In the Wake

Harpartap and Whytli met during their senior year of high school while participating in first week ice breaker activities. From that day forward, many unforgettable memories were made and introspective conversations were had.Harpartap is currently living in France where he is studying to one day become an architect. In his free time, he lets his artistic juices flow along with diving deeper into his Sikh beliefs and practices. Post high school, the two have continued to stay in touch through penpal letters and the occasional video call.In this episode, Harpartap and Whytli discuss their beliefs and insights about religion and spirituality. He gives a peek into his Sihk faith and practices. We cover the following topics:Myths or misunderstandings about religion & spiritualismDifferences between organized religion & spirituality His Sihk faith, beliefs, & principlesHis personal spiritual practices & meditationMessage to those struggling with their spiritualityTune in to hear the rest of his story and perspectives!//Resources (Provided by Harpartap):5 Vices in Sihkism4,000 Year History of TurbanPositive Affirmations MeditationJup Ji SaheebNanak Naam Courses Song: 100 Days by AJR//Connect with Harpartap & his work:Website: harpartap.frInstagram: @turbanathor//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytli@inthewakewithwhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Lopa van der Mersch is many things: Ayurvedic practitioner. Mother of two. Sustainability advocate. TEDx speaker. Recovering cult member. Her adventures have taken her around the world in search of health, spiritual fulfillment, and deep energy. 2 Years ago, she added a new chapter to her life story: Founder and CEO of Rasa, the adaptogenic coffee alternatives revolutionizing people's relationship to their energy. Many of us spend our lives seeking spiritual truth and fulfillment. But, for Lopa, that journey led her somewhere she never expected — a cult. She might not have found all the answers she was looking for, but she did learn a tremendous amount about outsourcing your inner knowing, losing (and reclaiming) your voice, and finding your unshakable source of integrity within. Back in what she calls her “cult days,” Lopa's whole world revolved around rigid adherence to dogma. She's worked hard to turn the traumas of her past into lessons for her future — embracing nuance over dogma, empathy over authority, and flexibility over rigidity. The strategies she's developed for applying these lessons took a lifetime of unique experience to discover. In this episode, Lopa shares her story from before her cult days, experiences within the cult, and what it was like leaving and recovering from that cult. She speaks about her evolving spiritual beliefs and how she has reclaimed her voice and inner knowing. We dive into the following:How she found herself in a cult & what she experienced within oneHow abusive relationships & cults have similar patternsReligions vs. cultsLeaving & recovering from a cultWhy it's harmful to outsource your spiritual sovereigntyReclaiming her voice & inner knowingEmbracing nuance over dogmaTune in to hear the rest of her story & wisdom!!//Resources:Books:The Guru Papers by Joel KramerMan's Search For Meaning by Victor E. FranklSong: Lingala by Lee Burridge & Lost Desert//Follow along with Lopa & her work:Website: wearerasa.comInstagram: @lopalovesyou@wearerasa//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Anung Vilay is the owner of Courageous Creativity, where she helps introverts and black sheep create lives that fit them instead of continuously trying to fit into the boxes that society has pushed. She's the host of two podcasts: The Introvert's Bubble and I Don't Wanna Fit In. On top of that, she is also an author and photographer. In this episode, Anung shares her experiences setting boundaries and taking care of herself as an introvert. She describes what it was like growing up as an introvert, how she handles social situations and what stereotypes are inaccurate about introverts.We dive into the following topics:What it means to be an introvert vs. extrovertWhat being an introvert looks like for her personallyInaccurate stereotypes about introvertsGrowing up as an introvertSetting boundaries & self care as an introvertTune in to hear the rest of her story and insights!!//Resources:Book: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan CainSong: Shatter Me by Lindsey Sterling//Connect with Anung & her work:Website: courageouscreativity.comPodcast:The Introvert's BubbleI Don't Wanna Fit InInstagram: @courageous_creativity@theintrovertsbubbleBook: Get Out of My Bubble by Anung Vilay//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Jamie Beth Cohen is a novelist, essayist, storyteller, and podcaster. She writes about difficult things, but her friends think she's actually really funny. Jamie lives in Lancaster County, PA with her family and hosts the spreadsheet podcast, “There's a Column for That!” Her writing has appeared in TeenVogue.com, The Washington Post/On Parenting, HuffPost, and several other outlets. WASTED PRETTY, her debut novel for teens and their adults is a sex-positive story about the aftermath of a sexual assault. LIMINAL SUMMER, the sequel to WASTED PRETTY, will be published in 2021.In this episode, Jamie shares her experiences and insights as a Jewish woman parenting two Jewish children in a Christian-dominated society.  She dives into antisemitism, parenting through social justice topics, and how to build more inclusive communities for children. We dive into the following topics:What it means to be Jewish to herWhat it feels like to be seenHarmful stigmas & myths people have regarding Jewish peopleBreaking down antisemitismHow parents & teachers can stop the rise of antisemitismParenting through social justice issuesHer thoughts on online activismTune in to hear many stories and insights from Jamie herself!//Resource: We Need Diverse Books//Connect with Jamie & her work:Instagram:@jamiebeths@wastedprettyTwitter:@jamie_beth_s@column_podWebsite: www.jamiebethcohen.comPodcast: There's A Column For ThatBooks:Wasted Pretty by Jamie Beth CohenLiminal Summer by Jamie Beth Cohen Articles:My Neighbor Had A Confederate Flag. My Daughter Had the Perfect Response7 Ways for Parents and Teachers to Stop the Rise of AntisemitismWhen My Daughter's Teacher Erased Her Judaism for a Class Project//Song: Seasons of Love - Rent//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Shannon Knight (she/her) is a queer therapist with a private practice in Tampa, FL where she specializes in working with individuals and couples. She's the author of Understanding Gender Identity an online course for parents and professionals to better understand their gender diverse child. She's also the co-host of The Tarot Diagnosis a podcast where her and her colleague, Luna, explore the intersection of psychology, mental health, and tarot.In this episode, Shannon helps us break down the spectrums that gender and sexuality lie on. She gives a great base level of understanding for commonly used terms and concepts in regards to gender, sexuality, and sex. Along with that, we dive deeper into how these things are affected by toxic masculinity, misogyny, rigid gender roles and more. We discuss the following topics:Defining the differences between gender, sexuality, & sexHow gender & sexuality lie on a spectrumThe difference between gender identity & gender expressionParenting children exploring their gender & sexualityHow rigid gender roles plays a part into toxic masculinity & misogyny What gender neutrality & gender equality entailTune in to hear the rest of her wisdom and insights!!//Resources: Kinsey InstituteGenderbread Person DiagramGender Unicorn DiagramPFlag Chapter NetworkInstagram Follows:@indyamoore@pinkmantaray@blairimani@mattxiv@jenerousSong: I Can Change By Lake Street Drive//Connect with Shannon & her work:Website: moderncounseling.comCourse: Understanding Gender IdentityPodcast: The Tarot Diagnosis Instagram: @shannon_the_therapist@thetarotdiagnosis//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as we speak of abuse, sexual assault, and trauma. If you are a survivor of abuse or sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted love one, and/or CALL the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1.800.799.SAFE(7233). //Stevie is the founder of We Are HER. After leaving her abuser in 2016, she realized sharing her story, connecting with other survivors, and learning about DV were three crucial elements in her healing journey. She wanted to make sure every survivor could be given those three opportunities. When she's not running HER, you'll find her in the mountains of Montana hanging out with her partner and two border collies or reconnecting with her Mexican roots.In this episode, Stevie shares her story of developing PTSD after both an abusive childhood and later being in an abusive relationship. She also dives into what it was like navigating the reporting process, court trial, and her thoughts on the justice system as a whole as a survivor. She wraps up by talking about her healing journey and building the We Are HER community for survivors to connect with each other.We discuss the following points:Stevie's story of abuseHealthy dynamics within her new relationshipNavigating the reporting process & justice system as a survivorExperiences leading up to a PTSD diagnosisCoping mechanism for PTSDStigmas & misunderstandings around PTSD & survivorsTune in to hear the rest of her story and insights!!//Song: Keep It Between the Lines by Sturgill Simpson//Connect with Stevie & her work:Instagram:@wearehernetwork@steviecroisantFacebook: We Are HER NetworkFacebook Group: We Are HER Survivors GroupWebsite: weareher.netPodcast: We Are HEREmail: stevie@weareher.net//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Anna and Maria are twins and co-hosts of the mental health podcast, Bipolar Bicoastal. They launched the show after receiving their bipolar diagnoses in order to help others struggling with mental illness and the people that love them. Bipolar Bicoastal is a blend of discussions and interviews that offer a humorous look at serious mental health topics and concrete ways to cope with bipolar disorder.Anna lives in Baltimore, MD and is a manager on a crisis hotline for sexual assault survivors (far too many of whom have severe mental illness), while Maria lives in Los Angeles and is an Associate Producer for reality tv shows.In this episode, Anna and Maria share their stories of getting diagnosed with bipolar disorders and how their experiences are both similar and different as twin sisters. They also help break down some of the myths and stigmas that surround bipolar disorders and describe how those shame filled stigmas have affected them personally. We discuss the following:Stigmas & misconceptions about bipolar disorderWhat events led up to each of them getting diagnosed How they reacted to that diagnosisSimilarities & differences between Bipolar 1 and Bipolar 2How shame or stigma has played a part in their storiesCoping mechanisms they have implemented into their livesTune in to hear the rest of their story!//Resources: Book: Marbles: Mania, Depression, Michelangelo and Me by Ellen ForneyWebsite: EndTheStigma.orgInstagram: @endthestigmaorg//Song: No One by Alicia Keys//Connect with them & their work:Podcast: Bipolar BicoastalInstagram: @bipolarbicoastalFacebook: Bipolar BicoastalFacebook Group: Bipolar Bicoastal Secret GroupPatreon: Bipolar Bicoastal//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Brianne Leeson is an artist and small business owner from Dallas, Texas. She is also the creator of the scripted comedy/fiction podcast Today’s Lucky Winner. You might have recognized Brianne from Episode 80 where she shared how her ADHD and eating disorder affected one another. In this follow up part two episode, Brianne is continuing her story about how she has also received an autism diagnosis. Brianne was diagnosed in her thirties with ADHD and later autism which led her to a whole new realm of self discovery and understanding. She began to realize how both her ADHD  and autism had affected or amplified different things throughout growing up including her relationship with her body and an eating disorder.  After receiving her autism diagnosis, she had to dismantle her own misconceptions and ableism. With the knowledge she has of herself now, she is able to adapt with her differences, look at her life through a new lens, and advocate for her specific needs.We discuss the following:What led her to pursue an autism diagnosisThings she didn't realize were traits of autismSimilarities & differences between ADHD & autismStigmatized misconceptions around autismWhat masking and stimming look likeHarmful VS. helpful language to use when speaking of autismTune in to hear the rest of Brianne's story!!//Resources:Venn Diagram of ADHD & AutismList of autistic traits (these led Brianne to pursue a diagnosis)Autism Diagnostic TestsEmbrace Autism - The Ultimate Autism Resource//Song: Seen & Not Seen by Talking Heads//Connect with Brianne & her work:Instagram:@brianne_leeson@bellonaarts@luckywinnershowPodcast: Today's Lucky Winner ShowWebsite: www.bellonaarts.com//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Denise is a poet and an award-winning writer, photographer, and artist, and an IT professional. And she is a survivor of childhood abuse. She is the author of a new self-help book: "Thriving After Sexual Abuse: Break Your Bondage to the Past and Live a Life You Love" where she provides tips and suggestions for readers to seek help, self-reflect, and pursue healing through a range of activities and practices and offers tangible strategies for readers to reclaim their lives and move forward to a life of Thriving.In this episode, Denise shares her story of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of her grandfather and how that abuse affected the rest of her childhood & growing up. She takes us through her healing journey and what it took to move from a place of survival to now thriving. We discuss the following points:Her story of childhood sexual abuseHow the abuse affected the rest of her childhood & growing upExploring different routes of healingMoving from simply surviving to truly thrivingWhy it may be so hard to begin your healing journeyHow healing is a series of letting go & welcomingsReflection prompts for healingTune in to hear the rest of her story & insights!//Connect with Denise & her work:Website: thrivingaftersexualabusebook.comHealing Journey LibraryBook: Thriving After Sexual Abuse: Break Your Bondage to the Past and Live a Life You Love by Denise BossarteFacebook: Thriving AfterInstagram: @poetryyoginiYouTube: Thriving After//Song: Hallelujah by Leonard CohenHallelujah by Rufus Wainwright//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Dr. Traci Baxley is a mother of five, consultant, educator and coach dedicated to supporting families, organizations and corporations in developing diversity & inclusion practices that lead to meaningful relationships, genuine belonging and high productivity. She is also the creator of Social Justice Parenting®, a philosophy that moves families from fear-based parenting to creating spaces of belonging through compassion, radical love and social justice engagement.In this episode, Traci takes us through her Social Justice Parenting model and philosophy and the types of conversations that parents need to be having with their children. She explains how Social Justice Parenting is rooted in radical love and is not equivalent to parenting out of fear along with why we should not be keeping our kids in the dark when it comes to what is happening in the world. We discuss the following talking points:Why social justice parenting is not equivalent to parenting out of fearHow social justice activism is rooted in radical loveHer Social Justice Parenting model using the acronym ROCKSHow to begin these conversations around social issuesWhy we should not keep our kids in the dark about what's happening in the worldTune in to hear more of her wisdom & insight!!//Connect with Traci & her work:Instagram: @socialjusticeparentingFacebook: Social Justice ParentingWebsite: www.socialjusticeparenting.comBook: Social Justice Parenting:  How to Raise Compassionate, Anti-Racist, Justice-Minded Kids in an Unjust World by Traci BaxleyTEDx Talk: Social Justice Parenting by Traci Baxley//Songs:Sacred Space by India ArieI Am Light by India Arie//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Founder of the Enchanted Queen Empire, Samantha helps women combine the energy of a goddess with the strategy of a CEO to create a fulfilling life and business. Empowering you to plan, execute and play in the action frequency to hit your goals through deep transformative mindset and strategic coaching.In this episode, Samantha helps us unpack 10 forms of spiritual bypassing and why they are harmful behaviors or beliefs. She also explains why the exclusive love & light brand of spirituality is also a form of bypassing.We cover the following points:What spiritual bypassing meansHow spiritual bypassing shows up on an individual & collective levelWhy the exclusively love and light brand of spirituality is harmfulCultural appropriation of Indigenous spiritual practicesTen forms of spiritual bypassingOptimistic BypassHigher Than / Self Righteous BypassVictim BypassPsychedelic BypassZodiac BypassGuidance BypassSaint BypassSpirit Guide BypassPrayer BypassWorship BypassTune in for more of her wisdom and insights!//Resources:John Welwood originally introduced the term 'Spiritual Bypassing'Samantha's Instagram Live: Spiritual Bypassing: An Enticing Wonderland of EscapismSong: The Cure by Little Mix//Connect with Samantha & her work:Instagram: @enchantedqueenempireWebsite: enchantedqueenempire.comThe Empire CommunityOne-on-One Coaching Package//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Antonio Myers is a D.C. resident on the autism spectrum. He believes that autism is his super blessing as he's a high-school valedictorian, college graduate, world traveler, podcast host, speaker/writer, and disability advocate. "For Antonio Myers, life with autism has always felt like sitting in a movie theater. Everyone is watching the same film,  but he’s the only one wearing 3-D glasses. He says, “I am able to see more, behind the scenes, which enables me to understand more of what’s in front of me. It makes me able to see people as human before anything else which also makes me very good at compassionate grieving or just bearing with people. My very first words at the age of four were: Stop bullying my friend!"In this episode, Antonio shares with us his experiences facing the stigmas and stereotypes of autism and breaking beyond the limiting beliefs and boxes the world put him in. We discuss the following talking points:Myths or misconceptions around autismHow these myths have personally affected him His ideas for reforming education & accessibilityHis experiences of abuse & healingLanguage preferences around autismTune in to hear the rest of Antonio's story!!//Connect with Antonio & his work:Podcast: Tonio Time DailyBlog: iamtrulyholistic.blogspot.comInstagram: @highlypraiseworthygracemayorFacebook: Antonio MyersYouTube: Tonio Time Daily//Resources Provided by Antonio:Department on Disability ServicesThe Brewer FoundationInclusion 2021 ConferenceIncluded. Supported. Empowered.Article about the DSP Academy//Song: My Feet Keep Dancing by Chic//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Amanda is a Civil Mediator and Conflict Resolution Specialist. She loves sticky, seemingly unsolvable problems. She uses tools like Dispute Specific Conflict Coaching,  Online Mediation and Open Dialogue to help people have healthy conversations, set boundaries and resolve issues. When she isn't working you can find her exploring the woods of the Pacific Northwest with her kids and her dog.In this episode, Amanda shares her tips and tools to having productive, healthy conversations when in conflict and difficult situations. She walks us through different scenarios and provides examples of what our immediate response may be during the conflict vs. what we can say instead to course-correct and engage in a more appropriate and helpful way. We cover the following topics:How unresolved conflict impacts us both physically & emotionallyHow to gauge what is worth bringing up & hashing out VS. when to walk away & let it goPreparing for hard conversationsKey components of a productive conversationIntention VS. impactTips on how to stay present & listen fullyTune in to hear the rest of her wisdom and insight!!//Connect with Amanda & her work:Website: mindfulresolution.caTwitter: @mindfulconres//Resources: Listening Skills Podcast//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as we speak of rape and sexual assault. If you are a survivor of abuse or sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted love one, and/or CALL the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE(4673). //Chidera Dimaka is a Nigerian podcaster currently living in Poland. During the week, she works at an IT firm as a service process controller. On her podcast, Rants With Chidera, she shares her thoughts and insights about all things adulthood, social issues, and self help topics. She's also a survivor of sexual assault. In this episode, Chidera shares her story publicly for the first time ever. After she was sexually assaulted multiple times, she found great healing in hearing other #MeToo stories. Others' stories helped her realize that what happened to her wasn't consensual nor okay and that it wasn't her fault. At one point, she internalized rape culture and the victim blaming that follows suit but now speaks out against the harmful things in society that contribute to the normalizing of rape.  We cover the following points:Chidera's story & encounters of sexual assaultThe power of sharing your #MeToo storiesWhat rape culture entailsHow rape culture has affected both of usVictim blamingConsent EducationTune in to hear her story!!//Resources:Book: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy BancroftRAINN - Rape, Abuse, & Incest National NetworkWe Are HER - Foundation supporting survivors of domestic abuse & sexual violence Honey Is Here - Organization for survivors of sexual trauma//Connect with Chidera & her work:Instagram:@chidybangs_@rwcpodcastPodcast: Rants With Chidera - RWC Podcast//If you liked this episode and are craving more conversations like this, here are some follow up episodes of In the Wake with Whytli to relisten to:Episode 70 - Sexual Assault, Consent Education, & Victim Blaming with Katie McMahonEpisode 66 - Racism Within Rape Culture with Cheyenne Tyler JacobsEpisode 54 - Hope & Healing After Sexual Assault with Kristine IrwinEpisode 34 - Rape Culture & Myths with Laura W.//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Fluent in French and English, Areena Antoine was born in Mauritius Island and grew up in Vancouver, BC. Areena is an undergraduate Sociology student at the University of British Columbia. Sociology has helped Areena discover her passion for women's rights. After her studies, she hopes to become a lawyer specializing in human rights. In her free time, she is a mentor with Go Girls helping young girl’s build confidence and self-awareness to thrive. Passionate and dedicated, Areena is the host of Self-Love Lounge Podcast -- a platform for empowered women to empower others. In this episode, Areena and I dive into her self growth journey and talk about the fluctuating nature of self love. We discuss the sometimes ugly, hard, and messy sides to self care and why it's important to embrace the constant evolution of self through it all.We discuss the following:What self love means to herBalancing self discipline & grace within your self care routineThe turning point that set her onto her self love journeyHard truths of self loveResponding to relationship dynamics that resist your growth & changeTune in to hear more of her story and insight!//Connect with Areena & her work:Podcast: Self Love LoungeWhytli's Interview on Self Love Lounge: Episode 8 - #MeTooInstagram: @selflovelounge_//Songs:Six Feet Under by Billie EilishAll I Want by Olivia Rodrigo//If you liked this episode and are craving more conversations like this, here are some follow up episodes of In the Wake with Whytli to relisten to:Episode 82 - Self Compassion and Softening Your Inner CriticEpisode 62 - Rewriting the Stories We Tell Ourselves with Sabrina PierottiEpisode 59 - Setting Personal Boundaries with Raven RobinsonEpisode 53 - Limiting Beliefs and Intentional Happiness with Julie LeonardEpisode 41 - Breaking Your Destructive Cycles//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Hawa Stephens is a former party girl who has overcome toxic relationships, lack of confidence, feeling unworthy, letting go of others expectations, and not being afraid to go after her dreams. She has a podcast called The Self Love Tribe that helps ambitious females go for it with relatable topics and discussions. She loves helping women learn how to love themselves and build confidence.In this episode, Hawa shares the experiences that led her to make a drastic shift in her life where she started to prioritize her needs, set personal boundaries, and know her worth. In this back and forth conversation, we discuss the following:The shameful messages around self care & prioritizing yourselfSetting personal boundaries as a form of self careWhat self love and self care mean to HawaHow she shows up to her life differently ever since prioritizing her needsKnowing your worth and what you deserveTune in to hear the rest of this conversation and insight!!//Song: Soulmate by Lizzo//Connect with Hawa & her work:Instagram: @slflovetribePodcast: The Self Love Tribe//If you liked this episode and are craving more conversations like this, here are some follow up episodes of In the Wake with Whytli to relisten to:Episode 82 - Self Compassion and Softening Your Inner CriticEpisode 62 - Rewriting the Stories We Tell Ourselves with Sabrina PierottiEpisode 59 - Setting Personal Boundaries with Raven RobinsonEpisode 53 - Limiting Beliefs and Intentional Happiness with Julie LeonardEpisode 41 - Breaking Your Destructive Cycles//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Dr. Nazanin Moali is a licensed clinical psychologist and a certified Sex Therapist. Her private practice is located in Torrance and she specializes in working with couples and individuals struggling with issues of sex and intimacy. Dr. Moali hosts a weekly podcast called Sexology introducing the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Sexology podcast was launched four years ago and it has over 60,000 downloads per month and It has been listened to in over 82 countries. In this episode, Dr. Moali shares how she's been on both ends as the client and now the therapist -- she went to see a sex therapist with a partner and after it changed her life, she became interested in specializing in sex therapy herself. We unpack the harmful and shameful messaging women generally receive around sex and how that negatively affects their sexuality, sex lives, and self image. We also discuss the importance of sex and consent education when developing a healthy sexual relationship. We cover the following topics:How she got into this line of work & being on the receiving end of sex therapyStigmas & shameful messaging around sex & sexualityWhat our current sex education is generally lackingTalking about sex & consent with your childrenCultivating & embracing your sexual self Feeling empowered to find pleasureTune in to hear more wisdom from the Dr. herself!!//Connect with Dr. Moali & her work:Podcast: SexologyWebsite: oasis2care.comInstagram: @sexologypodcast//Additional In the Wake Podcast Episodes:Episode 11 - Teaching Consent to Kids & TeensEpisode 37 - Body Shaming, Modesty, & Puritan Culture with Angelina HillEpisode 70 - Sexual Assault, Consent Education, & Victim Blaming with Katie McMahon//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as we speak of sexual abuse, childhood trauma, and incest. If you are a survivor of abuse, incest, or sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted love one, and/or CALL RAINN's National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or TEXT their Live Chat here.//Author and filmmaker Annie Margis is a childhood incest victim working to give millions of victims a voice by wiping out the taboo against talking about incest. In 2012, with the support of a cadre of volunteers, she created a helpline where adult victims from around the world connect with fellow survivors and share their stories. Having heard thousands of tragic personal histories, Annie is a front-line expert on the life-long impact of childhood incest. In this episode, Annie shares her story and how her abuse affected her entire childhood. She describes childhood incest and abuse as "the #MeToo that's still taboo." Through writing her book, The Ugliest Word, she has opened up the conversation around childhood incest and shed light on the shame and stigma that drives silence of survivors. She shares about the following:Her story of childhood incestHow the abuse affected her entire childhoodHow triggers and trauma manifestedHow stigma and shame plays a part as a survivor of incestHealing through writing and sharing her story through helplinesHow to respond to a survivorTune in to hear the rest of her story!//Connect with Annie & her work:Website: theugliestword.comBook: The Ugliest Word by Annie MargisEmail: annie@theugliestword.comFacebook:The Ugliest WordAnnie MargisInstagram: @theugliestwordTwitter: @theugliestword//Song: It's A Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Last year, I had a breakthrough in therapy that led me to realize just how self critical and perfectionistic I was. After coming to terms with the suffering I was creating for myself, I began to work through a Self Compassion workbook during my therapy sessions. This workbook teaches the three components needed to build a self compassionate voice: mindfulness, common humanity, and self kindness. In this solo episode, I relay some key things I have learned along the way on my self growth journey. I dive deeper into the following:A Valentine's messageMy breakthrough in therapy surrounding self compassionSelf compassionate motivation & perfectionism3 components of self compassion: mindfulness, common humanity, and self kindnessRephrasing the narratives of your inner criticFinding your self love languageTune in to hear more!!//Resources:selfcompassion.orgSelf-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin NeffA Mindful Self Compassion Workbook by Dr. Kristin Neff (the workbook I mentioned several times in this episode)The Mindful Path to Self Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts & Emotions by Christopher Germer//Song: Good Job by Alicia Keys//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Shu Matsuo Post is a successful business person in Japan, one of the most gender-rigid nations on the planet. When he got married and chose to take his wife’s name, the opposition he encountered gave him an unexpected glimpse into a woman’s world. It also gave him a taste of vulnerability, emotional connection, and the freedom he had been craving all his life.Flowing seamlessly between his own journey, his wife’s journey, and their journey together as they struggled to break the bonds of gender limitations, his debut book, I Took Her Name, is a powerful roadmap for defying expectations and becoming your authentic self. In this episode, Shu shares his "feminist awakening" where he experienced a large perspective shift in his life after marrying his wife and changing his last name. He now fights alongside the feminist movement for gender equality and a dismantling of the patriarchy. Shu strongly believes that the patriarchy is responsible for the rigid gender norms that also put men into boxes and enables toxic masculinity. Shu & I chat about the following:Stigmas around feminism & calling yourself a feminist as a manShu's journey into feminismWhy the patriarchy is also harmful for menHow he's actively fighting for gender equality & what that meansHow feminism sets men free from gender norms & societal expectations of manhoodCommonly used sexist phrases & why they're harmfulTune in to hear the rest of Shu's story and insights!!//Connect with Shu & his work:Instagram: @shumatsuopostFacebook: @ITookHerNameWebsites:shumatsuopost.com/enitookhername.comBook: I Took Her Name by Shu Matsuo Post//More Resources:Ted Talk: The Urgency of Intersectionality by Kimberlé CrenshawPodcast: Intersectionality Matters! with Kimberlé CrenshawIn the Wake Episodes:Intersectional Feminism with Renee PowersDismantling Toxic Masculinity with Spencer Rogers//Song: Run The World (Girls) by Beyonce //Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Brianne Leeson is an artist and small business owner from Dallas, Texas. She is also the creator of the scripted comedy/fiction podcast Today’s Lucky Winner. Brianne was diagnosed in her thirties with ADHD which led her to a whole new realm of self discovery and understanding. She began to realize how her ADHD brain had affected or amplified different things throughout growing up including her relationship with her body and an eating disorder. With the knowledge she has of herself now, she is able to adapt and cope with her differences and advocate for her specific needs.We discuss the following:Being diagnosed with ADHD in her thirtiesMyths, stigmas, and misunderstandings around ADHD and eating disordersHer relationship with food and her body growing up Her day to day experiences, thoughts, and situations that arise with ADHDHow ADHD and eating disorders can intersect and affect one anotherWhat coping skills work for herTune in to hear the rest of her story and insights!//Connect with Brianne & her work:Instagram:@brianne_leeson@bellonaarts@luckywinnershowPodcast: Today's Lucky Winner ShowWebsite: www.bellonaarts.com//Resources:Apps:Tiimo App - Visual PlannerMood Meter App - Build Emotional Intelligence Instagram follows:@adhd_alien@adhd_bri//Song: Charity Young Blood//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Hannah is a Feminine Healer helping womxn connect with their inner child and soul selves to heal trauma and energy blockages. She is a chronic disease/pain warrior, a recovering alcoholic, and a childhood trauma survivor and like the rest of us, her healing journey is ongoing. After years of fighting her own body, struggling to survive through cycles of healing, and ultimately self sabotaging until she didn't know any other lifestyle; she was finally able to answer the sweet whispers of intuition.In Hannah's newly release book, Entering the Divine, One Breath at a Time, Hannah dives into her childhood traumas, alcohol addiction, and life with multiple chronic diseases to leave you with one message: be an active participant in your healing journey. In this episode, Hannah shares her story recovering from addiction and in the process, finding her self and her connection with the Divine. As a high functioning alcoholic, she didn't even realize she had a problem until she made the commitment to quit drinking for a period of time. Through sobriety and self reflection, she realized she had been using alcohol to cope for so long that she didn't even know how to enjoy alcohol anymore without binging. Sobriety forced her to process and heal from all of her childhood and adult traumas that she had been suppressing and numbing out with alcohol. She became an active advocate for her own well being and healing and in doing so, found her purpose in helping other womxn find healing. Hannah and I discuss the following:Being a high functioning alcoholicNumbing out with alcohol & drugsStigmas or misunderstandings around spiritualitySobriety & healingBeing an advocate for your own well being and healingLearning to surrender and trustHer spiritual practicesTune in to hear more of Hannah's wise insight!//Song: All You Need Is Love by The Beatles//Connect with Hannah and her work:Instagram: @healing.with.hannahFacebook: Healing with Yogi HanWebsite: healingwithhannah.caBook: Entering the Divine, One Breath at a Time by Hannah Stinson//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as graphic details and scenarios of suicide are shared. If you are suffering or recovering from a mood or mental disorder and/or suicide ideation, please listen with caution, listen with a trusted friend, or choose to skip this episode. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things discussed in this episode to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or feelings. Also, if you are a bit more sensitive or an empath, you also may want to listen with caution. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted loved one or professional and/or CALL the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 or TEXT the Crisis Text Line at 741741.//Dr. Uchenna Umeh graduated from medical school in Nigeria in 1991. She relocated to the United States in 1994 for her pediatric residency at Howard University hospital. In 1999, she moved to South Carolina with her young family to open her own private practice where she worked until she sold it and joined the United States Air Force in 2012 as a lieutenant colonel and commander.She is currently a global speaker on youth suicide prevention, 3-time bestselling author, and mother of three. She is the CEO of Teen Alive, and Dr. Lulu’s Youth Health Center, both dedicated to at-risk youth and youth suicide prevention.Her public speaking career followed a suicide attempt by a 7-yr-old patient and suicides of colleagues and a patient. Ever since, she has dedicated her life’s work to ending youth suicide. //In this episode, Dr. Uchenna shares her passion and understanding of youth suicide prevention and awareness. She takes us through multiple scenarios and real life situations. While doing so, she points out warning signs and things to look out for along with a message of hope to both parents and those who may be experiencing suicidal ideation.During our conversation, Dr. Uchenna covers the following:Her story getting into this workACEs - Averse Childhood ExperiencesLooking at suicide from a trauma standpoint vs. a mental illness standpointWarning signs or red flags of suicidal ideationSuicide prevention and awarenessA message of hopeTune in to hear more from the doctor herself!!//Connect with Dr. Uchenna and her work:Facebook: Ask Doctor LuluInstagram: @askdoctorluluWebsite:teenalive.comyouthhealthcenter.comPodcast: Suicide Pages with Dr. LuluTEDx Talk: Trauma in Children: What You Can Do to Help//End The Stigma - the teen mental health foundation that I'm a co-founder of:endthestigma.org//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Aubree is a self-worth coach and host of the podcast Ask Aubree, where she focuses on helping women and queer people to befriend their inner critic, break up with people-pleasing, and reclaim their desire. In this episode, Aubree shares her personal experience being in codependent relationships along with her discovery of the root insecurity, fear, or beliefs underneath codependency. She now helps others recover and learn to source their identity from within rather than from their relationships. If you've never heard of the term, Aubree breaks codependency down and explains how it may show up in different types of relationships. We discuss the following:What codependency is and what it looks like within relationshipsHer personal experiences with codependency and abusive, toxic relationshipsMyths about codependencyHow codependency may show up in all sorts of relationships - familial, parental, romantic, or friendshipsWhy codependent relationships are unhealthy, harmful, or toxicUncovering the root insecurity, fear, or belief behind codependency Healing and recovering from codependencyTune in to hear the rest from Aubree herself!!//Song: Chicago by Sufjan Stevens//Resource:Book: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie//Connect with Aubree & her work:Instagram: @ahhhhbreePodcast: Ask AubreeWebsite: www.aubreehenderson.com//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

In this solo episode, I share my thoughts after reflecting on 2020. I talk about how I'm extending grace and compassion to myself for surviving this collectively difficult and long year. When wishing to set New Year's goals, I dive into the reasons I have not succeeded with goal setting in the past. My new process and approach has included setting goals out of inspiration vs. shame, no longer expecting perfection from myself, and redefining productivity. Tune in to hear ideas and tips for reflecting on your year, setting goals, and tracking your progress!I dive deeper into the following:Reflecting on 2020 with grace and self compassionBreaking the cycles of shame, unrealistic expectations, and disappointment around setting goals for the New YearSetting a word or intention of the yearBreaking your intention of the year down into digestible increments -- weekly, monthly, or quarterly goalsCombatting perfectionism within goal setting Course correcting and realigning with your goals and intentions without giving up all togetherRedefining productivity and building in rest and playBullet journaling to track your progress, goals, and habitsTune in to hear my personal process of reflection and New Year intention setting!!//Click here for my blog post full of resources mentioned, with guided journals, apps, and journaling challenges. //Song: All Will Be Well by The Gabe Dixon Band//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Yewande is a young lawyer in Lagos, Nigeria. She is a passionate speaker and unfiltered digital creator. She shares her raw and authentic skincare journey online in hopes to show and teach others that you can feel beautiful, confident, and strong despite the often unrealistic and unattainable beauty standards shown on social media. In this episode, Yewande shares her story on how she broke free from the pressures to look a certain way and embraced her authentic self. She began taking off the filters when she started sharing her skincare journey on social media. She slowly learned to detach her sense of self worth from her physical appearances and redefining what it meant to be beautiful to her. She now uses things like makeup as a fun tool for expression rather than using it as a crutch to hide behind and necessity to feel good enough. We chat about the following:Why she became fed up with the filters, makeup, and expectations to always look perfectDissecting unrealistic beauty standardsHer definition of beautyHow the comparison game can harm your mental health and self imageLearning to love and accept your raw selfThe physical & mental aspects of self careTune in to hear from the radiant Yewande herself!!Song: Before I Go by Guy Sebastian//Connect with Yewande and her work:Instagram: @dudulewami@yewande_badiruYouTube: Dudulewami DLM//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as we speak of physical and emotional abuse. If you are a survivor of abuse or sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted love one, and/or CALL the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1.800.799.7233 or TEXT to 1.800.787.3224.//Jenn Hazel Richards is currently in her last year of grad school to become a marriage and family therapist. She is a divorcee and survivor of domestic abuse. She has 6 children -- 4 living and twin daughters that died at birth. Jenn also has pet chickens and a passion for gardening and being active outdoors. She is living her most authentic life and constantly using her voice to speak her truth. In this episode, Jenn shares her story and process leaving her abusive marriage and finding her voice, freedom, and self post-relationship. She explains the fears and belief systems that kept her stuck in that abusive marriage along with sharing the moments of awakening that pushed her to finally leave. We discuss the following aspects of her story:Her story of physical and emotional abuse inflicted by her then husbandHer awakening and deciding to leave her abusive marriageWhy she decided to open up on social media about the abuse she's facedExperiencing backlash and having others try to silence herTaking her power back and finding her voiceSigns of a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy or abusive relationshipChallenging and unlearning old belief systems and thought patternsHow fear kept her stuckPost relationship -- navigating healing, triggers, and datingTune in to hear the entirety of Jenn's story!!//Resources:Book: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy BancroftRAINN - Rape, Abuse, & Incest National NetworkWe Are HER - Foundation supporting survivors of domestic abuse and sexual violence In the Wake Episode 64: Toxic Relationships with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler//Song: Praying by Kesha//Connect with Jenn on social media:Instagram: @jennhazelishappy//Follow along with the rest of my journey. Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Jalisa is a native Texan with a passion for mental health and helping those that can relate. She works in the medical industry and knows the ins and outs of getting help with or without insurance. She battles depression and anxiety herself and shares her story in hopes of making sure people know they are not alone in the struggle. In this episode, Jalisa shares the intricacies of battling anxiety and depression while keeping up and working in the corporate world. She shares how she has learned to cope and her tips to finding the best therapist.We discuss the following:The signs as her mental health deteriorated Her story battling anxiety and depression Struggling with depression in the corporate world and advocating for your own mental healthKnowing your triggers for anxietyTips when searching for the right therapist for youCoping mechanisms that have worked for JalisaBreaking down stigma around mental illnessTune in to hear the rest of Jalisa's story!!//Song: Lovely by Billie Eilish//Resources:BetterHelp - Online Counseling ServicesPsychology Today - Find a TherapistEndTheStigma.org - Mental Health FoundationInstagram: @the_depression_chronicles11@endthestigmaorg//Connect with Jalisa and her work: Podcast: Kinda Pretty, Definitely PettyInstagram: @kindapretty.definitelypetty//Follow along with the rest of my journey. Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliTikTok: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*Trigger Warning*This is a heavier episode as we speak of eating disorders, habits of binging and restricting, triggers, diet culture, and recovery. If you are suffering or recovering from an eating disorder or body dysmorphia, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. //Rachel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience treating Eating Disorders at both an inpatient treatment center and in private practice where she focuses on guiding adolescents and women to break free from diet culture and stop evaluating their worth by the number on the scale. Rachel is also the co-host of Mom Genes The Podcast, where she and colleague Tina LaBoy, RD, teach parents to understand their genes so they can love the jeans they are in.In this episode, as an Eating Disorder Specialist, Rachel unpacks what struggling with an eating disorder entails and what healing one's relationship with food and their body may look like. She helps me dissect diet culture and the many harms and issues it creates for everyone in society but especially those struggling with an eating disorder, disordered eating behaviors, or body dysmorphia. She goes over the following:Defining and explaining the differences between eating disorders -- anorexia, bulimia, and binge eatingStigmas or misconceptions around eating disordersWarning signs or symptoms to look out forAssessing your relationship with food & your bodyHow to approach & support someone with an eating disorderWhat recovery might look likeExplaining what diet culture is and how to challenge itHow diet culture can be triggering & harmfulIntuitive & mindful eatingTune in to hear from Rachel Coleman!!//Song: Try by Colbie Caillat//Resources:Book: Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary PipherWebsite: intuitiveeating.orgBook: Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch//Connect with Rachel & her work:Websites:rachelcolemanceds.commomgenesthepodcast.comInstagram:@rachelcolemanmft@momgenesthepodcast//Follow along with the rest of my journey. Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliTikTok: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here. Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Kini Chang is a practicing Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Oakland, CA. Her passion and expertise is in intergenerational trauma, addressing systemic and historical trauma experienced by communities of color. She prides herself in a holistic approach to treatment where her modalities and interventions support and heal the whole person. She is also an Adjunct Professor of Psychology where she teaches graduate and undergraduate students at Holy Names University, Golden Gate University, and Ohlone College. In previous podcast episodes, Whytli, along with many other guests, have briefly mentioned that they went through EMDR therapy when healing from their traumas. In this week's episode, we have EMDR therapist, Kini Chang, here to dive deeper into the subject, explaining what EMDR actually is, how it works, the healing benefits, and what a session might entail. Kini shares how she processed her own childhood trauma going through EMDR sessions. After the fact, she decided she wanted to one day specialize in EMDR therapy. Kini covers the following topics:How she healed her abandonment issues through EMDR therapyWhat an EMDR session generally entails Addressing disassociation in trauma workAttachment-Focused EMDR vs. Intergenerational EMDRSelf care post-therapy sessionTriggers and retraumatizationBuilding in coping skills that stimulate happy hormonesCoping with 2020Tune in to hear it all from Kini herself!!//Resources:Better Help -- Online Counseling ServicesPsychology Today -- Find a Therapist//Connect with Kini & her work:Website: kinichang.comInstagram: @wellnesswithkini//Song: Scars to Your Beautiful by Alessia Cara//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliTikTok: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as we speak of rape, sexual assault, and the criminal justice system. If you are suffering or recovering from a mood or mental disorder or are a victim of sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. //Katie McMahon is a survivor of sexual assault and now turned advocate. Career-wise she is a speech therapist in K-12 Schools. She is the creator and host of Voices Not Victims, a platform to shatter silence, end shame, and amplify voices of healing, activism, and social justice. Katie is involved in curating educational material for Consent Education and believes prevention is the future.In this episode, Katie shares her story of sexual assault. After she came home from traveling solo in a foreign country, she was on a high feeling so confident and independent. Once she was back home, she was sexually assaulted by a stranger, wrecking her confidence and sense of self. She takes us through what it was like reporting but not receiving justice as the criminal justice system failed her and played a role in victim blaming. In order to heal, she explored many different routes of healing from EMDR therapy to seeing a medicine man in Bali. She explains how important consent education is and how she's teaching her students to advocate for themselves and use their voices. Katie shares more on the following:How the 2016 election sparked the fire beneath her activism and speaking up about her sexual assaultPTSD and living in survival mode post assaultHow the criminal justice system failed herExploring many forms of healing -- therapy, EMDR, energy healing, meditation, and a PTSD out patient programShame and victim blaming Learning to take her power back and quit blaming herselfConsent educationHelping others find their voiceTune in to hear the rest of her story and message!!//Resources:National Sexual Assault Hotline: Call 1.800.656.HOPE (4673)We Are HERRAINN - Rape, Abuse, & Incest National NetworkHoney is HereIn the Wake Episode 34: Rape Culture with Laura W//Check out Katie and her work:Podcast: Voices Not VictimsInstagram: @voicesnotvictims//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: Whytli TikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here. Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*Trigger Warning*If you have lost a loved one to cancer or other means, please listen with caution, listen with a trusted friend, or skip this episode entirely. In this episode, our guest may share graphic details or stories of her experiences watching her father battle cancer, losing him, and the aftermath of grief and trauma which may be triggering or hard to hear for some. //Jaclyn Renee is a 26 year old single mother residing in Virginia. She has kind of jumped around career-wise and finally landed her dream job in marketing, but was part of the mass lay-offs due to COVID-19. That's what led her to pursue her purpose and launch her podcast, A Parting Gift, which talks about her dealings with trauma, depression, anxiety, loss and abuse and what she's gained from those experiences. Jaclyn skipped the majority of her senior year in high school to care for her father, who was battling cancer. When she was just eighteen years old, he passed away and she lost all motivation, leading her down a destructive path that involved partying and drinking constantly to numb out the pain. She self-isolated as she was struggling with her depression and Generalized Anxiety Disorder yet put up a strong front so everyone thought she was handling it all so well. Once she hit rock bottom -- broke, alone, failed out of college, and watching life pass her by while heavily medicated -- she decided to make a conscious effort to face her trauma head on. Through deep soul searching and inner work, she identified her triggers and unpacked her many childhood traumas while learning how to cope and show up to life in healthier ways. Jaclyn shares more on the following points:Watching her father battle cancerLosing him during her senior year in high schoolProcessing her griefThe trauma and aftermath of lossNumbing out the pain with unhealthy coping measuresPutting up a "strong" front but later realizing what true strength isLearning true forgiveness of others and selfA message to those who have experienced lossTune into this episode to hear the rest of her story!!//Connect with Jaclyn & her work:Instagram: @apartinggiftpodcast@zahkleenPodcast: A Parting Gift //Song: Rise Up by Andra Day //Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as our guest shares graphic details about his life-threatening battle with anorexia, mental health and recovery, and violence in childhood trauma. If you are suffering or recovering from an eating disorder, body dysmorphia, trauma, or a mood or mental disorder, please listen with caution, listen with a trusted friend, or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for sharing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Also, if you are extra sensitive or an empath, you also may want to listen with caution. //Non Wels is the creator of the podcast, You, Me, Empathy, and the founder of The Feely Human Collective, a space to grow our collective capacity for empathy, vulnerability, and emotional way finding.Non would describe himself as, "just a silly boy with lots of feelings." He believes deeply in talking openly about our mental health. He once almost died from shutting off his heart to the world. Now he leads with his heart.In this episode, he talks about the following:Living in an emotionally unsafe environment as a childHis life threatening experiences with anorexiaControlling emotions through food & over exercising Healing childhood trauma through EMDR therapyStruggling with mental health as a manRebelling against the shame & stigma around feeling emotionsHow vulnerability healsWhat empathy and open mindedness looks & feels like to him How empathy and vulnerability go hand in handTune in to hear the rest of his story and why empathy and vulnerability have become so crucial to his life!!//Resources:Books: Anti-Diet by Christy HarrisonIntuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschPodcast: Food Psych with Christy HarrisonCourse: Eating Disorder Recovery with Tiffany RoeTed Talk: The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown//Connect with Non and his work:Podcast: You, Me, EmpathyWebsite: FeelyHuman.coInstagram:@youmeempathy@feelyhumanFacebook: The Feely Human Collective//Song: This Year by The Mountain Goats//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Stephanie Dawn Elizabeth is an Intuitive Transformation Coach and the Host of Made of Magic: The Podcast. She's on a mission to change the idea that the magic we seek is somewhere outside of ourselves. She's here to help you awaken, embody, and amplify the magic you ALREADY have within you. I personally have been soaking up all of Stephanie's intuitive and groundbreaking work for years now. It just so happens that when I began on my journey of self love and self growth, I somehow found her and listened to my very first podcast. I then experienced my first life coaching session with her. To this day, I am still doing her Magic Morning routine and journal prompts. She was a huge reason I believed in my own worth and voice and ended up starting a podcast of my own. So it was an honor to finally have her as a guest on my own show!Stephanie allowed me to pick her brain on all things spirituality, manifestation, and intuition. She shares what it looks and feels like to be living in autopilot versus conscious, intentional living with your soul turned on. We discuss nuance to multiple spiritual concepts and dive into the harms of spiritual bypassing.In this episode, we cover the following talking points:Stigmas, misconceptions, & fears around spiritualityWhat intuition & inner guidance means and feels like for herManifestation & intentionalityDistinction between feelings of intuition vs. anxiety, fear, ego, or traumaLiving in autopilot vs. your soul turned onSpiritual bypassing & the harms of 'good vibes only' spiritualityThe ability to hold multiple truths at the same timeNuance of law of attraction or manifestationQuestioning your beliefs & being open to new perspectiveTune in to hear more from the intuitive guide herself!!//Connect with Stephanie and her work:Instagram: @stephaniedawnelizabethPodcast: Made of MagicWebsite: www.youaremadeofmagic.comMagic MorningsArtists:H.E.R.BANKS//Follow along with the rest of my journey. Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliTikTok: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here. Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

*TRIGGER WARNING*This is a heavier episode as we speak of rape, sexual assault, and slavery. If you are suffering or recovering from a mood or mental disorder or are a victim of sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. //Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs is a creative, writer, and organizer based in Atlanta, GA. Her platform @shewillspeak, on Instagram, was the springboard, for her second book, The Tragic Type of Beautiful, published in May 2018. After the release of her second book, she founded the She Will Speak Series which hosts bi-annual anthologies. Her continued work involves tackling the issues of racism, sexual violence, and homelessness through art and education.In this episode, Cheyenne takes us through her experiences and insights into what it looks like to be a survivor of rape while also being a Black woman and how the intersections of her identity affect each other. There a many barriers or added layers of trauma that survivors of color experience when it comes to reporting, whether they are believed or taken seriously, representation, and accessibility to treatment or support in healing. We cover the following in this episode:Cheyenne's story - being raped during college by a white, male athleteBarriers to reporting sexual assault as a Black womanHow religion & purity culture brought immense shame after her assaultThe rollercoaster of healing & the importance of not rushing your healing processThe history of rape within slavery & generational traumaWhat it looks like to be seen & understood as a survivorChanging the social narratives around rape, sexual assault, and abuseTune in for this crucial conversation with Cheyenne!!//Resources:@talkpuritytome on Instagram@survivorsofcolor on Instagram@imasurvivorinc on InstagramEnd Rape On CampusOn The Record on HBO Max//Songs:Fight Song by Rachel PlattenI Didn't Know My Own Strength by Whitney Houston//Connect with Cheyenne & her work:Website: www.shewillspeak.comwww.shewillspeakseries.comPodcast: As I Was Saying with Cheyenne Tyler JacobsInstagram:@shewillspeak@shewillspeakseries//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Renee Powers is the founder and CEO of Feminist Book Club, the premier online hub for intersectional readers that encourages resistance through reading with a monthly subscription box, blog, podcast, and meetups. She has completed her Bachelors, Masters, and PhD coursework in gender communication and is a trained racial justice facilitator through the YWCA. You can find her in Minneapolis where she lives with her spouse and their retired racing greyhound.In this episode, Renee breaks down why we need to move away from purely white woman feminism into inclusive, intersectional feminism. Instead of fighting for just yourself, feminism is about fighting for the rights of ALL womxn. We discuss white fragility, white privilege, and white supremacy because as white women, we need to acknowledge the intersections of our identities and privileges and where we may fall into both the oppressed and the oppressor. We dive deeper into the following:Waves of feminismMoving from white woman feminism to intersectional feminismIntersectionality between our identitiesDifference between equality, justice, & liberationWhat it means to be a feminist for herTrans inclusive feminismWhite privilege, white supremacy, & white fragilityTokenism vs. diversityTune in for this crucial conversation!!//Resources:Articles: Educate & Activate The 19th Amendment: History's Most Exclusive Sorority Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntoshInstagram Follow:@staceyabramsBooks:How To Be An Anti-Racist by Ibram X. KendiHood Feminism: Notes From the Woman the Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall//Songs:Praying by KeshaHere Comes The Change by KeshaRich, White, Straight, Men by KeshaWoman by KeshaLearn to Let Go by KeshaLet 'Em Talk by Kesha//Connect with Renee's work:Website: www.feministbookclub.comInstagram: @feministbookclubboxPodcast: Feminist Book Club: The Podcast//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity. She defines Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.”Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home and at work. Author of sixteen books, including her Hijackal ebook series, she is the host of the popular podcast, listened to in more than seventy-five countries: Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. She is the former host of the Emotional Savvy channel on Binge TV Networks.In this episode, we dive into the following:Rhoberta's story - having toxic parents and later finding herself in a marriage with another toxic personEnabling or excusing toxic behavior"Toxic" as a buzzwordToxic relationships with parents, friendships, and in the workplaceWarning signs and red flags to look out forCycle of abuse -- lovebombing / grooming, the 'gotcha' factor / devalue, hovering, & discardTune in to hear more from the wise expert herself!!//Connect with Dr. Rhoberta's work:Website: forrelationshiphelp.comPodcast: Save Your Sanity PodcastDr. Rhoberta's series of booksInstagram: @drrhobertashalerFacebook: Relationship Help DoctorLinkedIn: Rhoberta Shaler//Song: Gaslighter by The Chicks//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

***Trigger Warning***In this episode, we share detailed accounts of bingeing, restricting, body dysmorphia, and harmful beauty ideals. If you are suffering or recovering from an eating disorder, body dysmorphia, and/or mental disorder, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or to trigger negative thoughts or emotions.//Amari Pollard is 1/4 of the So-Called Oreos podcast, a podcast where four friends discuss topics on being labeled "too Black" or "too white" in society and how that impacts their everyday lives. In addition to being a podcaster, Amari is also a writer and audience development strategist currently studying strategic communication as a Roy H. Park Fellow at the UNC Hussman School of Journalism and Media. In this episode, Amari shares personal stories from childhood, her high school and college days as an athlete, and present day in the pandemic dealing with body dysmorphia and disordered eating. We discuss the harmful beauty trends and societal messaging around bodies that can have negative impacts on one's own body image or relationship with food. Amari stated, "My personal issues with food originally stemmed from being over sexualized as a child. At the age of 10, my classmates had started a rumor that I was pregnant, and so I thought that in order for people to stop discussing my body, I had to physically take up less space. For the last 15 years I've struggled to maintain a positive relationship with my body and food, and I've even noticed old, bad habits return during the pandemic."We dive deeper into the following:The moments as a child that made her aware of her bodyViewing her body through men's appreciationWhat body dysmorphia means / looks likeBingeing and restricting habitsDisordered eating and body image as an athlete in high school vs. collegeTriggers in relationships around your bodyHarmful beauty trends and societal messaging around bodiesWhy representation of all types of bodies mattersHow social media affects your body imageTune in to hear the rest of Amari's story and insights!! //Connect with Amari:Instagram: @amaridawn@socalledoreosTwitter: @amaripollard@socalledoreosWebsite: amaridawn.comsocalledoreos.comPodcast: So Called Oreos//Song:Video by India Arie//Follow along with the rest of my journey. Instagram: @whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliTikTok: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Sabrina is the podcast host for the Cultivating Curiosity Podcast, a show dedicated to sharing people's stories and the wisdom within them. Sabrina balances the podcast with a full-time, corporate job as a fashion buyer for a large retailer. In addition, she is also currently training to become a voice-over actress, so you could say she likes to stay busy! In this episode, Sabrina shares multiple examples of different stories she believed about herself and the world around her that were holding her back from living her fullest, most conscious life. She explains how she has shifted and rewritten those narratives and the different healing modalities or tools that have worked for her. She also talks about the routines and practices that have helped nourish her spiritual self and the importance of listening to your body's needs to truly love and take care of yourself.We dive deeper into the following:Seeing a holistic therapist and energy healerMorning routinesLearning to trust your inner guidanceRight vs. left side of the brainWhat self-love means to herWorking through shame and stigma around seeing a therapistLimiting beliefsRewriting the stories we tell ourselvesAllowing yourself to feel all your emotions both positive and negative"Self-love means respecting my body for what it needs in this moment. Our bodies are in constant change just like everything else in this Universe. That means we aren't going to be 100% productive every day or 100% happy every day and that's okay. We're meant to have fluctuations within our emotions and our bodies and so we need to respect those fluctuations without any judgement." --Quoted from Sabrina in this episode//Resources:Jill Bolte TaylorTed Talk: My Stroke of InsightEpisode 29: Understanding the Brain & Its Reaction to Covid-19Alan WattsAuthenticity Associates: Coaching & Counseling//Connect with Sabrina Pierotti:Podcast: Cultivating Curiosity Instagram: @sabripierottiFacebook: Sabri PierottiPinterest: Sabri PierottiEmail: sabpierotti@gmail.com//Song: The Bone by Maren Morris//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliWebsite: whytli.comContact me here. Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Dr. Margaret Rutherford has been a psychologist in private practice for over twenty-five years and is the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression, which was published in November 2019.Margaret has been researching and writing on this topic for over five years, and she’s passionate about the message that although depression can be heavily masked by perfectionism, its damage can still be devastating to that someone who’s trying so hard to smile their way through growing loneliness and despair.In this episode, Margaret helps break down perfectly hidden depression with me and provides some incredible insights including the following:Dangerous forms of perfectionismWhat denial of depression or perfectionism entails and why people may be in denialDenying struggle hidden through toxic or rigid positivityFactors of perfectly hidden depressionDifference between self perfectionism, other perfectionism, and socially prescribed perfectionismTreating perfectly hidden depression"Jon Kabat-Zinn uses the term 'Rigid Positivity,' because you can stay so rigidly in the mindset of 'Everything's great and I don't want to focus on anything bad, sad, or what make me angry because then I'm not being appreciative enough.' That is just as dangerous as someone who's constantly negative, constantly sad, or constantly looking for their victimization in their life. There should be a balance. I think healthier people most often stay in the glass half full but part of mental health is also being able to connect with what hurts, what's disappointing, or what you're afraid of. Connect with it, feel those feelings, and then move back to the glass half full. Recognize, understand, and respect that you have some hardship in your life -- we all do!" --Dr. Margaret Rutherford quoted from this episode. Tune in to hear more from the wise Dr. Rutherford herself! //Connect or work with Dr. Rutherford:Website: drmargaretrutherford.comBook: Perfectly Hidden Depression by Dr. Margaret RutherfordQuestionnairePodcast: The Self Work PodcastInstagram: @drmargaretrutherfordFacebook: Dr. Margaret RutherfordYouTube: DrMargaretRutherford//Song: Tapestry by Carole King//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.com Contact me here. Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

***Trigger Warning***This is a heavier episode as we speak of childhood abuse, addiction, and trauma. If you are suffering or recovering from a mood or mental disorder, an addiction, or are a victim of abuse, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or to trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Also, if you are a bit more sensitive or an empath, you also may want to listen with caution. //As a survivor of early childhood trauma and a recovered alcoholic, April looks to shatter the stigmas and shame that surround both these experiences. From age 2 to 5, she was sexually molested, starved, and beaten. After enduring these life-altering experiences that many people could not fathom, she went on to struggle emotionally in life for quite some time. This truly displayed itself later in adult life through addiction and other toxic relationships and behaviors. Her purpose now is to be a voice for those suffering - to shed light on abuse, recovery, and the journey that it takes to dig through the pain and wreckage they both cause. She believes the veil needs to be lifted on the prevalence of child sexual abuse as well as sex trafficking. Survivors of abuse deserve a voice and the resources to help them overcome their trauma. In this episode, April shares her raw and vulnerable story with us and how her childhood trauma led her to self-medicate and fall into an alcohol addiction. She went through a rehab program at a facility where they addressed healing both the trauma and addiction. After working with her sponsor, attending AA meetings, and doing the hard inner work, she is currently sober and thriving as an advocate, podcaster, and owner of The Hills Beauty Lounge Day & Med Spa. April takes us through her rock bottom and the turning point that led her to where she is now. We discuss the myths and stigmas around addiction and abuse, lingering triggers from her trauma, and what self care practices work for her."Whether it was with my addiction or trauma, there was always a lack of self love and I felt almost as if I didn't deserve good things." - April Hill (quoted from this episode)Tune in to hear the rest of her powerful story and what her healing journey has entailed. //Connect with April Hill:Website: abuserecoverysuccess.orgInstagram: @april_thehills//Resource:Street Light USA//Song: Hello by Adele//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

{ Use promo code: WAKE for $5 off The Way Thru Boundaries Workbook }Raven Delana is the Founder, Strategist and Coach at The Way Thru. She works to support your creative vision as a mirror to help you see your blind spots, a magnifying glass to bring your vision into focus, and a spotlight on your shadows so that you can do the work required up-level your creative venture and contribute to your community in meaningful ways. With over 15 years of experience developing marketing and operational strategies for solo business owners, Raven is on a mission to help other perfectly imperfect visionaries work through the barriers and get their work into the world using mindful practices such as self-care, meditation, and yoga.In this episode, we dissect boundaries and the work and conversations around boundary setting. Boundaries sometimes get a negative reputation (for lack of better words) but I learned so much from Raven during this discussion and would hope you listen in with an open mind eager to learn as well. Raven takes us through the following:Myths, misconceptions, and stigmas around what boundaries are Countering those misconceptions to define what boundaries actually areDefining the differences between porous, rigid, and healthy boundariesFramework for boundary settingGetting clear on your valuesListening to your body when it comes to boundariesConsequences vs. punishmentVerbal and non-verbal boundary settingHow to have those hard conversations around boundariesHonoring other people's boundariesIntegrity + Self Advocacy = Boundaries"My definition of integrity is when all of the things about you match up -- your thoughts, your actions, your beliefs, your value set -- all of these things should align. When that happens, you then have to advocate for yourself based on those things and that's when you begin to set boundaries." -Raven Robinson (quoted from this episode)//Connect with Raven and her work:Instagram: @thewaythruWebsite: thewaythru.comWorkbook: The Way Thru Boundaries: A Workbook with Raven DelanaUSE PROMO CODE: WAKE for $5 off //Song: I Get Out by Lauryn Hill //Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytli or @inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

Kerrian Fournier is the CEO and Founder of Vybrante Ventures, a professional servicescompany dedicated to unlocking the highest level of performance for innovative companies, teams, and professionals by igniting their vibrancy and innovation. She is certified as an Executive Coach and is passionate about unleashing everyone’s highest selves. Kerrian splits her time between NYC and Long Island and is a divorced mother to a #TheFutureIsFemale 15-yr old daughter, Isabella.In this episode, Kerrian and I discuss the comparison trap we all sometimes find ourselves in and how to consciously shift those patterns. It can suck us dry of life and energy when we find ourselves in a loop of judgment, comparison, and jealousy. Kerrian shares how it changes a person and what to do about it. After her 'Trinity of Trauma' she began to show up to her life in a whole new light. In this episode we will cover the following:Comparison trapMoving from judgment to curiosityBalancing your energyFinding exploration vs. setting expectationsTune in to hear more from Kerrian herself!!//Connect with Kerrian:Website: vybrante.comInstagram: @vybrante_venturesFacebook: Vybrante VenturesLinkedIn: Kerrian Fournier //Song: You Gotta Be by Des'ree//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersPinterest: WhytliTwitter: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

As a Family Therapist for over 20 years, Jodi empowers people to become their own healer. As an anxiety survivor and a mom of teens, Jodi totally gets it. Her TEDxWilmington talk, “Calm Anxious Kids,” and her new book, Anxiety…I'm So Done with You! are changing the way we understand the current mental health crisis. In this episode, Jodi shares her perspective and insight into anxiety and coping/curing that anxiety. She busts myths society has regarding anxiety, shares tips for parenting kids with anxiety, discusses teen mental health, and how social media and phone usage is affecting our collective mental health. She shares her own battle with anxiety and how she overcame that and healed. "You know when anxiety says, 'Stay home! You can't handle that and you might be uncomfortable,' anxiety is making you miss opportunities, fun, adventure, and good times with people. In that moment, anxiety is not really protecting you but rather causing you to suffer a lot more." -Jodi AmanTune in to hear more from Jodi Aman herself!!//6 Steps to Coping With Your Anxiety:Understanding anxiety biologicallyLearning the lies that anxiety tells youCultivating your control - connecting to your personal agencyForgiving yourselfAffirmations and changing your beliefsPracticing self care//3 Ways Social Media is Affecting Our Mental Health:Comparison: Increases negative judgement of selfWorldwide Trauma Exposure: Through spread of news & media, exposed to worldwide trauma & acts of violence but left feeling helplessCommercial Advertising: Thinking we should get the next best thing just because everyone else is doing it & never feeling like what we have is good enough//Jodi's Work:Website: jodiaman.comLet Go - Free Audio TrainingBooks: Anxiety... I'm So Done With YouYou: 1 Anxiety: 0Anxiety & Panic WorkbookTedx Talk: Suck It Up! Calm Anxious Kids YouTube: Jodi AmanAnxiety Symptoms Why You Think Anxiety Is Not CurableInstagram: @jodiamanloveFacebook: Jodi Aman Love//Song:Let the Sunshine In by Milk and Sugar//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

***Trigger Warning***This is a heavier episode as we speak of rape, sexual assault, self-harm, and mental health. If you are suffering or recovering from a mood or mental disorder and/or are a victim of sexual assault or abuse, please listen with caution or skip this episode. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or to trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Also, if you are a bit more sensitive or an empath, you also may want to listen with caution. //Felicia Dawn Conner is a mystic, guide, and mother. She is also a survivor of child sexual abuse and the host of HERE Podcast. She is dedicated to supporting people on their healing journey so they can thrive after trauma. In this episode, Felicia recalls her memories as a young child being molested by her friend's father. She experienced sexual abuse for a year-long period as an 11 year old and her life felt the rippling effects of that trauma for years later. She despised her body because of the abuse it faced and began self-harming and self-medicating to numb out the pain. She has recently felt healing and a bit of relief through sharing her story on her own podcast, HERE. She has learned to reconnect and listen to her body through Buddhist practices, yoga, meditation, chakras and more. Tune into this episode to hear the rest of her story, what healing has felt like to her, and a bit of advice to parents. //Connect with Felicia:Website:herepodcast.comfeliciadawnconner.comInstagram:@herepodcast@feliciadawnconner//Song: Angel by Sarah Mclachlan//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

Dr. Lucretia Berry is the creator of Brownicity, an (In)Courage contributor, a wife, and mom of 3. As a former college professor learning to courageously create the world she knows is possible, she has self-published a book and rocked a TED talk.In this episode, Dr. Berry shares the stories behind creating Brownicity and how it all started with teaching her own children of mixed race about skin tone, race, and racism. We discuss the following:Brownicity's slogan "Many Hues, One Humanity"The differences between claiming to be 'non-racist' versus being actively anti-racistImplicit bias and how it plays a role in racismCommon phrases like color blindness being weaponized and used to bypass conversations of raceThe importance of talking to your young children about these topicsWhat racial healing means to Dr. BerryTune in to hear more from the wise and insightful Dr. Lucretia Berry! If you'd like to hear more from her, check out the many resources below. //Resources:Website: Brownicity.comAnti Racism Education Membership Resource LibraryBook: What Lies Between Us by Dr. Lucretia BerryTedx Talk: Children Will Light Up The World If We Don't Keep Them In The DarkFacebook: Lucretia O. BerryBrownicityInstagram: @lucretiaberry@brownicity//Song: Kingdom Come by Sanchez Fair//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

***Trigger Warning*** This is a heavier episode as we speak of rape, eating disorders, and mental health. If you are suffering or recovering from a mood or mental disorder and/or a victim of sexual assault or abuse, please listen with caution or skip this episode. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or to trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Also, if you are a bit more sensitive or an empath, you also may want to listen with caution.//Kristine Irwin is a wife, mother, and advocate for ending sexual violence. She strives to bring change to our culture. Besides her family and her day job, she runs a non-profit called Voices of Hope. The non-profit allows her to educate audiences on ways to prevent rape and sexual assault. She is a popular speaker at universities, organizations, and corporations globally. Kristine was raped by an acquaintance during her freshman year of college. She wrote a book sharing her story along with the stories of her family and friends and how her assault affected and changed them as well. As she has navigated healing, triggers, and her book, she also started a non-profit and podcast to share others' stories and provide resources and support. In this episode, Kristine and I talk more in-depth about her story, the aftermath, her healing process, and advocacy. Tune in to hear from the voice of hope!!//Kristine's Work:Website: www.voices-of-hope.orgPodcast: Unveil Your VoiceInstagram: @voicesofhope_Facebook: Voices Of Hope 2015Twitter: @Voicesofhope15Books: Voices of Hope by Kristine IrwinMade to Overcome by Chou HallegraHealing the Soul of a Woman by Joyce Meyer//Songs:Fighter by Christina Aguilera Grey Street by Dave Matthews BandRain On Me by Lady Gaga//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

Julie Leonard is Happiness Evangelist, Life Coach, and speaker. With 30 years of Psychology, Health and Coaching experience, she helps women break through their limiting beliefs to change their life and feel truly happy.In her youth, she was always an anxious, shy, worrisome, and sensitive person. She never felt good enough or like her opinion and voice mattered. She was able to let go of these limiting beliefs that were holding her back and transform her life. She uses intention, gratitude, purpose, and self-love to create true happiness in her life. Tune in to hear the rest of her story along with her mindset and strategies to let go of limiting beliefs and be intentional about your happiness.//Connect and work with Julie:Website: julieleonardcoaching.comFacebook Group: The Happiness ClubHappiness Quiz: How Happy Are You? Instagram: @julieleonardcoaching//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

Khadijah Tishan Washington is a licensed therapist, social worker, and newly-published author. Her memoir, REAL: Radical, Empathetic, Acceptance of Life released the same week that news of George Floyd's death began circulating and in her words, this 'racial pandemic' began. In this episode, we discuss the layers to her story as a generational trauma breaker. We touch on the topics of race, claiming colorblindness, behind the scenes of a social worker, mental health, and more. Tune in to hear more of her wisdom and truth!//Connect with Khadijah:Book: REAL: Radical, Empathetic, Acceptance of Life by Khadijah WashingtonWebsite: khadijahtishan.comLinkedIn: Khadijah TishanInstagram: @khadijahtishanFacebook: Kt WashingtonTwitter: @khadijahtishanSurvey: Generational Trauma//Songs:Anyone by Demi LovatoI'm Dope by Tobe Nwigwe//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram: @whytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: Whytli Website: whytli.comContact me here.

Erika shares her experiences with anxiety and panic attacks and how she had to integrate self compassion and self care to help ease her struggles with anxiety. Her entire life she had been taking care of others, from helping raise her siblings to becoming a young mom and later having a plate full with four kids, a husband, and job. She finally started putting her needs first and taking care of herself and it made a world of a difference in her life. Tune in to hear her entire story!//Connect with Erika:Email: 4iluvme.2@gmail.comInstagram: @erikadannelleFacebook: Erika Danelle //Song: Dear God by Smokie Norful//Follow along with the rest of my journey here.Instagram: @whytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.

We are podcasters united to condemn the tragic murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and many many others at the hands of police. This is a continuation of the systemic racism pervasive in our country since its inception, and we are committed to standing against racism in all its forms. We believe that to be silent is to be complicit.We believe that Black lives matter.We believe that Black lives are more important than property.We believe that we have a responsibility to use our platforms to speak out against this injustice whenever and wherever we are witnesses to it.In creating digital media we have built audiences that return week after week to hear our voices, and we will use our voices to speak against anti-blackness and police brutality, and we encourage our audiences to be educated, engaged, and to take action. //#PodcastersForJustice campaign created by WOC Podcasters. //Donate:Black Visions CollectiveCampaign ZeroBlack Lives MatterBlack Owned Businesses DirectoryTake Action:Color of Change - Find campaigns & sign petitionsBooks to Read:Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. SaadWhite Fragility by Robin DiAngeloSo You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma OluoHow To Be Anti-Racist by Ibram X. KendiMindful of Race by Ruth KingPodcasts:Code Switch by NPRAbout Race with Reni Eddo-LodgeSpeaking of Racism While BlackMovies:SelmaJust MercyHarrietActivists to Follow:Rachel E. CargleAustin Channing BrownCheck Your Privilege Rachel Ricketts