to be put in the middle. You have your own relationship that you need to nurture. You might have your own emotional boundaries or healthy boundaries that you need to set with that person as well, or maybe it's even more than one person, because even like you mentioned your husband having an estrangement from a number of people or has a family that has multiple levels of estrangement. You know being able to support yourself is the most important thing. But you know you also mentioned that there is the trickle down and the ripple effect, especially when it comes to children. Like how do you explain that to a child? Like where's grandma, where's grandpa? Why don't we see them? But we see the other grandparents all the time. We're seeing more of that too. ⁣ ⁣ 0:10:21 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Oh yeah, and children are curious Like that's naturally, developmentally appropriate of like where's my grandparent? Here's a social representation of families. My family doesn't look like this. Why is that? So I took this first book that we're talking about and I actually made a children's book in the last two weeks. I actually launched last week. Oh, that's great. ⁣ ⁣ 0:10:41 - Hilary Russo⁣ Can we get the name of that? ⁣ ⁣ 0:10:42 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, it's called Petty Mickey's Family Tree, talking to kids about a strange one. ⁣ ⁣ And so it's a cute little elementary age child book. That's the audience, it's elementary age children and their parents, and it looks at her coming home saying, hey, I have this assignment, this family tree I'm supposed to put together. I'm having some anxiety, I'm having some worry that my tree looks different than the other kids at school and it really just creates modeling of what it looks like for a family member this case of parent to talk to their child and say, like, what's age appropriate? How do I regulate myself to tell my kid just enough information for them to understand what's going on, without parentifying them, without stressing them out? ⁣ ⁣ So I actually have like five tips in the back of that book for parents of like I want you to breathe, I want you to be curious about what the question they have. You know, these young children of like four or five year olds are like hey, do they look like me? That might be their only question, versus a word panicking that I have to explain. Hey, this is what my parent did for me to not talk to them. So just talking about what's developmentally appropriate and discussing this arrangement because kids do have questions and this book, hopefully, is going to help that conversation. ⁣ ⁣ 0:11:50 - Hilary Russo⁣ I love that you mentioned that. I love that you're bringing up like social, emotional learning tools that children can implement. And that's something that I've been trying to work with the kids, more especially with the havening techniques, which gives them a way to self-regulate for self-love, self-care and just find that calm and the chaos you know when the brain is just not really understanding what's going on, especially at that younger age. Right, but giving them ways to self-regulate and you mentioned that words regulate what other things can they do? You mentioned breathing. ⁣ ⁣ 0:12:25 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, I think even just like talking about this ahead of time. So like when parents pick up this book or hear this podcast, can they be like? What would I say if my kid asked why I don't talk to grandma or to uncle or to whoever it is in the family? So just that like preparation of here's what I would say, so it doesn't feel like it's coming from emotion, it's coming from like this grounded. I know what I want to say to my kid and I'm not going to show them that this hurts. I'm going to be regulated so I don't look sad or angry or upset, because kids can feel that right, so we can feel our own stuff, show up and so if we can take a book or think about this ahead of time, then we can feel more prepared to show up neutrally with our kids and then be really like slow and saying what do you really want to know? ⁣ ⁣ You know elementary age kids might have one simple question, versus a teenager might be like tell me more, like I want to know what really happened with grandma. So some of those tips are about just like being present for the question. Regulate yourself to breathe, grounding, giving them eye contact, validating their emotions, which is important for kids of like you might feel confused by what I just shared. What other questions do you have? That's another tip of encouraging future questions. They might just be like this was enough for now, but I might have a question for you as my parent six months from now about grandma. So it's not usually a one and done conversation and their parents can look at this. These characters go through this little plot line of the children's book or just look at the back of the book for those five tips. I'm hoping they'll feel more prepared. ⁣ ⁣ 0:13:54 - Hilary Russo⁣ And this can also be for teachers as well, because something that I was talking with a mutual trauma informed practitioner and also an educator who works with kids about the castle system, and then you know what? What can we do to understand a child's body language and their behavior? That might be changing the in the in the classroom. Educators, teachers, also need to be familiar with this. So I'm sure this book, the child book especially, can be very helpful for teachers as well to understand what's going on at home with with the little ones you know. ⁣ ⁣ 0:14:29 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Absolutely, and obviously the child therapists are just like eating it up. They want this in our library of, like, let's do some bibliotherapy, let's talk about this. Is this, is this your family? Like talking to me about your family tree? So I just I'm really hopeful that it's going to fill this gap, because I didn't see any literature out there for kids, and parents are desperate to say how do I not harm them further? How do I not put my stuff on them? How do I keep myself in check while answering their question, and I think this book is a part of that. ⁣ ⁣ 0:14:56 - Hilary Russo⁣ So let's mention the two books that you have that we're talking about. The first one is Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle. I want to talk about that real quick. And then the other book mentioned the title again so we can let folks know. ⁣ ⁣ 0:15:12 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, it's called Petty McGee's Family Tree. Talking to Kids about Family Estrangement. ⁣ ⁣ 0:15:17 - Hilary Russo⁣ Wonderful. We're going to put links to both of those in the list of notes of this podcast episode and if you are touched, moved and inspired by this in any way, if you are enjoying this conversation um HIListically Speaking with Khara Croswaite Brindle, please let us know, drop us a line, let us know how we can support you more on this journey. But let us get into the nitty-gritty about the Estrangement Energy Cycle. What does that mean? Can you share? ⁣ ⁣ 0:15:41 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ that, yeah. So the key word here is energy. Like we've already alluded to, just the thought of estranging from a family member is emotional. It takes energy. A lot of these women are coming into therapy trying to figure out what their next move is, and so the energy word is really speaking to. ⁣ ⁣ This might be pre-contemplative, this might be I'm preparing for the worst, and so I'm going through this cycle in my mind, or it could be I'm literally going through these eight stages as I figure out what's happening with mom. Um, so, although the eight stages don't have any particular order, I tend to start talking about it from this awareness of what if I have a realization, as an adult daughter, that this was abusive? Once I have that realization, I can't unsee it right as a woman, and so does that then catapult me into stage two, which is about questioning what do I want to do with this information? Do I want to talk to mom about it? Do I want to broach this with her, bring it up? Do I want to just focus on the relationship now or our future relationship? So if they decide to talk to mom, which a lot of these women feel compelled to do from a place of, I want acknowledgement, I want an apology, I want compassion, I want healing. They might say let's go to mom and talk about it. Worst case scenario depending on how mom responds to this conversation, there could be immense healing that happens of you're right, I made mistakes, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I want to do better, I love you. That'll be the best scenario for going to mom saying, hey, I have this awareness now. Worst case scenario mom gets defensive, mom gets angry, mom starts name calling, mom starts pointing fingers, which unfortunately, a lot of these women then came into my therapy practice devastated because they're like, on top of realizing that this was abusive or traumatic, my parent just minimized my experience and so that leads to that relationship rupture right when it's like I don't know if I can do this with mom anymore. ⁣ ⁣ If they feel like they want to break that pattern, they might consider a strange man, whether it's physical or emotional strange man. Now I'm like I can't talk to mom. I have to have some control over what's happening in my life, and so it might mean mom's not in it Standably. If we choose a strange one, we go into a grief and loss response. The literature, the research says that it feels like a death because it I mean it has that same emotional pull of like I'm not talking to you, it's like you're not part of my life. Might as well feel like you're dead to me. So for a lot of those women they're coming into therapy at that stage too of like this is devastating, I'm depressed and anxious, I'm in grief. Breathe it From there. ⁣ ⁣ They have to start kind of questioning what their identity is Like. What is my self worth without mom? So now is it I have different interests when mom's not weighing in on what I want to do with my life. If mom was maybe overbearing, do I feel like I'm just figuring it out? Who am I without her? What kind of woman am I? What kind of mother am I if I'm a mother, if that's applicable. ⁣ ⁣ And then they go into the deeper work, which is, as a therapist, my favorite, because now they're looking at boundaries, other relationships, attachment styles, what's it look like with romantic partners Now that they have this awareness of what's going on with mom? And then, last but not least, is redefining their self worth. So who am I? But, more importantly, where am I headed from here If mom's not a part of my life? Or not reconciling. How do I navigate milestones, holidays, family events you know it's not a joyful thing for these women. It's usually still quite painful, different points of their life where mom should be present and isn't right. So think of like getting married, having a child. Mom is usually a part of that if it's a healthy relationship. So at no point in this cycle is there like hearts and flowers happening for this woman. But maybe she's starting to feel more empowered by the end of I know where I am, I know where I'm headed, even if it's not with mom in my life. So those are kind of the quick overview of those eight stages in the book. ⁣ ⁣ 0:19:31 - Hilary Russo⁣ It's beautiful. It's beautiful to be able to find yourself in that journey. I mean, you're going to go through, like you said, the stages of grief, but you also are becoming more empowered that for a long time, that daughter could be feeling that everything's her fault you know, or she makes an attempt to reach out and she gets, like you said, she gets very disappointed. She gets disappointment from a defensive parent or mother in this case, right. ⁣ ⁣ And then how do you go from there, like you become vulnerable and take that courageous step to reach out? But also, what's responsibility has the daughter had in all this? You know this is not just to put blame on the mother right, it's also what was my responsibility in this. But if a daughter has reached out and has made an attempt and says I'm willing to see the other side, and then all you get back is the upset from the mother, her side not seeing anything, like you said, where do you go from there? ⁣ ⁣ 0:20:35 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, and I mean a lot of these women. What I appreciated about what I'm hearing from people who've read it so far is I put in nine women's stories and we like continue to kind of see their journey on all eight stages. All nine of these women, some of them reconcile, some of them have permanent estrangement from significant abuse and neglect. But I tried to capture, like here are all different types of women that I've worked with over the years that now embody these stages and how emotional each of them are. And so I call out the people pleasing, I call out the perfectionists, I call out the did I do enough? ⁣ ⁣ Because of course the adult daughter is thinking that at some stage she is asking herself did I do enough? Did I fight enough for this relationship with mom? Should I have done better? Is there a way I could have won her over? Do I deserve unconditional love? Right, I'm like a real deep into the like emotion of it. So I try to name all of that as, like for these women. There's so much to unpack there. It's not just I got to one stage, it's what am I thinking and feeling at each of those stages? And those stories embody that. ⁣ ⁣ 0:21:37 - Hilary Russo⁣ And then you have to think about leader in life, when the mother might need to have a caregiver. Like, how do you abandon that parent who has hurt you in some way? Do you come back full circle and say this person's in the last part of their lives? But I also need to have these healthy boundaries so that I'm not impacted in a negative way while I'm trying to be supportive and of service to this person who is needing support. You know I hear that a lot as well. ⁣ ⁣ 0:22:08 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Oh, yeah, there's this pressure to reconcile. You know, there's the societal message of you're going to regret this. What if they die suddenly? Right? So I have a whole section in the book of, like community members, what we can say and what we shouldn't say. What is actually more hurtful to this traumatic experience of estrangement for this adult daughter? Because, again, an assumption is that this was easy for her, this was impulsive for her, when really it's like months or years of the process. ⁣ ⁣ I have one client that inspired one of these characters in the book that even now, 10 years into her work, she continues every year to question should I reach out to mom this year? Should I talk to mom this year? There's significant trauma there that mom will not own at all, and so it's fascinating how human this is right To say. Am I going to have regrets? Am I going to be sad if I get a call that mom has died? If mom's, you know, going into needing care, how do I show up for her? Should I show up for her? There's so much there and obviously each woman's story is unique as to what they decide. But, yeah, society is definitely saying family first. You're going to regret this, right. So I really try and talk about what we could say differently than that. ⁣ ⁣ 0:23:12 - Hilary Russo⁣ Yeah, being able to support yourself and know how to nurture yourself in that moment and not find yourself in a place where you're oh, I don't know. I mean, like I said earlier, the gaslighting, the manipulation, any kind of toxicity that might come with words, because suddenly you go back to the inner child, suddenly you can be a five year old, hearing words from that parent and you feel it like you did. If you ever witnessed that before as a child. Speaking of children, do you find that there are some women that have made a choice not to have children because they were scared to have the kind of relationships that they witnessed from generations in the past, like if a mother and a daughter or a grandmother and a mother are not communicating or a sister is not communicating generation before you, suddenly you feel like, well, I'm going to just wind up having the same thing, so I'm not having kids, I'm not entering, I'm not bringing anything into this world, because this trauma is just generational. ⁣ ⁣ 0:24:15 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, oh, absolutely. I mean, we actually tackle that in the book as well as, like, one of the beliefs is what if I'm broken? But what if I pass this on to my kid? What if I become my mother, for better or worse? Right In this lens of worse, I think that's such a natural thought. And then I actually, when I started writing this book, I just give birth to my daughter, and so I was very aware that I was writing about attachment and trauma and healing, as I was also trying to build healthy attachment with my infant daughter. And so many people worry about, you know, especially if they're like, tracking all these things in the family tree. I think of even just medical conditions and mental health conditions of like, oh, am I going to bring that into my child's life? Yeah, it's causing a lot of fear for people of like, what if this gets recreated again? What if this estrangement is possible in another generation? That's valid. ⁣ ⁣ 0:25:04 - Hilary Russo⁣ Do you talk specifically about attachment styles in the book? ⁣ ⁣ 0:25:07 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ I do, yep, I talk about the secure, anxious avoidant, disorganized, how that shows up from childhood into adulthood. Absolutely yeah, can't help myself. ⁣ ⁣ 0:25:16 - Hilary Russo⁣ That's definitely an area you're yeah, no, I get it and it's so interesting, but I think we're seeing more people that are diving into not self therapy, because obviously we need support, especially when we're dealing. We need support especially when we're dealing with trauma. Right, never do trauma work on your own. It's good to have somebody on the outside, like a licensed therapist or somebody in the field, that can support you in that area, to help you get a different perspective on things. But I do find that more people are open to learning new things, just so there's an awareness, so that when they're meeting with their therapist or their practitioner, they have a much more, they're much more aware of what is being shared with them, rather than just sitting across from your therapist or practitioner. And this is how it is right, right? ⁣ ⁣ I think, we're becoming our own healthcare advocates. What I'm saying, yeah absolutely, I mean. ⁣ ⁣ 0:26:13 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ I think that's why, when people are like who's this book for, I say it's for the adult daughters and it's for the clinicians that serve them, Because an adult daughter might pick up this book and say this is my experience. I feel seen by the cycle or some aspect of the book. And then there's 24 tools throughout the book that are things they could do on their own, but also I encourage them to do with their clinician to say am I doing a particular exercise? I call them therapeutic tools, but there are things I would have done with a client in the room to say does this help you in your process? Does this move you from one stage to the next? So those tools are something that those adult daughters could read, do on their own or bring into a supportive environment, whether that's a coach, a therapist, a mentor or a family member, depending on what feels appropriate. ⁣ ⁣ 0:26:57 - Hilary Russo⁣ And I think we're also seeing that as well. We're seeing more people reaching out and getting coaching, because sometimes it's just like having a sister or a brother or a friend that's there to help you, that is able to see things from the outside, looking in. That isn't personally connected. There's just so much you can lay this on a family member, especially when you might be sitting there complaining to your real sister or your brother or an aunt or somebody about a family member that they already have a connection with and they have a completely different kind of relationship with. That's not helpful to any party. ⁣ ⁣ 0:27:32 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah, that bias of like oh I can't be neutral for you, I have my own thoughts. Yeah, this is why they go to someone outside the family. That's pretty typical. ⁣ ⁣ 0:27:40 - Hilary Russo⁣ Yeah. So let's mention the book again. It's Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships, Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle. And Khara also has another book that is written to support the child and the parent and the teacher. We're going to put both of those in the links to this podcast. But I have a question for you Do you find that there might be mothers that would be open to reading this book? ⁣ ⁣ 0:28:09 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ I hope so. I mean, I think there are lots of books out there for parents. When I was doing the research on this, getting this book up and running, I found so many books for parents that really spoke to their the will-dermant, their pain, their anger, their outrage that this was happening, which has its value right. They need to feel seen and supported as well. I feel like the mother who's going to pick up this book is someone who's I'm curious to heal. I want to reconcile, I want to work on myself. I want to understand my daughter's perspective. This book might help them with that because it's really written from the eyes of the adult daughter. So if they're feeling a disconnect where they don't understand why adult daughter has made this choice, this could be enlightening, I would hope. ⁣ ⁣ 0:28:49 - Hilary Russo⁣ And maybe pave the way for a new relationship. ⁣ ⁣ 0:28:53 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Absolutely. ⁣ ⁣ 0:28:53 - Hilary Russo⁣ Or just an evolved relationship. You know it's lovely when we were able to see that. I want to play a quick game with you. Or if there's anything else you want to add. Let me just stop there and say is there anything else about the book you'd like to add, or anything about the Estrangement Energy Cycle? I want to give you the space to share there. ⁣ ⁣ 0:29:10 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Yeah. So one other thing to highlight real quick is that we have some morning signs for both mothers and daughters. So off the top of my head it was things like you know, on the daughter side, a lack of boundaries, resentment brewing, that kind of language was in her checklist as adult daughter and then for the mother checklist it was things like are you steamrolling over those boundaries? Are you calling when she said not to call? Are you making demands? Are you feeling like there's friction? Are you getting feedback from the daughter that she's not happy with the relationship? ⁣ ⁣ So try to itemize a couple of things that both daughters and mothers could look at and say, hmm, is that true for us? Like, is that something in our life right now? Is that in the relationship right now? Is this an opportunity to discuss and heal and grow? Or is it like a ooh, that's me and I need to go do some work around that professionally with a therapist or coach or mentor or whoever? So by no means is it. You have to have one of them and you're in dire straits. It's more like the more you have on this checklist, the more you probably want to sit and think about what do I want to do with this information? Does it catapult me into a growth place of wanting to heal and change? ⁣ ⁣ 0:30:24 - Hilary Russo⁣ And sometimes it might just be that the relationship needs to be on that level of some, some estrangement. Maybe you're not as close to that person and that's okay too. I think that's something I really want to put out. There is that if you come to a decision especially after reading this book, which I'm very excited to get the copy in my hand when you're able to make that decision and know that you have the tools that helped you make that decision, and if that choice is that I really need to have some safe boundaries, but I'm still open to possibly the physical strange or the emotional estrangement, but the physical I don't want to not have this person in my life. ⁣ ⁣ Whatever you choose to do if it's good for you is the right choice because it's self-first. You have to live your life before anybody else's. So everybody's journey is going to be different and I want to make sure we put that out there to those who are listening, to those who might be watching that your journey is your own. What you choose with the tools that you have is the right choice, as long as it's not hurting you or anybody else. You choose to choose and you know what. You can also make a different choice. If you decide down the line, I'm ready now Be open to that as well. ⁣ ⁣ I imagine you agree with that? Yeah? ⁣ ⁣ 0:31:52 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Oh yeah, I'm just sitting here thinking about their seasons of our life right, yeah, or there's a season of independence, which is why a lot of our 20-something year olds are thinking about a strange thing, because it almost feels in alignment with independence I'm out of a nest, I'm doing my own thing. You know, the angry teenage part is like don't tell me what to do. That's what I tell my clients. We all have that angry teenage part of stubbornness, like don't tell me what to do. But then maybe I just I realize I'm going to be a mother. Maybe I'm pregnant and I'm like, wow, I really want my mom in my life. How can I have her in my life in a way that's healthy and supportive at that stage or that season of my life? Maybe I'm getting older and she's getting older, and so I think the bright spot for folks who are like man, we're in a strange moment, or one of those one in 12 people. ⁣ ⁣ There is research saying that you know, about 80% of these women are reconciling with their mothers. Obviously, we can't speak to like how long that took or what happened to make that possible, but if 80% plus percent of these women are reconciling with their mothers, there is hope that the relationship can change, that the season can change, that most of us in the mental health space are going to say we've got to work on it together. This is where, like family therapy or estrangement specialist is going to come into play, because it's complex and so it might not be as simple as just saying I owe you an apology. It might be we're doing some deep work here to have a healthier relationship, so don't feel like you have to do it on your own. I think that's what I'm saying. ⁣ ⁣ 0:33:12 - Hilary Russo⁣ Well, that's the other thing. Well, both parties, or any parties involved, have to do their own healing work and growth work. It's very hard to be able to create a space where the two parties are going to come together, when only one party is willing to do the work and the other might be saying well, everything's your fault, you're the one that needs therapy. So think about those things as well. You can only do so much. It is still teamwork. ⁣ ⁣ There's still a relationship to consider and a relationship takes more than one person, except the one with yourself. That's the most important one to work on. So, with that being said, I have really enjoyed this conversation. This is so great. I cannot wait to get that book in my hands. ⁣ ⁣ You booked this so fast that I haven't gotten the book yet. I'm like I reached out to your publicist. I'm like slam me the book and I want to end with just doing a quick game with you that I do with my guests on the show. I've been writing down some words that are things you've said during this conversation and I want you to come back with the first word that comes to mind. Let's see how Tara's brain is working, oh no. ⁣ ⁣ Sometimes I think I should do this at the beginning of the podcast but then I don't have words to use. All right, you ready, I'm ready, okay, alliance. ⁣ ⁣ 0:34:37 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Relationships Toxic Parenting. ⁣ ⁣ 0:34:41 - Hilary Russo⁣ Estrangement, daughter, children, lovable Valderies, therapy, therapy, that's my word. Come back to that chair. ⁣ ⁣ 0:34:59 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Champion. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:01 - Hilary Russo⁣ And I have to put my glasses on for this last one, because I can't read my own handwriting. Oh, I was trying to write down the name of the character in your book. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:09 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ The Children's Book that name, yeah, so Penny McGee's Family Tree Penny McGee. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:15 - Hilary Russo⁣ Penny McGee. It's Penny Penny McGee, so what would you? It's two words I'm throwing out at you, but what would you say about? ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:21 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ that Vulnerability. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:27 - Hilary Russo⁣ And isn't that? That's a great way to end this, because starting as a child, understanding these things makes you a more well-rounded adult and, as we've heard from Brittany Brown, vulnerability is courage. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:39 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ Right, it is. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:40 - Hilary Russo⁣ Yeah, absolutely is. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:42 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ There's courage in the conversation. That's my hope. ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:44 - Hilary Russo⁣ Thank you. There is and being vulnerable to take that step. As long as it doesn't step on your own boundaries and hurt you, it's okay. It's okay to try that as well. Are there any final thoughts you'd like to leave with listeners? ⁣ ⁣ 0:35:57 - Khara Croswaite Brindle⁣ My hope is it's just gonna speak to the women who felt like they haven't had a voice in this conversation before now. So I'm really grateful that we could talk about adult daughters and what they're going through. As I alluded to, there are lots of books out there for the parents and I definitely recommend a bunch of them, and I wanna make sure these women have a voice too. So thank you for having me on the podcast to talk about it. ⁣ ⁣ 0:36:16 - Hilary Russo⁣ Okay, my friends, if you or someone you know is facing family estrangement, specifically with a mother-daughter relationship, consider putting Khara's book in your hands or paying it forward. That book, again is called Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle. I added a link to that book, as well as her children's book also, and you can also connect with Khara by visiting her website or her social media. You'll find those links as well. And Khara mentioned the importance of self-regulation tools. There are many. We need to put those little tools in our brain candy jar right and pull them out when we need those the sweetest ways to be kind to our mind. As I always say, Havening could be one of those tools. If you wanna learn how to hug it out, how to put the healing in your own hands, set up a call with me. Let's see if Havening is right for you. ⁣ ⁣ HIListically Speaking, is edited by 2 Market Media with music by Lipone Redding and Listen to by you, my listener. So thank you for your continued support. ⁣ ⁣ On that note, never forget the importance of healthy boundaries and if you need support, know that there is always help, because the most important relationship is the one with self. I love you, I believe in you and I will see you next week. 

Polly Brindle steps back Behind The Rope. Selling The OC's Polly Brindle that is. Polly is here to chat all about Selling The OC - all the just witnessed Season Two drama, cast mates Alex Hall, Jarvis, Tyler, Rose, Kayla, Gio, Brandi, Austin, the highs and lows of being on a hit Netflix show, Tyler and Alex Hall, kissing Tyler, double standards, make outs, make ups and more. Polly talks the season long drama between Alex Hall and Brandi Marshall which came to a head in Cabo, why her and Jarvis will never get along, the breakup of Jarvis and Rose, whether Jason has made a mistake in hiring for the OC O Group Office, the audiences' reaction to this season's drama and much, much more. With all this, one can only wonder, how long do we have until Season Three. Part II starts now! @pollybrindle @behindvelvetrope @davidyontef BONUS & AD FREE EPISODES Available at - www.patreon.com/behindthevelvetrope BROUGHT TO YOU BY: NOOM - noom.com (Sign Up For Your Trial Today So You Can Manage Your Weight For The Long Term) OAK ESSENTIALS - oakessentials.com/VELVET (Get 15% Off The Best Skincare Products With Code VELVET) TRIVIA STAR - (Go To the Apple or Google Store To Download Trivia Star For Free To Play The #1Celebrity, Music & TV Trivia Game Today)  INDEED - indeed.com/velvet (Seventy Five Dollar $75 Sponsored Job Credit To Upgrade Your Job Post)  EARNIN - Download The EarnIn App Today (In Google Play or Apple App Store and Type in “Velvet Rope” When You Sign Up To Get Access To The Cash You Have Earned Today!) ADVERTISING INQUIRIES - Please contact David@advertising-execs.com MERCH Available at - https://www.teepublic.com/stores/behind-the-velvet-rope?ref_id=13198 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Polly Brindle steps Behind The Rope. Selling The OC's Polly Brindle that is. Polly is here to chat all about Selling The OC - all the just witnessed Season Two drama, cast mates Alex Hall, Jarvis, Tyler, Rose, Kayla, Gio, Brandi, Austin, the highs and lows of being on a hit Netflix show, Tyler and Alex Hall, kissing Tyler, double standards, make outs, make ups and more. Polly talks the season long drama between Alex Hall and Brandi Marshall which came to a head in Cabo, why her and Jarvis will never get along, the breakup of Jarvis and Rose, whether Jason has made a mistake in hiring for the OC O Group Office, the audiences' reaction to this season's drama and much, much more. With all this, one can only wonder, how long do we have until Season Three.  @pollybrindle @behindvelvetrope @davidyontef BONUS & AD FREE EPISODES Available at - www.patreon.com/behindthevelvetrope BROUGHT TO YOU BY: OAK ESSENTIALS - oakessentials.com/VELVET (Get 15% Off The Best Skincare Products With Code VELVET) NOOM - noom.com (Sign Up For Your Trial Today So You Can Manage Your Weight For The Long Term) TRIVIA STAR - (Go To the Apple or Google Store To Download Trivia Star For Free To Play The #1Celebrity, Music & TV Trivia Game Today)  INDEED - indeed.com/velvet (Seventy Five Dollar $75 Sponsored Job Credit To Upgrade Your Job Post)  EARNIN - Download The EarnIn App Today (In Google Play or Apple App Store and Type in “Velvet Rope” When You Sign Up To Get Access To The Cash You Have Earned Today!) ADVERTISING INQUIRIES - Please contact David@advertising-execs.com MERCH Available at - https://www.teepublic.com/stores/behind-the-velvet-rope?ref_id=13198 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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