Relationship Centered Learning

Welcome back to another solo episode with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about what is the outcome when we use these tools to connect the kids because there is no one way to build and sustain a relationship. We will also talk about how to use the cross-connecting model to make a difference and build a community in the classroom. Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about cross-connecting and the outcome of the tools that we use to build connections with kids. [00:01 - 01:35] Opening Segment I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers. To find out more about the conference visit http://www.rclfirst.com (www.rclfirst.com). I introduce the topic of today's episode. What is the outcome when we use these tools to connect the kids? [01:36 - 07:36] The Outcome Of Relationship Building Tools Three areas of cross-connection. Student to student Student to teacher  Teacher to student  Through that cross-connection model, we could truly build community. What is your As card in building relationships with kids? Think about your Go-to building relationship activity and your thought process. Aspects to consider when choosing the activity  Does it provide the opportunity for students to learn about each other? Does it create the opportunity for you to learn about your students? Does it create the opportunity for students to learn about you? I share an example from a brown bag activity  Be intentional about your tools and the outcome. Are students going to learn about each other during this activity? Is the teacher given an opportunity to learn about the students? Are we intentionally telling the teacher to share and that they should share during these tools? We always have to incorporate all voices in the classroom. I challenge you to make sure that when you build a relationship in the classroom, incorporate your voice and let the student feel and appreciate your contribution to their community. Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “We have to think about building community; student to student, student to teacher, and teacher to student, it is an outcome that we believe is making a difference in our practices and our tools.” -  Kevin Curtis. “Cross-connecting will truly help you build classroom community in the class no matter what tool you are using .” -  Kevin Curtis. “Always incorporate all voices in the classroom.” -  Kevin Curtis. Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to another solo episode with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about questions, specifically how we can question as tools to build and sustain relationships, especially with our students. Not only by focusing on the questions but also the answers that will shape the conversation. Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about questions and connections. [00:01 - 01:30] Opening Segment I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers. To find out more about the conference visit http://www.rclfirst.com (www.rclfirst.com). I introduce the topic of today's episode. Question sets the tone for the conversations. The question starts the conversation, but the answer shapes the conversation. [01:31 - 05:30] Questions to Connections  I talk about being a question sewer and question business. GTKY questions as the tools to build and sustain relationships in the classroom. Use questions to get to know your students and also think about their responses. Have the conversation shape around the right questions to find more similarities and build connections. Let the answer be genuine, real, and authentic by asking thought-provoking questions. Share your favorite questions with us on our RCLP Facebook Group or any of our social media pages. See links below. Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “Over the years, we have determined that the question in itself when we use these tools sets the tone for the conversations.” -  Kevin Curtis. “The question starts the conversation, but the answer shapes the conversation.” -  Kevin Curtis. “Let the answer be genuine, real, and authentic by asking thought-provoking questions..” -  Kevin Curtis. Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to another solo episode with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about the pathways of training, the concept of consequences with grace, and understanding that life is far from black and white. Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about leading and responding with grace. [00:01 - 02:40] Opening Segment I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers. To find out more about the conference visit http://www.rclfirst.com (www.rclfirst.com). I introduce the topic of today's episode. Two pathways of training in The Relationship-centered learning in National Educators for Restoratives Practices. The evolution of gray developed from the concept of proactive vs. reactive. Gray are consequences with grace. [02:41 - 08:24] Consequences with Grace The background of today's topic and how I came up with this concept. Adults who fail to give grace to kids Life is far from black and white. I break down the analogy of speeding. The slow down period and the shift of behavior.  Experience accountability. Understand that we are all going to make mistakes. Leading and responding with grace Black and white are consequences without grace, gray are consequences with grace, and everybody wants black and white until you need gray.  Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “As you grow up and go up in leadership of the educational system, it gets grayer and grayer.” -  Kevin Curtis. “As long as everything to you and your world is considered black and white, then you see no need for gray until you need it.” -  Kevin Curtis. “Black and white are consequences without grace; gray are consequences with grace. And everybody wants black and white until you need gray.” -  Kevin Curtis. Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about the power of words, how it is affecting our expectations towards our students, and the understanding not to expect students to always be perfect. Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about the power of words. [00:01 - 02:00] Opening Segment I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers. To find out more about the conference visit http://www.rclfirst.com (www.rclfirst.com). I introduce the topic for this episode. The power of words, between ‘students and kids' [02:01 - 06:41] The Power of Words The transformation of philosophy. It is normal for kids to make mistakes; it is normal for students to make mistakes. Two completely different connotations and expectations between the word ‘students' and ‘kids.' The correlation between academics and how students behave Not expecting students always to be perfect. The grace and understanding that kids and even adults are going to make mistakes.  How we handle and label those mistakes. Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “I don't want perfect students; I want students to grow, reflect and own and be accountable for their voice and their choice.” -  Kevin Curtis. “When we look at our students, no matter what their age is, they are kids, and when we look at kids, we need to understand they are not going to be perfect.” -  Kevin Curtis. “If we continue to think of students, not as kids, we are going to continue to struggle in giving grace, understanding expectation, and giving kids the opportunity to be kids.” -  Kevin Curtis. Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, I get to interview the superintendent of Westwood ISD, Wade Stanford. Wade is not just full of knowledge and experience but also vulnerable. We will be talking about so many twists and turns of vulnerability, listening to other stakeholders, and utilizing those processes with staff and students. From this interview, I hope we can challenge ourselves as leaders in education to think differently, put those thoughts into action, and change the thought platform we start to use. Let's dig in and learn more about his inspiring experience and how to lead with authenticity, transparency, and vulnerability. [00:01 – 18:30] Opening Segment Let's welcome Wade Stanford to the show.  The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions or more info about us? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( )http://www.rclfirst.com (www.rclfirst.com). [18:31 – 30:10] Building Genuine and Sustainable Connection The 2nd Restorative Practices Training conference. Wade shares his thoughts and opinions about the Restorative Practices Training conference. The internal drive of peace. Passion and conviction piece that causes people to move from their hearts not out of fear or compliance. Build genuine connections as an ordinary person regardless of your title. Thought process when dealing with the simple referral. [30:11 – 42:29] Leadership with Authenticity, Transparency, and Inclusivity  The transparency and authenticity in creating an impactful genuine connection. The inclusivity piece. The significant role of telling our story and communicating it out. Get the right people at the table to make progress. How to make collaboration to find the best approach. Buy-in vs. ownership. The importance of gathering and creating a safe place for people to share their thoughts [42:30 – 55:54] The Thought Exchange  Wade talks about the thought exchange platform. Building connection and trust with the staffs Closing the loop with vulnerability and authenticity. The importance of remembering where we come from. Create power and ownership amongst colleagues. The formula for high-level instruction on the campus. Thought exchange in the classroom between students and teachers. Utilize student and adult voices. [55:55 – 01:20:19 ] Power and Permission SNAO (Strategies, needs, and outcomes) model. Wade shares his plan with the thought exchange platform next year. Conversation before consequences. The power and permission.  Breaking barriers down. Being comfortable with sharing your struggle. [ 01:20:20 – 01:23:04] Closing Segment I share my takeaways from the conversation. Wade shares his final words. Final thoughts and words of advice Tweetable Quotes: “Passion and conviction piece that causes people to move from their hearts not out of fear or compliance.” –  Wade Stanford. “Consequences and discipline will not change behaviors, but only through practices and reflections will create changes.” –   Wade Stanford. “When we bring people that aren't close to the problem, they tend to see the best solution..” –  Wade Stanford. Connect with Wade via email to wstanford@westwoodisd.net orhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/wade-stanford-9319a3ab/ ( LinkedIn) Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this special episode, I interview my co-founder Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday, and I sit down for a special segment called Restorative Real Life Moments. Denise and I had a conversation about an incident where another dog attacked her dog in the neighborhood by her mom's house, and we started talking about how she reacted vs. responded. We also talked about what she needs to repair hard, what some of those conversations look like, how did she pause along the way to even get to the point where the story ended. We are trying to do this Restorative Real Life Moments as frequently as we can to share who we are as human beings and the work we are trying to do and how it's working and transforming us, but yet we are still humans. Let's dig in and learn more about reacting vs. responding. [00:01 – 11:14] Opening Segment I share a brief introduction to today's special segment.  Restorative Real-Life Moments. Let's welcome Denise "Circlemamma" Holiday to the show.  Denise shares the 4 Fs and back story surrounding what happened to her and her dog-brother ‘Powder.'  Denise talks about her reaction and responds when the incident occurred. The pause and moment of reflection when she got to the right state of mind. [11:15 – 24:10] Reacting Vs. Responding We can get it wrong all day long, and we make decisions based on emotions that we call reacting vs. responding. Reacting from an emotional space. It would be up to us to find out how to make it right. Denise talks about the transformation trigger to her thought pattern and process of realization. The pause of clarity and reflection moment. The absence of rational thinking. Denise shares how her neighbor responded that helped her to get into her rational thinking and empathy. Patient and empathy. [24:11 – 29:10] The Fix that Was Needed Denise shares about the fix and what needed to happen to make this right as possible. The plan of making sure it will never happen again. Denise talks about how her neighbor fixed the problem and stayed true to what he said he would do. We are all human; we do not have to be perfect and always be the right ones. But it's about trying to make it right when the opportunity is there. [ 29:11 – 36:02] Closing Segment Denise talks about the takeaways that she had grown and going from this event. I share my takeaways from the story. Self-growth and self-understanding. Responding more to things than react out of emotion Final thoughts and words of advice Tweetable Quotes: “We can get it wrong all day long, and we make decisions based on emotions that we call reacting vs. responding.” –  Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday. “We are all human; we do not have to be perfect and always be the right one. But it's about trying to make it right when the opportunity is there.” –   Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday. “I am going to live my best life when I can respond more to things than I react to them out of emotion.” –  Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday. Connect with Denise via email to circlemamma@nedrp.com.  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. Within the last few episodes, I realized that I continue to use the same phrase about actively listening to someone from their behavior towards us within the last few episodes. So in this episode, I will be talking about active listening and increasing the awareness of red flags.  Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about listening to someone's behavior. [00:01 - 01:33] Opening Segment I introduce the topic for this episode. Listening for a message within someone's behavior  I share some quotes regarding behavioral listening. [01:34 - 06:25] Listening to Behavior Missing the red flags of a relationship in the way someone treats us. Reflect and ask yourself what happens when something goes awry. Become more aware of any message within someone's behavior  The importance of taking another perspective from a third party. The tendency to excuse and tolerate someone's behavior because of your feelings, biases, or beliefs. Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” -  Maya Angelou. “There's a message in the way a person treats you. Just listen.” – Unknown. “People always tell you who they are. You just have to listen.” - Clay Jensen (a character from 13 reasons why) Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, I interview Veronica V. Sopher, the Chief Communications Officer of Fort Bend Independent School District. Veronica and I will be having a wonderful conversation about the art of communication, especially what leaders need to consider when they lead meetings and be in public or events. In addition, we also talk about what parents need to consider when communicating with the district, the power of social media, and many more. We will discuss not only the art of relationships but also the art of communication.  Let's dig in and learn more about becoming a better listener and connecting better across generations. [00:01 – 07:25] Opening Segment Let's welcome Veronica V. Sopher to the show The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions [07:26 – 20:57] The Power of Non-Verbal Communication  and Social Media Veronica shares a brief introduction about who she is and what is her current position The power and importance of Non-verbal communication  Veronica talks about her experience in working on non-verbal communication with leaders The face leaking The role and guidance of dealing with Social Media for school leaders The responsibility to engage folks in a positive way Veronica talks about her experience in dealing with the breach of unwanted posts on the social media of educators or schools The support of the other staff in protecting one another The speed up communication on campus and a bigger reach because of social media [20:58 – 35:10] The Art of Communication  Why sometimes kids have difficult times trusting adults today, compared to 20-30 years ago The ability to quickly question their information and verify it themselves  Veronica shares some tips to consider when communicating with the school district and wanting to know more information Veronica talks about making your message so clear; it can not be misunderstood Have the core at the core Relationship and communication Veronica shares her opinion on building a community that is filled with an honest, open flow of communication and grace [ 35:11 – 39:27] Closing Segment Veronica shares her final words and a closing message I share my takeaways from this interview Veronica shares her experience in building trust and communication with the parents Final thoughts and words of advice Tweetable Quotes: “Non-verbal communication is probably more powerful than verbal communication.” – Veronica V. Sopher The district is starting to see how important communication is to the success of the district and the expectation of the parents.” –  Veronica V. Sopher “Communication is part of building the relationship and the way to express it.” – Veronica V. Sopher Connect with Veronica via email to vsopher@hotmail.com.  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, I get to interview Chris Pimpton. Chris has had 16 years in education and primarily dealing with attendance truancies and behavior. He is currently working as a behavior specialist and behavior interventionist at the White Settlement Independent School District in Texas. Today we will have a great conversation about listening and how not just to become a better listener but also when and how we should listen Let's dig in and learn more about becoming a better listener and connecting better across generations. [00:01 – 09:25] Opening Segment Let's welcome Chris Pimpton to the show The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions [09:26 – 18:45] The Relatability Aspect With Kids Chris talks about his current official title Helping people to understand and see kids differently despite their behavior on a daily basis Relatability aspect on making the connection with the kids The strategy on working with adults who are struggling with the students' behavior The disconnection and clash of perspectives between kids and adults [18:46 – 38:20] Becoming A Better Listener Talking to each other, not at each other Why is it so hard for us to listen? Everybody has a voice but it's a matter of how you use it The cultural aspect of listening and being listened to Getting people to see through a different lens The challenges in making people listen to us People tend to stereotype in advance Overcome our ego to listen better Build a true connection with the students to listen and be listened to Having respect towards people despite their skin color and title Toxic positivity of social media [38:21 – 56:09] The Lack Of Understanding Between Generations The little things that make a big difference Understanding the true meaning of life You've got to listen to get something Being the last person to speak have the conversation that you scared to have Helping students to grow and transition to a different person The race conversation  Build connections and trust with students The lack of understanding between generations [ 56:10 – 58:37] Closing Segment I share my takeaways from this interview Chris shares a closing message Final thoughts and words of advice Tweetable Quotes: “We are all at war, especially from educators' perspectives, and now it is our time to prepare the kids for it.” – Chris Pimpton ”Everybody's got a story to tell, and you've got to allow them to create the image of their story.” –  Chris Pimpton “The best way to build a relationship is to have the conversation that you are scared to have.” – Chris Pimpton Connect with Chris via email to renaepimpton@yahoo.com.  Visit http://www.rclfirst.com/ (www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visit http://www.rclfirst.com/ (www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, I get to interview Ryan Brassel, the assistant principal of Horn Highschool Mesquite Independent School District. Ryan is entering his 20th year in education as the assistant principal in the secondary high school in northeast texas. He will share how he created a classroom space where teachers could feel safe to build and sustain relationships with kids, which he calls a ‘connection center,' and the strategy in using conversation before consequences with an apology letter to deal with consequences. Let's dig in and learn more about the relationship-centered approach on the secondary level and the importance of conversation before consequences. [00:01 – 09:08] Opening Segment Let's welcome Ryan Brassell to the show.  The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. [09:09 – 29:56] Relationship-Centered Approach in the Secondary Level Ryan talks about how we first connect. Bringing the relationship-centered approach to the secondary level. Creating a green room for teachers Circle for change restorative practices. The contagion effect. The strengthening piece of the student. The teachers' takeaway of their students after attending the circle space session. Cross-connection between students [29:57 – 55:30] Conversation Before Consequences  How restorative practices reshaped the lens. The philosophy of dealing with consequences and discipline. Focus on finding another method. Anger is typically gone in 48 hours. Giving the students a chance to make it right. Accountability piece to support teachers. Punishment piece. Ryan breaks down the process of facilitating the conversation. The direct outcomes and change behavior or reduce discipline referrals on this method. The take-aways and responses from teachers of this strategy. [ 53:35 – 01:00:03] Closing Segment Ryan shares a closing message I share my takeaway from this interview How to connect with Ryan. See links below Final thoughts and words of advice. Tweetable Quotes: “People win what they focus on.” – Ryan Brassell. ”We all have things going on in our lives, and the students do too” –  Ryan Brassell. “ We want the children to be held accountable for their actions, not punished .” –  Ryan Brassell. Connect with Ryan via email to rbrassell@mesquiteisd.org, or you can also connect to his personal email ryanbrassell.903@gmail.com.  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. Within the last few episodes, I just realized that there was a pattern in the way I unpacked the interviews, which was head, heart, and hands approach. In this episode, I feel convicted to dig a little bit deeper into the what, why, and how factors of unpacking information. Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about the concept of head, heart, and hands approach. [00:01 - 01:50] Opening Segment I introduce the topic for this episode. Head, Heart, and Hands approach Move towards the heart by motivating and inspiring. [01:51 - 08:56] Head, Heart, and Hands Speaking to the right amount of information combined with the right amount of motivation and giving them practical tools to apply it. The significance of knowing how we unpacked our curriculum. The passion for motivating students. Injecting the ‘believe' factors. Preparing students with the right practical tools. The 'What,' ‘Why,' and ‘How' factors in unpacking the information to your audience. If you are interested in the topic of Head, heart, and hands, let's participate in our July 13th and 14th virtual conferences.  See links below. Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “Speaking to the right amount of information combined with the right amount of motivation and giving them practical tools to apply it.” – Kevin Curtis. “If it moves us as educators, why don't we take that same approach to the classroom?” – Kevin Curtis. Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, we have the amazing Chelsea MacKinnon; she is the Assistant Principal at Frisco ISD, Texas. Chelsea has just been a participant in our 3-day Certified Specialist in Restorative PracticesTraining, specifically done for Frisco ISD. We will be talking about some takeaways from the training and what a good leader should look for in putting relationships at the center of our learning, and the characteristics that a good leader should exhibit. Let's dig in and learn more about her takeaways from the training and the fundamental characteristics of a leader. [00:01 – 11:34] Opening Segment Let's welcome Chelsea MacKinnon to the show.  The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. [11:35 – 28:19] Powerful Takeaways from the Training Chelsea shares her background of how she got into the education world. Her takeaways from the 3-day Certified Specialist in Restorative PracticesTraining with us. Building a community with small break-out groups The relational capacity that we want our kids to know and have. Chelsea shares her colleague's example in practicing the material in her classroom. The two minute connect.  Chelsea talks about her powerful takeaway from the training. The foundational base of how she interacts with others in general [28:20 – 37:30] The Fundamental Characteristics of A Leader Chelsea shares her philosophy as a leader To love people Leaders need to give their staff the freedom to try these things Relationships and student-driven. Letting teachers know that it is okay not to be perfect. A successful team builds off one another. Creating the model of connection to be implemented in the classroom. [37:31 – 58:34] Beauty in Vulnerability. The power of making eye contact, smile and using people's names. Making students and people feel valued, seen, and heard. Heads - hearts - hands model. Showing students that it is okay to fail but not to stay there. Beauty in the vulnerability. Not being afraid to apologize. Being comfortable to show our weaknesses and mistakes as teachers and leaders. Focusing on the process. [ 58:35 – 01:05:01] Closing Segment Chelsea and I share our take away from this interview Final thoughts and words of advice. Tweetable Quotes: “Nowadays, as educators, we tend to hyperfocus on the score and become data-driven when we should be student-driven and focus on them.” – Chelsea MacKinnon. ”All humans want to be valued, seen, and heard.” –  Chelsea MacKinnon. “ It's okay not to be successful the first time; we just had to reflect and figure out how to get better.” –  Chelsea MacKinnon. Connect with Chelsea on https://www.linkedin.com/in/chelsea-mackinnon-a5866a83/ (LinkedIn)https://twitter.com/haywood_dr?lang=en ( )or send her email to mackinnon@friscoisd.org.  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, I am joined by Sheila McCollum; she is the CTE (Career and Technology Education) coordinator for Decatur High school. We will be talking about leadership—building relationships with the staff, administrators, teacher leaders, and being vulnerable. We will also discuss the difference in the learning process between elementary, middle, and high schools.  Let's dig in and learn more about the transition between grades and building connections between educators. [00:01 – 11:34] Opening Segment Let's welcome Sheila McCollum to the show.  The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. [11:35 – 25:29] The Expectation and The Transition between Grades Building and working on the relationships with students and witnessing them growing. Educator learning curves and transition between grade levels. The freedom transition between grades. [25:30 – 38:39] Building Connections between Educators The challenges of dealing with middle school students. The genuine and impactful connection with students. Campus connection between staff. How should teachers build relationships with students, parents, and fellow teachers? Bringing relationships to the center of the learning process. [38:40 – 51:09] Letting Yourself Be Vulnerable to Others Why is it so hard for teachers or leaders to be vulnerable? Society expectation towards leaders and teachers. Building the connection between teachers by offering help to people. Team effort in leadership without any ego involves. Give students, leaders, and teachers some space to make mistakes. Sheila shares some recommended resources https://brenebrown.com/ (Brene Brown) https://www.amazon.com/Beneath-Scarlet-Sky-Mark-Sullivan-ebook/dp/B01L1CEZ6K (Beneath a scarlet sky by Mark Sullivan) Learning beyond the academics resources. [ 51:10 – 54:03] Closing Segment I share my take away from this interview How to connect with Sheila See links below.  Final thoughts and words of advice. Tweetable Quotes: “if you don't have those relationships and there's not the trust that being built, then I would see students that refuse to obey.” – Sheilla McCollum. ”You got to take a time out and do what you got to do, but you never stop being an educator ” –  Sheilla McCollum. “ it doesn't matter how great your data is or what your plans are if you don't have the relationships in place. You're never going to be able to achieve what you set out to do.” –  Sheilla McCollum. Mentioned Links: https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339 (No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A Glover) https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspx (Strengths Finder ) Connect with Sheilla on https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheila-mccollum-762b5b14/ (LinkedIn)https://twitter.com/haywood_dr?lang=en ( )or send her email to sdmccollum0323@yahoo.com  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Today I will be interviewing Dr. Alvin Haywood; He is an author and educator of 34 years who retired and has many more journeys as he continues to work with state legislation in California. He has helped reshape students' reading and expectations in the classroom. In this episode, he will be sharing with us about his teaching journey and how he uses the ‘human approach' that was not in the majority back then. He will also share some of the stories of his battle and transformation with cancer. Let's dig in and learn more about his inspiring life story and his teaching journey. [00:01 – 18:31] Opening Segment Let's welcome Dr. Alvin Haywood to the show.  The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. [18:32 – 32:30] Human Relationship Approach in Teaching Dr. Alvin shares how he started his teaching career. The mindset requirements to be a social worker. The respect and trust aspect in the classroom  Building relationships with the students so they can learn. Dr.Alvin shares his experience of being stood out and fought for the human approach in teaching. Erasing the limitation on students. Giving students their new slate Just by treating and talking to the students differently, they will act differently. [32:31 – 49:54] Storytelling to Building Relationships Dr. Alvin talks about how he turns from teaching to leadership in administration after he retired. He got diagnosed with cancer in 2007. He started to do public policy and his doctorate after retirement. Dr. Alvin talks about how he got into writing and published his books The inequality of society in standardizing students to get into college by passing algebra tests. Students loving math It depends on the way you present math to the students. Do not limit your child by your limitation. Storytelling is sharing your own personal story and it is part of building relationships. Giving the students a narrative to make them drawn to you to learn more. Discipline alternative education placement school. The flaw of alternative high school systems. [49:55 – 01:00:30] Cancer Survivor-Thriver  Dr. Alvin shares the revelation he got on his journey in battling cancer. He started his reading clinic at his garage. Cancer survivor-thriver  The intervention of God in his life. Faith without work is dead. Dr. Alvin talks about his book; “Take up your bed and walk; this is my story.” Dr. Alvin talks about the moment when he got diagnosed with cancer. It's not what they say but how they say it that could make or break you. The significance of the human center approach in the medical world. [ 01:00:31 – 01:07:59] Closing Segment I share my take away from this interview How to connect with Dr. Alvin. See links below.  Final thoughts and words of advice Tweetable Quotes: “The kids that I have in front of me, they can learn a lot of it depends on what they feel that I feel about them.” – Dr. Alvin Haywood. ” If we take that approach in that mindset, it becomes pervasive and a lifetime learning process” – Dr. Alvin Haywood. “If you are treating your students like criminals, they will start acting like criminals.” – Dr. Alvin Haywood. Mentioned Links: https://www.amazon.com/Take-Up-Your-Bed-Walk/dp/1098073932 (Take Up Your Bed and Walk: This Is My Story! By Dr. Alvin Haywood) https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1645301648/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i1 (Students Loving Math: What's Reading Got to Do With It? By Dr. Alvin Haywood) https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07MF9F8W1/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i0 (Cultivating Early Reading Development: Reaping the Benefits of School Success! By Dr. Alvin Haywood) Connect with Dr. Alvin Haywood on https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-alvin-haywood-ed-d-59a4a386/ (LinkedIn),https://twitter.com/haywood_dr?lang=en ( )or visit hishttps://www.amazon.com/Dr-Alvin-Haywood-Ed-D/e/B07M9ZFV77 ( Amazon profile). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ (...

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I want to focus on the issues of the 1999 playbook in 2021 and the importance of trust and connection to students' compliance... I am trying to get educators to be enlightened and develop a new 2021 playbook because we can no longer use the playbook of 1999 to 2021. Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about the 2021 playbook and the importance of connection in creating trust. [00:01 - 01:13] Opening Segment I introduce the topic for this episode. Playbook of 2021: Connect before Correct Enlightened and develop a new 2021 playbook [01:14 - 08:56] The Playbook of 2021: Connect before Correct  Redesigning the way you teach your student today. Students are no longer listen to us and comply with us just because we are an adult.  The difference between parenting style in the old era and the modern era. Why is it so hard to for this new generation to listen and do certain requests? Cut the top patterns. Why students are no longer listens and comply with us. The aspects that play a big role in the compliance of the youth new generations, Handling the ‘why question” from a student's lens perspective. Does not matter what you frame it around, the kids are going to ask why Connect to correct To get students to comply, how many of us asking for the help of another adult who has a connection to that kid? The reason why students are no longer listens or comply is that they do not trust us. How to get students to comply and listens to us is to make sure they feel valued, seen, and heard; therefore we'd began the trust process through connection. Not just comply, but to connect. If you are interested in attending our Certified Specialist in Restorative PracticesTraining on June 22-24 in Austin, Texas, or participating in our July 13th and 14th virtual conference.  See links below. Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “Trust level of understanding that they are told to comply and listens to adult, but they also watching society unfold in a way that adults made mistake.” – Kevin Curtis. “How to get students to comply and listens to us is to make sure they feel valued, seen, and heard; therefore we'd began the trust process through connection..” – Kevin Curtis. Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Today I will be interviewing the human spark, Niki Spears. She is an author, motivational speaker, and former school principal who now works as an educator and change leader. In this episode, Niki will talk about creating a positive culture, the impact of a positive culture on your campus, and how that trickled down to your students.  Let's dig in and learn more about her inspiring life story, creating a sustainable positive culture, and her latest released book. [00:01 – 12:08] Opening Segment Let's welcome Niki Spears to the show.  The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. [12:09 – 22:39] Creating Sustainable Positive Culture  Niki gives a quick synopsis of who she is. Passion and mission for helping people. She makes her classroom a platform to bring people together as a family. Niki talks about the period when she left her job to help schools created a sustain positive culture,  As an educator, we are just giving the tools, but it is up to each individual to take the tools and apply them. We are responsible for our happiness. Personal culture to build team culture Real inspiring mission statement Be intentional with the positive interaction. [22:40 – 38:10] Listening to The Student Voice The advocate of bringing student voice into the conversation Leadership development school Teachers need to facilitate and partner with students to makesure they are gaining the information in the appropriate way. Niki talks about how she partners with school and what she brings to schools. Overcoming the obstacles of time.  Making the students know and understand the mission statement of our school. Turning the mindset around, we are not here just to serve the students but the family as well. Relational practices that build relationships. [38:11 – 48:30] The Positive Outlook to Create the Spark The significance of reactive title and content The positive interaction  Both kids and parents play a huge role in creating a positive experience for everybody. Teach our kids to focus and look for the positive things in life. Niki talks about the moment that made her started to look at the positive side. The power of positive reading. It all depends on how you choose to look at the moments and the experience you get in your life. Niki talks about all the things she has done during the pandemic. [48:31 – 57:36] The Beauty Underneath the Struggle Niki talks about the process of writing her book, titled “The Beauty Underneath the Struggle: Creating Your Bus Story.” All about looking for the opportunity that is hidden in each moment. The compilation of her life story on how she finds beauty in it. Niki talks about the outcome of this book. If you want a better life, you are the one who must create that for yourself and start that from the inside. Niki shares about what is up and coming in her life. Shut out to her new assistant, Rachel.  The celebration of principals on June 19. [57:3 7– 01:00:27] Closing Segment Shout out to our assistants and partners that complement us in life. How to connect with Niki See links below.  Final thoughts and words of advice Tweetable Quotes: “Culture does not make the moment you walk into the building, but it begins in our homes.” – Niki Spears. ”Sometimes we may miss the opportunity because we are so focused on the problem.” – Niki Spears. “A lot of times, we are making decisions for students when they need to be a part of the decision making.” – Niki Spears. Connect with Niki on https://www.instagram.com/nikispears4/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/NikiSpears4 (Twitter )and visit her website at http://www.nikispears.com (www.nikispears.com).  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our...

Today I will be interviewing Michael Pogue. Director of Special Services at White Settlement ISD. In this episode, we will be having a powerful conversation about the culture and the climate in White Settlement, how he got there, and how the superintendent is an impactful component in the district. We will also talk about how he shapes the teachers in education and how we believe education continues to be reshaped even after all these years. Let's dig in and learn more about the importance of making a connection education process and the sense of belonging amongst educators. [00:01 – 07:44] Opening Segment Let's welcome Michael Pogue to the show.  The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. [17:45 – 30:59]  Connect Before Content Michael talks about his current location and his current role in education. The common stereotype of the superintendent. Power and permission from leadership. Being yourself as an educator  Social-emotional learning. The importance of building relationships with your students  There is no magic in social-emotional learning; you just got to learn how to connect with the kids. If you can not connect, you can not help the kids. If you can build a good relationship with the kids, the learning will take care of itself. [31:00 – 48:04] Strategy to make a connection with the students Michael shares his strategy to make a connection with his students Knowing what drives your students The struggle of some adult educators to make a genuine connection with their students Focus on the process, not only the outcome Michael talks about how relationships play a more pivotal role in special needs students than just the average student. The inclusive lifestyle Reading and relationships The arcade mindset of teacher in labeling their students The flaw in the education system in applying the same test standard. [48:05 – 01:06:30] The Sense of Belonging as Educators  Michael shares some insights for those who want to get an education career. The guiding philosophy  The education system and personal values  The financial side of being educators Being a happy educator. The culture and sense of belonging. Michael talks about how his superintendent creates a positive culture for the educator. The appreciation for educator [01:06:31 – 01:11:23] Closing Segment I talk about my takeaway from today's discussion. Michael shares some of his final thought about today's discussion.  Final thoughts and words of advice   Tweetable Quotes: “It's my job to let them be successful because when the team is successful, it is the best part.” – Michael Pogue. ”There is no magic in social-emotional learning; you just got to learn how to connect with the kids.” – Michael Pogue. “Focus on the process, not only the outcome.” – Michael Pogue. Email Michael at mpogue@wsisd.net or connect with him on https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-pogue-0a415b50/ (LinkedIn). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

This episode is a special one, as I will be interviewing my daughter Krystal. She is not an educator; she is a college graduate with a communication degree. But what I wanted to bring to light today is how my daughter has built an online community in The Twitch Platform and how she takes a relational approach to build a community in the virtual space. Let's dig in and learn more about Krystal's relational approach so we can bring it to our classroom, whether it's online or offline. [00:01 – 07:14] Opening Segment Let's welcome Krystal to the show.  Why I asked Krystal to be on the show. Krystal talks about how she started live streaming and build her community on Twitch. Krystal gives a brief description of what the Twitch Platform is. Turning followers into a community. [07:15 – 18:04] Building Community in The Virtual Space  Turning Followers into Discord Community  Making people feel important and creating a safe place for people to share When you make people feel important, seen, valued, and heard, you will keep them coming back. Treat people like you want to be treated. Making people feel welcome The disconnection in the virtual space. [18:05 – 27:44] The Challenges of building Engagement in Virtual Setting  Social things to be considered in the virtual setting vs. in person The extra effort in building relationships in a virtual space The challenges of building engagement in virtual settings. [27:45 – 42:50] Creating An Impact through Live Streaming Making an impact through virtual community settings Krystal shares some of the testimonies she received from her followers about the impact she has been making through her platform. The average length of period that streamers spent on the platform. The entertainment piece in the streaming world Krystal talks about the support she received from her community on the Twitch Platform. The mutual support between streamers and followers in the platform. The reciprocation from her followers. [42:51 – 59:19] Community builds Community  Krystal shares her thoughts on the inclusivity and welcoming nature of her virtual community. The resistance of some people to engage in the virtual community (Lurking). Helps people that are struggling with mental health. Relationship-centered streaming. Putting relational approach into the streaming community. Krystal talks about the gifts that her followers sent to her on her birthday. The impact of allowing her community and audience into her personal life through the webcam. [59:20 – 01:12:29] Closing Segment Krystal shares some of her final thought and takeaways about today's discussion.  Final thoughts and words of advice   Tweetable Quotes: “It is my want and needs for every each one of you guys to feel seen, valued, and heard.” – Krystal “In building a community, you have to be communicative, willing to share about your life, and listen to what they want to say about it.” – Krystal. “There is a little extra effort that you have to take to build relationships in the virtual space.” – Krystal To know more and connect with Krystal via https://www.twitch.tv/kirakirakrystal (Twitch), https://www.instagram.com/kirakira.krystal/ (Instagram, )and https://twitter.com/kirakirakrystal (Twitter). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to Mindset Monday with you, me, and the mic. We are so excited that our Certified Specialist in Restorative PracticesTraining on June 22-24 in Austin, Texas, is finally top out at 84 people. Visit our website at http://www.rclfirst.com (www.rclfirst.com) to learn more. In this episode, I want to talk about a quick message on feeding off of each other. There are three things that would possibly happen in life: to either figure it out, stand out, or get out.  Let's jump into this episode and dig in more about life. [00:01 - 05:00] Opening Segment I introduce the topic for this episode. Navigating to life as educators.  Figuring out who you are Developing and discovering your skillset How are you wired, and what makes you ticked  What are the things that excite and challenge you? A deeper understanding of ourselves  Figuring it out sometimes takes us to think outside the box The adjustment that it takes during the pandemic for us to figure out life.   [05:01 - 09:49] Figure it Out, Stand Out or Get Out Knowing what you are standing for? Are you standing out for something negative or positive? We are internally wired to strive to stand out above others. What are you standing at? Look for the sign in your personal relationships. We need to work together and stand out together.  Get out! Getting out could be a personal choice that you make, or you could be pushed out. As great leaders, we do not force people to follow, but we invite them on a journey. Final words. Tweetable Quotes: “When life comes at us at any aspect, I think the first thing we got to do is to figure it out..” – Kevin Curtis “As great leaders, we do not force people to follow, but we invite them on a journey.” – Kevin Curtis. Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Josh is an incredible young man with such a mature point of view and perspective in life. From a very young age, he realizes that life is all about the process of becoming, not only to get the end result. In this episode, we will discuss the self-drive to become a better communicator, exchange trust, and the importance of trusting the process in life.   [00:01 – 21:29] Opening Segment Let's welcome Denise and Josh to the show.  Let's get to know Josh Bowers. The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions. [21:30 – 37:50] The Self-drive to become a better communicator Josh shares about his journey coming back to Texas. Getting out of the comfort zone and work on the communication skills. The inner self-drive to work on his communication and relationship skills. The anxiety in communication. The importance of simplicity and not thinking too far ahead. Being an intentional listener  [37:51 – 53:00] The Importance of Trusting The Process Josh talks about his motivation in trading and business. Focus yourself on the process and not on the end result The importance of focusing on the process Learning from a personal experience. Trusting a slow process. Consistency to open and build up a conversation with anyone. Being genuinely interested in the conversation and hit the right button. The humility to be the student of the student. [53:01 – 01:04:30] Exchange of Trust  The dynamic role of College as the vehicle to success. The challenges of our education system in preparing students for careers. How to connect and build relationships to motivate struggling students as an educator. The simplicity of the exchange of trust between educators and students. [01:04:31 – 01:08:08] Closing Segment Josh shares some of his final thought about today's discussion.  Final thoughts and words of advice   Tweetable Quotes: “Focus yourself on the process and not on the end result.” – Josh Bowers ”Show up every day and focus on the things that you can control.” – Josh Bowers “It's all about the exchange trust with your students.” – Josh Bowers Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Mark has been an educator for 25 years. Mark's true passion is helping others the best in themselves. In order for this to happen, he started a mentoring program that focuses on improving students' reading abilities based on positive relationships with adults and the community.   [00:01 – 16:12] Opening Segment Let's get to know Mark Neese The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions [16:13 – 25:26] Relationships are the Most Vital Piece of Education Mark talks about the work that he does as a counselor to help change the lives of students Working on students emotional and social skills Teaching elementary is exhausting! A teacher's true calling Mark talks about the most important part of a teacher's job. [25:27 – 49:26] Introducing Hope to Students Mark talks about his strategies when facing elementary students He discusses the differences between working with elementary and high school students We share stories of our struggles with working with elementary students Putting relationships first over content  [49:27 – 57:54] Accountability The battle between who's going to control the setting of standards Re-evaluating the model of education [57:55 – 01:03:46] Influence What influences you? Mark talks about what influences him to do the things he does. [01:03:47 – 01:11:59] Closing Segment Things that you should be taking away with you from this episode Final thoughts and words of advice Connect with Mark. Links below.   Tweetable Quotes: “I just want to encourage parents to take charge of their kids' learning.” – Mark Neese “Educators love your kids.” – Mark Neese You can connect with Mark on https://www.facebook.com/mark.neese.7 (Facebook) or https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-neese-0428101a/ (LinkedIn). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Teach like a rockstar with the tips that Hal Bowman will share with us today. Hal revolutionizes campuses and classroom cultures with his unique blend of teaching and coaching. He also shares relevant resources that enable teachers and school administrators to create an enjoyable learning environment for kids, which includes how to become more open and authentic in a classroom setting.   Let's listen to Hal and teach like a rockstar!  [00:01 – 16:49] Opening Segment Let's get to know Hal Bowman  We take turns asking five GTKY questions Join our online community! Links below [16:50 – 32:01] Teach Like A Rockstar  Hal talks about this life-changing conversation with his mother The connection between teaching and coaching How to teach like a rockstar?  [32:02 – 47:57] What the Kids Want from Teachers  Why it's okay for teachers to be “weird” Hal tells us why  Widen your perspective in teaching with these thoughts from Hal Compassion > Intelligence  Listen to Hal [47:58 – 01:03:26] The Things That Matter  Don't overlook what the kids really want Here's how  Authenticity and openness mean a lot to the kids How to build relationships with kids in a classroom setting  [01:03:27 – 01:16:45] Dear Teacher... JOIN our virtual conference this year! Link below Write a bestselling book with this advice from Hal The feeling of touching your own book [01:16:46 – 01:18:22] Closing Segment Connect with Hal. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “I think sometimes we overlook the stuff that matters to kids, the little stuff, because we're numb to it.” –  Hal Bowman “All you have to do is just talk to kids and watch kids thrive in classes with those teachers that are open and authentic...” –  Hal Bowman Resources mentioned: Hal's book: https://amzn.to/3sYzbi5 (Dear Teacher) Email Hal at hal@halbowman.com or connect with him on https://bit.ly/3s1nshk (Facebook), https://bit.ly/3sXqfcL (Twitter), https://bit.ly/3dJRPUf (Pinterest), https://bit.ly/3dGs47w (YouTube), and https://bit.ly/3t1RlQ6 (Instagram).  JOIN the “Men in Education” group on https://www.fb.com/groups/themenined (Facebook). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to another Mindset Monday. In this episode, I will break down the concept of “power in permission.” This is one way to empower both teachers and students, which school administrators should consider for their campuses. In applying this concept, there are a couple of reminders that administrators should not forget, one of which is allowing students and teachers to know them too. Listen to this episode and learn what is power in permission!  [00:01 - 01:30] Opening Segment   I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode What school administrators should always remember [01:31 - 06:49] The Power in Permission  Learn the “power in permission” Set expectations clearly to the students Don't let misunderstandings to arise  [06:50 - 11:50] Participation Over Evaluation  The hat that school administrators can't take off Connection before content is hard to do How to achieve this? Participation over evaluation  [11:51 - 14:10] Closing Segment  Join our 3-day Certified Specialist in Restorative Practices (CSRP) Training!  Details below  Connect with us. Links below Final words Tweetable Quotes:  “We have to provide power in permission so that our teachers clearly understand what the expectation is when they go back to the classrooms.” – Kevin Curtis “Put down your laptop. Put down your clipboard. Sit down. Stand up. Whatever they're doing, participate. Let the students get to know you.” – Kevin Curtis Resources mentioned: https://www.fb.com/EdWhiteNEISD/ (Ed White Middle School - NEISD) Upcoming Events:  REGISTER TO OUR 3-DAY CSRP Training on 22-24 June 2021. This training is for the campus leaders and educators who support their staff in building relationships with their students. https://nedrp.regfox.com/summer-2021-csrp (Start here). JOIN OUR 2021 VIRTUAL CONFERENCE on 13-14 July 2021. Head over to our https://www.rclfirst.com/ (website) for more details about the conference and to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week! Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) and join our mission to grow the Relationship-centered Learning approach. #RCLBeforeSEL  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

It only takes one minute to impact your teachers, students, and community for a better relationship.  In today's episode, I welcome Mark Medley to delve into the relationships between teachers and students. Mark is an educator, musician, and historical practitioner that helps build, sustain, and heal communities. Mark will also share how he coordinates the Multi-Tiered System of Supports (MTSS) Umbrella in continually improving his quality of education. His song “One Minute” Perfectly showcases these and you get to enjoy the song at the end of the episode! Let's listen to Mark and learn how we can strengthen our relationships even in today's digital realm! [00:01 - 18:28] Opening Segment Let's get to know Mark Medley We take turns asking five GTKY questions The accessories that come with a Mark Medley action figure Join our online community! Links below [18:29 - 37:16] Embracing New Techniques for Teaching in the Pandemic The MTSS umbrella Trauma, social-emotional learning, RTI, and restored practices Virtual social-emotional learning in the pandemic How these simple questions strengthen the relationship between student and teacher Focusing on the proactive response strategies  [37:17 - 51:20] Being Comfortable with Ordinary Mark talks about how teachers are being hard on themselves to be extraordinary The importance of genuine ordinary connections The ability of teachers to build relationships vs. students' abilities Being a model to other teachers Responding to challenging behaviors [51:21 - 1:07:24] To All the Teachers and Students Mark's biggest challenges in a school district The panorama Education Surveying students and teachers on relationships and perceptions Mark's thought process behind his song, “One Minute” [1:07:25 - 01:16:49] Closing Segment Let's listen to the song “One Minute” See links below Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “Relationships are something that people take for granted that everyone just has these skills to build relationships. There's a lot to it.” - Mark Medley “Does your ability to build relationships with your students transfer by osmosis? Is your skill their skill? Because you're connecting with them, but are they connecting with each other? And are the teachers in your campus learning what you do to build those relationships with your students?” - Mark Medley “Have no doubt that you are making an impact and this work is creating a ripple effect that is just gonna keep going and going and reverberating and echoing just you and your whole team on it.” Mark Medley Listen to Mark's music on https://music.apple.com/us/artist/mark-medley/602725773 (Itunes), https://open.spotify.com/artist/6NjZ2pNA0WIL3BKPNI0skO (Spotify), or you can download his music at  http://markmedley.bandcamp.com (markmedley.bandcamp.com). Also, check out “One Minute” music video on https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qa_LwUu6E8 (YouTube)! Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Today, we invited Kate Barker, Principal at the David Douglas School District in Portland, Oregon. Kate discussed the book, “Principaled: Navigating the Leadership Learning Curve,” which she had written alongside her colleagues, Kourtney Ferrua and Rachael George. She broke down a chapter of the book on how to lead with love, together with other topics related to restorative justice in education.  Let's listen to Kate and learn how to lead with love!  [00:01 – 13:28] Opening Segment Let's get to know Kate Barker We take turns asking five GTKY questions What are the 5 Apology Languages?  Join our online community! Links below [13:29 – 26:29] From Abstract Ideas Into A Practical Book Turn your ideas into a book Listen to Kate  Even if you're not a principal, Kate's book is applicable to you Kate explains Kate realized this inspiring idea from her book you shouldn't miss! [26:30 – 41:27] Leading With Love Kate tells us how to lead with love Understand love better  Here's Kate's insights about understanding your “Why” What we should realize about a child's behavior  [41:28 – 52:32] Similarities Between Kids and Adults  Listen to Kate's approach in implementing disciplinary actions  Everyone can talk about their F.O.R.D. What do these letters mean?  The similarities between kids and adults according to Kate  [52:33 – 01:06:20] Your Authentic Self Listen to our interesting exchange about building “rocket relationships” Do you want to be like Kate? Don't Be your authentic self  What sets apart their approach in education?  [01:06:21 – 01:14:18] Closing Segment A big part of societal issues relates to this Related to social connections  Connect with Kate. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “I think every educator can teach another educator something.” –  Kate Barker “Every child's behavior has meaning behind it.” –  Kate Barker Resources mentioned: Kate's book: https://amzn.to/3szbKLX (Principaled: Navigating the Leadership Learning Curve) https://www.linkedin.com/in/joe-beckman (Joe Beckman) https://brenebrown.com/ (Brené Brown) Email Kate at principalkatebarker@gmail.com or connect with her on https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-barker-67277721/ (LinkedIn) and https://twitter.com/Kate_S_Barker (Twitter).  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

A peer-led restorative model has done wonders for Erin Igoe as a school administrator. That model is the main theme of our discussion with her, which also includes their zero recidivism rate and student empowerment. The model was called the peer court system, which became successful because it's directly related to restorative practices and relationship-centered learning.  Let's listen to Erin and learn more about the peer court system!  [00:01 – 13:29] Opening Segment Let's get to know Erin Igoe We take turns asking five GTKY questions Join our online community! Links below [13:30 – 22:56] Zero Recidivism Rate Don't miss these stories from Erin about restorative practices How Erin helped her school achieve Zero Recidivism Rate What Erin realized as a teacher  [22:57 – 36:34] Peer Court System The success of the Peer Court System Listen to our interesting exchange  How to create a safe space inside the classroom Listen to Erin  Erin breaks down her approach in educating parents too [36:35 – 47:29]  Student Empowerment  Is student empowerment possible? Listen to Erin  These outcomes emerge when students own their work  What Erin observes about the current generation of students  [47:30 – 57:08] Closing Segment What we can take away from the COVID-19 pandemic  Connect with Erin. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “[The children] being in charge of their own lives and taking leadership and knowing that the adults were there for them is what really drives me.” –  Erin Igoe “Even though we're disconnected, I feel sometimes we are on the same page more than ever.” –  Erin Igoe Email Erin at erinjigoe@gmail.com or connect with her on https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-igoe-77b97877/ (LinkedIn).  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Welcome back to another Mindset Monday. In the previous episode, Denise “Circle Mamma” Holliday and I talked about the stories that left us with the most impact. One such story is about 2 female students who figured in a fight one Monday morning in school.  What moved me so much about this story was how the parents of those students resolved the conflict. I will never forget the monologue of one of the parents, which focused on being a strong black woman in a community setting.  Listen to this episode and know what it's like to be a strong black woman!  [00:01 - 01:51] Opening Segment   I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode Join our virtual conference this 13-14 July 2021! Link below [01:52 - 11:01] Demanding Justice   A memorable Monday morning in school “What does justice look like?” Preparation over facilitation  [11:02 - 19:05] Being A Strong Black Woman  The traits of a strong black woman  Identifying the root cause of the problem  The resolution for the problem that surprised me [19:06 - 19:40] Closing Segment  Connect with us. Links below Final words Tweetable Quotes:  “I'm watching this conversation just surround me about where these parents are willing to take these kids.” – Kevin Curtis “...to understand what it's like and what it's needed to be a strong black woman in a community that was not always supportive was something amazing to participate in.” – Kevin Curtis Resources mentioned: https://www.fb.com/EdWhiteNEISD/ (Ed White Middle School - NEISD) JOIN OUR 2021 VIRTUAL CONFERENCE on 13-14 July 2021. Head over to our https://www.rclfirst.com/ (website) for more details about the conference and to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) and join our mission to grow the Relationship-centered Learning approach. #RCLBeforeSEL  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

We've made it! At first, I never imagined us getting past 10 podcast episodes, let alone 50! But here we are. In this special episode, I am joined by Denise “Circle Mamma” Holliday to reminisce the past 50 episodes of the Relationship Centered Learning Podcast, share what's next for the National Educators for Restorative Practices, and talk about her personal insights about being a genuine person and building connections with students and her fellow educators. Denise has made significant contributions to us, restorative practitioners, and drops a ton of valuable inputs as we move forward in our pursuit for restorative practices in schools, as well as relationship-centered learning. She credits her mother for who she is, who once told her, “There's absolutely nothing you cannot attain if you don't want it.” [00:01 – 07:52] Opening Segment Let's get to know Denise Holliday We take turns asking five GTKY questions Learn more GTKY questions! Link below [07:53 – 22:56] What's Next for the NEDRP?  Join the virtual Educator Circle calls!  Link below Denise tells us why We break down the Certified Specialist in Restorative Practices training  What's next for the National Educators for Restorative Practices?  [22:57 – 37:02] Ordinary vs. Extraordinary Listen to our memorable moments from our first 50 episodes Taking out the trash Ordinary vs. extraordinary Building communities Don't miss this story about the guy with the cowboy hat  [37:03 – 52:26] Facing Her Fears  Denise talks about her fear of co-writing a book How she realized she “made it” She recalls how we became connected [55:27 – 01:10:04] Redefining Empathy  What you should understand about Denise What listening is all about How is it related with Empathy? A healthy communication looks like this Here are a few tips to build connections in the homes  [01:10:05 – 01:12:39] Closing Segment Connect with Denise. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “I think I was trying to be extraordinary when really it's that ordinary in me that is genuine, that people can really connect more with.” –  Denise Holliday “I want everyone to know that they're awesome.” –  Denise Holliday Resource mentioned: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-whalen-49a49767/ (John Whalen)  https://apple.co/38LKLVC (Joe Beckman | Reclaiming Human Connectio‪n‬)  https://apple.co/2QfEE5F (047: Gloria Nzoya | Healthy Sexual Habits The Youth Should Kno‪w‬) https://apple.co/3bVirCk (Maureen Palaoro | Building Community in the Classroo‪m‬) Book: https://amzn.to/3twYfN8 (Classroom Circles) Email Denise at circlemamma@nedrp.com or connect with her on https://www.fb.com/denise.holliday.581 (Facebook). Check out the https://nedrp.com/ (National Educators for Restorative Practices) and learn how we help teachers build relationships, one educator at a time.  JOIN our virtual conference on 13-14 July 2021 and February 2022. More details to follow.  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Dave Stuart, Jr. is a husband and father who refuses to sacrifice family for professional success. He is the bestselling author of “These 6 Things: How to Focus Your Teaching on What Matters Most,” wherein he lays out the steps for teachers to achieve long-term flourishing in school. Dave is also a keynote speaker, popular writer, and award-winning educator. In this episode, we talk about how teachers can be lovingly competent. We also discuss what's behind his moments of genuine connection with students, how he builds intentional practices in his classrooms, and how he teaches moments of genuine connection and relationships with students and fellow educators.  Let's listen to Dave and know how to be lovingly competent teachers!  [00:01 – 12:51] Opening Segment Let's get to know Dave Stuart, Jr. We take turns asking five GTKY questions [12:52 – 27:27] Classroom Management 101 Learn more GTKY questions! Link below Don't miss this Classroom Management 101 from Dave!  Dave's impartial observation about burning out  [27:28 – 43:21] Lovingly Competent Teachers What does it take to be “lovingly competent?” Listen to Dave  Dave's major struggle as a teacher right now  The reason behind “connections before content” [43:22 – 01:00:20] Relationship Measurements  How Dave measures relationships in the classroom  The heart of restorative practices according to Dave Relationship-Centered Learning Before Social-Emotional Learning  Listen to our thoughts  [01:00:21 – 01:07:39] Closing Segment Connect with Dave. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “Really good things tend to start in a niche, but then develop out of it.” –  Dave Stuart Jr.  “You don't need a hundred people to teach you any topic in teaching.” –  Dave Stuart Jr.  Resource mentioned: Cult of Pedagogy Podcast: https://bit.ly/38rkFHa (Creating Moments of Genuine Connection Online) Email Dave at support@davestuartjr.com or connect with him on https://www.fb.com/davestuartjr (Facebook), https://twitter.com/davestuartjr (Twitter), and https://bit.ly/3cjDM7j (YouTube). Check out his https://davestuartjr.com/ (website) to learn more about his work! Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Dr. Rachel George is the proud principal of Sandy Grade School in Sandy Oregon. She is also a speaker, adjunct professor, education advocate, and co-author of “PrincipalED: Navigating the Leadership Learning Curve.” Rachel joins us in this episode to talk about building vibrant school cultures that yield positive student outcomes. Rachel reminds us that culture and outcomes shouldn't clash with each other and that there are many actionable steps that educators can take to build better relationships with students. She also offers her thoughts about allowing students to fail. What do you think are her thoughts?  Let's listen to Rachel and know why students should be permitted to fail!   [00:01 – 07:09] Opening Segment Let's get to know Rachel George We take turns asking five GTKY questions [07:10 – 19:14] School Culture and Student Outcomes  Learn more GTKY questions! Link below Achieving vibrant school cultures and awesome student outcomes They don't oppose each other  Rachel's advice to build relationships with students better  [19:15 – 31:53] Teacher-Student Relationships  Rachel's secrets on she succeeded in middle school as an administrator  Which is more important, social-emotional or academics? Listen to Rachel's answers  Here's Rachel's advice for teachers you don't want to miss [31:54 – 44:09] Permission to Fail Integrating a solid structure and freedom to choose for students  Rachel's thoughts here Building relationships with just a question and a timer  Give people permission to fail Rachel tells us why [44:10 – 47:07] Closing Segment How to reimagine education according to Rachel  Connect with Rachel. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “Own who you are and just do you.” –  Dr. Rachel George “If we're gonna reimagine education and come out stronger, we need to learn from others...” –  Dr. Rachel George Resource mentioned: https://andyjacks.com/ (Andy Jacks) Rachel's book: https://amzn.to/3v4oGLF (PrincipalED)  Email Rachel at rachael.george00@gmail.com or check out her https://www.drrachaelgeorge.com/ (website) to learn more about her work. Also connect with her on https://bit.ly/2OyxaJS (Twitter) and https://bit.ly/30lE2gE (Instagram).  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Denise and I talk with Gloria Nzoya, a 19-year old sexual health educator for her fellow students. This may sound like a taboo topic for some, but it needs to be discussed. Gloria will enlighten us in this episode on why both students and adults should talk about sexual health to build better relationships and provide proper information for the youth.  Let's listen to Gloria and know healthy sexual habits for the youth!   [00:01 – 10:03] Opening Segment Let's get to know Gloria We take turns asking five GTKY questions [10:02 – 25:56] No Shame in Sex Talks Learn more GTKY questions! Link below There's no shame in talking about sex Listen to our exchange The strangest and oddest sex question asked to Gloria  [25:57 – 39:50] Who Is Our Biggest Critic?  Don't ignore the red flags Gaslighting Manipulation  Listen to Gloria on why she's grateful for 2020 Love yourself more with these tips from Gloria [39:51 – 53:22] Sex Talks as Normal Talks How to normalize sex talks  Listen to Gloria  She talks about her experience moving to the US Choosing grace over sudden emotions Gloria tells us how [53:23 – 01:03:40] Closing Segment What's Gloria's end goal in her current work?  Connect with Gloria. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “Don't ignore the red flags.” –  Gloria Nzoya “Before you enter into a relationship, always know your worth and love yourself.” –  Gloria Nzoya Resource mentioned: Book: https://amzn.to/3cc6SFR (I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings) https://brenebrown.com/ (Brené Brown) https://tim.blog/ (Tim Ferriss) Book: https://amzn.to/3sLe7ep (The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck) Email Gloria at glorianzoya5@gmail.com or connect with her on https://www.facebook.com/gloria.nzoya.7 (Facebook), https://bit.ly/3sLQ92I (Instagram), and https://bit.ly/3e4hc5h (Tiktok).  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

We picked up where we left off with Dr. Basil Marin, a disruptor of the status quo in the educational space. In the second part of our conversation, we discuss adjusting to the needs of students, resonating with them better, and knowing basically what makes them tick. All these things are needed to disrupt the space, to recognize that every student is unique and that educators can't just put all of them inside a square-shaped hole.  Let's continue our talk with Basil on doing education the right way!  [00:01 – 10:41] Opening Segment We continue our conversation with Dr. Basil Marin What teachers should understand about relationships  We talk about restorative practices  [10:42 – 22:29] Adjusting to the Needs of Students  Let's break down Relationship-Centered Learning (RCL) What sets RCL apart from Social-Emotional Learning How to adjust to the students' needs today [22:30 – 38:45] Resonating With Students Better How to speak to the “tiger in the mirror” Basil explains Basil tells us how to resonate with students better Care over discipline in a school setting Listen to our exchange [38:46 – 53:54] Knowing What Makes Students Tick  Tough love vs. cupcakes and sprinkles  Basil weighs in  Learn this system that Basil implements to his students  Basil drops a book recommendation you shouldn't miss! Link below [53:55 – 57:41] Closing Segment Connect with Basil. Links below  Final words   Tweetable Quotes: “The way [students] know you care is because you're tough on them. Some kids don't need the cupcakes and sprinkles.” –  Dr. Basil Marin “If you have [a] relationship with kids, you'll know certain kids that want to be recognized publicly and there are certain kids that want to be recognized in private.” –  Dr. Basil Marin Resource mentioned: https://www.mylifetime.com/ (Lifetime) Book: https://amzn.to/3bLUvjp (It's Me) Email Basil at anastacio.marin234@yahoo.com or check out his http://www.basilmarin.com/ (website) and https://twitter.com/Basil_Marin/ (Twitter) profile. WATCH OUT for his new consulting company! Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.  Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Dr. Basil Marin is a leader in the educational sector, but first and foremost, he is a disruptor of the status quo. Basil joins me in this 2-part episode to talk about the importance of mentors and a supportive environment to the learning process of students. He will then break down the current educational system and offer his insights on how we can rethink how we teach our students to better set them up for success. Let's all listen to Basil's thoughts about doing education the right way!  [00:01 – 12:48] Opening Segment I welcome our guest, Dr. Basil Marin  We take turns asking five GTKY questions [12:49 – 25:31] Disruptor of Status Quo Learn more GTKY questions! Link below Why Basil sees himself a “disruptor of the status quo” What's lacking in education right now?  The factors that shaped his behavior in his early years Basil talks about the positive influence of his mentor [25:32 – 35:33] A Mentor's Impact on Students  He recalls his path to special education Basil tells us that we are enough  Your impact matters He talks about the importance of professionalism  [35:34 – 48:43] Education The Right Way  Why education should not put in a box Listen to our exchange Should we rethink how we see education?  Listen to Basil The single most important thing we need to do education the right way  [48:44 – 49:04] Closing Segment Connect with Basil. Links below  Watch out for Part 2 of my conversation with Basil!    Tweetable Quotes: “We have opportunities to rebuild...but you have to have the right tools to rebuild the curricula.” –  Dr. Basil Marin “If education was being done right, I wouldn't be a unicorn to education.” –  Dr. Basil Marin Resource mentioned: Book: https://amzn.to/3pScAkO (Even on Your Worst Day, You Can Be a Student's Best Hope) Previous episode: https://apple.co/2NSpMsP (Solo | Testimony of Impact‬)  Email anastacio.marin234@yahoo.com to connect with Basil or check out his http://www.basilmarin.com/ (website). Follow him on https://twitter.com/Basil_Marin/ (Twitter). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Today, Denise and I talked with Sofia Sandrea, a 20-year old college student who struggled to gauge her self-worth from her social circles until she reconnected with her early relationships in life. She learned from these reconnections to accept herself for who she is: a strong young woman who knows her true self-worth and an empowered individual free from the limiting beliefs introduced to her by the world.  Let's all listen to Sofia to learn how to evaluate your self-worth better!  [00:01 – 13:12] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, Sofia Sandrea We take turns asking five GTKY questions [13:13 – 23:40] The Teachers Who Stood Out The Most  Learn more GTKY questions! Link below Sofia shares her inspiring insights about bravery  Listen to the teacher traits that stand out the most for Sofia [23:41 – 33:23] Structured Learning Environment  The kind of learning environment where Sofia has thrived  You might thrive in this environment too! What does it mean to be an only child? Hear our exchange   How to set the bar you want to break [33:24 – 43:39] Vulnerability as a Sign of Courage and Strength  Who is Sofia's biggest influence in her life?  What are the traits of this person? She shares this life-changing moment you should hear  Listen to Sofia's reminder for her fellow students  [43:40 – 51:01] Closing Segment Connect with Sofia. Links below  Final thoughts from Sofia and me   Tweetable Quotes: “People are empathetic. People are gonna think the way you think of yourself.” –  Sofia Sandrea “Don't take your friends for granted.” –  Sofia Sandrea Resource mentioned: https://brenebrown.com/ (Brené Brown) Email sofia.sandrea@me.com to connect with Sofia.  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.    Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Our awesome guest for today is Taylor Armstrong, currently Assistant Director of Technology at Vestavia Hills City School District. This is only a part of his impressive career in the educational space, which includes positions at the secondary and higher educational levels. Today, he will share his insights about leadership and relationships, as well as give advice to help administrators lead their schools better.  Let's all listen to Taylor's open letter for school administrators!  [00:01 – 14:16] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, Allyson Apsey We take turns asking five GTKY questions What's missing most in this world for Taylor? [14:17 – 24:50] Social and Emotional Learning  Learn more GTKY questions! Link below Why Taylor loves the education space  Learn from Taylor's main takeaways from his career! [24:51 – 35:25] Shut Up and Listen  Don't miss Taylor's approach as a school administrator  How can you learn better from others? What to say when don't know the answer to a question Taylor's response here You should not have this kind of leadership  [35:26 – 49:04] Best Time To Be Ordinary  Taylor gives his insights about the role of technology in education The best tool a teacher can use The pandemic is the best time to be ordinary Hear our exchange He walks us through this life-changing journey  [49:05 – 54:23] Closing Segment Connect with Taylor. Links below  Final thoughts from Taylor and me   Tweetable Quotes: “Don't limit yourself and don't think that you have to be all this craziness. You just have to be yourself.” – Taylor Armstrong “If you don't have leadership that will not let you make mistakes, you're working for the wrong leadership.” – Taylor Armstrong  Resources Mentioned: https://bit.ly/3pkCfT7 (Joe Beckman)   Email armstrongt@vestavia.k12.al.us to connect with Taylor or follow him on https://bit.ly/3jR2fnM (LinkedIn) and https://bit.ly/37kXhe9 (Twitter). Check out https://www.vestavia.k12.al.us/ (Vestavia Hills City Schools District) and learn more on how they build their students up!    Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.    Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Our awesome guest for today is Allyson Apsey. Allyson was a school leader for 15 years, which is only a part of her decades-worth of experience in the education space spanning over 20 years now. Today, she will talk about the cornerstone of relationships in the campus context, her philosophy as a school administrator, and a program that changed their view on discipline. Allyson will also give us a sneak peek into her books and tell us her inspiring thoughts about this 11-letter word.  Let's listen to Allyson and learn how to take care of teachers and have fun with students!  [00:01 – 12:17] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, Allyson Apsey We take turns asking five GTKY questions [12:18 – 22:11] The Cornerstone of Relationships Learn more GTKY questions! Link below What's Allyson doing right now? Build adult connections in the campus  Listen to Allyson's tips  [22:12 – 39:18] Take Care of Teachers, Have Fun with Students Allyson's philosophy as a school principal  Why Allyson wants to take care of teachers first  How schools can deal with the COVID-19 pandemic  [39:19 – 50:43] Benefits of Restorative Recess   Allyson talks about the benefits of restorative recess  We share our observations about students and parents today  What are the “4 F's” you should know?  [50:44 – 01:04:10] Looking For Happy Accidents and Beautiful Lessons We talk about the power of experience in the learning process  Listen to Allyson's passion that you'd want to follow too! What is serendipity for Allyson and why is it her favorite word?  Allyson breaks down what her books are all about  [01:04:11 – 01:06:46] Closing Segment Connect with Allyson. Links below  Final thoughts   Tweetable Quotes: “Trust is the cornerstone of relationships.” – Allyson Apsey “If we look for happy accidents and beautiful lessons, we're gonna live richer, more fulfilled, wiser lives.” – Allyson Apsey   Resources Mentioned: https://bit.ly/3jLrnwf (Tap-In / Tap-Out: Giving Teachers Time to Recharge) Book: https://amzn.to/2NbH1ot (Don′t Suspend Me!) Allyson's books: https://amzn.to/372HIrj (The Path to Serendipity) https://amzn.to/2Nf0ZyP (Through the Lens of Serendipity) https://amzn.to/3aW2cD3 (The Serendipity Journal) https://amzn.to/3jEbhEE (The Princes of Serendip) https://amzn.to/3aZ0rW1 (My Serendipity Journal)   Connect with Allyson on her https://allysonapsey.com/ (website) and social media pages: https://www.fb.com/allyson.apsey (Facebook), https://twitter.com/AllysonApsey (Twitter), https://www.instagram.com/allysonapsey/ (Instagram), and https://bit.ly/3rGEDVz (YouTube). Listen to her https://apple.co/3tQpNxC (podcast).    Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.    Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

#RCLBeforeSEL. Welcome to our first Mindset Monday in 2021. Join me as I lay out all the exciting things we're going to do as we grow the Relationship-centered Learning (RCL) approach in the education space.  As we slowly come out of this pandemic, we should consider the strategies that we implement in school to enable our students to learn better. Instead of simply re-opening the doors of education, we should re-imagine. Let's all re-imagine an educational system wherein relationships with one another are at the center of learning. What does it look like for you?  Listen to this episode and look forward to a new way of learning this 2021!  [00:01 - 08:19] Relationships at the Center of Learning  I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode Relationships at the center of learning  Our important realization this pandemic  Schools should not re-open, but re-imagine Hear my explanation Join our Facebook group and let's grow the RCL approach!  Link below RCL before Social-Emotional Learning What's in store for our community this 2021?   [08:20 - 09:17] The Quality of a Phenomenal Teacher Connect with us. Links below Final words Tweetable Quotes:  “What we wanna be able to do is as schools are growing, we wanna grow with them particularly post-pandemic.” – Kevin Curtis “Ultimately, relationships are more valuable than ever.” – Kevin Curtis “It's okay to not be okay in education. Just remember that we're here for you.” – Kevin Curtis Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) and join our mission to grow the Relationship-centered Learning approach. #RCLBeforeSEL    Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Today, Denise and I interviewed Avi Palaoro from Oregon City High School. Avi is an active member of her school's student council, as well as other groups in her community. She focuses on building platforms for people to enable them to voice out their ideas and experiences. She will share her story to show us that making a difference in the world does not have an age requirement. Connecting with people and making them open up to you to understand them better also does not require a degree. Sometimes, all it takes are three words.  Let's listen to Avi and learn the words that can help us understand other people better!  [00:01 – 01:59] Opening Segment Denise and I introduce and welcome our guest, Avi Palaoro Join our Facebook group! Link below [02:00 – 20:03] The Flip-5 Segment We take turns asking five GTKY questions Learn more GTKY questions! Link below [20:04 – 36:44] Building Platforms For Voices to be Heard  Let's get to know Avi What stood out to Avi about social connections?  Listen to Avi on how she handles racism and homophobia Avi gives interesting insights about calling out and shaming  “No-hate” dialogues  [36:45 – 51:57] Giving People Experiences  Avi tells us the importance of having conversations about differing beliefs  Educate and give resources Don't force-feed your own beliefs    How important is her support system in pursuing her passion and advocacies? We talk about turning abstract ideas into concrete experiences   You can't tell someone how they should feel [51:58 – 01:08:06] Making People Open Up The three powerful words that can help other people open up to you Denise explains The difference between reacting and responding  Talking about uncomfortable topics and those still considered taboo  [01:08:07 – 01:15:29] Take Care of Yourself First The question that people should ask for each other  Being vulnerable Don't forget to take care of yourself first  Communicate your “why” and “how” All it takes is one person [01:15:30 – 01:18:28] Closing Segment Connect with Avi. Links below  Final thoughts   Tweetable Quotes: “I just want to elevate the voices of the people who don't get to be heard...I want to help them have a platform to share their voices and talk about their experiences.” – Avi Palaoro “You need to fix yourself and heal yourself before you go out there and fix and heal everyone else.” – Avi Palaoro   Resources Mentioned: https://bit.ly/38XcqDG (Ep. 2: Mauren Palaoro | Building Community in the Classroom)   Follow Avi on https://bit.ly/3pb6Pzn (Instagram).   Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!  Join our https://bit.ly/3ixvP11 (Facebook Group) for more stories and communication about our work.    Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Join us for part two of our interview with John Whalen. John is the current building principal at the Tioughnioga Riverside Academy in Whitney Point, New York, a 4th-8th grade school with close to 550 students. Before becoming a leader/principal of a school, John worked as Binghamton CSD's Restorative Practices Coordinator from 2016-2019. He is passionate about advocating for the social justice of the students he works with.   [00:01 – 11:32] Leading the Way John talks about his current role as a principal of a school and a leader of a district Starting proactive restorative circles to help students [11:33 – 19:36] Classroom Circles John talks about the inspiration behind his book Classroom Circles [19:37 – 24:49] John's Unique Point of Views in Education John shares lessons from his experiences in the educator's field John's call to action for educators [24:50 – 36:25] What John has been up to Where John is at now at his career Let's hear John's point of view as a leader John shares experiences from one of their circles [36:26 – 41:48] Closing Segment The cross-connect model Final thoughts   Tweetable Quotes: “As we look at what education looks like, I really firmly believe that working with the idea of social and machinal learning, that's gonna be as important as academic learning as we move forward into this century.” – John Whalen “Diversity taught me more than I could've ever learned watching a movie or reading a book.” – John Whalen “I'm the guy that is saying teaching kids the social side, the social skills, is gonna be possibly more important than teaching them the academic skills very soon.” – John Whalen   Resources Mentioned: https://ed311.com/product/classroom-circles-a-toolkit-for-building-relationships-and-strengthening-school-communities-copy/ (Classroom Circles) by John Whalen https://www.tolerance.org/magazine/pandemic-pedagogy-a-call-to-educators-to-bring-their-classrooms-to-reality#:~:text=Classroom%20Resources-,Pandemic%20Pedagogy%3A%20A%20Call%20to%20Educators%20to%20Bring%20Their%20Classrooms,pandemic%20head%2Don%20in%20class. (Pandemic Pedagogy)   Get in touch with John on https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-whalen-49a49767/ (LinkedIn) or shoot him an email at jwhalen@wpcsd.org 

In this episode, I interview John Whalen. I first met John back when he was a 6th-grade teacher at East Middle School Binghamton City School District. John came to Texas to visit me at Ed White Middle School, and we automatically connected. Since then, I've seen John grow from a teacher to the restorative practices coordinator of the district, and now in leadership.  Tune in for part one of this two-part interview. [00:01 – 01:37] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, John Whalen Join our brand new RCL Community Facebook Group! Link below [01:38 – 13:26] The Flip-5 Segment We exchange five GTKY questions Join our Educator Circle Calls! Link below [13:27 – 20:56] Who is John Whalen? John talks about his background.  His thoughts on the disproportionality in school discipline John talks about “Restorative Justice.” The story of how we met [20:57 – 36:28] Restorative Justice Leading and creating Restorative Initiative circles The challenges that come with restorative justice John's main takeaways while working with restorative justice Restorative approach vs. the traditional approach [36:29 – 45:16] Give Teachers Opportunities Give the teachers more opportunities to do restorative work Bringing teachers and students together Give students the opportunity to be heard   Tweetable Quotes: “When we started doing those relationship-building circles, I started learning so much more about the students in my class.” – John Whalen “I saw some of the most amazing things when teachers were willing to come in and just say okay, I'm willing to listen to you.” – John Whalen   Resources Mentioned: https://www.facebook.com/groups/rclb4sel (Relationship Centered Learning Community (Facebook Group))   Get in touch with John on https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-whalen-49a49767/ (LinkedIn)  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Here's a special Mindset Monday with you, me, and the mic. This will also be our year-end special as I'm going to take a couple of weeks off to recover from a hip replacement surgery. Today, we will reflect on how we want to end 2020. As we have been talking about in the past months, we'll focus not on the things that happened and we have no control of but on the things that we are proud of despite the COVID-19 pandemic. Before anything else, I want to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Let's jump into this episode and end the year together! See you all in 2021! [00:01 - 05:02] The Privilege of Being an Educator I introduce the topic for this special episode. I read this very inspirational post I came across on social media   [05:03 - 11:10] What I'm Proud of This 2020 I talk about the things we've accomplished together this 2020 Impact 9,000 educators  Conduct weekly circles Coach fellow educators Build communities  Connect with us. Links below Final words Tweetable Quotes: “I was able to start a podcast to continue to meet and connect others through virtual settings, to continue to find out how educators are still finding ways to make connections with kids.” – Kevin Curtis “2021 is gonna give us a new vision of being able to look past the rearview mirror...let's develop and discover how we [grew] from 2020.” – Kevin Curtis  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode of Mindset Monday, join me as I discuss topics that have come out on previous episodes of the podcast.  Today, I will share with you this interesting activity where we always get amazing responses. This activity involves asking people, usually students, about a word or a phrase that describes how phenomenal their teachers are. What kind of responses do we usually get? It's rarely about the content of the curriculum. Let's jump in to this episode and know why educators are so important in the students' life! [00:01 - 08:43] The Quality of a Phenomenal Teacher I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode. The qualities of a phenomenal teacher We'll have an activity to identify these qualities Feel free to pause this episode when you need to! I share the interesting responses I have gotten so far Does content matter? Don't be afraid to be vulnerable in front of students [08:44 - 09:28] The Quality of a Phenomenal Teacher Connect with us. Links below Final words Tweetable Quotes: “…just remember that it isn't the content or the curriculum that's gonna stand out for you and those students and those connections, it's gonna be whether you are real or genuine...” – Kevin Curtis “In the middle of the game, what makes you stand out...it's the hard work, it's the caring, the genuine or authentic, the people that are being real....” – Kevin Curtis  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, Denise and I will talk with Alexis Collier, a senior college student at the University of Texas - Arlington. She's studying finance and economics, hoping to be a financial analyst after her graduation. Today, she will join us to discuss how we can build trust between students and teachers. We will also know her thoughts about the qualities that make a teacher standout, the ways a school can be trustworthy in the eyes of students, and the pillars that Alexis envisions in her ideal school.  [00:01 – 01:32] Opening Segment We introduce and welcome our guest, Alexis Collier [01:33 – 07:29] The Flip-5 Segment We exchange five GTKY questions Join our Educator Circle Calls! Link below [07:30 – 12:37] Who is Alexis Collier?  Alexis' call-to-action to hear the students' voices Her thoughts about teachers who standout [12:38 – 20:14] Give Teachers a Chance Why we should reach out to teachers We talk about “teacher power” Looking at students as human beings [20:15 – 29:59] 4 Ways a School Can Empower its Students 4 ways a school can promote student empowerment 3 strategies to build trust within schools What's Alexis doing right now?  [30:00 – 39:40] Spark Connections The butterfly effects of sparking a connection Be a “bridge-builder” Alexis' message for educators Alexis' biggest inspiration [39:41 – 41:01] Closing Segment Alexis' closing message Connect with Alexis. Links below Final thoughts from me Tweetable Quotes: “My message to educators is...no matter how hard it gets or how hard it feels, there are people who count on you because you are their inspiration, you are their teacher...” – Alexis Collier “The race is not the same for all of us. You're most likely doing better than you think you are.” – Alexis Collier   Resources Mentioned: https://bit.ly/33PFx91 (Episode 1: Joe Beckman | Reclaiming Human Connection)   Email Alexis at nicolecollier23@gmail.com or connect with her on https://bit.ly/3gmgHCw (Facebook) and https://bit.ly/3gkqlpj (LinkedIn).  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Building relationships one campus at a time. Adam DeWitt joins us in this episode to share his insights in leading multiple campuses. Currently, Adam is a leader in several campuses within the Oconto Unified School District. Aside from being an experienced administrative officer in multiple campuses, Adam is a husband, father, and a co-host of the Principal Leadership Lab Podcast. His main principle as a campus leader is simple: “if it's best for the kids, try; if it isn't, don't do it again.” [00:01 – 01:30] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, Adam DeWitt  [01:31 – 16:54] The Flip-5 Segment Adam and I take turns asking five GTKY questions Who's the “Elvis Presley of Modern Day?” [16:55 – 28:14] Who is Adam the Principal? Emphasize connection before content  Check out our website. Link below Adam shares his background and path as an educator Adam talks about this principle that won't ever fail you [28:15 – 44:44] Leading Multiple Campuses Adam's sign of maturity The pros and cons of being a campus leader This phone app can make life easy for campus leaders This app is also common in an office! [44:45  – 1:01:18] The Significant 72 Who are the “Sarahs” of the world? What are they?  The 3 people behind a campus leader that you should meet Adam's advice to educators struggling to connect with students What's the Waterfall Strategy? [01:01:19 – 01:09:24] Closing Segment Learn more about Adam's passion Connect with Adam. Links below Final thoughts   Tweetable Quotes: “We'll never agree with our supervisors 100% of the time no matter how good they are.” – Adam DeWitt “When we grow and reflect, that is a sign of maturity.” – Adam DeWitt “Our words are the most powerful tool we have as a group of educators..” – Adam DeWitt   Resources Mentioned: https://www.oconto.k12.wi.us/ (Oconto Unified School District) https://www.cisco.com/ (Cisco)   Email Adam at adewitt2@gmail.com or connect with him on https://bit.ly/3qyWq1w (Twitter) and https://bit.ly/2LbcupS (LinkedIn). Read his https://leading180days.wordpress.com/ (blog posts) and listen to him on https://bit.ly/3mPh3Ec (The Principal Leadership Lab) every Monday and Thursday.  Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, Adam Dovico joins us. Adam is an accomplished teacher, principal, author, speaker, and professor. He began his career in North Carolina as an elementary teacher, then worked as a teacher and the school implementations specialist for the renowned Ron Clark Academy, where he traveled across the country conducting professional development and onsite training to schools. Adam returned to his alma mater, Wake Forest University, to train the next generations of teachers as a clinical professor. Most recently, he started as the principal of Moore Magnet Elementary School. [00:01 – 01:25] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, Adam Dovico [01:26 – 12:12] The Flip-5 Segment Adam and I take turns asking five GTKY questions [12:13 – 32:54] Who is Adam Dovico? Adam talks about his background and how his journey as an educator began Hear Adam's perspectives from the different angles of education he experienced Leading with a hands-on approach.  Lead innovation, risk-taking, and being a change agent We talk about Adam's leadership approach Adam talks about his time with Ron Clark Academy [32:55 – 44:26] Teacher Readiness Adam weighs in on teacher readiness The preparedness in creating relationships with students [44:27 – 49:19] Adam the Author Adam talks about his books https://amzn.to/3fWbv88 (Inside the Trenches) https://amzn.to/36tY900 (The Limitless School) https://amzn.to/2JyvoGk (When Kids Lead) Adam shares resources for educators [49:20 – 55:48] Closing Segment The perfect time to reintroduce social studies Accountability for connections Final thoughts   Tweetable Quotes: “It's being intentional about making connections with your kids and being intentional about how and when and why you plan your lessons. It's about being real. It's about being accessible. It's about being relatable.” – Adam Dovico “Dare to be different.” – Adam Dovico   Resources Mentioned: https://laneshatabb.com/ (Education with An Apron) https://amzn.to/2Vn9SHc (Unpack Your Impact by Lanesha Tabb)   Connect with Adam onhttps://www.instagram.com/adamdovico/?hl=en ( Instagram),https://twitter.com/adamdovico?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor ( Twitter), and his websitehttps://www.adamdovico.com/ ( https://www.adamdovico.com/).   Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode of Mindset Monday, join me as I discuss topics that have come out on previous episodes of the podcast.  Many of us grow up thinking that we are not enough, and today, with the sensitivity of Social Media, we tend to compare ourselves with others. We compare what we have from what you see in other people's lives, and sometimes seeing other people having ‘better' lives than ours, we tend to pity ourselves and think to ourselves that we're never enough.  TODAY, I AM HERE TO REMIND YOU THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH. And I hope that from this, you'll spread the positivity to others. [00:01 - 07:55] Comparing Yourself to Others I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode. I just want to remind you that you are enough. During difficult times, we question ourselves, ‘am I enough?' Remind yourself and others that they're enough. Don't let anything that happened in the past define who you are. Listen to yourself and who you are.   Tweetable Quotes: “Isn't it crazy that so many of us grow up thinking we're not enough? That we're never good enough, whether that's at our job or that's in life or relationships.” – Kevin Curtis “You can struggle and still be great.” – Kevin Curtis Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode, I am interviewing a student, Jaelin Su. Jaelin is a 15-year-old student at the Liberal Arts and Science Academy in Austin, Texas. She shares her passion for change and how it was derived from her 4th-grade teacher. Jaelin also shares how becoming a brave ambassador has given her an outlet and confidence to be the person that her teacher impacted her to be back in 4th grade. [00:01 – 01:26] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, Jaelin Su. [01:27 – 10:06] The Flip-5 Segment Jaelin and I take turns asking five GTKY questions [10:07 – 24:05] Building Relationships from A Student's Perspective Hear from Jaelin's perspective, a 15-year-old student, the importance of relationships Jaelin talks about her 4th-grade teacher's impact in shaping the person she wants to be. How students can make an impact on their teachers' lives [24:06 – 35:44] Students Can Make a Difference and Impact in the World Jaelin talks about how the BRAVE Ambassadors are making a difference together with BRAVE Communities Jaelin talks about the club she started in their school. [35:45 – 45:24] Barriers in Creating Genuine Teacher-Student Relationships Why do you think some teachers find it hard to create connections with their students? Jaelin weighs in on why some teachers find it hard to create genuine relationships with their students. The importance for teachers to make an effort to create relationships with their students Teachers should see students as individuals, not just a name on a list. [45:25 – 50:02] Closing Segment Learn more about BRAVE Communities. See the links below. Final thoughts   Tweetable Quotes: "I really think relationships are the foundation of so much in your life. Especially when you are young like me and you're just trying to figure out like who you are and where you belong in the world and how to make your way around things and figure stuff out." – Jaelin Su  "I think that effort really makes you trust a person more." – Jaelin Su     Be part of BRAVE's mission. Follow them onhttps://www.instagram.com/bravecommunities/?hl=en ( Instagram),https://www.facebook.com/BRAVEcommunities/ ( Facebook),https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXVRnnLgRHxs9RbKZvQjlvQ ( YouTube), andhttps://twitter.com/brave_atx?lang=en ( Twitter). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Mirella Campbell is a friend of mine, and we went to the same high school. She was an elementary teacher and administrator in San Antonio, Texas but recently moved to Georgia. In this episode, Mirella shares her life struggles when getting into college and how she ultimately stayed committed to becoming a teacher. [00:01 – 01:12] Opening Segment I introduce our guest, Mirella Campbell [01:13 – 12:03] The Flip-5 Segment Mirella and I take turns asking 5 GTKY questions [12:04 – 19:55] Who is Mirella the Educator? Mirella shares her AHA! moment that made her want to become an educator. She looked up to her 2nd-grade teacher and made her realize that Hispanic women aren't supposed to be just housewives. Mirella talks about her background and her childhood. Shares her struggles in life when getting into college Talks about her journey as an educator [19:56 – 33:04] Piloting a Relationship-Centered Approach in the Modern-Day School Why it's so hard for some educators to put relationships in the center of learning Mirella on making an impact in her role as an Assistant Principal What's stopping us from creating an environment that is relationship-centered in schools? [33:05 – 41:48] Education in the New Normal Realizing relationships should be established with the students to create an effective learning environment in the new normal. Lesson based curriculums blend relationships; they don't build relationships. Social-emotional needs and race or culture diversity Navigating through the pandemic [41:49 – 1:01:31] Vulnerability and Creating Genuine Connections Don't focus on being extraordinary. Focus on being ordinary. Be vulnerable Creating moments of genuine connection   Tweetable Quotes: “The pressure, the responsibility, and just the fact that you can't keep everybody happy was so overwhelming for me.” – Mirella Campbell on realizing the responsibilities of a Principal. “When you're a first-year administrator, whether you are a principal or an assistant principal, it takes you time to get to know who kids are. So, by walking in on these morning meetings and just really focusing on having those conversations, meaningful conversations – I've had the opportunity to connect kids with siblings and families and really get to know and hear what's going on.” – Mirella Campbell “Questions start the conversations; the answers shape the conversations.” – Kevin Curtis “I think that's important for an educator is to always be genuine and for you to show that vulnerability so that kids can relate to you. Otherwise, you're not gonna get anywhere with them especially in the academic world.” – Mirella Campbell   Resources Mentioned: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/introducing-unlocking-us/#:~:text=Join%20researcher%20and%20%231%20New,moments%20to%20the%20most%20brokenhearted. (Unlocking Us by Brené Brown) https://brenebrown.com/dtl-podcast/ (Dare to Lead Podcast by Brené Brown) Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Mark Horner is a high school AP US History and Psychology teacher teaching for 22 years in the Tallmadge City School District. In this episode, let's hear Mark's journey to molding a career in the classroom that was centered around relationships. [00:01 – 01:26] Opening Segment I introduce and welcome our guest, Mark Horner [01:27 – 14:33] The Flip-5 Segment Mark and I take turns asking five GTKY questions [14:34 – 35:05] Creating a Classroom Centered Around Relationships Mark talks about his background and how his journey as an educator began Middle School vs. High School, Mark weighs in on the difference between the two Being intentional in creating relationships Making students feel at home when they're in the classroom Hear how Mark responds to people who don't approve or say negative comments about his teaching approach. We talk about Brené Brown's Podcasts and Book Being vulnerable [35:06 – 52:17] Be Intentional Be very intentional with everything you do Be intentional in educating and making an impact on your students' lives. Love, lead and help provide opportunities to kids for them to succeed in life. The contagion effect [52:18 – 58:30] Closing Segment What would you tell the 1st year Mark from the 22nd year, Mark? You're qualified. You're good enough. Mark shares his struggles during college. Final thoughts Connect with Mark. See the links below.   Tweetable Quotes: “I don't care what the kid's struggling with, and I don't care whatever the issue might be. When they're in this classroom, I make it my number one priority to make them feel like this is their home.” – Mark Horner “Passion goes hand in hand with courage.” – Mark Horner “It's okay to not be okay.” – Mark Horner “Kids need vulnerability, and you need to model vulnerability for them. They need to know how to relay and share and lead in that capacity.” – Mark Horner   Resources Mentioned: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unlocking-us-with-bren%C3%A9-brown/id1494350511 (Unlocking Us Podcast by Brené Brown) https://brenebrown.com/dtl-podcast/ (Dare to Lead Podcast by Brené Brown) https://amzn.to/3pF4ddt (Dare to Lead (Book) by Brené Brown) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1535002/ (Between Two Ferns)   You can follow  Mark onhttps://twitter.com/thsmr_horner?lang=en ( Twitter). Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

In this episode of mindset Monday, join me as I discuss topics that have come out on previous episodes of the podcast and my life that got me thinking. One that really struck me is talking about the word COMMITMENT. With all that's happening, what I realized is that ‘commitment' is challenged on a daily basis. [00:01 – 04:59] What Drives Your Commitment? I talk briefly about the main topic for this episode Situations educators and the educational system are forced into in this pandemic The commitment educators have [05:00 – 11:05] Reflecting on Your Commitments Reflect where is your connection to commitment The demonstration of unconditional commitment from teachers, educators, and leaders despite the circumstances.   Tweetable Quotes: “Despite all of these hurdles and obligations, educators are like the definition of commitment right now.” – Kevin Curtis “Sometimes what we have to recognize is love doesn't always feel like love.” – Kevin Curtis   Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!

Dave Schmittou is the former 2018 College Educator of the Year, former 2014 Michigan Administrator of the Year, and is currently a professor of Educational Leadership at Central Michigan University. Dave is also a fellow podcaster, the host of The Lasting Learning Podcast. In this episode, we talk about: [00:01 – 01:26] Opening Segment I introduce our guest, Dave Schmittou I talk briefly about the valuable information you can take advantage of in this episode [01:27 – 10:35] GTKY Segment Dave and I take turns asking questions to get to know each other better [10:36 – 26:12] The Importance of Relationships in Schools Dave talks about his background and how his journey as an educator began Shares his thoughts on how relationships are made with students on different grade levels Dave talks about the importance of relationships in schools and how to build the foundation of good relationships Dave weighs in on the reason why relationships get lost [26:13 – 41:00] The Roadblocks in Building Relationships Dave talks about the roadblocks in building relationships in schools and what it takes to overcome them. The possibilities when putting relationships first. [41:01 – 50:42] Building Campus Connections Dave shares strategies in building adult-to-adult relationships within the campus The process of making connections [50:43 – 57:34] Closing Segment Dave talks about his podcast, https://schmittou.net/lasting-learning-lessons-from-those-who-know-what-matters-most/ (The Lasting Learning Podcast). Why you should be listening to his podcast Dave talks about his book https://amzn.to/2GTdUDG (Making Assessment Work for Educators Who Hate Data but LOVE Kids) Connect with Dave. See the links below Dave's recommendations: https://www.facebook.com/teachbetterteam/ (Teach Better Team) Final thoughts   Tweetable Quotes: “If you're simply building relationships so that you can get kids to jump through your hoops and perform your tricks and do all those things, you're manipulating kids. So, stop it.” – Dave Schmittou “Building relationships with people does take time.” – Dave Schmittou “You want your kids to learn. You want them to be connected to you. You want that trust. You want that relationship. Then yes, it's going to take time. It's going to take energy. It's gonna take investment.” – Dave Schmittou “Teachers have to understand that it is hard work. They have to understand that it is going to be difficult. It is gonna be uncomfortable. It's not just liking the nice kids. It is getting to know every single kid.” – Dave Schmittou   Resources Mentioned: https://twitter.com/TheTimMcGraw?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor (Tim McGraw) https://www.rickwormeli.com/ (Rick Wormeli)   You can connect with Dave onhttps://twitter.com/daveschmittou?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor ( Twitter),https://www.instagram.com/daveschmittou/?hl=en ( Instagram), or visit his websitehttps://schmittou.net/ ( https://schmittou.net/)     Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.Rclfirst.com) to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!   Want a FREE download of 25 GTKY questions? Visithttp://www.rclfirst.com/ ( www.rclfirst.com) and sign up for our newsletter!