The Selfish Woman

If you feel drained, depleted, and like no matter how much rest you get, you're still exhausted....you're not alone!  You're not tired because life is hard.  You're tired because you're stuck performing.  Performing as the nice girl.  Performing as the easygoing woman.  Performing to keep the peace and please everyone.  This is women's burnout hiding in plain sight - and nobody's talking about it.  In this episode, I reveal the real reason you're so exhausted (spoiler alert: it's not your to-do list), how 'being nice' is slowly draining your energy, and how to stop people pleasing so you can reclaim your power.  You'll learn:  Why performing makes women invisible and miserable  How the good girl identity keeps you stuck in burnout  What to do to stop being nice and start being real  How to recover your energy and step into your selfish era  You don't need more rest. You need to stop performing.  If you're exhausted and over it, this episode will show you how to break free and start living for YOU.  Sign up for Glow Notes!  Check out my guest spot on The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast!   

In this bonus episode, I'm coming to you with sand in my suitcase and rebellion in my bones.  Let's talk about the guilt we feel when we rest. The fear that if we stop, everything will fall apart. The lie that our worth is tied to our productivity.  For years, I couldn't stop.  Raising kids. Building a business. Surviving heartbreak. Rebuilding after divorce (twice). Hustling for my worth every damn day.  And when I finally had space? I didn't know how to exist inside it.  I'm sharing the truth behind what it took for me to feel safe doing less, and why my vacation isn't just a 'break'...it's a power move.  Why rest feels dangerous for high-achieving women  How scarcity and survival conditioning keep us overworking  The nervous system regulation I had to to to tolerate white space on my calendar  Why I'm sliding into vacation mode like the CEO I am  And how this is the Selfish Woman Lifestyle: rest without guilt, joy without justification.  This isn't just a vacation. It's what happens when a woman heals.  So pour yourself a drink, get cozy, and join me for a conversation about reclaiming your time, your peace, and your power.  Leave a review and share this with a woman who never stops. She needs to hear this. 

In this fiery sermon of an episode, I'm pulling no punches. We're talking about the invisible leash of patriarchal conditioning and how it keeps powerful women small. I'm not here to make you comfortable. I'm here to remind you who the hell you are.  If you've ever felt like you were too much, too emotional, too ambitious, too independent....guess what? You're not the problem. The system is.  Let this episode be your invitation to remember your power, own your desires, and stop apologizing for who you are. We're not here to play by their rules. We're here to write our own.  Book a consultation here  Find me on Instagram!  Connect with me on TikTok!  Subscribe to Glow Notes. 

You said you were done.  You blocked them. You deleted the photos.  You told yourself, "I've moved on"  But if you're still feeling the ache, still replaying the memories, still carrying that weight....you're not crazy. You're still tethered.  In this raw and real episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible cords that keep us bound to the past long after we've walked away. This is for the woman who's doing all the 'right' things - healing, journaling, rising - and still feels stuck in the heaviness of what was.  We talk about:  Why your glow-up isn't working (and it's not what you think)  The nervous system side of emotional weight  How shame, grief and guilt keep us energetically trapped  Why letting go isn't about closure, but release.  What's possible when you finally cut the cord  If you've ever felt like you're doing all the work but still can't shake the past, this one's for you. It's not your fault - but it IS your time.  And if this episode speaks to your soul, join me for Untethered, my workshop on April 19 where I will teach you everything you need to know about what's keeping you tied to the past, and guide you through a powerful visualization that will energetically free you.  Click here to register for Untethered on April 19  

What if the reason you feel stuck, numb, or unfulfilled isn't because you're broken, but because the 'good girl' inside you needs to die?  In this fiery and vulnerable episode, I'm inviting you to take a brutally honest look at your life and ask yourself:  What would your eulogy say, if you died today?  This is a wake-up call for every woman who's been trying to do it right, play it safe, be nice, be liked, and perform maturity while secretly suffocating under the weight of it all.  Here's what we dive into:  Why 'good girls' die bitter - and how to make sure you don't become one  The truth about how your eulogy is aready being written What it really means to let the old identity die so the real you can finally live  The power of choosing self-honesty over approval  What softness, truth and presence can give you that performance never will  You don't need more advice. You need to follow your own truth.  This episode will crack you open - and set you free.  Apply for 1:1 coaching  Subscribe to Substack: The Selfish Woman Revolution  Follow me on Instagram 

This episode is for every woman who's ever felt guilty about putting herself first.  I'm calling out the 'selfless' lie we've been sold, and the emotional, physical and spiritual cost of people-pleasing your way through life.  If you've been told your worth is in your service, your silence, your sacrifice - this episode is your permission slip to burn that shit down.  I'm sharing the truth about what being selfish really means, how it saved me, and how it can save you too.  Tune in and start choosing yourself - without apology.  Join The Selfish Woman Community on Facebook  Sign up for my newsletter to stay up to date on the movement!  Interested in my courses, programs, or working with me?  Check out my courses here  Book a consultation here  Please subscribe to the podcast wherever you listen, leave a review, and share!     

Are you ready to step into the next chapter of your life with confidence, power and purpose? In this episode I sit down with Lata Hamilton, a Change Leadership and Confidence Expert who went from marketing to leading massive transformations in some of Australia's biggest companies - all while tripling her salary in just three years.  Lata and I dive into the mindset shifts and strategies that help women embrace change, own their worth, and create a life on their terms.  We discuss:  The #1 thing that holds women back from embracing change  Why loyalty isn't always the best choice  The four components of confidence - and how to leverage them to get what you want  Why women are designed to be adaptable - and how to use that superpower  How to take salary negotiation principles and apply them to your divorce  How to leverage the freedom after divorce to build the career (and life) you truly want  If you're feeling stuck, uncertain, or afraid of what's next, this episode will inspire you to take action. Because change isn't something to fear - it's something to OWN.  Connect with Lata Hamilton:  https://www.latahamilton.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/latahamilton/ Love this episode? Leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, subscribe, and share with a friend! Your support helps more women step into their power!   

Fear and self-doubt have been running the show for too long. They keep you stuck second-guessing yourself, and playing small. But what if you could finally break free?  In this episode, we're diving deep into the root causes of fear and self-doubt, why they keep showing up, and - most importantly - what to do about it.  If you're tired of feeling like you're standing in your own way, this episode is your wake up call.  You'll learn:  why NOW is the time to step into your power why your mind is addicted to fear  my 3 step strategy to breaking free  Ready to reset your mindset and take control of your life? Join the Mindset Reset Workshop on March 22. This 2 hour online event will give you the exact tools you need to break free from fear, self doubt, people pleasing and guilt - so you can step into your most confident self.  Sign up now for just $40!  Loved this episode? Let's keep the conversation going! DM me on Instagram @thevaleriejones and tell me your biggest takeaway!   

Divorce isn't just an ending - it's a transition, and how you navigate it can set the stage for the rest of your life. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Karen Covy, a powerhouse Divorce Coach, lawyer, mediator, author and speaker, who helps high-achieving professionals take control of their divorce like a CEO.  Karen and I dive deep into:  How to make empowered decisions during divorce (without getting lost in the emotions) The #1 thing that will make an amicable divorce impossible (and what to do instead)  The grey divorce revolution  The big mistake so many women make with their lawyer How to come out of divorce stronger, more confident, and ready for your next chapter Whether you're in the middle of divorce, considering one, or just want to be prepared for any life transition, this episode is packed with wisdom you won't want to miss.  Listen now and take control of your future!  www.karencovy.com    

Are you ready to make 2025 the year you fully step into your power, prioritize your happiness, and create the life you truly desire? I'm diving into why The Selfish Year is the ultimate reset button you've been waiting for. We'll explore what it really means to choose yourself, and how to start making powerful shifts today. If you've spent years putting everyone else first, this is your invitation to change that - without guilt, without hesitation, and with full confidence in the vibrant, joyful life that's waiting for you.  What you'll learn in this episode:  Why putting yourself first is the key to happiness, success and freedom The biggest mindset shift you need to fully embrace your selfish year Actionable steps to start choosing you - unapologetically   Ready to make 2025 your Selfish Year?  This is just the beginning. Stay tuned as we'll be diving deep into strategies, mindset shifts, and real-life tools to help you fully embody the Selfish Woman energy.  Get your free copy of my 111 Affirmations  Let's Connect:  DM me on Instagram and tell me one way you're choosing yourself this week!  Join me on TikTok for more support and guidance  Sign up for my newsletter  Love this episode? Leave a review and share it with a friend!  COMING SOON: The Selfish Year: The Power of Putting Yourself First publication launches this September! Stay tuned for details on how you can claim your best year yet. 

This week's episode is for you, if you're considering divorce or navigating through the process, and the very idea of finances gives you anxiety!  We've got you covered because Jennifer Lee, founder of Modern-Wealth is here!  Jennifer's financial firm focuses on helping individuals navigate transition.  Here's a few of the topics we cover:  How to focus on the basics and keep financial matters simple  What's your money story, why it matters, and how to shift from scarcity to abundance  Get your head out of the sand! Why so many women are ostriches when it comes to money  How to create a purposeful life and build your legacy.  Jennifer has over 27 years of experience in the financial services industry and is the author of Squeeze the Juice: Live with Purpose, then Leave a Legacy.  Jennifer's website  Jennifer's Facebook  Jennifer's LinkedIn

As we head into the holiday season, you might be feeling like you're hanging on by a thread, holding it together for the family, and wondering if you might be ready to get a divorce.  There's a reason January is called 'Divorce Month'. Once you get through the holidays, you're ready to start asking yourself the hard questions about your relationship and decide if you are going to keep trying, or end it.  In this episode, I'm breaking down the Top Ten reasons for divorce, and what lies behind each of them.  If you're on the fence in your relationship, or you're wondering if you made the right decision to end it, this episode is for you.  Please share this with women in your life who need to hear it. And if you would be so kind as to subscribe that would really help get this podcast out to those who need it!  My new program, Get Off The Fence, is available now! Get the support and information you need to make a wise decision.  CLICK HERE for details on Get Off The Fence  Ready to heal? Women Rising is my signature program that walks you through everything you need in order to heal from the past, find yourself again, and design a future that excites you.  CLICK HERE for details on Women Rising Want to work with me? Book a free call to discuss.  CLICK HERE to book a consultation  

Continuing from the previous episode when I talked about Hurricane Helene wrecking my plans, I dive deeper into my life mantra "everything works out" and what that really means when bad things happen.  How is life 'working out' for you, even when bad things happen? Even when the very worst happens?  I'm giving you insight into where your power lies, what your choices are, and how to turn even the biggest, scariest challenges into triumphs.  Ready to work with me, and take your life to heights you've never dreamed possible? Let's chat! Book a consultation:  https://ValJonesCoaching.as.me/?appointmentType=42267430 Want ongoing coaching, support and community, for only $40/month? Join The Phoenix! Check out all the details here:  subscribepage.io/4M2VOU Join The Divorce Alchemy Collective on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcealchemycollective

Do you feel confused, frustrated or discouraged because you're not seeing the results you want yet?  If so, this episode is for you!  I'm sharing my story about how I've been feeling this way, and why I know it's a sign that the next big level is close!  I'm also giving you the 3 steps you need to take right now, that will get you to that next level faster, and why being selfish is the key to it all.  If you're a regular around here, I know you have big goals and dreams, so you need to listen to this one!  And if you're new, welcome!  Got a question you want me to answer on the pod? Email me!  Valerie@valeriejonescoach.com Let's connect on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/the_selfish_woman And TikTok:  www.tiktok.com/@valjonescoaching Join The Selfish Woman Community on Facebook:  www.facebook.com/groups/theselfishwoman  

There's one thing I know for sure: anyone who's ever gone through transformational change, first had to get tired of their own bullshit.  If you're tired of getting the same results, and you don't want your future to look just like your past, then you need to listen to this episode.  I'm getting real about what my bullshit was that I had to get tired of, and I'm talking about what just might be on your bullshit list that needs to go!  My signature program, Women Rising, is open for enrollment! We begin on September 16, and I want you there!  Check out all the details, payment options and success stories of past participants:  subscribepage.io/9sR8pI And if you pay in full before September 9, you can use the code GLOWUP to receive $400 off enrollment, PLUS three 1:1 sessions with me!  Questions? Want to chat? Email me! Valerie@valeriejonescoach.com  Commit to yourself and I promise you, by the end of 2024 you will be transformed!  xo 

Are you ready for your Inner Glow Up?  If you're tired of feeling lacklustre, bored, overwhelmed, and just going through the motions in your life.... And you long to feel excited, fired up, proud of yourself, successful, and inspired.... And you're ready to chase your dreams, level up, and build the life you deserve.... This episode is for you!  I'm sharing all about why you need an Inner Glow Up first, and then the external glow up happens.  Register for my free Masterclass: The Ultimate Glow Up on August 26/24!  Save your spot here  Join The Selfish Woman Community on Facebook!  Please share this episode with the women in your life who are ready to GLOW!  xo   

Have you ever looked back on a relationship and thought to yourself, 'well that was crazy'? And wondered what you were thinking, and what you could possibly learn from it?  In this episode, I'm talking to WOMEN author Chloe Caldwell about the relationship she experienced that led her to write the book, and how the craziness of it all led to her biggest success.  To celebrate the ten-year re-release of WOMEN, we talk about all things love, breakups, divorce, healing and more!  Follow Chloe on Instagram here  Order Chloe's book WOMEN here   

Our very first man is on the pod!!!  In this episode, I sit down with Katie and Jay Fillmore, and discuss the latest viral debate that's got everyone talking:  If you were alone in the woods, would you rather encounter a man or a bear?  I love how Katie and Jay discuss this on their TikTok account! Jay processes in real time, the awakening to a woman's lived experience, and offers insightful and intelligent commentary.  I know you're going to enjoy this conversation!  You can find Katie and Jay on TikTok here  Subscribe, share and please leave a great review!   

Do you feel stuck, trapped, frustrated in life? Do you know what you need to do, but you're not doing it?  Do you feel confused by all the chatter in your mind, keeping you in fear, doubt and worry?  If so, this episode is for you.  I'm sharing one big reason why you're feeling this way, and what to do about it.  Listen to the end for my challenge for you!   

One of the questions I get asked the most, is this:  How do I stop caring what people think???  I'm bringing some tough love, so put on your big girl pants and let's go!  Join The Phoenix Membership  Work with me 1:1   

Who knew that a three minute video could create such a heated debate between the sexes....about sex!  My TikTok video that went viral a couple of weeks ago has resonated with women and angered men.  Why? What is it about women being honest about the reasons they've lost interest in sex that is so polarizing?  Join me for a deep dive!  Busting some of the common myths about sex in relationships  Survey says! What women are saying about it!  What your lack of interest in the bedroom is showing you about what's happening outside the bedroom  The one significant contributing factor to your lack of interest  What to do about it!  Watch the viral video that started it all  Join The Phoenix Membership  Check out my programs and offers   

How do you heal?  The journey of healing is a deeply personal one that requires trial and error, willingness to fail, and finding your guides along the way.  Crystal Allon has been documenting her healing journey on Tik Tok and inviting her community into the process in real time.  Her vulnerability, realness and curiosity are refreshing and I know you will relate to her story on many levels.  TW: suicide, abuse, substance use  Some of the topics we discuss:  when adult kids go no contact with their parents taking ownership of the impact we have had on our kids  healing trauma from childhood  healing from depression, fear and anger  learning to forgive yourself for the past  Settle in and enjoy this deeply real conversation!   

You know that bitch inside your head that keeps telling you to stay quiet, be nice, don't rock the boat and DEFINITELY don't say no if it's gonna upset someone else?  Yeah, you know.  Well today, it's time to learn what's really going on, why you even have an inner bitch, and what to do about it.  Amy Green Smith is here to rock your world and set you straight about how to get your power back, communicate with clarity, and have big fucking boundaries.  Not only that, she's giving you specific, real life examples of what to say in those situations where you don't know what to say!  We also chat about:  how doing the makeup for her dead Dad was the wake-up call she needed why 'Declaring the Do-Over' is going to free you from guilt  the real reason you're a people pleaser (which will set you free)  how to get yourself out of any conversation you don't want to have  Amy is the compassionate voice of truth that we all need in our lives!  Grab Amy's free stuff here!  http://amygreensmith.com/free And as always, please subscribe, share and leave a review!   

One year ago I got my divorce papers in the mail.  At the time it was a monumentous occasion! I celebrated big time!  Now, one year later, it's a distant memory.  I'm in a completely different place and the struggle, heartbreak, grief and fear are a thing of the past.  In this episode, I'm sharing four big lessons I learned about going through a big life transition, and why they're critical for you as you face life's challenges.    Want ongoing coaching, accountability & support as you navigate transition and change? Join The Phoenix Membership! We meet twice each month on zoom for group coaching calls, you get access to our private FB community, and you get my most popular courses for free! All for a super low cost!  Join The Phoenix    Make sure to join Divorce Support for Women on FB!    Check out my website for all programs and courses!   

"I sure hope this year will be better than last year!"  Sound familiar?  If so, you're leaving your life to fate. Hoping that some external force will intervene on your behalf and magically make your problems disappear and bring you what you want.  Not gonna happen!  It's time to take fate into your own damn hands!  Your dream life will NOT just land in your lap, and this year it's time to make it happen, and I'm here to support you!  So instead of leaving your life to fate, I'm telling you what you need to do instead.  FATE  - reinvented.  Subscribe, share and leave a review!!!  Join Burning Woman on FB for support on growth, healing and transformation  Join Divorce Support for Women on FB for community & coaching  Join Phoenix Membership Group for ongoing monthly coaching 

If you want 2024 to be YOUR year for a big breakthrough, you've gotta fight for it! And I'm here to help you get it!  Don't leave this year to chance and just accept whatever comes your way.  Get clear on what you want, why you want it, and how you're going to get it.  In this episode, I'm giving you straight talk (as always) about what's required to get the breakthrough you need to get what you want.  What is a breakthrough? What's been holding you back from big results  What's required to get your desires  How to take charge of your life  My story of a breakthrough I had recently  Please subscribe, share, and leave a review!  Join Burning Woman FB Community  Join The Phoenix Membership Club  Jill's podcast episode about her experience at the Retreat   

Are you just holding on, waiting for the holidays to be over so that you can restart in January?  Life is challenging, painful, and difficult, and you're feeling discouraged and wondering when it will be YOUR turn to get what you want.  Maybe you're holding on to hope that things will get better.  Or maybe you're holding on to the threads of your sanity!!!  Whatever's going on for you, if you're struggling or feeling challenged in life these days, I have a message for you.  I'm sharing - from my heart to yours - what I want you to know that will give you strength, change your perspective on your situation, and remind you that you will be not only okay, but you will soar!  Love you! xo

She's baaaack!!!!!  Kate Anthony is back and bringing the truth bombs in this incredible episode!  You may remember Kate from Episode 39 (if not, make sure to listen!), and now she's back because her new book, The D Word, is hitting the shelves, and we have much to discuss!  The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage is Kate's incredible book, all about divorce and navigating the choppy waters of this enormous decision. It's a user's guide to divorce...before, during and after.  We talk, laugh and commiserate on so many topics, including:  setting boundaries with your partner while you're figuring out whether to stay or leave why married men are the happiest demographic, and why married women are the least happy  some of the major contributing factors to why women leave  the different ways that women carry most of the burdens in the marriage  the different ways that men are participating (or not) in every aspect of the relationship  the hilarious perspective that Kate relied on in the year after her divorce that kept her from making big mistakes!  Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide and creator of the groundbreaking online program Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives. Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Advocate, a Co-Parenting Specialist, and a High Conflict Divorce Coach.  You can find Kate at www.kateanthony.com      

The relationship is over and before you can even change your status on Facebook to 'single', you see it....the picture of him with someone new. Your heart drops into your stomach, tears fill your eyes, and rage makes your head feel like it's going to explode.  How could he move on so fast???  Why? What does it mean? How do you process this?  Grab a drink, settle in and let's get you sorted!  Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review!     

If your life is spinning out of control, everything is moving fast, and you wonder, 'What's the point?' this episode is for you!  It can be hard to connect to your purpose when life moves so fast. The days fly by; you're going through the motions, getting things done, but why? What's it all for?  This episode will revolutionize your perspective on finding and living your purpose!  I talked with Candis Williams about her Slow Year and how it changed her life. She shares her story of slowing down and the dramatic and powerful shifts that allowed her to find her purpose and passion in unexpected ways.  At the end of 2021, Candis embarked on a year of profound transformation that she dubbed The Slow Year and now shares the stories, principles and practices that underpinned this life-changing year through her speaking and coaching programs.  Candis currently hosts a travel show for Carnival Cruise Line, where she explores local culture, cuisine and experiences at various cruise destinations in the Caribbean Sea.  www.candiswilliams.com www.theslowyear.com  

I spent two weeks in Italy this summer, travelling alone, and I learned so many lessons about myself, and about life. I'm sharing my biggest take aways with you, because I know you'll be able to relate! Settle in, get cozy and let's chat!  (sorry about the terrible audio, I had to record this on my phone)  Interested in joining Women Rising? Check out all the details:  https://subscribepage.io/9sR8pI Join me on Substack!  https://substack.com/@valjones  

Sometimes you just need a little magic.  That's exactly what today's guest, NYT best selling author Anna Kloots, discovered when her marriage ended and she found herself alone and struggling to start over.  Don't miss this poignant, vulnerable and heart felt conversation with Anna as we dive into her latest book, My Own Magic: A Reappearing Act.  We discuss:  how to find the courage to start over when everything has fallen apart what she learned about giving to others while also going through the darkest time of her life  how she creates joy and celebrates each day, every day  how moving to Paris gave her everything she needed   what you need to do, right now, to begin your own journey of magic  Anna Kloots is a New York Times bestselling author who always dreamed of being a Disney princess. Her writing candidly reflects on her travels, relationships, failures, and fantasies, and it may inspire you to move to Paris, like she did.  https://www.annakloots.com/

Sexual dynamics between men and women are complicated! It can seem like one big cosmic joke when we try to figure out how to have a healthy, thriving, mutually satisfying sex life.  If you're in a heterosexual relationship, or you would like to be, this episode is going to change your life!  I talk with Irene Fehr about why so many women believe they are 'broken' and need to 'fix themselves' when it comes to sex, and what is really going on in the bedroom that leads to a breakdown in intimacy.  We get into all the juicy details, including:  why so many women believe they are 'the problem' what to do when you have no time or energy for sex  what the key nutrients are for cultivating intimacy  why being selfish leads to satisfying sex!  Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, SEP, is a Sex & Intimacy Coach who helps couples make love and sex work in a long-term relationship and bring sex and passion into a sexless one. Irene's views on women's libido and intimacy have been featured in HuffPost, Cosmopolitan, Shape, Refinery29, ScaryMommy, Elite Daily and Bustle. She is no stranger to her client's issues, having recovered from the all-too-common story of 'happy marriage turned sexless' when she lost her libido - all before turning 30.  https://www.irenefehr.com

If your fear of failing is keeping you playing small in your life, this episode is for you!  Failure is part of the equation of success and if you're not willing to fail you will never get the success you want and deserve. Life is asking you to swing for the fences and get messy!  I'm taking you through my own experience of 'failing' in real time, and sharing my strategies for using failure as fuel to live an intuitive, passionate life.  I'm also giving you my one, simple strategy to use when you fail, that will shift the energy around it and allow your subconscious mind to release the fear and resistance, so you can continue to take the action you know you need to be doing!  Want in on the next round of Women Rising? Here's the Waitlist!  https://subscribepage.io/UaXIuq Want to work with me? Check out my programs and book a Discovery Call  https://www.valeriejonescoach.com

It's time to become the Queen of your life, especially with money!  Becoming empowered with money requires you to change your inner relationship with money first. That's where it all starts. Your energy, your beliefs, your feelings around money....I'm talking about it all!  What does it mean to be in Princess energy? See where this might be showing up for you! What does it mean to be in Queen energy? Why is this so important when it comes to money?  How to take your throne!  Let's do this!  Want to join Audacity Collective and get in on monthly coaching?  Join here!  The link to the money course I mention in this episode:  www.dowjanes.com Check out my website for courses, programs, testimonials and more!  www.valeriejonescoach.com    

This is one of the most requested topics I get asked to speak about, so let's do this!  Imposter Syndrome is inevitable if you're going for more, breaking the rules, rocking the boat and getting out of status quo. And, if you're a woman, you are twice as likely to experience it.  So what do you do when Imposter Syndrome rears it's head and has you staying small and running for the hills?  Here's what I'm getting into:  what is Imposter Syndrome? why are you experiencing it?  my theory on why women experience it more than men  my own experiences!   I'm giving you my strategies to overcome it's grip on your life  Stop allowing Imposter Syndrome to keep you from your purpose and destiny. It's time to rise up and become the woman you are meant to be, so you can create the life you are meant to live!  Check out all my programs here:  https://www.valeriejonescoach.com Register for the free Goals with Soul Summit here:  http://mskatehouse.com/goalswithsoulsummit-val    

Are you sitting on the fence in some area of your life?  Stuck in indecision? One foot in, one foot out, and waiting for something to happen that will kick you into action?  Sitting on the fence can seem like the safest choice, but let's face it, it sucks and it hurts your ass!  You are getting nowhere fast.  It's time to get off the f**king fence and take action!  I'm bringing you my Top Ten List for getting off the fence.  Bring your journal, it's go time!  If you've been sitting on the fence about joining the Women's Retreat in June, consider this your sign to register!  Sign up here  Want an ongoing kick in the pants to keep you motivated and inspired? Subscribe to Audacity, my monthly membership group!  Details here  For all other info on programs, courses and to book a free Discovery Call, visit my website: https://www.valeriejonescoach.com    

I'm coming in hot off the Midlife Reinvention Workshop, and sharing some of the questions the women brought to the call because I know you'll be able to relate!  What does it look like to be a Selfish Woman every day?  I'm giving you two practical ways you can do this!  Here are all the links to the resources I mention on this episode: June 2023 Women's Retreat My free FB Community:  Audacity Monthly Membership   Check out my website for Boundaries Bootcamp and all other links and resources!   

WTF is inner child work...and why does it matter?  There's a lot of confusion around the term 'inner child'. It can seem 'woo woo', weird, mysterious, or intimidating to consider that you have a little kid inside of you somewhere!  Add in things like 'healing' or 'work' and it gets even weirder!  Whether you're familiar with it or have never heard of it, I'm getting into what it's all about and why it matters to you.  what does 'inner child' really mean? how your inner child affects you on a daily basis, and makes most of your decisions  the reasons that your relationship with your inner child is such a big deal  simple ways to begin inner child work for yourself  Let's get into it!  Come to the Retreat in June 2023  https://subscribepage.io/uQSw5P Join Audacity Membership Group!  https://subscribepage.io/4M2VOU  

Whatever's going on in your life, I know you will relate to this episode.  I'm sharing the top four reasons why I stayed ten years too long in my marriage.  These four reasons are why so many women tolerate situations that they know need to change but feel like it's impossible to imagine something different.  Maybe it's your relationship, your health, habits, patterns, family, friends, work, finances.... Where are you staying too long and why?  Then I'm sharing what you can do right now, to begin moving towards what you really deserve so you can create the life you're meant to be living!  Please leave a review on apple podcasts! I'd be forever grateful!  https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-selfish-woman/id1598491354 Claim your spot at the next Women's Retreat!  https://subscribepage.io/uQSw5P Join Audacity Monthly Membership:  https://subscribepage.io/4M2VOU Inquire about working with me:  https://www.honeybook.com/widget/val_jones_coaching_226093/cf_id/62c7a8f5139766002df2bf86

I'm all fired up about Miley Cyrus' new song, Flowers! (new anthem for the podcast?)  This song is resonating with women all over the world and it's evidence of the revolution of the Selfish Woman.  Women are waking up to their own power, independence and freedom.  It's time to step into the fullness of who you are and build your life from the inside out.  Please share this episode with as many women as you can!  Join the revolution!  Follow me on Instagram  Join my TikTok community  Join The Radical Women Collective on FB  Audacity Monthly Membership begins February 2023! Ongoing coaching, strategies, support, inspiration and community. 

Freedom!!!  I talk to thousands of women, and when I ask them what they want the most, this is the resounding answer.  You want to be free!  Whatever freedom means to you, it's your birthright. It's yours for the taking.  But....your freedom isn't free.  There's a cost.  It won't just drop in your lap.  I'm talking about what it's really going to cost you to claim your freedom.  I'm telling you what you need to do to make this the year you set yourself free.  And I'm sharing one BIG way you can make this happen.  Get all the details on Audacity Membership right here!   

Join this vibrant conversation with Kate House as we discuss SO many juicy topics!  This episode is like sitting in on a girlfriend's chat! Kate and I go deep!  Here are just some of the things we talk about:  How to break free from expectation  Finding the lessons in your experiences  Creating confidence through courageous action  Releasing perfectionism  Why the PIVOT is so powerful  How changing your mind is awesome  And more!  Kate House is host of the Live By Design podcast, health coach, education, meditation enthusiast and creator of the LBD Collective. She helps others release personal-growth overwhelm, get unstuck, and to live by design, not default.  https://www.mskatehouse.com Get a free month of the LBD Collective! 

Studies show that New Years resolutions don't work. I'm sharing a simple practice that I've been doing every year for awhile now, and how it's been a powerful tool to manifest what I want!  Ready to start the new year with vision, intention and alignment?  Grab your journal and let's go!  I am here to support you in 2023!  Join my Facebook community, The Radical Women Collective  Join my Instagram community!  Sign up for my weekly VIP newsletter Inquire about working with me!  Email me! 

I get a lot of SOS calls from clients as the holiday season approaches! Burn out, exhaustion, overwhelm, resentment, anger.....not exactly 'festive'!  Let's be real....a lot of women (moms especially) carry the emotional, physical and mental load over the holidays. It's up to you to create the 'magic' of the season.  This results in a lot of you feeling more naughty than nice!  Let's talk about it! 

I'm pulling back the curtain! Join me and my amazing client Lee'a, as we discuss her incredible journey of transformation and the results she experienced during our work together!  Our conversation will give you hope that the life you want and deserve is totally possible for you, that it's okay to not be okay, and that you don't have to walk alone.  Want to chat with me about being a private client? Fill out the Inquiry form in the link below!  https://www.honeybook.com/widget/val_jones_coaching_226093/cf_id/62c7a8f5139766002df2bf86    

Do you ever feel like growth is 2 steps forward, 3 steps back? Like you're making headway, seeing results, and then whammo....you're right back where you started?                                                                                                                                           Good news....you're not!  I'm discussing one of the most common concerns my clients bring to me and why it's totally normal and not only that, it's actually evidence that you're making progress.  New level new devil!  Are we Instagram pals? DM me with your feedback, questions, or what you'd love to hear me talk about!  www.instagram.com/msvaljones Join my Facebook community!  www.facebook.com/groups/radicalwomen  

I lost my brand new phone last week and I just had to share the story with you!  Why was it the best thing ever?  Because it reminded me of three major life lessons that made all the difference in this experience.  I'm sharing these three lessons with you so that you can apply them to any situation life throws at you and create your own magic!  DM me on Instagram and let me know what you think!  https://www.instagram.com/msvaljones Join my free Facebook community:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/radicalwomen

Do you dream about making a big change? Wonder what it would be like to completely pivot your life, break free from everything familiar, and start fresh?  Stacey Birch did exactly that and is here to tell us all about it! She made a big midlife pivot and you're going to love her story of courage, hilarious adventures, saying 'fuck it' to rules, and the magic that happened along the way!  We also talk about:  How to find the confidence to make big changes when you have no idea what you're doing  Why you must be willing to suck at something  The journey from knowing what you DON'T want, to finding your purpose  The power of changing your mind!  Stacey Birch is a Canadian single mother and career bartender who turned her passion for pups, margaritas and the 'gram into a midlife career pivot! At age 50 she moved to Mexico, healed herself through dog rescue, and started a thriving social media business.  https://www.instagram.com/hotflashesandboardingpasses https://www.hotflashesandboardingpasses.com

You have an inner GPS and it's the key to creating what you want. But if you don't know how to find it, or how to use it, you're going to waste a lot of time traveling in circles, making U-turns, and ending up in ditches.  Don't sweat it....I'm giving you the User's Manual to your inner GPS!  Learn how to know your destination, listen for directions, and take action that actually gets you where you want to go.  Also, I'm explaining the major reason why you struggle to make changes and realize your dreams, and it may just blow your mind!  DM me on Instagram!  Join The Radical Women Collective on Facebook