Purposely Thriving Podcast

When you're a person of faith—someone who honored your vows before God—going through a divorce can shake you to your core. It's not just the loss of a marriage; it's the lingering question many struggle with silently: “Does God hate me because I'm divorced?”Scripture has often been misquoted or misinterpreted in ways that leave people feeling condemned, ashamed, and distanced from God—especially in Christian communities that emphasize marriage as the ultimate goal.In today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. Dharius Daniels for a real, grounded conversation about what the Bible actually says about divorce—and what it doesn't. We explore how scripture is often interpreted in ways that leave people feeling condemned, how to embrace God's forgiveness and release the weight of guilt, why singleness is not a punishment but a purposeful season, and how to trust God with what's still possible—even after divorce.Follow Dr. Dharius Daniels on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dhariusdanielsFollow Dr. Daniels on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/dharius.danielsDr. Daniels Website: https://dhariusdaniels.com/To learn more about Change Church: https://www.lifechange.org/**INTERESTED IN WORKING WITH ME 1:1 THIS SUMMER? APPLY BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/highimpactOrder my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCnFollow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When navigating decisions in divorce—whether financial, legal, or related to co-parenting—every choice has long-term effects. Being an active voice in these decisions is necessary to ensure that your next chapter and your children's future remain secure and intact. Failing to be involved in these decisions can leave you vulnerable to outcomes that don't align with your best interests.Decisions may be made for you that don't reflect your needs, values, or long-term goals.You may agree to terms that create financial strain or unnecessary hardship.Your co-parenting arrangement may not fully support your children's well-being simply because you didn't advocate for what was best for them.Regret can set in when you realize you had the opportunity to shape your future—but didn't take it.At the end of the day, this is your life, your future, and your chance to create a stable foundation for yourself and your children. Speaking up and being involved in these decisions isn't just important—it's essential.In this week's episode, join me as discus why self-advocacy is the #1 skill you need during the divorce process, the common misconceptions about advocating for yourself, 5 ways on what advocating for yourself looks like during the divorce process and seven 7 reflection questions to ensure that you're advocating for yourself. ** DOWNLOAD THE DIVORCE BLUEPRINT FOR FREE BELOW**https://www.tonyacarter.com/blueprint**PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️Divorce Prep 101: 7 Essential Steps to Prepare (Ep. #186)**REGISTER FOR DIVORCE MASTERCLASS ON MARCH 31ST**⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/divorcemasterclass**SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategyOrder my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCnLet's Connect! Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Life-altering events like divorce can shift your entire life plan.  It's crucial to recognize that this process requires active participation and effort. Divorce doesn't automatically become smooth, easy, or organized by chance—it takes intentional preparation. While deciding to divorce is an act of courage, it's equally important to get clear on the steps you need to take to ensure you're educated and equipped for this journey. Being informed empowers you to: Make informed decisions with clarity on your direction. Take control of your journey, reducing overwhelm. Lay the foundation for the next chapter of your life, knowing that how you manage this stage influences the future.In today's episode, I'm sharing seven strategic steps to help you prepare for this transition. Tune in and learn how to take proactive steps to navigate your divorce with confidence and clarity.** DOWNLOAD THE DIVORCE BLUEPRINT FOR FREE BELOW**https://www.tonyacarter.com/blueprint**SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW**https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy**PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️#116 - "Assembling The Right Team During Your Divorce/Breakup...Your Top Four Advisors That You Need"#181 - "Breaking Up Without Breaking Your Kids: 7 Key Parenting Mistakes to Avoid"Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCnFollow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

A common statement I hear from those who have experienced divorce is the strong desire to build a better life afterward. However, what often gets lost after the process of uncoupling is the ability to reclaim control and intentionally design a life that allows them to thrive. It's easy to slip into autopilot mode because: You've spent so much time navigating the emotional and logistical aspects of divorce that creating a new vision for yourself feels overwhelming. You're accustomed to prioritizing survival over intentional growth. Old patterns, limiting beliefs, and self-doubt make it difficult to see what's possible beyond this chapter. The fear of making the "wrong" choices keeps you from taking action toward the life you truly want. But here's the truth: Thriving after divorce doesn't happen by chance—it happens by choice. When you decide to take back the reins, shift your mindset, and cultivate the habits that support your growth, you reclaim your power and create a life that aligns with who you are becoming. On today's episode, join me as I share 10 powerful ways to step into a more confident version of yourself and intentionally build a thriving life after divorce. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️" Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy **PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️ #107 - "What Does Doing The Inner Work Mean?" #117 -"The Skill of Self-Forgiveness & 4 Things You Must Do To Start!" #142 - "Your ex is a "non factor" to your healing" #173 - "Letting Go of Others' Opinions: 6 Questions To Break Free & Live Your Life After Divorce/Breakup" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

2025 is here, and my personal message to you is to give yourself unapologetic permission to show up for yourself this year! So much can unfold in a single year, and while experiencing a divorce or breakup can bring challenges, it also opens the door to new possibilities. This year, I encourage you to embrace change, trust your journey, and step into your true potential without hesitation. You have the power to create the life you desire, and it starts by giving yourself the permission to take bold, intentional action. In this episode, join me as I explore the different things that may be holding you back from moving forward, and I'll walk you through an exercise to help you start stepping into your full potential. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️ "Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy **PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️ "Are You Self-Sabotaging? How to Identify and Four Steps to Break Free""Letting Go of Others' Opinions: 6 Questions To Break Free & Live Your Life After Divorce/Breakup" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Experiencing divorce, navigating its aftermath, and opening up to the possibility of love again—these steps carry a profound significance for men, often requiring them to face emotions they've long buried. It's more than just rebuilding; it's about redefining who they are as individuals and as partners. For many men, the journey to healing involves embracing vulnerability, overcoming fears of repeating past mistakes, and rebuilding trust in themselves and others. This transformation is essential for establishing genuine connections and rediscovering love. The end of a marriage can trigger intense feelings of shame, failure, and deep grief. Societal expectations frequently pressure men to suppress these emotions, leading them to face their pain in silence and sometimes adopt unhealthy or isolating coping mechanisms. We often overlook that men are dealing with more than just a loss of family structure and limited access to their children; they're also facing a fractured sense of identity and, for some, the fear of entering a new marriage in the future. In this week's episode, join me as I sit down with Shon Hyneman—a seasoned pre-engagement coach, YouTuber, and host of It's Scary to Remarry podcast. Shon shares his personal journey through divorce, healing, and his path toward embracing love again. Follow Shon on Instagram: @scarytoremarry Follow Shon on Facebook:  It's Scary To Remarry Shon's Website:  https://scarytoremarry.com/ **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

As we close out the month of October, it's essential to shine a light on an issue impacting millions across the globe—domestic violence. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to recognize the profound impact domestic violence has on individuals and families and to support survivors in their journey to healing and freedom. The statistics are staggering: in the United States alone, nearly 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men will experience severe intimate partner violence in their lifetime. Every minute, 20 people fall victim to physical abuse by an intimate partner—amounting to over 10 million individuals each year. These numbers represent real lives, with stories often hidden behind closed doors, filled with resilience, heartbreak, and bravery. Domestic violence isn't limited to physical harm; it includes emotional abuse, financial control, and psychological manipulation, all designed to keep victims isolated and powerless. Breaking free from these circumstances can feel impossible, yet many survivors do find the strength to leave, rebuild, and ultimately, to thrive. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, this episode serves as a reminder of the need to support survivors, raise awareness, and educate ourselves on the realities that victims face. On this week's podcast, join me as I sit down with Executive Director Lisa Thiombiano, a survivor and advocate who shares her journey from victim to victor. Lisa opens up about the challenges survivors face, what people should understand about victims, and how one can thrive after abuse. She also shares invaluable insights on planning a safe exit and building a life of freedom and hope. Follow Lisa on Instagram: @lisathiombiano_ms Follow Stand Up Survivor on IG: @standupsurvivor For more information on Stand Up Survivor, please visit their website at: https://www.standupsurvivor.org/ **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Divorce can be a challenging and emotional time, not only for the parents but especially for the children. While there are many concerns parents have regarding their children's well-being, what can easily get overlooked are the subtle emotional impacts this transition can have on them. Parents may focus on practical aspects like custody, finances, and new living arrangements, but it's essential not to lose sight of the emotional and psychological needs of the children during this time. In this week's episode, I highlight 7 critical mistakes parents should avoid before, during, and after divorce to ensure their children receive the love, stability, and support they need throughout the process. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating this challenging time with care and intention. **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When someone spends a large part of their adult life in an unhealthy marriage, feelings of regret often surface. They might feel as though they sacrificed what society deems their "best years" or "youth," and this regret can become overwhelming, leading to emotions like guilt, shame, embarrassment, and even anger. When dealing with the grief of a divorce, regret is a common feeling to experience. However, what becomes problematic is when that regret starts to dominate your thoughts and actions, preventing you from moving forward. It can keep you stuck in the past, replaying decisions over and over, and robbing you of the chance to heal and create a future that aligns with who you are now. The challenge is learning to acknowledge the regret without letting it control your present or dictate your future. On this week's podcast, join me as I give four powerful ways that you can break free of regret, reclaim your life and start moving forward. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️ "Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": **PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️ "The Skill of Self-Forgiveness...Why It's Needed & 4 Things You Must Do To Start!" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

We officially wrapped up our 7-Day "Beyond The Breakup" Workshop, and during that time, we hosted a Live Q&A to address some of the most pressing questions and challenges our participants faced. In this episode, we discuss the realities of moving on from a cheating boyfriend, the preparation of exiting a long-term marriage, and financial abuse. We also touch on the temptation to keep tabs on an ex-partner through social media, exploring the impact this can have on your healing process. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️"Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter ⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When it comes to "healing" from a previous relationship, questions such as: "How long will this take?" "Will I ever get through this?" "When will I feel better?" Often come up, but the answer isn't always straightforward. The truth is, everyone's healing process is unique, but there are signs that can indicate you're making progress. In this week's podcast, join me as I discuss common misconceptions about healing and share my top five signs to help you determine if you're moving forward on your journey. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - ⁠http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com⁠. Also available on Amazon: ⁠https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When a marriage ends, you're often encouraged to "live your best life," but what does that really mean when your identity has been deeply tied to your marriage? When you're used to a certain dynamic, the idea of redefining your best life can easily get overlooked. It's not because you don't desire something better; it's because anything outside of your familiar routine can feel unnatural, making it easy to fall back into the safety net of survival mode. To truly live your best life, you must be intentional. This requires deep reflection on your decisions and the direction you're heading to ensure they align with the future you want to create. In this week's podcast episode, join me for a conversation with one of my former clients to explore her journey of feeling stuck four years after divorce, her changing perspective on men, the transition from parallel parenting to co-parenting, and the cultivation of peace. Previous Podcast Episodes that were mentioned on this week's podcast - #103 - Being Friends With You Ex Join me August 19th - August 25th for my my "Beyond The Breakup" Workshop by registering at https://www.tonyacarter.com/beyondthebreakup Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When you first start the journey of healing from a relationship, it's common to have many concerns. You might ask yourself: How long will this take? Why isn't it happening faster? What will my life look like after this? Will I ever feel like myself again? Why do I feel good one moment then the next moment, I feel frustrated, sad, and overwhelmed? This is because, in the early stages, healing can be unpredictable and emotionally intense. On this week's podcast, join me where I'll share my top 7 tips to guide you through your healing journey. Previous Podcast Episodes that were mentioned on this week's podcast #107 - What Does Doing The Inner Work Mean Join me August 19th - August 25th for my my "Beyond The Breakup" Workshop by registering at https://www.tonyacarter.com/beyondthebreakup Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Infidelity is indeed a form of trauma. When someone has been betrayed in this manner, it severely impacts their psychological well-being. This act can alter a person's self-esteem, develop trust issues, and lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and emotional instability. It can make it difficult for individuals to form healthy relationships in the future and may cause them to question their self-worth and ability to trust others again. According to statistics, 55% of divorces are due to infidelity, and infidelity occurs in 30-40% of non-marital monogamous relationships. When infidelity happens, the question becomes: how do you recover? How can you prevent an experience like this from keeping you stuck in the past, and how do you move forward with strength and resilience in a way that enables you to embrace your next chapter? On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Infidelity Recovery Coach Briaina LaTrice as she shares of experience of recurring infidelity in her marriage, finding the courage to leave, why you must heal, and the importance of releasing the shame of leaving or staying. Follow Briaina LaTrice  on Instagram: @life_after_infidelity_Purchase Briaina's Book by clicking here Briaina's Website:  https://lifeafterinfidelity.net/ **Join me for my workshop "Beyond The Breakup" by clicking below!** www.tonyacarter.com/beyondthebreakup Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn

Join me this week as I share my top five takeaways from Tyler Perry's new movie "Divorce In The Black" and explore how they relate to real-life divorce situations. Previous Podcast Episodes To Checkout! #128. Are you Loyal To An Extreme? #171. Beyond The Mask of Men: Their Emotional Struggles & Being Misunderstood w/ Jonathan Gustave, LMFT **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️ "Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When discussing "burnout," it's often associated with work; however, burnout can also occur in relationships, especially after the end of a marriage or partnership. The emotional stress, imbalance of efforts, unhealthy dynamics, adjusting to a new normal, and a constant cycle of fight or flight can lead to physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion. Recovering from burnout is not an overnight fix; it is a process that takes time. However, with the right routines, strategies, and habits, you can gradually regain your strength and well-being. On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss the mental, emotional and physical toll of breakup burnout, identifying potential possible signs and symptoms, and four practical steps to support you on your recovery journey. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️"Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When divorce happens, judgment inevitably follows. Whether from culture, religion, or societal expectations, everyone seems to have an opinion on your decision. This judgment can lead to anxiety and depression, causing you to feel stuck and unable to move forward into the next chapter of your life. While you can't prevent others from judging your decisions, you can be intentional about how much significance their judgment holds in your life. In this week's podcast, join me as I discuss the burden of others' opinions, the impact that judgment can have on you after divorce, and six essential questions to develop the benefit of being "unbothered" so that you can live a thriving life. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Regardless of popular opinion, divorce marks a significant life transition where the importance of having an "Exit Strategy" often goes unnoticed. Moving on from one phase of life to another involves more than just dissolution; achieving thriving in your next chapter demands a well-thought-out plan and deliberate actions. Join me this week on the podcast for an insightful interview with Sonia Hamlin, host of the Grown and Growing Podcast. In this episode we discuss crucial topics such as the necessity of strategic planning post-divorce, challenging the narratives we hold onto, recognizing signs of progress, and cultivating the right mindset for moving forward. Follow Sonia on IG: grownandgrowingpodcast Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Over 6 million men suffer from depression per year, their suicide rate is four times higher than women and they're more likely to turn to substance abuse as a coping mechanism for mental health issues. These statistics raises a question: "Are men misunderstood?" The notion that men are exempt from pain, emotions, or empathy beyond themselves has shaped a distorted view and narrative about men, resulting in being overlooked and misunderstood. This misconception extends from their closest relationships to societal and cultural norms, creating a narrative that often fails to recognize the depth of men's emotional lives and experiences. On this week's podcast join me as I talk with Licensed Family & Marriage Therapist, Jonathan Gustave. Join us as he talks about being abandoned by both his parents, the challenges faced by the men he works with, and the barriers men encounter in expressing their emotions post-divorce. Following Jonathan on Instagram: @JonoTheGiant Jonathan's email address: jonothegiant@gmail.com Jonathan's podcast "Giant Fundamentals" can be heard on Apple and Spotify Purchase Jonathan's Book "When Giants Get F.E.D U.P. on Amazon Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Summer is here, and the school year is coming to a close. For dynamics where the parents are no longer together, children maybe spending more time with the non-custodial parent. During this time, there's a lot of mixed emotions for the custodial parent, including concerns for their children's well-being, the challenge of co-parenting, and feelings of loneliness while the kids are away. While it isn't always easy to adjust, when parents prioritize their children, it leads to happier kids and smoother transitions. Join me on this week's podcast as I share my experience when my children spent their first summer away and offer five tips to help ease the adjustment for both you and your kids during their summer stay with the other parent. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Welcome to the newly updated "Divorce Your Story" podcast, named after my book! This title aligns perfectly with our podcast's mission: to help you break free from any limiting narratives in your mind and emotions in your heart that are holding you back from thriving in your next chapter. Join me as I discuss the reasons behind the new name and share three universal lessons that can support your growth and healing after a divorce or breakup. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When you find yourself consistently engaging with individuals who appear to be closed off, distant and emotionally disconnected, it's imperative to reflect and get clear on what this means for you. While it may be much easier to label them as "emotionally unavailable" and move on to someone else, it's crucial to recognize that if this pattern persists, there's likely something deeper at play that needs exploration and understanding. Join me on this week's podcast as we discuss the signs of  someone who is emotionally unavailable, explore potential reasons behind it, and four key aspects to investigate for a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationship dynamics. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

The topic of "Dating" is widely discussed, with much advice on how, when, and whom to date. Following divorce, you frequently get asked "When are you doing to date again?" that brings much pressure to just "put yourself back out there" however, is that the best approach? It's important to recognized that re-entering the dating scene post divorce is different. This involves the people you meet, yourself and even your life experiences. From being too vulnerable, dating similar people to even relationship bouncing can lead to more of an emotional setback and hinder your journey towards going forward. On this week's podcast join me in a conversation with Sade Curry, a Dating Coach for Divorced Women as we discuss her divorce after two decades of marriage, her journey to meeting her husband over a two-year dating period, the importance of your healing journey, and green flags on when you're ready to date. Follow Sade Curry on Instagram: @sadecurry Sade's Website:  https://sadecurry.com/ Grab Sade's free "50 Green Flags of a Healthy Partner" by clicking here https://pages.datingafterdivorceacademy.com/is-he-the-one Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - ⁠http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com⁠. Also available on Amazon: ⁠https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn⁠ Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter ⁠⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Motherhood is a multifaceted journey that encompasses a variety of roles, experiences, and emotions. Striking a balance between family, work, and personal needs can be quite demanding. So, what happens when divorce is added to the mix? For mothers facing this change, their children's well-being and their ability to parent effectively in this new situation become major concerns. Worries about not doing enough, overextending themselves, and comparing themselves to other parents can lead to mom guilt, resulting in overwhelm, doubt, increased stress, fatigue, burnout, and exhaustion. Oftentimes this area of motherhood goes unchallenged, causing us to not redefine what motherhood can be and look like. We adopt beliefs and outdated narratives that can keep us stuck in old patterns that may no longer serve us or our children. This can hinder our ability to grow as parents and individuals. By questioning these assumptions and embracing a new, more authentic approach to motherhood, we can better navigate this journey and create a nurturing environment that supports both our children and ourselves. Tune in to this week's podcast as I share my top six insights on motherhood and tips for becoming the best you can be. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter ⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Navigating the divorce process can significantly affect your mental health. The legal proceedings, financial changes, shifts in living situations, custody and co-parenting arrangements, lifestyle adjustments, and changes in social circles can all contribute to persistent stress and impact a person's quality of life for a period of time. This can trigger anxiety, depression, and potentially harmful coping strategies, which can intensify mental health issues and hinder your progress. In this week's podcast, join me as I talk about the potential mental health challenges during a divorce and explore four ways to protect your mental health during this time. Playback episode #112 "How Can I Be Grateful In A Season of Uncertainty" by clicking here Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

It's natural to want something better for your life, but what happens when you're faced with the challenge of pursuing it? Do you make excuses for why you can't achieve it? Do you focus on what's wrong out of fear for yourself? Do you convince yourself not to try? Do you withdraw as a means of self-protection?Do you resist embracing change? Do you revert to familiar patterns? Following a divorce, self-sabotage can become a real concern. Making better choices, nurturing healthier relationships, forgiving yourself, embracing change, and seizing new opportunities can feel unattainable when your life takes an unexpected turn. You may feel powerless and uncertain about the future, leading you to stay stuck in a past chapter of your life instead of embracing a new path forward. How can someone break free from self-sabotage? Join me on this week's podcast as I discuss ways you may be self-sabotaging your life after a divorce or breakup, along with four steps to help you move forward. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

"Moving On" can be much harder than it sounds, specifically when dissolving a partnership of 31 years. The process to disentangle yourself can be emotionally and logistically challenging, compounded by the weight of shared history and intertwined lives. After spending the majority of your adult life with someone, picking up the pieces and creating a new one can seem dauting, overwhelming and uncertain. On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from an email I received from someone in regards to her partner leaving after being together for 31 years. Throughout the episode, I address three pivotal questions essential for her journey forward, offering guidance to navigate the complexities of her situation and facilitate her path to healing and growth. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter ⁠⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When you hear things such as: You need to heal OR You need to do your inner work You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does that look like for me?" And when you're unsure on what it means, it becomes ignored due to the lack of understanding on why this is necessary and how it can enhance your quality of life. Although everyone's journey of doing their own inner work looks different, there are similar activities that  "inner work" involves for anyone. On this week's podcast,  join me as I discuss what "inner work" is, ways to identify if you need to start your inner work, as well as three main activities that apply to anyone. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - ⁠http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com⁠. Also available on Amazon: ⁠https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn⁠ Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠

As women, no matter the role or position you're called to fill...we celebrate you! From our mothers, our sisters, our leaders, our educators, those in healthcare, to entrepreneurship, athletics, politics, etc...your significance is acknowledged! The month of March is dedicated to honoring the bravery and contributions of women, spanning from the past to the present, who have paved the way for today's generation of women. Understanding the history of recognizing the contributions that women have made encourages our current and future generations to mirror that success in a way to blaze their own trails. In this week's podcast episode, join me in a conversation about forging your own path and explore three crucial factors on how to initiate this journey. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Women are known for wearing multiple hats. From motherhood, marriage, working, taking care of the home, and being there for others selflessly. However, what gets lost in all of those roles is herself. When an life-altering event such as divorce takes place, the need to advocate for your well-being takes more of a back seat. The default setting shifts to autopilot, and survival mode becomes the new normal. While conventional wisdom advises self-care, the question arises: How is that possible when managing so many roles in your life? In this week's podcast episode, join me for a conversation with one of my past clients as we discuss the importance of advocating for herself after the dissolution of her marriage of 13 years, raising four children (one with autism), how to effectively manage a challenging custody battle, being a caregiver and working dual jobs. To apply for the T.H.R.I.V.E program, please click here! Classes start 3/12! Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

What often goes unnoticed is the significance of sharing core values when making the decision to get married. While people are frequently advised on various aspects, such as societal expectations, fear of loneliness, or the notion that one's identity is solely defined by relationship status, the crucial factor of alignment in values tends to be overlooked. These misleading influences can lead individuals to engage in relationships that lack the essential foundation of shared values. Consequently, people may find themselves compromising their authentic selves and entering into marriages that feel forced or incompatible. Recognizing and addressing the importance of aligning values can help individuals make more informed and fulfilling decisions about their partnerships, fostering relationships built on mutual understanding, respect, and shared aspirations. In this week's podcast episode, join me for a conversation with one of my past clients as we discuss the dissolution of her marriage of two years, marital misalignment, struggles with people-pleasing, and the impact of perfectionism. To apply for the T.H.R.I.V.E program, please click here! Classes start 3/12! Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

One of the most challenging yet essential pieces of wisdom when navigating life after a marriage or relationship is envisioning a brighter future for yourself and your children. Divorces and breakups reshape the trajectory of your life, disrupting carefully laid plans. However, it is crucial to recognize that these changes, though difficult, offer opportunities for personal growth and the creation of new possibilities. Join me on this week's podcast, as I discuss three key insights about the transformative effects of living beyond divorce and the positive impact it can have on your life. ⁠Register for my five day Beyond The Breakup Workshop that starts February 26th by clicking here! Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

The perception of "being single" is frequently clouded by misconceptions, including judgment, pity, and the misguided belief that there must be something wrong with an individual in this status. Society commonly presents being in a relationship as the ultimate accomplishment to validate one's significance in the world.  This is a poor representation of many individuals who are single however feels "less than" because they are. What often goes unnoticed is the importance of embracing the unique aspects of oneself and recognizing the sacredness of this phase of life. On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss how to shift your perspective on being single. I'll be offering four pieces of advice to navigate and appreciate this unique season of life. Register for my five day Beyond The Breakup Workshop by clicking here: Checkout last week's episode: "Navigating Valentine's Day After a Divorce/Breakup: 5 Helpful Tips" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Valentine's Day can pose challenges for those who have gone through a divorce or breakup.  It can be a reminder of the memories you've shared, a shift in your relationship status, to even feelings of perceived failure accompanied by emotions of disappointment, sadness and loneliness. In this week's podcast episode,  join me as I discuss five helpful tips on managing Valentine's Day after a divorce/breakup.  Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Research reveals that a significant 70% of divorces are instigated by women. While common discussions often attribute this trend to notions of women not needing a partner or seeking independence, the underlying data suggests a more nuanced reality. The decision for women to end their marriages is complex and varies from person to person, yet there are shared reasons that resonate across the spectrum. In this week's podcast episode, I'll discuss the top four reasons why women often take the lead in initiating divorces, going beyond surface-level explanations. Join me as we explore the multifaceted dynamics influencing women's decisions to dissolve their marriages more frequently than men. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Contrary to what many may believe, your divorce is a big deal. It's not about dwelling in shame, guilt, or a sense of failure, but rather acknowledging the profound impact it can have on various aspects of your life. Some downplay its significance while other remain in so much criticism that there's no room to identify what steps can be taken next. It's pivotal to navigate this phase with self-awareness and openness to understand the path forward for personal growth and recovery. On this week's podcast, join me as I present three questions to determine whether you need a strategy and a eye-opening exercise that can help you  gain clarity on your situation. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

2024 is here and although January is known for new beginnings, it's also the closing of many marriages/relationships. Yet, what often goes unnoticed is the crucial importance of actively progressing forward and leaving the past behind. The dissolution of a marriage or relationship can significantly impact your psychological well-being, potentially influencing your self-perception, emotional state, and mental health. Once the decision is made that it's in the best interest of both parties to part ways, the key is the intentional effort to move forward. Join me on this week's podcast episode as I provide three essential questions for you to contemplate, ensuring that you navigate the path forward after a divorce or breakup this year. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

The holiday season after divorce can bring much added stress and overwhelm for both parents and children. Moving away from established traditions towards new arrangements can trigger a range of emotions including loneliness, sadness and anxiety. A primary concern for parents remains centered on safeguarding their children's welfare. Providing reassurance, emphasizing emotional stability, and preserving a sense of normalcy are paramount during this period of transition. Although it may seem unrealistic, it's crucial to remember that small steps can make a significant difference. On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five essential tips for parents, guiding them through a smoother journey during the holiday season. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Checkout podcast Episode #135- Breaking Free: Overcoming Guilt About Your Divorce/Breakup - 5 Essential Strategies Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in. When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose. Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the trade off shouldn't be to avoid what's going on around you and within you. On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to cultivate authentic gratitude without emotional avoidance. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠⁠iamtonyacarter⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on YouTube - ⁠⁠⁠Tonya Carter

Feeling worn out? Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually drained? Divorces or breakups often usher in a level of exhaustion that leaves you functioning on autopilot, unable to fully engage with life and struggling with hope for the future. You might experience a sense of emptiness, your thoughts and emotions scattered, grappling with uncertainty about what lies ahead. This weariness can manifest as mental fatigue, emotional numbness, and spiritual depletion. Over time, it might evolve into depression, isolation, bitterness, cynicism, a negative outlook, and even regret. In this week's podcast episode, Join me as I share three essential steps to transition out of this period of exhaustion and uncertainty. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Follow me on YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter

Experiencing a sense of failure and the belief that you've disappointed your loved ones is a common emotional response during a divorce. However, when these feelings become a lasting, permanent emotional state, it can develop a unhealthy self-perception about an individual resulting in self-sabotage, fear, a loss of trust, and even a pervasive pessimistic outlook. Persisting in this state of perceived failure can drain your motivation and result in a feeling of defeat, making it challenging to move forward. It's crucial to acknowledge that while feeling like a failure is a natural initial response, allowing it to persist can harm your self-image and set you on a downward spiral of self-criticism, shame, guilt, and a victim mindset. On this weeks podcast, join me as I discuss three important reminders to move past this feeling of failure. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Checkout podcast Episode #117 - The Skill of Self-Forgiveness...Why It's Needed & 4 Things You Must Do To Start! Follow me on IG - ⁠iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Follow me on YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter

Reentering the dating scene is a familiar concept for those going through the divorce process. Yet, putting yourself out there encompasses more than just meeting new people; it's fundamentally about your internal state. The process of divorce inevitably transforms you but the key question is how it transforms you? Despite the societal and cultural emphasis on dating, when considering post-divorce dating, the focus should be on approaching it with intentionality rather than allowing pain to steer the course. On this week's podcast, join me as I was interviewed with Sade Curry, host of Dating After Divorce Podcast as we discuss taking a pause on dating to discern, how your core values impact how you date, and the importance of how you internalied your singleness as it influences your dating decisions. Follow Sade on IG: @sadecurry Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Click here to submit any topics that you're interested in hearing on the podcast Follow me on IG - iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Follow me on YouTube - Tonya Carter

There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your time, energy and other resources which overtime results in constant investing of  a relationship. It's important to be mindful and considerate of who gets that level of access to you because the person that you choose to entertain impacts the quality of your life. On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five types  of relationships that you should avoid entertaining! Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month which aims to raise awareness, support survivor's, break the silence and work towards the prevention and elimination of domestic violence in all its forms. Domestic Violence can be physical, sexual, psychological, economical, and/or spiritual. These patterns are designed to manipulate, isolate, frighten, terrorize and hurt someone in ways that will leave lasting scars, both visible and invisible. By the time, the victim has the courage to leave, the after effects such as depression, self-esteem, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress can continue to impact their lives. On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a conversation with Janelle Hunt. She shares her personal journey of leaving an abusive relationship after seven years, discussing the importance of forgiveness, the cycle of generational abuse, and practical steps to break free from an abusive partnership. Follow Janelle on Instagram: @thejanellehunt Register for Janelle's Workshop here: https://restoringthekingdominyou.com Purchase Janelle's Book here: https://www.madeonwhatiknow.com/ Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

When divorces/breakups take place,  being your "Best Self" is a common objective. However, what can get overlooked is the transformative steps required to make this happen. In this week's podcast, join me for a conversation as I discuss essential elements for becoming the best version of yourself in the aftermath of a divorce or breakup. "Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Checkout podcast Episode #101 - Acknowledging Your Progress Within Your Journey - 10 minute talk w/ Tonya Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

When someone you love hurts you, so much gets processed internally:‎ • The disbelief and shock of it all • Your self-esteem gets compromised • An overwhelm of shame, guilt, and/or self-blame • Your perception on relationships and people The impact of feeling betrayed can begin a wave of questions and emotions regarding ‎themselves, the person who betrayed them, and the entire relationship.‎ On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give four things you need to do to get past hurt and betrayal Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

Your beliefs about your body can determine whether you perceive yourself as deserving or undeserving of love and acceptance. Influences from movies, media, magazines, and our families have embedded messages that can foster an unhealthy narrative, suggesting that bodies not conforming to societal standards are inadequate and lack appeal. Consequently, individuals may develop eating disorders, consider cosmetic surgery, experience suicidal thoughts, or engage in unhealthy dieting. The mindset that there exists a single, universal body standard compels people to believe that their bodies are either lovable or unlovable. In this week's podcast, join me for a conversation with Jasmyne Reynolds, a former bodybuilder and the founder of Black Fitness Mommy. She will share her personal journey towards body confidence after having three children, discuss why women often feel the need to "perfect" their bodies, the unhealthy need to lose weight for their relationships and provide insights on how to cultivate a love for your body starting today. Follow Jasmyne on IG: @thejasmynereynolds_ Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't? Even though the logical solution is to respect the other person's decision, it's not always the easiest conclusion to come to when you're the person who wants to work it out. When you're in this cycle of wanting to make the relationship work while the other one doesn't, you're only keeping yourself in a space of denial, shock and the inability to accept that this has happened so you can continue to forward with your life. In this episode, join me as I discuss what you need to do when you're the person who doesn't want the relationship to be over. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

When it comes to caring for yourself aka "self-care", its significance can easily diminish when it becomes a trendy buzzword and loses its authenticity. However, in its genuine form, self-care serves as a means to honor and demonstrate self-respect, ultimately enhancing your overall quality of life. Frequently, self-care is reduced to a method of "treating oneself," where it causes a person to only indulge in occasional and often costly acts. Yet, the essence of self-care transcends these occasional indulgences. It is a daily practice, a lifestyle that encompasses various aspects of your well-being, from your mental and emotional health to your financial stability, physical wellness, relationships, spirituality, social life, and work or business endeavors. On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who has developed a level of self-neglect due to an ongoing commitment to caring for others.. In this episode, I will discuss three essential insights regarding around self-care and 21 distinct perspectives on how to perceive self-care differently. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

This past weekend, I celebrated another birthday. Every year, I take a moment to contemplate the various factors that have played a role in my personal growth and development. One significant aspect of this reflection is the notion of celebrating life. Life frequently presents us with disappointments that lie beyond our control. Often, when our carefully laid plans do not unfold as expected, it can limit our perspective concerning ourselves and our future. As I've matured over the past eight years, my outlook on life has profoundly shaped my self-perception, which in turn has had a direct influence on my actions and choices. On this week's podcast, I invite you to join me in exploring my birthday reflections and 10 strategies for celebrating life after experiencing a divorce or breakup. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter

When it comes to dating, specifically after divorce, it involves much more than simply "re-entering the dating scene." Contrary to what many believe, it takes a lot of courage to step back out in the dating arena when plans to spend the rest of your life with someone has changed. One of the most complexed and complicated questions is "When will I be ready?". Now although no one can tell you a specific timeframe, a level of personal readiness is essential to approach the dating landscape with greater insight. On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who currently is 56 and wonders if she should embrace the idea of dating. In this episode, I will address three key aspects to provide clarity to the present challenges surrounding dating that will help assist her in navigating this area of her life. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - @iamtonyacarter Follow me on Facebook - Tonya Carter Subscribe to my YouTube - Tonya Carter