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Do you find yourself googling for "Stepmom help" or "Stepmom struggles" more than you'd care to admit? If so, you're in the right place. The Stepmom Side Podcast is a conversational podcast about being a Stepmom and what that actually looks like. Host Alicia Krasko covers everything from part-time, full-time, to being an empty nester as a Stepmom. Every week, you'll get a bit of humor, advice, and a conversation that will have you taking an objective look at how you're showing up. You can expect honest (and uncomfortable) conversations with perspective shifts mixed in to help you create the life you no longer have to google for help.

Alicia Krasko


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    #99: Summer Break & The Stepkid Shuffle: How to Stay Sane with Kids Going Back and Forth

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2025 19:44


    Summer break in a stepfamily isn't always sunshine and s'mores—it can be a whirlwind of transitions, mood swings, and scheduling chaos. In this episode, Alicia gets real about the emotional toll of summer break as a stepmom, especially when the stepkids are constantly going back and forth between homes.She breaks down the most common summer struggles (spoiler: you're not alone if the custody schedule makes you cry), and shares tools to help you find rhythm, protect your time, and reset after each transition.Whether you're feeling burnt out by the back-and-forth or just want permission to prioritize yourself, this episode offers validation, support, and practical tips to make this season feel less like survival mode.Want help setting expectations and boundaries for summer?Join the community: aliciakrasko.com/communityBook a coaching call: aliciakrasko.com/coachingWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #98: Feeling Powerless as a Stepmom? It Might Be the Victim Mindset

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2025 17:17


    In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia dives into a powerful truth that many stepmoms avoid: staying stuck in victimhood may feel safe—but it's quietly stealing your joy, your voice, and your power.If you've ever thought, “No one gets it,” “Nothing I do matters,” or “I'm just done trying,” this episode is your wake-up call and warm hug in one. Alicia shares how victimhood becomes a comfort zone and why breaking free is the key to reclaiming your confidence, peace, and freedom as a stepmom.You'll hear:What victimhood actually looks and sounds like (spoiler: it's sneaky)Why staying stuck can feel easier than choosing changeThe emotional and relational cost of giving away your powerA personal story from Alicia that proves you can take control, even in chaosThis is the episode to listen to when you're ready to stop surviving and start leading your stepmom life on your terms.

    #97: Not a Stepmom Yet… But Kinda? Navigating the Awkward In-Between

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2025 23:08


    Alicia tackles the unspoken phase of stepmom life—the before. You've met the kids. You're dating the dad. You're not a stepmom technically, but you're already feeling all the weird, confusing emotions that come with blending families.This “in-between” season is messy, emotional, and full of what the actual efffff moments. Alicia breaks down how to ease into your role, communicate expectations before moving in, handle the third-wheel vibes when your partner and his ex still do holidays or sports events together, and why it's okay to feel overwhelmed before you're even officially in it.Whether you're brand new to stepmom life or standing at the edge wondering if you're about to dive into bonus mom territory—you'll walk away from this episode with clarity, tools, and that classic Alicia real talk.Inside this episode:What to consider before moving in with your partnerHow to handle feeling like an outsider at kid events and family momentsTips for integrating into the kids' lives in a way that actually feels good for everyoneThe importance of early conversations around parenting roles, boundaries, and expectationsWhy getting support before you're a full-time stepmom is a game-changerWant a community that gets it?Join The Stepmom Side Community here.Ready to actually work through your stepmom stressors?Schedule 1:1 coaching with Alicia.Resources mentioned:Set Your Stepfamily Up for Success: How to Create House Expectations that Work for Everyone!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #96: Documenting for Court: Protecting Your Peace in High-Conflict Co-Parenting with Nika Chadwick

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2025 45:51


    In this powerful episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia Krasko is joined by Nika Chadwick, an expert in navigating high-conflict co-parenting situations. They dive deep into understanding what high-conflict actually means, how to recognize it, and how to protect your peace and sanity while managing it. Whether you're facing constant drama, navigating court battles, or just trying to keep your home a safe and stable space for your family, this episode has you covered.Key Topics Covered:What High-Conflict Really Means: Understanding the difference between typical disagreements and true high-conflict situations.The Role of Personality Disorders: How traits like black-and-white thinking and an obsession with conflict can signal a high-conflict personality.Effective Documentation for Court: Tips for documenting incidents that actually matter in court and making your case stronger.The BIFF Communication Strategy: How to communicate with a high-conflict co-parent using messages that are brief, informative, friendly, and firm.Mental Health Protection: Why having a support system outside of family is crucial for your well-being.Real-Life Strategies and Tools: Practical methods like using a color-coded binder, leveraging apps for secure communication, and setting boundaries.Who This Episode Is For:Stepmoms dealing with a high-conflict ex.Anyone navigating a challenging co-parenting relationship.Parents preparing for a custody or court case.Those wanting to protect their mental and emotional health while co-parenting.Connect with Nika Chadwick:Instagram: @nikachadwickcoachingWebsite: NikaChadwick.comTikTok: @nikachadwickcoachingWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #95: Ask Me Anything from Instagram-Stepmom Life Unfiltered: Tackling Disrespect, Boundary Issues, and Bio Mom Drama

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 32:19


    In today's episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia answers questions from her broadcast channel and "Ask Me Anything" from Instagram. She dives deep into some of the toughest struggles stepmoms face—like dealing with disrespectful stepkids, managing the emotions of bio kids, handling the drama from bio moms, and navigating tricky boundaries with your partner. It's a tough ride, but guess what? You're not alone.Alicia will be sharing actionable tips to help you work through these frustrations, keep your sanity intact, and build stronger, more connected relationships with your stepkids and partner. From setting realistic house expectations to learning how to handle boundary-pushing situations with love and patience, this episode is packed with advice that will help you feel seen, supported, and empowered.Whether it's trying to make your stepkids feel comfortable at your house while they miss their mom, dealing with manipulative bio moms, or feeling the resentment creep in, she's got your back. We're talking about the importance of connection over correction, setting boundaries that actually work, and how to stop feeling like a doormat in the “best interest of the kids.”If you're ready to let go of the frustration, let go of resentment, and finally get the support you need, I've got some resources for you to dive into—plus a free guide on setting house expectations that changed the game for my family.So take a deep breath, tune in, and let's get real about this stepmom life. You've got this.Resources Mentioned in This Episode:Set Your Stepfamily Up for Success: How to Create House Expectations That Work for Everyone - Free guide at aliciakrasko.com/expectations.Join The Stepmom Side Community - For support, coaching, and real-time feedback with other stepmoms who get it. aliciakrasko.com/communityCoaching with Alicia - Ready to take your stepmom journey to the next level? Book a session today at aliciakrasko.com/coaching.Instagram Broadcast Channel - join here.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #94: How To Handle It When Your Partner Just Doesn't Get It and You're A Stepmom

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 16:07


    Ever poured your heart out to your partner, only to get blank stares or the dreaded “You're overreacting”?In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia breaks down the emotional disconnect so many stepmoms feel in their relationship — and how to get your partner to finally understand your experience (without it turning into World War III).From validation to communication shifts, Alicia shares the mindset tweaks and scripts that help you feel seen instead of silenced.If you've been feeling emotionally isolated, unsupported, or like you're living in a completely different world than your partner — this episode is your permission slip to stop carrying it all alone.Key Highlights:Why your partner struggles to understand your experience as a stepmomThe real goal of communication (it's not just about being right)Scripts that open conversations instead of starting fightsWhat to do when you've said it all… and they still don't get itHow to protect your emotional peace while staying connected

    #93: Different Parenting Styles = Step Hell: How to Parent as a Team in a Blended Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 16:35


    Are you stuck being the only one enforcing structure while your partner hands out snacks and screen time like it's Halloween?Listen in as Alicia dives into one of the most frustrating parts of stepmom life — the moment you realize you've become the “bad cop” in your own home… and your partner is just vibing with chaos.You'll learn why this dynamic happens in blended families, how it affects your mental load and relationship, and what you can actually do to fix it. Hint: It's not about being stricter—it's about being smarter with boundaries, communication, and emotional self-preservation.Key Highlights:Why you're always the one enforcing rules (and why it's not your fault)How guilt and avoidance shape your partner's parenting styleScripts for conversations that shift the dynamic back to a team effortWhat to do when your partner refuses to step upWhy stepping back doesn't mean giving upResources + Links:Join The Stepmom Side Community and never feel alone again.Work through resentment and boundaries in 1:1 coaching. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #92: Why It Stings When Your Stepkids Talk About Their Mom (and What to Do About It)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 13:43


    Alicia dives deep into a feeling many stepmoms know all too well—that gut-punch of jealousy or sadness when your stepkids talk about their mom. Whether it's an innocent story, a glowing compliment, or yet another comparison, the emotional reaction can be real—and often comes with a heavy dose of guilt.Alicia gets real about where those feelings come from, why they're completely normal, and how to stop judging yourself for them. She unpacks the emotional triggers, gives practical mindset shifts, and shares personal stories that will have you feeling seen, heard, and way less alone in this messy, layered role.If you've ever wondered why you feel the way you do—and how to hold space for your own emotions without spiraling or shutting down—this episode is for you.Key Highlights:Why jealousy toward the mom doesn't make you a “bad stepmom”The real emotional triggers behind comparison and resentmentHow to respond when your stepkids bring up their mom (without losing your cool)Tips for managing guilt, boundaries, and self-worth in these momentsReal-life stories from Alicia's journey that'll have you saying “OMG, SAME”Share the Love:If this episode made you feel more human, more seen, or just less alone, send it to another stepmom who's been silently struggling with this exact thing. You never know who needs it.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #91: Mother's Day When You're a Stepmom: Finding Peace in the Chaos

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 13:18


    Mother's Day can be a tricky holiday for stepmoms, filled with mixed emotions and complicated dynamics. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia offers stepmoms practical advice and emotional support for navigating the complexities of Mother's Day. From managing expectations with co-parents to finding personal ways to feel appreciated, Alicia dives deep into how stepmoms can honor themselves on this special day.Listeners will hear her personal insights and actionable tips for balancing the “mom” role with being a stepmom, setting healthy boundaries, and creating new traditions that celebrate their unique contributions to the family. Key Highlights:How to manage emotional complexity as a stepmom on Mother's DayWhy communication with your partner is key to a stress-free holidayCreating new traditions and celebrating yourself as a stepmomAcknowledging your role without needing external validationTips for letting go of perfection and embracing the messiness of Mother's DayResources Mentioned:Join The Stepmom Side CommunityGet 1:1 Coaching with AliciaConnect with Alicia:Instagram: @AliciaKraskoWebsite: www.aliciakrasko.comSupport the Show:If you found this episode helpful, share it with another stepmom who might need to hear it. Don't forget to leave a review on your favorite podcast platform—it helps more stepmoms find the support they need.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #90: The Truth About Comparing Yourself to the Mom and How to Break Free

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 14:48


    Alicia dives deep into the emotional rollercoaster of comparing yourself to your partner's ex. Whether it's scrolling through social media or feeling like you don't measure up in the stepfamily dynamic, Alicia talks about why comparison is so common (but totally toxic) for stepmoms. She uncovers how comparison affects your sense of identity, belonging, and energy—and shares actionable steps to break the cycle. Spoiler: It starts with being honest with yourself and embracing your unique role in the family.What You'll Learn:- Why comparing yourself to the mom is so common (and totally normal—hello, human nature!).- The psychological reasons behind comparison and how it impacts your sense of safety and identity.- Why comparison can be harmful and how it messes with your energy and self-esteem.- Practical tips to stop the spiral and start owning your place in the family dynamic.- Alicia's personal story of overcoming the “shrine house” moment and taking back her power.Key Takeaways:1. Comparison doesn't help you fit in—it fuels self-doubt and resentment. 2. Recognize the strengths and unique qualities you bring to the family (you're not trying to replace her!).3. Set boundaries with social media if it's feeding your comparison cycle—protect your mental health.4. Speak out loud when you're comparing yourself—shame thrives in silence!5. Start curating self-talk that empowers you to feel enough and confident in your role.Resources Mentioned:- The Stepmom Side Community – Join a supportive network of stepmoms who get it and get you.- Coaching with Alicia Krasko – Get personalized support to overcome comparison and step into your role with confidence.Join the Conversation:- Follow Alicia on Instagram for more stepmom insights and personal stories.- Join The Stepmom Side Community for real-time support and advice from other stepmoms.- Schedule a Coaching Session to work through your mindset spirals and challenges.If this episode resonated with you, don't keep it to yourself. Share it with a stepmom who could use a little reminder that she's not alone in the comparison struggle. You're not a second choice—you're the real deal.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #89: When Your Partner Sides with the Kids (and You're Left Wondering WTF Just Happened)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 10:23


    In today's episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, we dive into one of the most frustrating and emotionally-charged dynamics stepmoms face: when your partner sides with the kids and leaves you feeling unsupported. Ever find yourself thinking, "Wait, am I the problem here?" or "Why do I feel like I'm living in the emotional Hunger Games?" Trust me, you're not alone.Here's what we're unpacking in this episode:1: The Gut Punch of Being Sided AgainstWe've all been there — you bring up your stepkid's disrespect or challenging behavior, and instead of backing you up, your partner throws out, “Well, they're just kids.” Ouch. In this section, Alicia shares how she felt like an outsider in her home when she experienced this, and how it led to resentment building up fast.2: Why It Happens (Dad Guilt, Am I Right?)Let's get real. Many parents, especially dads, are navigating a thick fog of guilt. Divorce guilt, remarriage guilt, and guilt from not being with their kids full-time. This guilt often leads them to defend their kids — even when they're in the wrong. We dive deep into understanding the why behind their behavior, so you don't feel like it's personal.3: What This Does to YOUWhen your partner defends the kids, it can feel like you're being invalidated. Over time, you start disengaging, silencing yourself, and questioning your role. This section is a gut check on how this dynamic can drain you emotionally and make you feel like you're in a constant state of “I can't do this anymore.”4: What To Do About ItTime to shift from frustration to action. Alicia breaks down 4 concrete steps to help you address this issue with your partner and set boundaries to protect your peace. These include having a ‘Team Talk,' using “we” language, and understanding when it's time to step back and delegate certain responsibilities. Plus, she shares a personal story about the turning point in her relationship when things finally shifted.If you're dealing with this dynamic, you don't have to navigate it alone. Join The Stepmom Side Community for real-time support from women who get it. Or, if you're ready to dive deeper and get personalized help, my coaching is where the magic happens.

    #88: Estate Planning, Budgeting & Smart Money Moves with Melissa Hampton

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 63:16


    Starting over financially can feel overwhelming—especially after divorce, debt, and career setbacks. In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Hampton, a financial expert and mom who transformed her life after hitting rock bottom. She shares practical strategies for budgeting, debt repayment, and estate planning—plus the mindset shifts that helped her take control of her future.If you're feeling stuck financially, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help you break free from debt, start saving, and create long-term financial stability.Key Takeaways:✔️ How Melissa paid off significant debt and built financial security✔️ The snowball method for debt repayment and why it works✔️ Budgeting strategies to break the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle✔️ Estate planning essentials: Wills, trusts & protecting your family's future✔️ How to start investing & saving for retirement—even on a tight budget✔️ The power of financial mindset shifts and how to stay motivatedMelissa Hampton, CFP®, is the founder of Hampton Wealth Management, an independent firm through LPL Financial, specializing in investment management and financial planning for complex wealth strategies. With years of experience, she has helped thousands of clients navigate retirement, optimize their finances, and build lasting legacies. She is passionate about educating clients and providing actionable strategies to maximize their wealth potential, in addition to creating an ideal life full of purpose for herself and her two children.Connect with Melissa:www.hamptonwm.comOn Facebook Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #87: The Stepmom's Guide to Navigating Tricky Conversations with Your Stepchild

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 8:46


    In this episode, Alicia shares actionable strategies for navigating difficult conversations with your stepchild. From finding the right time to approaching sensitive topics with empathy, you'll learn how to handle those awkward moments with confidence and grace. Whether you're discussing rules, feelings, or family dynamics, this episode will help you build trust and create open, meaningful dialogue with your stepchild.Key Takeaways:Why timing and empathy are crucial in difficult conversations with stepkidsHow to create a safe space for open dialogueThe importance of being patient and respecting boundariesTips for making tough topics feel less intimidatingJoin the Stepmom Side Community: aliciakrasko.com/communityVisit aliciakrasko.com for more stepmom support and resources!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #86: The Stepmom Identity Crisis – Doing the “Mom” Things Without the Credit

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2025 27:34


    In this episode, Alicia dives into a common struggle many stepmoms face: doing all the “mom” things but not getting the recognition or credit for it. As a stepmom, it can feel emotionally draining to pour your heart and energy into your stepkids, only to be seen as “just” the stepmom.Alicia discusses the disconnect between the work you're putting in and the lack of acknowledgment, especially when your partner and the ex are in constant communication. Even in the most amicable co-parenting situations, it's hard not to feel like an outsider. This feeling of being undervalued can make you feel less than and emotionally drained.Throughout this episode, Alicia shares how to manage these emotions, why your role is important, and how to reclaim your confidence as a stepmom. Learn how to handle this identity issue with grace, find recognition within yourself, and embrace the love you give your family, even when it doesn't come with the “mom” title.Takeaways from this episode include:Understanding the emotional toll of doing the "mom" things without the credit.How the constant communication between your partner and the ex can make you feel like an outsider.Tips for reclaiming your worth and embracing your role as a stepmom, even if you're not "the mom."How to avoid burnout and feel validated in your role within your blended family.If you're a stepmom who has struggled with feeling undervalued or out of place, this episode is for you. Remember, you're not alone, and your role matters – even if it's not always recognized.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #85: Surviving the 'You're Not My Mom' Moments: How to Navigate Rejection from Your Stepkid

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 15:53


    In this candid episode, Alicia dives deep into the heartache and humor behind that gut-wrenching moment when your stepchild says, "You're not my mom."She unpacks the emotional roller coaster that comes with blended family life and shares practical tips to help you navigate those painful moments with grace and resilience.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Understanding the Impact:Discover why the words “You're not my mom” hit so hard—even when they're less about you and more about the child's own internal struggles. Learn how grief, identity confusion, and unrealistic ideals play into these hurtful remarks.The Emotional Fallout:We explore how rejection affects your self-esteem and the common emotional triggers that make these moments so challenging. You're not alone in feeling like every “no” feels personal.Survival Strategies:Get actionable advice on how to handle these situations without taking the sting too deeply. From maintaining consistency in your role to setting healthy boundaries and celebrating small wins, these tips are designed to empower you and build trust over time.Self-Care & Resilience:When emotions run high, self-care becomes essential. Alicia shares her favorite self-care practices and remind you why looking after your mental and emotional well-being is non-negotiable—especially in the chaos of stepmom life.Why Listen?If you've ever felt the sting of rejection or questioned your place in a blended family, this episode is your go-to guide for reclaiming your power and finding the strength to keep moving forward. Listen in as we break down the tough stuff with a blend of empathy, practicality, and a healthy dose of humor.Don't Forget to:Subscribe for more real and relatable conversations about stepmom life.Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments or through our community. Your story matters, and together we can turn pain into progress.Resources mentioned:Defining Your Stepmom Role30 Activities to Connect with Your Stepkids at Any AgeWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #84: Happiness is an Inside Job—Even in Stepfamily Chaos

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2025 10:29


    In today's episode, we're tackling a big one—happiness. More specifically, how YOUR happiness is an inside job, even when stepfamily stress is trying to bulldoze its way into your peace. If you've ever felt like your emotions are at the mercy of the ex, your stepkids, or the never-ending co-parenting drama, this episode is for you.Alicia breaks down:⁃ How stepmoms unknowingly give away their power and happiness⁃ Three practical ways to take back control (without the guilt)⁃ Why boundaries, mindset shifts, and self-care aren't selfish—they're survival⁃ How to stop letting external stress dictate your mood⁃ Why community and support make all the differenceIf you're ready to stop letting stepfamily chaos control your emotions and reclaim your peace, hit play now. And if you need support? The Stepmom Side Community is where you belong. Let's do this together!

    #83: Stepmom Guilt & Grief: Navigating a Breakup When You're Attached to Your Stepkids

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 13:24


    What happens when a stepmom decides to leave her relationship—but she's deeply connected to her stepkids?This is a heartbreak that no one talks about. Today, Alicia is diving into:How to break the news to your stepkidsWhether you should stay in contact after the breakupHow to deal with the overwhelming guilt and sadnessHealthy ways to cope and move forwardLeaving a relationship when stepkids are involved adds layers of pain, guilt, and uncertainty. But here's the truth—you can love them and still choose what's best for your well-being. In this episode, Alicia breaks down exactly how to navigate this difficult situation with clarity and care.

    #82: When Your Partner Won't Step Up: Navigating Stepmom Struggles with Stepkids and 'Ours Babies'

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 35:04


    In this episode, Alicia is tackling one of the most frustrating issues many stepmoms face: what to do when your partner isn't stepping up with their kids or your "ours baby." It's hard when you feel like you're doing it all on your own, especially when your partner's involvement with their stepkids or shared children is lacking.First, Alicia dives into the common reasons why dads may hold back when it comes to stepping up for their stepkids. From co-parenting guilt to emotional distance, she discusses the underlying reasons and how it affects the entire family dynamic. You'll get practical advice on how to cope with these challenges, including how to open up conversations with your partner and set clear expectations to ensure you're both on the same page.Next, Alicia shifts the focus to the emotional struggle dads might experience when it comes to bonding with the "ours baby." From guilt over their other kids to fears about disrupting the family dynamic, we'll break down why dads might hold back and offer actionable steps to help you both connect with your newborn while ensuring the other kids feel supported too.This episode is all about empowering you to cope with these struggles, strengthen your relationship, and ultimately find peace in your family dynamic. If you're tired of feeling like you're carrying the weight on your own, this episode is for you!Listen now and get the strategies you need to feel more supported and connected with your partner and kids. And don't forget to join the waitlist for Resentment to Relief: A Stepmom's Guide to Letting Go at aliciakrasko.com/relief.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #81: What To Do When Your Partner Doesn't Back You Up as a Stepmom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2025 18:14


    Welcome to another episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast! In this episode, Alicia dives into a tough but important topic: what to do when your partner doesn't back you up as a stepmom. If you're feeling unsupported, frustrated, or like you're handling everything on your own, you're not alone. Alicia shares actionable advice to help you navigate this challenge and start feeling more supported and confident in your role as a stepmom.In this episode, you'll learn:How to recognize if your partner isn't backing you up (and why this might be happening)The importance of setting clear boundaries and being assertive about your needsHow to find a community of stepmoms who truly get it and offer supportWhy seeking outside help, like a counselor or stepmom coach, can be a game changerPractical steps you can take today to feel more supported and connectedWhether you're struggling with co-parenting, feeling isolated, or just need some practical advice, this episode has you covered. Alicia breaks down real, actionable steps that will help you reclaim control over your role as a stepmom and build a stronger partnership with your spouse.Don't forget to:Join The Stepmom Side Community for ongoing support and guidanceRate, review, and subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode!Share this episode with other stepmoms who might need a little encouragement todayResources Mentioned in This Episode:The Stepmom Side Community: www.aliciakrasko.com/communitySchedule a coaching session with Alicia: www.aliciakrasko.com/coachingGet on the waitlist for Alicia's new course, "Resentment to Relief": www.aliciakrasko.com/reliefWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #80: Burnt Out and Overwhelmed? How to Reclaim Your Peace as a Stepmom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2025 14:01


    Feeling overwhelmed by the demands of stepmom life? In this episode, we tackle the relentless cycle of burnout and share practical strategies to reclaim your peace. From setting boundaries to finding your support system, this episode will help you take the first steps toward a calmer, more confident life. Plus, discover how connecting with like-minded stepmoms in The Stepmom Side Community can transform your journey.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why stepmom burnout happens and how it impacts your well-being.The emotional and mental load stepmoms carry and how to lighten it.Four actionable steps to break free from the overwhelm.How finding a supportive community can make all the difference.A personal invitation to join The Stepmom Side Community for real-time support and validation.Resources Mentioned:Join The Stepmom Side CommunityPodcast: How Your Expectations Set You Up for FailureDownload Free Resources for StepmomsWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #79: The Impact of Alcohol on Marriage, Parenting, and Relationships with Casey McGuire Davidson

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2025 68:25


    In this episode, Casey McGuire Davidson, a life sobriety coach, shares her personal journey with alcohol and its profound impact on her relationships, parenting, and well-being. Casey discusses the societal pressures and stigmas surrounding alcohol consumption, especially for high-achieving women and mothers, and how "mommy wine culture" perpetuates harmful coping mechanisms. She opens up about her struggles with drinking, the resentment it created in her marriage, and how quitting alcohol led to a more peaceful home, stronger boundaries, and greater self-awareness.In this episode:Alcohol's biochemical effects on cortisol, dopamine, and serotonin, and how these contribute to anxiety, mood swings, and dependency.How quitting drinking fosters improved communication, emotional stability, and self-care routines.The challenges of navigating societal norms around drinking, especially for mothers juggling work and family responsibilities.The transformative power of sobriety in creating authentic connections and reclaiming personal peace.Casey also provides actionable tips for anyone considering taking a break from alcohol, emphasizing the physical and emotional benefits of even short-term sobriety.About Casey:Casey McGuire Davidson is a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of the Top 100 Mental Health Podcast, The Hello Someday Podcast for Sober Curious Women. As an ex-red wine girl who spent 20 years climbing the corporate ladder while holding on tightly to her love of wine, Casey's passionate about helping busy women stop drinking and create lives they love without alcohol. Her work has been featured on Good Morning America, CNN, NPR, HuffPost and The New York Times.Connect with Casey:www.hellosomedaycoaching.comFree 30-Day Sober GuideThe Sobriety Starter Kit CourseFree Masterclass Take A Break From Drinking With These 5 SecretsThe Hello Someday PodcastInstagramFacebookTiktokYouTube Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #78: Set Your Stepmom Goals: Picking a Word to Shape Your 2025

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2025 21:43


    Welcome to the first episode of the year! In this episode, Alicia shares how choosing a single word for the year can set the tone for success, clarity, and peace in your stepmom journey. Her word for the year, Intentional, is all about making purposeful choices in time management, relationships, work, and self-care. She also invites you to reflect on what you want your year to feel like and walks you through practical steps to choose your own word.Plus, Alicia introduces her upcoming re-release of her course, Resentment to Relief: A Stepmom's Guide to Letting Go, designed to help stepmoms release heavy emotions and reclaim joy.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The power of picking a word of the year and how it can guide your decisions.How being intentional can transform your relationships and boundaries as a stepmom.Simple steps to identify your word for the year and align it with your goals.Details about Alicia's course and how it can help you achieve peace and confidence.Resources and Links Mentioned:Get on the waitlist for Resentment to Relief: A Stepmom's Guide to Letting Go: aliciakrasko.com/reliefFollow Alicia on Instagram for more stepmom tips and inspiration: @AliciaKraskoJoin The Stepmom Side Community: aliciakrasko.com/communityDon't forget:Start your year with purpose and clarity! Choose your word for the year and share it with Alicia on Instagram. Don't forget to join the waitlist for Resentment to Relief at aliciakrasko.com/relief.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #77: 2024 Recap: The Good, The Bad, and What's Next

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 31, 2024 19:42


    In this reflective episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, we're diving into the highs, the lows, and everything in between from 2024. Alicia gets real about her challenges, celebrates her wins, and shares what she's looking forward to in 2025. If you're ready to reflect on your own year and find inspiration for the year ahead, this episode is for you.What We Cover:The struggles of 2024: wasted time, dropped balls, and battling imposter syndrome.Major wins: drama-free holidays, thriving stepkids, a kindergarten milestone, and growing The Stepmom Side Community.Coaching breakthroughs and the podcast's incredible success.What's on the horizon for 2025, including celebrating 10 years of marriage, refining resources, and living with intention.Join Alicia as she wraps up the year with honesty, gratitude, and excitement for what's ahead!Resources Mentioned:What To Do If You Are Caught In the "What If" CycleThe Stepmom Side Community: Learn more and join the supportive network of stepmoms.Resentment to Relief: A Stepmom's Guide to Letting Go Stay tuned for the revamped course launching in 2025.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #76: When You Feel Like a Third Wheel in Your Own Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2024 13:44


    In this episode, Alicia dives into the all-too-common feeling of being a third wheel in your own family as a stepmom. From understanding the root causes to actionable steps and mindset shifts, this episode is packed with insights to help you reclaim your seat at the family table.What You'll Learn:Why feeling like an outsider happens and what it means.How to address these feelings with your partner and kids.Actionable strategies to build connection and confidence.The mindset shift that can transform your stepmom experience.Resources Mentioned:Define Your Stepmom Role4 Steps for Healthy BoundariesWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #75: It's Not the Kids—It's Your Partner: Getting on the Same Page and Having House Expectations

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 17, 2024 36:14


    Does it feel like you're the only one laying down the law while your partner lets things slide? Are you starting to resent your stepkids when the real issue is a lack of teamwork with your partner? In this episode, Alicia breaks down why your frustration with discipline isn't really about the kids—it's about getting on the same page with your partner.Alicia shares insights, practical tips, and mindset shifts to help you stop feeling like the “bad guy” in your home and start building house expectations that actually stick. By the end of this episode, you'll feel more confident and ready to approach your partner with a clear plan for creating structure and peace in your home.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why your stepkids aren't the problem and how to shift your mindset.The importance of setting house expectations with your partner.How to approach the conversation without triggering defensiveness.Actionable tips to create a united front in parenting and discipline.What to do when your partner's dad guilt gets in the way.Links & Resources Mentioned:Free resource: Set Your Stepfamily Up for Success: How to Create House Expectations That Work for Everyone!Podcast Episode #66: Caught In the Middle: The Truth About Dad Guilt in StepfamiliesJoin The Stepmom Side Community for support and advice: HereBook a 1:1 Coaching Call: HereWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #74: From Chaos to Connection: Creating Holiday Traditions That Work for Your Stepfamily

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2024 28:34


    Holidays as a stepmom can feel like walking a tightrope between honoring old traditions and creating space for something new. But here's the thing: the holidays aren't just about the past—they're about building a future full of joy, connection, and belonging. In this episode, we're diving into how you can confidently ditch outdated traditions, create fresh ones, and build a holiday season that feels uniquely yours.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeHow to gracefully step away from traditions that no longer work for your stepfamily.Creative and fun ideas for building meaningful new traditions (hint: gingerbread house competitions and nachos in PJs are encouraged).Why prioritizing connection over perfection is the ultimate holiday hack.A confidence boost to help you reclaim your holiday season with love and laughter.Resources MentionedJoin The Stepmom Side Community for more tips, support, and holiday cheer.Download this free resource: “10 Tips To Get Through the Holidays.” Share your holiday traditions with us! Tag me on Instagram @yourhandle.Remember, the holidays aren't about how they've always been done—they're about how you choose to create them now. So grab that karaoke mic, bake those cookies (burnt edges and all), and own your role as the stepmom who makes this season unforgettable.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #73: Surviving Holiday Chaos: Real Stories from Stepmoms Like You

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 3, 2024 24:49


    The holidays are supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but for stepmoms? Let's be real—it's often a mix of logistical nightmares, emotional overload, and a whole lot of deep breathing. In this episode, Alicia is tackling the holiday stressors stepmoms face, straight from her Instagram broadcast channel: Stepmom Support. From co-parenting chaos to feeling like an outsider at family gatherings, we're diving into the real struggles—and how to navigate them without losing your mind (or your holiday spirit).Here's what we're covering:New Schedules, New Stress:Many stepmoms are adjusting to new schedules in new places. Whether you've moved to another state or your partner's custody schedule has shifted, trying to figure out how to make the holidays work feels like a game of Tetris no one asked to play.The Planning Problem:The holidays fly by, and stepmoms often feel like they're carrying the mental load of making it all happen. Add in the last-minute chaos from partners or co-parents who don't plan ahead, and it's no wonder so many stepmoms feel stuck trying to fit everything into an impossibly tight schedule.The Flexibility Battle:One of the biggest complaints Alicia hears? Co-parents who are unaccommodating with their time but expect stepmoms to bend over backward for theirs. And when there's an “older sibling who acts like a second mom,” the drama multiplies. Sound familiar?The Gift-Giving Comparison Game:Whether it's a competition with the ex or the kids' expectations, many stepmoms struggle with feeling like their gifts won't measure up. Alicia shares why this mindset happens and how to reframe the holiday gift game.Sibling Tensions and Partner Inaction:A stressor Alicia hears about often: having stepkids and biological kids together during the holidays when they don't get along. Worse? A partner who doesn't step up to address the tension or hurtful behavior. We'll talk about advocating for your kids, setting boundaries, and protecting your peace.The Outsider Effect with In-Laws:Many stepmoms feel like their partner's family still wishes for the “old” family dynamic, making holidays awkward or outright painful. If your in-laws treat you like a placeholder, you're not alone—and we'll talk about how to navigate those moments with grace and boundaries.Resources mentioned:Stepmom Support Broadcast ChannelFree Resource: 10 Tips to Get Through the HolidaysPodcast episode: How Your Expectations Set You Up For FailurePodcast episode: Caught in the Middle: The Truth About Dad Guilt In StepfamiliesPodcast episode: Holiday Survival Guide for Stepmoms: Self-Care Strategies That Actually WorkWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #72: How to Navigate Stepkids Coming Home from College (Without Losing Your Sanity)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2024 17:07


    In this episode, Alicia tackles a common, yet often tricky, part of stepmom life: having your stepkids come back home from college. If you're feeling torn between enjoying the holiday reunion and dreading the disruption to your routine, this episode is for you! Alicia dives into real strategies for setting respectful boundaries and practical ground rules, so everyone can enjoy their time together (without you losing your mind).What You'll Learn:How to set boundaries with college-age stepkids in a way that feels fair and respectful.Tips for managing household routines and responsibilities while they're home.Ways to handle pushback when they're not exactly on board with the new rules.Self-care tips for stepmoms during the college break period.How to make the most of this time and find some positives in this phase of life.FREE RESOURCE: 10 Tips To Get Through the HolidaysJoin the Conversation:Have questions or stories to share? Connect with me on Instagram, TikTok, or join The Stepmom Side Community to continue the conversation!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    71: Blending vs. Bonding: Why You Don't Have to Force the “Blended” Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2024 10:25


    In this episode, I tackle one of the biggest pressures in stepfamily life: the expectation to create a “blended” family. Society makes us feel like a stepfamily isn't successful unless everyone's close and connected immediately, but real-life doesn't always work like that. Lets break down the difference between blending and bonding and why forcing “blended” family dynamics often leads to more tension than connection.Listen in to learn:Why blending isn't the ultimate goal and what to focus on insteadHow to foster natural, individual relationships without forced bondingPractical ways to create shared experiences without pressureReal-life expectations for stepfamilies that aren't all rainbows and butterfliesWhether you're a new stepmom or have been in this role for a while, this episode offers practical insights to take the pressure off and focus on what truly matters.Free Resources30 Activities to Connect with You Stepchild At Any Age10 Tips To Get Through the HolidaysWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #70: Holiday Survival Guide for Stepmoms: Self-Care Strategies That Actually Work

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2024 10:23


    As a stepmom, the holiday season can feel like you're juggling everyone else's needs—and there's never enough time for you. In this episode, Alicia breaks down why self-care isn't just a nice-to-have but a must-do during the holidays. From sneaking in “me-time” pockets to setting boundaries with your schedule (yes, it's okay to say “I'm busy!”), she shares simple, powerful strategies for protecting your peace.You'll learn why stepping back from the comparison trap can be the best gift you give yourself, plus practical ways to create a holiday season that feels good for you, not just everyone else. Remember, taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's essential to being the best stepmom, partner, and person you can be.Tune in to hear about:Quick, effective self-care tips for busy stepmomsSetting boundaries on your time so you don't burn outWhy it's okay to prioritize yourself during the holiday hustleAvoiding the holiday comparison trap and focusing on what mattersWhy a little self-care goes a long way in supporting your familyTake this as your permission slip to put yourself first (or at least higher up on the list) this holiday season!FREE RESOURCE: 10 Tips To Get Through the HolidaysHere are the shower steamers Alicia mentioned. (Not an affiliate link...just something that she loves!)Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #69: Family Gatherings 101: Redirecting, Deflecting, and Keeping Your Peace

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2024 23:32


    In this episode, I'm diving into a classic struggle: surviving family gatherings without losing your mind (or your peace). Whether it's Aunt Judy offering unsolicited advice or cousins asking uncomfortable questions about your role as a stepmom, family events can turn into an emotional minefield real quick.Here's what we're covering today:Why Family Gatherings Attract Unsolicited Opinions: Is it the holiday spirit, or do people just forget their boundaries when they pass the gravy? We'll explore why family gatherings tend to bring out all the “helpful” opinions.Prepping for Awkward Conversations: Learn how to identify potential landmine topics and decide in advancehow you'll handle them. This is your guide to staying one step ahead of the awkward questions.Redirecting and Defusing Comments: Discover strategies for gracefully shifting conversations or using humor to dodge unwanted opinions. Think of it as your family gathering survival toolkit.Handling Questions About the Ex: Does everyone suddenly have an insatiable curiosity about your co-parenting situation? We'll talk about ways to answer—or avoid—them while keeping things respectful.Navigating When Kids Bring Up Their Mom: Kids can be a wildcard, especially when they bring up stories about their mom. We'll cover why it's important to stay calm and supportive—and how to respond with grace.Setting a Time Limit and Knowing When to Leave: Family gatherings don't have to be a marathon! We'll talk about how to know when it's time to take a break (or gracefully exit) to protect your peace.This episode is all about showing up with confidence, setting boundaries, and handling tough situations without letting anyone get under your skin. So, grab a cup of tea (or wine), and let's get ready to tackle those family gatherings like the confident stepmom you are (or want to be)!Listen now to find out how to keep your peace intact—no matter how wild the family gathering gets!10 Tips to Get Through the Holidays-FREE RESOURCE!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #68: Navigating the Stepmom Rollercoaster with Lauren from Blended By Distance

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2024 90:29


    In this episode, I'm joined by a fellow stepmom to dive deep into the rollercoaster of emotions and challenges we face. We get real about some of the biggest hurdles that can make us question our sanity... and maybe why we didn't just sign up for yoga instead of a blended family.Here's what we covered:Losing Yourself: That feeling when you wake up and realize you've put yourself last for way too long. We talk about how easy it is to get caught up in being everything to everyone—your stepkids, your partner, their ex, and even the dog. (but seriously) We get into how to reclaim your identity without guilt.The Rabbit Hole of the Kids' Past: Admit it. You've gone down the rabbit hole of comparing yourself to your partner's past life. Whether it's obsessing over family vacations you weren't part of or analyzing photos on Facebook, we've all been there. We unpack the emotional exhaustion of living in the past and how to refocus on your present.Your Partner's Past: Speaking of rabbit holes... let's talk about thinking too much about your partner's previous relationship(s). It's a slippery slope to resentment. We chat about how to move forward with confidence instead of constantly comparing yourself to someone who's not in the picture (but somehow feels like they still are).Adding an 'Ours Baby': How adding a baby together changes the dynamics of the family. Spoiler: It's not always as cute as the Instagram photos make it seem. We share tips on how to balance the excitement with the inevitable complexities it brings, from your stepkids' reactions to how your relationship with your partner shifts.Setting Boundaries with the Ex: This one's a doozy. How do you set healthy boundaries with the ex without coming off like the wicked stepmom? We share personal stories and actionable tips on maintaining your peace and ensuring your relationship with your partner stays strong, even when the ex is… well, challenging.And More!: We also touch on some of those random stepmom moments that make you go, “Is it just me, or…?” Spoiler alert: It's not just you. We cover everything from stepmom guilt to maintaining friendships outside of the family unit.Tune in for a real, raw, and relatable conversation that will remind you—you're not in this alone.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #67: The Stepmom-Specific Anxiety No One Talks About: Why You Feel It and How to Manage It

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2024 22:10


    In this episode, I dive into the rarely discussed but very real phenomenon of stepmom-specific anxiety. If you've ever felt like you're constantly on edge, waiting for the next family drama to erupt—whether it's the stepkids, the ex, or just life in general—this episode is for you. I'm breaking down what makes this anxiety unique, why you might be feeling it, and, most importantly, how to manage it before it manages you.Here's what I dive into:Understanding Stepmom Anxiety: It's more than just "regular" stress. I talk about the invisible load of trying to please everyone and how that leads to feeling out of place or rejected.Common Triggers: Fear of rejection, feeling like an outsider in your own home, and the pressure to be the perfect stepmom.How It Shows Up: From hypervigilance to overthinking every interaction, we're covering how this anxiety manifests in your daily life.Coping Strategies: Real, actionable tips to help lower your expectations, let go of what you can't control, and prioritize your self-care without guilt.Community Matters: Why having a support system (like our online community!) is key to managing this unique stress.Resources Mentioned:Stepmom Support Community: The Stepmom Side CommunityPodcast mentioned: What It's Like to Go From Single to StepmomWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #66: Caught in the Middle: The Truth About Dad Guilt in Stepfamilies

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2024 24:18


    In today's episode, I'm diving into a topic that doesn't get enough attention—Dad Guilt in a Stepfamily. You've probably heard a lot about stepmom guilt, but what about the dads? Many dads in stepfamilies feel torn between their kids and their new family. That guilt can impact everything from how they parent to how they show up in their marriage. I'll break down what dad guilt looks like, how it affects family dynamics, especially when it comes to disciplining kids, and what both partners can do to manage it together.In this episode:What Dad Guilt is and why it happens in stepfamiliesHow guilt can lead to avoiding discipline and letting things slideThe effects of dad guilt on bio kids, stepkids, and the marriageWhy dads feel like they're constantly torn between their old life and their new oneHow avoiding discipline actually backfires in a stepfamilyPractical tips to break down dad guilt and find a healthy balanceHow stepmoms can support their partners without feeling left out or resentfulIf you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate and review the show. Your support helps other stepmoms find this podcast, so we can all get through this wild ride together!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #65: Clear the Clutter: Expert Tips to Declutter Your Space and Mind with Amy Slenker-Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2024 91:07


    Is your home feeling more chaotic than calm? In this episode, I sit down with a decluttering expert Amy Slenker-Smith to tackle all things mess-related. Whether you're drowning in toys, paperwork, or just stuff you can't seem to part with, this episode is packed with practical tips and mindset shifts to help you reclaim your space—and your sanity. We dive into the emotional attachment to items, how decluttering can improve mental health, and how to get the whole family on board (yes, even the stepkids!). Plus, learn simple habits that will help you stay clutter-free for good!What You'll Learn in This Episode:The biggest mistakes people make when starting to declutter and how to avoid them.Expert tips for overcoming emotional attachment to things and finally letting go.Practical steps to start decluttering when you're overwhelmed and don't know where to begin.How to handle the influx of clutter that comes with kids or stepkids, and keep the chaos in check.The link between decluttering and improved mental health and well-being.How to declutter with limited time and make progress in small, manageable chunks...and more!Amy Slenker-Smith is a Washington DC-based Decluttering Coach and author of countless living simply articles at Simply Enough. Through her coaching program and popular blog, Amy's framework proves that even the most unmotivated can conquer the overwhelm of stuff, save hours in their day, and create a home they love.Connect with Amy:www.simplyenough.netOn Facebook5 Clutter-free Habits FREE RESOURCEWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #64: Stepfamily Legal Realities: Divorce, Custody, & Blending Families with Tracey J. Coates

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2024 39:26


    In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, we're diving deep into the legal side of stepfamily dynamics with none other than Tracey J. Coates, Managing Partner of Coates Family Law, PLLC. Tracey is a powerhouse attorney who represents high-net-worth and high-profile clients in domestic relations cases, including divorce, child custody, and adoption, and estate planning. Tracey is the host of the popular podcast, The Tracey Coates Show, and has published numerous articles on family law topics. She is a frequent presenter and commentator at events and appears regularly on radio and television.What you'll learn in this episode:- How you can better prepare before entering divorce or mediation.- The impact of custody agreements on moving or changing living arrangements.- Whether child support can be adjusted when an "ours baby" comes into the picture.- Can judges and lawyers detect if someone has a mental health issue, and how does it affect your case?Tune in for expert advice, real-life examples, and the legal tips you didn't know you needed!Connect with Tracey:- Website: www.coatesfamilylaw.com- Podcast: The Tracey Coates Show**Don't forget to subscribe to The Stepmom Side Podcast, leave a review, and share this episode with fellow stepmoms!**Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #63: When the Ex is Always Around: How to Keep Your Sanity and Your Relationship Intact

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2024 27:01


    Ever feel like your partner's ex is always around—at every event, in every conversation, and all over social media? In today's episode, we dive into the awkward and often frustrating reality of dealing with your partner's ex and how to keep your cool when it feels like they're *everywhere.* I'm breaking down:- Why it can feel like the ex is always around (even if they're not!)- How to communicate with your partner about boundaries without causing a fight- Tips for handling social media when the ex is all over your feed (or seems to be!)- What to do when the ex crosses the line and oversteps- And, of course, self-care strategies to help you stay grounded through it all!If you're tired of feeling like a third wheel in your own relationship or just need some solid advice on how to navigate these tricky dynamics, this episode is for you!**What You'll Learn in This Episode:**1. How to approach conversations with your partner about the ex without it blowing up.2. Why setting boundaries is essential and how to do it without feeling like the “bad guy.”3. The best ways to protect your social media space—and your sanity!4. How to recognize when the ex is overstepping and what you can do about it.5. Self-care techniques to help you stay calm and collected when emotions run high.Got a wild ex story or a question you want answered in a future episode? Send it my way here!**Subscribe & Review:**  If you loved this episode, be sure to subscribe so you don't miss any future episodes! And if you're feeling generous, I'd love for you to leave a review on Apple. Your reviews help other stepmoms find the show and get the support they need too!

    #62: When Your Stepkid Doesn't Like You: How to Handle Feeling Defeated Without Losing Your Sanity

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2024 28:44


    So, your stepkid doesn't like you? Join the club, girlfriend. You aren't the only stepmom that's felt that. In this episode, I discuss:-how it's really not something personal (promise!)-how to deal with the disrespect-why taking time for YOU is so important-ways to build respect (little by little) and more!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #61: Co-parenting at School, Lying, and Supporting Kids with Karin Jakubowski

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2024 34:47


    Dr. Jakubowski is a well-respected international influencer on helping kids live happier, healthier lives. She has touched the lives of thousands of families in multiple states with her ability to connect and help kids experience success from challenging behaviors. With a doctorate in Educational Leadership, and nearly 20  years of experience in education as a teacher, assistant principal and principal, she is highly regarded as an educational gamechanger.In this episode, we discuss:-Co-parenting through the school system-Believing that everyone is trying to do the best they can-How emails can complicate things-Asking “can you help you me understand….”-Changing your delivery, changes the responses you get-A question to kids when you think they are lying-Problem solving with kids and more...!Connect with Karin:X (formerly Twitter)FacebookInstagramTikTokYouTubeLinkedInMomnificent PodcastWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #60: Let's Talk Addiction with Melanie Stern

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2024 35:51


    Melanie Stern is a psychotherapist specializing in alcohol and substance use issues and individual adult therapy. She tailors treatment to the individual to reveal the root of the problem with therapeutic process that is informed by psychoanalytic thinking, systems, CBT techniques, and trauma-based theory and practice. She is also a mother and step-mother, enjoys running and being by the beach, and is a proud lifelong New Yorker.In this episode, we discuss:-what is addiction?-how to break the habit of enabling?-how do I/we communicate with stepkid about addiction-what if my stepkid's mom overdosed? and more!Connect with Melanie:www.melaniesstern.com/Additional resources:We The Village Helping families treat addictionBeyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change (Book)Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)After a Crisis: How Young Children HealHelping School-Age Children with Traumatic Grief: Tips for CaregiversTalking to Teens When Violence HappensTalking to Children When Scary Things Happen Age-Related Reactions to a Traumatic EventCreating Supportive Environments When Scary Things HappenWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #59: How to Navigate Grief As A Stepmom with Krista St-Germain

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2024 46:29


    Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now, she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.In this episode, we cover:-5 stages of grief and why Krista thinks there's another way-dual process model-Dougy Center for Grieving Families-death of a parent/coparent-How to handle emotions you see in kids-Post traumatic growthTo connect with Krista:www.coachingwithkrista.comInstagramFacebookResources mentioned:Dougy Center for Grieving Families Grief Outloud PodcastWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #58: What To Do If You Are Caught In the "What If" Cycle

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2024 8:04


    First, it's normal! Completely normal. Everyone has done it, so don't beat yourself up about it.In this episode, I discuss why it happens and how to break the cycle of repeating it. Let's be honest, you want to stop the cycle, too. You don't want this living rent free in your head.Worrying is like rocking in a rocking chair; you can do it all day, but you don't get anywhere.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #57: You Want Me To Apologize To My Stepkid?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2024 9:22


    I know this sounds like a crazy concept, especially if you have an upbringing like mine. You know, one with the authoritarian parent. "Do as I say, not as I do." or a parent that expects you to jump when they say, "jump."Listen in on why apologizing to your stepkid when you are wrong/made a mistake is actually helpful to your relationship. Dare I say an apology could strengthen it?Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #56: What To Do If You Feel Like An Outsider

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2024 18:48


    Ever feel like everyone else belongs but you do not?There's a secret language they speak.There are inside jokes.The history they share. The memories, vacations, and, well, you know everything that you don't share with them.In this episode, I break down, what outside syndrome is, what it feels like, and things you can do to overcome and work through it.We talk about this in The Stepmom Side Community. Come join us there!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #55: Being "Just" the Stepmom (re-release)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 30, 2024 29:21


    In this episode, Alicia talks about  being "just the stepmom" and how society puts pressure on stepmoms to show up in all the ways, but to remember that, as a stepmom, you aren't the kid's mom. She talks about changing your perspective from being "just" the stepmom to "I'm just the stepmom." Listen in to hear the difference and for tips to embracing being just the stepmom.Want help "Defining Your role"? Click here.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #54: Does Your Ego Drive the Bus?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2024 15:45


    How hard is it to admit you are wrong? Do you have to have things your way? How hard is it to say, "I'm sorry"?If those are hard questions to answer, this episode might be for you. It's a little dose of tough love to help stop your ego from driving the bus.Listen in as I share a nickname my husband gave me early on in our relationship. (Thankfully, he never uses it now!)The resource mentioned is: Mastering the Stressors found here.Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #53: Creating Connections with Your Stepkids

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2024 23:10


    We've all been there: that awkward, "I don't know how to connect with my stepkid...but I know I should at least try.."In this episode, I talk about -why it's important to build connections with your stepkids-where things can go sideways-what to do when it doesn't go well-how to try againWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #52: Talking Things Through with a Single Dad JP Marsh

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 9, 2024 50:35


    JP Marsh is a single "girl dad" to a 9 year old. He's gone gone from "Conflict to Collaboration" in the 7+ years of co-parenting. JP speaks, coaches, and advocates for the benefits of getting out of your own way to be adults in the eyes of your children. In this episode, we cover:-the double standards of stepmoms and stepdads-changing your perspective on the other parent-what your "cutesy" name for the ex says about you-why being and acting like an "adult" in a blended family situation is important...and more!Connect with JP:on InstagramWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #50: A Relatable Stepmom Conversation with Wise Cracking Blonde Christina

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2024 57:16


    Send us a Text Message.Christina is a San Diego native, with a degree in English from San Diego State University. She is a project manager by trade and a producer, writer and director by fun. Christina is the host of Wise Cracking Blonde Trivia Show.In this episode, we discuss:-what it's like having different custody schedules for siblings-how we help the kids navigate things when they go wrong-why Christina doesn't parent her stepkids-why doesn't she force her stepkids to like her-how she's gamified her family...and more.Listen in and find yourself nodding along to relatable stories. Connect with Christina:www.wisecrackingblonde.comInstagram: Wise Cracking Blonde ChristinaPodcast: Wise Cracking Blonde TriviaWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #50: What It's Like To Go From Single To Stepmom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2024 28:04


    If you're a new stepmom, this episode may be just a bit relatable. I cover:-major differences-sharing things-how your relationship seems to take a hit-what stepmoms tell me they wish they would have waited on...and more!Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

    #49: What is EMDR? with Jessica Watterud

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2024 8:18


    Jessica is a licensed clinical counselor and her job is to help people manage their anxiety and depression, but what she focuses on first is their sleep. In her spare time, she keeps busy on her farm with her husband and four boys. Their life is very busy with sports and farm life.In this episode, we discuss:-what is EMDR?-why you need to engage both sides of the brain to process-does EMDR make you forget memories?-alternative methods for EMDR and more!To connect with Jessica:pathtowardhealing.com/Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

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