The Franciska Show

I will be on break for the next few weeks.  Praying for all our people in Israel and around the world. Peace and stay safe!   For episode suggestions - please reach out to Franciskakay@gmail.com      

Raphi Fulcher's Musical Journey and Life as a Black Orthodox Jew   In this episode, Raphi Fulcher, also known as Hebrew, discusses his unique background and perspectives. Growing up as the youngest of six children to parents who converted to Judaism in the 1960s, Raphi shares his experiences moving across different states and eventually studying in Israel. Currently a project manager in digital marketing, Raphi is also a passionate musician. He talks about his musical influences, family background in music, and the transformative experience of performing live. Raphi sheds light on the challenges of dating within the Orthodox Jewish community as a Black man and the importance of finding a partner who understands and is prepared for those challenges. He also discusses the significance of Torah values and the importance of addressing 'otherness' in the Jewish community. Additionally, Raphi shares insights into his music career, Jewish music festivals, and his aspirations to create music that heals and educates.   00:00 Introduction and Background 00:36 Religious and Professional Journey 03:05 Musical Beginnings 04:20 First Performance and Health Struggles 07:24 Stage Name and Identity 09:00 Growing Up Orthodox 20:46 Dating Challenges 29:14 Navigating Relationships and Conversion 30:44 Qualities I'm Looking for in a Partner 32:24 Challenges in Finding the Right Match 35:10 The Birth of a Jewish Music Festival 37:14 Balancing Tradition and Modernity in Music 43:21 The Deeper Meaning of Cain and Hevel 48:45 Practical Advice for Facing Fear 51:39 Sharing My Music and Inspirations   https://www.hebromusic.com https://www.instagram.com/hebromusic/ https://www.youtube.com/@Hebromusic   www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com franciskakay@gmail.com   About Raphi: Raphi Fulcher is a man on a mission, a soldier, or a “soulja,” if you will, in the army of Hashem. So intent is he on spreading his message of acceptance and brotherhood through rap and hip hop music, that he performs under the name Hebro, a Fulcher-ism that declares his intent to use his artistic abilities to better the world as he serves in the ranks of God's military. The youngest of six children born to African-American parents who converted to Judaism 43 years ago under the guidance of Rabbi J.J. Hecht, the then-assistant to the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Fulcher hails from a family of gifted vocalists. The singer, songwriter, rapper and producer lived in Crown Heights until he was four and spent his formative years in North Carolina, St. Louis and Israel. It was during his time as a student at Queens College that Fulcher, whose full name is Raphael Ohr Chayim, discovered his gift for singing publicly. “I was on the board at Chabad of Queens College and we staged musical events. I found that I had a deep passion for live performance,” Fulcher told The Jewish Link. After spending a Lag B'omer at the Chevra Ahavas Yisroel synagogue, Fulcher found himself falling in love with Crown Heights and he spent the next five years there, enjoying the unique warmth of the community and honing his musical voice. Deeply enamored with rap, hip hop, reggae and R&B music, Fulcher decided that the time had come to bring those genres to Jewish audiences, albeit with all new lyrics. “Just the music and the rhythm are very powerful and could resonate with a lot of people if we had positive, uplifting content,” said Fulcher, who previously performed under the name Hebro. “I kept imagining how powerful it would be if I added a real element that would allow listeners to vibe out to the rhythm, with lyrics that have meaning and purpose. I don't think you can deny that it is Jewish music.” Having stretched his musical wings on stage with Matisyahu, Nissim Black, Moshav Band, Lipa Schmeltzer, Zusha and others, Fulcher decided three years ago that it was time to share his God given gifts with the world in a debut EP titled Genesis. “It is an album that is inspired by Tehillim, by King David's work,” said Fulcher. “When I imagine David Hamelech performing during his life, I imagine that his music had rhythm and spirit and with all due respect, I don't think it sounded like the typical 'Jewish' music we hear today in the orthodox world” Genesis, featuring seven original compositions, will be released on March 17th, Rosh Chodesh Nissan. Fulcher is looking forward to sharing his music at a release party taking place at The Loft and Rooftop at 83 Essex Street on Manhattan's Lower East Side of Manhattan which will also feature up and coming talents Izzy Gilden, DJ Kamilly, Simple Man and others. His soon to be released Souljass music video, featuring one of the tracks on the EP, tells the story of Cain and Hevel, which Fulcher sees as the start of baseless hatred in the world. “I want to shed light on being fearful of what we don't control or understand,” said Fulcher. “There is a message there in Cain's conversation with Hashem, when he says he doesn't know where his brother is. If we focused on the other person, if we were conscious of one another, and were tolerant of each other, we would be able to bring about the ultimate redemption.” Still, Fulcher, a resident of the Wesley Hills section of Monsey, is subtle with his messaging. “I consider myself a chasid of the Lubavitcher Rebbe and his teachings and his mission,” said Fulcher. “That is what I wanted to do with this album of songs about redemption and while I may not mention that concept by name, it is there in broader terms and in a way that will allow more people to enjoy the music.” With an edgy style that is simultaneously youthful and appealing, Fulcher is a crossover artist who can appeal to the masses, but also has his priorities straight. Passionate about his music, he is even more dedicated to his religious observance. As someone with close ties to Chabad, Fulcher feels strongly about his own obligation to improve the lives of others. “My ultimate mission with my music is to do my part to bring redemption,” explained Fulcher. “I consider this to be my shlichut and I believe each of us has to bring the world to a higher state of perfection by doing chesed, by reaching out and not just harboring light, but shining light out onto the world.” Having been the only African-American student in the yeshivos he attended since first grade wasn't always easy, admitted Fulcher, but it was an experience that prepared him for his future. “It was challenging for myself and for my peers,” said Fulcher. “It was a reality that none of them had ever dealt with before and it was new for them. Still, growing up as an African-American Jew in a white Orthodox Jewish world gave me the experience to understand the potential of breaking down the barriers of fear and difference while creating an opportunity for growth. B'nei Yisrael come in all shapes and colors and sizes and the sooner we can all handle that the sooner we will all be b'simcha.”

Batya Sherizen shares her transformative journey from a driven and overwhelmed entrepreneur to a fulfilled and present mother, wife, and businesswoman. Batya recounts her life, from her early marriage and 10 years in Israel to her thriving business as a child sleep consultant, which she ran while her husband was in Kollel. A life-threatening pregnancy complication led to a near-death experience, altering her perspective profoundly. She discusses the emotional and physical toll of balancing career and family, the evolution of her relationship with her husband, and the importance of being present in relationships. Her book, 'Dying to Be Me,' encapsulates this metamorphosis, emphasizing the importance of presence and connection over professional success. Batya also touches on the pressures individuals face, the importance of self-awareness, and the need for kindness in understanding others' unseen struggles.   00:00 Introduction and Background 00:39 Life in Detroit and Family Dynamics 01:23 Professional Journey and Challenges 01:48 The Turning Point: A Life-Altering Event 02:16 Writing the Book: Dying to Be Me 06:18 The Near-Death Experience 09:27 Reflections on Life and Happiness 16:37 Balancing Work, Family, and Self-Care 26:20 Reflecting on Life and Relationships 26:58 The Gradual Process of Healing 28:24 Therapy and Finding Balance 29:56 Changes in Marital Dynamics 31:57 Parenting and Financial Roles 43:51 The Importance of Self-Relationship 48:21 Gratitude and Perspective 49:58 Finding Happiness and Fulfillment     About Our Guest: Batya Sherizen is a renowned child sleep expert with nearly 20 years of experience helping exhausted, loving parents reclaim restful nights and restore balance in their lives. Through compassionate, one-on-one support, she creates personalized sleep plans tailored to each family's unique needs. Batya is also a published author and a passionate musician, bringing creativity and heart to everything she does.   LINK TO BOOK - - - DYING TO BE ME: https://a.co/d/br8fJ3H https://www.linkedin.com/in/batya-sherizen-6364a7365/ franciskakay@gmail.com www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com

In this episode, join Olivia, Herman, and Shua Kanarek as they discuss their experiences with Rak Shalom, an acapella Jewish choir at the University of Maryland. The conversation covers personal backgrounds, how they got involved, and how the group operates democratically, including song selection and leadership roles. They also delve into the impact of being part of a diverse Jewish community, arranging music, the challenges and benefits of a co-ed acapella group, and the logistics behind managing performances and tours. The discussion highlights their journey toward enhancing their Jewish identity through music, culminating in their recent first-place win in a national acapella competition.   00:00 Introduction and Guest Backgrounds 00:58 Olivia's Journey and Connection to Judaism 02:28 Shua's Story and Connection to Rock Shalom 03:28 Running Rak Shalom: Leadership and Song Selection 05:14 Performances, Competitions, and Time Commitment 09:51 Funding and Album Production 10:44 Host's Musical Journey and Inspirations 15:59 Social Media and Jewish Identity 18:29 Personal Connections to Judaism 19:01 Diverse Backgrounds in the Group 22:02 Spirituality and Music 24:20 Group Dynamics and Roles 26:35 Musical Arrangements and Positions 34:40 Alumni and Community 36:01 Living in Israel and Musical Backgrounds 37:27 Closing Remarks and Plugs   About Our Guests: Olivia Herman is a first year student at the University of Maryland. She is the current business manager of Rak Shalom- an award winning collegiate a cappella group at UMD. She is also a proud member of the Jewish community on campus.   Shua is a med student living in Israel. He graduated from Rak Shalom in 2023. His hobbies include playing piano, reading, and sweet potato.   https://www.instagram.com/livherman_?igsh=MXJzbzc1ZGM0enV1NQ== https://www.instagram.com/rak_shalom?igsh=MWczMHFneXpycWZnMA==   Tov Lehodot by Franciska https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7AYCnN_6SQ  

New Releases (Kol Isha) https://open.spotify.com/album/6iHHbVxVghTr9VXJ4ZW4NK?si=Q5CeNjiwQA69lrTP26z8eQ   https://open.spotify.com/album/1nbIq6V2VmcIxFNwsCwNkc?si=Y5VtA51aTUqraHqWmKuSsA   In this episode, Estee Weingarten discusses her journey from Montreal to New York and her transformation into a life coach focused on women affected by spousal addiction. Estee talks about her own experiences with her spouse's mental illness and addiction, leading her to establish 'The Comfort Zone,' an organization aimed at creating a safe, supportive community for Jewish women grappling with spousal addiction. The conversation details the resources and support provided by The Comfort Zone, including retreats, therapy sessions, and a 24/7 support chat. Estee also emphasizes the importance of community and mutual support in overcoming the challenges associated with addiction.   00:00 Introduction and Guest Background 01:28 Founding the Comfort Zone 03:17 Personal Struggles and Isolation 04:26 Discovering Al-Anon and Recovery 06:04 Challenges of Addiction in the Jewish Community 07:36 Reaching Out for Help 11:54 Understanding Addiction and Its Impact 17:37 Advice for Those Affected by Addiction 22:32 Living with an Addict: The Harsh Realities 24:00 Boundaries: Protecting Yourself in a Relationship with an Addict 27:20 The Comfort Zone: A Safe Haven for Wives 29:49 Support Systems and Community Building 34:59 The Importance of Therapy and Financial Struggles 41:08 The Comfort Zone's Mission and Future Goals 44:18 Final Thoughts and How to Support instagram.com/thecomfortzoneinfo instagram.com/coach.estee To donate: https://mail.causematch.com/c/eJxUzbGOgzAMgOGnSbZWwTYGhgwnVbxG5RhTkBpSQejQpz_1tlu_f_inKJ3OQzJvsekIeiQm8EvElocBB7JASDo3rSZuU28cqGm6Wf0aIUAbEKhhohCuHVNSm4yTwNzj4CionIdlqbpctWT_jEutr8Phj4PRwfg_OxirfhyOZ833o5y7msOb5vukDviL2ab1zA5vlmV9-j1-bJG3pF10EUfh8eW_U41T2cp-0bJtpvWikl-yPrYLMoN_R_gNAAD__1R3Tdc www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com Contact Franciska @ Franciskakay@gmail.com

Stay tuned for new singles dropping for Lag BaOmer!       Chaim's Journey: Battling and Recovering from an Eating Disorder In this episode, Chaim, an attorney specializing in immigration and family law, shares his personal struggle with an eating disorder, starting from his preteen years through recovery. He discusses how his eating disorder affected his life, including the intensive treatment and the personal and communal challenges he faced as a religious Jewish male. Chaim elaborates on his journey to recovery, the spiritual and physical obstacles he encountered, and the support system that aided him. He also touches on the societal pressures and misconceptions surrounding eating disorders in men, and shares his ongoing efforts to maintain a balanced and healthy life. Additionally, Chaim reveals his unique stance on marriage and family life, providing an in-depth look at his personal choices and beliefs. His narrative aims to raise awareness and provide hope to others grappling with similar issues.   00:00 Introduction and Background 00:57 Early Struggles with Eating Disorders 02:09 High School Challenges and Realizations 05:20 Seeking Help and Diagnosis 07:00 Inpatient and Outpatient Treatment 11:54 Life After Treatment 16:01 Reflections on Recovery and Spirituality 24:00 Personal Decisions and Future Outlook 32:18 Final Thoughts and Advice     www.jewishcoffeehouse.com franciskakay@gmail.com

Educational Adventures: Embracing Creativity and Individuality at Camp Yalu Wilderness   In this episode of The Franciska Show, Rabbi Tani Prero discusses his background as an Orthodox Jew, his experiences growing up, and his journey to establish Camp Yagilu Wilderness. With the aim of helping creative and independent-minded boys, Rabbi Prero runs this unique camp that offers activities like deep-sea fishing, hiking, and animal care. He talks about the essential need for nurturing creativity in children and the importance of accepting and guiding those who don't fit into traditional molds. He also shares some interesting anecdotes and challenges faced while running the camp, including safety measures and fostering responsibility. Through these experiences, the camp strives to offer a place where boys can express their individuality, develop self-confidence, and engage in meaningful social interactions.   00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:42 Rabbi Tani Prero's Background 02:30 Creativity and Community Involvement 04:18 Challenges of Being Different 07:28 Personal Stories of Non-Conformity 14:29 The Impact of Rejection 23:14 Supporting Unique Kids 26:34 Unconditional Love and Social Interaction with Animals 27:39 Effective Tools and Activities in Camps 27:46 The Transformative Power of Hiking 28:45 Planning and Leading Bushwhack Hikes 30:11 Handling Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) 31:32 Customizing Camp Activities for Each Child 33:18 Encouraging Creativity and Responsibility 37:30 Knife Safety and Kinesthetic Learning 44:51 Freedom to Fail: A Core Principle 48:13 High-Risk Activities and Safety Measures 49:40 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections   About Our Guest: Rabbi Tani Prero is a camp director, group facilitator, wilderness therapist, hike leader, and musician. Tani loves leading groups in games, on hikes, and in discussions. As an avid outdoorsman and super-friendly people person, Tani inspires teenagers and adults to succeed using a personalized approach and exciting challenges. As a master teambuilding facilitator and certified wilderness therapist, Tani knows how to make people feel comfortable in the outdoors, and he uses games and other exercises to help them learn the skills that match their unique capabilities. Beyond facilitating games and exercises, Tani facilitates relationships, helping campers, family members, teammates, students and co-workers work together more effectively and learn to smooth out their differences. Tani is also a captivating speaker whose presentations are dynamic, funny, interesting and engaging. https://yagilu.com https://www.instagram.com/yagilu_wilderness/ www.jewishcoffeehouse.com  

Navigating Medicine and Faith: A Conversation with Dr. Sharon Stoll In this episode, Dr. Sharon Stoll discusses her background growing up in a modern Orthodox Jewish community in Philadelphia, her journey to becoming a neuroimmunologist, and her professional experiences working at Yale and now in Philadelphia. The conversation touches on her approach to patient education, especially around COVID-19 and various medications, including GLP-1 agonists like Ozempic and SSRIs for mental health. Dr. Stoll also speaks about her role in JOWMA (Jewish Orthodox Women's Medical Association) and the importance of educating her community on medical issues.    The discussion covers her views on IVF, the ethical considerations of genetic selection, and the interplay of anxiety and genetic predispositions within the Ashkenazi Jewish community. Dr. Stoll shares personal anecdotes and insights into balancing professional and personal life, making this an in-depth and enlightening conversation.   00:00 Introduction and Background 01:19 Professional Journey and Achievements  02:08 Balancing Media and Medicine 03:48 Involvement with Jowma 05:40 Views on Vaccination 14:26 Discussion on SSRIs and Ozempic 28:16 Challenges in the Frum Community  34:38 Debunking Misconceptions About Diabetes 35:07 Educational Gaps and Community Efforts 36:43 Health Education in Schools 39:06 Challenges of Motherhood and Societal Expectations 43:43 Genetic Risks and Mental Health in Ashkenazi Jews 54:38 IVF, Genetic Selection, and Ethical Dilemmas  01:02:34 Concluding Thoughts and Personal Reflections   About Our Guest: Dr. Sharon Stoll is a board-certified neurologist, neuro-immunologist. She currently serves as Director of Neurology at Stoll Medical Group in Philadelphia. For the past 8 years she worked as assistant professor, in the department of neurology at Yale School of Medicine. She completed her neurology residency training at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia and her Neuroimmunology fellowship at Yale New Haven Hospital. Dr. Stoll played an active role in academic development and continuing medical education. She currently serves on several steering committees and advisory boards. She has been published in numerous peer-reviewed journals and served as Principal Investigator on several clinical trials. Dr. Stoll has received numerous awards, including Top Neurologist, 40 under 40, the Rodney Bell teaching award, and is a national multiple sclerosis society grant recipient. Dr. Stoll is also a medical editor for Medscape and Healthline and previously worked as a medical editor for ABC News. She is also a medical commentator for several national and local news outlets, including ABC, NBC, and CBS News, and has been on a variety of shows, including “The Doctors”. She is an internationally renowned speaker and patient advocate.   https://www.drsharonstoll.com https://www.instagram.com/drsharonstoll/?hl=en https://www.jowma.org  

  Check back in next week for a brand new episode of The Franciska Show To book Franciska for your BAT MITZVA - email franciskakay@gmail.com     Enjoy this pilot episode of "Getting Free" a new podcast hosted by the International Beit Din with Rabbanit Leah Sarna (a former guest on the Franciska Show). https://gettingfree.podbean.com Imagine finally escaping a marriage after years of abuse. But there's one last step- you need your abuser's permission to get a divorce. That's the reality for the Jewish women in Getting Free, and countless others around the world. Their husbands use a religious tradition to trap them in marriages that should have ended a long time ago.  But it doesn't have to be this way.  To learn more about this issue, and to help put an end to it, please join the International Beit Din at our conference “Redefining Freedom” on May 21st with the Gruss Program at the NYU School of Law. To learn more and register go to https://www.internationalbeitdin.org/campaign-to-end-iggun/   

How to handle Diets on Shabbos? Why are eating disorders so common in the Orthodox community? Jill Sharfman NC (Nutrition Consultant), is the co-host of the nutrition podcast “Let My People Eat.” On each episode she helps to demystify confusing talk about how to maintain a healthy lifestyle while keeping kosher. She is a board-certified holistic nutritionist living with her family in Los Angeles. The podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and at https://letmypeopleeat.com Follow her on Instagram @jill_sharfman for more information and on Facebook @letmypeopleeatpodcast. www.jewishcoffeehouse.com

In this episode of The Franciska Show, host Franciska discusses the complexities and behind-the-scenes efforts involved in helping women, known as agunot, who are unable to obtain a religious divorce (get) from their husbands. The episode features interviews with Jennifer Lankin, Interim CEO at ORA (Organization for the Resolution of Agunot), and Ezra Stone, a private investigator who specializes in tracking down recalcitrant husbands who refuse to grant their wives a get. Jennifer shares her journey into this work and explains ORA's community-focused approach to addressing get refusal. Ezra offers insights from his fieldwork, describing some of the challenges and strategies involved in locating and pressuring these husbands to comply with religious and legal obligations. The episode encapsulates the importance of community response, the use of private investigators in protracted cases, and the critical role that social culture and public pressure play in resolving these deeply rooted issues.   00:00 Introduction and Announcements 01:50 Special Guests: Ezra Stone and Jennifer Lankin 02:12 Jennifer Lincoln's Journey and Insights 03:54 Ezra Stone: The Private Investigator 05:57 The Role of Private Investigators in Get Refusal Cases 10:19 Challenges in Tracking Down Recalcitrant Spouses 11:36 Case Study: The Search for Naftali Shabani 22:24 Unexpected Encounters and Travel Stories 22:56 Investigative Techniques and Challenges 23:08 The Case of the Recalcitrant Brother 26:59 Legal and Ethical Considerations 27:56 Creative PI Strategies 29:02 The Big Daddy of Get Refusers 36:56 Social Media and Influencers 39:38 Security Issues in the Jewish Community 44:16 Closing Remarks and Reflections   www.instagram.com/oraagunot   About our Guests: Ezra Stone is a licensed private investigator in both the USA and Israel, who specializes in sensitive cases within the Orthodox Jewish community. As a member of the community himself, he brings a deep understanding of its nuances, customs, and unspoken boundaries—insight that's critical when handling discreet investigations such as locating missing individuals, resolving Agunah cases, or uncovering hidden truths. Unlike many investigators who stand out in these insular environments, he blends in naturally, earning trust while gathering the facts. With a reputation for integrity, persistence, and cultural sensitivity, he takes on cases others can't touch. To get in touch: FrumDetective@gmail.com https://www.instagram.com/protexia1 Protexia1.com       Jennifer Lifshutz Lankin is the Interim CEO of ORA: The Organization for the Resolution of Agunot, a nonprofit dedicated to eliminating abuse from the Jewish divorce process. ORA provides advocacy and support for agunot worldwide while also working to prevent get-abuse through education and awareness initiatives. Jennifer has been with ORA for nine years, shaping its programs, advocacy, and leadership. She holds a B.A. from Yeshiva University and a Master's degree from Hebrew University in Jerusalem. She currently lives in Jerusalem with her family.   Contact Franciska @ franciskakay@gmail.com www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com  

In this episode, we continue the conversation from last week with a new perspective on the issue of dating and relationships within a community. Our guest shares her personal experience of dating someone who later disclosed being gay, discussing the emotional impact and the broader community implications. The conversation explores the difficulties faced by individuals who want to lead a committed lifestyle while dealing with same-sex attractions, the challenges in communication and transparency in dating, and the need for greater support and discussion within the community. The host also touches on the upcoming release of a new song and highlights the importance of providing visibility to underrepresented experiences.     00:00 Introduction and Recap 01:58 Guest Introduction and Listener Interaction 02:43 Discussing Last Week's Episode 03:18 Personal Experience and Reflections 09:18 Impact and Emotional Aftermath 15:07 Community and Mentorship 23:32 Exploring Solutions and Final Thoughts 26:03 Conclusion and Farewell     www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com franciskakay@gmail.com

In this episode, the guest shares their experience growing up in a religious Jewish community, facing questions about their sexual orientation, and grappling with their faith. They describe their upbringing, moments of self-realization, and the challenges of reconciling their identity with community expectations. The guest discusses pivotal moments in high school, relationships with women, and the struggle to remain within the confines of their religious beliefs. They emphasize that attraction lies on a spectrum and not everything is black and white. Highlighting the ups and downs of their journey, including being fired from a meaningful job due to personal revelations, the guest underscores the importance of choice and staying true to one's faith while seeking acceptance and understanding. The conversation concludes with reflections on the complexities of maintaining privacy and trust in relationships and the hope for a future partner who understands and respects their journey.  

This Episode is sponsored by Jump Into Shape www.jumpintoshape.fun   About Our Guest: Adina Edelman is a book editor for Jewish publishers and self-publishing authors. She has worked on over 120 books of various genres and recently published her debut novel, Breaking Open. Adina has led multiple writing workshops and editing webinars, all with the goal of helping writers mine their message for gold. She is passionate about producing high-quality, relatable fiction for Jewish readers and is already working on her next book. She lives in Baltimore, MD. https://www.linkedin.com/in/adinaedelman/ https://israelbookshoppublications.com/products/breaking-open edelmanedits.com www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com  franciskakay@gmaill.com

This Episode is sponsored by Jump Into Shape www.jumpintoshape.fun This episode features a deep and honest conversation inspired by the format of Joe Rogan's podcasts and focuses on the complexities of religious traditions and societal pressures within the Jewish community. The guest, who remains anonymous, discusses a variety of topics including the flaws in the education and religious guidance system, the influence of materialism, and the pressure to conform. Additionally, there is a debate over the merit and challenges of the 'Kollel' life, the culture of early marriages, and the reality of taking responsibility for one's path in life. The episode also touches upon the impacts of keeping up with community standards and proposes the need for updated, more individualized approaches to maintain traditions while adapting to modern challenges.   00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 01:38 Sponsor Message: Jump Into Shape 02:46 Guest Introduction and Initial Banter 03:41 Guest's Background and Upbringing 04:36 Questioning the System 16:06 Materialism and Its Impact 24:31 Marriage and Life Experience 33:18 The Dynamics of Marriage and Socioeconomic Status 35:02 The Role of Seminaries in Marriage Preparation 35:59 Challenges of Late Parenthood in Western Culture 37:16 Preparing for Marriage: A Case-by-Case Approach 39:22 The Realities of Kollel Life 46:15 Materialism and Mitzvahification in Judaism 48:23 The Cost of Jewish Education and Keeping Up with the Joneses 51:38 Balancing Tradition and Modernity in Celebrations 58:57 Final Thoughts and Reflections     www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com franciskakay@gmaill.com

Book Franciska for your event: franciskakay@gmail.com   Navigating Jewish Divorce: In this episode of The Franciska Show, Franciska recaps a recent concert and discusses upcoming events. The main segment features Sarna, sharing insights on Jewish divorce and the Agunah crisis. Sarna details her upbringing in the Orthodox community, her work with the homeless in New Haven, and her academic journey at Yale. She explains the historical context of the Agunah crisis, the role of Batei Din, and her organization's innovative approaches to resolving Jewish divorces. They also discuss coercive control in abusive relationships and the importance of choosing the right Batei Din for divorce proceedings. Sarna emphasizes the need for community support for women in abusive marriages and outlines scenarios where her organization can intervene to prevent get extortion and facilitate fair divorces.   00:00 Introduction and Concert Recap  00:59 Guest Introduction: Sarna's Background 03:19 Discussing Jewish Divorce and Agona Crisis 06:36 Ideal Divorce Process and Challenges 10:09 Choosing the Right Bait Din 16:18 International Perspectives and Collaboration 18:40 Identifying and Addressing Get Extortion  22:39 Choosing the Right Beit Din 22:50 Halacha and Gender Dynamics in Divorce 23:59 Historical Context of the Agunah Crisis 26:56 Coercive Control in Marriages 30:56 Financial Implications of Divorce  32:52 Challenges in Leaving Abusive Relationships 35:45 Strategies for Securing a Get 38:03 Supporting Friends in Troubled Marriages 39:53 Community's Role Post-Get 41:08 Final Thoughts and Reflections   About Our Guest:   Rabbanit Leah Sarna is the Director of Public Education and Media for the International Beit Din and the Spiritual Leader of Kehillat Sha'arei Orah in Lower Merion, PA. An award-winning Jewish educator, she has taught Torah in Orthodox and Jewish communal settings around the world, and she particularly loves empowering women of all ages to feel ownership over the most complex areas of the Torah library. Her written works can be found in The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Lehrhaus and the Jewish Review of Books, and she is currently writing a book of Torah and Halacha relating to pregnancy, birth and the beginning of life. Leah has extensive advanced higher Jewish education and holds a BA in Philosophy & Psychology from Yale University.   lsarna@internationalbeitdin.org     Gett First: https://bethdin.org/the-proper-timing-of-a-get/#:~:text=The%20Beth%20Din%20of%20America,at%20the%20earliest%20possible%20point.   Equitable Division of Assets: https://bethdin.org/equitable-distribution-and-the-enforceability-of-choice-of-law-clauses-in-beit-din/  (they don't name who exactly they are writing this against)  and the attached on how equitable distribution of assets works in Israel.    IBD Links -  internationalbeitdin.org Get Help: https://www.internationalbeitdin.org/get-help/  IBD mailing list: https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/n12Pgpa  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/internationalbeitdin/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100071877830319   www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com

Tickets for Unity Concert in Monsey (March 2nd): https://www.tickettailor.com/events/thepowerofyourstory/1560379?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaYgEkUb9O3nlnD67gNQFZgHDtoh1mJfIIWMzaHGs9JOsMc7iW60ccOQaC0_aem_ww_6TYeR66qgCL5ChBA5tw     In this emotional episode of the Franciska Show, Francisca dedicates the beginning moments to acknowledge the horrifying news from Israel involving the Bibas children and Shiri, expressing heartfelt condolences to the affected families. She announces her performance at the upcoming Unity Concert in Monsey, aiming to uplift spirits through music during such dark times. The main segment features an interview with Miriam Haber, who shares the tragic tale of her son Zechariah Haber's death. Miriam, originally American, recounts her family's journey to Israel, Zechariah's illustrious life as a brilliant scientist and devout scholar, and the devastating impact of his death on January 16th during his military service. They discuss the personal and national grief intertwined with Zechariah's loss, his heroism, and how the family is coping and striving to honor his legacy through various initiatives. The episode dives deep into the raw emotions and challenges faced by bereaved families, highlighting the profound and ongoing impact of such a loss.     00:00 Introduction and Recent Events 01:00 Upcoming Performance Announcement 01:46 Interview with Miriam Haber Begins 03:02 Miriam's Background and Family 04:31 Story of Zechariah 14:06 Zechariah's Heroism and Final Days 26:07 Coping with Loss and Family Support 30:22 Coping with Grief as a Family 33:08 The Constant Presence of Loss 37:20 Finding Comfort in Small Things 39:14 Honoring Zechariah's Legacy 44:14 Personal Grief vs. National Grief 45:45 Struggles with Faith and Community 50:15 The Impact of Zechariah's Life 56:02 Processing National Tragedies 01:02:09 Concluding Thoughts and Gratitude

The Impact of Toxic Messaging and Pop Culture on Modern Relationships   The episode features guest Anna Sherman discussing the widespread issue of toxic messaging in pop culture, spurred by reactions to events like the Grammys and behaviors of public figures such as Kanye West and Bianca. Anna and the host critique the 'naked trend' and its implications for women's portrayal in media, contrasting it with men's treatment. They delve into how these messages influence societal norms, especially affecting dating culture and perceptions among both men and women. Additionally, the conversation touches on the challenges faced by Jewish singles and the broader implications of these societal issues within the Orthodox community.     00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:32 Disturbing Grammy Moments 01:05 Toxic Messaging in Media 03:16 The Naked Trend Debate 04:16 Impact on Therapy and Society 06:01 Gender Double Standards 12:57 Dating Apps and Modern Relationships 18:01 Orthodox Community Perspectives 21:01 Concluding Thoughts and Anecdotes   About Our Guest: I'm Anna Sherman – Registered Psychotherapist, Maternal Mental Health Practitioner, and Clinical Supervisor. I work with individuals, couples, and families, as well as supervise qualifying therapists in their training. I help you heal and overcome trauma, fears, and emotional blocks in your life and relationships by building skills and tools to help you help yourselves! I hold a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and I am specially trained in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), The Gottman Method, Maternal Mental Health, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Mindfulness Meditation, and Psychodynamic Therapy. By utilizing multiple therapeutic modalities, I am able to help you overcome any obstacles during our time together. I believe in the mind-body connection and I am passionate about self-help and wellness, taking a holistic approach with my clients to help heal all areas of their lives. https://www.annashermanrp.com/   www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com

Leaving the Chasidish World: Beatrice Weber's Journey of Self-Discovery   In this episode, Beatrice Weber shares her compelling journey from her upbringing in a Chasidish Jewish community to her eventual exit after facing an abusive marriage and fighting for better education for Chasidish children. A mother of 10 and a grandmother of 13, Beatrice discusses her struggles with the patriarchal structure of her community, her fight in family court, and her role as the executive director of YAFED, an organization advocating for improved education in Chasidish schools. She highlights the challenges faced by women in the community, the marginalization and silencing of voices of dissent, and her personal path to healing and self-discovery.     00:00 Introduction and Event Recap 01:15 Welcoming Beatrice Weber 01:23 Beatrice's Background and Family 03:11 Growing Up Chasidish in Toronto 07:12 Marriage and Early Adulthood 14:05 Life in Israel and Challenges 25:36 Realizations and Seeking Therapy 31:21 Struggles and Support Systems 34:16 Leaving the Community 36:40 Double Lifers and Final Thoughts 38:04 Navigating Community Expectations 38:15 Discovering the Underworld 40:17 Struggles with Custody and Family Court 41:42 Challenges of Leaving a Marriage 44:22 Children's Perception and Family Dynamics 47:56 The Wedding Experience 53:42 Patriarchy in Chasidish Life 01:04:05 Advocating for Education 01:11:32 Addressing Criticism and Community Dynamics 01:15:24 Future Aspirations and Final Thoughts https://beatriceweber.com/about/   www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com

In this engaging episode of the Franciska Show, guest Shmuel Chaim Naiman shares his unique journey from Baltimore to Israel, emphasizing the importance of personal health and wellness intertwined with Jewish values. Naiman discusses his new book 'Land of Health: Israel's War for Wellness,' the significance of personal stories of conflict, and the importance of real food, mindful movement, and overall well-being. His discussions cover topics from the cultural implications of physical activity in Jewish communities to the spiritual nexus of the Land of Israel. Naiman also introduces his initiative, Healthy Jew, and details his experiences as a foraging guide and educator. Tune in to explore the intersection of health, spirituality, and Jewish identity with Shmuel Chaim Naiman's profound insights.   00:00 Introduction and Episode Setup 00:57 Guest Introduction: Shmuel Chaim Naiman 01:15 Shmuel's Background and Life in Israel 02:04 Publishing Journey and Professional Background 02:55 Healthy Lifestyle and Personal Transformation 05:47 Integrating Health with Jewish Values 07:15 Promoting Physical Activity in Religious Communities 08:24 The Importance of Walking and Running 11:03 Balancing Tradition and Modern Health Practices 17:20 Healthy Eating: Real Food vs. Food-like Substances 19:08 Creating a Healthy Home Environment 21:33 Defining Real Food and Its Importance 25:17 Conclusion: Embracing a Holistic Healthy Lifestyle 26:53 Exploring the Core of Life and Purpose 27:27 The Difference Between Humans and Animals 28:05 Purposeful Living and Spiritual Growth 28:17 Integrating Wellness Practices with Judaism 30:57 The Value of Silence and Inner Peace 33:03 Jewish Wellness on a National Level 34:50 The Importance of the Land of Israel 37:41 Foraging and Connecting with Nature 39:07 Reflections on Writing and Personal Growth 41:36 Challenges and Successes in Promoting Jewish Wellness 50:02 Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks       About Our Guest: Rabbi Shmuel Chaim Naiman is a Torah student, certified health counselor, and foraging guide in Ramat Bet Shemesh, Israel, where he is Mashgiach Ruchani of Yeshivas Lev HaTorah. Check out healthyjew.org to order his new book, Land of Health; subscribe to his weekly email newsletter, The Healthy Jew; and to book your foraging walk in Israel. He can be reached directly at scnaiman@healthyjew.org. www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com    

In this episode of the Franciska Show, author Bracha Goetz discusses her journey of personal transformation and her impactful work as a children's book author. Goetz, who wrote 43 children's books and one memoir, shares how her books aim to instill gratitude in children and help their souls shine. She recounts her dramatic shift to becoming Torah observant during a trip to Israel and details her educational background, including studying psychology at Harvard with aspirations to become a psychiatrist. Goetz also delves into her work in combating child abuse within the Orthodox community, leading to the creation of the acclaimed 'Let's Stay Safe' book. She highlights the challenges she faced, such as her name being removed from the book due to fears of backlash. Additionally, Goetz introduces recent works focused on promoting healthy lifestyles and combating entitlement among children, and explains her new venture of self-publishing with her family's help. The episode underscores Goetz's commitment to empowering children through meaningful literature.     00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:43 Bracha Goetz's Background and Journey 02:52 Discovering Spirituality and Judaism 04:58 Challenges and Changes in Life 09:23 The Let's Stay Safe Book 14:18 Impact and Reception of the Book 19:59 Empowering Children Through Literature 22:53 Backlash and Personal Reflections 23:39 The Decision to Publish Without Legal Counsel 24:10 Coping with Unrecognized Authorship 24:40 Embracing Pain and Healing 26:04 Promoting Healthy Living in the Orthodox Community 28:17 Addressing the Entitlement Epidemic 29:36 The Power of Gratitude 32:32 Personal Reflections and Future Projects 40:10 The Creative Process of Publishing Children's Books 41:47 Fun Facts and Family Connections 42:35 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   https://www.growingimpactpublications.com     www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com  

Throwback Episode: https://thefranciskashow.libsyn.com/a-gaslighting-case-in-the-literal-sense-with-shulim-leifer Do Diaspora Jews Care (Orthodox Conundrum) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JdIh-tnFszE   In this episode of The Franciska Show, host Francisca interviews Fradel Neuman, an ultra-Orthodox Hasidic woman from Monroe, about her personal journey through child sexual abuse, depression, and her ongoing healing process. Fradel reveals the impact of her upbringing on her mental health and spiritual life, her struggles with trust and emotional intimacy, and the steps she took toward recovery. Despite the challenges, she has found support in her husband and professional therapy. Fradel also discusses the importance of addressing shame, the need for supportive environments, and shares her aspirations of becoming a professional singer. This powerful episode highlights Fradel's resilience and offers hope and understanding to survivors and those supporting them.     00:00 Introduction and Warm Wishes 01:12 Reflecting on the Hostage Situation 01:49 Revco Fox's Blind Date Initiative 02:27 Throwback Episode and No More Silence Series 03:02 Interview with Freidel Newman Begins 03:15 Freidel's Background and Family Life 03:50 Discussing Child Sexual Abuse 07:48 Therapy and Healing Journey 17:35 Confronting the Abusers 26:11 Witnessing Abuse and Emotional Neglect 28:17 Therapy and Healing Journey 30:33 Impact on Marriage and Trust Issues 33:21 Struggles with Depression 39:32 Religious Life and Personal Changes 44:28 Emotional Intimacy and Family Relationships 47:56 Message to Survivors and Mothers 56:10 Hopes and Dreams for the Future   Fradel Neuman is a mental health advocate, survivor of sexual abuse and photographer sharing her mental health journey. www.instagram.com/Fradelneuman   Check out www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com To contact Franciska: email franciskakay@gmail.com  

In this episode of The Franciska Show, Rivkie Feiner, CEO and owner of a consulting firm specializing in nonprofit funding, shares her unique experiences as an Orthodox Jewish woman balancing religious beliefs with professional demands. Rivkie discusses her journey from a secretary to owner of a firm that helps clients secure millions in government grants. She also elaborates on her advocacy work, especially in the East Ramapo Central School District, and the challenges posed by systemic funding inequities. Rivkie provides insights into the media's portrayal of the Orthodox community and her efforts to correct stereotypes. Additionally, she addresses issues of education, voting rights, and the impact of bureaucratic decisions on her community. Through her efforts, Rivkie emphasizes the importance of giving back, speaking up, and fostering growth within her community.   00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:45 Rivkie Feiner's Background and Professional Journey 03:00 Grant Writing and Advocacy Work 08:04 Challenges in East Ramapo Central School District 17:58 Media Representation and Community Advocacy 24:06 Supporting Nonprofits and Future Goals 30:02 Introduction to the World Zionist Organization 30:13 Joining Eretz HaKodesh 31:23 Experiences and Challenges in the Organization 33:01 Family Legacy and Personal Reflections 34:29 Addressing Corruption and Bureaucracy 37:42 Community Advocacy and Political Engagement 39:53 Fighting for Fair Education Funding 49:09 Advocacy for Abuse and Community Support 50:50 Balancing Family and Community Work 55:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   About Our Guest: My bio: Rivkie Feiner is a community activist and the CEO of Feiner Grant Strategies (FGS), a consulting firm that has raised hundreds of millions in funding for nonprofits. Her efforts have significantly advanced Jewish fundraising and supported the growth of numerous nonprofits globally. Rivkie's commitment to community service is evident through her roles as Program Director at Agudath Israel of America, a Fellow in JCRCNY's Community Connections Fellowship, and board member positions at Rockland Federation and JCC Rockland County. A skilled motivational speaker, Rivkie has participated in various forums on funding and community issues. Recently, she mobilized 1,000 people for a pro-Israel rally in response to a pro-Palestinian demonstration in Rockland County, showcasing her leadership and communication skills. Rivkie continues to foster collaboration among diverse populations, seeking common ground in her advocacy work.     Follow Rivkie on X: https://x.com/feinerrivkie?lang=en   Check out www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com  

In this episode of the Franciska Show, host Franciska speaks with Chumi Friedman and Yonina Kaufman from ATIME's HUG program, which provides support to Jewish couples experiencing perinatal and infant loss. They discuss the complexities of emotional and physical grief, common misconceptions around pregnancy loss, and the importance of community and cultural sensitivity. The conversation also includes insights into how HUG offers medical, emotional, and spiritual support, along with details on personalized care packages and training doulas and medical staff to help families through these challenging experiences. The episode aims to raise awareness and offer practical advice for listeners who might be supporting someone undergoing a similar journey.   00:00 Welcome Back to the Franciska Show 00:40 Updates on Personal Projects 01:59 Introducing Today's Guests 02:21 Meet Chumi Friedman 03:37 Meet Yonina Kaufman 04:50 Personal Stories of Loss 12:12 Halakhic and Cultural Considerations 16:54 Day-to-Day Operations of ATIME Hug 25:54 Impact on Marriages and Personal Stories 32:16 Emotional Turmoil and Grief 32:44 Communicating Needs and Self-Care 33:20 Navigating Trauma and Community Support 34:25 Coping with Loss in a Baby-Filled World 35:29 The Struggle with Faith and Internal Conflict 36:42 Seeking Therapy and Understanding Grief 40:30 Physical Aspects of Loss 41:50 Navigating Mikvah and Physical Triggers 56:47 Training and Support for Doulas 01:04:29 Closing Remarks and Organizational Support     About Chumi Friedman: Chumi Friedman is the Director of HUG, a program of ATIME supporting couples who have experienced perinatal and infant loss. She is a trained peer support counselor, doula and chaplain. @atimehug   About Yonina Kaufman: Yonina is a specialist in Perinatal and Reproductive Mental Health which includes infertility, perinatal loss, and Postpartum Depression and / or Anxiety. Yonina is clinically trained in maternal mental health, grief and bereavement, trauma, child development and parent training. Yonina presents nationally on compassionate bereavement support, on issues facing women post perinatal death and on other women's health matters. While using evidenced based approaches, Yonina helps clients untangle their thoughts and feelings, while they go through their grieving, mourning, and/or parenting journey. As the Clinical Coordinator for ATIME HUG, Yonina supports women and couples experiencing perinatal and infant loss. In Yonina's private practice, she provides tele-mental health services by phone or online. Additionally, Yonina provides clinical supervision for therapists and social work interns, as well as conduct parenting classes for parents with children of all ages and stages. @yoninakaufman

Women in Tanach SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/album/01QmPoPVFrdXoxsli21of5?si=G39hZX17QV6qxzdS4I73zw Mark Trencher offered to have a conversation with a Franciska Show podcast listener David Sheril about his latest survey on  the topic of Midos/Midot in the Jewish Orthodox Community as an interem episode while Franciska is on podcast Hiatus.   Enjoy the podcast and here is a link to the Orthonomics Podcast itself: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-orthonomics-podcast/id1607753307   About David Sheril: David Sheril grew up in Chigwell, a suburb of London. His family became baalei teshuvah when he was nine years old. When David was eleven, his family moved to the Bayit Vagan in Jerusalem. He moved to the U.S. at age 22, in 2005. David's yeshivah education includes Mir Yerushalayim and Ner Yisroel. He served as a rebbe at a Russian-American Jewish high school in Brooklyn for several years before going to law school. He is currently General Counsel for a privately-held real estate transactional, management, and lending company. David resides in Clifton, New Jersey, with his wife Miriam (formerly an officer at the Federal Reserve Bank and now Head of Product at an international fintech startup) and their three children      

Thanks for tuning in for a RERUN episode.   To join the discussion group: email: franciskakay@gmail.com About Our Guest: CP is a client-centered, humanistic therapist who believes that it's the human within the therapist that creates the space for recovery and self-actualization. CP's holistic approach to treatment was born out of a deep appreciation for the mind-body connection. After working in vastly different populations, CP discovered early in her career that trauma and mental illness do not discriminate. CP has worked in juvenile prison, methadone maintenance, inner-city homes and schools, residential treatment, foster care and private practice. CP is the co-founder of Atideinu, a non-profit organization that fosters social and emotional development in children. After years of working as a therapist, clinical supervisor, consultant and trainer, CP created Resonant Therapies to help streamline all of these services and more. https://resonanttherapies.com/ https://www.facebook.com/cp.handler/ Episode with Randy: https://www.franciskakosman.com/podcast/episode/1d765ce3/part-2-randys-story-with-juvie-transformation-and-cp     Episode 1 with Emilio: https://www.franciskakosman.com/podcast/episode/3af9d486/emilios-story-with-juvie-transformation-and-cp-p1?fbclid=IwAR18DRT-yVQ6SfnLyCsQQR_V0uLHT7gbvTlzABh1hsMigq21cBaHyruCOP0   Episode 2 with Emilio: https://www.franciskakosman.com/podcast/episode/1b866122/emilios-story-with-juvie-transformation-and-cp-p2?fbclid=IwAR1-X4hdCK0y4WMyXlNicE4nPQuLRn-B2kG0A0qZOZaB3WKt-rT75T4ZsrY   _______________________ If you'd like to book a consult session with Franciska, email: franciskakay@gmail.com If you'd like to sponsor an episode, email: franciskakay@gmail.com Check out www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.    

Thanks for tuning in for a RERUN episode.   Was the women's ASIFA a success? Why was it so inspiring? Why were so many many turned off? What did they do right? How could have it been better?  How does Charedi leadership feel about women, their roles and right for self expression? Listen to this episode to hear a frank discussion that brings up all sides.  Check out the original episode on this show with Dr. Efrat Bruck: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-the-issues-brought-up-in-my/id1316933734?i=1000529763337     Link to the latest music release "Times Of Our Lives": Kol Isha https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LypQ6opliv4&feature=youtu.be   If you'd like podcast support, please reach out to franciska@franciskakosman.com   If you'd like to book a consult session with Franciska, click here:  https://checkout.square.site/merchant/5BECR8D49NYV3/checkout/FVSNPB7HVW36LOYAR3L7SJMU   If you'd like to sponsor an episode, click here: https://checkout.square.site/merchant/5BECR8D49NYV3/checkout/6KYMG7OGFR4Y63C43RREZ5MV Check out www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.   ABOUT OUR GUEST: Efrat Bruck, MD, graduated from the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and is now an anesthesiology resident at the Mount Sinai Hospital. Before medical school, she taught Judaic studies, Hebrew, and Biology to 1000 now-alumni of Be'er Hagolah Institutes, in Brooklyn, NY. Dr. Bruck has worked as a content specialist for Khan Academy and created over 30 MCAT preparation videos on topics in molecular biology, DNA, and genetics that have also recently been translated into foreign languages.  Her videos have been published on the AAMC (American Association of Medical Colleges) website, Khan Academy, and YouTube, accruing millions of views on the latter. Dr. Bruck has published research in Nature, the Journal of the American Society of Nephrology, and Obstetrics and Gynecology. Dr. Bruck founded and leads the JOWMA PreMed Society that aims to advance Jewish women, from all backgrounds, in medicine. Dr. Bruck is a fierce advocate for premed students from insular and underrepresented backgrounds and strives to provide them with the resources and tools necessary to compete. (www.jowma.org/pre-med). She was among two out of 200 graduating MDs, PhDs, and MD/PhDs at Sinai's recent commencement to be awarded the Patricia Levinson Award for the Advancement and Inclusion of Women in Medicine. Dr. Bruck, along with her colleagues at JOWMA, is also currently in the process of constructing a cultural competency curriculum that will help healthcare professionals in New York City hospitals provide culturally sensitive medical care to Jewish populations across the entire spectrum of Orthodoxy. Dr. Bruck's experiences in education, acceptance to nearly 10 US MD programs, and service on the admissions committee of the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai have led her to have a highly successful track record helping premeds navigate the medical school application process. She is the founder and CEO of MDInspire, a medical school admissions consultancy that provides professional consulting for fees that are reasonable and a fraction of the standard costs. Dr. Bruck specializes in helping people weave their stories seamlessly through their application, building stellar personal statements and activities sections, interview preparation, and coaching students on how to study smarter, not harder. For more information, please visit: www.MDInspire.com. BlogPost: http://www.rationalistjudaism.com/2021/07/from-bais-yaakov-to-md.html Instagram: drbruck_mdinspire Facebook: Efrat Bruck LinkedIn: Efrat Bruck, MD website: www.MDInspire.com YouTube: Efrat Bruck www.jowma.org/pre-med

Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU. franciskakay@gmail.com     In this episode, Franciska engages in a conversation with Dr. Marcy Forta, who provides insights into her background in business, her personal struggle with an eating disorder, and her efforts to help prevent eating disorders in the Jewish community. Dr. Forta discusses her organization Atzmi, which focuses on addressing body image, self-compassion, and emotion regulation through various age-specific curriculum and parental support. The discussion also covers the pervasive impact of weight stigma, the importance of not commenting on others' bodies, and the need for a cultural shift in how we discuss appearance. Practical advice on managing children's eating habits, dealing with external food influences, and promoting healthy body image within religious constraints is provided. The episode emphasizes the importance of parents' self-care and mindset in modeling positive behavior for their children.   00:00 Introduction and Upcoming Events 01:06 Personal Struggles and Biases 01:33 Interview with Dr. Marcy Forta 01:42 Dr. Forta's Background and Journey 04:03 Understanding Eating Disorders in the Jewish Community 06:07 Prevention Programs and Their Impact 11:40 Challenges and Cultural Factors 14:09 Addressing Weight Stigma and Bullying 20:23 Healthy Eating and Body Image 26:40 Religious Lifestyle and Eating Habits 27:28 Navigating Tishrei: Balancing Tradition and Modern Parenting 27:59 Teaching Kids About Hunger and Fullness 28:45 Handling Food Rewards and Treats 29:11 Recognizing Hunger and Fullness in Children 31:19 Balancing Control and Freedom in Children's Diets 32:15 Parental Influence on Children's Eating Habits 35:17 Addressing Body Image and Self-Perception 39:20 The Importance of Positive Reinforcement 47:03 Shifting Mindsets About Health and Body Image 49:12 Final Thoughts and Encouragement     Dr. Marcy Forta EdD, MBA is the founder and director of Atzmi, an organization dedicated to supporting the mental health of Jewish girls through programs that improve their self-esteem, body acceptance, and reduce the focus on outward appearances.  She specializes in eating disorder education, awareness, and prevention, focusing specifically on risk factors and prevention within the Jewish Orthodox Adolescent Female Community. She is also a Body Project Facilitator, and a Certified Holistic Nutritionist. Dr. Forta's doctoral research focused on community healthcare stakeholders descriptions of religious and environmental risk factors unique to the Jewish orthodox adolescent female community. Community healthcare stakeholders include rabbis, teachers, principals, mental and physical health professionals. Her research was conducted over a period of several years and focused on the U.S. Midwest region. There is long established evidence supporting prevention programs and their impact, this being the impetus to create Atzmi as the evidence suggests that their efficacy is vastly improved when tailored to specific demographics. Her research forms the basis of the eating disorder awareness, education, and prevention programs designed for this community. Dr. Forta lives in Oak Park, Michigan. She is a lecturer, blogger, and sought after expert in the eating disorder field. Her personal website is marcyforta.com.   Links: In a 2012 analysis of 12,000 adults, researchers found that lifestyle habits were a better predictor of mortality than BMI because regardless of someone's weight class, people lived longer when they practiced healthy habits like not smoking, drinking alcohol in moderation, eating 5 or more servings of fruits and vegetables daily and exercising 12 or more times per month.  -https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22218619/ https://www.cnet.com/health/medical/the-obesity-paradox-how-fat-can-be-good-for-you/   https://www.cnn.com/2013/01/16/health/weight-study/index.html   https://qz.com/550527/obesity-paradox-scientists-now-think-that-being-overweight-is-sometimes-good-for-your-health     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.  

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Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU. franciskakay@gmail.com   In this episode Rivka Neriya-Ben Shahar shares her unique journeys and research related to Ultra Orthodox Jewish and Amish communities. Rivka Neria-Ben Shahar discusses her path from growing up in a National Ultra Orthodox community in Israel to earning a Ph.D. with pioneering research on ultra-Orthodox women and media. Rivka recounts her adaptation from Jerusalem to Amish country, highlighting cultural exchanges and genuine friendships formed along the way. The episode delves into the challenges women face balancing motherhood and career, exploring themes of feminism, societal expectations, and personal fulfillment within strict religious frameworks. Through personal anecdotes and rigorous research, the episode contrasts traditional roles with modern lifestyles, providing deep insights into the lives of women in these unique communities.   00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:34 Rivka's Religious and Professional Background 05:21 Journey to Feminism 07:28 Challenges and Conflicts 10:43 Research on Ultra Orthodox Women and Media 14:47 Strictly Observant: The Book 26:51 Fascination with the Amish 31:05 Exploring Community and Tradition 31:48 Admiration and Conflict 32:38 Life Choices and Happiness 33:54 Balancing Career and Family 36:35 Cultural Observations and Personal Reflections 42:33 Religious Practices and Personal Stories 49:05 Cultural Shocks and Comparisons 56:54 Podcast Journey and Reflections 01:00:36 Editing and Reflections on Motherhood About Our Guest:   Dr. Rivka Neriya-Ben Shahar is a Ruth Melzer fellow at the Katz Center for Advanced Judaic Studies at Penn University. She is a senior lecturer at Sapir Academic College in Sderot, Israel, where she teaches courses on research methods, communication, religion, and gender. She is also a scholar at the Israel Democracy Institute, where she studies media usage among the Ultra-Orthodox Jewish community. Dr. Neriya Ben-Shahar investigates mass media from the perspectives of religion and gender. Her research addresses the tensions existing between religious values and new media technologies among women in Old Order Amish and Ultra-Orthodox Jewish communities. Her book, Strictly Observant: Amish and Ultra-Orthodox Jewish Women Negotiating Media, was published by Rutgers University Press in January 2024. Buy The Book: https://www.amazon.com/Strictly-Observant-Ultra-Orthodox-Jewish-Negotiating/dp/1978805225   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.  

New Song: "Together Again" #Kolisha YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESSraPI2vJA  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/2pFt5drG98vA3iSZz1JVdL?si=5b323f0d276c45fa     Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU.  franciskakay@gmail.com     Healing from Narcissistic Parental Wounds: Perspectives and Practical Advice     In this episode, host Franciska has an enlightening conversation with therapist Esther Moskovitz on navigating relationships with narcissistic parents and healing from relational trauma. They discuss the broad spectrum of narcissism, from flamboyant extroverts to psychosomatic narcissists, and its significant impact on parenting and children's sense of self. Key topics include recognizing parental double standards, setting personal boundaries, and the importance of supportive religious leaders within specific cultural contexts. The episode offers practical advice on healing, including dance therapy, journaling, and selecting the right literature and therapist. Esther also emphasizes understanding narcissistic parents as flawed individuals while maintaining self-identity and autonomy.   About Our Guest: Esther Moskovitz, LCSW, from Monsey, NY, specializes in addressing relational trauma and narcissistic wounding. Empowering her clients to heal emotional wounds and rebuild their connection with themselves and others with kindness, compassion, and boundaries, Esther has recently discovered the transformative power of dance and somatic work, recognizing their pivotal role in restoring wholeness and a healthy sense of self. ReclaimingYourself.net  and RhythmicReflections.net     Resources:   Dr. Karyl McBride's website:  https://willieverbegoodenough.com/ She offers self-paced on-line workshops, and in-person intensives. She also has 3 books Will the Drama Ever End? Untangling and Healing from the Harmful Effects of Parental Narcissism  Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist, and Heal Your Family Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers   Books  Gifts From A Challenging Childhood: Creating A Practice for Becoming Your Healthiest Self by Jan Bergstrom LMHC    Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody , Andrea Wells Miller , et al.    Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson     Article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/202010/understanding-narcissistic-injury   Check out www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

New Song: "Together Again" #Kolisha YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESSraPI2vJA Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/2pFt5drG98vA3iSZz1JVdL?si=5b323f0d276c45fa   Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU. franciskakay@gmail.com     Navigating ADHD: Insights, Strategies, and Community Support with Dr. Sara Markowitz   In this episode of the Jewish Coffee Podcast, the host introduces a heartfelt new song dedicated to hostage families before welcoming Dr. Sara Markowitz, a clinical psychologist and co-author of 'Kosher ADHD'. The conversation explores the multifaceted nature of ADHD and its impact on the Jewish community. Dr. Markowitz shares her extensive background and discusses comprehensive treatment approaches, including the role of medication, developmentally attuned parenting, and the significance of fostering self-esteem and self-control in children. The episode delves into practical strategies like the 'Five Ps' approach: Perspective, Planning, Practicing, Performing, and Praising, and emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, compassion, and community support. Listeners gain valuable insights into balancing expectations, setting appropriate goals, and understanding the challenges faced by individuals with ADHD.   00:00 Introduction and New Song Announcement 01:04 Welcoming the Guest: Dr. Sarah Markowitz 01:14 Understanding ADHD: Personal and Professional Insights 04:38 The Role of Medication in ADHD Treatment 10:21 Developmentally Attuned Parenting for ADHD 22:10 Setting Specific Goals for Children 23:04 Balancing Expectations in Jewish Parenting 25:03 Understanding Individual Development 28:24 Encouraging Children's Strengths 32:04 Managing ADHD in a Stimulating World 37:19 Personal Reflections and Strategies 39:14 Concluding Thoughts and Community Support   Buy The Book: https://www.amazon.com/Kosher-ADHD-Surviving-Thriving-Torah-Observant/dp/B0CLY8TNB8   Listen to the episode on Orthodox Conundrum: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/overcoming-the-eisav-complex-raising-orthodox-adhd/id1289716034?i=1000646809711   About Our Guest: Dr. Sara Markowitz, Ph.D. has achieved an incredible amount, in large part due to her personal “ADHD” superpowers.  In addition to obtaining a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Farleigh Dickinson University, Dr. Markowitz is is the founding director of an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) for Jewish Women at Achieve Behavioral Health, the largest behavioral health center serving the greater Jewish community. Dr. Markowitz continues to develop curriculum and measure clinical outcome research for ADHD parenting groups and integration of ADHD individuals within the Jewish community.  She has developed curricula, currently utilized in schools and families focusing on overcoming challenges of multiple origins. In addition to her formal professional activities, Dr. Markowitz is a mother to five awesome children and is the Rebbetzin of Congregation Shomrei Torah in Fairlawn, New Jersey.   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU. franciskakay@gmail.com     In this episode, Elissa Felder shares her journey from growing up in London with a Jewish background to her life in the U.S., working for a nonprofit organization called CORE. She discusses her personal religious transformation and professional path, as well as the profound experiences following the loss of her child.   Elissa delves into the cultural and religious aspects of Jewish mourning traditions, her involvement with the Chevra Kadisha, and how these experiences inspired her to write a book. She also offers insights into understanding grief, the concept of the soul in Jewish teachings, and the broader communal support for those who have lost loved ones. Alyssa's story is one of growth, learning, and the strength found within community and tradition.   00:00 Introduction and Welcome 01:08 Elissa's Background and Journey 02:00 Life in America and Professional Work 03:08 Personal Story and Book Inspiration 03:52 The Journey of Loss and Learning 06:11 Understanding and Sharing Grief 09:42 The Role of Chevra Kadisha 13:16 Jewish Burial Traditions and Beliefs 18:12 Reflections on Life and Death 30:05 The Power of Silence in Mourning 30:47 Personal Reflections on Shiva 33:04 Jewish Mourning Traditions and Practices 34:12 The Journey of the Soul 37:34 Losing a Child: A Deep Personal Loss 42:24 The Role of Chevra Kadisha 53:06 The Hierarchy of Loss and Grieving 58:01 Finding Meaning and Moving Forward   About Our Guest: Elissa is the Coordinator of Core's Communities of Practice (CoP). In this role she facilitates connections, conversations and development of all the Core communities, provides essential support to CoP leaders and oversees the seamless execution of events. She plays a key role in enhancing the professional growth and community building efforts within each community. (www.CoreTorah.org) In addition, Elissa is the Founding Director of Core Connects RI, a non-profit organization that aims to deepen women's connections to one another, to Jewish wisdom and Jewish values, to empower each other to find greater meaning, purpose and possibility in life and to cultivate unity without uniformity. Elissa was born in London, England and in 1985 married her American husband and they started their married life in Washington, DC. After the death of her first child, Elissa started to explore Judaism in much greater depth. In her quest to understand the loss of her baby she explored Jewish sources in general and more specifically regarding death and the afterlife. She is very active on her local Chevra Kadisha, and she speaks widely on this topic. Elissa started and actively manages Core's community of practice for women engaged with traditional Chevra Kadisha. To date it is truly an international community of hundreds of women from all over the US and Canada, the UK, France, Sweden, Holland, France, Italy, Israel, Chile, Panama, Mexico, South Africa and even Australia. The mission of the community is to share experiences, give encouragement, network and help to develop and support each other.  Elissa is responsible for providing on-going professional development for the community. The knowledge she has acquired motivated her to write a book which is a personal memoir of loss and grief with the Jewish teachings about life, death and the afterlife woven into the story. The book, “From One Life to the Next Life; The Sacred Passage After Death,” is due to be released at the beginning of the summer with Mosaica Press. Through all of these experiences Elissa mentors and encourages others on their journeys Buy The Book: https://www.amazon.com/One-Life-Next-sacred-passage/dp/1961602474 www.Elissafelder.com  https://www.facebook.com/mummy.felder   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.  

In this deeply moving episode of The Franciska Show, Tehila Simantov shares her harrowing journey through legal battles and immigration issues in South Africa while struggling to maintain custody of her two young children. From being caught in a toxic and abusive relationship to fighting through the courts with the support of the Jewish community, Tehillah reveals the sacrifices and resilience required to protect her family. Through her emotional and candid story, she highlights the importance of mental health, community support, and the unyielding drive to provide a stable future for her children.   00:00 A Personal Loss and Introduction 03:24 Meet Tehila Simantov 04:05 Early Life and Family Background 05:38 First Marriage and Immigration Challenges 07:15 A New Relationship and Legal Troubles 09:50 Abuse and Custody Battle 12:48 Desperation and Community Support 15:29 Legal Struggles and Imprisonment 18:21 Fighting for Custody and Future Hopes 29:09 Overwhelming Support and Charity 30:40 Living Situation and Support System 32:11 Custody Battle and Emotional Struggles 33:19 Family Support and Personal Reflections 36:09 Recognizing and Addressing Abuse 40:43 Marriage, Divorce, and Co-Parenting Challenges 48:09 Single Parenting Realities 52:02 Final Thoughts and Support   https://www.backabuddy.co.za/campaign/help-tehilah-return-home-her-boys   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.  

What I Want- NEW RELEASE #kolisha  https://open.spotify.com/track/0QnLu5EiUAllFSLJN1LRyv?si=pJLYlimQQxKMkKD9UwaM_w&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A2WHwhZjmWjdeqejDWFzL1D https://youtu.be/Q6UT8CkkaBs?si=h39wJjtbFkva--5Q   Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU. franciskakay@gmail.com   In this episode, Gol Kalev, an Israeli author and thinker, discusses his insights on the evolving nature of Judaism and the modern threats it faces. He delves into topics such as the ideological shift of Judaism with Zionism becoming its anchor, the perceived threats from the West, and the role of the International Criminal Court. The episose also touches on the differences in religious and secular perspectives between Israeli and American Jews. Kalev discusses his new book, 'The Assault on Judaism,' and outlines specific actions that could be taken to counter these modern assaults. Additionally, announcements include the host's new song release and the promotion of the podcast, encouraging listeners to send in feedback and share their experiences.   00:00 Introduction and Announcements 01:28 Meet Gol Kalev: Background and Career 03:13 Judaism 3.0 and the Evolution of Zionism 06:55 Personal Religious Journey 09:16 Secularism in Israel vs. America 17:38 The New Book: The Assault on Judaism 28:36 Historical Context of European Anti-Semitism 30:11 Herzl's Realization and the Dreyfus Affair 31:54 Modern European Opposition to Israel 33:44 Comparing 20th and 21st Century Anti-Semitism 38:55 The Role of the ICC and Global Politics 41:44 Strategies to Combat Modern Anti-Semitism 49:48 Book Launch and Final Thoughts   About our Guest: GOL KALEV is a former Wall Street investment banker who, for the last decade, has been researching Theodor Herzl and Zionism. He writes for The Jerusalem Post and chairs the America-Israel Friendship League Think Tank. Growing up in Tel Aviv and serving in the Israeli Defense Forces, he spent much of his adult life in New York. He now lives in Jerusalem.   Buy "The Assault on Judaism": https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DH6Q3L2T/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3136Z5B45LZKR&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.PyKVvt8uSEgjWqEa9ESyES1NiACT6kQL9OfixgxnqTvGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.PLcWHltP5o-Q7_4V1_9759uFV7Iial6CZt_IN4yEI6M&dib_tag=se&keywords=gol+kalev&qid=1726550800&sprefix=gol+kale%2Caps%2C233&sr=8-3 Buy "Judaism 3.0": https://www.amazon.com/Judaism-3-0-Judaisms-Transformation-Zionism-ebook/dp/B09N9K6VZB?ref_=ast_author_dp&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.UyGUGQ3oShKmA9Y_QkxFIA.IsdegLIp2bOC8mujkRofriNK-4dlkKHTM-LJZKi5LsI&dib_tag=AUTHOR Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.  

Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU. franciskakay@gmail.com   In this episode, Parkoff shares her personal journey, highlighting her roles as a wife, mother, and grandmother, her struggles with an eating disorder, and her spiritual reconnection with Judaism. She discusses her professional evolution from teaching childbirth classes to attaining a Master's in Social Work, ultimately developing a deep passion for sharing the wisdom of Judaism and helping others. A significant part of the discussion focuses on Abigail Shrier's book 'Bad Therapy', addressing the rise in anxiety and depression among young people despite increased therapy access. Parkoff emphasizes the importance of parental involvement over relying solely on therapy and critiques the current trends in talk therapy, medication, and social-emotional learning in schools. The episode concludes with a hopeful message on the power of resilience, connection, and helping others as cornerstones for mental and emotional well-being.   00:00 Introduction to Parkoff's Life 01:01 Struggles and Spiritual Journey 03:00 Teaching and Sharing Passions 04:44 Parenting and Professional Growth 07:39 Discussing 'Bad Therapy' by Abigail Schreier 10:13 Therapy for Young People 14:19 The Role of Parents in Therapy 19:13 Challenges with Diagnoses and Labels 26:46 Impact of Technology on Mental Health 29:25 Navigating Technology and Self-Esteem in Kids 30:18 The Role of Parents vs. Experts in Child Development 30:36 The Limitations of Traditional Talk Therapy 32:13 Understanding and Addressing Anxiety in Children 34:06 The Debate on Medication for Mental Health 38:03 The Importance of Parental Involvement in Education 40:36 Critique of Gentle Parenting 44:57 The Impact of Bad Therapy on Gender Identity 48:38 Lessons from Israeli Society 51:11 The Therapeutic Power of Helping Others 55:44 Harlow's Monkey Experiments and Emotional Needs 57:34 Conclusion and Call to Action   About Our Guest: Chaya Parkoff is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trained Life Coach, Torah Educator, sought after speaker and altruistic kidney donor. Raised in a secular Jewish home, Chaya's journey back to her Torah roots and to the psychological wisdom of Torah began over 30 years ago during the process of her own recovery from an eating disorder through a 12 Step program. Chaya brings a warm-hearted blend of compassion, clinical skills, and life experience to her roles, weaving together her diverse background to offer inspiration and healing to her clients, students and audiences.. Chaya has a thriving private practice providing therapy to clients in New Jersey, Colorado, Texas, and soon to be Pennsylvania, and coaches women and families worldwide. Chaya is trained in a number of therapeutic approaches, primarily using Brainspotting, an extremely effective brain-body based modality, and integrates it with Internal Family Systems (IFS). Her The mix of personal growth and professional skills allows Chaya to seamlessly integrate timeless Torah wisdom into her therapy sessions, coaching sessions, and engaging classes and talks. Chaya's down-to-earth authentic demeanor, coupled with her wealth of experience, allows her to connect deeply with individuals seeking transformative healing and change. Most of all, Chaya cherishes her 33-year marriage to her husband Seth, alongside the joy of raising five children and relishing in the new role of Bobbi to her 7-month-old grandson. www.chayaparkoff.com   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

In this episode Franciska engages in a deep conversation with Miriam Campbell, a speech therapist and social worker, about parenting, social-emotional learning, and connection. Miriam shares her personal journey from growing up in Atlanta to her professional development in New York and eventually making Aliyah to Israel. They discuss the importance of understanding children's underlying issues, the efficacy of social-emotional learning programs, and the integration of internal family systems (IFS) in therapy. Miriam also elaborates on her program, 'Skills for Connection,' which aims to help parents model and teach essential skills for genuine connections with their children. The episode concludes with Miriam's thoughts on social media and suggestions for parents to navigate their roles more effectively.   00:00 Introduction to the Franciska Show Podcast 00:38 Parenting Challenges and Insights 01:41 Guest Introduction: Miriam Campbell 01:47 Miriam's Background and Journey 03:51 Professional Growth and Speech Therapy 06:50 Addressing Social Skills and Emotional Challenges 13:07 Skills for Connection: A Holistic Approach 16:58 Incorporating Internal Family Systems (IFS) 19:28 Understanding the Theory of IFS 20:47 Practical Examples of IFS in Parenting 22:26 Addressing Problem-Solving Skills in Children 23:54 Teaching Flexible Thinking 28:48 Evaluating Social Emotional Learning Programs 34:20 The Role of Empathy in Parenting 36:31 The Value of Different Coaching Approaches 38:38 Conclusion and Contact Information   About Our Guest: Miriam Campbell, MA SLP-CCC, MSW, is a Speech Language Pathologist and Social Worker who empowers parents with practical tools to support their children's social emotional development. Skills for Connection addresses emotional, language, and cognitive needs to transform conflicts and challenges into growing opportunities. Her social skills book, Bubble Double has already helped thousands of parents, teachers and therapists to guide social skill development. To join her Parent WhatsApp Group or find out about 1:1 coaching and upcoming courses, email support@skillsforconnection.com. https://www.linkedin.com/in/miriam-campbell-ma-slp-ccc-msw-a4926a67/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/skillsforconnection https://www.facebook.com/SkillsforConnection https://www.instagram.com/skills4connection/ https://www.amazon.com/~/e/B09N7PC2W2   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.  

In this deeply personal and informative episode, Franciska discusses the severe condition of Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) with her sister, Rachel. They explore the extreme nausea and vomiting that women with HG experience during pregnancy, often lasting for several months. Rachel candidly shares her own journey with HG across three pregnancies, highlighting the physical, emotional, and relational challenges she faced.   The conversation touches upon coping strategies, the impact on family dynamics, and the essential support systems needed to manage this debilitating condition. The episode also includes a call to action for increased awareness and support for women suffering from HG, along with practical advice for those affected.   00:00 Navigating Pregnancy and Food Sensitivities 00:55 Housekeeping Announcements and Listener Engagement 01:42 Addressing Recent Tragic Events 02:28 Introducing Today's Guest and Topic 03:17 Understanding Hyperemesis Gravidarum 04:57 Personal Experiences with Hyperemesis 06:36 Challenges and Coping Mechanisms 11:24 Impact on Relationships and Seeking Support 16:10 Triggers and Managing Symptoms 20:42 Public Struggles and Despair 21:22 Extreme Cases and Survival Windows 22:38 Managing Nausea and Medication 24:54 Teaching and Personal Experiences 27:45 Support Systems and Coping Strategies 38:13 Emotional and Spiritual Resilience 42:55 Final Thoughts and Encouragement     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Check out the new song Paradise on Apple Music, Spotify, Youtube  Buy The Book: Careful, Beauties Ahead! Exploring Jewish Identity and Community with Tuvia Tenenbom In this episode Franciska interviews Tuvia Tenenbom, an author and journalist, about his experiences and perspectives on Jewish identity, community, and culture. Tuvia shares his background, his journey from an Orthodox upbringing in Israel to his work in journalism and writing. He discusses his time living in Mea Shearim, the dynamics within the ultra-Orthodox and Chasidic communities, and the cultural nuances he observed. The conversation delves into themes of religious practices, community support, humor, and the complexities of modern Jewish life.   00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 00:25 Recent Projects and Song Release 00:59 Guest Introduction: Tuvia Tenenbaum 01:13 Tuvia's Background and Early Life 03:21 Military Service and Move to the US 04:39 Career in Writing and Journalism 05:06 Exploring Themes in Tuvia's Books 06:06 Living in Mea Shearim 09:59 Questioning Religious Beliefs 12:15 Critique of Rabbinic Authority 19:28 Experiences with Chasidic Communities 30:22 Imagined Beliefs and Healing Practices 31:09 Personal Encounters with the Rebbe 31:48 Sexuality and Community Dynamics 32:31 Support and Humor in the Community 33:25 Obsessions with Modesty and Sexuality 34:23 Comparing Cultural Obsessions 36:57 Book Reception and Community Reactions 43:46 Violence and Extremism in Hasidic Groups 48:12 Cultural and Religious Critiques 59:43 Personal Reflections and Discoveries 01:04:59 Closing Remarks and Future Episodes About Our Guest: TUVIA TENENBOM is a bestselling author, journalist, playwright, and director whose books and dramas have been translated into many languages. He holds advanced degrees in fine arts and science and is the founder of the Jewish Theater of New York. Tuvia's articles and essays have appeared in leading Western media, including Die Zeit and Der Spiegel of Germany, Corriere della Sera of Italy, the Jerusalem Post, Yedioth Ahronoth, and Israel Hayom of Israel, and the Forward and National Review of America. His plays include Father of the Angels, Like Two Eagles, One Hundred Gates, The Last Virgin, The Diary of Adolf Eichmann, The Beggar of Borough Park, and Last Jew in Europe. His previous books include Catch the Jew!, The Lies They Tell, I Sleep in Hitler's Room, Hello Refugees!, The Taming of the Jew, and From New York to Brno. Facebook Instagram   Buy The Book: Careful, Beauties Ahead!   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!    In this episode, Dr. Jen Simmons returns to discuss her new book, her experiences, and her transformative journey from being a top breast surgeon to facing her own health crisis. Dr. Simmons shares her insights on breast cancer, the limitations of the current health care system, and her advocacy against mammograms. She introduces QT imaging as a revolutionary alternative for breast cancer screening and emphasizes the importance of holistic health practices, including diet, environmental awareness, and hormone replacement therapy. Dr. Simmons aims to redefine the narrative around breast cancer and promote a more proactive approach to health care.     00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back 01:10 Personal Journey with Breast Cancer 04:05 Becoming a Breast Surgeon 04:50 Facing Personal Illness 09:59 Critique of the Healthcare System 11:11 Issues with Mammograms 17:22 New Breast Cancer Screening Technology 23:26 The Opioid Crisis and Medical Trust 28:33 The Role of Patients in Modern Healthcare 30:23 Balancing Cancer Treatments and Environmental Factors 31:42 Addressing Environmental Exposures and Health 34:57 Diet and Lifestyle Choices for Better Health 45:26 The Importance of Hormone Replacement Therapy 52:27 Concluding Thoughts and Future Directions   Buy The Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D38MNWBK?ref=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_2TMBZ8ZT5RDCMTF3RNMR&ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_2TMBZ8ZT5RDCMTF3RNMR&social_share=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_2TMBZ8ZT5RDCMTF3RNMR&skipTwisterOG=1   Episode with Dr. Klock: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/11-move-over-mammogram-qt-is-here/id1697193398?i=1000627448306   Follor Dr. Jenn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjennsimmons/   About Our Guest: Integrative Oncologist, Author, Podcast Host, and the founder of PerfeQTion Imaging Her journey into breast cancer care began with a personal tragedy. At the age of 16, Dr. Jenn's cousin, acclaimed singer-songwriter Linda Creed, died of metastatic breast cancer just weeks after Whitney Houston's recording of her iconic song, "The Greatest Love of All," topped the charts. This loss became a defining moment, inspiring Dr. Jenn to dedicate her life to transforming how we approach breast cancer treatment and prevention. Dr. Jenn became Philadelphia's first fellowship-trained breast surgeon and spent 17 years leading the field. This personal journey led her to create Real Health MD in 2019, a practice dedicated to holistic healing for breast cancer. It integrates conventional wisdom with root cause medicine and the drivers of health: nutrition, lifestyle changes, detoxification, and stress management. Dr. Jenn's innovative approach doesn't stop there. As the founder of PerfeQTion Imaging, she is establishing safe imaging centers across the nation, armed with revolutionary technology that promises to redefine breast cancer screening. This technology is not only fast and safe but also comfortable, affordable, radiation-free, and boasts 40 times the resolution of MRI. It has received FDA clearance, signaling a new era in breast health and breast cancer screening. Beyond her professional endeavors, Dr. Jenn is a devoted wife, mother, stepmother, grandmother, and athlete. Her life's mission is deeply personal, rooted in her cousin's memory, and driven by a desire to make a lasting impact on all those who desire breast health. As she famously says, "Breast Health is Health!"   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!      Understanding Dissociative Identity Disorder: Sara Lapping's Journey   In this episode, Sarah Lapping shares her personal journey of living with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). She details her life from childhood in Los Angeles, through her move to Israel, and her early experiences with pregnancy and motherhood. Sarah describes her diagnosis of DID following intense trauma and the complex dynamics of her multiple identities. Through poignant anecdotes, she explains the impact of trauma on her mental health, the therapeutic process, and the role of her supportive husband, Max. Sara and Max also discuss the nature of healing, the importance of empathy, and creating a safe environment for their family. They further explore the parallels between Sarah's experiences with DID and issues surrounding gender identity, offering a perspective that emphasizes understanding and acceptance.   Sara lives in northern Israel with her husband and children. She tries to be the change she would like to see in the world (and often speaks in cliches).   00:00 Introduction to Sara Lapping 00:41 Early Life and Family Background 03:03 Marriage and Motherhood Challenges 04:10 First Signs of Mental Health Struggles 05:13 Diagnosis and Initial Treatment 07:45 Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder 10:54 Understanding Dissociative Identity Disorder 16:34 The Impact of Trauma 18:47 Healing and Personal Growth 34:43 Max's Perspective on Sara's DID 42:18 Understanding Internal and External Perceptions 42:50 Max's Perspective on Living with DID 43:05 Challenges and Misunderstandings in Treatment 45:13 Navigating Parenthood with DID 45:45 The Healing Journey and Personal Growth 46:31 The Role of Acceptance and Safety 47:07 The Complexity of Identity and Healing 50:00 The Impact of Trauma and the Path to Recovery 51:56 Balancing Personal and Shared Experiences 54:45 Reflections on Identity and Society 58:03 Final Thoughts and Messages of Hope     https://www.instagram.com/saralapping?igsh=OXRsbnJ1MjkwYngw https://www.facebook.com/sara.lapping?mibextid=ZbWKwL   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!      Politics and Cultural Wars: A Solo Episode with Franciska   In this special solo episode of The Francesca Show, Franciska shifts from her latest parenting topics to discuss current global political issues, touching on situations in the United States, Israel, and broader Western society. She critiques current political dynamics, particularly the role of leadership and how Western values are perceived and acted upon globally. Franciska draws parallels between parenting styles and political strategies, expressing concerns about perceived weaknesses in leadership and advocating for a stronger stance on deterrence and force. She encourages open dialogue and seeks to provoke thoughtful discussion among her listeners.     00:00 Welcome to The Franciska Show 00:11 Current Global Issues and Personal Reflections 01:04 Questions for Democrats 02:45 The Cultural War and Parenting Analogy 06:31 The State of the World Today 07:40 Critique of Kamala Harris and the Biden Administration 11:41 Foreign Policy Failures 13:50 The Culture Wars and Personal Opinions 14:58 Final Thoughts and Call for Engagement 17:15 Closing Remarks     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!    Judy Gruen on Her New Memoir 'Bylines and Blessings': Career, Faith, and Finding Balance   In this episode of The Franciska Show, Judy Gruen discusses her latest book, 'Bylines and Blessings,' her fifth publication and second memoir. They delve into Judy's motivation for writing the book, how it contrasts with her earlier work, 'The Skeptic and the Rabbi,' and its focus on her career as a Jewish journalist and the challenges of balancing professional ambition with personal and religious life. Judy shares candid stories about her writing journey, overcoming obstacles, maintaining humor amidst disappointments, and navigating the complexities of female identity and societal expectations. The episode highlights key moments from the book, including various personal anecdotes and professional experiences, conveying the broader message of perseverance and redefining success.     About Our Guest:   Judy is the author of five books, including the acclaimed memoirs "Bylines and Blessings" and "The Skeptic and the Rabbi." She's a regularly featured columnist for the Jewish Journal, and in 2024 she was awarded First Place in Commentary by the American Jewish Press Association and 2nd Place for Book Reviews by the Los Angeles Press Club. Her work has also appeared in the Wall Street Journal, New York Daily News, Chicago Tribune, Aish.com, Jewish Action, and many other outlets. She edits non-fiction books and coaches writers in their craft.   Buy The Books: Bylines & Blessings The Skeptic & The Rabbi   Follow online: facebook.com/judyrgruen linkedin.com/in/jgruen instagram.com/judygruen     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

In this heartfelt episode of 'Remembered,' the host interviews Asher Guedalia to honor the memories of those who perished on October 7th. Asher provides a touching account of his life, his family's background, and his experiences growing up in Israel. He shares the profound bond he had with his brother Yosef, detailing their journeys through childhood and service in the IDF, and recounts Yosef's heroism and tragic death. Additionally, the episode explores the ongoing conflict, with Asher sharing his experiences during the tragic events and discussing the necessity for strong political leadership, the plight of hostages, and the global implications for Jews. This episode provides an intimate look at personal loss, family dynamics, duty, and the larger political issues at play.   About Our Guest: Born in Jerusalem and raised in Beit Shemesh, Israel, Asher Guedalia attended the pre-army academy in Eli before serving for four years in a combat unit of the Israel Defense Forces (IDF). Currently, Asher is pursuing a Master's degree in Computer Science at the Hebrew University. He works in the tech industry and is the proud brother of Hero Yosef Guedalia. Married with two children, he resides in Jerusalem. Notably, he fought in the southern region on October 7th. https://www.facebook.com/asher.guedalia   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!    Navigating Children's Body Image and Eating Habits in a Food-Centric World   In this episode, clinical psychologist Victoria Webb discusses her professional journey in treating weight and eating concerns, emphasizing the importance of evidence-based treatments and self-compassion. The conversation delves into challenges like misinformation, social stigma, and the influence of the food environment. Victoria addresses various aspects such as helping kids build a healthy body image, the impact of cultural rituals around food, and strategies to handle children's curiosity and behaviors around eating. Practical advice includes focusing on healthy behaviors, maintaining open communication, and setting family-based practices for a supportive environment.   About Our Guest: Victoria Webb, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in weight management, eating behavior, and health behavior change. Dr. Webb received her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Yale University. Prior to completing her doctoral degree, she worked in weight-related research at Temple University and The University of Pennsylvania. She has provided clinical services in a variety of settings including academic medical centers, physicians' offices, and psychological private practice. She currently works as a psychotherapist in private practice and commonly treats concerns related to weight management, eating behaviors, and body image.   drvwebb@mainlinetherapy.org     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!    Navigating Parenting Philosophies with Blimie Heller:   In this episode Franciska interviews parenting coach Blimie Heller. Blimie shares insights about her upbringing in an out-of-town Chasidic Orthodox Jewish family and discusses her professional background as a parenting coach. She emphasizes building relationships with children based on respect and trust rather than following rigid methodologies.   The discussion also covers the complexity of navigating various parenting philosophies, the importance of empathy over validation, and the need for parents to trust their own intuition.   Franciska and Blimie explore the challenges parents face with mixed messages from different experts and the pressure to adopt certain parenting styles. Blimie talks about her course and her evolving approach towards supporting parents without prescribing specific rules.    The episode concludes with reflections on maintaining personal authenticity while embracing different roles and dynamics in parenting. About Our Guest: Blimie Heller  is a dedicated parenting coach and advocate for unconditional parenting methods. Her journey began when she found herself struggling with traditional parenting approaches, leading her to extensively research child development, attachment theory, and neuroscience. Through this process, Blimie discovered the transformative power of unconditional parenting, which resonated deeply with her personal values and scientific understanding of child psychology. Implementing these methods in her own family, Blimie experienced significant positive changes, fueling her passion for sharing these techniques with other parents.  As a certified parenting coach, she now dedicates her career to helping families build stronger, more positive relationships through workshops, one-on-one coaching sessions, and online resources. Blimie's mission is to transform parenting experiences from stressful to joyful, emphasizing self-reflection, emotional intelligence, and adaptive strategies that evolve as children grow. More information on the course: https://unconditional-parenting.mykajabi.com/store Follow Blimie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unconditional_parenting Whatsapp Status: https://api.whatsapp.com/message/YNCKEQZVBM7RB1   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!      Navigating Shidduchim with Rivkah Fox: In this episode of The Franciska Show, Franciska discusses the importance of addressing mental health issues within communities while balancing everyday life. The episode features Rivkah Fox, a full-time matchmaker living in Lower Merion, who shares her unique approach to Shidduchim, the Orthodox dating system.   Rivkah discusses her unconventional methods, including using social media games like 'Saturday Night Leiv' and 'Blind Fate' to make matchmaking more accessible and fun. She also talks about common challenges in the Shidduch process, such as navigating family expectations and the emphasis on compatibility. The episode highlights the importance of community involvement in the matchmaking process and encourages listeners to share knowledge and resources sensitively. Rivkah also touches on her personal experience and the evolving nature of modern matchmaking.   About Our Guest: International matchmaker, Rivkah Fox, has been fortunate to bring together couples from seven different countries. Rivkah holds a Masters of Science in Education (MSED) from the University of Pennsylvania, and outside of matchmaking, lectures about relationships and marriage for the Meor Program at the University of Pennsylvania. Rivkah began BlindFate to revolutionize the formal dating experience by simultaneously engaging her followers while offering singles a more open perspective.   @rivkahfox    Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com,I love hearing from you!  In this episode, Franciska discusses 'The Case Against the Sexual Revolution' by Louise Perry, a thought-provoking book that critiques the societal consequences of the sexual revolution, including increased promiscuity and the breakdown of traditional family structures. Franciska interviews Talli Y. Rosenbaum, a couples therapist and co-host of the 'Intimate Judaism' podcast, who shares her professional insights on the book's arguments, particularly those related to sex, consent, and gender dynamics within both secular and religious contexts. Talli also discusses the impact of the sexual revolution on sexual conduct and values. The episode includes a detailed chapter summary of the book and covers controversial topics such as BDSM, consent, and sexual agency. Additionally, Franciska introduces her projects, including a series called 'Remembered' and her new music releases.   Links: Episode referenced in the conversation on Intimate Judaism Buy the Book: "I Am For My Beloved" NEW VISUAL (kol isha) Shim'u Melachim: https://youtu.be/-pDpGpGJ4y0 Pre Save: "I'm The Mother"   About Our Guest: Talli Yehuda Rosenbaum is an individual and couple therapist and is certified as a sex therapist and sex therapy supervisor by The International Association of Psychosexual Therapists  (IAPST) as well as the Israeli Society for Sex Therapy (ISST).  She cohosts the Intimate Judaism podcast and is co-author of the book “I am For My Beloved: A Guide to Enhanced Intimacy for Married Couples.”  and co-edited the Springer textbook entitled “The Overactive Pelvic Floor.”She has authored over 40  journal articles and several book chapters on trauma and sexuality, sexual pain disorders,  and sexuality and Judaism and is an associate editor of the Sexual Medicine Reviews. Talli earned a Masters in Clinical Sociology and Counseling and a certificate in Mental Health Studies from the University of North Texas in Neve Yerushalayim.  She holds a bachelors degree in Physical Therapy from Northwestern University. Before re-training as a psychotherapist, she treated patients as a physical therapist for 25 years.   In addition to maintaining an active private practice, Talli is the academic advisor for Yahel: The Center for Jewish Intimacy. Talli frequently lectures both in Israel and abroad, to lay as well as professional audiences.. Talli Y. Rosenbaum Follow Talli Y. Rosenbaum on Instagram     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com I love hearing from you!   In this podcast episode, Franciska reflects on podcast burnout and future topics, including the desire to have conversations with listeners about influential books. The featured guest, Chanie Delman, a licensed clinical social worker specializing in reproductive and maternal mental health, discusses the various stages and challenges women face throughout their life cycles. The conversation covers topics such as infertility, postpartum mood disorders, marriage adjustments, parenting, and supporting elderly parents. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-care, empathy, communication, and seeking support in navigating these transitions, as well as the need for recalibration and finding balance amidst life's ongoing demands. About Our Guest: Chanie Delman is a reproductive and maternal mental health therapist. Chanie supports women experiencing infertility, infancy and miscarriage loss, postpartum mood disorders, motherhood and loss of all ages. Chanie maintains a private practice in Queens, the Five Towns and offers virtual sessions as well. Chanie can be reached at at chaniedelman@gmail.com and 917-755-9437. Follow Chanie: https://frumtherapist.com/profile/chaniedelman https://open.spotify.com/episode/1hwo6KZ9klQH161FCuQSqW?si=JlGY6HVLQzmwM_vCGLrxtA https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/119-chanie-delman-lcsw-climb-it-because-its-there/id1479167734?i=1000552494063     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.  

Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska   Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com I love hearing from you! Gevura has been on the Etz Chaim staff since 2015, where she emboldened a strong women's program that has included many trips to Israel and follow-up engagement. She has also taught at several college campuses during this time. For Aish Chaim, she is the Director of Engagement where she leads the organization's outreach ideas and drive, while continuing to spearhead a vibrant women's program, leading trips to Israel and other locations on spiritually fulfilling missions. In Kansas City, Gevura led a vibrant women's division and was the Head of a Hebrew School. Together, Binyomin and Gevura have 5 children. www.aishchaim.com www.mygiftofmikvah.org     Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.