The Art Of Coaching

This episode is for a very specific type of person.  Those of you who are hard on yourself, and if you're being honest, it's to an unhealthy degree. The perfectionist who struggles to recognize their own accomplishments, who tears themselves apart over minor slip-ups, and maybe even finds it hard to fully celebrate the wins of others. Not because of jealousy, but because the voice in your head has been trained to fixate on what's missing instead of what's been earned. Maybe you're not wired this way all the time, but after a big achievement, you felt... nothing. Maybe even a little depressed that it didn't feel like more. We know many of you in our audience fall into one of these camps—and this episode is for you. Here's a little premeditated tough love: at some point, it has to be good enough.  So how do we move past this all-or-nothing mentality we'll never win? How can we celebrate our accomplishments without dulling our edge? In this episode, Brett breaks down: The 70% Rule—it's immeasurable value and how it can be applied in both creative work and business How to celebrate milestones while preserving the lessons from when you fell flat on your face Who drains your joy, how to cut them out, and the hard truth: you might be doing it to others too Ways to be your own hype man without softening your edge Practical tools for when you hate your own work—and how to get to the root of why that happens During the episode, Brett opened up about the various challenges he's faced while writing his new book. If you want early access to updates, release info, and behind-the-scenes content, follow along at artofcoaching.com/book. Retreat. Reset. Recalibrate. RELOAD! This September, we're hosting a retreat in Phoenix, AZ—built for those who carry it all. Ten years in the making, this event is designed to give you tools to slow down, recalibrate, and breathe again. We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You'll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else. Stay tuned at artofcoaching.com/events and email us at info@artofcoaching.com for more details. Executive Mentoring That Fits Your Life Struggling with anxiety before a big presentation? Leading difficult meetings? Trying to figure out how to handle a staff issue, or even a challenge at home? One of our 15 coaches has been there and dealt with that. This is real-world guidance, tailored to your needs, on your schedule. Nothing cookie-cutter about it. Every leader needs a coach. The best ones know when to ask for help. Learn more at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. We'd love to help. Upcoming Live Events: There's never been a better time to invest in skills that don't have a shelf life. Our live events are built to help you think, speak, and lead more effectively under pressure, in any environment. These aren't lectures. They're hands-on, challenging experiences with an immeasurable return on investment. We offer three different payment plans and want to meet you where you're at. If you have questions or want help finding the best fit, reach out to us anytime at info@artofcoaching.com. Brand Builder This one's for the person trying to grow something real. Whether you're turning your book into a business, scaling your podcast, or running a brick-and-mortar that needs a stronger foundation—we cover it all. Pricing, positioning, branding, managing your team, building out systems. You'll walk away with clarity and a real plan.

Why can't someone else step up and do this? How come I'm always the one who has to do everything? What more do I have to do before someone finally takes some initiative? If you've ever asked yourself these questions—or just quietly felt them—you're not alone. That heavy sense of responsibility, the emotional and cultural weight of having to carry your team day after day, will wear you down. And if you don't have a plan to offload that burden and bring others into ownership, it's only a matter of time before burnout sets in. But what do you do when some team members aren't exactly charismatic—or worse, seem like they're only halfway committed? This episode hits close to home, pulled straight from a challenge one of our mentoring clients has been facing for years. It's also something Brett knows firsthand. In this episode, we'll cover: The main shortcoming of servant-based leadership, and how to overcome it How to diagnose energy leaks in your ecosystem before they push you into burnout The 3 types of energy brokers on your team—and how to actually get contributions from each How to create a system of shared ownership and delegate tasks based on real strengths Leading strategically by removing barriers and making sure you're not the one holding the team back You Do Everything for Everyone. It's Time to Reset. This September, we're hosting a retreat in Phoenix, AZ—built for those who carry it all. Ten years in the making, this event is designed to give you tools to slow down, recalibrate, and breathe again. We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You'll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else. Stay tuned at artofcoaching.com/events and email us at info@artofcoaching.com for more details. Upcoming Live Events: There's never been a better time to invest in skills that don't have a shelf life. Our live events are built to help you think, speak, and lead more effectively under pressure, in any environment. These aren't lectures. They're hands-on, challenging experiences with an immeasurable return on investment. We offer three different payment plans and want to meet you where you're at. If you have questions or want help finding the best fit, reach out to us anytime at info@artofcoaching.com. The Apprenticeship If you're tired of struggling through hard conversations or avoiding them altogether, this is your chance to train for them. We'll put you in realistic role-play scenarios and teach you the frameworks that help you navigate conflict, power dynamics, and tough personalities. No fluff. No gurus. Just pressure-tested strategies you can actually use.

Everything is okay at work, but… yeah, work is fine—I just don't know what I'm going to do. We've all felt like that at some point in our careers. Maybe you're in that place right now. Call it a rut, stagnation, or just a funk. You're motivated. You're grateful. But you also want more. More fulfillment, more autonomy, maybe even a title change and a bigger office. You want to feel like your strengths are being seen and put to use. When that doesn't happen, dissatisfaction can start to seep into everything else—negatively impacting your mental health and personal life. So what do you do with that?  In this short episode, Brett breaks down how to get (and stay) unstuck, move forward with intention, and take ownership without letting that ugly feeling of bitterness creep in. What You'll Learn: Why the premortem matters and how it keeps you from crashing Getting out of the entitlement trap around promotions How to discuss feelings of stagnation with leadership while still holding yourself accountable Establishing your non-negotiables to keep your head clear and your sanity intact Your need to decompress and the key elements required to truly unplug Come See Us at a Live Event! There's never been a better time to come see us live. We've put on these events for years, working with people from all walks of life—coaches, business owners, military personnel, educators, and everything in between. These aren't dry lectures. They're interactive, challenging, and built to help you think, speak, and lead better under pressure. The Apprenticeship If you're tired of struggling through hard conversations or avoiding them altogether, this is your chance to train for them. We'll put you in realistic role-play scenarios and teach you the frameworks that help you navigate conflict, power dynamics, and tough personalities. No fluff. No gurus. Just pressure-tested strategies you can actually use.

We've all felt it. That awkward disconnect when the vibe is off and you're wondering how you ended up across the table from someone who just isn't where you are. Maybe you're in different stages of life, chasing different things, or just not clear on what the other actually wants. Whatever the reason, the moment hits: this isn't it. It's not easy to find someone emotionally mature enough to show up. Someone who isn't hiding behind the damage of past relationships or stuck reliving the pain of a breakup they never really moved on from. And even harder? Finding someone willing to do the work, to build something real, instead of ghosting or bailing the minute things get remotely tough or inconvenient. But this isn't just an episode for people looking for love. It's about communication, emotional availability, and knowing what you bring to the table—because relationships, romantic or not, reveal a lot about who we are and how we lead. In this episode, Brett gets personal and delivers the truth about: Confronting our cultural epidemic of “busy” and what it's really masking When a relationship is worth fixing—and when to let it go How to assess emotional and logistical availability (for them and for you) Protecting your self-worth from people who chip away at it bit by bit. Why dating apps thrive in the same way every addictive algorithm does *BONUS* Brett's best dating advice: simple but far from easy Coming Later This Year – The (Im)perfect Relationship Course If this episode hit home, there's more where that came from. Hop on the waitlist here to be the first to know when doors open. And check out artofcoaching.com/events to stay up to date on our upcoming workshops, where we dive deep into communication, leadership, and the skills that actually build better relationships in work, life, and love. Folsom Brand Builder Are you a coach, entrepreneur, or speaker who wants to turn your expertise into something that actually pays the bills? Whether you've never made a dollar or just brought in your first million, Brand Builder is for you! Spend two interactive days in Folsom, CA, getting crystal clear on your messaging, attracting the right clients, and building a business that scales. You'll leave with clarity, confidence, and a framework that lets you do what you love—on your terms.

We've all been hit by it. It seemingly comes out of nowhere—a misunderstanding or argument we never saw coming. One moment you're having a discussion, the next you're blindsided by resistance, vitriol, or passive-aggressive blowback. Where did it come from? Why did something small suddenly feel so personal? Here's the truth: it's rarely about the thing—it's about what the thing represents. Control. Trust. Identity. Relevance. Fear. A loss of autonomy. There's always something else simmering under the surface. And if you want to be effective in high-stakes conversations or high-pressure environments, you have to be able to read those underlying signals, not just bulldoze with logic. In this episode Brett unpacks exactly how to do that and covers: How to diagnose the real reason behind someone's resistance Why linking your message to their character is more effective than chasing compliance How to foster autonomy by making it feel like their idea Why perception, not logic, is the real engine of influence and leadership What drives people to defend their identity and internal narrative at all costs

Why is talking about money so hard?  An even better question might be: why do so many job postings treat compensation like a state secret—vague, unclear, or completely absent?  The truth is, people want to know they'll be respected and valued. If you leave them guessing, they'll start looking elsewhere. In Part 1 of this hiring series, we covered how to attract the right candidates. In Part 2, we dug into asking the right questions during interviews. In Part 3, we're focusing entirely on compensation, because how you talk about pay tells a story about how you value people. In this episode, Brett breaks down: The 3 most common ways companies list compensation—and how to determine which is right for you How to shift people away from obsessing over base salary and toward the bigger picture of total value Creative ways to incentivize your team without blowing up your budget How to foster loyalty and stop roles from becoming revolving doors If you need further assistance with this topic or anything else involving your business, visit artofcoaching.com/mentor, we'd love to help. Folsom Brand Builder Are you a coach, entrepreneur, or speaker who wants to turn your expertise into something that actually pays the bills? Whether you've never made a dollar or just brought in your first million, Brand Builder is for you! Spend two interactive days in Folsom, CA, getting crystal clear on your messaging, attracting the right clients, and building a business that scales. You'll leave with clarity, confidence, and a framework that lets you do what you love—on your terms.

Most interviews miss the mark. Predictable questions. Rehearsed answers. And when it's over, you still haven't figured out who the person really is. In Part 1 of this series, we covered what matters most when it comes to attracting the right candidates. Today is about what happens next. How do you actually assess whether someone can solve the real problems you are hiring them to tackle or if they're the right fit? The truth is, most people can talk a good game and tell you what you'd like to hear. But when the lights come on and things get messy, can they think on their feet? Can they take initiative? Can they adapt when the environment or expectations change? In this episode, Brett walks you through how to run interviews that actually reveal who someone is, not just who they pretend to be, and breaks down: A smarter way to structure interviews using the DEEP framework How a simple role clarity doc keeps you from hiring the wrong person Questions that expose if someone can solve real problems or just talk well The 4 dimensions every candidate must show before you even consider hiring them How real world tasks and off-script moments reveal who someone really is Upcoming Live Events! Everyone wants to lead better, grow their business, and communicate with confidence… until it's time to actually do it in the room, with real people and real pressure. We're not here to sell you fluff or copy-pasted psychology theory. We give you real reps, real coaching, and straight talk—so you're prepared when it actually counts. We're here to help you show up for life's most important opportunities—whether that's a tough conversation, a high-stakes presentation, or leading when things get messy. Over the next few months, we're hitting the road and you've got options:

Hiring the right people doesn't start with the interview — it starts with the job posting. In this first episode of our hiring series, we tackle a question we hear all the time from mentoring clients: How do I find better candidates?  Whether you're a business owner, a team leader involved in hiring, or even someone applying for jobs, this one's for you. We break down a simple but effective framework to help you diagnose and improve your hiring process from the ground up. This isn't theory or a fluffy LinkedIn post, just real talk and practical tools you can apply right away. What You'll Learn in This Episode: A breakdown of the HITS framework and how it can instantly level up your job postings Why generic, vague titles are quietly killing your candidate pool What a structured, efficient hiring process looks like, and why speed and clarity matter Why expressing your team's true culture upfront helps attract the right fit (and repel the wrong ones) Bonus: Talking salary in your job posting — the only 3 ways to do it, and the pros and cons of each This week's episode comes straight from a recurring theme we hear in our work with mentoring clients. Got a question you'd like us to address on the podcast? Let us know — remember, unstated needs lead to unmet expectations. We want to keep creating content that shows up in your life when it matters most. Drop us an email at info@artofcoaching.com. Need a Coach Who Challenges You? Even the best leaders need a coach—but too often, they're too busy to seek one out. That's where we come in. Think of us as your shadow advisor—a real, human sounding board who challenges your thinking, offers a fresh perspective, and isn't afraid to be your devil's advocate. We help uncover blind spots and push you toward better decisions, whether you're running a small business, leading a pro sports team, or making moves in a Fortune 500 company. If you're serious about growth, let's talk. artofcoaching.com/mentoring. Real-World Leadership Training for Teams That Can't Afford to Guess This is now our most requested service. From NFL teams to Apple and Canadian Special Forces, organizations are bringing us in to help their people lead, communicate, and perform under pressure. Our tailored workshops deliver tools you can use immediately to manage emotions, reduce drama, and build a stronger culture. Schedules are filling fast — reach out now to lock in your spot. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com or visit artofcoaching.com. Related Episodes: E99 | Steven Moser: Getting the Job and Nailing Your Interview E182 | Crucial Tips For Improving Your Hiring Proces Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

You feel it, right? That tension thick enough to slice, the elephant in the room no one dares mention. But sooner or later, it has to be dealt with. Most people think resolving conflict demands complex processes. In reality, the solution usually boils down to simply hashing it out. Yet, when friction arises, we often overcomplicate things or avoid them altogether, escalating drama. It's time to step up and initiate tough conversations. Brace yourself. Some people will resist. Some simply lack the emotional tools to process these interactions. Others you'll never fully reconcile with, but we can NEVER afford to be escapists, personally or professionally. Even when doing the right thing doesn't guarantee success, clear communication and accountability are essential. Today's episode hits like the perfect song for the moment. Right on time, and rhythm on point. This is the sit-down talk, crucial and overdue, that we, and our society as a whole, needs to hear. Tune in as Brett dives into these key insights, breaking down how they relate directly to his experiences, and yours: Navigate uncomfortable first steps with proven scripts. Anticipate resistance and pivot when faced with avoidance. Utilize mediation and lateral tactics when standard approaches stall. Detach from emotional reactions, document clearly, and protect yourself The BALM framework for clear and confident communication in the worst situations This episode was inspired by the powerful response to our latest newsletter. We dive even deeper into topics like culture change, navigating tough conversations, and handling drama effectively. Sign up today for free—no spam, just actionable, real-world value delivered straight to your inbox: artofcoaching.com/begin. Need a Coach Who Challenges You? Even the best leaders need a coach—but too often, they're too busy to seek one out. That's where we come in. Think of us as your shadow advisor—a real, human sounding board who challenges your thinking, offers a fresh perspective, and isn't afraid to be your devil's advocate. We help uncover blind spots and push you toward better decisions, whether you're running a small business, leading a pro sports team, or making moves in a Fortune 500 company. If you're serious about growth, let's talk. artofcoaching.com/mentoring. Send Us Your Staff!  Tackle leadership challenges with tailored workshops trusted by Apple, NFL teams, and Canadian Special Forces. Gain actionable tools for managing emotions, de-escalating tension, and rebuilding culture. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com to learn more, and visit artofcoaching.com to see how we can help. Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

You hear about it all the time. A team goes from the bottom of the league to championship contenders. A failing company suddenly becomes the industry gold standard.  The media calls it a “culture shift,” but let's be real, culture doesn't change overnight. It erodes over time when bad habits go unchecked, just like it improves through intentional action. The problem? Most people don't have the stomach for what it really takes to make that shift happen. Changing culture isn't about slogans, feel-good retreats, or corporate trust falls. It's about confronting hard truths, cutting through excuses, and being willing to fight the battles no one else will. If you think you can just throw a motivational speech at the problem and watch everything transform, you're in for a rude awakening.  In today's episode, we break down exactly what it takes to rewrite the DNA of an organization—without the fluff, the gimmicks, or the hand-holding. In today's episode, Brett dives into: What culture actually is and how to clarify the outcome you're after How to diagnose the root cause of a toxic culture—not just slap a band-aid on the symptoms The exact questions we use to pinpoint the real issues when consulting with teams The dangerous consequences of avoidance and the illusion of “false harmony” Practical, process-driven steps you can take right now—no matter your position in the hierarchy Got a question or a topic you'd like us to cover? If this episode resonated with you, let us know at artofcoaching.com/question. We also dive even deeper into culture change and other tough topics in our newsletter—no spam, just real, actionable value. Sign up today at artofcoaching.com/begin. Need a Coach Who Challenges You? Even the best leaders need a coach—but too often, they're too busy to seek one out. That's where we come in. Think of us as your shadow advisor—a real, human sounding board who challenges your thinking, offers a fresh perspective, and isn't afraid to be your devil's advocate. We help uncover blind spots and push you toward better decisions, whether you're running a small business, leading a pro sports team, or making moves in a Fortune 500 company. If you're serious about growth, let's talk. artofcoaching.com/mentoring. Master the Skill No One Thinks About, But Everyone Needs No one wakes up thinking, I need to improve my communication. But we all want less drama, more productivity, and to stop wasting time. The key? Sharpening how you communicate. Think of it like a martial art—you'll never perfect it, but the better you get, the more powerful you become. That's why we created The Apprenticeship—a hands-on, no-fluff training to help you navigate conflict, influence others, and lead with impact.

Most people focus on the big moments when preparing for a speech, but true professionals know it's the small, overlooked details that make all the difference.  In this episode, Brett answers one of the most common questions he gets:  “What's your process for preparing to give a keynote or in-service?” Pulling from hard-earned experience over the past decade, he walks through the non-negotiables and need-to-knows before stepping onto any stage - whether it's a small local event, a professional sports team in-service, or a Fortune 500 leadership summit. Whether you're a veteran of the stage or preparing for your first time on the mic, this episode serves as a checklist for the extra steps that place you in the upper echelon. In this episode, Brett lays out exactly what you need to craft an impactful presentation and leave a lasting impression. You'll learn: How to research the stakeholders and uncover the one key question you must answer The critical logistical details—room setup, tech capabilities, and flow—that can't be overlooked Why small gestures of appreciation, like handwritten notes or gifts, strengthen your relationship with the host How to adapt your content to fit the audience so your message truly resonates How to use your talk as a conduit to connect ideas, open doors, and solidify your place in the fraternity of respected speakers SPEAKER SCHOOL – Regret is Expensive. Step Up Now! The best speakers don't just talk—they adapt. Yet too many talented people hesitate, watching fakers and charlatans steal the spotlight. The last thing you want is to lay your head on your pillow at night, wishing you had shared your message with the world. Speaker School is for leaders, coaches, and professionals who refuse to let fear or doubt hold them back. This two-day workshop gives you the reps, feedback, and coaching you need to own the room—whether that's a boardroom, a locker room, or a stage. Our next Speaker School is April 26-27, with another in October. We keep the number of attendees low to make sure you get the focus and attention you deserve.  Click here to lock in your spot - before someone else takes the stage from you. Related Episodes: E295: Public Speaking Tips Part 1: How Much Content Is Enough When Presenting E297: Public Speaking Tips Part 2: The Ultimate Keynote Preparation Checklist E298: Public Speaking Tips Part 3: Using Strategic Storytelling To Create A Compelling Message Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

In a world where AI is becoming part of everything we do, the big question isn't if you should use it—it's how you should use it. Are you using AI to sharpen your thinking and free up mental bandwidth? Or is it slowly making you more dependent, less strategic, and mentally lazy without you realizing it? In this episode, I break down: ✅ How high performers and busy people use AI to enhance their thinking—not replace it ✅ Ways AI can help you improve clarity, strategy, and execution—if used correctly ✅ The red flags that AI is making you weaker, not sharper ✅ How to offload mental overwhelm without losing cognitive strength ✅ Real-life examples of how I use AI in my business, content creation, and decision-making The goal isn't to resist AI—it's to make sure you're using it as a tool that enhances your skills instead of slowly eroding them. Tune in to learn how to stay sharp, adaptable, and in control while leveraging AI the right way. SPEAKER SCHOOL- The best speakers don't just talk—they adapt. Speaker School is for leaders, coaches, and professionals who want to deliver with clarity, confidence, and impact in any setting. This two-day workshop gives you the reps, feedback, and coaching you need to own the room—whether that's a boardroom, a locker room, or a stage. Our next Speaker School is April 26-27, with another in October. We keep the number of attendees low to make sure you get the focus and attention you deserve.  Click here to lock in your spot! LIVE EVENTS- The best don't train alone. If you want to lead, communicate, and perform under pressure, you need reps. Our live events force adaptation in real time so you build confidence and skill where it matters most. Check out The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, and more at artofcoaching.com/events. 1-ON-1 MENTORING- Tough conversations, career shifts, building credibility—you don't have to navigate it alone. Our one-on-one mentoring is customized to your situation, helping you strategize, communicate, and make real progress. Skip the fluff. Get direct, experience-driven coaching that meets you where you are. Apply now at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

We all wear different hats throughout the day. One minute, you're locked in at work, making quick decisions under pressure. Next, you're at home, where that same intensity doesn't fly. Maybe you're presenting to a boardroom in the morning and coaching your kid's team in the evening. Each situation demands a different approach. If you don't adjust, you misfire. The ability to shift gears seamlessly, whether in leadership, relationships, or daily interactions isn't just communication, it's a survival skill. Code switching is what allows you to maintain credibility, control perception, and navigate high-stakes situations effectively. Yet many struggle with it, staying locked into one mode, bringing the wrong energy into conversations, or feeling like adapting means being “fake.” So how do you get better at code-switching without losing authenticity? How do you manage the cognitive load of shifting roles, control your tone and presence, and ensure that every interaction hits the mark? That's exactly what we're breaking down in this episode. Listen in as Brett breaks down this misunderstood skill and shares practical strategies to help you switch gears with confidence, plus other key insights, including: The difference between code-switching and contextual competence and why it matters How to recognize your default mode and when it helps or holds you back Rituals that help you reset and shift gears between roles Scripts to help prompt others into their best selves in the moment THE APPRENTICESHIP- If today's episode hit home, you already know that reading about code-switching isn't enough—you need reps. That's exactly what we give you at The Apprenticeship. This isn't a passive lecture or a cookie-cutter leadership seminar. You'll be on your feet, in the mix, and under pressure, practicing the art of communication in real-world scenarios. Whether you struggle with tough conversations, handling objections, or shifting your message to fit the moment, this event will challenge you, stretch you, and make you better. No gimmicks. No fluff. Just high-stakes practice in a safe but demanding environment. Join us for our next one in Phoenix, AZ, on June 7-8.  Click here to learn more and secure your spot today!  *Early Bird Pricing Until May 7th SPEAKER SCHOOL- The best speakers don't just talk—they adapt. Speaker School is for leaders, coaches, and professionals who want to deliver with clarity, confidence, and impact in any setting. This two-day workshop gives you the reps, feedback, and coaching you need to own the room—whether that's a boardroom, a locker room, or a stage. Our next Speaker School is April 26-27, with another in October. We keep the number of attendees low to make sure you get the focus and attention you deserve.  Click here to lock in your spot! LIVE EVENTS- The best don't train alone. If you want to lead, communicate, and perform under pressure, you need reps. Our live events force adaptation in real time so you build confidence and skill where it matters most. Check out The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, and more at artofcoaching.com/events. 1-ON-1 MENTORING- Tough conversations, career shifts, building credibility—you don't have to navigate it alone. Our one-on-one mentoring is customized to your situation, helping you strategize, communicate, and make real progress. Skip the fluff. Get direct, experience-driven coaching that meets you where you are. Apply now at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. Referenced Episode: E190 | Why It Seems Like We Never Have Enough Time Related Episodes: E344: Tips For “Balancing” Work and Family Life Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

You can't make this stuff up.  Every time you finally sit down to tackle the project you know needs to get done, something gets in the way. You get sick. A family member needs help. You lose your job or suffer a major professional setback. And let's be honest, sometimes the biggest obstacle…is you. The crazier or more unpredictable the distraction, the more likely it seems to happen. So how do we stop getting knocked off course? How do we sidestep the constant barrage of setbacks, gather ourselves, and take that crucial first step forward? How do we keep chipping away at what we know we need to do—despite the world, other people, and the version of ourselves that would rather avoid the struggle? In today's episode, Brett shares his journey and the lessons we can all take from it. Whether you're writing a book, tackling a big professional project, or mending a broken relationship, there's something here for everyone. Tune in for insight into: Winning the battle against chronic overthinking and perfectionism The importance of the messy rough draft or painful first step Seizing momentum through brutal sprints How to use constraints to your advantage Determining what must be sacrificed to achieve your end goal We're excited to bring you TWO NEW EVENTS coming later this year! Writer's Workshop - Whether you're crafting social media posts, blogs, or even your first book, writing doesn't have to be a solitary, soul-sucking grind. Choose between personalized 1-on-1 coaching or join a small, live, two-day workshop (limited to 10 participants) where we'll help take the pain out of penning and show you how to put your unique style onto the page. Private Retreat at AOC HQ - Join us in Phoenix, AZ, for an exclusive two-day retreat tailored entirely to you. With personalized plans, access to our gym and pool, private suites, and the camaraderie of like-minded individuals, you'll leave with clarity, focus, and renewed energy to crush your goals. Don't miss these opportunities. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com to learn more and secure your spot today! Referenced Resource: Drives Quiz - Stop letting setbacks control your progress and uncover what's holding you back. And wait, did we mention it's FREE! Related Episodes: E360 | The Key To Making Progress and Staying Consistent When Life Gets Hectic Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

DONE. You've finally finished the big project you've been agonizing over. But as you prepare to hit send, print, submit - whatever - all you feel is doubt.  Despite the preparation and time you've put in, you can't help but think about all the ways this “finished product” isn't good enough. This is just one example of how perfectionism can manifest in our day-to-day lives; how it can hold us back, make us feel anxious - even depressed - and how it can keep us from making the type of progress we so desperately seek within our personal and professional lives. Today we're going to explore the topic of perfectionism in depth. Tune in as we dive into: The various definitions and “symptoms” (8:40) It's origins, including the 5 Factor Model of Personality (23:15) The difference between perfectionism and healthy striving (29:30) Non-traditional strategies for overcoming it (44:00)

We've all been there. Stuck, unmotivated, and unsure of what to do or where to go next. And just as we've struggled, we've also had to help others who can't seem to move forward. Whether you're a leader, manager, mentor, or just someone who wants to be more effective in tough conversations, knowing how to cut through resistance is a critical skill. People don't just fear failure, they fear success. Staying stuck, or just refusing to advance, feels safer than the prospect of higher expectations and the weight of added responsibility.  People are complicated, and it's not as simple as offering advice or motivation. Different personalities bring different sources of resistance, and pushing too hard, or in the wrong way, can backfire. So how do you actually help? How do you guide someone toward action without overwhelming them? In this episode, we break down the principles of managing these interactions so you can help them get out of their own way without getting stuck yourself. In this practical episode, Brett covers:  How to distill and discern why they feel stuck Scripts for open-ended questions that foster agency and self-discovery A framework for building a plan focused on securing the small wins first Tools to build and sustain momentum–and when to check in Why the victim mindset is so destructive and how to set boundaries to protect yourself SPEAKER SCHOOL – Are you someone who struggles with social anxiety? How about pitching more effectively in meetings? Maybe you're already on a speaker circuit but looking to sharpen your next message? Speaker School is built for you. This two-day immersive workshop isn't just another public speaking course. It's a live training experience where you'll get real reps and detailed feedback in a supportive environment with like-minded peers who have the same goal as you - to take a massive step forward. Best of all, you'll leave with proven tools and strategies to continue improving long after the event, so you're not just better for a weekend, but for years to come.

This week, we're revisiting one of our most popular episodes, and a topic people continue to ask us about.  People pleasing. We've all seen it before (whether we recognized it or not) - constantly being agreeable, always saying yes, never setting any boundaries - all to the point of self-destruction.  If you haven't experienced it yourself, it's likely you've witnessed someone else demonstrate these behaviors.  And although it may have short-term benefits, we know that these self-destructive tendencies are not sustainable, and can lead to mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion and burnout. If this is something you think you might struggle with, or if you know someone who does, today's episode provides a wide variety of perspectives on what “people pleasing” can look like in the day to day world, a number of root causes, and a handful of different solutions you can use to help you manage these behaviors. More specifically, Brett dives into:  Quotes that hit - some of the most impactful sound bites I've heard on the topic What drives you?  How our drives can lead us into unhealthy people pleasing behaviors The downside to many of the mainstream self-help resources that address the topic The necessary self-reflection that has to take place before we can make long-lasting behavioral changes Host your own AOC Inservice - Tackle leadership challenges with tailored workshops trusted by Apple, NFL teams, and Canadian Special Forces. Gain actionable tools for managing emotions, de-escalating tension, and rebuilding culture. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com to learn more, and visit artofcoaching.com to see how we can help. AOC Private Mentoring Retreat - Join us in Phoenix for a two-day retreat focused on resetting and crushing your goals. With custom coaching, private suites, and access to exclusive facilities, this experience is built for you. Email info@artofcoaching.com to secure your spot! Improv Only Workshop - Boost problem-solving, creativity, and teamwork through fun, interactive improv games. Trusted by Google and pro sports teams, this workshop delivers skills that stick. Email info@artofcoaching.com with "Improv Only Workshop" in the subject line. Referenced Resources: E210: Assertiveness: How To Ask For What You Want & Get What You Need E207: How Perception Impacts Communication & Relationships E208: Robert Greene: Mastering Human Nature and Facing Your Flaws E200: What To Do When Trying To Help Makes Stuff Worse E176: When Positive Thinking Doesn't Work E22: The Value of Self-Doubt E130: How Understanding Drives Helps Build Buy-In Quiz: What Drives You? Online Course: Valued - mentioned in today's episode regarding opportunity cost, this life-time access course help you to identify your values and take control of your career Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

We've all been there, and watched it happen from afar.  Something happens, and the temperature starts to rise. Tempers flare, and the situation becomes heated. These moments can reveal sides of us we're not particularly proud of. How should we respond when life gets tense and others lack empathy or communicate in passive-aggressive ways? What actions can we take to navigate these difficult interactions without making things worse?  To move forward, we must find a way to counter our adrenaline, exude control, and convey compassion. Avoidance is never the answer. The only way out is through. In today's practical, real-world episode, Brett discusses: The #1 thing people ultimately want in conflict Conflict archetypes and the importance of knowing which one you are How and when to make concessions without “losing” or admitting fault Why taking a pause or a deep breath isn't the most practical advice BONUS: A crash course in how to NOT piss people off  Want to host your own AOC Inservice? As a leader, you've likely thought, “There's got to be a better way to handle this.” That's where we come in. We've helped organizations like Apple, Microsoft, NFL and MLS teams, and even the Canadian Special Forces tackle tough topics like managing culture and navigating messy internal dynamics. Each inservice is tailored to the unique needs of your team. This isn't a cookie-cutter, feel-good workshop. We deliver actionable tools to manage emotions, de-escalate tension, rebuild culture, and communicate more effectively - tools you can apply NOW. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com to learn more, and visit artofcoaching.com to see how we can help. Come spend two days with us at AOC HQ! This year, we're thrilled to open our doors in Phoenix, AZ, for an exclusive two-day retreat tailored entirely to you! With a personalized curriculum, access to our gym and pool, private suites, and the camaraderie of like-minded individuals, you'll leave with clarity, focus, and renewed energy to crush your goals. Don't let this opportunity pass you by! Email us at info@artofcoaching.com to learn more and secure your spot today. Improv Only Workshop Work in a high-stakes environment that demands constant focus? If you or your team need to disconnect and have fun—while building skills like problem-solving, active listening, and creative thinking—this workshop is for you! Top companies like Google and professional sports teams have hired US to run these workshops, using games inspired by Whose Line Is It Anyway? tailored to meet specific professional goals. They've seen tremendous value, and we're confident you will too. Interested? Email info@artofcoaching.com with "Improv Only Workshop" in the subject line for more details! Related Episodes: E310 | A Key Strategy For Avoiding Misunderstandings E294 | Why Do I Freeze Up? How To Handle Stressful Situations Like A Pro Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Have you ever heard the phrase, "no plan survives first contact," or, "everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face"?  These sayings might sound dramatic, but let's be honest, they ring true. Life has a way of throwing curveballs at us, especially when we're chasing our biggest, scariest goals. When that happens, we're often quick to rationalize, intellectualize, or make excuses for why we didn't follow through. It's human nature, but it doesn't have to be the end of the story. The real question is: how can we stay the course, even when the unexpected happens? Consistency is the truest measure of excellence and a life well lived. So, how do we tether ourselves to it? How do we make progress and avoid giving ground to the circumstances and stressors, both good and bad, that we inevitably face? In this motivational episode, we cover: The most important component of credibility and how to maintain it How to stay consistent in the areas of life where progress and growth are critical Building your own daily tracker to hold yourself accountable  Avoiding the rut and keeping momentum alive, one small task at a time Have a topic or question you'd like us to tackle on the podcast? Let us know at artofcoaching.com/question. We're always striving to make our content as impactful and helpful as possible for our loyal listeners. If you'd like our daily productivity template sent directly to your inbox for FREE, subscribe to our newsletter! Visit artofcoaching.com/begin to be the first to gain access to new courses, event dates, exclusive discounts, and new resources. Click here to stay in the loop! We're excited to announce the launch of TWO NEW EVENTS in 2025! Writer's Workshop - Whether you're crafting social media posts, blogs, or even your first book, writing doesn't have to be a solitary, soul-sucking grind. Choose between personalized 1-on-1 coaching or join a small, live, two-day workshop (limited to 10 participants) where we'll help take the pain out of penning and show you how to put your unique style onto the page. Private Retreat at AOC HQ - Join us in Phoenix, AZ, for an exclusive two-day retreat tailored entirely to you. With personalized plans, access to our gym and pool, private suites, and the camaraderie of like-minded individuals, you'll leave with clarity, focus, and renewed energy to crush your goals. Don't miss these opportunities. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com to learn more and secure your spot today! Ready to take action and improve your professional life? The Coalition is a mentoring group for anyone serious about growth—no fluff, no pretension. Whether you're leaving the corporate grind, scaling a business, or making bold career moves, this group is for you. With two monthly Zoom calls, you'll gain clarity, accountability, and the support of a driven community to help you take meaningful action. Applications for the next round starting in 2025 are open now. Apply at artofcoaching.com/coalition. If you want to uncover what truly drives you—and what moves others—take our FREE Drives Quiz at artofcoaching.com/whatdrivesyou. Unlike traditional tools like DISC or Myers-Briggs, our algorithm is designed to dig deeper, call out any BS, and even flag potential lies or aspirational answers to give you honest, actionable insights. Learn about yourself, uncover your blind spots, and start by using this game changing tool today! Related Episodes: E49 | Productivity That Matters Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

New year, new you, right?  Many of us set resolutions and goals this time of year, which is a great way to start fresh. But let's be honest: flipping the calendar doesn't magically fix everything in our lives. If we want to truly step up as leaders, spouses, parents, or high achievers, we need to confront the uncomfortable “stuff” we've been avoiding. It's about unpacking the baggage we've been dragging along, facing it head-on, and making the changes that not only improve our lives but also ripple out to everyone around us. It's not easy. In fact, it might be harder than losing that last 15 pounds or finally contributing more to your retirement—but that's why you're here. So let's get to work. In today's episode, Brett discusses: Carl Jung's concept of The Shadow and how it can help you become a better leader The true definition of culture and how to forge a resilient group identity Strategies to recognize and address your internal struggles The damage caused when avoided baggage “leaks” out onto our loved ones Today's episode touched on unpacking your inner baggage—the rationalizations, intellectualizing, and excuses that hold you back. If you're ready to take action, there's no better place to work on yourself than at one of our live workshops. Join us at The Apprenticeship in New Jersey this March, where we'll dive into human behavior, why we act the way we do, and how to overcome the obstacles we create for ourselves. Through interactive activities like improv and practical exercises, you'll walk away with tools to lead more effectively—both personally and professionally. Check out all of our 2025 dates at artofcoaching.com/events. Don't wait, spaces fill fast! Ready to take action and improve your professional life? The Coalition is a mentoring group for anyone who's serious about growth, without the fluff or pretension of a typical “mastermind.” Whether you're dreaming of leaving the corporate grind to start your own small business, running a business but ready to scale to the next level, or simply looking to make bold moves in your career, this group is for you. With two recorded Zoom calls a month, we provide a private, welcoming environment where you'll gain clarity, accountability, and a trusted community that pushes you to take real, meaningful action. This isn't just another networking group, it's a place to focus on what matters and actually get things done. Applications for the next round starting in 2025 are open now. Apply at artofcoaching.com/coalition. If you want to uncover what truly drives you—and what moves others—take our FREE Drives Quiz at artofcoaching.com/whatdrivesyou. Unlike traditional tools like DISC or Myers-Briggs, our algorithm is designed to dig deeper, call out any BS, and even flag potential lies or aspirational answers to give you honest, actionable insights. Learn about yourself, uncover your blind spots, and start influencing more effectively today! Related Episodes: E340 | Framework Bandwagons & The Illusion of Competence E344 | Tips For ‘Balancing' Work And Family Life Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

This week, we're revisiting one of our most popular episodes, because the questions about this topic just keep coming! While giving feedback is a skill many want to master, the real secret lies in learning how to receive it. ('Tis the inverse of the season) Hearing where we can improve is tough, and the common advice about giving feedback—like the “sandwich technique”—often falls flat in real-world situations. Instead of sharing surface-level tactics, we're diving into strategies that actually work, both for receiving and giving feedback effectively. In this throwback episode, we cover: The science behind why we often respond poorly to feedback Why rationalizing doesn't help (and how to stop doing it) What to say when you receive feedback you don't understand or agree with When it's appropriate to reject someone's feedback THE COALITION – Hurry, the doors are closing soon! Less than a month left to apply for the next round. The Coalition is a mentoring group designed for busy professionals ready to grow. With two recorded Zoom calls a month, we provide a private, welcoming environment where you'll gain clarity, accountability, and the support of a community that pushes you to take action. This group is for everyone—whether you're taking on new projects at work and need guidance, ready to turn your side hustle into your main gig, or an experienced professional looking to scale your business. The Coalition is your personal group of trusted advisors to help you focus on what truly matters. No fluff, just real progress. Apply now at artofcoaching.com/coalition/ READING LIST – Ever wonder what books we recommend on topics like leadership, communication, psychology, and beyond? Check out our curated reading list, which we get asked about just as much as today's topic! Visit artofcoaching.com/readinglist to dive in and find your next great read.  ALL THE FREE STUFF – If the reading list isn't quite enough for you and you want to check out our other free resources, we've got plenty to choose from! Head over to artofcoaching.com/resources to see what's available and start exploring. COME SEE US – Think the free stuff is good? Imagine the impact of connecting with us in person! Check out the 2025 Art of Coaching Live Events calendar to see what we're cooking up. Don't miss your chance to join us for a transformative experience! STAY IN THE LOOP – Sign up for our newsletter at artofcoaching.com/begin to stay updated on our latest content, exclusive discounts, and early access to events. Don't miss a thing! Related Episodes: E194 | How To Become A Better Listener E127 | How To Give The Most Effective Feedback E85 | Why Won't They Listen To Me? Reasons Your Message Isn't Getting Across Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Regret. It's a loaded word, especially around the holidays.  But it doesn't have to be as painful as it seems. Imagine the peace of mind that comes with knowing you've done everything in your power to let someone truly understand where you're coming from and why. How can we hold ourselves accountable and ensure we're not the problem in those critical moments? Maybe you're one of the lucky ones who doesn't have heavy personal issues to navigate. Instead, you want to show up for your team, lead with intention, and set bold goals for the year ahead. To do that, clear communication skills are essential, not just for closing this year but for leveling up in the next. Here's the truth: self-awareness is a gift greater than anything you'll find under the tree. This episode is packed with actionable strategies to help you be more present and intentional in every moment of your life, whether big or small. In this episode, Brett discusses: Multiple frameworks to evaluate and improve any interaction The importance of removing the mask and showing up authentically in conversations Avoidance patterns and the hidden cost of not engaging *BONUS* A script to coax someone into loosening a verbal headlock If you'd like a FREE PDF on this topic sign up for our newsletter at artofcoaching.com/begin. Not only will the PDF be sent directly to your inbox, but you'll get first access to new courses, event dates, and exclusive updates! Click here to subscribe. Give the gift of the timeless text that started it all! Fill your stockings with a signed copy of the book that launched AOC, Conscious Coaching. It's a great gift for friends, family, or even your entire staff. Bulk orders are available, and each book will be personally signed! Your support of our small business means the world to us. We're incredibly grateful for the chance to personally thank you for being part of our community! THE COALITION – Hurry, the doors are closing soon! Only one month left to apply for the next round. The Coalition is a mentoring group designed for busy professionals ready to grow. With two recorded Zoom calls a month, we provide a private, welcoming environment where you'll gain clarity, accountability, and the support of a community that pushes you to take action. This group is for everyone—whether you're taking on new projects at work and need guidance, ready to turn your side hustle into your main gig, or an experienced professional looking to scale your business. The Coalition is your personal group of trusted advisors to help you focus on what truly matters. No fluff, just real progress. Apply now at artofcoaching.com/coalition/! THE APPRENTICESHIP – We're heading to the Northeast March 22-23 for our ONLY stop in the Northeast next year! Join us at King Strength & Performance in Livingston, NJ, for a hands-on, 2-day workshop designed to transform how you lead, communicate, and connect. Whether you're looking to develop leadership skills, improve your ability to sell, navigate tough conversations, or gain a deeper understanding of strategic communication and power dynamics, this course is for you. No fluff—just real practice, coaching, and feedback. You'll leave with actionable tools, including a communication evaluation framework to handle any conversation with confidence. Discounts are available for first responders, students, and groups, plus early bird pricing is LIVE NOW until February 22, 2025. Email info@artofcoaching.com for more information and reserve your spot today! Today's episode is brought to you by our lifelong partner, Momentous. In the overwhelming world of internet gurus and conflicting advice, it's easy to get confused about what supplements you actually need. That's why we trust Momentous, a brand that stands out with products scientifically developed and rigorously tested to meet the highest standards. Their supplements are trusted by Olympians and professional athletes and hold the distinguished NSF Certified for Sport seal. We've mentioned our favorites—fish oil, whey protein, and creatine—but if you're wondering what's right for you, check out the Build My Routine feature at livemomentus.com. It simplifies the process and gives you tailored recommendations from a trusted source. Support a company that shares our values. Visit livemomentus.com and use code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15% sitewide. Stick to what's tested. Trust what's proven. Choose Momentous. Related Episodes: E350 | The End Of The Year Goal Audit You Need E351 | The Accountability Gap & Facing Uncomfortable Growth E269 | How To Ask Better Questions Referenced Media: Jumanji SNL Skit Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

There's nowhere lonelier in the world than rock bottom.  It's a place where overwhelm, anxiety, and uncertainty feel relentless, and the total weight of your burden makes moving forward seem impossible. Staying down is a choice, but it's one that you really can't afford to make. Before you pick yourself up, you need to know exactly where you are. When you recognize where the demons holding you down come from, you can see the path you need to take to fight back and regain control.  It's not about hacks, quick fixes, or the perfect framework. It's about facing the hard truth head-on, with squared shoulders, and taking action, even when the easy choice is to stay down. In this episode we cover: The three most common responses to overwhelm and a “salty” alternative How to categorize our stressors so we can divide and conquer Self discrepancy theory and making peace with our whole selves Investing in yourself and the pitfalls of “playing tight” To get the most out of this episode, and every episode in our library, download our free bonus reflection question sheets. They're designed to help you think deeper, organize your thoughts, apply what you've learned, and TAKE ACTION. You still have time to take advantage of our HOLIDAY SALE!  Visit artofcoaching.com/blackfriday to take advantage of these limited-time deals: 30% OFF COURSES – Build your skills in leadership, communication, and more at your own pace.   20% OFF MENTORING – Get personalized coaching tailored to your specific goals. 10% OFF LIVE EVENTS – Join us for hands-on workshops and connect with like-minded professionals. These are the largest discounts we offer all year. Treat yourself—or someone else this holiday season—to the gift of more meaningful connections, deeper personal growth, and becoming a more effective leader.. Looking for the perfect holiday gift? Fill your stockings with a signed copy of Conscious Coaching. It's a great gift for friends, family, or even your entire staff. Bulk orders are available, and each book will be personally signed! Your support of our small business means the world to us. We're incredibly grateful for the chance to personally thank you for being part of our community! THE APPRENTICESHIP – We're heading to the Northeast March 22-23 for our ONLY stop in the Northeast next year! Join us at King Strength & Performance in Livingston, NJ, for a hands-on, 2-day workshop designed to transform how you lead, communicate, and connect. Whether you're looking to develop leadership skills, improve your ability to sell, navigate tough conversations, or gain a deeper understanding of strategic communication and power dynamics, this course is for you. No fluff—just real practice, coaching, and feedback. You'll leave with actionable tools, including a communication evaluation framework to handle any conversation with confidence. Discounts are available for first responders, students, and groups, plus early bird pricing is LIVE NOW until February 22, 2025. Email info@artofcoaching.com for more information and reserve your spot today! Related Episodes: E301 | Time and Energy Management Tips To Keep You Sane E273 | The Productivity Myth: Tips For Making Sustainable Progress Without Sacraficing Your Sanity E263 | Putting Yourself First: Why Being Strategically Selfish Will Make You A Better Leader E49 | Productivity That Matters Referenced Resources: Our FREE Drives Quiz Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

This is not a “social media is bad” episode.  That conversation has been talked to death. The truth is, very few things are inherently good or bad—it's all in how you use them. But today's episode is about how they use you. If “they” were writing this, they'd correct me and say, it's how we allow them to use us. What makes the algorithm so effective at manipulating our sense of self worth and exploiting our deepest insecurities? Why do we fall into cycles of comparison, inadequacy, and pleasure seeking that keep us hooked? More importantly, how can we recognize these traps and reclaim control before they erode our self identity and damage our relationships? This episode is raw and unfiltered, straight from the heart and brutally honest. Brett speaks uncomfortable truths, using current cultural trends to challenge how we think and act. In this episode, Brett unpacks: Self-completion theory and why the “never enough” voice always catches our ear How to audit the “feed” that's fueling your thoughts Engaging with content intentionally and seeing things from the other side Living the life you're called to without falling for the pain avoidance lie There's so much more covered in this episode than we could ever fit into this description! To get the most out of this episode, and every episode in our library, download our free bonus reflection question sheets. They're designed to help you think deeper, apply what you've learned, and TAKE ACTION. OUR HOLIDAY/BLACK FRIDAY SALE IS STILL ON! Visit artofcoaching.com/blackfriday to take advantage of these limited-time deals: 30% OFF COURSES – Build your skills in leadership, communication, and more at your own pace.   20% OFF MENTORING – Get personalized coaching tailored to your specific goals. 10% OFF LIVE EVENTS – Join us for hands-on workshops and connect with like-minded professionals. These are the largest discounts we offer all year. Treat yourself—or someone else this holiday season—to the gift of more meaningful connections, deeper personal growth, and becoming a more effective leader.. THE COALITION - We're all busy, but we still strive to grow. How do you truly measure progress? It can be a tough pill to swallow, but it's worth remembering: intentions mean nothing without action. If you need help distinguishing between what's urgent and what truly matters in your brand or business, then this group is for you! Think of it as your personal board of advisors—no BS, just a clear framework to help you start taking action. It's virtual, so it fits easily into your schedule, and includes a retreat to a fun location! If you're tired of the excuses and ready to act on your dreams of more, fill out this form, or reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and our team will be in touch about getting you in our next round. Today's episode is brought to you by our lifelong partner, Momentous. For years, Momentous has been a brand we trust, and their loyalty—something rare these days—means the world to us as a small business. Their commitment to quality, backed by science and rigorous testing, sets them apart. We especially love their protein, creatine, fish oil, and sleep stack—all essentials in our daily routine. Support a company that stands by its values. Visit livemomentus.com and use code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15% sitewide on your first purchase. Stick to what's tested. Trust what's proven. Choose Momentous. Related Episodes: E353 | What To Do If You Feel Like You're Stagnating Referenced Articles: Wall Street Journal Article: Lazy Girl Jobs Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Lazy.  It's one of the most shameful things you can be. And it's largely a title or accusation we make of ourselves. Why do we so frequently feel utterly drained, craving time to unwind and escape reality? Is there a way to not just reclaim that time, but to structure our days more intentionally to prevent fatigue from building and spiraling into a never-ending cycle? What can we do to finally experience relief and regain control? In today's episode, Brett provides a framework to identify the warning signs, uncover the deeper issues at play, and ensure these feelings don't erode your self-worth. In this episode, we explore: Psychological insights explaining why we feel so depleted How to prioritize and structure your week to optimize work and rest Mini retreats, transition rituals, and other tools to mentally reset during the day Strategies for filling your cup and consistently showing up for YOURSELF Today's episode comes from a listener request! If you have a topic or question, submit it at artofcoaching.com/question. For deeper discussions and practical advice on this topic and more, join our private community—where you can connect directly with Brett, our Facilitators, and other like-minded individuals. OUR BLACK FRIDAY SALE IS STILL ON! Visit artofcoaching.com/blackfriday to take advantage of these limited-time deals: 30% OFF COURSES – Build your skills in leadership, communication, and more at your own pace.   20% OFF MENTORING – Get personalized coaching tailored to your specific goals. 10% OFF LIVE EVENTS – Join us for hands-on workshops and connect with like-minded professionals. These are the largest discounts we offer all year. This sale won't last long—check it out now and save big! Are you an avid listener or consumer of our content but haven't yet read the foundational book at the heart of what we do? Purchase a signed edition of Conscious Coaching, and proceeds will support the Leukemia & Lymphoma Foundation and the Alzheimer's Association. We are a small business and your support helps us continue our mission, and we're grateful to have you in our community. Related Episodes: E76 | Getting Out of Your Own Way E133 | Taking Responsibility For Your Own Growth E144 | Tips For “Balancing” Work And Family Life E149 | 5 Big Lies We Tell Ourselves That  Hinder Our Progress E151 | How To Ask For Help E259 | Understanding And Overcoming Perfectionism E331 | Dontari Poe: Mental Toughness Myths And Life TipsFollow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Have you ever felt stuck or stagnant?  That restless feeling like you're spinning your wheels, going nowhere fast, yet knowing deep down that you need to break free. Stagnation isn't just about a lack of progress; it's a state of mind that can creep into any part of your life—your career, your relationships, or even your personal growth. But the good news? Feeling stuck is a signal, not a sentence. If you're hard on yourself, hold high expectations, and tend to overthink, this episode is for you. Brett shares tips and strategies to help you break free from your own head and get back on track.  Listen in for insights on these topics and more: How to create and leverage your own “minimum viable day” Making friends with the monster and how to embrace our struggles The power of failure simulations Why using an “I Got This Done” list may be more helpful than your “To Do” list Don't miss out! Our biggest sale of the year is coming—Black Friday is just around the corner, and you'll want to be the first to know. Sign up for our newsletter to stay in the loop on exclusive updates, event dates, and first access to our best deals. Be ready when the sale drops! Subscribe here. THE APPRENTICESHIP – We're heading to the Northeast March 22-23 for our ONLY stop in the region next year! Join us at King Strength & Performance in Livingston, NJ, for a hands-on, 2-day workshop designed to transform how you lead, communicate, and connect. Whether you're looking to develop leadership skills, improve your ability to sell, navigate tough conversations, or gain a deeper understanding of strategic communication and power dynamics, this course is for you. No fluff—just real practice, coaching, and feedback. You'll leave with actionable tools, including a communication evaluation framework to handle any conversation with confidence. Discounts are available for first responders, students, and groups, plus early bird pricing is LIVE NOW until February 22, 2025. Email info@artofcoaching.com for more information and reserve your spot today! Today's episode is sponsored by Momentous, our trusted partner. When it comes to performance and safety, what you put in your body matters. Momentous products are NSF Certified for Sport, meeting the same rigorous standards required of Olympic athletes. We love their whey protein, creatine, and fish oil for their proven, science-backed results. Visit livemomentus.com and use code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15%. Stick to the basics, choose what's tested, and trust what's proven. Referenced Resource: Chaos Checklist Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

When they're your best player or most productive employee, but ALSO the biggest thorn in your side.  We've all been there and had to deal with the type. What do you do? This episode transcends the specific context of coaching a high school athlete to tackle a broader, universal challenge faced by leaders, managers, and professionals everywhere. Whether you're navigating a workplace dynamic, coaching a team, or leading a group, this discussion will equip you with strategies to help difficult individuals recognize their behavior, foster deeper connections, and ultimately drive meaningful improvement. Brett dives into actionable insights to help you set boundaries, uncover root issues, and avoid falling into the trap of enabling destructive patterns. In this episode, we explore: The importance of setting realistic expectations How to systematically funnel multiple issues to uncover the core problem The real reason behind narcissistic and emotionally immature behavior Facing conflict head-on and the danger of shielding people from consequences  Today's episode comes from a listener request! If you have a topic or question, submit it at artofcoaching.com/question. For deeper discussions and practical advice, join our private community—free from social media distractions—where you can connect with facilitators and like-minded individuals. Questions? Email us at info@artofcoaching.com. Stay in the loop – Sign up for our newsletter to get first access to new courses, event dates, and exclusive updates: Subscribe here. Attend our live events – Join us for hands-on workshops designed to enhance your leadership, communication, and relationship-building skills: Learn more here. Book Brett as a speaker – Bring Brett to your organization for a powerful, customized keynote or in-service training: Request Brett here. One-on-one mentoring – Work directly with our team to receive personalized coaching and actionable advice tailored to your goals: Apply here. Explore our virtual courses – Timeless lessons on leadership, building buy-in, conquering burnout, and overcoming blindspots to align your career with your personal goals: Enroll now. THE COALITION – Busy but eager to grow? Progress requires action, not just intentions. This group is your personal board of advisors—offering a no-nonsense framework to help you focus on what truly matters. It's virtual, fits into your schedule, and includes an exciting retreat! Ready to act on your dreams? Fill out this form, or email us at info@artofcoaching.com and our team will be in touch about getting you in our next round. THE APPRENTICESHIP - We're heading to the northeast March 22-23! Join us at King Strength & Performance in Livingston, NJ for a hands-on, 2-day workshop to sharpen your communication, leadership, and relationship-building skills. No fluff—just real practice, coaching, and feedback. You'll leave with a communication evaluation tool and other resources to tackle any conversation.  Sign up TODAY, we'll see you there! Referenced Resource: E313 | How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down or Stonewalls  Book: Conscious Coaching Free Webinar on Creating Optimal Coaching Environment

The knot in your stomach. That flush of unease when you know you've fallen short of your own standards.  The only way to truly adapt and evolve is through real vulnerability—not the gentle, polished kind from TED talks, but the raw honesty that forces you to confront hard truths about yourself.  This isn't about stepping out of your comfort zone in a clichéd way; it's about embracing the discomfort and going to war until you're fully transformed. Today's guest, Kyle Holland, knows a thing or two about facing challenges head-on. As an Exercise Physiologist with U.S. Customs and Border Protection, he's worked in some of the most demanding environments and spent 10 years with the 160th SOAR(A), a Special Operations Unit in the Army. Kyle has also trained professional athletes and MMA fighters at Mike Boyle Strength and Conditioning and worked with both the University of Iowa and Louisville's football programs. A devoted husband and father of three, Kyle brings a grounded perspective to every topic he tackles. In this episode, Brett and Kyle dive into real talk on topics including: Taking accountability for your actions when you're in the wrong How to turn your setbacks into springboards for grow with grace  Strategies to avoid being cut by the double-edged sword of strengths and weaknesses Why politics gets us so riled up  *Brett reveals a major life change and how he's choosing to respond We want to thank Kyle for joining us! Follow him on X at @CoachK_Holland and on Instagram @coachkyleholland. You can also find him across the AOC universe—at our live events and online in our digital community. AOC WORLDWIDE - If you'd like to host one of our Live Events in the United States or ABROAD, we'd love to bring AOC directly to you.  This includes Speaker School, Brand Builder, and our new Writer's Workshop. We're hitting the road and would love to partner with you to create an amazing experience for you, your team, and your community.  Reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and our team will work on the logistics. THE APPRENTICESHIP - We're coming back to the northeast March 22nd-23rd!  Join us and our friends from King Strength & Performance in Livingston, NJ for our highly interactive 2-day workshop for those looking to improve their ability to communicate, lead, and build strong relationships.  This isn't a “rah-rah,” motivational, death by powerpoint seminar.  Instead, you'll experience the practice, coaching, and feedback you need to truly grow.  And better yet, you'll get to take home a quantifiable communication evaluation tool, as well as several other tools to help you strategically approach any conversation.  Sign up TODAY.  We'll see you there! THE COALITION - We're all busy, but we still strive to grow. How do you truly measure progress? It can be a tough pill to swallow, but it's worth remembering: intentions mean nothing without action. If you need help distinguishing between what's urgent and what truly matters in your brand or business, then this group is for you! Think of it as your personal board of advisors—no BS, just a clear framework to help you start taking action. It's virtual, so it fits easily into your schedule, and includes a retreat to a fun location! If you're tired of the excuses and ready to act on your dreams of more, fill out this form, or reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and our team will be in touch about getting you in our next round.. Related Episodes: E350 | The End of The Year Goal Audit You Need E311 | Vulnerability in Leadership Referenced Resource: Book: Crystalizing Public Opinion by Edward Bernays  Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Audit. It's one of the most unsettling words in the English dictionary, carrying a connotation of fear and unease that makes people shy away from even the slightest hint of it  But, like most intimidating things, an audit becomes far less daunting once you look at it more closely. One definition of an audit is simply “a systematic review or assessment of something.” Think of it as a straightforward check-in—a moment to take stock of where you stand and where you want to go. At the end of the day, an audit is really about something we talk about time and time again: accountability. It's a chance to be honest with ourselves about what's working, what's not, and how we can move forward with intention. In today's episode, Brett guides you through practical steps to reflect, recalibrate, and get back on track before the year wraps up. If you wait until January it will be too late. Topics we'll dive into include: Assessing your goals and determining when to pivot How to  measure growth and allow yourself grace when it's lacking Identifying your needle movers and deciding if it's time to double down  Letting go of the things and people who no longer serve you Constructing an immediate action plan to get started NOW If you find this episode helpful, check out our most updated FREE Self – Reflection Guide or browse through any of our other free resources! We've also created an amazing virtual course called Blindspot designed to help you tackle the barriers keeping you from achieving your personal and professional goals. Consider joining our Mighty Networks Digital Community, where you'll gain access to information, discussion, and a group of professionals (including the AoC Team) who are serious about their development and will help you confront the biggest obstacles keeping you from achieving your goals.  For only $19.99/ month (free cancellation at any time) you can take your communication, leadership, and relationship skills to the next level.  If you'd like to host one of our Live Events in the United States or ABROAD, we'd love to bring AOC directly to you.  This includes Speaker School, Brand Builder, and our new Writer's Workshop. We're hitting the road and would love to partner with you to create an amazing experience for you, your team, and your community.  Reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and our team will work on the logistics. New to our content? Start with the foundational text that inspired it all—grab a copy of Conscious Coaching today! If you'd like to purchase a signed copy, proceeds will go to supporting the Leukemia & Lymphoma Foundation and the Alzheimer's Association. Your support of our small business means the world to us, and we're incredibly grateful to have the chance to personally thank you for being part of our community! Related Episodes: E303 | Critical Questions To Ask Yourself Before The Year Ends Recommended Resource: Take our Drives Quiz! Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb Twitter: @coach_brettb

“I'M DONE.” It's one of the most frustrating feelings in the world.  You've tried everything to fix things but just can't get through to someone. You keep hitting the wall over and over.  But what if there's a way to revisit the problem, to approach it from a different angle, and open their minds (and ours) to new possibilities?  In this compact episode, Brett gets straight to the point of navigating these messy situations, helping you zoom out to see the situation for what it truly is, and recognize when it's time to look in the mirror—ultimately leading to a resolution when it feels like all hope is lost. Key subjects covered: Diagnosing the REAL issue: the most crucial first step to solving any problem How to see into your blindspots through someone else's perspetive Two types of errors, their differences, and how to avoid both The “Triple A Approach” to ensure YOU aren't the problem Understanding the role our ego plays in the root cause of our discontent One of our missions as a company is to be a beacon for people facing challenges like those we discussed in today's episode—whether you want to become a better leader or navigate the scary realities of entrepreneurship. Our 1:1 mentoring program was built to fill that gap and provide you with a clear path to progress. Let us know how we can help. Reach out at info@artofcoaching.com. The Apprenticeship - Join us for a live Leadership Training Workshop that will make you more socially agile. When we say “leadership training,” we're not talking about cliché trust exercises or bland motivational speeches. This workshop dives into the essential skills that people often wish they'd learned earlier—how to manage tough conversations, navigate power dynamics, negotiate effectively, and drive meaningful change. If you're tired of people-problems, want to grow as a leader, or aspire to step into a leadership role, this event is for you! Join us on March 22-23, 2025, in Livingston, NJ, and take your leadership abilities to the next level. Check out our full 2025 live event schedule to find the date and location that work best for you! New to our content? Start with the foundational text that inspired it all—grab a copy of Conscious Coaching today! If you'd like to purchase a signed copy, proceeds will go to supporting the Leukemia & Lymphoma Foundation and the Alzheimer's Association. Your support of our small, family-run business means the world to us, and we're incredibly grateful to have the chance to personally thank you for being part of our community! Related Episodes: E313 | How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down or Stonewalls E343 | The Power of Indirect Influence: Strategies for Convincing Stubborn People Referenced Books: Team of Teams by Stanley McChrystal The Design of Everyday Things by Don Norman Extra Stuff: Explore our favorite books across business, leadership, psychology, and more—click here or visit artofcoaching.com/readinglist/ to get our FREE reading list. Visit our Amazon storefront for our favorite books, home office essentials, gym gear, grooming tools, and even coffee brewing essentials—all personally tested and trusted. Click here or visit amazon.com/shop/coach_brettb for all the goods. Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb Twitter: @coach_brettb

Empty Coaching.  Words and phrases that lack teeth. “Good job! You're getting there! I like that.” “We've got to get better. C'mon, step it up. That's not what I'm looking for.” We've all been guilty of letting these clichés fly out of our mouths at one point or another. But do they actually help inspire change or simply fill the silence? In today's episode, we cut through these hollow lines and explore how we, as leaders and coaches, can move beyond surface-level feedback to foster both immediate performance improvements and long-term growth..  Brett and our guest, Tex McQuilkin, get to the heart of what makes feedback impactful—what to say, when to say it, and how to become the kind of leader the world truly needs. Tex, a national-level presenter, coach, and content creator, brings his expertise as a certified strength and conditioning specialist and holds a Master's in health behavior change. He's led seminars in 16 countries, working with everyone from professional athletes to Navy SEALs. Today's show is a very fun and honest conversation between two friends and colleagues on a range of topics including: Augmented feedback: the different types and how to make each one impactful The #1 tactic any coach or leader can use to improve IMMEDIATELY Shame as a motivator and our ability to harness negative emotions How treating our thoughts as “tourists” can help us defeat our negativity bias And *BONUS*: What Michael Myers can teach us about coaching We want to thank Tex for joining us! Follow him on Instagram @mcquilkin, check out his new podcast, Captains & Coaches, and catch him across the Art Of Coaching universe—whether at our live events, in our mastermind group The Coalition, or online in our digital community. The Apprenticeship - Become more socially agile with our live Leadership Training Workshop. When we say “leadership training,” we are not referring to cheesy corny trust-falls, motivational speak, or anything of the sorts.  We are talking about the things that people say they wish they would have known earlier in their career and life - how to navigate difficult people and conversations, power dynamics, negotiations, and implement change. If you deal with people-problems at all, if you're in a leadership position or want to be in a leadership role, if you want LESS DRAMA - you need to get to this event! Check out our entire 2025 live event schedule for the best date and location for you! New to our content? Start with the foundational text that inspired it all—grab a copy of Conscious Coaching today! If you'd like to purchase a signed copy, proceeds will go to supporting the Leukemia & Lymphoma Foundation and the Alzheimer's Association. Your support of our small, family-run business means the world to us, and we're incredibly grateful to have the chance to personally thank you for being part of our community! Referenced Episodes: E342 | Unpacking The Controversy of Nike's Latest Ad Referenced Article: What Shamu Taught Me About A Happy Marriage

Our lives are not the movies.  When sudden, unpredictable events like family hardships or natural disasters strike, it can feel like we're living in one. But more often, the changes in our stories are subtle.  The turmoil is internal, and we're left to wrestle with our challenges quietly, on our own.  Today's guest is no stranger to this real-life push and pull. She knows what it's like to juggle the expectations of motherhood, navigate life transitions, and manage the chaos that comes with it all. Dr. Emma Laird, PT, DPT, OCS is a board-certified physical therapist at Pro Kinetix in Oakland, California, specializing in orthopedic care. She earned her Doctorate in Physical Therapy from MGH Institute of Health Professions and is a certified Orthopedic Clinical Specialist. Emma brings a holistic approach to helping her clients return to their favorite activities while promoting lifelong movement health. A Bay Area native, Emma is passionate about sports and strength training, values she learned early on from her active upbringing. When she's not working, she enjoys spending time with her fiancé, their dog, exploring local breweries, and staying active outdoors. Today's show is a real-world conversation on topics such as: Maintaining a healthy connection with your partner during a season of change The myth of our “best self” and how optimal is fluid Managing internal and external pressures on your career during family changes  Redefining success and recalibrating your goals to align with your new life path The power of showing up consistently as your authentic, imperfect self We want to thank Emma for joining us! If you're in the Oakland, CA area and need help recovering from an injury, visit her and her team at Pro Kinetix. You can also find her in our Art Of Coaching universe facilitating one of our live events and online in our digital community. The Apprenticeship - Bottom line, this is for anyone who coaches, mentors, or helps others in any capacity. It's for leaders who aren't just talking about personal growth but are ready for a different type of challenge. Our live leadership training workshop goes beyond the usual clichés. No cheesy trust falls or empty motivational speeches. We dive into the real skills you wish you'd learned earlier in life: navigating tough conversations, handling difficult people, managing power dynamics, and driving real change. If you deal with people-problems at all, are in a leadership position, or want to step into one—and if you're ready to turn personal growth from lip service into real commitment, THIS EVENT IS FOR YOU! Check out our entire 2025 live event schedule for the best date and location for you! Related Episodes: E313 | How to Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down and Stonewalls E339 | Scott and Jamie Livingston: Overcoming Challenges In Relationships

We've all heard the motivational phrase, “Failure isn't an option.” It sounds inspiring, but is it really true?  Failure, in reality, is an option—often chosen in the form of inaction, silence, or the unwillingness to engage. How many times have you held back an idea, avoided speaking up, or let a moment pass because of the fear of judgment? Playing it safe is extremely tragic. In today's episode, we're diving into the cost of silence and the hidden price we pay by not putting ourselves out there. What's really stopping us from stepping forward? And what can we do to shift from apprehension to action?  In this tough love episode, Brett takes the gloves off and gets real about: The evolutionary roots behind our fear of rejection How our ego is the true source behind our hesitation to engage Criticism, its inevitability, and how to turn it into data Harnessing pride as a shield to protect against self-devaluation Navigating the fear of success versus the fear of failure Referenced Episodes: E259 | Understanding and Overcoming Perfectionism E105 | Overcoming Imposter Phenomenon Recommended Resources: Imposter Phenomenon Manual: If you struggle with imposter phenomenon, we created a free manual that many people have found to be super-helpful. It's become one of our most downloaded resources, check it out! Podcast Reflections: Did you know that we create worksheets to help you apply the lessons for each episode? To receive full access to all the reflections from previous and future episodes, click here. Mighty Networks Digital Community: If you'd like to test your ideas with Brett and our Facilitators, while connecting with like-minded individuals, consider joining our private digital community! For just $19.99/month (with free cancellation anytime), you'll enhance your communication, leadership, and relationship skills. Don't miss out—join us today! If you'd like to become more confident in front of a group and learn how to deliver a more potent message, Speaker School is the perfect event for you! Whether you're someone who needs to overcome the debilitating effect of social anxiety, or you're a well-practiced TED presenter, this is the perfect place to get some heads-down time to focus and improve, no matter where you are in your journey. This live 2 day experience not only gives you the knowledge you need to create a logical and clear presentation, but provides you with a safe environment to fail, filled with people who want you to succeed and who will give you the feedback and encouragement you need to improve.  Join us in Phoenix, AZ on October 12-13th! THIS IS OUR LAST CALL.   SECURE YOUR SPOT BEFORE IT CLOSES! Today's episode is sponsored by our lifelong partner Momentous. You need to pay attention to what you put in your body. For safety and performance, it's crucial to follow three key principles: stick to what works, choose products that are rigorously tested, and rely on those rooted in science. Momentus products are NSF Certified for Sport, meaning they meet the highest quality control standards—the same required of athletes competing in the Olympics. We particularly love their whey protein, creatine, and fish oil. Visit livemomentus.com and enter the code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15% on anything found on their website. Don't compromise when it comes to your supplements. Stick to the basics, choose what's been tested, and trust what's proven.

Why would someone hold on to a false or inaccurate belief even when you've laid out all the facts and logic in front of them? You couldn't have been more clear in presenting your argument! Your reasoning is solid, but maybe it's not the absence of evidence that's preventing them from changing their perspective—it might be the way the information was delivered... Today's show is one of our keystone episodes, unlocking why constructive communication often fails to get off the ground. Brett is joined by Ali Kershner in-studio for a deep dive into the tactics that will help you get your point across more effectively and give you the best chance to change someone's behavior.  Grab a pen and download the reflection questions because this episode is hands-on and loaded with tactical information and strategies you can implement at work, home and anywhere you deal with people.   You'll learn: How to identify the areas you're stubborn in and need to change The different types of persuasion and the impact of each How time can impact a person's decision making  Gaining perspective through role playing The tactics and strategies behind our popular online courses and in person events that you can use to relate to the drive of the individual you are trying to convince  IF YOU'VE BEEN WAITING, THE TIME IS NOW - If you know you aren't as good as you could be when speaking to an audience, it's time to step up and make a change. Speaker School is the ideal place to get better in front of people, regardless of the situation.  This live 2 day experience not only gives you the knowledge you need to create a logical and clear presentation, but provides you with a safe environment to fail, filled with people who want you to succeed and who will give you the feedback and encouragement you need to improve.  Join us in Phoenix, AZ on October 12-13th!.  THIS IS OUR LAST CALL,  SECURE YOUR SPOT BEFORE IT CLOSES! THE COALITION - We're all busy, but we still strive to grow. How do you truly measure progress? It can be a tough pill to swallow, but it's worth remembering: intentions mean nothing without action. If you need help distinguishing between what's urgent and what truly matters in your brand or business, then THE COALITION is for you. Think of it as your personal board of advisors—no BS, just a clear framework to help you start taking action. It's virtual, so it fits easily into your schedule, and includes a retreat to a fun location! If you're tired of the excuses and ready to act on your dreams of more, fill out this form, or reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and our team will be in touch.

It's the holy grail of mental health and wellness for many people. Almost all of us, at one point or another, have chased the elusive 'work-life balance,' hoping to find the perfect harmony between our careers and personal lives. But is 'balance' really the right word? Perhaps it's a misnomer that oversimplifies the complexity of juggling work and family. Today's topic arose from a conversation between Brett and several of our facilitators about the push and pull that occurs between career and family. It's a concept we all struggle with in some capacity, and in this episode, we'll share insights from that discussion along with practical strategies for managing the demands of work and family. Tune in as we get real on a this common struggle, as we explore: The misnomer of  “balance” and how to define it for yourself How guilt influences decisions in your professional life Realigning your goals to reflect what truly matters How to recognize if the obstacle in your was is YOU - and what to do about it Put Us On Blast: We want to hear your thoughts! Let us know by reaching out to us on social media or shooting us an email at info@artofcoaching.com. We want to add more value to our audience above everything else. We love feedback and want to know how we can help YOU. Mighty Networks Digital Community: Want to join conversations like the one we had today and interact directly with Brett and our Facilitators? Join our digital community and connect with like-minded people dedicated to personal growth. For just $19.99/month (with free cancellation anytime), you'll elevate your communication, leadership, and relationship skills. Don't miss out—  Join us today! Subscribe & Support: If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe to the Art of Coaching Podcast on your favorite platform. Share it with a friend, and leave us a review—it helps the show grow! Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb Twitter: @coach_brettb SPEAKER SCHOOL IS ALMOST HERE - Is there a message stuck in your head that you know needs to get out into the world?  Maybe you'd just like to get better in front of your coworkers at weekly staff meetings. Either way, Speaker School is the ideal place to get better in front of people, regardless of the situation.  This live 2 day experience not only gives you the knowledge you need to create a logical and clear presentation, but provides you with a safe environment to fail, filled with people who want you to succeed and who will give you the feedback and encouragement you need to improve.  Join us in Phoenix, AZ on October 12-13th!.  THIS IS OUR LAST CALL,  SECURE YOUR SPOT BEFORE IT CLOSES! Recommended Resource: Take our Drives Quiz!

“They just won't listen. No matter how clearly I explain it, they refuse to see my side of things. It's like talking to a brick wall." Have you ever felt like this, like you're hitting a dead end with someone who just won't budge? Influencing people is an art, one that often requires more than just logic and facts, especially in today's world where information has been turned into a kind of religion willing to anoint whoever can wield it more skillfully.  In today's episode, we'll revisit several past topics and connect the dots to reveal an alternative way to move the ball forward. Oftentimes, if we try to bull our way straight ahead, we're met with the most resistance. In reality, an indirect route can be like finding a perfect gap in the defense—avoiding tackles and making the smoothest run toward the end zone. Topics Discussed: The necessity of understanding power dynamics and influence tactics How penetrating someone's ring of influence can help your cause Coalition building and the true strength in numbers when voices align Invoking reciprocity and how deep-seated trust begins with giving I GET IT, NOW HOW DO I GET THIS TO WORK FOR ME? - Communication is something none of us will ever perfect, but how do you expect to get better if you don't hold yourself accountable and do something to get better at it? We'd love for you to join us at one of our Apprenticeship workshops, where you'll not only gain the knowledge and understanding you need to navigate the messy realities of relationships and leadership, but more importantly, you'll get hands on experience working through your specific situation and gain the perspective of the AOC team and other individuals looking to improve themselves.  We just solidified two new dates for 2025! We'll kick off the year on the East Coast in March and keep the ball rolling back in Phoenix in June. Keep an eye on our Live Event Schedule here, and if you have any questions, schedule a free discovery call. We also offer 1-On-1 Mentoring if you prefer a more personalized approach.  Either way, THIS IS WHAT WE DO and we want to help!  Reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and a member of our team will be in touch. SPEAKER SCHOOL IS ALMOST HERE - Is there a message stuck in your head that you know needs to get out into the world?  Maybe you'd just like to get better in front of your coworkers at weekly staff meetings. Either way, Speaker School is the ideal place to get better in front of people, regardless of the situation.  This live 2 day experience not only gives you the knowledge you need to create a logical and clear presentation, but provides you with a safe environment to fail, filled with people who want you to succeed and who will give you the feedback and encouragement you need to improve.  Join us in Phoenix, AZ on October 12-13th!.  THIS IS OUR LAST CALL,  SECURE YOUR SPOT BEFORE IT CLOSES! Referenced Episodes: E202 | Why Facts And Logic Don't Change Our Minds - If you're unfamiliar with influence tactics or need a refresher give this a listen! E240 | The 4 Styles Of Communication - At a baseline level you should understand the different components of communication. E178 | Kindra Hall: Choose Your Story, Change Your Life - Storytelling is the oldest form of communication. Learn to harness it for good. E152 | Michael Tucker: How Storytelling And Self-Awareness Shape Who We Become - Another phenomenal episode on storytelling if you want to deep dive on the subject. E85 | Why Won't They Listen To Me? Reasons Your Message Isn't Getting Across - If you've ever asked yourself this question in frustration, you'll find answers here. We are so proud to be sponsored today by our longtime partner Momentous. Whether you're a corporate executive who wants to feel better, a member of the military who needs to perform in the most extreme environments, or somewhere in between, Momentous has something FOR YOU!  We particularly love their unflavored whey protein, magnesium, and fish oil. Visit livemomentus.com and enter the code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15% on your first order and any subscription you sign up for. Control the controllables and take charge of your health.

We've all been there. Our significant other is struggling and we ask “how can I help?”  While this is well-intentioned, is there anything we can do proactively to meet these challenges head on, before things completely unravel? Conversely, how can we express our own needs and clearly address what's really bothering us, so we're both on the same page? If you've been in this situation—and let's face it, we all have—then you've come to the right place. Today's episode is packed with practical advice and exercises that you can start doing TODAY with your spouse or partner right away to enhance your relationship. In this show, we're diving into a no-nonsense, actionable discussion on: “Hot zones” and how to tell your partner you're in one Defining your role as a helper vs. focusing on specific actions The importance of clearly defining your relationship essentials How to lean on your core values and beliefs when you need a win YOU AREN'T TOO LATE! - This episode is a sneak peek into our 30 Day Relationship Challenge that just kicked off. Bottom line, no one has a perfect relationship, no matter what it looks like on the surface. Growth begins with acknowledging that we can be better and progress happens when you roll up your sleeves and take action. Whether you're single, married, or would just like to communicate better with your kids, we can help enrich the relationships that mean the most to you.  What could be more valuable than that? No travel is required, you can work through this on the couch with your significant other (glass of wine optional) at your own pace. Visit artofcoaching.com/relationship, we're in the thick of it - JOIN US! SPEAKER SCHOOL - Is there a message stuck in your head that you know needs to get out into the world?  Maybe you'd just like to get better in front of your coworkers at the weekly staff meeting.  Either way, Speaker School is the ideal place to get better in front of people, regardless of the situation!  This live 2 day experience not only gives you the knowledge you need to create a logical and clear presentation, but provides you with a safe environment to fail, filled with people who want you to succeed and who will give you the feedback and encouragement you need to improve.  Join us in Phoenix, AZ on October 12-13th!.  We keep the number of participants small, so make sure to secure your spot today! WE ADMIT, WE'RE ALL OVER THE PLACE… We recently received feedback from a loyal customer who mentioned they'd love to return to an event but were confused by our constant stream of new offerings. We want to assure you that our mission remains the same. However, we've evolved in response to your requests and suggestions to better meet your needs. If you'd like to see what we're up to and how we can support you, check out the links below. Feel free to email us at info@artofcoaching.com with any questions or for more information on discounts, payment plans, and more. Quick Links On Where You Can Find Us Live Events - Nothing replaces an immersive, in-person experience! Digital Courses - Lifetime access you can work through at YOUR own pace on YOUR schedule. 1-On-1 Mentoring - Personalized coaching tailored to your needs. 30 Day Relationship Challenge - A virtual guide to improving relationships, at our lowest price point!  Related Episodes: E339 | Overcoming Challenges in Relationships E330 | Unmet Needs In Relationships: How to Express What You Really Want We are so proud to be sponsored today by our longtime partner Momentous. You need to pay attention to what you put in your body. For safety and performance, it's crucial to follow three key principles: stick to what works, choose products that are rigorously tested, and rely on those rooted in science. Momentus products are NSF Certified for Sport, meaning they meet the highest quality control standards—the same required of athletes competing in the Olympics. We particularly love their whey protein, creatine, and fish oil. Visit livemomentus.com and enter the code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15% on anything found on their website. Who knows, their products might give you the power to “throw a football over them mountains.” Hut hut hike!

“Before tackling this problem, let me figure out how to make this simple.  It's really not that complicated…” Have you ever taken this approach when dealing with a difficult issue with your family, friends, staff, or coworkers? While this tactic might work in some situations, most complex problems require solutions that reductive thinking simply can't provide. Library and bookstore shelves are brimming with management and leadership books packed with "how-to" lists, buckets, quadrants, and countless linear methods that promise to solve problems easily and efficiently, and take your people and business to the next level. From simplifying decision-making to categorizing leadership styles, these books often present a structured, step-by-step approach that appeals to those looking for quick fixes and plug and play templates. Whether it's procrastination, avoidance, or just the allure of a quick fix, it's time to roll up our sleeves and confront why we keep dipping into this well of oversimplified solutions—because, as Mike Tyson said, everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face. And when the real challenges hit, those tidy answers rarely stand up to the blow. In today's podcast, we're taking the gloves off and having a frank conversation about:  Framework hopping, what it is and why people do it Why exposure alone NEVER equates to real skill or competence The long term effects of over relying on simple fixes to solve complex problems How leaning into the thing you're avoiding is the best path forward As always, we love your feedback! Happy, sad, mad, indifferent (which isn't very helpful, if you want to get better at giving feedback check out this episode) send it all to info@artofcoaching.com.  *LAST CALL* 30-Day Relationship Challenge - Relationships shape our lives. From our families to the workplace, our happiness is directly tied to the people who mean the most to us . This Fall we're launching a resource that hits EXTREMELY close to home. It will be completely virtual.New content will be dropped each week and you'll be invited to join our virtual happy hours with our team so we can navigate life's challenges together. We'll also be leveraging the knowledge of a licensed expert in family and relationship therapy. Visit artofcoaching.com/relationship-challenge/ it starts in 1 WEEK, SIGN UP TODAY!  Who Are We & What Do We Do - Whether this is your first time tuning into the podcast or your hundredth, we're thrilled to have you here. At Art of Coaching, we specialize in leadership development—the real-world, hard stuff you won't find in books. We're not here for those seeking generic solutions or cookie-cutter checklists for changing workplace culture or relationships. Instead, we offer highly practical resources and courses designed to help you navigate power dynamics and people—even when the person standing in your way is the one in the mirror. Have questions or want to know more about our discounts or payment plans? Email us at info@artofcoaching.com. Quick Links To Learn More About Our Services Live Events - Nothing replaces an immersive, in-person experience! Digital Courses - Lifetime access you can work through at YOUR own pace on YOUR schedule. 1-On-1 Mentoring - Personalized coaching tailored to your needs. Today's episode is sponsored by our lifelong partner Momentous. You need to pay attention to what you put in your body. For safety and performance, it's crucial to follow three key principles: stick to what works, choose products that are rigorously tested, and rely on those rooted in science. Momentus products are NSF Certified for Sport, meaning they meet the highest quality control standards—the same required of athletes competing in the Olympics. We particularly love their whey protein, creatine, and fish oil. Visit livemomentus.com and enter the code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15% on anything found on their website. Don't compromise when it comes to your supplements. Stick to the basics, choose what's been tested, and trust what's proven.

The quality of our relationships is the #1 determining factor in our overall happiness and well-being. Yet, how often do we hear real people having honest conversations about the challenges, complexities, and joys of solving the puzzle of truly connecting with those who are closest to us?  This week, Scott and Jaime Livingston join us for a candid conversation about the messy realities of relationships. Whether you come from a harmonious family with a white picket fence or one marked by tension and turmoil, there's something in this episode for you. Scott is an Athletic Therapist, Master Performance Coach and Neuro Reconditioning Professional. He has 35+ years of practice in the human performance industry working in every conceivable performance environment. He is also the host of the groundbreaking life journey podcast, Leave Your Mark found on all streaming services.  Jaime is also an Athletic Therapist and Master Performance Coach and has been working in the field of human performance for twenty-five years. Jaime has trained and re-built athletes at every level including professional athletes, Olympic athletes, and college athletes, as well as highly motivated recreational athletes.  Together Jaime and Scott co-founded the practice of Neuro Reconditioning which they teach and share throughout the world while co-parenting their amazing daughter Gretchen. During our conversation we discuss:  The danger of molding yourself to fit someone else's expectations Why expressing your needs clearly is so important How to ensure you and your partner are growing together, NOT apart What the path to true reconciliation looks like when things go awry Save Big on Our Summer Sale! Whether you're a strength coach looking to network and navigate your career, or someone interested in psychology and building trust, WE CAN HELP! If you're thinking of venturing out on your own and testing the waters of entrepreneurship, we've got templates to help you get off the ground. Trusted by units in the US Military, Firefighters, the Boys and Girls Club of America, Professional Sports Teams, and Universities, our courses, live events, and mentoring are available now at the largest discount of the year. Visit artofcoaching.com/summersale/ for the entire list, hurry it's ending soon - DON'T MISS OUT! Quick Links to Sale Digital Courses (30% OFF) - Use code: SUM30 at checkout Bundle Digital Courses Bought In and Valued (40% OFF) - *LIMITED TIME OFFER* 1-On-1 Mentoring (20% OFF) - Use code: SUM20 at checkout Live Events (10% OFF) - Use Code: SUM10 at checkout Speaker School - Warren Buffet has said that Public Speaking is the “single greatest skill to boost your career and self worth, and is an asset that will last for 50 to 60 years.”  It also happens to be most people's biggest fear, which Buffet said if unaddressed “will also last you 50 to 60 years.” At Speaker School we help those who need to slay their inner imposter, who would just like to get better at running staff meetings at work, to those who would like to get paid to deliver keynotes.  We're holding one more Speaker School before the end of the year in Phoenix, AZ October 12-13. Take advantage of our EARLY BIRD DISCOUNT AND SAVE UP TO $200!  Hurry though, the deal expires August 31st!  Click here to reserve your spot. This is one of our most popular live events and fills up fast.  We limit the number of participants to make sure you get the practice and feedback you deserve. See you there! 30-Day Relationship Challenge - Relationships shape our lives. From our families to the workplace, our happiness is directly tied to the people who mean the most to us . This Fall we're launching a resource that hits EXTREMELY close to home. It will be completely virtual.New content will be dropped each week and you'll be invited to join our virtual happy hours with our team so we can navigate life's challenges together. We'll also be leveraging the knowledge of a licensed expert in family and relationship therapy. Visit artofcoaching.com/relationship-challenge/ it starts in two weeks, sign up today!  Referenced Episodes: E128 | ScottLivingston: How To Bring More Value To Others  E142 | Nate Hoffmeister: Dealing With Divorce: A Leader's Guide

Have you ever thought, "I'd love to do that, but I just don't have the money," or do you have interests or passions outside of your professional life that you've suppressed in order to advance your career?  Maybe you've pushed aside personal goals, believing the myth that true success requires unwavering focus on your career alone. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that anything outside of work is a distraction. But what if those very experiences—those that broaden our perspective, teach us new skills, and enrich our lives—could actually enhance your career as well? This week's guest refuses to be confined to one distinct category. Taylor Evernden is the owner and director of ORKA Performance in Calgary, AB, Canada. Previously, he served as the Head of Sport Science and Strength & Conditioning for the Calgary Foothills Soccer Club, where he oversaw the athletic development of U12-18 teams, as well as the W League and USL PDL. In addition to his extensive experience in athletic performance, Taylor has a keen interest in ACL rehabilitation and general return-to-sport rehab. In this episode we venture deep into the jungle to explore:  The myth that we need to specialize to excel How waiting for the 'right time' can lead to missed opportunities Our alternative selves and determining how much to reveal to others Using vulnerability to enhance your effectiveness as a leader LAST CHANCE to Save Big on Our Summer Sale! Don't miss out on 30% off all our online courses and bundles with the code: SUMMER30. Whether you're a strength coach looking to network and navigate the nuances of your career, or someone interested in psychology and building trust, these courses can help. If you're thinking of venturing out on your own and testing the waters of entrepreneurship, we've got templates to help you get off the ground. Trusted by units in the US Military, Firefighters, the Boys and Girls Club of America, Professional Sports Teams, and Universities, our courses are available now at the largest discount of the year. These on-demand, masterclass-style videos allow you to learn at your own pace, with lifetime access included. Visit artofcoaching.com/sale - Act now before the sale ends! MENTORING is included in Our Summer Sale! If you have questions about staff development, leadership, running a business, or becoming a speaker, our online mentoring program is here to help. We offer an executive coaching program where our team can connect with you anywhere in the world via Zoom. It's 100% private and protected by NDAs, allowing us to dive as deep into your challenges as you want to go. Every leader needs a coach! Visit artofcoaching.com/mentoring and let our team push you further. 30-Day Relationship Challenge - Relationships shape our lives. From our families to the workplace, our happiness is directly tied to the people who mean the most to us . This Fall we're launching a resource that hits EXTREMELY close to home. It will be completely virtual.New content will be dropped each week and you'll be invited to join our virtual happy hours with our team so we can navigate life's challenges together. We'll also be leveraging the knowledge of a licensed expert in family and relationship therapy. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com, and tell us you'd love more details on the 30 day challenge and we'll send you more info.  Today's episode is sponsored by our lifelong partner Momentous. You need to pay attention to what you put in your body. For safety and performance, it's crucial to follow three key principles: stick to what works, choose products that are rigorously tested, and rely on those rooted in science. Momentus products are NSF Certified for Sport, meaning they meet the highest quality control standards—the same required of athletes competing in the Olympics. We particularly love their whey protein, creatine, and fish oil. Visit livemomentus.com and enter the code BRETT15 at checkout to save 15% on anything found on their website. Don't compromise when it comes to your supplements. Stick to the basics, choose what's been tested, and trust what's proven.

Do you think mentorship is a straightforward, progressive process? Think again. We envision that ideal student-teacher relationship or the picturesque blacksmith-apprentice image, but in reality, things just don't work that way. People are complex and being an effective mentor requires a playbook that goes far beyond a cookie-cutter list of ideal traits.  In this episode we're turning back the clock and rediscovering the hard truths of what it takes to be a great mentor. We examine: Setting someone up for success vs. hand-holding Reciprocity and the NEED for collaboration Challenging comfort zones through accountability How to say the hard stuff and promote self-reliance  Mentoring - One of our missions as a company was to be a beacon for people who need help becoming a better leader, building more meaningful relationships, and navigating the scary realities of entrepreneurship. Our 1:1 mentoring program was built to fill that gap and give you a clear path to progress. Schedule a free discovery call with our team, or email us at info@artofcoaching.com. 30-Day Relationship Challenge - Do you feel disconnected from a friend or loved one? Are you at an impasse on an issue that, if resolved, could relieve tension and clear a path that leads to more happiness? This fall we're launching a resource to help you with just that, and it's also our most affordable offering yet. No travel - 100% virtual. Convenient for anyone with a busy schedule. Whether you're interested in strategies to be a better spouse, a more interactive parent, or just a better overall human, this challenge is for you. It's designed for anyone who has imperfect relationships (cough cough, everyone). The only requirements are to be 100% real and willing to open up and push forward, wherever that takes you. Email us at info@artofcoaching.com, and we'll take it from there! THE NEXT BOOK IS COMING! Stay up to date on release information and bonuses by visiting artofcoaching.com/book. This will not be your run-of-the-mill leadership book. We only speak truth here and are dedicated to delivering a message you need to hear, and how to put it into ACTION. This book will do both. Today's episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. What are your self-care non-negotiables? Is your schedule packed with kid activities, big work projects, and more? Therapy isn't just for those on the brink of catastrophe; it's also for those who want to optimize their lives and stay on the right track. Therapy can be a critical resource to ground yourself and work through thoughts, feelings, and ideas. BetterHelp offers convenient, flexible, and entirely online therapy. Whether adding therapy to your routine or changing your current approach, BetterHelp matches you with a licensed therapist tailored to your needs. Take the step towards a better you with BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/aoc to save 10% on your first month! Recommended Resource: YouTube Video: 8 Things You Should Look For In a Mentor (And How to Reach Out) Check out the rest of our channel for hours of extra content!

“How can I do this better?”  Tackling large projects, like writing a book, can be incredibly daunting. It's easy to feel overwhelmed by your own ideas. How can we overcome this and get our thoughts onto paper? What tools or applications can help us stay organized and productive while assembling our project or book? In this episode we discuss: Why your workspace setup NEEDS to reflect your process Tools for capturing thoughts and ideas to convert into content  Integrating word mapping into your creative ecosystem Transitioning from harvester to producer through accountability To stay up to date on release information and bonuses for Brett's next book, visit artofcoaching.com/book.  Whether you're a longtime listener or are new to us, this work will speak to you.  More to come! If there are other topics you'd like us to dive into in our podcast, please let us know!  If you have a specific topic you'd like us to cover, reach out at info@artofcoaching.com or submit your questions HERE. Everyone needs a Coach.  Whether you're looking to write a book, need help turning your passion into a viable business, or are having trouble navigating a challenging relationship, We can help!  Our 1:1 mentoring program was built to help you navigate the messy realities of life. Schedule a free discovery call with our team, or  you can get in touch with us directly by email at info@artofcoaching.com. The Coalition - FINAL CALL before we kick off one of our most in-depth and impactful offerings of the year! If you want to connect with a group of like-minded entrepreneurs who are eager to share ideas and help you grow your brand or business authentically, you've found your tribe. This virtual program fits seamlessly into any schedule and even includes a retreat to an exciting location. If you're ready to stop making excuses, fill out this form and our team will be in touch. Mighty Networks Digital Community: Our digital community where you can gain access to information, discussion, and a group of professionals (including the AoC Team) who are serious about their development.  For only $19.99/ month (free cancellation at any time) you can take your communication, leadership, and relationship skills to the next level.  Join us today! Related Episodes: E322 | A Better Way To Organize Your Thoughts: Part 1 Recommended Resource: AO Amazon Storefront - Our recommended tools for EVERYTHING!

“What can I do to help?”  Have you ever been asked that question and felt like throwing your hands up in frustration? Maybe it's a question you ask your team at work or your family at home. Whether you have specific needs or genuinely want to help others, how can we express ourselves more clearly and get to the heart of the issue? How can we show up in a way that makes an impact? Some of the key topics covered in this episode are: Essential details for determining our suitability to help Principles of being a good advocate How to hold ourselves and others accountable for lack of reciprocation The damaging effects of inaction and the roles of fear and self-worth 30 Day Relationship Challenge - Today's podcast delved into the importance of expressing ourselves and our needs, and how to better support others. If you've ever felt unheard, under-appreciated, disrespected or overlooked - we can help! Email us at info@artofcoaching.com and just say “interested.”  As a loyal podcast listener, you'll be the first to know as we release more details. This is our most affordable product yet, you don't want to miss this! The Coalition - FINAL CALL before we kick off one of our most in depth and impactful offerings of the year. If you've been wanting to join a business mastermind group to hold you accountable and inspire you to reach for more, you've found your tribe. It's virtual, fitting seamlessly into any schedule, and even includes a retreat to a fun location! If you're tired of excuses, fill out this form and our team will be in touch. Today's episode is sponsored by Momentous. If you're someone who has been wanting to improve your health for a while, but are intimidated by a lot of things you see in the fitness industry and are searching for a brand you can trust, look no further. Momentous puts their products through rigorous testing, so you know what is on the label is what you're putting in your body. We love their Omega-3, Creatine, and recently restocked Multivitamin. They're a longtime partner of ours for good reason - they believe in the same things we do.  Fundamentals NOT fluff.  Visit livemomentus.com/brett to SAVE 15%! Referenced Material: E93: The Sin of Self Promotion

We've heard it all before. Whether in sports or business, high achievers think differently than we do.  They've developed an internal flow chart for solving problems and regulating their emotions, creating a winning machine. Is this really how they do it? What tips can we pull from the ever-expanding mental performance world to improve our performance without falling into gimmicks and wasting time? Today's guest has not only walked the walk, but has done it at the highest level. Her name is Priscilla Tallman and she's a Mental Performance Consultant who holds a Masters' Degree in Clinical Psychology and has authored two nationally published performance journals that feature essential tools for athletes, coaches, and leaders. Priscilla began her journey as an athlete, playing volleyball at the University of Georgia where she earned numerous accolades including SEC Freshman of the Year, SEC Player of the Year, and was inducted into UGA's Circle of Honor.  She was also a member of the USA National Team and the World University Games Team. In today's conversation we discuss: How to confront the guilt and shame of failing to meet our own standards What it takes to earn someone's genuine trust Strategies to employ when your best self starts to slip The benefits of integrating suppressed parts of your personality We'd like to thank Priscilla for joining us on today's show.  Visit her website priscillatallman.com to learn more about her and what she can do to improve your performance.  You can also follow her on Instagram @spikedr3, and pick up any of her journals here. 30 Day Relationship Challenge - If you want to improve your relationships, we have something big coming for you.  Whether you're single, married, or just dealing with some inner conflict, THIS WILL HELP.  Financial issues, communicating with kids, intimacy - all of it.  Email us at info@artofcoaching.com and just say “interested.”  As a loyal podcast listener, you'll be the first to know as we release more details. The Coalition - Our business mastermind group LAUNCHES AGAIN NEXT MONTH!  If you're looking for a team of like-minded people to hold you accountable and help you break through barriers by sharing lessons from past experiences, you've found your tribe. It's virtual, fitting seamlessly into any schedule, and even includes a retreat to a fun location! If you're tired of excuses, fill out this form and our team will be in touch. Referenced Resources: Conscious Coaching Drives Quiz Susan Cain Book

That spun out of control.  I don't think they quite understand.  Would things have turned out different if I had approached it another way? Have you ever felt like that after an interaction?  None of us are perfect communicators, so chances are that you have.  It is extremely frustrating when things go wrong, especially when we have the knowledge and think we are adequately prepared to handle it.  In order to own the moment, you need to understand: Why not all practice is the same and what elements to include to improve transferability The role contextual interference plays and how to account for it  How to lean into constraints and leverage them for growth What to do if you get stuck and how social scrimmaging can save you 30 Day Relationship Challenge - If you're someone who wants to get better at relationships, we have something in the works for you.  Whether you're single, married, or just need to deal with some inner conflict, this is for you.  Financial issues, communicating with kids, intimacy - we can help with all of it.  Email us at info@artofcoaching.com and just say “interested.”  As a loyal podcast listener, you'll be the first to know as we release more details. The Coalition - Today's episode is focussed on how to convert what you know and feel into tangible progress.  If you want that same thing for your business, THE COALITION IS FOR YOU.  Think of this as your business mastermind group who will hold you accountable and help you navigate your biggest roadblocks.  It's virtual, which means it can fit anywhere in your schedule, and includes a retreat to a fun location!  If you're tired of the excuses and are ready to act on your dreams of more, fill out this form and our team will be in touch. Today's episode is sponsored by Momentous.  If you're someone who has been wanting to improve your health for a while, but are intimidated by a lot of things you see in the fitness industry and are searching for a brand you can trust, look no further.  Momentous puts their products through rigorous testing, so you know what is on the label is what you're putting in your body.  They're a longtime partner of ours for good reason - they believe in the same things we do.  Fundamentals NOT fluff.  Visit livemomentus.com/brett to SAVE 15%! Referenced Material: E331: Dontari Poe: Mental Toughness Myths and Life Tips E317: Tyson Shumway: Law Enforcement Lessons For De-Escalating Conflict

Everything has turned into a debate.  No matter the topic, everyone seems to have an opinion.  Don't feel left out…you're included!  So are your co-workers, friends, neighbors, and ESPECIALLY your family and loved ones.   Getting into an argument with anyone is hard, but it becomes increasingly difficult when they brush off your points, spin the facts, or change the subject altogether.  Imagery of a bull and matador come to mind.  This episode will give you a deeper understanding of why people deflect or misdirect, and how to get rid of the red cape and hidden sword in exchange for improved relationships and personal growth. In today's show, we discuss: The psychological reasons people resort to using deflective tactics How trying to “save face” can backfire and widen the gap to conflict resolution Accountability and how dealing with our own demons leads to growth Scripts you can use if you're overwhelmed and need to buy time to process and respond If you'd like to learn more about our 30 Day Relationship Challenge reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and let us know you're interested.  You'll be notified first as more information is released, and we'll also keep you up to date on all future workshops, mentoring opportunities and much more! This fall we'll be kicking off another round of our business mastermind group The Coalition!  This is for anyone at any stage of developing their own business.  From the “that's a good idea” phase, to those who are optimizing systems to maximize productivity and profit.  All of our zoom meetings are recorded, so we can grow with you, on your time.  We've helped people all across the world, and if you want to be a part of a tribe like this, start by filling out this form and our team will be in touch. If this episode struck a nerve and you'd like to dive deeper or have specific questions, join our online community - Mighty Networks!  This is our answer to the shortcomings of other social media platforms, and allows our team to deliver a steady stream of unfiltered content, and it's LESS THAN $20 A MONTH!  Sign up HERE today! Referenced Material: E313: How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down Or Stonewalls

Imagine what it takes to reach the pinnacle of any profession. We're not just talking about the top 5-10%, but fractions of that. Now add that this business is composed of the largest, fastest, and most explosive athletes on the planet, competing in a collision sport where success and failure are determined in split seconds. Oh, did we mention that millions of dollars are on the line? Today, we are joined by someone who was not just a part of that elite club but reached the highest highs—from the trenches. In the 1st Round of the 2012 NFL Draft, the Kansas City Chiefs selected Dontari Poe with the 11th overall pick. Over the next nine seasons, Poe became an All-Pro Defensive Lineman, wreaking havoc on backfields across the league. His journey began long before he became a pro, and today he shares some timeless and invaluable lessons he learned along the way. This show is like our workshops: uncut, uncensored, and 100% real. PARENTAL ADVISORY for a few instances of coarse language. In this episode, we discuss: The truth about mental toughness, common myths, and how to cut through the BS How to avoid letting our environment dictate who we become The importance of setting boundaries when helping others What it takes to ensure we're at our best in our biggest moments We want to thank Dontari for joining us and answering one of our listener's questions. If you have something you'd like us to address on a future podcast, please let us know!  You can reach us directly at info@artofcoaching.com or submit your questions HERE. 1:1 Mentoring - Everyone needs a Coach.  We offer various mentoring options personalized to your goals, no matter what industry you're in, helping you with topics such as discovering your niche, clarifying the next steps in your career, finding your voice as a leader, navigating power dynamics, gaining confidence in negotiating and so much more!  If you want help, schedule a call with an Art of Coaching™ team member by clicking this link.   Group Mentoring - If you prefer to work in a group with other like-minded people to find solutions to things you're struggling with such as marketing, how to construct a business plan, hiring your first employee, or optimizing automated systems, or how to leverage the power of social media - WE CAN HELP!  This is why we started The Coalition, to help people who want to help others make more progress and scale their impact.  If you want to be a part of a tribe like this, start by filling out this form and our team will be in touch. We publish hundreds of hours of free content every year.  If you'd like to stay up to date on our live event schedule, get access to free guides and downloads as they're released, receive exclusive discounts, and so much more, sign up for our newsletter so you won't miss a thing! Free AoC Resources:   Reading List Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Intern Guide Chaos Checklist Personal Finance 101 Clarity Webinar To see the complete list, click this link!   Today's episode is sponsored by Momentous.  If you're someone who has been wanting to improve your health for a while, but are intimidated by a lot of things you see in the fitness industry and are searching for a brand you can trust, look no further.  Momentous puts their products through rigorous testing, so you know what is on the label is what you're putting in your body.  They're a longtime partner of ours for good reason - they believe in the same things we do.  Fundamentals NOT fluff.  Visit livemomentus.com/brett to SAVE 15%!

Relationships are hard.  Even if you've been with your better half for years, it can still be easy to miss the forest for the trees during busy times.  We know that when dealing with people miscommunication is the baseline, but does it have to be this way with those we love the most? Today, we address a real-life situation sent in by one of our listeners and provide focused advice on how to have a difficult conversation with your spouse.  Nothing will haunt you like the spirit of the unsaid and if you or your partner's needs aren't being fulfilled, the road WILL become rocky.  How do we go about expressing ourselves without sounding needy?  How can you get what you want while enhancing the relationship for both of you? In this highly practical episode, we discuss: The dangers of assuming someone knows everything about you How to ensure we're not the problem and how to reverse course if we are Practical ways to start the conversation and the one element that MUST be included Research about unexpressed feelings and how to avoid this tragedy If there are other topics you'd like us to dive into in our podcast, please let us know!  If you have a specific situation you need help with, we keep everything completely anonymous - nothing will be traced back to you.  You can reach us directly at info@artofcoaching.com or submit your questions HERE. This is the LAST CALL for the The Apprenticeship Workshop in Calgary, CAN June 22-23!.  Hosted by our good friends at ORKA Performance, The Apprenticeship is a highly interactive 2-day workshop for those looking to improve their ability to communicate, lead, and build strong relationships.  By attending, you'll experience the practice, coaching, and feedback you need to truly grow.  And better yet, you'll get to take home a quantifiable communication evaluation tool, as well as several other tools to help you strategically approach any conversation.  This is our only trip North this year, DON'T MISS IT! Today's podcast sponsor is BetterHelp.  Do you ever spread yourself too thin or find your social battery constantly running on low-power mode?  BetterHelp is an extremely convenient online therapy service that can help you recharge your battery.  If you're looking for someone to listen and help you find your sweet spot, check out Betterhelp.com/aoc for 10% off your first month!

It's time!  You've spent YEARS building your skill set and building your reputation as a leader in your field.  You're ready to convert your knowledge and skill set into a viable business and share your passion with others in the form of a live event or workshop.    Few experiences are as fulfilling as getting together with other people, united by a shared passion and commitment to improving at a specific skill.  Aristotle once said “teaching is the highest form of understanding,” so not only can you start making money by running your own event, but you'll also gain an even deeper understanding of the subject you are so passionate about.  But how do you even begin to put this together?  As you start moving around the puzzle pieces, it can get overwhelming.  Fast. In today's episode we're joined by AOC Director of Operations Liz Bartholomew to discuss: Where to begin in the initial planning stage and how to set realistic expectations  What to look for in a venue and what you need to know about it to prior the event Pricing principles and how the loss leader strategy can serve as a springboard  The key milestones and tasks that must be achieved before, during, and after the event Referenced Materials: E193 I What To Charge For Your Time & Worth: A Deep Dive E295 I Public Speaking Tips Part 1: How Much Content Is Enough When Presenting? E297 I Public Speaking Tips Part 2: The Ultimate Keynote Preparation Checklist E298 I Public Speaking Tips Part 3: Using Strategic Storytelling To Create A Compelling Message If you got to the end of the podcast today and would rather just fast track this whole process, we can help!  Bypass the years of mistakes we made by reaching out to us at info@artofcoaching.com and let us plan your event.  We'll walk you through our step by step checklist and work through the details in a stress-free way, so you can focus on doing what you do best.  This is one of the most valuable services we offer, let us know what we can do to help! This is your LAST CHANCE to sign up for our Apprenticeship Workshop in Calgary, CAN June 22-23!.  Hosted by our good friends at ORKA Performance, The Apprenticeship is a highly interactive 2-day workshop for those looking to improve their ability to communicate, lead, and build strong relationships.  By attending, you'll experience the practice, coaching, and feedback you need to truly grow.  And better yet, you'll get to take home a quantifiable communication evaluation tool, as well as several other tools to help you strategically approach any conversation.  This is our only trip North this year, DON'T MISS IT! Many of us can simply benefit from being around other, like-minded people to share our struggles, run our ideas by, and work together to find solutions. If you're struggling with marketing, or need technical help with hiring or refining billing systems, whatever the roadblock - WE CAN HELP!  This is why we started our business mastermind group The Coalition, to help people who want to help others make more progress and scale their impact.  Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur or an established business owner looking to optimize current practices, take action and apply for our group mentoring program TODAY by filling out this form. Today's episode is sponsored by Momentous.  As things seem to come at us faster and faster, nailing the fundamentals and controlling the controllable becomes increasingly important.  Putting quality nutrients in our bodies is critical in tackling life's challenges.  Momentous is our go-to for keeping us functioning at our best.  We particularly love their fish oil to control inflammation and creatine for increasing strength and performance.  Find them both and much more at livemomentus.com/brett and SAVE 15%!

Do you ever feel like people are tuning you out?  It can be EXTREMELY frustrating when you know your message or product isn't landing with your audience.  What gives?  Why do some brands seem to resonate while others come off as white noise or unimportant? Copywriting is the answer.  Even in this new, digital age writing skills are timeless.  There is both an art and science to delivering words to inspire others to take action and people need to feel something if you want their attention.  Understanding copywriting can completely change the way you approach marketing and turn passive bystanders into active participants.  Whether you're an entrepreneur or just want to be a more informed consumer, understanding this form of writing is relevant to everyone. In today's episode we discuss: What copywriting is and how it's different from traditional writing Where you use it and how it's used on you in everyday life Identify the essential characteristics of good copy and their psychological underpinnings How to use the principles of copywriting to build better connections and inspire action Today's podcast topic came from a request from one of our listeners.  If you'd like us to discuss a topic you're curious about or have a question of your own, submit it to us at artofcoaching.com/question.  We also have a private community void of the normal distractions of social media, where you can connect with our facilitators and people just like you for more in-depth discussion and practical advice you can apply NOW!   Please reach out if you have any questions at info@artofcoaching.com. Many of us can simply benefit from being around other, like-minded people to share our struggles, run our ideas by, and work together to find solutions. If you're struggling with marketing, or need technical help with hiring or refining billing systems, whatever the roadblock - WE CAN HELP!  This is why we started our business mastermind group The Coalition, to help people who want to help others make more progress and scale their impact.  Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur or an established business owner looking to optimize current practices, take action and apply for our group mentoring program TODAY by filling out this form. Today's episode is sponsored by Momentous.  As things seem to come at us faster and faster, nailing the fundamentals and controlling the controllable becomes increasingly important.  Putting quality nutrients in our bodies is critical in tackling life's challenges.  Momentous is our go-to for keeping us functioning at our best.  We particularly love their fish oil to control inflammation and creatine for increasing strength and performance.  Find them both and much more at livemomentus.com/brett and SAVE 15%!