Podcast appearances and mentions of tonya lester

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3495: Tonya Lester shares a heartfelt story of a timid rescue cat to illustrate how we instinctively offer patience and kindness to others but struggle to extend the same compassion to ourselves. She challenges the myth that self-criticism drives success, advocating instead for self-soothing practices that foster resilience and clarity. With a simple yet powerful exercise, she encourages us to treat ourselves with the same understanding we'd offer a frightened child or a hesitant pet. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/on-self-compassion Quotes to ponder: "You can be self-compassionate and still have high standards." "Having self-compassion does not mean shirking responsibilities or lowering your standards. It is about slowing down and attending to yourself before you move on to necessary action." "There is zero evidence that beating ourselves up emotionally leads to high performance and great results." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3495: Tonya Lester shares a heartfelt story of a timid rescue cat to illustrate how we instinctively offer patience and kindness to others but struggle to extend the same compassion to ourselves. She challenges the myth that self-criticism drives success, advocating instead for self-soothing practices that foster resilience and clarity. With a simple yet powerful exercise, she encourages us to treat ourselves with the same understanding we'd offer a frightened child or a hesitant pet. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/on-self-compassion Quotes to ponder: "You can be self-compassionate and still have high standards." "Having self-compassion does not mean shirking responsibilities or lowering your standards. It is about slowing down and attending to yourself before you move on to necessary action." "There is zero evidence that beating ourselves up emotionally leads to high performance and great results." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3495: Tonya Lester shares a heartfelt story of a timid rescue cat to illustrate how we instinctively offer patience and kindness to others but struggle to extend the same compassion to ourselves. She challenges the myth that self-criticism drives success, advocating instead for self-soothing practices that foster resilience and clarity. With a simple yet powerful exercise, she encourages us to treat ourselves with the same understanding we'd offer a frightened child or a hesitant pet. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/on-self-compassion Quotes to ponder: "You can be self-compassionate and still have high standards." "Having self-compassion does not mean shirking responsibilities or lowering your standards. It is about slowing down and attending to yourself before you move on to necessary action." "There is zero evidence that beating ourselves up emotionally leads to high performance and great results." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2770: Sleep is a non-negotiable element of physical and mental well-being, yet too many people still underestimate its importance. Tonya Lester shares transformative strategies, from embracing wind-down routines to the empowering effect of naps, to help you prioritize sleep, boost your mood, and reclaim energy in our overworked culture. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/you-probably-need-more-sleep Quotes to ponder: "Amazing breakthrough! Scientists have discovered a revolutionary new treatment that makes you live longer. It enhances your memory and makes you more creative. Are you interested?" "The best bridge between despair and hope is a good night's sleep." "If a pill offered the same benefits we get from sleep, we'd take it, no question." Episode references: Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker: https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144316 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2770: Sleep is a non-negotiable element of physical and mental well-being, yet too many people still underestimate its importance. Tonya Lester shares transformative strategies, from embracing wind-down routines to the empowering effect of naps, to help you prioritize sleep, boost your mood, and reclaim energy in our overworked culture. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/you-probably-need-more-sleep Quotes to ponder: "Amazing breakthrough! Scientists have discovered a revolutionary new treatment that makes you live longer. It enhances your memory and makes you more creative. Are you interested?" "The best bridge between despair and hope is a good night's sleep." "If a pill offered the same benefits we get from sleep, we'd take it, no question." Episode references: Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker: https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144316 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3327: Tonya Lester shares a transformative strategy for dealing with anxiety by creating a "dread list" of all the tasks you've been avoiding. By confronting these sources of anxiety, seeking support, and making the process easier, you can alleviate the heavy burden of unresolved issues, improve your mental well-being, and regain control of your life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/deal-with-anxiety-by-making-a-dread-list Quotes to ponder: "So often when you finally share your secret you are met with so much compassion, validation, or even loving bewilderment, that the volume of the problem is turned down by 50 percent just by virtue of saying it out loud." "Unfinished business creates open loops of anxiety that slowly drain you of energy and contentment, and hurt your ability to focus and be present." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3327: Tonya Lester shares a transformative strategy for dealing with anxiety by creating a "dread list" of all the tasks you've been avoiding. By confronting these sources of anxiety, seeking support, and making the process easier, you can alleviate the heavy burden of unresolved issues, improve your mental well-being, and regain control of your life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/deal-with-anxiety-by-making-a-dread-list Quotes to ponder: "So often when you finally share your secret you are met with so much compassion, validation, or even loving bewilderment, that the volume of the problem is turned down by 50 percent just by virtue of saying it out loud." "Unfinished business creates open loops of anxiety that slowly drain you of energy and contentment, and hurt your ability to focus and be present." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3327: Tonya Lester shares a transformative strategy for dealing with anxiety by creating a "dread list" of all the tasks you've been avoiding. By confronting these sources of anxiety, seeking support, and making the process easier, you can alleviate the heavy burden of unresolved issues, improve your mental well-being, and regain control of your life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/deal-with-anxiety-by-making-a-dread-list Quotes to ponder: "So often when you finally share your secret you are met with so much compassion, validation, or even loving bewilderment, that the volume of the problem is turned down by 50 percent just by virtue of saying it out loud." "Unfinished business creates open loops of anxiety that slowly drain you of energy and contentment, and hurt your ability to focus and be present." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2707: Tonya Lester challenges the common belief that alcohol relieves anxiety, explaining how it can actually exacerbate stress and disrupt sleep, leading to a harmful cycle. By exploring the brain's response to alcohol and offering practical steps to assess and reduce drinking, Lester encourages a more mindful approach to alcohol use for better mental health. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/alcohol-and-anxiety-does-drinking-really-help-you-relax Quotes to ponder: "Alcohol as medication is a terrible idea. If your drinking is medicinal, it's time to look for safer, more effective ways to cope." "The slowing down of the excitatory neurotransmitter is how alcohol acts as a depressant. Once dopamine levels go back to normal, we're still left with a depressed system, which often leads to another drink to get the dopamine levels back up." "Sleep is the ultimate self-care activity. The importance of quality sleep in all mental health issues, and overall well-being, cannot be overstated." Episode references: Why We Sleep: https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144316 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2707: Tonya Lester challenges the common belief that alcohol relieves anxiety, explaining how it can actually exacerbate stress and disrupt sleep, leading to a harmful cycle. By exploring the brain's response to alcohol and offering practical steps to assess and reduce drinking, Lester encourages a more mindful approach to alcohol use for better mental health. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/alcohol-and-anxiety-does-drinking-really-help-you-relax Quotes to ponder: "Alcohol as medication is a terrible idea. If your drinking is medicinal, it's time to look for safer, more effective ways to cope." "The slowing down of the excitatory neurotransmitter is how alcohol acts as a depressant. Once dopamine levels go back to normal, we're still left with a depressed system, which often leads to another drink to get the dopamine levels back up." "Sleep is the ultimate self-care activity. The importance of quality sleep in all mental health issues, and overall well-being, cannot be overstated." Episode references: Why We Sleep: https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144316 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2119: Tonya Lester illuminates the perils of over-functioning in relationships, emphasizing the hidden costs of unrealistic self-expectations and the imbalance it creates. She offers insightful strategies for breaking the cycle of over-functioning, encouraging a balanced approach to shared responsibilities and self-acceptance. Lester's guidance promises a pathway to healthier relationships and a fuller appreciation of life's true priorities. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/are-your-working-too-hard-in-your-relationship Quotes to ponder: "Your problem is how you are going to spend this one and precious life you have been issued. Whether you're going to spend it trying to look good and creating the illusion that you have power over circumstances, or whether you are going to taste it, enjoy it and find out the truth about who you are.” Episode references: Fair Play: https://www.amazon.com/Fair-Play-Share-Responsibilities-Smarter/dp/0525541934 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this insightful episode, psychotherapist Tonya Lester helps listeners understand the difference between being mean, rigid, or impossible, and being the good kind of "difficult". She discusses the importance of self-expression, standing for one's needs, and making clear one's life goals. Tonya teaches us how to better manage our thoughts and emotions, build respectful and supportive relationships, and approach decision-making with courage and clarity.We delve deep into the challenges we face when experiencing emotional struggles - from endless worrying about the future, ruminating over the past, to second-guessing our social interactions. Tonya explores common coping mechanisms that often fail to provide long-term relief, highlighting the common misconception that our struggles make us uniquely burdened.Addressing those who may have previously had unsuccessful therapy experiences, Tonya explains that finding a dynamic, relational, and interactive therapist could make all the difference. She discusses the importance of constructive feedback in catalyzing change and stresses the need for active engagement in therapy as opposed to unconscious rumination.Questioning the idea that we should be able to figure everything out on our own, Tonya underscores the challenges of anxiety and depression and how they can negatively affect self-perception. She provides tangible tactics that we can implement immediately such as attaining enough sleep, healthy eating, daily exercising, setting up daily meditation practices, and efficient time management.Pushing beyond the idea of baseline functioning, this episode encourages listeners to envision a life driven by their strengths and values, rather than fears and worries. Tonya underlines the necessity of therapy as a support for achieving a fuller, more satisfying life. To finally ask the question, "What do we want our one life to look like?"Support the show

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2996: Tonya Lester explores how creating a sense of possibility isn't confined to vibrant cities like NYC; it's about fostering growth, adventure, and awe in any setting. She emphasizes that nurturing curiosity, wonder, and engagement with life's surprises enriches our existence at any age or location. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/creating-a-sense-of-possibility Quotes to ponder: "Find a happy person, and you will find a project." "Novelty-seeking is one of the traits that keeps you healthy and happy and fosters personality growth as you age." "Listen - are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?" Episode references: The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want: Link to the book The Overstory: Link to the book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2996: Tonya Lester explores how creating a sense of possibility isn't confined to vibrant cities like NYC; it's about fostering growth, adventure, and awe in any setting. She emphasizes that nurturing curiosity, wonder, and engagement with life's surprises enriches our existence at any age or location. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/creating-a-sense-of-possibility Quotes to ponder: "Find a happy person, and you will find a project." "Novelty-seeking is one of the traits that keeps you healthy and happy and fosters personality growth as you age." "Listen - are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?" Episode references: The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want: Link to the book The Overstory: Link to the book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2996: Tonya Lester explores how creating a sense of possibility isn't confined to vibrant cities like NYC; it's about fostering growth, adventure, and awe in any setting. She emphasizes that nurturing curiosity, wonder, and engagement with life's surprises enriches our existence at any age or location. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/creating-a-sense-of-possibility Quotes to ponder: "Find a happy person, and you will find a project." "Novelty-seeking is one of the traits that keeps you healthy and happy and fosters personality growth as you age." "Listen - are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?" Episode references: The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want: Link to the book The Overstory: Link to the book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Forget fair fighting, what you and your partner should aim for is win-win problem solving. According to psychologist Dr Susan Heitler, If you can learn to investigate and share the deep-seated emotions behind a particular argument, the two of you can emerge stronger and more connected as a couple. In this week's episode, Andrew and Susan explore how childhood patterns can be replicated in adult relationships, and discuss a case-study in which a couple is able to overcome a disagreement over food waste that had brought them to the brink of divorce.  Dr Susan Heitler is a Harvard-educated clinical psychologist with a doctorate from NYU. She has authored multiple self-help books, plus books for therapists on treatment techniques. She aims to show how to handle life's bumps—the conflicts, difficult interactions, negative feelings, traumas, and tough decisions—in ways that sustain a sense of well-being. Dr Heitler's articles on Psychology Today have received over 24 million reads. Subscriber Content This Week If you're a subscriber to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Patreon), this week you'll be hearing: ⭐️What can marriage counselling do that individual work cannot? ⭐️Three things Susan Heitler knows to be true. ⭐️AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50. Visit Susan Heitler's websites: prescriptionswithoutpills.com and therapyhelp.com Read Susan Heitler's books, including Prescriptions Without Pills and The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong and Loving Marriage.   Read Susan Heitler's articles for Psychology Today  Watch Susan Heitler's TEDX talk on Lift Depression With These Three Prescriptions - Without Pills.  You might also enjoy Andrew's interviews with Avrum Weiss on Couples and Anxiety; or with  Tonya Lester on How to Have Healthy Conflict.  Get Andrew's advice on building a stronger relationship in his book The Happy Couple's Handbook: Powerful Life Hacks for a Successful Relationship.  Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall 

Tonya Lester helps you if you're feeling confused, overwhelmed or lazy Episode 2934: Feeling Confused, Overwhelmed, or Lazy? by Tonya Lester on Pursuing Your Dreams and Getting Unstuck Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/feeling-confused-overwhelmed-or-lazy Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester helps you if you're feeling confused, overwhelmed or lazy Episode 2934: Feeling Confused, Overwhelmed, or Lazy? by Tonya Lester on Pursuing Your Dreams and Getting Unstuck Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/feeling-confused-overwhelmed-or-lazy Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester helps you if you're feeling confused, overwhelmed or lazy Episode 2934: Feeling Confused, Overwhelmed, or Lazy? by Tonya Lester on Pursuing Your Dreams and Getting Unstuck Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/feeling-confused-overwhelmed-or-lazy Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy people Episode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/productivity-tips-for-poeple-with-more-than-one-things-to-do  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy people Episode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/productivity-tips-for-poeple-with-more-than-one-things-to-do  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester talks about why marriage is a lousy deal for women Episode 1867: Is Marriage a Lousy Deal for Women? by Tonya Lester on Differences Between Men and Women Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/is-marriage-a-lousy-deal-for-women Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester talks about time management Episode 2828: A Personal Perspective on Time Management by Tonya Lester on Making More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/a-personal-perspective-on-time-management Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester talks about time management Episode 2828: A Personal Perspective on Time Management by Tonya Lester on Making More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/a-personal-perspective-on-time-management Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester talks about time management Episode 2828: A Personal Perspective on Time Management by Tonya Lester on Making More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/a-personal-perspective-on-time-management Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester talks about what questions you should ask yourself before getting married Episode 1783: Time For Marriage? Ask These Three Questions First by Tonya Lester on Preparing to Get Married Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/should-we-get-married Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychotherapist Tonya Lester believes it's OK to be difficult. This doesn't mean being rigid, domineering or unkind. It means making sure that your partner has a sense of who you are and what you need. Of course, you won't get there without learning how to disagree productively. In this episode Andrew and Tonya discuss how to develop mutually supportive relationships, including 8 ingredients for healthy conflict.  They also discuss Tonya's recent New York Times article, “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself”, about what it's like to go into marriage counselling as a therapist. Tonya Lester is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, New York, with over 16 years of experience counselling couples. In her upcoming book, Be Difficult: A Guide to Speaking Up, Facing Conflict, and Changing, Tonya writes about her experience with women who seem empowered in other areas of their lives but are overly deferential and accommodating in their relationships. If You're Looking for More…. You can subscribe to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Podcasts) and hear a bonus mini-episode every week. Or you can join our Supporters Club on Patreon to also access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests  and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  This week supporters will hear: ⭐️How to confess to infidelity. ⭐️Three things Tonya Lester knows to be true. ⭐️AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Read Andrew's new Substack newsletter The Meaningful Life, and join the community there. Visit Tonya Lester's website. Read Tonya Lester's New York Times article “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself”. Follow Tonya Lester on Instagram @tonyalesterpsychotherapy You might also enjoy these episodes: Olivier Clerc on Forgiveness, or Terry Real on The Five Traps that Undermine Your Love.   Read Andrew's book The Happy Couple's Handbook Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall 

The guest is Tonya Lester, a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, New York. She's the author of the essay 'Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself' in the modern love section of the New York Times. More on Tonya at https://www.tonyalester.com/

Tonya Lester talks about speaking up and asserting yourself Episode 1748: Is It Worth It to Speak Up and Assert Yourself? by Tonya Lester Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/is-it-worth-it-to-speak-up-and-assert-yourself Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester talks about what to do when your partner isn't sure they want a future with you. This is part 2 of 2. Episode 1704: [Part 2] When Your Partner Isn't Sure They Want a Future With You by Tonya Lester Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog//when-your-partner-isnt-sure-they-want-a-future-with-you Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester talks about what to do when your partner isn't sure they want a future with you. This is part 1 of 2. Episode 1703: [Part 1] When Your Partner Isn't Sure They Want a Future With You by Tonya Lester Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog//when-your-partner-isnt-sure-they-want-a-future-with-you Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychotherapist, Truth Teller, and advocate for being a "difficult" woman, Tonya Lester joins Chelsea 9:10 minutes in to talk about the upside of being difficult (the good kind of difficult, that is), what's worse than heartbreak (spoiler: it doesn't involve a relationship ending), the masks we wear and the self we forfeit in order to attract and keep partners, freeing ourselves from the spiral of "if-only" I had been/done/or behaved like XYZ, the healing powers of curiosity, self-compassion, and vowing to use our past to change our future, internal family systems methodology, the motive of the mean voice, how shock absorbers in relationships always finish last, the power of self-possession,  "kind narcissism," and why presenting ourselves as fully — vulnerably and accurately — as soon as possible is the best way to set ourselves up for a love that aligns with our true nature and intentions.Psst: I loved this episode!Tonya Lester:Website: https://www.tonyalester.comServices: https://www.tonyalester.com/servicesBlog: https://www.tonyalester.com/blogPsychology Today Articles: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/tonya-lester-lcswFree Quiz on Your Difficulty Level: https://assessments.catchengine.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyalesterpsychotherapyTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tonyalesterlcswChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Tonya Lester joins me as we dive into the idea of how we should all be difficult. It's an interesting way to look at the concept of people pleasing and relationships. We also look at 2 concepts that are often present in relationships, gaslighting and love bombing.  To learn more about Tonya, go here https://www.tonyalester.com/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going about the 3 kinds of dynamics we can take in our relationships. Difficult, impossible or shock-absorber. Which one are you? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com The post Be Difficult | Tonya Lester #615 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Tonya Lester joins me as we dive into the idea of how we should all be difficult. It's an interesting way to look at the concept of people pleasing and relationships. We also look at 2 concepts that are often present in relationships, gaslighting and love bombing.  To learn more about Tonya, go here https://www.tonyalester.com/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going about the 3 kinds of dynamics we can take in our relationships. Difficult, impossible or shock-absorber. Which one are you? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com

Being difficult in relationships is a topic that is often misunderstood and shunned as the term "difficult" is usually associated with negativity, but what if it could be a catalyst for growth and development in our relationships?  In this episode, we'll challenge the common notion that smooth sailing is the ideal in relationships, and instead, explore how speaking up, having honest conversations, and being vulnerable can lead to deeper emotional intimacy and stronger relationships. Join us as we dive into the power of being "difficult" and how it can assist in the growth and development of our relationships. Tonya Lester is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, private psychotherapist, Psychology Today contributor and author. For over 16 years, Tonya has taught couples and individuals how to manage their minds and emotions, develop relationships that are mutually respectful and supportive and approach decision-making and communication with clarity and courage. She believes in starting where you are, experimenting with new ways of being and focusing all of your attention on what you can do now, as opposed to fixating on what is currently out of reach. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's In this episode 04:55 Understanding how unspoken resentment impacts long-term relationships. 8:35 What is good about being difficult? 14:13 How to navigate difficult conversations in relationships. 20:18 Tonya encourages co-creation and mindfulness in relationships. 25:34 Communicating effectively in relationships and overcoming gender roles and expectations. 28:57 Honesty, vulnerability, and setting boundaries in relationships. 34:13 Overcoming gendered paradigms in relationships through assertiveness. 39:46 Three key elements to navigating difficult conversations in relationships. 45:40 Finding the middle ground between shame and grandiosity. 51:27 Tonya's vision for society: Building a world of collaborators. Mentioned Are you the Good Kind of Difficult? (*quiz) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Tonya Lester Websites: tonyalester.com TikTok: tiktok.com/@tonyalesterlcsw Instagram: instagram.com/tonyalesterpsychotherapy Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.    

Tonya Lester talks about how to set boundaries with your parents Episode 1645: How to Set Boundaries With Your Parents by Tonya Lester Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-with-your-parents Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester tells you when it's time to leave a relationship Episode 1628: When Is It Time to Leave a Relationship? by Tonya Lester Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/when-is-it-time-to-leave-a-relationship Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Tonya Lester compares love and attachment Episode 1602: Love Vs. Attachment by Tonya Lester Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/love-vs-attachment Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a people pleaser? It's not the worst thing in the world to identify as one, however, you may be sacrificing your own happiness in the name of keeping everyone around you happy. You may also grow resentful and have a lot of anxiety around keeping those around you happy. Listen to today's show to learn how to create boundaries, communicate your needs and live a more fulfilling life.  In this episode with Tonya Lester, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Traits that may indicate you're a people pleaser and need to create better boundaries for yourself Learning how to engage in healthy conflict instead of always saying yes or bending over backwards to assist others The importance of not talking ourselves out of our feelings How to understand and communicate your expectations in relationships The importance and tools for identifying our needs and communicating them in relationships And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp: Relationship Advice is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Like A Kitten curates adult subscription boxes created to inspire and influence female sexual wellness. Like A Kitten is offering our listeners 15% off AND free shipping when you go to LikeAKitten.com/ido OR enter code IDO at checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester is an LCSW, therapist, blogger for Psychology Today, and author. She is also an expert in relationships, family systems theory and couple's counseling. She joins the Broken Brain today to share her insights working with relationship difficulties and successes. Learn more about Tonya's work at www.tonyalester.com, including the progress of her book and her writing for Psychology Today.  Support The Broken Brain and get awesome extra materials by becoming a patron Brainiac today at www.patreon.com/brokenbrain, or make a one-time donation on www.buymeacoffee.com/brokenbrain