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My links here:https://alliecasazza.com/tpslinks In this episode of The Purpose Show, I'm joined by the incredible Dr. Gertrude Lyons for a deep, powerful conversation about what it really means to rewrite the “mother code.” We're talking about shedding the outdated, unrealistic expectations placed on moms and instead creating a motherhood narrative that actually aligns with who you are. We dive into the guilt that comes with self-care, the pressure to sacrifice everything, and how motherhood can look different for every woman—and still be beautiful, intentional, and powerful. Dr. Lyons shares wisdom from her upcoming book, and we explore how emotional awareness, rituals, and community support can create growth and healing on your motherhood journey. This episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and inspired to take full ownership of your role as a mother—on yourterms. Get Her Book Here Get Her Links Here drgertrudelyons.com Dr. Gertrude Lyons stands at the forefront of coaching and education in holistic women's development, parenting, self-love, and relationship fulfillment. As the visionary behind Rewrite The Mother Code, LLC, she inspires women to embark on their unique paths of personal transformation, drawing on her over 20+ years of experience in empowering individuals, couples, parents, and families towards fulfilled lives. Her doctoral research and diverse certifications and training enable Dr. Gertrude to offer a tailored, integrative approach that caters to the specific needs of individuals, couples, or families. She holds a steadfast belief that we all embody the essence of mother. Through shared creative energy, Dr. Gertrude advocates for mutual support and collaboration, guiding her clients to become and live more fully as themselves.
This week on Surviving Roots, I'm joined by Dr. Gertrude Lyons—master coach, podcast host, and author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust. Her work is a deep call to reclaim the way we mother—not just our children, but ourselves. With features in The Guardian, Motherly, Thrive Global, Business Insider, and beyond, Dr. Lyons is leading a movement to challenge generational norms, uncover inherited beliefs, and help women rewrite the internal code we've been conditioned to live by. We talk about: The quieter symptoms of the mother wound. How generational trauma shows up in motherhood. Why “doing it all” doesn't equal doing it right. And how to reclaim joy, intuition, and enoughness in your own story. This is a powerful conversation about honesty, boundaries, identity, and breaking free from outdated definitions of caregiving. Whether you're a mother, mothering something, or reparenting yourself—you'll find a piece of yourself in this episode.
EVEN MORE about this episode!What if motherhood isn't just about raising children—but about awakening the creator within? Dr. Gertrude Lyons, author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, joins Julie Ryan for a thought-provoking conversation on reclaiming motherhood as a sacred, expansive force available to all.Through stories of childbirth, reinvention, and emotional resilience, they explore how women mother not just people, but also ideas, relationships, and themselves. From navigating divorce and empty nests to embracing self-mothering as a tool for transformation, this episode challenges outdated roles and reveals the deep spiritual power of nurturing.Together, Julie and Dr. Lyons examine global postpartum traditions, the lack of support in the U.S., and how honoring the feminine can reshape society. Whether you're a mother—or simply birthing something new—this episode invites you to step fully into your power as the ultimate creator.Guest Biography:Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a pioneering life coach, speaker, and podcast host dedicated to transforming how we define motherhood. With an Ed.D. in transformational leadership and appearances in The Guardian, MindBodyGreen, Business Insider, and more, she empowers women to rewrite limiting narratives around what it means to mother. In her retreats, coaching, and newest book, Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, Dr. Lyons reveals how mothering is not a role but a universal energy available to all. Her work invites us to reclaim our creative power and reconnect with the sacred essence of mothering as a spiritual, communal act of creation.Episode Chapters:(0:00:01) - Motherhood(0:14:29) - Self-Care and Gender Roles(0:24:28) - Navigating Motherhood and Purpose Transition(0:36:33) - Cosmic Journey of Motherhood(0:45:22) - Birthing Traditions and Instinctual Knowledge(0:59:10) - Evolving Souls and Self-Mothering Retreats➡️Subscribe to Ask Julie Ryan YouTube➡️Subscribe to Ask Julie Ryan Español YouTube➡️Subscribe to Ask Julie Ryan Português YouTube➡️Subscribe to Ask Julie Ryan Deutsch YouTube➡️Subscribe to Ask Julie Ryan Français YouTube✏️Ask Julie a Question!
Dr. Gertrude Lyons, parenting coach, podcast host, TEDx speaker, and author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust – A Cosmic Approach to Motherhood, joins Lisa Dent to discuss motherhood. Dr. Lyons shares the Mother Code, a combination of culture, family, and our surroundings, and how they inform how we mother.
In this episode from the Wise Women Series, I interview Dr. Gertrude Lyons, an educator and podcast host focused on challenging traditional beliefs about motherhood and empowering women to redefine their journey as mothers. Practical advice in this conversation includes making a "do something list" to prioritize self-care and fulfillment, and the importance of celebrating small daily parenting successes to combat cultural pressures of perfection. Dr. Lyons also emphasizes that self-care and personal growth not only benefit mothers but also positively impact their children. Together, we explore the concept of redefining motherhood, embracing a personalized and fulfilling approach, and discuss insights from Dr. Lyons on her views and work in the field. Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! Leave a rating and review Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Free DSL Training Full Show Notes This episode is brought to you by goPure Beauty, get 25% off @goPure with code PROGRESS at https://www.goPurebeauty.com/PROGRESS #goPurepod; and by AirDoctor, use code MONICA at http://airdoctorpro.com/ for up to $300 off air purifiers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Motherhood is often shaped by the beliefs and expectations we've inherited—but what if we could rewrite the script? In this episode of the Heartful Parent Podcast, I'm chatting with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, an author, Life Coach and creator of Rewrite the Mother Code LLC. Together, we're exploring how personal growth, emotional responsibility, and self-awareness can transform the way we parent—not just our children, but also ourselves. Dr. Lyons challenges the traditional ‘mother code' and offers a fresh perspective on what it means to mother, extending beyond biological parenting to include all the ways we nurture and care in our lives. If you've ever felt the need to break free from outdated parenting expectations and embrace a more authentic, fulfilling path, you'll walk away from this episode with many thoughtful tidbits. Dr. Lyons shares practical steps for reparenting ourselves, prioritizing self-care, and recognizing the power of rewriting our own stories. And she gives us a sneak peek into her upcoming book, Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, which promises to be a game-changer for anyone navigating the complexities of motherhood. Don't miss this inspiring discussion—it's time to mother on your own terms! Resources: www.drgertrudelyons.com Dr. Gertrude Lyons on IG @drgertrudelyons Dr. Gertrude Lyons on YouTube @rewritethemothercode Dr. Gertude Lyons on LinkedIn @gertrudelyons Dr. Gertrude Lyons on Pinterest @drgertrudelyons Rewrite the Mother Code Podcast Rewrite the Mother Code by Dr. Gertrude Lyons Ed.D Follow Christy @theheartfulparent | Join the Heartful Parent Academy with code PODCAST
Making time for creativity and personal passions can feel impossible amid life's demands, but it doesn't have to be. In this episode, Lesley and Brad reflect on key insights from their conversation with Kristen McGuiness, including how she protects her creative energy while balancing work and family. Tune in for actionable tips on reclaiming your time and honoring your dreams.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to establish and enforce boundaries that protect your personal goals.Why honoring your intuition leads to better decision-making and less regret.The value of intentional time for creativity and deep work.How to overcome guilt around prioritizing your personal passions.Why waiting for life to slow down before pursuing your dreams is a mistake.Episode References/Links:Cambodia October 2025 Waitlist - https://crowsnestretreats.comOPC Spring Pilates Training - https://opc.me/eventsPilates Studio Growth Accelerator - https://prfit.biz/acceleratorPilates Flashcards - https://opc.me/flashcardsRise Literary Website - https://riseliterary.comRise Literary Instagram - https://instagram.com/riseliteraryKristen McGuiness Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kristenmcguiness If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.DEALS! 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Lesley Logan 0:04 And if you need help with that, the holistic psychologist constantly reminds you that you actually do not have to explain why a boundary is a boundary that is.Brad Crowell 0:12 It just is. Lesley Logan 0:13 It just is. Lesley Logan 0:14 Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:57 Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the groundbreaking convo I had with Kristen McGuiness in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause us now, go back and listen to that one and then come back and join us.Brad Crowell 1:12 No hard feelings. We'll still be here. Lesley Logan 1:14 She's a great. Brad Crowell 1:15 Oh yeah. Lesley Logan 1:16 I have actually shared her. Brad Crowell 1:18 Okay, so hold on. Did she write the book that you read, that you told me? Lesley Logan 1:22 Different book. But. Brad Crowell 1:23 Oh, really? Lesley Logan 1:23 Yes, I know. Brad Crowell 1:25 Okay, okay, okay. Lesley Logan 1:26 I know, yes, yeah, no, different book, but same topic. At any rate, it's in my TBRs still, Kristen, I'm so sorry.Brad Crowell 1:33 What's a TBR? Lesley Logan 1:34 To be read. Yeah, this is a TBR. There's no, you know, I anyways, it's, I'm really excited because I really, so, I have actually talked about her multiple times to multiple people, because this woman, when I interviewed her, she was on her monthly like, three days in a hotel to get her shit written, like to get things done. And I just love that this woman was okay. I'm not gonna get anything done. I'm not gonna even try. I'm just going to keep the wheels on the bus, and then every month, I get several days at a hotel uninterrupted. I'm like, I want, I don't even have kids, and I want that. Anyways, before we talk about that, let's talk about how it's March 20th 2025 and it's International Day of Happiness. If you're happy and you know it, celebrate it on International Day of Happiness on March 20th. Brad Crowell 2:21 I thought you were going to clap your hands. Right. Lesley Logan 2:24 Anyways, when I was a kid, my mom would always sing that all the time, so. Brad Crowell 2:27 That's so fun. Lesley Logan 2:28 Other than being in a neutral state, happy is how we should mostly be. Okay. Brad Crowell 2:35 Yeah. Don't fuck it up.Lesley Logan 2:36 Unfortunately, emotions, just feel like that's a lot of pressure. Unfortunately, emotions like anger and sadness are increasingly becoming a default way to be for a lot of us. So here's a day to cheer up and appreciate the good things and silver linings in life. So as you listen to Pharrell Williams's ‘Happy' on repeat, also take a minute this March 20th to consider what truly makes you happy, and how you can pursue it. Well, I can get down with that part of the holiday. Why don't you really take some time to journal what makes me happy, and how can I pursue that more? Brad Crowell 2:43 All right. Lesley Logan 2:54 That's the only part of the song you know. Because I'm happy.Brad Crowell 3:13 That's the best part of the song. Lesley Logan 3:23 Okay. Well, anyways. Brad Crowell 3:24 Good job. Nailing it. Lesley Logan 3:25 We are back from Pilates On Tour. We are home for a little bit, and we are in the middle of the Accessories Flashcard presale. And I promised Brad I was not going to talk about it, but he clearly is sneaking into the show notes. So I'm just going to say, if you know, you know. Brad Crowell 3:41 If you know, you know.Lesley Logan 3:42 And that's how it's gonna be. If you know, you know. Brad Crowell 3:45 And if you don't know, and you're like, what? Lesley Logan 3:46 Go listen to the other recap episode and get the link. But I'm.Brad Crowell 3:49 DM us. Lesley Logan 3:50 But I'm I want you to take or I want you to take action steps sooner. Okay, all right. So what's coming up next that you need to know about is our Spring Training. It is April 27th through May 3rd. It's going to be virtual. There'll be live events and there is replays. So don't worry about it if you are like, oh my God, it's the busiest week of my life, I promise you, you'll be able to attend the things on replay. You want to go to opc.me/events. Pretty soon, I'll tell you what the theme is going to be about this Spring Training. But all the OPC teachers and myself are teaching multiple classes over the week on different pieces of apparatus for different levels of bodies, so that every Pilates lover of any level can have access to moving with accountability, Q&A to get feedback on their form and potentially seeing what OPC is all about. Brad Crowell 4:37 What is it about? Lesley Logan 4:39 Opc.me/events plural to get on the waitlist, which means you get the discount. What's next, Brad? Brad Crowell 4:44 All right. All right. Pilates business owners. Calling all Pilates business owners, go to prfit.biz/accelerator for a free webinar where we're going to dig into the biggest three secrets that Lesley and I have learned after coaching 2500 businesses just like yours, whether you are teaching someone at home, whether you're renting space with someone, or whether you've got a big team in a brick and mortar studio, these three secrets all apply to you, and it's all about how do we make more money? How do we make our businesses actually profitable? And that's what we do at Profitable Pilates. So come join me. It is free, prfit.biz/accelerator. That is profit without the O dot biz slash accelerator. And then finally, what is the last note? Lesley Logan 5:28 Well, you guys have to come to Cambodia with us on a Pilates retreat. Brad Crowell 5:30 Obviously. Lesley Logan 5:31 And some breath work and some visualization and some tips and tools and workshops on how to actually make your life the way you want to live it. Plus you get to see incredible temples that are a thousand years old or older. Brad Crowell 5:43 Mind blowing. Lesley Logan 5:43 You get to go on a beautiful water cruise, and it is incredible because you actually get to see how a city can thrive on the water, and the community they work in.Brad Crowell 5:52 They literally live on boats. Lesley Logan 5:53 Yeah and the community they work in. And this is not some sort of like weird tourism thing. We actually get permission by a community to go into the water. You can see how the city is built. And you actually get to attend one of these amazing shops, where you get to see how women can work remotely, making beautiful pieces of things you can buy, and you can support the village in an incredible way. It's so fun. It's so relaxing. It's really nice, because after all the breath work you'll have done that day, you just go out and just be in peace and not taking in, like, overwhelming information. And then also, we go to a lotus farm, and you can just see how this one guy's company uses every single piece of a lotus flower to not only create beautiful things you want to buy, but also energy in remote places. It's quite amazing. Brad Crowell 6:40 It is astounding. Lesley Logan 6:40 It's astound, I mean, it's like, this, it's this guy's like, how can I, like, change the world? And he is doing it and we get to go show you that. So it's in October. You want to go to crowsnestretreats.com to snag your spot. If you're like, I'm gonna do the next one. We haven't planned it yet. Brad Crowell 6:53 We haven't planned it yet. Lesley Logan 6:55 And that is because this is your next time. This is the time.Brad Crowell 6:57 This is your next time.Lesley Logan 6:58 So come.Brad Crowell 6:59 Yeah. So join us at the end of this year, in October, looking forward to it. Lesley Logan 7:03 It's a great time. It's before all the chaos of the end of the year. So it's a really good time, because. Brad Crowell 7:07 It really is. Lesley Logan 7:08 You can reset before the chaos of the holidays, and then you'll have all these tools and things that we'll have done in the workshops and the Pilates to help set you up for 2026.Brad Crowell 7:17 Some breath work, some mindset. Go to crowsnestretreats.com crowsnestretreats.com. Okay, we have an audience question before we dig into this awesome conversation with Kristen McGuiness.Lesley Logan 7:28 That was August. That earthquake, you guys, if you're watching on YouTube, was her, it's earthquake August. Brad Crowell 7:33 Earthquake August. Okay, love_Danielle on IG asks, when will your flashcards be available again on Amazon and is there a discount code available?Lesley Logan 7:44 So the time this comes out, we should be back stocked on Amazon. We were selling out all of our OG Matt decks, and we had to completely sell out of that deck on Amazon before the new mat deck could come up. So that's now available on Amazon. Our Reformer Deck is our bestselling deck.Brad Crowell 8:02 It's hard to keep in stock, not a lot. Lesley Logan 8:04 It's hard to keep in stock. Brad Crowell 8:05 Thank you for supporting us. Lesley Logan 8:06 So thank you. We love that you love it. And at the time that you were asking this question, we did have some in stock on our website, but not on Amazon. So what we'll say is we should be stocked on Amazon. We do not have discount codes available for any of our decks, and it's mostly because actually, we're really a small business, guys, and these decks are really a lot of work to put together, and they actually cost a lot of money to print out. And so while we would love to just give the discounts around everywhere, we do have to make sure that they continue to pay for themselves. We continue hitting print on them. And so you can buy them on Amazon. You could also buy them from us, and if you buy them from us, we obviously can make more money to support more Pilates adventures that are out there. We do.Brad Crowell 8:47 We love Amazon, but they take a whole lot. We have a love-hate relationship with Amazon. Lesley Logan 8:51 At the moment, if you are the people trying to do your best to boycott places like Amazon and Target and things like that, we fully support you. And what you can do in your targeting of boycotts is be very intentional about who you're shopping from. So if you are going to shop on Amazon, shopping from people like us is a great thing. Small businesses, because it really does affect us in a positive way, Amazon allows people to find our products who don't know us, and so that's why we are there. It's not because we're like pro everything that they do, we actually need to be found. Brad Crowell 9:22 We intentionally sell on our website.Lesley Logan 9:24 Yeah. So if you buy from our website, it's better for all of us. And then the people that you're not enjoying and want, not wanting them to make money, don't. So you can buy from us, and then we get it all. Brad Crowell 9:33 Yeah. So go to opc.me/flashcards. Lesley Logan 9:36 So in case you're wondering why we're on there, if you don't own a business with products, you need to understand that the way the world works, we, unfortunately, as product based businesses, have to be where people already are. And so that exposes them to OPC, and then hopefully they come over to our side, and then they find all of our amazing stuff. But I don't judge any of the people who shop on there, because we do, too. It's convenient. So anyways, all this to say, yes, they're there. They should be back in stock, and you can also buy from us. Brad Crowell 10:07 Awesome. Well, stick around. We'll be right back, because we're going to talk with Kristen McGuiness, who is an author. And she talks about how does she escape the chaos of being an entrepreneur and being a mom to be able to write books. So, pretty cool stuff. Great conversation. She sounds amazing. Stick around. We'll be right back.Brad Crowell 10:27 Okay, now, let's talk about Kristen McGuiness. Kristen is a bestselling author, book publisher and a book coach with a deep passion for storytelling and empowering others to find their own voice. With years of experience, Kristen has helped countless others bring their ideas to life. Her own writing journey includes her novel, Live Through This, a compelling and thought-provoking exploration of resilience and activism. Beyond her professional accomplishments, Kristen is a mother, an entrepreneur who believes in creating space for creativity and living a life aligned with purpose. Lesley Logan 11:00 I mean, thank you Roxy Menzies, who introduced us. Because I just. Brad Crowell 11:04 I was wondering how the dots got connected there. Lesley Logan 11:06 Yeah, yeah. I really enjoyed this intro. I feel like, if we lived in Ohio, Santa Barbara, we would all be friends. We'd be, you know, doing life in the daytime, and then I would figure out when she's gonna be at that hotel, and I would get another room, and then we could have drinks at the end of the day, going, what did you fucking create? Like, this is what I dreamed of, Kristen. Anyways, I just think she'd be cool, but I also appreciated her vulnerability and honesty. I feel sometimes a lot of moms have to, like, show us all the hats that they can wear in a day. And Kristen was pretty honest about how, no. So she said, I think my creative fuel tank is the same place where I draw my maternal energy from. They are both creative forces. When I'm in my mom mode, I'm running off of that creative fuel in the same way I would be if I was writing or editing. But she highlighted the importance of taking time for herself, and she said, at the end of the day, I've got nothing left. I mean, I could do an Excel spreadsheet, but I'm not going to come with a masterpiece. And I actually, really love that. She is actually not putting pressure on herself to write something amazing. On the same day, she just ran a household, and I found that to be cool. Brad Crowell 11:06 It's amazing permission. Lesley Logan 11:06 Yeah, amazing permission. I do. I think that, well, it takes a lot because you're like, oh, but you got this thing that you want to write, this thing you want to do, and a creative is like, I've got to birth this thing. And I really think it's cool that she gives herself permission to be where she's at and do what she's doing, wherever that is. So if she's at the hotel writing her work or her masterpiece, she's not mom and the children. She and her partner have set things up so that she can do that. And I have a lot of girlfriends who have children, and I find even more together, they're not as present as I love them to be, because that boundary isn't there yet. And I think that what's so cool is Kristen gives herself permission to, I have a boundary for my work when I'm with my kids, and I have a boundary for my family when I'm doing this work. And I just think we all could take, even if you don't have kids, you could take permission for that. Go to, I want to go to a hotel this month just by myself.Brad Crowell 13:03 Me too. Lesley Logan 13:04 Well, maybe not march. This is a, this is a heck of a month, but April, I'm doing it in April.Brad Crowell 13:09 Okay, okay. I have a couple things. She said one thing that I thought was really interesting, she commented on being a grown ass woman still having to tell her parents that she's going to a conference when she just rented a fucking hotel room for herself because of the generational assumption of work hard, play hard. Okay, this was like a super side note. Nothing to do with writing, but I thought it was such an interesting observation. It made me think about it as I was listening to the interview. You know, she said her parents' generation is actually sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice until you get retired and then y'all can go, you know, take a long walk. The rest of my life is for me. I'm never doing anything for anybody ever again, as opposed to the way that she's doing her life, which I think is very generational, because I'm more associated with her. My parents very much are in the way that her parents are. But she's like how can I enjoy some of my life now and not have to wait till I'm 65 and retired to in quote-unquote, enjoy my life, and also this idea of just like 1,000% self sacrifice until that time, maybe there's a happy medium in there that I think we can have. So anyway, that is not what we had written down here for me to chat about today, but I just thought it was so powerful that I wanted to reiterate that. Lesley Logan 14:29 Also, just in case anyone feels guilty about a fib like that, that is, don't, sometimes people in our lives are just not going to understand why we do what we do. We don't need their permission. We don't actually need them to understand. So just tell them what they need to hear so you can go do the thing you want to do. Brad Crowell 14:47 Well, actually, instead of encouraging people to lie, that's not what we're encouraging here, what I think is a better through line is it's another boundary. She created a boundary between, you know, she heard her mom for this specific experience, so that she doesn't have to go through this emotional roller coaster and then justify all the thing and the expense and the la, la, la, you know, and then be judged. And you know, all that.Lesley Logan 14:48 When you also speak, even if we call it boundary, just so you know, you also don't have to explain why your boundaries exist. Brad Crowell 15:20 You don't. Lesley Logan 15:20 And if you need help with that, the holistic psychologist constantly reminds you that you actually do not have to explain why a boundary is a boundary that. Brad Crowell 15:28 It just is. Lesley Logan 15:28 It just is. Brad Crowell 15:29 Yep, that being said, she was talking about control, right? And she said hey, we clearly can't control things around us. The only thing that we can control are the choices that we make when the things around us are happening. What she was talking about was she's an entrepreneur. Her husband is an entrepreneur. They run different businesses. They also have children. And she's a writer. She said she was reflecting on finding agency in the midst of chaos. And, you know, obviously the most glaring example would be COVID. Like you already mentioned, you could set everything up, but then kablam COVID comes around. She said you need to flip the way you're looking at it, instead of like this shit is happening to me. She said you get to create your own pathway through whatever it is that you're navigating, and that's an opportunity that you have more control over, instead of it's happening to me. So she acknowledged life's unpredictability and emphasized it's just this thing of at a certain point you didn't hit that first domino, and you just have to sometimes be okay, we're in the pressure cooker right now, but relief is always on the way, right? And she shared she had a mantra. I actually thought it was great, because she clearly knows our audience. She said, I'm gonna write my way through this chaos. I'm gonna write my way through it because she's a writer. She said, maybe for you guys, you're gonna have to Pilates your way through the chaos. You know what I mean, wherever is your safe zone.Lesley Logan 16:51 I agree, whether you write or do Pilates, there has to be something that you're doing for yourself to process what you're going through. When I found out that Jay had passed away, it was on a Tuesday, and I still showed up for my session on Wednesday. And it's because moving through the grief made it actually easier to grieve. Or when there's a lot going on, you might just want to, like, keep watching the news and just watch them repeat that shit over and over again to keep you there until the next ad break. Or you can go move your body and get CliffsNotes later, because we have to, or you can go write, or you can go journal, or whatever it is, we have to have some way of processing what we're going through so that we can go back to the beginning, whatever the next step is, and keep going. I find that in today's chaos, a lot of people are waiting for things to be better before they take the first next step, and sometimes you just have to take it. So, you can use whatever that creative energy is to use that to go through whatever is going on.Brad Crowell 16:51 Yeah, well, listen, stick around. We'll be right back, because we're going to dig into some really juicy be it action items that we had. Lesley Logan 17:07 It's such a good, such a robust episode.Brad Crowell 17:58 With Kristen McGuiness. We'll be right back. Brad Crowell 18:01 Welcome back. All right, let's talk about those Be It Action Items. What bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted action items can we take away from your conversation with Kristen McGuiness? She said if I care about my creative careers, whatever that thing is that I love to do or that you love to do, you've got to create a boundary around it and hold that sacred, okay? So this is, again, the through line here of today's episode is boundaries. She shared that if you truly care about something, whether it is a creative project, a personal passion, personal passion, or even self-care, you must be intentional about carving out time to do it. Right? There's no question about it. Setting clear boundaries allows you to dedicate energy towards what it is that actually fulfills you, even when life gets demanding. And I think that's the hardest part. She said it's about creating those pockets of freedom, the pockets of concentration and the pockets of creativity. So we've got the POFs.Lesley Logan 18:58 The POFs, POC and POC again. Brad Crowell 19:01 Yeah, POF. We'll call them POFs, Pockets Of Freedom. And I think that's another argument for taking time to the hotel like she did. Lesley Logan 19:09 Those all fall under gemstone time. Brad Crowell 19:12 That's right. Lesley Logan 19:13 So, if you come on my retreat, or you've ever heard me talk about how to create an ideal schedule, your gemstone time is time you have to protect. Brad Crowell 19:21 Gotta protect it. Lesley Logan 19:21 And it is the time where you do things that you need to concentrate and be creative on. So, you know, the things that can propel your life and your dreams forward.Brad Crowell 19:30 Yeah, actually moving things forward. So, what about you? Lesley Logan 19:33 Never lose sight of your dreams no matter what. She said this and I think one of the authors that Oprah quoteed was Gertrude Lyons who said, "The only times I've ever made mistakes in life is when I've chosen to ignore that voice." So that voice being your intuition, the thing that you want to do. And I think that's so true. I think we can all look back and look at things we regret, and it's like, oh, I didn't turn left when I knew I should have, I turned right or I should have done this. And she said, as long as you're listening to the small, quiet voice inside you, you will lways end up where you need to go. And this is actually just one of the truest things. I mean, just like us sitting here in this house, this was like a small voice going kitchen both now, think you should go now, think, you know what I mean, and not letting all the things. Brad Crowell 20:13 I think you should go now. I think you should go now. Lesley Logan 20:19 What if we made a meditation, which is like, I think you should go now. Brad Crowell 20:22 Today is the day that you should go.Lesley Logan 20:29 Create a boundary. Brad Crowell 20:31 Going is what today is for. Lesley Logan 20:34 Boundaries are kind.Lesley Logan 20:36 Anyways, I hope that you take some time to listen to Kristen's episode a couple of times. And really, ladies, especially my ladies, I know there's a few good men who listen, but ladies, I hope you realize this person, she's not perfect. She's not claiming to be perfect. She is really, truly honoring what is possible and when it's possible, and making sure that she doesn't ever stop focusing on what her dreams are, even if it means they're in pockets of freedom and pockets of concentration. So. Brad Crowell 21:01 Tell us about your POFs. Lesley Logan 21:02 We want to know. Brad Crowell 21:03 Yeah. Lesley Logan 21:04 Yeah. I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 21:05 And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 21:06 Thank you so much for listening to this episode, and every episode you listen. This is episode 500. Brad Crowell 21:10 Five hundo.Lesley Logan 21:11 Cue the balloons. Nope. You don't have it on your thing. I would. I just, if you're, okay, well, if you, I think you did, it's okay. It's beyond. It's past now. If you're listening, they don't even know, but we're trying to do balloons. There we go, confetti, on the, on the YouTube. You can see it on the YouTube. We love you. You're amazing. 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Lesley Logan speaks with author and publisher Kristen McGuiness about balancing motherhood, entrepreneurship, and creative pursuits. Kristen shares her journey in publishing, how she makes time for writing, and the inspiration behind her novel Live Through This. She also discusses activism, navigating personal challenges, and the importance of following your inner voice.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How Kristen transitioned from editor to author while working in the publishing industry.The realities of balancing motherhood and a creative career.Why creating boundaries around personal time is essential for productivity.The inspiration behind Live Through This and its connection to real-world issues.Different forms of activism and how storytelling can drive change.The importance of trusting your intuition and taking action despite uncertainty.Episode References/Links:Rise Literary Website - https://riseliterary.comRise Literary Instagram - https://instagram.com/riseliteraryKristen McGuiness Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kristenmcguiness/Guest Bio:Kristen McGuiness is the bestselling author of 51/50: The Magical Adventures of a Single Life, which was optioned by Original Films/CBS Cable with Alison Brie attached to star, and her new novel, Live Through This, which was released from Rise Books on October 10, 2023. She has over twenty years' experience in book publishing, as an author, editor, and book publisher, with such houses as St. Martin's Press, Simon & Schuster, and Harper Collins. Kristen is the publisher of Rise Books, launching in 2023, which publishes fiction, non-fiction, and poetry of radical inspiration, and also runs the book coaching company, Rise Writers, which provides book coaching and management for emerging and established authors. Kristen has appeared on the “TODAY Show,” in USA Today, and in Marie Claire, and has written for numerous publications, including Rolling Stone, Marie Claire, Shondaland, Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Psychology Today, Salon, and The Fix. She lives in Ojai, CA with her husband, two children, and a dog named Peter. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.DEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Be It babe, oh my gosh. Okay, I felt like I just met a dear friend who I've never known. But it's kind of shocking how we didn't know each other before, because I felt like our paths would have crossed. She's an author, she's a publisher, she's a mom, she's an honest, vulnerable human being who I think is going to inspire the heck out of you to lean into who you are and how you do things. And I just really, truly love this conversation. We are going to talk a lot about how Kristen McGuiness got into books, what her world is in books, how she does it and writes especially with kiddos. You're gonna hear some great ideas I hope you use. I love her quotes at the end. I will just say that we do get into talking a little bit about mass shootings and school shootings because of her fiction book. So just protect your heart if that is something raw for you in this moment. But I hope you listen, because I actually can't wait to read her book, and so I'm gonna read it before I do the recap, because it just sounds really cool, and I'm really inspired in this moment. And so I'm saying this after I interviewed her, so I know that you'll be inspired as soon as you're done listening to this. So here is Kristen McGuiness. All right, Be It babe. This is going to be fabulous. I already know it. I just met Kristen McGuiness a minute ago, but I can tell by who she is and what she's been up to that you are going to love this person, because, like you, they wear many hats. So Kristen, can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at?Kristen McGuiness 2:11 Absolutely and thank you for having me on I'm so glad we were finally able to do this. And it always ends up being perfect timing when you get to do these things and the day and moment you get to do them, when it, you know, made sense at the other time. But, yeah, I'm Kristen McGuiness and I'm a book lady. I mean, I think that's the or a book bitch, depending on the moment. But I've been doing books my whole life, you know, since I was a kid, I always say they're my first addiction. I ended up gathering more than that, less healthy addictions, but I started with books. And just, you know, the places and imagination that we get to escape to when we're reading. And it's no wonder that that became my profession. I continued to love books, you know, try to write books. I ended up starting my career in book publishing at St. Martin's Press and Simon & Schuster and then later Harper Collins. I worked as a book scout in Hollywood for a brief bit, like reading books to develop into movies for Warner Brothers. And then I became a book publisher and a book coach and a bestselling author myself. So it's just, it's all books all the time. That's what I do, and a big and amazing part of that has been helping other people write their books. Lesley Logan 3:21 Okay. That is so fun. That's so cool. I imagine you as like a girl, little girl, like reading all the time, and then you get to just read all the time. Like, how fun is that? Okay. I think where I'd want to start is, it sounds like you were in books, but then you wrote a book. So what was it like to go from reading other people's work and, like, not picking it apart but going, oh, this would be great for this, or this is great for this, and then to writing your own? Was it an easy transition? Were you nervous? Were you excited? Like, what was going on?Kristen McGuiness 3:49 You know, there's some editors that are happy to be editors, and they know that's like, what they love to do. I was always an editor who wanted to be a writer, and so that's just a different dynamic. And I still love editing. I mean, I can simultaneously be editing a book and writing a book at the same time and enjoy both processes. And I mean, honestly, sometimes the editing is more fun because, you know, the stakes aren't as high, right? Like, and it's not on me. I mean, it's on me to help it be good, but I'm not the source of the goodness. Whereas when you were the author, it's really hard to be like, I'm a shitty editor. It's really easy to be like, I'm a shitty writer. So I really enjoy getting to do both. But I was definitely always someone who wanted to do both. I mean, I ended up leaving book publishing, and that's how I wrote my first book. I went into the world of nonprofits, and that became like a secondary career to books during a period of my life just because I moved out to California and there was no, I mean, now there's more opportunities in that field, but at that time, there was, like, no book publishing in Southern California, and I preferred I wanted the weather. So I chose weather over books.Lesley Logan 4:55 Wow, you really wanted the weather.Kristen McGuiness 4:59 I do. I really like the sun. Lesley Logan 5:00 Oh my God. Well, and you have some sun going on you. And also, I understand that, as someone who's California born and raised, I can visit a city, and I'm like, I could do two weeks in this weather, but I gotta go back.Kristen McGuiness 5:12 Yeah, no, I very romantically lived in Paris for one year, and my friends all joke about, like, how much Kristen hates Paris. And I'm like, I don't hate Paris. It was just that it was gray every day, and I ended up with seasonal affective disorder. Like it wasn't, I mean, it was like nothing I could control. I was just horrifically depressed and wanted to throw myself into the sun every day. But I'm like, it really wasn't Paris's fault. I just need sunshine. Lesley Logan 5:36 It's just like the location of Paris is just not ideal.Kristen McGuiness 5:41 If I could pick it up and move it somewhere else, that'd be fantastic. So I, you know, I ended up moving out to California and ended up in nonprofits, and that's when I did write my first book. And I think I did have to remove myself from the book publishing industry in order to write a book. And I don't think that's true anymore. I'm doing both very simultaneously right now, but in that period of my life, I did so that I could just really have that fuel tank of creative energy just for me. Lesley Logan 6:10 Yeah, yeah. I understand that. I I think, like even just to not have distractions or especially with something new, even though books weren't new to you, but writing your own is a new thing. You kind of have to, like, kind of immerse yourself so you can really get into it. You know, I know your mom, and I think having all of these hats and then having kids, I know, like, for our listeners, there's always people going, how do they balance it? And I don't have children. So when I say, I don't think balance is real. People nod, but don't really listen to me, because like, but I don't I think that there's a blend. And I think that, you know, my yoga teacher says balance is the art of not falling, and that just means that you're kind of tilting over here, and then you're tilting over here and you're trying not to fall either way. And that resonates with me. But can we talk a little about what it's like to be curating this amazing career that you have, you know, being in books, of writing books and being a publisher and doing that while, you know, parenting and bringing kids into this world. What was it like? Kristen McGuiness 7:06 Well, that's why I'm in a hotel room right now. So, you were like, so how do you, I'm like, I literally go to a hotel room two nights a month. That's what I do. And I joke, again, I'm a former addict, so it's like a drug vendor. I'm like a Hunter Biden, but with books. So I just, like, pull myself up in a hotel room for like, 48 hours, and I just write like a wild Banshee with caffeine and Red Bull. I mean, I find, though, whatever that looks like for people, I do think it's about creating the pockets of freedom and the pockets of concentration and the pockets of creativity, because, I mean, I'm also just somebody, like, I always eat one thing at a time. I'm not good at, like, fully integrating. So I can't be in the middle of parenting and then be like, give me five kids. I'm gonna go edit a book. My brain doesn't work that way. And I do think, speaking of the creative fuel tank, I think, at least for me, my creative fuel tank is the same place where I draw my maternal energy from, not surprisingly, because they're both creative forces. And so when I'm in my mom mode and I'm really with my kids, I am running off that creative fuel in the same way I would be if I was writing or editing. So I think it is really hard to be a creative and a mom, because if I've been momming all day long, like I, at the end of the day, I've got nothing left. I mean, I could, like, do an Excel spreadsheet. I can put the dishes in the dishwasher, but I'm not going to come up with a masterpiece. And so I've really learned how to pull this time out. Hence, I mean, I wrote a screenplay in the last 12 hours, that's what I have done here today. So I came here yesterday at 3pm and I was like, we're writing a screenplay before I got that podcast tomorrow, and I literally finished it right before we began. But that's how I've learned to like, if I'm if I care about my creative career, which is not even a career that pays my bills. I mean, that's still, you know? I mean, it's still, like a speculative career, if I care about that, whatever that thing is that you love to do, like, I've got to really create a boundary for myself to make that something that I hold sacred.Lesley Logan 9:14 I am obsessed with this. I love this so much. I really do. I, first of all, my friends make fun of me because I'm like, oh, you're going there. This is my favorite hotel. Because I love a hotel. I find I get so much done. I wasn't even in a hotel on Monday, but I was at a friend's house, it kind of felt like a hotel. And I was like, oh, I got all my work done in three hours. Okay. And I was like, that is so funny, because when you're at home, there's so many distractions. Like, before we're on this podcast, we have an older dog. By the time this episode comes out, it's probably passed at this point, but, you know, it's hard. It's how you're like, oh, okay, so we're gonna be late on that call because I got this thing, and then I gotta do some laundry. And you just can't be that creative person. You have to kind of remove yourself. But I also just love that you highlight, like, I have pockets of this, and I think protecting those pockets, like a pocket of this type of thing I'm going to focus on this here. It allows you to kind of show up and be their best version of yourself in that moment, and not kind of stress about all the things you thought you'd fill in those two hours. Kristen McGuiness 10:08 Yeah, yeah, I've learned. I mean, I've, I mean, look, I think most moms struggle with self sacrifice because motherhood really demands it. I mean, it is hard you constantly or be laboring like, how do I, I don't want to put myself ahead of my kids. I mean, I want to, you know, I mean, they are in and I have young children. I have a five year old and a nine year old. I mean, the nine year is obviously more independent, but they're still school-aged children. I don't have teenagers at home, and so there is a lot of caregiving, physical, emotional, psychological that is taking place. And I want to prioritize that I am a mom who prioritizes being a mom, but I also don't want to lose myself in that activity, and I don't think that is healthy for my children either. And when I do lose myself, that's when I am my worst mom, that's when I'm angry, that's when I'm quick to temper. It's when I don't feel like I'm getting to take care of me. And so I've just really learned that, you know, I come, you know, my mom's, like, a boomer, we're actually in a fight right now, so it's really interesting. And we're, and it's a fight about exactly these things like these intergenerational dynamics of like, I have to, like, still lie to my parents and tell them that I'm here doing a business meeting. Because they'd be like, why are you spending money on a hotel to work on a screenplay that you're not getting paid to do? And I'm like, because I will go insane, otherwise, it is so valuable for me to stay sane and creative and whole and human. My mom came from a generation, although she's incredibly makes very selfish choices now, like it was all about, like, you sacrifice all the way up until retirement, and then you just get to be selfish every minute of the day. And I'm like, that doesn't look I mean, I think we've seen by the gross impacts of your generation's choices, that probably wasn't a good idea. But also I don't think that makes it like a well-lived life. I want to feel like I'm getting to show up for others and getting to show up for me in some level of consistency. And I absolutely agree, like balance is just not falling down. And also, sometimes I think balance is falling down because that's also part of it. You're like, oh, fuck. You know, like, I'm off. But I do think creating that integration between we take care of others, but we still take care of ourselves and our dreams and who we are, and not losing that identity that exists before, during and long after our children are grown.Lesley Logan 12:22 Yeah, and also, I just think it's really cool for your young kids to see that you do protect the things that you love. You protect your time with them, but also they're seeing you go and protect the time for who, like, whether or not you get paid for the screenplay. Like, it's not about that, because the screenplay could lead to something else, into something else, but, like, it makes you feel whole, and it makes you feel alive, just as much as parenting would, but it's a different part of you. And so I think it's cool they get to see that, because then they get to, when they get older, know that there's an option for them, you know, like, there's, there's possibilities, and there's ways they get to see it an example. Kristen McGuiness 12:57 Yeah, no, I, and I think it's really about like showing. It's, I mean, again, I've just written, like, literally, I'm just coming off of writing the screenplay, and there's a whole like, scene in the screenplay where one of the characters say, we can't control what happens around us, right? The only thing we can control are the choices we make in that, you know? I mean, I'm an entrepreneur. My husband is also an entrepreneur, which is just, I mean, the level of insanity that that brings, and especially in the last couple of years where, like, the global economics have been far out of our control, so we've been terribly impacted by sort of the larger financial environment. And I'm like, but you know what? We get to make choices within that. And that doesn't mean that all of them are happy, some of them are hard. But just to feel like I have no choice, and that this, well, this is just the way it is, right? And it's like, no, I mean, we get to create our own pathway through whatever we're navigating. To me, you know, I always say to myself, it's like my little mantra, like, I'm going to write my way through this, whatever is going on, I'm going to write my way through this. And that's just, you know, for others might be, I'm going to Pilates my way through this, right? Like, whatever the thing is that's your source of healing. And also the thing that helps you to understand how and why life happens. That's what you have to tap into. And without that, I mean, then I think you are just on the floor, right? Then you can't even, then there's no balance, because you can't even, like, you don't even have a foundation underneath you.Lesley Logan 14:16 Yeah, yeah, it's so true. There's a million things that go on in a day. I was just recording the podcast drops that we call FYFs, Fuck Yeah Friday, and it's just a short episode where I share listeners wins, and I share one of mine. And I was like, there's 17 things that have gone wrong today, like 17, and they're all out of the control. None of them were things like, I knocked the first domino forward on that. So you have to just go, okay, what are those do I need to deal with? Can I just put that over here? Or what can I do? What is possible in this moment for me to handle so that I can keep moving the ball forward? Because, like you, my husband and I are both entrepreneurs. We work together, which is this own level of insanity. Kristen McGuiness 14:53 I love you both. Lesley Logan 14:55 I know everyone's like, so how do you do it? And I was like, I'm just gonna tell you right now. We're still figuring that out, and I think communication is really key, and sometimes we suck at it, but you try and you just go, okay, didn't handle that so good. Next time, I'll handle that better. But I think it's really there's honesty about it, and I love that you said you write your way through it. Some people will Pilates their way through it, or journal their way through it, or take a long bathrobe. But like, you, there's got to be a process for which you reflect and learn and integrate what's going on in your life.Kristen McGuiness 15:26 No, absolutely, and yeah, again. God bless you for being an entrepreneur with your husband. I try to, sometimes I have to help my husband with his business, and I'm like, I would quit this job in like five minutes, but he owns a restaurant, which is, like, I think the worst business you could open, honestly, I'm like, oh my God, every time I go to eat now at a restaurant, I have so much grace and gratitude for what happens. Our pediatrician once said, no one knows how expensive the cheat meal is. And I was like, so true. Like, you have no idea what people do to sell you food in a restaurant.Lesley Logan 16:01 Oh, you're, bless your husband and all the restaurateurs out there, but that's, I don't like the margins, but I would say books are very similar. So I feel.Kristen McGuiness 16:11 You realize that, thank you. We kind of realized that a little late. We're working our way through that. We did not know that. We thought, we knew that books were a slim profit margin. We naively thought the restaurant business wasn't. Then we discovered both were at the same time. We were like, you know, there's a great Macklemore song where he says, if I had done it for the money, I would have been a fucking lawyer. And I'm like, that's like, my bumper sticker I got in the back of my car. We're truly here for love and fun, and the belief in, apparently, pizza and books, but pizza is important. I will never deny that. But, yeah, no. I mean, we have learned. I mean, we are in a very high stress, double entrepreneurial situation, and also have an aging dog, and we are also in the end zone of what's to come on that. And it's just, it's so brutal, and yes, and it's the same thing where, like, there are days where we do not do it well, certainly. And then, like, recently, I've just, you know, been realizing that there is so much about this that you have to take your hands off the wheel, you know. And I've joked, like, I know, if you have seen the other the little gif at some point, I think everybody has. It's like, the end of Thelma and Louise. We're like, Thelma and Louise grab hands, and then the car flies off the Grand Canyon and like a hubcap falls off. And I've been using that gift is like, I just send it to everybody I work with, because I'm like, this is my business strategy. And last night, when my friends was like, you can't tell people that. And I was like, no, but it is because there is something about living your dreams that is just like a hope, a prayer and floor the fucking car, and, like, off you go, and you got to know that you're going to land. It might be a terrifying drop, but you're going to land. I mean, obviously, hopefully not in fire and death, but that's not going to happen, right? Like, no business ends like that. And so it is just this thing of, like, at a certain point you can work really hard, you can do all the strategies, right? But like, ultimately you didn't hit the first domino. And you just have to sometimes be like, Mercury is in retrograde, and we're just gonna wait until August 28 rolls around. Everything goes direct, or whatever it is, the thing that you know is, like, this is just, we're in the pressure cooker right now, but like, relief is always on the way. Lesley Logan 18:22 Oh, my God, this retrograde? We are feeling in every possible way of tech. I'm like, Okay, well, okay, we'll just redo that. We're like, I have a astrologist that I listen to who's always like, if it's put an argument in front of it, and that's the best thing, refine, reorganize, read, we're redoing. We're just gonna but I agree, you do have to take the action. You do have to put the pedal to the metal, but then you also have to, like, release and go, you know, it's gonna end somewhere. And some of the best things that ever happened in my business were the ones that felt that kind of happened for me, or to me or without, without the control, and I just have, it's not the right place at the right time, because I did the work to get there. But also, couldn't have happened without some just like magical or universal or divine appointment that happened along the way. And then you just have to ride that. You just have to enjoy that. And I also think it is crazy that I work with my husband. I also am so grateful because it's really fun to work with him. And I don't know that a lot of people can put up with my creative energy. There's not a lot of people who would be like, we love that idea. Lesley, we're gonna put that over here. You know, like a partner can go, yeah, later, until later. It's really refreshing and also just really nice to hear like, you know, you don't have everything figured out. Not everything happens the exact way it's supposed to. You didn't just turn a light switch on, and things worked. So thank you for sharing that. I want to get into, like, your latest book, is it Live Through This, and I just, can you tell us maybe, like, what was the drive like, why did you have to, like, why was it something you wanted to, like, get out of you, and what are you hoping that people get from it? Kristen McGuiness 19:52 Absolutely, yeah. I mean, I really lived through this. That nine-year-old was, at the time, only one years old. So it was in 2016, and it is not a spoiler alert, because it happens in chapter two. There's actually a mass shooting that sort of is the impetus for the whole story that kind of explodes across the rest of the pages, quite literally. And I was really moved to write it because, I mean, obviously we are a nation that deals with mass shootings all the time, but as we know, it's almost like a season, like there are these moments where it just feels like it's every day, you know, you're just like, oh my God, another one. Oh my God, another one. And 2016 felt that way. There were a lot of them, sort of back to back, and they had actually happened in places where I knew or was just felt like really emotionally connected to, actually, the shooting that happened in Paris, the Bataclan attack in November of 2015 I think that was, was in the neighborhood where we used to live in Paris. Someone was actually shot on our street corner. And then there was a shooting in San Bernardino at the regional center, which was 40 minutes from where I was working at that time at a nonprofit, also in a government building. So we began to get trained in our offices about what to do in the event of a mass shooting. And then the night of the Paul shooting was really the impetus where I was just like, oh my God, enough. My husband and I were about to go to a live concert a couple weeks after that shooting, and I began to get really scared. And I'm just not somebody who has, like, I have no agoraphobia. I'll go anywhere. I don't have a lot of just those kinds of fears. Or I'm really adventurous. I love to be out and about. And it was like a band we love and personally know, and a really fun night. And I actually began to get scared to go. And so it sort of led to this, you know, as a lot of books I think come out, oh, it was like, what would happen if, right? And I was like, what would happen if there was a shooting that night? And out of that began this story. And so it is about a shooting at a nightclub and a concert, and the main character loses her spouse, which, again, it happens in chapter two. So it, you know, it's kind of silly to hide it. And she begins to navigate what happens, not just after you lose someone, but also what happens after you go sort of like accidentally viral and suddenly and I started writing this long before Parkland, but it is the Parkland journey of what happened with a lot of those kids who've experienced significant trauma, not just from the event, but from the activism afterwards, because obviously they wanted to be part of activism, but the, and in the same with the Sandy Hook families and everything that happened with Alex Jones is that they're just dragged through the mud, and it's just so horrible what happens to them, and death threats, and, you know, it's like it was bad enough they went through the shooting, but now they have to go through this. And so she's navigating all of that, but it's 2016, it's on the eve of what ended up being a really shocking election that has dictated the last eight years of our lives. My God. oh my God, please let it end. And so this character isn't just deciding, hey, am I going to be an activist about what just happened to me? But also the story kind of stands on the pinnacle of art, what became our modern times. You know, how am I going to show up in this world as a person? And it's also about, really, her finding her voice, and she's coming out of a very complicated and hard marriage, and she grieves them, and she also has relief from what was a hard marriage. And so it's also about that, you know, I, I had that experience when my own father died, when my husband is completely alive and taking care of our kids, but, but when my father died, I really, you know, I really depicted it more about that relationship, because I had a very complicated relationship with my father, and when he passed away, I had a therapist who said to me, you know, you can have any reaction you want to this, and that includes relief, and it was such a freeing thing, because, you know, it's always like when someone dies, we're supposed to be sad. And it wasn't that I wasn't sad, but also I didn't have the complexity and the trauma of that relationship in my life. And so she's navigating that she has a young child, so she's also navigating being a single mom and all these different pieces. So it's interesting because it's set, now, it's almost like historical fiction, right? Oh, those sweet and gentle times of 2016 the days of yore, so, but it is also a lot about marriage and parenthood and sacrificing your dreams to show up and be a stable you know, I'm going to take care of the family and I'm going to do what I need to do, and she's in a nine-to-five job, and she sacrificed her dreams to just try to be like a normal person, only to discover that there's no such thing as normal, especially in modern America. And so we called it like a modern, suburban Western, because it is about that, and she has to become her own version of a gunslinger in the end.Lesley Logan 24:28 I do love that it's now historical fiction, because I too long for those days sometimes my husband and I sometimes I'm like, I just want to not know the house representative for, like, a state I've never been to. I just want to not know who that person is, but also like, how naive and how unique a time that was as well. Thank you for sharing the story. Now I feel like we need a Be It Till You See It book club, you guys, I want to hear all of your thoughts on reading it. I find fiction fascinating because I actually love it. I grew up on like Judy Blume, which is like fiction but not, you know what I mean. It's like, always based on something that happens, and then it's like, the story of it, your daughter, your it was your nine-year-old just one. Excuse me. Yeah, so with your, was there a part of you that was, like, writing it because also to be a parent of a time when, like, yeah, it's, I don't know how parents in their school, kids school, my mom's a school teacher. She's a first grade school teacher, and the thing she's telling me that she's have to prepare for, I'm like, you should not have a gun. I'm just gonna tell you right now, you know, I grew up with the earthquake drills. Now it's very different. And so was it partly just, it was even therapeutic, or just like, ways for you to kind of understand what you're going into as a parent at a time when this is such a scary thing going on?Kristen McGuiness 25:40 Yeah, no. I mean, that was definitely a driving force. I mean, it's a driving force every day, I think. I mean, especially now that I do have school aged children, and I mean, I make sure I kiss them every morning, just God forbid, I will not let them go to school without hugging them and kissing them. Because I remember one of the Parkland fathers, actually one of them who became quite active. I forget his name now, but he always said that the morning that his daughter left for school, they were really busy, and he didn't hug her and say goodbye, and he never knew he would never not see her again. And I just can't even fathom that pain, especially under the conditions that those murders take place. And so, yeah, I mean, I definitely wrote it for that. I mean, there's a as one of the my blurb authors, Gina Frangello, who's amazing, gave me this great blurb that's saying, like, it's a call to action, and the book really is. I mean, there's a moment in the book where the main character, I discovered, long after writing it, that there's actually a genre called autofiction, which is what I wrote. I just didn't know, you know, my own genre's name, until, like, six months ago, where it's like, it's totally my life, like anybody who reads the book, like, my husband's name is Terry, and my friends all call it the book where Terry dies and like, it freaks them out, because they're like, wait, he's still, he's still alive, like, I just saw him yesterday, but like, it's like the book where Terry dies, and I did. I mean, I did use our lives, because at the time, I had considered writing a memoir, but we're not that exciting of a couple. We don't drink, we don't smoke, we don't cheat on each other. I joke, it would just be like 100 pages of people arguing about finance and ADHD.Lesley Logan 27:08 There's, there's a, there's a group of people who would read that, you know?Kristen McGuiness 27:12 I mean, they still can, because they because the couple still argues about finance and ADHD in the book. But we just, we raised the stakes. They need a little more plot, a little more plot. So I gave it a lot of plot. But I mean, there's a scene in the book where the main character ends up having a meeting with the President of the time prior to Trump. And I didn't like, use Obama's name, but it's clearly him, because Obama would meet with people after those shootings, and she ends up with a one-on-one meeting, because she ends up kind of getting a little fame under her belt, and in that meeting, she flat out asked for an executive order banning assault weapons, because it's just and that's why, I mean, ultimately, I say like that is what? If you ask me what the book is about? Yeah, it's about marriage and single motherhood and mass shootings, but it's really about the need for, excuse me, an executive order banning assault weapons. One point, I'd actually worked on building a whole campaign around that, and an activism campaign, and then with everything that happened with the Biden administration, it didn't make sense. But I was just talking to one of my colleagues the other day, and I was like, look, if Trump makes it into office, we can just say goodbye, but if I'm like, truly, like, see you later, buddy.Lesley Logan 28:14 I know, especially after the most recent Supreme Court situation on that. I was like, What are we doing? Kristen McGuiness 28:18 I know. See on the flip side. Yeah, my husband and I like a boat, a boat sounds good. But if Kamala makes it into the office, there are some real changes that the Democrats have failed to make, multiple times over, with multiple opportunities, with control of the Senate, control of the House, and I would hope that she will take this enthusiasm and momentum, although obviously it will wane, because it is what it is. But I do think that people have returned to the fold in a way that's like, okay, let's just fucking do this. But once she, you know, presumably, gets to do it, she has to do something, because we just can't have somebody else show up again and not take control of the situation. Lesley Logan 28:59 Yeah, I love that. You said that what I'm thinking of is we live in a world where we do all have to be activists of some kind, but not every one of us is someone who wants to stand on a line and protest. That's not everyone's way of being an activist, but there are unique ways where we can be activating in people. And for some, you're barely keeping your head above water. And so your activism is telling your friends to vote, and you voting and doing the research, you know, like that could be your form of activism these days. Because, my goodness, if you don't know the US's voting records, or people are just don't do it. I've been to Australia. They're like, I don't understand. Like, we make it a holiday and everyone does it. It would be so weird to not do it. Kristen McGuiness 29:37 Well, it makes so much sense, wouldn't it? Lesley Logan 29:38 Yeah. And they're like, and you guys are just only this many people. I'm like, I don't really, I don't want to tell you. So for some of you, it might be an activating thing to go do that, but I love that you took this desire, this drive, this passion, and you put it in a form for people who want to have a really good read can be inspired by and also go, oh hold on, wait a minute. There are things that we can do, and there are things that can be done. And from our lips to their ears, my fucking goodness, if they do not hit the ground running, if they get what they need, like, I don't know what we're going to do. Want them to act with a little, just a little bit of urgency would be great, yeah, just that fucking tiny bit. And all this to say, the administration we have currently has done a lot with what they've had, but there was a two year mark where we could have just done a whole lot more, just saying, but I think like you're showing I hope that what everyone here is hearing this is like, you can have different ways of being an activist and different ways of inspiring people to think about what is possible and what can be done and keeping things in the forefront, because you're right, it goes in waves. That's not that we haven't had mass shootings. Unfortunately, they happen every day, and our media doesn't talk about it anymore. And then there'll be one, so then they'll talk about a few, and then they'll keep going, and then it becomes something else. And our media has talked about ADHD. They have a whole different acronym of what their attention span is. And so I appreciate your book, and I also appreciate this is a different way we can all figure out how we can take what we love and still use it to inspire others to take different actions. And I think that's really cool.Kristen McGuiness 31:14 Yeah. And I think, you know, going back sort of full circle on and, I mean, I think everybody has their the thing they used to get through life, right? Like I said, I write my way through this. So for me, my political activism, it makes sense for me to write it. That's the space in which I'm comfortable, you know. And everybody has their space in which they're comfortable. It's about to me, I think the most important thing is, as long as you keep paying attention, because the minute we stop paying attention, and that's the biggest thing too, is whatever way in which you can help other people to pay attention. You know, not just because you post on Instagram, although I don't not recognize how important that is, too. You know, the more that we are sharing information with each other, the more that we are talking, the more that we are activating each other into just awareness, hopefully, the better our world will be and the more we will demand the people in power to make certain decisions. And it does kind of go back into that idea, it's like, you know, we can, we can't control what the President does, but we can make choices every day to be part of that conversation in whatever way feels right and good and aligned with who we are. And so, you know, I've always been a political person, but I do believe that we all have our path through just navigating life and impacts those big systems have on all of us, no matter who we are.Lesley Logan 32:31 Yeah, you're so right. My husband, people wouldn't know, but his second hobby is like political podcast, the amount of research he does, and he's also the type of person who phone banks. So whenever they're like, are you volunteering? Like, only one person in the household can do it. Some of us have to keep the wheels on the bus right here. Kristen McGuiness 32:47 Like, phone banking's over here.Lesley Logan 32:48 He's phone banking, but he, I watch him all the time in his way of activating and activism, he's not afraid of a conversation with someone who disagrees. And he's like, oh, have you heard this podcast? And he'll just use a podcast episode that will explain to someone he's like, just think, just listen to it. There are ways of doing it. He's not on socials. Lucky him. You know. But like we each can have our way of being part of this society and making change. And it can be loud or it can be writing a book. It can be writing a play. It could also be how you teach a class. It can be the types of music that you're using to help and inspire people and have people ask questions. Or it can be like, Brad is like, oh, to our friend who had a flag up, we're like, it's interesting. I wouldn't have expected that from that person, and he just went with quiet curiosity and was like, oh, you should listen to this episode right here. And the guy did, that's where you make really big impact, is on those small relationships. It doesn't feel big in the moment, but it's big over time. And so you're just freaking cool. You're so cool, we're all gonna go read your book. What are you most excited about right now?Kristen McGuiness 33:50 I mean, I just wrote a screenplay in 12 hours, I'm very excited about that.Lesley Logan 33:55 Yeah. What did you guys do listening? She wrote a screenplay in 12 hours. I forgot my laundry in the wash machine. Kristen McGuiness 34:00 That's not what I do every day of my life, folks. So, by no means, there are a lot of days that are just laundry and lifting up a 80 pound dog who can't stand by himself. I take care of a lot of people, no, but I did get to do that. But the exciting part of that, the reason why I just cracked that out, is that Live Through This is actually going to a very big actress in the next week, and I wanted to have some sample writing to go with it. So that was the motivation to be like, I'm having dinner with the producer tonight. And I was like, I'm going to crack out that screenplay. She's a dear friend of mine. I'm going to give her a draft of it tonight, and hopefully next week we can turn around fast enough so that this book and this screenplay that I just wrote that is similar in that it's about, I mean, my poor husband has become a very unfortunate muse, but we just went on a two week trip to Greece that I said was like an odd DC and adventure. It was like, people like, how was your vacation? And I'm like, how do I respond to that? I'm far too honest to be like, it was fun. I'm like, it was not like two weeks laying around Hilton Head. It was a fucking life changing adventure, in good ways and bad. So I decided, you know what, I'm gonna write a screenplay about that experience, except for it includes, you know, talking cats and the goddess Artemis. And it's like, it's super funky and fun, and that's just what I did. And the beauty of it is that I am also a book publisher, and I'm a book coach. I have a book coaching company, Rise Writers, and a book publishing house, Rise Books. So, so much of my time when I am not parenting, I actually am not a writer. That's not what pays the bills, right? So I have this other really big creative job, but it's so much of my time and energy goes into other people's creative projects. So when I just finished that screenplay, I was like, who knows what's gonna happen with this crazy thing I just wrote. But the fact is, I got to just do that for me and the catharsis and excitement. I mean, I'll watch anything with a talking animal. So, I mean, I just figured if nobody else ever wants to see this movie, I'd watch it just for a talking cat named Gordon. Lesley Logan 35:57 Oh, don't you love a pet with, a pet with a human name. I screwed up. We named all of our animals like something important, and the next round is going to be like, Bob and Jonathan.Kristen McGuiness 36:09 My dog's name is Peter. It's actually like, it's so funny, because there are a lot of dogs with human names, but that wouldn't, for that reason. And he also looks like a human so he actually confuses people. When people look at my dog, they're like, oh Peter. And you see, there's a moment where they go, is that a person or a dog? Lesley Logan 36:26 Yeah, yeah, yeah. I understand. I understand. Oh my god. I adore you. I'm so excited to see where this goes. And I just so appreciate your vulnerability and honesty about how you do life, because I think that, for everyone listening, there's something to pick up there. We're gonna take a brief break, and then we're gonna find out how people can find you, follow you, read all of your goodness. All right, Kristen, tell us where people can read your amazing book, or find out if Gordon ever makes it on the big screen. Kristen McGuiness 36:51 Yeah, let's say if ever there was a cat who deserved the big screen. No, you can find me at Kristen McGinnis on Instagram or @RiseLiterary, but my website is riseliterary.com where you can learn more about me and the book publishing house, Rise Books, as well as all of our book coaching programs. If you are writing a book and are interested in finding out how you do that, we offer lots of ways to find your path to publishing, which is like our trademarkable motto. But also you can find Live Through This anywhere it's sold. It's distributed by Simon & Schuster. So we are everywhere, Barnes and Noble, Amazon, I guess I will flash the book, yeah. So wherever books are sold. So yeah, but otherwise, just come and check us out and hope to connect with some of y'all listening soon.Lesley Logan 37:40 All right, before I let you go, bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Kristen McGuiness 37:48 All right. This is, when I read the email beforehand. I was like, yikes.Lesley Logan 37:55 I know you know what though, you're brilliant. It'll, every like, it's gonna be brilliant, whatever you say, so don't be yikes.Kristen McGuiness 38:02 No. I mean, I think if I could just show the gift from the end of Thelma and Louise, that would be it. But, I mean, I do think it is it, you know. I mean, I think it's about never lose sight of the dream, no matter what, and no matter what gets in the way, you know, no matter what life shows up, no matter what children you have, no matter where your marriage goes, or whether you get married or not, or whether you have kids, no matter whether the dog passes away or you get a kitten, you know, no matter what comes there's this great I think it's an Emmy Lou Harris song that says all that you have is your soul. And I think that that's really true. We are always there underneath it all, and as long as we connect back into that, and I'll actually end on an Oprah quote, one of my authors put this in a book that she just, we're publishing in May, called Rewrite the Mother Code. I will also honor her, Dr Gertrude Lyons, she's writing it, and she puts this Oprah quote in there that said, I've learned, and I'm going to not say the quote perfectly, but like I've learned over time that there is always a small, quiet voice inside me that's leading me where I'm supposed to go. And the only times I've ever made mistakes in life is when I've chosen to ignore that voice. And I think that, to me, is the biggest step is like, as long as you're listening to the small, quiet voice inside you, you will always end up where you need to go, so you don't need to grip the wheels so tightly. Let go and get the gas and enjoy the view. Lesley Logan 39:30 Oh, Kristen, I'm obsessed. You're amazing. Y'all, how are you going to use these tips in your life? Let Kristen know. Let us know at the Be It Pod. Share this with a friend. Sometimes it's like the thing that someone needs to help them listen to that voice inside and, you know, write their way through it, or Pilates their way through it, or whatever it is, because we all have something we can do in this world. Thank you so much. And until next time everyone, Be It Till You See It. That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. 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HeHe is joined by Dr. Gertrude Lyons to discuss the journey of living a fuller, more purposeful life, and the importance of authenticity in motherhood. Dr. Lyons shares her life story from a career in finance to transformational coaching, emphasizing the impact of premarital counseling, personal growth, and home birth experiences. They delve into the concept of the 'mother wound,' handling postpartum changes, and the importance of maintaining a sense of self while parenting. The conversation offers practical insights for aspiring and current mothers on navigating societal expectations, the importance of self-care, and utilizing support systems. The episode also highlights Dr. Lyons' upcoming book, 'Rewrite the Mother Code,' and her online course, 'Journey into the Dark,' aimed at exploring feminine aspects of self. 08:16 Journey to Personal Growth 10:16 Transformative Experiences in Motherhood 11:38 Challenges and Realizations 15:28 The Importance of Therapy 23:22 Understanding the Mother Wound 37:20 Navigating Parenthood and Personal Growth 42:05 Tuning into Your Intuitive Voice 43:05 Creating a Support System 49:41 Addressing Common Objections 56:01 Navigating Social Judgments 58:10 The Home Birth Experience 01:02:26 Empowerment Through Birth Choices 01:15:32 Introducing Dr. Gertrude's Book 01:21:06 Final Thoughts and Farewell Guest Bio: Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a visionary leader in the realms of self-mothering, holistic women's empowerment, and deep relationship transformation. With over 25 years of experience, she weaves together a rich tapestry of wisdom, education, and certifications to create a holistic, integrative, and nurturing approach to personal growth and healing. In her coaching, immersive experiences, and retreats Dr. Lyons lovingly guides women on transformative journeys to reclaim the art of mothering—not just for others, but for themselves, their dreams, and the lives they long to embody. She is the host of the longstanding and widely celebrated Rewrite the Mother Code podcast, consistently ranked in the top 5% of podcasts globally. Her podcast is a trusted space where she explores the sacred essence of mothering in its many beautiful and expansive forms, reaching and inspiring thousands of listeners. A heartfelt speaker and published author, Dr. Gertrude's forthcoming book, Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust – A Cosmic Approach to Motherhood, expands on these themes, inviting us all to honor feminine energy, creative flow, and authentic living. Through her work, she empowers women, couples, and families to rewrite the story of how we nurture, love, and thrive. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG Connect with HeHe on YouTube Connect with Dr. Lyons on Instagram Rewrite the Mother Code on YouTube Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons on LinkedIn Listen to Rewrite the Mother Code Podcast BIRTH EDUCATION: Check out our free class on how to avoid a c-section here! Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience! Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone! RESOURCES MENTIONED: Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons here Use code HeHe to get an 11% discount on Dr. Gertrude's course, Journey into the Dark Check out Dr. Gertrude's Self-Mothering Retreat in Zihuatanejo, MX March 16-2 Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel Whole Brain Living by Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor
We are all shaped by our upbringing, and the coping mechanisms we adopt as young children can often follow us into adulthood, influencing our relationships with our own spouses and children. So how can we learn to identify these invisible patterns and write a new future for ourselves? Our guest today, Dr. Gertrude Lyons, has spent the bulk of her career pondering these questions in her quest to help both herself and others. She is a coach, educator, and founder of the groundbreaking podcast, Rewrite The Mother Code where she encourages guests to embody the women they have always known themselves to be. Join us for a profound conversation as we delve into the concept of motherhood, our purpose as women, and what it means to Rewrite The Mother Code. You'll hear us unpack the formative relationships that shape how we mother our own children, why learning to identify our patterns is the first step to changing them, and why it's essential that we question the patriarchal structures that dominate our society. Tune in to hear all of Dr. Lyons' fascinating insights and discover why the most important person you need to mother is yourself!Key Points From This Episode:An introduction to today's esteemed guest, Dr. Gertrude Lyons.How Dr. Lyons' relationship with her mother, and her children, has informed her work.The difficulties that arise for parents living in a patriarchal society.Why it's so important to have an equal distribution of labor among caregivers.Unpacking the benefits of going to couples therapy before you get married.The power of identifying underlying patterns and how it can help us have more agency.Learning to interrupt the patterns of our parents; as parents and as spouses.How Dr. Lyons uncovered The Mother Code; the invisible rules that govern our choices.What it means to Rewrite The Mother Code, and why awareness is key.Why our purpose as women extends far beyond just having children.Dismantling the patriarchal power structures that dominate our society.Some of the first steps you can take to Rewrite The Mother Code.Learn about the mothering retreat, hosted by Dr. Lyons, coming up in March.Don't forget to smash that subscribe button so you never miss an episode, then come hang with us on Instagram & Twitter! Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Learn more at Dr. Gertrude LyonsFollow Dr. Gertrude Lyons on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude Lyons on XFollow Dr. Gertrude Lyons on InstagramCheck out her podcast Rewrite the Mother Code Learn more about Dr. Lyons' Spring Equinox Retreat in Zihuatanejo, MexicoLearn more about A Mary Nisi ProductionFind your next DJ at Toast & JamLaunch your DJ business with the Toast & Jam LabSupport the show
On this week's episode, Madeline chats with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, Founder & CEO of Rewrite The Mother Code, about tapping into innate our feminine power, both personally and in our roles as leaders. Known for her work in women's leadership development, relationship satisfaction, and parenting, Dr. Lyons talks about her journey that led her to focus on empowering individuals and families to realize satisfying lives. She discusses the importance of self-care and self-reflection and the potential for transformation in women's lives. The conversation also examines how feminine power impacts business models and creates valuable change, and why it is important to involve men in this new paradigm.00:00 Introduction and Guest Background01:41 The Journey to Self-Discovery04:27 The Impact of Premarital Counseling08:33 The Transition from Career to Motherhood10:35 The Awakening to Women's Empowerment12:05 The Struggle of Losing Self in Motherhood14:26 The Power of Mothering Energy23:46 The Trap of 'Having It All'30:22 Redefining Joy and Stress in Motherhood30:44 The Pressure of Societal Expectations31:14 Reclaiming Time and Energy31:43 The Joy of Mothering and Choosing How to Spend Time32:11 The Power of Choice and Cultural Paradigms34:11 The Role of Emotions in Decision Making35:34 Shifting Paradigms and Embracing Feminine Energy in Business45:47 The Role of Men in Embracing Feminine Power52:54 Finding Fearless in Different Seasons of Life56:53 The Importance of Self-Care and Tuning into NatureFinding Fearless is an exploration of human-centric leadership and a celebration of ambition, releasing every other week on Wednesdays, 6AM PST. If you liked the show, please rate, review, and share! You can also visit our website to learn more about how to become a sponsor of Finding Fearless! Finding Fearless is produced by Fearless Foundry, a creative consultancy focused on advancing ambitious humans from around the globe to amplify their impact through branding, marketing, and business development. You can contact us at hello@fearlessfoundry.com if you are interested in our services and can follow us on all social media @fearlessfoundry. Season 4 music is by Premium Beats. All audio is recorded and owned by Fearless Foundry.
In this Stork'd Munchkin, Dr. Gertrude Lyons shares the profound moment she had in Ireland when she experienced a voice speaking to her that reassured her that she and her husband have a family, regardless if they have a child or not. This led her to take the pressure off conceiving a child and open “space.” One month later, she conceived her child. Resources: Stork'd Website Stork'd - Facebook Stork'd - Instagram Stork'd - YouTube Dr. Gertrude Lyons - Website Dr. Gertrude Lyons - Instagram
In this Stork'd Munchkin, Dr. Gertrude Lyons shares how she's taken the word “mother” and is rewriting what it means on an individual level and on a bigger picture level. Listen to how she defines “motherhood” and “mothering” to become more inclusive and life-giving. Resources: Stork'd Website Stork'd - Facebook Stork'd - Instagram Stork'd - YouTube Dr. Gertrude Lyons - Website Dr. Gertrude Lyons - Instagram
The concept of the word “mother” has been a life-long journey of exploration for Dr. Gertrude Lyons. She is the Founder of Rewrite the Mother Code, where she encourages and inspires women to explore what mothering and motherhood can be to them. Dr. Lyons, challenges the statement that you have to have kids in your life to be a mother, and believes instead that maternal power lives in us all. She will discuss that profound statement today, along with some of her revelations when she was starting her family and more recently when she was preparing to be the mother of the bride. This episode is for every girl and woman who wants to explore the many forms of mothering and being a “mother.” IN THIS EPISODE: [3:42] Dr. Lyons shares details about her family and being the mother of the bride [8:45] Dr. Lyons discussed the feelings she processed anticipating her daughter's wedding, taking her back to the birth of her daughter [12:03] She accepts that even without children, she and her husband constitute a family. [15:48] Dr. Lyons thinks deeply about the patriarchal role of a wedding, being a woman, and what a family [18:57] Dr. Lyons discusses mothering in the many ways it is possible [25:59] Dr. Lyons discusses the word mother in different forms: motherhood and mothering [31:12] Dr. Lyons talks about coaching and how she supports women [36:01] She outlines how she coaches new mothers [39:27] Dr. Lyons discusses men in a mothering role KEY TAKEAWAYS: Mothering is a nurturing quality that can apply to children, but also a project or to other people or other people's children. Family can be defined in many ways. A married couple without children is a family. A woman doesn't lose her identity of who she is when she becomes a mother. RESOURCE LINKS: Stork'd - Facebook Stork'd - Instagram Stork'd - YouTube Dr. Gertrude Lyons - Website Dr. Gertrude Lyons - Instagram BIOGRAPHY: Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a leading coach and educator in women's leadership development, parenting, and relationship satisfaction. As the founder of Rewrite the Mother Code, LLC, she inspires women to choose their own personal transformations and has spent the last 21 years empowering individuals, couples, parents, and families to realize meaningful, successful lives. Dr. Lyons is a PCC-certified coach through the International Coaching Federation and a Whole Brain Living certified coach through Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor. She also holds a Level 3 Breathwork Certification through the Global Professional Breathwork Alliance. Dr. Lyons received her B.B.A. in Finance and Accounting from St. Mary's College, Notre Dame, her M.A. in Psychology from Antioch University McGregor School and her Ed. D. and M.A. in Transformational Leadership and Coaching at the Wright Graduate University. These certifications and training empower Dr. Lyons to provide an integrative approach focused on the individual, couple or family needs. She firmly believes that we are all mothers. Together, we can support one another to be the best versions of ourselves through this creative energy we share.
Nikki's book is now available on Audible, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and through Bookshop.Org, where every purchase supports your local bookstore. Grab your copy today!Want a sneak peek of Nikki's book? Download a FREE chapter!Host of the Rewrite the Mother Code podcast, Dr. Gertrude Lyons, stops by the show today to chat with Nikki about the Mother Code—what it is and how we can rewrite it. Tune in to hear their profound conversation and learn ways to bring mothering into the world beyond raising children.Connect with Gertrude on Instagram @DrGertrudelyons or LinkedIn, and be sure to visit her website www.drgertrudelyons.com. And click HERE to check out Gertrude's fall equinox self-mothering retreat in Zihuatanejo Mexico from September 21-25! Support the showFollow Nikki on Instagram and Facebook! Wanna be on the show or sponsor an episode? Email your pitch to nikki@youridealmomlife.com.
Dr. Gertrude Lyons is the Founder and CEO of Rewrite The Mother Code, as well as a faculty member at Wright Graduate University. Dr. Lyons is a leading-edge trainer and educator in human emergence, lifestyle, parenting, leadership development, career, relationship satisfaction and success, and women's development. She is on a mission to help women reclaim their lives through mothering and create a safe space where women can express their dreams, fears, and truths around motherhood. Dr. Lyons firmly believes we are all mothers, and together we can support and empower one another to be the best versions of ourselves. Listen in to hear Gertrude share: How all women are mothers and how she is expanding the traditional definition and framework around mothering What the Mother Code is and how she is inviting each one of us to rewrite the Mother Code Specific steps you can take to mother yourself Questions to ask yourself as you write your own Mother Code How to check in around the feelings of fear, hurt, anger, sadness, and joy each day to be grounded, centered and present 3 steps to start rewriting your Mother Code today Links mentioned: Connect with Gertrude: www.drgertrudelyons.com Gertrude's Podcast: Mot(her) Gertrude on IG Gertrude on LinkedIn We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Chad and Kelley started coaching with Dr. Gertrude Lyons in May of 2020 at a very pivotal time in their lives- Covid had just hit, they had just had their first child, and Kelley was starting a new career. It was a lot of change in a short amount of time so together they sought the help of an expert to help strengthen their marriage through communication, perspective shifting and intentional quality time. The reason they chose Dr. Gertrude Lyons was because she is renowned in her field in relationship coaching, having begun her career began 33 years ago when she and her husband decided to work with a couples coach. Now, having worked with hundreds of couples, Dr. Lyons helps couples and individuals not only survive marriage, but thrive. In this episode we discuss the one primary quality that's necessary to be able to have a successful relationship, how we subconsciously choose our partners because they have qualities similar to our parents (and how to avoid feeling triggered), tips and tools for making your marriage not just function but flourish, The Mother Code: What it is and how to write yours, why we feel so much pressure as women to be super mom, and how to avoid the pit falls of burnout and how to start trusting your intuition more and looking for external validation less.To connect with Gertrude click HERETo connect with Kelley click HERE
How has motherhood felt to you? Has it felt easy? Hard? A mixed bag?I've been pretty open and honest about how much motherhood has thrown me for a loop. It came with some pretty dark moments, and though those dark moments are fewer and farther between, they are still there sometimes.Someone once asked me, “Why did you decide to have kids?”The question jarred me. Because the honest answer was: I didn't know the answer. I was embarrassed and quite shocked that I didn't know that answer.And when I really thought about it, the truth is that I decided to have kids because that's what was modeled for me. That's the story that was told to me: you do well in school, you get into a good college, you get a good job, you find a solid partner, you get married and you have kids and you live happily ever after.I never questioned it. I just assumed it was supposed to be my story.I think that's part of the reason motherhood was so jarring to me. I was expecting to feel filled with joy. I was expecting my child to do the things the textbook told me she'd do. I was expecting to walk out of the hospital in my skinny jeans because my body was supposed to just bounce right back to the way it was before it grew a human (ha). I was expecting my relationship to stay solid. None of that was my reality.I wasn't prepared for the feelings of resentment, a sense of longing for my old life, a sense of grief for my old self, a sense of shame and guilt for having those feelings of resentment and longing. I wasn't prepared for the loneliness, for the helpless feeling of a total lack of control as I tried to be an expert at this role as a mother on the very first day on the job and failed. And continued to fail as my daughter went through every stage of her first year of life. Motherhood threw me for a loop literally at every turn, and I wasn't prepared for it. Today on the show, life coach Dr. Gertrude Lyons and I discuss this story of motherhood, this mother code that was passed down to us both from our own mothers or primary caregivers, as well as from our environment and societal and cultural messaging. She has dedicated her life to helping mothers redefine and rewrite their own mother code such that it fits their beliefs, not the ones that they borrowed from anyone else.We talk about:✅ Mom Guilt✅ Mom Shame✅ Losing your sense of identity in motherhood (and how to get it back)✅ Reparenting yourself✅ How motherhood triggers traumas and wounds that need to be healedAnd much more. Tune in and be prepared to write the story of motherhood the way you want it to be. Follow along on Instagram @themomfeedpodcast Sign up for our newsletter for weekly inspiration and advice on motherhood and beyond.Remember to subscribe to the show if you don't already! xoxo
This week, Scheana is joined by Dr. Gertrude Lyons, life coach and speaker who took a deep dive into motherhood while getting her doctorate at Wright University. They talk about fears of being a mother, where they come from, and rewriting the mother code through understanding and releasing them. Dr. Gertrude also discusses feminine energy and where guilt comes from. Scheana opens up and gets emotional about her deep rooted fears and thoughts when it comes to being a mom. How can you use triggers to your advantage? What are some strategies to soothe your nervous system? How can we re-parent ourselves? Tune in now to find out. Follow us: @scheananigans @scheana Shop The It's All happening Collection
As moms, we all have something that triggers us: everything from the baby crying, to our husbands, clutter, or our pets. And then sometimes, that trigger turns into rage. That 0 to 100 feeling leaves us feeling less than great. In this episode, host Lina Forrestal sits down with speaker, life coach, and the fellow podcast host, Dr. Gertrude Lyons. In this episode, Lina and Gertrude talk about:Their personal triggersStrategies they've learned to work through their triggersGertrude's advice for how to work through your emotions when triggeredHow they define "mom rage"Tips to overcome mom rageTheir personal experiences with mom rageDr. Gertrude Lyons is the Founder of Rewriting The Mother Code, Lead Faculty member, Senior Life Coach and Director of Family Programs for The Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential. Gertrude uses her past personal experiences and learnings to help other women heal on their personal journeys. Her mission is to challenge the traditional and outdated notions of mothering instilled in our society to help women tap into their feminine power, reclaim their lives, and connect with their own mother code. Listen to Gertrude's podcast: the mot(her) podcast Connect with Gertrude on Instagram: @drgertrudelyonsConnect with Lina on InstagramFollow the New Mamas Podcast on InstagramRead Lina's BlogSupport the Show: Buy Me a CoffeeEpisode edited by Chris Duffy: heyitschrisduffy@gmail.com-[This episode is sponsored by Creidm.com]Creidm.com is a Distributor of the all-natural and eco-friendly home, skin, and health products created by Shaklee. These products are the most clinically tested and clinically proven. Creidm and the Shaklee Products focus on children and mothers. They offer personalized vitamin packs for children and adults called Meology and can come in gummy and pill form. What is great, is they offer higher discounts on the Meology kids packs for the more kids you have! Also, starting in November they will be releasing their pre- and post-natal line to help support Mothers and their children in such an important time of their life.Creidm also offers ways to become a distributor yourself and make extra income all from home! To learn more, go to Creidm.com.Support the show
In this episode: - Enrich Your Life- Mother Code- Confront Myths- Emotional Intelligence- Gertrude Lyons, PhDOn this week's show, Julie talks with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, about how women can enrich their lives. We discuss generational myths that no longer apply or serve us, how to confront and move past our fears, and how to live a life of joy. Regardless of age or life experiences, there's something for everyone in this episode. For more information on Dr. Gertrude Lyons, go to www.drgertrudelyons.com. Please call in with your question next week. Thursdays at 8pm ET, 7pm CT, 5pm PT. (667) 770-1476 Access Code: 483620# And, please leave a five-star review and subscribe so you can hear all the new episodes. http://www.ratethispodcast.com/julie For more information go to http://www.askjulieryan.com
Do you ever feel like you're losing your identity in motherhood? If so, you aren't alone. Motherhood can feel all-consuming—especially when you're carrying beliefs around it that have been prescribed to you. Life coach Dr. Gertrude Lyons calls those beliefs The Mother Code—the wiring given to us from family, culture, and society. She joins me to share how to see the myths of the mother code, write our own code, define motherhood for ourselves, and use it as a vehicle for transformation. Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3vcQmjk
Todays guest is Dr. Gertrude Lyons. She is on a mission to rewrite the Mother Code, and help women heal their motherwound and debunk the myths of motherhood. She is a Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert with over 20 years of experience. Through her Rewriting The Mother Code initiative, which challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood she has become a national mothering revolutionary. She believes Dr. Lyon's belief, all women have a “mother code” instilled in them—the current model for mothering in our culture is broken. It is limited, constricting, and disempowering. She questions preconceived beliefs and leans into topics that will tap into the powerful femininity within all of us. In this episode we talk about the myths around motherhood, how our childhood and cultural experiences impact how we view motherhood and how moms can and should write their OWN mothercode. Get 120 Ways To Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom: https://jamiescrimgeour.com/ebook For more from Jamie Scrimgeour visit www.jamiescrimgeour.com Follow along on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jamiescrimgeour Follow along on Facebook: www.facebook.com/scrimgeourjamie Book a one-on-one coaching call: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching Join The Exclusive Stepmom Community: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/membership Download The Secret To Improving Your Stepfamily Life: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/freeguide For More From Dr. Gertrude Lyons: Follow them on Instagram: www.instagram.com/drgertrudelyons Listen to her podcast: www.drgertrudelyons.com/podcast Check out her website: www.drgertrudelyons.com Thanks to Our Sponsors: Cozy Earth www.jamiescrimgeour.com/cozyearth JAMIES40 for 40% off
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When we talk about mothers, qualities like nurturing, caring, and compassion always come to mind. Mothers are also known for putting everybody else's needs first and theirs last. And for many years, there's been a notion that mothering is a woman's natural role but as it turns out, we all mother regardless of gender and whether or not we have kids. In this episode, we discuss mothering with emphasis on the concept of self-mothering and how this can support us internally, which can essentially result in having better relationships with our partners. Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a professional life coach who is focused on exploring, demystifying, and democratizing the maternal power that lies within all women. She believes that motherhood is a transformational journey that all women can take with or without children and together, we can start a new conversation around modern motherhood. Dr. Lyons is the Lead Faculty member, Senior Life Coach and Director of Family Programs for The Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential. Through her work, she inspires people to take control of their own personal transformations. She has made it her mission to challenge traditional notions of mothering by facilitating raw, open conversations around mothering, womanhood, and parenthood that no one else is having. She has spent the last 19 years empowering individuals, couples, parents, and families to bring out their best selves through helping them realize meaningful, successful lives, with the aim of bringing new perspectives on personal transformation to as many people as possible. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:25 What is self-mothering? 11:31 How she rediscovered herself which ultimately got her interested in diving deeper into self-mothering. 16:27 The purpose of self-mothering. 23:59 How self-mothering looks like in men. 33:19 The deeper inner work: self-validated intimacy. 41:51 Some ways to start self-mothering. Mentioned Society of Femininity in Action Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (book) Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick (YouTube video) Dr. Jessica Higgins, Psychologist, Relationship & Transformational Coach (Google Review) Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons Website drgertrudelyons.com Facebook facebook.com/gertrude.lyons.3 Instagram instagram.com/drgertrudelyon LinkedIn linkedin.com/in/gertrudelyons/ Podcast mot(HER) with Dr. Gertrude Lyons Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
If you look to relationships to fill your voids then this episode is definitely for you. You might need to show your inner child some love, attention, and validation. Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a Life Coach and Relationship Expert with over 20 years of experience. Through her Rewriting the Mother Code initiative, she challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood. Listen in as we have girl talk about reparenting our inner child, managing our triggers, and operating in our feminine energy.
Today I'm talking with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, A leading edge trainer in women's development. Her mission is to challenge what it actually means to be a mother and parent. In this episode, Gertrude and I talk about the importance of learning how to mother yourself and mother all of your creations. “Whether you have children or not, you're still a mother and you're still creating,” says Dr. Gertrude...“Whether you're creating a project, starting a business, embarking a personal healing journey or actually raising children, you're always mothering and nurturing each of your creations.”. What You'll Learn: The ways in which all women mother regardless of whether or not you have children The ups and downs of the motherhood journey The fears and limiting beliefs that affected Dr. Lyons journey in having her own children Re-mothering yourself while raising children The most important aspects of mothering To learn more about Dr. Lyons: Visit her website: https://www.drgertrudelyons.com (https://www.drgertrudelyons.com) Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgertrudelyons/ (https://www.instagram.com/drgertrudelyons/) Listen to the Mot(her) podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mot-her/id1534581166 (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mot-her/id1534581166) To learn more about Lee Noto & her work: Website: https://leenoto.com/ (https://leenoto.com) Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/ ( https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/) Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/ ( https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/) YouTube: https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc (https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc) LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto-884959a/ ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto-884959a/) Apply for a High Priestess Breakthrough Call with Lee: https://form.jotform.com/211303272715041 (https://form.jotform.com/211303272715041) If you're a high-powered single woman & you're ready to call in your dream partner and build a Power Couple Partnership, click below: https://my.captivate.fm/www.BecomeTheHP.com (www.BecomeTheHP.com)
Host and Coach Alena Conley is back discussing one of her favorite topics, Motherhood or as she likes to call it #unmasteringmotherhood with Professional Life Coach and Family expert Dr. Gertrude Lyons. Dr. Gertrude Lyons, a professional life coach who is focused on exploring, demystifying, and democratizing the maternal power that lives in all women. She believes that motherhood is a transformational journey that all women can take, with or without children. Alena and Dr. Lyons discuss starting a new conversation around modern motherhood. Dr. Lyons provides high level transformation coaching and training for individuals, couples and families. Through one-on-one coaching, seminars and weekly classes her clients maximize their potential and fulfillment in all areas of their lives. https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drgertrudelyons/ https://www.facebook.com/gertrude.lyons.3 https://www.linkedin.com/in/gertrudelyons/
Why do our needs, much less wants and dreams, seem to be secondary to the needs, wants, and dreams of those around us? Today, I talk to Dr. Gertrude Lyons, a professional life coach, host of the mot(HER) podcast, and founder of the Rewriting The Mother Code initiative. Dr. Lyons asserts that all women have a “mother code” instilled in them—the current model for mothering in our culture is broken, but it doesn't have to be this way. We can use motherhood as a transformational journey, to grow ourselves, as we grow our children. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! 3 Takeaways: There is no one right way to parent. The chaos of motherhood creates a prime opportunity for our own transformation. It is not your child's job to fulfill your need for happiness. Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert with over 20 years of experience. Through her Rewriting The Mother Code initiative, which challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood, Dr. Lyons has challenged the myths surrounding womanhood, mothering, and challenges the very notion of what it means to be a mother. She is also a Lead Faculty member, Senior Life Coach, and Director of Family Programs for The Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.
Do you ever find yourself feeling like you are not doing enough? Not enough for yourself… Not enough for your marriage… Not enough for your child(ren)... Or maybe, even that your partner is not doing enough… SOOOO, it is not just us, right? On this episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons, Master Life Coach, Speaker, Mothering Revolutionary, and Mother of two daughters, joins us to dive deeper into navigating those challenging thoughts and feelings. She shares with us how we can invite our partners to have hard conversations regularly without shutting down. She also shares with us how we can tend to high stress moments (aka what we all like to call Mommy Rage). This episode has so many great tools and practices that help us communicate and connect better as individuals and as a family. Be sure to tune in. P.S. Check out Dr. Lyons's mot(HER) Podcast. mot(HER) Podcast is another wonderful safe space where women share their truths to help support and empower other women. Check it out and listen to amazing the guests featured. We even make our first-ever guest appearance there! How to connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons: Website: https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/about Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgertrudelyons/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mot-her/id1534581166 Mentioned book by Dr. Lyons: Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, PhD
We're debunking the myths of motherhood and womanhood with Dr. Gertrude Lyons. She has been a Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert for over two decades. Through her Rewriting The Mother Code initiative, which challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood, Dr. Lyons has become a national mothering revolutionary. She challenges the myths surrounding womanhood, mothering, and challenges what it means to be a mother. She believes the current model for mothering in our culture is broken, limited, constricting, and disempowering. She questions preconceived beliefs and leans into topics that will tap into the powerful femininity within all of us. In this episode of the Woman of Value Podcast: What is the Mother Code Initiative? The myths of motherhood and womanhood The true meaning of self care as a woman The difference between masculine and feminine values (and why we need both) connect with Dr. Lyons https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/ Subscribe/Rate/Review the Woman of Value Podcast! ►► Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/womanofvalue ►► Spotify http://bit.ly/wovspotify ►► Stitcher http://bit.ly/wovstitcher or wherever you listen to podcasts! ►► Get a copy of Sandy's new book, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love on Amazon
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
How do you care for yourself? Nurturing yourself and taking care of your needs is an essential part of being the best version of yourself. This week, Kimmy has an introspective conversation with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, a life coach, speaker, podcast host of Rewrite The Mother Code, and self-described mothering revolutionary. This week, Kimmy and Gertrude invite you to think about the art of mothering in all its' forms, regardless of your gender. This episode is all about how to mother and nurture yourself and attract the kind of love you want. EPISODE 206 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: Mother Yourself To Attract Love: Interview with Dr. Gertrude Lyons Gertrude talks about her family upbringing and early career discovering her love of connecting with people and how it led her to find her core self through the years. If you're a highly analytical and high-achieving person like Gertrude, it's even more important to tap into your emotional side so you can connect on a deeper level with the people you date. Kimmy and Gertrude talk about the concept of mothering as a way to foster a healthy sense of self-love without feeling selfish so that you attract more reciprocity in your interactions. Listen in to hear why securing support and accountability is the best decision you can make when it comes to nurturing your relationship with yourself. You'll hear tips on naming emotions as you feel them so you can better express yourself and gain self-awareness. This conversation will remind you to look at your love journey as a process to grow through. These two experts review some real, practical tips to help you develop the self-care you need to create a healthy relationship with yourself and others. If you listen to this and you are struck with knowing you are focusing too much on others and want to learn how to empower yourself to attract love, hop on a call with Kimmy to map out a strategy here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Remember, working on yourself is working on your dating life! EPISODE 206 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: Mother Yourself To Attract Love: Interview with Dr. Gertrude Lyons. The Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ The Charisma Quotient Podcast: Building Confidence, Making Connections, and Finding Love from the Outside In is hosted by Kimmy Seltzer. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Sharing a wide array of relational topics, The Charisma Quotient Podcast focuses on the themes of building confidence, making connections, and finding love from the outside in. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups
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We will learn: To debunk the 14 myths of motherhood How to break the thought pattern of “traditional” mothering and the “rules” that come with it How to ask, reflect, and have the hard conversations around what kind of mother you want to be There are so many decisions to make for children and almost all of them have a whole gang behind either side of the answer ready… and if you're in the Facebook groups, they're usually ready to shame you for whatever you pick. What I'm learning is that the right way for me is already inside me. My child chose me for a reason. Because the way I do things is what he needs to develop into the best version of himself. So today we're going to challenge the myths surrounding womanhood, mothering, and what it means to be a mother. Our guest is Dr. Gertrude Lyons. She is a Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert with over 20 years of experience. Through her Rewriting The Mother Code initiative, which challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood, Dr. Lyons has become a national mothering revolutionary. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/x46 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self: https://mindlove.com Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations: https://mindlove.com/premium See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dr. Gertrude Lyons, the woman who is rewriting the mothercode, & helping women heal the mother wound is our guest today! Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert with over 20 years of experience. Through her Rewriting The Mother Code initiative, which challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood, Dr. Lyons has become a national mothering revolutionary. She challenges the myths surrounding womanhood, mothering, and the very notion of what it means to be a mother. It’s Dr. Lyon’s belief that the concept that all women have a “mother code” instilled in them—which is the current model for mothering in our culture – she sees that as broken. It is limited, constricting, and disempowering. She questions preconceived beliefs and focuses on topics that will tap into the powerful femininity within all of us. She also hosts her own podcast, the mot(HER) Podcast. Before Dr. Lyons comes on, Doug updates everyone on life with the Hehners including Hendrix's 1st birthday, spending time in New Jersey, and their hopes of being able to build their dream home! Thank you to our sponsors: Graf Lantz - Go to graf-lantz.com and get 20% off with the code MARRIAGE20. This offer will end on May 30th so go shop for your merino wool pieces or face masks now! Talkspace - To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com and make sure to use the promo code JAMIE to get $100 off your first month! gohenry - Just go to gohenry.com and get 1 month free with promo code HMCP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Now the title may seem like this is just for women who have kids. But it's not. Because somewhere along the path of our jobs, careers, social lives, (social media!) we forgot to mother the most important woman in our universe. Ourselves. Open the door to Dr. Gertrude Lyons who is on a mission to rewrite the Mother Code - and take all women on a transformational journey to find ourselves.
Men’s and women's brains share 98% of the same genetic structural makeup. So, why is it common to treat boys and girls differently? Why are boys shamed for displaying their emotions and girls not encouraged to become strong leaders? Why do we promote emotional differences in the all-to-common male versus female storyline? To discover strategies for creating more emotionally balanced humans, Positive Psychology Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two experts in gender-related topics. Dr. Gertrude Lyons discusses the transition back to a balance of feminine and masculine energies in positions of leadership around the world. And, Andrew Reiner discusses research from his book, Better Boys, Better Men about the disservice of promoting emotional detachment when we talk to boys and the benefits of communicating differently
“Mothering is available to all women whether you decide to mother a child or not. We mother our careers, our relationships, ideas, and dreams. We often discover the most overlooked person that needs mothering is ourselves.” - Gertrude Lyons No matter if you’re a stay-at-home mom or a working mom, mothering is one of the hardest jobs a person can sign up for. Many moms feel guilty about their choices, especially when they are trying to make their dreams come true at the same time. Rock Your Joy is coming full circle today and revisiting one of our first guests, Gertrude Lyons. Gertrude returns to talk about her research into the transformational opportunity of mothering, divine feminine energy, and how it is possible to merge your dreams with that of creating strong family bonds. A crucial part of this conversation is that you don’t have to be a mom yet to take part. Tune in! (03:40) - https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/ (Rewrite the Mother Code) (08:24) - Regret and remorse (14:05) - Tapping into divine feminine energy (21:21) - Redefining self-care (26:33) - Balanced values (31:38) - https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/podcast (mot(HER)) (42:41) - How is Gertrude cultivating joy? Where to find and work with Gertrude Lyons: Rewrite the Mother Code Mastermind June 7: https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/mastermind (https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/mastermind) Woman’s Essential Experience May 21-23: https://events.wrightfoundation.org/womans-essential-experience/ (https://events.wrightfoundation.org/womans-essential-experience/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgertrudelyons/ (@drgertrudelyons) LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gertrudelyons/ (drgertrudelyons) Website: http://www.drgertrudelyons.com/ (www.drgertrudelyons.com) https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/ (Gertrude Lyons)’ coaching journey began nearly 30 years ago when she and her husband decided to work with a couples coach at the Wright Foundation. It was through these sessions that she began to realize the powerful effects of coaching and decided to become a coach herself. During her doctoral studies at Wright University, she took a deep dive into the idea of motherhood. The program and her studies deepened her relationship with her daughters, as well as her sense of self. Gertrude’s goal is to help women reclaim their lives through mothering and create a safe space where women can express their dreams, fears, and truths around motherhood. https://www.instagram.com/aine_rockyourjoy/ (Aine Rock) is an artist, entrepreneur, mom and High Performance Coach working on becoming the best version of herself and inspiring others to do the same. Rock Your Joy is a place for women to share the unique ways they find, cultivate, and celebrate joy. We’re often so focused on things happening to us that we forget that joy exists within us. Tune in every other week as we find that joy, together. If you'd like to receive new episodes as they're published, please subscribe to Rock Your Joy in https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rock-your-joy/id1501888277 (Apple Podcasts), https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9FMWE5a2IxRQ (Google Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/7sqhsnfavKnP4yCeF8EXOL (Spotify) or wherever you get your podcasts. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review in https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rock-your-joy/id1501888277 (Apple Podcasts). It really helps others find the show. https://www.dante32.com/ (Podcast episode production by Dante32.)
We are so excited to welcome today's guest Dr. Gertrude Lyons. Dr. Lyons is a leading-edge trainer and educator in human emergence, lifestyle, parenting, leadership development, career, relationship satisfaction and success, and women's development, and through her work inspires people to take control of their own personal transformations. She has made it her mission to challenge traditional notions of mothering by facilitating raw, open conversations around mothering, womanhood, and parenthood that no one else is having. She has spent the last 18 years empowering individuals, couples, parents and families to bring out their best selves by helping them realize meaningful, successful lives, with the aim of bringing new perspectives on personal transformation to as many people as possible. Today, Dr. Lyons is on a mission to help women reclaim their lives through mothering and create a safe space where women can express their dreams, fears, and truths around motherhood. We are all mothers, and together we can support and empower one another to be the best versions of ourselves. In this inspiring and uplifting conversation we dive into mothering and motherhood and the codes of mothering (you don't have to be a mother to lean into the maternal power of mothering). We also talk about judgement, making mistakes and developing your own standards of success while not comparing yourself to others. We love how Gertrude helps women reclaim their lives and we know you won't want to miss this conversation. You can find Gertrude on: https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/ https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/mastermind IG: @drgertrudelyons Podcast:Mot(her) Free ebooks: Please reach out to theartoflivingwellpodcast@gmail.com to get them sent to you directly Thanks to our amazing sponsors:This episode is brought to you by Appetite for Change, a non-profit in North Minneapolis that uses food as a tool for health, wealth, and social change. 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This week's theme is maternal mental health, and we are bringing the realness on the podcast and blog. This week's guest is Dr. Gertrude Lyons, a doctor of education, coach and Director of Family Programs at The Wright Foundation. In this episode we cover: Mom rage How to connect with our kids at every age How our mothers impact the way we parent Tactics to take us out of “reaction mode” How to have conversations with your kids to really know what they're thinking Dealing with postpartum anxiety Healing ourselves first to be better mothers I also share my experience with postpartum anxiety and the intervention my sister had with me to help get me back on track. For more real talk on maternal mental health, check out the blog this week, including a 5 Questions roundup with pediatric occupational therapist and mom coach, Dr. Jennifer Blossom. Check out Dr. Gertrude Lyons and more of her work here, and follow her on Instagram here. Wanna chat? Follow me on Instagram here. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/wegottatalkwithsonni/support
As women, we are in a state of collectively healing the feminine. We all have our own mother codes, whether we know it or not, instilled into us from our childhood, our culture, and from the cosmic definition that to be a mother means to have children.Transformation looks different on everyone, but the weaving patterns of our engrained mother codes and the desire to fully become and express ourselves run deep in us all.What would life look like if we released our wounds around everything from abandonment to achievement? No longer needed to compare ourselves? What if we weren't held hostage to our own insecurities?In raw conversations, your host Dr. Gertrude Lyons, a leading professional life coach and mothering revolutionary, takes us there to see and know what's possible. So be prepared to show up, hold space and be mothered in a way you've never been before, but have always needed. Together, we'll Rewrite the Mot(HER) Code®.
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